They never change. It never stops. I finally got out after he tried to kill me. Years of my father's abuse, and his abuse have left me scarred and cautious. I'm a survivor. I'll never be there again.
I applaud every woman who is able to get out of the situation like this! I was married to my abuser and because of not having to courage to leave he almost killed me! I thank God above every day that I found the strength and courage and I needed because now he is in prison and has been for the last 9 years. He was sentenced to 24 and 3/4 years in Sing Sing prison! I'm one of the lucky ones, I was able to get away and have him put away and I have no visible scars. I pray to god for anyone who is in this situation.. You are stronger than you think! Get out while you still can and save yourself! Don't give him that power instead keep the power for yourself and become the queens that you are!!!
Wow the song really gets to me. To those women out there battling this, I pray you find the strength to get away. Know you are stronger than you believe. ❤
It's been over 10 years since I left. Thank God I did or I might not be writing this today. It was just me and my 3 year old son facing this cruel world alone. He said I'd never be anything without him... Well, he was wrong! I'm a full-time college student getting my PhD in Psychiatry. I didn't let him define the rest of my life. I'm so much stronger and so much wiser. NEVER will I allow a man to beat me again. I wear many scars ladies! But, they are scars of a SURVIVOR!
Amanda J. Good for you! It takes COURAGE,STRENGTH & so much more to finally leave! You did & sound so happy now. Getting your P.H.D. & taking care of your little boy. Definitely a WARRIOR!!! Good on you. ❤️
Good? That is an understatement! Jennifer puts her heart and soul into her music. I've never heard her sing a song i didn't hear, as well as feel. This song...well, it's like it's about me. I remember his hands on me, choking me...his hot breath on my skin as he told me I'm trash. And it reminds me that I'm not a victim...I'm a fucking warrior to fight through all that bullshit to become the strong woman I am today. And I feel MY HEART POUNDING, but instead of pounding from fear, it pounds from excitement, joy, and the true love that I am surrounded by now. Don't ever give up...whatever your fight. Feel your heart pound from joy. ❤❤❤
66 yrs here, after him I could never be with another. 35 yrs alone and I've never gotten over it. He stole my dreams, my family and my hope.. Most of all, he stole my trust.
I have been there! I left with my 2 babies and never looked back! My 2 beautiful angels gave me the strength I needed to get out! If they hit you once they will do it again!!
Lynn Lattea, it took me a long time to finally leave. Packed up my 3 kids when he went to prison. That was my only way out and thank God, I was granted a 50 year TRO. God is good!
Lindsay Mullins make up an excuse to get out of the house an then go call 911 an wait for them an they'll take his ass to jail an they'll put you in a safe house for women an he won't be able to find you. Don't worry about how you will survive with your babies just worry about getting away as fast as you can, without him knowing an everything else will come after. Theres people that will help you. I pray you have already got away from him an if you haven't that you take my advice an do it without him knowing.
I love everything about this song; the lyrics, the message, the voice but the greatest element to this song that I think tends to go unnoticed by many, is the artistry of the drums in the chorus that has a profound impact in replicating the pounding of the heart beat! That is just brilliant!!
Zara, just in case you and others here have not heard it, this cannot touch Jennifer and Brandy Clark's duet version of this. You should seriously check it out. It is 100X better than Jennifer here alone.
Mental abuse is what kept me in the physical abuse. Thank God i got the nerve to leave. I still find myself looking over my shoulder and for his face to be in the news.....
I'm very sorry to all the woman. Who had to suffer abuse of any sort. If you got out you deserve more respect than you will probably ever get. If you're still taking it. Respect yourself. You deserve better. Don't let fear hold you back. God bless you all. X
Marie Borders never a victim here either. My ex tried to shoot me and attempted to kill me again after that. Done! Left and have not gone back. Warrior all the way!!
When I was a teenager I saw my mother going through this. She had always been a strong woman and I thought she wouldn't put up with it but she did for awhile. Him and I went round a couple times too after I knew what was happening when I wasn't around. It finally took me saying you either throw him out and never go back or I'm gone for good. It probably wasn't the right thing to do but nothing else was working and she wasn't listening to anyone. Thank god that did wake her up and she moved on to a better life.
Sometimes that's what it takes. When your in that situation, your so so blind. You don't see your children getting hurt. Your only wanting so so badly to try and fix things. Not realizing that nothing can be fixed. That the bad needs to be cut. Cut off. Only then can the healing begin. Being on the Mother side, and the horrible things being now two years behind us. We're all still healing. The damage has been done. Nothing changes that. We can be thankful for the positive changes ahead. Thank you for your post. My oldest daughter is 13. And you sound like her. She was far wiser than I was. My eyes are wide open now. Peace & Love I was that strong women before this mess. I will get there again.
This is so true. I've known this most of my life. buy you will only hot me once before i defend myself and do damage to you as you did to me. Once im hit that'll be the last time you and i are together. I can't begin to tell any woman the damage physical, sexual, mental and emotional abuse I've suffered throughout the years but i always leave and don't turn back. my kids are who i live for not some man. If you are ever in this situation get out don't stay!!! I did and it is for the better i may not have money but I FINALLY have sanity and peace. Kids don't need a mom who can't function or what money can buy. all they want is love as long as you can get help financially etc you will be ok!
i have been there more than once and i got out each time. many have chosen not to leave and either ended up on the hospital or worse cause they thought it wouldnt happen again or they couldn't do it by themselves. luckily im one of the few that will walk away once im hit
Texasgirl W emotional and mental leave scars on the inside and changes you as a person, I can't comment on physical I've never been that unfortunate thankfully
I watched my Mom and Dad do the abuse thing...I never allowed myself to be in that situation. I know the pain, and I pray for the girls and women who can't break the cycle.
been there and done this...if your being abused, get out before it's to late. your to beautiful,smart, to take men's abuse. it's not your fault... men are just sometimes mean.pick a better man next time... but make the abuse Stop.... draw it here at the end of the line.
Annette Slaughter you hit the nail on the head. I just ran into him unexpectedly and about lost my head. I have to listen to this every time a memory comes which is everyday!
I've been in her position so many times... all u have to do is leave... Even if you love them... I loved 1 of them yet I still left... It was so hard for me though. But I no longer love him...
everyone here who has escaped acts like it's so easy leave if you've been cut off from outside world for almost decade.. intentionally made to be financially dependant.. & have no living extended family who cares let alone talks to you.. when abuser is also police officer of 17yrs & a mother inlaw that will make your life even worse if you get her (can do no wrong) (it's your fault or your mouth) that makes him angry son in trouble by calling police for help or telling ANYONE, it only adds to mountain standing on your back.. when the only positive is not being raped & not having a child w/ the cruel man. someone always has it worse & I'll get to see my mom again one day in heaven is 100% HOPE❤
sharon sullivan . I know how hard it is not to go home. I did, over and over. He never changed. The day came when he could have killed me and my daughter without even knowing or coming back to check on us. That day was it. I had to get out. I found support people and they walked with me through it. I found new friends who were real friends not his friends. He went to prison, and I thought that would make it easier but it didn't. I still missed home. Fast forward to now- I have been out of that relationship for nearly 6 years and I still have times when I get sad but not because of him anymore. I get sad for those who are not able to get out yet. For whatever reason, and I know there is a lot of them. Most people don't understand - they ask all the time why doesn't she just leave? It's not that simple. With time it does get better. I hated hearing that. But it really is true. And every day that comes and goes I get a little bit better than I was the day before. You can too.
Elizabeth Highinbotham , it's been 33 years since he left me for dead, trust me, you never forget. But you do move on. The hate is slow to leave you, but you let it go with time. You move on with your life because that's the best revenge there is.
This song was good until I started to read between the lines. No woman deserves to be treated like that. His good looks, charming voice, nice dick aren't worth the hurtful words, physical abuse you feel need to endure and put up with. Have more dignity, respect and valor to stop it before it begins or continues after the first time. God Bless you ladies. I grew up watching this at home and I'm complete opposite from I witnessed. It's very disturbing to see it.
I watched my mom get beat on for years. She stayed til he died. But it took a toll on her. He had her ao broken. Years later the beating have caught up to her. Its sad. I got with a guy in 2013. He said and did all the right things and then i was in love. Those googles was so thick. We would fight about the other women and i would forgive him. Then one night, a week before Thanksgiving, it all went down. He slung me around our apartment like i was a rag doll. Thats all it took. I wasn't gonna be a victim. I took him to work the next day. Called my boss told her what happened. I was at the ER with a female cop telling her everything. And his ass went to jail. He ended up in prison. He got out in 2015. To only do it to another woman. He got 2 years with 50 days time served. He's been doin this a long time.
Dear God!!!! Help all of us who are knocked around. I want out but I can't seem to get a chance to get out. It's a sad situation for sure.
They never change. It never stops. I finally got out after he tried to kill me. Years of my father's abuse, and his abuse have left me scarred and cautious. I'm a survivor. I'll never be there again.
I applaud every woman who is able to get out of the situation like this! I was married to my abuser and because of not having to courage to leave he almost killed me! I thank God above every day that I found the strength and courage and I needed because now he is in prison and has been for the last 9 years. He was sentenced to 24 and 3/4 years in Sing Sing prison! I'm one of the lucky ones, I was able to get away and have him put away and I have no visible scars. I pray to god for anyone who is in this situation.. You are stronger than you think! Get out while you still can and save yourself! Don't give him that power instead keep the power for yourself and become the queens that you are!!!
Wow the song really gets to me. To those women out there battling this, I pray you find the strength to get away. Know you are stronger than you believe. ❤
It's been over 10 years since I left. Thank God I did or I might not be writing this today. It was just me and my 3 year old son facing this cruel world alone. He said I'd never be anything without him... Well, he was wrong! I'm a full-time college student getting my PhD in Psychiatry. I didn't let him define the rest of my life. I'm so much stronger and so much wiser. NEVER will I allow a man to beat me again. I wear many scars ladies! But, they are scars of a SURVIVOR!
Amanda J. Amen to letting it hurt then letting it go
Amanda J. Congratulations honey, I'm so proud of you..
Amanda J. Good for you! It takes COURAGE,STRENGTH & so much more to finally leave! You did & sound so happy now. Getting your P.H.D. & taking care of your little boy. Definitely a WARRIOR!!! Good on you. ❤️
A. J. I am there now tryna fight and have two kids and lost
A. J. Scars and mistakes that turned into life lessons learned baby girl. I too am a survivor and very glad i made it out alive just last year.
Good? That is an understatement! Jennifer puts her heart and soul into her music. I've never heard her sing a song i didn't hear, as well as feel. This song...well, it's like it's about me. I remember his hands on me, choking me...his hot breath on my skin as he told me I'm trash. And it reminds me that I'm not a victim...I'm a fucking warrior to fight through all that bullshit to become the strong woman I am today. And I feel MY HEART POUNDING, but instead of pounding from fear, it pounds from excitement, joy, and the true love that I am surrounded by now. Don't ever give up...whatever your fight. Feel your heart pound from joy. ❤❤❤
17 years later, I still have ptsd. I’ll never be the girl I used to be. He took her from me...I still miss her. 💜
I'm so sorry. Same here. I start shaking when I see any car like HIS. Sometimes it sucks, but mostly I'm so glad to be away from HIM.
Ginger Chavez Yes! Thankful every day. 💜 We are warriors even if we don’t feel like it some days.
66 yrs here, after him I could never be with another. 35 yrs alone and I've never gotten over it. He stole my dreams, my family and my hope.. Most of all, he stole my trust.
I know the feeling.
WOW!!!! You only understand if u have been their... Breath taken lyrics...
Kenyen Williams completely true
I have been there! I left with my 2 babies and never looked back! My 2 beautiful angels gave me the strength I needed to get out! If they hit you once they will do it again!!
Lynn Lattea I'm right there with you. I got my 2 babies out too!
I am glad you found the strength to get out also!!
Lynn Lattea, it took me a long time to finally leave. Packed up my 3 kids when he went to prison. That was my only way out and thank God, I was granted a 50 year TRO. God is good!
Lindsay Mullins make up an excuse to get out of the house an then go call 911 an wait for them an they'll take his ass to jail an they'll put you in a safe house for women an he won't be able to find you. Don't worry about how you will survive with your babies just worry about getting away as fast as you can, without him knowing an everything else will come after. Theres people that will help you. I pray you have already got away from him an if you haven't that you take my advice an do it without him knowing.
Gives me cold chills her voice is absolutely amazing
I love everything about this song; the lyrics, the message, the voice but the greatest element to this song that I think tends to go unnoticed by many, is the artistry of the drums in the chorus that has a profound impact in replicating the pounding of the heart beat! That is just brilliant!!
I love this song... I'll never be able to forget.. but I'm am stronger too because of it.
I totally understand I'm one of them women
Sending a good message across. Big Thanks Jennifer. ❤
As a man I am disgusted by the way women are mistreated and it seems to be getting worse not better.
the passion in her voice just blows me away!,
john C you feel the song the words you feel
holy shit! that one hits you in the gut. if u have ever been there, you get it. you sooo get it.
Zara, just in case you and others here have not heard it, this cannot touch Jennifer and Brandy Clark's duet version of this. You should seriously check it out. It is 100X better than Jennifer here alone.
Yea I know
Mental abuse is what kept me in the physical abuse. Thank God i got the nerve to leave. I still find myself looking over my shoulder and for his face to be in the news.....
such a touching song. been there.. never again!
I am feeling this way in my marriage right now I need to hear this song
I'm very sorry to all the woman. Who had to suffer abuse of any sort. If you got out you deserve more respect than you will probably ever get. If you're still taking it. Respect yourself. You deserve better. Don't let fear hold you back. God bless you all. X
Mental abuse is the worst I have been thrrw it all b ut the words never really heal.
A man
not a victim nor survivor...I am a Warrior!
self preservation sweets
Marie Borders I love how you put that
Marie Borders as I say fight like a warrior everyday😃💪🏻!
Marie Borders I love how you put it!!! I am a WARRIOR!
Marie Borders never a victim here either. My ex tried to shoot me and attempted to kill me again after that. Done! Left and have not gone back. Warrior all the way!!
Marie Borders me too
When I was a teenager I saw my mother going through this. She had always been a strong woman and I thought she wouldn't put up with it but she did for awhile. Him and I went round a couple times too after I knew what was happening when I wasn't around. It finally took me saying you either throw him out and never go back or I'm gone for good. It probably wasn't the right thing to do but nothing else was working and she wasn't listening to anyone. Thank god that did wake her up and she moved on to a better life.
Sometimes that's what it takes. When your in that situation, your so so blind. You don't see your children getting hurt. Your only wanting so so badly to try and fix things. Not realizing that nothing can be fixed. That the bad needs to be cut. Cut off. Only then can the healing begin.
Being on the Mother side, and the horrible things being now two years behind us. We're all still healing. The damage has been done. Nothing changes that. We can be thankful for the positive changes ahead. Thank you for your post. My oldest daughter is 13. And you sound like her. She was far wiser than I was. My eyes are wide open now. Peace & Love
I was that strong women before this mess. I will get there again.
that song hits home I left with the clothes on my back went back an lucky to be alive
This is so true. I've known this most of my life. buy you will only hot me once before i defend myself and do damage to you as you did to me. Once im hit that'll be the last time you and i are together. I can't begin to tell any woman the damage physical, sexual, mental and emotional abuse I've suffered throughout the years but i always leave and don't turn back. my kids are who i live for not some man. If you are ever in this situation get out don't stay!!! I did and it is for the better i may not have money but I FINALLY have sanity and peace. Kids don't need a mom who can't function or what money can buy. all they want is love as long as you can get help financially etc you will be ok!
You don't know what you will do until you're in that situation. that moment you thought would never happen.
i have been there more than once and i got out each time. many have chosen not to leave and either ended up on the hospital or worse cause they thought it wouldnt happen again or they couldn't do it by themselves. luckily im one of the few that will walk away once im hit
It's sad when a woman won't leave am abusive man. Emotional, mental and
Physical- all hurts
Not sure you get it
Texasgirl W emotional and mental leave scars on the inside and changes you as a person, I can't comment on physical I've never been that unfortunate thankfully
I watched my Mom and Dad do the abuse thing...I never allowed myself to be in that situation. I know the pain, and I pray for the girls and women who can't break the cycle.
been there and done this...if your being abused, get out before it's to late. your to beautiful,smart, to take men's abuse. it's not your fault... men are just sometimes mean.pick a better man next time... but make the abuse Stop.... draw it here at the end of the line.
you never think he would hurt you like that..until he does...
Men need to un
Annette Slaughter you hit the nail on the head. I just ran into him unexpectedly and about lost my head. I have to listen to this every time a memory comes which is everyday!
I love this song it makes me happy
I been there to I left never looking back only forward to my life know happy and free to smile
His eyes looked right through me😓
Awesome !!!
I've been in her position so many times... all u have to do is leave... Even if you love them... I loved 1 of them yet I still left... It was so hard for me though. But I no longer love him...
Amazing Song
everyone here who has escaped acts like it's so easy leave if you've been cut off from outside world for almost decade.. intentionally made to be financially dependant.. & have no living extended family who cares let alone talks to you..
when abuser is also police officer of 17yrs & a mother inlaw that will make your life even worse if you get her
(can do no wrong)
(it's your fault or your mouth) that makes him angry son in trouble by calling police for help or telling ANYONE, it only adds to mountain standing on your back..
when the only positive is not being raped & not having a child w/ the cruel man. someone always has it worse & I'll get to see my mom again one day in heaven is 100% HOPE❤
I'm in the same kind of relationship
Great voice lyrics
Called the police on my husband today... after 3 years of his drunkenness abuse...
You got this ❤️
Stay strong! You are enough and beautiful and worthy of peace in all aspects of your life. You aren't alone!
Just got out 2 months ago and still broken
its been 2 years and every day i just want to go home. cant seem to move forward...
sharon sullivan . I know how hard it is not to go home. I did, over and over. He never changed. The day came when he could have killed me and my daughter without even knowing or coming back to check on us. That day was it. I had to get out. I found support people and they walked with me through it. I found new friends who were real friends not his friends. He went to prison, and I thought that would make it easier but it didn't. I still missed home. Fast forward to now- I have been out of that relationship for nearly 6 years and I still have times when I get sad but not because of him anymore. I get sad for those who are not able to get out yet. For whatever reason, and I know there is a lot of them. Most people don't understand - they ask all the time why doesn't she just leave? It's not that simple.
With time it does get better. I hated hearing that. But it really is true. And every day that comes and goes I get a little bit better than I was the day before.
You can too.
sharon sullivan Dam I know how u feel
same here warrior
jennifer you have the voice the world in your hanfs awesome clothes hat boots go for it
I'm a survivor. Barely.
AWESOMEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
Song is exactly what i am going threw or was 😞 still going threw it. Well the aftetmath
It gets better over time.
slince was the only sound i heard!!!!! he hurt me sooo bad. i dnt knw if i will EVER can forgive him!!!!!
Elizabeth Highinbotham , it's been 33 years since he left me for dead, trust me, you never forget. But you do move on. The hate is slow to leave you, but you let it go with time. You move on with your life because that's the best revenge there is.
#projectsemicolon 💛❤💛❤💛
His hands definitely felt like thunder....
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I'm hurt my feelings scare about
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Jennifer nettles I want help me about my pain
Carrie Underwood brought me here
OMG! This cannot TOUCH her and Brandy Clark's duet version of this! They seem like 2 different songs. Really.
good
did she go solo? did sugarland break up or go hiatus?
Dean Williams she went solo a while while ago 3yrs I want to say
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Wil 💔
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Still country star music video make new videos
If people only loved themselves there would be no domestic violence. I know.
Sittin here waiting on Brandy like, w t h?
This song was good until I started to read between the lines. No woman deserves to be treated like that. His good looks, charming voice, nice dick aren't worth the hurtful words, physical abuse you feel need to endure and put up with. Have more dignity, respect and valor to stop it before it begins or continues after the first time. God Bless you ladies. I grew up watching this at home and I'm complete opposite from I witnessed. It's very disturbing to see it.
I watched my mom get beat on for years. She stayed til he died. But it took a toll on her. He had her ao broken. Years later the beating have caught up to her. Its sad. I got with a guy in 2013. He said and did all the right things and then i was in love. Those googles was so thick. We would fight about the other women and i would forgive him. Then one night, a week before Thanksgiving, it all went down. He slung me around our apartment like i was a rag doll. Thats all it took. I wasn't gonna be a victim. I took him to work the next day. Called my boss told her what happened. I was at the ER with a female cop telling her everything. And his ass went to jail. He ended up in prison. He got out in 2015. To only do it to another woman. He got 2 years with 50 days time served. He's been doin this a long time.
Ok goodnufvff
AWESOMEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE