1 Year Without A Home - Finally Moving Into Our Dream Homestead!

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  • @helenvwalker7919
    @helenvwalker7919 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I have had several, "What the hell have I done?"moments. Keep going. De-cluttering is such a valuable experience. Changing your life completely is absolutely worth it and even if it isn't, you can always change again! You've got this!!!! Welcome to your new home❤️

  • @LG-pp5vx
    @LG-pp5vx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I love the moments of introspection in your vlogs, they've become my favorite parts, thank you for sharing your personal journey. Even though it's a completely different life, I've been relating your content to my first year teaching this year. It has been something I have worked for for a while, setting up my classroom was a process, the job is harder than it may look to others, but also so rewarding. I feel like I've related to snipets of similar feelings in your journey. Anyways, congrats on your accomplishments and looking forward to next week:)

    • @AlexanderAyling
      @AlexanderAyling  2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Thank you! As a former assistant teacher I know how hard it can be. Such a under appreciated job - thank you for teaching the next generation

    • @tanyaturuwhenua8667
      @tanyaturuwhenua8667 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You might both like a FB post doing the rounds at the moment
      Engineers make bridges.
      Artists make paintings.
      Scientists make rockets.
      But teachers make them all.
      I come from a whanau of teachers and it really is a labour of love. Total respect 💕
      I enjoy the journey, thoughts and accomplishments you both share. We have in common our humanity to live amazing, challenging, rewarding, tiring and sometimes painful lives. I am in a place of contemplation about next steps at my end and I am looking forward to some still moments over Christmas to catch my breath and gain clarity. May you enjoy a wonderful Christmas together with loved ones as you work through your next steps too. Bless.

  • @edwardhayes-woods2940
    @edwardhayes-woods2940 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I moved from New Zealand to Australia at the same time you moved to NZ! I've so enjoyed following your journey and seeing the parallels to mine. I had a moment about four months ago, when I was working a truely terrible job and just wanted to move home and throw it all in. But I found a new role which is incredible and just last week I got into an Australian university with a massive, life changing scholarship. It really was an Alchemist moment!
    Been a fan for years, I love seeing the way you capture my home country, keep moving forward!

    • @AlexanderAyling
      @AlexanderAyling  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you Edward. Good on ya for sticking it out and congrats on the scholarship

    • @krysaliyah
      @krysaliyah 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      What a cool post. Meri Kirihimete to you all.

  • @PikachooUpYou
    @PikachooUpYou 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You had a Marie Kondo moment. ‘Will this new life bring you joy‘ versus sentimental feelings for the old. It was likely one of the final stages of grieving your past life in the US and the new life in NZ.

  • @MissSeaworld8
    @MissSeaworld8 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel like life is filled with moments you feel like you are doing the "wrong thing" in other peoples minds.. But life is waaay too short to not do what you want. You only live once. Do what makes you happy.

  • @TraceyPoland
    @TraceyPoland 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    My heart is so happy for you and Carrie and your furry and feathery littles to get thru this milestone! 😊

  • @lenkaontherun
    @lenkaontherun 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I just love the mindset parts of your videos, Alex! It's such a treat every time! I've definitely experienced this as well and I think I saw a picture once of two people digging for diamonds - one giving up just before he'd find them and the other that keeps going finding them in the end. I try to remember that picture every time I'm feeling like giving up on something and I say to myself that I haven't found the gems yet, so I just need to keep digging. And surely enough, I found the diamonds when I managed to keep going. You mentioned it earlier in the video - patience is just such a an important part in any pursuit. And in this social media induced "instant gratification" times we are living in, patience has become one of the most important skills to develop.

  • @krysaliyah
    @krysaliyah 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I don’t have the gift of words like most of your followers, but I have a heart, and your journey has touched me from the first day I discovered your channel. You and your Carrie are an inspiration. If ever I have felt someone deserves a ‘Good as Gold Award’ or just a hand-up to lighten the load or whatever, you are that person/couple. Not once have I felt you have wanted help from anyone during your massive move from a life that was probably everyone’s dream life in the USA, although I’m sure a hand here and there would have been welcomed, but no, you have just got on with it, done the hard yards, and now, here you are, at that last mile of your marathon, with the finish line just ahead. I know you have probably wanted to do this on your own, but bro, if ever someone offers to help, take it. Clearly, the hard yards have all been tackled by just you and your beautiful Carrie and you are ready to look back and say, ‘We did this, all on our own’ but there’s a bit if a sad corner in my heart that says, ‘Where are all these Kiwi’s who are supposed to be so full of aroha and compassion and kindness and the good-old fashioned attitude like ‘Hey, these guys can do with some extra hands, let’s just rock on up and render some service, even take around some kai or a drink or something,’ …. I feel guilty myself, that I didn’t ‘put my money where my mouth is’ and done something, anything, but no use crying over spilled milk, right? You guys deserve the very best in life. You are so hard-working. I’ve never known anyone (except maybe my bros, uncles and people in my poor community in the bush who lived over 70 years ago who worked the land and their hands to the bone but had the help of community every step of the way), to work as hard as you. Thank you for your commitment to the land of your heritage. May the future be brighter (now that you have done the hard mahi), and may the remainder of your days in your amazing Wairarapa and Aotearoa, be filled with joy, love, laughter and peace, and lots of better weather and surf, sunshine, and great books to read. OIf this comment is deleted, I think I will understand why - all good! - but just so that know you (for what it’s worth) that you are admired so much for your amazing positive attitude throughout this journey, your unparallelled work ethic together with that ātaahua helpmate of yours who is equally amazing. Hope you are enjoying Kirihimete in your beautiful home surrounded by family and loved ones. All the best for 2022. My choice of KIWI OF THE YEAR … DECADE EVEN!! Arohanui.

  • @sinaihemaloto4243
    @sinaihemaloto4243 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Awww I’ve enjoyed your journey from LA to MIQ to plumbing mishaps and now the end of a new beginning🥰🥰🥰🥰

  • @isaline831
    @isaline831 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I follow you since the vagabrother vlogs. Even though your content drastically changed, I continue watching your videos, because I think you're an inspiring person. I love the moments of introspection in your vlogs, they've become my favourite parts. In this vlog I completely relate with what you've said about being flexible. I feel like you're my elder brother who's giving me advice about life through your experiences.

    • @AlexanderAyling
      @AlexanderAyling  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Isaline. Thank you for the support coming from the VB days and ending up here with me on this journey of life. I take that responsibility of being “your older brother” with great honor. Thank you for being a part of my journey and for writing this comment. Best of luck on your path

  • @MyraHart1943
    @MyraHart1943 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The feeling of experiencing fear and doubt when you're so close to accomplishing a goal is so real!!! Thank you for sharing about that.

  • @jandonnelly5245
    @jandonnelly5245 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing. Firstly your colour choices are wonderful, and you both have done wonderful moving to this side of the world, welcome ☺️. Secondly, you have pinpointed what life is, “strange occurrences, twists and turn…” (listen to powder finger ‘These day’). Your voice projects, and touches us older viewers, you are a sold earth bonded soul. Thank you for reminding us we are all human!

  • @marciabsb1
    @marciabsb1 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Alex, you are not crazy, you are not alone. Recently I chose to leave my job as IT Service Desk and try to become a Web Developer. It has not been easy. Heavy pressure on my shoulders, I have a very supportive husband. But inside I'm exploding. Opening myself here, I know that is not a big problem but is what I want to achieve. I hope you all are fine.

  • @kimberleywinterbauer5286
    @kimberleywinterbauer5286 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    About a year ago, I began to say that I will live my life by being fluid. It has now become a way of life and being fluid has served me well. Love your videos-TFS.

  • @ukkiwiangel
    @ukkiwiangel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Excellent video! I love your honesty about moving countries. I lived in England for five years and then moved back to NZ. Both moves were a culture shock for me and I had to adjust to English life and then back to NZ life. But there truly is no place in the world like NZ and I hope you and Carrie have a wonderful first Christmas in our beautiful country.

  • @hayitovbekzod9268
    @hayitovbekzod9268 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm really into the way you describe the way things happen in life. 'good things take time'. Well said. I feel how hard job you had to go through to settle in your home. Good luck guys. I really appreciate the effort you putting there in these videos.

  • @Torr.explores
    @Torr.explores 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    “I’m having an Alchemist moment” ahhh yes please more I love that book so much.
    So excited to see where life is leading you both on this journey.

  • @sarahmcneilis9145
    @sarahmcneilis9145 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Just enjoy being yourselves, you are a truly amazing couple. The hardest thing for humans is to be is happy, inner peace is a gift from God. Roll with the hard times you have each other everything else will fall into place. I truly wish i had half the courage of you two. Best wishes to you both.

  • @JanelleHolden
    @JanelleHolden 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks!

  • @JanelleHolden
    @JanelleHolden 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The Alchemist is one of my favorite books as well. I read it just as I was starting my first business and it gave me a lot of courage and perspective on patience. Yes, I can totally relate to having moments of doubt. The funny thing is that the people around us who love us never doubt us. They are the ones who know we can finish the marathon and are cheering us on. So gather our confidence in you Alex and our well-wishes and hear everyone cheering you on right now. I’m really glad you made this channel and created space for your thoughts and reflections on life. They are so valuable. Whatever is coming next for you and your family is part of the greater journey. Sending you congratulations on a huge milestone completed!

  • @markchambers6030
    @markchambers6030 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thoroughly enjoyed your videos. You are so correct in that life certainly has its ups and downs. And yes, there are many times when you feel like giving up. I think we have all felt that. But as you point out it is so important to remind yourself that it will all work out in the end. As a kiwi abroad my thoughts of returning home have swung wildly over the last year or so, but watching you and Carrie it has been pushing me more and more in that direction. Keep up the great work and always stay real.

  • @soloadventuretravel274
    @soloadventuretravel274 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    omg Alex you are so right. As they say, life is a rollercoaster.

  • @vicismagic
    @vicismagic 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing your doute. It actually really help me connect the dots, this year we finally move out of Paris with my husband. It’s was 7 years in the making we wanted to go to Netherland but it was Belgium who welcomed us. I had a lot of doute lately and hearing you talked about the finish line make me realize that I was going through the same process, I was just scared and wanted to gave when our life started to get better at last. Thanks to make me realize this, it give me the courage to push through

  • @elizabethwheeler1122
    @elizabethwheeler1122 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    As a military wife I completely understand about the stress of moving, packing, unpacking, waiting for your household items to arrive to your new location. If you ever get overwhelmed, take it one box at a time ;-) . I'm starting a journal and calling it "little wins". I'm working on being kinder to myself and hoping that my book of little wins will help keep me going when I'm in a bit of a low state. Wishing you, Carrie, and Lanka a Merry Christmas and Happy 2022!

  • @GaiaNative
    @GaiaNative 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thanks so much Alex for your authenticity and wisdom. In my almost 70 years on the planet, there is one sure thing and that is to make friends with (as I tell my three children often) and that is CHANGE. It is the only constant in life we can truly rely on and the way to master it is always in mindfulness of its existence, wisdom and growth it gives us and to develop a true friendship with it. It all is great character building stuff and you have it in bucketfuls. Thank you for inspiring us all and taking us along your journey with Carrie and Lanka. Blessings and happy Christmas to you all. I hope NZ extends a warm welcome to your first Christmas here and may you have a nourishing year ahead.

  • @BoyBoyhaere50
    @BoyBoyhaere50 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for keeping it real. My life is going through a down patch at the moment and your words reminded .me that life is like that. Roll with the punches. And that Takes a lot of self discipline.

  • @JohnWilliams-te9lq
    @JohnWilliams-te9lq 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Alchemist moments are great! I always find that the very end is all mental; it's so easy to give up, but also it's not that hard to keep going. If you like the Alchemist, you'd LOVE SIDDHARTHA by Herman Hesse.

  • @mohimakader
    @mohimakader 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You're not alone in this, hope the entire process will get easier for you guys. And while we miss the travel videos, these videos are relatable in so many ways, keep them coming! Sending lots of love

  • @natashabramwell6697
    @natashabramwell6697 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love the drone shots, how lush are those fields!

    • @AlexanderAyling
      @AlexanderAyling  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks Tashie. Yes it’s so green here

    • @natashabramwell6697
      @natashabramwell6697 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@AlexanderAyling It has been awesome watching your journey here. I hope you can now sit back and enjoy the beautiful space you guys have created.

  • @hannamarton1989
    @hannamarton1989 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you Alex, for your true words. Life is not linear at all but you're doing so well down there in New Zealand. Thank you for sharing your thoth, it's really motivating during strange times. And I'm sure whatever it is that is requiring you to be so flexible, you'll handle it. You always have. I've been watching you since the times of the biggest bucket list travels. Lots of love from Germany 😃

    • @AlexanderAyling
      @AlexanderAyling  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Aww Hanna - Danke Danke Danke.
      You’ve been here since BBB wow!! I cant tell you how much that means to me. Thank you for supporting the many different ventures and chapters along the way.

    • @hannamarton1989
      @hannamarton1989 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@AlexanderAyling it kind of feels as if I grew with you along the way and you seem to be more yourself on the channel than ever before. Not always easy, but as Oscar Wilde said, everything is going to be okay. If it's not okay, it's not over yet. So... Keep it up and trust yourself with the content that you wish to make. Lots of love and merry Christmas from frosty Bavaria ☃️😊

  • @duvetcat
    @duvetcat 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You have experienced a golden moment of perspective. You have moved on from a lot of your stuff. It's the perfect opportunity to pick the things you need and your treasures and let go of the rest. Now you can integrate past and present. The journey is worth your effort. This is a wonderful opportunity to pause and appreciate that you are your journey. You learn and grow and if you go with the flow , it all balances out.

    • @AlexanderAyling
      @AlexanderAyling  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      So true! I’m looking forward to letting go of more stuff. Less is more

  • @natashajayne4431
    @natashajayne4431 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    So glad to be watching your videos! They inspire me and keep me realistic but also dreaming!

  • @michellealexander2544
    @michellealexander2544 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love seeing flashes of my neighborhood in your vids ☺ spent a lot of time at Castlepoint, my favorite beach, at the family batch. Love it. Also, the weather was sh*t last week, I'm glad its gone!

  • @randomgardener3799
    @randomgardener3799 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I came up with these 3 words over the weekend Calm, Peaceful, Nice as a way of being in the world. I am reminded of those as I watch and listen to your content today. Merry Xmas

  • @kerenelizondo8841
    @kerenelizondo8841 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have the same feeling. I have been working on something for 6 months now and today is the day I get to share my work with other people and I'm just scared, wanting to "throw the towel" as you said. But l know a lot of people are going through the SAME thing RIGHT NOW, so I'm not alone. We can't give up!

    • @AlexanderAyling
      @AlexanderAyling  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Don’t give up. Take pride in your work and have faith that REGARDLESS of how it is received, if you did your best, that’s all that matters 🙏🏼

  • @irynas.6904
    @irynas.6904 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Totally get the feeling of feeling the heaviness of all the stuff in boxes weighing me down! We've moved cities, not countries this time, in May, but being pregnant I felt like I want a fresh start, not having anything in the house that seems even slightly unneccessary. And now having a newborn I still feel this way and I am happy when we can get rid of more stuff even though we keep needing more new stuff bc of the new lifestyle of our family of three!

  • @gabriemg
    @gabriemg 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your concluding chat at the end of the video really resonated with me. As silly as it sounds i was almost brought to tears by the camera not recording because it was so symbolic of what you'd just been talking about, it almost felt like a gentle wink from the universe: "remember, things don't always go as planned but we keep moving." Sending positive vibes to you and your loved ones, be grateful that you've got the right mindset going into whatever challenges you are currently facing. Many don't have that perspective and it makes the challenges and heartbreaks so much harder. 💞🌈

  • @howlsatdesertmoon9840
    @howlsatdesertmoon9840 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ah, those moments of 'existential crisis'! The valleys that make possible the vista at the mountaintop.

  • @mattieclan8957
    @mattieclan8957 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love that you are so open to bring out the ups and downs of real life because it is so lacking in social media. This platform has and will help so many far and wide in many ways whether it may be a reflective moment where it helps to be reminded or another picking up one of your points that would help a vulnerable.
    There are two treasured books in my library that is a reference point for me for more than 30 years and it is still relevant today. Your contents will be just as relevant in many years to come.
    The Road less travelled by M Scott Peck and Feel the Fear and do it Anyway by Susan Jeffries

  • @mattieclan8957
    @mattieclan8957 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yes agree with you about the sack barrow. After so many years we still find it to be money well spent.

  • @juliawhiteman
    @juliawhiteman 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I related to this video SO much. Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable. I purchased a house just about 3 months ago, but waited to move in until I was able to get everything painted and the floors switched over from carpet to hardwood. I’ve technically moved everything in and am finally at the unboxing and getting settled phase, and it’s taking me so long to get into the headspace to complete it. It’s so bizarre, because this is the goal line I’ve been working towards crossing for 3 months, and now that it’s finally here, I feel like I’m needing even more motivation to finish it out right. All that to say, I relate to how you were feeling and am grateful for your transparency. Hopefully this video will give me the motivation to power through and finish well :)

    • @AlexanderAyling
      @AlexanderAyling  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you Julia. You can do it - we can cross the finish line together haha. One box at a time :)

  • @jenniferhollifield2426
    @jenniferhollifield2426 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for keeping it real. It’s so easy for me to look at the life you and Carrie have created in New Zealand and get a little jealous. Your life seems so perfect. Thank you for your honesty.

  • @MrKokoboy
    @MrKokoboy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    What a beautiful home and spot, Mother Nature is a natural healer, I want to get out of Auckland lol, Merry Christmas to you and Kerry brother.

  • @kaylaknorowski8427
    @kaylaknorowski8427 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    loving this community! sending love to you and yours! 🤍

  • @effie-Toronto
    @effie-Toronto 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Alex I just had to tell you I was so excited to get the notification of your video and will enjoy it immensely

  • @pixiepinkcrystalsrosetta7027
    @pixiepinkcrystalsrosetta7027 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I personally feel sometimes when we get close to accomplishing or acquiring something we want so badly, and have worked and dreamed about for so long, we become afraid of reaching the end of the journey and wonder if it will fulfill us in the way we have envisioned? We're afraid of disappointment! When these moments have come in my life, it's wonderful for a while to have what you've wanted but ultimately being happy or content and fulfilled is an inside job and as long as you realize nothing outside of you can permanently fulfill you, you can appreciate and enjoy the dreams which come true for you while they last but not be too attached because life continues on with its ups and downs and it's how you navigate them internally that makes all the difference! 😊

  • @laborinque11
    @laborinque11 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Absolutely understand! Yes, I now live with so little and Love! Your home looks and feels so beautiful.

  • @ceramicnurse
    @ceramicnurse 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Really enjoy it when you philosophise. Some of it really clicks with aspects of my life, but I especially like showing my kids (~10 years younger than you). Reassuring to see similar patterns of life’s ups and downs are universal.
    Hoping everything is ok with you and your family. The old nurse in me worries for health when I hear the way your were talking there at the end 🙏🏼

  • @lynnerussell1647
    @lynnerussell1647 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am so happy you guys have your own familiar stuff to make it home. I hope the worries you are having will not affect your ability to carry on your collective dream in NZ

  • @randomgardener3799
    @randomgardener3799 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ups and downs, swings and roundabouts life

  • @tazzcopping2798
    @tazzcopping2798 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for your heart felt video. I feel much better now. My belongings have been in storage for almost 2 years now. I hope to be reunited next year. Living without my things has made me realise I need much less to make me content. Best wishes to you both.

    • @AlexanderAyling
      @AlexanderAyling  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you. It’s so true, you live with less and then realize you need less

  • @koehl405
    @koehl405 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

  • @kaygkiller
    @kaygkiller 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Kia Ora Alex, thoroughly both yours and carries videos. Definitely feeling the clearing out vibe at the moment. I noticed your voice when you were signing. Then I remembered you seem to like music and I’ve been meaning to suggest some nz music artist. So here’s a few that my wife and I have loved over the last decade. Marlon Williams, Aldous Harding, Nadia Reid, Fly my Pretties, Tim Finn, The Checks, Anika Moa, Breaks Co-op, Golden Horse, Minuit, Sola Rosa, Pacific Heights, Trinity Roots, Salmonella Dub, Kacy & Clayton etc: sorry for the long list but I was thinking you might know some of these artist. Love your work team and we are thoroughly enjoying your journey. 🙌

  • @staceycoe76
    @staceycoe76 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Every video you drop truth bombs and I love it. Your comments about the things you have and the emotional side of how you're living we're so true, and your comments about building dialogue and community on this page. You do that so well. Your interaction with your viewers is super impressive, I've enjoyed it personally and I am always impressed by how much of it I see in the comments. You're really trying to cultivate something here and I hope it is happening the way you want it to ^.^

  • @dmsjt5181
    @dmsjt5181 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Living for your (and Carrie’s) content right now. We are less than 2 weeks away from moving to Texas from Utah. On top of that, we’re moving from a townhouse with no yard, to a house on almost 4 acres. I’ve moved a TON in my life but for 99.9% of my entire adult life I’ve lived in Utah or Idaho. So it’s scary to move somewhere completely different in so many ways 😅
    It’s also far from all our family. We do have one couple we know who lives there, so that’s something!

  • @alejandramorales6896
    @alejandramorales6896 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Everyone has had an alchemist moment and I think its scary when it happens because u start to think, did u make the right choice? But the thing is if we never move forward we never learn even if it's scary ass hell and makes us question our sanity. You aren't alone or crazy at all, you are experiencing normalcy and I appreciate your openness to share with us the truth of how you feel thank you Alex so much

  • @sat.shikha
    @sat.shikha 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Loved the bit you shared in the truck when you were having your alchemist moment. Great book too! It's such a real part of life and I have found myself many times wanting to give up, especially when it came to doing things the way I wanted, which didn't fit into like you said societal conditions and how we are taught to "live". I have persevered because it was truly heart-based and I believe living from the heart takes a lot of courage. At the same time, the feeling of experiencing our capabilities and what we can become -- is truly for me synonymous with feeling alive.

  • @samirwildcat
    @samirwildcat 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Over the past 14 years i have had to drastically change my thinking and mindset. I have a son with a disability that is not recognised so have struggled all 14 years to get him the supports he needs and make sure that his future is secured as much as it can be in case something happens to me. In that time i have had to live in survival mode and now we have supports i am at a total loss as to where to from here for me. So much of my life has been fighting for my son and not its time to start to explore living my life i am at a loss as to what to do now. I have given up so much and now have to start all over again and although it can be daunting at times it is also exciting as well.

  • @jodywinter8171
    @jodywinter8171 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Finally got the Super Thanks feature to work! Really enjoying your content Alex (and Carrie's) and wanted to show my support with some $.

    • @AlexanderAyling
      @AlexanderAyling  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you Jody! We sincerely appreciate your direct support. It will go into the homestead renovation fund. Lots of new projects this year.
      Once again thank you for your contribution and continued support.
      Happy New Year

  • @juneterry8487
    @juneterry8487 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Alex, I'm sure we can all relate you your comments about our lives not moving forward in a straight line, but rather there being unexpected twists and turns throughout the journey. In these Covid times, nothing can be taken for granted and I find that it is far more satisfying just moving with the punches rather than hoping "this" wont happen, or "that" won't happen. I try to look at the whole experience as an adventure and look forward to future possibilities rather than fret about the things we can't do at the moment. History is being written just now and we are all a part of it. How exciting is that? Best wishes for a happy, summer Christmas to you, Carrie and Lanka and the other members of your growing homestead.

  • @sharontihore1585
    @sharontihore1585 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    so please! for you guys finally moving in your dream home which is awesome. yes you have to make sacrifice but the end result is worth it your homestead is beautiful inside and out ,alot of hard work has gone into that . so glad for you both

  • @sharynw6640
    @sharynw6640 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Another insightful video Alex. More and more of us are enjoying sharing your journey with its ups and downs that helps us all to appreciate our own journeys. Well done to both you and Carrie. Welcome home at last.

  • @lialardenoye1957
    @lialardenoye1957 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yes totally agreement like completing things of your life ànd finding a new goal

  • @catherinecarr3506
    @catherinecarr3506 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Living out of the box is truly living! At 23 I decided it wasn’t for me. I’m 56 now and like you just moved to the Wairarapa and doing up an old cottage. Living simply and close to nature is an absolute gift. You’re in the right path!! I promise !

  • @MiriamWaldbaum
    @MiriamWaldbaum 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love hearing you talking what is in your mind, very like directly from your heart. I hope all of you are well, you look very sad towards the end of the video...my best wishes to you!!

  • @jodywinter8171
    @jodywinter8171 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks

    • @AlexanderAyling
      @AlexanderAyling  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you very much for your kind gift Jody. Happy New Year

  • @steynannelize
    @steynannelize 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hi Alex, we have been following your and Carries' channels for some time now. Always enjoyed it so much. Especially since we moved from SA to Asturias, Spain in January this year. In this message today you are speaking directly to us. We are about to finalise everything, this last final step to make Spain our home and we are going through exactly the same emotions... we wish you all the best. X

    • @AlexanderAyling
      @AlexanderAyling  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey Annelize! We both appreciate your support. Having lived in Northern Spain for three years (1 in Galicia and 2 in Euskadi) I can tell you Asturias was without a doubt my favorite part of the Camino de Santiago. What a lovely corner of Europe. Where did you move? I remember surfing a great wave there called Rodiles, and loved walks in the Picos de Europa but never got really deep up in there. Need to come back!

    • @steynannelize
      @steynannelize 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@AlexanderAyling thanks for your reply. The North of Spain truly is spectacular, hey? And yes, the beaches are breath taking! If all goes well, we will be running a small rural hotel in the Arriondas area soon. You guys should definately come and visit. So many hidden treasures in this part of the world. We also hope to do the camino soon. Anyways, thanks for your beautiful and inspiring videos. May you be so blessed in your new home. X

  • @maciii069
    @maciii069 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Merry Christmas to you both. Have a very and exciting day on this festive week.

  • @SweetHeavensSunshine
    @SweetHeavensSunshine 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m so happy for you guys!… And, you’re not alone in feeling so many of the things that you mentioned to your video. Such as wondering if you made the right decision, feeling tired from the constant hiccups and unexpected curveballs that you have to dodge through, only to have to re-slodge through to get closer to your goal. But it’s my experience that’s part of life, and there are so many awesome highs, that fuel you through life, but as time goes on, you just get better about reactivating those good memories, and reminding yourself that the bad times will pass. It becomes quicker and faster every time you go through it. I’m 37 now, and have been so grateful that as each year has gone on, as much of a perfectionist as I used to be, I take the setbacks more easily in stride, and get giddy about the new things to come.. I love how you and your wife’s videos focus on both sides of the coin, because it’s a good reminder to all of us, that we’re not alone in the struggles and good things that we encounter in life. That we can do everything right, and still things may fall apart, but that there’s still better days ahead. Hang in there. Soon enough, this is going to feel like home, and you’re going to be so glad you made the choice! Warmest wishes to you and yours!

  • @laurenneal8680
    @laurenneal8680 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love the Alchemist I just listened to the version on audible that Jeremy Irons narrates. It's sooo good! Congratulations on meeting this mile stone you have been working so hard!

  • @joannewinter7879
    @joannewinter7879 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love the way you think Alex. Meri Kirihimete friends 🙏🎄

  • @jamielouise1836
    @jamielouise1836 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Having moved back from the UK after years of living there. I had so many moments of doubt... still do at times 3 years on... but NZ is a pretty amazing place to be, especially in the last 3 years. So I think that must be normal!
    Also wanting to declutter especially after this long lockdown. Stuff gets in the way of clarity.

  • @effie-Toronto
    @effie-Toronto 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Excellent video Alex you both did it and we are all so proud of you the journey is done....Lanka was a fantastic co pilot in the truck...Also I was really feeling sad today but your video and your talk with us made me feel better Thank you so much

  • @varunsainivs
    @varunsainivs 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Truely inspirational Alex..my wife n me have been planning our move to NZ for over 2 years now... just waiting for the border to open up.hope we see the green light soon

    • @AlexanderAyling
      @AlexanderAyling  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you Varun. Wishing you all the best in your journey

  • @cordeliastockwell1837
    @cordeliastockwell1837 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    so happy to see you and Carrie settling in and seeming more comfortable in your space (from her video too)! hope you both are well during the holiday time

  • @eddiegreene7334
    @eddiegreene7334 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Congratulations! These vlogs that you guys have made in New Zealand are brilliant. Really appreciate both of you being so open with your lives, so refreshing. Excellent video production all around….sound, editing everything is so good. Thank you , thank you …just a joy’ to watch.

  • @helenover3381
    @helenover3381 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wonderful to see you finally have all your belongings in the house. It will really feel like home now. 🎅

  • @rpdsfsj
    @rpdsfsj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hope everything’s okay. It doesn’t sound like it. Sending thoughts and best wishes your way xx

  • @karina.silva88
    @karina.silva88 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    The Alchemist moment def brought on by the “stuff”. Its overwhelming to see how much one self has especially when you’ve been without it so long. It will be ok once its sorted and you decide what to still keep. Good job guys 👍🏽

  • @neillsmart213
    @neillsmart213 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Drove through my hometown and didn't stop for coffee tut tut :) Glad it went well for you :)

  • @renatanovotna3070
    @renatanovotna3070 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for being so raw and vulnerable, Alex! That's the best thing 🙏🏻 sending you lots of energy to deal with whatever life has thrown at you ❤

  • @avasthename
    @avasthename 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love this! So happy for you and Carrie!

  • @Emily-qo1gw
    @Emily-qo1gw 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    loved hearing all you said about the alchemist & all your introspection after was so refreshing!

  • @robinmiller3209
    @robinmiller3209 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Have been waiting for this one. You two are such hard workers. Kudos to you both. Am kinda dreading next weekends video as I think you might be making some of us cry. Hugs and aroha to you.

    • @AlexanderAyling
      @AlexanderAyling  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you Robin. See you next week 🙏🏼

  • @realwithro
    @realwithro 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for always being genuine and raw with your content. Creators like you are so refreshing to watch, and I look forward to you and Carrie’s videos every week! Best of luck with the flexibility and adaptation with whatever is challenging you at the moment

  • @minnowx7099
    @minnowx7099 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I loved your version of Country road, take me home, Wairarapa. It fits! It would definitely be a local hit! Fun fact if you don’t know it already - country music is pretty big in NZ and does well especially in rural areas. A career opportunity!

  • @debbarnett4250
    @debbarnett4250 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh Alex, you and Carrie have done a superb job of transitioning and adapting to your new life in NZ. You both should be extremely proud of yourselves. You’ve both accomplished so much in the past 12 months. It will be so rewarding to have your own things in your new house / homestead and be able to stamp your personalities into the homestead. Life can be a merry go round but if you can be flexible ( I say roll with the punches) then life is somewhat easier to navigate. I’d like to wish you both a very Merry Christmas and I hope you will both enjoy the day with your family (on your Dad’s side) and be able to make new Christmas traditions and memories. Big aroha to you and Carrie. PS. The house is looking more like your home now, after all the hard work you’ve both put in and also seeing your personal belongings taking pride position. Take care and I hope your upcoming challenge / swerve ball isn’t too burdensome.

  • @60greyhairandsparkles21
    @60greyhairandsparkles21 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh Alex, thanks for sharing, I am so happy that you finally have your stuff, ( I could have dropped off the balm for you 😊) Your camera switching off was a perfect example of “life’s” challenges omg!! Much love to you both as you navigate these challenging times ❤️

  • @KevsCollectibles
    @KevsCollectibles 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank YOU Alex. Your videos have been so inspirational and helped me through tough times alone during lockdown.

  • @garryowen109
    @garryowen109 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hope you and Carrie are ok. I know how stressful it can be to move counties. Sending love and light

  • @caddyzig
    @caddyzig 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Glad you finally got everything moved in. I’ll bet you’re thrilled to have you real bed again! (Hope you didn’t scratch your refinished floors.) Thanks for sharing your sensible wisdom and your reality instead of glossing over the difficult stuff. I always come away from your videos thinking about something, and feeling more inspired and motivated. I love hearing you share your thoughts. Happy holidays to you both!

  • @annamiotello4118
    @annamiotello4118 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Congrats on bringing all the furniture and stuff from storage into your new home! it's a big step after all this time. I hope this makes you guys feel more cosy and at home. 🏡

  • @adambancroft408
    @adambancroft408 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I really like how introspective you are. Your openness to share your life and appreciated and your both so down to earth plus wholesome. Congratulations on finally moving into your new home by the way. I have watched every video post, and it was awesome to see the transformation. :-D

  • @robertforeman150
    @robertforeman150 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Alex
    Your lovelly Bedroom Floor needs Protectors beneath the bed feet
    Pieces of carpet will protect the varnish or you can buy protectors

    • @AlexanderAyling
      @AlexanderAyling  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      We’ve got protectors under the bed frame legs and have a beautiful rug on the way :)

    • @robertforeman150
      @robertforeman150 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@AlexanderAyling Brilliant

  • @jeanham211
    @jeanham211 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    congratulations Alex and Carrie you guys did it you should be so proud watching your emotional roller-coaster of a adventure has also reaffirms that yes life loves to through curves at us we all have so much going on behind scenes and people family friends acquaintances only see snippets of this sometime life is extremely ruff and sometime overwhelming wonder and joy all try relax and have a wonderful Christmas and make wonderful memories in your new beautiful home

  • @robinhoward4204
    @robinhoward4204 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    When you mentioned "The Alchemist" I recalled my daughter recommending the book - I am sure it was in this house at one time with a lot of her possessions, which have since joined her in another state. However, I discovered that I'm still custodian of "The Witch of Portobello" by that author. I will stop procrastinating and give this one a go.👌

  • @elahhale9057
    @elahhale9057 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Well, all I can say is, 'Fight the good fight'... as your mate Paulo Coelho says in 'The Pilgrimage'...
    This was an inspiring video Alex. I could sense the exhaustion of the whole year reaching it's peak, and the depth you had to dig down to, to find the push to keep going...just keep swimming..., as Dori says in Neemo. And you did. You fought that good fight, and you kept swimming against the tide of things that kept, and keep rolling in and crashing on your shores. Just like those waves you sat in front of, while you gave your words of wisdom, at the end of this vlog. The very wisdom you experienced from those rolling crashing waves that keep coming at you.
    Well done, you both are wise beyond your years. Whatever the news is, whether it be good, bad, sad or ugly, I'm sure you will both rise to the occasion and make lemonade out of lemons, as you always do.
    If you haven't yet read 'The Pilgrimage', I think you'll get alot out of it. For me, the storyline was not my cup of tea, but the messages within the story, is definitely my flavour 🍵
    I look forward to next week. 🐕🐑🦆👫🏡
    Ps loved the choice of background music. It took me on an emotional ride with the words you were telling. 🎶

  • @keshneegovender54
    @keshneegovender54 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So proud of you guys 💗

  • @jimjames6487
    @jimjames6487 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow awesome you guys have done well congratulations on all of what you have done finding a home doing it up and finally moving in all the best in your life ahead

  • @thirstymercfan
    @thirstymercfan 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Fabulous video the editing it superb. Seeing you come full circle finally getting the last of your belongings from LA and seeing all that work you have done over the past few months you must feel so proud of yourselves for what you have achieved, the new skills you have learnt along the way and of course the appreciation of hard work pays off! Take my hat off to you both! Have a lovely Chrissy