I am soooooo thankful I came across your you tube! I homeschool 5 kiddos ages 12 down to 4 months old. Our 7 year old son has SPD and I was getting really down about it, feeling like it's somehow my fault. Your videos are so refreshing, positive and I love how it has given me courage to keep going! Everything you describe about schooling, outbursts, going to the store, going to the library etc, we go through. Thank you for being a light for me!
You can do it! It is really hard not to let it get you down; I completely understand that. I had to make my peace with it years ago and, even now, I still have difficult days. But, overall, having a positive attitude helps a lot.
I need to follow your lead and start leaving earlier than I need and giving stepwise time alerts. Transitioning from one activity to another is a shared difficulty between ADHD and SPD. Great tips as usual!
You do such a good job putting all of this into words. My first was 22 months when my second was born with all his sensory needs, so being a sensory-sensitive parent is really all I know. I just do these things without a second thought. It doesn't phase me that it isn't normal parenting. LOL.
I completely understand that that is how is basically how I feel, too. I knew from the start, because I had babysit all the time since I was 11 years old, that something was off. So, from the very beginning of motherhood, I learned to approach life from a different angle. I'm so glad I found your channel! ❤
Aww thanks!! First time I've worn my hair UP in a video- I was nervous- haha! Thanks for your comments and support! I can't believe you are leaving for Disney so SOON!
Great tips! Sammy doesn't have SPD (that we know of) but we do a lot of these things just because it makes things run smoother. Getting ready early (we are always early), telling him a little before we go somewhere what we are doing. If it is something new we will walk through the process (doctor, dentist, airport, etc.). I love the idea of having an exit strategy!
Thanks, Lindsay! I think that these tips are probably good across the board, but are even more important when you have kiddos with special needs. Thanks for your comments! ❤
Hi Michelle! I just discovered your channel yesterday, and I'm so happy I did! My youngest daughter was just diagnosed with ASD Level 1 & SPD and while I had brief knowledge of ASD (Psychology student :) ), I had never even heard of SPD. Your tips are very helpful!! It's very frustrating, as you mentioned, because I have an older daughter who just doesn't quite get it yet. (She's 4). Any tips on how to explain to siblings about SPD in a way that'll also make them more understanding?? Thanks for sharing!
Its like you are talking about my son! Thanks for sharing. Great tips! I am interested in homeschooling my son (he's only 4 now) but didn't know if I could do it because of the meltdowns and him fighting against me at times.
OMG - you described my son just so perfectly. I sent him to elementary school. It was a small catholic school (or seperate school system was the old name for it in Canada) because the school was small. It worked well, but yes my son who has SPD, regularly had breakdowns when he got home from school, after holding everything in during the day. He eventually grew used to the small school, the staff and they all became like a family. Last year he graduated from grade 8 and then started grade 9. That has been a disaster. The high school is 4 times bigger than the elementary school - with 800 kids - and so last month when he asked yet again, I finally withdrew him from grade 9 and he will now be homeschooling high school. I did all the preparation stuff you mention for him every morning before school, especially when he was younger. Showers were a battle when he was younger, because he hates putting his face under water. I have had to leave a shop or mall a few times when he has had a meltdown. Sometimes i was unable to leave and all I could do is to hug and hold him. If we do go out anywhere, anytime says he needs to come home, I drop everything and we come home, because I know he has hit or is reaching his limits!!
Having a child with SPD definitely changes how someone functions on a daily basis. We have seen that very much in our family, but we always have to choose whatever is best for our family, same as you do.
Just discovered your channel and loving it! Thanks for this. I have a sensory sensitive child, too, and found myself nodding to your tips. Have you heard of "brain gym" exercises? There are some good TH-cam videos about it. I have found some improvement after my daughter does those exercises. I agree that homeschooling is best for these sense-ational kids. Wish I knew you in real life 😀
OMG! Thank you for letting me know I'm not crazy. When my husband and I go to the store we have two buggies one for our 3 and 4 year old and one for the groceries so I can make a quick exit. I'm having such a hard time with them at head start but I don't think I would be a good teacher I'm scared to homeschool I don't think I can do it but I hate taking them out. Do you have any suggestions for times when we can't make a quick exit. I usually spend most of my time apologizing for there behavior.
I am usually shopping alone wth my five kids, so I cannot make a quick exit. Usually, I will end up carrying the child who is having a difficult time. A lot of the time, this means pushing the cart while holding a child. It isn't easy, but it works until we can pay and leave the store.
Hello, thanks for this video! Our 5 yr old was recently diagnosed with SPD and the most difficult thing is leaving places. I have anxiety when it's time to leave places, she throws a screaming fit. Any suggestions?
I would recommend just prepping your daughter at intervals before you go: 30 minutes, 20 minutes, 10 minutes, etc. Also, try to plan shopping trips or errands when she is at her best, not at the end of the day or when she is tired.
How do you deal with the church setting? We go to a large church, and our normal sitting area has about 12 children that gather around us every Sunday. I am a single mother and just learning about this.
Haha we're always early too. I thought I was the only one who did this. I would rather sit somewhere calmly for 10 or 15 minutes before an appointment rather than feel the stress of being late or being rushed with my daughter.
Omg it’s not easy, my daughter one day is just fine and the other she is really bad, she is 3 years old and I took her to 3 different Neurologisty and a psychologist and none of them diagnosed her! She is having OT + Speech twice a week and is not helping, I mean she is talking much more but she is having meltdown all the time! And I feel embarrassed sometime, because when we are out everybody looks at me like I’m a bad mother! 😫
I can completely relate to everything that you said. My one son acts completely "normal" one day and really struggles the next. ❤️ Hugs, mama!! You are doing amazing 💗
Well, first of all, if the teachers at church at exploding... don't take your child there. Teachers should be able to stay calm and handle things. As for your child, make sure they get a good night's sleep, feed them before you arrive and make sure to stay calm yourself. If your child needs to know what is coming that week and doesn't like to go into a place without knowing what is coming, email the teachers so that you can prep the child before you go. I hope that helps a little bit!
This is all good at keeping the child safe but what about a growth mindset? If we subtract them from the “normal” world,how can they learn to be independent? Please don’t take this the bad way, I am genuinely straggling with the idea that my child might just turn into unaccomplished recluse…
Remember, this is just one tip. That are hundreds, probably, but this is just one that I shared. We are all about making our kids with Autism and SPD as independent as possible. We challenge them to help them grow. Start with basics, like making their own lunches or breakfast. Give them basic tools to be able to function outside of your home, slowly over time. I hope that helps ❤️
This is all good at keeping the child safe but what about a growth mindset? If we subtract them from the “normal” world,how can they learn to be independent? Please don’t take this the bad way, I am genuinely straggling with the idea that my child might just turn into unaccomplished recluse… like one of my cousins…
I am soooooo thankful I came across your you tube! I homeschool 5 kiddos ages 12 down to 4 months old. Our 7 year old son has SPD and I was getting really down about it, feeling like it's somehow my fault. Your videos are so refreshing, positive and I love how it has given me courage to keep going! Everything you describe about schooling, outbursts, going to the store, going to the library etc, we go through. Thank you for being a light for me!
You can do it! It is really hard not to let it get you down; I completely understand that. I had to make my peace with it years ago and, even now, I still have difficult days. But, overall, having a positive attitude helps a lot.
I need to follow your lead and start leaving earlier than I need and giving stepwise time alerts. Transitioning from one activity to another is a shared difficulty between ADHD and SPD. Great tips as usual!
I think we probably face a lot of the same difficulties. Your videos have been helpful to me, too!
Thank you!!! Keep posting about your experiences with SPD. Nice to feel “we are not alone”
You're welcome!
You do such a good job putting all of this into words. My first was 22 months when my second was born with all his sensory needs, so being a sensory-sensitive parent is really all I know. I just do these things without a second thought. It doesn't phase me that it isn't normal parenting. LOL.
I completely understand that that is how is basically how I feel, too. I knew from the start, because I had babysit all the time since I was 11 years old, that something was off. So, from the very beginning of motherhood, I learned to approach life from a different angle. I'm so glad I found your channel! ❤
can you add a video with sleeping issue ? and tips if your kids share a room ?
I can work on that!
This is so cool!!! I have an SPD kid and an ADHD kid. These have been so helpful. Thank you, both, for doing this.
I am so glad we could help! ❤
Great tips Michelle! Thanks for sharing this. Preparation is key! Btw...love your hair!!!
Aww thanks!! First time I've worn my hair UP in a video- I was nervous- haha! Thanks for your comments and support! I can't believe you are leaving for Disney so SOON!
Great tips! Sammy doesn't have SPD (that we know of) but we do a lot of these things just because it makes things run smoother. Getting ready early (we are always early), telling him a little before we go somewhere what we are doing. If it is something new we will walk through the process (doctor, dentist, airport, etc.). I love the idea of having an exit strategy!
Thanks, Lindsay! I think that these tips are probably good across the board, but are even more important when you have kiddos with special needs. Thanks for your comments! ❤
This is brilliant channel very helpful,i am really happy i discovered it,many blessings and love to u and ur family,
Thank you 💜
Hi Michelle! I just discovered your channel yesterday, and I'm so happy I did! My youngest daughter was just diagnosed with ASD Level 1 & SPD and while I had brief knowledge of ASD (Psychology student :) ), I had never even heard of SPD. Your tips are very helpful!! It's very frustrating, as you mentioned, because I have an older daughter who just doesn't quite get it yet. (She's 4). Any tips on how to explain to siblings about SPD in a way that'll also make them more understanding?? Thanks for sharing!
Please check the playlist to see the other videos that I shared in this series: th-cam.com/play/PLHu21yOJw-jtvDic-0xo1inMh8-O2TAsg.html
Its like you are talking about my son! Thanks for sharing. Great tips! I am interested in homeschooling my son (he's only 4 now) but didn't know if I could do it because of the meltdowns and him fighting against me at times.
You can do it! You will have hard days, but, in the end, it will be worth it.
can you please include in your next video exactly what is sensory processing disorder and the symptoms for thise of us who are not sure. thanks
Yes, I can make a video explaining it, but I am not a doctor, so always discuss it with your doctor if you think your children has SPD. Thanks.
OMG - you described my son just so perfectly. I sent him to elementary school. It was a small catholic school (or seperate school system was the old name for it in Canada) because the school was small. It worked well, but yes my son who has SPD, regularly had breakdowns when he got home from school, after holding everything in during the day. He eventually grew used to the small school, the staff and they all became like a family. Last year he graduated from grade 8 and then started grade 9. That has been a disaster. The high school is 4 times bigger than the elementary school - with 800 kids - and so last month when he asked yet again, I finally withdrew him from grade 9 and he will now be homeschooling high school. I did all the preparation stuff you mention for him every morning before school, especially when he was younger. Showers were a battle when he was younger, because he hates putting his face under water. I have had to leave a shop or mall a few times when he has had a meltdown. Sometimes i was unable to leave and all I could do is to hug and hold him. If we do go out anywhere, anytime says he needs to come home, I drop everything and we come home, because I know he has hit or is reaching his limits!!
Having a child with SPD definitely changes how someone functions on a daily basis. We have seen that very much in our family, but we always have to choose whatever is best for our family, same as you do.
Just discovered your channel and loving it! Thanks for this. I have a sensory sensitive child, too, and found myself nodding to your tips. Have you heard of "brain gym" exercises? There are some good TH-cam videos about it. I have found some improvement after my daughter does those exercises. I agree that homeschooling is best for these sense-ational kids. Wish I knew you in real life 😀
I love that: "sense-ational kids"! We used Brain Breaks, but not Brain Gym. I'll have to check that out. Thanks for the recommendation
Thank you this is so helpful our daughter is not diagnosed yet but it is quite obvious to us. Please keep making videos about SPD✊🏼
Thanks for watching! I wish you all the best.
A Common Life thank you! Your videos are very helpful
Thanks so much for the video. How do you prepare a non verbal SPD child?
Thank you so much for your videos, they are so encouraging and so helpful!!
You are very welcome!
Great advice...
Thanks!
OMG! Thank you for letting me know I'm not crazy. When my husband and I go to the store we have two buggies one for our 3 and 4 year old and one for the groceries so I can make a quick exit. I'm having such a hard time with them at head start but I don't think I would be a good teacher I'm scared to homeschool I don't think I can do it but I hate taking them out. Do you have any suggestions for times when we can't make a quick exit. I usually spend most of my time apologizing for there behavior.
I am usually shopping alone wth my five kids, so I cannot make a quick exit. Usually, I will end up carrying the child who is having a difficult time. A lot of the time, this means pushing the cart while holding a child. It isn't easy, but it works until we can pay and leave the store.
Hello, thanks for this video! Our 5 yr old was recently diagnosed with SPD and the most difficult thing is leaving places. I have anxiety when it's time to leave places, she throws a screaming fit. Any suggestions?
I would recommend just prepping your daughter at intervals before you go: 30 minutes, 20 minutes, 10 minutes, etc. Also, try to plan shopping trips or errands when she is at her best, not at the end of the day or when she is tired.
How do you deal with the church setting? We go to a large church, and our normal sitting area has about 12 children that gather around us every Sunday. I am a single mother and just learning about this.
Haha we're always early too. I thought I was the only one who did this. I would rather sit somewhere calmly for 10 or 15 minutes before an appointment rather than feel the stress of being late or being rushed with my daughter.
Exactly!! I feel the same way!
I needed to hear this. Thank you
I'm so glad you were encouraged by it! Thanks for watching. ❤
Omg it’s not easy, my daughter one day is just fine and the other she is really bad, she is 3 years old and I took her to 3 different Neurologisty and a psychologist and none of them diagnosed her! She is having OT + Speech twice a week and is not helping, I mean she is talking much more but she is having meltdown all the time! And I feel embarrassed sometime, because when we are out everybody looks at me like I’m a bad mother! 😫
I can completely relate to everything that you said. My one son acts completely "normal" one day and really struggles the next. ❤️ Hugs, mama!! You are doing amazing 💗
@@ACommonLife Thank you for your vídeos I just loved, yesterday i watched all of them and got lots of ideas! Thank you really!
Any ideas of what to tell the teachers at church so that they dont explode.
So that the kids or the teachers don't explode?
haha both!
Well, first of all, if the teachers at church at exploding... don't take your child there. Teachers should be able to stay calm and handle things. As for your child, make sure they get a good night's sleep, feed them before you arrive and make sure to stay calm yourself. If your child needs to know what is coming that week and doesn't like to go into a place without knowing what is coming, email the teachers so that you can prep the child before you go. I hope that helps a little bit!
Can you please talk about how you potty trained with spd
This is all good at keeping the child safe but what about a growth mindset? If we subtract them from the “normal” world,how can they learn to be independent? Please don’t take this the bad way, I am genuinely straggling with the idea that my child might just turn into unaccomplished recluse…
Remember, this is just one tip. That are hundreds, probably, but this is just one that I shared. We are all about making our kids with Autism and SPD as independent as possible. We challenge them to help them grow. Start with basics, like making their own lunches or breakfast. Give them basic tools to be able to function outside of your home, slowly over time. I hope that helps ❤️
This is all good at keeping the child safe but what about a growth mindset? If we subtract them from the “normal” world,how can they learn to be independent? Please don’t take this the bad way, I am genuinely straggling with the idea that my child might just turn into unaccomplished recluse… like one of my cousins…