How to Let Go of Toxic Emotions | Rangan Chatterjee on Conversations with Tom
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ก.ย. 2024
- We have over-complicated health and wellness. And we may be emphasizing food and exercise too much when stress, touch and sex are just as important. Dr. Rangan Chatterjee knows that people are needlessly suffering, and change is quite possible. Not only is it possible, but it may be much simpler than most people realize. On this episode of Conversations with Tom, Rangan and Tom Bilyeu discuss how crucially important human touch is, and talk extensively about how harmful stress is. Dr. Chatterjee even claims that stress is a bigger part of digestive disorders than food is. This is not the only controversial claim he makes, but he has both the research and the life experience treating patients to back up what he says. After watching this episode you may very well conclude that it’s the simple things that we need to get right: human touch, intimacy, and relaxation. The complexity and the tech can wait.
SHOW NOTES:
Rangan talks about hanging on to the toxic emotion of guilt as a parent [0:04]
How do you let go of toxic emotions? [2:53]
Does all addiction come down to childhood trauma? [4:33]
Tom and Rangan discuss the fact that you can’t want personal growth for someone [6:41]
Do people really need to suffer in order to get motivated to truly change? [9:59]
Rangan contends that most people are walking around unconscious to what matters [11:12]
Rangan talks about what happens when people really have to face their trauma [16:18]
Breakthroughs are extraordinary, but real change requires day-to-day work [19:33]
How do you get people to start working out who don’t want to work out? [21:37]
What do you do when your spouse is not on a growth path? [24:47]
Rangan says the point of life is to figure out who you are. Tom disagrees. [25:28]
Rangan explains losing his passion for soccer, and wonders if the passion was ever real [30:47]
Tom says that there is no such thing as a fundamental self [38:13]
Rangan says that his journey was absolutely one of letting go of false selves [40:36]
Tom advocates that everything about anyone’s worldview and values is made up [48:12]
Rangan talks about stripping away the layers of the onion to find who he really is [50:55]
Tom discusses the need for quiet and stillness to shut out everyone else’s opinions [55:55]
When you can see that your self is a construct, then you can start to un-construct it [59:10]
Diet and exercise is over-emphasized compared to overwhelming stress [1:01:33]
Rangan believes that stress is fundamentally what’s causing lower libido and infertility [1:04:09]
Stress is also a bigger component than food when it comes to digestive disorders [1:06:39]
Rangan describes methods to relax before eating [1:13:06]
Rangan and Tom discuss optimal breathing methods [1:18:01]
Rangan describes the mindfulness practices he uses [1:22:12]
Rangan and Tom discuss that how stress interferes with sex [1:23:31]
A lack of close, nourishing relationships is one of the biggest causes of stress [1:29:55]
Rangan and Tom discuss how touch has become something to be avoided [1:39:12]
Rangan recommends that everyone do what he calls a “3D greeting” [1:44:04]
There might be a point where you are having too much sex [1:48:21]
Technology has harmed intimacy [1:51:24]
BOOKS MENTIONED:
“The Stress Solution”, Rangan Chatterjee
FOLLOW RANGAN:
WEBSITE: drchatterjee.com
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I'm commenting before I even watch this because the stars literally just aligned for me and I wanted to get your attention. I know that you get people constantly thanking you for helping them but I need to express just how much I appreciate the time that you take to help people escape the matrix. What you do is unbelievable.
I've been ill with pneumonia since Saturday and watching your content non stop has given me a new sense of purpose and helped me get through.
I've been stuck in a world of people with fixed mindsets, I literally don't know anyone with a growth mindset! How insane is that.
I've listened to you almost everyday, dreaming of maintaining a growth mindset yet I've been drowned by negativity. What woke me up is when I watched an episode where you said that the 5 people that you're closest to don't necessarily have to be physical, but can be via books and online content. I realised that although I don't know you I can shut out the numbed mindsets surrounding me and really drill down on my dreams, ensuring that I use their negativity and social conformity as a chip on my shoulder.
Thank you from the absolute bottom of my heart Tom and Lisa!!! ❤
I hope you've achieved escaping the fixed mindsets you were surrounded by at the release of this video. I hope you've reached for your dreams and are happily there now, 2 years later when I watched this video ❤️
Thank you for mentioning Gabor Mate!! I hope Tom can get him on the show...Tom please check him out, he is amazing!!
I loved Tom’s statement of knowing yourself is merely knowing your starting point to grow and develop.
Perhaps, it's all about accepting who we are and allowing changes to happen. I think we hang onto too many "old stories" out of fear that we are change. In fact there's very little if anything about us that doesn't change.. Not allowing change to happen, or the fear of changing is really about the narrative that we are taught, trained that anyone who is different is not good.
Very interesting talk. Someday more of us will be open to have these conversations.
I love that he says there's no trick, no hack, just a long process of self-reflection.
This talk makes me really think about the author (Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents) and clinical psychologist Lindsay C. Gibson. I'm gonna throw it out into the universe that one day I will see her having a conversation with with Tom. Love this segment so much!
Going through adversity gives you empathy, You have an immensely larger understanding of people and how to support them. Making mistakes are so important, growth and empathy come from mistakes.
Fear is quite controlling. Fear of mistakes, fear of your feelings, fear of boundaries you make, fear of money, fear you are not enough. Realizing that fear is something you create and is unnecessary. Be aware of your own thoughts, are they based in fear? Each day catch your thoughts, self talk is so important. Look at what you are thinking and responding. Are my thoughts based in fear?
I had a very fear based upbringing, I had many lessons to learn big and small. I became quite ill from all my fear. Migraines, pain throughout my body, weakness, insomnia. Finally losing your fears are so important, each person is on their own path. No judgement, no fear for yourself and others.
Once I learned and understand these concepts I am symptom free, living a very happy healthy life. Not to say adversity no longer occurs in my life, but the way I deal and understand is completely different. I take responsibility for my portion, no blaming, no judgement and no fear. If you can do this adversity does not last long.
Keep growing and learning and moving forward :)
Thanks for this channel, especially this episode in particular. I’ve been slowly breaking away from some of the traditions my culture and family force on me and it’s been a breath of fresh air to know others have been able to breakaway from certain holds in life and chasing what truly is fulfilling for self and not others. #Awareness
I strongly believe life is about creating yourself, not finding yourself. All that physical and mental malleability is perfect for reshaping our lives and ourselves and with our continued growth and expanding knowledge we should be giving the next generation a great starting point than the last.
I think there is a synergy in ones evolution/growth when it some to stopping down and building up (yes, you did say someone would point out where you two “missed something fundamental”). Commonly when people stop away something that is holding them back they build up with something to make them stronger ie “I’ve been hell back because of X trauma (stripping) but I know that it’s not my fault and I have the strength within myself to advance in spite of it (building)”. Yes, it’s a VERY basic example but it’s definitely an example that fits. When you stop away anything negative there is a rawness to it that allows you to find something to help build you back up.
My favourite Dr, wish he were mine! Great show, thank you 🌹
Gabor Mate on the show, pronto!
great conversation, I've asked this question myself, is there really other way to heal than to self-reflect and learn through challenge...and then sometimes there are tools that I suppose can help. I almost think it's a combination of the two. And yes, awareness is def key. So if the tools create awareness...then, breakthrough, if tragedy or suffering creates awareness...then, breakthrough.
Awesome conversation! Thank you!
Tom B, around 8:22 you say you would like to know how to get through that “film” over mindsets. I work with “at risk” or “underrepresented youth”. I am an educator who introduced some classes last semester to CHARLIE ROCKET JABELY. I witnessed him get through and help change the way the students thought. We were so fortunate to have come speak. He would be an awesome guest. He is the guy who inspired that all time inspirational NIKE commercial that some an Emmy (he is in the commercial too). Please check him out Tom...then it’s your call. Thank you for all you and Lisa do. I have benefitted from your work.
I love you both, but so much insisting on contradictions in this episode surprised me. Rangan endured it in such a peaceful delicate manner :) I'd rather flow-listen to each of you and there's no contradictions in what each says. You both make total sense. Yes we come with a print and yes we can change it
Thank you for explaining what is really behind addiction.
Really good conversation, it almost sounds like introvert vs extrovert thought process.
Very interesting conversation, thank you. As you said, going by your discussion you are both on the same page just approaching it from different points. After reading "The Wisdom of your Cells" by Dr. Bruce Liptom, apart from the energy part he writes that our perception control our life, and I believe that our thoughts have alot to do with who we are and who we want to be. It's not easy to undo conditioning of a lifetime but it is doable, one step at a time. Let's stop being victims of our genes and histories, and realise that we are the CEO of our life. One positive thought at a time.
I'm a sucker for love stories. I love his love story, how he met and how fast he knew she was the one
Great show Tom. I am also thrown back that you don’t know who Gabor Mate is but the good thing is that I’m sure by now you are consuming his content, he is so interesting. Excited for you to have him on soon I’m sure.
This is my first time hearing you challenge one of your guest, your normally so chill and asking the great questions you do but this guest I think did something to you or for you in some way, nothing bad just seeing you in a different light was good.
Breaking through to change without hitting rock bottom via Dr. Joe Dispensa said in a previous. Change can happen at anytime through meditation with intent and an emotion.... remember?
Fantastic interview and discussion. Downloaded Gabor Mate’s book also. Thank you Tom for always bringing intelligent, thoughtful speakers to us👍🏼
Maybe facing a designed adversity is the hack to start the journey (12.00-14.00)
Only 45 minutes in. The answer I would say lies between both perspectives of letting go and stripping away and figuring out what you can strengthen and build upon. It is nuanced!
Tom I already tweeted to you (or Impact Theory's twitter) about getting Dr. Gabor Maté on your show and I was really surprised to hear you didn't know or at least heard about him. I'd love to see him on Impact Theory more than ever especially when you were intrigued about the addiction-childhood trauma topic.
This is exactly my question! Do we have to go through the pain to learn or to make permanent life changes.
Mostly
Tom, please interview Gabor Maté! He is such an incredible human and doing impactful work in addiction.
i def see this as them saying the same thing: pulling of the layers of the onion can deconstructing, behaviors vs adaptations, true self vs most evolved self at this moment, adaptation machines vs affected by your environment...
cant wait for your book!
I watched him on a Ted talk.. Awesome.. Great.. Interesting.. Inspiring.. Keep up the "Grey matter working"
My question to you then Tom in what way does one fully acknowledge that they are becoming a different person(growing) and how do they persist through their journey always accepting their new frame of being without falling back into negative feedback loops and learned behaviour caused by their own wiring but also their environment.
Another way you could put it is how do you adapt to your adaptation? and on an even deeper level what does that mean for ones personal life when encountering relationships with friends, family and co workers knowing that certain beliefs and values are changing . What does that functionally and experientially look ,feel and sound like ?
honestly if we prove the existence of Extraterrestrials, everything else will easily align... the implied dormant clause will shift the location from where we attempt to observe these sorts of questions/experiences of life.
Just my thoughts.... when i think about the fact that you and i exist and the thought that our planet is perfectly placed with the sun and the moon in such a way that our life and all life on the planet exists. Ofcourse life exists elsewhere ✌
I think it's both. I did not try, nor did I think I was faking. Lost all interest in short term pleasure, and I WANTED TO GROW, but it wasn't like , I think I'm gonna start growing at 40. I think Tom had a different interest and skill set in his youth. I feel that's where the realization was stronger for the other guy.... lol sorry, forgot name.
sooooo freaking good!
Psychobabble is woo woo too, often used to overcompensate that we don’t know what we’re talking about, usually as an attempt to passively aggressive seek control of the conversation. Commonsense is not psychology.👩🎨🕊
Love following these two guys having a transparent conversation. 💝It could get really interesting if they get in tune/aware of our Maker. We are all Children of God. We think we are Human beings having a Spiritual experience , but in fact we are Spiritual beings having a human experience. I FORGET WHO ORIGINALLY SAID THAT?! Having a Completely human mindset can separate us from God, our true Father, rather than having an awareness of His reality. The way to God is Truth, "search for Him with all of your heart and you will find him. " taken from JeremIah. The road from the head to the heart can take decades...... Let’s talk about Jesus Christ who gave us wonderful things to think about. I am in no way speaking about religion I am taking about truth and the way to have a relationship with our creator. There will always be dis ease as long as we are here on earth, however Jesus promises to give us the Peace that surpasses all understanding. Which I have found to be true. Even though I suffee from depression He givrs me Peace. I am no one special just someone that has found identity in Christ. I identify with His teaching of Mercy, Grace, Truth, and Love. i truly Hope you both find Him in your hearts. Love and Peace to both of you from someone who is ols enough to be your mothers.😂🙏🏼
Who is the decider making your decisions? What if everyone wants you to be your ideal self and you want to be your real self?
Movement, mindfulness, food
Get these necessities in order to improve your life. Gain emotional control through reflection and being open to what is going on inside. Seek answers. Be curious. Intimacy is vital for relationships and a healthy community.
Hey Tom , can you invite Bruce Lipton to the snow please ! Like so Tom would see it
Wow, this was a gooder!!!
Why you uploading so big video???
🙏
As my Religion professor said “What do you think your life is for? Your only job is to mature.” Maturation is the process of embracing consciousness and adapting your state of being to the states that serves not only you but the communities you belong to.
The ultimate juggling act, don’t you think?😂
Hey Tom & the team, I was wondering if you guys are reusing those water bottles?
Bro, you guys didn't talk about the title. I mean you mentioned it and then started talking about other stuff
I wonder if there are people who have nerver experienced childhood trauma.🤔
In this interview it would seem Tom wants to control a narrative his guest is authentic changes in personhood, Perspectives happen spontaneously no trying. Trying is the Egoic Brain wanting to be relevant. Reference the Tao. I love Tom he is Amazing tho... so unapologetically himself.
what is the name of the book he is talking about?
His voice reminds me of George Michael
17:45
psylocibin is theonly thing that let me see a different perspective
I love Dr. Chatterjee. The depth with which he listens and his unfailing graciousness, even in the face of Tom's blustery insistence, is impressive. That Pranayama practice must really work! 😉I'd like to 2nd (or 3rd, 4th...) the request to invite Gabor Mate.
Unfailing graciousness is a lovely and true description of Rangan... 💖
Tom, you're just arguing semantics. When Rangan says discovering who you are, he's talking about discovering who you would choose to change yourself into.
You tell Rangan you disagree because you can look at who you are, decide what parts you respect and what parts you don't, but discovering what you respect about yourself and what you don't *is* discovering who you are, so you actually agree with him.
It's impossible to claim you can choose what will serve you best, as you claim we do, without acknowledging a preexisting self that isn't built up, but stripped away to. You can't choose values because making the choice requires preexisting values in the first place. You can be mistaken about values, but only your true preexisting values can reveal that.
The only alternative would be that you are nothing more than an output of your input. In which case, your earlier question of how to change people is easy. Just change the environment because people are merely reflections of that . . . But we know you dont believe that to be the case.
Made it jarring to watch, but thanks for the great content and the open mind.
I am indeed surprised that Tom doesn't know Gabor Maté. He's amazing, truly inspirational.
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Same, I think Tom should bring Gabor mate In the coming episode
Yes Tom need to Bring in Gabor Mate, he is amazing!!!.
Gabor Mate quote” in active addiction there is no compassion “. Gabor Mate is so so Woke.
@@SheilaV Don't use such foul language to describe such a great human. ;)
Whoever is reading this dont be discouraged by the critics and false accusations. You are going to win. You will raise up beyond the doubt. Just believe
Back atcha, Gorgeous
Thanks Grace I needed to hear that
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Man, Tom - I really think you need to really consider your relationship to the spiritual (i.e. the existence of something not within your logical, thinking, science-y side) and not relevant to religion, as I feel it is the last thing eating at you and keeping you from being even more open to the ideas your guest bring to you. Your avoidance to "woo-woo" practices is only the resistance you always bring up around anything spiritual in nature that you cannot control and/or see. *slowly creeping back to my corner of the internet now...*
The best way to grow and to reach your next level as a person is to FACE your fears. If you are feeling uncomfortable, afraid & out of place. Realize that YOU are in a position to GROW. Your body & your old ways are fighting back trying to keep you in the same place. That which you seek (happiness, change, fulfilment) will be on the other side of your fears. "Do what is hard and life will be easy, do what is easy and life will be hard"
That quote is one of my favorite quotes. The more uncomfortable we are, the quicker we will grow. When was the last time you felt super uncomfortable?
Tom, what the....... Was that question about replacing an addiction with what? Soooooo disappointed!!!!!!!!
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"The cave you fear to enter, holds the treasure that you seek". I don´t know where I read this but so true. Anyways I am an insecure person who can´t even see the cave.
I really really love Tom's style, his instagram posts and speeches are so hard-core that frequently they strongly resonate with me. And for this conversation with Tom series, I have only watched a few, but I have to say that I don't like this particular episode at least as much as other formats at this point. I think the series would benefit a great deal if Tom would refrain from challenging the guest way too much to the point that at times it felt as though it were a contest, and in this case I can see some level of embarrassment especially from the guest's side, and that is also not helping the conversation go deeper. Also, it sounds a bit weird that Tom would interrupt or derail quite often but I don't see how that enriches the conversation either. Often the result was that the talk ended up sounding more like a chat that goes from one topic to the next, some topics overly dissected. In this setting, I'd think it would also help if Tom could show a little bit more attentiveness when the guest talks, instead of acting like overly relaxing, which could possibly come across in front of the camera as dismissive. I can kind of sense what Tom really wanted the series to look like, a kind of exchange of ideas that collide or conflict with each other that results in a tension that finally leads to deep and meaningful reflection from all sides. But now, it seems it's not there YET. With that said, I'm really looking forward to seeing how the series evolve in the future.
OMG!!! U spoked my words .. I tried saying this and then just gave up. Thank u for expressing what I've been wanting to say so eloquently. I also love Tom just didn't like seeing him here. He seemed egotistical
But ... that is the whole point of THIS format - that instead of politely interviewing the guest (only agreeing with and/or privileging their opinion - like most "talk shows" we see) that it is more like a real conversation with a friend or valued colleague. If we're not allowed to ask "real" and probing questions, to disagree, to ask for clarification, to call BS, and so on - then we lower the chances of reaching a deeper understanding and more honest (and therefore trustworthy) levels in our relationships. They disagree as they move toward seeing each other's position. They both stand in their own truth, even as they show respect for the other person.
It could change the country if people could learn to dialog this way.
Ive seen many many of his interviews and he's not been to this extreme. I totally agree about open dialogue and discussion but there is tact to it. I admire that he was strong enough to say he didn't know who Gabor Mate is and I pray that he invites him on (I digressed) but I feel there's an art and tact to open forum and discussion where parties can express their opinions and agree to disagree. And here he's asking someone Abt his personal journey ... It sort of doesn't make sense to negate someone's experience and how they grew from it and how it shaped their opinion today.
Hi @@heladds, I really hope that he invites Gabor Mate on as a guest too! And, I agree that he was more aggressive (and perhaps more dismissive) in this conversation than usual. It also seemed like he was ignoring "lessons" from other quests - like Simon Sinek. While it is important not to get too caught up in people-pleasing (to the degree where it might be crippling or could keep you from being honest) coming from a place where you have empathy and deeply care about other people can cause you to search for words or ways to communicate your truth in a way that is more likely to be heard (and therefore have a bigger impact).
But it is such a narrow line - that I don't know if it's possible for anyone to do it perfectly every time. I was very glad that the conversation seemed to resolve itself by the end :)
Completely agree..also i find Tom very smug during this interview
Every minute of this conversation is amazing! Really enjoyed this one.
Fantastic interview
How you are brought up by your parents has the greatest effect on the rest of your life. I wasn't as loved by my parents as I should have been and struggled with destructive negative thinking. I did Marisa Peer's "I am enough" hypnotherapy and my feelings of myself have changed. We can all change our thoughts and mindset no matter what age we are. It all depends on if we want to grow.
Yeah, my parents were pretty destructive people, but I can't change that it was their programming. I can only change myself. It seems like a lot of work, but I am doing my best.
The POINT the Doctor is trying to make, is once you cut away all the noise of the outside world..You will realize who you are and what really matters to you.. Example, I always thought I wanted to be a Rich, guy with all the toys and the amazing beautiful wife and do all the cool things money can buy.. I always thought, the Bullshit stops with me and to fight fire with fire..However, the more I understand me. I realize, I want to give back, I love time alone..I love nature and animals etc.etc. And I don't fight fire with fire unless 100% have to..I leave the fire and let it burn out on it's own...Point is Tom, you can't mold YOURSELF into the person to get what you want..Untill, you know who you are, then you can figure out who you are... I'm not the guy who needs a Ferrari, I am the guy who started a Dog Rescue INSTEAD..That's the real me that took me over 50 years to realize
Omg I just got full body shivers when you mentioned Dr Gabor Maté. I've been watching/ reading him on TH-cam/ his books for a couple years❤
Tom Bilyeu is one of the best interviewers I have ever seen, but with this "conversations with Tom" long form interviews, it can become a bit boring listening to him pontificate about his point of view when I would rather listen to the person he is interviewing. but sometimes, like with the topic starting at 1:30:34 and he make an observation like he does at 1:31:55 where he just blows my mind 🤯 and I realize he is an absolute genius.
Exactly. I love conversation with Tom for those moments.
Why have you changed the set up.....??
Old set up was better...this new setup looks more technical with mike , but missing that emotional connect which was most important part of your show.
.....this mic. between you and your guest has completely disturbed that human connection which is so very important.....
Plzzz pay attention to this.......
Everything you said 💯. 14 years ago my oldest son died, our house foreclosed, 2 failed business, divorce, rape, 2nd marriage to a narcissist all to end me up in jail in London. For a decade I worked on understanding myself under all of the traumas layered on top of the “real me”. Health is 💯 emotional. I lived with chronic inflammation and injury because of my trauma and emotional injuries internally. I’ve been pain free and injury free for three years because of massive amounts of energetic healing and belief re-wiring. Trauma truly can wreck your life if you do not become conscious about your accountability to heal it. I believe the traumatic death of my son started that wrecking journey and it wasn’t until I looked internally my life started to shift. I am now 💯 healed. I became determined to scrub out every single wound and become un-triggerable. Oh my gosh EVERYTHING you say is so spit on. I just started a channel on creating internal freedom to help others overcome their external circumstances. Ooooooooh!!!! Starting line is figuring out who you are and then Becoming a better version of that through change!
I am so sorry you had to go through all of that. It is great to see you turned that into your fuel and message to share with others. You are a very strong and admirable woman!
God bless you and your initiative 🙏
Your story is inspiring !
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Tom, I can’t believe you have never heard of Gabor Mate! Get him on your show ASAP!
Disappointed with Tom in this interview.
I feel he kept interrupting. After asking the doctor a question instead of listening he would cut him off and then he had to give his opinion. This should be abt his guest not him. I assume as an interviewer when u invite a guest, it's Abt the guest.
I could see why this interview is a bit of a disappointment. For me around 50 minutes into the interview it seemed that Tom and Rangan where letting the ego get in the way of the conversation. But Tom is amazing at getting his ego out of the way to delve into the heart of whatever matter is at hand. Joe Rogan talks about it sometimes, how to get your ego out of the way. Its difficult to put into words what I am trying to express. I feel that a dual conversation is going on. One that uses words and one that does not. If one is able to pick up on the ques of the nonverbal conversation they can remove the ego and delve into the heart of the matter.
He was ' punching' his own agenda, with regard to the book, he is writing.
Best episode yet! Thanks Tom, I am so fascinated that you have done so much for all of us and yet don't have an inclination to Spirituality.
Take the worst thing that ever happened to you and turn it into the best thing that ever happened to you- Lori Harder
Gabor Mate GP...All addiction comes from trauma. childhood trauma.
You cant want it for someone. You have to get through and help them to love themselves.
Make them understand. Never lose Hope. Keep going and help others. You are special to others.
Do you know which Gabor Mate book he's referencing?
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When you force a flower to bloom it dies. “When the carpenter strikes the nail and the nail bends does the Carpenter lose faith in all nails.” Kung fu
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Good one. I miss that show. If I can’t find the shows anywhere.
@@theflyer4285Let me know if you find it!
Introspection demands a lot of time, calmness and the presence of the mind.
Which is a very hard task when you have myriad of obligations every day. Only by setting up a life with least amount of distractions can we get there.
Oh god not you again spouting your nonsense.
Tom, I can’t believe you haven’t heard of Gabor, you must bring him on to the show. He is nothing short of brilliant. 🙏
I've faced a lot and my belief and hope was that it was all for something. I still don't know why I got so much shit in my life but I'm still here refusing to give up. I don't know why I keep getting up but apparently I'm an anomaly to survive so much. This was a really interesting discussion which I'll be thinking about all day. Thank you as always.
I hope you bring Goggins back someday.
Yes. I was thinking that too. 😁
Conversation with Goggins
36:40 I can empathize with Rangan about him being obsessed with Liverpool to fit in. I am Asian descent (born in France up to age 11) then later moved to the US and became obsessed with the NBA and particularly with the Chicago Bulls. Later on, after Jeremy Lin (Linsanity) became a huge thing in 2012, I saw people's inner racism (whether benign or malicious) come out just like Rangan's experience with the Liverpool fans saying racist things to him. It's 2021, I still watch and enjoy some NBA but couldn't care less about who won.
This was so good! I've been following both of you for some time and, man, my mind is literally whirling. Thank you!
Same essential goals, different approach and different articulations. Rangan has a more sensitive and personal approach. Tom is hyper rational and that’s okay too. Great job guys. I like that there are 2 POVs that converge.
LOVE Rangan, glad you went deep with him. He’s such a nice guy too!
this was wonderful. 💜
Dr. Gabor Mate 👌🏻learned so much from his teachings. I was blessed to endure an awakening that turned my life around after realizing my father is a psychopath (a public figure as well) and he had brainwashed me to believe that I’ve had a wonderful childhood due to his love and care. When in fact it’s the complete opposite. Cognitive dissonance, gas lighting, self doubt, in fact my entire life a was a lie. I’ve gone 10 years no contact to unlearn and heal. YES the body keeps the score and especially the nervous system. I’m blessed to have had this humbling experience which didn’t look like it at the time and is working on a documentary (I am a film editor and producer) to bring awareness to such overlooked maternal abuse. So blessed to be living in the age of information to be able to tap away and get educated. Really love your shows Tom, keep inspiring ✌🏻
I hear and feel you
How come when I listen to stuff like this I see it as so self indulgent and egoistic? And my experience suggests that that is the root of all suffering. There is something about this strategy that seems counter productive. My personal experience is suffering abates when I am in service to others.
"Internal" fixation is sort of the definition of living in the ego. And it's only when I abandon me as the center of the universe that grace comes my way.
555Trout it does feel like Tom is just disagreeable on this, like his conversation comes from defending a position on something rather than trying to achieve harmonious discussion
@@alloutbeats6142 Yeah, it does. And whenever we're defending our ego is running the show.
“What do you say to the couples that don’t agree” - oooof, the suspense of it all.....
"If you are unaware you can't make those changes." This applies to so many things. It wasn't until I was aware how debilitating my anxiety had become that I took action to get it under control. The most uncomfortable thing I have done in a long time was to open my TH-cam channel (which of course made me feel even more anxious!). I know I am not perfect and there is growth and improvement that will make me better in the future. However, I can't invest all my energy on that. All I can do is focus on keep going and taking more action. What are you guys working on? When was the last time you did something that made you feel uncomfortable?
Cold showers work wonders
Today, when I allowed myself to ask people for help to find an artist to make album art for me. I am learning to be ok with being vulnerable. It takes courage. Happily, the more courageous things (which vary from person to person) you do, the easier it becomes to face your fears and overcome them.
“The way we breathe is information to our brain”
Tom it is annoying that you are very eager to just define everything instead of patiently listening to the guest and being open to naturally and organically understand what they are trying to say. you are listening to speak and not just actually listen and it is very annoying to watch as a very regular viewer of your videos!
I really don’t think Rangan’s whole description and story about soccer and his favorite team and him having kids now and losing interest for soccer and how that is connected to ‘who you are’ is rational or logical or even valid. The concept of finding who you really are (yogis and eastern philosophers always talk about it) is not as simple as you got married and had kids and your priorities shifted and you realized you don’t care for soccer anymore. That is not realizing ‘who you really are’ lol.
Why did you marry? Why did you have kids? Are these also because you are influenced by society/parents etc or you truly wanted to do them? If they are influenced by external factors (most of the time it is) then those things are not truly what you are either.
Who you truly are is a much more intricate concept than just your priorities shifting as years go by.
seems like Rangan lives in the FLOW described by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. Optimal way of living
Thank you so much for the content! I can’t wait until Don Miguel Ruiz on this show to share the non-shamanistic Toltec traditions!
Gabor Mate is brilliant!
They have a great chemistry together
Yes, I think you two together bring out the best in both of you! 😊 Beautiful intelligent and inspiring discussion on important issues. Thanks for sharing it with the world. 🙏
“There are two passions that we receive simultaneously before each breath, one that does not have our best interest and the other that has our best interest.” Kirk Phillips
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Profanity is a limited angry vocabulary often resorted to when we feel we don’t have control of the conversation or situation.
This is such a beautiful conversation. I am able to understand the disagreement between both of them. Coming from India, the idea of spirituality is going within, finding out who you are. Because, that becomes the fundamental for who you want to become. It is like, to become a master of subject, you need to study in-depth and understand what that subject is all about, only then can you take it to another level. In the end, it all means the same. The destination is the same, it is just different ways of calling those paths differently based on cultures. But again, thank you. Very insightful. Keep up the tremendous work.
I can’t even express how insightful this interview is. There is a lot of self reflection process being triggered listening to this. Thank you Dr Chaterjee and Tom
Tom , your a really beautiful person. I began watching you about 4 months ago. Your honest, real , humble,kind , objective, your extremely caring. You really care about others and you teach us to love ourselves,accepting our own issues , and encouraging us to want to help ourselves and others.
Today I thought of you ,while watching this incredible podcast.
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Another excellent interview, thanks Tom!
I know many of my failed relationships were a result of a loss of, and/or lack of touch/intimacy. Not saying that was the main reason, but it was often a contributing factor. People have GOT to turn off their telivisions. Between the nonstop fear mongering and constant political programming, to the subliminal messaging, predictive programming and outright lies coming from them, the tv has been one of the single biggest contributing factors with regards to how our society has DEvolved over the past century. AND now that everyone carries one in their pocket, it's made the ability to cultivate a successful relationship extremely difficult if not impossible for most. Divorce is at an all-time high & birth-rates are at historic lows. Turn off the TV and limit yourself to an hour or less each day on your smartphone. That's the only way we're going to take back our lives.
That is mind blowing that Tom didn't know Gabor... Wow.