Become “The One”
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- Oftentimes we ask, “How will God reveal the one to me?”, but it’s just as important to ask, “How will God reveal me as the one to someone else?”
Here are 3 ways God will make you “the one” for your future spouse.
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“Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” -Ephesians 3:20-21
1. God will help you to focus more on your own character development than anyone else’s.
2. God will help you become the one by transforming you into the person YOU would want to marry.
3. God will help you become the one by helping you fulfill the biblical roles of a wife/husband
I provided the three points stated but ensure you still watch the full video ☺️ God bless you.
God bless Jada!
The first one really resonates with me. I've really been learning a great deal about myself, being my personality, talents, abilities and character, and in particular, focusing on how to address my shortcomings.
This leads to the second point in that God has been transforming me into a more understanding, empathetic and compassionate person.
In relation to the third point, God has been revealing to me what are and what are not the roles of husband and wife, as well as what marriage means and does not mean concerning what a person can do.
But we can't be gay so the second one is a bit dumb.
Thank you!
After i stopped searching and focusing on finding her and when i focused in building up my character and my relationship with God, God has brought her into my life. And now i am blessed more than I could ever possibly imagine 🙂 all the waiting, struggle and prayers, it was all worh it! 🙂
God bless!
What does it feel like? To feel happy, to be able to share your life with her, to know that she sees you as her special someone and chooses you over everything? I want to know what that feels like😢 to not be lonely or insecure or to feel insignificant 😖
@@young7670 sorry for answering just now but i just saw your comment. First and most of all I believe ee need to find out safe place in Christ to be reconciled with Him and to put our trust in Him. To be satisfied in and through Him. Then when the time is right, He will add everything else we need. And there is no greater joy than that when you see Him working in your life. So i would encourage you to get close to God, if you didn't, Ask Him for forgiveness of your sins and find a good, scripture based church and let God lead your life
@@racoon579 I go to church and have been a Christian for years. I’ve focused to being my best self and wot not. But it hurts and sucks when I’ve been praying for a spouse for years but God doesn’t answer me and then I see people like yourself that get their prayers answered and get to be happy
@@young7670 God bless you 🙏😇
For once I will be the one writing the list I usually seek in the comments 😅
1. God will help you work on your own character development
2. God will help you become the type of person that you'd want to marry
3. Equipping you to be a husband or wife before you even meet your future spouse
lol! Got to give back sometimes :)
Amen! As I work on being the man she would LIKE to be with!
Something that has helped me is to think of it as "the right man for me" rather than a "perfect one". And God has been helping me to become right with Him first so I can be the right one for a man someday too. And one really good way to develop that in yourself is to ask yourself "how would I feel if my husband was doing these things?" It works both ways.
Amen!
I also ask this to myself and it really has helped 😊
Yess sis it’s true🦋🙏🏾
That is a good perspective be right with God first.
I am no longer concerned about him finding me! When the time is right, he will show up! So my focus now is getting closer to the Lord so I can find out how exactly He wants me to go about doing what He wants me to do!
I've always thought 'who is she, where do i meet her, when will i meet her', instead of thinking 'what will she see when she meets me' in other words, we need to get our act together first. Great video, makes me think of, first clean up your house BEFORE you invite people over.
Relatable. Lately, it’s felt like God has been leading me to embrace a sort of “if you build it, they will come” mentality, so to speak. Focus on becoming the right one for the type of woman who I’d want to marry, and that should help us find each other. Thanks for this.
Amen!
Lord, help me to learn how to fulfill the Biblical role as a godly wife for my future husband 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 amen
Amen!
So true! It wasn’t until I submitted to God to help make me into the person I wanted to marry, did I know how to ask the right questions. I had 3 guys pursuing me and it was so easy to make a decision after I spent time asking questions to uncover whether or not they possessed the same Biblical values I did or were they contrary. For example, I have been abstaining from sex until marriage, but two of those guys boldly told me that they are and will participate in premarital sex. That’s process of elimination right there. The guy that I have chosen to move forward with had all the exact same Biblical values that I uphold and would never have to force him into abstinence, he already lives his life that way. All we need to do is ask questions, people will tell on themselves every single time because they can’t hide from who they really are. I’m so happy that I took the time to become a wife so that my husband and I can easily find each other.
It’s amazing that when you let God pick your spouse it’s a forever type of love
God let me be teachable and moldable in Your Hands🙏🏼 In Jesus Name
Amen!
His name is Yahushua and He wasn't white.
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Mark, this is all so true! You’ve hit the nail on the head! I’ve realized this in my own life recently as I’ve realized (I believe) who God intends for me to marry in the future, but I also see how much character development I have to undergo on my own. When we are in a relationship, we are focusing on meeting the other person’s needs, but we have to grow our character on our own so that our actions are for God and our focus is on Him BEFORE bringing another into our lives to take care of. This is just a witness to the power of the Holy Spirit, and how he reveals these things to me and to others through the church, our experiences and scripture reading. I hadn’t seen any of your videos about meeting “the one” before now, and still, God revealed these things to me by the Holy Spirit. It’s incredible how our God works!!
I been waiting and trying for 4 years now. I just turned 28 years old and it's time for a breakthrough!!!! Please pray for me I am going to try to start going to church, this has been hurting me for too long now.
Yes, focus on God transforming you and you working hard to be sanctified. That is the best way for your life to change, by God's grace!
In regards to #3, the Lord has put me into a season this summer where people have been testing my patience to the MAX 😅 I’ve never dealt with it this bad before. Lol I wonder why…
He's making you a more patient person it seems :)
I met the man that I do believe God designed for me, but I also had a subtle yet firm "now isn't the time". Almost like a parent telling their kids "this is the prize, but in order to get it this is what you have to do". I have experienced so much growth in the last 2 years and I'm more focused now on growing more in God that I'm not even focused on the man. In God's time it will happen. I know my lesson right now is patience (because historically I've had none lol). This video came right on time
These are quite easy if one first give up their idolatry and obsession over finding the "one"/marriage. You'll get a clearer picture on how to go on about such situations.
God bless!
Mark, this is "One" of your best. Thank you!!
Thanks for this encouragement! I appreciate your positive feedback :)
Nice pun! I love it!
Mark, I’m not sure I’ve discovered a channel with quite the same nuanced insights as yours on this subject. Thank you.
Wow. A right on time video! I was just talking to a friend about this a few days ago - God revealed him to me, but I wasn’t sure if God had revealed me to him.
Love this lesson. Becoming the one requires that you change your thinking and align with what God says about marriage. This is why people oftentimes have trouble because moving from single to married requires change and agreement. Nice.
“Called to be taken up voluntarily”. Amen 🙏🏾 the whole video is excellent. Sometimes key things stick out to me and that statement was one of them.
So glad that stuck out to you!
I avoided watching your videos, because I was put off by the titles always mentioning "The One", and I don't think believing in "The One" is a healthy way to approach relationships. But having finally watched this, I'm glad to see you actually have a realistic, insightful, and healthy approach to the whole "The One" concept.
I read your book "The One", it blessed me on many levels. I gained a better understanding that God's sovereignty is present at all times and the book helped me understand that He has a planned spouse for me to fulfill His purposes in my life. Also great video! Thank you.
I'm so glad to hear that! Thank you for sharing this :)
I think this video has some good advice. Far too many people want the "perfect" person (which doesn't exist) and not striving to be the perfect person themselves. It's unrealistic to have certain expectations for your potential partner while not elevating yourself to meet theirs.
“All things” means “all things”. God’s sovereignty is not refined to just salvation…. But like salvation, this doesn’t mean human choice is removed from the equation. We have be theologically consistent
In addition to the items mentioned here it is absolutely imperative that BOTH partners have the ability to “negotiate” with each other. The studies show, as per the Gottman institute, that relationship issues never actually get resolved but the successful couples are the ones that can negotiate with each other. So if you want something from someone else you have to know what they want while bringing both up needs/wants at the negotiating table.
God bless!
The problem for me now that I'm in my 60's is that I get excited and focused on a particular man who is showing interest in me and who IS a born again Christian living for the Lord. Those prospects are so few and far between. HOWEVER, just because we are both Christians and going in the same direction, does not mean that our lifestyles are compatible. Example: He likes to travel in a group witnessing for Jesus, but I am more of a homebody who God has called to be available as a support person /grandma to some grandchildren in my life without active fathers. We really have to soul search about who we connect with at ALL ages.
Sidebar: the black background and the red detail in the back are so pretty!! 👏🏾
God bless you and your family Pastor Mark!
Thanks for the feedback! It's always helpful to know what the viewers enjoy :)
"Become the type of person you'd want to marry"
*cracks nuckles*
Welp, I guess I best get to working on that...
lol! Amen, it's a lifelong process. even after you get married, God keeps growing us!
You're such an amazing man of God and a brilliant teacher! Thank you for your obedience.
I'm so glad you are enjoying the content! By grace alone!
There’s nothing more purely “the one” than Gods plan for you. He will bring that at the right time, in the middle of your mess. That’s my testimony. We’re taught to dismiss people in church which is wrong teaching. He leaves the 99. We keep God first and we let God do the rest. My girl wasn’t walking with God when we met but she had a strong history with God and he used us to call her back. Circumstances are something to consider but overall we can’t dismiss everyone who doesn’t look like our western standard of Christianity. Listen to Holy Spirit first. If it’s of God, it will draw you closer to him.
God please show her that i am here and i am the one for her i feel it and i have heard and seen the signs you are showing methat she is the one for me
Sometimes the waiting period can be soo discouraging. But what He is doing within me and preparing me as a wife, has my heart healing and growing in love. God is always faithful and He is not done working with us. All the work, growth, healing and time is necessary.
Amen! God is always working!
you need to accept that you may never marry as well. I know many a godly woman who is unmarried. there just aren't that many fish in the sea. God might not be "preparing you to be a wife" ---
@@anthrop7998 Yes I am aware of that and "if" that is God's will than it shall be. In the mean time I don't have to accept that nor lose hope in my desires of marriage whilst I am still alive breathing and still young woman. Love how optimistic you are.😄🤦🏻♀️
These are great encouraging videos Mark for Singles who desire to be married. Learning so much. Thank You!
Glad you like them!
I'm so grateful for God preparing me for marriage. I trust his timing with bringing my husband into my life 🙏
God has me in single season, because he is making me the kind of person I would want to marry and equipping me to be marriage material through submission
I never thought it that way. Really appreciate the advice
So glad it was helpful! All glory to God!
I like to use the term "the RIGHT one" 🙏🏼✝️
I’m 20 and God has been working on mr and preparing me for marriage I believe, I hope someday to be in a traditional marriage this was very insightful
God is able!
Hi Mark ‼️‼️‼️ you're always uploading information that is vital or necessary... These videos help people to stay focused on biblical principles 😎, and therefore accountability will flow. Wisdom is working in our favor and helping everyone will wait to meet the right person that is equally yoked, evenly yoked and preparing themselves for a mature relationship..
God is good!
Love love love this video. Thank you. It was a great reminder to be the woman that makes God proud. And my future husband. ✨💖
Mark this is absolutely one of the best and most profound videos you have made. Huge eye opener. God bless you Mark! Great words and teachings!
I'm so glad you found it helpful! All glory to God!
This is so great! Be the person you are looking for. God is good! ❤️
Amen! God is good!
You are one of the best scripture interpreters I love
Well done Mark. I love listening to your teachings and videos regardless of whether or not it relates to me. 👍🏻
So glad you enjoy the channel Samuel!
Unlearning & Relearning. Thank you Mark for bringing it back to making sure that we, ourselves are always strengthening our relationship with God in order to be and then have a godly spouse.
I would love for you to do a video on breaking away from relationships worldly habits ie the jealousy, doubt, and lapse in judgement.. not sure if you have one already?
I'll see what I can do! God bless!
Another good point about relationships and marriage. We only have control over ourselves and therefore must put in the effort to be someone of godly character to attract a person of the opposite who also has godly character. Then when both people who have godly character come together in marriage, they will have the mindset of focusing on GOD'S ministry, purpose, and mission to glorify himself through the marriages and families of his people. For we all created to glorify and love GOD. To the LORD thy GOD be the glory! Amen!
God is good!
Just got my book today, looking forward to reading it
Nice!
Feels like this is God's msg to me. I've been feeling distant from our Father lately and it scares me, and I prayed about it, for me to be close to Him again... thanks Mark for this timely msg. I feel lost though quite often, on where to start reading the bible. Any advice on this?
Tbh I know and believe that I can't be a godly husband or boyfriend if I don't overcome sexual sin.. NOT premarital sex I've never had sex and don't intend to until I'm biblically married. But other forms of sexual sins has been a problem for years that I've recently been improving on. But still every week there's at least once or twice when I almost cave in. Then I tell myself repent repent over and over again until I overcome it. I'll continue to pray that God gives me the grace to overcome sexual sins and I know he has been due to there being a lot of times where I've avoided it. But I still have that slight addiction that I must overcome in order to be the type of person I'd want to marry
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I've been there. I struggled with that stuff for years and years. Three things that helped me tremendously (I haven't done that stuff in a couple of years now):
1. Realizing it's probably not God's will/job to remove the temptation or desires. It's on us to reject the temptation as it comes. He provides a way of escape from every temptation. If we submit to it, it's on us.
2. Find out your triggers. Avoid them 100%. Don't just "not look", but don't even go to the place you see those things, if you can help it. If you like scrolling through Facebook and you get tempted every now and then by a photo, avoid Facebook. If you watch Anime and get tempted by the skimpy clothing, avoid Anime. Etcetera, etcetera... Eventually, you may be able to go back to those things, but odds are you won't want to.
3. Resite the scriptures when you get tempted and remember what Jesus went through to give you forgiveness. The " but I tell you, whoever looks upon a women and lusts for her, commits adultery with her already in his heart." was the one that stopped me. This is the same tactic Jesus used when He was tempted by the enemy.
These things may seem too hard to do. I get it. Do it anyway! Every time we sin against God, it's as though we are hammering the nail through Jesus' hand/foot ourselves. Is ten seconds of pleasure worth that? To someone who's offered endless grace and love towards you? I know this may be a harsh/bold word, but it's what I needed. Maybe it's what you need too. May God give you wisdom!
Amazing perspective and just what I needed.
So glad it was helpful!
This is SUCH a good word!!!
So glad you think so! All glory to God!
Brothers and sisters , I encourage you to study the role of man and woman in marriage AND ministry. We must know these things before even thinking about marrying. It is a vast subject , there is A LOT of content through the bible concerning biblical manhood and womanhood. Christ and the church parallel to man and woman marriage, God's instructions to Joshua , David's last words to his son Salomon, the book of Ruth , Genesis , writings of Paul and the list goes on and on . 2 Timothy 2:15 Study to show thyself approved ! 🤝🙌🙏
God bless!
Great advice
God bless!
I will watch again and again…👏🏽👏🏽🙏🏽 Thanks. This video is a treasure.
So glad you found it useful!
Thanks for your relationship advice God bless you sweetie
God bless you too!
Getting here was devine 😊
Indeed, be aware of the problem of the protagonist perspective.
God bless!
Thank you Mark for sharing your gift.
So glad you are enjoying the content Rhonda!
I m tired to think or looking for the one... I ll just be my best and improve who I am. It's sickening how you can be around and don't see a clue of anyone that can be the one. Sometimes let's be pragmatic... I 'll focused on myself and God's relationship, the rest will be done by him. Matthew 6:33
Thank you again for another important, timely video!! Love the quality and the background of the video. And congrats on 600k, Pastor Mark!!!!! 🎉🎉🎉
Thanks for the feedback! And thanks for your encouragement! All glory to God!
Thank you I was asking my parents this same question
So glad it was relevant for you Sarah!
For anyone struggling with sexual sin/pornography, I've been there. I regretably struggled with that stuff for years and years. Three things that helped me tremendously (I haven't done that stuff in a couple of years now, hopefully these tips will help you too!):
1. Realizing it's probably not God's will/job to remove the temptation or desires. It's on us to reject the temptation as it comes. He provides a way of escape from every temptation. If we submit to it, it's on us.
2. Find out your triggers. Avoid them 100%. Don't just "not look", but don't even go to the place you see those things, if you can help it. If you like scrolling through Facebook and you get tempted every now and then by a photo, avoid Facebook. If you watch Anime and get tempted by the skimpy clothing, avoid Anime. Etcetera, etcetera... Eventually, you may be able to go back to those things, but odds are you won't want to.
3. Resite the scriptures when you get tempted and remember what Jesus went through to give you forgiveness. The " but I tell you, whoever looks upon a women and lusts for her, commits adultery with her already in his heart." was the one that stopped me. This is the same tactic Jesus used when He was tempted by the enemy.
These things may seem too hard to do. I get it. Do it anyway! You can do it! Every time we sin against God, it's as though we are hammering the nail through Jesus' hand/foot ourselves. Is ten seconds of pleasure worth that? To someone who's offered endless grace and love towards you? Will your future spouse be proud of what you are doing? I know this may be a harsh/bold word, but it's what I needed. Maybe it's what you need too. May God give you wisdom!
This video opened my eyes towards my past relationship making me realise where I was wrong thankyou soo much
I'm so glad it was helpful!
thank you for this! it reaffirms what I have always felt to be true. Unfortunately I am still trying to find a Biblical husband at the age of 48. Yes I have made mistakes along the way but now I am at a point where I am trying to teach my adult sons about marriage before they enter into that sacred covenant so they don't make the same mistakes I did. So your teachings make this very clear and I plan on sharing them with my sons. Thank you and God bless!
God bless you too! So glad you are finding this content valuable :)
Very well said and very honest!!
Thank you for being used for God's glory!!! God bless your family!!!
I really like the music you added to this video. So relaxing! Great topic to cover. Thank you😃
Thanks for the feedback! So glad you enjoyed it!
Thank u Father for speaking thru mark, to give us all the msg we need to hear for a biblical spouse. God bless u & ur family, mark.
~peace, love, harmony~
So glad it was helpful! All glory to God!
I love how relevant this was. It really helps to put everything in perspective
So glad to hear that! All glory to God!
Thanks for your video, Mark. I really appreciate it. However, I find it hard to focus on what you are saying because the background music is too distracting (and loud). I hope in your future videos you take this into consideration. Thanks!
Great video and topic; but I gotta say, that music…
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Thank you so much! 💖✝️🎉
I believe that if God is sovereign and He is and He has specific plans for us as He does then it’s also inevitably exclusive, meaning His plan is one, and everything in His plan is one! ..not multiple choices and not up to us. Once we are surrendered to Him then there is no plan B.
i like the backsound in this video.
I've been praying that God will prepare me for marriage, thanks for the video!
So glad this was useful to you! All glory to God!
Great message Mark. Music is distracting tho…😅
Glad you still enjoyed it! And thanks for the feedback about the music. Some people say they like the music and some people don't, so I try to mix it up at times :)
This was right on time. Thank you so much.
You are so welcome, all glory to God!
God showed me that my immaturity in relationships stems from perceived rejection by my father. As an infant I accompanied him on many of his house calls. Then one day it stopped because he changed jobs and I started school. I felt he rejected me and where once we were joined at the hip, our relationship deteriorated and never recovered. He's dead 21 years now and I discovered this just over a year ago. It brings me to tears thinking about it. He loved me so much and I treated him so badly. The lesson is learned now and I wrote him a letter forgiving him. Point is I understand this flaw now and think that the Lord has healed this wound. That's a bit off point really I suppose but I needed to say it. Yes!!! There are lots of areas where I need to improve such as procrastination, home improvements and so on. The fitness and grooming is up there with the best of them and I'm more conscious of the need for evangelise and work for the Kingdom. We're not there yet but we're getting there. I'm 64... but age is just a number. 😇
Makes sense
This is very true I've realized it also before this video was made. I realized people generally settle for someone similar to them. This fact is why I rejected certain women but also why I was rejected by certain women. I came to the conclusion about myself that I needed to change some things about myself if it's in my power to do something about it. Being equally yoked is not just a spiritual thing but it counts in being attractive to the opposite gender too I'd argue. That's why I try to dress nicely because I'm interested in women who also dress nicely. I have a preference in style and design for almost everything from architecture to attire. I'm not perfect though. I need visit a dentist soon and I've always hated my lean arms.
That’s very beautiful Sir, the way you explained in depth about finding the one & how we should first not judge others, find the ‘one’ in us second then Once we start to love ourselves more & realise “we love ourselves so much that” we would marry ourselves! that’s when (maybe most likely) I believe the Holy Spirit will make it very clear who our husband/wife is & unexpectedly…they make a whole effort to get to know this Proverbs women God has been training us to be.
Really encouraging brother. Keep flowing 🦋🙏🏾☝🏾🔥
Thanks Mark
I really appreciate your understanding on this subject
God bless you
God bless you too Landon, so glad you found this useful
Thankyou Mark for being a blessing...🙏 I really needed this....
So glad it was helpful!
Thank you for this video! It was very helpful. The only thing I didn’t like was the weird sounding music. It was irritating! Please don’t use it again!
The whole vedio is interesting
Thank you so much.
Looking for the Godly husband 🤗
@PREPARING#SUBMISSIVEWIFE# 🥰
God bless!
Amen! I cry. Thank you for your video Mark.
Excellent video, as always ❤
Thank you for these videos.
Thank you so much. This is life transforming 🙌
I'm so glad it was helpful!
I don’t think I’m the ONE for anyone but “the ONE”
He's enough!
Well done Mark that is excellent teaching 🙂
So glad it was helpful!
Excellent, thanks.
Thank you
My pleasure!
😌💖 God bless you Mark!
God bless you too Delna!
Thank you!
Thank you man
this is really good information
This is a great video! But the music doesn’t fit and it’s distracting.
How about a video on having issues accepting different financial situations? How it work out? Thanks.
Thank you, Mark!
My pleasure Anna!