BAHH you freakin GUYS. I am posting to say the honey pots sold out in the first hour 😭I am sorry that there was such a limited supply, but oh my freakin heart. I can't tell you how much this made me want to joyfully cry. It has been quite an extended journey working on this project with my amazing brother, and up until 2 hours ago I truly didn't know if anyone would actually want to buy one. My jaw is on the floor and my heart is full. Thank you to all of you for loving this creation as much as we do. I can't wait to ship them out ❤
Go for a walk on a first date! Highly recommended 👌 No shouting over crowded restaurant/bar, no awkward 'how much eye contact'! Less intimidating to have a chat without being watched all the time. If it goes well you can always grab a food or beverages after the walk. If it goes badly, at least you got your steps in 😅
I know I’m late but as a dude a girl told me she wished I had asked her out for walk instead of dinner - I felt like I was a dumbass for not thinking about it. I didn’t work out at all but gotta plus one this suggestion.
Is it possible to sit down, order drinks and then casually just say, “the bill paying part of these things always stresses me out- can we just agree now to split the bill?” 😂 Honestly a genuine moment like that can be a cute ice breaker I think.
This is an amazing idea and I think most guys don't care nearly as much as Caroline. I think the rule is normally "if I ask you out then I pay" and if you're looking for a more traditional person then you should insist. Frankly if she made such a big deal out of this tiny interaction it's a giant red flag and I would move on. But from a guy's perspective I can't read your mind so a straight-forward conversation would be wonderful. And in regards to being "used for money" I couldn't care less. Again, if I invited you I am just happy to enjoy your company and if it goes nowhere then it's not a big deal.
That is really a lovely outlook ...and you sound like a good guy. Very grounded and sensible. I’d be on board with that philosophy. Unfortunately, your outlook isn’t shared by all men ...hence the dilemma. Caroline is struggling with is the variety of expectations she’s encountered. Though she added a good deal of “dramatic effect” to the “who pays” monologue, it was by way of expressing how uncomfortable women are with how we’re perceived. This is exacerbated by the scenario having occurred multiple times in a row. I don’t see this as a ‘red flag’ for two reasons: First: These concerns reflect someone who CARES about a guy’s feelings (versus making a mountain out of a molehill) and Second: I very much relate to the discomfort. If we try to get a feel for how tight a date’s budget might be (i.e. how big an impact springing for the date will have) - then we might come off as ‘only interested in income.’ It’s just so frustrating ...it can be very difficult when you’re sensitive and trying your best to be fair and do the right thing. 🤷🏻♀️
@@jenniferlynn3537I completely agree. Too many dates or even friend outings where guys attitude changed depending on whether we split the bill. I've literally gotten messages later from guys who said they moved on because I paid my share so they took it as me not being interested. Meanwhile, I'd thought the date went well. Then, there are the guys who assume that you OWE them your time or body simply because they paid for the date. Yes, those creeps are everywhere and have turned violent so many times so there are plenty of reasons why a woman might insist on paying her share. I've also had guy friends tell me themselves about no longer wanting to date because they're expected to pay and wonder if women just went out with them for some free food or drinks meanwhile those same friends and others also complained about if she insisted on paying her share. Like, guys talk to women too and we hear it from both sides-the guys we go out on dates with and the guy friends.
I figured it out: Coffee first dates only. It has a built-in time limit (no one drinks three coffees like you might a cocktail), you keep your wits about you, AND it’s cheap. Plus if you get there first, you just buy the coffee and wait. Done and done. This saved me when I was doing all the app dating 🎉
DATE IDEA: bring the guys to Luke's workshop to help make more honey pots. If the date doesn't go well, at least you got some free labor out of each guy 😅
OMG YES! " Here, sand this while my brother asks you the most ingenious questions while I decide if I shall date you!!"🤣 If they are a "No" you can send them away with a slightly flawed one as a parting gift...
Genius idea! They have all of the elements in place: Caroline's design background, Luke's craftsmanship, an audience of potential buyers, and a genuine sibling friendship that translates onto screen cuteness
This is why I love museum dates! I live in the DC area too and there are so many wonderful, free museums to visit. You get your walk in, there are exhibits to talk about to keep the conversation going, and no bill at the end!
Same. Lived in Northern Virginia for over 40 years, only recently moved to the eastern coast of Virginia. DC has so many things to do on any date! Between the museums & the arts it's amazing. Now the canal ride has opened and mozzie season is dying down, that's a fun thing to do, as well. The honey pots are lovely! I'd get one but I have 3 other types already. Maybe I'll give them away 😉
“Come back here bubbles” little quotes of relatability sprinkled in a mix of profound wisdom. 😂 Love you Caroline! You have been such an encouragement me to me as a 20 year old.❤
I did this every first date. It worked great. I was looking for a 50/50 partner scenario so I think it weeded out some of the dudes that could not handle that but never created an awkward scenario for me.
Hi Caroline - I sent you a DM on Instagram. I love your sense of humor and I want to set you up with my brother. Could be a good match! And I’ll tell him about the bill.
My boyfriend and I went on our first date on a walk. He surprised me with Starbucks and we already had an idea of what drinks and foods we liked from talking weeks before we meet. He knew I didn’t eat gluten or dairy and I’m deathly allergic to hazel nuts. Our next few dates we cooked for each other foods that we had said we liked or wanted to try and or brought take out and did lunch at the park. Let me tell you how organic and romantic it was. The meal felt special and for us. Three years later we are still going strong and he is amazing with my son, too. I say, go on the walk and both bring your coffee or whatever and enjoy the moment shared and if that doesn’t feel right, trust your gut!
What if you include this at the bottom of your Hinge profile: "I like to split the bill". This way, on the date, they will understand and no one will be offended.
@@Caroline_Winkler I only do walks on a first date. Not only this issue won't come up, awkward pauses aren't that awkward when you're walking, I don't feel forced to hold eye contact constantly and you can tell a lot by the way someone walks, too.
ANOTHER THING. Getting excited is a whole personality type, and it’s simply who some of us are. Turning people off with our excitement is a good way too weed out the wet blankets. So there!
Omg. You are a fabulous highly sensitive person (HSP). Intense, passionate, expressive, analytical, REAL, honest! Lucky you and lucky us. It’s a wonderful thing to be. Cherish this quality. There are enough fakes around. 🎉
Thank you Caroline! I ALWAYS PAY MY OWN BILL-I am a 65 year old woman and this "dance" has been going on for decades! At my age, you are subject to ridiculous stories-recently I was told that his "PAST THREE girlfriends were in their early forties." Why do I care? We both belong to the same country club; we played only 9 holes (I wisely wouldn't commit to 18!) and I declined getting a cocktail afterwards for fear of more fascinating girlfriend/ex-wife stories! He told mutual friends that introduced us that it seems I "didn't enjoy him"-Good Read! When I see him at the club, he is always alone, apparently his program is not working. I always plan ahead for the quick "out" to freedom-to minimize wasted time........NEXT!
Honestly my dad has walking dates and it’s great. He does a lot of outdoor activities so if the person refuses and says she is not really into outdoor stuff it helps him know if it could be a good match or not !
Oh my. This video made me feel soooo much better about being older and losing my husband a couple yrs back and being ok in my life with just missing him, and the life we were creating… I have no answers. Dating sucks. And I hope to maybe never go on one again. 😂❤😂
Honestly I see this rant as a HUGE opportunity to find your soulmate. Just tell them exactly what you told the bathtub, see how they react. Filter out the humorless, stuffy, stuck-up guys who don't get you fast and reliably.
Yes! If they think you're batsh*t then they're NOT for you. If they find you hilarious then you'll entertain them for a few months, if they agree and start ranting along, boom SOULMATE.
I laughed so hard when you started raging about the insane time investment no woman would go through to get a free meal 😂😂😂 I once was accused by a man for using dates to get a free coffee. Even selling your stuff online is probably giving you a higher hourly wage than going on dates for a free coffee that costs like 3 bucks. I am totally okay with splitting the bills. I only let men pay if I can picture a second date with them. I don't want anyone to feel used. I am an adult, I can pay for my drink. Loved dating during the pandemic, everything was closed so the only thing you could do for dating was going on walks. Met my partner during this time, he got us two lemonades at a kiosk. I let him pay for the drinks. We moved in together last year :)
That is so freaking rude. my response would be something like : spending any time at all with a person like you, should garner me at least 10 free coffees. Of course, I would think that 3 years later lying in bed unable to sleep one night.
That’s really ridiculous, men who think this way obviously have no idea about how long it takes us to get ready for a date - let alone all the time you spent texting him… Maybe if it’s a $200 dinner, then I could understand why a guy might think so - then again, someone who would go out with a men for an expensive dinner would probably also try to keep dating him just to get more free stuff.
Hey, girl. Get excited every time. Do not be ashamed of who you are. This is precious and unique. The majority of people are stale and boring. But when you find someone who is excited about you getting excited. That would be unbelievable match. It just takes time and courage. ❤
Friendly reminder that people who don't get visibly excited about everything aren't always stale and boring! People express themselves in different ways.
@@Caroline_Winkler It’s been 17 hours since I posted my comment and I still can’t stop dreaming of that stupid (but stylish) ball on a stick. Truly hope this is the beginning of a thriving side hustle that I can spend my coin on. Love your videos!
Indeed. We have a saying in Serbia, translated verbatim as: "Offered as honored"; used usually when someone refuses your offer of something, meaning you gave them the option of "my treat" haha. Also, always makes me giddy to see my subscriptions interacting - like a lil' secret world of common interests. Oh interwebz
Paying for your own drinks/food is the norm in Sweden and it's awesome tbh. You spend as much as you can afford/want to spend on a date, no one feels like they've been used or like they owe something, and there's no discussions about who's paying :) Also: there is in my experience no date debrief among guys. Most of the time we won't even say we've been on a date haha
Yes! Among guys I know, there's no or barely any date debrief. "it was ok" or "she's nice" or "nah" being about the scope of it. Certainly nothing like what women get into with analysing the details.
@@jason-the-fencer Oh Jason, your asking for it. (Or did I just miss an obvious joke?) We DO generally have very clean, modern and well kept public restrooms and biking, are you kidding me (?), we ride bikes like there's no tomorrow. (Didn't own a car until my 30's, before that bike only. Used public transport only when living in Stockholm (also very good). The infrastructure for bike riding is very well planned with special bike roads, bridges and lanes. It's standard in all cities/towns. Grew up biking all year round. (Yes, even through serious northern winters. They plow the bike roads every night.)
My siblings would NEVER! And yes I would for them. They’d tell you that too. I’m positive I was switched in the hospital and I have the best family out there somewhere. 😅❤️🩹🥹
You are so cute and so truly smartly hilarious..! So much relate to the "i can't stop giggling and getting excited, but then I feel bad cause i fear to get disappointed" thing. Love ALL your videos, honestly
I can’t shake the feeling that Caroline’s videos are a HUGE magnet for Neurodivergent people like me. Where my fellow ASD peeps at? I know you’re here & find yourselves vibing with not only WHAT she says, but HOW she says it. P.S. Everybody pays for themselves. Simple. Straightforward.
fellow ASD/ADHD here - and I love Caroline's videos! Everything she says is so direct, just like how us neurodivergents prefer it! her honesty (your honesty if you're reading this Caroline) is the most refreshing thing online at this time!
I trained in neurosciences and I’m a medical doctor plus philosopher. Try not to get caught up in the whole ‘neurodivergent’ label. Very Brian is unique and each being individuates developing different parts of their brains with different skills, talents and passions. A label is just another way to try to fit into a box which would never fully encompass yours or any other humans potential anyways. ✌🏽🥂
@@Rubylove48 Respectfully, ASD is not a label: it’s a medical diagnosis. After a lifetime of being called ‘weird,’ ‘awkward,’ ‘too much’, ‘too sensitive,’ ‘nerdy,’ and ‘you’re not like us’ - all hurtful ‘labels’ - it’s been lovely & liberating to now understand myself & how my brain works. In short, I’ve been negatively, rudely labelled my whole life: at least the ASD ‘label’ is true. Thanks. I hope this hasn’t come across as confrontational. Caroline deserves a NO DRAMA zone. :)
“I can’t be trusted with my giggles” You are so sweet! I so relate to feeling like this years ago. One of my best friend eventually refused to listen to my stories or meet the guys until we’d been together for more than 3 months because he couldn’t take the emotional rollercoaster any more. My husband had the best answer to the paying for the bill question: I’ll get this one, you can get the next one. 😊
Ok I’m dating at 60 something and now I know what to say on the first date- “let’s plan to pay our own bills . Thank you for putting this very important issue front and center! Also- thank you for describing the condition “neurodivergent “- I now feel comfortable knowing I’m not crazy just different ❤
For some reason that ending shot of your Italian class was so sweet and seemed so genuine (I'm sure partly cause it's my language and it moves me that others would like to learn it, partly your answers and how you delivered them). It looks like you're really enjoying it and you're great at it. Bravissima Caroline! :) and thank you for another great and entertaining video! I always learn something from you.
Caroline, be excited! 🎉 why not? Even if he is not the person, you get to experience an awesome time.. you never know when it's your time to leave earth, so mind as well enjoy.. your family and friends will be there to pick up the pieces 😂 and then you'll go through another round of self-development, learn more about yourself and rinse and repeat until you master the art of being yourself and be around people who are also authentic and accept you for who you are at the core.. ❤
Its like finding a stray animal. Plan something YOU like, pay for you and him, do the thing with him. Thats the bait. Then lure him home and feed him. Trick him into calming down. Once they stop being feral, then go for pets. Once you can "pet" him you can keep him.
I feel you about the texts. (We clearly share ADHD) I fancied myself a player in the day, but I think all the texting required now would have killed my love of the game. Back then I could get away with ignoring pages(a pager was a thing that showed a phone number when someone called it) and saying I couldn't get to a phone. Now, dating feels like it is happening in a panopticon.
I remember going to high school with Alex Anele. (From your vid shown on this video:) She was an amazing artist when we had classes together and overall just such a level headed person (totally makes sense she’s a makeup artist now). So much fun. Loved her style, and LOVE your style with interior design and just overall how you carry yourself whilst navigating around this crazy planet of people we interact with.
I can just imagine the pothos plant behind you also complaining as her leaves are being drowned in a pool of soap water. 🤣 this video was epic. Per usual. Awesome video!!! 🤣
OMG YES. That has been my new theory if I ever get on apps again - NO LONG TEXTING BEFORE MEETING. Sooo glad someone else agrees. Also girl this video is going in my favorites. Love everything about it. You are so relatable. ❤️
This is why if anything happens with my current relationship I’m just getting a handful of cats. Also those honey pots look amazing! Congrats to everyone who got one
I saw the honey pots, paused the video, and bought one. I am planning to do a honey and cheese (I know) Christmas gift for my best friend and I have been searching for a honey pot that didn’t look goofy. This is the only one. Thank you for saving Christmas.
As the only single person left in what feels like the world, it’s so nice to have someone I can relate to about the ~horrors of online dating. All these couples just don’t realise what we go through 🙃. Such a great video for a Sunday afternoon
Girl. I love you. You’re hilarious. And tbf I’ve been out of the dating game for 15 yrs but you are wayyyyyyyy overthinking this. Let him pay. Don’t think twice. Let him be a gentleman and buy your meal and if HE thinks twice, he is NOT the one. Keep it moving. ✌️
@@Caroline_Winkler why (how!!) do your videos and all these comments equal human elation for all?!!!!!! It’s like that marathon you watched and cheered for strangers. Golly! ❤
Wow your thoughts were so relatable in this video….being happy and excited about something…the regret of getting too excited…texting dudes….the self depreciation. It is exhausting. Woof. Thanks for being real.
I would go for coffee as a first date- a coffee is so cheap I don't feel awkward about who pays. It feels like any option is fine, vs dinner or drinks which has a bit more weight to the bill
Dying- “if you were you, what would you say, what would Caroline say?” Thank you for telling the world what we all think when texting. I’m dead, you’re hilarious and I love you all over again.
First date with my husband was us going to the local park and chatting under a gazebo for a couple hours. He offered to bring a salad to share for lunch. I much preferred it over going to a restaurant.
I'm quite a bit older than you, but found myself divorced in my early thirties, just when internet dating was hitting its stride. I agree with you 100% and figured out early in the online dating process that meeting for a walk on the beach (our beaches are comfortably crowded all year long so it was as safe as could be expected when meeting a stranger) was the best date and the best way to get to know a guy and see if there was anything there.
This is exactly why I prefer to meet people and get to know them organically, which has been harder the last few years. Dates feel inauthentic and are way too much pressure to perform a certain way or follow a bunch of rules that people don't agree on. But if someone's ego is bruised because you offer to split or pay the entire bill or if they assume you're using them then they have just outed themselves as someone who is immature and too insecure for the likes of you! I'm a big fan of being upfront and communicative. And it scares some away. And yes, walks are the best!
I'm also old enough to be Caroline's mother, but I think there are actually quite a lot of us in this demographic who love Caroline's videos. What a gift she has to be able to reach such a varied audience.
I'm 52 this year and so enjoy Caroline's content, because she's so down to earth and real. I remember meeting someone after weeks of messages and oh, the letdown! So I really relate to her comments around 16:00. Even though I am in a happy, settled relationship now.
Hey Caroline :) French girl here, first time for me leaving a comment on TH-cam...! I’m happy this one is for you! Thanks for sharing your great personality and sense of humour...it helps play life down when needed! Thank you for making me laugh and smile! (That intro on your Leaving lonely video was just genius!) Love the honeypots! 😍 France is far away, but i’m not despairing having one of my own someday! Love the brother! France is far away, but i’m not despairing having one of my own someday! 😂😄 Took me sooooo long to write down that message in english because of the french typepad setting, i have no choice but to send it! All the best! +++
As an amateur woodworker, I can appreciate all of the hard work and detail Luke put into the honey jars! I will definitely be grabbing one if I can! Please update when they are available on his shop!!
When you said you felt bad cause you didn’t want to get excited and expect too much - my heart!! We’ve all been there. Take a break if you need to cause it can get so exhausting mentally and emotionally
Feeling so good after watching this. No clue why. It just has such a good vibe and the topics are always so deep and diverse here. Never been into the concept of following somebody on a social media. But you and what you create are truly special. Thanks to you for being you.
You are such a nice person. I don't usually watch vlogs, I consider them boring, but you are so funny and intelligent, it was pleasure to watch you whole 31:57 minutes. 😊 Wish you all the best.
Just don’t put pressure on dates. Just meet people and put no expectations on it. Find something to learn and enjoy from each interaction. If it’s meant to go somewhere it will.
Im old enough to be your mother and feel bad about what young people go thru dating . I think the topic is a no win for both sides. Prob best to decide on bill pay before starting the date. I adore the honey pots! Especially the glass that have heavy bottoms! Clicking to order!
P.S.S. Holy bee 🐝 hive ... Those bespoke honey pots are fantastic; and, Luke is just the freakin' cutest & most talented brother ever! LEGAL INSERT: You might want to get a patent on these, at the USPTO is not far from you guys - just a thought; as I worked at an international law firm in the Patent & Trademark (™️) Department for many years! *** Okay, I am officially cut-off at the three (3) comment mark ‼️ *** 😅😂🤣
The honey pots look so oddly interesting! Like something you want to keep looking at and touch to figure out why they work so well. Really good design!
Texting is my worst nightmare! It takes me forever and I often forget I was even texting and leave them unsent.😂 I think I need to read the emotions of others when communicating. I thought it was due to being in my 60s. Thanks for sharing and making me feel like it’s not my age, and I’m not alone in this!
BAHH you freakin GUYS. I am posting to say the honey pots sold out in the first hour 😭I am sorry that there was such a limited supply, but oh my freakin heart. I can't tell you how much this made me want to joyfully cry. It has been quite an extended journey working on this project with my amazing brother, and up until 2 hours ago I truly didn't know if anyone would actually want to buy one. My jaw is on the floor and my heart is full. Thank you to all of you for loving this creation as much as we do. I can't wait to ship them out ❤
I went to get one and POOF! They were gone! Congrats 👏
They are beautiful. I vote for another run!! Please!
I immediately went to go purchase and everything was sold out! Please make more! 🙏🥰
Since they are all sold out, I guess I’ll just have to date Luke to make him create a new one 😂 sign me up for both
Awesome! Congrats to you both 🙌
Go for a walk on a first date! Highly recommended 👌 No shouting over crowded restaurant/bar, no awkward 'how much eye contact'! Less intimidating to have a chat without being watched all the time. If it goes well you can always grab a food or beverages after the walk. If it goes badly, at least you got your steps in 😅
My husband and I totally started off hiking 😂
This is gold! 😂 Getting steps in had me rollin.
"...at least you got your steps in" --the absolute best feel good fix no matter which way the date goes. ♥
Yesssssssssss
I know I’m late but as a dude a girl told me she wished I had asked her out for walk instead of dinner - I felt like I was a dumbass for not thinking about it.
I didn’t work out at all but gotta plus one this suggestion.
Is it possible to sit down, order drinks and then casually just say, “the bill paying part of these things always stresses me out- can we just agree now to split the bill?” 😂 Honestly a genuine moment like that can be a cute ice breaker I think.
This is an amazing idea and I think most guys don't care nearly as much as Caroline. I think the rule is normally "if I ask you out then I pay" and if you're looking for a more traditional person then you should insist. Frankly if she made such a big deal out of this tiny interaction it's a giant red flag and I would move on. But from a guy's perspective I can't read your mind so a straight-forward conversation would be wonderful. And in regards to being "used for money" I couldn't care less. Again, if I invited you I am just happy to enjoy your company and if it goes nowhere then it's not a big deal.
Healthy!
That is really a lovely outlook ...and you sound like a good guy. Very grounded and sensible. I’d be on board with that philosophy. Unfortunately, your outlook isn’t shared by all men ...hence the dilemma.
Caroline is struggling with is the variety of expectations she’s encountered. Though she added a good deal of “dramatic effect” to the “who pays” monologue, it was by way of expressing how uncomfortable women are with how we’re perceived. This is exacerbated by the scenario having occurred multiple times in a row. I don’t see this as a ‘red flag’ for two reasons: First: These concerns reflect someone who CARES about a guy’s feelings (versus making a mountain out of a molehill) and Second: I very much relate to the discomfort.
If we try to get a feel for how tight a date’s budget might be (i.e. how big an impact springing for the date will have) - then we might come off as ‘only interested in income.’ It’s just so frustrating ...it can be very difficult when you’re sensitive and trying your best to be fair and do the right thing. 🤷🏻♀️
@@jenniferlynn3537I completely agree. Too many dates or even friend outings where guys attitude changed depending on whether we split the bill. I've literally gotten messages later from guys who said they moved on because I paid my share so they took it as me not being interested. Meanwhile, I'd thought the date went well. Then, there are the guys who assume that you OWE them your time or body simply because they paid for the date. Yes, those creeps are everywhere and have turned violent so many times so there are plenty of reasons why a woman might insist on paying her share.
I've also had guy friends tell me themselves about no longer wanting to date because they're expected to pay and wonder if women just went out with them for some free food or drinks meanwhile those same friends and others also complained about if she insisted on paying her share. Like, guys talk to women too and we hear it from both sides-the guys we go out on dates with and the guy friends.
@@jenniferlynn3537I don’t understand this. If a man can’t afford a date then he shouldn’t ask a girl on a date.
I figured it out: Coffee first dates only. It has a built-in time limit (no one drinks three coffees like you might a cocktail), you keep your wits about you, AND it’s cheap. Plus if you get there first, you just buy the coffee and wait. Done and done. This saved me when I was doing all the app dating 🎉
One drink rule.
Speak for yourself.
This is exactly what I did on my first date with my now husband ;)
Alcohol and clear thinking don't go together
@@MistressYumi your eyes are beautiful!
You setting up your phone to watch TH-camrs while in the kitchen made me feel so validated.
and not just any youtuber, alexandra aneleee
DATE IDEA: bring the guys to Luke's workshop to help make more honey pots. If the date doesn't go well, at least you got some free labor out of each guy 😅
bahahahah love this scheme
OMG YES! " Here, sand this while my brother asks you the most ingenious questions while I decide if I shall date you!!"🤣 If they are a "No" you can send them away with a slightly flawed one as a parting gift...
@@GenXHeart I wish I got a little defective tricket out of every failed date. I could open a store 😂
@@adrielathome RIGHT? Same here! 😅
Tbh this actually sounds like a great date
You and Luke need to collaborate and make a whole line of beautiful and functional home items/tools!
this is honestly a dream
Genius idea! They have all of the elements in place: Caroline's design background, Luke's craftsmanship, an audience of potential buyers, and a genuine sibling friendship that translates onto screen cuteness
It's gonna happen...just know it!!!😀
We will all buy it lol 😆
absolutely brilliant idea! I would buy their stuff for sure.
This is why I love museum dates! I live in the DC area too and there are so many wonderful, free museums to visit. You get your walk in, there are exhibits to talk about to keep the conversation going, and no bill at the end!
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Plus museum visits are like kryptonite for vapid, dumb people!
Same. Lived in Northern Virginia for over 40 years, only recently moved to the eastern coast of Virginia. DC has so many things to do on any date! Between the museums & the arts it's amazing. Now the canal ride has opened and mozzie season is dying down, that's a fun thing to do, as well. The honey pots are lovely! I'd get one but I have 3 other types already. Maybe I'll give them away 😉
“Come back here bubbles” little quotes of relatability sprinkled in a mix of profound wisdom. 😂 Love you Caroline! You have been such an encouragement me to me as a 20 year old.❤
I lost it at “let’s just get your mommy and my mommy to pay it” I screamed 😭😭😭
just be direct, before you go out say hey i hate the whole bill dilemma, lets each just pay for ourselves. clear expectations for everyone involved.
💯 make it part of the pre-date conversation
Yup, exactly what I was thinking.
You are right. Communication makes up 80% of a relationship.
I did this every first date. It worked great. I was looking for a 50/50 partner scenario so I think it weeded out some of the dudes that could not handle that but never created an awkward scenario for me.
But when you gotta go, you gotta go!
The plant is as involved in this bathtub rant as Caroline is
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Hi Caroline - I sent you a DM on Instagram. I love your sense of humor and I want to set you up with my brother. Could be a good match! And I’ll tell him about the bill.
Yes! The pothos is screaming ‘please stop dunking me in suds and hot water!’
"Getting excited about new people is exhausting." I felt that in the core of my very being!
Me too. when you feel disappointment deeply, getting excited over anything can feel exhausting and dangerous haha
Literally
Ughhh me tooooo. It was such a relief to hear Caroline sharing all that. And to read all the comments in agreement too!
I'm a grandmother! I feel this so strong! I hated dating! God spare women!
My boyfriend and I went on our first date on a walk. He surprised me with Starbucks and we already had an idea of what drinks and foods we liked from talking weeks before we meet. He knew I didn’t eat gluten or dairy and I’m deathly allergic to hazel nuts. Our next few dates we cooked for each other foods that we had said we liked or wanted to try and or brought take out and did lunch at the park. Let me tell you how organic and romantic it was. The meal felt special and for us. Three years later we are still going strong and he is amazing with my son, too. I say, go on the walk and both bring your coffee or whatever and enjoy the moment shared and if that doesn’t feel right, trust your gut!
Love this! xoxo
Cute ah
What if you include this at the bottom of your Hinge profile: "I like to split the bill". This way, on the date, they will understand and no one will be offended.
This here - great idea!
omfg wait this wins
@@Caroline_Winkler I only do walks on a first date. Not only this issue won't come up, awkward pauses aren't that awkward when you're walking, I don't feel forced to hold eye contact constantly and you can tell a lot by the way someone walks, too.
O m g !
That is also a great screening tool!
Can we all just take a moment to appreciate that as a single woman, Caroline is rocking that "Wife Life" sweatshirt? 🙌
it's the funniest sweatshirt ive ever seen, and i cant stop wearing it and YES it is making me undatable
Caroline: I’m trying not to get ahead of my self
Also Caroline: wearing a “wife life” sweatshirt
Can we all just take a moment and stop doing these dumb comments?
was thinking that too!!
@@kattihatt Haha! No.
ANOTHER THING. Getting excited is a whole personality type, and it’s simply who some of us are. Turning people off with our excitement is a good way too weed out the wet blankets. So there!
wait this is helpful for me thank you sm
Hahahahaha wet blankets I love it
AGREED
🙌👍🙌
This is truth. If they cant handle the size of my personality, best to know that right up front.
Omg. You are a fabulous highly sensitive person (HSP). Intense, passionate, expressive, analytical, REAL, honest! Lucky you and lucky us. It’s a wonderful thing to be. Cherish this quality. There are enough fakes around. 🎉
We need an interview with mom winkler and dad winkler bc I always hope for children that turn out like y’all lol
Thank you Caroline! I ALWAYS PAY MY OWN BILL-I am a 65 year old woman and this "dance" has been going on for decades! At my age, you are subject to ridiculous stories-recently I was told that his "PAST THREE girlfriends were in their early forties." Why do I care? We both belong to the same country club; we played only 9 holes (I wisely wouldn't commit to 18!) and I declined getting a cocktail afterwards for fear of more fascinating girlfriend/ex-wife stories! He told mutual friends that introduced us that it seems I "didn't enjoy him"-Good Read! When I see him at the club, he is always alone, apparently his program is not working. I always plan ahead for the quick "out" to freedom-to minimize wasted time........NEXT!
How was his golf game? Maybe he could be a good golf buddy?
Maybe you wouldn't still be single if you looked for a man who pays the bill🤔
i want to hear more of your dating stories. you should have a blog
@@JulieDeuxFois JDF, relevant observation, I will take that into consideration,Thank you.
That was my thinking! but he would call/text daily-wants more than a golf buddy.
Honestly my dad has walking dates and it’s great. He does a lot of outdoor activities so if the person refuses and says she is not really into outdoor stuff it helps him know if it could be a good match or not !
“I would much rather have eaten this alone!”
😂 👏🏼
The most relatable thing I've heard
Caroline out here making me want to buy everything her family produces. Books, honey pots, gimme what you got.
Oh my. This video made me feel soooo much better about being older and losing my husband a couple yrs back and being ok in my life with just missing him, and the life we were creating…
I have no answers. Dating sucks. And I hope to maybe never go on one again. 😂❤😂
Honestly I see this rant as a HUGE opportunity to find your soulmate. Just tell them exactly what you told the bathtub, see how they react. Filter out the humorless, stuffy, stuck-up guys who don't get you fast and reliably.
Yes! If they think you're batsh*t then they're NOT for you. If they find you hilarious then you'll entertain them for a few months, if they agree and start ranting along, boom SOULMATE.
That's also true
I laughed so hard when you started raging about the insane time investment no woman would go through to get a free meal 😂😂😂
I once was accused by a man for using dates to get a free coffee.
Even selling your stuff online is probably giving you a higher hourly wage than going on dates for a free coffee that costs like 3 bucks.
I am totally okay with splitting the bills. I only let men pay if I can picture a second date with them. I don't want anyone to feel used. I am an adult, I can pay for my drink.
Loved dating during the pandemic, everything was closed so the only thing you could do for dating was going on walks. Met my partner during this time, he got us two lemonades at a kiosk. I let him pay for the drinks. We moved in together last year :)
That is so freaking rude. my response would be something like : spending any time at all with a person like you, should garner me at least 10 free coffees. Of course, I would think that 3 years later lying in bed unable to sleep one night.
@@TheMissBeki Oh, I definitely called him out for his bs 😂I sleep safe and sound at night.
i lost years on my life getting ready for this date. the "free meal" notion is such a joke!
That’s really ridiculous, men who think this way obviously have no idea about how long it takes us to get ready for a date - let alone all the time you spent texting him…
Maybe if it’s a $200 dinner, then I could understand why a guy might think so - then again, someone who would go out with a men for an expensive dinner would probably also try to keep dating him just to get more free stuff.
Your personality is honestly a gift to society
Bullshit! She's just another cop-out girl that blames everything on men.
Nahhh th-cam.com/video/S5Az_Cob6PI/w-d-xo.html
I love this girl ❤
Personality? She’s absolutely crazy. Why do you think she can’t hold down a man?
@@Krwler fascinating to encounter a real life hater
Inexplicably magnetic, an energy that makes you want to smile.
Wonderfully cozy appeal.
Eyes that speak, smile, capture.
Absolutely enchanting
Hey, girl. Get excited every time. Do not be ashamed of who you are. This is precious and unique. The majority of people are stale and boring. But when you find someone who is excited about you getting excited. That would be unbelievable match. It just takes time and courage. ❤
Friendly reminder that people who don't get visibly excited about everything aren't always stale and boring! People express themselves in different ways.
HOT DAMN sold out in less than an hour?! Congrats Winkler sibs! It’s a gorgeous design
This “hot damn” had the same energy as “sweet nibblets” from Hannah Montana and I loved it.
Kindly inform Luke that we want more honey pots. Thank you. ❤
Yes please. I missed out this time around sadly.
hahah message forwarded
Million dollar honey pot business.
@@Caroline_Winkler It’s been 17 hours since I posted my comment and I still can’t stop dreaming of that stupid (but stylish) ball on a stick. Truly hope this is the beginning of a thriving side hustle that I can spend my coin on. Love your videos!
“Always offer, never insist” has gotten me far :)
That's excellent advice tbh.
Indeed. We have a saying in Serbia, translated verbatim as: "Offered as honored"; used usually when someone refuses your offer of something, meaning you gave them the option of "my treat" haha. Also, always makes me giddy to see my subscriptions interacting - like a lil' secret world of common interests. Oh interwebz
Very diplomatic
But do you have opinions on their answer?
dream crossover
I freaking love every moment of this, feels like a friend and a movie the same time 😂
I love how you’re trying not to get excited while wearing a sweater that says Wife Life 😂❤️ Caroline you’re the cutest!
I think everything can be settled with a game of rock paper scissors.
Great comment!
Genius!
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Yess! Brilliant.
That would be fun 🎉
Paying for your own drinks/food is the norm in Sweden and it's awesome tbh. You spend as much as you can afford/want to spend on a date, no one feels like they've been used or like they owe something, and there's no discussions about who's paying :)
Also: there is in my experience no date debrief among guys. Most of the time we won't even say we've been on a date haha
Yes! Among guys I know, there's no or barely any date debrief. "it was ok" or "she's nice" or "nah" being about the scope of it. Certainly nothing like what women get into with analysing the details.
flying over now
@@victtayl Haha!
Can Scandinavia please stop doing everything better? Next your going to tell me your public bathrooms are better and people ride bikes.
@@jason-the-fencer Oh Jason, your asking for it. (Or did I just miss an obvious joke?) We DO generally have very clean, modern and well kept public restrooms and biking, are you kidding me (?), we ride bikes like there's no tomorrow. (Didn't own a car until my 30's, before that bike only. Used public transport only when living in Stockholm (also very good). The infrastructure for bike riding is very well planned with special bike roads, bridges and lanes. It's standard in all cities/towns. Grew up biking all year round. (Yes, even through serious northern winters. They plow the bike roads every night.)
I love that you use your channel to support/spread awareness about your siblings' endeavors. You're all so talented, funny, and brilliant.
My siblings would NEVER! And yes I would for them. They’d tell you that too. I’m positive I was switched in the hospital and I have the best family out there somewhere. 😅❤️🩹🥹
You are so cute and so truly smartly hilarious..! So much relate to the "i can't stop giggling and getting excited, but then I feel bad cause i fear to get disappointed" thing. Love ALL your videos, honestly
Brilliant!!! You both did an amazing job conceiving and executing the exquisite honey pots!!!!
I can’t shake the feeling that Caroline’s videos are a HUGE magnet for Neurodivergent people like me. Where my fellow ASD peeps at? I know you’re here & find yourselves vibing with not only WHAT she says, but HOW she says it. P.S. Everybody pays for themselves. Simple. Straightforward.
fellow ASD/ADHD here - and I love Caroline's videos! Everything she says is so direct, just like how us neurodivergents prefer it! her honesty (your honesty if you're reading this Caroline) is the most refreshing thing online at this time!
I trained in neurosciences and I’m a medical doctor plus philosopher. Try not to get caught up in the whole ‘neurodivergent’ label. Very Brian is unique and each being individuates developing different parts of their brains with different skills, talents and passions. A label is just another way to try to fit into a box which would never fully encompass yours or any other humans potential anyways. ✌🏽🥂
***every brain
ADHD here. I agree.
@@Rubylove48 Respectfully, ASD is not a label: it’s a medical diagnosis. After a lifetime of being called ‘weird,’ ‘awkward,’ ‘too much’, ‘too sensitive,’ ‘nerdy,’ and ‘you’re not like us’ - all hurtful ‘labels’ - it’s been lovely & liberating to now understand myself & how my brain works. In short, I’ve been negatively, rudely labelled my whole life: at least the ASD ‘label’ is true. Thanks. I hope this hasn’t come across as confrontational. Caroline deserves a NO DRAMA zone. :)
“I can’t be trusted with my giggles” You are so sweet! I so relate to feeling like this years ago. One of my best friend eventually refused to listen to my stories or meet the guys until we’d been together for more than 3 months because he couldn’t take the emotional rollercoaster any more. My husband had the best answer to the paying for the bill question: I’ll get this one, you can get the next one. 😊
THE GIGGLING TO MYSELF AND THEN FEELING GUITLY THAT I FEEL EXCITED!!!!!! Felt that in my soul
People should appreciate your joy.
NOOOOOOO I MISSED THE HONEYPOT DROP 😢😢 The one time I have no internet and miss a Caroline video. Please make more please make more please make more
Ok I’m dating at 60 something and now I know what to say on the first date- “let’s plan to pay our own bills . Thank you for putting this very important issue front and center! Also- thank you for describing the condition “neurodivergent “- I now feel comfortable knowing I’m not crazy just different ❤
For some reason that ending shot of your Italian class was so sweet and seemed so genuine (I'm sure partly cause it's my language and it moves me that others would like to learn it, partly your answers and how you delivered them). It looks like you're really enjoying it and you're great at it. Bravissima Caroline! :) and thank you for another great and entertaining video! I always learn something from you.
Caroline, be excited! 🎉 why not? Even if he is not the person, you get to experience an awesome time.. you never know when it's your time to leave earth, so mind as well enjoy.. your family and friends will be there to pick up the pieces 😂 and then you'll go through another round of self-development, learn more about yourself and rinse and repeat until you master the art of being yourself and be around people who are also authentic and accept you for who you are at the core.. ❤
Its like finding a stray animal. Plan something YOU like, pay for you and him, do the thing with him. Thats the bait. Then lure him home and feed him. Trick him into calming down. Once they stop being feral, then go for pets. Once you can "pet" him you can keep him.
I feel you about the texts. (We clearly share ADHD) I fancied myself a player in the day, but I think all the texting required now would have killed my love of the game. Back then I could get away with ignoring pages(a pager was a thing that showed a phone number when someone called it) and saying I couldn't get to a phone. Now, dating feels like it is happening in a panopticon.
panopticon...learned a new word, thanks! Id sure hate to experience being in one, i hate being watched or thinking im being watched.
Her humor and creative genius and a lot about her totally strikes me as ADHD
Caroline wearing the Wife Life sweatshirt and slinging dad jokes. My Sunday is complete.
🥰
I need a wife life sweatshirt. I still let my husband of 35 years pay for all dates. ❤
I remember going to high school with Alex Anele. (From your vid shown on this video:) She was an amazing artist when we had classes together and overall just such a level headed person (totally makes sense she’s a makeup artist now). So much fun. Loved her style, and LOVE your style with interior design and just overall how you carry yourself whilst navigating around this crazy planet of people we interact with.
Caroline: I hate getting excited. I get excited about stuff and then, you know, I probably ruin it. This explains pretty much my whole life lol🤣
it's a very silly cycle
I love how connected you are with your siblings
Caroline, your delivery and honesty is refreshing. Any man worthy of your time should be thrilled to share your space.
I can just imagine the pothos plant behind you also complaining as her leaves are being drowned in a pool of soap water. 🤣 this video was epic. Per usual. Awesome video!!! 🤣
It's all I could see for a while.
😂 me too! Loved the rant but could not take my eyes off the poor plant!
That plant is looking sad.
Congrats to Luke!! I only watched this video 1 hour after it went up and all the Honey Pots were sold out! 🎉
he did freakin amazing. i cant believe i just off handedly asked for a honey pot one day and then he came up with THIS
Will he be making more?
Missing out on those honey pots has suddenly become the greatest regret of my life
Girl, saaaaaame! They are so gorgeous!
Same 😭
😂❤😢 I feel it!! Same!
SAME
Same
OMG YES. That has been my new theory if I ever get on apps again - NO LONG TEXTING BEFORE MEETING. Sooo glad someone else agrees. Also girl this video is going in my favorites. Love everything about it. You are so relatable. ❤️
Those honey pots are BADASS! Simple, sealing, one handed use. Freaking genius! Love your willingness to be silly, too. Thanks!
I absolutely love that you have your siblings in the videos, and you're so supportive of them.
The Winkler parents create GORGEOUS offspring. Luke should make life size posters. He’s mesmerizing
Lol agreed
This is why if anything happens with my current relationship I’m just getting a handful of cats. Also those honey pots look amazing! Congrats to everyone who got one
Dang those honeypots flew! I would love a sculptural gift guide for those that love beautiful items for the home!
Luke is sooo lovely and a great craftsman ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
He might be the perfect man 😅
I saw the honey pots, paused the video, and bought one. I am planning to do a honey and cheese (I know) Christmas gift for my best friend and I have been searching for a honey pot that didn’t look goofy. This is the only one. Thank you for saving Christmas.
How much were the honey pots? They’re all sold out know but I would love to know for future restocks ☺️
@@ThatWeirdGirluKnow $60
dah!!! i am honored. and YES there arent any honeys that arent totally goofy? as far as i could find. listen im here to innovate
As the only single person left in what feels like the world, it’s so nice to have someone I can relate to about the ~horrors of online dating. All these couples just don’t realise what we go through 🙃. Such a great video for a Sunday afternoon
@crystalcoates you're not the last one standing. I feel your pain!
Girl. I love you. You’re hilarious. And tbf I’ve been out of the dating game for 15 yrs but you are wayyyyyyyy overthinking this. Let him pay. Don’t think twice. Let him be a gentleman and buy your meal and if HE thinks twice, he is NOT the one. Keep it moving. ✌️
This is a good advice
Nice wood selection for the honey pots. The beautiful wood grain shows, which makes them a work of art!
I am OBSESSED with the honey pots!! And errrm... yeah, Luke is a bit wonderful 😍
It’s maybe a little sad when I have to keep finding things to occupy myself until this video drops. 😂
cant be sad bc this comment made me so happy
@@Caroline_Winkler
why (how!!) do your videos and all these comments equal human elation for all?!!!!!! It’s like that marathon you watched and cheered for strangers. Golly! ❤
Wow your thoughts were so relatable in this video….being happy and excited about something…the regret of getting too excited…texting dudes….the self depreciation. It is exhausting. Woof. Thanks for being real.
I would go for coffee as a first date- a coffee is so cheap I don't feel awkward about who pays. It feels like any option is fine, vs dinner or drinks which has a bit more weight to the bill
The walnut honey pots are gorgeous!!! Well done to you both!!
Dying- “if you were you, what would you say, what would Caroline say?” Thank you for telling the world what we all think when texting. I’m dead, you’re hilarious and I love you all over again.
Those honey pots sold out so quick! So sad to have missed it :( It was a beautiful collaboration!
It's heartwarming that you have such a kind, loving, compassionate, and crazy talented brother. I'm so happy for you and loved this video❣️🙏
Those honey pots belong to a museum, pure art!
Wowwww, the honey pots are so beautiful. Interesting to hear Luke talk about what it’s like to work with walnut.
First date with my husband was us going to the local park and chatting under a gazebo for a couple hours. He offered to bring a salad to share for lunch. I much preferred it over going to a restaurant.
I'm quite a bit older than you, but found myself divorced in my early thirties, just when internet dating was hitting its stride. I agree with you 100% and figured out early in the online dating process that meeting for a walk on the beach (our beaches are comfortably crowded all year long so it was as safe as could be expected when meeting a stranger) was the best date and the best way to get to know a guy and see if there was anything there.
This is exactly why I prefer to meet people and get to know them organically, which has been harder the last few years. Dates feel inauthentic and are way too much pressure to perform a certain way or follow a bunch of rules that people don't agree on. But if someone's ego is bruised because you offer to split or pay the entire bill or if they assume you're using them then they have just outed themselves as someone who is immature and too insecure for the likes of you! I'm a big fan of being upfront and communicative. And it scares some away. And yes, walks are the best!
having a shared environment as the foundation of knowing someone is HUGE. god it is so different
Not Caroline’s usual demographic here (old enough to be her mother) but this girl is amazing. Love every video. Thank you!
@ericamar1241 Same here. I find Caroline to be a breath of fresh air.
this is one of my favorite kinds of comments to receive. means the world and im so glad you're enjoying what i love to make, thank you ❤
Same! 😂 Caroline's trials and tribulations remind me why I'm so grateful to be in my 50's, married 😂 and not having to deal with this crap! 🤪
I'm also old enough to be Caroline's mother, but I think there are actually quite a lot of us in this demographic who love Caroline's videos. What a gift she has to be able to reach such a varied audience.
I'm 52 this year and so enjoy Caroline's content, because she's so down to earth and real. I remember meeting someone after weeks of messages and oh, the letdown! So I really relate to her comments around 16:00. Even though I am in a happy, settled relationship now.
Hey Caroline :) French girl here, first time for me leaving a comment on TH-cam...! I’m happy this one is for you! Thanks for sharing your great personality and sense of humour...it helps play life down when needed! Thank you for making me laugh and smile! (That intro on your Leaving lonely video was just genius!)
Love the honeypots! 😍 France is far away, but i’m not despairing having one of my own someday! Love the brother! France is far away, but i’m not despairing having one of my own someday! 😂😄
Took me sooooo long to write down that message in english because of the french typepad setting, i have no choice but to send it!
All the best! +++
Awesome job on the honey pots Luke they look great! And wishing you all the luck dating to both of you!
As an amateur woodworker, I can appreciate all of the hard work and detail Luke put into the honey jars! I will definitely be grabbing one if I can! Please update when they are available on his shop!!
They were available and sold out less than an hour after the video posted👏🏻 I missed them:(
aw this is so lovely to hear!! i will definitely keep you guys in the loop!
“Now I’m bursting the bubbles!” Rant was spot on!
Luke, you, and honey pot, ALL adorable 🥰
When you said you felt bad cause you didn’t want to get excited and expect too much - my heart!! We’ve all been there. Take a break if you need to cause it can get so exhausting mentally and emotionally
needed this love. thank you ❤
“Most of my videos are not scripted”. No kidding 😂. Never change Caroline, your videos are perfect ❤
Feeling so good after watching this. No clue why. It just has such a good vibe and the topics are always so deep and diverse here. Never been into the concept of following somebody on a social media. But you and what you create are truly special. Thanks to you for being you.
“I can’t tolerate being this happy” …. This is the most relatable thing I’ve ever felt this year❤🤮
I hope you get accustomed to feeling happy and joyous
@@jodiblackman7838 hey..i really appreciate that. I'm Trying.
jesus christ maybe stop dating assholes
You are such a nice person. I don't usually watch vlogs, I consider them boring, but you are so funny and intelligent, it was pleasure to watch you whole 31:57 minutes. 😊 Wish you all the best.
Just don’t put pressure on dates. Just meet people and put no expectations on it. Find something to learn and enjoy from each interaction. If it’s meant to go somewhere it will.
Walking dates are great. Plus you can always use the excuse ‘I am getting tired… my feet are sore… let’s call it a day’ if things turn ugly.
Enjoying the raw nature of you talking to yourself to your audience and how much courage and humility that takes. Inspiring.
You and your brother working on those honey pots together makes my heart warm ❤️
Im old enough to be your mother and feel bad about what young people go thru dating . I think the topic is a no win for both sides. Prob best to decide on bill pay before starting the date. I adore the honey pots! Especially the glass that have heavy bottoms! Clicking to order!
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completely agree! no one wins with this silly system!
P.S.S. Holy bee 🐝 hive ... Those bespoke honey pots are fantastic; and, Luke is just the freakin' cutest & most talented brother ever!
LEGAL INSERT: You might want to get a patent on these, at the USPTO is not far from you guys - just a thought; as I worked at an international law firm in the Patent & Trademark (™️) Department for many years!
*** Okay, I am officially cut-off at the three (3) comment mark ‼️ *** 😅😂🤣
The honey pots look so oddly interesting! Like something you want to keep looking at and touch to figure out why they work so well. Really good design!
THEM HONEY POTS. If you have time and its not too much trouble please make more❤❤❤
Texting is my worst nightmare! It takes me forever and I often forget I was even texting and leave them unsent.😂 I think I need to read the emotions of others when communicating. I thought it was due to being in my 60s. Thanks for sharing and making me feel like it’s not my age, and I’m not alone in this!