My Narcissistic Pastor Hubby betrayed me, had Affairs in church, and other dark secrets | Tuko TV
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- Vivian Apondi sets the records straight from her side as she has been taken through hell by her hubby, supposedly a man of God, who would force her to smile in public after beating her.
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Hi Vivian you are a strong 😢woman will get in touch God bless 💗
This lady is very strong I wish she was mine
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Waaaaaaaah! I finally left after over 10 years. The best decision I made for myself and children 3 months down the line we are very happy!
Kabisaaaa
When you see someone narrating their sad stories while they laugh,just know they have healed and nothing can break them.
@@winniemuyuka well said ,more grace to apondi and the children 🙏
My Campus Sweetheart....my chief campaigner.... My speech writer. My church mate. I'm so proud of you Vivian
❤❤❤thanks senior
VIvian is a personal friend ...whatever she is saying is very true. I advised her to walk out of that marriage .She is such an honest soul. If there is someone am proud then its her, instead of dying with depression ,she decided to come out clean.
I've gone through exact scene and I decided to walk out madam Vivian I relate with this story very well. Am glad you made the decision to fet out
U have earned a subscriber
wish had someone like her
You Did well sir Mike .
You've chosen right, we're gaining courage
TSC should hire the services of this very eloquent teacher. Her life can blossom again
@@rensonkamulo6324 very true
Waaaaah! who else thinks Apondi Resembles so Much like Pastor Elizabeth Mokoro, The way she talks, she can preach, she is a SDA, In accent, Her boldness, her intelligence etc. Give Apondi your likes here
True
She's exactly like Eliza mokoro
That's how to cheat others and leave their marriages thinking that they are good, stop liying to her, all these are nonsense and she will be the loser....
@@dannyjj1219who hurt you yawa?
😅😅@@dannyjj1219when was the last time you shook your head?
I think I am ready to share my story. Thank you Apondi
Speaking openly about it will help lessen the pain.
@@lizouma1163 trust me gal, we will listen but we won't judge 😉
We are waiting ❤
Come up and speak,, you can get relieved,,we are waiting
To all women who have gone through narcissistic abuse and became survivors,let's encourage her that it gets better with time,thanks mama for choosing yourself
She is so eloquent from the introduction everything is flowing, Vivian you are strong, it takes courage to walk out of a toxic marriage especially when you wore a gown
When a man of God tells you God don't love divorce, ask yourself, does salvation makes you wise of stupid? Faith and wisdom goes hand in hand. This gal is strong.
It's true that God hates divorce?
That said He loved the devocees
The narrator is flowing her story is so nice to listen even more than once she's so intelligent
More grace to her❤
You are the most patient person I know. I have watched this story with so much anger throughout. Thank God he gave you the grace Apondi
me too am so angry, having gone through something similar
Every year that was lost in that marriage will be restored. You deserve better
The best interview so far 2025....great standing ovation for APONDI .........a very strong woman who understands her value....people should realise that nobody owes them anything.....gain knowledge and choose life! Good job Apondi...beautiful gal with a long life ahead......i I LOVE THIS.....
Well spoken and eloquent. A good story teller with a charming personality. That was his loss.
This woman is beautiful, Eloquent,and strong she can mentor many people
Huyo ni mwendawazimu... Narcissist is underrated.. hugs gal
Keep exposing the hypocrites. And to my dear Pastors, no matter how wicked you are, know that mistreating your wife and family will reflect negatively on your image especially if you are a public figure. Be wise!
Stop putting expectations on pastors .Church is a rehabilitation centre ,I has all sorts of people.
People should be wise ,seek God and listen to their own instincts .
I'm sure she saw some red flags but decided to go ahead with the marriage ,as she's said,her intentions for marriage were not right as well.
Blaming the victim😮@@monicalewisky4925
I was almost married to this man.....met him on one date at sports ground in kisumu and that man made some comment that made me block him even before leaving the place ,,,few months later I saw his wedding with this lady...My God loves me.😢😢
Uweeeh uliponea
Woiii thank God 😢..which comment did he make?
Sahi ni wewe ungekuwa hapa😂
What
We need to shame that guy
A FACT: whenever a partner accuses another of cheating without cause, 💯 they are the ones cheating.
That's how narcissists behaves.always blaming others
U can't rule in this manner , when u suspect ur partner cheating it's either u are right or wrong. What if the suspicion is correct ??
My fellow Adventists,greetings from Namibia 🇳🇦
Greetings from Uganda🇺🇬❤❤
Greetings from Kenya 🇰🇪
Greetings! What an embracing experience from our leaders.
She is beautiful and bold ❤
Apondi a good story teller, kindly write a book ❤
So pia wewe umeona ivo..Why are you copying words from my mind and mouth😂😂
Find your happiness, girl. I am one of you, l faced rejection, l was depressed but, I refused to bow down to anyone. Forget him, stick to God, and take care of yourself and your children. Imagine the sky has no limit, l have visited different continents. I have been blessed. Fly girl!!
@@sharonmundia9457😂😂😂😂😂😂
Why stay for so long under such conditions
She is a teacher wat do u expect
"When a naccist realises he cannot control you, he will smear campaign you"... I've had a first hand experience for 15yrs,Eventually, I grew the strength to walk out. I love the peace I'm experiencing.
I thank God for your courage. One day I will share my story
Wueh! The smear campaign is on another level
Been in for 16 yrs , gathering the courage to begin a new life. It's been tears all along.
Thanks dad, keep resting.. I carry the advice with me. My dad told me if a man ever raises his hand on you, LEAVE! That's who he is ! I choose me!
you are lucky. my dad bought the lies
@wambuialice957 .. Always choose you girl. Society will bury you so let it be!
She's such a beautiful and wise woman❤️🫂 hugs mum
Apondi you are destined for greatness, I see you speaking to multitudes and encouraging women from all over, thank you for sharing your story. You are blessed!
I support that 💯
Wow this is a truly amazing narration of who a narcissist is and what they do to good people I lived with one and I too walked away.shes a strong beautiful woman.and bold.
Oh, you are telling the truth! I was a victim of one, I nearly died 😢
My sister, take heart. There's nothing but happiness ahead, without him. Much love dear ❤❤
Yours also was man of God 😂
Story of my life, I can relate
am glad you survived. we are many
Ata mimi nilikua bibi ya pastor niliona moto bila moshi😅😅😅
Just coming from TikTok to complete the full episode
Me too
What a joy she is. May the gentle winds of success, longevity and triumph follow her for the rest of her days
Mine was not a pastor but a respected persona in the society,,all the traits she is saying are very true,I was excluded from chama,my immediate family,he was a decision maker,his word was final,I suffered,I had a mental breakdown,I almost hanged myself but I found God,it has been ten ago,my sanity is back ,I can relate with apondi,hugs bby girl,God loves yu and yr babies ❤
The eloquence and courage is on point. You are such a good orator. May God continue fighting for you Vivian
I really love this lady Apondi a very eloquent speaker. Yaani the story is long but you enjoy listening without getting bored❤
this is the first time ave watched such a long story to the end.
He is a sick narcissist. Thanks for being so brave and for sharing your story.
Aki
Apodi surely you are a good lady congratulation , you married a man who was academically low , reasoning with you was also a big problem,let God help you, you get a good job then you care your children without any stress, Kenyan men are bad they really mistreat women with no good reason.women in Kenya we need to have freedom like other countries,we must fight for our freedom.may God bless you.
Jachien e kanisa,be itek nyar wegi
The hospital walls have heard more genuine prayers than the church walls sad
She's brave and courageous to walk away from that narcissist and share her narrative
Apondi when you write your book, I want to be one of the people who buy it 😍😍😍. You are such an impeccable narrator and story teller 😇
Narcissist are the devil in human being 😤🤦♀️
These are not human beings, they're Devils.👿😈 NARCISSISTS ‼️
😢😢i believe like wen satan was sent away he came out en sired this narcissistic men thy are just 👿👿👿👿👿👿
@@SylviaAchieng-hd4zu they are the worst, imagine them being so jealous and insecure,yet they sleep around with everything in skirt including brothels
Real devils
That man has unhealed past. He really needs help. People are hurting inside but because they don't know how to express themselves, they are just transferring their frustrations to innocent people. May the Lord heal him.
Those people are so demonic my sister
Unfortunately the trauma caused to the children in those marriages take God's hand to heal.
Those watching this and havent married yet may God help us.
Hii kuolewa ni scam kumbe😂😂
@@AMQarol Wewe wacha 😂😂 ebu olewa uchapwe alafu ulete story hapa😂
😂😂😂😂😂cheiiiii@@stunner-maru
Shine our eyes mmmm
A bright, eloquent and beautiful lady,May God replace all your lost years❤
Pole jaber, I didn't know you're going through all these, we were in a camp meeting with in 2023 I can now reflect oooo you were going through alot but people didn't know they keep on blaming you. You have been vindicated. May the good Lord protect you wherever you are.
I like the interviewer you are very sober and patient you don't disrupt just ask questions when necessary thanks
I love her relationship with her mother and how they Joked about her experiences. 😂😅
Oohwhat a lady...beautifull full of life..apoondii babe girl write a book you are soo real and your narrative is on top notch❤instead of us crying we are laughing...you are a strong lady.❤""((😂😂bibi ya pasta"
Kingori, your reactions😂😂😂 waa pastors, men of God.I will tell my story I lived with a creature like this😢wacha Mungu aitwe Mungu
Be strong 💪 ✨️
Mliishi poa ama juu pia mimi nilipitia hapo saa hii niko single
Am also single after staying in ICU for three days because of this gender
Pole
Me too
Thank you for opening up on some of those things narcissists do. May God continue keeping you and your babies safe and healthy
So powerful to see through the narcissistic mask,and shame the demonic sick games,stand firm girl,walk through your healing journey with grace, confidence and courage
WHEN LOVE GOES SOUR CRY, FORGIVE AND MOVE ON THE WORLD IS READY TO ROOT U UP
True though si rahisi.....
Wiser with age and experience ❤
What a story, typical description of a narcissist, you have nailed it. Let him continue with their Smear-Campaign, don't even explain yourself to anyone, you own no one any explanation, hats off to you Baby girl, reach out to people who understand what a narcissist is, friends, family, therapists councillors etc. Help is out there, I can relate to your story.❤❤❤
Thanks Vivian for being bold enough and sharing your story,I can relate on so many aspects of your story
Im glad that Vivian has come out to tell the truth. Pretence in churches especially "SDA" is on another level. I think one day I'm gonna tell my story as a member of the same church and as to why I don't I left the church but not God.
Pole sana Zipporah.Please speak it out!
Hugs dear,speak it out
Meet Aoondi in person😊😊😊guys she is a very funny lady
Back in high school huyu dem angetuchekesha and she is ever smilling
My friend back in campus!Proud of you that you recollected yourself and stayed strong. Hugs momma💙
He was not only a narcissist but he was also a psycho......you are a very strong woman Apondi. youve not loosed anything by leaving that damn marriage but you have just started your peaceful life with your two children. pole sana.
Apondi, thank you for surviving, being strong, and sharing your story. I pray for your success.
😂😂😂😂😂hapo kwa kukimbia kwa mpesa simply proves that that man was really mad
He is bipolar
@@trixieke8462😂😂😂😂 nipitieni guys pale kwangu😂
What I was saying yesterday , it's always scary and very traumatizing 😢😢😢😢.
It's nothing to look up for in their point of view
And you will think 😢anakupenda😂😂😂😂um*wa kila mutu😁😁😁😁
Vivian I have listened to your story and I have remembered the poem I have taught my students. It's titled "He Promised Me Heaven" it's online ebu isome. Glad that you came out alive
From the way she's telling the story, she's healed. Stay strong girl. Better things are ahead.
Mabibi wa pastors mko wapi huku comment section?kumbe huwa mnakipitia hivi na ndivyo huwa mnatutamanisha kuolewa na men of God 😢😢😢pole sana Apondi kwa hayo yote ulipitia
Im here suffered for 19 yrs
Not all men of God are narcissistic. But many are... checking out red flags is very very important. Maybe that needs to be shared. 😊
@@jeldinemmboga1079 sorry mamaa
Your story is exactly as mine only that mine was an SDA,drunkard bt not a pastor.now one year out of it i thank God.hope to share my story soon
Yake pia ni SDA
You made me remember the pain i went thru 11 yrs ago in the hands of KDF soldier...i thank God he rescued me
This makes me remember my late sister who persevered such in her marriage hadi akakufa😢😢
Pole sana 😢
Sorry 😢 may she rest in peace
Sorry
Imagine now a narcissist who abuses drugs 😮😮😮😮
Mmmh worse
Dealing with a jealous person is something else,, thanks for the advice.. ...my own will take one week
I can listen to Apondi the all day..wish you well young lady
Thanks Goddess you realized very early and left instead of wasting your youthful years like me .
Hugs too❤
Hugs
Apondi you will do great! You will live and excel....no weapon fashioned against you shall prosper mami.....go out and conquer!!!!
The first time my X husband raised his hand on me, i ran… iam now a happy single beautiful woman enjoying all the peace and happiness that i deserve 😂😂
Grace to Yu bby girl 🎉
@@Janice-sd7hl thanks darling ☺️
Good girl, if he does it once rest assured he'll do it again
Such a good narrator mama* hugs. You have also literally transformed your looks, you are more beautiful now than before in that marriage. More grace to you Apondi
Hizi story huwa naona ni za jaba but now that the story is talking about a man from my village someone i know very well weuuuuuuuh kumbe things are this baaaaaad😅To you vivian you are strong lady may the good Lord be with you and your babies
You mean you never believe all these people's stories as told by the horses themselves 😮😮
kwani is that his character?
You are Sheila O while I'm A you are my sister we need to connect 😊
This is bad this shouldn't be happening what's his name?
I know him he is still a pastor as Governor Beryan@@walterope3832
Apondi you are purified gold gone through refiners fire. You have spoken for millions!!
Narcissists don't love anybody,they keep hurting women one after other.
I guess men just don't love us (like)
Even they're also narcissistic women too, i once encountered a certain neighbor she almost drained me until i chose to move houses, i thank Jesus who healed 🙏
They are heartless
@annnyangisa sorry dear hope you're well now
@@annnyangisa I tell you
Surely judgment will start from the church
True, it shall be worse for us Christians..so. help us God
Very true,a church is supposed to bring salvation to the lost sheep, but men of the cloth are so hypocritical tan apple outside the church,so help us God🙏
Haki si uongo hukumu itaanzia makanisani
Very true. Most narcissist hide in the name of God. May they be exposed
Eeeeh u really suffered , so glad you got of out that situation. Thank you for breaking a taboo and boldly shared this story to expose pastors who are mistreating women. So many women are in church suffering. May God protect you and your children. May the lord God vindincate you. Love ans hugs from UG. ❤❤❤❤
Thank you Vivian for being bold enough to speak out. It is true that many ladies suffer in the hands of this called Men of God especially the SDAs. May it an eye opener to all ladies going through the same ordeal. Ni hayo tu kwa sasa.
in my life and tongue i will never call a man of GOD we are all man and women of GOD
I don't think it's the faith, but the man himselufu
It cuts across all genders not religious leaders only🙏
This story is liked to Calvary choir song Tewali Akutegera. Literally meaning, No one understands you except you only. How the Pastor's wife pretends in front of the church congregates, is amazing. Bambi they go through alot
This is my classmate,l wish you all the best sweetheart and we thank God that you are now safe.
What a smart lady both physically and mentally 👏 👌 🙌 🎉🎉🎉❤❤you deserve better Vivian
I experienced the same issues am just watching my tears is all over cheeks😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Get out of any toxic situation before it's too late. Move!
Sorry mummy, love and light ❤
@jullie-m1h thank you dear am on a healing journey now
Hugs bby girl,Im healing too❤
Pole,thank God you're sane and alive.
You're one strong and beautiful soul my dear. That's behind you now and the best is still to come. May God heal you wholly.
I love this gal you're talk like Elizabeth mukoro.
I thought I was the only one who noticed 😅
True
I noticed it too... I love her
True
Sure
You are a strong woman APONDI. Your story is almost like mine. Thanks for choosing yourself
wanafaa kushare picha za hao wanaume watu wawaone ndio wakuwe careful
Haha true unaweza pata someone here watching the show is dating him😂😂
Hii ni point, already sharing mine here
True she should mention even his name
True, I don't know why they're never exposed 😮😢
Dear Vivian,
You not alone also married to a very anointed Pastor.
Be of a good courage, stand up again and WIN through Jesus Christ ❤️
Exactly what i went through for ten years in the hands of my ex narssistic man.i know what she's talking about.
Baby girl, don't blame yourself ,it's not your fault......keep on and keep moving.....God has great plans for you and your children. Much love❤
That's how narccists make you believe, they first make u question ur personality and blame urself for everything
Waaaaaaaaaaa,Apondi woiiiiii nyaronagi Kiki deri gi ng'ato .....ukiona kumedhoka kanyaga kubwa kubwa thanks for sharing may God protect you gal
Keep on shining girl.
Thanks for sharing 👍 may God give you strength and what you need in your life n your kids 🙏 ❤️
Almost, heart attack, what are you saying,I almost fell down😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lucy i have blood pressure and heart problem.
@ sorry Lorraine. God is healing you now in Jesus name.
There is surely punishment from God for those who accuse others falsely. It's so painful because it's your word against theirs. May the lord comfort you. Am glad that you are still a happy saul
So sad! It appears majority of African men are misogynistic without even realising it. This stems from our African traditions but some men take it to the next level. Unfortunately many women have no knowledge of this syndrome and also that character is key to giving someone access into your life! Marriage is not an achievement rather staying happily married is actually the achievement. If you realize you’ve made a mistake please for the sake of your mental health and that of your children exit the marriage.
The Trauma these narcissistic men cause on the children especially is the worst
This the only real and painful story i heard in this year
Keep onn flowing dear apondi
am hurtbroken..Vivian I thought it was all rosy mama😢😢,
Have watched the story with alot of anger . I could sue him for deformation to some extent i could fight back. Indeed you are a strong woman and patience was a person. May God expand your territories
You are very strong lady Apondi .May our Good Lord Jesus Christ see you thorough
I'm sorry you went through this Apondi. Congratulations for speaking up ! Such a good story teller....
King'ori you are a good listener...
Apond you're a good girl, strong daughter of her parents, be a strong woman you are not a lone. I am an ex pastor's wife whatever you are saying I confess with the fear of God it is true I passed through the same for 6yrs, I even tried to commit suicide, I got into depression. Pastors are wolves in the sheep's skin although not all. It's now 7yrs since I ran for my life but he still abuses me and my parents, he still rubbishing me and still demanding me back. But God came for my comfort. I also left the church but not God.Ata wewe Mungu atakuponya moyo.
Always crown for happiness the fact she walks out of the deep valley and toxic marriage keeps her courageous and peace minded and healed .
That's alot to take but glory to God forever 🙌 for saving you and your babies. Keep moving don't let go and continue trusting in God no matter what.
Take heart Apondi,it is so sad that a pastor can be so cruel to his wife
That is not a pastor, that's a mad man!!!
Vivian you're a good story teller and strong 😊 you have made your life story seem not sad.More grace