How Attractive Men Start Conversations With Women

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    In today’s video we’ll go through common mistakes men make when talking to women they’re attracted to. And what you can do instead to stop being boring and immediately be more attractive.
    We’ll do this by breaking down some clips of Craig Ferguson.
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    0:00 - Intro
    0:25 - #1: Stop thinking of conversation as an exchange of information
    2:13 - #2: Stop being excited about everything she says
    5:06 - #3: Create an environment where women feel safe being flirty and sexual
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  • @Cationna
    @Cationna ปีที่แล้ว +2904

    Craig's secret is he doesn't want anything from his guests except to make it a fun night for everyone. He doesn't want women to find him attractive, he wants everyone to have fun in his company. And I'm sure psychologically it comes from somewhere, who doesn't want to be liked, but I'm not his therapist, and the vibe he gives off is just - having fun in the other person's company and wanting to make it fun for them, too. That's it. No hidden agenda of making himself the most desirable man on TV. Not working up to a hookup with any remotely attractive woman he sees. No expectations, no pressure. He'll meet you where you are, will know when to push playfully and when to back off tactfully. He's a good conversationalist because he builds on what he's given - no answer to his question would be too plain for him to make a start to a great exchange. And that also means he knows and respects boundaries; if you don't want to head to a certain direction, he'll find another, equally fun, without a barest hint of disappointment. He's interested in the other person and not in his own image or goal (or at least he's good at portraying that).

    • @Indianinthemachine
      @Indianinthemachine ปีที่แล้ว +66

      Good insightful comment... the idea of no agenda is key, even though there may be an agenda... maybe it's more about no specific outcome... just fun... that keeps it from being too formulaic and cliché-like. No obvious fallback jokes... overused pickup lines. Real chemistry between two people is something unique and original.

    • @billybanter9573
      @billybanter9573 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Graham Norton is amazing too.

    • @Indianinthemachine
      @Indianinthemachine ปีที่แล้ว

      @@billybanter9573 Perhaps he's good at what he does, but I wouldn't be able to relax around that guy, plus he's too needy, which I find tiring.

    • @cnh1710
      @cnh1710 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Bingo!

    • @dotconnector1746
      @dotconnector1746 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Love this comment as much as the video. Yeah, no outcome dependency is actually BIG!

  • @josephjones1514
    @josephjones1514 ปีที่แล้ว +681

    1 stop thinking of conversation as an exchange of information. Have fun. Answer questions with a joke. Respond to answers with a joke.
    2 push pull. Positive, negative. Compliment, tease.
    3 create a non judgemental, comfortable environment

    • @amelymia3295
      @amelymia3295 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Compliment - tease? Ha-ha good luck

    • @maljha
      @maljha 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      the only correct answer

    • @edwardlatin2052
      @edwardlatin2052 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Haha how many girlfriends do you have

    • @dnangel4277
      @dnangel4277 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks!

    • @dnangel4277
      @dnangel4277 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@tookyu Then get better...

  • @awaisaurelius6745
    @awaisaurelius6745 ปีที่แล้ว +6874

    The unwritten rule of making women obsess over you: stop trying to make women obsess over you 😌

    • @mir3877
      @mir3877 ปีที่แล้ว +97

      I am going to write it down

    • @lazymass
      @lazymass ปีที่แล้ว +224

      I tried that, no results. Do I need to meet with some first?

    • @elijahbrindle2994
      @elijahbrindle2994 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      And master the art of bring Craig ferguson

    • @Sleepless4Life
      @Sleepless4Life ปีที่แล้ว +16

      How chafed are ur palms? Pffft 🤣🤣🤣

    • @DevonWapskuJohnson
      @DevonWapskuJohnson ปีที่แล้ว +78

      Instructions unclear. Men are now obsessed with me.

  • @awaisaurelius6745
    @awaisaurelius6745 ปีที่แล้ว +2310

    Habit 4: don’t think about what would make women obsess over you and just vibe

    • @amartyaar
      @amartyaar ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Turu hai

    • @goncalobaia1574
      @goncalobaia1574 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      True, but you it's perfectly possible that you're boring. These are *habits* , not tricks

    • @walkerx1813
      @walkerx1813 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Weirdly enough, I've done exactly what you described andin the process broke every rule in this video and it worked. To be fair, I have interesting interests so my serious answers were inherently interesting, and I'm a sort of puppy dog like personality naturally regardless of attraction to the person, so my example is sort of the exemption that proves the rule

    • @tuxievous420
      @tuxievous420 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I use to get girls left and right just thinking about Jerry Seinfeld lines and making the subtle face and motion gestures it worked a lot then I got into a long and boring 7 year relationship so I’m getting back into it. You have to play actor and let yourself go, not worry about scoring a goal or getting blocked just keep it rolling and practice makes perfect. I use to obsess over breaking someone’s heart idk why but I’m not like that anymore.

    • @holthuizenoemoet591
      @holthuizenoemoet591 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      vibe not found

  • @wolfdima
    @wolfdima ปีที่แล้ว +464

    The moment I went to a date with "I'll just have fun, I will not even try to seduce her" attitude, girls started to hit me like crazy. Complete game changer.

    • @dnangel4277
      @dnangel4277 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      That's the key - just have fun!

    • @rastas4766
      @rastas4766 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Just perfect!

    • @Skall-ex
      @Skall-ex 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      I definately try that out in my next life when I get dates!

    • @Josh-gd7ew
      @Josh-gd7ew 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Skall-ex😂😂

    • @master-of-mind5881
      @master-of-mind5881 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Spoken like a true prodigy. Could not have said it better myself.

  • @FELiPES101
    @FELiPES101 ปีที่แล้ว +215

    I think there are some great tips in here, but the hardest part for most guys is the approach and giving women a reason to engage. Craig is a famous interviewer that is scheduled to talk to these women and they know it's supposed to be a light and casual conversation. The mood is set before they even sit down which is almost never the case in a public setting.

    • @davefiano4172
      @davefiano4172 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Great point. I can think of a million ways to do that NOW ….lol.
      (1) Also, the best way to attract women is with power. You know, just be rich, famous, or the head of a company or organization. Being their boss works too (sadly). One college roommate I had was the most disagreeable and unattractive person in every way possible, but then ran and won the (unpaid) presidency of our housing Co-op. Suddenly his attitude improved and he was drowning in p*ssy. No joke man. He had his first girlfriend who was an attractive Egyptian girl, and I just recently thought to ask him how he even got her. “She worked in the office” was the reply. He was “the boss”.
      (2) Watch the the Arnold movie “True Lies”. Worth the watch but also note the Skeezeball “detective” character Jamie Lee Curtis hooks up with. It’s a caricature, but He is using the technique of meeting her under a false premise. No one likes being “stalked”, but if, as in Craig Ferguson’s case, you approach them under a different premise then wanting to “date” them (or whatever), more likely to be successful. But let’s be honest, at the end of the day, unless you have one of the power characteristics above, you will end up in relationship with a person who is your same attractiveness and social class (or as a man, below yours more likely). Funny, the thing that is hilarious about women is how they love the fairytale (and that’s all it is) of rich dudes marrying the maid or the like as in the movie “Pretty Woman”. Maybe, if she’s Julia Roberts. The power dynamic for women is their attractiveness of course. Same concept applies. “Like” bonds to “like” (same to same). It’s basic chemistry. What’s the point of all that you say? “Stay in your lane” :)

    • @TheAspiringLawgiver
      @TheAspiringLawgiver 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      That's why you set the mood from the get go.

    • @BWater-yq3jx
      @BWater-yq3jx 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Definitely harder, but certainly do-able.
      I've actually done a lot of that naturally, but I suspect it's not something you can just tack onto your existing personality.
      My view on self-improvement and psychology generally... is that no-one really changes much, but you can make some 'tweaks'.
      If nothing about you is innately playful, then you ain't gonna turn into Craig Ferguson.
      But you can possibly keep in mind just a little of his approach.

    • @kiralycsavo0
      @kiralycsavo0 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@BWater-yq3jx Frankly, that comes across as saying, "I'm pretty cool and it's pointless to try for those of you who aren't."

    • @ball3677
      @ball3677 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ​@@kiralycsavo0 He's trying to convince himself that is the case 😂

  • @tonygibson6436
    @tonygibson6436 ปีที่แล้ว +229

    The secret to being successful is to be able to relax. Relaxation is the key, and the people who are the most relaxed are those who have accepted themselves, can laugh at themselves and are able to let go. That self-acceptance allows them to be accepting of other people and because they're not clutching at anything, the person in front of them becomes, in that moment, the most important person in their life. The focus is on the other in a sometimes playful encounter without ever wanting to take from them- just celebrating whatever comes to mind in the moment. Our brains are always more lucid, creative and naturally witty when they're relaxed.

    • @trevors6379
      @trevors6379 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes, relax.. aka "get drunk"

    • @talaniel
      @talaniel 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@trevors6379 nah, getting drunk may sound easy way to relax, but easy leads to the dark side :-)

    • @AUniqueHandleName444
      @AUniqueHandleName444 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@trevors6379 Nah, if you need to drink, you're not really relaxing, you're just numbing yourself.

  • @ggdail
    @ggdail ปีที่แล้ว +71

    Craig's banter game is 11/10.

    • @paralleltimelines
      @paralleltimelines 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I want to "like this comment" but it would change the count to 70. So here's a cookie 🍪

  • @GrinderMagee
    @GrinderMagee ปีที่แล้ว +461

    So I just need to be effortlessly witty and charismatic. All this time I thought sweating and stumbling over myself awkwardly was enough. 😓

    • @hayati6374
      @hayati6374 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Honestly if you are yourself and cute that’s less intimidating and there will be many who prefer that

    • @GrinderMagee
      @GrinderMagee ปีที่แล้ว +53

      @@hayati6374 now I gotta be cute too? 😥 I need a new playlist for how to be happy alone.

    • @goarmybeatnavy841
      @goarmybeatnavy841 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@GrinderMagee embrace you, there are people out there who appreciate you, even your quirks. It ain't worth going out there to be someone you aren't, be you my friend.

    • @JD2jr.
      @JD2jr. ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Also be famous, 6'+, Rich, and have a team of people dressing you and doing your hair.

    • @GrinderMagee
      @GrinderMagee ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@JD2jr. Don’t forget the late night show and a band and team of writers! ✍️

  • @megamcee
    @megamcee ปีที่แล้ว +362

    Love Craig. Definitely the best late night show host.

    • @save33dollars
      @save33dollars ปีที่แล้ว +14

      wish he'd come back

    • @desiguy55
      @desiguy55 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      he is the best of all late night hosts. many guys wish they would have half the charisma he has with the ladies.

    • @gsom7
      @gsom7 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @megamcea Love Craig. Definitely the best -late night- show host.

  • @dwcd_5341
    @dwcd_5341 ปีที่แล้ว +193

    I’ve learned how to turn my awkwardness into a way to break tension and when it works my goodness. There’s nothing quite like it

    • @sethbarroo3409
      @sethbarroo3409 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yeah same.

    • @50gary
      @50gary ปีที่แล้ว

      LIke a Woody Allen movie.

    • @garyrathmell9834
      @garyrathmell9834 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      WHEN it works ?? I think for SIX hunded dollars You would want it to work all the time !!

    • @PurpleLolipopProduct
      @PurpleLolipopProduct 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Will you share with me some examples of how you do this? :)

  • @bigal5747
    @bigal5747 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +133

    Instructions Unclear, HR wants to see me tomorrow.

    • @JO-ly3hi
      @JO-ly3hi 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      So...a first date?

    • @matthewzumbo9868
      @matthewzumbo9868 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Lmao underrated comment

    • @eebbaa5560
      @eebbaa5560 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

      you forgot to be rich and famous first rookie mistake

  • @karstenwehsner9061
    @karstenwehsner9061 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Stop thinking of conversation as an exchange of information is probably the best advice i've heard in my entire life and i am 50. Still doing it wrong but i am working on it. 😉

  • @IDonHDTV
    @IDonHDTV ปีที่แล้ว +106

    Keep! Keep! Keep! Keep! Keep! This style of format. I loved the colored subtitles, it kept me engaged and helped digest the key concepts that were being coveyed. Thank you guys for all of these amazing videos!

  • @davidclemens1843
    @davidclemens1843 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    Simplest advice: keep it light hearted, not too serious!

  • @dr.vijayanraju3656
    @dr.vijayanraju3656 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

    First rule..... Never get any celebrities as an example

    • @Mohamedepiola
      @Mohamedepiola 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      😂😂😂😂😂

  • @CoolPapaJMagik
    @CoolPapaJMagik ปีที่แล้ว +96

    Don’t try to model yourself after other people. It will make you hate yourself and idolize others

    • @MrHouserobot
      @MrHouserobot ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Being an introvert is like having a hidden world inside your head, but not being able to handle people in the real world. From the cashier who asked you some unexpected question, to the colleagues you see every day... and after all those people, theres 1 person whose presence makes your brain boil, your hands sweat, who makes you feel a surge of happiness. Like you knew this person your whole life, but the "start" has been so far, that you dont remember it and now you have to back to start again.

  • @pranakhan
    @pranakhan ปีที่แล้ว +75

    My favorite interaction is @4:07. There is something in her eyes that mirrors a curious kind of respect. The essence of "game respecting game". So hard to get that kind of acknowledgement out of a woman, even if you have had a good track record with interactions. Well, it's something I've noticed anyway. No hi-fives or anything, unfortunately

  • @jurgisvalancauskas4006
    @jurgisvalancauskas4006 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    That's what works for him. Cause Craig's working from his "area of comfort" and his own set of personality. Trying to imitate him is kind of weird cause everyone's different. I think the key is to be in comfort with yourself and relaxed but that manifests in different vibes depending on a guy. The goal is not to imitate Craig but to get to such relaxed mindset where he is just being himself

  • @christopher_martin
    @christopher_martin ปีที่แล้ว +35

    the crowd helps him not seem creepy, when they laugh it lightens the mood and they are also in a safe place and they know that...it would be much different in a bar or on the street!

    • @thatbboyAli
      @thatbboyAli 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      also hes famous

    • @smtandearthboundsuck8400
      @smtandearthboundsuck8400 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Yeah and also the women have to play along with every bit to not embarass themselves or him on TV. While I don't doubt his success with women, this is not a normal scenario.

    • @Melekith135
      @Melekith135 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Underrated comment. Craig HAS game, no doubt, but the live setting definitely adds a "safe and playful" aura that you wouldn't necessarily get in a more private setting.

    • @enderzebak2863
      @enderzebak2863 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@Melekith135you ever find any other late night hosts getting fawned over by hot celebrities? nobody can beat craigs charisma women just falls under his spell and he has the frame. No other talk show hosts have been able to replicate that

  • @kallvt
    @kallvt ปีที่แล้ว +53

    I'll never get tired of this channel and I'll never get tired of Craig. Thanks for keeping it up.
    (that's what she said)

  • @loquatmuncher
    @loquatmuncher ปีที่แล้ว +102

    These are all great tips but i feel like a prerequisite is a quick wit.

    • @mrmustangman
      @mrmustangman ปีที่แล้ว +5

      yep

    • @Neofire60
      @Neofire60 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      True but you would be surprise how witty whatever comes to ur mind first can be. We often filter our thoughts. Try to not filter too much and say it instead (Unless it's potentially offensive). You don't want to scare away the other person.

    • @loquatmuncher
      @loquatmuncher ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Neofire60 Yeah i def run into that issue. thanks for the tip

    • @zedantyorant
      @zedantyorant ปีที่แล้ว

      A witty person doesn’t know he’s witty if he doesn’t try to be

    • @winningcommunication
      @winningcommunication ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yeah, it really doesn't hurt to have some memorized teases, jokes or memorized short stories. So if you run out of things to say you can pull out one of them, it takes less mental effort to say something you already know - so it'll also help you to have more bandwith to think up the next thing ( there is nothing wrong with using the same jokes and stories, all actors, tv personalities, networkers do it)

  • @TJ-bu9zk
    @TJ-bu9zk ปีที่แล้ว +393

    You definitely want to keep reevaluating the effectiveness of these tips throughout your conversation with a girl. I personally hate puns, and tip "respond playfully to her answers" rarely goes over well with me as guys tend to overdo it. I would feel like the guy is too focused on getting in a silly joke, rather than listening to what I have to say. My answers seem unimportant to him, except as a launching pad for him to look funny. However, I think if the guy played this 25% of the time as you suggested, I would feel both heard and that he is trying to make me laugh.

    • @whitelabrat
      @whitelabrat ปีที่แล้ว +23

      The art is doing both or taking what you said and exaggerating it in such a way it shows you were listening actually pretty carefully. Or reverse it and exaggerate it the other way... you get to be contrary while also showing you were paying attention. AND after you do that put the conversation back onto the other person right away so they can continue. Too many people just keep running with the joke and it over rides the other persons conversation instead of injecting something that shows you are interested in listening.
      Active listening is doing things that encourage a person to keep talking and any humor or joke you make should also put the focus back on the subject or person again.

    • @Sobreira4
      @Sobreira4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      You're actually agreeing.

    • @torachan23
      @torachan23 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      Why do you think guys should jump through hoops to impress you in conversation?
      What are YOU doing to be effective for HIM in conversation? Or do you expect to just be entertained by men you view as court jesters who have to work to deserve being in your presence?

    • @TJ-bu9zk
      @TJ-bu9zk ปีที่แล้ว +38

      @@torachan23 Here is a slap of reality for you: guys are far more likely to approach women and in hugely disproportionate numbers. If a man is approaching a woman, then the onus is on the conversation initiator to keep the interaction going and engaging. Also, if a woman is repeatedly being approached by men who want to engage them in conversation, those men need to find a way to stand out from one another.
      But i think you know that already and reality pisses you off.

    • @jamesortmann6587
      @jamesortmann6587 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@TJ-bu9zk no one’s mad even though that’s what you enjoy being a woman, get lost, no one needs your toxic advice from a fake woman on the internet trying to spread their BS

  • @warrengday
    @warrengday ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Great breakdown. Your videos just get better and better.

  • @michaelsenior7858
    @michaelsenior7858 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    If you made a girl laugh and giggle and make her feel nice about herself for no other reason than .. it makes you happy

  • @dre6289
    @dre6289 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Craig honestly is late night Goat.

    • @EvilTwin123
      @EvilTwin123 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🐐🐐🐐🐐🐐🐐

  • @kazitude1
    @kazitude1 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    All about humor and timing
    Craig has completely mastered it!
    He's one of a kind
    Genius!

  • @grainerburnie1980
    @grainerburnie1980 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    Well the thing about Craig is that he makes even us the viewers obsess over him and not his guests without even trying to.
    To be honest most people only watch talk shows for the guests. But I'm sure all who watch Craig's show will find him so entertain that they'll even forget who the guests were.
    If there's any talkshow host that I would watch purely enjoy watching them alone & not their guests, it'll be him!

    • @markwalker8374
      @markwalker8374 ปีที่แล้ว

      Track down a couple of clips from the Norman Gunston Show from the 70's, he became a cult figure in Australia for his didn't care who you are approach. His interview with Frank Zappa is a gem, Frank quickly understands his schtick and what he is up to and tags along

  • @Abuumans
    @Abuumans 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    İ am sometimes awkward and i love it. To see how people react or get it totally wrong is just funny and it let opens new room for conversation

  • @ek3241
    @ek3241 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for everything bros you're constantly improving my life

  • @khushaalnandwani3372
    @khushaalnandwani3372 ปีที่แล้ว

    One of the finest channels. Good at what it does

  • @SWAT616
    @SWAT616 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Making 25% of small talk into playful and non-serious answers is a good rule of thumb. I’ve talked to people who make the majority of the conversation into jokes and ironic answers, and it’s annoying as hell. I always feel like I’m not talking to a real person in those instances.

    • @andreasmerkel5717
      @andreasmerkel5717 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I know, what you mean. Some people always want to be the clown in the circus. Its like to sugarcoating the sugarcake. The secret is to have and show a genuine interest in the person or people and find the right spot to put everyone in an easy laid back mood.

    • @dnangel4277
      @dnangel4277 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's a fine line!
      You want to genuinely get to know the girl but also not joke about everything and be a clown.

  • @johnvrabec9747
    @johnvrabec9747 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I have the other person talk more than me, everyone loves talking about themselves, and they are usually more comfortable. This goes for simple friendship creation as well as flirting.

  • @marcryptic
    @marcryptic ปีที่แล้ว +181

    Craig does seem to be a charming guy, but there are some things being forgotten here. I think the majority of these women were asked to go on here by their agents/managers or whoever. They know what kind of show it is and are already expecting to behave a certain way. There is some good advice, but let's not pretend that every one of these women is ready to go home with him.

    • @Johnny0lovely69
      @Johnny0lovely69 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Ah but then you need to remember the main purpose of flirting is to make them feel good, not to get them to like you

    • @djackson4605
      @djackson4605 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Literally none of them want that. This video explained all of that. Your comment ends with your own assumption (exaggerated at that) that isn't even remotely true. If you watched the video, you misinterpreted the intention of the video, and the information given in this literal video...

    • @LilChuunosuke
      @LilChuunosuke ปีที่แล้ว +10

      So clearly you missed the fact that the video was telling you "don't talk to her/behave with the sole intention of going to bed with them"...

    • @Cationna
      @Cationna ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Of course not everyone of these women is ready to go home with Craig. Why would you think that's the case. Nor is Craig ready to go home with most of these women. Craig is happily married in most of these clips, and many of the ladies are too, the whole thing is a public, filmed interaction - noone is actually expecting to get some out of the situation. That's not in the cards and, hear me out, that is also not the point. Flirting is a fun conversation with someone you appreciate as an attractive human being and who reciprocates that impression of you - nothing more, nothing less. If you go into every interaction with a woman with the mindset that maybe this time you'll score, you'll come off as desperate and impersonal. Craig doesn't do that. He doesn't try to catch a woman in showing attraction to him, nor does he mistake it for desire, nor would he mistake that for openness to sleeping together. He doesn't try to get women to go home with him. The conversation being fun is the goal for him, not it leading somewhere. And that's why the women feel comfortable having that type of interaction with him. Whether or not that strategy has resulted in him successfully seducing women in his life is another question entirely.

    • @billybanter9573
      @billybanter9573 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      True they are playing the piper but realistically if you had his demenour you would have good success.

  • @Dav3enjoy
    @Dav3enjoy ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What a great video!!! Thank you

  • @srbaruchi
    @srbaruchi ปีที่แล้ว +16

    7:03 - 7:06 ... Priceless! Where there is mutual attraction, effective flirting and laughter is foreplay. Even if you never get to the main event, it is (should be) a LOT of fun. To borrow from the sales gurus: ABF ... Always Be Flirting.

    • @andyng5321
      @andyng5321 ปีที่แล้ว

      actually what does that gesture mean? oral s*x?

    • @srbaruchi
      @srbaruchi ปีที่แล้ว

      @@andyng5321 Si, senor!

  • @blahblahblah4544
    @blahblahblah4544 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I also like how Craig doesn't expect anything from his guests. He lets them take the lead for a bit and has fun with that.

  • @cuddles1957
    @cuddles1957 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    I was always told that if you can make a woman laugh then you can get her into bed. But in my case, they don't normally laugh till they're in bed with me.

  • @orangejulia2705
    @orangejulia2705 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your videos are so good!

  • @wanabiyu8380
    @wanabiyu8380 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Craig is not handsome but he's really attractive because of his sense of humor and honesty. And that, paradoxically, makes him handsome. So, if you wanna flirt like that, step 1, be Craig Ferguson lol

  • @sageofsixpaths98
    @sageofsixpaths98 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Don't forget that it is the format of the show. So it doesn't feel weird when you see it happening. But not all women or men are comfortable with these jokes, some are orthodox about it and some simply find it distasteful and I genuinely respect that.

  • @TrueBlackJew
    @TrueBlackJew 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Don't copy other people. the only habit you need is to be your GENUINE self. if she/he/whomever, doesn't think you're interesting, simply thank them for their time and walk away to the next person. I promise you the time and mental energy you just saved from trying to impress someone who is probably very shallow is priceless. genuine people enjoy talking to ANYONE as long as they're also genuine. so be kind and be yourself, and if that person doesn't enjoy that, don't ignore that warning sign and leave.

    • @AnonymousDeveloper1
      @AnonymousDeveloper1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      But what if you really want to talk with that specific person?

    • @Dmoriarty1993
      @Dmoriarty1993 หลายเดือนก่อน

      But do you really? God knows, you don't want to get with them so they can undervalue you.

    • @AnonymousDeveloper1
      @AnonymousDeveloper1 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@Dmoriarty1993 I want and I did it, unfortunately it wasn't as I want but it is because problem inside me. I know I could do better but I am the problem 😞

  • @Derhenker44
    @Derhenker44 ปีที่แล้ว

    I watched hours of videos like this, but this one stood out because it made me laugh alot aswell so my understanding of the topic is so much better!

  • @TigerXGame
    @TigerXGame ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Agree and amplify (answering with obvious non serious answers) is one of the best social skills to pick up, honestly. It breaks so much tension.

    • @crand20033
      @crand20033 ปีที่แล้ว

      Can't agree on everything.

  • @sticksentertainment
    @sticksentertainment ปีที่แล้ว +119

    Rule number one: Do not attract her with behavior that you know you cannot sustain.

    • @dnangel4277
      @dnangel4277 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Be the BEST version of yourself!

    • @michomichopolis1135
      @michomichopolis1135 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Very very true!

    • @WhydoIsuddenlyhaveahandle
      @WhydoIsuddenlyhaveahandle 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Great answer

    • @master-of-mind5881
      @master-of-mind5881 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Attraction isn’t made it’s natural. If a woman is attracted to you, she will let you know. All you gotta go is accept the invitation. Again chemistry only happens when it’s mutual. A man never needs to chase or seduce a woman. If a woman likes you she will drop strong signs, hints, innuendos and suggestions. If none of these occur then don’t waste your time. One time I was single, lived life and went about my business, focused on self development, then out of nowhere I attracted two hot women at the exact same time. Both women made advances towards me without me having to make an effort. When a woman wants you, she will let you know that’s it. Keep living your life. Have you ever chased a cat before? Maybe right? It’s pointless because they always run away. Notice when you mind your business and one day a cat comes purring towards you, wanting your attention, wanting you to stroke it. Subconsciously the cat knows this man has high value, knows his worth and therefore seeks validation from the man. That’s power.

    • @AnonymousDeveloper1
      @AnonymousDeveloper1 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@master-of-mind5881 There are 8 billion people in the world so you definitely know how it works. 101% confirmed, thanks man.

  • @ntcrwler
    @ntcrwler ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Conversation is an art! And for it to be fun like this, it takes the right kind of partner. like dancing

    • @bigpictureguys8415
      @bigpictureguys8415 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Exactly. It doesn’t work with everyone

  • @Y0za
    @Y0za ปีที่แล้ว

    Goddamnit your titles always makes me curious! nice vids btw thanks for sharing the tips!

  • @Surreal469
    @Surreal469 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    The problem with the "obviously fake question" tip is how many women actually believe the answer

  • @termion
    @termion ปีที่แล้ว +30

    I like to think this channel is secretly a Craig Ferguson fan channel masquerading as a self help channel.

    • @tushargupta4262
      @tushargupta4262 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Well that ain't a complaint tho lol

  • @hawleygriffin1800
    @hawleygriffin1800 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Context, context, context. It's TV show. Craig is married with a 1 year old. All of these women know they're safe to banter with no consequences. Craig knows it too. He's not trying to woo these women and has nothing invested because he's married with a 1 year old. They are on a TV show and being paid as guests to be captive in that chair for 15-20 minutes. These women don't have to plan their escape or rehearse a "brush off" for Craig, the way they do with the 98% of guys they meet when their "out." Someone else made the comment that "Craig doesn't want anything from his guests." In the dating world, that's the superhighway to the friendzone. In the dating world, if you ask for nothing, you get nothing. If you're entertaining and pauying for venues and dinners, women are happy to string you a long and make you a "buddy." You can do everything Craig does on his show, but the second you express interest in wanting more, she ghosts you, because now she knows you like her so it's over. On the show, these women have no expectations and neither does Craig. The context of expectation in the dating world, changes everything.

    • @kurisechan88
      @kurisechan88 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Craigmaxxing is a farse

  • @F-Los
    @F-Los 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Man he's great. Came up watching him and Conan back and forth def helped build what little charm i'm able to muster

  • @daze023
    @daze023 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    There is a difference between getting a fun interview and getting lucky. Craig is great at the one that gets viewers

  • @Rorschach771
    @Rorschach771 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The way Michelle Monaghan acted with her hand and Craig was quick on the innuendo really cracks me up😂

  • @Marc-js8rx
    @Marc-js8rx ปีที่แล้ว +62

    I did exactly this during my 30 years of adult dating life. Bedded more women than I deserved. But when I found that rare woman at age 49, I was done with the whole bachelor scene. Why? Because she simply made me a better man by being a more genuinely authentic person without a hateful bone in her body. Being in Chicago, that ain't easy!
    We married 20 months later. No kids between us, but we still LAUGH every day, 14 years later-- my personal promise to a bride who gave me the best gift in life-- her heart.

  • @applejacks7984
    @applejacks7984 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thnx 🔥

  • @anthonytran8850
    @anthonytran8850 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Interesting I remember this channel! Been a while Charisma on command

  • @nieczerwony
    @nieczerwony ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Man Craig was such a host. Probably best late night show. Today it would be impossible to have such a show.

  • @hardik05jain
    @hardik05jain ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Stunned by the video...
    It's seriously amazing man
    Nice work Ben ❤️👍👍

  • @danforrest7765
    @danforrest7765 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    This is something I’ve always been naturally good at and it really is the most rewarding and valuable social skill you can have. Being funny, playful and easy to talk to is by far the most attractive quality you can have but you do have to be able to back it up with other things like being able to pay her adequate attention and listen intently to her when she’s talking. If you’re nothing but a goof ball who can flirt easily, she’ll get bored relatively quick

  • @jamilafever8110
    @jamilafever8110 ปีที่แล้ว

    I've never watched his show but definitely will now!

  • @mydude9904
    @mydude9904 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Me talking to any girl:🤓
    Me talking to middle-aged women:

    • @MissiFull
      @MissiFull 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Then practice with milfs first

  • @dirtywill9796
    @dirtywill9796 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Hey Charlie. Appreciate your videos. They have helped me tremendously in life. I have had a huge career boost and have you to thank in part of that. I would like to see more videos on Charisma that can benefit you professionally. I also thing those videos would fit a better demographic, as opposed to videos that are targeted towards the population of men that want to influence women.

    • @alexflips393
      @alexflips393 ปีที่แล้ว

      They’re the same thing.

  • @twrkhanasparukh
    @twrkhanasparukh 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Hey guyse if all that dooesn't work for you..... just be as handsome as he is.

    • @TheSongofSaya
      @TheSongofSaya 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Doesn't work. Still need social intelligence.

    • @kurisechan88
      @kurisechan88 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Charisma is a stat that can be improved like STR, AGI, INT. But it's complex.

  • @kfizzle3920
    @kfizzle3920 ปีที่แล้ว

    lol dennis at 6:35 when he mentions creeps

  • @ilikeknafs9563
    @ilikeknafs9563 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Just “being yourself “ without striving to better your communication skills , confidence , charisma , fitness , literally just upgrading yourself will give you the same negative results .

  • @gd.m.2236
    @gd.m.2236 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Just get into a good vibes and upbeat chill conversation, that’s all cheers!!!👌

  • @dwaynestomp5462
    @dwaynestomp5462 ปีที่แล้ว

    I think the snake cup is used as a metaphorical device that got used a lot. Ferguson is awesome, loved his show.

  • @thomasbayer2832
    @thomasbayer2832 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Awesome insights.

  • @subboid
    @subboid ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Craig himself said that none of these women were actually interested in him - they played it up for their own purposes. But it's good vibing

    • @KING_NIMROD
      @KING_NIMROD 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Well that means a lot of nothing, now doesn't it.

  • @TheHumanRanger
    @TheHumanRanger ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Craig is the King of flirting😁

  • @tommynobaka
    @tommynobaka 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    1. works, I've been doing that since late highschool and the conversations are hilarious. Not just for landing dates, but making convos fun in general, than you can engage in more serious answers later

  • @returntofleet
    @returntofleet 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love this ❤

  • @AAMM101
    @AAMM101 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Oh please. Can we stop this idea of living life based on women? 😂 No one should ever be that needy for someone's approval or attention.

  • @Croatz
    @Croatz ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I reject this advice because not everyone is funny and charismatic and you can't "teach" these traits, that is, you can fake them but once you get the girl your real self will reveal itself eventually. Just be yourself and don't think about it too hard, life is too short to obsess over chasing women.

    • @dnangel4277
      @dnangel4277 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Focus on having fun and the rest should take care of itself :)

  • @yoona3898
    @yoona3898 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    hi Ben and Charlie i think a lot of us would appreciate if you'd make videos like this but about men thank you so much

  • @WilborArthur
    @WilborArthur ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Craig is a genius!!

  • @MunchinOnDew
    @MunchinOnDew ปีที่แล้ว +12

    What I learned after watching this video: Be Craig Fergusson.

  • @WesSavage
    @WesSavage ปีที่แล้ว +14

    It's pretty easy to be successful with those basic dad jokes when you're a famous talk show host, or in a scene of a movie. You should try to do the same as you tell us in your suggestions in a normal, spontaneous environment like a bar. Most of the times jokes like those end up making people laugh of you, or just being refused unless you're very attractive.

  • @Anthony69420
    @Anthony69420 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have always been charming and am trying to backwards solve where I got it. i think watching Craig ferguson was an influence

  • @dengen324
    @dengen324 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Craig is a master at it

  • @daveg6839
    @daveg6839 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    If only Craig had been around when I was in the dating world.

    • @SirCanuckelhead
      @SirCanuckelhead ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Craig is prob out of your league.

  • @Nicklpud
    @Nicklpud ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Great video. But remember guys, don’t over do it. Nothing worse

  • @TechniSean1
    @TechniSean1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What I learned from this video;
    Find and watch as much Craig Ferguson as humanly possible

  • @alfredmiles6638
    @alfredmiles6638 ปีที่แล้ว

    Charm and looks or any combo thereof helps too. In fact its a prerequisite to these practices.

  • @VidyaSimran
    @VidyaSimran ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hi. Giving you new topics to make videoes on which I think will help everyone :
    1. Basic personal qualities required for success.
    2. Health
    3. How to break Goals into daily tasks.
    4. Personal Grooming
    5. Personality development
    6. Overcoming Crisis
    7. SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder)
    8. Diabetes
    9. Developing Resilience
    10. Importance of Personal & Social Life

  • @aHat69
    @aHat69 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    There's something about his smile that reminds me of Andrew Schultz somehow. Am I the only one seeing the similarity in their smiles?

  • @kylecastellino6402
    @kylecastellino6402 ปีที่แล้ว

    Just realised that I unintentionally did this with someone I didn't find attractive and they could now very well develop feelings for myself 🤦🏻‍♂️

  • @10MinutestoRouletteFortune
    @10MinutestoRouletteFortune ปีที่แล้ว

    Craig is a BOSS!

  • @PoorStargazer
    @PoorStargazer ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Being a Silver Fox Scottish Late Night TV Host sure doesn't hurt

    • @Rick-the-Swift
      @Rick-the-Swift ปีที่แล้ว

      Agreed. This video is spot on! I'm a talk show host too, and have always found that the best conversations are with women, as I constantly undress them with my eyes the way Craig does his lady guests, often touching their boobs to ask what kind of dress they're wearing, the way Craig does as well. Men however, are intimidated by the same things women obsess over me; my money, my striking good looks, my popularity, my lightning wit, and my physique - I'm 5' 9" and 158 pounds of Grade A Beefsteak.
      I've even had to call security a few times when some of my male guests, or my lady guests' husbands or boyfriends would get mouthy and up in my face during a commercial break.
      Now I'm just hoping the next video might be called, "How to make men NOT be jealous of you". That could definitely be super helpful 🙂

  • @drekkagefrabblesnopper
    @drekkagefrabblesnopper ปีที่แล้ว +6

    SO to sum up this video: Just be Craig Ferguson

  • @imnotmilton8591
    @imnotmilton8591 ปีที่แล้ว

    6:37
    🤣🤣🤣 perfect clip

  • @bappyhasanjahid4985
    @bappyhasanjahid4985 ปีที่แล้ว

    just try to have fun and make sure she is also having fun,is what i learned

  • @touyemleo3013
    @touyemleo3013 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is my thing. I normally don't talk much, I say very little humourously, but it's usually not with everyone 😐

  • @SailingWhyknot
    @SailingWhyknot 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Actress are there for PR. He is there for ratings.

    • @StonedNoob
      @StonedNoob 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You clearly haven’t watched him then 😂

  • @trailguy
    @trailguy ปีที่แล้ว

    It can seem simple but the timing requires that it comes natural. Some people have it, some don’t. Just be yourself.

  • @vs009
    @vs009 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Bro in the middle of the video I thought I am watching some kind of mathematic video full of calculations and checks :) Indeed your video are full of information keep it up

  • @emrekalayci4425
    @emrekalayci4425 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    1- Being handsome.
    2-Being in good shape.
    3-Being rich.
    (No character, talent or wishdom is required)

    • @oliverford5367
      @oliverford5367 ปีที่แล้ว

      But these people got rich in the first place due to their personality

    • @emrekalayci4425
      @emrekalayci4425 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@oliverford5367 I talked about character. You can cheat people, betray them and get rich. Having a good character is something different.

  • @txdevops
    @txdevops ปีที่แล้ว +4

    All of those are already attracted to him, so it will not be that easy. And it is definitely a feat to make a joke during a small talk that will be taken as a joke and not as a pure silliness and stupidity.

  • @RurouniKalainGaming
    @RurouniKalainGaming 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I've been doing this for years, more so after Craig.

  • @frankfowlkes7872
    @frankfowlkes7872 ปีที่แล้ว

    We all wish we were as quick and clever as Craig!