Yes .ye. chiz. Parents ni smjhte .. agr. Normal kisi. Ldke se bat kree h dost h. To. Shk krte q krrii. Ye woo....chahe wo dost h school ka....lekin shdi.. krwa dete h ldki ki jiska koe ata pta ni. Or poori life k liye uske. Sath rehne chor dete h...bina jaane....wha. Chahe sab chiz ho wo. Legal hojati h
आप ने सही कहा - लड़की की शादी मे फालतू खर्च करके माता पिता बेटी से हाथ छुड़ा लेते है जबकि उस खर्च से लड़की का कोई भला नही होता वास्तव मे लड़की को पैरो पर खडा करो और उन को संपत्ति मे बेटे के बराबर अधिकार दो।
@@colorcoordinates har parents ko unke property ka hissa dena chahiye q ki ldki ke life me jada prob nhi aayegi parents ko shadi me jada kharcha na krke ldki ko pairo pe khada hone ke liye help krni chahiye
Same problem. Maine abhi marrige ni ki hai . Age bhi 32 hai . Govt employee bhi hoo . Lekin sirf marrige abhi na krne ki wajah se logo ko bhut problem hain.
Mere sath bhi esa ho raha hai mere bf ko bhi accept nahi kiya ja raha hai bas is wajha se ki ek mohalle ka hai aur mujhse bhut kam pada likha hai par uske acche nature ko koi dekh nahi raha h
Zindgi bs kuch dino ki mehman hai khush rho aur every second happines ki trf jao .. Kya aap mujhse frnship krogi main apka new life ban kr apko happiness dunga 😊
I'm youngest of 4 girls my parents have.... Meri 3rd sis ko shadi k naam p itna depressed kar diya gya h k ab vo kehti h k , koi bhi rista aaega mai mna nhi krungi, km se km en log k tension to khatam hogi. It breaks my heart to see how obeying daughters are treated in Indian families. She is doing great in her studies. And I believe will soon find a job. But parents k according shadi is more imp. Than becoming independent. . Seeing all this since childhood, I have grown up as extremely rebellious child rather than accepting all the right and wrong decisions my parents make. Also the way society demonise me for taking my stand is so disturbing and disgusting. But I know I'm not wrong so i don't care now. Say whatever you want.
Zindgi bs kuch dino ki mehman hai khush rho aur every second happines ki trf jao .. Kya aap mujhse frnship krogi main apka new life ban kr apko happiness dunga 😊
I m from small village in jharkhand but my mamma papa's thinking level is higher than all villager I m first graduate girl at my village they gave me all opportunities like higher studies top level job and they also said to me and my siblings " जो पसंद आए बता देना कोई प्रेशर नही है जब मन हो तब करना" they are so understanding and so cute 🥰 I think children deserves that only right guidence, and they are capable of each & everything " Dowry is stigma of our humanity"👍
Allah kre meri gf k parents b isi trh maan jaae..but they are still counting our relationship as a intercaste marriage even we both are muslims. Hope everything will b alright soon.
Wow great I live in a city still my parents are against all this . I really love a person but my parents are against all this . My parents ego is much more imp than love .I don't think my parents ever loved me . Although , they gave me everything monetary n took care of Me but they never gave me happiness .
Our biggest issue is that marriage is most important than self -feelings and career in our society. And if a lady is married then her life is almost finished 😒
Rig-Veda 6-64-6 says, at the time of marriage the woman should preferably choose a man who likes her most and is delighted to see her. Parents should give freedom to the young girl to choose her life partner through the institution of Svayamvara, which literally means self choosing of a husband (R.V 5-47-6 and 1-71-8).
Not only that husband or a boy should also preferably choose his woman or wife. That is the saying too. Because if woman is ready but man is not that is her problem not his.
Whether its arrange marriage or love marriage , compatibility and loyalty are the most important things. Not all arrange marriages bad neither all love marriages are good and vice versa
Galati se bhi arrange marriage mat karna Galati se bhi love marriage mat karna Galati se bhi marriage mat karna, Galati se bhi Batchelor mat rehna, Galati se bhi galati mat karna....
All points mentioned in videos are absolutely correct....in India arrange marriage are done mostly by social pressure.... nobody is interested in personality and moral values, future plans....and we have to suffer in the name of adjustment.....
sauda h arrange marraige .. kuch family apni ladki ko full life k liye sell krte h , ladke ki financial conditions dekh kr .. ab bure waqt me sath reh ske vaise life partners nahi milte
जिस शब्द से आपने शुरूआत की शायद यही सोच होती कुछ लोगो की ,सोच-विचार ही इंसान को देवता राक्षस बनाता है ,मन का मिलन पहले आवश्यक है जीवन भर का साथ सहयोग होता पती पत्नी का ,❤
Nowadays marriages are happening after seeing the money how much husband earns, there is no value for men. husband should have own home, high package, mother in law should not be there, even own brother or sister should not be there in same home. only husband wife. Aapne LALACH ke barrey may bola, wo kabhi khatam nahi hota. Bilkul sahi kaha anubhav Ji. when husband will be in trouble or financial problem. marriages will break due to money issues. Marriage ke naam pe business ho gaya kuch ladkiyo ko. Divorce le lete hai jyada se jyada amount puchthe hai alag hone ke liye.
I always have a question for everyone , why do parents giveaway all their life earnings to the family of a guy whom they found in 6months in the hope of their daughter's happiness, whereas they don't trust their daughter's abilities to multiply the same amount of money if given, to secure her future. In my opinion two people should get married only reason is to mutual sharing of life,that's all.
Bhen ji phr ladki walo ko bhi ladka dkhte waqt ladke k gun dkhne chaiye na ki naukri kya krta ha, pese kitne kmata ha , jaydad kitni ha wgera . Agr ap sb ye dkh rhe ho to ladke wale kyu nai sb dkhenge .jab koi ladki pad likh kr officer bnti ha apne dkha ha k usne ya usk parents ne kisi thk thak family k ladke k sth mrg kd di k chalo ladki set ha to chal jayega kam nai aisa kabhi nai hota ladki wale phr pese wala h ladka dhundte ha lekin ek pda likha ladka anpad ladki se bhi shadi kr leta ha aisa kabhi ladkiya nai krti kyunki ego hoti ha unme aur bht c ladkiya phle se h money minded hoti ha aur families bhi ladka phle h pese dkh k dhundte ha . Ye sb kabhi bnd nai ho skta hr ik desh me chalta ha ye sb sadiyo se chalta a rha ha
According to the Veda, marriage is a union between a masculine and feminine entity with commitments to pursue Dharma (duty), Artha (earning money and other possessions), Kama (physical and other desires) and Moksha (the eternal liberation) in unison.
But unfortunately we r inclined towards westernisation.....no offense but usually new generation prefer casual relations , livin' rather then committed & responsible relationship...may be due lack of spiritual connection they don't knw what life is all about or they are too ingrained with modern lifestyle that they don't want to connect with there roots ....our Vedic gyaan ...
love marriage best he bhale hi do saal hi chale🧠kyonki apni pasand aur prem k saath hona sukhad he🙏arrange marriage sirf ek drama he jo kamjor aur adhiktar apne prem ko chhode huwe dhokha diye huwe hote hein 1%ladke ladkiya ho sakta he unka koi affair ya pasand na ho kahi lekin inki aapas me jodi banegi kha se 🧠🧠🧠 pareshani har shaadi me hoti hein 🙏❤
भुल भाईयों भुल, मेने अरेंज मैरिज की अउर एक दुसरे बहुत खुश हूं। अउर बासतब में देखा या रहा है,कि लाभ मैरिज में डिवोर्स यादा है। अउर एक सच बात बताता हूं, जिनके सेक्स लाइफ अच्छी है उनके रिश्ते में कोई गड़बड़ी नहीं आता।
A successful Arrange marriage is just a luck factor which is rare...after observing so many time I felt arrange marriage is a lie...60% things are lie which people say each other's family... which we come to know after some time...of marriage 🥺
Mera 9 saal ka relation uski maa baap ke wajah se alag hona para, uski shaadi jabardasti kisi aur se final kar diya.. Hum govt. Job bhi nikale... Ki shaadi me dikkat na ho, par alag caste ke wajah se shaadi nahi hone diya uske ghar walo ne... Ye hai Bihar aur yehi hai apna desh India.
Same story 😢mai bhi patna se hoo bhai bihar mai jatiwad hai chutiya hai sale kisi ka pyar feeling nahi samjhate . Mujhe uske logo ne mujhe caste ki vajah se aur meri income ki vajah se reject kiya tha . Aaj meri financial condition better hai sab hai par vo nahi . Ab mujhe sadi hi nahi karna
Zindgi bs kuch dino ki mehman hai khush rho aur every second happines ki trf jao .. Kya aap mujhse frnship krogi main apka new life ban kr apko happiness dunga 😊
सच कहूं आज मे ये सब बात पहले से ही सोच रहा था, में खुद हैरान हूँ , पर ये सब बात बिलकुल सच है ज्यादातर लोगों के साथ ऐसा ही होता है, और सर ने जो बताया है वो सही है, शादी बोहत ही सोच समझ कर करनी चाहिए क्योंकि इसमें अपनी पुरी जिंदगी दाव पर लगी होती है फिर बादमे पछताने से कोई फायदा नही है 🥺🙏🏻🙏🏻💯
आपकी हर एक एक बात कही हुई बिल्कुल सच है सर। ये सारी चीजों से मैं गुजर रही हूं। मेरा प्यार घर वालो के वजह से मुझसे दूर हो रहा h । पता ni kb parents समझेंगे हमारी बात 😔😭
@@vasenavidanceclub6655 me Psychologist hun kisko kis tarah se handle Krna h mujhe aata h tumhare mom dad ka name bhejo unke bare me bhi bta duga Bina mile Bina dekhe unko
Ham ladko ki bhi halat kharab hai Dhokhebaaz maa baap ki vazah se meri aur mere dosto ki zindagi barbad ho gayi ,sachai pata chali tab tak der ho chuki thi , kaash aap jesa bada bhai pahle mil jata to nark nahi bhog rahe hote Hope ab log aapki baat ko samajh kar sahi nirnay le 🙏🙏
i got a marriage proposal in which a boys asking me to meet again n again within 2 days... bad me delay hua to call per kahta mera dream h pilot banne ka... abi itni salary hogi bad me itni ho jayegi half paisa maine laga dia 20-25 Lac or Chahiye.. aapko dikkat nai honi chahiye dene me. see i never seen that guy never meet...and he is asking huge amount. upr se muje hi kaha k Girls achha ghr bar paisa dekhti h jabki he is earning equally as me. he is highly qualified and aisi soch. still samne wale se kaise paise maang sakte h. job chhor kar dream poora karna h wishes poori karni h to kya aise bheek mange
Fully agree with point no. 9...... My sister is in trouble in the in-laws' house, but the parents are not taking her back due to the fear of the society.
My parents are also pressuring me for marriage because I am 30 but they are fighting on daily basis for last 40 years even in 65+ age..I told them this thing ki shaadi aise hoti to mujhe nhi karni..bolte hai..shaadi me yehi sab hota hai
Sir, in this video , you have practically described what my parents have gone through , specially my mother. She outright told my father after 25 years of marriage that she hates him. There isn't a drama that they haven't gone through , my dad is the WORST kind of abuser , my mom just puts up with him because divorces are a BIG NO for middle-class. And also , because she has to care care of us. And ALSO because she can't earn. Thank you immensely for this video sir. I just can't thank you enough for your eye-opening videos. I have recommended your videos to so many of my friends and peers . Can you please make a video on , Children-Parent relationships? Like..........the difficulties they face , they don't get along , or how to handle difference in opinion.
sir me ganw se hi belong krta hu muskil se 2 4 love merrige hoti h kuch to sadhi wale din hi ladki ko 1st time dekhte h aapke video me 1 1 point true h sir सच मे शादी जुआ है
@@priyampriyadarshni3180 mai samjh sakta hoon kitna dard hota hai 7 saal se relentionship me tha aur uske baad cast ki wajh se nhi kiya susite karne ki kosis bi nhi ki lekin nhi kar paya bahut ladkiyaan dhikaye mujhe ghar wale lekin mai khbi kisi khobsurti par dhyaan nhi diya 😭😭😭nhi kiya aur mai kisi se shadi nhi karunga kasam kha liya hoon
Aapko ek point ye bhi add Karna chahiye ki joint family me shaadi karke ladkiyan career par focus nahi kar sakti, pura din se raat unka kitchen me beet jata hai.
Our society needs more people like you to overcome such fakeism going on in marriages....It's heart to heart relation wheather it's love or arrange but people jus misused everything fr self interests......i appreciate you to be open on such topics.....keep going n educate society on such topics otherwise world is going in depression.🙏
Kya aap meri problem pe video bna sakte h ? Ladki mujhse 1-2 saal ki badi hai Ghar wale nahi maan rhe hai aur ladki Wale ka kehna hai ki hum us ghar me shadi nahi karenge jis ghar me meri beti ko sbka pyar na mile q ki mere ghar walon ko pasand nhi hai Aur humari dosti 7-8 saal purani hai bachpan se jante hai ek dusre ko Privacy k sath jarur video banaiye sir
hi bhai, ldki ke parents ka kehna sahi h q ki shadi ke baad life me utar chadhav aate h kbhi husband wife me problems aate h tb family ka sath ho to shadi bachane ke liye wo husband wife ko smjate h aur as a support system rehte h. shadi ho bhi jaye to tumari side se bs tum hi ho agr baad me tum regret kro ki shadi family ke mann se krta to accha rehta then her only support will be gone. I hope my thoughts will help you.
aj ki duniya me koi kisi ka nhi h parents k bare me bola jata h ki vo apne bachcho k sath kbhi glt nhi krte ye jhut h apni ijjat k liye apne bachcho ki jindagi barbad kr dete h 😡
TREMENDOUS speech Sir!!! Totally agree with you.. what a deep n thorough knowledge u have... Superb!!! I could relate myself with 90% of the examples u shared... That was really helpful
4 saal ke relationship ko family, society ki bajah se chhodna pad rha Mujhe meri mental health bilkul kharab ho gyi h 4 months se m presan hu mere family m kisi ko koi farak nhi pad rha 😢😢😢😢
Sir I was also in a very bad arranged marriage... My wife was too demanding, Irrespectful. I finally took divorce after 5 yrs and now I'm happy staying with my parents happily. Marraiges now a days are just game of expectations that too from boys only. My wife put false dowry cases on me and blackmailed for money... Now a days girls are taking too much of advantage of laws given to them... So I think marraiges are too risky.
Yes...only importance to fullfill her demands...no value of our family and carrier , friends are no mater after marriage...so better to be your own family rather than shitty relationship....i m also facing same issues
@@drnaishadhpatel4399 sad to hear that brother you are also facing same... Come out of this type of relationship where women's are misusing laws.. Our system is too bad all in favour of womens
@@Rojer85 yes...nowdays making money by false dowry cases and blackmailing are main wepans for some women's.. nobody is interested in husband's situation... And came for support...only give settlement advice.....sad reality of Indian man
Rightly said , I am also facing such situations , from the first four days wife denying for being making physical relationship and saying I am not ok with you and it will take 6 month or year for being physical and on first night she said to be stay away atleast 6 feet from me , and after all that these things happening constantly for 4 days , i have to tell my mom and father that girl is denying me ...and then girl went to her home and now she won't ready to comeback and his family blaming me that you should not tell this to your mother that girl is not making physical relationship ... Now I have to file divorce
@@AnubhavJain Thank you sir I'll check out ...Sir ur videos r very helpful nd inspiring for all people thanks a lot for making such kinds of videos ...🙏
Atharva veda mantra 2/30/2 - Sharing is the key to a healthy marriage. Husband and Wife should share everything they come across. Atharva veda mantra 6/11/1- Hard work and strength should be the traits of a husband and wife should be calm and serene. This will give birth to brave and sensible progeny. Atharva veda mantra 6/42/1- husband and wife should be completely devoid of anger and should work together to accomplish house hold tasks. Atharva veda mantra 6/89/2- Compatibility should never be an issue between a husband and a wife. Love comes with understanding.
I agree sir but sab bolte h love marriage ni karni chahiye kyunki zyaada pblms love mrge mein hoti h 😢😢😢😢 mere hisab se chahe love ya arranged ho agar partner aapko samajh raha h to aap bht lucky ho ..
@@be_hpy2450 han bhaiya bht pblm h kyunki agar bhagwaan na kare aapka partner shaadi ke baad change ho jaye to aapke parents aapko blame karenge n Lyftym ek guilt mein jeena hoga.
@Kese Ho Yarr detached hone wali baat hi ni h joint family mein bhi agar ek dusre ki respect kare to sab thik rehta h ek aurat ko bas thoda sa pyar aur respect hi chahiye pati se baki to wo sab nyochawar kar deti h
Bilkul sahi kaha aapne aaj tak bhi ghar par logon ne arrenge marriage ko 1st priority dete hai ladki agar khud dekha toh kitna batein sunate hai lekin arrenge marriage kari toh ghar pe sab khus hote hai
Apne jo baat point 6 kaha vo haa h hmare sath huaa h jo psnd h usse alg kr k kitne b sundr se shadi krva de pr jo psnd ni h vo rishta ni chlta vaise apke sare point sahi h 👍🏻
Meri Abhi 6 months pahele engagement hue jabh pehli baar ldka muje dekhne aya to mene usko mere past k bare me sabh kuch clear kar diya jabh ki mere fds log muje mana kr rahe the ki tu tera past mat batana fir bhi us ko mene sabh bola
Baut achha kiya nahi to baad mein jab ladko ko ye sab baat pta chalta hai to kahi na kahi hmesha ye chiz khalti rehti hai, Ab agr hona hoga to hogi shadi nahi to nahi
I am lucky ki meri family me esa nhi mujhe pta h arrange marriage hogi but meri family mujhe itna bolti h ki tu ladka khud dekhna smjhna phir aage badna
Aisa hi hota hai 99%. Pehle se aisa hi hota aaya hai. Koi zabardasti nahi karata arranged marriage mein. sirf Ladka ladki ko introduce kar dete hain family wale baad mein unki pasand se hi hoti hai shaadi when they like each other. Every arranged marriage is actually a love marriage. I dont know who does zor zabardasti in shaadi.
Love marriage कभी नहीं करना चाहिए, arrange marriage sahi hota hai ye mera personal anuvah hai. Mine bhi love marriage kari thi 2015 me or 2016 me divorce ho gya, sach kahu ab mai bahut jayada khush hu.
Aapne arrange marriage ka topic bahut sahi uthaya hai. Mai hamesha se arrange marriage ke khilaf hu kyuki maine bhi bahut negative cases dekhe hai. Mere apne parents ki aapas me nahi banti aur 40 yrs se ek dusare ko jhel rahe hai. Meri cousin aur meri massi ka false arrange marriage ki wajah se divorce ho gaya. Meri friend ki shaadi 3 din me toot gai kyuki ladke ne ek bar bhi usse baat nahi ki lekin uske sath zabardasti physical relation banaya, aap rape bhi keh sakte ho jis wajah se wo wahan se bhag gai aur wapas nahi gai.
एक तो ये प्री वेडिंग शूट, जिसके लिए लड़के लड़की दोनों ही पागल बने हुए होते हैं... काल्पनिक दुनिया में ले जाने वाला कृत्य है... तो ऐसे में क्या ही जिम्मेदार होंगे ऐसे लड़के लड़कियां??
आज भी हमारे समाज में पेरेंट्स की, भाइयों की इतनी चलती है कि वह दाना पानी देने के चक्कर में जिन बहनों के जिंदगी के मालिक बन बैठते हैं और उनके हक अधिकार सब छीन लेते हैं बिना सोचे समझे, बिना लड़की को बताएं, उनकी जिंदगी के गलत फैसले कर डालते हैं , मेरे साथ भी यही हुआ है, बिना सोचे समझे, बिना देखें , बिना तहकीकात किए मेरी लाइफ भी एक नशैडी और कैरक्टरलेस के हैंड ओवर कर दी थी, उनकी इस गलती की वजह से मेरी सारी जिंदगी खराब हो गई है, मेरी ही तरह बहुत सारी बेटियों को पूरी जिंदगी रोना पड़ता है, गलत घर में और गलत लड़के के साथ शादी करने के बाद भी सब कुछ सहने को मजबूर होना होता है ताकि उनकी समाज में बेइज्जती ना हो जाए लड़की को नरक की जिंदगी जीनी पड़ती है, उसको गलत पर आवाज उठाने के लिए भी मना किया जाता है। केवल समाज को दिखाने के चक्कर में, बेटियों को अपनी परेशानी भी किसी को बतानी नहीं होती है और अपनी जिंदगी को रो-रो कर और घुट-घुट के जीना होता है.....
Iss case m main bht lucky hu main love marriage krna chahti hu or mere papa bht strict h mujhe lgta tha pth ni koi mera sath dega y ni pr mera bhai mera bht support krta h wo mujhse age m chota h pr itna jada samjhdar h hr ldki aisa bhai deserve krti h jo society k baare m ni apni bhn k liye sochte h
@@babygoldy1450 But tb brother and father bhi apani baat manwane ke liye kisi bhi hdd tk neeche gir jate h. yaa tho ghar se nikale ko kahenge ya fir maarpeet se apni baat mangwayenge ......mere sath tho yhi huaa h, meri mother mere sath thi tho meri Maa ko bhi mere sath mara gya tha ..........
I was married last December.I was so ambitious before marriage.I was told that I can continue my job after marriage.now I am allowed for the job but no one is there who is ready to compromise for their single need and I found myself unable to continue my job. Every single person is here just to put me down for my looks,my way of doing work,my habits etc. I think I am getting depressed day by day when I see people of age achieving something and I am just making food here.My husband hits me without knowing my point of views.My parents told me to suffer as most of the woman are doing the same when I told them about my situation.
Right mam...so it doesnt matter .....insaan ache or relation nibhane wale hone chahiy.....wrna dhoke to love marriage me bhi utne hi hote h jitne arrange m ..love m sayad jyada hi hote honge..........or agr practical soche to shadi hi nhi krni chahiy
thank god anubhav I'm not married I'm very happy with my single life I'm not spoiling anybody's life and mine i was rejected many times and i finally made a decision to focus on my business
@@muskanjatin7215 muskan I got rejected by girl I've met for marriage was due to some our personal reasons to be very frank I want to find and marry a girl in future who stay loyal forever and we have a great life together with one another
Jisse shadi Krna chahte ho usse shadi krne ke liye bahut bdi ldai ldni pdti he ...jo lad leta he usko bola jata he ma baap ka nai socha ..bt apni life ke liye sahi faishla lena Galt kaise ho skta he ..mene love marriage ki I know bahut se log naraz huye abi bhi he bt mene jisse shadi ki he wo meri bahut care krta he respact krta he 💗 bt sirf love marriage sahi ho jruri nai bs life partner bahut soch samaj kr choose kro 👍baaki dono me ek hi baat he bs love marriage ko bhi support milna chahiye taaki bcche glt na kre
Exactly sir aapne 100℅ sach bola arrange mein muhje yeh experience aaya hai bohat timepass wale ladke aate hai aur bohat si gandi baten aur expectations rakhteh hai. Shaadi fix karke bhi tod dete hai
Shaadi ke phle tk to thik hai bhaiya ek baar us time parents ke pressure me aa skte ho or shaadi ke baad agar husband ya uske ghar walo se aisi kuch problem ho rhi wo maar pit rhe ya jo bhi kr rhe to uske bhi agar parents ghar waapas nhi aane de rhe to ghar ana hi kyu hai sala husband ka ghar chhodo aur akele rho khud kmao khao aur parents ka muh na dekhe kabhi aur jb khud jmane lagoge aram se jeene lagoge to aayenge bhi parents fir aur khenge waah mera baccha aur fir kuch mahine baad fir se whi shaadi ko nibhane je kiye convince bhi krte hai aisa bhi hota hai bhaiya aayenge bolenge ab wo sudhar gye hai sb bahot pachhtava hai aur fir se whi sb hoga aur agar ldki ke ghar wale waapas bula lete hai fir bhi baad me bhi ye krte convince taki unki so called izzat bachi rhe aise bhi hote hai parents
The no dowry notified certificate is a very good idea sir, but one thing to be noted is such affidavits and contract are not valid in the Indian Law. In case of false dowry cases these contracts will be not stand in the court of law.
@@YG_13 because these kinds of agreements are voidable and can be contested in the court of law. Majority of the times due to old thinking of our judges the affidavit will be struck off(invalid) on the grounds of coercion. There is a brilliant lawyer on youtube called better call amish. Watch his videos.
In up and bihar here ppl ask soo much dowry even only dew families who doesn't believes in this system ,I am leaving here from.last 3 year till now I never saw single marriage with out dowry or hard cash
Zindgi bs kuch dino ki mehman hai khush rho aur every second happines ki trf jao .. Kya aap mujhse frnship krogi main apka new life ban kr apko happiness dunga 😊
Bilkul shi bol rhe h bhai..hum after marriage 4 years depression me rhe aur torcher she h.ab to thoda habit sa ho gya pr ab arrange marriage ka haal dekh k lgta h ki love mrrg hi shi h.km se km ek sukun aur satisfaction hota hi mera choice h.
Sir m 28 now and abhi tak total 11 boys rejected me in arrange marriage halaki wo khud bhi bare teez mar Khan nahi the🙄and I dint have any expectations from the boy or the family ki govt job and all bhi nhi chahiye thi bas khuch to kamaye taki family survive kr ske. Still they rejected me may be unke reasons honge. But I finally decided ki bas ho gaya or Jalil nhi honi. Wese bhi i've been preparing for govt jobs in my state. Fir papa ko bola ki please papa or kisi ko mat lao jisse bhi krni hogi shadi me khud se dhund lungi. M not a product to be sold out! Pehle to Ghar Wale bhi mujhe bolte the ki tujhme hi problem hogi sab koyi reject kr rhe hein then i said ki bas ho gya. Unko me nhi chahiye to me kyu tension lu! Shadi hogi to acchi bat nhi hogi to tab bht achhi bat. M happy with my life!
Main seedhi hi theek hu..nahi kar sakti shaadi aur zabardasti toh hone nahi dungi..chahe kisi se bhi ladna pade..sadak pe bhi kyu na rehna pade Kya zabardasti hai..graduation hui nhi ki shaadi karlo..haath mein paisa bhi nhi aaya..duniya ka koi experience hi nhi hota.. Independent hona hai dimaag se bhi aur paise se bhi.
Mere sath bhi yehi ho raha hai 10 years se 😞😞Aapne fayda ke liye log kitna achha drama karte hai jaise ki usse achha insaan is duniya mein koi hai he nehi 😞
Thank you🙏 sir.. Aaj kl hmare smaj ke log andhere me jindgi ji rhe h... Na kisi ko kv dekha.. Na nam suna.. Na uske bare me jana.. Ek anjan ldka ldki ki sadi.. Smaj khus,, ghr wale khus,, gaw wale khus.. Aur ldka ldki ka life nrk.. Yahi ijat hai.. Bhad me jaye ijat.
Sir....last point bilkul sahi hai👏Galat log mauj karte hain aur sahi person suffer karta hai...Aur hamare legal system mein jitna sabko paisa khilao utna hi torture opposite party ko milta jata hai..aur jisme revenge ki bhavna zyada hai,wo galat insaan hi jeet ta jata hai.😢
अनजान लोगों से बात करना ठीक नहीं है लेकिन अनजान लोगों से शादी करना (हमेशा) ठीक है... क्या गजब की सोच है हमारे देश में???
Ekdam sahi bole aap
Sahi kaha aapne
Anjaan se baat krne me dar jo lgta h girls ko tabhi nii krti pagal h
Very true
Yes .ye. chiz. Parents ni smjhte .. agr. Normal kisi. Ldke se bat kree h dost h. To. Shk krte q krrii. Ye woo....chahe wo dost h school ka....lekin shdi.. krwa dete h ldki ki jiska koe ata pta ni. Or poori life k liye uske. Sath rehne chor dete h...bina jaane....wha. Chahe sab chiz ho wo. Legal hojati h
शादी बिजली के दो तार होते हैं सही जुड़े तो प्रकाश ही प्रकाश गलत जुड़े तो धमाके ही धमाके 😀😀
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Kya dialogue mara🤣
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Gazab bol diye bhai apne toh
आप ने सही कहा - लड़की की शादी मे फालतू खर्च करके माता पिता बेटी से हाथ छुड़ा लेते है जबकि उस खर्च से लड़की का कोई भला नही होता वास्तव मे लड़की को पैरो पर खडा करो और उन को संपत्ति मे बेटे के बराबर अधिकार दो।
Ek dm true bat
Par aisa ho nhi raha
Daheej mai gaddi ,gold nd furniture aur v gifts dai kr ladki ka mho band kr diya Jatta ,beta ja ab tera koi hak nhi jaha 😢😢😢
@@sk-su2dy bilkul sahi kaha apne..kdvi sachhai hai ye
@@colorcoordinates har parents ko unke property ka hissa dena chahiye q ki ldki ke life me jada prob nhi aayegi parents ko shadi me jada kharcha na krke ldki ko pairo pe khada hone ke liye help krni chahiye
"Mera bacha, Mera ghulam" Perfect set of words that define the sick mentality of some parents.
Right sir शादी का क्या है वो तो हो जाएगी लेकिन अपनी शादी से कहीं अधिक चिंता आजकल लोग करते हैं की ये कुँवारा क्यूँ है या कुँवारी क्यूँ है 🤣🤣🤣
Right hamse zayada to dusron ko tension hoti hai
Right 👍👍👍👍
Same problem. Maine abhi marrige ni ki hai . Age bhi 32 hai . Govt employee bhi hoo .
Lekin sirf marrige abhi na krne ki wajah se logo ko bhut problem hain.
Right ✅️
Ekdam sahi😂😂😂
kuch parents apni izzat k liye Bacho ki zindagi barbad kr dete hain sb apne bare mein sochte hain
Bilkul Sahi hai mere sath aaise hi ho raha hai
Mere sath sayad hone wala h aisa hi bhai ap sahi bol rhe h caste ki wojah se sirf
Kuch bachhe apne mata pita ke chakkar me khud ka jeevan barbaad krte h
Mere sath bhi esa ho raha hai mere bf ko bhi accept nahi kiya ja raha hai bas is wajha se ki ek mohalle ka hai aur mujhse bhut kam pada likha hai par uske acche nature ko koi dekh nahi raha h
Right👍👍👍
Reality of indian marriage system
This is true most of the people are depressed in their relationships
Zindgi bs kuch dino ki mehman hai khush rho aur every second happines ki trf jao ..
Kya aap mujhse frnship krogi main apka new life ban kr apko happiness dunga 😊
No thank you I m very happy in my life with my love ones
Maine just ek general statement mention kiya tha comment me
@@meenakshikuldeep2126 thanks meenakshi have a nice day for u
@@happybirthday9652 mujhse shadi krogi mera no dp main likha hai whtsup kro mujhe
@@racerplyer1114 waah rey chutiye kyaa baat h😂
I'm youngest of 4 girls my parents have.... Meri 3rd sis ko shadi k naam p itna depressed kar diya gya h k ab vo kehti h k , koi bhi rista aaega mai mna nhi krungi, km se km en log k tension to khatam hogi. It breaks my heart to see how obeying daughters are treated in Indian families. She is doing great in her studies. And I believe will soon find a job. But parents k according shadi is more imp. Than becoming independent.
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Seeing all this since childhood, I have grown up as extremely rebellious child rather than accepting all the right and wrong decisions my parents make. Also the way society demonise me for taking my stand is so disturbing and disgusting. But I know I'm not wrong so i don't care now. Say whatever you want.
Zindgi bs kuch dino ki mehman hai khush rho aur every second happines ki trf jao ..
Kya aap mujhse frnship krogi main apka new life ban kr apko happiness dunga 😊
Same from here also..
Ranchi se ji..
@@deepikakumari9864 aur main patna se 😊..wtsup kro mera no dp main likha hai
@@racerplyer1114 wah bhai wah. Jahan ladki dekhi nhi vahan chutiyapa chalu.
I m from small village in jharkhand but my mamma papa's thinking level is higher than all villager I m first graduate girl at my village they gave me all opportunities like higher studies top level job and they also said to me and my siblings " जो पसंद आए बता देना कोई प्रेशर नही है जब मन हो तब करना" they are so understanding and so cute 🥰 I think children deserves that only right guidence, and they are capable of each & everything
" Dowry is stigma of our humanity"👍
Proud of your parents. I wish every girl gets such wise and mature parents. Anybody can give birth to a child but this is true parenthood.
@@AnubhavJain yes sir ☺️I m so lucky
Allah kre meri gf k parents b isi trh maan jaae..but they are still counting our relationship as a intercaste marriage even we both are muslims. Hope everything will b alright soon.
Wow great I live in a city still my parents are against all this .
I really love a person but my parents are against all this .
My parents ego is much more imp than love .I don't think my parents ever loved me .
Although , they gave me everything monetary n took care of Me but they never gave me happiness .
@@Evaisgalaxy whatever is required for a marriage, is there..but fer b Nhi maan rhe uske parents bs ki caste(unki) m nhi hai.
Our biggest issue is that marriage is most important than self -feelings and career in our society. And if a lady is married then her life is almost finished 😒
😂😂good luck on your future to be leftover
What about we men our life is also ruined.
@@rohitpandey7866 Don't worry आपको आपकी family से दूर रहने की जरूरत नहीं
Sir aap mere life ke sabse bade guru hai. Yeh sab practical baate koi nhi batata.
Thank you so much sir🙏🥺
God bless you bhai, hamesha khush raho, mazboot raho.
Rig-Veda 6-64-6 says, at the time of marriage the woman should preferably choose a man who likes her most and is delighted to see her. Parents should give freedom to the young girl to choose her life partner through the institution of Svayamvara, which literally means self choosing of a husband (R.V 5-47-6 and 1-71-8).
Nice information
Ese me to aadhe se jyada nalle ghumenge😂😂
Not only that husband or a boy should also preferably choose his woman or wife. That is the saying too. Because if woman is ready but man is not that is her problem not his.
Whether its arrange marriage or love marriage , compatibility and loyalty are the most important things. Not all arrange marriages bad neither all love marriages are good and vice versa
right
Kaise pta itna kuch
@@happybirthday9652 parents baat nhi kr rhe kya tumare?
@@happybirthday9652 😂😂😂
@@happybirthday9652 sahi hai ye bhi
Galati se bhi arrange marriage mat karna
Galati se bhi love marriage mat karna
Galati se bhi marriage mat karna,
Galati se bhi Batchelor mat rehna,
Galati se bhi galati mat karna....
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जो भी करना दुसरों को खुश करने के चक्कर में मत करना बाकी सब ठीक हैं
This video should be shared with all those parents who are trying to become GOD for their son or daughter.
All points mentioned in videos are absolutely correct....in India arrange marriage are done mostly by social pressure.... nobody is interested in personality and moral values, future plans....and we have to suffer in the name of adjustment.....
I agreed with you
@@saylipawar6543 yes... Harsh reality of society
Yes I agreed..
sauda h arrange marraige .. kuch family apni ladki ko full life k liye sell krte h , ladke ki financial conditions dekh kr .. ab bure waqt me sath reh ske vaise life partners nahi milte
@@tradeunlistedshares yes.... absolutely correct
जिस शब्द से आपने शुरूआत की शायद यही सोच होती कुछ लोगो की ,सोच-विचार ही इंसान को देवता राक्षस बनाता है ,मन का मिलन पहले आवश्यक है जीवन भर का साथ सहयोग होता पती पत्नी का ,❤
Nowadays marriages are happening after seeing the money how much husband earns, there is no value for men. husband should have own home, high package, mother in law should not be there, even own brother or sister should not be there in same home. only husband wife. Aapne LALACH ke barrey may bola, wo kabhi khatam nahi hota. Bilkul sahi kaha anubhav Ji. when husband will be in trouble or financial problem. marriages will break due to money issues. Marriage ke naam pe business ho gaya kuch ladkiyo ko. Divorce le lete hai jyada se jyada amount puchthe hai alag hone ke liye.
I always have a question for everyone , why do parents giveaway all their life earnings to the family of a guy whom they found in 6months in the hope of their daughter's happiness, whereas they don't trust their daughter's abilities to multiply the same amount of money if given, to secure her future.
In my opinion two people should get married only reason is to mutual sharing of life,that's all.
A very important question.
@@AnubhavJain Hopefully someday all parents get the answer of this question if it reaches their ears.
Isah nahi hota ab
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Bhen ji phr ladki walo ko bhi ladka dkhte waqt ladke k gun dkhne chaiye na ki naukri kya krta ha, pese kitne kmata ha , jaydad kitni ha wgera . Agr ap sb ye dkh rhe ho to ladke wale kyu nai sb dkhenge .jab koi ladki pad likh kr officer bnti ha apne dkha ha k usne ya usk parents ne kisi thk thak family k ladke k sth mrg kd di k chalo ladki set ha to chal jayega kam nai aisa kabhi nai hota ladki wale phr pese wala h ladka dhundte ha lekin ek pda likha ladka anpad ladki se bhi shadi kr leta ha aisa kabhi ladkiya nai krti kyunki ego hoti ha unme aur bht c ladkiya phle se h money minded hoti ha aur families bhi ladka phle h pese dkh k dhundte ha . Ye sb kabhi bnd nai ho skta hr ik desh me chalta ha ye sb sadiyo se chalta a rha ha
According to the Veda, marriage is a union between a masculine and feminine entity with commitments to pursue Dharma (duty), Artha (earning money and other possessions), Kama (physical and other desires) and Moksha (the eternal liberation) in unison.
But unfortunately we r inclined towards westernisation.....no offense but usually new generation prefer casual relations , livin' rather then committed & responsible relationship...may be due lack of spiritual connection they don't knw what life is all about or they are too ingrained with modern lifestyle that they don't want to connect with there roots ....our Vedic gyaan ...
@@bhavya.s5626 ACTUALLY. MA'AM
आज के समय में ये सब बहुत बड़ा मजाक है ।
Happiness is arranged marriage with the person you love for a long time💯🙏🙂
Ofcourse ❤
love marriage best he bhale hi do saal hi chale🧠kyonki apni pasand aur prem k saath hona sukhad he🙏arrange marriage sirf ek drama he jo kamjor aur adhiktar apne prem ko chhode huwe dhokha diye huwe hote hein
1%ladke ladkiya ho sakta he unka koi affair ya pasand na ho kahi lekin inki aapas me jodi banegi kha se 🧠🧠🧠
pareshani har shaadi me hoti hein 🙏❤
Sahi kha dear tum meri gf bn jao
Me tumhe hamesha pyaar karunga dear aur pakodi bhi khilaunga tumhe ❤️❤️
भुल भाईयों भुल, मेने अरेंज मैरिज की अउर एक दुसरे बहुत खुश हूं। अउर बासतब में देखा या रहा है,कि लाभ मैरिज में डिवोर्स यादा है। अउर एक सच बात बताता हूं, जिनके सेक्स लाइफ अच्छी है उनके रिश्ते में कोई गड़बड़ी नहीं आता।
A successful Arrange marriage is just a luck factor which is rare...after observing so many time I felt arrange marriage is a lie...60% things are lie which people say each other's family... which we come to know after some time...of marriage 🥺
You don't know
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Mera 9 saal ka relation uski maa baap ke wajah se alag hona para, uski shaadi jabardasti kisi aur se final kar diya..
Hum govt. Job bhi nikale... Ki shaadi me dikkat na ho, par alag caste ke wajah se shaadi nahi hone diya uske ghar walo ne...
Ye hai Bihar aur yehi hai apna desh India.
Same story 😢mai bhi patna se hoo bhai bihar mai jatiwad hai chutiya hai sale kisi ka pyar feeling nahi samjhate . Mujhe uske logo ne mujhe caste ki vajah se aur meri income ki vajah se reject kiya tha . Aaj meri financial condition better hai sab hai par vo nahi . Ab mujhe sadi hi nahi karna
@@Gyanibababiharwale Jaat bhi nahi, finance bhi nahi.. toh kya aapka 🍆 dekhke shaadi karwaye😂
Up rajashthan har jagah hai castism....
Same problem bro 😔😔😔 2 sal. Ka relationship tha par usne chor Diya cast ke liya
Aapki kadva sach bolne ki himmat ko salute 👏👏 ye sab batein parents bhi apne bacho ko nhi btate..thank you so much 🙏💐🙏
Still in arrange marriage parents expect to say yes or no in just one meeting. This creates unnecessary stress.
Yes... absolutely right..all family members of both side intrested only in answer....no value of understanding and compatibility
My current situation bilkul yahi hai...kya dicide kar lu 1bar mai aaj yahi question tha family ka bolo kya hai tumhara disign🙃
Zindgi bs kuch dino ki mehman hai khush rho aur every second happines ki trf jao ..
Kya aap mujhse frnship krogi main apka new life ban kr apko happiness dunga 😊
Ladki sunder dekhke bhi haan nhi krni chahiye kya mtlb kya dekhke haan bolu
@@pragyajain1774 hello
सच कहूं आज मे ये सब बात पहले से ही सोच रहा था, में खुद हैरान हूँ , पर ये सब बात बिलकुल सच है ज्यादातर लोगों के साथ ऐसा ही होता है, और सर ने जो बताया है वो सही है, शादी बोहत ही सोच समझ कर करनी चाहिए क्योंकि इसमें अपनी पुरी जिंदगी दाव पर लगी होती है फिर बादमे पछताने से कोई फायदा नही है 🥺🙏🏻🙏🏻💯
आपकी हर एक एक बात कही हुई बिल्कुल सच है सर। ये सारी चीजों से मैं गुजर रही हूं। मेरा प्यार घर वालो के वजह से मुझसे दूर हो रहा h । पता ni kb parents समझेंगे हमारी बात 😔😭
कोई न प्रीति तुम मुझे अपना bf बना लो सबको
छोड़ छाड़ के इतनी टेंशन न लेते डियर💜
मैं मनाऊंगा पैरेंट्स को 💛
@@ganeshsharemarketschoolnewshub acha tum kya ho
@@vasenavidanceclub6655 me Psychologist hun kisko kis tarah se handle Krna h mujhe aata h tumhare mom dad ka name bhejo unke bare me bhi bta duga Bina mile Bina dekhe unko
Mere sath bhi yhi ho rha hai yaar
Ham ladko ki bhi halat kharab hai
Dhokhebaaz maa baap ki vazah se meri aur mere dosto ki zindagi barbad ho gayi ,sachai pata chali tab tak der ho chuki thi , kaash aap jesa bada bhai pahle mil jata to nark nahi bhog rahe hote
Hope ab log aapki baat ko samajh kar sahi nirnay le 🙏🙏
Kitni age h aapki
Sir aapke chalte main fir ek baar depression se bahar nikalkar apne goal par focus krne laga❤️
Bhai depression jeevan kaa ek hissa hai, hamara jeevan usse bahut vishal hai ye baat hamesha dhyaan rakhna.
@@AnubhavJain ok sir hamesa yaad rakhenge
@@rohitacademy1891 apne AAP se pyar kro
@@AnubhavJain sir muje apse kuchbaat karni ha life ke bare me kese baat kru apse sir plz reply jarur karna🙏🙏🙏
Apko kitna time laga ?
i got a marriage proposal in which a boys asking me to meet again n again within 2 days... bad me delay hua to call per kahta mera dream h pilot banne ka...
abi itni salary hogi bad me itni ho jayegi half paisa maine laga dia 20-25 Lac or Chahiye.. aapko dikkat nai honi chahiye dene me.
see i never seen that guy never meet...and he is asking huge amount.
upr se muje hi kaha k Girls achha ghr bar paisa dekhti h jabki he is earning equally as me. he is highly qualified and aisi soch. still samne wale se kaise paise maang sakte h.
job chhor kar dream poora karna h wishes poori karni h to kya aise bheek mange
गांव की हकीकत है अरेंज मैरिज रोज रोज रो रो के जिंदगी जीना 😭😭😭
Aisa nahi hai....apki kismat kharb hogi...love marriage kar k khush honge iska kya guarantee hai.....
Fully agree with point no. 9......
My sister is in trouble in the in-laws' house, but the parents are not taking her back due to the fear of the society.
संगीत तुम क्या चाहती हो यार?
@@ganeshsharemarketschoolnewshub bapis lana tha usko.....
@@sangeetathakur9593 usko kisko khulkar btao? hum solution kar denge tumhara
@@ganeshsharemarketschoolnewshub sister ko
@@sangeetathakur9593un sabka solution kar denge tum mere page par aao
Vha baat karte hai yaar
My parents are also pressuring me for marriage because I am 30 but they are fighting on daily basis for last 40 years even in 65+ age..I told them this thing ki shaadi aise hoti to mujhe nhi karni..bolte hai..shaadi me yehi sab hota hai
Sir, in this video , you have practically described what my parents have gone through , specially my mother. She outright told my father after 25 years of marriage that she hates him.
There isn't a drama that they haven't gone through , my dad is the WORST kind of abuser , my mom just puts up with him because divorces are a BIG NO for middle-class. And also , because she has to care care of us. And ALSO because she can't earn.
Thank you immensely for this video sir.
I just can't thank you enough for your eye-opening videos.
I have recommended your videos to so many of my friends and peers .
Can you please make a video on , Children-Parent relationships? Like..........the difficulties they face , they don't get along , or how to handle difference in opinion.
Same happened with my mumma
Same is the case of my mother. I guess the reason being lack of emotional intelligence in my father.
Same here
Same here
@@sanskritiverma8010 it's really very painful!
sir me ganw se hi belong krta hu muskil se 2 4 love merrige hoti h kuch to sadhi wale din hi ladki ko 1st time dekhte h
aapke video me 1 1 point true h sir
सच मे शादी जुआ है
Right
That's why I like Western culture because after you grown up you are free to chose anything. You are on your own
Okay but, divorce rate is higher in western countries than India... Shadi tikti nhi hai bilkul Waha pe
U are really great sir .I'm very depressed my parents don't even understand me .😪
Yes
Respect for LOVE MARRIAGE increased ❤🙌🏻
Your videos are like seedhi baat no bakwas
Very true....
Ryt
100% right sir.esa hi hota h. Apki hr bat sahi h.maa baap khud hi beti ko lachar bna kr bhejte h.90%ldkiya independ nhi hoti.
Right🙏
कुछ लड़के लड़कियां भी बहुत तेज होते हैं... शादी से पहले अपने पार्टनर को अपना असली चेहरा देखने ही नहीं देते हैं... बड़ी चालाकी से...
Happened with me 😭😭
@@priyampriyadarshni3180 kya ho gaya aaap ke saath
@@priyampriyadarshni3180 kya hua tha bhai aisa
@@priyampriyadarshni3180 damn bro
@@priyampriyadarshni3180 mai samjh sakta hoon kitna dard hota hai 7 saal se relentionship me tha aur uske baad cast ki wajh se nhi kiya susite karne ki kosis bi nhi ki lekin nhi kar paya bahut ladkiyaan dhikaye mujhe ghar wale lekin mai khbi kisi khobsurti par dhyaan nhi diya 😭😭😭nhi kiya aur mai kisi se shadi nhi karunga kasam kha liya hoon
Aapko ek point ye bhi add Karna chahiye ki joint family me shaadi karke ladkiyan career par focus nahi kar sakti, pura din se raat unka kitchen me beet jata hai.
Ye to aapko shadi se pehle sochna chahiye tha k akela ladka hai ya puri family
Our society needs more people like you to overcome such fakeism going on in marriages....It's heart to heart relation wheather it's love or arrange but people jus misused everything fr self interests......i appreciate you to be open on such topics.....keep going n educate society on such topics otherwise world is going in depression.🙏
Sai keha 👍
Kya aap meri problem pe video bna sakte h ?
Ladki mujhse 1-2 saal ki badi hai Ghar wale nahi maan rhe hai aur ladki Wale ka kehna hai ki hum us ghar me shadi nahi karenge jis ghar me meri beti ko sbka pyar na mile q ki mere ghar walon ko pasand nhi hai
Aur humari dosti 7-8 saal purani hai bachpan se jante hai ek dusre ko
Privacy k sath jarur video banaiye sir
Bhaiya ne age difference ko le kar allready vedio banaya or shyer kiya hai ap play list mai dekh sakte hai chaoo to.
hi bhai, ldki ke parents ka kehna sahi h q ki shadi ke baad life me utar chadhav aate h kbhi husband wife me problems aate h tb family ka sath ho to shadi bachane ke liye wo husband wife ko smjate h aur as a support system rehte h. shadi ho bhi jaye to tumari side se bs tum hi ho agr baad me tum regret kro ki shadi family ke mann se krta to accha rehta then her only support will be gone. I hope my thoughts will help you.
aj ki duniya me koi kisi ka nhi h parents k bare me bola jata h ki vo apne bachcho k sath kbhi glt nhi krte ye jhut h apni ijjat k liye apne bachcho ki jindagi barbad kr dete h 😡
Yes 😡😡
🤣🤣🤣me apki baate Sunkar itna Darr gye hu mjhe ye kalesh hi nahi chaie single life is the best life
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फिर वो कैसे मिलेगी दवा 🤤
बिना दवा के जीवन व्यर्थ है बालक😋
TREMENDOUS speech Sir!!! Totally agree with you.. what a deep n thorough knowledge u have... Superb!!! I could relate myself with 90% of the examples u shared... That was really helpful
4 saal ke relationship ko family, society ki bajah se chhodna pad rha Mujhe meri mental health bilkul kharab ho gyi h 4 months se m presan hu mere family m kisi ko koi farak nhi pad rha 😢😢😢😢
Sir I was also in a very bad arranged marriage... My wife was too demanding, Irrespectful. I finally took divorce after 5 yrs and now I'm happy staying with my parents happily. Marraiges now a days are just game of expectations that too from boys only. My wife put false dowry cases on me and blackmailed for money... Now a days girls are taking too much of advantage of laws given to them... So I think marraiges are too risky.
Yes...only importance to fullfill her demands...no value of our family and carrier , friends are no mater after marriage...so better to be your own family rather than shitty relationship....i m also facing same issues
@@drnaishadhpatel4399 sad to hear that brother you are also facing same... Come out of this type of relationship where women's are misusing laws.. Our system is too bad all in favour of womens
@@Rojer85 yes...nowdays making money by false dowry cases and blackmailing are main wepans for some women's.. nobody is interested in husband's situation... And came for support...only give settlement advice.....sad reality of Indian man
@@drnaishadhpatel4399 True said marraiges are just a business to loot innocent mens.
Rightly said , I am also facing such situations , from the first four days wife denying for being making physical relationship and saying I am not ok with you and it will take 6 month or year for being physical and on first night she said to be stay away atleast 6 feet from me , and after all that these things happening constantly for 4 days , i have to tell my mom and father that girl is denying me ...and then girl went to her home and now she won't ready to comeback and his family blaming me that you should not tell this to your mother that girl is not making physical relationship ... Now I have to file divorce
Sir plz make a video on toxic parents ... it's a humble request sir
Hi
Me karunga seeting
I have made such a video
@@AnubhavJain Thank you sir I'll check out ...Sir ur videos r very helpful nd inspiring for all people thanks a lot for making such kinds of videos ...🙏
@@sumakshi286 omg
Atharva veda mantra 2/30/2 - Sharing is the key to a healthy marriage. Husband and Wife should share everything they come across.
Atharva veda mantra 6/11/1- Hard work and strength should be the traits of a husband and wife should be calm and serene. This will give birth to brave and sensible progeny.
Atharva veda mantra 6/42/1- husband and wife should be completely devoid of anger and should work together to accomplish house hold tasks.
Atharva veda mantra 6/89/2- Compatibility should never be an issue between a husband and a wife. Love comes with understanding.
सही है सारा एकदम , मेने सब भुगता है सारा जीवन बीत गया इन्ही सब से मुसीबतो से गुजरते हुये ,पर मैं अपने बच्चों के साथ ये सब नही होने दूँगी,
Sir aap kitne achhse samjhate h i feel Mera Bhai aap hote.... dunia me kisi ki zarurat nai support ki.
ajkal shadiyan nahi, vyapar hota hai. Sundarta or paise ka vyapar.
I agree sir but sab bolte h love marriage ni karni chahiye kyunki zyaada pblms love mrge mein hoti h 😢😢😢😢 mere hisab se chahe love ya arranged ho agar partner aapko samajh raha h to aap bht lucky ho ..
@@be_hpy2450 han bhaiya bht pblm h kyunki agar bhagwaan na kare aapka partner shaadi ke baad change ho jaye to aapke parents aapko blame karenge n Lyftym ek guilt mein jeena hoga.
@Kese Ho Yarr mere point of view se sir mutual understanding and respect agar ho to sab automatically sahi hota h . Kaash main utni Lucky hoti
@Kese Ho Yarr detached hone wali baat hi ni h joint family mein bhi agar ek dusre ki respect kare to sab thik rehta h ek aurat ko bas thoda sa pyar aur respect hi chahiye pati se baki to wo sab nyochawar kar deti h
@Kese Ho Yarr only quality is respecting n understanding n nothing. N which I hate most is womenizer n egoistic..
Hi mam
This Channel is always provides Practical Statement of Life....🙏
Bilkul sahi kaha aapne aaj tak bhi ghar par logon ne arrenge marriage ko 1st priority dete hai ladki agar khud dekha toh kitna batein sunate hai lekin arrenge marriage kari toh ghar pe sab khus hote hai
Apne jo baat point 6 kaha vo haa h hmare sath huaa h jo psnd h usse alg kr k kitne b sundr se shadi krva de pr jo psnd ni h vo rishta ni chlta vaise apke sare point sahi h 👍🏻
Aapki sab baatein true hai 😓Puri life kharab ho jati hai 😭👍
पार्टनर सही हो तो स्वर्ग bhi ho jati hai dear❤️❤️
Mine is arranged marriage .we both don't talk with each other but staying because of common intrest children.
Meri Abhi 6 months pahele engagement hue jabh pehli baar ldka muje dekhne aya to mene usko mere past k bare me sabh kuch clear kar diya jabh ki mere fds log muje mana kr rahe the ki tu tera past mat batana fir bhi us ko mene sabh bola
Baut achha kiya nahi to baad mein jab ladko ko ye sab baat pta chalta hai to kahi na kahi hmesha ye chiz khalti rehti hai,
Ab agr hona hoga to hogi shadi nahi to nahi
I am lucky ki meri family me esa nhi mujhe pta h arrange marriage hogi but meri family mujhe itna bolti h ki tu ladka khud dekhna smjhna phir aage badna
Aisa hi hota hai 99%. Pehle se aisa hi hota aaya hai. Koi zabardasti nahi karata arranged marriage mein. sirf Ladka ladki ko introduce kar dete hain family wale baad mein unki pasand se hi hoti hai shaadi when they like each other. Every arranged marriage is actually a love marriage. I dont know who does zor zabardasti in shaadi.
Shadi se hi .. Mann utaar Diya Bhai me😂😂😂😂
Love marriage कभी नहीं करना चाहिए, arrange marriage sahi hota hai ye mera personal anuvah hai. Mine bhi love marriage kari thi 2015 me or 2016 me divorce ho gya, sach kahu ab mai bahut jayada khush hu.
Kya apne shadi krli ab ki nhi dear
In India Arrenge Marriage is Scary..In fact Marriage is Scary..
सर , एक सच्चाई ये भी है, की एक पढ़ा लिखा लड़का अनपढ़ लड़कीं या कम पढ़ी लिखी लड़कीं से शादी कर लेता है, लेकिन एक लड़की ऐसा नही करती है।
Aapne arrange marriage ka topic bahut sahi uthaya hai. Mai hamesha se arrange marriage ke khilaf hu kyuki maine bhi bahut negative cases dekhe hai. Mere apne parents ki aapas me nahi banti aur 40 yrs se ek dusare ko jhel rahe hai. Meri cousin aur meri massi ka false arrange marriage ki wajah se divorce ho gaya. Meri friend ki shaadi 3 din me toot gai kyuki ladke ne ek bar bhi usse baat nahi ki lekin uske sath zabardasti physical relation banaya, aap rape bhi keh sakte ho jis wajah se wo wahan se bhag gai aur wapas nahi gai.
बलकुल sahi kha tumne Rimpu तुम मेरे साथ लव मैरिज कर लो dear tumhe bhot khush rakhunga fir dono sath me घूमने चलेंगे
चंडीगढ़ ❤️
एक तो ये प्री वेडिंग शूट, जिसके लिए लड़के लड़की दोनों ही पागल बने हुए होते हैं... काल्पनिक दुनिया में ले जाने वाला कृत्य है... तो ऐसे में क्या ही जिम्मेदार होंगे ऐसे लड़के लड़कियां??
Sahi kaha
Pre wedding shoot k liye bhi joda m se koi ek nahi manta aur manta v hai to kharche partner ko dene bolte hai 🙄aise log v hai duniya m
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आज भी हमारे समाज में पेरेंट्स की, भाइयों की इतनी चलती है कि वह दाना पानी देने के चक्कर में जिन बहनों के जिंदगी के मालिक बन बैठते हैं और उनके हक अधिकार सब छीन लेते हैं बिना सोचे समझे, बिना लड़की को बताएं, उनकी जिंदगी के गलत फैसले कर डालते हैं , मेरे साथ भी यही हुआ है, बिना सोचे समझे, बिना देखें , बिना तहकीकात किए मेरी लाइफ भी एक नशैडी और कैरक्टरलेस के हैंड ओवर कर दी थी, उनकी इस गलती की वजह से मेरी सारी जिंदगी खराब हो गई है, मेरी ही तरह बहुत सारी बेटियों को पूरी जिंदगी रोना पड़ता है, गलत घर में और गलत लड़के के साथ शादी करने के बाद भी सब कुछ सहने को मजबूर होना होता है ताकि उनकी समाज में बेइज्जती ना हो जाए लड़की को नरक की जिंदगी जीनी पड़ती है, उसको गलत पर आवाज उठाने के लिए भी मना किया जाता है। केवल समाज को दिखाने के चक्कर में, बेटियों को अपनी परेशानी भी किसी को बतानी नहीं होती है और अपनी जिंदगी को रो-रो कर और घुट-घुट के जीना होता है.....
Right love marriage jyada achi h
Iss case m main bht lucky hu main love marriage krna chahti hu or mere papa bht strict h mujhe lgta tha pth ni koi mera sath dega y ni pr mera bhai mera bht support krta h wo mujhse age m chota h pr itna jada samjhdar h hr ldki aisa bhai deserve krti h jo society k baare m ni apni bhn k liye sochte h
Kaash har mata pita apni beti ko pada likhane aur mazboot banane kaa prann lete aur apne aap ko sahi maaene me mata pita saabit kar paate
@@AnubhavJain 🙏🙏
@@babygoldy1450 But tb brother and father bhi apani baat manwane ke liye kisi bhi hdd tk neeche gir jate h. yaa tho ghar se nikale ko kahenge ya fir maarpeet se apni baat mangwayenge ......mere sath tho yhi huaa h, meri mother mere sath thi tho meri Maa ko bhi mere sath mara gya tha ..........
I was married last December.I was so ambitious before marriage.I was told that I can continue my job after marriage.now I am allowed for the job but no one is there who is ready to compromise for their single need and I found myself unable to continue my job.
Every single person is here just to put me down for my looks,my way of doing work,my habits etc.
I think I am getting depressed day by day when I see people of age achieving something and I am just making food here.My husband hits me without knowing my point of views.My parents told me to suffer as most of the woman are doing the same when I told them about my situation.
Same situation with me
Most important thing is to stay independent and join your job. Don't take abuse. Don't create a path of suffering for yourself.
Leave him now...
@@manishachauhan2112 then it is ur fault...
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Ji bilkul mere dost k sat bilkul esa hi hua h family ki bjah se uska jeevan nark ban gaya 😭😭
Koi na dear में तुम्हारे साथ हूं❤️❤️
Meri shadi arrange marriage hai but l am so happy my marriage my hushband love me
For a girl ,self respect matter alot.But sometimes in arrange marriage girl will have to compromise even with that because of her family and parents
For men too self respect is everything.
Respect paane keliye respect dena padh ta hai
Whether it is arranged marriage or live marriage adjustment is very important in yr life.
Right mam...so it doesnt matter .....insaan ache or relation nibhane wale hone chahiy.....wrna dhoke to love marriage me bhi utne hi hote h jitne arrange m ..love m sayad jyada hi hote honge..........or agr practical soche to shadi hi nhi krni chahiy
@@pawanmahawar4505 sahi baat shadi hi nhi krni chahiye
@@payalbouri0982 baat to aapki 100 % sahi h pr.......laddu khaye bina taste ka pta b to nhi lgta.
जिसे जानते हो उससे ही शादी करो.
thank god anubhav I'm not married I'm very happy with my single life I'm not spoiling anybody's life and mine i was rejected many times and i finally made a decision to focus on my business
How to reject many time
@@muskanjatin7215 muskan I got rejected by girl I've met for marriage was due to some our personal reasons to be very frank I want to find and marry a girl in future who stay loyal forever and we have a great life together with one another
Jisse shadi Krna chahte ho usse shadi krne ke liye bahut bdi ldai ldni pdti he ...jo lad leta he usko bola jata he ma baap ka nai socha ..bt apni life ke liye sahi faishla lena Galt kaise ho skta he ..mene love marriage ki I know bahut se log naraz huye abi bhi he bt mene jisse shadi ki he wo meri bahut care krta he respact krta he 💗 bt sirf love marriage sahi ho jruri nai bs life partner bahut soch samaj kr choose kro 👍baaki dono me ek hi baat he bs love marriage ko bhi support milna chahiye taaki bcche glt na kre
Exactly sir aapne 100℅ sach bola arrange mein muhje yeh experience aaya hai bohat timepass wale ladke aate hai aur bohat si gandi baten aur expectations rakhteh hai. Shaadi fix karke bhi tod dete hai
Shaadi ke phle tk to thik hai bhaiya ek baar us time parents ke pressure me aa skte ho or shaadi ke baad agar husband ya uske ghar walo se aisi kuch problem ho rhi wo maar pit rhe ya jo bhi kr rhe to uske bhi agar parents ghar waapas nhi aane de rhe to ghar ana hi kyu hai sala husband ka ghar chhodo aur akele rho khud kmao khao aur parents ka muh na dekhe kabhi aur jb khud jmane lagoge aram se jeene lagoge to aayenge bhi parents fir aur khenge waah mera baccha aur fir kuch mahine baad fir se whi shaadi ko nibhane je kiye convince bhi krte hai aisa bhi hota hai bhaiya aayenge bolenge ab wo sudhar gye hai sb bahot pachhtava hai aur fir se whi sb hoga aur agar ldki ke ghar wale waapas bula lete hai fir bhi baad me bhi ye krte convince taki unki so called izzat bachi rhe aise bhi hote hai parents
The no dowry notified certificate is a very good idea sir, but one thing to be noted is such affidavits and contract are not valid in the Indian Law. In case of false dowry cases these contracts will be not stand in the court of law.
Why not valid?
@@YG_13 because these kinds of agreements are voidable and can be contested in the court of law. Majority of the times due to old thinking of our judges the affidavit will be struck off(invalid) on the grounds of coercion. There is a brilliant lawyer on youtube called better call amish. Watch his videos.
In up and bihar here ppl ask soo much dowry even only dew families who doesn't believes in this system ,I am leaving here from.last 3 year till now I never saw single marriage with out dowry or hard cash
@@mausami773 how many false dowry cases have been done on husband?
Sir, I am telling you the truth, I am really proud of you. This is what is happening these days... really appreciate to yours thought...👌👌👌👍👍
Zindgi bs kuch dino ki mehman hai khush rho aur every second happines ki trf jao ..
Kya aap mujhse frnship krogi main apka new life ban kr apko happiness dunga 😊
Kya hua swati
@@swatichavan9130 tum instagram pe nhi ho kya
@@swatichavan9130 ok dear enjoy your happiness
Arrange marriage is a mammoth social issue these days arrange marriage is not suitable for anyone
Bilkul shi bol rhe h bhai..hum after marriage 4 years depression me rhe aur torcher she h.ab to thoda habit sa ho gya pr ab arrange marriage ka haal dekh k lgta h ki love mrrg hi shi h.km se km ek sukun aur satisfaction hota hi mera choice h.
Hi😊
Even I am feeling depressed because of rejections in arrange marriage
Title should be * why not to get married *
Men and women should avoid each other to get life happy even after.
Sir m 28 now and abhi tak total 11 boys rejected me in arrange marriage halaki wo khud bhi bare teez mar Khan nahi the🙄and I dint have any expectations from the boy or the family ki govt job and all bhi nhi chahiye thi bas khuch to kamaye taki family survive kr ske. Still they rejected me may be unke reasons honge. But I finally decided ki bas ho gaya or Jalil nhi honi. Wese bhi i've been preparing for govt jobs in my state. Fir papa ko bola ki please papa or kisi ko mat lao jisse bhi krni hogi shadi me khud se dhund lungi. M not a product to be sold out! Pehle to Ghar Wale bhi mujhe bolte the ki tujhme hi problem hogi sab koyi reject kr rhe hein then i said ki bas ho gya. Unko me nhi chahiye to me kyu tension lu! Shadi hogi to acchi bat nhi hogi to tab bht achhi bat. M happy with my life!
Good. I hope you are doing well.Don't come in pressure
Problem ladko ka hai na ki hum me
Merriege is a depression if you don't find a loyal person 😊😊😊be ready for it
Main seedhi hi theek hu..nahi kar sakti shaadi aur zabardasti toh hone nahi dungi..chahe kisi se bhi ladna pade..sadak pe bhi kyu na rehna pade
Kya zabardasti hai..graduation hui nhi ki shaadi karlo..haath mein paisa bhi nhi aaya..duniya ka koi experience hi nhi hota..
Independent hona hai dimaag se bhi aur paise se bhi.
ये सब आप बोल रहे हैं इसीलिये तो लोग लिव्ह इन रिलेशनशिप रह रहे. Aur यही उचित लग रह हैं. आने वाले पिढी को...😅
Sir app bhut genuine baten krte h zindagi k bare m..... Apki baten sun k bhut bhut motivate feel krte h🙏
Sb परिवार वाले apni ijjat ki duhai deke ladki y ladke ka jiwan kharab kr dete h
Mere sath bhi yehi ho raha hai 10 years se 😞😞Aapne fayda ke liye log kitna achha drama karte hai jaise ki usse achha insaan is duniya mein koi hai he nehi 😞
aap bhuta achha hai single life is best . love marriage is best option but if someone love u too much I love U sabo ❤too much😘 .
Thank you🙏 sir.. Aaj kl hmare smaj ke log andhere me jindgi ji rhe h... Na kisi ko kv dekha.. Na nam suna.. Na uske bare me jana.. Ek anjan ldka ldki ki sadi.. Smaj khus,, ghr wale khus,, gaw wale khus.. Aur ldka ldki ka life nrk.. Yahi ijat hai.. Bhad me jaye ijat.
Thnk uhh sir ....aapki video bhout zyadaa motivate krti hai ....❤️🙂
100% true sir thank you so much god bless you sir....💖💖💖💖🎸🎸🎸🎸🤗🤗🤗🤗
Sir aap 100%bolte ho.👌..you are experience person...thnks to motivate everyone ☺
Such an important and needed video. Thanks for the efforts sir🙌🏻
Sir....last point bilkul sahi hai👏Galat log mauj karte hain aur sahi person suffer karta hai...Aur hamare legal system mein jitna sabko paisa khilao utna hi torture opposite party ko milta jata hai..aur jisme revenge ki bhavna zyada hai,wo galat insaan hi jeet ta jata hai.😢
Very correct Sir...Marriage in itself is a dangerous thing because it's a legal contract....
Hi