Gen Z's Aesthetic Obsession & TOXIC Baby mama culture -Things Social Media Made Us Think is Normal#5
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- #5 Gen Z's Aesthetic Obsession & TOXIC Baby mama culture -THINGS SOCIAL MEDIA HAS NORMALIZED BUT AREN'T NORMAL FT LUVMEHAIR
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My former best friend signed herself up for baby mama hood. She planned a baby with her baby daddy that had FIVE children with THREE WOMEN. She had her 1st, and gave him baby #6. She pregnant with her 2nd, and his 7th child. I had to walk away from our 20yr friend ship. 😢
oh my gosh…. did you at least try to talk her out of it???
@syd4920 Ummm, she dumped him because he was sleeping with his best friend's wife. I was there to help her through that. I thought she was done with him, but a few months later, she popped up telling me she got back with him and PLANNED a pregnancy! There was no talking to her... she knew what she was doing, so I'm leaving her to live her life.
@@moniquew3603I would have dropped the friendship as well. It’s draining to be friends w/ people like that.
@@moniquew3603wow crazy 😮
Good on you for not getting caught up in other peoples' dysfunctional lives. Ain't got time for the drama.
What’s crazy is I’ve heard people say marriage is too much of a commitment, but then they go and have a child… I just don’t understand this kind of thinking 🫠
Ughhh that argument annoys the heck outta me 😭😭 a whole HUMAN is less of a commitment than a marriage that you could lowkey get out of if you seriously needed to.. be so serious todayyyy💀💀
My hg like this🤦🏽♀️
Bringing a whole human into this world and raising them for 18 years (and more cause once you're a parent, that never ends) is way more of a commitment than marriage since you can divorce and get an annulment if it doesn't work out. But you can't unbirth a child 💀
IKR people having multiple children with someone or multiple people and not being responsible for either
Lol sounds like a lot of black women 💀
Kids having sex it self is pretty disturbing, and teens mom it’s not a good thing guys (unless they are a victim of sa, my hearts goes to you). What’s wrong with Stay in your school and having a hobbies ? Kids should have a childhood, teenage should have a teenage hood, and adult should have an adulthood, and teenage hood does not include being pregnant and having a baby. And by the way kids need stability
Agreed it’s weirdly normalised nowadays. Back when i was 14 (back in 2022) i used to get made fun of by some “popular” kids who sat next to me in my religious education class for being a virgin. I mean back then it definitely hurt my feelings but honestly now i just feel bad for them being so young yet being so fixated by s*x😕
Facts but we need to remember it was a thing in the past where people got married young Ect
@sssssss605 yes. In the Farr past
@stentualsenpai8354 this is sarcasm right? 😭
@@soupydoopie07 ??
I remember commenting on a girls TikTok after they posted them 14 and pregnant & said “without a ring, job or car?!💀” and they said “imagine hating on a kid” like no..imagine having a kid as a kid🤦🏽♀️ im not one to be supportive if a child wants to be grown, cause best believe in my island kids don’t act out when adults treat them how they act.
imagine thinking like this. this is why parent hood doesn’t need to be a personal choice im sorry but people should get evaluated before having kids idgaf too many traumatized kids that could of been avoided honestly.
Terrible.
Like the hell is wrong with those kids and bad parents…..terrible parents that don’t protect their children correctly, those people bring innocents in that cycle of bad decisions…and hell.
Someone needs to go to jail
Be mad at the parents
They going to grow up and realize there mistake, 14 goes by fast they grown now since they have children, don’t feel bad for those grown ass children
It's alarming how society has normalized certain behaviors. But what's equally troubling is the normalization of talking negatively about others on social media. Additionally, idolizing influencers and celebrities has led to a concerning obsession.
All of these things have been normal but the last people use to do it in private and simply not repeat the bs they see
Baby mama culture has been constantly romanticized in the music many teens listen to 🤷♀
And thats why it’s up to their parents to make sure they’re raising their children correctly. If a child feels the need to follow what a song is talking about then they’re seeking for guidance that their parents aren’t giving them.
I say this all the time: BRING BACK TEEN BABYSITTERS. When I was a teen I was constantly babysitting for neighbors, family friends and family members. Most of my little cousins I took care of, anyone we trusted that had a kid I spent at least an afternoon with. Teens now days have very little idea of how much work kids are, and baby sitting only gives them a sliver of that -- and so many times that sliver is enough. Try to do your homework with a tired two year old, or relax and watch tv with a couple of 5 year olds that won't go to bed. Found out about a friend's get together? You already made commitments to babysit. I think so many of these teens haven't experienced that responsibility, so the weight of pregnancy, and taking physical care of a child doesn't weigh on them, let alone the actual raising them part.
I am blessed with that because I have siblings. Which is why I'm waiting to my real adulthood to make such a massive decision.
This is so true I’m a full time nanny and those kids are free birth control
I understand the point, but I do partially disagree. From what I've experienced, in real life, not online, teens who saw getting impregnated and married as the ultimate goal that has to he completed the moment they are physically capable of that were the teens who got to babysit, and really liked babies after that.
Babysitting ain't being a parent...
Also, not that teens shouldn't babysit, but it's very easy to cross the line where willing babysitting turns into something forced onto the teen by the parents, which can be detrimental for the child who is left with the teen.
I myself could hurt a child as a teen, my parents were responsible enough not to make me babysit with that knowledge, but still were irresponsible enough to force me to hold my infant cousin after we talked for an entire hour about how and why I refuse to do so...
Parents often refuse to hear their teens out or treat them like humans, giving UNWILLING teens such responsibility shouldn't be encoradged either.
i agree, but it’s definitely not every teenager. i just graduated high school and babysat for a few years, and have been taking care of my younger brothers for even longer. a lot of teens are having kids and aren’t ready for it but i promise most of us (mainly people who babysat/have younger siblings) are reasonable lol
The fact these kids these days don't know that free food in a cozy home filled with people you can rely is the most bestest thing being a kid ever! How come they don't get it
They can’t provide their children with basic human needs if they didn’t experience having said needs met themselves. Sadly they legitimately have no idea what a healthy childhood looks like. The chance to grow and develop decent character, work ethic, respect for other people and their right to not be mistreated over a period of around 18 years of childhood (some of us needed 1-7 more years of parental support) is becoming rarer and rarer and society is not discussing the issue. Kids today are taking on the responsibilities that normally used to begin around 18-25 years of age for us at 12-16 years of age! And no one bats an eye. If once in a while someone tries to speak on behalf of the childhoods (they literally are too young to logically understand) they’re giving up they get backlash for being a prude? Like… they’re minors. What happened about caring about children and the impact of their actions?
They never had it
What I noticed is that it's mostly the ones who don't have that are the ones making families young.
Cus they never had it dawg. Common sense...
You can have food and a home but without those people to rely on , it means nothing. The family could feed them but still be abusive
Dude i just turned 21 and everyone seems to be having kids and marrying people after only a few months. And look at me wild when I say I don’t want to get married till im closer to 30
Im 22 and noticed it's all the most mentally unstable people from my highschool that are having babies. And they don't seem to be accidents either. It's just crazy to me, I don't even feel like I'm ready to take care of a dog on my own yet.
The rates of teen pregnancy have gone down.
@@madlie2452 I know I’m not shaming teen moms or anything I’m just saying it’s crazy how my friends are having kids in this economy 😂
A lot of people want kids cause they're afraid of being & dying alone. The problem is that having a kid doesn't guarantee that they'll stay with you forever. Sometimes, not always, they have kids too early cause people say "don't wait until it's too late". I've even read that being 30 is being expired, bruh... & the government obviously wants people to have kids, kids = more money & even more money when they grow up & also have kids. That's just my opinion though.
@@jennamargraff961Because people want kids? lots of people want families and they make it work. Sometimes not everything is planned and they work around that it’s not that mind blowing
Depression and anxiety has also become a trend
Without social media, people would be happier.
Definitely people promoting every single behavior as a mental illness. But i Definitely think kids now are more depressed than ever. My mom's coworker son who is 6 tried to commit s and unalive his 3year old brother with cough syrup. Ive seen more cases of kids under 16 commiting S because they are sp depressed.
@@Chillikillioh my goodness, that’s so spine chilling. I’m so sorry she’s going through that 🙁
@@ChillikilliWhat the hell! That is insane. Nothing normal about that even with things being so bad. I hope his mental health is constantly monitored for a long time and the whole family are getting help. This is a special case and should not be normalised in anyway
@Chazzabox1 definitely should never be normalized. And sadly his mother doesn't believe in therapy and father divorced her to chase other women 🫠 but I agree alot of kids now need help. I work in an elementary school and so many young kids 1st- 4th grade say they want to die.
YES. My students (11/12 year olds) say qualities they want in a baby dad instead of husband & it’s so sad hearing them talk about marriage being outdated and unrealistic
It is sickening
@@Tomi_janet15 fr
Actually the teen pregnancy rate has dropped, and overall many people are postponing or not having kids.
yes but we’re seeing teen motherhood as something aspirational with this new wave of influencers esp w tiktok
Yeah but she's talking about on social media, so she is correct.
@@biboebbs624 i dont think it’s aspiring to become one. Many people don’t like it and shame them. It’s fine to post because there are other teen moms who feel alone. It’s okay to find a community.
@@citlallimtnz2729That’s fine, only if they aren’t teaching others that doing that is alright or being like that is good at that age, cause is not…the thing about being a baby mom…
I think🤔
For real, young or teen moms are more common before bcoz society is still quite patriarchal and people especially girls don't have much choices and awareness in life.
Lucy Lucy lucy!!! I swear I say this all the time. Not only is it the overuse of the words "narcissist" or "toxic" but also the other Mental health diagnoses like "ADHD" and "OCD". So many people throw out those very serious diagnoses by saying, "Oh, I'm ADHD" or "Oh, it's my OCD" ... etc and it is extremely dangerous. As a mental health professional, I couldn't agree more.
Thank you so much! I'm self diagnosed Adhd and when I found out that it was obvious I had adhd, I asked my dad if I could have a diagnosis from a professional. He said it is the world's way of encouraging lazy and misbehaved children and he said I would change with time. I see a lot of people fake Adhd not understanding how it affects my life in the worst way possible. I wish I didn't have it and when I'm old enough to get a professional diagnosis, I would get treatment for it so I can be normal like anyone else.
@@AyNAQi relate to this so much. My parents also refuse since they say im “too smart” to have ADHD which is just a statement and a half but i’m pretty sure that fuelled by people’s current misunderstandings/ dismissal of ADHDs severity. Like no it’s not just “omg i’m so hyper” or “lol i kinda can’t focus” it’s rotting in bed because your mind forbids you do anything else (executive disfunction),it’s overspending to the point it’s dangerous, it’s being far to early or far too late to everything, it’s missing key information because your mind is anywhere but the subject matter and so so much more and it’s not fun!!
@@soupydoopie07I had to have this same conversation with my brother. He said that our sister has ADHD because she scrolls on TikTok instead of doing her class work. 🙄 sir! It’s deeper than that!
@heidipadron4008 it is much deeper than that lol in all realities your sister is just doing what most younger people do 😭😭
not to mention it’s really unfair to people that actually have those diagnoses! I have bipolar disorder and it’s so disheartening to hear someone say “they’re sooo bipolar” when someone does something terribly/mean! Like I immediately start questioning “Do I come off as a bad person because of my diagnosis?”
I wish men were held more accountable.. I am 21 and 8 months pregnant, unmarried. When I found out I actually sobbed out of fear that my boyfriend could leave me at any moment. He convinced me we would get married, and that he would be there for me through all of it. I sadly saw life through rose colored glasses and fell for it. I never wanted to be a single mom, never wanted to be called a “baby mama”, but I was in love :/ and I’ll sadly be waiting around for this man to get his shit together and act right, while also being blamed for it all. I guess that’s what happens when you’re selfish and wanted a family for yourself.
I am so sorry for you, also u dated a bastard lol
@@ohmewaw literally 😭 and I could be blamed for that too.. but I didn’t know he was a bastard when I got with him !
I'm so sorry for u hun 😭
@@alexistorres3948 sorry i didnt mean to blame u ( ya but that comment did sound like i am blaming u lol)
@@ohmewaw no ur good ! I didn’t think you were, just to society that’s another thing I could be blamed for 😅
"Teen Mom" really glamorized & normalized this trend, social media made it worse.
And unfortunately, if you don't have any support system or have a terrible support system, you can be expected to give the child up, while people willing to adopt the baby will never help the teenager who needed the help to begin with.
Or, you have to "boss up" somehow, without a partner, supportive parents/friends/or family.
I got the opposite message from teen mom and 16 and pregnant. Even as an adult watching that show makes me question if I can handle having kids 😭
@@bleach2393 me too! I hated it and it terrified me to have kids, but I went to school with 3 other girls who loved it and wanted to be teen moms just because of the show 😬 they did it and only 1 is still with the baby daddy, but even then everybody in the town knows he's stepped out of the relationship multiple times and done a lot of drugs, despite their multiple kids 🫤
I have to disagree. I’m of the generation wherein teen mom launched and all stats show that it’s helped to curb teen pregnancy. Anecdotally it definitely made me fear teen pregnancy. Non of those girls were living glamorous lives. 90% of the time the teen dad disappears and she’s left living with mom and dad and struggling
@Mpz3cat same here! They showed uncensored c sections and other graphic birthing complications. Almost every episode includes homelessness, poverty, domestic violence, drug abuse, health battles, etc. It's proven that communities who watched teen mom + 16 and pregnant had decreased teen pregnancy rates
Teen mom actually led to a decline in teen pregnancy rate, the rate began to climb when Kylee Jenner started glamorizing being a young mom.
25yo and never had a boyfriend. I don't understand how a kid can take care of another kid cause I'm in my "midlife" already but I still can't properly take care of myself
The teen birth rate has been declining in the US steadily since 2009. Kids are actually having less kids. With social media we just actually do see it when it happens instead of it being a family secret
Hey, gen Z here 🙋🏻♀️. I just wanted to talk a bit about the whole chidren having children thing. I know that it's hard from people on the outside looking in to really know what's going on with the younger generations, but since I'm 19, and in my second year of college, I can talk on us. Young people, especially underage people having children is a huge non-issue. Dispite what the older generations might believe, we are not more promicuos than the previous generations, and we have recieved countless sexual education from the time we were 12. Most people I knew in highschool were virgins, all but 2 of my friends are virgins. I also went to a pretty big highschool of about 3000 students, and I only ever saw 2 girls pregnant. Teen pregnancies are a lot more uncommon now than before, and most young people don't want children any time soon or at all. You guys can even look up stats on this, don't get fooled by the few young parents you see on the internet, those are outliers, not even remotely close to the average teenager or young adult.
I’m gen z and that’s not true lol
Facts
Hello! Older Gen Z here. I completely agree with your statement. I feel that due to a few bad apples, the entire Gen Z gets looked at as if we are wild and strange when that’s not the case. It’s simply we just won’t stand for injustices that older generations have let fly. We are also more open to having conversations about mental/emotional/and physical health when there was time you couldn’t be open to discuss those topics without being looked at like you’re crazy. Yes there are few outliers but haven’t almost of all the older generations faced the same thing. It feels like many older generations are upset or don’t like that many Gen Z’s don’t want to move in their lives like they did. Why do something just one way when there’s other ways of accomplishing the same end result. It’s that open and honest dialogue that people are afraid of because it breaks what they have always known and that just can’t happen.
@@fairygodmother139it actually is true. All you have to do is search up “have teenage pregnancy rates decreased” and you’ll see… you can go to cdc.gov and read about teenage pregnancy rates. There are statistics provided by the government. Information gained through actual research by credible sources. no amount of video essays will erase the fact of the matter, teenage pregnancy rates are actually at an all time low.
@@fairygodmother139 what part?
Not me verbally agreeing while watching 😂😂 we literally hv thesame mindset. Aahhh!!! I swear every point was SPOT ON.
ME TOOOO!!
I can barely take care of myself let alone a whole breathing human being, my question is where are the parents who are supposed to be held accountable for not shielding them. I don't have the energy time or energy to be in a relationship, I'm not even allowed to so how are these parents not letting their kids be kids.
Same here no time and energy for relationship ...talk more of a child
Same, can't really take care of myself as i am too lazy and broke.😅
But anyway we really don't know what the teen moms are going through to be in that situation.😔
What do you mean "I'm not even allowed to"? If you're an adult you can do what you want and anyone who doesn't like it can kiss your as#.
Girl! Im actually sick of the naked grwm's too!! its so unnecessary and honestly cringe. Like girl get to the point!
😂😂😂riiight like what even
Love you lucy😢
My lil cousin got pregnant at a very lil age and she comes on social media to caption her post "your fave babyma" damn!
Damn 😑
Someone get her parents, damn! 😭
😢😢😢
The big sis we all need ❤❤ and it's like if you as a teen girl have morals and boundaries with certain things they say "you're missing out or you boring" ehhh👀
Yes absolutely. Funnily enough, I recalled recently when I was in my teens and decided to stay home one New Year’s Eve. A family member asked me if I was going out and when I told her no because I was saving, she called me boring then proceeded to ask me to babysit her daughter so she could go out. A month later she then called to borrow money. I’m pretty sure that at no point did it occur to her that my being “boring” meant that she had a baby sitter that night and that the same money she borrowed from me was only available for me to lend simply because I had chosen to stay home that night instead of spending it going to the club. So yes, people will call you boring but be more than happy to benefit from it when it suits their needs. Luckily I’m older now and much more assertive and discerning 🙏🏾
@@justalina_S Keeping true to yourself will never fail you ❤❤
oh that’s so true. All of my friends drink apart from me (one of them literally got alcohol poisoning at one point) but thing is we’re 16 which i find far too young so i don’t engage in it and if i’m being real alcohol smells like hand sanitiser lol. But the thing is they always try and peer pressure me into drinking and i have to stand my ground for a good 10 mins before they leave me alone. Even worse is my brother who calls me a prude and tells me i’m not going to have friends later in life because of my choice of lifestyle. It gets tiring man I can’t lie 😭
Yeah, at those times I felt a bit ashamed of being that “boring”(virgin, studious and alone) but fortunately my parents were smarter than me and I was comfortable being ‘boring’. I am not sorry that I don’t want babies, I am not sorry I don’t want to date anyone(probably never), I am not sorry I don’t do drugs or alcohol or other kind of addictions, and I am not certainly sorry about being a virgin at my 25s.
I study and enjoy my life on my own. Take care of yourself, healthy🍀❤️ Ánimo👍
@@purplepuff6300 amen oo
There was a trend on TikTok for teen moms and it was like I may be young but at least I know who my baby daddy is and that’s literally bottom of the barrel, that’s common sense are these teens really sleeping with that many people at a time it’s sad
I love that you didn't sugar coat 🩷
Yes! If they want to be loud and proud about the disfunction they're creating, the judgement will also be loud and proud!
Damn sis, you nailed it. This is a sickness, we need healing. Cos what? Kids having kids and the whole baby mama culture is just ridiculous.
I agree that Gen Z act grown asf but I haven’t seen much teen pregnancies being an issue like us millennials. For god sakes 16 & pregnant showed us who the real undercover freaks are.
We need to bring back those teen pregnancy shows that had the sole purpose of scaring teens into not having sex😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Teens are going to have sex that's normal. We just need to teach them how to do it safely. They're going to do it anyway, it's better for them to be safe than sorry.
@@ChloeEIizabethPrice bruh that’s not normal tho.
@@user-tf5dv2do6d Teenagers are literally the hornist group of people they will have sex.
@@user-tf5dv2do6d It quite literally is
Finally someone who is seeing the bs that is being normalized.
These days shame no longer exists 😅
The summary of it is that shamelessness is the new norm. Nobody has shame anymore. People just go around doing whatever. Thank you for always speaking on unpopular opinions.
should teen moms hide away or publicly shame themselves. it’s different if it were a social media trend to plan ur pregnancy as a teen. most of the teen moms on tiktok did not plan it. another thing, being a teen mom means u already made ur mistake and ur living it now. should they shame themselves constantly after it’s done?
What’s interesting is marriage rates with Gen Z has gotten higher but birthing rates have gotten lower. Or at least that’s what my professors have said.
As a 15 year old, I see from the kids around me that the problem starts with the parents. I think the main problem is that parents just don’t parent. Like parents are out here buying their kids vapes and allowing them to just do whatever. It’s honestly so sad. Ik my mom is tough on me but I appreciate it bc wtf do you mean your mom is letting you sleep around and smoke and skip school. The future is so concerning. And don’t even get me started on their spelling, grammar, conversation skills, or critical thinking 🤦🏾♀️
it is the parents most of the time and the adults around them. there’s a vape store right next to my school and they literally LET KIDS buy vapes without id or anything like what!? and it’s those same kids who don’t know anything education related
How could being a totally unprotected (legally, culturally, etc) Mother be romanticized? And how could a MAN not being willing to commit to fidelity be romanticized? We need to be talking about what we allow men to do, and "absent Father" mentality as well ...
Right. Something I was thinking about is how in teen pregnancy relationships, the girl is usually named as a whore or a slut, but if the dad stays he’s praised as a ‘saint’ or ‘angel’… tf? for staying with his child and being responsible for his actions? behave. if a woman went and abandoned her kid she would be looked at soo much worse- and rightfully so, but the same should able to the baby daddies as well.
giving a bf a baby is not casual. parenthood is not causal. having 3 babymamas is not normal.
Another sad part about child support is that unless you get a rich dude your child support isn’t gonna be anywhere near enough to raise a child
The cups...Yess ! If you go camping or work at a factory with harsh conditions, I get it, you need the extreme durability. But spending a thousand to but all the colors just to sip your water at home ??😂😂
They normalized so much like not wanting to settle down or be with one person at all. Just die alone and be nothing more. It’s so weird. I don’t wanna sleep around like everyone else all my life. Then just die when it’s all over.
The millennials normalized all of that and Gen z is just following in their footsteps.
No one is telling you that… you missed the plot
@@mun3698 excuses and i hate that. we see a PROBLEM we fix it NOT normalize it what the ruck?
Who tf says you die alone? Really, what's the meaning of that crap? If you marry you also die alone, one borns alone and dies alone.... what the hell do you all mean? Nothing more? Well that's life, even if you have 30 kids and a husband for 80 years, in the end, you die, and that's it. Fulfillment doesn't have to be to everyone else what it means for you....
You’re literally just making this up. Some people saying it’s okay to not want to get married doesn’t mean they’re encouraging teen pregnancy. It’s not weird to not be monogamous because our species has been proven to not be inclined to be monogamous for their entire life. That’s typically in primates x
THANK YOU FOR CALLING OUT PEOPLE OVERUSING THE TERM “NARCISSIST”!!!! My aunt is one of those people and it drives me insane! I would actually pay money to see these people encounter a REAL narcissist, just to watch their reaction. I’d be there with a camera and popcorn 😂
It's a scary way of thinking there is nothing cool or trendy about being a BABY MOMMA!
former teenage girl here 🙋🏽♀️ i’ve been around a lot of kids at my school including friends who are having sex and getting pregnant at the ages of 12/13/14 and i never realized that people were more okay with that than i thought they were. i’ve seen tiktok’s of 14 year old girls pregnant and having babies and then a person in the comments would be like “that’s embarrassing” or something like that and then the “mother” would be like “okay nobody cares”. or “ don’t blame me blame the father” like WTH. you were the one that opened your legs to him and even though he did take part in it you were the one that could’ve said no.
The things I see online always blows my mind. Everything wrong is so hyped now. It’s crazy and sickening!!!! Now suddenly everybody has ADHD, OCD,etc😂Once again you never miss the point! So much love for you!!!❤️❤️❤️🙌🏾
Don’t forget autism 🤦🏾♀️
as someone who’s birth mother was 16 when she had me (I am adopted), unfortunately I’m guessing kids have kids when they’re in horrible environments and/or abusive parents.
it’s a problem that needs to be talked about more than it already is
I feel like a lot of people just make assumptions about a teen’s life and chalk it up to teen pregnancy being glamorised on social media but they don’t actually know the circumstances. Imo we shouldn’t be judging anyone, just because it’s not agreed it’s never your place to judge
@@tartagliatelle5647 yep like SA and not great quality sex Ed or none at all
It’s the lack of love from parents that usually create these people and or people just naturally want to become mothers and have someone to love. Not sure what has changed since the 1900’s with the age getting lower and lower buts it’s really interesting.
Do what I did: I have 1 teenager and a 3 year old. My 3 year old bangs on my teenagers door at 5 a.m. She wants nothing to do with that life lol 😅
Same lol I had to babysit all 4 of my siblings since I was 13. That's more than enough warning than I need.
Most people aren’t narcissistic, they’re just selfish, which also sucks with regards to a relationship, but it’s much easier to realize 😌
Are you sure we are not twins? My big sis we have the same mindset and that's why I am glued to your channel year after year. I am too traditional to relate with so many things happening now. I am happy I wasn't born in this Aesthetic era. Keep rocking with these videos Mme. Much love from Cameroon🇨🇲🇨🇲♈🤍
Definitely❤🇨🇲
Speak your thoughts Lucy!!…this generation and the normalization of certain things is just mind blowing 😵💫
A narcissist is someone who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. They typically have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others.
my toxic abusive ex he literally got a high from seeing me suffer. I literally got sexually harassed by his barbor and he didn't even believe his gf when I told him his barbor exposed a nude picture of him on his phone to me! Five years with that demon I will never never forget the things he did to me. I'm so thankful I have such a sweet man now who actually loves me for me.
I saw a video on TikTok encouraging kids to have babies and the comment section was full of 13,14,15 year old saying they want to have babies too🤦🏽♀️
This video was highly needed. I thank you for being so honest and being a model of what should be normal admist abnormality. This internet thing a lot of things should not be allowed to be shown on there. To add, children under 16 should not have phones or access to the internet except for assignments and they should be supervised by a responsible adult in order to grow up normal and not feel they are yet to achieve anything. Aesthetic is thrown around too much making people feel they have to look or behave in a certain manner to be valid,sis just be neat,modest, confident and live within you means you will be fine. I wish I was a TH-camr I would have had a lot to add. Thanks again you spoke TRUTH!!!
Somewhere around the nexus of the rise of Instagram,Kardashian and love and hip hop came the popularisation of stripper culture and the desire for wealth,clout and
glamour at any cost.
Lucy darling, you always make sense, sticking to your faith, our morals value have been fading everyday. Thank you for this piece.
As for me no marriage no child that's on period
I agree with you 💯. It's become normal to have no boundaries or respect for yourself. It's considered normal to allow others to treat you as disposable and cheap. How can you feel good about yourself if you constantly commodify yourself and post thirst traps?
My lil sister been living wit her bf n kids since 14 they got 2 kids together now they r 19 nd both graduated high school. Due to circumstances her living wit him nd his family was better than being home tbh. They still together i feel like she mite b the only one of us to get married 🤷🏾♀️ sometime it works out
First of all !!!! THIS BLUE ON YOU IS AMAZIING😍 !!! But the way you want to fight somebody in this video eehh 😂 I even saw early today a video about this stanley cup and it is incredible to see how people can loose their dignity for that 🙄
The girl in the header is actually married now at 20
I am blown away by your beauty and your wisdom! Please keep preaching to the younger generations.
Nothing but facts! This obsession w aesthetics and influencers is a parasocial behavior
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Real talk, I played with dolls until I was 16 or 17!! Can’t imagine anyone that age choosing to have kids despite seeing it irl and my high school having a wing for pregnant girls and moms + free baby sitting
THANK YOUUUU TO TALK ABOUT IT !👏🏽👏🏽 This world is CRAZY
Mercy!
I love the direction you're taking with these bold topics Lucy !
This video hit every point that was talked about I’m so glad I found someone talking about these topics !
What you said about the narcissists was SPOT ON 🙏 Thank you for talking about this
I was a teen mom , and I think it’s not something that should be normalized,but I have to say that these videos of young moms really helped me through the rough times
Lucy will always be the big Aunty everyone needs. Social media has normalized a lot of wrongs. Thank you for speaking your truth
Gen Z here. I had an ex ask me how I felt about having kids before getting married once. I said absolutely not. Post breakup, I don't even know if I want kids. I'm 26 and I'm in a beautiful relationship now with someone who gives me space to make this decisions for myself and he's supportive either way. However, we both agreed that a child wouldn't be on the table until we can financially thrive with a kid.
you give such tough love big sister love and advice, i’m here for it
I've been binge watchings your videos for almost 2weeks now, and this video is going to make me subscribe. Everything said I agree with 110%. I am a young lady and i am very old school with a lot of things and social media is as bad as it is good.
I am so happy Lucy has said the things that are not talked about because of fear of "upsetting" others. So refreshing to hear someone speak the truth
These are the type of videos I admire from you.. THE LOUDER TRUUTTTHHH!!!!! This may not be the case I really relate with everything because of the African upbringing.
You couldn't have said it any better Lucy. The big sister we need! Loving the nails by the way x
For the last part, it’s so true! I’ve experienced things my entire life that I don’t wish upon anyone and lived with a physically and mentally abusive mother. I’m 26 and still trying to figure out how to live a normal life without the past situations affecting my day to day. I’m tired of hearing people use those words for the slightest inconvenience or situation.
Especially the narcissist thing is so true. As someone who recently realized that I kept on being friends or dating the same type of person I can tell you that social media actually slowed down my journey. Seeing videos about narcissistic people and the list of traits confused me even more. I did not realize that I was in a cycle and since my scenarios didn't relate to the signs maybe cause they were very simple guesses and had more to do with bad behavior or a situation taken out of hand, I convinced myself that I was the problem since I could barely relate to the victims. It took me so long to conclude that most narcissists are actually quite enticing and not as plain behavior explained by a top5 list. They are difficult to argue with and cut off, even worse is that if they are on social media they will use mental health buzz words to really sell their story. Anyway, it is not as simple to realize, and even trying to get out of the loop as I also know I play a role in attracting the same people. Either way, these things are best to either avoid or seek professional help.
Thank You soo much Lucy for this.
Dysfunctionality being normalised is a harm to the young ones
Big ups to speaking up boldly on this topic 👏
She talked about everything that needed to be said, wow!!! I’m subscribing😍❤️
I always watch yiur videos for the past 2 years and i sometimes forget to comment.
Thank you for reminding the rest of us that being normal is now a luxury.
I see a lot of kids have kids and i can't be surprised anymore
Somebody had to talk about these things.. and the talk has been done by my fav big sis.. 👏👏👏👏👏👏
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I KEEP SEEING YOUR BETTER HELP ADDS I’m like who’s this beautiful girl🥺 so glad TH-cam has finally recommended me one of your videos!!!
King Solomon in a woman! Wisdom sis! Thanks for sharing 🙏🏽
Love You ma... Its really make those young ones who are trying to live life real make them feel they are not doing their better...
Where have you been? I just found your video. It is nice to hear someone say my thoughts out loud. I have been saying these things in my circles for years!
Shout it sis, this generation is so gone😢
God help us
I agree with you 100%. You snapped with this one!!!!
I just found your channel and I absolutely love you. You’re gorgeous btw, but also, I’m with you 100%. Love your take on everything. I feel the same way. You’re amazing!
yes a lot of negative things have been normalized but judgement is not a solution…. let’s be positive and offer new perspectives. thx for ur vid.
May god bless you to be bold enough to say this truth ❤🙏
Seeing u as a young person discuss this with such a grounded mind is beautiful. Keep it up abeg❤
Thank you sis for talking about these topics the Stanley cups i dont own and i never will be its a waste of product!!
You literally said everything I’ve been telling my friends for the past 3 months 😮 I love it here
As a middle school teacher, GIRL, I have so much to say. These kids act as if they are grown.. pregnant, dropping out of middle school, making blog channels and all .. parents are nowhere to be seen. Smh!!!
On the point of blogs, I honestly think it’s fine IF you don’t take it too far. Why are you, as a child, so comfortable with sharing your entire face and body online and not having any thinking skills to see that that might be wrong
Not you shouting on us😂😂😂
Sorry ma🤲
My thoughts exactly.. I posted this the other day. Love this…
Thank you for this conversation, I agree with everything you said !!😊
Omg you have me captivated! Loved the entire video! Thank you ❤️
Girly spoke every thing I wanted to sayyyyy, amen!
Someone had to say it, you spoke facts without mincing words ✨✨
A lot of this comes from older women who really hate us. If you don’t warn your daughter ANYTHING about men, you hate her. A lot of young girls have to figure it out on their own. At 17 my mom told me abortion wasn’t an option I asked her if she would tell my sister the same thing if she got pregnant at 17 she said she don’t know😭 grandmas aunties and older cousins didn’t tell me anything either. I told my sister since she was 13 about men and kids she’s 21 with no kids.