As a Veteran of the British Army, served in three conflicts and has ptsd and other physical issues, l can relate to the song..l now have two beautiful grand children, l would do it all again, for them..as this world is on borrowed time, love everything, be happy..X
I lost my beloved husband Don of 49 years the emptiness and loneliness is sometimes unbearable, when God say’s that you become one flesh this was true in our lives he was the most loving, caring, giving person and I’m so thankful for the years God gave us. He was my one and only and still is.
So sorry. I was in concern during the pandemic, as I felt my career was over. I wouldn't be able to support my family. This song helped me. Hope the best for in the future.
My Debbie 33 yes from 82-2015, I was a broken man, I it seems was theeonly one who didn't know she was dying by inches over a 5 Ur period. If I had known I wouldn't have been able to carry on looking after her caring for her. My mother took it upon herself to take charge and organised her burial, the send off and we both rose at 5 am for over a week and we winged laughed cried more and I thank the Good Lord for giving me a mother and wife made of steel with hearts of Gold. She Loved R.E.M. and Talking Heads x
I’m 71 yrs old and just heard this incredible song for the first time a few weeks ago. And now reading all these heartbreaking and compassionate comments. My God. Tears rolling down my cheeks. Much of the time, I have such little faith in humanity. Then I read what many of you have written makes me feel such connection. Love to you all. Thank you.
I'm so sorry for your loss :( It's a great song and I'm glad you and your wife were able to enjoy it together. You seem to be a believer yourself, and I'd offer Revelation 21:4 as a comfort if you haven't looked at it lately: "He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away." One day, this too, shall pass. God bless
I will not give you cliche words of advice, or repeated phrases because I know that they won`t help you much right now. What I can tell you is ... "Me too"....... The pain is debilitating, the silence is deafening. I am here to listen if you need to talk. Mine passed 6 long years ago after 30 years of marriage. Most cannot even understand what you are going through right now. If you don`t want to talk, that's ok. I would like to know how you are doing.... just because I care.
I was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma cancer and Amyloidosis AL 3 years ago. The doctors gave me 5 years to live. This song brings tears to my eyes every time I hear it! I just keep holding on and praying to God!
I lost my oldest son 8 months ago at the age 37. I have been in a very dark place and my husband played this song for me I cried so hard hearing this song. I have been playing this song ever since hearing it. For everyone that is hurting i hope you find the strength to keep living your life. thanks to my husband and REM for helping my realize life is worth living.
Es tut mir so furchtbar leid was dir passiert ist. In meiner Vorstellung ist es das schlimmste schlimmste wenn meinen Kindern etwas passieren würde. Ich wünsche dir ganz viel Kraft. 🙏
My world was a mess in 1993. Decided to end it all. Was driving fast down a hill with a sharp right over a bridge as the bottom. My plan was just to go straight on. As I was halfway down the hill, the line "No, no, no you're not alone" came on. It hit me like a brick. I slowed own, pulled over, and cried like a child. Michael Stipe, I owe you.
Spookily similar to me in 1998, my wife was leaving me for someone else, I was about to lose my house and thought I would never see my kids anymore, this came on the Radio as I was speeding down a long straight towards a bend crying, what stopped me was I thought how devastated my wonderful parents would be, I couldn't do that to them, this song saved my life.
Same, I had fucked up family. Was separated from my kids. And was about to loose all my shit because of the debt and divorce. So I was driving U-boat and I was about to drive straight into megaladons mouth, but then this music started playing and by the moment it was singing"no no no you are not alone" I stopped and I wasn't eaten by the dolphins.
Sitting here numb. Mom passed away this past Saturday. I'm now the last one standing in my family. Dad's gone, my brother and sister have passed. Thank God for my wife and kids. Absolutely lost right now. This song somehow picks me up when I'm down. 😢
It’s funny how some songs cut right through to your heart…. ❤ . Some so sad EVERY-TIME you hear them you stop in your tracks , and are reduced to tears…. This is one of those songs
I am dying of cancer. I have been in love with this song since I first heard it. I just put it in my will to be played at my memorial service. I want all of my friends and family to not dwell on what has happened, but to look forward to tomorrow! Everything moves forward. I hope the video in some form is still available. I want it to be played
🙏 . Cancer just took our cat. F cancer . I feel bad for not finding the lump sooner . I'd have paid anything to keep her longer, our vet of many years shook his head . I respect he was honest and forthright with us .
This song helped me and my son. He was a combat medic and came home all messed up in the head and highly suicidal. Thanks to training from the VA on how to help him and THIS SONG , got him to see the light at the end of the long dark tunnel he was in!! took 8 years but now he is a RN and his specialty is mental health, he now works with teens stuck in that dark tunnel from parental abuse!
R I P à votre maman 🙏 Cette chanson me rappelle mes plus belles années, et je l’ai choisis pour mon enterrement 🪦 En espérant que ce soit le plus loin possible 🙏
As much as I can't relate I just hope that you know you have to live the rest of your life as proud as you can be by carrying yourself and lessning the weight off your shoulders and that's life. Sorry for your loss...
I’m reading the comments with tears running down my face. So much pain and loss. Sending you all positive thoughts and I’m so sorry for your suffering! I’m glad you have each other here! Edit: it was 2 months ago I mage this post.. Last week I lost my beloved mugwai ( 19 yr old yorkie) he went right from his Moms boob to my arms and the grief is unbearable.
This extremely powerful song and its message touches me to the very core of my soul. It has saved my life many times over the years...from being diagnosed with an incurable, dehabilitating disease that destroyed my 21-year marriage. "He" couldn't handle It. Drove away my siblings..."they" couldn't handle it. All that matters is that "I" can handle it. If not for such great and loving friends I'd be on my own. Thank you R.E.M for creating this comfort and a BIG thank you to Michael for your phenomenal voice and 'delivery to the core of my soul'. ✌🏼❤️ 🎶
I LOVE THIS ,As someone who has struggled with suicidal tendencies and obsession from early childhood and a multi attempt survivor. This is one of the songs that helps pull me back from the edge. When it first came out I was in a dark place in my mind and I clung to this album. All my thanks to REM.
@macc5829 yes life is worth fighting for because it's precious and so are you Don't throw it all away because of the deamons in our head ( mental illness) hang in there and spite them Yeah it's gonna be fucking hard and you will want to quit....but DON'T! You got this and are stronger than you realise xxxx
@@macc5829 of course its worth it. Jesus said life isn't easy, but he did say it would be worth it. Your not alone and try to turn your negative thoughts into positive....
My good friend lost his mother many years ago I remember he listened to this song constantly for a very long time. We use to cry in each other’s arms. Love you spike, what a woman. Xx
My son died on his 22nd birthday, fathers day, 2000. Not a day passes when I don't think of him. This song drags me around inside my head. I'll never get better. They say it fades but it doesn't.
As a mum who lost her son too , no it doesn't get any easier. Why? Because it shouldn't have happened and it's like they are a phone call away. Sending big hugs. 😢
My husband was dying of cancer and our kids were only 6 & 10. I used to go down to the basement in the middle of the night while everyone was asleep and listen to this again and again while I howled out my grief. Sounds daft being grateful for a song but I am. It was such a comfort.
It doesn’t sound daft at all, it sounds like a person keeping sanity together for her kids when her whole world is being torn from under her through no fault in the situation, it was written for people like you, people like you that share these parts of life give us the inspiration to keep pushing forward, love to you and your family
I totally understand. Not daft whatsoever. This song & Chris Cornell’s “Sunshower” popped up at the exact times I needed to hear them at different points years ago. I hope you are in a happier space now.
ty for sharing your situation,you just helped a total stranger..i am in such deep despair,i can barely get thru the day without breaking down completely,and i am a grown man with grown children,but my heart feels like it is irrevocably broken,my younger brother was murdered or as the police say,suicide by gunshot,this song brought me here i guess,and then to you...i honestly want to just pull the plug,he was great and nice,and i am the fuckup,it should have been me,but if you can manage the terrible loss you suffered,maybe i can hold on.thank you,and i pray for your closure and for you to have a happy life with your children
I am 64 years old and this is one of the most emotional songs I have ever heard, I am listening to it and reading the comments and it makes me realise just how lucky I am when others are having to deal with such heartbreak and more in their lives. My heart goes out to all who have commented below and above me and I truly hope that you can overcome whatever has caused your hurt.
I am like you my friend, I realise how truly blessed I am with my life, I have a beautiful wife and children and up to now have enjoyed good health, In this modern consumer driven society too many people do not realise how lucky they are. Best wishes and love to anybody going through hard times at the moment.
What you wrote was so nice you sound like a really wonderful person. I am also 64 years old my husband passed 3 months ago very lonely now. But since he did me so wrong which I just found out 2 years before his death I believe the hurt is less. Hoping to find a friend someday my age if nothing else just to talk with. I don't know what your story is Jeff but I wish you all the best we're all not getting any younger here. Peace and happiness always my friend.
To all of those who are mourning someone dear, you are loved, you are strong, I believe in you, you are amazing, take care of yourself. May God be with you all 💕
We lost our beloved mom, oct. 20th. One of the hardest things to ever have to face, in life. We know momma would just say be happy for me now, I'm at peace and not hurting anymore. RIP-MOMmA. 😢😢😢😢❤❤❤❤
My precious nephew was dying of brain cancer 7 years ago. It was unbearable for my sister so I tried to help with what I could and asked him what he wanted. This was first song he picked. He didn't want anyone being sad for him when everybody hurts eventually and some survive and some fly free of the hurt. I still remember people asking me why I picked that song since it wasn't typical funeral songs. I just said I didn't pick it. It was what Jason wanted so it was for him and a testament to the person he was. 💞
Your nephew sounds like he was a wonderful person. Sorry he was gone too soon. This is definitely a great song for him to have chose. It's all about no matter how bad things get, try to hold on. ❤
One of my favorite songs!! I am a retired dance teacher, I choreographed a lyrical routine to this song many years ago, winning first place in competition, and received a standing ovation. Everyone can relate to this song in one way or another. To this day, every time I hear it my eyes fill with tears.
I carried my father to this song. It's his anniversary tomorrow. 7 years later, the truth is, time isn't a healer, you just learn to live with that piece of your heart missing. ♥️
My father died 2 years ago and we both would sit listening to this song on a Friday night with a few beers,he would tap his feet and close his eyes!He was a legend and I miss him so much every day.
My dear son died yesterday morning. With out this song I would be insane. The words have helped me ,HOLD ON. Thank you REM for this wonderfully meaningful song of encouraging words.
so sorry for your loss. lost my best friend last year, couldn't imagine son passing on. just remember the best things and times and stay strong, my heart goes out to you. ❤
Sorry for your loss i know what you going through i lost my son 6 months ago 25 years old with cancer the pain don't go away you just learn to live with it just be strong.
My 62 year old mother passed away 4 years now and R.E.M was her band this song meant alot to her and this is the 1st time I've heard it since her funeral. Love ya Mum x
I'm trying to figure out if I'll be able to use the favorite hymn of my beloved departed for his birthday this coming Sunday (I do the Communion meditation). I don't know if I can get through this without breaking down, but songs like this one, sung with so much heart, they make me feel a little stronger. (BTW, I am not Anthony, just using his email as mine is out of commission.)
One of my favorite songs of all time. I grew up in a poor family but had the most incredible experiences. I miss my mom, who passed away four years ago, so terribly. She never wanted anything but to love her children. My success is attributed to her! Miss you, mom!
I had the pleaser of meeting a man called Peter Cotter in about 2000 who was a Vietnam Veteran and he told us a story of how he wrote poems to help him deal with his burdens from the war,and how a guy who’s name I can’t remember came to the sergeants mess ( Army accomodation) and asked if anyone had any poems as he would like to see them, and so Peter went to his room to get his poems, the guy said I’ll give you x amount of dollars (could have been $50-$100) for these poems. Some time later on he was driving home in his car when “Everybody hurts” came on and he said to his wife I know that song. So when he got home he searched for his old poems and found his poem that is what led to this song , and as soon as I heard Peters story of the poem he wrote I immediately understood why I used to get sad whenever I heard this song, and to this day and into the future I will always remember Peter Cotter not only for the beautiful person I met but for giving me the understanding of this song and it’s words, I no longer feel sad when I here this song but I rejoice in meeting a man who’s written word helped me understand things so much better. To Peter Cotter all I can say is thankyou sir and I will never forget you - you helped to change my life for the better.
School is starting in less than 2 weeks and I'm scared and sad of going back to the awful hellhole of High School, listening to this song told me everything will be alright in the end, as it also saved me from an extreme time of depression at the beginning of my freshman year Thank you REM ❤
I listed to this song as a young teenage over and over when I was full of sadness, loneliness and depression. School was a constant source of fear and anxiety . I never thought it would end and that I could get through it, but 30 years later and I’m here and that part of my life seems so far away and only made me stronger. It won’t last forever and when you look back you’ll realize it was such a small part of your. Don’t feel like the pain and fear will last forever.
No.... it becomes a bit less painful but it never goes completely away. On your "dark day's"... go ahead & cry, feel bad for yourself but know - You Are Not Alone!! Alass, Keep your friends close & close out your enemies & cry, cry hard, sob uncontrollably but let it out! Otherwise, you will choke on the pain in your loneliness. Your friends that are close & understand... Talk to them. Let them sit with you & cry with you. But the pain, is your pain & it never goes away. Get a grip on it after you've cried til your tears dry up, after you've sobbed hard & uncontrollably, then you push the pain in an empty place. It will come back on another day but, you can roll with it for awhile & put it back in your "mind closet." You're stronger than you think & you have your friends. Just roll with it for awhile, put it back in the closet in your mind, pick yourself up, dust off & go on about your day. Bcuz, everybody hurts sometimes.
My father died 3 days ago from a sudden heart attack. Rem was his favourite band. My mother asked me to play him some music so he can hear from heaven. I hope you are listening and that you are proud of me. I will love you forever.
Melanie Georgescu, My sincerest condolences to you and your family. My heart goes out to you and I sit here as the tears flow. I know the hurt and the emptiness from losing a dad. Mine is gone too. My prayers are with you. Beautiful song too. I am sure he would like your choice.
I was just diagnosed myself 2 weeks ago. I was going to choose my day of flight. But this song saved my life. Dr. asked me how I got diagnosed so early, I told him I thought I was having another heart attack but instead I was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer. Dr. Then told me he thought I could be healed in six weeks. This coming week I start my radiation and chemotherapy treatments. If I win I’ll be one of the lucky ones.
I lost my husband a few months ago and the loss and pain is unbearable.. But life does go on. I treasure our relationship always and forever. I miss you LJ... I love you always.
I felt soooo alone until I remembered this song. I was going to end the pain of my cancer today but I wont now.....I will let nature take its course........thank you so much R.E.M
Hello I have cancer also the days are hard sometimes but we have the good memories also please don't give up.Im sure you have people that will miss you and that love you.
I lost my only child.. 11 year old son to hemorrhagic dengue severe in Jan. 2022 and this song gives me some relief. I listen to this song every time i feel down and out. Grieving process is not easy. Praying for healing and restoration to all the parents out there or to anyone who lost their loved ones. 🙏🏻❤
I'm 51 yrs old and I remember very well when this song came out. This was the most trying times in my life and I felt so absolutely alone. I was young and had no idea who I was or where I belonged. I had a lot of bad thoughts and was close many times to letting go. I thank God that I held on. REM had a huge part of saving my life.
Many years ago after getting past a very difficult situation in my life, I played this song, sat there and cried and cried. This song lifted the heavy weight of what I had gone through, right off my shoulders. Still get tears in my eyes listening to this. ❤😢
@@silvermoondrops lets analyse the nonsense /lies many amongst you believe in: lie: schools are of use (fact. schools keep slavery alive and stands for dumbing down the population of mankind) lie: moon and mars landings, (fact: even masons know they cannot leave) lie: news channels share truth (fact: these are for politic propaganda) lie: money has a value of its own (fact: it is just a tool of this world, which value has been agreed upon world wide) lie: NASA lies (globe and all....) (fact: NASA stands for to deceive) - you havn´t searched - have you? lie: the lgbtq++++ propaganda (fact: it is a part of masonry depopulation agenda, 500 000 000 souls, thats their goal.) lie: Evolution and the dinosaurs. (fact: mankind is not hybrid kind) to keep stating that there was an evolution, then we ain´t humans, we aint then mankind, we are then hybrids. Lie: holidays (xmas, halloween, new year eve and so on) (fact: PAGAN HOLIDAYS, to praise BAAL, the god of this world) lie: U.F.Os (fact: they are demons/evil spirits in high places, against whom we fight daily = spiritual warfare) lie: rules and laws rule the world (fact: signs and symbols of masonry do) 10 lies, should i go on?
Lost my dog Sugar today at 12.5 years. She was a beautiful Boxer and such a goofy lovable galoot... I am honored to have been your caretaker during your time on this Earth. I'll never forget you. Give my mom some licks and hugs. Hi mom
Friendship with an animal can tear your heart to pieces in whole different way especially when you’ve had a soul tie with them,I look forward to meeting all my cats again in the wonderful land xx
My Dad died one week ago. I had a dream about him last night and this song was playing in my dream. Honestly I hadn't thought about this song in years. I believe he sent this song to me in my dream. I miss you Dad.
As someone with Asperger's Syndrome who has battled severe depression, frustration, stress and bitterness for most of my life, I am grateful to REM for this masterpiece. I have wanted to take my life so often. I always struggled to fit in with others and ended up fighting a lot. People simply never understood me. I have to remain for the sake of my loved ones and family yet that doesn't make the road any easier. I am still uncertain about my future and where to go. I also listen to the song any time I experience deep depression and bitterness. Helps every time. At least, I have my guardian angels and spirit guides to walk the road with me no matter what direction my life will take
So sorry to hear that I was on a terrible depression and then I lost my leg last year which for obvious reasons made me even lower but I am just trying to push through it, but as you said the road ahead is hard and all I can do is take one day at a time, I am autistic too so I sort of understand your plight, I wish you all, the best but we have this song In common xx
@user-ti6bj8gs5r Thank you Mate. I really appreciate your kind words. Very grateful! 🙏🏻🕊🙌🏻 We will both get through this and find the joy, healing and peace we are locking for.
I've walked a similar road.. diagnosed with Autism while a child I deal with schizoaffective illness now more than anything. I spent too long a time alone with my thoughts and the walls of my home. Hope you got some good people in your life, sounds like you do. I have my wife, without her I'd probably be institutionalized, I help her too with her issues.. My faith in Jehovah God has been the foundation for my life. I had nearly died of pneumonia but got sent back here, we all have our purpose and we all have our struggles. And hey, be yourself, don't worry about what other people think even if it's singing the canadian national anthem in front of everybody, making a bunch of poop jokes at your brother's wedding, chasing birds, building sandcastles, or telling your parents to "grow up" ;)
at the ripe old age of 70,i was finally properly diagnosed with aspergers...whoopy. finally got all the answers to all of the questions iv'e asked myself about me since childhood. it's a beautiful thing and yes everybody hurts sometme
REM made a metric shitload of extraordinary music. You never really hear anyone talk about them too much. They don't really play any of their songs on the radio. Kinda like old school Jon Bon Jovi. One of the greatest rock albums of all time; Blaze of Glory. You never hear any of the songs on that album played anywhere. Nobody ever even acknowledges it's existence. Yet, I played the hell out of that tape when I was a kid in the 90s. Just like I did with REM.
The entire album is extraordinary. It both exudes and evokes emotions of melancholy and beauty in ways few other albums can. REM's finest (IMHO) and one of the greatest of all time.
My sister chose this song for her funeral when she was dying from cancer in 2014. I think she was telling us that however hard things get, to keep holding on. It helps me through the tough times.
Me too. I know that I will get better and be able to handle mental illness once my toolbox ',positivism, smoothies, proteins and vitamins and deliciously homemade cuisine( no preservatives). . Patience les amis will eventually come back or not. crazy cat lady 2 months ago)
@@napachick100 I listen to this song and instead of a depressing song I hear a song that screams understanding. Everybody hurts. That's what it says. And they say to hold on so that's the hope
I'm 60 yrs. old, I came across this song the night my granddaughter received a heart transplant. My granddaughter was born with congenital heart syndrome, which meant breathing was always a problem. She celebrated her 1st anniversary with her new Heart on May 28,2019. She’s now twelve years old, l will forever be grateful to the donor,s family for sharing their Love One with us and for giving my Granddaughter a new life .To this day I still cry for the donor, whose young life ended unexpectedly, and for the family who blessed my granddaughter . I thank God for every day he gives her. Life before her transplant was very different from now. I pray, that “my granddaughter never forgets her donor, whose life came to end in order for her to have a better quality of life, and that the Donors family gave unselfishly for others to have life. “When Life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, Show Life you have a thousand reasons to Smile.” Peace be with you. Gael (grandfather)
Vero! Mio padre e mia madre uccisi dalla negligenza del medico. Io al mio Paesello ero il più vecchio donatore di sangue AVIS oltre 40 anni ora che sono vecchio mi rammarico di non poter salvare una vita in più.
I'm truly sorry for your lost. I have two youngs sons, so I can only imagine your pain. Please try to stay strong.....best wishes and thoughts for you and family.😪
I’m listening to this song a lot lately to remind myself that everyone is having a hard time during these times. I’m on stronger meds and hearing “hold on” gets me. Guys and gal, we are not alone. Even when your mind won’t shut off, remember, hold on. Hopeful everyday that tomorrow will be better for each of us.
Don’t take meds. I am NOT saying come off cold Turkey but meds are bad. They help with one problem and make three different ones. Find out what pharmacia actually means- well I tell you it means a HEALING OR POISONOUS herb/remedy. Just come of slowly. Nothing wrong with our bodies that Jesus can’t fix.
On April 20 2015 I lost my dad. I was 12 then and this was his favorite band. This and red hot chilli peppers. And I remember when I saw him last he was talking about meeting these two bands before he dies and now that is my mission. I know that R.E.M disbanded some time ago but I want to meet them and when I do i know he will be there right there with me.
SPARTENKILLER23 I'm so sorry you lost your Dad at that age. I had a heart attack 2 years ago and felt myself dying, and for a little while, felt resigned to it. Then I thought of my 11 year old son, my youngest and I suddenly, urgently felt he needed me, that I needed to stay alive and see him through for a while longer. The cardiologist opened 2 blockages and I lived. Next day my regular cardiologist told me people just don't survive that situation but somehow I did. God loves you, your Dad loves you and is still near in spirit. Stay strong for both of you.
I lost my son in 2019 and then came 2020 nothing can break me anymore!! I’m still here cause he told me to stay strong!! I’m doing my best I promise xxxx
My father took his own life 7yrs ago, he left behind a wife, 3 kids and 7 grandchildren that all adored and loved him, we didn't know how bad his depression was until it was to late.......but this beautiful song, has and still helps me through the pain of losing my dad,
I'm so truly sorry. Lost my 36 y.o. son to same thing in January 2019. He left 2 kids and a family who loved him tremendously. My thoughts are with you and yours
My best friend and brother Jack is suffering from Multiple Myeloma. He is in constant pain. This morning I sat with him for 2 hours. Hearing this song just brought tears like rain.❤
Michael Stipe , a voice that speaks a language so many understand and connect with on a deeper level. I listened to REM in my teens because it sounded good. Now I actually understand the lyrics.
Depression is a powerful demon to deal with. Sometimes it takes every ounce of my being to hold on. Much easier said than done. This song is very uplifting and really hits home!
Tough world and so many people like you darling, stay strong and do one day at a time if you have to but don't give up. People you know do care so take care of yourself
I lost the man I was with for 32 years 2 years ago and have just lost my oldest son. There is no words to explain the pain. It would be so easy to just give up. But there are so many left here who love me and just refuse to let me. I can't give up because of them. Life can just be a bitch. But, that is life. Death is a part of life. I just hold on to the belief that I will see them again one day! Who ever is going through this, please try to hold on for the ones who are left! Because, if you don't, they will feel like you do now. Good luck!
God Bless you Melanie, you are a strong woman. You do not feel it, but a lesser person wouldn't have made it this far. Those Deaths are most heart wrenching. I will be praying that you keep that inner strength going strong. My sympathy to you. WOW 😢that's mind boggling how deep down strong you really are, it is practically incomprehensible. Keep strong for the rest of your family, they need you more than you know. You are a strong pillar in their lives. God Bless you Melanie Constantly. Peace be with you.
Every older music video it's the same old comment "music is not music anymore". Just like grandpa said when he listened to REM. I mean come on, what a circlejerk. There's LOTS of good music out there, the problem is that these people don't keep up and only hear the stuff that's on the radio.
This is true. It's also true that there has always been shitty pop music. Though, pop music is worse than it used to be. I do miss walking into a store or something and liking the the top 40 stuff playing. Pop is too homogenous now.
My sister chose this for her funeral last Tuesday. I'll always think of her now when I hear this song. So powerful, so sad. The words are incredibly apt. She battled for a long time, but she couldn't fight any longer and she is now at peace. Miss you Pam. X
This song took me from a world of depression,drug addiction and attempted suicide to the family man I am today. No matter how bad life has become dont give up. Things do get better and wounds heal and memories are not forgotten but used as lessons to a brighter future. May God Bless all of you that are hurting.
Sometimes in 2023, I feel like letting go. I listen to this song, and it reminds me to stay alive. Thank you Michael Stipe. Anyone coming here, please stay strong! Your life is worth living.
This song came out a few days after my mother died when I was in my early 20's. My mother was not only my mom but my best friend too, so I felt like I had lost two people in my life when she left us, way too soon. I was destroyed inside and could barely continue my own life and was considering ending it all. Then I heard this song on the radio on the way to my mother's funeral....This song literally saved my life and helped me cope with it, and it helped me get through it. It was like a gift from God for me. Thank you R.E.M. I will always love you
Sometimes we find strength in the most unusual place, I am so glad you changed your mind, I wish you luck and hope in your life, be strong be happy for you your family and your mum 😔🙏❤️
@Joseph Bechard You sent to the wrong place.I lost my wife less than a year ago. Cancer is a sentence, no matter what the doctors say. at least in Russia.
I have played this song repeatedly over the years. (1) it helped me to grieve, when my stepbrother took his own life and my daughter at the time was only (3) years old, she loved her uncle Greg. It broke her tender heart. (2) when my(1st) husband died in a roll over, a part of me died with him that night. (3) My (2nd) husband died of cancer, to tore me apart, as I was also his caregiver and walked that walk with him to the end. The list is endless. Point being grief can bury you if you left it. This song helped me to bleed for all the losses I suffered and when I feel I need a good cry, I can play it and it helps if only for a moment. It helps me to purge and to heal. For anyone who ever suffered a loss, my heart goes out to all of you.
There's a lot of really good comments here. All of you that were giving encouraging words to those who are hurting, your few words are worth more than you know. You may not ever know how much you've helped someone with your few words. Sometimes I can listen to this song and a few others and it really helps to clear my head and hold on when I slide this deep. Tonight this song was the last on my list of "hold on" songs intentionally because it's normally my heavy hitter calming down song. Buuut I guess I'm past that point this time. My mind and my heart are just too numb for it to help now. I wish the best for all of you good caring people.
Rodney Alexander as I said in my comment earlier I listen to this with my daughter and to Joanne the song by Lady Gaga on her new album when we are going through a hard time and we started listening to it about a year ago well it's been over a year now last year July 26th my younger brother passed away from brain cancer he was 22 years old August the 31st my grandfather passed away we buried him on August 6th on October 5th they found my niece Kyli Molloy and her apartment in Edmond Oklahoma strangled and sexually assaulted I had to tell my 16 year old daughter that her cousin was not around anymore and what had happened to her and I will tell you that is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do in my life so I went on to TH-cam and I found this video and I played it for her it is helped us deal with things a little bit better and then when Lady Gaga came out with her new album Joanne there is a song on there called Joanne and we listen to that too and it helps us because we still don't have any answers as to who did this to my niece there is still an open investigation about it and we the family no nothing they won't tell us anything so I just want to say to anybody out there don't take life for granted because it can be flipped on you in a Split Second✌and💜
In 2021, this is just as important as ever. I’m 61. I’ve struggled with depression since I can remember. I’ve taken medication since I was 18. I was cautioned that I had Bipolar tendencies, and full-blown Bipolar II could crop up later in life. Well, later is now. My meds aren’t working anymore. My wonderful son (who has his own issues with mental illness), suggested his psychiatrist. I have an appointment in nine days. My primary care has prescribed medications which help a little. The truth is I’ve never been this depressed ever. I’m hanging on one day at a time. Hardest thing I’ve ever done. What’s ironic, is I’m an RN with Psych experience. My husband of forty years is my rock. And my above-mentioned son lives about 25 minutes from us. I’m sorry if this is rambling. I just (mistakenly) thought I’d take the antidepressant and everything would be fine. WRONG. If you believe in a higher power (I do, which is why I’m still here), say a prayer for me. Thanks.
keep on fighting. I don’t know you, but I know the worlds a better place with you in it and never forget that. Music is a healer, god knows how but it is. wish you all the best👍❤️
Drieux, you are not alone. You are clearly of great value to your family and no doubt community. Try reaching out to a community callers group in your area, they will be there for you.... I think you are super brave to share your feelings here. No one as you know has all the answers, but honestly discussing how we feel to an empathetic other person can be cathartic. I heard that the one simple thing that can be good for body and soul...is singing. Five minutes per day is scientifically supposed to make a difference. Now I'm rambling.... Keep counting your blessings - we all have more than we realise.
This song seems to have encouraged a lot of people who have lost loved ones. That has got to be a great thing. But do you know how much it had encouraged people who have come out of an abusive relationship and who often feels like a failure who let her own children down and has been left with a lot of emotional bagage and financial problems.
I am 68 years old. But I remember this song, and I love it. Since I now suffer from major depression, it seems to fit me. Yes indeed, everybody hurts, even me.
Mental pain and torment can't be conveyed to someone that just doesn't have it..."Just Get Over It" ... okay, I never smoked so to smokers "Just Quit" LOL obviously it's difficult....people shouldn't give advice or make jokes with something they don't share...but just stop and say. nobody is normal and Thank God you don't have that disorder...if it were easy..it wouldn't hurt.
I lost my daughter to suicide in 2010 so this really hits home, sorry to say I was not really familiar with this song until recently. Hang on to and give extra hugs to your friends and loved ones, sometimes we just don't know what is really going on with someone close to us and then it is too late. Virtual hugs going out to anyone who is in need at this difficult time in all our lives. Hang in there everyone.
My heart goes out to you...alas I know suicide well too.. I lost my husband to it 38yrs ago...his only sibling to it 15yrs ago and countless friends over time.. So yes - hang in there to all....but above all reach out to someone if you feel too overwhelmed and on the edge..
My dad passed away 1 month ago due to covid. That‘s the song he wanted to be played at his funeral. It‘s the first time I hear this song since then, still hurts. COVID took Mom now too. May you be reunited in heaven. I love you both more than words can ever express ❤️
Whenever I feel really depressed, I just play this song on a loop until I feel better. It makes me cry and sometimes you just need a good cry to feel better. Hold on...
We're all hurting somehow no matter how bright the sun shines on us . As the holiday times get closer and closer maybe the pain and stress gets to be too much !!! HOLD ON ! YOURE NOT ALONE !!
My son took his own life in 1990 aged 18, I wish this song was out at that time. Who knows , it might have changed his mind. What a Beautiful song. Thanks REM XXX
Life certainly has it's ups and downs. My wife and I lost our son in 1995 to suicide. While both of us hurt to our core we had two other children to raise so we couldn't lay down and just quit.We went on keeping our son in our hearts and telling our other two children that we loved them every day. It's been 23 years since our son's death and I cry every time I think about him. I came to understand that he hurt more than I could ever understand. What solace I get is knowing that he is at peace and doesn't hurt anymore.
Life certainly is like a rollercoaster with its ups and downs. I've gone through so much in life but still here. We're all here for a reason, and loved by others.
Very true. I believe there are often times when I'm confused or despairing or raging or wailing in my own head, and it probably doesn't show on the outside to others.
To anyone and everyone that listens to this and is reading this. I know what it feels like to feel so alone. I know how deep that hopeless feeling surges through your mind and tries to control and cease your happiness. I want you to know that there is hope, there will always be hope. Reach out and tell someone how you’re feeling. There are always people that care about you and only want to help you find happiness. You are never alone. Prayers for those are in need.
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As a Veteran of the British Army, served in three conflicts and has ptsd and other physical issues, l can relate to the song..l now have two beautiful grand children, l would do it all again, for them..as this world is on borrowed time, love everything, be happy..X
As another veteran of the British Army, I salute you.
Sorry for your mental and physical struggles, but I'm glad that you have your grandkids to lift you up. God bless :)
@@natalie-t-17 Thank you...
Thank you for you service 🫡🌎💜
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I lost my beloved husband Don of 49 years the emptiness and loneliness is sometimes unbearable, when God say’s that you become one flesh this was true in our lives he was the most loving, caring, giving person and I’m so thankful for the years God gave us. He was my one and only and still is.
I feel your pain ☺️
Hugs from Ireland x 🇮🇪
So very sorry for the loss of your beloved husband! My beloved wife Kathie passed on 12/26/2022.
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So sorry. I was in concern during the pandemic, as I felt my career was over. I wouldn't be able to support my family. This song helped me. Hope the best for in the future.
My Debbie 33 yes from 82-2015, I was a broken man, I it seems was theeonly one who didn't know she was dying by inches over a 5 Ur period. If I had known I wouldn't have been able to carry on looking after her caring for her. My mother took it upon herself to take charge and organised her burial, the send off and we both rose at 5 am for over a week and we winged laughed cried more and I thank the Good Lord for giving me a mother and wife made of steel with hearts of Gold. She Loved R.E.M. and Talking Heads x
You never know what someone is dealing with. Always be a kind and loving person.
AMEN X
Trying but badly out of practice.
I’m 71 yrs old and just heard this incredible song for the first time a few weeks ago. And now reading all these heartbreaking and compassionate comments. My God. Tears rolling down my cheeks. Much of the time, I have such little faith in humanity. Then I read what many of you have written makes me feel such connection. Love to you all. Thank you.
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I'm ten years younger than you and I feel alone and lost. I never imagined I'd reach this age alone and sick!
@@Betzabeth87006I’m so sorry. I hope that you are somehow able to find some joy and peace in your life
Dzogchen 🙏🙏🙏
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My wife and I used to listen to this. She has passed..... O' God, it hurts.....
I'm so sorry for your loss :( It's a great song and I'm glad you and your wife were able to enjoy it together. You seem to be a believer yourself, and I'd offer Revelation 21:4 as a comfort if you haven't looked at it lately: "He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away." One day, this too, shall pass.
God bless
I will not give you cliche words of advice, or repeated phrases because I know that they won`t help you much right now. What I can tell you is ... "Me too"....... The pain is debilitating, the silence is deafening. I am here to listen if you need to talk. Mine passed 6 long years ago after 30 years of marriage. Most cannot even understand what you are going through right now. If you don`t want to talk, that's ok. I would like to know how you are doing.... just because I care.
I am truly Sorry. Age 66.Married 25 years ..
Love ya mate, hang in there.❤🙏🙏🙏
Sorry for your loss. Prayers go out to you!!
I have cancer and struggle everyday, I am in pain but I carry on, as I want to live my life.
God bless you
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Fight it, like you fight a person. I wish you a very good continuation. Surtout don't be afraid to wine an invisible enemy.
это жизнь просто один миг в моменте вселенной.
Muchas fuerzas y que Dios te ayude en estos momentos.
I was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma cancer and Amyloidosis AL 3 years ago. The doctors gave me 5 years to live. This song brings tears to my eyes every time I hear it! I just keep holding on and praying to God!
Keep on keeping on.
Be brave and strong! I'll pray for you.
Sending you love
All the best😢
Just keep holding, Ronnie!
I lost my oldest son 8 months ago at the age 37. I have been in a very dark place and my husband played this song for me I cried so hard hearing this song. I have been playing this song ever since hearing it. For everyone that is hurting i hope you find the strength to keep living your life. thanks to my husband and REM for helping my realize life is worth living.
I'm so very sorry for your unimaginable loss. I'm praying for your comfort and healing.
Nicht mehr in dieser Zeit.....😢
Es tut mir so furchtbar leid was dir passiert ist. In meiner Vorstellung ist es das schlimmste schlimmste wenn meinen Kindern etwas passieren würde. Ich wünsche dir ganz viel Kraft. 🙏
My world was a mess in 1993. Decided to end it all. Was driving fast down a hill with a sharp right over a bridge as the bottom. My plan was just to go straight on. As I was halfway down the hill, the line "No, no, no you're not alone" came on. It hit me like a brick. I slowed own, pulled over, and cried like a child. Michael Stipe, I owe you.
Stay strong and remember your not alone💜💜💜
Spookily similar to me in 1998, my wife was leaving me for someone else, I was about to lose my house and thought I would never see my kids anymore, this came on the Radio as I was speeding down a long straight towards a bend crying, what stopped me was I thought how devastated my wonderful parents would be, I couldn't do that to them, this song saved my life.
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Same, I had fucked up family. Was separated from my kids. And was about to loose all my shit because of the debt and divorce. So I was driving U-boat and I was about to drive straight into megaladons mouth, but then this music started playing and by the moment it was singing"no no no you are not alone" I stopped and I wasn't eaten by the dolphins.
Keep it up, call someone if you feel crap or listen to good music etc. :D
This song got me through the deepest, longest depression of my life. Thank you for this REM
Keep your head up and keep smiling 😊
so many thanks
I am married 45 years, my wife is going into into Alzheimer's, I might be entering hat you survived
In my case was like this song made me realize I am not only one who can be hurt and made me try to be a better man for everyone.
I lost my Catherine after 61yrs of marriage in 2019..I am so lonely..it hurts..give your love ones a extra hug
it will get better, keep on pushing forward, never forget about her she will always be watching over you🙏🏻
So sorry for your loss, man. I'm divorced and admire the 61 years, but of course the absence must really, really suck. Much love to you.
Hugs Robert, I can only imagine how hard that might be. Sending love.
I'm so very sorry. At least you had her a long time. I can only pray that I have my husband that long. God bless you.
hang in there. surviving is natural.
An anthem for all of us out there hurting right now. The only way out is through. Much love to you all.
Sitting here numb. Mom passed away this past Saturday. I'm now the last one standing in my family. Dad's gone, my brother and sister have passed. Thank God for my wife and kids. Absolutely lost right now. This song somehow picks me up when I'm down. 😢
I’m so sorry for your loss
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Amen, brother! Be strong your family is counting on you.
Hold on to the Lord Jesus, my friend - He will give you the strength. Love and prayers. 🙏
It’s funny how some songs cut right through to your heart…. ❤ . Some so sad EVERY-TIME you hear them you stop in your tracks , and are reduced to tears…. This is one of those songs
I am dying of cancer. I have been in love with this song since I first heard it. I just put it in my will to be played at my memorial service. I want all of my friends and family to not dwell on what has happened, but to look forward to tomorrow! Everything moves forward. I hope the video in some form is still available. I want it to be played
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🙏 . Cancer just took our cat. F cancer . I feel bad for not finding the lump sooner . I'd have paid anything to keep her longer, our vet of many years shook his head . I respect he was honest and forthright with us .
*God Bless you Tony. Peace and grace brother.*
Prayers for you ❤🙏
It is a beautiful song
This song helped me and my son. He was a combat medic and came home all messed up in the head and highly suicidal. Thanks to training from the VA on how to help him and THIS SONG , got him to see the light at the end of the long dark tunnel he was in!! took 8 years but now he is a RN and his specialty is mental health, he now works with teens stuck in that dark tunnel from parental abuse!
good on him!!
That is amazing to hear. Respect for you and your son!
Thank you for his service, much respect to him for fighting and now passing his intermit knowledge to the young one. Merry Christmas.
Tell your so
Thankyou for his service and for NOT GIVING UP 💞
Be real PROUD of him
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For everyone who has been hurt, you are loved and cherished.
I'm not though.
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Not always, sometimes people put themselves in a place and they are absolutely alone
Some time it never gets better you just learn how to deal with it. But it gets easier.
For everyone who has been hurt, stop complaining, cause "everybody hurts sometimes".
My mom died this morning alone while I was out of town. . She loved this song. 66 years old. Love you mama
Sorry for your loss
My mother died just over a month ago. I think I might know something of your pain. We just have to go on as best we can. Sometimes breathing is hard.
@@marigoldbeam5475 sorry for your loss.
R I P à votre maman 🙏
Cette chanson me rappelle mes plus belles années, et je l’ai choisis pour mon enterrement 🪦
En espérant que ce soit le plus loin possible 🙏
As much as I can't relate I just hope that you know you have to live the rest of your life as proud as you can be by carrying yourself and lessning the weight off your shoulders and that's life. Sorry for your loss...
REM saved so many lives with this song including mine. People think it's a song of sadness but it's a song of strength and seeing the next sunrise. ♡
❤❤❤❤ sim, é uma canção de força, essa canção me faz querer reSistir, 😢 .
Hold on...
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🎉❤well said x BRAVO
I’m reading the comments with tears running down my face. So much pain and loss. Sending you all positive thoughts and I’m so sorry for your suffering! I’m glad you have each other here!
Edit: it was 2 months ago I mage this post.. Last week I lost my beloved mugwai ( 19 yr old yorkie) he went right from his Moms boob to my arms and the grief is unbearable.
Same here Michael. 61 and I hurt but nothing like what I read. I am blessed.
@@edwardkaminsky8142 I’m 60! lol and I feel the same way. Especially after reading the pain of others here.
Same here Micheal
May God bless every soul
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My dad introduced me to REM. He died April 23rd 2024 from pancreatic cancer. I love you and miss you, Dad. I'll never stop hurting.
Angel hugs to you!
This extremely powerful song and its message touches me to the very core of my soul. It has saved my life many times over the years...from being diagnosed with an incurable, dehabilitating disease that destroyed my 21-year marriage. "He" couldn't handle It. Drove away my siblings..."they" couldn't handle it. All that matters is that "I" can handle it. If not for such great and loving friends I'd be on my own. Thank you R.E.M for creating this comfort and a BIG thank you to Michael for your phenomenal voice and 'delivery to the core of my soul'. ✌🏼❤️ 🎶
I LOVE THIS ,As someone who has struggled with suicidal tendencies and obsession from early childhood and a multi attempt survivor. This is one of the songs that helps pull me back from the edge. When it first came out I was in a dark place in my mind and I clung to this album. All my thanks to REM.
Y porque luchar si no tiene sentido tú vida?Cres que vale la pena estoy totalmente deprimido
@macc5829 yes life is worth fighting for because it's precious and so are you
Don't throw it all away because of the deamons in our head ( mental illness) hang in there and spite them
Yeah it's gonna be fucking hard and you will want to quit....but DON'T!
You got this and are stronger than you realise xxxx
Your not alone
@@macc5829 of course its worth it. Jesus said life isn't easy, but he did say it would be worth it. Your not alone and try to turn your negative thoughts into positive....
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Probably the most empathetic song ever. It’s sums up sadness and depression perfectly, yet at the same gives so much hope.
You are not alone
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Depression is horrible I have been battling it for the last five years and it is all consuming at times.
@@TheMadFerret take care son
@@henrymitchell3163 thank you and to you my friend.
I am right now
My good friend lost his mother many years ago I remember he listened to this song constantly for a very long time. We use to cry in each other’s arms. Love you spike, what a woman. Xx
My son died on his 22nd birthday, fathers day, 2000. Not a day passes when I don't think of him. This song drags me around inside my head. I'll never get better. They say it fades but it doesn't.
Many hugs to you, no one can recover from losing a child. Stay strong ❤
Sending lots of love 💕
Here fir you xx
As a mum who lost her son too , no it doesn't get any easier. Why? Because it shouldn't have happened and it's like they are a phone call away. Sending big hugs. 😢
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My husband was dying of cancer and our kids were only 6 & 10. I used to go down to the basement in the middle of the night while everyone was asleep and listen to this again and again while I howled out my grief. Sounds daft being grateful for a song but I am. It was such a comfort.
It doesn’t sound daft at all, it sounds like a person keeping sanity together for her kids when her whole world is being torn from under her through no fault in the situation, it was written for people like you, people like you that share these parts of life give us the inspiration to keep pushing forward, love to you and your family
I totally understand. Not daft whatsoever. This song & Chris Cornell’s “Sunshower” popped up at the exact times I needed to hear them at different points years ago. I hope you are in a happier space now.
it dosen't sound daft at all, i'm very sorry for your loss..i hope you and your kids find peace
ty for sharing your situation,you just helped a total stranger..i am in such deep despair,i can barely get thru the day without breaking down completely,and i am a grown man with grown children,but my heart feels like it is irrevocably broken,my younger brother was murdered or as the police say,suicide by gunshot,this song brought me here i guess,and then to you...i honestly want to just pull the plug,he was great and nice,and i am the fuckup,it should have been me,but if you can manage the terrible loss you suffered,maybe i can hold on.thank you,and i pray for your closure and for you to have a happy life with your children
may god bless you,,very touchin story
I am 64 years old and this is one of the most emotional songs I have ever heard, I am listening to it and reading the comments and it makes me realise just how lucky I am when others are having to deal with such heartbreak and more in their lives. My heart goes out to all who have commented below and above me and I truly hope that you can overcome whatever has caused your hurt.
Thank you what a nice man you are
just remember that you are not alone
I' he laid my heart on the line above here to go hopefully send love to others.Jeff ..people care for you too brother xx
I am like you my friend, I realise how truly blessed I am with my life, I have a beautiful wife and children and up to now have enjoyed good health, In this modern consumer driven society too many people do not realise how lucky they are. Best wishes and love to anybody going through hard times at the moment.
What you wrote was so nice you sound like a really wonderful person. I am also 64 years old my husband passed 3 months ago very lonely now. But since he did me so wrong which I just found out 2 years before his death I believe the hurt is less. Hoping to find a friend someday my age if nothing else just to talk with. I don't know what your story is Jeff but I wish you all the best we're all not getting any younger here. Peace and happiness always my friend.
To all of those who are mourning someone dear, you are loved, you are strong, I believe in you, you are amazing, take care of yourself. May God be with you all 💕
God can bugger off
This song came out when I was in college and it was my go-to song to have a good cry. Now I'm 50 and this song is timeless.
Hai ragione ,anche a me ricorda quando ero alle superiori, il corrispettivo del college in Italia
Lost my husband, 32 years suddenly. I wish God's blessing for all who lost the special person.
I did, too. We made it almost 30 years by two days. It's excruciating. Sending you love ❤️ ❤
Lost my wife 36 years of marriage in May 31 2021, lost half of me.Still cry& miss her! Guess I’m not alone in this.❤
He's just one step ahead of us , we'll catch up in the end..but still every day with you in you're thoughts!
We lost our beloved mom, oct. 20th. One of the hardest things to ever have to face, in life. We know momma would just say be happy for me now, I'm at peace and not hurting anymore. RIP-MOMmA. 😢😢😢😢❤❤❤❤
Sorry for your loss! 😢😢😢❤❤❤
My precious nephew was dying of brain cancer 7 years ago. It was unbearable for my sister so I tried to help with what I could and asked him what he wanted. This was first song he picked. He didn't want anyone being sad for him when everybody hurts eventually and some survive and some fly free of the hurt. I still remember people asking me why I picked that song since it wasn't typical funeral songs. I just said I didn't pick it. It was what Jason wanted so it was for him and a testament to the person he was. 💞
Awesome
Sorry for y'all's loss. He sounds like an amazing and brave soul
That’s beautiful. So sorry for your loss
Your nephew sounds like he was a wonderful person. Sorry he was gone too soon. This is definitely a great song for him to have chose.
It's all about no matter how bad things get, try to hold on. ❤
my prayer send
One of my favorite songs!! I am a retired dance teacher, I choreographed a lyrical routine to this song many years ago, winning first place in competition, and received a standing ovation. Everyone can relate to this song in one way or another. To this day, every time I hear it my eyes fill with tears.
I carried my father to this song. It's his anniversary tomorrow. 7 years later, the truth is, time isn't a healer, you just learn to live with that piece of your heart missing. ♥️
so terribly sorry for your loss
@@alanowari thankyou ❤️
So sorry for your loss. My father's is today 5/16, 2 years ago to the day. You put into words EXACTLY what I am feeling. 💔
may ur father Rest In Peace 🥀🕊️
In truth yes time does Not heal it hasn't healed me, but God helps us carry through with hope in our hearts.
My father died 2 years ago and we both would sit listening to this song on a Friday night with a few beers,he would tap his feet and close his eyes!He was a legend and I miss him so much every day.
My dear son died yesterday morning. With out this song I would be insane. The words have helped me ,HOLD ON. Thank you REM for this wonderfully meaningful song of encouraging words.
Sorry friend. Hold on.
Hold on
so sorry for your loss. lost my best friend last year, couldn't imagine son passing on. just remember the best things and times and stay strong, my heart goes out to you. ❤
Sorry for your loss i know what you going through i lost my son 6 months ago 25 years old with cancer the pain don't go away you just learn to live with it just be strong.
Please hold on.
My 62 year old mother passed away 4 years now and R.E.M was her band this song meant alot to her and this is the 1st time I've heard it since her funeral. Love ya Mum x
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I'm trying to figure out if I'll be able to use the favorite hymn of my beloved departed for his birthday this coming Sunday (I do the Communion meditation). I don't know if I can get through this without breaking down, but songs like this one, sung with so much heart, they make me feel a little stronger. (BTW, I am not Anthony, just using his email as mine is out of commission.)
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One of my favorite songs of all time. I grew up in a poor family but had the most incredible experiences. I miss my mom, who passed away four years ago, so terribly. She never wanted anything but to love her children. My success is attributed to her! Miss you, mom!
Be strong❤
That was my mum, too
Mine too, I wish I had been a better daughter. Everybody hurts in their own way.
I came here for some reason tonight...to hear this song
Me encanta 💖
I wonder how many lives this man's lyrics have saved through out the world... He saved mine... X
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J noble Saved mine too.🤗 Hold on! ❤️✌️🌼
I had the pleaser of meeting a man called Peter Cotter in about 2000 who was a Vietnam Veteran and he told us a story of how he wrote poems to help him deal with his burdens from the war,and how a guy who’s name I can’t remember came to the sergeants mess ( Army accomodation) and asked if anyone had any poems as he would like to see them, and so Peter went to his room to get his poems, the guy said I’ll give you x amount of dollars (could have been $50-$100) for these poems. Some time later on he was driving home in his car when “Everybody hurts” came on and he said to his wife I know that song. So when he got home he searched for his old poems and found his poem that is what led to this song , and as soon as I heard Peters story of the poem he wrote I immediately understood why I used to get sad whenever I heard this song, and to this day and into the future I will always remember Peter Cotter not only for the beautiful person I met but for giving me the understanding of this song and it’s words, I no longer feel sad when I here this song but I rejoice in meeting a man who’s written word helped me understand things so much better. To Peter Cotter all I can say is thankyou sir and I will never forget you - you helped to change my life for the better.
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If you're reading this, I want you to know that you're SPECIAL and UNIQUE, and this world needs you ❤
You too ……
@SolRudolph Thank you 😊
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Thank u ! I needed to hear that! ❤
So are you
School is starting in less than 2 weeks and I'm scared and sad of going back to the awful hellhole of High School, listening to this song told me everything will be alright in the end, as it also saved me from an extreme time of depression at the beginning of my freshman year
Thank you REM ❤
Don't worry, young man. Hard times will pass, be sure of that.
I m 49 years old.
Hang in there. Talk to those you trust. There is someone who can help.
trust me kid the very day that high school is over everything changes.
I listed to this song as a young teenage over and over when I was full of sadness, loneliness and depression. School was a constant source of fear and anxiety . I never thought it would end and that I could get through it, but 30 years later and I’m here and that part of my life seems so far away and only made me stronger. It won’t last forever and when you look back you’ll realize it was such a small part of your. Don’t feel like the pain and fear will last forever.
"Cause everybody hurts, everybody cries, sometimes." Truer words were never spoken. Beautiful song.
She is not gone, she is with you always.😢😢
i totally agree
you are so right... everybody hurts, everybody cries... will the pain ever go away?
No.... it becomes a bit less painful but it never goes completely away. On your "dark day's"... go ahead & cry, feel bad for yourself but know - You Are Not Alone!! Alass, Keep your friends close & close out your enemies & cry, cry hard, sob uncontrollably but let it out! Otherwise, you will choke on the pain in your loneliness. Your friends that are close & understand... Talk to them. Let them sit with you & cry with you. But the pain, is your pain & it never goes away. Get a grip on it after you've cried til your tears dry up, after you've sobbed hard & uncontrollably, then you push the pain in an empty place. It will come back on another day but, you can roll with it for awhile & put it back in your "mind closet." You're stronger than you think & you have your friends. Just roll with it for awhile, put it back in the closet in your mind, pick yourself up, dust off & go on about your day. Bcuz, everybody hurts sometimes.
My father died 3 days ago from a sudden heart attack. Rem was his favourite band. My mother asked me to play him some music so he can hear from heaven. I hope you are listening and that you are proud of me. I will love you forever.
Such moving words
I bet he is. sorry for your loss. i wish i could dedicate a song for my dad
Melanie Georgescu, My sincerest condolences to you and your family. My heart goes out to you and I sit here as the tears flow. I know the hurt and the emptiness from losing a dad. Mine is gone too. My prayers are with you. Beautiful song too. I am sure he would like your choice.
😥😥😥
Now I'm sad ayyy
My son died 5 years ago from cancer aged 17😢 This song reminds me of that terrible time😢 Thanks R.E.M, the song keeps me going.
Nossa, que triste seu relato, que Deus receba seu filho de braços abertos 😢🇧🇷
I'm so sorry ❤
I think I might be that son, I feel so so weak, I hate this life, this song keeps me going though. I wish to fight though this CaNCeR
I was just diagnosed myself 2 weeks ago. I was going to choose my day of flight. But this song saved my life. Dr. asked me how I got diagnosed so early, I told him I thought I was having another heart attack but instead I was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer. Dr. Then told me he thought I could be healed in six weeks. This coming week I start my radiation and chemotherapy treatments. If I win I’ll be one of the lucky ones.
your son is above us, you will see him when you pass.
I lost my husband a few months ago and the loss and pain is unbearable.. But life does go on.
I treasure our relationship always and forever. I miss you LJ... I love you always.
I felt soooo alone until I remembered this song. I was going to end the pain of my cancer today but I wont now.....I will let nature take its course........thank you so much R.E.M
Hello I have cancer also the days are hard sometimes but we have the good memories also please don't give up.Im sure you have people that will miss you and that love you.
Hi Catherine I hope you're feeling better ❤❤
Sorry for all you’re going through
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so sorry...
One of the most beautiful sad songs I have ever heard. Yet full of hope too. Songs like this are made once in a lifetime.
I lost my only child.. 11 year old son to hemorrhagic dengue severe in Jan. 2022 and this song gives me some relief. I listen to this song every time i feel down and out. Grieving process is not easy. Praying for healing and restoration to all the parents out there or to anyone who lost their loved ones. 🙏🏻❤
What a shame. Sorry to hear, take care x
@@alanross1106 thank you♥
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Condolences
@@jorgealbertobecerraturrubi5377 ❤🙏🏻
I'm 51 yrs old and I remember very well when this song came out. This was the most trying times in my life and I felt so absolutely alone. I was young and had no idea who I was or where I belonged. I had a lot of bad thoughts and was close many times to letting go. I thank God that I held on. REM had a huge part of saving my life.
Love this song. Lost my husband at 56 , now 82 and still listening ❤❤
♥
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Faut en retrouver hein
Lost my wonderful love at 58, now I'm 70. The hardest years.
You're a very brave and inspiring person
This song is therapeutic. I can feel down, totally alone, and nonexistent, yet I'm not alone. We are all suffering in our own way together.
our not alone
Many years ago after getting past a very difficult situation in my life, I played this song, sat there and cried and cried. This song lifted the heavy weight of what I had gone through, right off my shoulders. Still get tears in my eyes listening to this. ❤😢
@@silvermoondrops
lets analyse the nonsense /lies many amongst you believe in:
lie: schools are of use (fact. schools keep slavery alive and stands for dumbing down the population of mankind)
lie: moon and mars landings, (fact: even masons know they cannot leave)
lie: news channels share truth (fact: these are for politic propaganda)
lie: money has a value of its own (fact: it is just a tool of this world, which value has been agreed upon world wide)
lie: NASA lies (globe and all....) (fact: NASA stands for to deceive) - you havn´t searched - have you?
lie: the lgbtq++++ propaganda (fact: it is a part of masonry depopulation agenda, 500 000 000 souls, thats their goal.)
lie: Evolution and the dinosaurs. (fact: mankind is not hybrid kind)
to keep stating that there was an evolution, then we ain´t humans, we aint then mankind, we are then hybrids.
Lie: holidays (xmas, halloween, new year eve and so on) (fact: PAGAN HOLIDAYS, to praise BAAL, the god of this world)
lie: U.F.Os (fact: they are demons/evil spirits in high places, against whom we fight daily = spiritual warfare)
lie: rules and laws rule the world (fact: signs and symbols of masonry do)
10 lies, should i go on?
Im with you😊
Yeah, we’ve all been traumatized in some shape or form. This song keeps me sane.
Lost my dog Sugar today at 12.5 years. She was a beautiful Boxer and such a goofy lovable galoot... I am honored to have been your caretaker during your time on this Earth. I'll never forget you. Give my mom some licks and hugs. Hi mom
I am sorry for your Boxer and you,
HE IS IN HEAVEN NOW .ELISABETH HEDWIG THESSMANN FROM BAYREUTH
❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Friendship with an animal can tear your heart to pieces in whole different way especially when you’ve had a soul tie with them,I look forward to meeting all my cats again in the wonderful land xx
So sorry
I feel your pain. My dogs are my kids. I pray for you that your pain will ease. They take with them a piece of our heart.
They truly are family.😢
If I could HUG everyone who's in pain, I would, but since I can't, I'm sending you a VIRTUAL HUG! Everything is going to be OK ❤
Thank you.
huggs back ty
@@michealspagnualo9195 ❤️🤗
Que bueno que toda vía hay gente linda de sentimientos
Right on man, that is a beautiful jester 😂❤
As a person who suffers from depression, this song actually lifts me up. Everybody hurts. Sometimes everything is wrong. But hold on.
Yes, we all hurt one time or another in our life. But hold on life is worth living. We all find our way. Just hold on! 🙏❤
@Christal. Please hold on. We love you. We all cry sometimes. You are special. ♥️
@@sheteg1 Thank you. It's been a lifelong battle but I'm holding on.
@@stellamoreno7766 Yes, just hold on!
If you follow your intuition, your life will get better. You'll know what to do to feel happy.
My Dad died one week ago. I had a dream about him last night and this song was playing in my dream. Honestly I hadn't thought about this song in years. I believe he sent this song to me in my dream. I miss you Dad.
Might help if you talk to him, I believe your loved ones, that have passed, can hear you.
I've made my own plans for tomorrow 23yrs ago!
I've tried so hard to explain how deeply I feel about you,yet it falls on deafness
ALWAYS BARBARA,ALWAYS
I haven't had a dream in years. I wish I'd dream of my mom. She died recently. It really hurts. I love you mom.
My friend died today,,I came straight here ....all I can hope is that the pain has stopped for him now...RIP Dan
@@JosefDavis thanks bro
I'm so sorry.
@@Livsangel thanks
My friend died 2 days ago, bf since 12 n we would be both 45 this month, stage 4 colon cancer n he never complained once
@@AnglephileSwedenGerman the ones we care about only leave, when they leave our head ,, hope you're ok
As someone with Asperger's Syndrome who has battled severe depression, frustration, stress and bitterness for most of my life, I am grateful to REM for this masterpiece. I have wanted to take my life so often. I always struggled to fit in with others and ended up fighting a lot. People simply never understood me. I have to remain for the sake of my loved ones and family yet that doesn't make the road any easier. I am still uncertain about my future and where to go. I also listen to the song any time I experience deep depression and bitterness. Helps every time. At least, I have my guardian angels and spirit guides to walk the road with me no matter what direction my life will take
So sorry to hear that I was on a terrible depression and then I lost my leg last year which for obvious reasons made me even lower but I am just trying to push through it, but as you said the road ahead is hard and all I can do is take one day at a time, I am autistic too so I sort of understand your plight, I wish you all, the best but we have this song In common xx
@user-ti6bj8gs5r Thank you Mate. I really appreciate your kind words. Very grateful! 🙏🏻🕊🙌🏻 We will both get through this and find the joy, healing and peace we are locking for.
I've walked a similar road.. diagnosed with Autism while a child I deal with schizoaffective illness now more than anything. I spent too long a time alone with my thoughts and the walls of my home. Hope you got some good people in your life, sounds like you do. I have my wife, without her I'd probably be institutionalized, I help her too with her issues.. My faith in Jehovah God has been the foundation for my life. I had nearly died of pneumonia but got sent back here, we all have our purpose and we all have our struggles. And hey, be yourself, don't worry about what other people think even if it's singing the canadian national anthem in front of everybody, making a bunch of poop jokes at your brother's wedding, chasing birds, building sandcastles, or telling your parents to "grow up" ;)
@@aaronsweet8032 Thank you for your kind words, my friend. God bless you and your loved ones.
at the ripe old age of 70,i was finally properly diagnosed with aspergers...whoopy. finally got all the answers to all of the questions iv'e asked myself about me since childhood. it's a beautiful thing and yes everybody hurts sometme
One of the most powerful songs ever written....still hits me every time...
Zgadzam sie Zuzanno Ty wczoraj o tym pomyślałaś, ja dziś:) wszystkiego dobrego dla Ciebie.
Ĥelps me get through also,wish people could get on.. Enough hate,it socks.
…..and the sky is blue
I love you with all my heart as always Kie, you knocked the stuffing out of me when that guy killed you n Mac, ❤❤❤
My daughter hasn't spoke to me for a year and miss her so much
I believe that every band has the ability to make at least one good song, but some bands have the ability to make something extraordinary.
Ihur
REM made a metric shitload of extraordinary music. You never really hear anyone talk about them too much. They don't really play any of their songs on the radio.
Kinda like old school Jon Bon Jovi. One of the greatest rock albums of all time; Blaze of Glory. You never hear any of the songs on that album played anywhere. Nobody ever even acknowledges it's existence. Yet, I played the hell out of that tape when I was a kid in the 90s. Just like I did with REM.
Losing my religion is also amazing
The entire album is extraordinary. It both exudes and evokes emotions of melancholy and beauty in ways few other albums can. REM's finest (IMHO) and one of the greatest of all time.
Queen
My sister chose this song for her funeral when she was dying from cancer in 2014. I think she was telling us that however hard things get, to keep holding on. It helps me through the tough times.
Stay strong sam
I'm so sorry to hear about your sister. She wouldn't want you to be sad..just keep holding on.
She will be so proud of you.
Me too. I know that I will get better and be able to handle mental illness once my toolbox ',positivism, smoothies, proteins and vitamins and deliciously homemade cuisine( no preservatives). . Patience les amis will eventually come back or not. crazy cat lady 2 months ago)
Hang tuff cat lady. That's what they would've wanted!
My wife passed away in July at 60 years old, this beautiful song has help me cope with my grief ❤
If you are depressed and listening, know that this is a song of *understanding* and *hope.* *Hold* *on*
what?
@@napachick100 I listen to this song and instead of a depressing song I hear a song that screams understanding. Everybody hurts. That's what it says. And they say to hold on so that's the hope
I thought it was about being stuck in traffic and not giving into your inner road rage
Always listen to this song when I feel down in the dumps x
I've been depressed the last few days and I listened to this song on my way home from work tonight.
This song got me through a hard time in the 90s. Left homeless with a young child. This is my go to song for comfort. Thanks MJS.
I hope u find somewhere soon xx
🙏
I wish life/the world were kinder. Sorry for the pain that situation caused you. I hope you got more out of it than that in the end.
Don't ever lose your self for anyone else. Your the Rock.
Homeless girls are the funnest
I'm 60 yrs. old, I came across this song the night my granddaughter received a heart transplant. My granddaughter was born with congenital heart syndrome, which meant breathing was always a problem. She celebrated her 1st anniversary with her new Heart on May 28,2019.
She’s now twelve years old, l will forever be grateful to the donor,s family for sharing their Love One with us and for giving my Granddaughter a new life .To this day I still cry for the donor, whose young life ended unexpectedly, and for the family who blessed my granddaughter . I thank God for every day he gives her. Life before her transplant was very different from now.
I pray, that “my granddaughter never forgets her donor, whose life came to end in order for her to have a better quality of life, and that the Donors family gave unselfishly for others to have life.
“When Life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, Show Life you have a thousand reasons to Smile.”
Peace be with you.
Gael (grandfather)
Just believe and you will be OK.
The best comment ever
Big thing. It makes me happy to hear, breakthroughs, music and time. Perspectiv, art.
Vero! Mio padre e mia madre uccisi dalla negligenza del medico. Io al mio Paesello ero il più vecchio donatore di sangue AVIS oltre 40 anni ora che sono vecchio mi rammarico di non poter salvare una vita in più.
Sergio Ramírez ya te atrapamos
This is my favorite heavenly song. Thank you Michael Stipe ! ♥♥♥
Why is it easy to kill our happiness, but it’s so hard to kill our sadness ?
The things we do to numb the pain,creates more pain.
Peace be with you.
WOW that is really deep . I might just have to steal that.
I think he's dead!
Deep......
Gael Espino i agree
sadness is an evolutionary benefit, it serves a purpose.
One of the best songs ever written.
Lost my husband may 6th 2024, worst day of my life. God has me now and I know he is at peace and no longer hurting.
Yes I can relate ! My ❤ goes out to you !
Lost mine Apr. 28, we were together nearly 20 years😞
Es tut mir sehr leid für dich!
Lost my wife of 20 years 8 months ago to the flu of all things. I feel you.
@@npenick66 I'm so sorry for your loss
This was played at my Son's funeral.....my special song for my special boy. Brett I miss you my boy.xxxx
So sorry for your loss,R.I.P brett
Hope and pray he's watching over you which he will be ❤
o my world
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I would of balled my eyes out. So sorry for your loss. xx
I'm truly sorry for your lost. I have two youngs sons, so I can only imagine your pain. Please try to stay strong.....best wishes and thoughts for you and family.😪
I’m listening to this song a lot lately to remind myself that everyone is having a hard time during these times. I’m on stronger meds and hearing “hold on” gets me. Guys and gal, we are not alone. Even when your mind won’t shut off, remember, hold on. Hopeful everyday that tomorrow will be better for each of us.
Yes.. we are not alone... thank God...
Goodness is not religion these days, religion , has been tainted by devils. We are alone with loved ones, past and present.
Don’t take meds. I am NOT saying come off cold Turkey but meds are bad. They help with one problem and make three different ones. Find out what pharmacia actually means- well I tell you it means a HEALING OR POISONOUS herb/remedy. Just come of slowly. Nothing wrong with our bodies that Jesus can’t fix.
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Thanks for sharing!
On April 20 2015 I lost my dad. I was 12 then and this was his favorite band. This and red hot chilli peppers. And I remember when I saw him last he was talking about meeting these two bands before he dies and now that is my mission. I know that R.E.M disbanded some time ago but I want to meet them and when I do i know he will be there right there with me.
SPARTENKILLER23 so sorry stay strong 💜
SPARTENKILLER23 I'm so sorry you lost your Dad at that age. I had a heart attack 2 years ago and felt myself dying, and for a little while, felt resigned to it. Then I thought of my 11 year old son, my youngest and I suddenly, urgently felt he needed me, that I needed to stay alive and see him through for a while longer. The cardiologist opened 2 blockages and I
lived. Next day my regular cardiologist told me people just don't survive that situation but somehow I did. God loves you, your Dad loves you and is still near in spirit. Stay strong for both of you.
SPARTENKILLER23 Ma man , that really touched me . That last line 😭
SPARTENKILLER23 mi dispiace,e la vita.forza,forza,forza.
Good luck! I hope you do get to meet them.
I lost my son in 2019 and then came 2020 nothing can break me anymore!! I’m still here cause he told me to stay strong!! I’m doing my best I promise xxxx
Hang on !
Bless you
You can do it. He'll be so proud of you🌹😊🤗
Hugs kelly he's proud of his strong mama💪❤️may always find comfort and solace
Its not an ending 😊
My father took his own life 7yrs ago, he left behind a wife, 3 kids and 7 grandchildren that all adored and loved him, we didn't know how bad his depression was until it was to late.......but this beautiful song, has and still helps me through the pain of losing my dad,
😢 As a mama, my heart hurts for you, and I just want to give you a great big hug. ❤
My sincere condolences ❤
You are in my prayers. I'm sorry for your loss and your suffering.
RIP to your Dad
I'm so truly sorry. Lost my 36 y.o. son to same thing in January 2019. He left 2 kids and a family who loved him tremendously. My thoughts are with you and yours
My best friend and brother Jack is suffering from Multiple Myeloma. He is in constant pain. This morning I sat with him for 2 hours. Hearing this song just brought tears like rain.❤
Michael Stipe , a voice that speaks a language so many understand and connect with on a deeper level. I listened to REM in my teens because it sounded good. Now I actually understand the lyrics.
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Same here, Ems 👏🧡
Hello 👋🏼 Emily W
Ditto 💖
Hello Emily I see happiness all around you, can I please share from it?
Depression is a powerful demon to deal with. Sometimes it takes every ounce of my being to hold on. Much easier said than done. This song is very uplifting and really hits home!
Yes much easier said than done
That feel you man Just keep holding on
When you feel like you're at the end of your rope, tie a knot! Hold on! ❤️
I totally agree with what you've said here. Just knowing that others feel like I do means a lot to me. Take care.
I am having a rough time right now and feel like I’m about to go over the edge. 😢 THIS song helps the tears stream and helps me heal.
Tough world and so many people like you darling, stay strong and do one day at a time if you have to but don't give up. People you know do care so take care of yourself
Keep strong you xx
Don’t go over the edge please
That’s all what I had to say
Angela I don’t know you, but I love you !
Smile and the World will smile with you .
Bless you Angela x❤️
You're not alone. Please stay strong.
That's so true today. I've listened to "It's the End of the World as We Know It" and "Everybody Hurts" this morning.
I lost the man I was with for 32 years 2 years ago and have just lost my oldest son. There is no words to explain the pain. It would be so easy to just give up. But there are so many left here who love me and just refuse to let me. I can't give up because of them. Life can just be a bitch. But, that is life. Death is a part of life. I just hold on to the belief that I will see them again one day! Who ever is going through this, please try to hold on for the ones who are left! Because, if you don't, they will feel like you do now. Good luck!
God Bless you Melanie, you are a strong woman. You do not feel it, but a lesser person wouldn't have made it this far. Those Deaths are most heart wrenching. I will be praying that you keep that inner strength going strong. My sympathy to you. WOW 😢that's mind boggling how deep down strong you really are, it is practically incomprehensible. Keep strong for the rest of your family, they need you more than you know. You are a strong pillar in their lives. God Bless you Melanie Constantly. Peace be with you.
Music is not this moving anymore. Thanks for the memories!
It is, but it's not playing on Top 40 radio. Look into the indie scene.
I'm sure you know of every indie band. You fuckin kiddin me? Do more exploring.
Every older music video it's the same old comment "music is not music anymore". Just like grandpa said when he listened to REM. I mean come on, what a circlejerk. There's LOTS of good music out there, the problem is that these people don't keep up and only hear the stuff that's on the radio.
This is true. It's also true that there has always been shitty pop music. Though, pop music is worse than it used to be. I do miss walking into a store or something and liking the the top 40 stuff playing. Pop is too homogenous now.
MacGuffin I'm not even, sure about that. Listen to pop music from the late 60's . All sounds like the Beatles
My sister chose this for her funeral last Tuesday. I'll always think of her now when I hear this song. So powerful, so sad. The words are incredibly apt. She battled for a long time, but she couldn't fight any longer and she is now at peace. Miss you Pam. X
So much loss and pain. You're not alone. I hope you find some comfort inher memory
I'm so sorry for your loss. ❤🙏
Don't give it a lost time or don't think you won't see it again...... a new and more beautiful dimension awaits us ..... believe only ....
God bless you and your family at this difficult time 🇮🇪
Thank you everybody for your kind words. ❤
Just sick of living !!!!! Needed to hear this song .
This song took me from a world of depression,drug addiction and attempted suicide to the family man I am today. No matter how bad life has become dont give up. Things do get better and wounds heal and memories are not forgotten but used as lessons to a brighter future.
May God Bless all of you that are hurting.
love u David :)
Good man David
Well done you!
David R. Branquinho oh man that's a real life problems not everyone Understand this i hope ya arlight
well said mate
Sometimes in 2023, I feel like letting go. I listen to this song, and it reminds me to stay alive. Thank you Michael Stipe. Anyone coming here, please stay strong! Your life is worth living.
Never give up, we all have a reason to what not give up, but we r so much stronger than this, God bless
Never let go, going on 7 yrs March I lost my love, stay strong
@joel. Hold on. You are special. ♥️. We love you.
Hang on in
Thank you so much for your message. You really helped me lift up my spirit today
This song came out a few days after my mother died when I was in my early 20's. My mother was not only my mom but my best friend too, so I felt like I had lost two people in my life when she left us, way too soon. I was destroyed inside and could barely continue my own life and was considering ending it all. Then I heard this song on the radio on the way to my mother's funeral....This song literally saved my life and helped me cope with it, and it helped me get through it. It was like a gift from God for me. Thank you R.E.M. I will always love you
Sometimes we find strength in the most unusual place, I am so glad you changed your mind, I wish you luck and hope in your life, be strong be happy for you your family and your mum 😔🙏❤️
привет из России. Everybody hurts- HOLD ON!
@Joseph Bechard You sent to the wrong place.I lost my wife less than a year ago. Cancer is a sentence, no matter what the doctors say. at least in Russia.
Sorry for you loss..my mom was my best friend also..still miss her..
wow
I have played this song repeatedly over the years. (1) it helped me to grieve, when my stepbrother took his own life and my daughter at the time was only (3) years old, she loved her uncle Greg. It broke her tender heart. (2) when my(1st) husband died in a roll over, a part of me died with him that night. (3) My (2nd) husband died of cancer, to tore me apart, as I was also his caregiver and walked that walk with him to the end. The list is endless. Point being grief can bury you if you left it. This song helped me to bleed for all the losses I suffered and when I feel I need a good cry, I can play it and it helps if only for a moment. It helps me to purge and to heal. For anyone who ever suffered a loss, my heart goes out to all of you.
I know where you're coming from! I've now had about 25yrs of it, hang in there.
There's a lot of really good comments here. All of you that were giving encouraging words to those who are hurting, your few words are worth more than you know. You may not ever know how much you've helped someone with your few words. Sometimes I can listen to this song and a few others and it really helps to clear my head and hold on when I slide this deep. Tonight this song was the last on my list of "hold on" songs intentionally because it's normally my heavy hitter calming down song. Buuut I guess I'm past that point this time. My mind and my heart are just too numb for it to help now.
I wish the best for all of you good caring people.
I wish you the best
Rodney Alexander Excellent Point Thanks!!!!
Rodney Alexander as I said in my comment earlier I listen to this with my daughter and to Joanne the song by Lady Gaga on her new album when we are going through a hard time and we started listening to it about a year ago well it's been over a year now last year July 26th my younger brother passed away from brain cancer he was 22 years old August the 31st my grandfather passed away we buried him on August 6th on October 5th they found my niece Kyli Molloy and her apartment in Edmond Oklahoma strangled and sexually assaulted I had to tell my 16 year old daughter that her cousin was not around anymore and what had happened to her and I will tell you that is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do in my life so I went on to TH-cam and I found this video and I played it for her it is helped us deal with things a little bit better and then when Lady Gaga came out with her new album Joanne there is a song on there called Joanne and we listen to that too and it helps us because we still don't have any answers as to who did this to my niece there is still an open investigation about it and we the family no nothing they won't tell us anything so I just want to say to anybody out there don't take life for granted because it can be flipped on you in a Split Second✌and💜
I hope you are OK. Sending strength & love.
❤️
In 2021, this is just as important as ever. I’m 61. I’ve struggled with depression since I can remember. I’ve taken medication since I was 18. I was cautioned that I had Bipolar tendencies, and full-blown Bipolar II could crop up later in life. Well, later is now. My meds aren’t working anymore. My wonderful son (who has his own issues with mental illness), suggested his psychiatrist. I have an appointment in nine days. My primary care has prescribed medications which help a little. The truth is I’ve never been this depressed ever. I’m hanging on one day at a time. Hardest thing I’ve ever done. What’s ironic,
is I’m an RN with Psych experience. My husband of forty years is my rock. And my above-mentioned son lives about 25 minutes from us. I’m sorry if this is rambling. I just (mistakenly) thought I’d take the antidepressant and everything would be fine. WRONG. If you believe in a higher power (I do, which is why I’m still here), say a prayer for me. Thanks.
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keep on fighting. I don’t know you, but I know the worlds a better place with you in it and never forget that. Music is a healer, god knows how but it is. wish you all the best👍❤️
I understand so sorry mine is situational sometimes it just seems too hard
Take care my friend
Drieux, you are not alone. You are clearly of great value to your family and no doubt community. Try reaching out to a community callers group in your area, they will be there for you.... I think you are super brave to share your feelings here. No one as you know has all the answers, but honestly discussing how we feel to an empathetic other person can be cathartic. I heard that the one simple thing that can be good for body and soul...is singing. Five minutes per day is scientifically supposed to make a difference. Now I'm rambling....
Keep counting your blessings - we all have more than we realise.
The older I get the more I realized music raised me and was there for me more then anything or anyone else. Much love R.E.M., thank you
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Me too .Music filled so many empty spaces where people were not empathetic .
I can relate
So get this.
Well said mate, music will always be there for us in our time of need
This song seems to have encouraged a lot of people who have lost loved ones. That has got to be a great thing. But do you know how much it had encouraged people who have come out of an abusive relationship and who often feels like a failure who let her own children down and has been left with a lot of emotional bagage and financial problems.
I lost my Des after 47 years, and I found this song very comforting, knowing I'm not alone in my pain. 💔
Sorry 😞 for the loss of des. Not really a thumbs up but I know loss of person
So sorry for you. Keep going. Much love🙏
♥
Almost 30 years later, I still can't listen to this song without crying. Anyone else?
Kinda my go to song when I have just about had enough of the hurts of this world. Hold on, Hold on, picks me up every time.
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...Me too.
@Frdn Sips ...yes. This has been a long time "Go To" for me when im full-up.
me cry all the time to.this as lost dad a few months ago.
I am 68 years old. But I remember this song, and I love it. Since I now suffer from major depression, it seems to fit me. Yes indeed, everybody hurts, even me.
Hang in there !! Life is a gift. Bless you
Just wanna send you a hug Sylvia..We all hurt....sometimes.
In my thought's, you take care. Everybody hurts and are loved at sometime. x
I'm a man and I hurt all the time
Mental pain and torment can't be conveyed to someone that just doesn't have it..."Just Get Over It" ... okay, I never smoked so to smokers "Just Quit" LOL obviously it's difficult....people shouldn't give advice or make jokes with something they don't share...but just stop and say. nobody is normal and Thank God you don't have that disorder...if it were easy..it wouldn't hurt.
My Dad passed away,i have never felt such lonliness.He was my best friend...the pain,longing love anger...everybody hurts sometimes.
I lost my daughter to suicide in 2010 so this really hits home, sorry to say I was not really familiar with this song until recently. Hang on to and give extra hugs to your friends and loved ones, sometimes we just don't know what is really going on with someone close to us and then it is too late. Virtual hugs going out to anyone who is in need at this difficult time in all our lives. Hang in there everyone.
My heart goes out to you...alas I know suicide well too.. I lost my husband to it 38yrs ago...his only sibling to it 15yrs ago and countless friends over time..
So yes - hang in there to all....but above all reach out to someone if you feel too overwhelmed and on the edge..
such true words, have you heard Father Ray Kellys version of this? I think its better
🙏 To you!
Sending you a virtual hug as well Ma'am! God bless you and my condolences
I’m sorry thank you for posting
My dad passed away 1 month ago due to covid. That‘s the song he wanted to be played at his funeral. It‘s the first time I hear this song since then, still hurts.
COVID took Mom now too. May you be reunited in heaven.
I love you both more than words can ever express ❤️
aww im so sorry♥️♥️
Sorry to hear that
Your dad had great music taste rip🙏🏽
Mein herzlichstes Beileid 💐 🕊
I'm really sorry for you! Stay strong!
Whenever I feel really depressed, I just play this song on a loop until I feel better. It makes me cry and sometimes you just need a good cry to feel better. Hold on...
I wish I could say you are so right....
Same. Same. I can't imagine how many lives this has saved. I listen to this when the abyss stares up at me.
@@jamie57061 please seek out help. It has helped me tremendously.
Same
Used to catch my Mum crying. I would ask her why, she would say “You always feel better after a good cry” xxxx
We're all hurting somehow no matter how bright the sun shines on us . As the holiday times get closer and closer maybe the pain and stress gets to be too much !!! HOLD ON ! YOURE NOT ALONE !!
My son took his own life in 1990 aged 18, I wish this song was out at that time. Who knows , it might have changed his mind. What a Beautiful song. Thanks REM XXX
all the best in life Janet,good you speak about .
Cherish the memories x
my heart breaks for you Mum and I know nothing can take away the anguish and pain ,be strong and go on . God bless you Janet xxxx
I'm so very Sorry for your Loss
My son has tried on numerous occasions to end his life but thank God hasn't succeeded. Focus on happy memories 🙏🇨🇮
Life certainly has it's ups and downs. My wife and I lost our son in 1995 to suicide. While both of us hurt to our core we had two other children to raise so we couldn't lay down and just quit.We went on keeping our son in our hearts and telling our other two children that we loved them every day. It's been 23 years since our son's death and I cry every time I think about him. I came to understand that he hurt more than I could ever understand. What solace I get is knowing that he is at peace and doesn't hurt anymore.
muchlove ..... horrific blow ....
Life certainly is like a rollercoaster with its ups and downs. I've gone through so much in life but still here. We're all here for a reason, and loved by others.
Sorry for your loss. I guess, in the end there's no meaning to life anyway. It always ends the same.
so very sorry. As stated above...much love to you and your family
I would give my life to save someone elses, someone who is sick, needs a heart.. Someone that has a family that would be devastated with out them.
This song tells you that when you meet people who are not a ray of sunshine, do not judge. You don't know what shit they are going through.
True x
So true x
Very true. I believe there are often times when I'm confused or despairing or raging or wailing in my own head, and it probably doesn't show on the outside to others.
ZA absolutely
Amen
To anyone and everyone that listens to this and is reading this. I know what it feels like to feel so alone. I know how deep that hopeless feeling surges through your mind and tries to control and cease your happiness. I want you to know that there is hope, there will always be hope. Reach out and tell someone how you’re feeling. There are always people that care about you and only want to help you find happiness.
You are never alone. Prayers for those are in need.
💜