When my toddler has a tantrum I have a rule for myself where first I acknowledge their emotion letting them know it’s okay to have those big feelings, then I tell him why he can’t do the thing he is doing, and then give him one or two things that he CAN do. This is really a game changer for us, obviously first trying to prevent the tantrums in the first place but like in your case you couldn’t have anticipated her getting upset over not having more oranges. So for example in this case I would say, “i see you are upset that your oranges are all gone. We don’t have any more, but we can color a picture for daddy, or we can go take some deep breathes outside and see how many cars we can count! Which would you like to do?” It gives them a sense of control. If it’s a smaller thing like this I think distraction is best. Offering them a different food likely will upset them so you want to detract the attention from food and give them options that might excite them. Hope this helps!
My parents would do the "I'll give you something real to cry about method". My mother was so self centred, she would never let anyone express any other emotion than being happy 24/7. Even in circumstances of the death of my best friend. Parents who raise their children like you're doing make me so jealous. I wish I had that.
As a speech-language pathologist, this is the best advice to parents on increasing their child's verbal skills! Also, a child's play is their learning time (turn-taking, requesting, joint attention etc.) so have productive playtime! And remember, a child will know 50 words before they can say 10, so if they seem to have a limited, don't freak out! You got this!
My mom always says when I was a kid her or my dad would take me to the car and talk me out of the tantrum. Just talk to me softly and see what’s bothering me. It really helped them!!
My mom told me that when I was a baby, I was not happy whenever someone did the baby talk with me, I’d be like 🤨. I do love what you’re doing with your little one and her growth has been amazing, along with yours too ♥️♥️
I’m sooo excited for baby sister to be here and to watch them grow together!! My baby girl is about to turn 2 months and I’ve watched Eli grow up and you are such a great mom ❤
I'm 24 weeks in 2 days and I love that I can come on here and see your progress too!! This is my first pregnancy so these videos are super interesting for me to see and learn from! Love your content babes xx
You’re the TH-camr I relate to the most… I’m 21 and next week I’ll be 6 months pregnant. I got married at 20 and I’ll be a stay at home mom. It’s so nice to see a girl my age pretty much living my same life.
@@potato1084 actually my husband and I are the same age! He started working in IT right out of high school and didn’t go to college and was able to work his way up quickly to the point where I can stay home. I feel extremely lucky because it’s definitely true that a lot of moms have to end up working.
Toddler tantrums are her feeling big feelings and not knowing how to handle them! Whether she's in public or not, I think a good thing to try would be to meet her where she's at, show her that you understand her emotions, and co regulate with her before correcting any misbehaviors or focusing on the root of the tantrum. Have her practice things like hugging you/rocking back and forth with you, deep breathing, etc. while she's calm so that her body will learn that feeling of relaxation and it'll help her when she's in an escalated state of mind. Meeting her where she's at, showing her that you understand, co regulating, offering little distractions to gently shift her emotional state, and then having a conversation to correct any misbehaviors or talk about what caused the tantrum if necessary is generally a good approach. Toddlers can't process complicated language when they're feeling big feelings, and even if it's in public it's okay to step out to the car to calm down. Even adults need to step out and take a break sometimes! I'm not a mom, but I have a psychology background and experience working with kids :)
I’m not a mom but I’m the oldest sister (22) to twins who are now 5. I would take them to the car, let them calm down, Talk to them, play soft music. You never want to cause a scene by yelling at them, it will make it worse. You’ll be able to resume whatever your doing with a happy baby, unless she’s tired 💕❤️
your videos bring me so much comfort and know that I will be binging all of your mom videos so that I can take notes for when I start a family in the future!
I am not a parent but a much older sibling and I find the approach of gentle parenting/responsive parenting really good, especially because the child herself mostly doesn't even know why she is mad or wants to cry and scream and gentle parenting is a way of trying for them also to understand themselves better, of course this won't work immediatly or anything like that, but it is way for them and also you to handle all these big emotions (Iespecially like mommacusses on youtube, she is great)
Omg Ellie’s looks are so much more grown I can’t believe how much her looks have changed in the last few weeks that’s crazy she’s sooooo CUTE!!!!! Btw Kayla you and your sister are super pretty. And usually in tantrum situations my family will hurry as much as possible and get outta the store
Happy your back I missed you lolz 😂 I’m not a mom but I pretty much raised my niece and when she would have tantrums in public it was usually because she was tired and picking her up and rocking was enough but every kid is different 😊
We missed you threee...... But glad you guys are fine. We were concerned. Btw if she is misbehaving and it is really getting embarrassing for you, you can Do one thing to stop. You should tell her to stop first time and then if she repeats tell her you won't talk to her if she acts like that and literally stop taking for a while. But then hug her and tell her why you were not talking to her. She is intelligent. And Kayla, you're a great mom. Don't you ever feel low.
Where I live, we were only allowed to have the non flavoured glucose drink and even that isn’t too bad. I used a straw and I was able to chug it. I failed the first 1 test and had to do the 3 hour one and the drink is even sweeter. Hope you pass your 1st test this time!
As a college student and a single mom, before going into the store, I talk with my princess, explaining why we are at the store. When she was two years old, I would bring her favorite toy or a book for her 😊🤍
Awh!! Remember practicing feeling calm, because tantrums affect your stress and stimulation levels as a parent. Girls pick up on emotional states very easily, even when they're being told otherwise, I'd say first step is to make sure you're okay by taking some good breaths and then take baby outside in a good area for her to feel/talk out with you on eye-level. :)) something my mom tells me is that I'll never see anyone I see in public again most likely, not to be inconsiderate to them, but to help me de-stress when I feel most eyes are on me in a circumstance
advice on the tantrums from a nursing student with no kids, they taught us to let the child have that tantrum especially at that age. allow them to act out because the only reason why they’re doing it is because they want a reaction from you. once they know they can get your attention, they’ll continue to do it and get their way. allowing them to have their tantrum will let them realize what they’re doing won’t let them get their way, and it will help a lot with how they act in the future. hope this helps🫶🏼
And yes my toddler does the same thing with her snacks lol it’s so cute but far as the tantrum in public, I never take her to the car. Sometimes I let her have her moment but most of the time, we’re always giving her more attention and just playing with her when she does get fussy and then she’s fine! But I know all babies and toddlers are different when it comes to that but that’s what works for us!😁
I took care of all my 3 siblings as the oldest. if she throws a tantrum ignore the public. kids cry and they can get over it, their attitudes can go somewhere. redirect and if that doesn't work and you'd rather deal with the tantrum in peace i used to walk my sibling either to the bathroom, a quiet space or outside real quick to practice taking a breath and talking it out together, not the car, i feel straight to the car and leaving isn't the greatest decision since it kind of teaches the kid to just giving up and go (i'm not bashing it entirely, just a recommended tip from me) i know sometimes you just got to go. kids sometimes wont break. Moms are tough but you are a good one kayla!! dont worry
Tantrums are an overload and overflow of emotions. It's not naughtiness, it's just a little one expressing that they have a lot of feels at once and can't recognize and regulate all of those emotions. It's a lot on little humans. And it's usually not the situation where the tantrum is had that caused it but rather the situation that filled the rest of their emotional cup. Providing comfort, understanding and safety is the best way to help any human regulate what they're feeling 💖
My baby girl is a lil younger but we use the ittzy bittzy spider as a calm down song. We sing it really slow and will repeat until she calms down or I can remove her from a situation to calm down
I have a two year old sister and she does the same thing as well she also loves running away to other people and always wants to leave with those strangers the best thing to do is pick her up and ask her what’s wrong take her outside for a little and talk to her there and assure her it will be alright
Aww in love with your baby bump🥺❤️ can’t wait. I’m not a mom. But I have nieces and nephews. I just bring their fav toy awhile out in public 😌 or watching Mickey Mouse
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idc what you guys tell me, but kayla is such a good mom to her kids and i LOVE it!!
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When my toddler has a tantrum I have a rule for myself where first I acknowledge their emotion letting them know it’s okay to have those big feelings, then I tell him why he can’t do the thing he is doing, and then give him one or two things that he CAN do. This is really a game changer for us, obviously first trying to prevent the tantrums in the first place but like in your case you couldn’t have anticipated her getting upset over not having more oranges. So for example in this case I would say, “i see you are upset that your oranges are all gone. We don’t have any more, but we can color a picture for daddy, or we can go take some deep breathes outside and see how many cars we can count! Which would you like to do?” It gives them a sense of control. If it’s a smaller thing like this I think distraction is best. Offering them a different food likely will upset them so you want to detract the attention from food and give them options that might excite them. Hope this helps!
Giving them options and then letting them pick always works
My parents would do the "I'll give you something real to cry about method". My mother was so self centred, she would never let anyone express any other emotion than being happy 24/7. Even in circumstances of the death of my best friend.
Parents who raise their children like you're doing make me so jealous. I wish I had that.
sometimes at the childcare center i work at, we take them outside to cool down & collect their emotions while talking through what they may be feeling
yes my famiily takes my brothers outside or to the car depending n talk it out n come back when theyre ready. definitely not ignore
Watching Ellie just makes my day… it’s kinda sad that she’s growing up so fast 🥲 but it’s also cute to see her talk 🥺
As a speech-language pathologist, this is the best advice to parents on increasing their child's verbal skills! Also, a child's play is their learning time (turn-taking, requesting, joint attention etc.) so have productive playtime! And remember, a child will know 50 words before they can say 10, so if they seem to have a limited, don't freak out! You got this!
Thanks for sharing!!
when I’m ready to have kids one day, i’m gonna look back at her videos for advice … so thank you in advance kayla ❤️
you are absolutely glowing Kayla. you are such a good mom and proud of you🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
My mom always says when I was a kid her or my dad would take me to the car and talk me out of the tantrum. Just talk to me softly and see what’s bothering me. It really helped them!!
My mom told me that when I was a baby, I was not happy whenever someone did the baby talk with me, I’d be like 🤨. I do love what you’re doing with your little one and her growth has been amazing, along with yours too ♥️♥️
It's very nice to see such warm home videos with your baby inside and with the baby next to you. I wish you happiness and joy! Enjoy every moment.
I love the way how you handle your pregnancyyyy and toooodler! So proud of you. Its motivate me ❤️ in my 1st trimester ❤
Ellie’s breakfast always looks like it slaps I’m jealous 😂😂
I’m sooo excited for baby sister to be here and to watch them grow together!! My baby girl is about to turn 2 months and I’ve watched Eli grow up and you are such a great mom ❤
I feel at home when i see your videos, you're so inspiring. Lots of love to you and your family 💗
Thank you so much!
@@KaylaKosuga OMG 😭❤️🩹
You are an amazing mommy. Both of your girls are lucky they will have you as a role model mom.😢❤
its crazy how i watched u grow up and start your own family and everything, been watching ur videos since you were 15!! congradulationssss
I'm 24 weeks in 2 days and I love that I can come on here and see your progress too!! This is my first pregnancy so these videos are super interesting for me to see and learn from! Love your content babes xx
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You’re the TH-camr I relate to the most… I’m 21 and next week I’ll be 6 months pregnant. I got married at 20 and I’ll be a stay at home mom. It’s so nice to see a girl my age pretty much living my same life.
Damnnn you must be married to some older rich dude if you can be a stay at home mom at 21 😅 Most can’t even afford motherhood while working
@@potato1084 actually my husband and I are the same age! He started working in IT right out of high school and didn’t go to college and was able to work his way up quickly to the point where I can stay home. I feel extremely lucky because it’s definitely true that a lot of moms have to end up working.
Kayla I honestly love these videos! Puts me in mind of me and daughter while my fiancé at work🥹❤️
Glad you like them!
honestly my fav yt mom and toddler ever ❤ missed u guys
I can tell Ellie is gonna be such a good big sis
Toddler tantrums are her feeling big feelings and not knowing how to handle them! Whether she's in public or not, I think a good thing to try would be to meet her where she's at, show her that you understand her emotions, and co regulate with her before correcting any misbehaviors or focusing on the root of the tantrum. Have her practice things like hugging you/rocking back and forth with you, deep breathing, etc. while she's calm so that her body will learn that feeling of relaxation and it'll help her when she's in an escalated state of mind. Meeting her where she's at, showing her that you understand, co regulating, offering little distractions to gently shift her emotional state, and then having a conversation to correct any misbehaviors or talk about what caused the tantrum if necessary is generally a good approach. Toddlers can't process complicated language when they're feeling big feelings, and even if it's in public it's okay to step out to the car to calm down. Even adults need to step out and take a break sometimes! I'm not a mom, but I have a psychology background and experience working with kids :)
I’m not a mom but I’m the oldest sister (22) to twins who are now 5. I would take them to the car, let them calm down, Talk to them, play soft music. You never want to cause a scene by yelling at them, it will make it worse. You’ll be able to resume whatever your doing with a happy baby, unless she’s tired 💕❤️
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your videos bring me so much comfort and know that I will be binging all of your mom videos so that I can take notes for when I start a family in the future!
Can’t wait to see when you have two of your daughters in the vlogs 💞
Me too!!
you’re such a good mom kayla 🥹❤
Your videos are just so calming, i look forward to them ❤️ really excited for the new addition 💜
Does anyone else want to be a mom like Kayla, when they have kids? 😂😅
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Nice seeing you Kayla and Ellianna too! Missed you so much! Looking forward to watching new updates ! Xoxoxo 💕😘
I am not a parent but a much older sibling and I find the approach of gentle parenting/responsive parenting really good, especially because the child herself mostly doesn't even know why she is mad or wants to cry and scream and gentle parenting is a way of trying for them also to understand themselves better, of course this won't work immediatly or anything like that, but it is way for them and also you to handle all these big emotions (Iespecially like mommacusses on youtube, she is great)
God bless you and your family. We will support you no matter what.
Your little family >>>>> ❤
Finally, I missed you and your family 😊♥️
Probably the best family! Love your Vlogs, Kayla.
Love your mom life vlog so much! ❤
More to come!
I love this mom content 🥺💓
The way I stopped studying and instantly clicked on your video 😂😂💞💞
HAPPY NEW YEAR KAYLA!
it’s been so long since i’ve watched you🥹 another baby?????? i’m so happy for you guys🫶🏻❤️
You are an amazing mom kayla!!! I am your duaghter fan she is the custest toddler..love from india ❤❤
You are an amazing mom!🤍 with two kids!!🦋
Thank you so much!!
We usually take our kids outside to walk around and calm them down. It’s always worked and they can get some energy out by running outside.
Omg Ellie’s looks are so much more grown I can’t believe how much her looks have changed in the last few weeks that’s crazy she’s sooooo CUTE!!!!! Btw Kayla you and your sister are super pretty. And usually in tantrum situations my family will hurry as much as possible and get outta the store
So true!
Missed your videos and you make great content
I appreciate that!
You look so amazing without makeup girl like ur GORG!
Ngl I’m obsessed with this channel. 😩😩. And Kayla you’re like the coolest mama I swear 😩💞
Wooo!! Been waiting for a new vid :)
Happy your back I missed you lolz 😂 I’m not a mom but I pretty much raised my niece and when she would have tantrums in public it was usually because she was tired and picking her up and rocking was enough but every kid is different 😊
Love your little family so much!! You inspire me so much Kayla 🖤
Ellie is growing up so much!!!
I know right 😅
I’m so happy tat you posted this ❤❤
Omg congrats! Time is flying 😭❣️
Super random but you’re stunning 🤭 and you have gorgeous hair! ♥️ love your vids girl! 👏🏼
Kayla pls be careful and don’t do a lot of things take careful of yourself and hope the best for you!❤
We missed you threee...... But glad you guys are fine. We were concerned. Btw if she is misbehaving and it is really getting embarrassing for you, you can Do one thing to stop. You should tell her to stop first time and then if she repeats tell her you won't talk to her if she acts like that and literally stop taking for a while. But then hug her and tell her why you were not talking to her. She is intelligent. And Kayla, you're a great mom. Don't you ever feel low.
You're such a good mom to eli! 💕 Keep doing what you're doing!!
Your literally glowing Kayla omg 🤍😍 And Elliana is growing up so fast too 🥺 So proud of you mama and Elijah!! 💕💕
so happy you’re posting again!!! 🤍🤍
Where I live, we were only allowed to have the non flavoured glucose drink and even that isn’t too bad. I used a straw and I was able to chug it. I failed the first 1 test and had to do the 3 hour one and the drink is even sweeter. Hope you pass your 1st test this time!
Baby Ellie is a big girl now 😳fit to be a loving big sister❤️ waiting to see baby#2😘 Kayla ❤️
missed you Kayla!
You're such an amazing mum😭😭
As a college student and a single mom, before going into the store, I talk with my princess, explaining why we are at the store. When she was two years old, I would bring her favorite toy or a book for her 😊🤍
currently 19 weeks & im so excited for this 🥺🥺
Awwwwwww I love all your videos and you guys make the cutest family ever 🥰🥰
Ellie talking is the cutest thing ever!❤
Wow daddy's pretty princess is growing so fast love you all ☺️☺️🇨🇦🇨🇦
Awh!! Remember practicing feeling calm, because tantrums affect your stress and stimulation levels as a parent. Girls pick up on emotional states very easily, even when they're being told otherwise, I'd say first step is to make sure you're okay by taking some good breaths and then take baby outside in a good area for her to feel/talk out with you on eye-level. :)) something my mom tells me is that I'll never see anyone I see in public again most likely, not to be inconsiderate to them, but to help me de-stress when I feel most eyes are on me in a circumstance
I missed you Kayla!! Loved this video so much 😭😭😭❤️
Ur literally such a cool mom
ELI IS SO BIG🥹 OMG TIME IS FAST AND U GREW FAST FR
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Yayyy 🤩seeing another video makes me so happy and congrats again!!🤗
advice on the tantrums from a nursing student with no kids, they taught us to let the child have that tantrum especially at that age. allow them to act out because the only reason why they’re doing it is because they want a reaction from you. once they know they can get your attention, they’ll continue to do it and get their way. allowing them to have their tantrum will let them realize what they’re doing won’t let them get their way, and it will help a lot with how they act in the future. hope this helps🫶🏼
stunning as always
Thank you! 😊
Omg i clicked so fast 🤣
You are such a good mom Kayla 💕
You know you LOVE kayla when u watch her vedios over n over just to watch the ads to make her happy..
Love you Kayla🫶🏼💕your such a good mom
So excited to watch xxx
You’re amazing 💗
This was so cute 🥰💖💖
She’s growing so fast🥺🥺
Kayla you go gurl you are doing so good like💪🥺💗
I LOVEE THIS SMALL FAMILYY❤❤u and Elijah are soo cute and elllie is such a cutieee
Her hi is the cutest!
I’m a mom to a 1 year old and you’re my idol 🥹❤️❤️❤️ i love your relationship with Ellie ❤️
Finally the long wait is over
And yes my toddler does the same thing with her snacks lol it’s so cute but far as the tantrum in public, I never take her to the car. Sometimes I let her have her moment but most of the time, we’re always giving her more attention and just playing with her when she does get fussy and then she’s fine! But I know all babies and toddlers are different when it comes to that but that’s what works for us!😁
She saying by ellie saying bye had me cracking up ellie is so cutee she made my day
omggg ellie is literally the cutest
Finally you posted!!!!! Yayyyy🤞
I took care of all my 3 siblings as the oldest. if she throws a tantrum ignore the public. kids cry and they can get over it, their attitudes can go somewhere. redirect and if that doesn't work and you'd rather deal with the tantrum in peace i used to walk my sibling either to the bathroom, a quiet space or outside real quick to practice taking a breath and talking it out together, not the car, i feel straight to the car and leaving isn't the greatest decision since it kind of teaches the kid to just giving up and go (i'm not bashing it entirely, just a recommended tip from me) i know sometimes you just got to go. kids sometimes wont break. Moms are tough but you are a good one kayla!! dont worry
girl??? your hair and skin looks AMAZING
Tantrums are an overload and overflow of emotions. It's not naughtiness, it's just a little one expressing that they have a lot of feels at once and can't recognize and regulate all of those emotions. It's a lot on little humans. And it's usually not the situation where the tantrum is had that caused it but rather the situation that filled the rest of their emotional cup. Providing comfort, understanding and safety is the best way to help any human regulate what they're feeling 💖
My baby girl is a lil younger but we use the ittzy bittzy spider as a calm down song. We sing it really slow and will repeat until she calms down or I can remove her from a situation to calm down
Waiting for the baby angel to come ❤
Love you Kayla!
“Elijah did pick this name out…but it’s not Margo” LOL I remember this from Elli’s gender vid (I believe)
I have a two year old sister and she does the same thing as well she also loves running away to other people and always wants to leave with those strangers the best thing to do is pick her up and ask her what’s wrong take her outside for a little and talk to her there and assure her it will be alright
Aww in love with your baby bump🥺❤️ can’t wait. I’m not a mom. But I have nieces and nephews. I just bring their fav toy awhile out in public 😌 or watching Mickey Mouse