This is such a relief to hear from someone else. You are definitely not alone, dude. I'm shit at showering often. I'm at twice a week and I feel horrible about it. My goal is every other day. I once showered everyday for a week and my hair and skin HATED me for it so every other day it is! I believe in you! You've got this!!!
I am a plus size transboy and have honestly not taken proper care of my teeth and gained some weight. I have a handful of cavities and have dyed my hair randomly and impulsively. So I understand how you feel.
Love you, love your content. I have been struggling in the exact same way - not showering, not brushing teeth, napping several hours a day, not reading the things I want to read or doing the activities I set my mind to, falling behind on my goals, etc. I just want to say - none of this is a moral failing. These are all morally neutral things. There is no ethical problem with not being a hygienic person, or sleeping a lot, or not being productive. None of those things makes you a bad person. Someone can shower every day, have perfect skin and clean clothes every day and work a full 40hrs and also be a racist or murderer. Shame is a terrible motivator. It just makes things harder. The struggles you are facing are almost entirely functional, not personal. So as nice as it would be too not sleep in every morning, what would be even nicer is not beating yourself up when you do. That little bit of extra kindness and ease, even just having a neutral "I am allowed to exist" attitude will be a lifelong friend for you, rather than just help you achieve your immediate goals. Practicing moral neutrality about the functionality of your lifestyle, about the existence of your body and it's needs, about your emotions, is just as important as every other goal you talked about here. Your body and how well you take care of it is morally neutral. Your routines and productivity are morally neutral. You don't need permission to just simply exist.
Depression is most often the cause of us not taking care of ourselves and wanting to sleep a lot because it's a form of escape from the woes of the world. You have taken a huge step in recognizing your issues and wanting to do something to improve your habits. You said you don't really have a reason for doing things because you don't go antwhere.....just do it for you because you are worth it. Tell yourself that every day until you actually believe it. You are worth it. I am not trans but do identify as non binary and I have supported several friends through M to F transition. It's a long hard journey but when you see the light at the end of the tunnel it will have been so worth it. By posting your videos you are helping others to understand the Trans experience a bit better. Some of my Trans friends transitioned in their 40's and did it at a time when there was a lack of resources and virtually no support system. Now things are a little different and society is more educated and more accepting of Trans folks, although there is still a long way to go. Best wishes with your journey and do remember to do the fun things each and every day because it will help you to feel better and know that you are not alone.
I know exactly how you feel I feel like the world is crumbling beneath me and that my family does not understand what I'm going through and say they do but they really do not some try to understand and some just don't care It does feel like I'm alone in this world while I'm transitioning transitioning I haven't even know if I'll even find true love because I'm trans and blind It's nice to know that I'm not truly alone does others like me that feel the same way I'm here for you
Do you listen to podcasts? I listen to them for my whole washing and grooming routine, now I kind of look forward to the self-care because I'm being entertained. Oh, and yes, it's standard to shower every day--- your body, that is. I was revolutionized when I realized I don't have to, and shouldn't, wash my hair every day. Just wear a shower cap or keep your hair out of the flow.
Yeah I feel the same way about the world. Most governments aren’t doing enough to help prevent the climate crisis from becoming irreversible. People are starving on the streets while at the same time we are dumping thousands of pounds of food. The more I learn about the world the more anxiety I get. it’s really annoying when most people don’t even seem to notice how messed up everything is. Also why are teeth luxury bones??? If anyone wants some hope about the world I would look into #landback it’s a very beautiful dream for the world 🧡
Molly : "Touch Starved" i never thought of it like that, i miss being touched by people too, wow, i really love this vlog.
Molly : Very sorry for your Loss, i could totally relate for the other stuff : (
This is such a relief to hear from someone else. You are definitely not alone, dude. I'm shit at showering often. I'm at twice a week and I feel horrible about it. My goal is every other day. I once showered everyday for a week and my hair and skin HATED me for it so every other day it is!
I believe in you! You've got this!!!
Thank you! I believe in you, too!
I am a plus size transboy and have honestly not taken proper care of my teeth and gained some weight. I have a handful of cavities and have dyed my hair randomly and impulsively. So I understand how you feel.
Love you, love your content. I have been struggling in the exact same way - not showering, not brushing teeth, napping several hours a day, not reading the things I want to read or doing the activities I set my mind to, falling behind on my goals, etc. I just want to say - none of this is a moral failing. These are all morally neutral things. There is no ethical problem with not being a hygienic person, or sleeping a lot, or not being productive. None of those things makes you a bad person. Someone can shower every day, have perfect skin and clean clothes every day and work a full 40hrs and also be a racist or murderer.
Shame is a terrible motivator. It just makes things harder. The struggles you are facing are almost entirely functional, not personal. So as nice as it would be too not sleep in every morning, what would be even nicer is not beating yourself up when you do. That little bit of extra kindness and ease, even just having a neutral "I am allowed to exist" attitude will be a lifelong friend for you, rather than just help you achieve your immediate goals. Practicing moral neutrality about the functionality of your lifestyle, about the existence of your body and it's needs, about your emotions, is just as important as every other goal you talked about here.
Your body and how well you take care of it is morally neutral. Your routines and productivity are morally neutral. You don't need permission to just simply exist.
This is so good! I love this so much! Thank you!
Depression is most often the cause of us not taking care of ourselves and wanting to sleep a lot because it's a form of escape from the woes of the world. You have taken a huge step in recognizing your issues and wanting to do something to improve your habits. You said you don't really have a reason for doing things because you don't go antwhere.....just do it for you because you are worth it. Tell yourself that every day until you actually believe it. You are worth it. I am not trans but do identify as non binary and I have supported several friends through M to F transition. It's a long hard journey but when you see the light at the end of the tunnel it will have been so worth it. By posting your videos you are helping others to understand the Trans experience a bit better. Some of my Trans friends transitioned in their 40's and did it at a time when there was a lack of resources and virtually no support system. Now things are a little different and society is more educated and more accepting of Trans folks, although there is still a long way to go. Best wishes with your journey and do remember to do the fun things each and every day because it will help you to feel better and know that you are not alone.
I know exactly how you feel I feel like the world is crumbling beneath me and that my family does not understand what I'm going through and say they do but they really do not some try to understand and some just don't care It does feel like I'm alone in this world while I'm transitioning transitioning I haven't even know if I'll even find true love because I'm trans and blind It's nice to know that I'm not truly alone does others like me that feel the same way I'm here for you
You are not alone, I promise. ❤️
Do you listen to podcasts? I listen to them for my whole washing and grooming routine, now I kind of look forward to the self-care because I'm being entertained. Oh, and yes, it's standard to shower every day--- your body, that is. I was revolutionized when I realized I don't have to, and shouldn't, wash my hair every day. Just wear a shower cap or keep your hair out of the flow.
Yeah I feel the same way about the world. Most governments aren’t doing enough to help prevent the climate crisis from becoming irreversible. People are starving on the streets while at the same time we are dumping thousands of pounds of food. The more I learn about the world the more anxiety I get. it’s really annoying when most people don’t even seem to notice how messed up everything is. Also why are teeth luxury bones??? If anyone wants some hope about the world I would look into #landback it’s a very beautiful dream for the world 🧡