Hi! I just wanted to say that I feel your pain about the last name. I'm also a trans guy, I was born in Russia (unfortunately), and I live in Belgium. Russian last names are also gendered (aka "Natasha RostovA" is the sister of "Nikolai Rostov"), which basically outs me every time when I have to use the official surname. It's completely insane that your name change has to be approved by a king (what century do we live in, exactly?), but I'm glad it's almost done!
@@kaishaman7144 yup, same here with my last name. I had to apply for Dutch citizenship to even be able to change it. And right? The process is insane for this time period 😭
My God! You are so handsome! I'm lowkey lost for words. I hope that all goes well and that you get you last name changed in the shortest possible time.
I didn't know that is was so hard to change your last name in the Netherlands, sounds like an oversight especially considering things like gendered last names
@@marmoth9786 Maybe it’s also because Sweden recognizes gendered surnames? Like sure, -dotter is not used often but it exists. Here in the Netherlands there is no such thing, so the only ones that would be in a position to change a gendered last name are those with a non-Dutch background…
I did not hear about gendered last names before. I find that very interesting, but unfortunate for transgender people. Thanks for sharing your experience with this!
Jeez, I'm Dutch and had no clue it was this hard to have your name changed and the price is insane. And why do we have to involve the king, it's such an unnecessary step that just prolongs the proces. I hope you'll be able to get the official go on your name change soon
I am American. I didn't know last names were gendered. I've learned something new. Americans often don't know where their Family's name came from... My Family is complex. I changed my name first & middle names. I am a transgender man. I haven't felt fully accepted by my Family or society. Also, changing my faith was upsetting to some family members. And, finding out that I have autism & PTSD has been challenging... 😅☮️❤
If your own family does not accept you, I hope you find people around you who do! Everyone deserves to be accepted, especially after going through a lot!
Hi! I have no idea who you are but I clicked on this video because I absolutely love your style and stayed to hear about your story. You are a breathtaking human. Good luck with everything you do in life! :D
this is crazy. im a genderless fella and i do live in russia (our surnames are also gendered). i was planning on changing just 1 letter in my surname once i move out and one of the countries im currently looking forward to is netherlands. hearing that you have to pay THAT much for just 1 letter is baffling. heck, its too much for any name change... and i thought we had it hard with the costs (for context it used to cost around 15 euros for a name change over here, now they are changing it to 60. it also takes about a month for them to review the request here, so seeing how for dutch folks it extends up to 10 month... idk... its just a lot)
@@takeitout998 yeah Dutch bureaucracy is strange, it’s a good place to live bc of the oversight of it (when you apply for a change you know exactly what to write and how to apply) but then it costs so much, and is only available to citizens, so I also had to become dutch to even be able to change it 😭. Idk if it’s similar in Russia but in Poland you are not allowed to have a name that does not match your (legal) gender, so you can get it changed as a “correction”. I thought about doing it in Poland but I would have to actually be present there to do it and my whole life is in the Netherlands so it had to be like this 🥲
@@TheQueerVikingBro it's a really weird topic. *In theory* it is possible to get it changed, but there's little to no info about people for who it actually worked out, which makes it difficult to even think about/consider. I'll be applying to change my legal name in 3 months, so I'm still doubting if i should risk it and apply for a surname change with it as well. But hey, I'm glad it worked out for you in the end!
i have family ties to latvia and my dad is a latvian citizen so im elligble to be one but im dont want to become a citizen until im out as trans cause my parents would put the feminine version of my last name on it (ending with an a instead of an s) and i dont want to have to change it when im older.
Impressive. Bureaucracy slows everything, but... well... it makes things more solid, so, it's better to be patient. But I didn't expected the King was in the chain... silly and glorious at the same time. 😅 Good luck with the process. 👍
very on topic for me bc ive got my appointment for name and gender marker change under the new german self-id law in 10 days ! :) the old law sucked majorly (paying 2000€, having to get two psychological assesments done to proove that youre 'really trans' and not just a pervert haha :') ) i specifically waited (idk like.. almost a year? mby more) for the self-id law to be passed. now i can just get it done through making appointments, getting my birth certificate and paying 45€. yay german name laws are rediculous and rigid. idk how youd change your last name. they normally only allow you to change your first/last name for 'special reasons' ( eg. you share a last name with a big nazi persona, or you have a foreign name and you want to germafy it (kinda gross but lets not get into it)). so i guess youd have to apply. damn just writing about it irritates me
I have heard from my sister who lives in Germany that the bureaucracy there is horrible in general, so much paperwork and waiting and stuff... The old law sounds really horrible, sounds like what Poland has. You'd think Germany would be more progressive, so good that they passed a new law!!! I hope everything goes well for you now! For my first name here it was a similar process, I only had to pay for my new id, but the name and gender change was free (had to become a Dutch citizen first tho). Changing your last name here can only be done under veeeeery specific circumstances but happily it applied to me!
Can i just say your hair would look amazing tied back in a regular Ponytail on you :) Should try that look out sometime in a video that would suit you. Have a great day
Also yes, I am in fact wearing a limited edition, handmade Norwegian sweater with petroglyph design, it is the best ☺☺☺
that is so cool
Finally. Early congratulations, and may your future be bright. ⭐️
Thank you so much!!
Hi! I just wanted to say that I feel your pain about the last name. I'm also a trans guy, I was born in Russia (unfortunately), and I live in Belgium. Russian last names are also gendered (aka "Natasha RostovA" is the sister of "Nikolai Rostov"), which basically outs me every time when I have to use the official surname.
It's completely insane that your name change has to be approved by a king (what century do we live in, exactly?), but I'm glad it's almost done!
@@kaishaman7144 yup, same here with my last name. I had to apply for Dutch citizenship to even be able to change it. And right? The process is insane for this time period 😭
My God! You are so handsome! I'm lowkey lost for words. I hope that all goes well and that you get you last name changed in the shortest possible time.
Thank you for your support!!!
I didn't know that is was so hard to change your last name in the Netherlands, sounds like an oversight especially considering things like gendered last names
Yeahh it's a whole thing. Changing your first name is pretty easy tho, so that's nice!
900 WHOLE EUROS? here in sweden a normal surname change is only around 150 euro, and to change a gendered surname is free :0
@@marmoth9786 Maybe it’s also because Sweden recognizes gendered surnames? Like sure, -dotter is not used often but it exists. Here in the Netherlands there is no such thing, so the only ones that would be in a position to change a gendered last name are those with a non-Dutch background…
@@TheQueerVikingBro the state says that it's especially for foreign names, but it's absolutely with a familiar bias. still, 900 is crazy...
Congratulations!! I’m so happy for you!!
I did not hear about gendered last names before. I find that very interesting, but unfortunate for transgender people. Thanks for sharing your experience with this!
GREAT NEW! Very happy for you. I hope the whole process is completed very soon. And with the King's signature! 😀
@@christopherdamien2248 thank you! I hope the king will have time soon 😆
Jeez, I'm Dutch and had no clue it was this hard to have your name changed and the price is insane. And why do we have to involve the king, it's such an unnecessary step that just prolongs the proces. I hope you'll be able to get the official go on your name change soon
@@soulangela7154 right? It is so insanely expensive and unnecessarily complicated 😭 thanks for the support!
you're so handsome aaa /platonic
@@safadefivefortyone thank you!!! And thank you for the tag omg bc I never know how to respond to stuff like this if I don’t know the intention 😭💕
@@TheQueerVikingBro welcome! i can relate lol
I am American. I didn't know last names were gendered. I've learned something new. Americans often don't know where their Family's name came from... My Family is complex. I changed my name first & middle names. I am a transgender man. I haven't felt fully accepted by my Family or society. Also, changing my faith was upsetting to some family members. And, finding out that I have autism & PTSD has been challenging...
😅☮️❤
If your own family does not accept you, I hope you find people around you who do! Everyone deserves to be accepted, especially after going through a lot!
Man! Beauracatic processes are an absolute nightmare!😱
@@MareaRayneOleander right? Why would something be need to be signed by an actual King just let me have my last name 😭
Hi! I have no idea who you are but I clicked on this video because I absolutely love your style and stayed to hear about your story. You are a breathtaking human. Good luck with everything you do in life! :D
@@eve3455 ahh thank you so much!!!
this is crazy. im a genderless fella and i do live in russia (our surnames are also gendered). i was planning on changing just 1 letter in my surname once i move out and one of the countries im currently looking forward to is netherlands. hearing that you have to pay THAT much for just 1 letter is baffling. heck, its too much for any name change... and i thought we had it hard with the costs (for context it used to cost around 15 euros for a name change over here, now they are changing it to 60. it also takes about a month for them to review the request here, so seeing how for dutch folks it extends up to 10 month... idk... its just a lot)
@@takeitout998 yeah Dutch bureaucracy is strange, it’s a good place to live bc of the oversight of it (when you apply for a change you know exactly what to write and how to apply) but then it costs so much, and is only available to citizens, so I also had to become dutch to even be able to change it 😭.
Idk if it’s similar in Russia but in Poland you are not allowed to have a name that does not match your (legal) gender, so you can get it changed as a “correction”. I thought about doing it in Poland but I would have to actually be present there to do it and my whole life is in the Netherlands so it had to be like this 🥲
@@TheQueerVikingBro it's a really weird topic. *In theory* it is possible to get it changed, but there's little to no info about people for who it actually worked out, which makes it difficult to even think about/consider.
I'll be applying to change my legal name in 3 months, so I'm still doubting if i should risk it and apply for a surname change with it as well. But hey, I'm glad it worked out for you in the end!
@ good luck with your process then! Maybe it will work, maybe you can change your last name later if it doesn’t work out right now. All the best!
i have family ties to latvia and my dad is a latvian citizen so im elligble to be one but im dont want to become a citizen until im out as trans cause my parents would put the feminine version of my last name on it (ending with an a instead of an s) and i dont want to have to change it when im older.
Impressive. Bureaucracy slows everything, but... well... it makes things more solid, so, it's better to be patient. But I didn't expected the King was in the chain... silly and glorious at the same time. 😅
Good luck with the process. 👍
Right haha, it's weird that the king still has to sign it but also kinda cool 😅 I feel so important now 🤣
@@TheQueerVikingBro Hahahaah! 🤣👍
very on topic for me bc ive got my appointment for name and gender marker change under the new german self-id law in 10 days ! :)
the old law sucked majorly (paying 2000€, having to get two psychological assesments done to proove that youre 'really trans' and not just a pervert haha :') )
i specifically waited (idk like.. almost a year? mby more) for the self-id law to be passed. now i can just get it done through making appointments, getting my birth certificate and paying 45€. yay
german name laws are rediculous and rigid. idk how youd change your last name. they normally only allow you to change your first/last name for 'special reasons' ( eg. you share a last name with a big nazi persona, or you have a foreign name and you want to germafy it (kinda gross but lets not get into it)). so i guess youd have to apply. damn just writing about it irritates me
I have heard from my sister who lives in Germany that the bureaucracy there is horrible in general, so much paperwork and waiting and stuff...
The old law sounds really horrible, sounds like what Poland has. You'd think Germany would be more progressive, so good that they passed a new law!!! I hope everything goes well for you now!
For my first name here it was a similar process, I only had to pay for my new id, but the name and gender change was free (had to become a Dutch citizen first tho). Changing your last name here can only be done under veeeeery specific circumstances but happily it applied to me!
Ftm enby here... one week to go till the name & gendermarker change for me : D
I hope it goes by quickly!
and you have a very cool sweater
Hi, I am also trans guy from Poland. I like your vids.
@@PanSimon6 thank you! Welcome 🇵🇱🇵🇱
what a process to deal with!
Can i just say your hair would look amazing tied back in a regular Ponytail on you :) Should try that look out sometime in a video that would suit you. Have a great day