This means a lot to hear from you big sister. I remember that day. And I do think you have filled the role of big sister well in my eyes. It okay if I share this video? I love you so much and am glad you made this.
I'm glad that this was special for you. And that I haven't totally failed as a big sister. Of course you can share this. I'd love for it to be shared around if it can help people. Telling stories is what can change the world. I love you.
This made me cry only because I try to understand both of your pain and struggles and admire you both so much. This was a heartfelt beautiful video. I know what you mean by no matter what pronoun you use you're hurting someone somehow. God bless you Katie
Thank you so much for sharing your heart and for being someone who seeks to understand different sides. That is such an important gift you have. I'm so excited that I'll see you soon! Be mightily blessed!
This has helped me so much. I just found out about my sib and it helps a lot to know that I'm not the only sibling of a trans person that has felt this way. Thank you for sharing
I am so glad you found my video and feel less alone now. I've learned a Lot since making this and wanted to share this conversation with you- with an awesome lady who is trans. It could help you in understanding your sibling and growing in compassion and understanding for what they are going through. If you listen I'd love to hear your thoughts about it. Sending you hugs. th-cam.com/video/6ayKSp94kIg/w-d-xo.html
Thank you for watching. I know it's not easy to hear things that can be so outside of the box. I would be really glad to hear your thoughts about this. It's so important to get the conversation started. We need to know how to love and speak to people by seeing them as individuals that are precious to Jesus.
Well I’m crying first thing in the morning. Thank you so much for sharing this. I don’t know anyone personally who has experienced this, but I can imagine the pain and confusion for both of you going through it and I have so much love and compassion for you both. ((Hugs)) I have a dear friend of mine who is homosexual and I’ve gotten backlash for not 👉🏻condemning👈🏻 homosexuals the way many other Christians do and I have been called many names, including “lukewarm” for it. However, my relationship with this friend has still suffered since I gave my life to Christ....we were once best friends and so I grieve the loss of that friendship that we once had, which people don’t understand. (I will pray and ask God if He wants me to share that story too!). Again, God bless you and thank you for sharing this!!! 💖💖💖
Thank you so much for genuinely feeling and living through these moments. It's so powerful and moving. It's so irritating how Christians can go around throwing these painful accusations. "lukewarm" "cherry picker" blab blah blah. We have to follow the Holy Spirit in what we condemn, and the thing that I feel led to condemn is hatred and fear which no one can claim as an opinon because God's pretty clear that those things are contrary to His character. I'd really be glad to hear your story. Sorry that you have lost that friendship. Be blessed and thank you again for truly listening. That means a lot.
Thanks, I appreciate it. I think there's a lot more that needs to be addressed and shares. Our experiences need to be shared so that people just considered a sin or whatever can be seen as individuals. I appreciate you watching and I'd love to hear your thoughts on all this.
Yesterday it was 10 years ago that my father died at the age of 52. My mother, brothers and I feel the grief of suddenly losing him that day. It's something we don't and can't talk very much about. We miss him. but at the same time we know that he is still there. Just living with God now, like he wanted. In his entire life in everything he did, he pointed to God, as his greatest love and reason for doing things, for living. It hurts not having him around, even though we know that he wasn't the perfect husband/father we thought he was when he died. I'm still struggling with this 10 years later, as i find things out about myself i would never have been able to address when he would still be alive. Being Transgender is one of them. My family meant everything to me. But when i came out to my mother and the brother i still had contact with and was close to, the former broke down in tears and started grieving right there and then, actually acting like i had died, which was so unreal to me. I felt my mothers pain, and i was hurting as well as i didn't want to hurt her. I kept telling her that I, the person that I am, is still here. I know my mother loves me, and she wishes the best for my life. But she just doesn't understand this, and sees this as my choice to do this, and not as pain that I'm addressing. I know it will take a long time for her to find her way, and i can see that I'm not able to mean something for her in this, as i am the cause of her pain here. Last Saturday, i tried pushing my boundaries a little and went into the mall to shop in a dress. It was going well, until i heard my mothers voice when in one of the stores. After i turned around and she saw i was wearing a dress, the whole situation became awkward and the both of us tried to get away from each other as soon as possible, afraid to say anything, be hurt by the other, or to hurt the other. We haven't spoken about it since. I have a lot of faith that my relationship with my mom will eventually come around, but to be honest i could have used her in my life right about now, as I am grieving for the live i had as well. Or rather the things that didn't match up in my life with who i was. For now, I'm moving forward, but i'm holding myself back as well, hoping that it will allow my mom to eventually catch up. cuz i don't want to leave her behind. I love her, even if it's possible that she might not love the me that i really am. And it would break my heart to see her stay in pain like this.
My heart hurts to hear this. It's so familiar. My parents just ignore it all. It's such a heavy burden. I will pray for your Mom, and you and your family. How is it with your brother? Thank you for sharing your struggle with me, thank you for being so raw and real. Hugs to you.
My brother is currently transitioning and thank you for sharing your story. I don’t know anyone else that is in the position as us as siblings. I feel like I’m morning the death of my brother but gaining a sister and it is a weird feeling
I'm so glad you are here, that you found this video. I have changed even more since recording this all those years ago. My heart has grown in acceptance and love and I feel so much better inside myself. It's a weird thing, to mourn someone who is still alive. It's like we have to allow ourselves time to mourn our idea of who they were, and accept who they are. To focus on the sister you are gaining, to be there for her, and to use her new name and pronouns is going to be so healing and encouraging for her. Here's a more recent conversation with an amazing trans woman- hearing these stories can give us more and more perspective into the pain that trans people go through and can help us to love better. th-cam.com/video/6ayKSp94kIg/w-d-xo.html Hugs to you as you go through this process.
This means a lot to hear from you big sister. I remember that day. And I do think you have filled the role of big sister well in my eyes. It okay if I share this video? I love you so much and am glad you made this.
I'm glad that this was special for you. And that I haven't totally failed as a big sister. Of course you can share this. I'd love for it to be shared around if it can help people. Telling stories is what can change the world. I love you.
This made me cry only because I try to understand both of your pain and struggles and admire you both so much. This was a heartfelt beautiful video. I know what you mean by no matter what pronoun you use you're hurting someone somehow. God bless you Katie
Thank you so much for sharing your heart and for being someone who seeks to understand different sides. That is such an important gift you have. I'm so excited that I'll see you soon! Be mightily blessed!
This has helped me so much. I just found out about my sib and it helps a lot to know that I'm not the only sibling of a trans person that has felt this way. Thank you for sharing
I am so glad you found my video and feel less alone now. I've learned a Lot since making this and wanted to share this conversation with you- with an awesome lady who is trans. It could help you in understanding your sibling and growing in compassion and understanding for what they are going through. If you listen I'd love to hear your thoughts about it. Sending you hugs. th-cam.com/video/6ayKSp94kIg/w-d-xo.html
Thank you for the insight.
Thank you for watching. I know it's not easy to hear things that can be so outside of the box. I would be really glad to hear your thoughts about this. It's so important to get the conversation started. We need to know how to love and speak to people by seeing them as individuals that are precious to Jesus.
Well I’m crying first thing in the morning. Thank you so much for sharing this. I don’t know anyone personally who has experienced this, but I can imagine the pain and confusion for both of you going through it and I have so much love and compassion for you both. ((Hugs)) I have a dear friend of mine who is homosexual and I’ve gotten backlash for not 👉🏻condemning👈🏻 homosexuals the way many other Christians do and I have been called many names, including “lukewarm” for it. However, my relationship with this friend has still suffered since I gave my life to Christ....we were once best friends and so I grieve the loss of that friendship that we once had, which people don’t understand. (I will pray and ask God if He wants me to share that story too!). Again, God bless you and thank you for sharing this!!! 💖💖💖
Thank you so much for genuinely feeling and living through these moments. It's so powerful and moving. It's so irritating how Christians can go around throwing these painful accusations. "lukewarm" "cherry picker" blab blah blah. We have to follow the Holy Spirit in what we condemn, and the thing that I feel led to condemn is hatred and fear which no one can claim as an opinon because God's pretty clear that those things are contrary to His character. I'd really be glad to hear your story. Sorry that you have lost that friendship. Be blessed and thank you again for truly listening. That means a lot.
You're brave to speak about this!
Thanks, I appreciate it. I think there's a lot more that needs to be addressed and shares. Our experiences need to be shared so that people just considered a sin or whatever can be seen as individuals. I appreciate you watching and I'd love to hear your thoughts on all this.
Yesterday it was 10 years ago that my father died at the age of 52. My mother, brothers and I feel the grief of suddenly losing him that day. It's something we don't and can't talk very much about. We miss him. but at the same time we know that he is still there. Just living with God now, like he wanted. In his entire life in everything he did, he pointed to God, as his greatest love and reason for doing things, for living. It hurts not having him around, even though we know that he wasn't the perfect husband/father we thought he was when he died. I'm still struggling with this 10 years later, as i find things out about myself i would never have been able to address when he would still be alive. Being Transgender is one of them.
My family meant everything to me. But when i came out to my mother and the brother i still had contact with and was close to, the former broke down in tears and started grieving right there and then, actually acting like i had died, which was so unreal to me. I felt my mothers pain, and i was hurting as well as i didn't want to hurt her. I kept telling her that I, the person that I am, is still here. I know my mother loves me, and she wishes the best for my life. But she just doesn't understand this, and sees this as my choice to do this, and not as pain that I'm addressing. I know it will take a long time for her to find her way, and i can see that I'm not able to mean something for her in this, as i am the cause of her pain here.
Last Saturday, i tried pushing my boundaries a little and went into the mall to shop in a dress. It was going well, until i heard my mothers voice when in one of the stores. After i turned around and she saw i was wearing a dress, the whole situation became awkward and the both of us tried to get away from each other as soon as possible, afraid to say anything, be hurt by the other, or to hurt the other. We haven't spoken about it since.
I have a lot of faith that my relationship with my mom will eventually come around, but to be honest i could have used her in my life right about now, as I am grieving for the live i had as well. Or rather the things that didn't match up in my life with who i was. For now, I'm moving forward, but i'm holding myself back as well, hoping that it will allow my mom to eventually catch up. cuz i don't want to leave her behind. I love her, even if it's possible that she might not love the me that i really am. And it would break my heart to see her stay in pain like this.
also, lots of hugs back!
My heart hurts to hear this. It's so familiar. My parents just ignore it all. It's such a heavy burden. I will pray for your Mom, and you and your family. How is it with your brother? Thank you for sharing your struggle with me, thank you for being so raw and real. Hugs to you.
Lots and lots!
@@SMVanderMolen Hey, how are you doing? It's been so long!
My brother is currently transitioning and thank you for sharing your story. I don’t know anyone else that is in the position as us as siblings. I feel like I’m morning the death of my brother but gaining a sister and it is a weird feeling
I'm so glad you are here, that you found this video. I have changed even more since recording this all those years ago. My heart has grown in acceptance and love and I feel so much better inside myself. It's a weird thing, to mourn someone who is still alive. It's like we have to allow ourselves time to mourn our idea of who they were, and accept who they are. To focus on the sister you are gaining, to be there for her, and to use her new name and pronouns is going to be so healing and encouraging for her. Here's a more recent conversation with an amazing trans woman- hearing these stories can give us more and more perspective into the pain that trans people go through and can help us to love better. th-cam.com/video/6ayKSp94kIg/w-d-xo.html Hugs to you as you go through this process.