Struggles Of A Teen Mum | The Exchange 01

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  • Welcome to the very first episode of The Exchange, where we find 3 different people with similar experiences to dive deep in conversation and give us a peep through the keyhole of life.
    In this episode, we have 3 teen mums telling us what it's like to be a young mother in Singapore.
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  • @toestud3791
    @toestud3791 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +144

    so happy that the comment section is so positive! before anyone gets the idea to bash these girls for their actions, you need to remember that
    1) it took two to tango
    2) they were the parent who stayed behind. shame on the fathers of their children.

    • @Cheonging101
      @Cheonging101 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      1) it took two to tango
      - Yes, we should also shame the fathers of their children.
      2) they were the parent who stayed behind. shame on the fathers of their children.
      - Sure, but it takes two to tango.

    • @zxldazxlda
      @zxldazxlda 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@Cheonging101 How to prevent getting pregnant:
      1. Use a f***ing condom
      2. Abstinence !!!!!

  • @LuluGen689
    @LuluGen689 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +321

    If a guy gets you pregnant and refuses to step up, contact his parents

    • @Smiling_Chessmantogether4ever
      @Smiling_Chessmantogether4ever 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      I agree 💯. Being a teen mum is stressful but also beautiful.

    • @battlestar8879
      @battlestar8879 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I agree too. Don't let that guy escape

    • @kuangw01
      @kuangw01 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Some guys can be rlly messed up

    • @QQ-eo4vr
      @QQ-eo4vr 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      I feel if the parents of the guys are good parents, their sons will not be going around making others' daughters pregnant, shitty parents have shitty sons. Most people dont really educate and discipline their sons. 🤷🏻‍♂️

    • @Vancitykal
      @Vancitykal 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      tbh no use sometimes.bc the boy parents will protect their son.mummy’s boy kinda ting

  • @leavmealonee_
    @leavmealonee_ 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +307

    personal opinion: xuan is really mature for a 17 year old, may her future shine bright despite her difficult past.

    • @xuan-ug7yn
      @xuan-ug7yn 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      Thankyou 🫶

    • @lvrd3w
      @lvrd3w 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@xuan-ug7yn I am so proud of you for being able to manage work,school and having a kid at the same time. I have a lot to learn from you! All the best for your N levels! (If you’re taking it next year, I’m not sure if this video was made recently) I would love to be friends with you.

    • @rosynara2615
      @rosynara2615 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I agree with you on this,the questions she probed made the content even btr

    • @xuan-ug7yn
      @xuan-ug7yn 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you all sm ❤️

    • @iniesta8298
      @iniesta8298 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      ​@@xuan-ug7ynif you can see this, Mrs Lee wants to tell you that your future in front of you is bright, don't let this episode affect you and jiayou! If u still know who I am :)

  • @InfiniteStudy130
    @InfiniteStudy130 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +123

    I highly commend you girls for coming up and talking about this as it really requires courage to speak about such sensitive topics.♥♥

  • @UnknownNameUnknownNumber
    @UnknownNameUnknownNumber 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    Dayum I forgot that Ferrera used to be a regular extra in older T1T5 videos. Glad to see her still involved with the company.

  • @johnloh9555
    @johnloh9555 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    honestly i love how they did not get an abortion, it takes two hands to clap, they took full responsibility of their actions and the child ended up making their lives better. absolutely heartwarming.

  • @whm5511
    @whm5511 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    It's amazing. Despite all the anguish, they didn't abort. And all felt that their decisions were right. Teen mums should get maximum support. They are already in a tough spot.

  • @yxinz
    @yxinz 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    Kids support should be a thing. Guys should be held responsible to pay for kids support.

  • @lynismelol
    @lynismelol 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    goodjob xuann !! continue to stay strong , ure so matured for a 17yr old ❤️❤️

  • @yourst3ps1sterrr
    @yourst3ps1sterrr 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    these mums are so strong :) ! keep going ladies !

  • @musicanywhere9805
    @musicanywhere9805 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    That's why, old is gold. Teenagers often thinks that they know everything without having experience to the reality world.
    Am proud that they are able to pull it off and I understand it's a life at the end of the day but if you get to choose to provide a better environment and goods, education etc etc then why not? At the end of the day, you would think that you are in a happy place but what about the parents who are supposed to retire and having not to worry about children anymore or siblings who are yet to build a family of their own? It's true that parents would still accept it cus its their own blood after all but I'd call that a little selfish to make a decision and keep empty promises then drag the whole family into it, cus that's what a family does. We never leave anyone behind.
    So please think twice before doing it.

  • @boohoooop
    @boohoooop 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Wait actually I’m so confused what does she mean by 15-16 go poly 😅

  • @pollyshy
    @pollyshy 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I found out I was pregnant when I was at my age of 29, but my mom still ask me, who ask u to not abort? I have serious anxiety illness, taking meds for almost 10 years. Even though I was already married with my husband, but we didn’t plan to have a baby due to my condition. This was a unplanned pregnancy, I have to stop my psychotic meds in order to prevent risk on my baby. It’s hard to control my emotion and anxiety. In the end I decided to keep my baby and I’m glad he is very healthy. Eventhou my condition isn’t the best for me to have a child, but I still r ry to think he is a god gift for me.

  • @hsakheelarkywe2083
    @hsakheelarkywe2083 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Love all 3 of u. Blessed is urs❤❤

  • @zhengqing1313
    @zhengqing1313 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    jiayou xuann rlly proud of you.

  • @emeraldstore9044
    @emeraldstore9044 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    They are soo brave

  • @user-uk6yz7um8t
    @user-uk6yz7um8t 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    proud of these three mummies❤

  • @SARVINIAPSARGUNAMoe
    @SARVINIAPSARGUNAMoe 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    They will be the best mom ❤

  • @Not_FatLam
    @Not_FatLam 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Respect

  • @ziiiiheng
    @ziiiiheng 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Cried at last part 😢

    • @huailinlui3025
      @huailinlui3025 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same it's just so happy to see them being independent as single mums

  • @20pointer
    @20pointer 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +62

    so brave to come out and do this to be honest :')

  • @b4byprncs
    @b4byprncs 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    my bestf is one strong girl

  • @averylovesburgers87
    @averylovesburgers87 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    They stepped up and their kids will be grateful for that❤

  • @sheb852
    @sheb852 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I love women. I wish them all the best

  • @naomitok6944
    @naomitok6944 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    im so proud of xuan

  • @spongebobpao97
    @spongebobpao97 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    no shame, only respect!!! The internet supports u!!!!!!!

    • @lecherhao86
      @lecherhao86 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      There's nothing shameful about being a single mum. But I don't support irresponsible decision making that eventually lead to this outcome. Young people should really consider alot before engaging in sex at such early age even when they use protection. Remember that condom and withdrawl are not 100% safe. Even calculating the ovulation cycle is not 100% safe as well as sperm can live in the women's reproductive system for up to 5 days.
      I know alot of us wanna taste the forbidden fruit. But the consequences can outweigh the pleasure. And pls don't go for fuck boys. If the man is decent, he will respect your body and not pressure you to have sex till both of you are financially and emotionally ready for a child.

  • @zacklee22
    @zacklee22 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    How are you ☺️ LF and I am Zack from Malaysia and I really like the video 📹 today and pls keep up the good work with the videos 📹

  • @Matcha.boba_lover
    @Matcha.boba_lover 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Respect ❤❤❤

  • @viviscrazyworld7997
    @viviscrazyworld7997 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    waittt fierra id a teen mom i didn’t know that

  • @qilimercurial5116
    @qilimercurial5116 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    All of them are mothers??

  • @lecherhao86
    @lecherhao86 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    I am married, with two kids. I have a 6 years old daughter and i certainly dont want her to go down the path of being a teenage mum.
    The video is very honest but the comments here are way too positive already that i have to poke holes into the veil and remind everyone the reality. Dont forget that this video serves an educational purpose too for the youngs who are watching.
    Being a teenage mum is really hard work and involves plenty of sacrifice. Both young people may not be ready for a long term commitment, especially for parenthood. Ladies will always be at the losing end because the men can just donate his sperm and leave the relationship. But the pregnant ladies will have to go through the hardship of carrying the child for 9 months, and then having to raise the child by herself, and then even worse to change her life plan due to unfinished studies and changed lifestyle.
    As a father, i wouldn't be able to bear to see my child go through such change. It saddens me to even imagine that. It would be absolutely unfair for her. Eventually, as parents, we would have to accept our child and grandchild. But it would be a hard pill to swallow initially.
    Thus, really really urge the ladies to think thrice about giving your body to someone else at such a young age. I know its hard to inhibit oneself from tasting the forbidden fruits but the burden will always falls on you and not the men. And dont go for fuck boy. Pls. If the man is decent, he will respect you and not pressure you into having sex at such young age.

    • @ObnoxiousGracie
      @ObnoxiousGracie 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Finally someone saying my exact feeling. I too have a girl and cannot imagine her being a teenage mum. It would sadden me knowing she will need to struggle so much harder to keep the child. And even if she don't, it will probably scar her for life.. :(
      I do hope young girls and resist giving their body away so young..

  • @hongyeh2686
    @hongyeh2686 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    No sound

  • @zsiti
    @zsiti 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    ❤❤❤❤🫂

  • @marvinfoo9544
    @marvinfoo9544 หลายเดือนก่อน

    its good to have kids at a young age la, most ppl in other countries have kids at young age also, boost the GDP of singapore with more population, if not sg will be like japan with ageing population in the future, now the govt got the funds to feed its people and encourage more kids.

  • @kektalks
    @kektalks 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    wow... not taking the abortion and taking responsibility. many people will say they will do this, but how many can actually do it like them.

  • @bijunwong276
    @bijunwong276 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    How old you all girls

  • @5StackNinjaFam
    @5StackNinjaFam 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    is ferra the same one as the n4t1

    • @ruto7368
      @ruto7368 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yeah I also thought that

    • @martelljohnson5200
      @martelljohnson5200 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yes it is! Was wondering where she been at lol now we know

  • @dawntan8055
    @dawntan8055 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Please elaborate what does taking up responsibility mean ?

  • @XecutionQ
    @XecutionQ 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I do hope Ferra wont be swayed with the cabin crew culture and the toxic environment. Be yourself and dont let those red flag pilots/cabin crew boys get into your pants.

  • @MelanieTay
    @MelanieTay 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    15/16 is the age of secondary school students not poly actually.

    • @y-tr1dd
      @y-tr1dd 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      she malaysian prolly mls one

    • @MelanieTay
      @MelanieTay 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@y-tr1ddno she’s not 😅

    • @y-tr1dd
      @y-tr1dd 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@MelanieTay how do you know. her accent just says malaysian chinese

    • @MelanieTay
      @MelanieTay 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@y-tr1dd she study in the same poly as I am

    • @y-tr1dd
      @y-tr1dd 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@MelanieTay plz work on your grammar plz. anyways poly accept foreign students and you might never know if she was a pr who stayed / grew in mls and you can be 15/16 when you are in poly

  • @AatiqaPlays2023
    @AatiqaPlays2023 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I can't hear anything

  • @libiskit
    @libiskit 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    can government pls give these courageous single parents a home instead of dinks?

  • @sw123n7
    @sw123n7 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Is good that they know their mistake but move on

  • @mpdmpd8118
    @mpdmpd8118 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    great women right there...they just unlucky met the worst man

  • @snowangeliquexx
    @snowangeliquexx 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Found out..
    Gurl you had sex unprotected. You really didn’t know?

    • @1uvminji
      @1uvminji 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      js cs u had unprotected sex , dosent mean you wld 100% get pregnant

  • @charmainesings
    @charmainesings 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I am really glad that these ladies decided to keep their babies despite it being difficult and knowing the difficulties that lie ahead. They are really strong! However, I’d also like to point out that abortion is murder whether you do it at the embryo stage or when it is 20 years old and no matter how you conceived him/her. Think about it- the baby did not do anything wrong to deserve to die. Moreover, it comes with a lot of emotional and psychological trauma for many women even after the abortion and many women are unable to live in peace and regret their decision for years to come.