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My ex-girlfriend only hit me 3 different times. It was enough to make me flinch with all my partners for the next decade. It's crazy how even small amounts of abuse can fuck you up. I always appreciated being comforted like this after... thanks for your work
I was sitting with my friends at lunch one day, and a girl held her hand up for a high five. I flinched so hard I almost fell out of the chair. It's amazing how much will scare you after an abusive relationship.
I actually fell out of a chair, once. I was studying in the university library when this random girl next to me reached up and stretched. I legit had a panic attack and fell out of my chair, hyperventilating on the floor. It was quite embarrassing after the fact.
I love how chill the argument is. No shouting and being aggressive, just talk thats getting heated up a little. And that apology wow. Just wow. U earn a sub
I remember when me and my (now EX) girlfriend were in an argument while I was working on my computer and I accidentally tipped a glass cup off the desk and it shattered, my (now EX) girlfriend had an abusive relationship before and I came from an abusive foster family so when the glass shattered I flinched, she flinched because of me flinching and I flinched again because of her flinching. We immediately stopped the argument and started comforting each other.
I really appreciate this audio. I, thankfully, have not been physically abused, but for many years my mom did, and arguably still does, emotionally abuse me. Instead of reacting like that to someone hitting a table, it's someone raising their voice angrily that sends me into fight or flight Sorry, that was weird of me to just dump here and I deeply apologize if I made you uncomfortable
A simple scare from my dad hitting the way nearby my head makes me flinch at random bangs against hard surfaces so this made feel so happy and made me cry from feeling so understood The worst thing is that when I say I'm a guy people think I'm a wimp but this made me feel like I wasn't and that is something I really needed! Thank you so so much for this audio! You're a awesome person!
@@HawkGaming3721 it really does I'm not even allowed to be angry or I'm looked at like I'm crazy just because I'm a tall guy I get looked at weirdly if I cry I don't even feel safe enough to cry where people can see me because of all the "guys shouldn't cry" And I feel like I'm not allowed to have trauma either because "it's not that bad and you're just overreacting"
I honestly don’t have a dark past but I’m just sensitive sometimes and flinch for no reason, people always think I’ve been hit by someone and that’s never happened lol, for the people who have been hit, hope you can move on and get better. Great audio, have a great day, everyone!
Your voice is amazing omg. So many times I searched for female 4 all/male audios and everytime the girls who are talking have high pitched voices and stuff like that. Your voice is so calming and beautiful
I decided to watch some like rp asmr for the first time and going into this i was like "there's no way this is gonna make me feel anything" BUT HONESTLY WHEN YOU STARTED APOLOGIZING I STARTED CRYING??? Like honestly thank you this is really comforting⁉️⁉️😭💖
I’m between 12-14 years old I don’t feel safe saying my exact age, but I’ve been in an abusive relationship and it’s horrible, even tho I’m younger it still hurts. Thank you for making this ❤️
i dont listen to asmr too often, especially not audios, and i usually dont get like immersed or anything, but i did not expect this to literqlly make me cry 😭
Knowing me, the argument was probably about the fnaf timeline. (Also I flinch all the time at the smallest things because of some stuff that happened in the past so it’s very likely I’d flinch at that.)
I don’t flinch much but when I listen to these I just flinch idk why I do it just all ways catches me off guard , thankfully I have never been hit or abused before 💖
I don’t really even know why i flinch, but and hand movements towards me and i flinch. No abuse, no nothing. My best guess is that human contact is really THAT foreign of a concept for me
Thank you so much you just got a new sub my dad has yelled at me and even put his hands on me so like whenever I got put into a argument I end up shutting down and end up going blank minded( since my dad is black and hates when people doesn't answer a question he'll fire up more) made things worst, this video helped me a bit and I cried in a good way felt comfort thanks again
I flinch at a lot of things like yelling, or hitting something. Because of my parents they aren't the best. My dad would hit us for fun like we enjoyed it- He'd yell at us for the tiniest things (by us I mean me and my siblings)
When my parents where mad or angry at me for no reason because everything bad happened was my fault sometimes i flinched other times i just closed my eyes and waited the hit then they would always pull me to my room with all their strength after that i normally cried and sometimes self harmed. One time i hited my head on the wall as a form of self harm and instead of worrying if i was ok they screamed at me... Today is better but sometimes still happens but is very rare Also sorry about my English It's not my first language
I didn’t have abusive parents growing up. I had an abusive sister, so I flinch a lot around anyone really, mostly girls and idk why, just my subconscious maybe? So this felt really nice to listen to.
And I’m also very cautious around girls. Make sure I don’t touch em. like no hugs, high fives or even accidentally bumping into them. My sister would yell and hit me for the smallest things. Sorry for ranting but this really brought back sad memories 😂
my “friends” would always hit me for no reason and i flinch at everything now. even if someone would just raise their hand or move their arm near me it makes me flinch.
Ummm I should probably be concerned that every person I’ve ever dated never hit me but we don’t really talk anymore, except two of my ex’s and we are both best friends with each other. My mother on the other hand, she is a different abusive story. My memory is hazy and it’s like I completely forgot most of the abuse
Ive never had a partner but ive flinched around friends and family due to fear of being hit even tho its never happended im not sure why but this made me feel better about it
One of my former friends used to hit me when I said something stupid. Took 2 years not to react when we split whenever anyone raised their hand near me. Of course, I took boxing during the latter half of our friendship, so I learned not to flinch or even move.
I’ve been physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually abused throughout multiple relationships, I have a lot of triggers, from simply being yelled at, to being hit and/touched sexually. The crazy part about all of that is I’m only 15 years old, turning 16 in March. If shit like that ever happens to you, don’t hesitate to reach out to someone and ask for help.
@@purpleskiesasmr I mean, I’m getting help for my depression and all of that, but my therapist nor does my family know about any of that. My girlfriend and my 2 very close friends know about all of it. And being ripped away from my family and put into the foster care didn’t help matters at all
I know it’s kinda stupid but my brother used to have a cap gun that he got from the dollar store and it was so loud and he always pointed it at me and shot it never hit my but Bc it was loud it made me hate loud noises and now yelling and loud noises trigger me .
I was hit by my mom recently bc I had enough and snapped, the bruise is still healing and honestly I kinda flinch from time to time or in sudden movement, Ty for this
My parents always hit me and my siblings. When I was younger I thought that was okay, but now I know that shit fucked me up! I still flinch when my parents move their hands really quick towards me. This helped!
Dude, if this happend IRL my brain would have forced me to flinch, back up, look down, hands in my lap making myself small and controlled, and my brain would repeat "don't become a target". I also probably wouldn't remember the rest of the day lol It happend one time in school becous a teacher threw papers across the front of the class room before yelling at us. Still don't remember the rest of the day lol
my friend consistently hit me and i would say stop and she wouldnt so i left the friendship bc i started flinching at every small movement from everyone.
My LONELY biromantic a$$ is watching this at 3 IN THE MORNING crying my eyes out…i feel better ngl :)) I’ve been havin a rough time with bullying (online and irl) rn and my parents cant even help me with school work. Ofc i have to do it my own since im “already at highschool” 🧍🏻♀️ ..im so sorry for ranting, i hope everyone else listening to this audio is alright
I flinch a lot so if someone raises there hand fast like for a high-five I flinch like I jump . Because people have done things that make me scared and now I have that reaction - and it sucks people see that and start laughing, usually because I look scared and they think I’m joking. So yup that sucks.
The only reason that I flinch when someone yells at me because if I did something wrong my parents would yell at me if someone yells at me I get super scared and start crying because it has a reaction to the point where I will back away from that person if they start yelling at me
I’ve been hit so many times that if anyone and I mean ANYONE lifts their arms the slightest bit I flinch, put my arms up to guard my face and shut my eyes because I think they’re going hit me….
for a good 8 years of my life I've been abused by my mother and whatever friends or partners she had and I'm only 13, when you started apologizing I had a breakdown because no one has apologized to me except at restaurants when they get my order wrong.. Anyways great audio keep up the good work.
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Her: why did you flinch like that?
Me: 🎶...when I was...a young boy....my father🎶
TOOK ME INTO THE CITY
AND BEAT ME-
That’s it:)
@@ProblematicBeach I'm glad someone got it😅
LMAOAOOAOAOA SAME
Mood
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My ex-girlfriend only hit me 3 different times. It was enough to make me flinch with all my partners for the next decade. It's crazy how even small amounts of abuse can fuck you up. I always appreciated being comforted like this after... thanks for your work
I’m sorry for that bro
i'm so sorry that happened, you never deserved that. i hope i could be of some help, you aren't alone. 💜
That's 3 times too many. Any abuse is still abuse.
You can't hit people. That's not allowed. I hope you are I a better relationship and i hope that you are ok
Thats 3 too many.
The fact that she was able to just drop the argument to address the issue would be reason enough for me to believe she's the one.
I was sitting with my friends at lunch one day, and a girl held her hand up for a high five. I flinched so hard I almost fell out of the chair. It's amazing how much will scare you after an abusive relationship.
i’m so sorry, i’m sure it can definitely take a toll :(
My mom raised her hand to itch her other hand and I flinched and she was like 😮
I actually fell out of a chair, once. I was studying in the university library when this random girl next to me reached up and stretched. I legit had a panic attack and fell out of my chair, hyperventilating on the floor. It was quite embarrassing after the fact.
I love how chill the argument is. No shouting and being aggressive, just talk thats getting heated up a little. And that apology wow. Just wow. U earn a sub
welcome
I remember when me and my (now EX) girlfriend were in an argument while I was working on my computer and I accidentally tipped a glass cup off the desk and it shattered, my (now EX) girlfriend had an abusive relationship before and I came from an abusive foster family so when the glass shattered I flinched, she flinched because of me flinching and I flinched again because of her flinching. We immediately stopped the argument and started comforting each other.
When your entire deck is uno reverse cards
In all seriousness though, i hope you are both doing much better now and living good lives
I know this is late but may i ask why you broke up it sounded like a perfect match not trying to be mean.
@@HawkGaming3721this made me laugh way to hard 😭
Damn the "edited" at the top broke me
@@Azathoth343LMMAAOAOAOOA
Growing up in a tramatizing household, I flinch way too easy AND cry too much but the apologizing is adorable
i'm sorry to hear :( and thank you!
Sending you a hug🤗
Same
Lmao, the loud breathing at the start made me flinch 💀
I did the same 😂
Same😭
Fr😭
I have black parents so I'm always gonna flinch but this made me feel better about it.
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Damn same
Right 😭😭
I'm not even joking she stopped hitting me when I was 11yrs old but I'm 13-14yrs and I still flinch when she turns. It a joke atp😂🤦🏾♀️
@@trix7689 BRO THE RELATE THO WITH ME SHE STILL DOES😭
I flinch at everything. It sucks because im always on edge and scared and jumpy. Its not a good way of living. Thank for making this audio
i'm the same, i'm super jumpy, and thanks for enjoying!
I’m the same way
I’m the same way
Idk if it'd be to the same extent but honestly same, I'm kinda glad my friends don't react to it badly
Same. I hope we can both get over it positively
i swear its bc im hispanic and even then its not even that im scared its just a genuine reflex 😭😭😭
aw :(
Bruuuuh same
Latina here
LAMOOOO factss
i never hit my partner but every time i ball my fist up my wall flinches
I really appreciate this audio. I, thankfully, have not been physically abused, but for many years my mom did, and arguably still does, emotionally abuse me. Instead of reacting like that to someone hitting a table, it's someone raising their voice angrily that sends me into fight or flight
Sorry, that was weird of me to just dump here and I deeply apologize if I made you uncomfortable
it's completely okay, i'm sorry that happened to you :(
@@purpleskiesasmr I really appreciate that, it's incredibly kind of you to validate my emotions
Yo, it's ok my dude. Sorry about your mom, I hope you find peace in your life and I wish you nothing but the best in the future.
A simple scare from my dad hitting the way nearby my head makes me flinch at random bangs against hard surfaces so this made feel so happy and made me cry from feeling so understood
The worst thing is that when I say I'm a guy people think I'm a wimp but this made me feel like I wasn't and that is something I really needed! Thank you so so much for this audio! You're a awesome person!
so glad i could help! you are strong and all your feelings are valid, don't let anyone tell you otherwise!
@@purpleskiesasmr I really needed to hear that today, thank you!
If you’re a wimp for being a guy and having emotions then this society needs major repairs
@@HawkGaming3721 it really does
I'm not even allowed to be angry or I'm looked at like I'm crazy just because I'm a tall guy
I get looked at weirdly if I cry
I don't even feel safe enough to cry where people can see me because of all the "guys shouldn't cry"
And I feel like I'm not allowed to have trauma either because "it's not that bad and you're just overreacting"
I honestly don’t have a dark past but I’m just sensitive sometimes and flinch for no reason, people always think I’ve been hit by someone and that’s never happened lol, for the people who have been hit, hope you can move on and get better. Great audio, have a great day, everyone!
I always flinch when someone touches my head but I dont think anyone noticed unless they just don't bring it up
Your voice is amazing omg. So many times I searched for female 4 all/male audios and everytime the girls who are talking have high pitched voices and stuff like that. Your voice is so calming and beautiful
aw thank you so much!!! i'm glad you think so, i was worried when i first started about how people would like my voice ^^ means a lot!
I decided to watch some like rp asmr for the first time and going into this i was like "there's no way this is gonna make me feel anything" BUT HONESTLY WHEN YOU STARTED APOLOGIZING I STARTED CRYING??? Like honestly thank you this is really comforting⁉️⁉️😭💖
aw i'm so glad you enjoyed, my goal is to bring comfort!
Your voice puts me at ease it makes me love your videos
i'm so happy to hear this, thank you
Oh man I’ve found a hidden gem once more, I’m excited to have joined your community Purple Skies
welcome!
The sigh at the beginning murdered my ears
i’m crying while listening to this
No cuz this is so sweet 😭❤️ Thank you sm for this!!
2:09 smol table slam, even scared me
(Im no cat anymore i turned human)
🥺
Your voice is beautiful!!! Thank you for this 🥺
thank you!!! 😚
I’m between 12-14 years old I don’t feel safe saying my exact age, but I’ve been in an abusive relationship and it’s horrible, even tho I’m younger it still hurts. Thank you for making this ❤️
i dont listen to asmr too often, especially not audios, and i usually dont get like immersed or anything, but i did not expect this to literqlly make me cry 😭
aw :( i'm glad i could immerse you a bit!
@@purpleskiesasmr amazing work, kepp doing your thing :)
Ah yes. Flinching. A tried and true method to escape an argument. I'm just joking but this is a great audio.
Her: Why did you flinch like that?
Me: 🎶Oh back when i was younger 🎶
That moment when you flinch 😔
I'm sorry but that calming voice and you are soooooo under rated
thank you 🥺🥺
@@purpleskiesasmr no prob👋👍😊
Awh heck. Awh heck. Dagnabbit I wanted some cuddles and got therapy instead. Mah heart
🤍
i'm always here
your voice is so calming really❤️
This is why I feel girls are better as partners because their so like gentle I don't know how to explain it 😭
How calm... no shouting during argument
aww when u started apologising i started tearing up your so sweet 😘🥺🥺
2:06 MY HEART HER REGRET IS SO :(
Knowing me, the argument was probably about the fnaf timeline. (Also I flinch all the time at the smallest things because of some stuff that happened in the past so it’s very likely I’d flinch at that.)
Gamer argument
well then that makes the two of us then , I'm a fnaf enthusiast myself
1:57 my thoughts during math class
I don’t flinch much but when I listen to these I just flinch idk why I do it just all ways catches me off guard , thankfully I have never been hit or abused before 💖
bro i think there’s tears starting to form in the corner of my eyes
The way I just broke when you started comforting-
ur so underrated omg love ur videos
thank you omg 🥺🥺🥺
I don’t really even know why i flinch, but and hand movements towards me and i flinch. No abuse, no nothing. My best guess is that human contact is really THAT foreign of a concept for me
Hey I think you dropped something 🤲👑 stay safe queen
you too hun!
the bisexuality is making me-
✨scream✨
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Thank you so much you just got a new sub my dad has yelled at me and even put his hands on me so like whenever I got put into a argument I end up shutting down and end up going blank minded( since my dad is black and hates when people doesn't answer a question he'll fire up more) made things worst, this video helped me a bit and I cried in a good way felt comfort thanks again
I'm so sorry you went through that. I'm happy this helped you❤️
i'm sorry this happened to you :( glad i could help in any way
BRU I FLINCHED 😭 i though it was my cat jumping on me bed😭
O m gawd😭
The "love" is so-
I flinch at a lot of things like yelling, or hitting something. Because of my parents they aren't the best. My dad would hit us for fun like we enjoyed it- He'd yell at us for the tiniest things (by us I mean me and my siblings)
aw i’m sorry this happened to you :(
@@purpleskiesasmr I have friends who help me get their it they're the best! :)
I grew up with 5 sibling and they would always hit me when I least expect it so I get scared I can sometimes catch it tho
aw i'm sorry :(
Honestly for me I can't remember why I first started flinching like its mostly sudden movements and loud noises
My brother hit me all the time so I flinch a lot
aw i'm sorry :(
Same but I hope it gets better for you.
When my parents where mad or angry at me for no reason because everything bad happened was my fault sometimes i flinched other times i just closed my eyes and waited the hit then they would always pull me to my room with all their strength after that i normally cried and sometimes self harmed. One time i hited my head on the wall as a form of self harm and instead of worrying if i was ok they screamed at me... Today is better but sometimes still happens but is very rare
Also sorry about my English
It's not my first language
i'm so sorry that happened!
I didn’t have abusive parents growing up. I had an abusive sister, so I flinch a lot around anyone really, mostly girls and idk why, just my subconscious maybe? So this felt really nice to listen to.
And I’m also very cautious around girls. Make sure I don’t touch em. like no hugs, high fives or even accidentally bumping into them. My sister would yell and hit me for the smallest things. Sorry for ranting but this really brought back sad memories 😂
NOT ME CRYING-
Her: slams table*
Me: defense mode activated*
I really liked the video comrade also I have been VERY well trained to dodge things 😀
Me as a hispanic girl and my Hispanic parents would scream kr hit us NOT all the time but a few times too sooo ofc I'm gonna flinch sooo yea :\
aw :(
@@purpleskiesasmr no girl its ok but this is how it feels being in a Hispanic house hold
my “friends” would always hit me for no reason and i flinch at everything now. even if someone would just raise their hand or move their arm near me it makes me flinch.
I always flinch when people tend to "almost hit me" but this definitely made me feel better..
Soup is no stranger to pain. This is just an average Tuesday.
Ummm I should probably be concerned that every person I’ve ever dated never hit me but we don’t really talk anymore, except two of my ex’s and we are both best friends with each other. My mother on the other hand, she is a different abusive story. My memory is hazy and it’s like I completely forgot most of the abuse
aw i’m sorry :(
I have black parents too and I flinch a lot by myself but this makes me a lot better about it🖤
prob bc i have asian parents.. but this is Great made my heart flutter 🥺💗💗💗
Ive never had a partner but ive flinched around friends and family due to fear of being hit even tho its never happended im not sure why but this made me feel better about it
One of my former friends used to hit me when I said something stupid. Took 2 years not to react when we split whenever anyone raised their hand near me. Of course, I took boxing during the latter half of our friendship, so I learned not to flinch or even move.
i’m sorry this happened :(
@@purpleskiesasmr it’s all good. We slap boxed in the street once a few months later and I whooped his ass. Plus, it shows who I can and cannot trust
This is amazing.
Wonderful video! Made my night a lot better 🫂💙
Me: did you get it?
Gf: yes, but at the same time it made no f*cking sense
Me: so you don't get it?
Gf: now your putting words in my mouth.
Me: but-
I’ve been physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually abused throughout multiple relationships, I have a lot of triggers, from simply being yelled at, to being hit and/touched sexually. The crazy part about all of that is I’m only 15 years old, turning 16 in March. If shit like that ever happens to you, don’t hesitate to reach out to someone and ask for help.
i'm so so sorry this happened to you, i hope you're getting the help and support you need
@@purpleskiesasmr I mean, I’m getting help for my depression and all of that, but my therapist nor does my family know about any of that. My girlfriend and my 2 very close friends know about all of it. And being ripped away from my family and put into the foster care didn’t help matters at all
@@iwantfent i understand, keep your head up best you can! 💜
I know it’s kinda stupid but my brother used to have a cap gun that he got from the dollar store and it was so loud and he always pointed it at me and shot it never hit my but Bc it was loud it made me hate loud noises and now yelling and loud noises trigger me .
that's completely understandable, that would scare me too
Abusive childhood, my brother and dad hit me, and they still do!:)
i'm so sorry :( you don't deserve that
never had a girlfriend but my mom used to hit me a lot. Explains why I flinch a lot and I'm hyperalert like all the time. this audio is nice
Ngl, I flinch at startling sudden sounds, lol. I’ve watched too many horror games and movies, lol.
" Your just twisting what I actually said "
Well, I'm sorry that's kinda my job 😅😅
I have three siblings so I always flinch
:(
The first part of this reminds me of my childhood
As someone who sadly stayed with a physically abusive partner for a entire year I can say this is painfully accurate
This helps for being abuse as a kid it hurt in some ways but thanks for this
sorry to hear that that happened :(
@@purpleskiesasmr ❤
I flinched in the starting 😐🙂
Me: ok let's seeeeeee
Theres like my older brother who always hits my head when he sees me so like everytime someone passes behind me i flinch
I either flinch or I swing. There is no peace.
I was hit by my mom recently bc I had enough and snapped, the bruise is still healing and honestly I kinda flinch from time to time or in sudden movement, Ty for this
My friends would bop me on the head and now I flinch when ever someone goes or try’s to touch me
My parents always hit me and my siblings. When I was younger I thought that was okay, but now I know that shit fucked me up! I still flinch when my parents move their hands really quick towards me. This helped!
glad i could help! and i'm sorry to hear that, i hope you are coping now
Dude, if this happend IRL my brain would have forced me to flinch, back up, look down, hands in my lap making myself small and controlled, and my brain would repeat "don't become a target". I also probably wouldn't remember the rest of the day lol
It happend one time in school becous a teacher threw papers across the front of the class room before yelling at us. Still don't remember the rest of the day lol
my friend consistently hit me and i would say stop and she wouldnt so i left the friendship bc i started flinching at every small movement from everyone.
What did I do wrong now?🥺
Men. We don't know what we did
you're a good person
My LONELY biromantic a$$ is watching this at 3 IN THE MORNING crying my eyes out…i feel better ngl :))
I’ve been havin a rough time with bullying (online and irl) rn and my parents cant even help me with school work. Ofc i have to do it my own since im “already at highschool” 🧍🏻♀️
..im so sorry for ranting, i hope everyone else listening to this audio is alright
i'm sorry the bullying is happening, stay strong and stand up for yourself! i'm always here when you need it 💜
@@purpleskiesasmr tysm
I flinch a lot so if someone raises there hand fast like for a high-five I flinch like I jump . Because people have done things that make me scared and now I have that reaction - and it sucks people see that and start laughing, usually because I look scared and they think I’m joking. So yup that sucks.
The only reason that I flinch when someone yells at me because if I did something wrong my parents would yell at me if someone yells at me I get super scared and start crying because it has a reaction to the point where I will back away from that person if they start yelling at me
I’ve been hit so many times that if anyone and I mean ANYONE lifts their arms the slightest bit I flinch, put my arms up to guard my face and shut my eyes because I think they’re going hit me….
:( i'm so sorry
As a child my mom beat me pretty badly and would guilt trip me so I have both trust issues and I flinch
i didn’t expect to flinch whoops anyways great audio
*chef's kiss*
for a good 8 years of my life I've been abused by my mother and whatever friends or partners she had and I'm only 13, when you started apologizing I had a breakdown because no one has apologized to me except at restaurants when they get my order wrong.. Anyways great audio keep up the good work.
Her:why did you flintch?
Me: t r a u m a! i have trauma and im gay😀👌