So you don't want to get married? It’s so lonely at 50!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ก.ย. 2024
- Many young women are increasingly choosing not to marry. Marriage counsellor, Wanjiru Kiama, says that in as much as the choice may seem the best now, at 50, that woman may regret her choices. It's very lonely at 50!
Am single
Mother of two beautiful children
I feared to get married and leave my children behind or the man to mistreat my kids if I go with them and still from how I was treated by their father 😢if I remember what I went through I go mad
I thank Jesus for holding my hand and my life and he will continue holding me till very end 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
My children today are grown am 35 years old I thank God
@35 You are still very young and you have got very good potential to get married!how do you contemplate to live the lest of your 40 plus years alone!!?
@Karimi yu're young after healing move on am 40+ looking forward to remarry someday
You are still young baby girl,wait you reach 50plus , you will change the tune.
you are very young for this life. wear a positive and courageous heart and move on.
My question is, what assurance is there for growing old together? Married or single each person will be single at some point in their life unless you die before your partner. Love yourself first, know God personally, be content in life. If a husband comes by let it be an addition to your life not a savior from loneliness.
Well can we have a proper description of the terms Loneliness!
Well as for me l strongly believe life begins at 50 years. This is when you get time to expand your horizons after taking care of your kids etc. Most people rediscover themselves much later in life. I personally,as a Christian, God blessed me with the spirit of fulfilment and contentment. To tell the truth,l found myself most of the times alone but not lonely, and am normal a hundred percent. Get me right here and no judgement. We are very different in many great ways as some cannot stay out of marriage or relationships and some love their own space. The good thing is that am ageing gracefully by the grace of God but am not a loner. I just have some kind of peace and independence that is only God given.
I love my space Soo much that putting together with someone can bring some discomfort to me. Again,get me right. Appreciate your show and wisdom shared.
You are blessed and am happy of the show.
The laughter in it is just amazing.
May the Lord bless both and expand thy horizons.
Bravoooooo.
I have felt this! People are different
I salute you ladies for your wise counsel.
So we force in marriage do die of depression to avoid loneliness?????😢
Great advice there ! God bless you Mum wa Kiama
Very informative, God bless
I think marriage benefits men more than women. To each their own.
Single forever💃💃💃
Hau nimwandema 😂😂ningũhika riu🤭
@Hannah Haha hau nima no tuhikire riu.
🤣🤣🤣😃😃hika n all the best
It's true others sabotage young people so that they can stay at home
Nikori athuri matigarite mena true love aria manatigwo kana manatigana coz ni henetio muno Nginya ngetigira
Who said 50s is old with sexy we are not old until God take Life out of woman
Do you know that some daughters are sacrificed by their fathers/mothers for riches and they will never get married? Please be kind to some singles as you talk or even some boy-child too.
Much love ❤ kagoni and wakiama
it is no secret that many of the lonely women are married women. Married without any/positive emotional/physical/financial/psychological connection with their spouse! that is loneliness!!
I agree. Being married does not at all equate to not being lonely. Also, some people have a full life and they like their own company and do not feel the need for marriage. Also, what happens to widows? Or people that have survived abusive marriages? This is not a one-size-fits-all situation.
👎 I disagree .At 50 you are not lonely.Unless you want to be!!!
Life is never lonely ❤️ am telling you the truth there nothing men adding in woman life, it's so beautiful without them, God can never take one and leave another behind
True
Well said
then God created women for what ,you contradict creation of God and then say nothing family adds
@@teddymwangi There are my types of families and none is perfect nor guaranteed to bring up responsible citizens. Parents have to be committed, purpose to be good role models.
True!!!These counselors have refused to tell men the truth. Men are now aging alone.
Wakiama is very wise,,,tell them mum, truly reality will come just like how a student thinks he/she will enjoy life to the fullest after graduation
Very true Mum...tuko hapo 5th floor na uongo ni mwingi Sana but God will bring the right man. Please metha ya kagoni jethera Mudu. Hio loneliness ndio Sasa ......😳
Nitafute i keep your bed warm. I'm 25
It Is lonely at fifty and that is where many divorces are happening after couples are done with parenting?Give another reason because that one is lame and lam wondering whether you took wamuratha seriously and for all l know she can say anything.
That's quite some nonsense! You could be married AND very lonely! It always surprises me about the kind of non merited information this "counselor" dishes! As a mental health prifessional I think this is unhealthy advise, especially for women! You are supposed to empower, not degrade...🙈. A man should serve a woman just as a woman should! Nothing more, nothing else...gosh metha ya kagoni, there are more balanced marruage counselors out there...just my opinion
You can disagree respectfully!!
I disagree respectfully. And she has very sexist tendencies too. We live in different times, people see things a lot differently now. Bottom-line is marriage is not the answer to being lonely.
Just do your video n let others be.
Wengi tunaogopa juu ya childhood traums
Or bad marriages
I am single, older and really happy.
Am single but this is the naked truth💯.
Wen i come to that 50s i will deal with my loneliness as am struggling now with huge bills wacha kwanza nifunzwe na mwarabu kuwa ngumu
But staying in some marriages you will not even get to 50 years you will die before that lonely time I'm single with no apologies to make I was in an abusive marriage I would lather be lonely than under six feet
I was married, separated 2013,I miss to get married again but I sincerely fear marriage 😨😨 Wa Kiama past experiences 😭
Kindly don't life Soo beautiful without stupid men
Thanks for your very informative and educative topics.. would you please address toxic parents to their children
I love your show..so educative
@kagoni ni mutukenagia muno ndina kiuria (niki gitumaga muthuri atige mutumia wake magite ciana akamute akahikia ungi na kagia na mucii murumu gukira uria wambere ?? Na mutumia otagwo agatiga muthuri wake maciarite ciana nake akahika ringi na magaturia mucii tanjirai niki kiriaga kihiko kia mbere na giakeri gikagia na uhotani njokeriai
Hi ,hope you will not mind my language, Most marriage's fail because couple's don't involve God soo leading to divorce. After divorce people now start calling and prying to God for divine intervention. That's where God now come's in and Does the magic.....unapata wako mwenye ameundwa na God. Does
You have learned your mistakes in the first marriage so you don't repeat the mistake
Woi it's true 100% becoz I'm 51years ad loneliness is killing me
Just die single
Loneliness is a state of the mind. You can be alone and not lonely. Hitting 50 but I never feel lonely. My kids grown but I am enjoying my life. Call it denial or whatever but I am contented right in my season now.
Widows stay alone. Women and aging do it in communities (church groups, Chamas) or female caretakers. Old women are rarely taken care of by their husbands it’s the other way round. I have yet to see many Widows remarrying in their late 50s and 60s. Men who are leaving their families at an alarming rate because they’re feeling strong, are the ones for the first time in History in Africa who are aging alone. This is the reality of old age with the different sexes.
And if your husband dies when your 60's or 70's utatafuta wakukuoa tena ndivo usiwe lonely?
Good point
That's my question
Nothing to worry about when God is in control.
@@carollynne5943 AMEN
Mutikinjethere ùmwe ma na mùthuri wakwa nìgùkua akwiire am 48yrs and am so lonely
Pole sana
Wakiama you are speaking the truth eg an independent woman who has everything doesn't need a man in her life but we do feel lonely at times and fear someone coming into our life to control us...also about children resenting their mother after marriage breakdown is true. But later the children comes back to their mother when they mature mentally...l can attest to this...l have a lot to say about this but not now or in this channel. Wakiama you're a God given germ.God bless you and may He continue to bless you in everything you do. Happy to chat with you wakiama at your convenience 🙏
Great show here Mrs Kagoni
Wakiama yu're very correct and after healing from separation/divorce it's wise to move on.
Am 44 now and am trusting God before nifike 50 ntakua nimeolewa alaaaah,watoto ni wakubwa sa ntakua naongea na nani kwa nyumba shually.
Am single,wakiama is talking the truth..as u grow the more lonely u become.
Thank you for you're advice but me I an married but still lonely
I have one, alimess up, kids are in college but now she lonely asf;
Loneliness nowdays it's starting at 30s doa ya kwanza ikiisha ningumu Sana kupata ingine
My favorite duo.
It's true it's lonely from 40 am going through the same
Waa traumatised kutoka utotoi through step father up to date am 35yrs always full of fears..mpka huwa nastuka mwili ina shake up to date..but now am just missing to have a child to call me mom...
The painful 💔 part was my mom knew everything even i kept telling her but she kept cursing me instead of fighting for me..the important thing was fighting for her marriage not her kid's
Oh dear..pole Sana for what you went through....
I feel like you just pre-emptied my experience
Kujia mbegu
You're doing a good job Kagoni, keep up. Blessings 🙌 🙌
Wow imagine I totally agree
I'm 30 no kid and already feeling lonely
Nie ndorete 6th floor na ndiiriraga am okay
Very informative sessions
Haka kamama kamezeeka
Makosa ya kuzeeka Iko wapi? The older you are, it means that God has blessed you with long life. Wewe Utajiua wakati utazeeka?