Sorry Mary you had to go through this. He used the title of a pastor to take advantage. Do not ignore the red flags, so many people will fall for this evil man. In a relationship both parties have to add value. The man is evil, abused you financially, emotionally, physically etc. Do not be desperate ladies so many bad people out there have to have a dicerning spirit. A man should work, someone lazy should not marry. Better to not bring children into an unstable relationship because children deserve better and unlikely to improve a damaged relationship. Be very careful with men who only want papers and not genuine love. From the story Mary gave 100% and the man gave -100%.
You paying for IVF broke me, because I did exactly the same thing with no thank you. You are not alone Mary, I walked away after 13 years, today I am blessed. God has started wiping your tears away, just trust God.
Dear Mary, you have HEALED. From the way you narrated the story, it shows you have HEALEEEEEEEEEEEEED. I am having chills all over, my goodness. Aunty BBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBB, YOU ARE LOVED, thank You soooooooooooo much for bringing lessons to us, thank You.
This sister bounced back she is one of the lucky ones. Our society especially Nigerian one is full of narcissistic personality because of how boys are raised. It is a spectrum. If it is full blown run for the door.
The fact that he was a pastor is a red flag, then he is waiting for an asylum claim another clear red flag and then wanting to move in with the lady is another red flag. Women are far too kind and men will exploit that. Also that your first date he came to your house rather than he take you out to say a restaurant is another red flag.
7 years is such a long time to suffer, Unimaginable. At least you found your strength in the end and walked away. Do your very best to say no to abusers , work on any emotional or psychological needs build yourself up before going into another relationship. Above all , stay safe.
Mary, you are one such strong woman... This could have driven someone to a mental home.. But you made it through and now supporting others. God bless and enrich you. Provide your true husband who would clear your tears and appreciate you as you should. Amen!
I am watching this program now and very broken. I can't even sleep because of your pain and stress. Too painful and crying. How can this wicked man treat you like? I am happy you canceled the paper. I am proud of you Ms. Mary. Continue to be healed.
This story give headache and even more headache when I heard 7 yrs Lord have mercy Didn’t know people like him exist So sorry you had to go through this Sending love to you❤️ The Lord is your strength 🙏🏾
Thank God Almighty, you survived this lesson. As I listen to your story,you are a woman that loves God. Everything that you lost in the marriage,you will recover it in Jesus name Amen. Your saddened will turns into joy. You made me laughed.
Perjury is when you lie in court. Mary, Mary, I am proud of you. I screamed in joy when I heard you cancelled the paper. Praise the Lord for wisdom for that. You did the right thing by severing ties with him; let the other lady file his papers for him. I was so happy he didn't get that off you. I am happy you had the strength to move on. It was the right thing dear. He abused you physically, mentally even using sex as a tool to punish you was satanic. In all, I am proud of you. We have learnt from your story. May God bless you and your dear children. It is well... I wish I could give you a big bear hug but God gat you dear...
The pastors are always men. And as mentioned some of them are adulterers, women barterers, and in the same cults. Their counsellings even from the Word of God is always something surrounded by what favour men, nothing like completely reading Ephesians 5:21-31, 33. Well done though Bridget for bringing these life experiences on your platform, you're no doubt helping one or more ladies, and that's what it is for, for real!
I just want to thank and praise God for given Ms Mary the grace and strength to overcome all the stress and distress,she is already a winner and Victoria through God that strength her,God will give her a total healing into her life,our good God will replace all that she invested and lost with the so called tunde, with good deeds as her own hearts welln and desire with good health,happiness,peace,LLNP IJAN AMEN,I am sending Mary big hugs and love❤️❤️❤️.
This Pastor had noticed your character in church before making his moves!!! So sorry you had to go through this cause you sound like one of those good women who do anything to get married...
I Listen to this show most evenings when i'm in the kitchen, and really these stories are heartbreaking, Thank God for Mary. I'm presently based in Abu Dhabi UAE with hubby, and i'm greatful to God i didnt let any Red flag be overlooked during our long distance relationship, though no negative signs though. Ladies, let's learn to always apply logic not just emotions when choosing partners. God Help US ALL 🙌🙌❤❤
@@favourazukaego3803 Of course there are habits a partner have you necessarily wouldn't like or agree to, nevertheless it mustn't be an adversely negative attitude that devours the values and principles of marriage and you as a person. We've all gat to strive to be better People daily. God help Us All🙌❤️❤️👍👍.
I keep missing the live, this time difference. Mary went through a lot but she had her sense about her despite everything. Seems it was more about being married than anything else. African women need to stop allowing societal pressures of needing to be married and religiosity to rush into dangerous relationships or stay in one. Marriage is not on the cards for everyone and we aren’t all meant to marry at same age or have kids at same time. Build up your self esteem and love who you are and you will meet the right one at right time.
Endurance is killing my good people oooo. Ladies please choose happiness do not endure rubbish in any relationship or friendship!!!! Choose peace of mind.... Endurance never ends well it only wastes precious time❤ Love love love you aunty B... you are a true blessing xxxxx
My sister thank you for your history🙏 always remember who love you will always add into your life. This fake pastor was trying to isolate you from friends and family first, which is the red flags. Fake pastor will always bring confusion, they will emotionally, physically and financially abuse you. thank God for l your life you are out of this relationship.
Our women should please becareful and stop listening to other telling them women should endure in marriage. Our women are taught to endure whatever these men dish out by making them believe there are no men out there or that is what marriage is about. That is bloody nonsense and bullshit! Please women OPEN your eyes. Teach your daughters not to accept any form of verbal, physical or emotional abuse or control, ever!!!
I know a few so called Pastors that left their wife and married a friend's wife after destroying their home. They also isolate the woman from all her friends and family (siblings). If you are the woman paying most of the bills, please don't complain just get out of that relationship fast. Otherwise your life will be in danger.
Evil so call pastor it's will never be well with him for bringing shame to God's kingdom. Mary thank God that you made it alive many are not here today to share their story. God will recompense you 7 holds in Jesus mighty name.
Good evening sister B may God continue to bless you for all u are doing and thank God for Mary for coming out alive and by God's grace all will be well with you and God bless
Aunty Mary, I just want to give you a hug, you are a good hearted woman. I'm so sorry you walked through all that. May GOD surround you with his perfect peace, and love, in Jesus name. Thank you for being brave and sharing your story, so others can be helped. I pray for healing and joy in your life.
The legal term when you lie under oath in Court is called Perjury. Court can convict you for misleading and committing perjury. Let's learn not to violate the law.
Holly Spirit don suffer for some Nigerians hands. He has a special place for those types of people. Una see all these charlatans my people RUN!!!!from them, don't look back. That one na number one red flag , I personally don't acknowledge them.
Sis Mary, I'm so glad you eventually realised what you were dealing with which was a real wicked demon. He has all the typical red flag signs of a narcissist which I have discussed on my channel. Sis B asked if you knew why he was starving you of sexual intimacy and you replied you did not know. Narcissist males often do this to control their spouse. It's another form of emotional abuse. He purposely wanted to make you feel useless, worried, anxious, unattractive, confused, and to keep begging him. He was also able to starve you because he was busy sleeping with the other woman all along. (Possibly multiple women). Unfortunately, his new woman will receive the exact same treatment because narcissists never change their behaviour! Anyway sis Mary, God has given you a second chance. Take time to heal, get some therapy if you can and know that you are a true survivor. Your story will save so many women! God bless you ♥️
Mine I was introduced by a pastor, his wife and a friend! No Papers, No Job. We got married a week he witnessed my Citizenship Ceremony here in Atlanta Georgia.
I'm so happy she survived. People make mistakes and she admitted it. I'm so happy for her that she's been released. That new woman that took him in will be his nightmare. What goes around always comes around. That man will reap what he has sown. Mary will find the right person one day. When she least expects it❤
2 Thessalonians 3:10 "For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat". 1 Timothy 5:8 "But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household (referring to wife and children), he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever".
The man is not a pastor, but a devil. He really used you. God will pay him back. You invested your time, money and your emotion hundred percent and he took advantage of you.
This woman has surely been through a lot. Her suffering is not in vain God is too faithful to allow that. Much as this story was sad she still made me laugh hard she is so funny at God's appointment time a good man will come along and enjoy and appreciate you and this humour.
I've also never understood church women and their pastors. Infact if there is anyone I never admired to marry was a pastor or someone who has a big position in the church.
I say this from a good place, Nigerian women have been conditioned to be extremely desperate for marriage, its a do or die affair for them....Nigerian men know this so they take the piss big time.....Ladies, nothing worse than showing a man that you are desperate, never ever do it. I love that this woman was able to leave him, millions are still in these toxic marriages, you see them misbehaving on the street, its because of the toxic environment they are coming from
I married a Pastor too which turn to be monster and the terrible married in community which put my life in danger.I thank God got out of that marriage alive.
Wow! Wow! Aunty Mary, don't worry, God will restore the years you lost with this lazy person. I call him person because I really don't want to be rude but he is less than a man, less than a boy! Chai! God will expose all these devil's agents that hide inside the church! This is why I told my mum that I avoid Nigerian churches here but she doesn't understand. I have heard a lot of stories on this platform and somehow, the church gave one bad advise or the other. It is well. Aunty Mary you are strong and God will bless you.
So sorry Mary I had to go through that hell. Are you 2 still married? It might be me but this man is not a true Christian let alone being a pastor. Sending you bundles of love
Good women always suffer. I wish I could give this lady a big hug. She really suffered for a lazy fool of a man. The hatred towards this lady was real. He must have used juju on her because there is no way a woman can love someone who hates her like this. Stockholm syndrome is real . God forbid.
It is not your resident pastor's job to inform you of your fiancee's escapades but your fiancee should be the one informing you of their past. This sister has empathy hence the narc. was attracted but recovered herself quickly if she had a child with him the narc might still be around.
Wow am I right in saying the Holy Spirit told her to accept him back for her benefit as the Holy Spirit knew she was going to have a concussion due to the strangulation…Our father is TRULY mighty. He really makes sense out of nonsense.
Sis B the narcissist starts with the love bombing, then they give u the silent treatment after they have trapped u. That's what the sex deprivation was. The person will be so confused and pleading for forgiveness over something u don't understand. That's the narcissist game before the real evil starts.
Lady you're a goddess to put up with that demon for so long....he is going to get a special punishment!!!!!, don't worry, his day is going to come!!!!!!
I'm not even Nigerian but I've always come across good Nigerian women. Infact I have a good Nigerian friend who is so good at giving advise. But when it comes to the men, I don't get it I just get scared of befriending them. I'm sure there are so many good Nigerian men out there.
All I can say Sister Mary, is God has delivered you from the so called himself a Pastor and I thank God for that I am so sorry for 7 years of torment. I don’t trust any person called pastor, yes I am a Christian and go to church, I listen to their sermons but that’s as far as it goes. The day any Pastor from a church knows my name that’s my cue to find another church.
Congratulations to you Mary for coming out in one piece from the hottest part of hell fire in marriage. The true holy spirit will heal your scarred life and heart IJN.
My ex-husband was a pastor. He was narcissist, abusive mentally, emotionally and financially. On top of that he was a criminal. He always borrowed, lied, not responsible and always blame the devil.
Mine is making money now. But old fashioned house, preparing for his wife and 3 kids from Ghana secretly. If not for GOD ALMIGHTY revealed on time his evil plans he is planning against me. We are still married ooo up till now. He is still keeping up with his plans. His wife is diabolical and he knows it. This is a Man of GOD that if you see him, he is a kind of man that can never hurt a fly.
Please give out his name. Because he had eaten when you were at work, and you're unaware of it, I am lost of words. But happy for you Mary because you got out of such a toxic, tormented relationship. How submissive woman, you are!
Not necessarily a red flag in every circumstances or situations, Because basically it depends on the individual ,and in actual fact I have seen situations where a man wanted marriage right from day one and the marriage is still working up till this day.So in actual fact sociologically/psychologically speaking you don't use one example that did not go well to judge all other situations. Because every individual is different. so I refuse to accept that if someone wants marriage on day one should be considered a red flag because you don't know what that individual has gone through previously and wants a different situations.
But some stay married but are not happy, just enduring. I will say in most cases, it’s not a good idea to say you want to marry someone right from day one. You got to date first to understand and know each other
You can tell someone from day one that I am not here to play, I want marriage. However, it is still important to go through the courtship. That’s when you pray, ask questions, you discuss important things etc. Never be desperate because someone says he or she wants marriage.
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Sorry Mary you had to go through this. He used the title of a pastor to take advantage. Do not ignore the red flags, so many people will fall for this evil man. In a relationship both parties have to add value. The man is evil, abused you financially, emotionally, physically etc. Do not be desperate ladies so many bad people out there have to have a dicerning spirit. A man should work, someone lazy should not marry. Better to not bring children into an unstable relationship because children deserve better and unlikely to improve a damaged relationship. Be very careful with men who only want papers and not genuine love. From the story Mary gave 100% and the man gave -100%.
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“Mary said: I cancelled the paper” That’s one of the highlights for me in this story. Made me very happy.
Yes oooh, let the new woman continue from where she stopped. Who nor go nor know.
You paying for IVF broke me, because I did exactly the same thing with no thank you. You are not alone Mary, I walked away after 13 years, today I am blessed. God has started wiping your tears away, just trust God.
I'm 59 years old and live in Us l have make some many mistake in life l just pray and move on, pray that we don't make one that will kill us
Dear Mary, you have HEALED. From the way you narrated the story, it shows you have HEALEEEEEEEEEEEEED. I am having chills all over, my goodness. Aunty BBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBB, YOU ARE LOVED, thank You soooooooooooo much for bringing lessons to us, thank You.
This sister bounced back she is one of the lucky ones. Our society especially Nigerian one is full of narcissistic personality because of how boys are raised. It is a spectrum. If it is full blown run for the door.
So true. It's endemic in our society
Tell me about it. That’s what our African women go through everyday both at home and in abroad.
The fact that he was a pastor is a red flag, then he is waiting for an asylum claim another clear red flag and then wanting to move in with the lady is another red flag. Women are far too kind and men will exploit that. Also that your first date he came to your house rather than he take you out to say a restaurant is another red flag.
7 years is such a long time to suffer,
Unimaginable. At least you found your strength in the end and walked away. Do your very best to say no to abusers , work on any emotional or psychological needs build yourself up before going into another relationship. Above all , stay safe.
Mary, you are one such strong woman...
This could have driven someone to a mental home..
But you made it through and now supporting others.
God bless and enrich you. Provide your true husband who would clear your tears and appreciate you as you should. Amen!
A lot of women had fallen victim because the guy is pastor. I know of 8 ladies who married to so call pastors only to end up in full sadness.
I am watching this program now and very broken. I can't even sleep because of your pain and stress. Too painful and crying. How can this wicked man treat you like? I am happy you canceled the paper. I am proud of you Ms. Mary. Continue to be healed.
This story give headache and even more headache when I heard 7 yrs
Lord have mercy
Didn’t know people like him exist
So sorry you had to go through this
Sending love to you❤️
The Lord is your strength 🙏🏾
Thank God Almighty, you survived this lesson. As I listen to your story,you are a woman that loves God. Everything that you lost in the marriage,you will recover it in Jesus name Amen. Your saddened will turns into joy. You made me laughed.
Mary you are Such a strong woman, a very brave and courageous woman. God will continually strengthen you, you made the right decision.
This story needs to become a movie 🎥 Thanks 🙏🏽 for sharing your story.
This path of my story
This is a classic case of Love Bombing
+ "crazy making"
Perjury is when you lie in court.
Mary, Mary, I am proud of you. I screamed in joy when I heard you cancelled the paper. Praise the Lord for wisdom for that. You did the right thing by severing ties with him; let the other lady file his papers for him. I was so happy he didn't get that off you. I am happy you had the strength to move on. It was the right thing dear. He abused you physically, mentally even using sex as a tool to punish you was satanic.
In all, I am proud of you. We have learnt from your story. May God bless you and your dear children. It is well... I wish I could give you a big bear hug but God gat you dear...
I believe it's only perjury when u lie under oath.
The pastors are always men. And as mentioned some of them are adulterers, women barterers, and in the same cults. Their counsellings even from the Word of God is always something surrounded by what favour men, nothing like completely reading Ephesians 5:21-31, 33. Well done though Bridget for bringing these life experiences on your platform, you're no doubt helping one or more ladies, and that's what it is for, for real!
I just want to thank and praise God for given Ms Mary the grace and strength to overcome all the stress and distress,she is already a winner and Victoria through God that strength her,God will give her a total healing into her life,our good God will replace all that she invested and lost with the so called tunde, with good deeds as her own hearts welln and desire with good health,happiness,peace,LLNP IJAN AMEN,I am sending Mary big hugs and love❤️❤️❤️.
This Pastor had noticed your character in church before making his moves!!! So sorry you had to go through this cause you sound like one of those good women who do anything to get married...
I Listen to this show most evenings when i'm in the kitchen, and really these stories are heartbreaking, Thank God for Mary. I'm presently based in Abu Dhabi UAE with hubby, and i'm greatful to God i didnt let any Red flag be overlooked during our long distance relationship, though no negative signs though. Ladies, let's learn to always apply logic not just emotions when choosing partners. God Help US ALL 🙌🙌❤❤
Babe, ur lucky. Hardly found a man without red flags 😢
@@favourazukaego3803 Of course there are habits a partner have you necessarily wouldn't like or agree to, nevertheless it mustn't be an adversely negative attitude that devours the values and principles of marriage and you as a person. We've all gat to strive to be better People daily. God help Us All🙌❤️❤️👍👍.
@@vickieogb1262 yeah. Thanks,
I keep missing the live, this time difference.
Mary went through a lot but she had her sense about her despite everything. Seems it was more about being married than anything else.
African women need to stop allowing societal pressures of needing to be married and religiosity to rush into dangerous relationships or stay in one. Marriage is not on the cards for everyone and we aren’t all meant to marry at same age or have kids at same time.
Build up your self esteem and love who you are and you will meet the right one at right time.
Endurance is killing my good people oooo. Ladies please choose happiness do not endure rubbish in any relationship or friendship!!!! Choose peace of mind.... Endurance never ends well it only wastes precious time❤ Love love love you aunty B... you are a true blessing xxxxx
God hates divorce yes but God loves you so dearly to watch to suffer. 💕
Those of you disliking this video ehn, you need to receive sense. This is damn educative, haba! get sense oooooooooooooooooo.
Mary, you are a HERO!! wow. The way you pulled it off in the end is LEGENDARY!!
My sister thank you for your history🙏 always remember who love you will always add into your life. This fake pastor was trying to isolate you from friends and family first, which is the red flags. Fake pastor will always bring confusion, they will emotionally, physically and financially abuse you. thank God for l your life you are out of this relationship.
Our women should please becareful and stop listening to other telling them women should endure in marriage. Our women are taught to endure whatever these men dish out by making them believe there are no men out there or that is what marriage is about. That is bloody nonsense and bullshit! Please women OPEN your eyes. Teach your daughters not to accept any form of verbal, physical or emotional abuse or control, ever!!!
Oh God this woman is a good woman 🥲
This is incredible! Like they say in Nigeria……’No be juju be that…’. I don’t mean to trivialise anything but I seriously feel for this lady
'There is no award for who suffer pass'
MaryMary! I cancelled the paper!!! the joy in my heart
Good one! Mary, well done Mary for cancelling the paper, I'm so delighted!
Demonic man,thank you for your boldness,may the lord help you and lift you high.You are a real woman of God.
Please give the full name of these bad guys so that others do not fall into their trap in the future.
Waoo I thank God for your life sister Mary. You survived the whole trauma because God assignment in your life hasn't been fulfilled.
I know a few so called Pastors that left their wife and married a friend's wife after destroying their home. They also isolate the woman from all her friends and family (siblings). If you are the woman paying most of the bills, please don't complain just get out of that relationship fast. Otherwise your life will be in danger.
I love this lady Mary she so wonderful
I pray God will provide good husband that will cherish & care for us as wife in Jesus Name AMEN
Wow...7 whole years. Mama Mary, you are a unique being. God was fighting for you behind your back...
Wow,wow,wow,I can't believe what this lady went through, she's a survivor!!! Some men are evillllll!!!!
Marry u did good for cancelling the paper , 419 pastor .
My goodness! This is similar to my story ooooooo! Jesus Christ of Nazareth. May GOD ALMIGHTY help us women living abroad.
Evil so call pastor it's will never be well with him for bringing shame to God's kingdom. Mary thank God that you made it alive many are not here today to share their story. God will recompense you 7 holds in Jesus mighty name.
Good evening sister B may God continue to bless you for all u are doing and thank God for Mary for coming out alive and by God's grace all will be well with you and God bless
Aunty Mary, I just want to give you a hug, you are a good hearted woman. I'm so sorry you walked through all that. May GOD surround you with his perfect peace, and love, in Jesus name. Thank you for being brave and sharing your story, so others can be helped. I pray for healing and joy in your life.
The legal term when you lie under oath in Court is called Perjury. Court can convict you for misleading and committing perjury. Let's learn not to violate the law.
💋💋💋❤❤❤ sister B may God continue to bless in Jesus mighty name amen
Holly Spirit don suffer for some Nigerians hands. He has a special place for those types of people. Una see all these charlatans my people RUN!!!!from them, don't look back. That one na number one red flag , I personally don't acknowledge them.
Thank God for your boldness to get away from this evil manipulator
This story broke my heart, I can't velief she let him go without any consequences. 😭😭😭😭😭😘😘💔💔
That is the best way. He would go elsewhere with his bad attitude and will be taught a very hard lesson
Sis Mary, I'm so glad you eventually realised what you were dealing with which was a real wicked demon. He has all the typical red flag signs of a narcissist which I have discussed on my channel. Sis B asked if you knew why he was starving you of sexual intimacy and you replied you did not know. Narcissist males often do this to control their spouse. It's another form of emotional abuse. He purposely wanted to make you feel useless, worried, anxious, unattractive, confused, and to keep begging him. He was also able to starve you because he was busy sleeping with the other woman all along. (Possibly multiple women). Unfortunately, his new woman will receive the exact same treatment because narcissists never change their behaviour!
Anyway sis Mary, God has given you a second chance. Take time to heal, get some therapy if you can and know that you are a true survivor. Your story will save so many women! God bless you ♥️
Mine I was introduced by a pastor, his wife and a friend! No Papers, No Job. We got married a week he witnessed my Citizenship Ceremony here in Atlanta Georgia.
I am glad you made it out alive. You are worth a lot more.
Yes 🤚🏾✋🏾
Mbaise person in the house. But I live in UK. Majority of my family are in the USA...
Sister B God continue to bless you and your family.
This work is not easy but it takes Only God.
We learning...
Sis Mary God bless you!
I'm so happy she survived. People make mistakes and she admitted it. I'm so happy for her that she's been released. That new woman that took him in will be his nightmare. What goes around always comes around. That man will reap what he has sown. Mary will find the right person one day. When she least expects it❤
I thank God for you my Sis, God bless and keep you. You will recover all in Jesus name.
Inspite of everything, you still have your humor too!!!
Well done Mary. Clapping 👏 👏
2 Thessalonians 3:10 "For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat".
1 Timothy 5:8 "But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household (referring to wife and children), he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever".
He didn’t deserve papers from you 👏 👏
The man is not a pastor, but a devil. He really used you. God will pay him back. You invested your time, money and your emotion hundred percent and he took advantage of you.
This woman has surely been through a lot. Her suffering is not in vain God is too faithful to allow that. Much as this story was sad she still made me laugh hard she is so funny at God's appointment time a good man will come along and enjoy and appreciate you and this humour.
The only sin not forgivable is blasphemy of the Holy Spirit.
Why do African women adore their pastors this bad? It is one of the saddest stories on this platform, please women be aware!
I've also never understood church women and their pastors. Infact if there is anyone I never admired to marry was a pastor or someone who has a big position in the church.
Know God for yourself.
That's the problem with some of us women! This is what desperation does to some of us women! It's a painful experience!
Aunty I like this woman Mary . I went through the similar experiences and I wanna connect with her .
"I beat hell out of him" lol! well done Mary. You're a fighter, but God really fought the battle for you!
This kind f man fix kill person oo
Mary, thank God you survived!
I say this from a good place, Nigerian women have been conditioned to be extremely desperate for marriage, its a do or die affair for them....Nigerian men know this so they take the piss big time.....Ladies, nothing worse than showing a man that you are desperate, never ever do it. I love that this woman was able to leave him, millions are still in these toxic marriages, you see them misbehaving on the street, its because of the toxic environment they are coming from
That is so true, when you meet a man and for the first time and he tells you that he loves you and want to marry you run like hell
It’s true dont pay your own bride 👰♀️ price. True wicked men
Aunty B you are so loving 😘🥰🥰🥰🙌
God will really pay him for all this treatment he treated you.
Lol. Anty Bridget, una no go kiii person hereoooo.
I married a Pastor too which turn to be monster and the terrible married in community which put my life in danger.I thank God got out of that marriage alive.
Wow! Wow! Aunty Mary, don't worry, God will restore the years you lost with this lazy person. I call him person because I really don't want to be rude but he is less than a man, less than a boy! Chai! God will expose all these devil's agents that hide inside the church! This is why I told my mum that I avoid Nigerian churches here but she doesn't understand. I have heard a lot of stories on this platform and somehow, the church gave one bad advise or the other. It is well. Aunty Mary you are strong and God will bless you.
So sorry Mary I had to go through that hell. Are you 2 still married? It might be me but this man is not a true Christian let alone being a pastor. Sending you bundles of love
Good women always suffer. I wish I could give this lady a big hug. She really suffered for a lazy fool of a man. The hatred towards this lady was real. He must have used juju on her because there is no way a woman can love someone who hates her like this. Stockholm syndrome is real . God forbid.
Wow learning alot
It is not your resident pastor's job to inform you of your fiancee's escapades but your fiancee should be the one informing you of their past. This sister has empathy hence the narc. was attracted but recovered herself quickly if she had a child with him the narc might still be around.
Wow am I right in saying the Holy Spirit told her to accept him back for her benefit as the Holy Spirit knew she was going to have a concussion due to the strangulation…Our father is TRULY mighty. He really makes sense out of nonsense.
True, cold catch me. 😲😲😲😲
Sis B the narcissist starts with the love bombing, then they give u the silent treatment after they have trapped u. That's what the sex deprivation was. The person will be so confused and pleading for forgiveness over something u don't understand. That's the narcissist game before the real evil starts.
Quite unlike a benin lady. Typical benin babe go show the guy pepper
That confusion is called "crazy making "
You will question your own reasoning!
You cannot buy love! The joint account issue was also pathetic, why do many men want a joint bank account?
This is my STORY OOOOOOOOOOOO!
That man should be exposed.
Lady you're a goddess to put up with that demon for so long....he is going to get a special punishment!!!!!, don't worry, his day is going to come!!!!!!
I'm not even Nigerian but I've always come across good Nigerian women. Infact I have a good Nigerian friend who is so good at giving advise. But when it comes to the men, I don't get it I just get scared of befriending them. I'm sure there are so many good Nigerian men out there.
God made Adam pay a bride-prize to Eve in the Bible with his donated ribs, so it's not a big deal that men go and pay the bride-prize!
Bride price. Thanks, you made me have insight. Adam paid bride price by donating his ribs for Eve. This is insightful.
Yesso! Good point
This is why I keep saying that not every "man" u see, wears trousers. Some of them wear the skirt.
All I can say Sister Mary, is God has delivered you from the so called himself a Pastor and I thank God for that I am so sorry for 7 years of torment. I don’t trust any person called pastor, yes I am a Christian and go to church, I listen to their sermons but that’s as far as it goes. The day any Pastor from a church knows my name that’s my cue to find another church.
Congratulations to you Mary for coming out in one piece from the hottest part of hell fire in marriage.
The true holy spirit will heal your scarred life and heart IJN.
My ex-husband was a pastor. He was narcissist, abusive mentally, emotionally and financially. On top of that he was a criminal. He always borrowed, lied, not responsible and always blame the devil.
Am so vexed
May he receive 10 fold of what he did to you
What kind of human being is this?
That's true Ghana Lady
Every woman should be wise please
PASSWORD IS A TIYOE. EVEN THE DEVIL CAN BE A PASTOR
Mine is making money now. But old fashioned house, preparing for his wife and 3 kids from Ghana secretly. If not for GOD ALMIGHTY revealed on time his evil plans he is planning against me. We are still married ooo up till now. He is still keeping up with his plans. His wife is diabolical and he knows it. This is a Man of GOD that if you see him, he is a kind of man that can never hurt a fly.
I thank God for her life 😱
In Us if police 🚓 come to your house they will take you in , you don't have a choice
Please give out his name. Because he had eaten when you were at work, and you're unaware of it, I am lost of words. But happy for you Mary because you got out of such a toxic, tormented relationship. How submissive woman, you are!
Not necessarily a red flag in every circumstances or situations, Because basically it depends on the individual ,and in actual fact I have seen situations where a man wanted marriage right from day one and the marriage is still working up till this day.So in actual fact sociologically/psychologically speaking you don't use one example that did not go well to judge all other situations. Because every individual is different. so I refuse to accept that if someone wants marriage on day one should be considered a red flag because you don't know what that individual has gone through previously and wants a different situations.
Yes, l agree with you.
But some stay married but are not happy, just enduring. I will say in most cases, it’s not a good idea to say you want to marry someone right from day one. You got to date first to understand and know each other
You can tell someone from day one that I am not here to play, I want marriage. However, it is still important to go through the courtship. That’s when you pray, ask questions, you discuss important things etc. Never be desperate because someone says he or she wants marriage.