Boy, did you have every nail with this one, regarding emotional needs. I have managed to not expect any, but it is very disappointing. Unfortunately I do not have a therapist at the moment, but am old enough to have plenty of life experience and years alone to take care of myself. It would be so easy to be angry much of the time, only making it worse. I do not have energy to waste on the fight!
My husband takes any kind of visual reminder from me as a threat. It doesn’t seem to matter how carefully the visual list/letter is crafted. It’s beyond frustrating.
Hmmm, other way around for us. I always needed to do things his way or I was wrong. He did a lot and I would tell him not to because I didn't work outside the home as he did so I thought I should do most the stuff at home. He's only diagnosed with anxiety and mood disorder - but I think he could be asd, but he refuses to go to the doctor because he thinks it's not Biblical and therefore wrong.
A lot of aspies reject organized religion. My husband, logically minded, says it never made sense to him as a child in Parochial school. No logic, constant contradictions and magical sky gods who never interact with humans. Fairy tales make more sense.
Boy, did you have every nail with this one, regarding emotional needs. I have managed to not expect any, but it is very disappointing. Unfortunately I do not have a therapist at the moment, but am old enough to have plenty of life experience and years alone to take care of myself. It would be so easy to be angry much of the time, only making it worse. I do not have energy to waste on the fight!
My husband takes any kind of visual reminder from me as a threat. It doesn’t seem to matter how carefully the visual list/letter is crafted. It’s beyond frustrating.
You did not get his "buy-in"... that's a missing step.
Thanks for the practical advice Mark😊
My pleasure!
Thank you
Your videos are very helpful
Everything makes so much sense
So glad!
Hmmm, other way around for us. I always needed to do things his way or I was wrong. He did a lot and I would tell him not to because I didn't work outside the home as he did so I thought I should do most the stuff at home. He's only diagnosed with anxiety and mood disorder - but I think he could be asd, but he refuses to go to the doctor because he thinks it's not Biblical and therefore wrong.
A lot of aspies reject organized religion. My husband, logically minded, says it never made sense to him as a child in Parochial school. No logic, constant contradictions and magical sky gods who never interact with humans. Fairy tales make more sense.
What if they don’t want to look at or use the visual charts?