D.U.I. Fatality Survivor interview-Peter
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- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Peter, a survivor of a DUI accident that took the life of his six year old son in San Bernardino, California.
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Hearing stories like this really opens your eyes. You never know your last moments with someone. Especially your kids. Don’t take them for granted. Don’t take life for granted.
ohmuhgorshk. your hair.
You're right, don't take anything for granted. Gem/Can nice mix btw
Omg yes. So sad
When my husband was leaving for work, I ran to the door and I wanted to call out, “I love you!” one more time, but I didn’t because it was 4am… and if I would have just done it, just said I love you one more time… he woulda turned around and said “I love you too” and then that night he would have come home with a story about how he ALMOST got killed by a drunk driver.
So yeah. You never know. So say I love you again. Just say it.
My Mother passed away at age 54. I’ll never forget what my 81 year old Grandfather said when she died.
He said he had lost his parents, his wife, siblings and friends. But none of those hurt him nearly as bad as loosing his daughter, my Mom.
I understand I really do.
Same. It is gut wrenching.
for every one everywhere,
this the last part of a poem by EECummings:
..here is the deepest secret nobody knows
here is the root of the root
and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky
of a tree called life
which grows higher than soul can hope
or mind can hide
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart
i carry it in my heart.
💔💔💔😔
It ain't about you. It's about this guy
The media portraying you as drunk when a car flew into you and killed your son is horrible
Grotesque! The media is evil. Quote by Jim Morrison: “Whoever controls the media, controls the mind”
No words for you my dear soul - only love ❤
Let this be a lesson to just how easily they can be so corrupt.
On every level for any reason
@@WenchInTheTinfoilHat I like your comments.
The least they could have done is updated their stories to add he was not drinking. I looked it up and the first article still says it. Awful 😞
It’s the media… imagine how much of the stuff written is just like that or worse… like international law requiring people to fight and resist against and occupying force but they will label the resistance as Terr ur ists… when in reality the biggest countries that spends more on their military than the next few countries combined is a fOrCe oF GoOd and DeMoCracY…. And not the T word..
This is the most moving story, I've ever heard. So real, so raw. What a wonderful man. He doesn't deserve all the pain. Thank you so much for posting this story.
Thank you for watching, and thanks for your kindness.
Peter just gave us all a lesson on how to be a real man. Thank you and God Bless 🙏
Wow, that is a huge compliment. I'm not sure I am that great of a person. Im human like everyone else. Thank you for being kind.
@@therealpetergeo You are an inspirational man and I will never forget you and your beautiful family. Thank you for sharing.
@@debrab Thank you. You're very sweet
Damn it. At 44 years old ive cried maybe twice in my life, and this was one of them 💔 As a father of 3 boys this one hits so hard. God bless you sir, I hope you find some healing somehow
Same brother , god bless
Bless you too Brother. Sorry this video made you cry. Tell your kids you love them constantly.
@@therealpetergeo Peter if this is you I'm praying for you brother! Your son is with God, and I don't just mean that in some cosmic sense. The moment his life ended he was face to face with the Lord of all creation experiencing unspeakable joy, peace, and love beyond what our brains can even comprehend. Not only is your son alright, he's in a state of peace we can't even wrap out heads around. God doesn't just love us he IS love. My prayer for you is that you can find peace in Jesus and the knowledge that, one day soon, all who put their trust in Christ will be together in eternity. Not a church, not a religion, but the person of Jesus Christ. On that day this life, with all its pain, will seem like a distant memory. Please read the first section of Revelation 21. The bible doesn't teach reincarnation per se but like you said it does teach that there will be a new creation and all will be made new, including us. I love you brother and I can't wait to meet you and your son when we get there. Trust in Jesus to get you through this!
Twice crying in 40+ year of life is a bit abnormal imo brother
Find someone you can cry with and cry too and let it out loved one
Peace
@@therealpetergeoPeter your story just was a gut punch. I cannot ever imagine abandoning a friend in their darkest days. I just cannot fathom what you have endured. I will pray for your strength as you continue forward without your son. I'm with you, I want to show people I care. In the end, what is life about except sharing the joy and hell of the human experience with our dearest friends. Thinking of your family as we move into a new year.
I cried during the whole interview, I cried reading the comments. This man told his story without breaking down in the fetal position. What a warrior.
I appreciate your comment. I don't feel like a warrior.
I have not doubt he has cried his soul raw.
@cl5193 There are quite a few people who never experienced the death of a loved one. It's hard to get them to understand.
@@therealpetergeo True. They can't understand. For them to understand would mean your loss compounded by their number. That would be even more horrific. But I do believe God saved your son from eternal death in that accident. I think there is merit to your reincarnation thoughts. I don't want to sound like a heretic, but I have had the overwhelming experience of recognizing my brother somehow in someone else many years after his death. I know nothing, and I've never told anyone that. I also know a brother is not a son by magnitudes, but in subsequent years, I have found reconcilliation and peace with his death. I pray that for you and your family.
@cl5193 I know what you mean. A couple times I was pretty sure I saw my Father. I did a u-turn but could not catch the car. A couple months ago I saw him (or his doppleganger) walking down the street.
I haven’t been the best dad and watching has really touched me . I will try and be a better dad after watching this . God bless this man .
We all struggle, Brother. All we can do is try to do our best. Thank you for watching.
I'm with you on this one.
What a hypocrite you are. Talking about Jesus and forgiveness here while tearing apart victims of abuse on other videos. What a complete fraud.
If you have a kid it’s your responsibility. Don’t ruin their life for your own sake. They’re your responsibility, do whatever you need for them.
May God be with you! I totally understand with the drugs and the hassle. The government, SEC & crooked insurance companies will jack you up.
Please don't be disheartened over losing friends. Sometimes God brings people into your life, sometimes He removes them. Have hope. Pray for friends. You never know what someone else is going through. ❤
Sat down thinking I'd watch the first 10 mins but was completely enthralled. Peter forgiving that man in court is truly incredible. To show compassion like that in that circumstance to someone who has no one in their corner, wow. I think the world is a better place with people like him in it.
Very kind. You make us better. Love from Sherry.
He's a MUCH better person than I am..I don't think I could EVER forgive some tweaker who ruined my life like that. I have SO much respect for this man!
I agree....your compassion to forgive. I hope that you are in therapy to help with your grief.
Thanks Brother that is a very nice comment.
Imagine that kid who did it getting clean and repented from all the forgiveness, and peters little sons spirit working thru them towards unimaginable bonding.
That boys conscience has ruined his life too unless he becomes soulless from all the punishment😢
I am also a fatal car accident survivor and I relate so heavily to the part in your healing where it feels like everyone abandons you. “Well I didn’t know what I would say.” You don’t have to say anything JUST BE THERE.
Amen. You get it.
im sorry you and guy in video went thru that. and im sorry you lost loved ones. im here.
@nrood3821 Thank you for watching and I appreciate that.
@@therealpetergeo your welcome. after watching your story. i dont know how you get out of bed every day with just your health issues you got from accident. much less your son passing away. you are a much tougher man than i am just getting out of bed. and that guy shoulda got alot more than 14 years for that. thats some BS.
That is so sad I'm sorry you had to go through this.
Peter, you are still here for a reason. Sending you much love.
Thank you so very much. 😊
Wow mark. What an incredible story. This is one of the best interviews I’ve seen. I sure this man can find peace. I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through, Peter.
I appreciate your comment. Thank you.
Survivor's guilt is 100% real. It takes about 5 years for a traumatic brain injury to heal. I'm a disabled former emergency nurse. I've had chronic pain for 37 years. I have 2 herniated discs in my spine (neck). They fused naturally so no surgery is indicated. I think this Dad is doing better than he gives himself credit for.❤️ Embedded in my memory is the crying wail of a parent whose infant-child has died unexpectedly.😰
I’m a retired therapist and he has CPTSD from this accident. I sure am hoping he knows he can get help for his loss which NEVER goes away but rather gets integrated into one’s soul. He IS a remarkable man for sharing his story with us. I wish him continued healing. DON’T DRIVE UNDER THE INFLUENCE!!
@@5thdimension625 Thx so much for the diagnosis. CPTSD is new to me. I'll read about it. Happy Holidays ☃️🎅🎁
Love to you...everyday.
There is no timeframe on “healing” a TBI. I had a TBI 26 years ago, the first 5 years I made a lot of improvement but still continue to get better everyday. It took me a good 10 years just to start to learn how to function “normally” with a TBI. The biggest improvements came way after the 5 year mark. We can always get better if we want too.
Awww❤
Nothing scares me more than losing a child. I felt the pain in my core listening to this interview.
It is so horrible words can't describe the pain. Thanks for your comment
...it's soul shattering....🫥
The coma dreams he’s talking about are not the same as regular dreams and almost impossible to describe to someone that hasn’t experienced them. I have a TBI from a car wreck that killed a friend of mine. Every dream I had in the coma my friend was there. When I came too I didn’t believe my mom telling me he was dead because those dreams were so real. I relived the three days before the wreck in those dreams but everything was perfect. In the dreams there was a car wreck but nobody was hurt. It almost seems like our brain tries to protect us from the trauma by creating a different memory.
Coma dreams are a total trip arent they? At one point my Wife moved us into a rad Mid Century Modern home. I should have known I was dreaming.
Coma dreams and also the Near Death Experience phenomenon needs to be looked into properly by Dr's and academia.
@@zeitgeist909You're correct.
@@zeitgeist909 they have and are still
@@jand8303 I know there has bee some sparse research, mostly independently, by some forward-thinking anaesthetists and surgeons. Not much formal work or papers written. That's what I meant by a 'proper' look into it. Rigourus methodology. A serious look into it hasn't happed yet. I welcome it.
Grief is something our society doesn't speak about. I am greatful for you sharing your grief and all that goes with it. Grief fucking sucks and makes others very uncomfortable so I am happy that your sharing even though I know your numb and screaming inside.
Thank you for watching and sharing your insight
My beautiful Son was killed in a horrific accident in 2019. The police had to come to my home and tell me. It was the most deep pain and still is
Sending you love dear man
I'm so sorry. 😢
Peter, you are full of such grace. You are a beautiful human and I hate that you have experienced what I imagine is the absolutely most painful loss. I watched my parents become old overnight when my little brother suicided in 2000. They never recovered.
I know what you mean i saw what it did to my Mom but I was only 10. Now I know what it feels like.
@@therealpetergeo smiles, I bet this is one of the very few interviews, if not the only one, where the comments are 100% kind. I know that in the USA they have MADD, mothers against drunk drivers, I wonder if there is a DADD for the fathers. These mums give talks at high schools etc to show the faces and actual impact of a moment of thoughtlessness. If you aren't already, maybe if you ever feel able to, you could give talks to teens and young adults and even to people who have been caught DUI. Showing them that the survivors lives are ruined in many ways and that the world gets robbed of the chance to see what your eldest boy and all the other people killed by a drunk/drugged driver could have been. For various reasons, I completely understood when you talked about what it's like to really not want to be here and to have to fight that desire because you have your wife and younger son and they both want and need you alive. Its not only them that wants you alive, I do as well. Mel ❤
Absolutely full of grace.
@EmEm872 you're so sweet. Thank You.
@stephaniepantalonie Thank You.
Man, Your experience,strength and endurance have touched me deeply. I have bone marrow cancer and you frustration with the whole punitive treatment when you need pain medication is insane. I’m treated like a drug seeking character. I love you my friend. Really. I’m sending you much love,light and peace. Thank You for sharing.
Thank you very much. Also, thank you for watching. Sorry, you're going through that. I love you too, my friend.
Bone marrow cancer is the most painful cancer isn’t it?
Kratom helps me, Gabapentin, and CBD
@aliciamarie9704 I take Gapapentin, it helps a lot. CBD doesn't work for me. 😞
This was incredible. This person is a sweet soul. I feel like giving him a hug.
Very original
@@terrytownsend5583 Just as your comments are very predictably snarky.
Thank you very much. Hugs are nice.
That kind of broken hearted sadness is a real excruciating pain. 💔
It really is. Extremely painful. Mentally, physically, & spiritually.
@@therealpetergeo I know. Time as far as I know doesn't make anything better. If I don't have anything to mask or numb it, then, I dissociate sometimes or get physically ill from every organ in my body aching.
I really feel for you 💔 I hope you find a way to cope
@@tarran4596 Thank you. 😊
Everything you said about the feelings you have, the friends who are no shows, etc are all TRUE. We lost our daughter Feb 2021 suddenly. What people need to know is a hug means the world, a card, a phone call. This is about the person grieving for christ sake, not about how it's going to make someone feel " who doesn't know what to say". People puss out and run the other way instead of supporting the family of the lost. We are in a club nobody wants to be in. You're a good hearted man. You did a great job expressing everything. My daughter will take care of your son until we all meet again
Thank you very much for your comment. Our loves ones disappear when we need them. I learned the hard way.
😢
So many of your shows are just jaw dropping. I love the fact that you didn’t ask a lot of questions. And just let this man speak freely. Heart wrenching and cathartic at the same time. Thank you soft white underbelly!
Thank you for watching.
This is one of the hardest interviews to watch. Insane pain that I can feel through the screen. Being mom of 4 I can’t even imagine how you can recover from this. Do you have a social media account? Can we be there for you while you go through this painful journey? You are incredibly strong and inspiring. People need to watch you and your wife make it through this
Seriously, so admirable
I would like to add my voice to that idea. I have also lost a child, and become physically disabled, and had to forgive someone who had brought the pain to my life. I sobbed and cared so much about this man. This good good man. How do you not fall completely in love with him, and want to be the friend he needs, and advise him about cannabis and help him find 'relief'. Sweet relief, even if it's only temporary. Trauma informed yoga and meditation were helpful to me. Blessings
@@rebeccagillham5865 sending you lots of love
I've watched endless hours of SWU videos - this is the first one to make me cry. Sharing your normal day with your son - when you said he wanted to be near you and then in a blink it all changed. It's almost as if he knew he needed to express his love to you right then in those moments. Your ability to say "I forgive you" to the kid who caused the tragic accident...it's inspirational. Your story, your demeanor... There's no doubt in my mind that you are a rare human being. We can all learn to be better people by listening to you. I hope that somehow, your medical needs may be resolved - it's unfortunate that due to so much abuse, those who legit need help are left suffering. Our systems are broken. God bless you and your family.
Thank you very much. I really appreciate your comment. I hope this video helps people.
This whole story is heartbreaking but the fact that this kid had a teardrop tattoo for a little baby is absolutely sickening. Like he’s proud of himself.
Trauma comes from trauma.
We don't know what someone has been through, or going through.
Never.
The last thing anyone needs to do is place blame or judgment.
It's human nature but it's the negative part of human nature.
We all have basic needs.
When they are not met- no matter how young or old- that is a form if trauma.
And the brain reacts as if it's in survival mode.
This young man forgave the person that hit them.
Can't we all do the same for one another?
@@melissamartin9615Hell no! People don't deserve it. Everyone has had some kind of traumatic event in their lives, not every one drinks and drives.
I hear you, but that doesn't mean you know him, or his story, or how affected he is.
I'm glad I'm not in his shoes. There's better take aways here
Yes it was very hard for me to deal with that. However I realized he was probably trying to survive in prison.
@@therealpetergeohe can do that without glorifying the death of the child. People survive in prison in other ways. Act tough some other way. “Surviving in prison” doesn’t mean he has to flaunt that charge- not at all.
Thanks for sharing your story. I lost my son in 2015 and listening to you tell your story hurts and my heart breaks for you and your family. I pray for you and your and I know for sure that you will see your son again.
Thank you and sorry for your loss as well
Just kept hearing Eric Clapton's song 'Tears in Heaven' playing in my mind the entire interview. 'Child loss is not an event, it is an indescribable journey of survival'. Thinking of your family.
My heart breaks for you, Peter.💔 I lost my adult son three years ago. It was a one vehicle rollover. They kept him alive for two days. I had to make the call. It destroyed what I called my life. No, you are NEVER okay again. I totally get what you said about friends. The person I considered to be my best friend, since third grade, totally abandoned me. Another blow. Yes, people disappear. Put your arm and heart around that person and tell them you're so sorry and you love them! That's all you have to do!
I hope you can get help with your physical pain. You are not alone. 🙏
Thanks for your comment and sorry for your loss.
@@therealpetergeo Thank you. 🙏
I haven't had a drink in 15 years, but I had drank and drove sooo many times! Thank goodness nothing bad ever happened, I couldn't live with myself if i had killed someone's child!!! Alcohol is one of the 3 worst drugs known to man!!!
Gram, 15+ years sober here too. I gave it up before anything bad happened as well.
If alcohol was invented today it would be illegal.
Totally agree! So glad to be sober
Thanks for your comment Brother and thank you for taking the time to watch.
Thank you for sharing your story .. I hope people that watch this will remember when they get into the vehicle to slow down drink responsible and pay attention to traffic or they can ruin someone else’s reality .. Bless you Pete 🙏🏼
Peace to you as well. I just hope this video helps people think before they drink/do drugs and drive.
Sir, you have all my respect. Your attitude after going through something so beyond devastating is remarkable. You are amazing. I hope there is someway to help relieve your physical pain. And please know, from what I believe, you're little angel you lost is with you everyday. And one day we will all be united. Bless you for the strength you hold within you
Thank you. It hasn't been easy at all
SWU has been my go to tube channel for years. Daily videos have been my FYP forever, but on this video, for this comment, I subscribed.
Timing is something I believe as a universal pull forward. This story, at this time, is everything.
Thank you Peter for this share. You are a remarkably beautiful human. I learned so much from you. Being a good human is hard, and Mark is right, you are exceptional.
A heartfelt thank you, to you both, from East Coast, Canada. You’re welcome in the maritimes at a moments notice if ever winds blow this way. ♥️
You're very kind. Thank you so much.
Peter, if you ever read this just know sharing your story will help others. I am so sorry for what you have been through. It is literally unimaginable. I will pray for you, your wife (she sounds amazing) and both of your sons. I promise to show this video to my kids and friends before they start driving. Also, your compassion for people, especially for the man that took your sons life is extraordinary. That compassion is a lesson in itself. I don't think you know what an impressive and special person you are. I wish you much happiness in the future and I will pray for opportunities to come your way. Especially for the ability to support your family the way you would like to. You are fantastic and impressive.
such a beautiful and intelligent response..I know he will read it!
That was a beautiful response hopefully he will read it.
He really is fantastic & impressive.
I did read your comment Ashley. Thank you for the kind words. You're right. I don't feel special or impressive in anyway really. I have been humbled in a huge way. Be blessed and thanks for your comment.
I have watched dozens of your videos. I have never been so touched. I cried through almost the entire show. I want Peter to know that anytime he needs a hug, someone who will listen, a real friend, I am here. A human like Peter makes the whole world better. My heart breaks for him and his family. I lost a fourteen year old son, and I am now 72 and I still have moments that I feel much as he does. Sending love. ❤
Thank you for your kind words and taking the time to watch.
This gentleman has the power to heal others. You have such empathy you don’t even realize. Hopefully you can just investigate this and see if it’s for you. ❤
Thanks love. I'm not sure I can heal people that is a leap. I wish I could.
@@therealpetergeo
Saying I'm sorry for the loss of your boy seems so hollow, but I am so sorry, and I can't begin to imagine the work it takes to remain here, after such an ordeal.
I think it reveals that you have a solid core of strength that you don't even realize is there most of the time, although I imagine you are realizing that about yourself with each passing day - little by little.
Your wife and son are fortunate to have such a wise, strong, empathetic and caring person to walk this harrowing path of recovery with them - you are each other's saving grace.
I hope healing comes for all of you, soon.
@@anniemalloy8208Thank you, you're very sweet.
My chest feels like an elephant is sitting on it listening to your tragic story of loss and pain. I can only imagine what you deal with on a daily basis. I pray you get some relief from your physical pain and the pain of losing your son lessens over time. I'm so sorry this happened to you. You are amazing for telling your story and trying to stay afloat. God bless you sir.❤
P.S. I'll be thinking of you and your family and I'll be hoping that you are doing well...🕊️💕
Thank you so much for your comment.
I lost my newborn daughter unexpectedly and traumatically. The way you spoke about people just disappearing after you experience a loss like this really hit me. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope to come on Mark show one day & tell mine.
God bless you
Thanks for your comment. Sorry for your loss
This was about the best interview I have seen on this channel. So highly honest and so informative.
Boy I wish him absolute rest and love.
Today I learned a close family friend, lost their Son and helped me understand the impact of loss of a child. ❤
Thank you for watching and thanks for your comment. 😊
Peter is such a good man, the fact that after all of that, the initial confusion and basically having your who life turn upside down due to something as traumatic as losing your own son. You’re even able to look the man who took your son away from you right in the eyes and still see humanity in him and want to be there for him since no one else would. That takes an EGREGIOUS amount of strength and it shows the kinda person you are. I loved this interview, this guy is a good man, and I hate that he had to go through something as heartbreaking as this 🥺🩵
Thanks for the comment.
Peter, you are an inspiration to others who have suffered horrible losses. Keep speaking out we all need to hear this. The loss of your son makes my heart hurt for you. Your son was lucky to have a Dad like you. And your wife is a fine woman. May all good blessings come to your family, particularly your second son. He needs you.
Thank you so much for your kindness.
I understand being a chronic pain patient & how you are essentially judged by others who just don’t understand how you would do anything to not be in the position you’re in..especially by healthcare professionals that are supposed to be there to help you. The pharmacists are the absolute worst about publicly shaming you. It took me years of being in horrific pain before I found the right pain management Dr..they’re out there.. keep looking.
I’m in the exact same situation
Pharmacists should have no say in or right to ask questions about prescribed medication. Their job is to provide what a doctor has ordered. If they have a problem with that, they need to seek another profession, period.
@@barikitchens6383I'm sorry that you are 😢
@@karenfryberger4260no they shouldn't
Thanks for your comment. One day at a time. Chronic Pain sucks. Losing a child sucks more obviously. The 2 together.....my Gosh!!!
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’m over here crying and just praying to God to watch over my 3 sons. I can’t imagine your pain. ❤❤❤
Thank you for your kind words. 😊
This was fucking heartbreaking...you never know what could happen a day you leave the house
Unbelievable he could forgive that guy
Thanks for watching. 😊
Hi Peter. Your story has made it to Ridgecrest. Welcome! Lived here my entire life and we have a fantastic community. Thank you for sharing your story, you are inspiring others.
2 others said they were in Ridgecrest as well. Thank you for the welcome.
The survivors guilt is the worst
I lost my child at 3 1/2 you never get over it you just learn to live with it 😢so sorry for your loss
Thanks for your comment. Survivors guilt sucks!
Story hits me a lot. I was driving with my little brother in the car and we got in an accident. The other car was speeding, rushing to get to a funeral, slammed right into the passenger door my brother was on, my brother is lucky to be alive. He had bloody cuts all over him from the window being destroyed, his head was bleeding, but other than that he was fine. Grateful everyday I didn’t lose him, it could’ve ended horribly. Stories like this remind me to be thankful for what I have, because we can lose it in a matter of seconds.
Things can change quick.
My heart hurts for this man. I know the pain of losing a child. My son passed June 1, 2020 after being hit by a car while riding his bike, he was a semi pro cyclist. He lived in Calgary, it was during covid and we could not travel to see him in the hospital before he passed. The pain of losing a child never goes away. Everything he said is so true. Friends who cant handle it disappear, family. Just as he said, I am not the same person I was. I am sending lots of hugs to this man.
I am truly sorry for the loss of your son, especially that you couldn’t go and see him. I currently live in Cochrane, and at that time I was living in Calgary. I understand loss brother died 10 years ago and my family has never been the same, we have hope to see him again because we believe in heaven, I am truly sorry that your son died so tragically, I will pray for you and your family.❤ I’ve heard a quote that the grief is like a silent scream that no one else hears. I hear your scream.
@@a.marvellehoneyman4560 Thank you so much for your kind words!
I'm so sorry for your loss, not to worry, he's right there with you all day long and loves you all so much. God bless you
That picture at the end is heartbreaking to know that his son is gone now. You’ve been through more then most people will ever go through in a lifetime & your one of the most courageous & genuine person I’ve seen on this channel 🙏🏼 prayers to you & yours Peter
Thank you for your comments. It's a powerful photo, I miss my Son so very much.
@@therealpetergeo your welcome Peter thank you for sharing your story, this will save lives in ways we would never have been able to imagine. Your son is your guardian angel that will keep you pushing for you & your family 🙏🏼
One of the best interviews I've seen in a long time. Very relatible and such a wonderful outlook on a hard hard situation. Wish you peace Peter keep doing what your doing you are so inspiring. Prayers for your family you are doing what you can and that is all that matters at the end of the day your stronger then you see this interview proves that!
Thank you. You're very sweet
I’m so sorry for your loss. As a father, I’m amazed by your strength sir. Probably the most raw, honest, and thought provoking interview I’ve seen. I’m so sorry this happened to you and your family.
Thank you. I appreciate that. Thanks for watching.
Thank you Peter. I have no words to express how sorry I am for your pain, emotionally and physically. Thank you Mark.
I appreciate the love
I haven’t experienced the loss of a child. I can say I felt your pain through your story. I was close to tears multiple times on my way to work. I hope you find the comfort you need.
Can there be anything more agonizing than the sudden death of your child? I ache for this man and others who have to live with that pain.😢
Thank you for your comment.
@@Gram820nothing more agonizing for sure. Thanks for your comment.
I hope mark can financially help this family out, I've watched almost all of this channels videos and this family is absolutely hands down the most deserving of help and support.
Thank you for watching.
Peter, thank you for your courage in sharing your story; I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful son. I watch SWU but came here specifically to hear your story after I saw your video about your experience with Mark.
Thank you, and thanks for watching. 😊
The courage it takes to forgive someone who killed your loved one, your child. I can’t even imagine. I’ve had a lot of friends lose their kids, and words just never seem like it’s enough. I try to be present, allow them to vent. As a mother, a grandmother he’s right, unless you’ve been in this or you’re living it, you will never know. I encourage folks to look up things you SHOULD not say to someone who has suffered a loss. It’s so important. Thank you for sharing your story. Prayers to you and your family and may your son show you a sign that he is ok. That he is near you more often than you know.🙏🏾❤️
Thanks for your comment. Be blessed
I remember this. Julian was such a beautiful boy, and his pictures just show him shining from within. Peter, you are a remarkable human being to just be able to breathe, much less to go on with your life with such strength and grace. I'm over here in Tehachapi, so I know what you are saying about the isolation, and how it feels to go back "down the hill." One minute at a time, my friend. Love to you.
Thank you so much for your comment. Yes, we are a bit far from civilization.
Do you ever eat at that BBQ place in Tehachapi?
@@therealpetergeo -The Red House? Sure - lots of times. Mano does all his own smoking, and they have great stuff. The Indian tacos are wonderful. Contact me if you are ever coming over, and I'll meet up with you there.
This guy is the most level headed genuine thoughtful smart well thought out articulate person I’ve ever heard. I learned so much from listening to this guys story. I lost it when he said you just second guess everything after you lose a kid. I could feel that to my core. The fact he reaches out to people and friends even after going through this. His matter of fact attitude is admirable and the fact that he doesn’t sugar coat shit is refreshing. It also makes me not take every second w people who are in our lives for granted. I also have someone close to me who went through something traumatic and I distanced myself for fear of being faced with not knowing what to say or how to say it. This gentleman taught me that you don’t have to say anything at all. You can sit in silence next to the person, but just be there for them. Thank you for courage. I got so much out of what you shared on this video. Thank you. Thank you.
Thank you so much for your heartfelt compliments. I'm glad this video is helping people. Thank you for watching the video and genuinely taking it in. 😊
This has to be the saddest video I've watched on this channel. Peter is such a genuinely fantastic, kind, empathetic person and I can't even begin to imagine the heartache him and his wife have gone through. Totally heartbreaking for their whole family
Thank you for your comment.
Thank you for sharing your story Peter. Praying for you.
You can be - and are - a great father. Keep your head up!
Thanks for the prayers I need them.
@therealpetergeo peter this video is life changing. Hopefully there's a follow up video
Peter please come back on...I learned so much and then there were many parts I could relate to..
Thank you for sharing ❤ I care that you are hurting😢- much love and peace to you-
Thank you. I am not sure Mark would have me back on. This video didn't get as many views as his other videos. Maybe he doesn't care about that. I dont know. Be blessed. 😊
Peter, you're a very inspirational man. Thank You ❤
Thanks. I dont feel like it.
You are so awesome to share your powerful story, realize how powerful you have become as a person, dad, husband, friend it is important that you find a way to help others in ways you can manage, start small like you are doing and gain as only you can. Stay strong stay true, don’t ever quit. You are amazing!
Thank you very much 😊
You are an inspiration. How you handled this.myself included. Takes time to find peace as best we can..lots of love to you
Thank you for your kind words.
Peter is a living angel. My heart breaks for him and his family. I will be praying daily for them to receive comfort and continue to heal. I suspect Peter will help a lot of people for the remainder of his life.
Thank you so much.
This is brutal. Life can be brutal, and it shows through his story and emotions. We’re all in this together, be kind to each other
Yes, be kind. Thanks for watching.
I’m a 33 year old man…I couldn’t hold my tears back..I don’t know you but I love you and your family…May God always bless you and be with you..
Thank you so very much. 😊
Thank you for sharing your story and educating us. The reminder to be kind and to let people know you’re thinking about them is so special. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss and what you’ve gone through. Keeping you and your wife and both your sons in my thoughts.
Thank you so very much
What a powerful interview. Such an insightful man & father. Just so touching, yet painful. My condolences
Thank you very much.
My sister passed away at 13 from leukemia. I was 12. Without going into detail it killed them. His comment about how his Father said you’ll have 5 true friends with fingers left over is so so true. I always wondered how their/my life would’ve played out without this tragedy. I can’t imagine what he’s going through even though I’ve seen it through my parents.
I know I saw what it did to my Mom and then I got to experience it. 😢
What an impressive person Peter is. After everything he still gives of himself in this interview.
Thank you for your warm comment.
Thank you for sharing your story. This was hard to hear but there's something deep & teachable in your story. The friends & family who are staying away from you are probably scared they won't know how to support you after something so traumatic. That's sad that they feel like they can't reach out.
A simple hello or I love you would have been nice
This is a life-changing conversation. There’s no doubt that Peter has already saved countless lives by sharing his experience and unapologetically revealing the darkest corners of himself. Hats off to you, Peter, and best of luck to you and your family moving forward.
I really hope I have saved some people. Thank you for your comment.
Peter, thank you for coming on and sharing your story. Your incredible compassion and empathy for humanity is such a gift to the world. I truly hope that you keep sharing your story in some way. That kind of grace is rare and very inspiring. The pain of loosing a child is like no other and no one can understand, if they haven’t been through it themselves. The cliche things that people have to say are the worst, even though people are just trying to say something to help. “God won’t give you what you can’t handle” still makes me cringe. I get that, totally. You have made a difference to people today, with your honest, articulate and sincere words, despite your mental and physical pain. It’s truly inspiring ❤
Thank you for the comment. I hope this video helps people.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m so sorry for the pain you are left with, and the grief of missing your beautiful son. I hope you can feel his presence, and you KNOW it is him. Undoubtedly. And thank you mark, for sharing your work with the world. I love SWU and the impact it is making.
Thank you for your comment.
Peter, if you watch this back, I hope you see what we all see: an inspirational,compassionate,strong and wise man. God bless you and your family❤🙏
Thank you!😊
@@therealpetergeoI’m so sorry for this loss I can’t even imagine the pain that you feel. Your son is with the Lord and you will see him again one day. 🩵
@mariaperez-ce8qv Thank you for watching. Thanks for your kindness. Cool hat, by the way.
My 27-year-old brother died six months before my 55-year-old mother.
To watch my dad and mother, who is tying of cancer, very their son wrecked me. The cries of my mom will never leave me.
Watching my dad, bury his wife six months after his only son, with something I should've never had to see, and he should've never had to do.
Three months later, he buried his mother, and one month after that, he buried his father
Life comes at us doesn't work and we don't see it, but we have to live it
God bless you, sir .
Your son is safe, I promise.
I'm sorry for all your loss 😢 Thank you for watching.
I was nearly killed by a drunk driver. His defense tried to portray me as also driving drunk. I was on my way to work as a nurse, there was no way I was drunk. I’m not a drinker when I’m not going to work, I darn sure wasn’t drinking on my way in. I was dragged through the mud by these people that were defending a 23 yr old who had 4 drunk driving incidents in less than two years, who had no drivers license and no insurance. It was hell. I lost my home, my vehicle, my career, and my memory. I’m brain injured, have constant pain and horrific nerve damage. I will never be the same. Unlike this man in the story, I have not forgiven the kid that almost killed me. Forgiveness is not mandatory, it’s something someone earns by their behaviors. The guy who hit me is not sorry, he’s just sorry he got caught. He is owed not one ounce of forgiveness.
Oh Katie, my heart breaks for you. ❤❤
Forgiveness is for you!! Not for them. UnForgiveness is like you drinking the poison and expecting the other person to die. Forgive them for you. Please. I beg of you!
By sharing your terrible experience you are sure putting a lot of good into this world for those who are willing to listen. You handle it all so well, as best as can be I'd say. Thank you and may God help your family and you as you need it.
Thank you so very much.
Sending healing vibes to you and your wife . Peace and love
Thank you very much & thanks for watching. 😊
Humility and grace are the hardest of human character to not only possess but also exhibit. Bravo, Peter. You do both so well. My deepest condolences over your and your family's loss. 💐
Thank you very much.
The world is listening to you , I’m sure many ( if not all ) are weeping for you and your beautiful boy R I P , little one.
Thank you for your warm comment. God bless.
I am so sorry for your loss of your beautiful baby boy. I cannot fathom that loss. Nor the daily physical pain you go through. But I do understand what you were saying about your grief...your feelings of abandonment by your friends and family after your loss. I lost my soulmate, my son's father...those that said "I'll be there for you" are no longer THERE FOR ME. They're sick of my grief. So I get it. But your compassion for the human race is outstanding. Don't LOSE that about yourself. I do believe we'll see our loved ones again. 🙏
Thank you for your thoughtful comment. Sorry for your loss. I believe I will see my deceased loved ones again as well. 😊
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family Peter❤
Thank you so very much.
How does he hold it together so well after that tragedy? Plus, it was only 4 years ago. I would be sobbing like a baby!
Thanks for your comment. I don't always hold it together well. I assure you I am very human.
@@therealpetergeo hang in there, buddy! People are praying for you and wishing you well.
My heart breaks for you and your family. What strength and courage it takes to continue being a kind person with the hand you’ve been dealt. I truly wish the best for you and your’s.
I appreciate your comment. Thank you.
Yep, they're called "fair weather friends".
I am so very sorry for the loss of your son. 😞
May God lesson the pain in your heart.
This one is really disturbing. I feel for you! I'm glad Mark gave you a platform to share. I hope you get some peace from sharing. Knowing there's new people out there thinking about you and possibly praying for you!
Thank you for watching.
I appreciate your raw honesty!
I ugly cried on my way to work, I pray he continues to heal and find peace
Thank you for watching. Thanks for your kindness.
praying for you brother. losing someone like that is unimaginable.
Thank you very much.
I want to reach through the screen and hug you, I’m so sorry 😞
@@jessicafalk5760 Thank you. 😊
@@jessicafalk5760 Thank you. 😊
He is absolutely right when he spoke of trying to manage pain with pain meds. Doctors think you are a drug seeker and pharmacists give you dirty looks for the same reason. This fuking opioid epidemic has made life a living hell for those who really need it. I wish you the best of luck in your recovery, mentally, emotionally and physically. ❤
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I hope if any of your old friends listen to this, will humble themselves and reach out to you and rekindle the friendship. Hugs and prayers for you dear man.
Thank you for your kindness. 😊
I googled it, what a damn shame. His little boy is beautiful!
Yes, he was beautiful inside and out.
Most emotional one of Mark's videos I've seen. I can't imagine his pain. And the medical system in the late 90s gave everyone opiates which was wrong but the situation is worse now . People suffer in pain that should have relief, and guilt free relief.
You're right the pendulum has to swing the other way now 😢
I cant believe his family did not tell him!
This is one of your best interviews. This father is speaking from his soul.
Thank you for watching. 😊
Man. Never got to meet you guys but love you Pete. I’m bernis son.
We did meet at a park in Claremont when you were in grade school. Love you too buddy.
Gosh, I feel so badly for this guy, he seems like such a great guy. Incant begin to imagine what he’s been through. As a nurse, the pain relief issues infuriates me. I hate that people he was close to have abandoned him after he suffered such a loss and hardship, I’m glad he and his wife could find a way to stay together for each other. I hope life brings some good things his way.
Thank you Stephanie, you're very sweet.
I’m sorry for your loss. I hope you find true salvation in Jesus Christ.
Damn Mark this one right here is intense