Fears And Emotions Of A New Autism Father
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todays video is my husband speaking on his real true feelings as a new autism father
his fears and his emotions
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Emma will come into her own at her own time. When my son was diagnosed at 3 I had a therapist tell my husband and I that we should just get used to the idea that he will never speak and never make it passed kindergarten. We walked out of there like we will show you. He’s 13 now and with other therapist and great teachers he’s main stream, just passed to 8th grade, A & B honor roll. He completed his first communion sacrament two years ago and daily he says all his prayers in English and in Spanish. I know it’s scary, we were there once too hang in there she will accomplish so much, take one day at a time & don’t worry Emma will get there too! She’s going to show you everything we worry about as autism parents is not significant especially to them. She is going to open your eyes and heart to so much! 🙏🏽💙🧩
That’s great thank u so much for sharing this with me I can’t wait to see what the future has in store for us as well but I’ll be honest the thought of schools for her scares me. But I know it will all be ok thank u. God bless u
Your so brave for speaking out about your feelings! Remember comparison is a theif . It steals our joy. We have to accept where we are in life to be genuinely happy. God placed Emma in your life for a reason ! I truly believe this is it.. I've told Veronica before that I'm so proud of y'all for speaking out on this because even if i don't experience autism first hand I have to remember to teach my kids how to react to others. In order to teach I need to be educated.
I recently had a situation where my daughter was staring at a guy who lost his legs at dinner and she said "whats wrong with his legs". I said "baby there is nothing wrong with his legs we are all made differently and we treat everyone the same even if they don't look or act just like we do." She simply said "okay mom and went about her day." But if I said don't stare and didn't explain it . It wouldn't be teaching . I appreciate your transparency sorry for the long comment.
Praying for y'all 🙏💕
Praying for this amazing family 🙏
I had to edit my original comment haha I was typing too fast and it got all jumbled. 😅
That’s amazing I wish all parents would teach there kids that way because we are all made equal even if are appearances are different, I live how God made us all unique in our own ways thank you for the comment, And the prayers we can all use more prayers. God bless you
When my son was younger his speech was not there. Today at almost 25 he prays now it’s a prayer I taught him but I praise God for where he is now! No pity party we got y’all!
Yes!!!! Hey he’s still praying (your son) and thats what matters my son is 8 and is also on the spectrum, our children belong to the FATHER and HE hears those prayers no matter what.
I am a speech therapist that works with children with Autism. I understand. Don’t feel bad. All she needs is love and support and I can tell that she has that in both you and your wife. Don’t give up on her. She might surprise you one day. Keep up your faith and keep up your spirits.
Thank u and I appreciate the work u do may God bless you and give you all the wisdom and love u need to work with these amazing kids. God bless u!
I'm an Autism Mom. My Sons 11 and was diagnosed at 3 and remember feeling like i was mourning my Son and all the plans i had for him. Hes my only son and looked forward to him playing football and all that fun stuff you do when you have a son....so when he got diagnosed i felt like my Son was taken from me but when hed look at me i felt like my Son was trapped in his body. At times it still gets hard but i also wouldn't change my Son because theres still so much more to him than just Autism.
That’s really amazing I had that same thought myself about her being stuck in her body and not being able to express the way she is feeling to me but I believe she is just the way God would have her to be and thought I may not be able to always help her I know that God can. Thank u for sharing this with me God bless u!
My daughter has autism, nonverbal, low functioning. She will be 18yrs nxt yr. She has taught me to be a better Christian, person, mother, nurse...better at everything. Bc of her I hv more patience and hv learned to love more like Christ. She is pure innocence and God chose me (ME!) To care for her. (Its like He said "I know u hv the love, courage, strength, & faith to care for someone so special".) I tell her she's my best gift ever. Her mental age is 3...but yes, she does get into others' bubbles, she will leave w strangers, she will wander off and so I have become more vigilant- more of a mother lion. I hv 5 kids & she's the youngest. She is stuck on Dora the Explorer, Blues Clues, & Maisy. She hugs & cuddles, loves the pool & bath time. Her world revolves around innocence...& in a world filled w abuse, porn, murder, corruption & so much other pain...she's my piece of heaven on Earth. U hv been hand-picked by God himself to care for ur baby girl...ur beautiful journey has just begun. God bless u.
My 3 year old son
was recently diagnosed and all these feelings my husband and I are currently go through! I’m so glad I found your channel and can’t wait to see your daughter reach future milestones. *hugs*
Thank u I am really happy u are joining us on this journey. God bless u
This really hit home.You should know how awesome you are.My husband could not handle or should I say didn't want to handle having a son with autism.My son is high functioning but he has a lot of issues.He is seventeen now and is now and has always been a awesome kid.Thanks to my self,his little brother,and my dad he will graduate from high school and even has a little part-time job with my brother.I don't think he knows he missed out on a dad because he had us but I know.God bless you.
Thank u so much m, I could even begin to imagine how difficult it must have been at time’s props to you. Your son is lucky to have a mom like you. God bless you!
My son is 8 now and the biggest issue is anger management ( working on it) . How did your son deal with anger when he was younger and when he became a teenager?
@@VeroLandzaat My son went through alot of problems with anger issues.He mostly did harm to his self during those times .Pulling his hair ,hiting hisself,bitting his nails till they would bleed .We went through alot of therapy before we found things that work for him.All kids are different and I am not a doctor so i am just saying what worked for him.One thing that worked was giving him something he liked to hold so his hands were not free ,get him to sit .He would rock back and forth and scrip.Over the years we have had to go through different things as he got older.Now we are working on how loud he is and how much he talks.
All parents of autistic kids feel this way. So it's not a sin, just a normal reaction. Anger, fear, dispare, hope. believe. Just keep going ♥
Thank u by Gods grace I will!
Wonderful raw account of how it feels. Perfectly normal. But you just have to accept them and work through them and then you become a new you with a different perspective on life and everything.
Yes I agree thanks for your comment God bless u!
So raw and authentic. And tender. Thanks for sharing this intimate thoughts.❤
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It’s not silly. You have to feel your feelings. Very real and raw video. Thank you. Your family is awesome. From a sister in Christ
Love it 🙏
There's nothing wrong with how ur feeling bcos my sister has an Autistic child and and she cries when kids dont play with him (he's 8yrs old) he can't even talk properly yet, but all our family support him and we MAKE him join in and try to involve him in activities and its helped so much.
Both of u guys are doing amazingly just by standing by her and loving her❤ u are gona be fine God gives special children like ur daughter and my nephew to people who he KNOWS are gona be AMAZING about caring for them❤ Be strong and just support eachother, it will be tough but it will be ok bcos u have been CHOSEN to look after God's special gift to u bcos God knows that u are gona pass with flying colours❤ Bless u guys xx
This was so amazing thank you so much for the comment and yes they are definitely very special and amazing children
Thank you for sharing. My grandson has autism. He just turned 4. He is nonverbal. When he was two and in park on a slide he was going slow and kid said hey hey why are you not going down slide. Kept on and i said he doesn't talk. I felt so hurt. He does make eye contact but not always. He is speaking more but not clear except when he says please and thank you. Anyway just thanks for video. Your daughter is beautiful. God bless
Thank u for sharing this with me I think a parents we get super nervous how other kids will treat are kids know I understand why my dad was so protective over me and my brothers.
Thank you for sharing your story.Yous are awesome parents.Brought tears to my eyes.We be praying for Emma.Keep up your Faith.
Aww thank you so much rose we really appreciate it 🙏
My son was bullied just this past school year they had him in a big circle at recess and picking on him kicking him and hitting him. I was so upset because my son was the one to get punished for defending himself and the others did not. Most days I feel just like you.
Oh no that made me cry that’s so horrible poor baby makes me so mad 😡
@@raisingautism8214 oh I tore that school apart I was so upset ,angry, and so many other emotions they had him in the office sweeping and much more. Told them that it was not right he was just going what I have thought him when some one is harming you you do what it takes to get out of that harm.
You are not alone. My boys are 15 and one has autism along with cerebral palsy, hydrocephalus, and epilepsy. I fully understand what you have said about having the love of your child but let me give you some hope. The first 5 years were the hardest and in our case he really started to come around after that. Just know that even if she doesn't show her love for you in a (typical) way she will show it to you in her own unique way very soon. I found your channel due to the Rehoming video you did and you handled your self a whole lot better than I did. Keep up the good work and you will have brighter days and just remember God knows we are the stronger people who can handle what he has given us.
Yes definitely god is in control and definitely choose the perfect and beautiful children we have and thank you so much I appreciate your encouragement
My son has autism. I didn't think we were going to have conversations then when he hit 4 his words started pouring in. Never lose faith!
My 8 year old daughter Emma has autism I can totally relate at times I still breakdown crying not bc me but I think of her future n the worry never leaves the overly protective instincts never leaves but going on e every day life it’s still a challenge but it’s gets easier if that makes sense god doesn’t give us nothing we can’t handle 💪
I completely agree this is why we need to put our faith in God and him alone thank you so much for your comment I appreciate it
Yup I’ve had these exact thoughts! My son is almost 4 years old. He was born premature at 27 weeks. His autism was foreseeable. It’s very hard at times but each moment, each day with my son has helped so much. It’s baby steps, ever since he was born his development were baby steps. My husband and I would do little goals, short term goals and long term goals. For example, he wouldn’t talk at all, he would only do “minion” talk. Now, he knows around 100 words. Our goal right now is for him to form 2-3 word sentences. He can point out letters and count to 29 all by himself. With autism you really need A LOT of patience and be extra supportive! It’s really hard, I personally try my best not to compare him to other kids his age because each child is different, including children with autism. They’re just kiddos that need that extra support. ❤️
Good for you being so honest! My husband had really difficult times when our son was openly rejecting him. Didn't wantmy hudband to cuddle , sit on his lap, take him to bed etc. Made my husband feel really sad to the point of crying. That was also before the diagnosis. So he thought our son just didn't like him. He is our oldest. So his only child just rejected him. While on the other hand ,he was extremely attached to me. If I would leave for church he would say his goodbyes as if I was to leave forever. Crying and trying to run after me. The challenges change as he grows older( he is 8 now). Now the main issue is anger management. We have 5 kids and yes it is very hard for him at times. But home is the best place to practice social skills and with so many others he can not control everything, just like he won't be able to control society. If we notice that he gets overwhelmed we tell him to take a break upstairs. ( Not punishment) usually he is reluctant to do so. But for his own good and the good of the others , he HAS to take a break. God bless you. You're doing the best thing you can asking Him for help.
Thank you for making this video and sharing your struggles. My husband and I had a hard time with the diagnosis and I think my husband a little more. It's not easy and its important for us parents to speak about how we feel.
Yes I agree, and I know women have a different way of showing their emotions than men but yes it is important to speak on how we feel in hopes that I may be able to help somebody else going through the same struggle. God bless u and your family!
My daughter has autism and is 2, my son has autism and he's 8. My husband expressed the same thoughts to me about feeling robbed and I just didn't get it. To me this is my new "normal" since I've been through this with my son..I showed him this video and the feeling robbed part just broke him. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, my husband now has someone he can relate to. Sending lots of love to your family. Can't wait to follow your journey.
That is amazing I am so glad he heard this and can relate that’s the main reason I did this video just wanted to help some one let them know they aren’t alone
It’s natural to be worried for her, but Emma is a joy and blessing. Shower her with lots of love and everything will be okay. I’m sure you are a great father!!
Thank u so much I appreciate it
Great video Anthony. You and Veronica do a great job with Emma. Emma is a very smart little girl. You can see her progress in these videos. I love when she lines everything up. Emma is beautiful and so is your family❤
Thank u so much that is very sweet she is a amazing little girl and super cute I love looking at her little face haha daddy problems lol. God. Bless u!
I can totally relate to this, I work with autistic children at a school, been one on one with a non verbal boy for four years and I feel like I need to protect him all the time, and he’s not even my child, couldn’t imagine how the parents feel, it must be so hard :( some kids laugh and make fun sometimes, but it doesn’t seem to faze him which is good, but I am always there to stick up for him, I feel sorry for him and often think how his life will be when he grows up :( He has come a long way and I hope and pray he will be ok. He is super smart and makes me smile everyday :) I am a mother of 2 girls aged 25 & 27 and doesn’t matter what age your kids are, you will always worry about them. I’m am crazy when it comes to that lol Emma is such a little sweetheart and you guys seem like such loving parents. Keep doing what your doing, I think you both are doing a great job with her, best of luck to you all :)
Wow thank u that’s so awesome that I care so much for a child that is not even yours that’s amazing, thank u for sharing with me. God bless u! Thanks
Thank u for sharing. God def has a plan and all things are possible through him. Dont ever stop praying. Dont feel too sad or worried, that will manifest in yourself. Think of all the things Emma loves what makes her unique and so special? Find what treatment methods work best for her. Anyway i hope your fam finds comfort soon and know that Emma is so special :)
It is hard i get it, i was devastated and i had so much anger at God but then i came to the point where i refused to be angry anymore. Our children belong to him and no matter what i know its easy to take it back but he knows his plans for our children. One thing God told me is HE is bigger Than any diagnosis and i believe it. My son loves Jesus and Emma Will too.
YES!!! I love it thank u so much I know she will the Lord has put it on my heart since the begging. I have always Prayer that Emma’s walk would the Lord would be far greater then mine and her love for God would consume her and her life would be completely dedicated to him. Thank you so much for this message and God bless you!
Much respect to you for sharing your story...I love how amazing you and your wife are...I'm a new sub and I love your channel ♥️Can I ask how long you have been a Christian and how you became a Christian??
Wow Anthony thanks for sharing. This is obviously eye-opening and it is clearly affecting you bad right now. Have you thought about seeking counseling of your own to help overcome struggles during Emma's formative years? Not trying to be too forward, just trying to help ! xx
Thank you for openly sharing your thoughts and feeling, how old is Emma now? And how old when she was diagnosed?
She is 2 1/2 and she was diagnosed when she was 2 and u are very welcome. God bless u
As far as I know because of my autistic cousin, doctors say that the faster she speaks the better she will develop her cognitive system. So if she can say words it is a good signal. It is very important to make her speak. Also if she wants to play with other kids ,no matter how, is very good even it is scary.
My cousin 13 is very lovely with their parents but she cannot talk so she cannot ask for help.
God Bless your family!
Thank u yes she is saying more every week.
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Wonderful video! Do not worry! Its written in the bible 365 times right? And as you said ..worrying too much is a sin, because you damage your health, and you need to provide for your family...your family needs you as healthy as you are now... trust God, He will protect your girl when you cannot. 🙏💝🤗
Wow that was perfectly said thank u so much God bless you