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Thank you Elliott for giving your time, knowledge and heart. As a contractor with a developmental/behavioural service provider, I use SFBT with the youth I work with. In my business consulting world supporting business owners who come to me with technical issues which are made more difficult because they have latent concerns that need to be addressed. Hence SFBT drives the conversation in addressing how to overcome these challenges so they can achieve and sustain the destination. By the by, Change Management can also benefit from this approach because leadership will drive optimized outcomes by trusting in their people...Servant Leadership, Emotional Quotient, quantifiable stuff. Thank you for showing that Soft-Skills is the HARD skill that makes relationships work!
Hi Elliott! Thanks for the video. As an Intern, my biggest barriers are not having a SFT supervisor and working in a problem-focused workspace. I'm a counselor to juvenile offenders and everyone expects our sessions to be "fixing" their problems. If I had an SFT supervisor I would have someone to help me refine the techniques and call me out when I "switch it up" which probably happens more often than I notice. What you said about practicing is a good idea, I definitely need to connect with other SFT professionals.
I'm in a graduate MFT program right now. Your videos are helping me so much that it is hard to express exactly how much. You do a great job and break it down into simple concepts. I've been struggling with what theory to use in practice as I enter the internship phase. I find it gets more complicated the more I talk to professors and clinicians. Thank you for making this video!
Elliot! I love your videos, I came across some of your trainings through my work trainings and am currently watching your PESI training. Thank you for making SFBT clear for me. I'm trying to stay on the solution focused road, and wondering if you work on skills on the road if the client wants more coping skills for instance? Or do you stay on the street and tap only into the client's built in resources? I'm going to try and experience SFBT purity but my other training has me itching to to be that expert, so I'm working to resist that.
Thank-you Elliott, for your clarity and enthusiasm. What I am wondering is whether you see any role in therapy for exploration of etiology? that is, does SFBT basically tell us that the past, the how and why of the problem simply doesn't matter? what about Trauma-based problems for example?
I’m an LMFT student. I enjoy your videos. I’ve been using SFT since my teenage years. Was divorced after 30+ years in 2014. I definitely had to use it then. I’m writing a paper on this theory. What is the best “technique”? That’s one of the sections I have to describe. Thank you for the SFT questions PDF. As a teacher and school counselor I’ve used it there as well.
Elliott, is there any research on SFBT and the vagal nerve? I would think that getting people to talk about their strengths and resources, and solutions would activate the parasympathetic nervous system and tone the vagal nerve as people take control. Is there any empirical evidence to support that view.
change can be very frightening, so Im thinking not necessarily, in fact a client can be left with a full on flight / fight response after articulating their strengths resources etc after a session, and go into full Resistance as we know one of the biggest blocks to change is fear, although it is a risk I normalise this and say it's possible you will have a fear reaction to having articulated your best hopes, your resources, this is normal, the important thing is not to attach a big "story" to the feeling, allow yourself to feel it, and gently take yourself back to your resources
I think finding ways to bridge SFT with things like diagnosing, treatment plan, case conceptualization which are components of my community mental health job.
my biggest barrier is feeling like, or wondering how exactly my focusing on the solution is actually accommodating the problem; i.e how 'exactly' this works in e.g. no longer feeling debilitated with anxiety to leave the house or come to school/work; how it 'actually' accommodates my client in not feeling utterly empty and cacooned in blanket of dread - in the most physical sense. most especially clients who say that they have no idea why they feel this way, when there is no obvious past trauma, present stress or pressure on them, and their future seems - at least 'ok' enough (eg off to university etc)? in sum - i struggle (but really want to) 'get' how SFBT achieves this in practice - in real world observable terms? love your vid by the way (ha)
I think a lot of people struggle in this exact same way when they first come across the Solution Focused Approach. The key is to understand that this approach, just as another, requires belief in the process and because we have ben taught that in order to fix a problem we first have to understand it. This is not true and goes against the basis of change. In order to make a change we first have to be able to focus on what is desired, once you understand this then your ability to believe in SFBT will begin.
@@TheSolutionFocusedUniverse I was going to ask something similar. I really like how you gave an overview, but wondering WHY does this work? You mentioned focusing on the solution leads to change. Is it really that simple? Is it b/c the client will naturally make better choices b/c it's fresh on their mind? etc.
@@geauxtime That's a great question. We know the Solution Focused Approach works due to more than 40 years of research supporting its efficacy but exactly why it works is a bit trickier to explain. If you ask 10 different SFBTers you'd likely get 10 different explanations. One thing that we do know for certain that when people hear themselves describe their preferred future and what their lives would look like when their desired outcome is present.
Thanks so much for your time and assistance, Elliot. How about with a client that is experiencing grief. Can you mix SFBT with PCT and still be successful? How can I help client through loss with sfbt? Thank you so much. I love all your videos and session and your book! Jeannie
I have a problem with asking in depth questions because I seem to understand what they aren't saying.... so when they give me a very broad answer I understand and tend to go to another question rather than delving into that answer and getting them to give details..
How to best apply in one off telephone counselling sessions of 20 - 30 minute duration with clients counsellor will likely never speak to again, can you please do a video on this Elliott this is often people with enormous resistance around even naming a destination
It's a brilliant approach, thanks for sharing. I guess my biggest issue is my own lack of a solution focus...?It does seem to be a practical exhibition of positive regard for the client..
the barrier i experience is with when clients have a perceived lack of resourses and will not shift or more commonly with my client base ( the elderly) their perceived perferred future is difficult to talk about because of progressive illness or the realities of aging getting in the way
I have problems with the structure of SFBT when clients can take the session in many different directions and I wonder if the questions of the model have to be asked in precise order.
@@TheSolutionFocusedUniverse, in my opinion, this video needs to be included in your course - it gave me the confidence that I can DO IT. just something to add to the survey that you sent to me to do. I hope it helps.
Hello Elliott as a student Intern utilizing this Systemic model approach with a couple dealing with infidelity. How do I implicate the model with this type of issue, without bringing up the past hurts and help the clients reform to present and future outcomes?
Thank you for the great video. Because my English is only good enough to understand 90% of what you say,. What if the athlete didn't include the ability of decision making in the list? Were you confident at the beginning that he would including it? What if he thought anything but the ability of decision making had attributed to his success in sports?
Thanks for your video. I am a PhD student as well as teachers.My perssonal training is in CBT. But I attended lectures on SFBT as well. I want know about good mock ,simulated or real session of different therapies for my students . Like you were showing one in another lecture.can you guide me in this regard
also in this video you say you have another one that will help me not make the prime mistake people make in SFBT... what's the title of that video as it doesn't come up next on TH-cam.
14 year old Client has intrusive thoughts that only come out at night..she cannot fall asleep. She will cry herself to sleep and says that works bc she exhausts herself. Help..trying to use SBT
Sometimes Clients want practical solutions not more questions. If they knew the answers they wouldn't be seeking therapy. I incorporate some SFBT but it can be a little abstract.
I think the point of the questions is to bring the answers the client has into the forefront of their minds so they can make changes in their lives. Believe it or not, this approach even works when the client wants practical solutions. In fact, I would say that's when the Solution Focused Approach is at its best.
What will be different in your life when you there ? Well she would have come back to me....mmmmm Ive learned to now say what will you be DOING differently not what will be different
Don't miss Elliott's FREE webinar about how to ask better questions in your SFBT sessions, happening October 30th, 2024 at 3PM CST. We hope to see you there! 💚webinars.thesfu.com/sfbt-questions-masterclass-2024-signuptoday
This just made the knowledge I have of SFBT all make sense! Thank you Elliot!
This is so good. I feel like some therapist discredit SFBT because its too simple. But really its just pure awesome and has so much depth
Thank you Elliott for giving your time, knowledge and heart.
As a contractor with a developmental/behavioural service provider, I use SFBT with the youth I work with. In my business consulting world supporting business owners who come to me with technical issues which are made more difficult because they have latent concerns that need to be addressed. Hence SFBT drives the conversation in addressing how to overcome these challenges so they can achieve and sustain the destination.
By the by, Change Management can also benefit from this approach because leadership will drive optimized outcomes by trusting in their people...Servant Leadership, Emotional Quotient, quantifiable stuff.
Thank you for showing that Soft-Skills is the HARD skill that makes relationships work!
I really appreciate this video! I am beginning to use SFBT and needed a basis on the key focal points.
Glad you liked it!
Love it - Clarifies the framework/process as a newbie to this work.
Hi Julianne! I'm glad to hear this video helped. Welcome to the world of SFBT, and thanks for watching!
Hi Elliott! Thanks for the video. As an Intern, my biggest barriers are not having a SFT supervisor and working in a problem-focused workspace. I'm a counselor to juvenile offenders and everyone expects our sessions to be "fixing" their problems. If I had an SFT supervisor I would have someone to help me refine the techniques and call me out when I "switch it up" which probably happens more often than I notice. What you said about practicing is a good idea, I definitely need to connect with other SFT professionals.
I am very glad you like the video and hope it helps you along your journey. I certainly know the frustration of not having an SFBT supervisor!
I feel the exact same way as an intern!
@@enchante6198 I hope my videos can help.
@@TheSolutionFocusedUniverse They do! I so appreciate you!!!!
I enjoyed the expertise in your explaining the way to ask the questions.
I'm in a graduate MFT program right now. Your videos are helping me so much that it is hard to express exactly how much. You do a great job and break it down into simple concepts. I've been struggling with what theory to use in practice as I enter the internship phase. I find it gets more complicated the more I talk to professors and clinicians. Thank you for making this video!
Your insight and wisdom is phenomenal! Thank you for your passion and terrific teaching…snd truly caring about sharing the wealth!!!
Hi, Doris! Thank you for your kind words! I'm so glad that my passion comes through in my teaching. I hope that my videos help you!
Your videos are SO MUCH helpful! Thank you!!!!!!
Great lesson
Elliot! I love your videos, I came across some of your trainings through my work trainings and am currently watching your PESI training. Thank you for making SFBT clear for me. I'm trying to stay on the solution focused road, and wondering if you work on skills on the road if the client wants more coping skills for instance? Or do you stay on the street and tap only into the client's built in resources? I'm going to try and experience SFBT purity but my other training has me itching to to be that expert, so I'm working to resist that.
Thank-you Elliott, for your clarity and enthusiasm. What I am wondering is whether you see any role in therapy for exploration of etiology? that is, does SFBT basically tell us that the past, the how and why of the problem simply doesn't matter? what about Trauma-based problems for example?
I’m an LMFT student. I enjoy your videos. I’ve been using SFT since my teenage years. Was divorced after 30+ years in 2014. I definitely had to use it then. I’m writing a paper on this theory. What is the best “technique”? That’s one of the sections I have to describe. Thank you for the SFT questions PDF. As a teacher and school counselor I’ve used it there as well.
Elliott, is there any research on SFBT and the vagal nerve? I would think that getting people to talk about their strengths and resources, and solutions would activate the parasympathetic nervous system and tone the vagal nerve as people take control. Is there any empirical evidence to support that view.
change can be very frightening, so Im thinking not necessarily, in fact a client can be left with a full on flight / fight response after articulating their strengths resources etc after a session, and go into full Resistance as we know one of the biggest blocks to change is fear, although it is a risk I normalise this and say it's possible you will have a fear reaction to having articulated your best hopes, your resources, this is normal, the important thing is not to attach a big "story" to the feeling, allow yourself to feel it, and gently take yourself back to your resources
I think finding ways to bridge SFT with things like diagnosing, treatment plan, case conceptualization which are components of my community mental health job.
Hey Damon, what do you think of these things? I think the sentence is incomplete.
@@ES12399 You're welcome!
my biggest barrier is feeling like, or wondering how exactly my focusing on the solution is actually accommodating the problem; i.e how 'exactly' this works in e.g. no longer feeling debilitated with anxiety to leave the house or come to school/work; how it 'actually' accommodates my client in not feeling utterly empty and cacooned in blanket of dread - in the most physical sense. most especially clients who say that they have no idea why they feel this way, when there is no obvious past trauma, present stress or pressure on them, and their future seems - at least 'ok' enough (eg off to university etc)? in sum - i struggle (but really want to) 'get' how SFBT achieves this in practice - in real world observable terms? love your vid by the way (ha)
I think a lot of people struggle in this exact same way when they first come across the Solution Focused Approach. The key is to understand that this approach, just as another, requires belief in the process and because we have ben taught that in order to fix a problem we first have to understand it. This is not true and goes against the basis of change. In order to make a change we first have to be able to focus on what is desired, once you understand this then your ability to believe in SFBT will begin.
@@TheSolutionFocusedUniverse I was going to ask something similar. I really like how you gave an overview, but wondering WHY does this work? You mentioned focusing on the solution leads to change. Is it really that simple? Is it b/c the client will naturally make better choices b/c it's fresh on their mind? etc.
@@geauxtime That's a great question. We know the Solution Focused Approach works due to more than 40 years of research supporting its efficacy but exactly why it works is a bit trickier to explain. If you ask 10 different SFBTers you'd likely get 10 different explanations. One thing that we do know for certain that when people hear themselves describe their preferred future and what their lives would look like when their desired outcome is present.
@@TheSolutionFocusedUniverse Thanks for the reply Elliott. One more question: does this even work with insomnia? (i.e., best wish is to sleep well)
@@geauxtime Sure it does. In fact, I have worked with several clients over the years where this was the issue successfully.
Thanks so much for your time and assistance, Elliot. How about with a client that is experiencing grief. Can you mix SFBT with PCT and still be successful? How can I help client through loss with sfbt? Thank you so much. I love all your videos and session and your book! Jeannie
I have a problem with asking in depth questions because I seem to understand what they aren't saying.... so when they give me a very broad answer I understand and tend to go to another question rather than delving into that answer and getting them to give details..
How to best apply in one off telephone counselling sessions of 20 - 30 minute duration with clients counsellor will likely never speak to again, can you please do a video on this Elliott this is often people with enormous resistance around even naming a destination
Solid and practical video!! THANK YOU!
It's a brilliant approach, thanks for sharing. I guess my biggest issue is my own lack of a solution focus...?It does seem to be a practical exhibition of positive regard for the client..
I am glad you like it! It is a practical approach and the good news is, you don't have to have the solution. The client does.
the barrier i experience is with when clients have a perceived lack of resourses and will not shift or more commonly with my client base ( the elderly) their perceived perferred future is difficult to talk about because of progressive illness or the realities of aging getting in the way
I get that, but make sure you persist. Everyone has resources. Absolutely everyone!
I have problems with the structure of SFBT when clients can take the session in many different directions and I wonder if the questions of the model have to be asked in precise order.
Hi Elliott, I’m interested in what the structure of the second session with the client would look like?
I have a video on my TH-cam channel about that somewhere.
When you arrive where you want to go, what will be different?
I love your videos, I’m not a therapist I’m just a layman person inquisitive to learn. Any books you can suggest so I could learn more?
Amazing video- it will help to keep it simple but effective 👌👌👌
Good, I am glad!
@@TheSolutionFocusedUniverse, in my opinion, this video needs to be included in your course - it gave me the confidence that I can DO IT. just something to add to the survey that you sent to me to do. I hope it helps.
Thank you such a great overview. :)
Where are you trying to go?
Hello Elliott as a student Intern utilizing this Systemic model approach with a couple dealing with infidelity. How do I implicate the model with this type of issue, without bringing up the past hurts and help the clients reform to present and future outcomes?
Great video and easy to comprehend. THANKS for sharing.
Thank you for the great video. Because my English is only good enough to understand 90% of what you say,. What if the athlete didn't include the ability of decision making in the list? Were you confident at the beginning that he would including it? What if he thought anything but the ability of decision making had attributed to his success in sports?
Thanks for your video. I am a PhD student as well as teachers.My perssonal training is in CBT. But I attended lectures on SFBT as well. I want know about good mock ,simulated or real session of different therapies for my students . Like you were showing one in another lecture.can you guide me in this regard
I have several of those. Send me an email if interested. elliott@elliottconnie.com
I'm wondering how effective the session would be just like this but without the resource talk.
That depends on who you ask. For me, resources have to be a part of the session in one way or another.
@@TheSolutionFocusedUniverse Thanks!
also in this video you say you have another one that will help me not make the prime mistake people make in SFBT... what's the title of that video as it doesn't come up next on TH-cam.
How do you deal with a narcissist?
14 year old Client has intrusive thoughts that only come out at night..she cannot fall asleep. She will cry herself to sleep and says that works bc she exhausts herself. Help..trying to use SBT
Sometimes Clients want practical solutions not more questions. If they knew the answers they wouldn't be seeking therapy. I incorporate some SFBT but it can be a little abstract.
I think the point of the questions is to bring the answers the client has into the forefront of their minds so they can make changes in their lives. Believe it or not, this approach even works when the client wants practical solutions. In fact, I would say that's when the Solution Focused Approach is at its best.
Can you provide me good books on SFBT?
Impact what they see…😳
What will be different in your life when you there ? Well she would have come back to me....mmmmm Ive learned to now say what will you be DOING differently not what will be different