I'm 31 years old, 5'6" with warm eyes, love baking muffins, ready to bear children, hard worker, love to laugh (at myself included), and I also live in Nashville. Wife me up Theo 😂
Everyone in my husband’s immediate family told me not to marry him because they said he wasn’t ready and we wouldn’t last. Well, this October we will be married for 30 years and we are more in love now than we ever were. Be each other’s best friend, don’t nitpick, choose your battles wisely, tell each other that you love each other every day, laugh every chance you get and remember you are partners in life not sparring partners ❤❤
I agree with everything you said. My husband and I got married when I was 19 and he was 20 both our families wanted us to wait. We got engaged after only knowing each other 5 weeks. We are now happily married 33 years.
23 here. lets be real here, all good advice but really has nothing to do with having a good marriage. here is the key to a great marriage. dont expect or rely on your spouse to make you happy. its not their job. without that quality nothing else you do matters you will divorce only a matter of when.
@@jjg1501- are you saying you’re 23 years old? Or married for 23 years? As someone who’s been married for 17, together for 21 there are instances where you are each other’s happiness sometimes. Spending time together as best friends makes you feel happy. So I’m not really sure what you’re trying to say.
Best advice I got at AA…someone said, “You have to be the type of person that a healthy person with good self-esteem would want to be with.” That advice changed me.
Best advice I ever heard was from my pastor "Don't put the burden of your happiness on someone else's shoulder". Changed my life. I went home, enjoyed my life and bettered myself, and lo and behold, got married 2 years later.
Based! I hope to do the same one day. I was a drug addict/alcoholic who has been clean a little over two years and ive been struggling dating recently. It's difficult to meet people and I'm no longer the party animal/social butterfly type I once was as im a bit more reserved. I know to just keep chuggin along one day at a time and dont get complacent and stay away from the dark arts like p*rn lol. Its just weird that when I was a broke loser POS scrub I never struggled with ladies but now that im responsible, clean and in a better financial situation its more difficult. It's hard out there but ill get there.
@@iscream2232 yeah I feel ya man. I'm pretty much in the same boat. Last 15 yrs I've been so familiar being with the ladies in a low down way. Now as I desire to move forward in a decent way, it's kinda all new and pretty nerve wracking at times. Hell of a learning curve! Lol. Suppose it's the stuff I wish I'd learned and practiced as a younger man.
@@iscream2232 you will, you’ve already made huge steps. You can’t even believe the immensity of how much you’ve changed your life just yet for yourself and for your future partner ❤ you’re great.
@@iscream2232 yeah brother, but I’m guessing although your attracting less women with your new lifestyle choices, the quality of the women your attracting is better.
... that's actually brilliant. I've been with my partner for 6 years, he's a lil neurospicy and he makes me very happy for the most part but yeah I am left disappointed and sad a lot because he never says or does what I expect he will. My dad was a very traditional movie husband to my mom, he anticipated her needs before she could even think about them. I need to stop expecting my partner to do that. I needed to see that. Thanks.
Not even 10 seconds in, and Theo comes out with a banger: the 'Cold-Eyed Slithering Broad' serving muffins to your children is definitely coming into my personal lexicon, now. It's done.
He started to say you don't want a cold eyed slytherin broad making muffins for your kids, and then he corrected himself, no, you don't even want her to be serving your kids muffins, let alone making them
This was a legit wisdom sharing conversation. And Theo’s insights to what he’s looking for and what he wants to bring into the marriage we’re really mature. Loved watching this
I talked to Jim once after a show of his in Amsterdam. Nicest guy you can imagine. Very quick and funny but very humble and kind. His wife was there too and you could tell they have a beautiful, durable love... We need more people like him in the media. There are way many unhinged people giving young men and women totally false impressions of what the world is really like.
Opposite experience for me. I stayed at a friend's place in nyc in the same building they live in. I was out front smoking a cigarette and his wife was talking to me about what we were all doing for halloween and he walks up a bit later and gave me a crazy death stare and told her they had to go inside. Didn't seem all that secure. But then again, I don't think we should judge his entire life based on a one-off experience whether it's positive or negative. People do that way too much to people in the public eye. "I shook his hand after a show that I paid him money for, incredibly genuine person and will probably go to heaven when he dies."
My Dad said it was nice that my husband talked to him about marrying me because it gave him a chance to talk to him one on one about his expectations. ❤ I love my Dad🥰 and I love my husband❤
Gotta find someone you have chemistry with. Someone who it seems easier to solve problems with. Someone you enjoy being around. Someone who laughs and can help you start afloat
I like the idea that people should define their own important moments. Like for my husband and I, valentines Day and holidays are just a pain in the ass and stressful. We stopped trying to force it and we ended up having a much better time of it:)
YES!!! 🤩 We even do all holidays our own way and in our own time. We love ignoring the stress of Christmas. I will only commit to one party maximum. That helps keep us healthy and not catching what people bring around that time of year sicknesses. No one will end up remembering what someone else did on a holiday. Make it your kind of time, even if it's a glorious nap.
I've given up on holidays that obligate you to give a gift, like Christmas and birthdays (but also Valentine's Day!) I shower my woman with gifts throughout the year, just because. I don't need a "special date" to do so.
@@steec6713 so many people let what others think of them determine how they act. That can be problematic in a relationship for me. I would like my partner to be confident in her own decisions for her life and not constantly chasing trends trying to uphold a certain standard.
100% truth on women not getting absorbed into man's family, and woman's family taking in new son/ brother/uncle! My family immediately took in my husband 100% from the git go. My mother in Law still can't stand me even after 40yrs.
I am so sorry. That’s not right but it’s on her. I am a mom with two daughter in laws and ADORE them!!! I just can’t imagine. But maybe I approached the relationship differently than your MIL. With our first daughter in law, I realized this beautiful young lady WANTS to commit to spending her life with my son?? What a gift! I now have a fellow female that loves my son as much as I do, if not more, and will be my partner in always praying for him and supporting him. How could I be mad about that? We raised a young man of honor and integrity, it is now our privilege to watch him join with a woman to build their family and their life! The good news is you and your husband can change your family legacy going forward!
@@ghhm2705❤ Love your input. I completely felt your sincere compassion. Beautifully said. Wish the world had more ladies like you. You must have a wonderful family. A happy fulfilling life. Wish we were at least neighbors. ❣️ God Bless you all. Thank you for sharing your amazing story. 💕 HUGS from Texas 🤠🇺🇲
@@ghhm2705 I pray this is how my future mother-in-law will perceive me. This is so beautifully put. I realized a while ago that this is exactly the bond between a mother & daughter-in-law is. It's a woman coming into her son's life & vowing to love him & care for him & pray for him forever. They basically have the same goal. I really hope my future MIL will see it this way and not as if I'm "stealing" her son away from her. I'd never want to "steal" him and I really want to stay close & connected to both our families.
Theo is special guy, based on how I know him (in a completely superficial way through his podcast - so technically I don't know him at all lol) I would marry him in a second :) He seems to have a good heart, he is ambitious and hard working and level headed. Good dude. I hope he finds a nice lady to settle down with.
Theo I married my best friend in 1983 and we have had our issues but our friendship has pulled us through also a complimentary sense of humor and a deep love.❤
I live in a 50/50 no fault state which means you or her don't have to follow any vows and when it ends they split your possessions and debts down the middle. How romantic?! My best advice- you guys will change over time. Like loss of job/income , health issues, bitterness, regret, etc. Communicate about all outcomes and make sure you agree with how you'll deal with them. One of you might tuck tail and run when life gets hard. I hate to be cynical but marriage can end in fiery rage. Good luck I'll be rooting for you bro
I love that Theo mentions the eyes first, the windows to the soul. You can tell a lot about a person (and an animal even) by the eyes. He’s a wise young man.
IMO the best neighborhoods are communities. I used to live in a neighborhood of McMansions with no interaction w/neighbors and I *hated* it. And if your fidelity can't take talking to neighbors (or co-workers or whoever) then you aren't ready for fidelity. Again, this is just my experience. Yours may be different.
@@BeautifullyBroken1022 why does it matter if the neighbour is male or female? If you cant handle being friendly / being friends with someone of the opposite sex without flirting with them or having thoughts of cheating, then you are not ready for a faithful monogomous relationship. If your husband cant trust himself around other women then that is not a good sign, similarly if your wife cant trust herself around other men that isnt a good sign either.
Jim's right about getting absorbed into a wife's family. In our culture, we have a saying that says "a daughter remains yours, a son becomes his wife's family." Also, anybody who wants their spouse to "work hard" is not a good sign. I never wanted a husband who worked hard all the time nor did he want a wife who who was exhausted. Working SMART not hard & making each others' lives easier is key. You should take pride in giving your spouse a relaxing life.
I don't think he's saying be a workaholic. Just don't be a couch slob all the time when you could be helping out or doing something useful (true for either husband or wife).
@@DavidHowe-nv1nb I hear you for the most part, But you don't always have to be doing something. We have no problem hiring help when need be. We would rather spend our free time With the family or doing something we enjoy.
I think he was moreso saying that he wants someone with a similar work ethic as himself since Theo seems like someone who loves his job and works a lot. So maybe one of his dealbreakers regarding spousal compatibility relates to having a similar work ethic. Overall, work ethic isn’t solely about your career or doing chores/projects around the house though. It comes in so many forms. For instance, open communication in a marriage takes work, as does tackling problems that arise instead of ignoring them.
I think by "work hard" he means don't be lazy. Be industrious, whether it's finding ways to express your love, or taking care of your family/home/income. On "work hard all of the time", a lot of women DO push men with their material demands . . . and I've never met a guy who told me his wife said to him "baby, we have too much money"
Perhaps those seeking a perfect partner should first seek to become a perfect partner.💞 Unfortunately, we often end up living the life that we think we deserve instead of the life that God wants for us.😢
Agree, people spend far to much time focusing on what they expect from others, and not nearly enough on how they can be better. Learning this is an ongoing process for me but the results in my relationships (romantic or otherwise) have been astounding.
I proposed by putting the ring in the box on my wife's pillow. Then I went and told her the cat took a shit on her bed 😂😂😂 she was so mad and got there with the quickness but her expression changed so fast when she saw the ring 😂😂😂
That's what all y'all go on about You don't realize how sleazy and Heathenly it looks for a grown man to be up in God's house straight hollerin at bitches like ur in the club or something, everybody else focused on the services the message the sermon payin attention to the right Bible verses they're following along with, and u in there chasin tail Or really lookin debaucherous lurking by the exit ready to intercept females as they're filing out In contemplative thought WITH THEIR FAMILIES right there like "Now who's this rascal tryna press up on my daughter"
Wow, while attraction is often based on physical attributes, you should make your foundational desires more like belief system, ability to laugh at herself, being an optimist, and many more.
I don’t feel like any human being is trustworthy enough to dedicate my life to. Friends are great though. I kind of just wish I didn’t have the desire for something more than friends.
The "Buy Dirt" music video by Jordan Davis featuring Luke Bryan illustrates that the true connections are so much important than the artificial milestones.
I didn't ask my family to get married at all, I just did it. My parents divorced when I was one, so I figured they were disqualified from having an opinion.
..the thing about the man being absorbed into the woman's family, that unbiased observation, kind of lines up with that particular affirmation of the reality of a design/designer found in scripture....Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Hebrews 4:12 [12]For the Word of YHWH is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.
My MIL was very skeptical of me in the beginning. Definitely didn't think I was the right person for her daughter. Now I love her and my FIL to pieces and we have a wonderful relationship. You just have to go for it. Getting married to my wife was probably the best decision I ever made in my life. If I had to do it all over again I'd do it exactly the same.
That last point remind me of an old saying. A boy is a son til he takes a wife, a girl is a daughter the rest of her life. My kids aren't at the marrying stage yet, but when that happens we will welcome their spouses with open arms. I'm not losing my kids over silliness. The family I come from, I'd say the girls stay closer to their own families and the boys move away, I don't like it. But I think a lot has to do with they way they spoil the boys and treat every women they date or marry like absolute shit because they way they see it, no woman is good enough for their sons. The wife can never do enough, they want their boys spoiled rotten and the wives get criticized and insulted. On the other hand, if one of the women is with a guy who dropped out of high school, drinks too much, or even if he's already married, they treat him like a king. I don't get it at all. And that's why I moved, far, far away.
Be the kind of person someone would want to marry. Don't expect the other one to check off all of your boxes.. never going to happen. Be happy with your imperfections and bear each other's sorrows.
Lol why did he say this? Is it bad to talk to a neighbor? Sometimes I don’t know if it’s rude to talk to them or rude not to talk to them. It’s awkward. Mine are so close.
I’d give lots of money to be a fly on the wall of Jim’s ancestors and how they handled struggle. I can only imagine it would be absolutely fucking hilarious.
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I'm 31 years old, 5'6" with warm eyes, love baking muffins, ready to bear children, hard worker, love to laugh (at myself included), and I also live in Nashville. Wife me up Theo 😂
Well, hello :)
Muffin maker at the ready Theo! Hit her up!
Hope he sees this
Girl I’m right there with you-but I’m 34, 5’11, and in GA. I’m tempted to say hi on insta, I have the biggest crush on him 😭
This thread is gold! Go get him ladies
Everyone in my husband’s immediate family told me not to marry him because they said he wasn’t ready and we wouldn’t last. Well, this October we will be married for 30 years and we are more in love now than we ever were. Be each other’s best friend, don’t nitpick, choose your battles wisely, tell each other that you love each other every day, laugh every chance you get and remember you are partners in life not sparring partners ❤❤
Wonderful advice 😊
This absolutely works
I agree with everything you said. My husband and I got married when I was 19 and he was 20 both our families wanted us to wait. We got engaged after only knowing each other 5 weeks. We are now happily married 33 years.
23 here. lets be real here, all good advice but really has nothing to do with having a good marriage. here is the key to a great marriage. dont expect or rely on your spouse to make you happy. its not their job. without that quality nothing else you do matters you will divorce only a matter of when.
@@jjg1501- are you saying you’re 23 years old? Or married for 23 years?
As someone who’s been married for 17, together for 21 there are instances where you are each other’s happiness sometimes. Spending time together as best friends makes you feel happy. So I’m not really sure what you’re trying to say.
Best advice I got at AA…someone said, “You have to be the type of person that a healthy person with good self-esteem would want to be with.” That advice changed me.
Best advice I ever heard was from my pastor "Don't put the burden of your happiness on someone else's shoulder". Changed my life. I went home, enjoyed my life and bettered myself, and lo and behold, got married 2 years later.
Based! I hope to do the same one day. I was a drug addict/alcoholic who has been clean a little over two years and ive been struggling dating recently. It's difficult to meet people and I'm no longer the party animal/social butterfly type I once was as im a bit more reserved. I know to just keep chuggin along one day at a time and dont get complacent and stay away from the dark arts like p*rn lol.
Its just weird that when I was a broke loser POS scrub I never struggled with ladies but now that im responsible, clean and in a better financial situation its more difficult. It's hard out there but ill get there.
@@iscream2232 yeah I feel ya man. I'm pretty much in the same boat. Last 15 yrs I've been so familiar being with the ladies in a low down way. Now as I desire to move forward in a decent way, it's kinda all new and pretty nerve wracking at times. Hell of a learning curve! Lol. Suppose it's the stuff I wish I'd learned and practiced as a younger man.
@@iscream2232 you will, you’ve already made huge steps. You can’t even believe the immensity of how much you’ve changed your life just yet for yourself and for your future partner ❤ you’re great.
@@iscream2232 yeah brother, but I’m guessing although your attracting less women with your new lifestyle choices, the quality of the women your attracting is better.
... that's actually brilliant. I've been with my partner for 6 years, he's a lil neurospicy and he makes me very happy for the most part but yeah I am left disappointed and sad a lot because he never says or does what I expect he will. My dad was a very traditional movie husband to my mom, he anticipated her needs before she could even think about them. I need to stop expecting my partner to do that. I needed to see that. Thanks.
The thing I love about Theo is that never know what’s coming out of his mouth next. When he said “little weiner” I lost it. 😂
Not even 10 seconds in, and Theo comes out with a banger: the 'Cold-Eyed Slithering Broad' serving muffins to your children is definitely coming into my personal lexicon, now. It's done.
😂😂
*Slytherin, as in harry potter lol
@@Aliens-Are-Our-Friends2027it's possible but on my first listen it sounded like slitherin' with a clipped ending
He started to say you don't want a cold eyed slytherin broad making muffins for your kids, and then he corrected himself, no, you don't even want her to be serving your kids muffins, let alone making them
@@Aliens-Are-Our-Friends2027 no thats how you say slithering down south.
This was a legit wisdom sharing conversation. And Theo’s insights to what he’s looking for and what he wants to bring into the marriage we’re really mature. Loved watching this
Jim has such a relaxed energy. So glad you had him on!
Jim would make a great therapist.
“You shouldn’t even be talking to a neighbor”
😂 Jim got him with that one.
I talked to Jim once after a show of his in Amsterdam. Nicest guy you can imagine. Very quick and funny but very humble and kind. His wife was there too and you could tell they have a beautiful, durable love... We need more people like him in the media. There are way many unhinged people giving young men and women totally false impressions of what the world is really like.
Opposite experience for me. I stayed at a friend's place in nyc in the same building they live in. I was out front smoking a cigarette and his wife was talking to me about what we were all doing for halloween and he walks up a bit later and gave me a crazy death stare and told her they had to go inside. Didn't seem all that secure. But then again, I don't think we should judge his entire life based on a one-off experience whether it's positive or negative. People do that way too much to people in the public eye. "I shook his hand after a show that I paid him money for, incredibly genuine person and will probably go to heaven when he dies."
@@rks5457they have so many kids, he was prob just pisd she left him alone with all those kids. 😂😂😂
@@rks5457why were you chatting alone with another man’s wife? This all says more about you than him lol
My Dad said it was nice that my husband talked to him about marrying me because it gave him a chance to talk to him one on one about his expectations. ❤ I love my Dad🥰 and I love my husband❤
Gotta find someone you have chemistry with. Someone who it seems easier to solve problems with. Someone you enjoy being around. Someone who laughs and can help you start afloat
Theo deserves someone special and that won’t take his jokes too seriously.
Yeah but he’s acting like he has forever. He’s gonna be an old dad too
2:29 Jim almost breaks out into a bit but restrains himself 😂
I like the idea that people should define their own important moments. Like for my husband and I, valentines Day and holidays are just a pain in the ass and stressful. We stopped trying to force it and we ended up having a much better time of it:)
Us too.
YES!!! 🤩 We even do all holidays our own way and in our own time. We love ignoring the stress of Christmas. I will only commit to one party maximum. That helps keep us healthy and not catching what people bring around that time of year sicknesses.
No one will end up remembering what someone else did on a holiday.
Make it your kind of time, even if it's a glorious nap.
I've given up on holidays that obligate you to give a gift, like Christmas and birthdays (but also Valentine's Day!) I shower my woman with gifts throughout the year, just because. I don't need a "special date" to do so.
Gaffigan is one of my favorite comedians.
It’s hard to imagine these two aren’t GREAT buddies.
I can imagine them playing mini golf on a Thursday and having a great time.
A nice gal who doesn’t waste her time/energy worried about what people think about her.
Yeah, I hate that, but isn't that most?
@@steec6713everyone cares about what others think of them, even guys
@@ninakore basically way I said
@@steec6713 so many people let what others think of them determine how they act. That can be problematic in a relationship for me. I would like my partner to be confident in her own decisions for her life and not constantly chasing trends trying to uphold a certain standard.
@@ninakore not everyone. you know when you meet someone who doesn't- its refreshing and they're so full of life
“I wanna be locked in.”Love it.
Just found out I’m too short for Theo. It’s a sad day.
Same 😭
I like it better when Theo's guests are funny.
100% truth on women not getting absorbed into man's family, and woman's family taking in new son/ brother/uncle! My family immediately took in my husband 100% from the git go. My mother in Law still can't stand me even after 40yrs.
I am so sorry. That’s not right but it’s on her. I am a mom with two daughter in laws and ADORE them!!! I just can’t imagine. But maybe I approached the relationship differently than your MIL. With our first daughter in law, I realized this beautiful young lady WANTS to commit to spending her life with my son?? What a gift! I now have a fellow female that loves my son as much as I do, if not more, and will be my partner in always praying for him and supporting him. How could I be mad about that? We raised a young man of honor and integrity, it is now our privilege to watch him join with a woman to build their family and their life! The good news is you and your husband can change your family legacy going forward!
@@ghhm2705❤ Love your input. I completely felt your sincere compassion. Beautifully said.
Wish the world had more ladies like you. You must have a wonderful family. A happy fulfilling life.
Wish we were at least neighbors. ❣️ God Bless you all. Thank you for sharing your amazing story.
💕 HUGS from Texas 🤠🇺🇲
@@ghhm2705 I pray this is how my future mother-in-law will perceive me. This is so beautifully put. I realized a while ago that this is exactly the bond between a mother & daughter-in-law is. It's a woman coming into her son's life & vowing to love him & care for him & pray for him forever. They basically have the same goal. I really hope my future MIL will see it this way and not as if I'm "stealing" her son away from her. I'd never want to "steal" him and I really want to stay close & connected to both our families.
The little gems Theo says in the moment that seem to always go over his guest's head always get me😂
Every video I watch of Theo makes me respect him more and more 👏🏼
Theo is getting good at these podcasts!!
Theo is always good. Unless he's up against Jesse Ventura. Then he shuts down. Only once. Never again. Theo is on top, girlfriend!
lol 😂 I agree! I freaking love the Podcast with Neil!
My mother always said "anything or anyone in life worth having is worth fighting for."
2:30 You shouldn't even be talking to a neighbor😂😂
“I just want to be locked in” is one of the hottest things a man can say!
I love how comedians see other people as… an audience. Comedians are ALWAYS reading the room. And they remember how well they were received.
cos they need positive attention not exactly artists
There's an art to it
real artists dont need attention and constant approval@@savethisforlater
Theo is special guy, based on how I know him (in a completely superficial way through his podcast - so technically I don't know him at all lol) I would marry him in a second :) He seems to have a good heart, he is ambitious and hard working and level headed. Good dude. I hope he finds a nice lady to settle down with.
He seems like such an awesome dude. Would make a great husband and dad ❤
I think you could land him
@@saltyjosh That is a nice compliment, thanks!
It’s tough out there. I’m 4 years sober and life is beautiful but different especially in finding a partner. You’ll be wonderful Theo
Theo I married my best friend in 1983 and we have had our issues but our friendship has pulled us through also a complimentary sense of humor and a deep love.❤
This is so wholesome. Congrats to you both for making it work! That's awesome :)
I'm married for 23 years. My advice is don't marry outside of your Faith or if you don't get along with her family.
Great advice
Or your political ideology lol
@@Mn_comics in all honesty just don't get married. My experience is it's all the shit end of the stick for women.
My mother used to say, "Sons leave, daughters come back." She wasn't wrong.
Advice on finding a wife.
Stop looking.
The right laugh can be funnier than the joke
0:45 what he said about preferring someone with the ability to laugh at the joke even if they can’t make a joke was interesting to me. I like that.
Hey gimme that little weener had me lol
I live in a 50/50 no fault state which means you or her don't have to follow any vows and when it ends they split your possessions and debts down the middle. How romantic?!
My best advice- you guys will change over time. Like loss of job/income , health issues, bitterness, regret, etc. Communicate about all outcomes and make sure you agree with how you'll deal with them. One of you might tuck tail and run when life gets hard.
I hate to be cynical but marriage can end in fiery rage.
Good luck I'll be rooting for you bro
You will not find a woman who is marriage material. Accept it and move on.
@@micclaypussy nigga spotted
@@micclaylol what? Where did that come from?
@@uraniumjoeincel rage
I love that Theo mentions the eyes first, the windows to the soul. You can tell a lot about a person (and an animal even) by the eyes. He’s a wise young man.
Theo please bring back the Ernest movies and star in them
Jim seems like such a nice dude
He's a huge asshole. He's just really smart. So he can do standup and make people like him. Comedians are like that.
You shouldn’t even be talking to your neighbor. That’s the best advice out of this.
IMO the best neighborhoods are communities. I used to live in a neighborhood of McMansions with no interaction w/neighbors and I *hated* it. And if your fidelity can't take talking to neighbors (or co-workers or whoever) then you aren't ready for fidelity. Again, this is just my experience. Yours may be different.
I think Jim means he shouldn’t be talking to a female neighbor
@@BeautifullyBroken1022 why does it matter if the neighbour is male or female? If you cant handle being friendly / being friends with someone of the opposite sex without flirting with them or having thoughts of cheating, then you are not ready for a faithful monogomous relationship. If your husband cant trust himself around other women then that is not a good sign, similarly if your wife cant trust herself around other men that isnt a good sign either.
Jim's right about getting absorbed into a wife's family. In our culture, we have a saying that says "a daughter remains yours, a son becomes his wife's family." Also, anybody who wants their spouse to "work hard" is not a good sign. I never wanted a husband who worked hard all the time nor did he want a wife who who was exhausted. Working SMART not hard & making each others' lives easier is key. You should take pride in giving your spouse a relaxing life.
I don't think he's saying be a workaholic. Just don't be a couch slob all the time when you could be helping out or doing something useful (true for either husband or wife).
@@DavidHowe-nv1nb I hear you for the most part, But you don't always have to be doing something. We have no problem hiring help when need be. We would rather spend our free time With the family or doing something we enjoy.
I think he was moreso saying that he wants someone with a similar work ethic as himself since Theo seems like someone who loves his job and works a lot. So maybe one of his dealbreakers regarding spousal compatibility relates to having a similar work ethic.
Overall, work ethic isn’t solely about your career or doing chores/projects around the house though. It comes in so many forms. For instance, open communication in a marriage takes work, as does tackling problems that arise instead of ignoring them.
I think by "work hard" he means don't be lazy. Be industrious, whether it's finding ways to express your love, or taking care of your family/home/income. On "work hard all of the time", a lot of women DO push men with their material demands . . . and I've never met a guy who told me his wife said to him "baby, we have too much money"
@@kinndah2519It’s a privilege to be able to hire help. Are you aware??🙄
"Who dropped you off to go ask your wife" hahaha
Perhaps those seeking a perfect partner should first seek to become a perfect partner.💞
Unfortunately, we often end up living the life that we think we deserve instead of the life that God wants for us.😢
Agree, people spend far to much time focusing on what they expect from others, and not nearly enough on how they can be better. Learning this is an ongoing process for me but the results in my relationships (romantic or otherwise) have been astounding.
U shouldn’t even talk to a neighbor 😂😂
I proposed by putting the ring in the box on my wife's pillow. Then I went and told her the cat took a shit on her bed 😂😂😂 she was so mad and got there with the quickness but her expression changed so fast when she saw the ring 😂😂😂
@@EonSlumber true. But if the cat hadn't actually shat on her bed two days prior, it wouldn't have been nearly as funny.
Then you gave her the ole Cleveland steamer.
😂
@@nathanwilliams4005 I most certainly did not. If I did, she'd be dead. 🤣🤣🤣
@@nathanwilliams4005yeah, with a ring on it
Theo is really a deep thinker and I love it
Jim, spit it out! Damn, three sentences to say one thing
Sense of humour is key!
I love how normal and holism he comes off
In another life Theo and Dr.Tara Swart! They had chemistry
“Some cold eyed Slytherine broad” 🤣
She's at church Theo
Thats more true than most people know!
@@codyleslie478that's where my parents met! Celebrating 50 years of marriage this April 😊
Amen!
That's what all y'all go on about You don't realize how sleazy and Heathenly it looks for a grown man to be up in God's house straight hollerin at bitches like ur in the club or something, everybody else focused on the services the message the sermon payin attention to the right Bible verses they're following along with, and u in there chasin tail Or really lookin debaucherous lurking by the exit ready to intercept females as they're filing out In contemplative thought WITH THEIR FAMILIES right there like "Now who's this rascal tryna press up on my daughter"
YES! That's so true.
"Little weiner" lmao
Jim is a great guy, very good comedian
Wow, while attraction is often based on physical attributes, you should make your foundational desires more like belief system, ability to laugh at herself, being an optimist, and many more.
Jim Gaffigan is a great guy and his family is amazing!
He is actually a crazy liberal.. they are not nice people
Theo is 💯 right about all of this
Love from Gilbert Az
Well Theo there you go man .
I wanted jim gaffigan on one of these podcasts for a long time.
I'll be Theo's wife! 🙋♀️🙋♀️
Yasss get it
You're willing to raise a bunch of little Theo's. I mean deep respect but make sure you have insurance on everything
Gang Gang!
We can be polygamists with Theo!
I don’t feel like any human being is trustworthy enough to dedicate my life to. Friends are great though.
I kind of just wish I didn’t have the desire for something more than friends.
Sense of humour or the ability to laugh 😂 On ya Theo
The "Buy Dirt" music video by Jordan Davis featuring Luke Bryan illustrates that the true connections are so much important than the artificial milestones.
i can no longer look at Jim the same way after his inane comments on Joe Rogen. Come on Jim....
Felt like listening to old friends.
Gaffigan looks like Dennis Rader, the BTK serial killer
Yesssss. I’m sitting here like, “who is he reminding me of?” 🤔
@@hunterkarr5618except dark hair!
I didn't ask my family to get married at all, I just did it. My parents divorced when I was one, so I figured they were disqualified from having an opinion.
This is such an excellent combo, they're both great #warmeyedgirlrepresented
Love the hashtag 😂❤❤
"Did your mom drop you off?" Oh, Theo.... 🤣
Where do I send my application..? 🤔
Theo you’ve got such a big heart and I hope you find your align perfect gal! It’s time…❤
I’m his wife…he just doesn’t know it yet🤓
..the thing about the man being absorbed into the woman's family, that unbiased observation, kind of lines up with that particular affirmation of the reality of a design/designer found in scripture....Genesis 2:24
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Hebrews 4:12
[12]For the Word of YHWH is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.
I find that a great personality helps with the attractiveness. My man makes me laugh and we enjoy each other's company
“Who dropped you off or did you drive over?”😂😂😂
He needs a mullet queen 👑
we gon' figure it out brother theo. just gotta keep at the self devolpment til then!
You need to put your spouse first. In a lot of marriages the kids come first. When they are grown & gone you have issues if you haven’t.
I'm 5'4ft ... IM DISQUALIFIED.
“My wife is hard working - which is great so I can work less” - a Jim doozy
My MIL was very skeptical of me in the beginning. Definitely didn't think I was the right person for her daughter. Now I love her and my FIL to pieces and we have a wonderful relationship. You just have to go for it. Getting married to my wife was probably the best decision I ever made in my life. If I had to do it all over again I'd do it exactly the same.
Tent-pole moments, wow!
That last point remind me of an old saying. A boy is a son til he takes a wife, a girl is a daughter the rest of her life. My kids aren't at the marrying stage yet, but when that happens we will welcome their spouses with open arms. I'm not losing my kids over silliness. The family I come from, I'd say the girls stay closer to their own families and the boys move away, I don't like it. But I think a lot has to do with they way they spoil the boys and treat every women they date or marry like absolute shit because they way they see it, no woman is good enough for their sons. The wife can never do enough, they want their boys spoiled rotten and the wives get criticized and insulted. On the other hand, if one of the women is with a guy who dropped out of high school, drinks too much, or even if he's already married, they treat him like a king. I don't get it at all. And that's why I moved, far, far away.
Be the kind of person someone would want to marry. Don't expect the other one to check off all of your boxes.. never going to happen. Be happy with your imperfections and bear each other's sorrows.
I never thought when me and my wife got married i wish she is a hard worker lol.
"You shouldn't be neighborly, you shouldn't even be talking to a neighbor..."- I wish more people knew this, lol
Lol why did he say this? Is it bad to talk to a neighbor? Sometimes I don’t know if it’s rude to talk to them or rude not to talk to them. It’s awkward. Mine are so close.
That was just a fantastic conversation
Exit all the ladies under 5 “6…. Damn, never had a chance 😒🤣
The most important thing is that she’s hot and stays hot. Otherwise you won’t be able to work through your problems.
Theo must marry a Louisiana girl.
Don’t go to church looking for a partner. If it goes bad you still got to see her every Sunday.
I’d give lots of money to be a fly on the wall of Jim’s ancestors and how they handled struggle. I can only imagine it would be absolutely fucking hilarious.
Theo. You need to ask Chapelle about this.
Theo is single bc we haven't met yet 💅🏻
U just a gold digger
As a cold eyed Slytherin broad I guess things would never work out between me and Theo 🐍
The rage i felt when Jim said if u have a hard working wife you can do less. 😂