I'm listening while i walk my dog. I came to the comments just to see if i wasn't the only one who didn't believe that he just started lusting over Ms Super Nurse 3 months ago. 😅😅😂
He’s living in a fantasy world. Thinks the woman is perfect, thinks his son can’t wait til he has a girlfriend. He really has the whole dream life in his head. Poor guy. Wait until they’re all living under the same roof. 😂😂😂
He's one of those guys that puts a girl on a pedestal (she's a superhero) and then later devalues her. I'd bet my last dollar he did this in his marriage too. All his answers were too vague and seemed like he was scripting them to sound good to John.
Exactly. A lot of love bombing. She has red flags- the kids, dating a guy that has kids, also even being a superhero nurse could be a red flag if she is swooping in to save him.
I think in some states they make you wait 12 months in case you reconcile. Also, to make sure the wife is not pregnant at the time of the divorce, as it affects the final settlement.
I really hope single moms do not think like him, to introduce your children to a stranger that you don’t even know what the future brings absolutely not. I will never introduce my children to someone I’m dating, unless there’s a ring on my finger, or a conversation about it. Children also get emotionally attached to the other kids or to the person that you’re kind of dating so it’s not fair for them to put them through such emotions unnecessarily.
I would imagine that the reason some states make you wait 12 months before finalizing divorce is because some people change their mind and then it saves a lot of legal back and forth and having to literally remarry.
My parents changed their mind. They had done the formal separation in NC, split everything up with the mediator, and got back together before the year was over
Yes! Separating before making my decision was the only thing that calmed me down enough to know that I was doing the right thing. When Delony made such a blood stupid statement, I could hardly believe it.
Men already have their eyes on the new woman while they are still married. My ex husband was applying for home loans in the state his mistress was in while we were still married. Then tried to say he met her after the divorce
Girl my soon to be ex started dating a girl not even a month in our separation. Kicked me out with kids and I moved away for us while he lived his best life. He moved in with her two months into our separation
My parents divorced when I was too young to remember it, and I’ve never felt that is scarred me so deeply… I think it’s more that there are joys of having parents who are together that I’ll never know. But I also don’t know what I’m missing out on anyway? It’s probably harder for kids who are aware of the whole separation/divorce process as it happens.
Unpopular opinion that I followed - wait til your kids are grown to date. Their lives have been disrupted enough and 2nd marriages are more likely to fail because of all the stresses.
I followed that same advice. Became a single mom when my son was 5 although, I did date at first, it became clear that would be a mistake. No sense in creating more chaos in his life. It ended up being the best thing I ever did. Focused raising him to become a great young man that I proudly say was a success. He’s 23 now and happy. I, however, am still single because I love my life the way it is. Turned out to be a double blessing. Choosing your kids over dating is never the wrong choice.
That is what my mother in law did. She is a smart woman with the biggest heart. My husband and his brother were 10 and 8 respectively when she divorced their father. She never brought anybody home for 10 years, she had male friends but never anything serious. She started dating when my husband and his brother were 18 and 16. By then they were happy for her when she started dating
Mr Sean here thinks grass is greener on the other side. I have a strange feeling he’s giggly feeling will come to a hard stop like a crash test dummy very soon.
The reason he provided for the divorce was his side of the story, but I got a feeling he was scoping out this woman way before he and his wife decided to to get a divorce. I don't see how this won't end up being a hot mess.
My brother remarried FOUR months after his divorce. Lonely, 30something divorced men will do anything not to be alone, including minimizing like this guy.
I think it’s wise to have people separate so they can think things through and not make decisions based off emotions . I’m aware that this is not the best in every situation but I also think people are too quick to divorce and move on . I think divorce is the new epidemic .
My ex left me the end of 2021 and filed for divorce. The divorce & custody was finalized summer of 2022. I am so busy with work & my kids that I have barely even put a thought towards dating, let alone introduce anyone to my kids. It takes time to recover & find the parts of my personality sacrificed to make my (ex) spouse happy. He needs to spend time with his kids, learn to be ok being single & do the single parent tasks, which is everything. Otherwise he's just letting his soon to be ex wife continue to carry the mental load. That's what this sounds like to me because I'm too busy taking care of my kids to be infatuated with anyone...
Mr. Delony knows his stuff. This was very good advice - regarding the kids and regarding the new relationship. He said something like if he would have had this deep communication (which is now required with his new girl friend) with his ex, the marriage could have been saved. That depends very much on the substance of the marriage, in my opinion. I'm a fan of good, clear communication - but there is still more. But of course, there could have been substance - and just misunderstanding (and now everything is fine with the new girl friend, because she just happens to fill what was missing in his marriage - and what would have been his task to fight for within that marriage) ... also possible, there was just no substance... depends
1. I called total bullshit on the I didn't like this girl until 3 months ago thing 2. This guy's got a total fantasy in his head and he's also overestimating how okay his kids are with a divorce. 3. If he goes into this relationship with fantasy and his mind then this relationship will basically end the same way the previous did. But they're definitely no way in hell hes never thought about this woman in a romantic way before 3 months ago
Don't bring your very hurt children into your romantic/sexual chaos. Date her if you will, but leave them in peace. They don't need to be competing with other children for your attention. They don't care if you're happy.
I’m having a hard time with this guy. Divorce for something so fixable. Putting his kids in hell when there was no abuse and dating before he was officially divorced. This guys ridiculous. He is just going to get remarried and drift apart from his next wife and divorce again. That’s not a reason to divorce. It’s just an excuse to be selfish. That means your wedding vows meant nothing. Now no one should be in an abusive relationship but this guy…. Should never date. He’s not serious. It’s all about him.
Something I've learned is that people who give very neutral reasons for divorce are choosing very carefully what they are not saying and don't want you to know how awful it really was. Not in every case (I can't speak to this specific case), but way more often than you'd think
Sounds like he is divorcing his wife FOR this woman that hes known and allowed to be a crush in his mind. And as soon as she became available its time to "grow apart" from your current wife 😮 He so doesnt want to be the bad guy by trying go by the book but its still isnt good dude.
Yep. My dad did this exact same thing, and still maintains that he only developed romantic feelings for my step mom after divorcing my mom. I love my dad but have lost massive respect for him, and will always resent him for thinking my sisters and I are that stupid.
I was married 18 years before we divorced, we’re still great friends. I’ve been single for about two years, and so far have no desire to date. The thought of putting in an effort just doesn’t appeal to me. Okay, back to my video games.
He is not even divorced yet and is asking to introduce his GF to his kids?? Oh wait, its not his GF according to him. He hasnt even dated this woman (if you believe him) and he is already pushing way hard. This affects 5 kids, both parents need to think about this more. Like how does he introduce her? "This is my friend, not GF" but then months later the kids see them kissing. Seems like he is putting the cart before the horse.
I personally think that having to wait a year before a divorce is final is actually a good thing. Unfortunately, my state doesn’t have that I think it gives time for people to reflect and see what it’s like, being separated from that person, and possibly living on their own, and looking back on the relationship and see possibly what wrong and maybe do some amends and perhaps decide to stay together, people head toward divorce quickly because either something happened or somebody’s a little hotheaded it gives a cool down.
It is NOT a dumb law. Believe it nor not, it is based on the notion that a commitment is actually a commitment and that sometimes folks need time apart to think about their decision to end a relationship that could very well result in messing up ones children's sense of family, commitment, safety and guilt. Go figure.
My spouse was abusive and then cheating and so we stayed separate for a year. Even under those circumstances I still understood why we had to wait a year and trust me I was in no rush to jump into another relationship. These people that want to move on so quick seems like they already did a long time ago and is pretty suspicious really.
@@emmarose6590 First off, no one said the woman should stay with the man during that year. Second, your response indicates that you do not believe people can change. Thirdly, no one knows what went on in the Crowder home. A snippet of their interaction does not the entire marriage make. He could be a jerk, he could not be a jerk; she could be annoying complaining obnoxious wife, she could be the cat;s meow. Who knows.
@@maryjones6115 Mary, we saw what went down in the home we have video. Healthy Spouses don’t speak to one another like that. That’s not fighting that abuse
@@emmarose6590 Really? You have 24/7 videos over the past 5 years of what went down in their home? Are you 100% confident those videos were not edited? You do NOT know what happened before or after that section of video that was released by her lawyers/family etc. to bolster her case. Like I said, Steven may be a jerk. But, her may not be too. She may be a pitiful victim forced to stay in a horrible marriage with a man who gaslighted her and said mean things, or she may be a nagging, whiney wife who is never satisfied.
Usually I'm on the man's side. But he was DEFINITELY into his now girl while he was with his ex. And he's acting like a school girl explaining her. 'O, she's a freaking Rockstar and smiles no matter how hard it gets'....Yeah right guy. The same problems are going to pop up with this one. Dude sounds like he's 15. Grow up.
Guy is already whipped. So infatuated. She has played him well. Seems like he is a guy who can't be single. Known her for ten years. That says it all. He is lying about the 3 months. He dumped his wife for this infatuation. Poor ex wife.
He prob kept fantasizing about a life with her while still married and his wife felt the shift in his demeanor and he threw marriage counseling in there as a fix all be all when in reality it wasn’t that. He been left the marriage long ago.
His divorce isn’t finalized and he already wants to introduce his kids? People are so dumb. Leave the kids out of it! She’s a super hero . Oh jeeez. This type of guy showers you with affection and nice words until one day he doesn’t …🙄🙄🙄🙄. He sounds whooped , love bombing her and most likely didn’t even compliment his own wife . This guy has no clue . He’s talked for 3 months ? ??? He’s lying. I don’t believe a word out of his mouth . He was good friends with a female while he was married and I’m disappointed John didn’t get more intro that and how inappropriate that is! That’s why it was easy to leave - he had eyes on her already . This guy is all about fantasies .
The 12 month law is meant to be a deterrent to divorce which I hope we can agree is an evil to society. Sometimes people do reconcile too. Hello. Marriage is sacred and should not easily and quickly be done away with.
I am in this situation. You don’t know till you been there. You don’t want to be there. You don’t want your kids to be there. The fact that some one taps out ans doesn’t want to fight when you are fighting for your marriage. You don’t want to be there. It hard. And a hard topic.
@@user-qp2qe5gf9b thanks. I would agree with you. And the very topic of conversation is important. In my new relationship that has been the priority. I am amazed by how many times I have to think then ask then think then ask and listen and think again before I understand what is being conveyed.
@@matthewfournier6478 I'm just starting to do that. It is so hard to really get to the bottom of what you and the other person need. There is so much misunderstanding, so much good will gone wrong, so much hurt that actually stams from deep core-wounds and that you are projecting - and even if you try to talk, it can easily become emotilnally - and you still have to communicate and not give up. It's so hard.
Sounds like he is smitten with this woman. Wait for the newness is over. Do you really want to have this effect 6 children? Is that fair? No it isn't. Take care of your kids please!
He sounds delusional 😂 Unfamily court with their child support calculator will run away any woman, especially an ER nurse! If she moves in or they marry her income can factor in to his child support payment!!!!!!😮
I don't know you but you think your life is rockey ? Interesting I have NO CONSENT TO OFFICIALLY DO ANYTHING BUT AGREE, GOD BLESS YOU JD! Happy Holidays 🎉⛄🎉
Hey, at least is not like their mother is dating someone 3 days after she break up with him and introduced the daughter to her new partner 1 week after she started dating while still married and 2 weeks after her getting introduced and living with him didn't put the respective boundaries to them and now the daughter is calling the other person dad even tho I have always been present on everything for both of them. I guess it could be worse, but such is life, I guess.
Unless you meet the other personas ex, you don't know what happened in the marriage. My ex Paul Brian Baca in Sandia in Albuquerque has never told me lm a super hero, yet he told his mother atleast once a week.
Wants to know how to integrate his kids into a new family when the divorce isn’t even finalized and he’s still in the talking phase with his new not-quite-gf? Hoo boy.
He's in total emotional survival mode. All the symptoms like idealizing and pedestaling the woman "she's so perfect and such a super-hero" you can hear the pretense in his voice when he describes the other woman. Romanticizing the relationship and the blended franken-family. He's fantasized about how it's going to look and all the other naive infatuation phase fallacies. Divorce is crushing and being single with kids is an existential shock, especially for men who have less support than a woman on average. Very easy to jump into something new with the rose-colored glasses. And she's a freaking divorced nurse with multiple kids...God she's a walking talking time bomb full of stress and anxiety. $1000 bucks says she tattooed, full of pent-up anger and trauma bonds. Take it slow bro.
Being divorced as a man is like being mauled by a tiger. This guy can't wait climb in the enclosure. Just wow. What word salad on why the first divorce happened. Answer she thought she could do better. We grew apart sure. Dating a single mom a nurse of all things she's working on husband #2 the double dip.
For the love of God good Doctor stop telling people to call back when you have zero intentions on actually following up and putting those follow up calls on-line for everyone to hear. How the hell is the Dave Ramsay team not noticing this deatail !?!?
Reading the comments here brings me a lot of insights from the situation im currently in as well, very similar to this caller. Except im the soon to be ex wife. I tell my kids that im glad daddy is happy. And truly i am happy for him, that is how much i love him. I can't force someone to love me, i wish i could be everything he was looking for and financially successful but then would he truly love ke for who i am nd not just for money and security. As much as i shield my pain, regrets and embarrassments, i know its not all about me nor him & whatever "rockstar superhero" hes with, Its about our children and their well- being. I don't think im bad looking and have been asked for my number ssoo many times (im flattered by the way what can i say) but im not ready nor are my children. Im just here in the background making sure my children get the love and attention and important life skills they need and will continue to need of me, their mother. I live with the fact that at the age of 36 with 4 kids under the age of 12 ill wont have my good looks for long but if there is in this planet a man who will love me for ME then im okay and im destined to be alone then im okay with that too. As long as my kids r happy and well
I honestly believe you should only introduce your man or woman if you've set a wedding date and plan on a commitment like that. Don't rotate boyfriend and girlfriends around your kids. Keep your dating life private as to not confuse them. My mom had two boyfriends after my dad and I was horrible to them off the bat 😆 they didn't stick around long. She should not have introduced them to me. I was evil 😆. I made a cup of coffee for one and put salt in instead of sugar.
@Catherine I was a little child then. She fell ill soon after so she really couldn't date anyone until she got better. She had a few relationships after I moved out but they were toxic. I didn't speak to her for 10 years because I needed to work on my own issues. We've been reconciled the last 10 years and it's been a great relationship with lots of forgiveness and stuff. She's 65 now and her man now is 47 and he treats and spoils her like a queen. So, yes I'm happy for her to finally be happy with a decent person even this late in age. I don't know how he keeps up with her lol she is full of life.
I'm girlfriend number 3. He introduced his last girlfriend to his kids after 6 months dating. He moved the mom out and she had to move in with her mom and the girlfriend moved in. They then celebrated one of the kids birthday together and the mom of his kids got the girlfriend alone and started on the manipulation. The girlfriend left and the kids were heart broken, but mom was back in her place. That was about 4 years ago. I met him 2 years ago and he's not introduced his kids to me which are now in their teens and I'm actually fine with it. I'd love to meet them, but if this is not going anywhere then why the unnecessary drama. I have my own place, job and income and no kids. As soon as she found out he was dating again she put the thumbscrews on him. So now we've just been meeting up in secret, but she knows about me, but I think she thinks I'm not in the picture and she succeeded manipulating me away. Not sure if I could even handle 3 kids if I met them, let alone these adults acting like children. That's what happens when you're codependent and need to stay with your spouse for financial and other reasons. They have a pretty large family too that adds to the keeping up the status quo pressure. Last thing I need is lies and drama of being accused of messing with the kids or whatever else she or his family could come up with. They all live in separate houses on his mother's property in Alabama. People go missing in swamps and hog pens in Alabama 😆. Like, I would love to meet his kids...but then again I'd rather not. Well just keep it going this way for the next 5 years and they're all 18. I came from a single mom situation so the last thing I'd want to do is alienate him from his kids. I have much respect for him providing for his family and I support him emotionally in doing so. I'm 44 and I've lived my life, I have no needs really so whatever money time or affections should go towards the kid...and her...if it keeps her happy. He's a truck driver so he only goes home once every 3 months for a week or so and he calls home daily etc. We drive on the same route so I see him every other day and on the weekends, so it's not like I'm taking time away from his kids by being with him. He's already really not home much. I don't think there should be pressure about meeting the kids. It might be a bit awkward to explain to them later on how I was in the picture all these years but now, but that's on him as the father to decide. So far I'm content with the arrangements,but I also don't have kids so I wouldn't quite know how to judge any of it and it's not my place...I'm not trying to be bonus mom or step mom or anything, but if I was invited to contribute in any way I would embrace it. My main concern is his health and wellbeing out here on the road because he also suffers from ptsd and depression and he says the mother of his kids is diagnosed bipolar depression. I'd be depressed too, being in a situation where I am being lied to on a daily because I wouldn't let the man go and be in the relationship he wants to be so I rather have him lie about being with another woman. I don't really like being the secret, but if it keeps the peace...sure thing. When we first met he had me on a secret three way phone call where he had his parents in the background and was telling him about his unwillingness to make the relationship with her work out. His dad sounded really supportive and his mom blew a top. His dad passed away last year. Seems like all the women in his family are super controlling and manipulative. I just hope his mom doesn't clench down on him and makes him the emotional incest love interest husband father substitute. It's a possibility there too. I'm just here for the man 😆 not for all that cray cray.
AQUA is the forever side chick who will lose every round. How do we know? B/c the man who is using you is a slave to the mother of his kids. BY CHOICE. He likes it that way. It's their own brand of sickness and you ain't gonna change it. The mother of his children is only as powerful as HE LETS HER BE. Fun game of guess who: "I'd be depressed too, being in a situation where I am being lied to on a daily because I wouldn't let the man go and be in the relationship he wants to be so I rather have him lie about being with another woman." That's right! It's AQUA who won't let the man go and he is LYING TO YOU about being with another woman. What a loser to LIE to his parents that it wasn't just him on the phone telling them about his upcoming divorce. He LIES to his kids, LIES to his parents, LIES to his exwife and LIES to YOU. There is nothing sacred for him. If it suits him (meaning he is chicken s&$@), he does it. Gross.
Wow you don’t even realize that you’re in the cray cray and are a willing participant. He lying to you all including you. Good luck with it because it will blow up big time.
Yikes!!! Who in the h*** wants to live that way? I am sorry but you are the side chick.... It's your decision to put up with this. You certainly don't have to and definitely don't deserve to! Your bf is controlled by the ex wife. Aka balls in her purse syndrome. Sad... You can do so much better than that! ❤️
Nothing like having a friendship with a dude for 10 years who suddenly thinks you're attractive after a recent divorce and 2-3 kids.
Yeah, happens all the time, totally normal lol
Rebound guy
That stuff doesn’t worl
I'm listening while i walk my dog. I came to the comments just to see if i wasn't the only one who didn't believe that he just started lusting over Ms Super Nurse 3 months ago. 😅😅😂
Right?! All his answers just made my skin crawl. All of them.
He’s gross
Yeah I am sure the crushing started long ago 😅
@@bethford6884 same here!
@@raspberrykissable exactly! 😆 🤣
He’s living in a fantasy world. Thinks the woman is perfect, thinks his son can’t wait til he has a girlfriend. He really has the whole dream life in his head.
Poor guy. Wait until they’re all living under the same roof. 😂😂😂
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He loves that she makes her own money and will probably end up taking care of his kids on his parenting time
I’m so embarrassed for this guy!
They'll get Marry than less than five years later divorce #2. This guy's getting ready to get steamrolled.
Truth. She's raising kids alone but where did the 5 year old come from?
He's one of those guys that puts a girl on a pedestal (she's a superhero) and then later devalues her. I'd bet my last dollar he did this in his marriage too. All his answers were too vague and seemed like he was scripting them to sound good to John.
Yes, that is how I understand him. I hope he isn't a narcissist.
Bingo
Exactly. A lot of love bombing. She has red flags- the kids, dating a guy that has kids, also even being a superhero nurse could be a red flag if she is swooping in to save him.
After knowing-liking her for ten years..
"When did you have feelings for her?"
"Probably about three months ago"...
😂 😂
Right. He's a liar
Right. 3 months ago. He sounds like he’s ready for marriage with a woman he doesn’t really know.
@@JustActNormal he broke up with his ex, due to his infatuation. Bet he cheated, at least emotionally.
This guy is sad
Right, he is lying his butt off lol
I think in some states they make you wait 12 months in case you reconcile. Also, to make sure the wife is not pregnant at the time of the divorce, as it affects the final settlement.
I really hope single moms do not think like him, to introduce your children to a stranger that you don’t even know what the future brings absolutely not. I will never introduce my children to someone I’m dating, unless there’s a ring on my finger, or a conversation about it. Children also get emotionally attached to the other kids or to the person that you’re kind of dating so it’s not fair for them to put them through such emotions unnecessarily.
Or worse teenage kids in same house playing brother and sister then little sara is pregnant lol
Even when a man is bringing it up somehow women still get brought into this conversation and get blamed
I would imagine that the reason some states make you wait 12 months before finalizing divorce is because some people change their mind and then it saves a lot of legal back and forth and having to literally remarry.
My parents changed their mind. They had done the formal separation in NC, split everything up with the mediator, and got back together before the year was over
Yes! Separating before making my decision was the only thing that calmed me down enough to know that I was doing the right thing. When Delony made such a blood stupid statement, I could hardly believe it.
Men already have their eyes on the new woman while they are still married. My ex husband was applying for home loans in the state his mistress was in while we were still married. Then tried to say he met her after the divorce
Girl my soon to be ex started dating a girl not even a month in our separation. Kicked me out with kids and I moved away for us while he lived his best life. He moved in with her two months into our separation
He’s lusting over this new woman. But he should wait until the 🤤 drooling is gone and the relationship is stable before bringing kids into this.
He definitely crushed on this girl while he was with his ex. I'd like to hear his ex side of things
I’d like for her to call in!!
She probably had someone too.
@@T-CainesZR1 most likely she was raising his children while he was skirting around with the “friend”. Most mothers don’t have free time to cheat.
@@eclipse.5295 Lol, no.
@@eclipse.5295 Yes without any information whatsoever we can glean that it was all his fault and she was a saint.
My parents divorced when I was too young to remember it, and I’ve never felt that is scarred me so deeply… I think it’s more that there are joys of having parents who are together that I’ll never know. But I also don’t know what I’m missing out on anyway? It’s probably harder for kids who are aware of the whole separation/divorce process as it happens.
Me too. But when I see intact families, I kind of get an inkling.
It was the opposite experience for me 😅 my parents constantly arguing until their divorce messed me up more than them divorcing.
Unpopular opinion that I followed - wait til your kids are grown to date. Their lives have been disrupted enough and 2nd marriages are more likely to fail because of all the stresses.
I followed that same advice. Became a single mom when my son was 5 although, I did date at first, it became clear that would be a mistake. No sense in creating more chaos in his life. It ended up being the best thing I ever did. Focused raising him to become a great young man that I proudly say was a success. He’s 23 now and happy. I, however, am still single because I love my life the way it is. Turned out to be a double blessing. Choosing your kids over dating is never the wrong choice.
That is what my mother in law did. She is a smart woman with the biggest heart. My husband and his brother were 10 and 8 respectively when she divorced their father. She never brought anybody home for 10 years, she had male friends but never anything serious. She started dating when my husband and his brother were 18 and 16. By then they were happy for her when she started dating
ur opinion should be popular-u right
I did that. My daughter is over 30, and I have no regrets.
Mr Sean here thinks grass is greener on the other side. I have a strange feeling he’s giggly feeling will come to a hard stop like a crash test dummy very soon.
The reason he provided for the divorce was his side of the story, but I got a feeling he was scoping out this woman way before he and his wife decided to to get a divorce. I don't see how this won't end up being a hot mess.
My brother remarried FOUR months after his divorce. Lonely, 30something divorced men will do anything not to be alone, including minimizing like this guy.
I think it’s wise to have people separate so they can think things through and not make decisions based off emotions . I’m aware that this is not the best in every situation but I also think people are too quick to divorce and move on . I think divorce is the new epidemic .
My ex left me the end of 2021 and filed for divorce. The divorce & custody was finalized summer of 2022. I am so busy with work & my kids that I have barely even put a thought towards dating, let alone introduce anyone to my kids. It takes time to recover & find the parts of my personality sacrificed to make my (ex) spouse happy. He needs to spend time with his kids, learn to be ok being single & do the single parent tasks, which is everything. Otherwise he's just letting his soon to be ex wife continue to carry the mental load. That's what this sounds like to me because I'm too busy taking care of my kids to be infatuated with anyone...
It's hard for me to listen too.
Dang some people move on quick i tell ya.
Edit: known and liked for 10 years? 🧐
Tell me you had an affair without telling me you had an affair 🙄
@@eclipse.5295 Well, even if he didn't it don't look good😅
Maybe I am naive, perhaps nothing happened between them prior
@@eclipse.5295right
Mr. Delony knows his stuff. This was very good advice - regarding the kids and regarding the new relationship. He said something like if he would have had this deep communication (which is now required with his new girl friend) with his ex, the marriage could have been saved. That depends very much on the substance of the marriage, in my opinion. I'm a fan of good, clear communication - but there is still more. But of course, there could have been substance - and just misunderstanding (and now everything is fine with the new girl friend, because she just happens to fill what was missing in his marriage - and what would have been his task to fight for within that marriage) ... also possible, there was just no substance... depends
I have nothing nice to say so that is all I will say.
1. I called total bullshit on the I didn't like this girl until 3 months ago thing
2. This guy's got a total fantasy in his head and he's also overestimating how okay his kids are with a divorce.
3. If he goes into this relationship with fantasy and his mind then this relationship will basically end the same way the previous did.
But they're definitely no way in hell hes never thought about this woman in a romantic way before 3 months ago
Don't bring your very hurt children into your romantic/sexual chaos. Date her if you will, but leave them in peace. They don't need to be competing with other children for your attention. They don't care if you're happy.
I’m having a hard time with this guy. Divorce for something so fixable. Putting his kids in hell when there was no abuse and dating before he was officially divorced. This guys ridiculous. He is just going to get remarried and drift apart from his next wife and divorce again. That’s not a reason to divorce. It’s just an excuse to be selfish. That means your wedding vows meant nothing. Now no one should be in an abusive relationship but this guy…. Should never date. He’s not serious. It’s all about him.
Something I've learned is that people who give very neutral reasons for divorce are choosing very carefully what they are not saying and don't want you to know how awful it really was. Not in every case (I can't speak to this specific case), but way more often than you'd think
Sounds like he is divorcing his wife FOR this woman that hes known and allowed to be a crush in his mind. And as soon as she became available its time to "grow apart" from your current wife 😮
He so doesnt want to be the bad guy by trying go by the book but its still isnt good dude.
Yep. My dad did this exact same thing, and still maintains that he only developed romantic feelings for my step mom after divorcing my mom. I love my dad but have lost massive respect for him, and will always resent him for thinking my sisters and I are that stupid.
I was married 18 years before we divorced, we’re still great friends. I’ve been single for about two years, and so far have no desire to date. The thought of putting in an effort just doesn’t appeal to me. Okay, back to my video games.
He is not even divorced yet and is asking to introduce his GF to his kids?? Oh wait, its not his GF according to him. He hasnt even dated this woman (if you believe him) and he is already pushing way hard. This affects 5 kids, both parents need to think about this more. Like how does he introduce her? "This is my friend, not GF" but then months later the kids see them kissing. Seems like he is putting the cart before the horse.
Yes, this dude is full of crap.
I personally think that having to wait a year before a divorce is final is actually a good thing. Unfortunately, my state doesn’t have that I think it gives time for people to reflect and see what it’s like, being separated from that person, and possibly living on their own, and looking back on the relationship and see possibly what wrong and maybe do some amends and perhaps decide to stay together, people head toward divorce quickly because either something happened or somebody’s a little hotheaded it gives a cool down.
It is NOT a dumb law. Believe it nor not, it is based on the notion that a commitment is actually a commitment and that sometimes folks need time apart to think about their decision to end a relationship that could very well result in messing up ones children's sense of family, commitment, safety and guilt. Go figure.
My spouse was abusive and then cheating and so we stayed separate for a year. Even under those circumstances I still understood why we had to wait a year and trust me I was in no rush to jump into another relationship. These people that want to move on so quick seems like they already did a long time ago and is pretty suspicious really.
Eh abuse can be sometimes hard to prove unless you have video proof like in Steven crowders case, that’s where I don’t agree with it.
@@emmarose6590 First off, no one said the woman should stay with the man during that year. Second, your response indicates that you do not believe people can change. Thirdly, no one knows what went on in the Crowder home. A snippet of their interaction does not the entire marriage make. He could be a jerk, he could not be a jerk; she could be annoying complaining obnoxious wife, she could be the cat;s meow. Who knows.
@@maryjones6115 Mary, we saw what went down in the home we have video. Healthy Spouses don’t speak to one another like that. That’s not fighting that abuse
@@emmarose6590 Really? You have 24/7 videos over the past 5 years of what went down in their home? Are you 100% confident those videos were not edited? You do NOT know what happened before or after that section of video that was released by her lawyers/family etc. to bolster her case. Like I said, Steven may be a jerk. But, her may not be too. She may be a pitiful victim forced to stay in a horrible marriage with a man who gaslighted her and said mean things, or she may be a nagging, whiney wife who is never satisfied.
Honestly I’m impressed by the comment section. Not what I thought it was going to be
Step one: get divorced first
Usually I'm on the man's side. But he was DEFINITELY into his now girl while he was with his ex. And he's acting like a school girl explaining her. 'O, she's a freaking Rockstar and smiles no matter how hard it gets'....Yeah right guy. The same problems are going to pop up with this one. Dude sounds like he's 15. Grow up.
Guy is already whipped. So infatuated. She has played him well. Seems like he is a guy who can't be single. Known her for ten years. That says it all. He is lying about the 3 months. He dumped his wife for this infatuation. Poor ex wife.
He prob kept fantasizing about a life with her while still married and his wife felt the shift in his demeanor and he threw marriage counseling in there as a fix all be all when in reality it wasn’t that. He been left the marriage long ago.
Statistically, this guy is a big risk to the ROCKSTAR's kids. Why is she so willing to throw her kids to the wolves?
You fit right in on this channel "are you safe"? Blink twice if you scared.
@@djpuplexif you ever have kids and your ex starts bringing random dudes around them, you'll understand. Especially if you have a daughter.
@@RepentImmediatelyI actually agree with you if you look at statistically who's likely to sexually abuse a child that scenario is near the top.
His divorce isn’t finalized and he already wants to introduce his kids? People are so dumb. Leave the kids out of it! She’s a super hero . Oh jeeez. This type of guy showers you with affection and nice words until one day he doesn’t …🙄🙄🙄🙄. He sounds whooped , love bombing her and most likely didn’t even compliment his own wife . This guy has no clue . He’s talked for 3 months ? ??? He’s lying. I don’t believe a word out of his mouth . He was good friends with a female while he was married and I’m disappointed John didn’t get more intro that and how inappropriate that is! That’s why it was easy to leave - he had eyes on her already . This guy is all about fantasies .
This!!!!!!
Yea. His wife is lucky to be rid of him.
@@eclipse.5295I added more the message 😅. I’m so disgusted with this guy. He’s so dumb. He’s in a fantasy and rushing into it.
He probably calls her a superhero because he wants to dumb a bunch more tasks and responsibilities onto her. I feel sorry for both ladies involved
@@kathyalex778 😂😂😂
When they're adults and out of the house, dude. Kids don't need or deserve you screwing up their lives even more.
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Kids aren’t puppets, to play with to toss back. This is embarrassing for you caller. I think your wife tossed you out thanks to this ER nurse.
The 12 month law is meant to be a deterrent to divorce which I hope we can agree is an evil to society. Sometimes people do reconcile too. Hello. Marriage is sacred and should not easily and quickly be done away with.
People marrying the wrong people is the evil to society.
What a horrible reason to divorce. Now the kids will never be the same. Ban no fault divorce
I am in this situation. You don’t know till you been there. You don’t want to be there. You don’t want your kids to be there. The fact that some one taps out ans doesn’t want to fight when you are fighting for your marriage. You don’t want to be there. It hard. And a hard topic.
@@user-qp2qe5gf9b thanks. I would agree with you. And the very topic of conversation is important. In my new relationship that has been the priority. I am amazed by how many times I have to think then ask then think then ask and listen and think again before I understand what is being conveyed.
@@matthewfournier6478 I'm just starting to do that. It is so hard to really get to the bottom of what you and the other person need. There is so much misunderstanding, so much good will gone wrong, so much hurt that actually stams from deep core-wounds and that you are projecting - and even if you try to talk, it can easily become emotilnally - and you still have to communicate and not give up. It's so hard.
How is that new relationship going?
Dragging in some new chick is a terrible idea that soon...
But but he has to prove to her he’s an amazing dad! 🙄
The bookies have the new situation at:
Years Over/Under: 2.6
@@eclipse.5295 and wanted by other women! She must pay for her mistake!
My word.....
Poor children.
Sounds like he is smitten with this woman. Wait for the newness is over. Do you really want to have this effect 6 children? Is that fair? No it isn't. Take care of your kids please!
He sounds delusional 😂 Unfamily court with their child support calculator will run away any woman, especially an ER nurse! If she moves in or they marry her income can factor in to his child support payment!!!!!!😮
Single mother ER Nurse with 3 children--Run 🤣
I don't know you but you think your life is rockey ? Interesting I have NO CONSENT TO OFFICIALLY DO ANYTHING BUT AGREE, GOD BLESS YOU JD! Happy Holidays 🎉⛄🎉
This guy’s story is why I never date any guy who’s divorce isn’t finalized yet (and really, more time is probably still needed).
He's lookin for a replacement momma and that's pretty much it.
Great advice
Who do you think you are? JLo?
I thought of Ben Affleck and JLO too lol. But at least Ben waited a bit or seemingly.
Hey, at least is not like their mother is dating someone 3 days after she break up with him and introduced the daughter to her new partner 1 week after she started dating while still married and 2 weeks after her getting introduced and living with him didn't put the respective boundaries to them and now the daughter is calling the other person dad even tho I have always been present on everything for both of them. I guess it could be worse, but such is life, I guess.
Bro you’re trippin .
Seems like there's more to the story here. His ex probably kicked his ass to the curb because he was cheating either emotionally or physically
He should give himself some time
he is a liar
100%
Unless you meet the other personas ex, you don't know what happened in the marriage. My ex Paul Brian Baca in Sandia in Albuquerque has never told me lm a super hero, yet he told his mother atleast once a week.
The caller is a huge reflag to me.
Wants to know how to integrate his kids into a new family when the divorce isn’t even finalized and he’s still in the talking phase with his new not-quite-gf? Hoo boy.
The pitiful step mother. Don’t do it.
Dr. Phil says more than one year.
He's in total emotional survival mode. All the symptoms like idealizing and pedestaling the woman "she's so perfect and such a super-hero" you can hear the pretense in his voice when he describes the other woman. Romanticizing the relationship and the blended franken-family. He's fantasized about how it's going to look and all the other naive infatuation phase fallacies. Divorce is crushing and being single with kids is an existential shock, especially for men who have less support than a woman on average. Very easy to jump into something new with the rose-colored glasses. And she's a freaking divorced nurse with multiple kids...God she's a walking talking time bomb full of stress and anxiety. $1000 bucks says she tattooed, full of pent-up anger and trauma bonds. Take it slow bro.
Being divorced as a man is like being mauled by a tiger. This guy can't wait climb in the enclosure. Just wow. What word salad on why the first divorce happened. Answer she thought she could do better. We grew apart sure. Dating a single mom a nurse of all things she's working on husband #2 the double dip.
For the love of God good Doctor stop telling people to call back when you have zero intentions on actually following up and putting those follow up calls on-line for everyone to hear. How the hell is the Dave Ramsay team not noticing this deatail !?!?
Reading the comments here brings me a lot of insights from the situation im currently in as well, very similar to this caller. Except im the soon to be ex wife. I tell my kids that im glad daddy is happy. And truly i am happy for him, that is how much i love him. I can't force someone to love me, i wish i could be everything he was looking for and financially successful but then would he truly love ke for who i am nd not just for money and security. As much as i shield my pain, regrets and embarrassments, i know its not all about me nor him & whatever "rockstar superhero" hes with, Its about our children and their well- being. I don't think im bad looking and have been asked for my number ssoo many times (im flattered by the way what can i say) but im not ready nor are my children. Im just here in the background making sure my children get the love and attention and important life skills they need and will continue to need of me, their mother. I live with the fact that at the age of 36 with 4 kids under the age of 12 ill wont have my good looks for long but if there is in this planet a man who will love me for ME then im okay and im destined to be alone then im okay with that too. As long as my kids r happy and well
You kinda sound bitter.
@@iketi256no she doesn’t. He is a dog
I honestly believe you should only introduce your man or woman if you've set a wedding date and plan on a commitment like that.
Don't rotate boyfriend and girlfriends around your kids. Keep your dating life private as to not confuse them.
My mom had two boyfriends after my dad and I was horrible to them off the bat 😆 they didn't stick around long.
She should not have introduced them to me. I was evil 😆.
I made a cup of coffee for one and put salt in instead of sugar.
Don’t be proud of your actions. Your life is not over yet.
You bad girl 😅
I like you already.
I wouldn't classify that as evil lol. Obnoxious maybe, but evil is a stretch imo.
@Catherine I was a little child then. She fell ill soon after so she really couldn't date anyone until she got better.
She had a few relationships after I moved out but they were toxic.
I didn't speak to her for 10 years because I needed to work on my own issues.
We've been reconciled the last 10 years and it's been a great relationship with lots of forgiveness and stuff.
She's 65 now and her man now is 47 and he treats and spoils her like a queen.
So, yes I'm happy for her to finally be happy with a decent person even this late in age. I don't know how he keeps up with her lol she is full of life.
I'm girlfriend number 3. He introduced his last girlfriend to his kids after 6 months dating. He moved the mom out and she had to move in with her mom and the girlfriend moved in.
They then celebrated one of the kids birthday together and the mom of his kids got the girlfriend alone and started on the manipulation. The girlfriend left and the kids were heart broken, but mom was back in her place. That was about 4 years ago.
I met him 2 years ago and he's not introduced his kids to me which are now in their teens and I'm actually fine with it.
I'd love to meet them, but if this is not going anywhere then why the unnecessary drama.
I have my own place, job and income and no kids. As soon as she found out he was dating again she put the thumbscrews on him.
So now we've just been meeting up in secret, but she knows about me, but I think she thinks I'm not in the picture and she succeeded manipulating me away.
Not sure if I could even handle 3 kids if I met them, let alone these adults acting like children.
That's what happens when you're codependent and need to stay with your spouse for financial and other reasons.
They have a pretty large family too that adds to the keeping up the status quo pressure.
Last thing I need is lies and drama of being accused of messing with the kids or whatever else she or his family could come up with.
They all live in separate houses on his mother's property in Alabama.
People go missing in swamps and hog pens in Alabama 😆.
Like, I would love to meet his kids...but then again I'd rather not.
Well just keep it going this way for the next 5 years and they're all 18.
I came from a single mom situation so the last thing I'd want to do is alienate him from his kids.
I have much respect for him providing for his family and I support him emotionally in doing so.
I'm 44 and I've lived my life, I have no needs really so whatever money time or affections should go towards the kid...and her...if it keeps her happy.
He's a truck driver so he only goes home once every 3 months for a week or so and he calls home daily etc.
We drive on the same route so I see him every other day and on the weekends, so it's not like I'm taking time away from his kids by being with him. He's already really not home much.
I don't think there should be pressure about meeting the kids.
It might be a bit awkward to explain to them later on how I was in the picture all these years but now, but that's on him as the father to decide.
So far I'm content with the arrangements,but I also don't have kids so I wouldn't quite know how to judge any of it and it's not my place...I'm not trying to be bonus mom or step mom or anything, but if I was invited to contribute in any way I would embrace it.
My main concern is his health and wellbeing out here on the road because he also suffers from ptsd and depression and he says the mother of his kids is diagnosed bipolar depression.
I'd be depressed too, being in a situation where I am being lied to on a daily because I wouldn't let the man go and be in the relationship he wants to be so I rather have him lie about being with another woman.
I don't really like being the secret, but if it keeps the peace...sure thing.
When we first met he had me on a secret three way phone call where he had his parents in the background and was telling him about his unwillingness to make the relationship with her work out.
His dad sounded really supportive and his mom blew a top.
His dad passed away last year.
Seems like all the women in his family are super controlling and manipulative.
I just hope his mom doesn't clench down on him and makes him the emotional incest love interest husband father substitute.
It's a possibility there too.
I'm just here for the man 😆 not for all that cray cray.
You’re cray cray. This whole novel is nothing but pure foolishness.
AQUA is the forever side chick who will lose every round. How do we know? B/c the man who is using you is a slave to the mother of his kids. BY CHOICE. He likes it that way. It's their own brand of sickness and you ain't gonna change it. The mother of his children is only as powerful as HE LETS HER BE. Fun game of guess who: "I'd be depressed too, being in a situation where I am being lied to on a daily because I wouldn't let the man go and be in the relationship he wants to be so I rather have him lie about being with another woman." That's right! It's AQUA who won't let the man go and he is LYING TO YOU about being with another woman. What a loser to LIE to his parents that it wasn't just him on the phone telling them about his upcoming divorce. He LIES to his kids, LIES to his parents, LIES to his exwife and LIES to YOU. There is nothing sacred for him. If it suits him (meaning he is chicken s&$@), he does it. Gross.
Wow you don’t even realize that you’re in the cray cray and are a willing participant. He lying to you all including you. Good luck with it because it will blow up big time.
RUN
Yikes!!! Who in the h*** wants to live that way? I am sorry but you are the side chick.... It's your decision to put up with this. You certainly don't have to and definitely don't deserve to! Your bf is controlled by the ex wife. Aka balls in her purse syndrome. Sad... You can do so much better than that! ❤️