There is no exam for sister, our scholars of the time make it an exam and drive people away from Islam The daughter of prophet Muhammad SAW accepted Islam and her husband did not accept it for a long time (after Hijrah). The prophet did not ask her to divorce him. Islam recognizes marriages from other religions. When couples of other religions converted to Islam together or at different times, they were recognized as couples. Aisha RA said that if Islam was brought upon us at once, we would have ran away from it. This is one of the wisdoms behind the revelation of Quran that happened little by little, and not at ONCE. Are we better than Aisha RA? Are we better than Sahaba RA? We are weaker, much weaker. And, yet, all these sheikhs want to put the strictest rules on even reverts. Blatantly ignoring or unwillinging to use the ease that Allah swt has provided and that is proven from Sunnah. The sister should take more than "a few days" to teach her husband about Islam instead of giving him an ultimatum. Given enough time, definitely more than a few days, she should then analyze if her husband is actually spiritually dead or if there is hope. This decision is not an easy one. Sheikh is totally wrong to put a REVERT in this position because it is against the examples from Sunnah.
@@Karinrinkashi wow never heard about the Daughter of the Prophet PBUH. Can you name the Daughter so I can cross verify pls? You are right about our scholars being strict though!
@MonstarAsher It is in the seerah. I do not remember from the top of my head. I must add that Prophet warned her daughter that she should not be intimate with her husband until he accepts Islam. But he NEVER told her to divorce her within "few days". He then accepted Islam afterwards.
If this guy is a great husband and they have kids this will be very difficult, but this life if it was meant to be full of sweet roses and jasmine flowers then the prophets (pbut) would not had been tested and the most corrupt disbelievers would had not even sipped a drop of water. It's always easy for me and anyone to say to just leave, but sister in this difficult time needs support from the Muslim community if he rejects Islam. It is what it is, she must leave. Inshallah he accepts Islam.
@@IYelevenit's a different matter ,Those point are from starting, in the Quran it's clearly mentioned a muslim women can't marry non muslim, or a revert muslim can't go back non muslim husband
@@IYeleventhey were separated even if not immediately, to be united later as believers. The law was not completed at that time. Revelation was still coming. Earliest Muslims would have drank alcohol too, before it was prohibited.
I wish we would hear more of her perspective. Sheikh Assim sometimes needs to engage the person, especially in this situation, when it involves undertaking a major life decision , providing encouragement and comfort rather than giving out a monologue
If she wants more details and time then she can schedule an appointment. He's just going off by the Sharia, what else do you expect him to say within a short time and what other details could possibly make a difference?
It's a very difficult position to be in. Obviously Allah loves her and May Allah SWT keep her steadfast and guide her husband to rivert to the light of Islam
May Allah تعالى make it easy for the sister, may Allah تعالى give hidayah to her husband.. I wish the best for you, my sister, and in the end, Allah knows best. May Allah تعالى bless you
I will give my husband time to change. Finding a good spouse is very difficult and unfortunately many of the Muslim men are not good examples. May Allah soften her husband's life towards the deen.
Yes. Good men are hard to find. If that Christian husband is amazing to her and treats her like a queen and would provide and protect her till his last breath, she's going to have a very hard time attracting another husband like that as a divorcee. That's the reality. I don't know if I could leave a good husband if I was in her situation bc I know the probability of me attracting another man like that is close to zero when you're a divorceee. There are exceptions but exceptions don't make the rule.
@@abdulRafay-s7p it's not about judging. It's about the type of husband a woman can realistically attract when she's been divorced and is no longer a virgin. Come on let's not sugarcoat it.
@@abdulRafay-s7p it's not about judging. It's about the type of husband a woman can realistically attract when she's a divorcee. Come on let's not sugar coat it
Islam recognizes marriages from other religions. All couples who accepted Islam, even at different times, during the time of Prophet SAW were recognized as married couples. That being said, time must be given to be fair. The example is of the daughter of Prophet SAW who accepted Islam but her husband accepted Islam a long time after (after hijrah). So, the sister should not ruin her marriage because Islam gives flexibility to reverts to sort out their matters in time. Aisha RA said that if Islam was brought upon us at once (instead of a period of 23 years) then we would have ran away from it. There is a reason that Quran was revealed over time and not at once. The same is true for reverts. From their perspective, Quran has just been revealed one verse at a time, as they read it. These sheikhs have found the light at their later age and forgotten about their pasts. How difficult and challenging it is to even find the truth of Islam. They are unwilling to use the ease that is given by Quran and examples from Sunnah. This matter needs more than "a few days", the sister should do work on the husband over some good amount of time. After this, she should honestly analyze if the husband is spiritually completely dead or is there hope. Prophet SAW never broke a marriage or forced a muslim to divorce a non muslim without giving ample time for the revert to give their spouse a chance. Is the sheikh saying that we are better than Aisha RA? Is he saying that we are better than the companions RA? Are we better than the daughter of Prophet SAW? As much as I respect sheikh Assim, this is an absolutely incorrect stance from him because example from Sunnah prove him wrong.
Take it easy. He is one sheikh. Islam teaches us to take the consensus or ijma of many scholars and their understanding of Quran and Sunnah. If this sheikh is wrong, leave it be.
Im a revert woman but am an older divorcee. I have watched people do dawa and not be honest about the things people have to give up. I think prospectives reverts need to be told when u take shahada u will have to leave certain things. U can say well she is going into the true religion so its ok. No people need to make informed choices.
I am a revert too, and I agree 100% The worst thing I know of is when people who do dawah try to hide the things they fear people will not like. Imagine being told ABC is halal just to find out in a harsh manner that it is not, you will end up feeling tricked into something you did not understand.
There’s no “have to give up”. It’s a choice. And if she becomes a Muslim but lives in sin with her kaafir husband, it is still infinitely better for her than staying a kaafir. It’s really no choice at all
Subhan Allah. A great trial for her while she has just started. Indeed Allah says, "Do the people think that they will be left to say, "We believe" and they will not be tried? But We have certainly tried those before them, and Allāh will surely make evident those who are truthful, and He will surely make evident the liars." [Al-Quran 29 : 2-3]
Sorry Sheikh that was not an good advice. I heard a revert sister's story, She is from USA and she was in US military. She reverted to Islam but she has two children and husband they were not Muslim. After she reverted she fell into a dilemma about what to do with her husband. She said, she was preparing for Divorce but before that she meet with a scholar and he advised her not to do it and tell her to give him time. She did so then months latter her husband asked her to take him to the mosque and he saw Muslims pray then he decided to revert himself then her sons too reverted to Islam. Letter in a interview she said her husband was a good person never he was bad to her. If she had given him Divorce he would misunderstood Islam and would had blamed Islam for his Divorce and her sons would had felt Islam was the thing that took their Father away. That scholar had that wisdom but unfortunately you didn't.
No, you are the one who misunderstood here. Watch the video again carefully. The guy in this video said, to da'wah and give time first to the husband and ask him to join Islam. Divorce is if after the husband still doesn't want to embrace Islam. Listen carefully.
A tough call yes especially if the husband is adamant and refuses to accept ISLAM. Taking the decision to follow the doctrine proved to be the best thing for me.
How did these kinds of issues dealt at prophet s.a.w time? Since the Quran was revealed over 23 years, were they told to leave their non-muslim husbands instantly?
Dk Perhaps what she can do is live with her parents till this sister secures a job And reconcile with her husband If she has kids then that adds an additional issue Because divorcing him would be cruelty towards him and the kids Since modern laws require paying alimony after divorce, another issue Perhaps living with parents but at the same time being emotionally there for the husband Because in seerah one of the kafir husband of a daughter of Prophet Pbuh came to medina and met her So there is laxity in that regard Very very tricky and a mighty test
But Hazrat ASIA didn't leave Firaun who declared himself as god. She was maintaining Islam ignoring Firaun. And they weren't divorced at the first place because she was always religious. Someone explain to me please, if im wrong!
You are correct, as it was Prophet Musa Alayhi Salam, who was Prophet at that time. And with him was a different shariah than what we have today with the Prophet Muhammad SalAllahu Alayhi Wassalam
I believe you are wrong. there's a difference between a rasool (prophet) and Nabi (messenger). A messenger is a prophet that comes with a new shari'ah, a new set of rulings different from the messenger before them. For example, you will find that in the story of Yusuf, when he was reunited with his family they prostrated before him (NOT TO WORSHIP HIM) which is something that is completely prohibited in the shariah of Muhammad saw. I believe it is not right to compare a woman at the time of Musa to the women alive today, perhaps at the time of Musa it wasn't prohibited for a muslim woman to marry a non muslim man. Allahu A'lam
@Anon-f7f i didn't want to prove my words wrong or right, i just wanted someone to explain me. Thankfully i understood the situation and people mentioned seerah that should be followed in this situation. Thank you too!
أنا اختك والله تمر ايامنا وليالينا واحنا لانملك شي اين القلوب الراحمه ضااااق حالنا ووضاااااق بنا الحال والله ما كتبت هذا الكلام الا من الضيق وقسوت الضروف يِآ نآس يِآآمٌـٍة مٌحًمٌد صِآرتٍ قلّوبگٍمٌ بلّآ رحًمٌهً ولّآشفُقهً ولّآ آنسآنيِهً گٍمٌ شگٍيِتٍ وگٍمٌ بگٍيِتٍ گٍمٌ نآديِتٍ وگٍمٌ نآشدتٍ ولّگٍن لّآ حًيِآٍة لّمٌن تٍنآديِ هًلّ يِرضيِگٍمٌ آن آخوآنيِ يِبگٍون ويِمٌوتٍون مٌن آلّجُوع وآنتٍمٌ مٌوجُودون يِعلّمٌ آلّلّهً آلّعلّيِ آلّعظَيِمٌ آننآ لّآ نمٌلّگٍ حًتٍى قيِمٌـٍة گٍيِلّو دقيِق آبيِ مٌتٍوفُيِ ﻭﺃﺧﻮﺍﻧﻲ ﺻﻐﺎﺭ ﻟﻴﺲ ﻟﻨﺎ ﺃﺣﺪ ﺃﻗﺴﻢ ﺑﺎﻟﻠﻪ ﺍﻟﻌﻈﻴﻢ ﺃﻧﻬﻢ ﻧﺎﻣﻮﺍ ﺃﻣﺲ ﺟﻮﻋﺎﻧﻴﻦ ﻭﻫﻢ ﻳﺒﻜﻮﻥ من الالم والولايات ﻳﺎﺃﻫﻞ ﺍﻟﺨﻴﺮ ﻫﻞ ﻳﺮﺿﻴﻜﻢ ﺃﻧﻨﺎ ﻣﻦ ﺃﻣﺲ ﻟﺤﺪ ﺍﻵﻥ ﺑﺪﻭﻥ ﺃﻛﻞ ﻳﺎﺃﺧﻮﺓ الأسلام يافاعلين الخير انا اقسم بالله على كتاب الله اني لااكذب عليك ولا انصب ولا احتال اني بنت يمنيه نازحين انا واسرتي بيتنا ايجار الشهرب 20 الف يمني والان علينا 60 الف حق3 شهور وصاحب البيت من الناس الي ماترحم والله يا اخي انه يجي كل يوم يبهدلنا ويتكلم علينا ويريد يطردنا من البيت للشارع لانناماقدرناندفعله الأجار وما يروح الئ بعدما نبكي ورجعوتكلمو الجيران ومهلنالاخره الأسبوع واذا دفعنا له حلف يمين بالله بيخرجنا إلى الشارع بدون رحمه واحنا.مشردين من بلادنا بسبب هذا الحرب ولانجد قوت يومنا وعايشين اناوامي واخوتي سغار والدنا متوفي الله يرحمه ومامعنا أحد في هذا الدنيا يقف جاانبنا في هذه الظروف القاسيه ومامعي اخوان كباره يقفوا معنا في هذا الظروف اخوتي سغار ولكن انا بنت لااستطيع ان اشتغل اقسم بلله ان اخواني خرجوا على للشارع وشافو وشافو الجيران ياكلو راوقفو وقفوا عند بابهم لجل يعطوهم ولوخبزه يسد بها جوعهم والله الذي له ملك السموات والارض انهم غلقو الباب وطردوهم ورجعویبکوایموتومن الجوع والله ما نجد لقمت عیش والان لوما احدنا ساعدنا في كيلوا دقيق اقسم بالله انموت من الجوع فيا اخي انا دخيله على الله ثم عليك واريد منك المساعده لوجه الله انشدك بالله تحب الخير واتساعدني ولو وتطلب اسم بطاقتي وترسلي ولاتتاخر وايعوضك الله بكل خير فيا اخي انت رجال إذاشفت اسرتك جاوعين المستحيل من اجل تامن لهم الأكب ولكن انابنت عيني بصيره ويدي قصيره ليس لي أب مثلك واخواني سغار شوف كيف حالتهم وساعدنا وأنقذنا قبل أن يطردونا في الشارع تتبهدل أو نموت من الجوع أنا اقسم بالله الذي رفع سبع سموات بلاعمدوبسط الارض ومهداني لااكذب عليك بحرف من هذا الرساله واني ماطلبتك إلى من ضيق ومن قسوت الضروف والحال الذي احنافيه وانا واسرتي نسالك بالله لولك مقدره ﻳﺎﺃﻫﻞ ﺍﻟﺨﻴﺮ ﺍﻟﻲ ﻋﻨﺪﻩ ﺍﻟﻘﺪﺭﻩ ﻋﻠﻰ ﻣﺴﺎﻋﺪﺗﻨﺎ لايتاخر علينا لحظه هاذا رقمي واتساب 00967711500090 الذي يقدر يساعدنا يراسلني على الواتساب نرسله ألاسم الكامل يحولنا بقدر استطاعته جزاكم الله خيراتـــــــــ الجزاءءء🎉😢😢😢~~~-----♡♤اااا♤؛؛؛،،،\\~~♢♢♢♢اا♢♢♢~😭`😭|😭|>πππ__☪️😢=😢=♢♢،،,,...,.،،،،،،،،،،،،،،,,،,,,
"And he said, Woe unto you also, ye lawyers! for ye lade men with burdens grievous to be borne, and ye yourselves touch not the burdens with one of your fingers" Luke 11: 46. May the Lord Jesus Christ, the true Son of God, call her back to the path of mercy. In catholicism, a catholic faithful cannot marry a non-christian without a special permission given by the Bishop, and in this case, the christian part must prevail in the education of the children, with the other part explict acceptance and submission. However, if the couple were non-christian before and one of them converts to the faith, the marriage stay perfectly valid. That's the mercy of God, the sweetness of the Holy Seed of Isaac, and not the harsh cactus of Ismael.
Perhaps what she can do is live with her parents till this sister secures a job And reconcile with her husband If she has kids then that adds an additional issue Because divorcing him would be cruelty towards him and the kids Since modern laws require paying alimony after divorce, another issue Perhaps living with parents but at the same time being emotionally there for the husband Because in seerah one of the kafir husband of a daughter of Prophet Pbuh came to medina and met her So there is laxity in that regard Very very tricky and a mighty test
Bruh this is madness from. Commnets, they think religion breaking happy marriage and it's the wife's mistake she changed her religion after marriage doesn't her husband have right to choose his and if there are children why should they feel pain of losing their parents
But another sheikh said that a women who is already married to a Christian and then when she reverts she can stay with her husband…I’m confused now because everyone sim to have different ideas….
If this woman was from the other religion, she wouldn't have the authority to divorce her husband without his permission. I'm sure there are places in the world where women don't have that type of authority. What would you suggest a revert wife do then?
1 Corinthians 7:12-17 fra New International Version (NIV): 12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? 17 Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches.
@@MojaveWrangler77 my Brother, Jesus said in Matthew 19: 4-6, 4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” if you belive Jesus was a Prophet, then you should condemn what this teacher just preached to this woman in the video.
سِالُتتكِ بّالُلُُه 💔الُجْلُيَلُ الُجْبّارَ انَ تْنَقًذَنَا قًبّلُ انَ نَمٌوَتْ مٌنَ شِدِتْ الُجْوَع انَتٌْخيَكِ انَيَ دٌِخلُةِ ْعلُى الُلُُه تْمٌ ْعلُيَكِ انَيَ فَيَ وَجُْهك انَـيَ اخـتْكِ انَـيَ اتْرَجْـاكِ اتْـوَسِـلُ الُـيَـكِ انَـقًـذَنَا لُـوَجُْـه الُـلُُـه. يَــشِــُهدِ الُــلُــُه يَاٌخـيَ انَ مٌنَ الُــصّــبّاحُ حُـتْا الُـانَ يَــحُــرَمٌ ْعـــلُيَـنَـا الاكل غير الماء والله اني ما كتبت هذا الكلام الا من الضيق وقسوت الضروف اني طالبه من الله ثم منك لاتردني خايبه يا اخي ''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''' اخي اول كلامي انا اقسم بالله على كتاب الله اني لااكذب عليك ولا انصب ولا احتال اني بنت يمنيه نازحين من انا واسرتي بيننا ایت الشهرب 20 الف يمني والان علينا 60 الف حق 3 شهور وصاحب البيت من الناس الي ماترحم والله يا اخي انه يجي كل يوم يبهدلنا ويتكلم علينا ويريد من البيت للشارع لانناماقدرنا ندفعله الأجار شافونا الجيران نبكي ورجعو تكلمو الجيران ومهلنالاخره الأسبوع معادفعنا له حلف يمين بالله هذا بيخرجنا إلى الشارع رحمه واحنا. بلادنا بسبب هذا الحرب ولانجد قوت يومنا وعايشين اناوامي واخوتي سفار والدنا متوفي الله يرحمه ومامعنا أحد في هذا الدنيا جاانبنا في هذه الظروف القاسيه اخوتي الصغار خرجو للشارع وشافو الجيران ياكلو واوقفو عند بابهم لجل يعطوهم ولو كسره خبز والله الذي له ملك السموات والارض انهم غلفو الباب وطردوهم ورجعو یبکو ایموتو من الجوع ما احد رحمهم وعطلة ردها لقمت عیش والان لوما احدنا ساعدنا في إيكيلو دقيق اقسم بالله انموت من الجوع فيا اخي انا دخيله على الله ثم عليك واريد منك المساعده لوجه الله انشدك بالله تحب الخير واتساعدني ولو بما تستطيع بارك الله فيك مع تراسلي واتساب على هذا الرقم 00967711500090 وتطلب اسم بطاقتي وترسلي ولاتتاخر وايعوضك الله بكل خير اخواني سغار شوف كيف حالتهم وساعدنا وأنقذنا قبل أن يطردونا في الشارع تتبهدل أو نموت من الجوع وانا واسرتي نسالك بالله لولك مقدره على مساعد لاتتاخر علينا وجزاك الله خيرا.:،،،،،.،.؛؛؛٪٪٪٪٪،،،،،،،،،،،….ا™°°°😢😢😢`😭😭||😭😢.،♢♦|π،،،،،،،،،،،،،،,,,,,.،,
This is so unfair. She has to ruin her marriage, ruin the lives of her children if there are any, get child support and make those kids grow up in a broken home and deal with all the societal consequences of being a single mom. I literally could not do this if I was her if there were children involved. What a mess.
First you don’t know if she has kids..second it’s nothing but assumption on your part that if she left her husband her and her kids life will be ruined…maybe her and her kids lifes will be saved..maybe Allah will compensate her with someone better who lives a righteous life and be a role model for her children. And whoever fears Allāh - He will make for him of his matter ease.
What a wrong analysis!Wouldn't you leave your husband had he been a womanizer/rapist/pedophile or murderer. Yes,tht decision would uproot one's life,cause chaos,create a huge mess but then that decision would rebuild your life and make it better and give you better than what you had!
Always play it up with the hypothetical, sure it is unfair when you possess no knowledge or insight yourself. What is unfair is all the assumptions you make
@@Sheriff1977 of course I don't know if she has kids, and that's why I said "if she has any." If she doesn't have any kids then none of what I said would apply to her. Even if you forget the possibility of kids, it's still so incredibly hard if she was dependent on her husband financially and didn't work. Divorcing him could quite literally plunge her into economical poverty unless she fights for alimony, which is haram.
Even if she has kids, she could always live with her parents or even better a good Muslim family so I don't see the issue here. And let's say for arguments sake you're right, and if that was the c case, her poverty will be an easy ticket to Jannah if she manages to stay firm. Muslims in poverty will have an easier time on judgement day than wealthy Muslims as a general rule, because they had much less to spend. That means they have the opportunity to have their questioning made shorter. Not that a wealthy person cannot be superior, but we're talking about the general ruling. A hadith says that the questioning of a wealthy person will be the length of half a day, which in terms of the akhirah is 500 years. Of course one should never desire poverty as it can lead to much evil, but if Allah wills it for an individual, then they have to be patient.
@@shutthehellurmouth sounds like God is evil, he made some creations whose main purpose in life is to worship him, then he puts his creations through all these tests...also god had made all the decisions for us , then he punishes us for the decisions he had already made for us
Tough exam for the revert sister. May Allah make it easy for her in this life and the next!
There is no exam for sister, our scholars of the time make it an exam and drive people away from Islam
The daughter of prophet Muhammad SAW accepted Islam and her husband did not accept it for a long time (after Hijrah). The prophet did not ask her to divorce him. Islam recognizes marriages from other religions. When couples of other religions converted to Islam together or at different times, they were recognized as couples.
Aisha RA said that if Islam was brought upon us at once, we would have ran away from it. This is one of the wisdoms behind the revelation of Quran that happened little by little, and not at ONCE.
Are we better than Aisha RA? Are we better than Sahaba RA? We are weaker, much weaker. And, yet, all these sheikhs want to put the strictest rules on even reverts. Blatantly ignoring or unwillinging to use the ease that Allah swt has provided and that is proven from Sunnah.
The sister should take more than "a few days" to teach her husband about Islam instead of giving him an ultimatum. Given enough time, definitely more than a few days, she should then analyze if her husband is actually spiritually dead or if there is hope. This decision is not an easy one. Sheikh is totally wrong to put a REVERT in this position because it is against the examples from Sunnah.
@@Karinrinkashi wow never heard about the Daughter of the Prophet PBUH. Can you name the Daughter so I can cross verify pls? You are right about our scholars being strict though!
@MonstarAsher It is in the seerah. I do not remember from the top of my head. I must add that Prophet warned her daughter that she should not be intimate with her husband until he accepts Islam. But he NEVER told her to divorce her within "few days". He then accepted Islam afterwards.
@@MonstarAsher I can't even see my first reply on your post
Yes its in the seerah @@MonstarAsher
Guys let's pray her husband also gets hidayah. May Allah bless them
I hope she realises she has made a mistake when she finds out Muhammad was a scumbag
Ameen
Ameen InshaAllah
Ameen
aameen ya Rabb
This is her test. May Allah make it easy for her. Amina
If this guy is a great husband and they have kids this will be very difficult, but this life if it was meant to be full of sweet roses and jasmine flowers then the prophets (pbut) would not had been tested and the most corrupt disbelievers would had not even sipped a drop of water.
It's always easy for me and anyone to say to just leave, but sister in this difficult time needs support from the Muslim community if he rejects Islam.
It is what it is, she must leave. Inshallah he accepts Islam.
Inshallah.
And if Allah ever takes something away from you, he will always give you that which is better.
Why should she leave when the Prophet(saw) didn’t request for his daughters to leave their nonmuslim husbands they were married to before Islam?
@@IYelevenit's a different matter ,Those point are from starting, in the Quran it's clearly mentioned a muslim women can't marry non muslim, or a revert muslim can't go back non muslim husband
@@IYelevenThis. I also think the sheikhs opinion is wrong here
@@IYeleventhey were separated even if not immediately, to be united later as believers. The law was not completed at that time. Revelation was still coming. Earliest Muslims would have drank alcohol too, before it was prohibited.
I wish we would hear more of her perspective. Sheikh Assim sometimes needs to engage the person, especially in this situation, when it involves undertaking a major life decision , providing encouragement and comfort rather than giving out a monologue
yeah I agree but it's a QnA show not a counseling session
He's got a lot of phone calls to take
If she wants more details and time then she can schedule an appointment. He's just going off by the Sharia, what else do you expect him to say within a short time and what other details could possibly make a difference?
@@BeHumbleAndLessArrogant
No sugar coating for this Sheikh!!
May Allaah guide the brother amiin.
u want a drama , possibly some tissues involved. He gave the answer , galaas.
Tough! May Allah make it easy for her.
ameen
Ameen
It's a very difficult position to be in. Obviously Allah loves her and May Allah SWT keep her steadfast and guide her husband to rivert to the light of Islam
May Allah تعالى make it easy for the sister, may Allah تعالى give hidayah to her husband..
I wish the best for you, my sister, and in the end, Allah knows best.
May Allah تعالى bless you
I will give my husband time to change. Finding a good spouse is very difficult and unfortunately many of the Muslim men are not good examples. May Allah soften her husband's life towards the deen.
Yes. Good men are hard to find. If that Christian husband is amazing to her and treats her like a queen and would provide and protect her till his last breath, she's going to have a very hard time attracting another husband like that as a divorcee. That's the reality. I don't know if I could leave a good husband if I was in her situation bc I know the probability of me attracting another man like that is close to zero when you're a divorceee. There are exceptions but exceptions don't make the rule.
@Cherries2249 Sister it is almost 2025 not 1924 if people still judge you just bcz you are a divorcee then you are with the wrong people
@@abdulRafay-s7p it's not about judging. It's about the type of husband a woman can realistically attract when she's been divorced and is no longer a virgin. Come on let's not sugarcoat it.
@@abdulRafay-s7p it's not about judging. It's about the type of husband a woman can realistically attract when she's a divorcee. Come on let's not sugar coat it
Time. Not forever.
Islam recognizes marriages from other religions. All couples who accepted Islam, even at different times, during the time of Prophet SAW were recognized as married couples. That being said, time must be given to be fair. The example is of the daughter of Prophet SAW who accepted Islam but her husband accepted Islam a long time after (after hijrah). So, the sister should not ruin her marriage because Islam gives flexibility to reverts to sort out their matters in time.
Aisha RA said that if Islam was brought upon us at once (instead of a period of 23 years) then we would have ran away from it. There is a reason that Quran was revealed over time and not at once.
The same is true for reverts. From their perspective, Quran has just been revealed one verse at a time, as they read it.
These sheikhs have found the light at their later age and forgotten about their pasts. How difficult and challenging it is to even find the truth of Islam. They are unwilling to use the ease that is given by Quran and examples from Sunnah.
This matter needs more than "a few days", the sister should do work on the husband over some good amount of time. After this, she should honestly analyze if the husband is spiritually completely dead or is there hope. Prophet SAW never broke a marriage or forced a muslim to divorce a non muslim without giving ample time for the revert to give their spouse a chance.
Is the sheikh saying that we are better than Aisha RA? Is he saying that we are better than the companions RA? Are we better than the daughter of Prophet SAW?
As much as I respect sheikh Assim, this is an absolutely incorrect stance from him because example from Sunnah prove him wrong.
Exactly. The Prophet(saw) didn’t order his already married daughter to divorce the husbands just because the husbands didn’t convert yet.
Take it easy. He is one sheikh. Islam teaches us to take the consensus or ijma of many scholars and their understanding of Quran and Sunnah. If this sheikh is wrong, leave it be.
that was all before the prohibition of kafir husbands
Exactly.
So you are ok with a revert not praying for 13yrs???
Im a revert woman but am an older divorcee. I have watched people do dawa and not be honest about the things people have to give up. I think prospectives reverts need to be told when u take shahada u will have to leave certain things. U can say well she is going into the true religion so its ok. No people need to make informed choices.
I am a revert too, and I agree 100%
The worst thing I know of is when people who do dawah try to hide the things they fear people will not like.
Imagine being told ABC is halal just to find out in a harsh manner that it is not, you will end up feeling tricked into something you did not understand.
There’s no “have to give up”. It’s a choice. And if she becomes a Muslim but lives in sin with her kaafir husband, it is still infinitely better for her than staying a kaafir. It’s really no choice at all
Subhan Allah. A great trial for her while she has just started. Indeed Allah says,
"Do the people think that they will be left to say, "We believe" and they will not be tried? But We have certainly tried those before them, and Allāh will surely make evident those who are truthful, and He will surely make evident the liars."
[Al-Quran 29 : 2-3]
Sorry Sheikh that was not an good advice. I heard a revert sister's story, She is from USA and she was in US military. She reverted to Islam but she has two children and husband they were not Muslim. After she reverted she fell into a dilemma about what to do with her husband. She said, she was preparing for Divorce but before that she meet with a scholar and he advised her not to do it and tell her to give him time. She did so then months latter her husband asked her to take him to the mosque and he saw Muslims pray then he decided to revert himself then her sons too reverted to Islam. Letter in a interview she said her husband was a good person never he was bad to her. If she had given him Divorce he would misunderstood Islam and would had blamed Islam for his Divorce and her sons would had felt Islam was the thing that took their Father away. That scholar had that wisdom but unfortunately you didn't.
Exception doesn't make the norm.
In the majority of cases the woman either doesn't become Muslim or turns back from it, because of the husband
TOTALLY AGREE!
It's a exception,
No, you are the one who misunderstood here.
Watch the video again carefully. The guy in this video said, to da'wah and give time first to the husband and ask him to join Islam.
Divorce is if after the husband still doesn't want to embrace Islam.
Listen carefully.
May Allah make our revert sisters that are married a means by wich Allah guides their non muslim husbands Allahouma Amine!
May allah gives strength and make it easy for her
A tough call yes especially if the husband is adamant and refuses to accept ISLAM. Taking the decision to follow the doctrine proved to be the best thing for me.
How did these kinds of issues dealt at prophet s.a.w time? Since the Quran was revealed over 23 years, were they told to leave their non-muslim husbands instantly?
Zaynab (ra) the first daughter of Prophet s.a.w was in a similar situation. There’s a youtube video by Omar Suleiman on her story.
No, they weren't told to leave instantly, not the daughters of the prophet pbuh
Dk
Perhaps what she can do is live with her parents till this sister secures a job
And reconcile with her husband
If she has kids then that adds an additional issue
Because divorcing him would be cruelty towards him and the kids
Since modern laws require paying alimony after divorce, another issue
Perhaps living with parents but at the same time being emotionally there for the husband
Because in seerah one of the kafir husband of a daughter of Prophet Pbuh came to medina and met her
So there is laxity in that regard
Very very tricky and a mighty test
A hard topic for sure. Da'wah has always been hard too so it is what it is.
But Hazrat ASIA didn't leave Firaun who declared himself as god. She was maintaining Islam ignoring Firaun. And they weren't divorced at the first place because she was always religious. Someone explain to me please, if im wrong!
You are correct, as it was Prophet Musa Alayhi Salam, who was Prophet at that time. And with him was a different shariah than what we have today with the Prophet Muhammad SalAllahu Alayhi Wassalam
So it is haram today, but it was not haram at the time of Musa Alayhi Salam
@@jonjo8104 oh thank you so much
I believe you are wrong. there's a difference between a rasool (prophet) and Nabi (messenger). A messenger is a prophet that comes with a new shari'ah, a new set of rulings different from the messenger before them. For example, you will find that in the story of Yusuf, when he was reunited with his family they prostrated before him (NOT TO WORSHIP HIM) which is something that is completely prohibited in the shariah of Muhammad saw. I believe it is not right to compare a woman at the time of Musa to the women alive today, perhaps at the time of Musa it wasn't prohibited for a muslim woman to marry a non muslim man. Allahu A'lam
@Anon-f7f i didn't want to prove my words wrong or right, i just wanted someone to explain me. Thankfully i understood the situation and people mentioned seerah that should be followed in this situation. Thank you too!
أنا اختك والله تمر ايامنا وليالينا واحنا لانملك شي اين القلوب الراحمه ضااااق حالنا ووضاااااق بنا الحال والله ما كتبت هذا الكلام الا من الضيق وقسوت الضروف يِآ نآس يِآآمٌـٍة مٌحًمٌد صِآرتٍ قلّوبگٍمٌ بلّآ رحًمٌهً ولّآشفُقهً ولّآ آنسآنيِهً گٍمٌ شگٍيِتٍ وگٍمٌ بگٍيِتٍ گٍمٌ نآديِتٍ وگٍمٌ نآشدتٍ ولّگٍن لّآ حًيِآٍة لّمٌن تٍنآديِ هًلّ يِرضيِگٍمٌ آن آخوآنيِ يِبگٍون ويِمٌوتٍون مٌن آلّجُوع وآنتٍمٌ مٌوجُودون يِعلّمٌ آلّلّهً آلّعلّيِ آلّعظَيِمٌ آننآ لّآ نمٌلّگٍ حًتٍى قيِمٌـٍة گٍيِلّو دقيِق آبيِ مٌتٍوفُيِ ﻭﺃﺧﻮﺍﻧﻲ ﺻﻐﺎﺭ ﻟﻴﺲ ﻟﻨﺎ ﺃﺣﺪ ﺃﻗﺴﻢ ﺑﺎﻟﻠﻪ ﺍﻟﻌﻈﻴﻢ ﺃﻧﻬﻢ ﻧﺎﻣﻮﺍ ﺃﻣﺲ ﺟﻮﻋﺎﻧﻴﻦ ﻭﻫﻢ ﻳﺒﻜﻮﻥ من الالم والولايات ﻳﺎﺃﻫﻞ ﺍﻟﺨﻴﺮ ﻫﻞ ﻳﺮﺿﻴﻜﻢ ﺃﻧﻨﺎ ﻣﻦ ﺃﻣﺲ ﻟﺤﺪ ﺍﻵﻥ ﺑﺪﻭﻥ ﺃﻛﻞ ﻳﺎﺃﺧﻮﺓ الأسلام يافاعلين الخير انا اقسم بالله على كتاب الله اني لااكذب عليك ولا انصب ولا احتال اني بنت يمنيه نازحين انا واسرتي بيتنا ايجار الشهرب 20 الف يمني والان علينا 60 الف حق3 شهور وصاحب البيت من الناس الي ماترحم والله يا اخي انه يجي كل يوم يبهدلنا ويتكلم علينا ويريد يطردنا من البيت للشارع لانناماقدرناندفعله الأجار وما يروح الئ بعدما نبكي ورجعوتكلمو الجيران ومهلنالاخره الأسبوع واذا دفعنا له حلف يمين بالله بيخرجنا إلى الشارع بدون رحمه واحنا.مشردين من بلادنا بسبب هذا الحرب ولانجد قوت يومنا وعايشين اناوامي واخوتي سغار والدنا متوفي الله يرحمه ومامعنا أحد في هذا الدنيا يقف جاانبنا في هذه الظروف القاسيه ومامعي اخوان كباره يقفوا معنا في هذا الظروف اخوتي سغار ولكن انا بنت لااستطيع ان اشتغل اقسم بلله ان اخواني خرجوا على للشارع وشافو وشافو الجيران ياكلو راوقفو وقفوا عند بابهم لجل يعطوهم ولوخبزه يسد بها جوعهم والله الذي له ملك السموات والارض انهم غلقو الباب وطردوهم ورجعویبکوایموتومن الجوع والله ما نجد لقمت عیش والان لوما احدنا ساعدنا في كيلوا دقيق اقسم بالله انموت من الجوع فيا اخي انا دخيله على الله ثم عليك واريد منك المساعده لوجه الله انشدك بالله تحب الخير واتساعدني ولو وتطلب اسم بطاقتي وترسلي ولاتتاخر وايعوضك الله بكل خير فيا اخي انت رجال إذاشفت اسرتك جاوعين المستحيل من اجل تامن لهم الأكب ولكن انابنت عيني بصيره ويدي قصيره ليس لي أب مثلك واخواني سغار شوف كيف حالتهم وساعدنا وأنقذنا قبل أن يطردونا في الشارع تتبهدل أو نموت من الجوع أنا اقسم بالله الذي رفع سبع سموات بلاعمدوبسط الارض ومهداني لااكذب عليك بحرف من هذا الرساله واني ماطلبتك إلى من ضيق ومن قسوت الضروف والحال الذي احنافيه وانا واسرتي نسالك بالله لولك مقدره ﻳﺎﺃﻫﻞ ﺍﻟﺨﻴﺮ ﺍﻟﻲ ﻋﻨﺪﻩ ﺍﻟﻘﺪﺭﻩ ﻋﻠﻰ ﻣﺴﺎﻋﺪﺗﻨﺎ لايتاخر علينا لحظه هاذا رقمي واتساب 00967711500090 الذي يقدر يساعدنا يراسلني على الواتساب نرسله ألاسم الكامل يحولنا بقدر استطاعته جزاكم الله خيراتـــــــــ الجزاءءء🎉😢😢😢~~~-----♡♤اااا♤؛؛؛،،،\\~~♢♢♢♢اا♢♢♢~😭`😭|😭|>πππ__☪️😢=😢=♢♢،،,,...,.،،،،،،،،،،،،،،,,،,,,
"And he said, Woe unto you also, ye lawyers! for ye lade men with burdens grievous to be borne, and ye yourselves touch not the burdens with one of your fingers" Luke 11: 46.
May the Lord Jesus Christ, the true Son of God, call her back to the path of mercy.
In catholicism, a catholic faithful cannot marry a non-christian without a special permission given by the Bishop, and in this case, the christian part must prevail in the education of the children, with the other part explict acceptance and submission. However, if the couple were non-christian before and one of them converts to the faith, the marriage stay perfectly valid. That's the mercy of God, the sweetness of the Holy Seed of Isaac, and not the harsh cactus of Ismael.
Perhaps what she can do is live with her parents till this sister secures a job
And reconcile with her husband
If she has kids then that adds an additional issue
Because divorcing him would be cruelty towards him and the kids
Since modern laws require paying alimony after divorce, another issue
Perhaps living with parents but at the same time being emotionally there for the husband
Because in seerah one of the kafir husband of a daughter of Prophet Pbuh came to medina and met her
So there is laxity in that regard
Very very tricky and a mighty test
استغفر الله العظيم الذي لا إله إلا هو الحي القيوم واتوب اليه
سبحان الله، الحمد لله، لا إله إلا الله، الله أكبر، و لا حوله ولا قوة الا بالله العلي العظيم واتوب اليه استغفرالله العظيم
Bruh this is madness from. Commnets, they think religion breaking happy marriage and it's the wife's mistake she changed her religion after marriage doesn't her husband have right to choose his and if there are children why should they feel pain of losing their parents
But another sheikh said that a women who is already married to a Christian and then when she reverts she can stay with her husband…I’m confused now because everyone sim to have different ideas….
interessant. please if she want to share future update...
If this woman was from the other religion, she wouldn't have the authority to divorce her husband without his permission. I'm sure there are places in the world where women don't have that type of authority. What would you suggest a revert wife do then?
Good advice , lady leave him so a Muslim can enjoy you 😅
1 Corinthians 7:12-17 fra New International Version (NIV):
12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.
13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him.
14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.
16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
17 Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches.
Look Up Matthew 7:21-23..then Quran 5:116. Read Surah Al-Imran as well, my brother in humanity.
@@MojaveWrangler77 my Brother, Jesus said in Matthew 19: 4-6, 4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’
5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’?
6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
if you belive Jesus was a Prophet, then you should condemn what this teacher just preached to this woman in the video.
The question is: how about the reversed sister is still in love with her husband? Will she just give him up. I'm just asking.
If he doesn't accept, You should move on
سِالُتتكِ بّالُلُُه 💔الُجْلُيَلُ الُجْبّارَ انَ تْنَقًذَنَا قًبّلُ انَ نَمٌوَتْ مٌنَ شِدِتْ الُجْوَع انَتٌْخيَكِ انَيَ دٌِخلُةِ ْعلُى الُلُُه تْمٌ ْعلُيَكِ انَيَ فَيَ وَجُْهك انَـيَ اخـتْكِ انَـيَ اتْرَجْـاكِ اتْـوَسِـلُ الُـيَـكِ انَـقًـذَنَا لُـوَجُْـه الُـلُُـه. يَــشِــُهدِ الُــلُــُه يَاٌخـيَ انَ مٌنَ الُــصّــبّاحُ حُـتْا الُـانَ يَــحُــرَمٌ ْعـــلُيَـنَـا الاكل غير الماء والله اني ما كتبت هذا الكلام الا من الضيق وقسوت الضروف اني طالبه من الله ثم منك لاتردني خايبه يا اخي ''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''' اخي اول كلامي انا اقسم بالله على كتاب الله اني لااكذب عليك ولا انصب ولا احتال اني بنت يمنيه نازحين من انا واسرتي بيننا ایت الشهرب 20 الف يمني والان علينا 60 الف حق 3 شهور وصاحب البيت من الناس الي ماترحم والله يا اخي انه يجي كل يوم يبهدلنا ويتكلم علينا ويريد من البيت للشارع لانناماقدرنا ندفعله الأجار شافونا الجيران نبكي ورجعو تكلمو الجيران ومهلنالاخره الأسبوع معادفعنا له حلف يمين بالله هذا بيخرجنا إلى الشارع رحمه واحنا. بلادنا بسبب هذا الحرب ولانجد قوت يومنا وعايشين اناوامي واخوتي سفار والدنا متوفي الله يرحمه ومامعنا أحد في هذا الدنيا جاانبنا في هذه الظروف القاسيه اخوتي الصغار خرجو للشارع وشافو الجيران ياكلو واوقفو عند بابهم لجل يعطوهم ولو كسره خبز والله الذي له ملك السموات والارض انهم غلفو الباب وطردوهم ورجعو یبکو ایموتو من الجوع ما احد رحمهم وعطلة ردها لقمت عیش والان لوما احدنا ساعدنا في إيكيلو دقيق اقسم بالله انموت من الجوع فيا اخي انا دخيله على الله ثم عليك واريد منك المساعده لوجه الله انشدك بالله تحب الخير واتساعدني ولو بما تستطيع بارك الله فيك مع تراسلي واتساب على هذا الرقم 00967711500090 وتطلب اسم بطاقتي وترسلي ولاتتاخر وايعوضك الله بكل خير اخواني سغار شوف كيف حالتهم وساعدنا وأنقذنا قبل أن يطردونا في الشارع تتبهدل أو نموت من الجوع وانا واسرتي نسالك بالله لولك مقدره على مساعد لاتتاخر علينا وجزاك الله خيرا.:،،،،،.،.؛؛؛٪٪٪٪٪،،،،،،،،،،،….ا™°°°😢😢😢`😭😭||😭😢.،♢♦|π،،،،،،،،،،،،،،,,,,,.،,
Omg this is hard
This is so unfair. She has to ruin her marriage, ruin the lives of her children if there are any, get child support and make those kids grow up in a broken home and deal with all the societal consequences of being a single mom. I literally could not do this if I was her if there were children involved. What a mess.
First you don’t know if she has kids..second it’s nothing but assumption on your part that if she left her husband her and her kids life will be ruined…maybe her and her kids lifes will be saved..maybe Allah will compensate her with someone better who lives a righteous life and be a role model for her children.
And whoever fears Allāh - He will make for him of his matter ease.
What a wrong analysis!Wouldn't you leave your husband had he been a womanizer/rapist/pedophile or murderer. Yes,tht decision would uproot one's life,cause chaos,create a huge mess but then that decision would rebuild your life and make it better and give you better than what you had!
Always play it up with the hypothetical, sure it is unfair when you possess no knowledge or insight yourself. What is unfair is all the assumptions you make
@@Sheriff1977 of course I don't know if she has kids, and that's why I said "if she has any." If she doesn't have any kids then none of what I said would apply to her. Even if you forget the possibility of kids, it's still so incredibly hard if she was dependent on her husband financially and didn't work. Divorcing him could quite literally plunge her into economical poverty unless she fights for alimony, which is haram.
Even if she has kids, she could always live with her parents or even better a good Muslim family so I don't see the issue here.
And let's say for arguments sake you're right, and if that was the c case, her poverty will be an easy ticket to Jannah if she manages to stay firm.
Muslims in poverty will have an easier time on judgement day than wealthy Muslims as a general rule, because they had much less to spend. That means they have the opportunity to have their questioning made shorter. Not that a wealthy person cannot be superior, but we're talking about the general ruling. A hadith says that the questioning of a wealthy person will be the length of half a day, which in terms of the akhirah is 500 years.
Of course one should never desire poverty as it can lead to much evil, but if Allah wills it for an individual, then they have to be patient.
Yes leave him. But What if they have kids???
Even if there are kids.Somee people over-exagerrate the bad impact of divorce on children. They can live with their mother and see their father.
lol, then why do they say that God all is all forgiving and all benevolent etc....
Because he is. But we still need to do our best to follow the right path this life is a test after all
God all is all forgiving and all benevolent, that does not entails anybody to live a 'wild' sinful life.Our actions have consequences.
@@shutthehellurmouth sounds like God is evil, he made some creations whose main purpose in life is to worship him, then he puts his creations through all these tests...also god had made all the decisions for us , then he punishes us for the decisions he had already made for us
@@curiouscat5229 bruh,that lady is married....
he is creator ,he can do anything ,it's your selfishness,
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Our sister is in a big test from almighty god
Ding dong talk.