My partner of 22 years left me (for the third time) and I am about to leave Canada to see if I am to semi or permanently retire to Spain. I have been so fearful. Then, a ladybird appeared (plans will materialize) and then a Hawk looked directly at me....soar and get perspective on your life...and now, Pema came on...didn't mean to click on this talk on fear...but it started playing....We are not alone in this universe ...my fear factor is being challenged and is diminishing - thanks to two nature appearance and this wonderful spiritual person. I am into my third year of AA sobriety...no longer need to escape my emotions ....the journey is so precious. Blessings to all.
Bless you Pauline Gallagher...my mum's maiden name...don't forget Mary gave us her son Jesus..and Jesus gave us his Mother and they love us more than we can comprehend..Gid Bless..
Again and again I come back to this talk by Pema. It's as if my best friend is just spelling it all out in a grounded and kind way. "Looking in all the wrong places - the story of our lives". 🙂❤🙏
I encountered this talk after many questions on fear, violence, hatred, war, protection, survival, resilience and motivation, and found this among the deepest teachings I ever encountered. It gives clarity on many hidden obscurations that are traps in life. Most importantly is that I feel what she means and have an immediate sense of liberation and motivation, which is not easy knowing how our society is educating us in protecting our ego.
Pema, I had a very hard day. I was very lonely and sad. I was kind with myself but the pain continued. I looked for words of wisdom from you on TH-cam and was brought to this recording. You spoke directly to me. I was able to listen and deeply understand what you were saying. I relaxed into it and it eventually dissipated. From my heart, thank you for making your teachings available. It helped me tremendously and I plan to okay it for my yoga class tomorrow.🙏🏻
I have several of your cds. I listen to them nightly & each time hear more clearly. Your voice & wisdom has brought so much comfort & compassion for myself & others. Thank you forever.
Dear Pema: I bought your "Wisdom of No Escape" and "Start Where You Are" in the early and mid-1990s. They helped me clarify my raging and conflicting thoughts and emotions so much that I documented what I had learned from your teachings in my diary. In fact, your words help me handle my post mid-life crisis and the many wandering "demons" about how I run my own business and life. I will always remember you and your teachings fondly. James Chan, Ph.D., Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.
I love Pema. Thru her teachings, I have cut out all the complex "spiritual materialism" Buddhism has to offer. Her simplicity gives me hope and clarity.
When I am I Nature I am the most present in my body! I love it! The Earth gives to me my missing electrons & minerals through my bare feet & the soothing of the birds’ songs & the breeze, rustling of the leaves through the trees, also soothing! And I am refreshed! I hope that I may help the Earth heal, as well, as it seems to heal me & give me peace! ♥️🙏🏼
This was me❤️......I’m scared , I got bit by a tick in my BEAUTIFUL PLACE.......I have health anxiety........ most friends just say, so what? you get sick go to doctors....wish my perception could be like that.....now I’m afraid to work in my garden, hike & camp..... All the things I LOVE......I KNOW I must push through the fear, but I am CRUSHED bcuz nature has ALWAYS felt safe / home to my spirit/ soul..........smh. 🙏 I overcome
There is so much troubling "out in the world". Violent hateful division in my country. Covid19 has filled too many graves. Hospital workers are exhausted. Still leaders & many others refuse to wear a mask. I have swum up on this raft of gentle wisdom of Pema Chodran. Her calm, playful teaching is a blessing. Beyond words. 🙏💥
Thanks for sharing this deep wisdom of Pema Chodron I've been distracting myself from my FEAR of REALity with more substances and behaviours than there are 12 step meetings for. My learning is that to the degree I can love myself first is the proportion to which I will be 'free' .. and this I wish for everyone ❤️💙
In every moment "I Am" You don't need to know anything or do anything in order to Be. Whatever is happening, good or bad, happy or sad, "I Am" "I Am" is my true identity, unqualified isness. Everything else comes and goes.
As a Polish woman with not so good English Pema ,,speak to me,,in her lectures very clearly. Her warm voice is just beautiful. I am going soon for couple of days to Buddhist Monastery in Exeter. I can't wait 🙂
Thank you for this deeply helpful talk Pema Chödrön. As you said, honesty is part of loving-kindness . If we deceive ourselves and pretend that our mind is more peaceful than it is, we can't transform our suffering with loving-kindness. If we run from our fears using addictions, they just grow. I found that many of my fears were based on delusions and that sitting with the fear during meditation I was able to see through the fear and let the truth emerge.
I cried my eyes out snot running out of my nose I'll be 48 December 22nd and I'm ready to get on with this journey thank you so much for this message and thank you for my auntie Jenna for giving me this link to this message we all are here cuz we chose to be here and I'm not going to back down from the storyline that I have to walk
Jonas Hjerpe at 35 minutes she states depressions still happen even to regular meditators. The storyline is how we heal through our earthly experiences. Meditation can also be used as an escape or distraction from life.
Hope it is going well for you! I love Pema’s book ‘living beautifully with uncertainty and change’. I listened to the audiobook, fantastic. If you like her, you might like Eckhart Tolle too? He has similar messages. Lastly, a huge part of my transformation and empowerment, healing, was learning about attachment trauma. I found out I had fearful avoidant attachment and it was developed through response to trauma, unstable stuff. Being able to look at the root issues, core wounds and beliefs and heal from those, are powerful in changing how we think. It’s like doing a deep dive and clean out, really helps with being able to take in and apply the info in this talk. Otherwise it can be like putting a fresh coat of paint on rotten wood. Fixing the underlying issues, helps it all! Thais Gibson,The Personal Development School, has a TH-cam channel that was how I worked on healing my attachment style! I wish you well 💫
Six minutes in, for the first time! Thrilled. I *know* I’m in the right place, listening to the right person! And, I know that I’m fulfilling my reason for living: doing what I can in my lifetime to change the intergenerational patterns that are so painful. My daughter and her children are all that’s left of an amazing family. But one person in particular I think, is really struggling. And I see other problems as well that I think may be a continuation of what I grew up with. And me, well! 🙄 You would not believe some of the undesirable aspects of me and the way I live! Regardless of all that I feel a sense of courage and peace that I am walking the path and heading in the direction I want to go. Deep breath and one more step!
I'm very new at this, the getting in touch with myself and really understanding mindfulness. This talk has helped me understand more clearly why I "check out" with various substances or habits and now knowing it is based in my fears. I would recommend to first meditate before you listen to this talk. For me it helped me clear my mind of all my current regrets and judgements from the day before so that I could really be present and absorb what Pema had to share. Namaste and Peace to all of you.
Welcome to becoming Spiritually Well & getting in touch with your higher self! You will find that it's empowering once you start being good, because it builds your self worth/esteem. You will also begin to see and value Purposeful Peace, and THAT M'dear, is what our world is so much in need of. Be Well & At Peace, Blessings!
If you're new to this then find another teacher, a real one. Pema covered up murder (by HIV infection) and sexual abuse for decades and never took responsibility for it. Is this the kind of person you want to become? If some young woman in your family was sexually abused by an alcoholic Buddhist monk and Pema got nasty with her when she tried to confide in her would you want her as your teacher? The answer should be clear! Buddhism is not a path of "just meditation" there are many texts describing how to lead a good, moral and ethical life, and Pema is not only not living up to that life, but she covered up abuse, didn't apologize and continues to teach.
@@SjorsHoukes I think I found it. The list is of the 100 Most Spiritually Influential Living People. Watkins creates this list yearly. www.watkinsmagazine.com/watkins-spiritual-100-list-for-2019
@@lacincilla2533 Haha Oprah... Looking back a few years, and on what she did to rise in her career, yeah... not very spiritually positive. However, she has done wonders by bringing Eckhart Tolle into the limelight far more than he could ever do by his platform alone. So I guess it makes some sense...
Thank you Pema, I have been listening over a couple of days and I am so grateful . The lessons are timeless, always relevant. I have several of your books, my and I treasure all of them!!! With love .
Wow. Just realized I posted a comment here. Now 2 years later February 15, 2021 and I am back here again. This talk is so priceless on my spiritual journey. Fear is my constant companion of late.
So relaxing, such a relieve to get some guidance on how to live our lives. Thank you, Pema, for your dedication to helping all of us overcoming the suffering and pain of ignorance about how things really ares and how to live with more wisdom and compassion towards ourselves and others.
I like these talks, from so many who share wisdom and perspective so clearly. I have extremely satisfied with my ability to be open to learn and not judge based on my upbringing.
i love you Pema, for your kindness compassion and love; which are very important to me.have a wonderful day. Namaste. love,gratitude and respect,Slim Rythm Man.
I can't relate to most of this because I have very little face-to-face interaction with other humans, so nothing you says seems to apply. I suspect that most other older people (I'm 82) have even less of a social life than I do. Your teachings of course apply universally, so I can relate on another level.
About ten years ago I was living the happiest time of my life, everything was going great. One day I woke up completely blocked by fear and from that day I think my journey began. thanks for these words that make sense of everything.
Sending love and blessings wherever you are Pema Chödron, thank you for your generosity and kindness, you have been a Light in my life for so many years..🙏
Dear Pema, I came across 2 of your books on a charity book stall that I was helping to run. My husband had just died suddenly so I grabbed at the title ‘When Things Fall Apart’ and also’The Places That Scare You’.These books have been the most influential in my life. I come back to them when my life falls apart.I am so thankful to you Pema. You are amazing.
I think this woman stopped a shopping cart from careening into me when I had my hands full one windy day. It was a magnificent jump into action. So I thought I would listen and I am mesmerized by this teaching. I have met several addictions headon, caffeine being the one I still battle, but now I can see the inner workings of the more elusive ones that are in my life too. So thank you for not only saving me from the shopping cart (if it was you) but also for sharing your studied material and the awesome explanation. I will be listening more and clinging less. Thank you 😊🛒🔗♻️❇️✳️
I have been dealing with my feelings since doing thich meditation. Lol I do obsess even though I'm spiritual. I try to be peaceful. But I have interact with very unkind people . They talk about me behind my back, tell lies and then smile in front of me. I realise I gave these idiots too much power over me . I'm trying my best now to distance myself from these people . And loose my dependency on being liked . I'm doing my best now to like myself. Instead of waiting to feel good when I'm praised .
The thing to understand about addiction is that self-destruction is the real point, not feeling good from the high the substance or the activity provides. Getting smashed (there's a reason people use this language to talk about this) with alcohol, isn't to get drunk.. the point is the hangover. The goal is self-destruction. We look for strength in what weakens us because we're running from deep-seated guilt feelings.. often their source when they are especially problematic is the use of projective identification by an abusive parental figure (or other important adult in early life) - the abuser who makes their naive victim carry the abuser's own guilt that they cannot hold, for them.. so the victim becomes a container for the abuser's unconscious guilt feelings, and the sickness is passed on. Sometimes, also, one has a hypersensitive temperament that makes what would otherwise be not a big deal to other people, feel as though it is quite persecuting and therefore guilt inducing (Ronald Britton writes about this - cases of narcissistic disorders where there was apparently no trauma in the sufferer's past, in his paper Subjectivity, Objectivity, and Triangular Space - but you'll need some familiarity with Wilfred Bion and Melanie Klein's work for it to make sense). So things that weaken us satisfy that unconscious need to destroy ourselves due to deeply rooted unconscious guilt. We're not really holding ourselves together with the intoxication of whatever addictive behaviour we like. We're validating inner masochism. The narcissistic, borderline, schizoid personality disorders all represent different pathological defensive tendencies against this sense of guilt. If anyone reads this and finds it helpful, I suggest you look at Don Carveth's work, as well as Melanie Klein, Wilfred Bion, and the London Kleinians (Ronald Britton for one, but there was a whole group of them).
Marvellous teacher, the mind is such a sly and deceitful fox 🦊 not to be unkind to those misunderstood animals, blessings to Pema 🙏 um ah hung ✌️ ☺ 📿 🌸 🙏 🌿 🇮🇪 staying calm and relaxed when your in the middle of a rambo / Hugh heffner moment is a tricky bugger for sure. 🙏 ♥ 🌈
I see what the man means about depression being "juicy". On the one hand I can't imagine why anyone would choose depression and yet I suspect that, in my case at least, there's some perverse pleasure I get from wallowing in my own self pity 🙄. It certainly has... it feels as though it has an addictive quality to it 🤔 Or maybe it's simply preferable to being in touch with the deeper pain of separation and fear and all these things. Certainly I can distinguish between depression and sadness and I suspect the former is a maladaptive coping mechanism in response to the later. I will try remember to sit with it next time to... what's that "place it in the cradle of loving kindness"? I simply can't imagine! But I will try. Thank you, Pema 🙏🏻🧡
Meditative Posture opens us to whatever we see and do and are. We sit and open ourselves - seeing exactly who we are setting ourselves up for opening from rigid to flexible. Yes, I will be thinking on this today.
My partner of 22 years left me (for the third time) and I am about to leave Canada to see if I am to semi or permanently retire to Spain. I have been so fearful. Then, a ladybird appeared (plans will materialize) and then a Hawk looked directly at me....soar and get perspective on your life...and now, Pema came on...didn't mean to click on this talk on fear...but it started playing....We are not alone in this universe ...my fear factor is being challenged and is diminishing - thanks to two nature appearance and this wonderful spiritual person. I am into my third year of AA sobriety...no longer need to escape my emotions ....the journey is so precious. Blessings to all.
Did you make it to Spain? 🙏🏼✨
Bless you Pauline Gallagher...my mum's maiden name...don't forget Mary gave us her son Jesus..and Jesus gave us his Mother and they love us more than we can comprehend..Gid Bless..
Big loves 🙏🏻🧡
if your in Spain depending in what part alcohol is cheap and available everywhere. be careful.
You're doin' great 👍🧡
Again and again I come back to this talk by Pema. It's as if my best friend is just spelling it all out in a grounded and kind way. "Looking in all the wrong places - the story of our lives". 🙂❤🙏
My god - she is wisdom personified. Her tone, her intelligence is so clear. She is a light ✨✨✨
I encountered this talk after many questions on fear, violence, hatred, war, protection, survival, resilience and motivation, and found this among the deepest teachings I ever encountered. It gives clarity on many hidden obscurations that are traps in life. Most importantly is that I feel what she means and have an immediate sense of liberation and motivation, which is not easy knowing how our society is educating us in protecting our ego.
Pema, I had a very hard day. I was very lonely and sad. I was kind with myself but the pain continued. I looked for words of wisdom from you on TH-cam and was brought to this recording. You spoke directly to me. I was able to listen and deeply understand what you were saying. I relaxed into it and it eventually dissipated. From my heart, thank you for making your teachings available. It helped me tremendously and I plan to okay it for my yoga class tomorrow.🙏🏻
Pema Chodron has walked the spiritual,path rather than thinking about it...a genuine teacher who has transformed her suffering..a great example to us
I have several of your cds. I listen to them nightly & each time hear more clearly. Your voice & wisdom has brought so much comfort & compassion for myself & others. Thank you forever.
Thank you Pema for sharing this wisdom
I don't want this talk to end
So grateful to and for Pema Chodron, namaste!
Dear Pema: I bought your "Wisdom of No Escape" and "Start Where You Are" in the early and mid-1990s. They helped me clarify my raging and conflicting thoughts and emotions so much that I documented what I had learned from your teachings in my diary. In fact, your words help me handle my post mid-life crisis and the many wandering "demons" about how I run my own business and life. I will always remember you and your teachings fondly. James Chan, Ph.D., Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.
I am a Christian
These teaching give so much love and help
Blessings to all 💙💜🙏
I think there will be a time when we are not attach labels to ourselves, denomination, but see ourselves as human pilgrims.
Yes also they simply way to explain Jesus's in crux and the library after 3 day's 🙏🙏🙏
Wow
Just wow...
Thank you so much, Pema Chodron ⚘💗
Bless you and thank you. And thank you to all who have joined in the meditation.
I love Pema. Thru her teachings, I have cut out all the complex "spiritual materialism" Buddhism has to offer. Her simplicity gives me hope and clarity.
When I am I Nature I am the most present in my body! I love it! The Earth gives to me my missing electrons & minerals through my bare feet & the soothing of the birds’ songs & the breeze, rustling of the leaves through the trees, also soothing! And I am refreshed! I hope that I may help the Earth heal, as well, as it seems to heal me & give me peace! ♥️🙏🏼
This was me❤️......I’m scared , I got bit by a tick in my BEAUTIFUL PLACE.......I have health anxiety........ most friends just say, so what? you get sick go to doctors....wish my perception could be like that.....now I’m afraid to work in my garden, hike & camp..... All the things I LOVE......I KNOW I must push through the fear, but I am CRUSHED bcuz nature has ALWAYS felt safe / home to my spirit/ soul..........smh. 🙏 I overcome
This talk is the best gift for my 2021. Thank you!
There is so much troubling "out in the world". Violent hateful division in my country. Covid19 has filled too many graves. Hospital workers are exhausted. Still leaders & many others refuse to wear a mask. I have swum up on this raft of gentle wisdom of Pema Chodran. Her calm, playful teaching is a blessing. Beyond words. 🙏💥
May I and we be able to sustain THAT WHICH alows for freedom of suffering and seeding HAPPYNESS
Thank you Dearest VEN PEMA CHODRON
Thanks for sharing this deep wisdom of Pema Chodron
I've been distracting myself from my FEAR of REALity with more substances and behaviours than there are 12 step meetings for.
My learning is that to the degree I can love myself first is the proportion to which I will be 'free'
.. and this I wish for everyone ❤️💙
My everlasting Gratitude to this NOBLE SOUL !
This morning I am hearing exactly what I have been struggling with. Amazing how that happens.
In every moment "I Am"
You don't need to know anything or do anything in order to Be.
Whatever is happening, good or bad, happy or sad, "I Am"
"I Am" is my true identity, unqualified isness. Everything else comes and goes.
Pema Chödrön, You are a wise soul. Thank you for your strength. You are a wonderful teacher. ❤️🧡💛
Thankyou so much for your deep Love for all of us.
Love💖
Nirvan
As a Polish woman with not so good English Pema ,,speak to me,,in her lectures very clearly. Her warm voice is just beautiful. I am going soon for couple of days to Buddhist Monastery in Exeter. I can't wait 🙂
When and where is this please
I hope your journey was good. Love from Warsaw!
Dzien dobry.
Agnieszka Czyz wonderful! Hope you had a delightful, satisfying & enlightening experience!
Agnieszka Czyz you speak very good English! 😊
Thank you for this deeply helpful talk Pema Chödrön. As you said, honesty is part of loving-kindness . If we deceive ourselves and pretend that our mind is more peaceful than it is, we can't transform our suffering with loving-kindness. If we run from our fears using addictions, they just grow. I found that many of my fears were based on delusions and that sitting with the fear during meditation I was able to see through the fear and let the truth emerge.
I cried my eyes out snot running out of my nose I'll be 48 December 22nd and I'm ready to get on with this journey thank you so much for this message and thank you for my auntie Jenna for giving me this link to this message we all are here cuz we chose to be here and I'm not going to back down from the storyline that I have to walk
Good, but remember that you can drop your storyline! Meditate with the body, not with the story in your head. Good luck!
Jonas Hjerpe at 35 minutes she states depressions still happen even to regular meditators. The storyline is how we heal through our earthly experiences. Meditation can also be used as an escape or distraction from life.
Happy birthday 😁
Hope it is going well for you!
I love Pema’s book ‘living beautifully with uncertainty and change’. I listened to the audiobook, fantastic.
If you like her, you might like Eckhart Tolle too? He has similar messages.
Lastly, a huge part of my transformation and empowerment, healing, was learning about attachment trauma. I found out I had fearful avoidant attachment and it was developed through response to trauma, unstable stuff. Being able to look at the root issues, core wounds and beliefs and heal from those, are powerful in changing how we think. It’s like doing a deep dive and clean out, really helps with being able to take in and apply the info in this talk.
Otherwise it can be like putting a fresh coat of paint on rotten wood.
Fixing the underlying issues, helps it all!
Thais Gibson,The Personal Development School, has a TH-cam channel that was how I worked on healing my attachment style!
I wish you well 💫
I’m on the second read of her book living beautifully with uncertainty and change . Powerful book .
Hey Chris, I am not great at reading books.... or phones, but I LOVE THE teachings of Buddhism.... wealth of Wonderful
Thank you 🙏💜🙏 🌹🌹🌹
@@mars1783 I listened to this audiobook, it’s fantastic.
This lady whom I hadn’t heard of before-very impressive! She makes a lot of sense
I’ve read all her books - she’s wonderful
i can listen to this time and time again and learn new thing about myself every time
Six minutes in, for the first time! Thrilled.
I *know* I’m in the right place, listening to the right person! And, I know that I’m fulfilling my reason for living: doing what I can in my lifetime to change the intergenerational patterns that are so painful.
My daughter and her children are all that’s left of an amazing family. But one person in particular I think, is really struggling. And I see other problems as well that I think may be a continuation of what I grew up with.
And me, well! 🙄 You would not believe some of the undesirable aspects of me and the way I live!
Regardless of all that I feel a sense of courage and peace that I am walking the path and heading in the direction I want to go. Deep breath and one more step!
I'm very new at this, the getting in touch with myself and really understanding mindfulness. This talk has helped me understand more clearly why I "check out" with various substances or habits and now knowing it is based in my fears. I would recommend to first meditate before you listen to this talk. For me it helped me clear my mind of all my current regrets and judgements from the day before so that I could really be present and absorb what Pema had to share. Namaste and Peace to all of you.
Welcome to becoming Spiritually Well & getting in touch with your higher self! You will find that it's empowering once you start being good, because it builds your self worth/esteem. You will also begin to see and value Purposeful Peace, and THAT M'dear, is what our world is so much in need of. Be Well & At Peace, Blessings!
Way to go, Robert!
Hey , I'm not new at this, and still checking out(: love your honesty
If you're new to this then find another teacher, a real one. Pema covered up murder (by HIV infection) and sexual abuse for decades and never took responsibility for it. Is this the kind of person you want to become? If some young woman in your family was sexually abused by an alcoholic Buddhist monk and Pema got nasty with her when she tried to confide in her would you want her as your teacher? The answer should be clear! Buddhism is not a path of "just meditation" there are many texts describing how to lead a good, moral and ethical life, and Pema is not only not living up to that life, but she covered up abuse, didn't apologize and continues to teach.
Wired With Walsh
Proof?
Thank you so much!! What a beautiful being, Love to all of you
She was chosen 2019 among 100 most influentual people.
By who?
@@SjorsHoukes I think I found it. The list is of the 100 Most Spiritually Influential Living People. Watkins creates this list yearly.
www.watkinsmagazine.com/watkins-spiritual-100-list-for-2019
The Coil Of Sihn can’t believe that they put Oprah before the Delai Lama
@@lacincilla2533 Haha Oprah... Looking back a few years, and on what she did to rise in her career, yeah... not very spiritually positive. However, she has done wonders by bringing Eckhart Tolle into the limelight far more than he could ever do by his platform alone. So I guess it makes some sense...
Thank you Pema, I have been listening over a couple of days and I am so grateful . The lessons are timeless, always relevant. I have several of your books, my and I treasure all of them!!! With love .
I am listening to this again and it shines new light each time. So needed to hear it again and again.
Wow. Just realized I posted a comment here. Now 2 years later February 15, 2021 and I am back here again. This talk is so priceless on my spiritual journey. Fear is my constant companion of late.
Thank you. Oh, how my heart needed this teaching today and every day. Love BIG!
Thank you for your Teachings 🙏🏼🕉☮️
BLESSINGS master thk you for your wisdom !!!!!!
So relaxing, such a relieve to get some guidance on how to live our lives. Thank you, Pema, for your dedication to helping all of us overcoming the suffering and pain of ignorance about how things really ares and how to live with more wisdom and compassion towards ourselves and others.
Pema is a strong voice in our times xx
I've No Words that come close to what you have provided to my life...simply, thank you Pema
I like these talks, from so many who share wisdom and perspective so clearly. I have extremely satisfied with my ability to be open to learn and not judge based on my upbringing.
i love you Pema, for your kindness compassion and love;
which are very important to me.have a wonderful day.
Namaste. love,gratitude and respect,Slim Rythm Man.
THANKS PEMA...YOU ARE LOVE.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Pema Chödrön.
Wow. You are so gentle about your teachings. Thank you!
I can't relate to most of this because I have very little face-to-face interaction with other humans, so nothing you says seems to apply. I suspect that most other older people (I'm 82) have even less of a social life than I do. Your teachings of course apply universally, so I can relate on another level.
About ten years ago I was living the happiest time of my life, everything was going great. One day I woke up completely blocked by fear and from that day I think my journey began. thanks for these words that make sense of everything.
I’ve been listening to this daily. Too much wisdom
thank you for sharing this. stop being afraid and become interested! the methods work
Tashi Delek ! This talk is very to the point in dealing with the dynamics of reflective consciousness. Tuchi Che !
Sending love and blessings wherever you are Pema Chödron, thank you for your generosity and kindness, you have been a Light in my life for so many years..🙏
Dear Pema, I came across 2 of your books on a charity book stall that I was helping to run. My husband had just died suddenly so I grabbed at the title ‘When Things Fall Apart’ and also’The Places That Scare You’.These books have been the most influential in my life. I come back to them when my life falls apart.I am so thankful to you Pema. You are amazing.
You have been so helpful. Thank you
Less fear equals a happier, healthier and more intelligent way of living.
Be here. Be strong. Be loving. Stay with it.
I think this woman stopped a shopping cart from careening into me when I had my hands full one windy day. It was a magnificent jump into action. So I thought I would listen and I am mesmerized by this teaching. I have met several addictions headon, caffeine being the one I still battle, but now I can see the inner workings of the more elusive ones that are in my life too. So thank you for not only saving me from the shopping cart (if it was you) but also for sharing your studied material and the awesome explanation. I will be listening more and clinging less. Thank you 😊🛒🔗♻️❇️✳️
Such a wonderful reminder teaching at this time now
Emaho!
Thank you
Communicated so beautifully. Thank you Pema Chodron ♡
Love this. Add discernment so one keeps the heart pure. There are wolves that will eat whatever is in their way
Wow...thank You.
My god she is wonderful didn’t know anything about it 👏👏👏☝️
Congratulations on 3 yes sobriety. How wonderful. 🎉🎉🎉
Precious sharings🙏🙏🙏
I have quite a few of your books! Always find something new when I re-read them!
Thank you 🙏 ❤️
13:04 thank you ❤
thank you Pema. I could write more. I'll listen
A very valuable talk. Thank you for posting!
I have been dealing with my feelings since doing thich meditation. Lol I do obsess even though I'm spiritual. I try to be peaceful. But I have interact with very unkind people . They talk about me behind my back, tell lies and then smile in front of me. I realise I gave these idiots too much power over me . I'm trying my best now to distance myself from these people . And loose my dependency on being liked . I'm doing my best now to like myself. Instead of waiting to feel good when I'm praised .
Same here.
Beautiful comments.
As a Chinese, I like your comment every much!!
Very helpful and wisdom
Love this. She has an interesting story too
The thing to understand about addiction is that self-destruction is the real point, not feeling good from the high the substance or the activity provides. Getting smashed (there's a reason people use this language to talk about this) with alcohol, isn't to get drunk.. the point is the hangover. The goal is self-destruction.
We look for strength in what weakens us because we're running from deep-seated guilt feelings.. often their source when they are especially problematic is the use of projective identification by an abusive parental figure (or other important adult in early life) - the abuser who makes their naive victim carry the abuser's own guilt that they cannot hold, for them.. so the victim becomes a container for the abuser's unconscious guilt feelings, and the sickness is passed on. Sometimes, also, one has a hypersensitive temperament that makes what would otherwise be not a big deal to other people, feel as though it is quite persecuting and therefore guilt inducing (Ronald Britton writes about this - cases of narcissistic disorders where there was apparently no trauma in the sufferer's past, in his paper Subjectivity, Objectivity, and Triangular Space - but you'll need some familiarity with Wilfred Bion and Melanie Klein's work for it to make sense).
So things that weaken us satisfy that unconscious need to destroy ourselves due to deeply rooted unconscious guilt. We're not really holding ourselves together with the intoxication of whatever addictive behaviour we like. We're validating inner masochism. The narcissistic, borderline, schizoid personality disorders all represent different pathological defensive tendencies against this sense of guilt.
If anyone reads this and finds it helpful, I suggest you look at Don Carveth's work, as well as Melanie Klein, Wilfred Bion, and the London Kleinians (Ronald Britton for one, but there was a whole group of them).
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A great all round teaching...thank you Ani Pema
This is a beautiful speech. Thank you for posting!
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I think your great thanks for your help.
I'm very grateful 💜
I really need this. Now if only I can receive it.
I think for many of us this will take a lifetime of learning.
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Marvellous teacher, the mind is such a sly and deceitful fox 🦊 not to be unkind to those misunderstood animals, blessings to Pema 🙏 um ah hung ✌️ ☺ 📿 🌸 🙏 🌿 🇮🇪 staying calm and relaxed when your in the middle of a rambo / Hugh heffner moment is a tricky bugger for sure. 🙏 ♥ 🌈
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I needed to hear this today.
Wonderful words of wisdom....namasté🦁
I see what the man means about depression being "juicy". On the one hand I can't imagine why anyone would choose depression and yet I suspect that, in my case at least, there's some perverse pleasure I get from wallowing in my own self pity 🙄. It certainly has... it feels as though it has an addictive quality to it 🤔
Or maybe it's simply preferable to being in touch with the deeper pain of separation and fear and all these things. Certainly I can distinguish between depression and sadness and I suspect the former is a maladaptive coping mechanism in response to the later.
I will try remember to sit with it next time to... what's that "place it in the cradle of loving kindness"?
I simply can't imagine!
But I will try.
Thank you, Pema 🙏🏻🧡
thanks!
Thank you Pema.
Just thank you.
I love this!
So good
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Beautiful teaching
Thank you so much for sharing 😊
Perfect Timing 🙏
Thank you
Meditative Posture opens us to whatever we see and do and are. We sit and open ourselves - seeing exactly who we are
setting ourselves up for opening from rigid to flexible. Yes, I will be thinking on this today.
beautiful. thanks for sharing
Wonderful. Thank you.
Timeless💞
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