Pirate_of_Oakland the internet filled with evil people some nice people and..... a place where people can feel accepted for maybe once in their life I feel so so sorry for everyone who doesn't deserve this Because I was part of this loneliness a useless kink in the corrupt machine of society
kid rock "I never had a gf and some of my friends make fun of me" I wouldn't see getting a girlfriend as an accomplishment. In that stage in your life you are young and still growing so a relationship may be hard to maintain unless you find someone you truly understand. Let your "friends" make fun of you for being smart and taking your time in your life rather then trying to find someone to love immediately. I have never had a girlfriend and I'm past college and so are many others so don't think your alone there. "I had complication thots of suicide and I told myself don't do it U have a family" That's good you have said that to yourself there. It shows you are considerate about others around you and you know what you have to lose if you follow through with suicide. You have found some value in your life you don't want to lose. "half of them that called me a dumb ass and what ever are either in jail or pregnant" What kind of high school do you go to where the pupils in junior year are in jail and or pregnant. Anyway the fact you have not followed them to where they have ended has shown you are more sensible and have turned out better then them. Just because you don't have as many friends in life doesn't mean you'll be a failure. They're in dire situations and you're still in school getting an education despite the hardships you went through before. I think that says a little on how strong you are compared to the others in your school.
Pirate_of_Oakland But what sucks more is enduring other worthless people. Loneliness is the superior option compared to it's alternative. And you actually don't HAVE to feel lonely when alone. If you don't like your own company than what makes you think you will like anybody else's?
"I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone." -ROBIN Williams
Mareșalul Alexandru Averescu. I've got a few on you. 11 here. It all depends on the mental fortitude of a person, so you've got a good head on your shoulders.
I feel ya. For me i was so busy "fighting" (not physically)/trying to protect myself that i never thought about friendship. I feel kinda bad. You learn how to make friends in preschool...now here i am about to be 20 and i dont know where to start. Im "nice" but it doesn't work and honestly so far no one has really been my cup of tea. I dont even know if i want friends. I just want someone who understands me, i enjoy their company and the feeling is mutual.... i never want to feel like a burden
***** Because I have Schizoid Personality Disorder. When I was younger, I didn't think I needed friends or relationships at all. I had my books, I had my games, and I had school. That was all I needed. In short: I was a nerd. xD
I'm tired of being lonely. I just wanted someone around, want to feel like I belong somewhere. Been lonely all my life but now it's starting to sink in and i can feel it slowly killing me and I feel like everyone is watching it happen and doesn't give a flying fuck
I do not understand my mind at all. See I have social anxiety so I'm afraid to go out and make friends, yet I constantly feel lonely and depressed because of my isolation. So when people say,"Just go out and make friends," it's not that easy at all.
I'm the same way... I'm introverted and I don't exactly likr being around a lot of people and sometimes I don't want to even talk to anyone but when I'm at home I feel super lonely and depressed. Oh well..
Good people, I realy feel for you. Please, dont stay in isolation but get profesionel help. I am sure there are profesionels who have experience and can help you to get out of this circle.
+TheVenomousViper not sure wether this is still a topic, but there is a reason why alot of us do not want to meet new people ; It sucks to be with people who are just complaining, laughing about others, or, to sum it up; who are completly negativ. The problem is, those who ARE good people inside are afraid to show it, because they know that they wont be accepted if they do. So, the only conclusion to that problem is to be alone, but that is ALSO not what we want; We want to interact with BEAUTIFUL people, not people who wear masks when they go out. I think that's the main reason why people are "introvert". Those who are alone alot might have the most courage, because they stay true to themselfes. To sum it up; You are all beautiful inside, it's not your fault that you are alone. :) (To whoever is reading this and feels lonely. It's the truth.)
***** I don't think the modern person with his or her dependence on technology and the constant need for attention, approval or affirmation from others through the likes of social media, could ever stomach prolonged bouts of solitude. It's almost a drug-like dependency IMO. But I agree with your point about feeling alone when surrounded by the wrong crowd.
thats true. I only feel lonely if I am idle and bored. loneliness is a state of mind, there's a difference between being alone and 'being lonely'. A person can be lonely in a crowded room because of not feeling a connection.
I'm surrounded with people all the time. yet i always feel horribly lonely. I feel like my friends don't like me and I don't even like me. I'm not suicidal but I'm terrified that one day that's how I'll go.
Dont go that way Mrtamal01......you end up in hell if you do....and that is for eternity with no way out. People who have tried to take their lives and lived have said the moment they jumped (or whatever) they thought "what have I done". Demons (literal ones real ones) will be laughing when you do.
Am I weird for looking forward to the day I die? Sometimes, the thought of dying is the only thing that comforts me. Knowing that I won't have to deal with this crappy world forever. I don't consider myself suicidal. But I don't trust myself. I'm afraid all it'll take is something really bad to happen, and I'd go off the deep end. A lifetime of being shunned by the outer world is what causes this.Even though it's mostly my own fault for avoiding socialization.
I feel the same, pretty much, its like we were just here to be alone and suffer and then die! I hate i was born, there was really no really point of this life.
@Sigma Blade Nah they wouldn't aim that high. I mean, women are stunningly aware of their aesthetic appeal, but they have a strong sense of self-worth at the same time, so they won't go out crying about how lonely they are. They want to have sex and romance and friendships just as bad as we all do. So I'd bet men have their chances with a looksmatch. All you need is something that demonstrates power/health. Aesthetics is just one part of it. There's intelligence, big dick energy, confidence, sharpness, humour, sympathy, physical strength, talent... They aren't as simple and instantly effective as aesthetics tho, but those are probably things that are in your reach and can be maxxed. Still if you're maxxing something for someone else you might be disappointed. Ideally you should improve yourself for yourself, not for others (even tho this can give you an initial boost so there's nothing wrong with it really).
The level of transparency that Boogie has is astounding to me. Imagine how difficult it must be to be completely honest with two million people, just laying yourself bare. All of the ugliest parts of your life, all the struggles, just to try and help other people feel better. It's inspiring to me. This takes so much character.
Man, this comment section is depressing and interesting all at the same time. So many like-minded people. Makes me wonder, though, were previous generation like this? I don't think so, I think we're growing sadder as a society. I'd be lying if I said I knew exactly why.
wellthisisawkward the eternal Hunt for succes and no time for Pity or understanding of other People's problems might be a reason. But boi do i Think the next generation will have it hard, with the crap our parents and us have made. Or Maybe alot of people back then felt like that but you would never have the chance to know because of the lack of social media/youtube
I also think it's because of how much later we do think in comparison to others decades! My mom explained to me that before, when people were married to the age of 20, people were enjoying life with friends as we do during our 25-30 but they were doing those between 15-20! They were finally be happier way before we do, we "have to wait" 25 years thought they had to wait 15, though isn't it? Everyone was always going outside, a having opportunity to meet people and all... It's not like that anymore
The previous generation probably was like this. You just never heard about it because there was no social media for people to post about it. So they just suffered. Social media has definitely made things worse tho. Yes it can bring people together, but when you're lonely and you see people all over social media acting like they're living the perfect life, it makes it all so much worse.
Dont do it man it's not worth it try finding and apreciating the world around you i know its hard im going through the same thing but you just one day hopefully me and you will see the beauty around us instead
I usually avoid watching video`s like this, because I know they always hit closer to home than I`d like to admit, but I gotta say that this was probably one of the most heart-felt and inspiring video`s I`ve seen on TH-cam.
I'm 23 years old and I've struggled with loneliness and depression throughout most of my life, I got bullied and picked on endlessly in school. It slowly killed me inside as a person and made me lose interest in education as a whole and i ended up failing school entirely. I then found out three years after school finished that i have aspergers. I've also never had a girlfriend and i could tell in school that girls were interested in me, but i didn't have the social skills to act on it at the time because i was extremely depressed and lacked the confidence due to constant harassment, and because of that constant failure of not finding love like my friends did, it made me miserable and i struggle to even go outside the house at this stage. I also went to my high school graduation by myself while every other guy including my friends was there with his girlfriend, i was the only single guy there. It was probably the most humiliating moment in my life. Now all i do everyday is stay inside all day listening to music, playing video games and watching TH-cam videos to pass the time and cope with whatever pain i'm feeling and i have essentially no social life. I'm literally miserable and i wish on a daily basis that i never existed.
One of the best things about TH-cam is that there are still a lot of hidden gems like this video: you just gotta look past the shitty pewds let's plays and dig deeper.
dakunssd Well known hidden gems! Ha! But seriously, you underestimate the scale of 300k hits. There are US States barely larger than that! It's a big deal, and Boogie should be proud of his reach.
the cure for depression is vitamin b3 dr abram hoffer im alone too i think everyone in this youtube comment section is the same thats why we are all here on boogies videos
I'm a nice guy, not bad looking, funny, no glaring issues. I've never had a girlfriend. WTF am I doing wrong? A lot of resentment builds in you upon seeing women happy with other men. It eats away at you.
Dont look for a gf man, it will come. Now i swear this is a true story about How i Met my first gf, so i was starting at a new School, and we was on the same bus. So when we exited the bus ii Said ladys first, and i guess that gave her a Good Eye to me, so it turnes out we would start in the same class, so i never thought more of it until i was invited to this party at her House, she told me later that evening she liked me and i banged her so hard man. But the point is dont expect it to come live ur life and it will come trust me bro
Same if you're overly pretty.. you come across as a threat and then face rejection from people.. I have found you should just work on your own abilties etc.. you will attract someone just as good as you. Best of luck ❤
21 years old, most of my life i have been lonely, people around me and still feels like i'm a ghost among them, i don't fit anywhere. I tried so many times to battle my sadness, my anger, achieve peace but it didn't happened. I decided to be alone the rest of my life, just living thru until my last day come.
My grandfather was all alone with his uncle who treated him poorly in Italy. Did he just sit around and get depressed or whine? NO. He snuck on a boat, then came to the U.S, opened a barber shop and worked till he was 91. So stfu and fix your problems like a MAN.
WackyDeli95 I was scrolling through the comments. laughed so hard when I saw your picture XD aw yea. felt it in the ab I laughed so good...as for your story, thanks for sharing. I liked it. think you came out a little rough around the edges at the wrong person, but it eventually got to me and I liked it...
I've had no friends my whole life, I was always an out cast. I've struggled with depression/suicide since I was 10. I'm nearly 19 now and still have no one. I've never known how to make friends but it's just stopped affecting me I go about my day alone. I just keep in mind one day I'll find someone and that gets me through it but it's still a struggle
I feel the same man, i can talk with almost anyone, can make "friends" but they don't seem to like me, if i want to talk to someone i have to be the one who have to start, if i want to go to the cinema i have to be the one who invite them (they wont came), i'm that "good guy buuut"... it sucks
People are rude, terrible and apathetic these days. They don't respond or reply (even companies when people apply for a job those companies don't even get back to them). It's a rotten world and just horrible now. You are brave and often it takes some years before people change their ideas and treat others a little better but judging the world as it is now (final generation) it says love will grow cold in scripture and it has. You must be a shining light with a nice attitude because you are good enough to invite others. Even though love has grown cold, I still don't understand many people's horrid attitudes to others. My eldest son really cares about people and is such a shining light in that he treats others with respect and is punctual and extremely kind to people and animals and if he says he will do something he does it.......and he replies to others etc. There aren't many like him about that I see anyway.
The weird thing about me is, I make friends easily and have lots of friends and family to support me but I still feel kinda lonely, anyone else feel the same way.
+Nunyer Byzness ...i share that..got spinal cord damage under op..extreme pain..lost 80% use of legs..spend long times laying down p eating it to stop or I just stop.. few people can understand living hellish nightmare..what to do??? You know as I do
Peter Talgaard65 hey, i hope you're doing well. If you ever want to talk or anything please do, im in a bad mental state right now too and if you want to talk we can. I can give you my email if you would like.
I have been friendless for more than a few years. I am supposed to go out to a bar for a friend for the first time ever. Pray for me, I have faith in myself.
Why? What's so amazing and great about a place where people go to get drunk so the can forget about their miserable lives? There aren't too many places more depressing than a bar.
I've had friends my entire life. But they suck. Like literally thinking about every douche bag person I've ever met. It's not worth it. My friends were the kind that make you feel alone. But GOOD friends I've only a handful.
Same here mate video games really managed to prevent me thinking about suicidal thoughts and other negative things. These are the games that made me survive hell 1. Assassins Creed 2. Metal gear solid 3. Final fantasy 4. Devil may cry 5. The last of us and Uncharted series
That is a good start, and also make sure to eat clean and work out, you don't need to be in the gym for 10 hours a day to be in good shape, do 5 mins on an exercise bike and work your way up to 20 mins, then you could do 20 mins and have a break, another 20 mins and break then the last 20 mins then you have your hours exercise in one go.
Careem if you can somehow find a decent christian church some have youth groups and if you are a little older than the youths (boys and girls) ....you could help out. They have fun activities and outings. I hope it's the same in your country. However commit to Jesus and repent of sin and follow Him for the rest of your life (short life as He is coming soon) ....and put Him first and He will give you good things.
same except I have a few friends could count them on one hand girl hugged me yea but later on sometime she said I was ugly to my face lol I smiled but I was crying inside I hate crowds like being alone its much better :) my life has been really sad n weird music n pc games are my life they never hurt you n always there :|
I used to have one very good friend whom I shared everything with, but he dropped me like a sack of stones when I ended up in a mental institution due to severe depression, which stings even today. Nowadays I'm basically a hermit, I never go out, don't have friends or a job and even socializing with my own family is something I have trouble with. I feel very lonely and ashamed of myself, my confidence is zero and I don't know how to turn this around, no matter how much I want to :(
+Elf Monster Never feel ashamed of yourself for suffering, especially with depression. A while ago I was at rock bottom in terms of self esteem, confidence and feeling lonely, I know how awful it is and that it feels like there's no way out. I'm still working to build myself back up, but a good tip is to start small with trying to regain little sparks of light back into your life by making little efforts everyday to do something you used to enjoy. For me it was, weirdly enough, reconnecting with my cat (being depressed, I'd lost interest in pretty much everything I used to enjoy, including spending time with my pet, friends and family), which sounds stupid I know but it helped. I'd just make myself play with her a bit, give her a treat, pet her etc even when I was feeling empty inside and didn't really care to do any of that. But after a little while I started to enjoy it again, and would do it because I wanted to, not because "ugh I probably should". And I did this with other facets of life too- step by little step, I started my baking again, talking to family and friends more- and these little steps began adding up to make me feel more like me, back to (not quite, but more) normal. I know it's hard, especially if you're suffering from low self esteem and no motivation, but please try making little efforts to reconnect with parts of your old life. Maybe drop a text to a family member, have a little text conversation and when you've had enough for that day, that's ok. If you make efforts like that, over time it'll build up into bigger and better things, like maybe lunch out with family, and I promise it'll all help to rebuild your self confidence. I hope those tips were useful, I know it might not be because I know from experience how easy it is to not feel up to even the smallest of things, but please do try, it'll be worth it. Good luck with everything, I wish you well :)
+Nathan Place To clarify, when I said about my cat, I meant that's the first part of life I reconnected with, not that it was the reason I felt depressed :p
I was alone in school during the 80 s and 90s .I would of have loved to had a cell phone and internet and just one friend to talk to I would have enjoyed my youth . I didn't have anybody until I met my husband in the 12 grade back in 91. I still to this day don't have any friends but I still have my husband and that's fine with me. Loneliness is the worst torture ever!
Hello everybody. There are people who are commenting on Boogie`s vids with some horrible words. But I think we should not dignify those comments with an answer. because the only reason those people write those things is to get an answer. For shock values. To make people angry. And they succeed every time we answer. You can't reason with those people. Don't even try. Just ignore them. There are like leeches or like parasites, they feed on our anger. Please just ignore them. I also get angry when I read those horrible comments. I do. But every answer you give them. They laugh at it behind their laptop. Don't give them the satisfaction.
I agree. The only thing I would add is to downvote their comment so they become hidden to the rest of the people. This will cause these writers much pain because they want their messages to be seen. I think some of these guys have fucked up life themselves and had turned to gaining attention or sparking conversation by saying hurtful disdainful shocking things. When their messages become hidden, they'll change their strategy.
I blame technology we are so antisocial because of it. i remember when people got together and hanged out now people don't wana go anywhere :( i'm 20 and only leave my house when i work. i feel like life is pointless and isn't worth living because of how lonely i feel, my family is the only thing i have. please dont let your friends slip away after school ends life gets harder, to be social.
+Kayla Kedziora Well said, technology has definitely made things worse, it's just another way to avoid real life. I say this as someone who has hidden himself in a fantasy world of internet/gaming for almost 20 years.
+Kayla Kedziora Here is my thought on "work friends"... I have had this happened twice. When a long term job ends (particularly if you are laid off or fired) those "friends" disappeared. The 1st time I reached out to almost every one of them and no response. I have a hard time making friends but I think if you invest time in making friends, it's best to make them outside of work. I have been out of work for a long time now. I only have two friends and they live VERY far away. Days go by without having a meaningful interaction with another human being. I pray that I can find work, friends and love. P.S. Be grateful you have a family. Both of my parents passed away several years ago. I realize in retrospect that they were the best friends I could ever ask for.
***** It's only those who haven't experienced the severity of prolonged isolation that say such things. Trust me, I used to have the same attitude, but as decades rolled by with nobody to share my life with everything got less and less meaningful. It's great if you enjoy your own company, but don't let that be the template for your entire life. No man is an island.
As an Aspie, i understand and corelate with all you said. For me lonliness, its many times the only way to be myself, people dont try to understand you, when you are diferent for some reason. I do art, so i spent many hours in my studio all by myself, i create this kind of live for me, in a response to that sense of being alone. But its hard, mostly when you wake up of that FarAway world you create for yourself, and find out that you are realy alone, no one to talk, so for me, making friends in gaming\online, can make things easier, mostly cause you talk with someone, rather than yourself. Keep Stong Boogie, allways !
I can totally relate to your problems.usually I im very socially awkward and really feel anxious when around a lot of people. Especially when I don't know them. Yet lately iv been trying to socialize more at school, and that's when the problem comes in play.As you can see I am really into video games,anime,movies, etc.and at my school in Mississippi a lot of people are very ignorant and don't understand me.then when they act bad to me for know reason, lately its been making me feel like their is somethings wrong with me.
sadly no..i live in Mississippi, were almost no one likes anime.well some do but its not like they appricate it. and as for me I get singled out as the black kid who only dates white girls,listens to white people music and so on. but I just say fuck em.lol
thx man..really appreciate your words of advance,and I never really thought of it that way..hell im apart of many guilds ranging from Naruto to wow...you sound like ah cool dude
I think I know how you feel, it's the frequent self-loathing that occurs when you're out-numbered by a pack of idiots. There's nothing wrong with you, man. You seem like a cool guy. The people at your school sound like the ones that have something wrong with them. I wish you luck.
I have been depressed lonely and had anxiety for 9 years and every day I think of killing myself it never gets out of my head. I hate being made fun of and I just stay up all night thinking about killing myself I look out the window and just look down.
Thank you. I came across your Francis rages videos, loved them, and now these ... philosophical... I don't know how to phrase it, but man... I can feel you. I am the same in many ways. I can relate... the many years of just sitting at home, playing online, feeling that is enough. My only social interaction was DnD night. From 18-24. At 24, I started hanging out with a "buddy" from highschool. I quote buddy because we knew each other but never really hang out. After a few months, I moved in with him. And the same pattern continued. Gaming when we didn't work with each other on SWTOR or GW2 or what have you... 26 years of life and I've gotten my first real girlfriend. I finally came out of my shell and I agree, life is so much better, but even so, it is new and scary, and a part of me wants to return to that work/gaming and not having someone who knows me so well, someone I can relate to so well. Thank you for this, you have voiced my inner most thoughts completely.
best comment. there is no such thing as friends. they all want something from you and when they get it, they're gone. the only ones who stay are the ones who need your time. they all need something.
@@globalmuffin2 I agree. I believe its part of baseline human psychology, they will do whatever to be the best/ most attractive let alone what they would resort to for survival. Once that necessity or "stepping stone" phase is gone they will up and leave.
I have massive respect for you to talk about this. I have predominantly been alone for almost 12 years. Nowadays I only have my parents and I even find it difficult to talk to them most of the time. Add to this I've been unemployed for the best part of 3 years. It's so easy to distract yourself via games and the internet but it doesn't compensate for real human interaction. There comes a time when technology just doesn't satisfy your needs. Sadly I don't have answers but I respect you for speaking out.
I think social isolation can lead to weird and unhealthy behavior and thinking, such as becoming really obsessed with an actor, and imagining they're part of your life, when they in reality aren't. And/or it can lead to agoraphobia. Or thinking another country (other than where I live) is better and happier than the country I live in (USA). Like now, I really think the UK is a better and healthier place to live in than here in the USA. I'm convinced of it, although I've never visited the UK/Europe.
***** That's like when people talk about bureaucracy. Everybody claims their country has the worst. I admit though that in some cultures it might be more difficult to find the good people.
Dᴏᴡʟᴘʜɪɴ Personally, I think the people where I live (Tampa bay, Florida) leave a lot to be desired. People here don't talk with me and ignore me, and some can be judgmental towards me and cold. Yet, when I was in NY (Long Island and Flushing) people were nicer to me, they talked to me, they weren't as cold as people where I live are.
shana schwartz It's quite bad in the UK too, the working class are tired and bitter, the middle class are judgmental and egocentric, and the upper class are sociopaths.
I've always felt alone my whole life, for as long as I can remember, I don't know if I'm used to it, but I do know this: Being lonely does things to you, and feeling shit and bitter and angry all the time just...eats away at you. (Cry of fear opening quote, Slightly edited to fit how I feel)
I committed myself to isolation as a child. Hated people and still do. People are a problem. I miserably lonely but I am stuck in my ways. My job permits this behavior.
I have met horrible people which have destroyed me, where I was broken on inside but I have met one great person. we both hate people but it's hard to deal with loneliness
Loneliness often comes from depression from something that tears you down from the inside, in my case it was from considering myself a failure due to being unable to advance in life like my peers
I saw this study on reddit and it scared the crap out of me. I spend days at a time without human interaction. I even distance myself from people online. Everyday I tell myself that I'm going to go out and try to socialize with people, but I never do. I don't even fit in at my job, I rejected peoples invitations to run home to my safety bubble, & eventually people just stopped inviting me, making me bitter. Fear of change, low self esteem, relocating to a city with a larger population, rejection, they all scare me. Thank you for this video, it was motivating and inspirational
Ive admitted my depression problems to my family, but I cant bare to admit that Ive become incredibly lonely, and have been isolating myself for the last 3 years. I just feel like an embarrassment.
@@Kenny-iy1po Damn thanks for checking this - hope you are well? I no longer have depression - long story short I started working out with friends and room mates. Helped open me up. I finished uni, and spent a year becoming comfortable with myself and taking my time to open up to the world again. Fast forward to now, still go through blue spells and as I like to call them 'funks' but have friends, gym, work and continued development on this path to be the best version of myself to help me course correct. I have a few close friends, but that feeling of loneliness is still there. I've learnt that I can be in a room full of people and still be lonely - its really about being able to communicate/express oneself properly. Sounds abstract, but communication skills are verbal, non-verbal, and takes time to develop.
You have done a good thing here, three years later (ish) and lonely people are still coming through and being very supportive of each other by the comments i have read, we are social creatures by nature so when our surroundings feel against the grain and you still have to exist in this world it's very tough.
Hope both of you start to feel better soon, i'm always on here if you ever need someone to talk to as i understand how it can be not to have anyone to talk to
Yeah, know what you mean, I have major depression so I think to myself "what's the point" it's hard too find someone that you can really connect with. I moved to a new city a couple years ago I have one person I can go to in a crunch, but we don't hangout much at all, small talk or I feel he's talking at me not too me (he's way older)... anyway my isolation makes my depression worse to the point were I consider ending it. I do see my shrink this week, n look forward to that conversation, I have to be careful what I say or she my lock me up for a psych evaluation, lol
Wow man, I got directed to your channel by Johns from Think Tank. But I wasn't expecting to watch a video like this. Dude this video is so powerful. I can just feel the raw emotion in the way you are talking. I just really wanted to good for you to have the courage to do this if it means it could help another person's life. Lastly, thank god for Chad.
Thanks for doing this video. I've been fighting the same situation for over a year. Not to the point of cutting or suicide, but in some VERY dark places I don't need to be in
I've tried my hardest and I'm tired of it. I honestly give up now. I'm far too ugly, I'm Autistic and socially awkward. Sad thing is, I've just come to terms with it now.
I am lonely 11 years. Never had relationship. I never liked to be alone though. I always knew it's bad to be alone and i felt it that way. But my friends doesn't care for me much anymore. I miss friends but mainly i miss love.
I just find that gaming can be a real drag, and I don't feel like talking with my friends because I want to focus on gaming. And then your parents start to get angry, and everything just isn't right.
10:09 That hit me so hard....Thank you for this video boogie and several others. I know you'll probably never read this but a lot of your videos have honestly started to open my eyes and help me out so much. I couldn't be happier to run into your channel. I feel like I know you as an amazing friend already that has done nothing but helped me out. you're a true person and a legend. Thank you.
Loneliness and being alone grieving over my beloved husband death. Traumatic and terrifying experience as he suffered with stage 4 colon cancer. As his caretaker and becoming his hospice nurse and was very sad devastating seeing him pass away before my very eyes. Grieving loss feeling loneliness, denial, anger, sadness, isolation, and suffering from depression anxiety😞🙏🙌🙏
I spent most of my life isolating myself, Started making friends. and have come to realize exactly why I spent most of my life isolating myself. I prefer being alone, I prefer not belonging in this world.
+T.C. Callaway Im genuinely curious. How come you feel lonelier when you hang out with your friends? Is it because they seem so different from you? I don't understand can you explain it?
Hayden Dunn to weigh in on feeling lonelier with friends. I understand, if you are that far gone from humanity. being with others only serves to let you know that you are the only person like you. and that no one could ever understand. so yes you are with friends. but it reminds you that you are still alone
I am utterly alone. And have been for years. At least you're getting married! That's nice. No one wants me. Everyone I know is married and with kids and the time is soon passing by. I won't be able to have kids in a few years. Such a pointless life being alone staring at the walls and crying. Hmm.
Hey if you're in need of social support just say it in this comment.... I'm sure that there will be people that would be willing to befriend and get to know u, myself included 😊
This is probably the best youtube video Boogie has ever made. I know this video is old and traffic on it is very minimal, but I still want to vent on my story. I grew up in isolation, forced on by my parents. I had the comfort of the family we lived with whom half of them moved across the country or died. I watched a disgustingly large number of the only people I could interact with die right in front of my eyes. I lived with my dad for a few years after my mother left and moved away, and he was the only person I knew. When I was 15 he died from heart disease at the age of 50. The only other people I had any interaction with was online. And Boogie is right, it's not enough. You might think it is when you're in a similar situation, and talking to people online is by no means inherently a bad thing, in fact it could save someone's life, however it's a painkiller. A painkiller can only do so much for a major wound. Make you feel it a little less. But that wound will kill you someday. Painkillers won't stop that. Take it from someone who's been in your shoes, and desperately try to find people in person to share your life with, or it will kill you. I promise it will.
We are all born alone and we all die alone. Nobody can ever understand you, they can try the best they can but only you know what you`re experiencing. Its neither positive nor negative, its just the way it is. Everyone are alone but not everyone are lonely. You can be alone without being lonely and you can have company and be lonely. The most important thing you can do is to become your own best friend. When you learn the truth about life and your mind, you become more or less untouchable. You will still die and negative occurenses will still happen, but you will at least perceive it in the best way possible. Google *Truthcontest* and read *The Present*.
Wow! Really liked your comment, but I have one question for you. After you reach the point of knowning yourself, your mind, learning how to control your emotions and being your own best friend and untouchable: is it still necessary to find someone in whom you can 100% trust? Because this is actually my current situation! I feel like knowing myself like I never did before and I noticed I'm so much mentally stonger then last year (or 2 years ago). I had some really close "friends" at high school but I lost contacts with all of them like 1-2 years ago (and is in these 1-2 years I feel like I strengthed myself) and since then I have been really struggling to find someone in whom I can trust. I'm 21 and and studying at university, I met a lot people but everybody already have their circle of friends. I'm not always alone, but even with company I'm not feeling them like real friends.. I'm looking forward to your reply. Thank you
You'll probably never read this, but I am wasted and stumbled across this video for the first time. I am subbed to you on my other, older, channel from when I was younger (but never seen this one lol), but gotta hand it too you man, you gained my respect being able to talk about your problems so openly the way you do. The reason I am commenting is (well I am wasted) and two, I typed loneliness to see what would come up. I haven't had a friend for other 3 years, spent my 18th, 19th and 20th birthday by myself, the new years eve that followed each birthday were spent alone too. I recently lost my job too so being jobless and friendless really is the lowest off the low. It does take it's toll, no one to confide in, talk, interact, all the simple things the mass majority take for granted. I spent my hole childhood being bullied with no siblings to help out, spent my adolescence trying to change and all it ever did was make me as lonely as I was as a child. Companionship and friendship is all I want, it's all WE ALL want really, but neither I get so breaking point ins't really that far away. If you, or anyone for that matter, reads this comment, just know that no matter how shit you think things are, cherish what you have. Regardless if what you have doesn't account for much, because trust me, you don't want to be like me.
making friends is like getting women: pursuing self-interests (in the real world) and they come flooding in, NOT going out of your way trying to please other
I want to thank you for this video. I have been dealing with this for the last 4 years. This video brought a tear to my eye. I spend every day trying to find ways to change myself so people wont hate me. Thank you for showing me that it's not just me.
To anyone feeling insignificant right now. Remember that every atom in your body was present at the beggining of time, also every atom in your body will be present at the end of time. It took millions of years for those atoms to explode through stars, gas giants, nebulas, till they ended up on earth and then ultimately a part of you. You are truly part of the universe and truly connected with everything, and even if right now you don't feel connected with other people, be patient and brave, because eventually things will get better.
I'm introverted so isolation is cool with me most of the time. Here and there I can feel some effects. But not as bad as being around people who aggravate me or worse. I don't really enjoy company. Even girlfriends annoy me too much to pursue dating anymore. I test the social waters when it looks good but 99% of the time I get annoyed.
Wow, it's amazing to realize how many of us are alone. I've been alone since I was maybe 19 years old and I'm now 26, all my old friends slipped out of my life, either by their choice or by me being an asshole, or me making no attempt to keep the friendship alive. I'm just a weird person who feels that I can't relate to most people. I'm a gay guy, but also a huge gamer. First off I'm not your typical flamboyant gay guy, so fitting in with your typical gay crowd doesn't work. I know it's a stereotype, but generally stereotypes are true. Most gay guys are not into video games at all and more interested in partying, drinking, fashion, or whatever else. All I want is a boyfriend who is into the same things I am into and I can relate to, and I've never met a person like this. It sucks so much. All I want is someone to share the good times with, whether it be just a simple friend or something more like a boyfriend. I just want some social contact and to feel like I'm worth something. You begin to feel like those people don't exist, but with nearly 8 billion people on this planet, how is that possible? Are you other gay gamer guys out there?
Check the TH-cam channel "The dictionary of obscure sorrows". It describes these exact emotions and feelings. Have a good day!!! *Hopefully you all will find relatable people who actually care. But don't forget to keep working on yourselves as well! Become a warrior who claims his victory rather than the bystander who simply watches and follows. Just do it!!!
It's an interesting problem. It's almost like being a homosexual video gamer has pidgeonholed you in a certain way. I do not know to what extent gays are also gamers or gamers are gay. I always sucked at video games. I played them into my 30s. I am a Christian musician and writer. I put up an ad seeking Christian musicians but there weren't any viable responses. The 2nd and 3rd ads had NO responses. I'd chew through my hand to play with some people, even if I had to go secular in some kind of controlled way, but it also could be a bad time of year for this. I try to stay focused on my long term goals every day, which I do via certain activities. Namely, prayer, meditation, a lot of reading, writing and music practice. There is other stuff but I rarely get to it all. I feel that I am better off in certain ways compared to other people in isolation. While I was married, the isolation started around 2007. It was the last band I was in, and the other groups since were scattershot. Living far from the people I used to call my friends, I tried going to Church, devout as I am, but they didn't want me. I was too mentally ill. Churchgoers are not different than the general public that way. They do not like, understand or want to associate with the mentally ill. So I guess unless I can change, I will most likely remain in isolation. I'm trying dbt therapy. There are no groups around here, I have to figure it out on my own. I don't know what I'll do if I cannot recover enough to create relationships. I can't roll the dice on suicide. God may condemn me for that. Or He might understand. Either way, risking hell is stupid. Once you're in there, there's no escape. Even if life is always like this, it's still better than hell. If you're curious why it's this serious, consider reading the story of Lazarus in Luke 16. Anyway, as for your specific solution, my advice is to get off the video games. They just don't benefit people. They are highly addictive, and they make too many days and hours and weeks vanish with nothing to show. If they are an emotional crutch, all the more reason to give them up. I would expect a painful withdrawal period. Eventually whatever you replace it with in your life is highly likely to be more fulfilling.
It takes a certain gumption to put oneself out there and meet others. One way in my own experience to overcome some of that shyness is to actively take an interest in other people and their lives. Whenever I meet people, I try to take some time to ask them about themselves and find out what they are into. That way, instead of feeling like I have to entertain or impress them somehow, I can simply see what they have to say and find out if there is any common ground that we may have.
I've been battling depression for a while ... December will make two years, Im looking forward to it, Boog. I dont even like being open any more. I've cried my self to sleep countless nights but you know what ... I like the feeling now more than I like being open. Its weird, I still hurt all the same but being with or opening up to people makes me forget about what i've been through and i dont want to forget ... 7 years is a long ass time.. I hope i make it there one day.. but not really. I Love you Boog
The good thing of videos like these is it's relieving to know there are people who suffer like you and, morbidly to say, have it worse. And inspiring those who have had it worse pull through and become "better".
i've been going through this rough patch in my life. my depression and anxiety is getting the best of me and i feel so alone. no one wants to help me and i just feel like shit. being alone is shit.
Close to 18 and have never had a girlfriend, never been kissed on the lips, never had sex. I also have extreme issues functioning in public, I have social anxiety, and by far, all my life has been is this: Jacking off 3 times, playing video games for 8 hours, going on my phone, eat, sleep, repeat. I feel so depressed sometimes, i just want to feel the embrace of a girl who likes me for me, i just want to have a fucking big group of nice friends, but that's fucking impossible. The thing that scares me the most is that i have absolutely no passion for drive to do anything for my future, i don't know if this is because of my anxiety, or my depression, but my future is no looking bright at all, I've never been in such a dark ditch in my life. I really admire this video Boogie, you spoke those words and it connected to me spiritually, nearly made me cry, I hope others that suffer from loneliness or any mental illness that makes them socially dysfunctional find their happiness, hope anyone else that's 17-18 can relate to my struggle. I cant even fucking get into a job due to my anxiety.
loneliness sucks. Lost my dad recently, only family I had. Now I lost my gf of two years and I have no friends. I honestly don't know what to do anymore.
my problem is that im actually really sociable and get along with people really easily, but i never get to the point to have an actual friend, its just so shit
Been rewatching tons of your old videos. I can only watch so many of these types before I have to escape back into the world of Francis.... but thanks for getting the conversation going for many of us with these types of videos. The comment sections on these vids are just amazing.
I clicked this video because I am feeling very isolated. Problem is, I did have a very good social life only 2 months ago, the problem was all my social life consisted of was taking drugs, I've had alcohol problems as well and have been to rehab twice, the first time when I was 18. So I made a decision that I didn't want to take drugs anymore, but my so call friends didn't agree with me so I've purposely isolated myself. I also moved back in with my parents, who are not alcoholics, but drink far more often then I would like. So I lock myself away, to avoid the alcohol. I've never felt so alone in my life, but I'm drug free... It sucks.
+Karen Richardson i lost all of my friends because I decided to get sober so I feel you. They were going down the wrong path and I wanted to go a different way. I'm still recovering a year later struggling to make friends due to social anxiety and depression but this is apart of our journey. Its way better than being where we would be if we hung around those people. Keep your head up and I'll try to do the same.. I know its hard
+Karen Richardson I hope as a month has passed that you've gotten better, but if not, then you really got to put yourself out there, you've made a positive life decision and your previous friends didn't want to follow it with you, and theres nothing wrong with that, but isolating yourself is just trading a physical issue of drugs for a mental issue of lonelyness... which may be even worse for you, just stay strong, and work your ass off to reach the light at the end of the tunnel, I truly hope for the best for you, pm me if you ever need someone to talk to
I'm in the same exact boat as you. My only friends were who I did drugs with. You cut off all the relationships in search for change because you know they're no good for you. It's rough. Strangely enough I've been going to church more and reading the bible. Hopefully you can find peace, take care.
Karen remember you and only you can fight for real life and real connections you may not have anyone yet but be patient open up to to people who don't need an alcohol, cigarettes and all that. There are far more things for us to experience in this life!! Best of luck Be brave!
I'm extremely friendly and love people, but I'm a lone wolf. I'm so adapted to a life of solitude with my video games and my reading,drawing and other things I enjoy doing by myself. Don't get me wrong I do enjoy my own company and would not usually complain about loneliness but I can't help but wonder of the real life experience passing me by.. I've been diagnosed with social anxiety. I'm socially awkward and uncomfortable merely due to lack of exposure to a social life and I'm aware of that. Also I think I'll be happier with more friends and perhaps a partner, being 22 and never have fallen in love is a bit difficult. I'll use your advice Boogie and I'll learn to get over my social anxiety and try to live the life I truly want to live :) Thanks for your video
I watch these "serious" videos of yours regularly boogie and I can't tell you how much they've helped me. No need for a psychiatrist when I got you. Thank you and much love. ✌️😌
best thing about being alone is you can go outside in the sun and just sit in one place for hours like a plant on a bench or hill and can embrace the enviroment around you, its like looking a somehing beutiful but can't see it, except its therec and you know its there.
Let me put it this way,
Loneliness is like drowning but you see others breathing.
Trust me. It sucks...
Pirate_of_Oakland the internet
filled with evil people
some nice people
and.....
a place where people can feel accepted
for maybe once in their life
I feel so so sorry for everyone who doesn't deserve this
Because I was part of this loneliness
a useless kink in the corrupt machine of society
*puts hand on your shoulder* Don't worry I've been there...
kid rock "I never had a gf and some of my friends make fun of me" I wouldn't see getting a girlfriend as an accomplishment. In that stage in your life you are young and still growing so a relationship may be hard to maintain unless you find someone you truly understand. Let your "friends" make fun of you for being smart and taking your time in your life rather then trying to find someone to love immediately. I have never had a girlfriend and I'm past college and so are many others so don't think your alone there.
"I had complication thots of suicide and I told myself don't do it U have a family" That's good you have said that to yourself there. It shows you are considerate about others around you and you know what you have to lose if you follow through with suicide. You have found some value in your life you don't want to lose.
"half of them that called me a dumb ass and what ever are either in jail or pregnant" What kind of high school do you go to where the pupils in junior year are in jail and or pregnant. Anyway the fact you have not followed them to where they have ended has shown you are more sensible and have turned out better then them. Just because you don't have as many friends in life doesn't mean you'll be a failure. They're in dire situations and you're still in school getting an education despite the hardships you went through before. I think that says a little on how strong you are compared to the others in your school.
Pirate_of_Oakland
But what sucks more is enduring other worthless people. Loneliness is the superior option compared to it's alternative. And you actually don't HAVE to feel lonely when alone. If you don't like your own company than what makes you think you will like anybody else's?
Alpenland Hermit some people can't handle loneliness its genetically programmed into us because numbers led to survival.
"I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone."
-ROBIN Williams
he is dead.
Jenna true !!!
Ya Nigga Obeezy was the really? how? what did he do?
There's the truth to it.
M OH No it was in The world greatest dad. A comedy that came out in 2009.
Rest in piece Robin William!
I miss you!
Ive been alone all my life and its not easy
Same, I've found that playing games and making friends online helps with the loneliness
This used to be true for me too...its not good enough anymore. Im so lonely I feel like I'm dying sometimes
+Nasur Akhtar Especially when you are bound to an endless cycle of under-confidence, social anxiety and self pity.
+Nasur Akhtar Lets get together
It doesn't have to be endless. :)
social aniexty has ruined my life
Is it social anxiety? Or is it a natural reaction to society becoming malificent.
same
Society ruined my life.
It really isn't your fault for that honestly
I've isolated myself for years and years and years of my life, and I'm finally starting to feel it. It's not fun.
Mareșalul Alexandru Averescu. I've got a few on you. 11 here. It all depends on the mental fortitude of a person, so you've got a good head on your shoulders.
I feel ya. For me i was so busy "fighting" (not physically)/trying to protect myself that i never thought about friendship. I feel kinda bad. You learn how to make friends in preschool...now here i am about to be 20 and i dont know where to start. Im "nice" but it doesn't work and honestly so far no one has really been my cup of tea. I dont even know if i want friends. I just want someone who understands me, i enjoy their company and the feeling is mutual.... i never want to feel like a burden
UnbiasedGuy123 why would you isolate in the 1st place?
***** Because I have Schizoid Personality Disorder. When I was younger, I didn't think I needed friends or relationships at all. I had my books, I had my games, and I had school. That was all I needed.
In short: I was a nerd. xD
What games do you play?
Music is my only true friend...
+thepianist126 ah the only truth in my life
+DEUS EX MACHINA PRODUCTION yup
+oobloob Cool.
Agree
That means you should make music my friend, there are people who will definitely relate to you
I'm tired of being lonely. I just wanted someone around, want to feel like I belong somewhere. Been lonely all my life but now it's starting to sink in and i can feel it slowly killing me and I feel like everyone is watching it happen and doesn't give a flying fuck
add me on steam we can connect with gaming im lonley too i rarely get a friend
Same here
Wow u are very brave. Thanks for sharing ur truth
yw
I do not understand my mind at all. See I have social anxiety so I'm afraid to go out and make friends, yet I constantly feel lonely and depressed because of my isolation. So when people say,"Just go out and make friends," it's not that easy at all.
I'm the same way... I'm introverted and I don't exactly likr being around a lot of people and sometimes I don't want to even talk to anyone but when I'm at home I feel super lonely and depressed. Oh well..
Good people, I realy feel for you. Please, dont stay in isolation but get profesionel help. I am sure there are profesionels who have experience and can help you to get out of this circle.
+VaultEscapist98 Right there with you man
+VaultEscapist98 I understand your pain, it's exactly the same for me ;(
+TheVenomousViper not sure wether this is still a topic, but there is a reason why alot of us do not want to meet new people ;
It sucks to be with people who are just complaining, laughing about others, or, to sum it up; who are completly negativ. The problem is, those who ARE good people inside are afraid to show it, because they know that they wont be accepted if they do.
So, the only conclusion to that problem is to be alone, but that is ALSO not what we want; We want to interact with BEAUTIFUL people, not people who wear masks when they go out.
I think that's the main reason why people are "introvert".
Those who are alone alot might have the most courage, because they stay true to themselfes. To sum it up; You are all beautiful inside, it's not your fault that you are alone. :)
(To whoever is reading this and feels lonely. It's the truth.)
There's a stigma around loneliness. It's actually not that harrowing if you keep yourself busy.
***** I don't think the modern person with his or her dependence on technology and the constant need for attention, approval or affirmation from others through the likes of social media, could ever stomach prolonged bouts of solitude. It's almost a drug-like dependency IMO. But I agree with your point about feeling alone when surrounded by the wrong crowd.
***** Both. Unstomachable for most people who heavily depend on interaction of various sorts, and it's a state of mind.
thats true. I only feel lonely if I am idle and bored. loneliness is a state of mind, there's a difference between being alone and 'being lonely'. A person can be lonely in a crowded room because of not feeling a connection.
+Rob Davidson Same for me , There are 2 kinds of loneliness and some so called friends can turn out to be anything but.....
That is so right. Keeping yourself busy helps not thinking about loneliness.
I'm surrounded with people all the time. yet i always feel horribly lonely. I feel like my friends don't like me and I don't even like me. I'm not suicidal but I'm terrified that one day that's how I'll go.
Dont go that way Mrtamal01......you end up in hell if you do....and that is for eternity with no way out.
People who have tried to take their lives and lived have said the moment they jumped (or whatever)
they thought "what have I done". Demons (literal ones real ones) will be laughing when you do.
Turn to Jesus.
But will Jesus help you?
***** You think buying a guitar is the answer?
I'm dealing with the the same thing
Try being alone when you hit your mid fifties and time is running out; now that is torture
Try being alone and suicidal in your twenties while everyone shouts at you "YOU'RE 20 THIS IS THE BEST PERIOD OF YOUR LIFE".
Yep I'm 40 have someone here but they are not here if you know what I mean.
Im there myself, it's so hard
Bunch of loser!
Have a serious thknk about committing suicide.
allan moore wtf bro shut up keyboard warrior i bet in person i would destroy you
Nobody wants a friend who only wants to be social once a month. Yeah, just gotta get used to my life...
I am exactly the same
jokuihmehyyppa I do. cuz then I won't feel pressured
same here
That's why the Normie and Gamer segretation exists C:
Non normies can just make friends online, Because making friends IRL is a pain in the ass.
jokuihmehyyppa maybe finding someone similar to you ? I'm sure there is another guy like that
"In order to become successful, you must overcome fear"
Not always..
Not always..
I agree good quote
Am I weird for looking forward to the day I die? Sometimes, the thought of dying is the only thing that comforts me. Knowing that I won't have to deal with this crappy world forever. I don't consider myself suicidal. But I don't trust myself. I'm afraid all it'll take is something really bad to happen, and I'd go off the deep end. A lifetime of being shunned by the outer world is what causes this.Even though it's mostly my own fault for avoiding socialization.
Jay M I know how u feel
I feel the same, pretty much, its like we were just here to be alone and suffer and then die! I hate i was born, there was really no really point of this life.
No. I look forward as well.
phunkadelicfu if I could've chose to have not been born at all, i definitely would've done it.
it seems these feelings about death are pretty common
sad
Damn it, boogie... now i'm crying. The feels. It hurts. Being lonely myself, having no friends, no prospect of finding love... I can relate.
If you're interested, I'd bet there is a bunch of females who are just as lonely and hopeless as you. I can't guarantee they're attractive, tho.
@Sigma Blade Nah they wouldn't aim that high. I mean, women are stunningly aware of their aesthetic appeal, but they have a strong sense of self-worth at the same time, so they won't go out crying about how lonely they are. They want to have sex and romance and friendships just as bad as we all do.
So I'd bet men have their chances with a looksmatch. All you need is something that demonstrates power/health. Aesthetics is just one part of it. There's intelligence, big dick energy, confidence, sharpness, humour, sympathy, physical strength, talent... They aren't as simple and instantly effective as aesthetics tho, but those are probably things that are in your reach and can be maxxed.
Still if you're maxxing something for someone else you might be disappointed. Ideally you should improve yourself for yourself, not for others (even tho this can give you an initial boost so there's nothing wrong with it really).
EXACTLY
The level of transparency that Boogie has is astounding to me. Imagine how difficult it must be to be completely honest with two million people, just laying yourself bare. All of the ugliest parts of your life, all the struggles, just to try and help other people feel better. It's inspiring to me. This takes so much character.
Danny Dolan I don't know how he does it. I could never do it. I'd hate myself, and as illogical as it is I hate him by proxy.
Danny Dolan thats because he has found his purpose. he values the idea of helping (many) others more than his own life.
Man, this comment section is depressing and interesting all at the same time. So many like-minded people. Makes me wonder, though, were previous generation like this? I don't think so, I think we're growing sadder as a society. I'd be lying if I said I knew exactly why.
wellthisisawkward the eternal Hunt for succes and no time for Pity or understanding of other People's problems might be a reason. But boi do i Think the next generation will have it hard, with the crap our parents and us have made. Or Maybe alot of people back then felt like that but you would never have the chance to know because of the lack of social media/youtube
Social media. The irony.
Day Man Lol it's funny but it's fucked.
I also think it's because of how much later we do think in comparison to others decades! My mom explained to me that before, when people were married to the age of 20, people were enjoying life with friends as we do during our 25-30 but they were doing those between 15-20! They were finally be happier way before we do, we "have to wait" 25 years thought they had to wait 15, though isn't it? Everyone was always going outside, a having opportunity to meet people and all... It's not like that anymore
The previous generation probably was like this. You just never heard about it because there was no social media for people to post about it. So they just suffered.
Social media has definitely made things worse tho. Yes it can bring people together, but when you're lonely and you see people all over social media acting like they're living the perfect life, it makes it all so much worse.
im so tired of being socialated isolated I'm not strong enough anymore, i can't live like this
+yoshicity2k
^this OP, make sure you use a good old fashioned dirty bomb
+BatEzioMan Why the f would you say that?
Crow Migration because if amenity
Dont do it man it's not worth it try finding and apreciating the world around you i know its hard im going through the same thing but you just one day hopefully me and you will see the beauty around us instead
I usually avoid watching video`s like this, because I know they always hit closer to home than I`d like to admit, but I gotta say that this was probably one of the most heart-felt and inspiring video`s I`ve seen on TH-cam.
I'm 23 years old and I've struggled with loneliness and depression throughout most of my life, I got bullied and picked on endlessly in school. It slowly killed me inside as a person and made me lose interest in education as a whole and i ended up failing school entirely. I then found out three years after school finished that i have aspergers. I've also never had a girlfriend and i could tell in school that girls were interested in me, but i didn't have the social skills to act on it at the time because i was extremely depressed and lacked the confidence due to constant harassment, and because of that constant failure of not finding love like my friends did, it made me miserable and i struggle to even go outside the house at this stage.
I also went to my high school graduation by myself while every other guy including my friends was there with his girlfriend, i was the only single guy there. It was probably the most humiliating moment in my life. Now all i do everyday is stay inside all day listening to music, playing video games and watching TH-cam videos to pass the time and cope with whatever pain i'm feeling and i have essentially no social life. I'm literally miserable and i wish on a daily basis that i never existed.
One of the best things about TH-cam is that there are still a lot of hidden gems like this video: you just gotta look past the shitty pewds let's plays and dig deeper.
amen
Gabriel Ignacio 277k views isn't very hidden. That's like... several good-sized stadiums full of people.
Willy Goat for a moderately well known content creator posting in English... that is fairly few people.
dakunssd Well known hidden gems! Ha!
But seriously, you underestimate the scale of 300k hits. There are US States barely larger than that! It's a big deal, and Boogie should be proud of his reach.
Willy Goat
yupp!
i honestly feel like i'm just lost in the fog of depression and isolation, never to be found....
the cure for depression is vitamin b3 dr abram hoffer im alone too i think everyone in this youtube comment section is the same thats why we are all here on boogies videos
Now I want a hug
Adoss shall rule all lol i thought u wrote now i want to hang
+Adoss shall rule all
why don't you then just give yourselves one "dumbasses" :)
*hugs you* :)
GROUP HUG MAFUKKAZ!! :D
friday after next?
Adoss shall rule all 2 years late but internet hugssss xoxo
i’ve been so lonely and socially isolated all my life, that i havent even properly developed empathy for others, feels bad.
I'm a nice guy, not bad looking, funny, no glaring issues. I've never had a girlfriend. WTF am I doing wrong? A lot of resentment builds in you upon seeing women happy with other men. It eats away at you.
Dont look for a gf man, it will come.
Now i swear this is a true story about How i Met my first gf, so i was starting at a new School, and we was on the same bus. So when we exited the bus ii Said ladys first, and i guess that gave her a Good Eye to me, so it turnes out we would start in the same class, so i never thought more of it until i was invited to this party at her House, she told me later that evening she liked me and i banged her so hard man. But the point is dont expect it to come live ur life and it will come trust me bro
I honestly have the same problem
Rey Parker
Ik what u mean
Same if you're overly pretty.. you come across as a threat and then face rejection from people.. I have found you should just work on your own abilties etc.. you will attract someone just as good as you. Best of luck ❤
21 years old, most of my life i have been lonely, people around me and still feels like i'm a ghost among them, i don't fit anywhere. I tried so many times to battle my sadness, my anger, achieve peace but it didn't happened.
I decided to be alone the rest of my life, just living thru until my last day come.
Juan García same boat
Bro i swear smoke some weed really, and just turn on some god Damn 2pac and screw everybody, get ur grind on bud
Flødebolle Med drys n how tf i m supposed to get weed with social anxiety?
Same age as you and same situation. It’s okay babe. Just hang on.
@@kebabmcnugget3514 2pac hated white people I'm lonely but a white boy how can I relate to a man who hated whites
If only more people would speak out about this growing problem; a problem that's destroying men in western civilization.
Only weak men let stupid shit affect them.
WackyDeli95 Only foolish people think this problem is simply "stupid".
My grandfather was all alone with his uncle who treated him poorly in Italy. Did he just sit around and get depressed or whine? NO. He snuck on a boat, then came to the U.S, opened a barber shop and worked till he was 91. So stfu and fix your problems like a MAN.
WackyDeli95 I was scrolling through the comments. laughed so hard when I saw your picture XD aw yea. felt it in the ab I laughed so good...as for your story, thanks for sharing. I liked it. think you came out a little rough around the edges at the wrong person, but it eventually got to me and I liked it...
BROWULFdude Good to hear.
I've had no friends my whole life, I was always an out cast. I've struggled with depression/suicide since I was 10. I'm nearly 19 now and still have no one. I've never known how to make friends but it's just stopped affecting me I go about my day alone.
I just keep in mind one day I'll find someone and that gets me through it but it's still a struggle
Bryce Cummings keep that mentality and treat yourself like a best friend. Others will notice your confidence
if you have a pc make a steam account and add me we can be friends on steam
@@mazrimazri6101 that’s sweet of you
I feel the same man, i can talk with almost anyone, can make "friends" but they don't seem to like me, if i want to talk to someone i have to be the one who have to start, if i want to go to the cinema i have to be the one who invite them (they wont came), i'm that "good guy buuut"... it sucks
People are rude, terrible and apathetic these days. They don't respond or reply (even companies
when people apply for a job those companies don't even get back to them). It's a rotten world and
just horrible now. You are brave and often it takes some years before people change their ideas
and treat others a little better but judging the world as it is now (final generation) it says love will
grow cold in scripture and it has. You must be a shining light with a nice attitude because you are good
enough to invite others. Even though love has grown cold, I still don't understand many people's horrid
attitudes to others. My eldest son really cares about people and is such a shining light in that he
treats others with respect and is punctual and extremely kind to people and animals and if he says
he will do something he does it.......and he replies to others etc. There aren't many like him about
that I see anyway.
Thats exactly how i always feel man. It sucks doesnt it?
Alan Fred it does. I'm also that "good guy" who invites ppl but rarely gets invited. I don't know if it's just me or the entire world is growing cold.
Bro trust me i was the same, but you wil grow and meet people who will like you
Genie Meadows What scripture are you referring to, if I may ask?
The weird thing about me is, I make friends easily and have lots of friends and family to support me but I still feel kinda lonely, anyone else feel the same way.
Poke Mel Yup , can totally relate to that. I find it to be very exhausting
me too i get friends and family i still feel lonley that empty void doesnt go away i still feel unsatisfied
loneliness is slowly killing us all.
not really only the men ! and only the nicest men ! women are never loanly and neither are abusive men, loanliness is killing all the good guys !
+Nunyer Byzness ...i share that..got spinal cord damage under op..extreme pain..lost 80% use of legs..spend long times laying down p
eating it to stop or I just stop.. few people can understand living hellish nightmare..what to do??? You know as I do
Peter Talgaard65 hey, i hope you're doing well. If you ever want to talk or anything please do, im in a bad mental state right now too and if you want to talk we can. I can give you my email if you would like.
Especially me im so used to it i barely have friends and its hard for me to get a girl especially a good one
Jaime Smith it's hard for me to make a friend at all 😧
I have been friendless for more than a few years. I am supposed to go out to a bar for a friend for the first time ever. Pray for me, I have faith in myself.
best of situations mate.
Why? What's so amazing and great about a place where people go to get drunk so the can forget about their miserable lives?
There aren't too many places more depressing than a bar.
I've had friends my entire life. But they suck. Like literally thinking about every douche bag person I've ever met. It's not worth it. My friends were the kind that make you feel alone. But GOOD friends I've only a handful.
yeah I used to have friends that were so negative
I am so lonely, it feels like i'm already dead.
+Luana Robbins Il save you
LM we can be friend if you want to:)
Being lonely is better then being miserable with people.
+JasonV1012 But then you don't have people you can tell to fuck off!
+Calum Mccabe or fuck off and beer me
+Calum Mccabe lol x)
amen
being lonely alone is better than being with people that make you feel lonely, if that makes sense
The only thing that keeps me happy in life is video games. They always make me feel like I'm somewhere else...
Sidd that, and pot. Lots and lots of pot
Music here. Love singing alone all day
Aarne samee
Same. I don't know really. Kingdom Come is my jam in life right now.
Same here mate video games really managed to prevent me thinking about suicidal thoughts and other negative things. These are the games that made me survive hell
1. Assassins Creed
2. Metal gear solid
3. Final fantasy
4. Devil may cry
5. The last of us and Uncharted series
im lonely, i have no friends, never hugged a girl, ugly, stupid, socially akward, idk what to do
Ask yourself if all that is true, if the answer is still yes, change your mindset, that's usually it.
That is a good start, and also make sure to eat clean and work out, you don't need to be in the gym for 10 hours a day to be in good shape, do 5 mins on an exercise bike and work your way up to 20 mins, then you could do 20 mins and have a break, another 20 mins and break then the last 20 mins then you have your hours exercise in one go.
***** alright, i shall do that, thanks for the advice :D
Careem if you can somehow find a decent christian church some have youth groups and if you
are a little older than the youths (boys and girls) ....you could help out. They have fun activities
and outings. I hope it's the same in your country. However commit to Jesus and repent of sin
and follow Him for the rest of your life (short life as He is coming soon) ....and put Him first and
He will give you good things.
same except I have a few friends could count them on one hand girl hugged me yea but later on sometime she said I was ugly to my face lol I smiled but I was crying inside I hate crowds like being alone its much better :) my life has been really sad n weird music n pc games are my life they never hurt you n always there :|
I used to have one very good friend whom I shared everything with, but he dropped me like a sack of stones when I ended up in a mental institution due to severe depression, which stings even today. Nowadays I'm basically a hermit, I never go out, don't have friends or a job and even socializing with my own family is something I have trouble with. I feel very lonely and ashamed of myself, my confidence is zero and I don't know how to turn this around, no matter how much I want to :(
+Elf Monster Never feel ashamed of yourself for suffering, especially with depression. A while ago I was at rock bottom in terms of self esteem, confidence and feeling lonely, I know how awful it is and that it feels like there's no way out. I'm still working to build myself back up, but a good tip is to start small with trying to regain little sparks of light back into your life by making little efforts everyday to do something you used to enjoy. For me it was, weirdly enough, reconnecting with my cat (being depressed, I'd lost interest in pretty much everything I used to enjoy, including spending time with my pet, friends and family), which sounds stupid I know but it helped. I'd just make myself play with her a bit, give her a treat, pet her etc even when I was feeling empty inside and didn't really care to do any of that. But after a little while I started to enjoy it again, and would do it because I wanted to, not because "ugh I probably should". And I did this with other facets of life too- step by little step, I started my baking again, talking to family and friends more- and these little steps began adding up to make me feel more like me, back to (not quite, but more) normal. I know it's hard, especially if you're suffering from low self esteem and no motivation, but please try making little efforts to reconnect with parts of your old life. Maybe drop a text to a family member, have a little text conversation and when you've had enough for that day, that's ok. If you make efforts like that, over time it'll build up into bigger and better things, like maybe lunch out with family, and I promise it'll all help to rebuild your self confidence. I hope those tips were useful, I know it might not be because I know from experience how easy it is to not feel up to even the smallest of things, but please do try, it'll be worth it. Good luck with everything, I wish you well :)
+Nathan Place To clarify, when I said about my cat, I meant that's the first part of life I reconnected with, not that it was the reason I felt depressed :p
+Elf Monster I'm the exact same.
I was alone in school during the 80 s and 90s .I would of have loved to had a cell phone and internet and just one friend to talk to I would have enjoyed my youth . I didn't have anybody until I met my husband in the 12 grade back in 91. I still to this day don't have any friends but I still have my husband and that's fine with me. Loneliness is the worst torture ever!
Hello everybody. There are people who are commenting on Boogie`s vids with some horrible words. But I think we should not dignify those comments with an answer. because the only reason those people write those things is to get an answer. For shock values. To make people angry. And they succeed every time we answer. You can't reason with those people. Don't even try. Just ignore them. There are like leeches or like parasites, they feed on our anger. Please just ignore them. I also get angry when I read those horrible comments. I do. But every answer you give them. They laugh at it behind their laptop. Don't give them the satisfaction.
everyone should copy and paste this comment on every website and video they know
I agree. The only thing I would add is to downvote their comment so they become hidden to the rest of the people. This will cause these writers much pain because they want their messages to be seen. I think some of these guys have fucked up life themselves and had turned to gaining attention or sparking conversation by saying hurtful disdainful shocking things. When their messages become hidden, they'll change their strategy.
this is so true
I blame technology we are so antisocial because of it. i remember when people got together and hanged out now people don't wana go anywhere :(
i'm 20 and only leave my house when i work. i feel like life is pointless and isn't worth living because of how lonely i feel, my family is the only thing i have.
please dont let your friends slip away after school ends life gets harder, to be social.
+Kayla Kedziora Well said, technology has definitely made things worse, it's just another way to avoid real life. I say this as someone who has hidden himself in a fantasy world of internet/gaming for almost 20 years.
+Kayla Kedziora It's not that bad, you can meet people on internet.
alberto garcía I admit that socializing online helps, but in the long run it's a poor substitute for real human contact.
+Kayla Kedziora Here is my thought on "work friends"...
I have had this happened twice. When a long term job ends (particularly if you are laid off or fired) those "friends" disappeared. The 1st time I reached out to almost every one of them and no response.
I have a hard time making friends but I think if you invest time in making friends, it's best to make them outside of work.
I have been out of work for a long time now.
I only have two friends and they live VERY far away.
Days go by without having a meaningful interaction with another human being.
I pray that I can find work, friends and love.
P.S. Be grateful you have a family.
Both of my parents passed away several years ago.
I realize in retrospect that they were the best friends I could ever ask for.
***** It's only those who haven't experienced the severity of prolonged isolation that say such things. Trust me, I used to have the same attitude, but as decades rolled by with nobody to share my life with everything got less and less meaningful. It's great if you enjoy your own company, but don't let that be the template for your entire life. No man is an island.
As an Aspie, i understand and corelate with all you said.
For me lonliness, its many times the only way to be myself, people dont try to understand you, when you are diferent for some reason. I do art, so i spent many hours in my studio all by myself, i create this kind of live for me, in a response to that sense of being alone.
But its hard, mostly when you wake up of that FarAway world you create for yourself, and find out that you are realy alone, no one to talk, so for me, making friends in gaming\online, can make things easier, mostly cause you talk with someone, rather than yourself.
Keep Stong Boogie, allways !
I can relate to all of this. Feel like on my own is when i can be myself, let art consume me and obsess over improving until I'm happy with myself.
I can totally relate to your problems.usually I im very socially awkward and really feel anxious when around a lot of people. Especially when I don't know them. Yet lately iv been trying to socialize more at school, and that's when the problem comes in play.As you can see I am really into video games,anime,movies, etc.and at my school in Mississippi a lot of people are very ignorant and don't understand me.then when they act bad to me for know reason, lately its been making me feel like their is somethings wrong with me.
sadly no..i live in Mississippi, were almost no one likes anime.well some do but its not like they appricate it. and as for me I get singled out as the black kid who only dates white girls,listens to white people music and so on. but I just say fuck em.lol
thx man..really appreciate your words of advance,and I never really thought of it that way..hell im apart of many guilds ranging from Naruto to wow...you sound like ah cool dude
Maybe you could talk to your teachers
I think I know how you feel, it's the frequent self-loathing that occurs when you're out-numbered by a pack of idiots. There's nothing wrong with you, man. You seem like a cool guy.
The people at your school sound like the ones that have something wrong with them.
I wish you luck.
that pretty much sums it up. thx man
I used to binge watch Boogie’s videos like this one a few years ago. If you are feeling hopeless, trust me, life gets better. Just keep pushing.
Doing that again right now, the fight may not get easier but its worth it
Thank you for sharing yourself with us.
I have been depressed lonely and had anxiety for 9 years and every day I think of killing myself it never gets out of my head. I hate being made fun of and I just stay up all night thinking about killing myself I look out the window and just look down.
No one knows how it feels.
Thank you for sharing this with us ....... Isolation can be absolutely crippling. It's very hard to see a way out when you are in deep.
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Thank you. I came across your Francis rages videos, loved them, and now these ... philosophical... I don't know how to phrase it, but man... I can feel you. I am the same in many ways. I can relate... the many years of just sitting at home, playing online, feeling that is enough. My only social interaction was DnD night. From 18-24. At 24, I started hanging out with a "buddy" from highschool. I quote buddy because we knew each other but never really hang out. After a few months, I moved in with him. And the same pattern continued. Gaming when we didn't work with each other on SWTOR or GW2 or what have you... 26 years of life and I've gotten my first real girlfriend. I finally came out of my shell and I agree, life is so much better, but even so, it is new and scary, and a part of me wants to return to that work/gaming and not having someone who knows me so well, someone I can relate to so well. Thank you for this, you have voiced my inner most thoughts completely.
Being an introvert is a gift. Rarely felt lonely. I live in my head
I used to have friendships and relationships, but in the end they all betrayed me.
best comment. there is no such thing as friends. they all want something from you and when they get it, they're gone. the only ones who stay are the ones who need your time. they all need something.
@@globalmuffin2 I agree. I believe its part of baseline human psychology, they will do whatever to be the best/ most attractive let alone what they would resort to for survival. Once that necessity or "stepping stone" phase is gone they will up and leave.
@@globalmuffin2 learned that lesson the hard way.
I have massive respect for you to talk about this. I have predominantly been alone for almost 12 years. Nowadays I only have my parents and I even find it difficult to talk to them most of the time. Add to this I've been unemployed for the best part of 3 years. It's so easy to distract yourself via games and the internet but it doesn't compensate for real human interaction. There comes a time when technology just doesn't satisfy your needs. Sadly I don't have answers but I respect you for speaking out.
I think social isolation can lead to weird and unhealthy behavior and thinking, such as becoming really obsessed with an actor, and imagining they're part of your life, when they in reality aren't. And/or it can lead to agoraphobia. Or thinking another country (other than where I live) is better and happier than the country I live in (USA). Like now, I really think the UK is a better and healthier place to live in than here in the USA. I'm convinced of it, although I've never visited the UK/Europe.
*****
That's like when people talk about bureaucracy. Everybody claims their country has the worst.
I admit though that in some cultures it might be more difficult to find the good people.
Dᴏᴡʟᴘʜɪɴ Personally, I think the people where I live (Tampa bay, Florida) leave a lot to be desired. People here don't talk with me and ignore me, and some can be judgmental towards me and cold. Yet, when I was in NY (Long Island and Flushing) people were nicer to me, they talked to me, they weren't as cold as people where I live are.
shana schwartz It's quite bad in the UK too, the working class are tired and bitter, the middle class are judgmental and egocentric, and the upper class are sociopaths.
Frank Jaegar
Like pretty much everywhere where capitalism has a foothold.
Frank Jaegar i think ur description is fucking accurate to germany too
What is more painful than isolation and loneliness, is reaching out to people who do not reach back.
I've always felt alone my whole life, for as long as I can remember, I don't know if I'm used to it, but I do know this: Being lonely does things to you, and feeling shit and bitter and angry all the time just...eats away at you. (Cry of fear opening quote, Slightly edited to fit how I feel)
I committed myself to isolation as a child. Hated people and still do. People are a problem. I miserably lonely but I am stuck in my ways. My job permits this behavior.
+John Iron I'm guessing hit man
Machinist
I have met horrible people which have destroyed me, where I was broken on inside but I have met one great person. we both hate people but it's hard to deal with loneliness
loneliness is a bitch
Sunny Price I like ur profile pic
Sunny Price what's gotten you down, Pervy Sage?
+Sunny Price But make it Your Bitch.
Loneliness often comes from depression from something that tears you down from the inside, in my case it was from considering myself a failure due to being unable to advance in life like my peers
I saw this study on reddit and it scared the crap out of me. I spend days at a time without human interaction. I even distance myself from people online. Everyday I tell myself that I'm going to go out and try to socialize with people, but I never do. I don't even fit in at my job, I rejected peoples invitations to run home to my safety bubble, & eventually people just stopped inviting me, making me bitter. Fear of change, low self esteem, relocating to a city with a larger population, rejection, they all scare me. Thank you for this video, it was motivating and inspirational
Wow, I know exactly how you feel...
Zippy
How are things now? 3 months later
Ive admitted my depression problems to my family, but I cant bare to admit that Ive become incredibly lonely, and have been isolating myself for the last 3 years. I just feel like an embarrassment.
It’s ok to be Lonley
Update??? :(((*
@@Kenny-iy1po Damn thanks for checking this - hope you are well?
I no longer have depression - long story short I started working out with friends and room mates. Helped open me up. I finished uni, and spent a year becoming comfortable with myself and taking my time to open up to the world again.
Fast forward to now, still go through blue spells and as I like to call them 'funks' but have friends, gym, work and continued development on this path to be the best version of myself to help me course correct.
I have a few close friends, but that feeling of loneliness is still there. I've learnt that I can be in a room full of people and still be lonely - its really about being able to communicate/express oneself properly. Sounds abstract, but communication skills are verbal, non-verbal, and takes time to develop.
@@austin2245psn apparently not
who wants to be my friend?
Here! :)
Skeptic Skits me ! Can I ?
Skeptic Skits me :)
I will. :)
Skeptic Skits im a bad friend
You have done a good thing here, three years later (ish) and lonely people are still coming through and being very supportive of each other by the comments i have read, we are social creatures by nature so when our surroundings feel against the grain and you still have to exist in this world it's very tough.
I'm recently 20, and i'm stuck in this situation, it's hard to break out of this vicious cycle, but i dont require sympathy, keep your chin up boogie!
Hope both of you start to feel better soon, i'm always on here if you ever need someone to talk to as i understand how it can be not to have anyone to talk to
i am personally tired of being alone and waiting for someone to pull me out of the drakest depths of loneliness. :(
Same here bother. :(
mcAnthony1000 maybe you guys can pull each other out?
Yeah, know what you mean, I have major depression so I think to myself "what's the point" it's hard too find someone that you can really connect with. I moved to a new city a couple years ago I have one person I can go to in a crunch, but we don't hangout much at all, small talk or I feel he's talking at me not too me (he's way older)... anyway my isolation makes my depression worse to the point were I consider ending it. I do see my shrink this week, n look forward to that conversation, I have to be careful what I say or she my lock me up for a psych evaluation, lol
nobody can pull us out bro...we have to do it ourselves.
same, like reaching out but nobody responds
Wow man, I got directed to your channel by Johns from Think Tank. But I wasn't expecting to watch a video like this. Dude this video is so powerful. I can just feel the raw emotion in the way you are talking. I just really wanted to good for you to have the courage to do this if it means it could help another person's life. Lastly, thank god for Chad.
Thanks for doing this video. I've been fighting the same situation for over a year. Not to the point of cutting or suicide, but in some VERY dark places I don't need to be in
I've tried my hardest and I'm tired of it. I honestly give up now. I'm far too ugly, I'm Autistic and socially awkward. Sad thing is, I've just come to terms with it now.
I am lonely 11 years. Never had relationship. I never liked to be alone though. I always knew it's bad to be alone and i felt it that way. But my friends doesn't care for me much anymore. I miss friends but mainly i miss love.
I just find that gaming can be a real drag, and I don't feel like talking with my friends because I want to focus on gaming. And then your parents start to get angry, and everything just isn't right.
10:09
That hit me so hard....Thank you for this video boogie and several others. I know you'll probably never read this but a lot of your videos have honestly started to open my eyes and help me out so much. I couldn't be happier to run into your channel. I feel like I know you as an amazing friend already that has done nothing but helped me out. you're a true person and a legend. Thank you.
Loneliness and being alone grieving over my beloved husband death. Traumatic and terrifying experience as he suffered with stage 4 colon cancer. As his caretaker and becoming his hospice nurse and was very sad devastating seeing him pass away before my very eyes. Grieving loss feeling loneliness, denial, anger, sadness, isolation, and suffering from depression anxiety😞🙏🙌🙏
I spent most of my life isolating myself, Started making friends. and have come to realize exactly why I spent most of my life isolating myself. I prefer being alone, I prefer not belonging in this world.
not been out to see anyone, nor have I had any physical contact with anyone for more than a year,
+T.C. Callaway Im genuinely curious. How come you feel lonelier when you hang out with your friends? Is it because they seem so different from you? I don't understand can you explain it?
Hayden Dunn to weigh in on feeling lonelier with friends. I understand, if you are that far gone from humanity. being with others only serves to let you know that you are the only person like you. and that no one could ever understand. so yes you are with friends. but it reminds you that you are still alone
I am utterly alone. And have been for years. At least you're getting married! That's nice. No one wants me. Everyone I know is married and with kids and the time is soon passing by. I won't be able to have kids in a few years. Such a pointless life being alone staring at the walls and crying. Hmm.
chobmcblob Damn sorry to hear that. Hopefully things come through man. Depression and loneliness is hard.
+chillinhyphy thanks guys. still nothing yet :(
+chobmcblob 2 months late but I hope things go well for you. It's never too late to find happiness...
Hey if you're in need of social support just say it in this comment.... I'm sure that there will be people that would be willing to befriend and get to know u, myself included 😊
+World Peace well I still am in need if a friend, social contact. anyone... thank you x
Such an Inspirational guy. I've never witnessed so much truth
This is probably the best youtube video Boogie has ever made. I know this video is old and traffic on it is very minimal, but I still want to vent on my story. I grew up in isolation, forced on by my parents. I had the comfort of the family we lived with whom half of them moved across the country or died. I watched a disgustingly large number of the only people I could interact with die right in front of my eyes. I lived with my dad for a few years after my mother left and moved away, and he was the only person I knew. When I was 15 he died from heart disease at the age of 50. The only other people I had any interaction with was online. And Boogie is right, it's not enough. You might think it is when you're in a similar situation, and talking to people online is by no means inherently a bad thing, in fact it could save someone's life, however it's a painkiller. A painkiller can only do so much for a major wound. Make you feel it a little less. But that wound will kill you someday. Painkillers won't stop that. Take it from someone who's been in your shoes, and desperately try to find people in person to share your life with, or it will kill you. I promise it will.
A painkiller. i think i mightve needed your story man. i havent been able to connect with much people and hearing similar stories i think is helping
Loneliness Is not a phase
Field of pain is where I graze
Sometimes, it is, though...
Life can change.
It's not easy..I wish it was different for everyone, including myself..
I like coming back here to get some motivation.
We are all born alone and we all die alone. Nobody can ever understand you, they can try the best they can but only you know what you`re experiencing. Its neither positive nor negative, its just the way it is. Everyone are alone but not everyone are lonely. You can be alone without being lonely and you can have company and be lonely. The most important thing you can do is to become your own best friend. When you learn the truth about life and your mind, you become more or less untouchable. You will still die and negative occurenses will still happen, but you will at least perceive it in the best way possible. Google *Truthcontest* and read *The Present*.
Wow! Really liked your comment, but I have one question for you. After you reach the point of knowning yourself, your mind, learning how to control your emotions and being your own best friend and untouchable: is it still necessary to find someone in whom you can 100% trust? Because this is actually my current situation! I feel like knowing myself like I never did before and I noticed I'm so much mentally stonger then last year (or 2 years ago). I had some really close "friends" at high school but I lost contacts with all of them like 1-2 years ago (and is in these 1-2 years I feel like I strengthed myself) and since then I have been really struggling to find someone in whom I can trust. I'm 21 and and studying at university, I met a lot people but everybody already have their circle of friends. I'm not always alone, but even with company I'm not feeling them like real friends.. I'm looking forward to your reply. Thank you
You'll probably never read this, but I am wasted and stumbled across this video for the first time. I am subbed to you on my other, older, channel from when I was younger (but never seen this one lol), but gotta hand it too you man, you gained my respect being able to talk about your problems so openly the way you do. The reason I am commenting is (well I am wasted) and two, I typed loneliness to see what would come up. I haven't had a friend for other 3 years, spent my 18th, 19th and 20th birthday by myself, the new years eve that followed each birthday were spent alone too. I recently lost my job too so being jobless and friendless really is the lowest off the low. It does take it's toll, no one to confide in, talk, interact, all the simple things the mass majority take for granted. I spent my hole childhood being bullied with no siblings to help out, spent my adolescence trying to change and all it ever did was make me as lonely as I was as a child. Companionship and friendship is all I want, it's all WE ALL want really, but neither I get so breaking point ins't really that far away. If you, or anyone for that matter, reads this comment, just know that no matter how shit you think things are, cherish what you have. Regardless if what you have doesn't account for much, because trust me, you don't want to be like me.
making friends is like getting women: pursuing self-interests (in the real world) and they come flooding in, NOT going out of your way trying to please other
I want to thank you for this video. I have been dealing with this for the last 4 years. This video brought a tear to my eye. I spend every day trying to find ways to change myself so people wont hate me. Thank you for showing me that it's not just me.
To anyone feeling insignificant right now. Remember that every atom in your body was present at the beggining of time, also every atom in your body will be present at the end of time. It took millions of years for those atoms to explode through stars, gas giants, nebulas, till they ended up on earth and then ultimately a part of you. You are truly part of the universe and truly connected with everything, and even if right now you don't feel connected with other people, be patient and brave, because eventually things will get better.
I'm introverted so isolation is cool with me most of the time. Here and there I can feel some effects. But not as bad as being around people who aggravate me or worse. I don't really enjoy company. Even girlfriends annoy me too much to pursue dating anymore. I test the social waters when it looks good but 99% of the time I get annoyed.
Wow, it's amazing to realize how many of us are alone. I've been alone since I was maybe 19 years old and I'm now 26, all my old friends slipped out of my life, either by their choice or by me being an asshole, or me making no attempt to keep the friendship alive. I'm just a weird person who feels that I can't relate to most people. I'm a gay guy, but also a huge gamer. First off I'm not your typical flamboyant gay guy, so fitting in with your typical gay crowd doesn't work. I know it's a stereotype, but generally stereotypes are true. Most gay guys are not into video games at all and more interested in partying, drinking, fashion, or whatever else. All I want is a boyfriend who is into the same things I am into and I can relate to, and I've never met a person like this. It sucks so much. All I want is someone to share the good times with, whether it be just a simple friend or something more like a boyfriend. I just want some social contact and to feel like I'm worth something. You begin to feel like those people don't exist, but with nearly 8 billion people on this planet, how is that possible? Are you other gay gamer guys out there?
I'm the same way, but I'm bi
Check the TH-cam channel "The dictionary of obscure sorrows".
It describes these exact emotions and feelings.
Have a good day!!!
*Hopefully you all will find relatable people who actually care.
But don't forget to keep working on yourselves as well!
Become a warrior who claims his victory rather than the bystander who simply watches and follows.
Just do it!!!
im exactly the same. please add me. heh web.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100005740818194&_rdr
Xzaithyr Grymhart 1 year ago damn
It's an interesting problem. It's almost like being a homosexual video gamer has pidgeonholed you in a certain way. I do not know to what extent gays are also gamers or gamers are gay. I always sucked at video games. I played them into my 30s.
I am a Christian musician and writer. I put up an ad seeking Christian musicians but there weren't any viable responses. The 2nd and 3rd ads had NO responses. I'd chew through my hand to play with some people, even if I had to go secular in some kind of controlled way, but it also could be a bad time of year for this. I try to stay focused on my long term goals every day, which I do via certain activities. Namely, prayer, meditation, a lot of reading, writing and music practice. There is other stuff but I rarely get to it all. I feel that I am better off in certain ways compared to other people in isolation. While I was married, the isolation started around 2007. It was the last band I was in, and the other groups since were scattershot. Living far from the people I used to call my friends, I tried going to Church, devout as I am, but they didn't want me. I was too mentally ill. Churchgoers are not different than the general public that way. They do not like, understand or want to associate with the mentally ill. So I guess unless I can change, I will most likely remain in isolation. I'm trying dbt therapy. There are no groups around here, I have to figure it out on my own. I don't know what I'll do if I cannot recover enough to create relationships. I can't roll the dice on suicide. God may condemn me for that. Or He might understand. Either way, risking hell is stupid. Once you're in there, there's no escape. Even if life is always like this, it's still better than hell. If you're curious why it's this serious, consider reading the story of Lazarus in Luke 16. Anyway, as for your specific solution, my advice is to get off the video games. They just don't benefit people. They are highly addictive, and they make too many days and hours and weeks vanish with nothing to show. If they are an emotional crutch, all the more reason to give them up. I would expect a painful withdrawal period. Eventually whatever you replace it with in your life is highly likely to be more fulfilling.
It takes a certain gumption to put oneself out there and meet others. One way in my own experience to overcome some of that shyness is to actively take an interest in other people and their lives. Whenever I meet people, I try to take some time to ask them about themselves and find out what they are into. That way, instead of feeling like I have to entertain or impress them somehow, I can simply see what they have to say and find out if there is any common ground that we may have.
I've been battling depression for a while ... December will make two years, Im looking forward to it, Boog. I dont even like being open any more. I've cried my self to sleep countless nights but you know what ... I like the feeling now more than I like being open. Its weird, I still hurt all the same but being with or opening up to people makes me forget about what i've been through and i dont want to forget ... 7 years is a long ass time.. I hope i make it there one day.. but not really.
I Love you Boog
hi
Hey
Hey my name is Andre whant to be my friend ^-^? (if yes add me on skype "x.tasy.0")
Sure buuut ...I dont have a skype but knowing you offered is enough. Thank You.
Just-Some Guy-Five Why not just sign up for a Skype? It's free and painless... I'm about to get one myself, I'll give you my ID once I do.
The good thing of videos like these is it's relieving to know there are people who suffer like you and, morbidly to say, have it worse. And inspiring those who have had it worse pull through and become "better".
i've been going through this rough patch in my life. my depression and anxiety is getting the best of me and i feel so alone. no one wants to help me and i just feel like shit.
being alone is shit.
Close to 18 and have never had a girlfriend, never been kissed on the lips, never had sex. I also have extreme issues functioning in public, I have social anxiety, and by far, all my life has been is this: Jacking off 3 times, playing video games for 8 hours, going on my phone, eat, sleep, repeat. I feel so depressed sometimes, i just want to feel the embrace of a girl who likes me for me, i just want to have a fucking big group of nice friends, but that's fucking impossible. The thing that scares me the most is that i have absolutely no passion for drive to do anything for my future, i don't know if this is because of my anxiety, or my depression, but my future is no looking bright at all, I've never been in such a dark ditch in my life. I really admire this video Boogie, you spoke those words and it connected to me spiritually, nearly made me cry, I hope others that suffer from loneliness or any mental illness that makes them socially dysfunctional find their happiness, hope anyone else that's 17-18 can relate to my struggle. I cant even fucking get into a job due to my anxiety.
Markus Kruber I get you man
XD Thanks dude, love when other people understand my situation.
How are u doing now brother ?
I've had this video saved for years and will continue to leave it that way, it's so crazy to see how far you've come Boogie! Love ya man!
Loneliness worst punishment ever great video I found it helpful
loneliness sucks. Lost my dad recently, only family I had. Now I lost my gf of two years and I have no friends. I honestly don't know what to do anymore.
god help you brother
Holy shit Matt the same thing happened to me now I deal with anxiety and depression. Life is never the same but there is hope!
my problem is that im actually really sociable and get along with people really easily, but i never get to the point to have an actual friend, its just so shit
dhnfijdbskf hbxsfvds That's my situation... I wanna disappear
Me too, I just cant retain them.. maybe Im just boring as I dont drink or smoke :/
Turns out he wasn't alone He was clapping cheeks
Been rewatching tons of your old videos. I can only watch so many of these types before I have to escape back into the world of Francis.... but thanks for getting the conversation going for many of us with these types of videos. The comment sections on these vids are just amazing.
the comments on this are so dreadfully said. I hope the best for you all. 💕
I clicked this video because I am feeling very isolated.
Problem is, I did have a very good social life only 2 months ago, the problem was all my social life consisted of was taking drugs, I've had alcohol problems as well and have been to rehab twice, the first time when I was 18.
So I made a decision that I didn't want to take drugs anymore, but my so call friends didn't agree with me so I've purposely isolated myself.
I also moved back in with my parents, who are not alcoholics, but drink far more often then I would like. So I lock myself away, to avoid the alcohol.
I've never felt so alone in my life, but I'm drug free... It sucks.
+Karen Richardson i lost all of my friends because I decided to get sober so I feel you. They were going down the wrong path and I wanted to go a different way. I'm still recovering a year later struggling to make friends due to social anxiety and depression but this is apart of our journey. Its way better than being where we would be if we hung around those people. Keep your head up and I'll try to do the same.. I know its hard
+Karen Richardson I hope as a month has passed that you've gotten better, but if not, then you really got to put yourself out there, you've made a positive life decision and your previous friends didn't want to follow it with you, and theres nothing wrong with that, but isolating yourself is just trading a physical issue of drugs for a mental issue of lonelyness... which may be even worse for you, just stay strong, and work your ass off to reach the light at the end of the tunnel, I truly hope for the best for you, pm me if you ever need someone to talk to
I'm in the same exact boat as you. My only friends were who I did drugs with. You cut off all the relationships in search for change because you know they're no good for you. It's rough. Strangely enough I've been going to church more and reading the bible. Hopefully you can find peace, take care.
Karen remember you and only you can fight for real life and real connections you may not have anyone yet but be patient open up to to people who don't need an alcohol, cigarettes and all that.
There are far more things for us to experience in this life!! Best of luck
Be brave!
I go to boogies old videos every once in a while whenever I feel depressed.
I'm extremely friendly and love people, but I'm a lone wolf. I'm so adapted to a life of solitude with my video games and my reading,drawing and other things I enjoy doing by myself. Don't get me wrong I do enjoy my own company and would not usually complain about loneliness but I can't help but wonder of the real life experience passing me by.. I've been diagnosed with social anxiety. I'm socially awkward and uncomfortable merely due to lack of exposure to a social life and I'm aware of that. Also I think I'll be happier with more friends and perhaps a partner, being 22 and never have fallen in love is a bit difficult. I'll use your advice Boogie and I'll learn to get over my social anxiety and try to live the life I truly want to live :) Thanks for your video
I watch these "serious" videos of yours regularly boogie and I can't tell you how much they've helped me. No need for a psychiatrist when I got you. Thank you and much love. ✌️😌
What if you get betrayed every single time you think you found a friend. To the point you don't want to meet people anymore?
best thing about being alone is you can go outside in the sun and just sit in one place for hours like a plant on a bench or hill and can embrace the enviroment around you, its like looking a somehing beutiful but can't see it, except its therec and you know its there.