Should you get Married?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 เม.ย. 2024
- In this video I reflect on love and marriage, seen through the lens of Hegel’s theory of matrimony.
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Julian
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My man is growing crazy philosopher hair, good job man, and as always great video!!!
My thoughts on a last video
Have to subsribe totally to your point of view. Married for 44 years now and it's the best friendship ever.
This is one of my favorite talks from you. Only nine minutes, but very articulate.
So true
I can never tell if your lectures are scripted or not
I got married for the only good reason: to provide someone with the bureaucratic freedom attached to my nationality.
Wouldn't say that's the only good reason, but it can certainly be a good reason.
one can get all that without marrige, but some people need the concept inorder to feel what one could feel without the concept. Just like all ideas, they are truely empty, but gain the meaning from the subjects themselves
Some people should marry and some people should definitely not marry.
Always love your videos Julian! Never miss your uploads of your Monday lectures. I always wanted to ask you what you think of Derrida's philosophy and wondered if you could use some of Derrida's ideas in your videos. I often hear Derridian ideas whenever you're discussing Hegel. I'm not formally trained in philosophy or anything, so I'm probably getting things wrong, but it did occur to me to ask: why is it you never really discuss Derrida? Is it a personal preference? No interest?
I think like most things, it works for some people, and not as well for others.
I am more likely to become a monk than get into a Trad marriage, but that's not for a shortage of people I love. I think marriage is both a church sacrament and a government identity, and I care for neither.
Agreed. Further, I think the notion that love may be bound to that sacrament and institutional contract is dangerous for human well-being.
The advice towards the end is golden ❤
I think that last part is precively a dangerous notion that sets people up to throwing themselves into anything but love and then bitterly wondering why they are not in love. It's not that trying to focus on other things is what invites love. Rather, it's that when you become a better person you invite love. And working on things in your life can do that for you. Modern capitalist society makes authentic social interactions difficult enough - if on top of that you don't actively try, that just makes it worse.
I am in a truly loving relationship and I've found it the moment I really committed myself to finding love. I improved my body, my emotional and my rational competence and started having several dates a week. And within a month after the first of such dates, I found a person I will love until the end of my life.
I‘ve been always against marriage. Thought that filling out a contract is the most fearful, unloving, unnatural thing to do in a romantic relationship.
Now that I‘m 40 and in love, I think marriage is a wonderful abd beautiful way to express your commitment. It’s an honor to me to be able to say „we committed, we promised, we officially express our love and commitment to each other. An I has become partly a we. To close the search for love and express that I am done, I found my one, I don’t want anyone else, I am sure.“
I want to do that to my new partner and I look forward to become a we.
I also believe that life start differently anew, when you feel that security and commitment by your partner.
When you are sure that your partner is the one, why not proudly bind yourself to that person and proudly show it?
I think that’s beautiful.
I'm happy for you. If this is your thing, that's perfectly fine. You don't need to apologize. We will always love you, Julian. 🙂
I don’t think Hegel meant that arranged marriages being more romantic necessarily meant more happy. I understand his claim for them being able to be more free not to be a necessity, but a potentiality. Let’s start with the obvious- an arranged couple doesn’t have to love each other to still be married. An arranged couple can strictly speaking just fulfil the duties thrust upon them by their parents and try to live around that topic. Loveless marriages are a real possibility. The potential of transition from not knowing each other into loving each other in spite of that love not being necessary is more romantic, since it is in a situation that would not be any different if love would not have occurred in it. A love which is not forced strictly because all the forced elements of shared marriage life is ironically free. It’s not necessarily happier, but it’s unforced in its dimensional dimension because it is detached from the everyday living dimension of life. It is for itself and not for any other benefit, not faking itself as an excuse for anything else. It’s a lot like Sartre’s prisoner remaining free in his chains, determining their self conception regardless of their situation
I would love to get married as soon as I can.. it's the primary thing I'll do after graduation.
ive been thinking about it lately
You remind me of MemeAnalysis on TH-cam
So you believe....freedom is relative.....related to societal norms?....you found your soulmate....marriage should never be dictated by societal "norms" I married someone 9 years younger....who I connected with emotionally, spiritually, intellectually and even physically we grew together..matured together....but I honestly found my true and really meaningful connection with him....then he died....so connection is friendship foremost...I agree....but peer pressure societal norms even religion can distort and damage what essentially can be truly blissful....marriage for me is that kind of connection would you agree?
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From a feminist perspective I would argue that marriage has always been an economic institution to ensure and legitimize that women do unpaid care work. I recommend this talk from Dr. Emilia Roig: th-cam.com/video/IN8wsUDmdfQ/w-d-xo.html
Nah. I love variety
you know i like more then like actually this girl she 24 im still 18 and yeah i dont mind the age gap between us ( i dont act, i dont look , i dont think like an 18 year old man) thats what i was told by everyone who met me. But we share same interests we click really good i can feel something for her and thats what makes me afraid will it work out one day? will it not work? what will happen? do i deserve such person like her? personality wise?( i can say she is the imost beautiful creature ive met in my life) thats the scariest part about it…
and the thing is i never told her but whenever i look at her eyes i just cant withstand the feeling that i get the love for her i can never see her alone…
Short answer: No. Long answer: Nope.
Now can you tell me whats most attractive to the SAME sex please?!
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I'm a fence sitter on marriage, neither pro or anti, but I would prefer adoption over having my own kids.
It would depend on whether you are in a MM or FF relationship and whether you believe these to be fundamentally different.
The traditional view is that a marriage is when 2 people make a contract with god. They don't make it with each other. It is a social ceremony where you ask a big society if they agree with your chosen love. If you feel that you need this big society acceptance, then marriage is for you.
Klingon femboy rivalry that over time develops into deep mutual respect.
Trow me across the room and pin me to the wall.
Nice try Ma and Grandma
The answer is yes and have kids
You’re joking right 😂
@@ManiH810 who hurt you?
its not for everyone
I concur.
Every broken family ever.
I dont see the private space and the keeping of children as isolated pets to be at all traditional nore sustainable with out colonized labours..
Anything resembling tradition was cast off into the periphery among said colonized in pursuit of faustian progress
Conservative position yaaaaaaawn, let people choose.
Marriage may be good but children are bad.