Yes! To wedding content!! This is your life and you should be able to celebrate it and share if you feel like it! You’ve done it before but this is where your heart now and that is beautiful. Going into a marriage with a full heart YES!
My husband and I did a date night jar at our wedding. We put those thick, almost tongue suppressor sized, popsicle sticks in a jar and asked our guests to write date night ideas on them! We still use those sticks almost 10 years later. (Our favorite dates from those sticks, we put back in the jar to continue being able to pick them!)
I was beaming with pride when you said "spending thousands of dollars to please other people is dumb" bcuz I know you're fighting that people pleasing urge and this is HUGE! 🎉
My first marriage was horrible. But my second marriage, I married my best friend. We had a small outdoor wedding on our farm. People sat on hay bales. My friend's husband played the theme song to the Princess Bride on his guitar and another friend made our cake and cooked the food for our supper. We bought all the groceries ourselves. My dress was 90 dollars. It was the most beautiful wedding and we didn't spend much at all. You don't have to have expensive stuff for your wedding for it to be special. It's already special because you're marrying your best friend and life partner. I'm excited for you and Jordy to make it special for yourselves. I love all your ideas. Main thing is, have fun.
One interesting thing we did at our wedding is to setup a photo space with Wedtrove so guests can scan a QR code at the wedding and upload photos at full quality. Some of our best photos came from our guests :)
I did ALL the things when I got married. I spent a lot of money and didn't include much that was really personal, very traditional. IF I could do my wedding again, I would scale back and do more unconventional things. I firmly believe that spending less money and making things more about what YOU want can absolutely go hand-in-hand. Looking forward to as much wedding content as you're willing to share!
I love that you are going against the norm and doing what YOU want. I got married at 30 and I was so over the "mandatory" things that people tried to tell me I had to have. We did not do a first dance. First, the power went out and second we are both so awkward and it would have been zero fun. We did an early wedding (10:30am) and brunch as the food. So good! No bouquet toss, no garter toss. We did cut the cake and feed it to each other only because my mom told me the tradition behind that was a way to say I will feed you and take care of you even when you can't do it yourself. We did not do a wedding favor. I usually throw away or never look at the tons of favors I've been given, so why do it? We are not super partiers, so the focus was on the ceremony, eating, then leaving. The wedding started at 10:30am and we were gone by 1:15pm. The best man even returned the suits the same day as the wedding 😂 we did all of this because it's what WE wanted
I love this! I've never been married myself, but have planned over 200 weddings as a job. My #1 piece of advise is to do what feels like 'you' as a couple - there are no rules that you have to follow. Personally I wouldn't have a bridal party (the whole concept is so strange to me!) and I would keep things really intimate. Please keep sharing wedding videos, I love this so much!
I have an awesome wedding idea for you! This was something that my baby sister and her husband did at their wedding and it was such a cool idea and gave them years of enjoyment. They had these full size empty wine bottles each labeled with a different year like 1st year, 2nd year, ect. and little papers and pencils set out in front of them with a sign instructing people to write notes, advice, ect to the couples for the different years of marriage. On their 1st anniversary, they broke the 1st year bottle open and got to read all the notes and stuff, and that was something fun that they got to do on their anniversary every year for like the first 5 years of their marriage. (Lol, in one of the notes I wrote to them, I so called it on when they would have their first kid. 🤣 My sister got such a kick out of that when she got to that note.)
Wedding Planner here! I’m so excited for you and it’s so clear you are approaching this process in such a healthy way. Also, very excited that you have a planner! Thank you for endorsing that role and I’m so glad she helps you to enjoy every part so much more!
You deserve so much happiness 💛 I’m going through a really rough and impossible season of life right now and seeing you happy makes me feel like one day, I might be happy too. Thank you
Emma, first let me say I am so sorry this season is really rough right now!! Secondly thank you for sharing your story with me that is really hard. I am sending you my love and prayers that this season would end soon and that you would experience so much hope for happiness! I am truly so honored you are in this community Emma!! Hugs and love!! 🤍🤍🤍
You don’t have to say differently as a comparison. You can say theses are the things we are doing for our wedding. It’s new it’s fresh, it’s your experience with your forever love. Don’t have to give it a label to make others feel comfortable. It’s your day no one else’s! Just enjoy your time like it’s the first time . For you and Jordy it is the first time . Thinking of the past will only tarnish this experience for you both. Just the best advice I could give. Treat this wedding like it’s your first with no judgement or expectations from others . They don’t get a say. Enjoy the wedding with your forever love! ❤
Such a great video. I think there is such a delicate balance. When I was married 21 years ago, I was able to have what I wanted, do what I wanted, and still consider guests. I chose a venue close to the church for the guests. Maybe not what I would have wanted necessarily, but the ceremony (in the church) was all about me and my husband. The reception I geared toward the guests. However, when a family member of mine (now divorced) married his wife, she was so ridiculously all about "her" that the bridesmaids had no choice in the gown, and she even wanted to pick out our shoes! - and she wanted to dictate what color my mom could and could not wear. She also ONLY had a gluten-free shower (what about the 100 guests that don't want to eat gluten-free everything?) AND a gluten-free only cake. Now, if you're not gluten-free, that is a taste you have to get used to, and to be honest, most people who are not gluten-free do not enjoy a gluten-free cake. In other words, she had the mentality that the wedding was all about her, and not her guests, and the food was terrible. She also chose a venue that was 1.5 hours away from the church because she liked it. I do think there is a way to make things 'your way' and memorable and enjoy the day, and still consider your guests. I was very happy (and am still happily married) with my wedding and when it came to the ceremony, it was stunning. A fall evening candlelit ceremony --- and the reception, I tried to consider my guests with food, cake, and location. We had many people tell us it was the most beautiful wedding they had ever been to. And it didn't cost a fortune. It was the details, and the two-way street of bride/groom and guests! You have wisdom beyond your years. What a beautiful wedding this will be! =)
I am SO glad you’re going to stop comparing. Don’t tinge this beauty with your past - he doesn’t deserve that space in your life/heart and neither does Jordy! ❤ some new followers might not even know, so just leave it behind you.
I’m married to my best friend in the entire world and we just did a small semi-elopement in winter where we had us and only 6 guests who knew, then a friend who was the minister and another friend was the photographer, so with us there were only 10 people present. We had a lovely ceremony and then a moody Christmas/winter luncheon, and it snowed. And we announced it after. And I loved EVERYTHING about that day, but occasionally I do feel a little sad that we didn’t do a full huge spectacle of a wedding lol. Because we get told as brides so often that that’s what you’re “supposed” to do. But then I remember how special the day was because of how extremely intentional every detail was (and how because it was small, we were able to provide amazing elevated food, enjoy the company of the only guests we really wanted there in the first place, and have everything exactly how we wanted it) and I no longer feel any fomo lol, because as you said, spending thousands to please other people is indeed dumb 😂 As a recovering people pleaser myself, snaps to you for your mentality and I know your day will be so special and really fun for you AND your guests ❤❤
My husband and I paid for our wedding as well with no help from either side, we had the same attitude as you as not thinking of the guest experience, and more of what we wanted to do or cut out. Since our wedding we have been told by our guests that it was one of the funnest weddings they ever went to, so I am glad I took the pressure off myself! I’m glad to hear someone else taking that approach! Can’t wait to celebrate with you from a distance, your content is always incredible ❤️
I agree! I think of it this way, I loathe the saying the wedding is about the guests. It’s not. The wedding is happening because of you and if you wanted to elope or just go to the jp, it’s still all snot you. You can have a wedding without guests, you can’t have one without the bride and groom.
IDEA!!! Make a cute little box and have some notecards and pens for people to drop in their free date night suggestions while they're there at the wedding reception or after party. It'll be so fun to read them together the next morning 🙏🏼
Love all these choices!! Proud that you are doing what is true to you and what pleases you and Jordy. Sending all the love and stress free vibes during this joyous time. Please show us anything you diy for the wedding.
This sounds like it'll be so much fun! I totally agree, small and intimate is the way to go. We had 40 people and it was perfect. Everyone loved how personal and intentional it felt.
You are just so precious and your ideas are great! This day should totally be about you and Jordy and those ideas sound like it will make the day all the more special. Watching you for the past few years I’ve seen you blossom into yourself and it’s been such a blessing to share that journey with you. I feel like a big sister checking in on how everything is going with my little sister every time I watch your videos. So very proud of you for all you’ve accomplished and all you and Jordy both will accomplish in the future.
How refreshing to see a bride and groom decide on their own wedding. My first wedding was controlled by my parents, ( coz they paid for it) guests I didn’t even know were there and friends omitted because of budget. My second wedding 15 years later was totally different, all planned and paid for by ourselves and soooooo much more enjoyable!! A friend I have did a recreation photo of when she was a lot younger with parents and sister… she sitting on dads lap and sister holding mums hand, everyone loved it!!! Maybe an idea would be to have a couple of surf boards there so you and Jordy could have a photo in front. Our eldest daughter said to her husband to wear flip flops with his suit, it looked so good and was more him being a surfer too. Definitely definitely more wedding content!!!!!!
I love the food by the hour concept. Also when it comes to alcohol, frankly people can pregame before the wedding if they just can’t bothered to be sober during the festivities. I don’t really drink except occasionally during social situations so I’ve never understood the need people have to be smashed all the time.
Give us all the wedding content you feel comfortable sharing. I'd tag along happily. I think your wedding sounds fun and authentic. I have always attended more formal weddings, which are a lot of work even for guests, in my opinion. Here in Italy it is custom to have an afterparty, at the same venue, where things get much more informal, but the majority of the day is exhausting, to me.
I think the only way to have something be "timeless" is having a vintage theme and then, still, it's not really timeless but represents a different time 😄 Even simple styles look dated after a few years, just a little bit later than elaborated styles. For my wedding last year, I skipped all flowers/vases/etc. and had nerd stuff as decoration. It represented me and my husband and I'm sure I will never regret it because our wedding style wasn't defined by what's trendy for weddings right now but what we have loved for decades 😀
Prioritize you and Jordy on your intimate wedding. Thanks for sharing wedding content, Michel. You deserve to live in blessings that were once prayer requests. 🙏❤🙂
I love “breaking the rules.” So freeing. The after party is such a fun idea. Sounds like this will be a great day for you and Jordy. Keep the wedding content coming. I think your subscribers are so happy for you and want to see whatever you’re willing to share.
Michel, I am so excited for wedding content! Please share more if you feel so obliged. I love that you are doing things for you this time around and can't wait to hear more! Enjoy the journey!
I find going to weddings that feel like performances for the bride..or those that are SO rigid no fun. The plans you have sound Very enjoyable for both you and your guests! Good job!
Yay! Such a great video. Michel - i've loved to watch how you've grown into yourself and you're just doing things on your own terms and what feels good. Such a great way to do life. Can't wait for pt 2!
Sounds perfect. We paid for our wedding too, very liberating. People often still want to give a gift, you could pick a favourite charity and ask people to donate on your behalf....❤
I think you have really great ideas for your wedding. I love the food menu! It sounds so fun. I think you will enjoy a more relaxed and intimate wedding with the things you and Jordy find special and meaningful to you both. This is a celebration of true love! I do enjoy your wedding content. Please keep it coming! 👰🤵❤️
I know you don’t want a registry but if you want, you can do a honeymoon fund! I know a lot of people want to contribute and feel wrong not getting you anything, so that’s definitely a great route as well. I know Jamie Wolfer advocates that a lot! Xoxo
Your wedding sounds like it's going to be so fun! And really, that's what it should feel like at the end of the day because celebrating love, in my book, should be fun
I am a divorced young girl as well, and I honestly love the wedding videos and your take on this second wedding. I don't really know if I will get married again but a lot of the thoughts I've had, if I were to remarry, are so on par with yours its great to hear your ideas and know that Im not crazy for being okay going a bit out of the norm after following all the lovely southern social norms the first time. Love love love these videos and seeing your journey through this next season! And withing you all the best!
I am so happy for you Michel!! I'm excited to go on this journey with you! It's your life, and if you want to share wedding content, you absolutely should....and I'm here for it all!!
Hey sweet girl, I'm planning my ten year renewal vow wedding but this we going big because our first wedding was small and budget friendly but I'm so excited for you and that you are truly happy. Love ya
Your wedding sounds like it’s going to be awesome! I’m 65 and did the full traditional wedding. And I get you are indented to the people helping you pay for the wedding. So excited to see more about your wedding planning.
I know you probably are tired of getting comments questioning your choices, mine is coming from a place of love and compassion. I rushed into an engagement and luckily called it off before the wedding. I am now happily married and have a son. The biggest difference between the two relationships is the sense of ease- in the first, I was always anxious, justifying, trying to make the best of the situation. In the second, everything fell into place, and I felt nothing but peace. There would not be so many voices telling you to pause for nothing. These people care for you. Give yourself grace and know that it is never too late to change your mind. Whatever happens, I wish you the best.
Yay! So happy for you two ❤ we’ve also made our wedding day fully about ourselves and how we wanted, not necessarily what guests would like, and it was honestly the best day of my life so far 😊 you can’t go wrong with that!
Michel, this is about two people that fell in love and have decided to spend their lives together. Have this day the way you both want it, this is about Michel and Jordy. I thank you for sharing little tidbits with us about your big day, I am sure many out there feel like myself, we are invested in you, we have prayed for you and are grateful to be included in whatever way you both feel comfortable sharing. Enjoy this very precious time. The wedding to my husband now, was simple. Out on the beach in the sand, a few friends, my daughter. And then we went to Olive Garden. Olive Garden was our first date, I fell off the motorcycle there on our first date, that is where we had our first real meal together, we got engaged there (surprising me is not a accurate statement), so many of the important things in our lives has happened there. Every year on our Anniversary we go to Olive Garden. May not be someone else's choice, but that was what we wanted. We went away for one night, was in church the next morning, and back to work that Monday. 12 years later we have a standing date night which is Friday. Most of the time we grab something to eat and go to the beach and watch the boats come in and go out, the beach is one of our favorite places. If we miss Friday night we do two the next week. I am so very happy for you and Jordy, and wish you both a lifetime of happiness and blessings.
It is great that you'll make the wedding be about the 2 of you! I got married last year, we payed for the wedding because we wanted to fully reflect our personality. Only family and the closes of friends in a renovated barn. At first the family was not all aboard, but we insisted that this is what we want and in the end everybody fad a great time. Even after one year they keep talking about how much fun they had. Do not stress about pleasing everybody. Those who are close to you and love you will enjoy it because they know that this makes you happy.
I’m so happy watching you while going through a rough time. Thanks for existing and showing me how important God really is and how praising him is so exciting. He’s definitely excited by your wedding and I hope we get a few little glimpses along the way. 💜
you should have people contribute to the honeymoon ! most people who go to your wedding want to be able to give you something because they love you so much , saw it at a wedding and love it.
Paying for your own wedding is the culture in my country! I think it is quite practical and if your parents want to pay something, think in like the dress as a wedding gift!
I remember you made a date night book for your Sister and her husband. Also I love seeing your growth transformation regarding your wedding with Jordy. I have been a follower since the planning and DIY first wedding stuff. I am glad you made this video. I had hoped that you would.
I always wanted to plan 50% of my wedding and I haven’t met him yet, but I’m starting without you baby so I can manifest you faster. In gods timing, my love. ❤ I’ve always been waiting for you❤
So excited for all the wedding content and you are doing the wedding everyone should have the same mindset make it about you and your partner. Love so far your wedding plans❤❤❤❤
@MichelJanse Thanks! We didn't choose traditional songs for the ceremony. I chose Jesu joy of man's desiring to walk in and the recessional was Ode to Joy. Joy was the theme, I guess! 💕
This is so sweet! I love that people are having weddings that are based on their own values and what they want. I decided on a more traditional wedding because I live far from my friends and family and I want to have a day full of fun memories to celebrate with everyone we love, and I think I would regret it if I didn’t it. But there are some traditional elements we are cutting - no bridal party, no cake (we’ll have a cookie table), no registry, no bouqet toss, etc. But we’ll still have catering, a bar, and DJ.
This is so fun!! I'm divorced and not dating, but never had a wedding (got married at the courthouse) - so I'm loving this! Also, I'm glad you're not hung up on the wedding looking dated, when you look back a few years from now it will probably look dated - but in DECADES that will be charming ❤️
My husband and I decided to not do any of the typical traditions at a wedding like, first dance and cutting cake etc and it felt great haha I’m introverted and was not at all excited about having people stare at me so was the right choice for us and nice to just feel like we could do a wedding the way we wanted and what felt right for us. People told me that I would regret not doing those things and 10 years later I’m still glad we stuck to what we wanted haha.
I totally agree that you two should pay for your wedding. Also, that you do not expect your guests to purchase presents as you two already have households full of what you like and use. It appears that you are planning for a joyous day, surrounded by Family and Friends - just what a Wedding* should be. Congratulations!!
I love these ideas Michel! And I love that you’re doing what’s best and right for you and Jordy! But one logistical concern which I’m sure you’ve thought of- food trucks can take awhile! Usually only staffed by two or three people and if you have 40-75+ people all waiting for tacos at once, it might take awhile for them to get their food? Just a thought, not trying to hate on the idea at all- I love it! But as the “main meal”, I’m sure people will be pretty hungry
I want to see everything!! I found your first wedding videos when I got married and loved them. I want to see everything this time because I’m just super excited for you (and Jordy)!
So happy to see the wedding content. We paid for our wedding too. It was beautiful and all things us. Weddings are for the bride and groom along with the guests. Enjoy every moment of it! Excited for you both! ❤❤
I am all for the wedding content. This is my fiance and I's first wedding. We are older than you and Jordy (41 and 46). We don't want to spend a lot of money. But we also both have rather big families (lots of cousins/aunts/uncles/etc.). We are paying for the wedding as well. We are not traditional or religious people. I'm excited to see what kind of things your choose. ❤
Your second wedding plans are similar to my second wedding. 1000% do you and what brings you joy. If you are happy and enjoying the day your guests will too. Mine was five years ago and we still receive comments on how much fun our guests had with us that day!
As much as I love sushi, I think it is a bit of a "picky" food cause at least in my friendship group not many people actually like it, but obviously maybe it's different for you which is great!! I'd love to have it at my own wedding haha
Very happy to hear these 10 things especially the mental shift ones it is your wedding you both need to do it your way and just that will make it so much more intentional and memorable ❤ Also love the alternative to a gift registry idea 💡 might steal that one for myself if I ever get the opportunity to get married ❤
LOVE breaking the rules. I fully support this, as someone who also broke a lot of rules when I got married a year ago 😁 Red wedding dress. We wrote the entire ceremony ourselves. Our friend officiated. No cake cutting. Candy table. Only people we knew. Everyone we talked to after said the entire experience was so US, and I have no doubt yours will be perfect for you both and totally amazing 😊
I am happy to see you are doing your wedding the way you both want it done, not traditional!! I know you love games and I saw this once at a wedding and thought it was a fun idea...instead of a guest book, get Jinga blocks and have your guest sign them or leave a little message on them. Then, Modge Podge them and have future Jinga nights and enjoy your memories!! ❤
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Yes! To wedding content!! This is your life and you should be able to celebrate it and share if you feel like it! You’ve done it before but this is where your heart now and that is beautiful. Going into a marriage with a full heart YES!
🥹🥰awe thank you Vicki!! Thank you for being here friend!!🥰
My husband and I did a date night jar at our wedding. We put those thick, almost tongue suppressor sized, popsicle sticks in a jar and asked our guests to write date night ideas on them! We still use those sticks almost 10 years later. (Our favorite dates from those sticks, we put back in the jar to continue being able to pick them!)
I LOVE THIS!! 🤍🤍
What a great idea.
oh i did the same thing, but had guests write it on a jenga piece :) it meant we could play jenga together to choose our date for the weekend
@@EllieDelCashin how cool!
Nice idea!
I was beaming with pride when you said "spending thousands of dollars to please other people is dumb" bcuz I know you're fighting that people pleasing urge and this is HUGE! 🎉
My first marriage was horrible. But my second marriage, I married my best friend. We had a small outdoor wedding on our farm. People sat on hay bales. My friend's husband played the theme song to the Princess Bride on his guitar and another friend made our cake and cooked the food for our supper. We bought all the groceries ourselves. My dress was 90 dollars. It was the most beautiful wedding and we didn't spend much at all. You don't have to have expensive stuff for your wedding for it to be special. It's already special because you're marrying your best friend and life partner. I'm excited for you and Jordy to make it special for yourselves. I love all your ideas. Main thing is, have fun.
One interesting thing we did at our wedding is to setup a photo space with Wedtrove so guests can scan a QR code at the wedding and upload photos at full quality. Some of our best photos came from our guests :)
I did ALL the things when I got married. I spent a lot of money and didn't include much that was really personal, very traditional. IF I could do my wedding again, I would scale back and do more unconventional things. I firmly believe that spending less money and making things more about what YOU want can absolutely go hand-in-hand. Looking forward to as much wedding content as you're willing to share!
Thank you so much for the advice friend!! So so true!!🤍🤍
I love that you are going against the norm and doing what YOU want. I got married at 30 and I was so over the "mandatory" things that people tried to tell me I had to have. We did not do a first dance. First, the power went out and second we are both so awkward and it would have been zero fun. We did an early wedding (10:30am) and brunch as the food. So good! No bouquet toss, no garter toss. We did cut the cake and feed it to each other only because my mom told me the tradition behind that was a way to say I will feed you and take care of you even when you can't do it yourself. We did not do a wedding favor. I usually throw away or never look at the tons of favors I've been given, so why do it? We are not super partiers, so the focus was on the ceremony, eating, then leaving. The wedding started at 10:30am and we were gone by 1:15pm. The best man even returned the suits the same day as the wedding 😂 we did all of this because it's what WE wanted
I love this! I've never been married myself, but have planned over 200 weddings as a job. My #1 piece of advise is to do what feels like 'you' as a couple - there are no rules that you have to follow. Personally I wouldn't have a bridal party (the whole concept is so strange to me!) and I would keep things really intimate. Please keep sharing wedding videos, I love this so much!
Bridal parties are such a weird concept for modernity.
I have an awesome wedding idea for you! This was something that my baby sister and her husband did at their wedding and it was such a cool idea and gave them years of enjoyment. They had these full size empty wine bottles each labeled with a different year like 1st year, 2nd year, ect. and little papers and pencils set out in front of them with a sign instructing people to write notes, advice, ect to the couples for the different years of marriage. On their 1st anniversary, they broke the 1st year bottle open and got to read all the notes and stuff, and that was something fun that they got to do on their anniversary every year for like the first 5 years of their marriage. (Lol, in one of the notes I wrote to them, I so called it on when they would have their first kid. 🤣 My sister got such a kick out of that when she got to that note.)
Wedding Planner here! I’m so excited for you and it’s so clear you are approaching this process in such a healthy way. Also, very excited that you have a planner! Thank you for endorsing that role and I’m so glad she helps you to enjoy every part so much more!
14:58 Wow! I’ve never heard anyone say “the wedding is not about or for the bride & groom”. It totally is!
You deserve so much happiness 💛 I’m going through a really rough and impossible season of life right now and seeing you happy makes me feel like one day, I might be happy too. Thank you
Best of luck in getting through your trials my dear ❤
Emma, first let me say I am so sorry this season is really rough right now!! Secondly thank you for sharing your story with me that is really hard. I am sending you my love and prayers that this season would end soon and that you would experience so much hope for happiness! I am truly so honored you are in this community Emma!! Hugs and love!! 🤍🤍🤍
All the wedding content please just so darn happy for you both …and max of course is getting the best dog dad ever ❤
Heheh right!! Awe that is just so sweet 🥰🤍🫶🏼
You don’t have to say differently as a comparison. You can say theses are the things we are doing for our wedding. It’s new it’s fresh, it’s your experience with your forever love. Don’t have to give it a label to make others feel comfortable. It’s your day no one else’s! Just enjoy your time like it’s the first time . For you and Jordy it is the first time . Thinking of the past will only tarnish this experience for you both. Just the best advice I could give. Treat this wedding like it’s your first with no judgement or expectations from others . They don’t get a say. Enjoy the wedding with your forever love! ❤
I love that you two are totally making this about you and what you want! Truly that’s the way it should be. I’m totally here for the wedding content.
Such a great video. I think there is such a delicate balance. When I was married 21 years ago, I was able to have what I wanted, do what I wanted, and still consider guests. I chose a venue close to the church for the guests. Maybe not what I would have wanted necessarily, but the ceremony (in the church) was all about me and my husband. The reception I geared toward the guests. However, when a family member of mine (now divorced) married his wife, she was so ridiculously all about "her" that the bridesmaids had no choice in the gown, and she even wanted to pick out our shoes! - and she wanted to dictate what color my mom could and could not wear. She also ONLY had a gluten-free shower (what about the 100 guests that don't want to eat gluten-free everything?) AND a gluten-free only cake. Now, if you're not gluten-free, that is a taste you have to get used to, and to be honest, most people who are not gluten-free do not enjoy a gluten-free cake. In other words, she had the mentality that the wedding was all about her, and not her guests, and the food was terrible. She also chose a venue that was 1.5 hours away from the church because she liked it. I do think there is a way to make things 'your way' and memorable and enjoy the day, and still consider your guests. I was very happy (and am still happily married) with my wedding and when it came to the ceremony, it was stunning. A fall evening candlelit ceremony --- and the reception, I tried to consider my guests with food, cake, and location. We had many people tell us it was the most beautiful wedding they had ever been to. And it didn't cost a fortune. It was the details, and the two-way street of bride/groom and guests! You have wisdom beyond your years. What a beautiful wedding this will be! =)
I am SO glad you’re going to stop comparing. Don’t tinge this beauty with your past - he doesn’t deserve that space in your life/heart and neither does Jordy! ❤ some new followers might not even know, so just leave it behind you.
I wasn’t around for your first wedding vlogs so you must do all things wedding this time around!! Can’t wait to see!
Instead of paying for custom pizza boxes, you could decorate them at a bridal shower & each person could do one & they’d be unique ❤
Love this idea 🧡🍕
Oo that’s pretty fun!! Thank you for the idea Hope!!🤍🤍
I’m married to my best friend in the entire world and we just did a small semi-elopement in winter where we had us and only 6 guests who knew, then a friend who was the minister and another friend was the photographer, so with us there were only 10 people present. We had a lovely ceremony and then a moody Christmas/winter luncheon, and it snowed. And we announced it after. And I loved EVERYTHING about that day, but occasionally I do feel a little sad that we didn’t do a full huge spectacle of a wedding lol. Because we get told as brides so often that that’s what you’re “supposed” to do. But then I remember how special the day was because of how extremely intentional every detail was (and how because it was small, we were able to provide amazing elevated food, enjoy the company of the only guests we really wanted there in the first place, and have everything exactly how we wanted it) and I no longer feel any fomo lol, because as you said, spending thousands to please other people is indeed dumb 😂 As a recovering people pleaser myself, snaps to you for your mentality and I know your day will be so special and really fun for you AND your guests ❤❤
My husband and I paid for our wedding as well with no help from either side, we had the same attitude as you as not thinking of the guest experience, and more of what we wanted to do or cut out. Since our wedding we have been told by our guests that it was one of the funnest weddings they ever went to, so I am glad I took the pressure off myself! I’m glad to hear someone else taking that approach! Can’t wait to celebrate with you from a distance, your content is always incredible ❤️
This is so helpful to hear!! Thank you for sharing Kristin 🥰🤍
I agree! I think of it this way, I loathe the saying the wedding is about the guests. It’s not. The wedding is happening because of you and if you wanted to elope or just go to the jp, it’s still all snot you. You can have a wedding without guests, you can’t have one without the bride and groom.
IDEA!!! Make a cute little box and have some notecards and pens for people to drop in their free date night suggestions while they're there at the wedding reception or after party. It'll be so fun to read them together the next morning 🙏🏼
Love all these choices!! Proud that you are doing what is true to you and what pleases you and Jordy. Sending all the love and stress free vibes during this joyous time. Please show us anything you diy for the wedding.
Oo that is a great idea!!🤍🤍 thank you friend 🥹🥹🥰
Yes, please do!
This sounds like it'll be so much fun! I totally agree, small and intimate is the way to go. We had 40 people and it was perfect. Everyone loved how personal and intentional it felt.
You are just so precious and your ideas are great! This day should totally be about you and Jordy and those ideas sound like it will make the day all the more special. Watching you for the past few years I’ve seen you blossom into yourself and it’s been such a blessing to share that journey with you. I feel like a big sister checking in on how everything is going with my little sister every time I watch your videos. So very proud of you for all you’ve accomplished and all you and Jordy both will accomplish in the future.
Aweee this is very sweet!! Thank you so much for being apart of this community Daisy!!🤍🤍
How refreshing to see a bride and groom decide on their own wedding. My first wedding was controlled by my parents, ( coz they paid for it) guests I didn’t even know were there and friends omitted because of budget. My second wedding 15 years later was totally different, all planned and paid for by ourselves and soooooo much more enjoyable!! A friend I have did a recreation photo of when she was a lot younger with parents and sister… she sitting on dads lap and sister holding mums hand, everyone loved it!!! Maybe an idea would be to have a couple of surf boards there so you and Jordy could have a photo in front. Our eldest daughter said to her husband to wear flip flops with his suit, it looked so good and was more him being a surfer too. Definitely definitely more wedding content!!!!!!
I love the food by the hour concept. Also when it comes to alcohol, frankly people can pregame before the wedding if they just can’t bothered to be sober during the festivities. I don’t really drink except occasionally during social situations so I’ve never understood the need people have to be smashed all the time.
But on the flip side, they’re going to be drinking at the after party, and then what? All have to drive somewhere? Makes no sense.
Give us all the wedding content you feel comfortable sharing. I'd tag along happily. I think your wedding sounds fun and authentic. I have always attended more formal weddings, which are a lot of work even for guests, in my opinion. Here in Italy it is custom to have an afterparty, at the same venue, where things get much more informal, but the majority of the day is exhausting, to me.
I am so excited to see wedding content! As someone who also had a second wedding I love this!
Awee yay!! I am so glad you are enjoying it 🥰🤍
I think the only way to have something be "timeless" is having a vintage theme and then, still, it's not really timeless but represents a different time 😄 Even simple styles look dated after a few years, just a little bit later than elaborated styles. For my wedding last year, I skipped all flowers/vases/etc. and had nerd stuff as decoration. It represented me and my husband and I'm sure I will never regret it because our wedding style wasn't defined by what's trendy for weddings right now but what we have loved for decades 😀
Love all of this!! Especially your shift away from the unattainable "timeless" goal--loving it day if is all that matters!
Prioritize you and Jordy on your intimate wedding. Thanks for sharing wedding content, Michel. You deserve to live in blessings that were once prayer requests. 🙏❤🙂
I love “breaking the rules.” So freeing. The after party is such a fun idea. Sounds like this will be a great day for you and Jordy.
Keep the wedding content coming. I think your subscribers are so happy for you and want to see whatever you’re willing to share.
what a privilege to have more wedding content from you!!!! you are so amazing!
Michel, I am so excited for wedding content! Please share more if you feel so obliged. I love that you are doing things for you this time around and can't wait to hear more! Enjoy the journey!
I find going to weddings that feel like performances for the bride..or those that are SO rigid no fun. The plans you have sound Very enjoyable for both you and your guests! Good job!
Aweee thank you friend!!🤍🤍
Love wedding content! As long as You and Jordy are happy that’s all that matters. 💜
My wedding was on a small budget. I bought my dress 2nd hand for $100. Yes it was a beautiful real wedding dress. Family helped cater a buffet.
Yay! Such a great video. Michel - i've loved to watch how you've grown into yourself and you're just doing things on your own terms and what feels good. Such a great way to do life. Can't wait for pt 2!
Heheh awe thank you friend!!🤍🤍
I loved that sweet montage of you and Jordy at the beginning. I can’t wait to see your story unfold. Thanks for being so transparent and inspiring!
Heheh Awee 🥰🥰
Your videos spread so much cheer and most importantly from my piont of view show how joyous your life has become bless you x
Sounds perfect. We paid for our wedding too, very liberating. People often still want to give a gift, you could pick a favourite charity and ask people to donate on your behalf....❤
I think you have really great ideas for your wedding. I love the food menu! It sounds so fun. I think you will enjoy a more relaxed and intimate wedding with the things you and Jordy find special and meaningful to you both. This is a celebration of true love! I do enjoy your wedding content. Please keep it coming! 👰🤵❤️
Please include us on anything and everything that you want about your wedding prep and wedding, sounds fun! Thank you for including us!!!
Happy, happy, joy, joy! So glad you both are doing things your way yet still respecting your families. How wonderful!
I know you don’t want a registry but if you want, you can do a honeymoon fund! I know a lot of people want to contribute and feel wrong not getting you anything, so that’s definitely a great route as well. I know Jamie Wolfer advocates that a lot! Xoxo
Your wedding sounds like it's going to be so fun! And really, that's what it should feel like at the end of the day because celebrating love, in my book, should be fun
I am a divorced young girl as well, and I honestly love the wedding videos and your take on this second wedding. I don't really know if I will get married again but a lot of the thoughts I've had, if I were to remarry, are so on par with yours its great to hear your ideas and know that Im not crazy for being okay going a bit out of the norm after following all the lovely southern social norms the first time. Love love love these videos and seeing your journey through this next season! And withing you all the best!
I am so happy for you Michel!! I'm excited to go on this journey with you! It's your life, and if you want to share wedding content, you absolutely should....and I'm here for it all!!
Hey sweet girl, I'm planning my ten year renewal vow wedding but this we going big because our first wedding was small and budget friendly but I'm so excited for you and that you are truly happy. Love ya
Your wedding sounds like it’s going to be awesome! I’m 65 and did the full traditional wedding. And I get you are indented to the people helping you pay for the wedding. So excited to see more about your wedding planning.
LOVE the after party idea! That's so unique, and a great way to make the most of an early venue cut-off time. So happy for you two. :)
I know you probably are tired of getting comments questioning your choices, mine is coming from a place of love and compassion. I rushed into an engagement and luckily called it off before the wedding. I am now happily married and have a son. The biggest difference between the two relationships is the sense of ease- in the first, I was always anxious, justifying, trying to make the best of the situation. In the second, everything fell into place, and I felt nothing but peace. There would not be so many voices telling you to pause for nothing. These people care for you. Give yourself grace and know that it is never too late to change your mind. Whatever happens, I wish you the best.
Yay! So happy for you two ❤ we’ve also made our wedding day fully about ourselves and how we wanted, not necessarily what guests would like, and it was honestly the best day of my life so far 😊 you can’t go wrong with that!
Michel, this is about two people that fell in love and have decided to spend their lives together. Have this day the way you both want it, this is about Michel and Jordy. I thank you for sharing little tidbits with us about your big day, I am sure many out there feel like myself, we are invested in you, we have prayed for you and are grateful to be included in whatever way you both feel comfortable sharing. Enjoy this very precious time.
The wedding to my husband now, was simple. Out on the beach in the sand, a few friends, my daughter. And then we went to Olive Garden. Olive Garden was our first date, I fell off the motorcycle there on our first date, that is where we had our first real meal together, we got engaged there (surprising me is not a accurate statement), so many of the important things in our lives has happened there. Every year on our Anniversary we go to Olive Garden. May not be someone else's choice, but that was what we wanted. We went away for one night, was in church the next morning, and back to work that Monday.
12 years later we have a standing date night which is Friday. Most of the time we grab something to eat and go to the beach and watch the boats come in and go out, the beach is one of our favorite places. If we miss Friday night we do two the next week.
I am so very happy for you and Jordy, and wish you both a lifetime of happiness and blessings.
This is such a beautiful story friend!! 🥹🥰Thank you for sharing 🤍🤍I love it!! 🤍
It is great that you'll make the wedding be about the 2 of you! I got married last year, we payed for the wedding because we wanted to fully reflect our personality. Only family and the closes of friends in a renovated barn. At first the family was not all aboard, but we insisted that this is what we want and in the end everybody fad a great time. Even after one year they keep talking about how much fun they had.
Do not stress about pleasing everybody. Those who are close to you and love you will enjoy it because they know that this makes you happy.
Gift cards for date night would be a great gift💜
Oh gosh I couldn’t eat half that!! I love the donut idea but kombucha and sushi… eek. Do most of your guests like that?
Please give more wedding content .....so excited for you and Jordy!! Xx
There will be some more 🥰stay tuned 👀👀🫶🏼
I'm in the wedding planning season also! I love seeing you videos about this part of your life!
Awee yay!! How fun!!
I’m so happy watching you while going through a rough time.
Thanks for existing and showing me how important God really is and how praising him is so exciting.
He’s definitely excited by your wedding and I hope we get a few little glimpses along the way. 💜
you should have people contribute to the honeymoon ! most people who go to your wedding want to be able to give you something because they love you so much , saw it at a wedding and love it.
Paying for your own wedding is the culture in my country! I think it is quite practical and if your parents want to pay something, think in like the dress as a wedding gift!
I remember you made a date night book for your Sister and her husband. Also I love seeing your growth transformation regarding your wedding with Jordy. I have been a follower since the planning and DIY first wedding stuff. I am glad you made this video. I had hoped that you would.
Your wedding sounds like it will be a perfect, beautiful day! Love the idea of the different food trucks, etc.
Glad to see you are doing what you & Jordy want to do!!
I hope we can contribute to the free date ideas too. Love the plan and it all sounds fab!
The Jordy montage at the beginning 🥹
I always wanted to plan 50% of my wedding and I haven’t met him yet, but I’m starting without you baby so I can manifest you faster.
In gods timing, my love.
❤ I’ve always been waiting for you❤
So excited for all the wedding content and you are doing the wedding everyone should have the same mindset make it about you and your partner. Love so far your wedding plans❤❤❤❤
Love the wedding content! We got married much later than most people and we did what we wanted. It was a fun joyous day. You do you!
I love that for y’all Mary!! 🤍🤍🥰
@MichelJanse Thanks! We didn't choose traditional songs for the ceremony. I chose Jesu joy of man's desiring to walk in and the recessional was Ode to Joy. Joy was the theme, I guess! 💕
This is so sweet! I love that people are having weddings that are based on their own values and what they want.
I decided on a more traditional wedding because I live far from my friends and family and I want to have a day full of fun memories to celebrate with everyone we love, and I think I would regret it if I didn’t it. But there are some traditional elements we are cutting - no bridal party, no cake (we’ll have a cookie table), no registry, no bouqet toss, etc. But we’ll still have catering, a bar, and DJ.
S’mores & late night pizza! Sounds so fun! I love weddings and receptions that are different than the norm. So excited for y’all!
I’m so excited for any and all wedding content!!
Kudos to you for planning what you want to experience and the guests can share with you.
Michel, your my go-to TH-camr when I need to watch something just relaxing and comforting ❤
Yes to all the wedding content! I love this season and I love seeing you happy! Whatever you are willing to share with us, I am willing to watch
This is so fun!! I'm divorced and not dating, but never had a wedding (got married at the courthouse) - so I'm loving this! Also, I'm glad you're not hung up on the wedding looking dated, when you look back a few years from now it will probably look dated - but in DECADES that will be charming ❤️
My husband and I decided to not do any of the typical traditions at a wedding like, first dance and cutting cake etc and it felt great haha I’m introverted and was not at all excited about having people stare at me so was the right choice for us and nice to just feel like we could do a wedding the way we wanted and what felt right for us. People told me that I would regret not doing those things and 10 years later I’m still glad we stuck to what we wanted haha.
I’m all for the wedding content!!
I totally agree that you two should pay for your wedding. Also, that you do not expect your guests to purchase presents as you two already have households full of what you like and use. It appears that you are planning for a joyous day, surrounded by Family and Friends - just what a Wedding* should be. Congratulations!!
Good on your girl! You don’t need to follow anyone’s expectations but yours and Jordy! Do what you guys want to do!
I am so happy for you Michel, be you, enjoy and allow this journey to give you the memories you are dreaming of! Blessings to you and Jordy!
You're right, the wedding is for you two first! 🎉❤
Thank youu🥰🤍
YES YES YES!!! WEDDING CONTENT!!! THE MORE THE BETTER!!!😁😁💗💗 I LOVE LOVE!!!😁😁💗💗
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I love these ideas Michel! And I love that you’re doing what’s best and right for you and Jordy! But one logistical concern which I’m sure you’ve thought of- food trucks can take awhile! Usually only staffed by two or three people and if you have 40-75+ people all waiting for tacos at once, it might take awhile for them to get their food? Just a thought, not trying to hate on the idea at all- I love it! But as the “main meal”, I’m sure people will be pretty hungry
omg how have I not seen your videos for so long! Aw so happy for ya
I want to see everything!! I found your first wedding videos when I got married and loved them. I want to see everything this time because I’m just super excited for you (and Jordy)!
So happy to see the wedding content. We paid for our wedding too. It was beautiful and all things us. Weddings are for the bride and groom along with the guests. Enjoy every moment of it! Excited for you both! ❤❤
I am all for the wedding content. This is my fiance and I's first wedding. We are older than you and Jordy (41 and 46). We don't want to spend a lot of money. But we also both have rather big families (lots of cousins/aunts/uncles/etc.). We are paying for the wedding as well. We are not traditional or religious people. I'm excited to see what kind of things your choose. ❤
Michel, we are HERE for wedding content!! Thanks so much for sharing this video-I was so intrigued! I can’t wait for the next!
This sounds so fun!!! Can't wait to see more wedding content!
Your second wedding plans are similar to my second wedding. 1000% do you and what brings you joy. If you are happy and enjoying the day your guests will too. Mine was five years ago and we still receive comments on how much fun our guests had with us that day!
As much as I love sushi, I think it is a bit of a "picky" food cause at least in my friendship group not many people actually like it, but obviously maybe it's different for you which is great!! I'd love to have it at my own wedding haha
same
You deserve all the happiness in the world
Yes!!!! Yes to ALL the content footage of ALL your happiness!!!
Heheh 🥰🤍🫶🏼
Great ideas. You are so smart to do what YOU guys want.
Keep the wedding content coming please! I’m a 2024 bride so I’m loving it!
Very happy to hear these 10 things especially the mental shift ones it is your wedding you both need to do it your way and just that will make it so much more intentional and memorable ❤
Also love the alternative to a gift registry idea 💡 might steal that one for myself if I ever get the opportunity to get married ❤
LOVE breaking the rules. I fully support this, as someone who also broke a lot of rules when I got married a year ago 😁 Red wedding dress. We wrote the entire ceremony ourselves. Our friend officiated. No cake cutting. Candy table. Only people we knew. Everyone we talked to after said the entire experience was so US, and I have no doubt yours will be perfect for you both and totally amazing 😊
I am happy to see you are doing your wedding the way you both want it done, not traditional!!
I know you love games and I saw this once at a wedding and thought it was a fun idea...instead of a guest book, get Jinga blocks and have your guest sign them or leave a little message on them. Then, Modge Podge them and have future Jinga nights and enjoy your memories!! ❤