As an autistic person and parent of an autistic son, this is very accurate. Sure, the mother made mistakes but that’s the challenge framed by the double empathy problem - as a parent you walk around on eggshells trying to pre-empt and anticipate your next move, and you get it wrong - a lot - even if you’re autistic. And while it might look as if Tom is annoyed by his neurotypical mother, he actually probably cares about her very deeply and is continually frustrated in himself for not being easier to get along with. And I didn’t see Sarah’s love as a limitation, she’s learning and it takes a lifetime to adapt and figure out how much to support and how far to step back - and I say this as someone who’s lived with autism for nearly 60 years. There’s no easy answer. I’m a pain to live with (I’ve been married over 30 years) because the way people need to interact with me is dictated by my sensory environment. I suspect a lot of people will watch this film and be unaware how much care and thought went in to the script. Well done 👍
My son has Asperger's, I've often wondered, does he love me? Of course he tells me. And he's almost 18. I get that teenagers pull away from their parents. But I don't want to ever do anything wrong to destroy his feelings about me. I love him so much.
I have asbergers and have had this issue especially during my time in primary school. I was always treated differently by teachers, principals and students this is a really good quality film and very well done. It isn't easy living with asbergers syndrome but it doesn't mean we aren't like everyone else. Everything about this film made me smile especially the attention to detail and the love and care that went into the script.
This happens to me almost everyday, I’m at college rn and it could be better, a friend of mine talks to me like I’m different, I know he means well and doesn’t intend on it but it can be annoying, it also doesn’t help by telling people I have autism. I’d rather just not have people know at this point, it’s terrible being treated like the runt of the litter everyday when I know I’m capabale of a lot more.
4:51 it’s not that I dont know how to act…I’m too scared of doing or saying something wrong, I’m not afraid around people I get to know better And I like hugs…I love my grandpa…I just dont want to hug someone who has hurt me before…
I saw it that she is enabling his behaviour and walking on egg shells to please him but he is too old to be treated like that even if he is autistic. Like it's just going to make him feel worse surely
I don’t fully understand what he says to the friend - the final line - and why, what it means, what he is referring. Does he say he wants his mother to start seeing him like everybody else? Why?
Very good, but I would suggest not using functional labels in the description. It just describes how well someone can hide their autism and is often described as abilist (discriminating against neurodiverse people) which I know you don't want to seem. Which is why I thought I would inform you about it.
Other countries still use the Aspergers diagnosis. It’s only in America that it’s considered offensive, and this was fine in Great Britain. Likely a lot of the comments are from Brits too.
I wasn't saying not to use the term Asperger's. I was saying, explaining it as a high functioning autism might be offensive to some autistic people because they consider it as abilist language (as it just explains how well someone can hide their autism). I too have used this but found it out from multiple autistic youtubers reacting to things and pointed out that they are controversial terms. I believed that the people behind this movie wouldn't want anything that could possibly offend their target audience so wanted to explain that. Although I'm sometimes not good at explaining myself and think I had just watched a youtuber rant about this, so that might have shown up in my comment. I didn't know that. When I got diagnosed maybe 3 years ago I was just told I was on the spectrum and they had combined them. I live in the UK.
Right. Here in America there are a lot of autsies who equate the HFA label with Aspergers and are offended by either one. I understand their rationale but I also get that there are other ways to see it so it doesn’t offend me. I think there are people on the spectrum who need a great deal more support than some others and it doesn’t serve their needs to lump everyone together. Pretending all autsies are indistinguishable also sets people up for self comparisons that can be quite tormenting. So I think we should, as a society, simply stop stigmatizing disability and the need for support. How well we function is a real issue, stigmatizing us too. Erasing differences doesn’t really end stigma IMO. I don’t think there’s an easy answer but failing to acknowledge the greater level of struggle for some autistic folks doesn’t really help them. I think it’s It’s sort of a strange debate.
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@@Katia25 I'm autistic to but i don't know how the bible can help people i was gown up in christianity but slowly and shoerly stoped belive in christianity nonsence people need to realize how god lives in side of us all of us even animals and nature we as a people have one coincesnes if we stop these wars and be as one
@@etelebulcsumarton2234 I'm sorry you stopped believing in God. But those are lies. New age lies. I don't know exactly why you mentioned wars. I wasn't born into a christian family, I'm italian, so there's a lot of catholics here. But Jesus still showed himself to me one day and I repented of my sins and believed in Him. If we want God to be in our hearts, we have to abide in Him. Doing that is only possible by the Holy Spirit. Because we cannot earn our way to Heaven, salvation is a gift. And if you trurly love God, you'll also obey Him. We are not God, we are His creation and He created esce and every one of us for a purpose. I don't know why you stopped believing, but I hope you'll return to Him one day and He shows you the truth. God bless you.
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As an autistic person and parent of an autistic son, this is very accurate. Sure, the mother made mistakes but that’s the challenge framed by the double empathy problem - as a parent you walk around on eggshells trying to pre-empt and anticipate your next move, and you get it wrong - a lot - even if you’re autistic.
And while it might look as if Tom is annoyed by his neurotypical mother, he actually probably cares about her very deeply and is continually frustrated in himself for not being easier to get along with.
And I didn’t see Sarah’s love as a limitation, she’s learning and it takes a lifetime to adapt and figure out how much to support and how far to step back - and I say this as someone who’s lived with autism for nearly 60 years. There’s no easy answer. I’m a pain to live with (I’ve been married over 30 years) because the way people need to interact with me is dictated by my sensory environment.
I suspect a lot of people will watch this film and be unaware how much care and thought went in to the script. Well done 👍
My son has Asperger's, I've often wondered, does he love me? Of course he tells me. And he's almost 18. I get that teenagers pull away from their parents. But I don't want to ever do anything wrong to destroy his feelings about me. I love him so much.
👏👏👏
Yes, exactly. It’s beautiful. ❤
I have asbergers and have had this issue especially during my time in primary school. I was always treated differently by teachers, principals and students this is a really good quality film and very well done. It isn't easy living with asbergers syndrome but it doesn't mean we aren't like everyone else. Everything about this film made me smile especially the attention to detail and the love and care that went into the script.
This happens to me almost everyday, I’m at college rn and it could be better, a friend of mine talks to me like I’m different, I know he means well and doesn’t intend on it but it can be annoying, it also doesn’t help by telling people I have autism. I’d rather just not have people know at this point, it’s terrible being treated like the runt of the litter everyday when I know I’m capabale of a lot more.
I hope your experience is better now. Take care.
My the opposite. I tell people that i have it so i can let them know my disability.
@@Ivan_1791 you’re lucky you’re surrounded by good people
@@TheOnlyGamingDML I have my doubts.
I feel you so much. I hope things get better for you✌🏻
4:51 it’s not that I dont know how to act…I’m too scared of doing or saying something wrong, I’m not afraid around people I get to know better
And I like hugs…I love my grandpa…I just dont want to hug someone who has hurt me before…
As Dr. Grandin says We are different, not less.
I’m autistic and felt the guy feelings
I'm asperger and sometimes I'm like that ,I feel lonely most of the time
This is a really well-produced film; we get to see both sides of each situation and the tug of emotions is very empathetic.
This video Deserves more views
I saw it that she is enabling his behaviour and walking on egg shells to please him but he is too old to be treated like that even if he is autistic. Like it's just going to make him feel worse surely
A powerfully sad short film. I too suffer from Asperger syndrome.
do some push ups
@@antispiralking0 How's that suppose to help?
@@danielwilliamson6180 you become push ups
@@antispiralking0 WT!
@@danielwilliamson6180 no you dont get it
heart-touching
I definitely feel like this all the time and worse is that no one understands
I mean he was in sensory overload and she was having a panic attack the whole time, great duo
Thank you. Very much. 😊
I don’t fully understand what he says to the friend - the final line - and why, what it means, what he is referring. Does he say he wants his mother to start seeing him like everybody else? Why?
I don’t understand it either. Thought it was just me.
It's true.
very well shot, can you explain the ending a bit? did he want to move out
My family know they must ask me what I want for my birthday and it is NOT a party ugh!
I really love this
Very good, but I would suggest not using functional labels in the description. It just describes how well someone can hide their autism and is often described as abilist (discriminating against neurodiverse people) which I know you don't want to seem. Which is why I thought I would inform you about it.
Other countries still use the Aspergers diagnosis. It’s only in America that it’s considered offensive, and this was fine in Great Britain. Likely a lot of the comments are from Brits too.
Made* not fine. Don’t know why it corrected that so badly.
I wasn't saying not to use the term Asperger's.
I was saying, explaining it as a high functioning autism might be offensive to some autistic people because they consider it as abilist language (as it just explains how well someone can hide their autism). I too have used this but found it out from multiple autistic youtubers reacting to things and pointed out that they are controversial terms.
I believed that the people behind this movie wouldn't want anything that could possibly offend their target audience so wanted to explain that.
Although I'm sometimes not good at explaining myself and think I had just watched a youtuber rant about this, so that might have shown up in my comment.
I didn't know that. When I got diagnosed maybe 3 years ago I was just told I was on the spectrum and they had combined them. I live in the UK.
Right. Here in America there are a lot of autsies who equate the HFA label with Aspergers and are offended by either one. I understand their rationale but I also get that there are other ways to see it so it doesn’t offend me. I think there are people on the spectrum who need a great deal more support than some others and it doesn’t serve their needs to lump everyone together. Pretending all autsies are indistinguishable also sets people up for self comparisons that can be quite tormenting. So I think we should, as a society, simply stop stigmatizing disability and the need for support. How well we function is a real issue, stigmatizing us too. Erasing differences doesn’t really end stigma IMO. I don’t think there’s an easy answer but failing to acknowledge the greater level of struggle for some autistic folks doesn’t really help them. I think it’s It’s sort of a strange debate.
Stfu you act like aspies are sensitive snowflakes
This is so touching and educational! Is there other movies that could help me love my asperger love better? Please let me know ❤❤❤
A mother looking on her son like "on everyone else"? Pfff... Never gonna happen. It's not about Asperger's. It's about life on Earth.
I’m a wetard I have AUTISM I struggle mega hard
But Fr I do bugger off libtards
I want to share with you the truth and life.
All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23). God is holy and the punishment for sin is Hell. For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord (Romans 6:23). Jesus Christ is the way, the truth and the life (John 14:6). He died on the cross and rose again on the third day for us all. Repent of your sins, believe in Jesus Christ and accept Him into your heart and follow Him.
What does this have to do whit autism
@@etelebulcsumarton2234 I'm just sharing the gospel. Also, I'm autistic
@@Katia25 I'm autistic to but i don't know how the bible can help people i was gown up in christianity but slowly and shoerly stoped belive in christianity nonsence people need to realize how god lives in side of us all of us even animals and nature we as a people have one coincesnes if we stop these wars and be as one
@@etelebulcsumarton2234 I'm sorry you stopped believing in God. But those are lies. New age lies.
I don't know exactly why you mentioned wars.
I wasn't born into a christian family, I'm italian, so there's a lot of catholics here.
But Jesus still showed himself to me one day and I repented of my sins and believed in Him.
If we want God to be in our hearts, we have to abide in Him. Doing that is only possible by the Holy Spirit. Because we cannot earn our way to Heaven, salvation is a gift. And if you trurly love God, you'll also obey Him.
We are not God, we are His creation and He created esce and every one of us for a purpose.
I don't know why you stopped believing, but I hope you'll return to Him one day and He shows you the truth. God bless you.
@@Katia25 im talking about wars that going on right in ukrain. I didn't stop believing in god just the Christian version of it the entire universe is god along whit the souls that you and me have, the thing is whit the new age that they got something's right but there stil in the dark about a lot of things they only care about there solidified systems and reject everything else it become a religion,religion is good if you not question everything but I can't accept it in a long run
Always remember to repent of your sins (sin is transgression of YAHUAH The Father In Heaven’s LAW: Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers, & Deuteronomy) And Have Belief On Yahusha The Messiah. HE Died and Rose three days later so that you can be forgiven of your sins!
HE Loves you! Come to HIM!
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