It pisses me off so much that she had her head hung and was crying and the mom still wouldn’t shut up. She looked embarrassed, ashamed even, and all the mom was thinking about was her daughters chest and not her feelings. Ugh
Mom was thinking about what all the Christiany bitties would be saying about her as a mother. They would mirror her own words…cause she’s just like all of them!
@faze194 I've seen spoiled children cry like that. It is meant to manipulate. The mom was paying for the dress. Why should she pay for something she knows will be worn in the church to disrespect her and her religion? Her mom said that she could wear that dress anywhere but the church. So the bride said she wanted the church wedding AND the dress as it was. How petulant and disrespectful! If the bride was independent and an adult, she'd buy the dress herself. If she was respectful and nice, she'd either change her venue or compromise on her dress choice. Only a spoiled narcisst would have tears to try to get all she wanted. An adult compromises when they have desires that conflict with each other. Only a baby who is used to getting her way would expect her mom to pay for the dress as is, knowing she was going to disrespect the whole church. And you supporting her behavior says much more about you and your lack of values than anything else. And by the way, I didn't feel the dress was inappropriate either. But I wasn't paying for the dress, and I don't go to their church. So I respect the mother and friend's opinions, understanding that they know more about it than I do.
@@catladyfromky4142Wow since you don't understand the background of this situation and still feel like you can call the Bride names, you should sit back and hold close your ignorance. You have no clue about what you are saying be quiet
It amazes me how Gok always finds a way to touch everybody’s heart. He is the real star of this show and He has the best dresses. I wish I could buy my own wedding dress from him.
@@celinesalloum5678 thanks for the wishes. It is very nice of you to say that . But I am from Turkey and even the plane ticket probably will cost more than the gown so… But if that happens one day instead of watching the episode you can come and be one of my entourage. 😊
They are Nigerian and most Nigeria churches will see the dress as indecent and some churches will not allow the marriage to take place because of the dress
@@ebunoluwaoyebanji6501 Took the words right out my mouth. I guess people missed the part where she said she would attend if it was anywhere else but that cannot be worn in the church. Its called cultural differences people.
@Linda: That’s why brides should leave their friends and bridesmaids at home. Make it a day for your parents after all they are sending their baby off to a new adventure.
@@robertdavis1217 parents can be just as bad sometimes! You really just need to pick the person or people who really have your best interests at heart. Who also have similar tastes to you or know your taste/style well enough to not let their own get in the way.
Nah her friend is a hater lowkey and her mum is just annoying there was nothing wrong with that dress I’ve watched more episodes and other dresses were so much more dramatic 😂🥸
@@giovannafoletto4911 not in church, the friend is right. I've been to a church for a Nigerian friend's wedding, even the guests were very classy, no boobs and butts hanging out.
@@jemmaj2919 it makes no difference how many wore what. It’s sexist to tell a woman what she can’t wear and to make a woman’s body shameful. I’m not going all woke but it really is
@@jemmaj2919 agree with you. For better or worse, many Nigerian churches are quite strict about wedding attire and that dress would be considered quite risque without the placquet. It's a different culture.
@@logiclanguagelearningFrench it is a two way street, if a man comes in to church topless, he'll be told to dress appropriately, this isn't a gender issue, so please don't divert the problem into a pointless gender argument
African daughters go through so much💔 She’s so strong for even continuing with the appointment. Some would’ve been completely discouraged from that point
dont enable abusive behaviour then, like those girls sitting next to the mother. its obvious the daughter is desperate for her mothers approval and the mother knows that, she made her to be like that so she wont call her out for the abuse. if your crave the abuse you wont say shit to the abuser
I totally get this. On my wedding day was the ONLY time I saw approval on my mom's face. Eventually, after my divorce from the abusive man she chose for me, she was so judgemental that I literally ran away to a different country.
Gok to the rescue! Temi is absolutely gorgeous! I was brought up with the tenet of 'modesty' (in a traditional Jewish family), so I understand the mother's view. But to threaten not to attend her daughter's wedding was just cruel. Well done Gok for coming up with a sensible and frankly brilliant solution. Temi, you are beautiful!
If it would matter, I'd hit the Like repeatedly for Gok Wan. I can't decide whether he's a diplomat with a phenomenal sense of style, or a stylist with a knack for diplomacy.
Can we talk about this bride’s complexion! She is absolutely stunning. She could honestly wear a paper bag and still be the most beautiful person in the room. So happy for her, and her mother ❤️
true! gok was my favorite but then i met jo and al of the curvy brides boutique and shanelle of haute & co. four-way tie for favorite stylist! all of them are extraordinary in how gently they speak to the brides, get into the brides’ heads to know what the brides want, comfort the brides and guide the brides to the perfect and most beautiful gowns!
She looked absolutely stunning. I have PTSD from my own wedding. The dress was in no way distasteful. I felt a LOT of jealousy coming from some in her entourage.
I don’t know about jealousy. It felt more like abusive manipulation. And her entourage I feel like just went along with moms verbal abuse because they’re afraid to say anything.
Well coming from a black mother not all black mothers blackmail and manipulate our daughters. I want my daughter to be her very best and make her own decisions and I will stand by her regardless but I will teach her right from wrong. Also let’s be real you have these types of moms in all races but that’s my take on it
She’s so pretty, it’s really sad to see her get so hurt by what her mother said. That was heartless on mom’s part, she should be able to wear the dress she loves as it is. It wasn’t even that revealing! It was still tasteful
I TOTALLY disagree! If a mom says something "reasonable and sensible- I repeat reasonable and sensible " one has to listen as the mom cares like NO OTHER ... Arrogance is a sign of stupidity..
Unfortunately, traditional moms can have an outdated sense of what is tasteful. It gets more complicated if they were raised in a conservative setting. My grandma would've flipped if I tried anything with a plunging neckline, but I would understand where she was coming from. I think the small compromise with the cover-up was the best solution in this case.
I could see that Mum gave serious thought to the dress after the alteration. I believe that she may not have been 100% in favor, but for her daughters happiness she said Yes.
well that is one way that mothers get very manipulative, telling her I won't go in if you do this it is just almost terrifying and horrible for a girl who just found her dress. it was nice she agreed(it was clear she did not wanted to) but yeah ok.. please let your daughters have your moment it is their dress their day.. you had your moments on your day let your daughter have theirs
This is my wedding dress, and I had basically the exact same experience as she did! My parents loved everything but the plunge. I asked the lady who made my veil to send an extra piece of the lace used in my veil, and my mom is going to lightly stitch it into the plunge before the wedding mass. Then I'll remove it for the reception. She looks so stunning, and if the beauty isn't enough, this dress has enormous pockets!
It's a cycle and I think sometimes our mothers don't realize that they are doing what was done to them and just because they accepted it even though it hurt them, doesn't mean that their children should be put through the same thing. My mom tried to pull this sort of thing with naming my baby. She was like, "the child's name is x, that boy(the father of my baby) isn't going to name that child... " In my head, I said there is no way in hell I'm not naming my child, just because they took that from her and she accepted it, doesn't make it right and I won't let her do that to me. My son is using the name his father and I chose. 😏
I’m reading all these stories about women having similar experiences I’ve had with my own mother… and it does not make me feel any better about it. I just feel deep empathy for all of you that have also had the misfortune.
I swear the dresses Gok picks are just the most beautiful and actually quite affordable. I would loveee for him to pick my dress but then I remember my family's Chinese 😂 Although we're not the most traditional I'd probably still wear a qipao inspired dress just to save money not to buy multiple dresses for the tea ceremony and the actual wedding 🥲 Gok if you have some wedding qipao collections hit me up 😭
@@bighaneul89 not necessarily, yes to some extent, but in addition to that they also take their Christianity very seriously. You must respect God and the church, there's no two ways about it. Also they don't negotiate with terrorists, the terrorists being their kids 🤣 from what I have heard Korean parents are more on the extreme side than even African parents but I'm not sure. However I wouldn't say African parents care more about their reputations than they do about their kids, they are just very stuck in their ways.
Dear Universe - Could we please have a cable channel featuring Gok curating wedding dresses, makeovers, and whatever genius he wants to share with the world? 🙏🤞
Got is famous already in UK before this show because he used to have his own show for several years called, “How To Look Good Naked”, where he took frumpy middle aged women with zero self-esteem and not only styled them but made them body positive and gave them the gok magic! In the end, they’d do a naked photo shoot because he had made them so body conscious!
I’m Nigerian, most of our moms express themselves like that, it doesn’t mean she's manipulating her daughter, is more like saving her from all the other church moms/people or the church will eventually give the bride a veil or scarf to cover up before she enters if it’s too revealing. FYI! her mom said she’s not against her showing off curves and most of our traditional outfits have a similar neckline like that dress, which everyone is cool with it because it's a party outfit. For us, there’s a difference between church or mosque outfits and party (traditional) outfits. I'm happy Gok finds a great balance.😘
@@gigimarch7473 Welcome to African world, older generation shows their expression in a tough way, it’s might be harsh but that’s what shapes us into who we are today. They are been careful because you don’t want some random stranger to come up to you adjusting your wedding dress for you or your wedding picture coming out with some ugly veil covering your beautiful dress. Then would say I should have listened to mom.
@@tawasdiaries So are they protecting you from the "mean society" or changing you into exactly that? If a stranger came to me and started touching me and adjusting my clothes, they would be punched in the face so hard they would never think of doing this again, end of story.
I get the sentiment, but I'm honestly shocked that in a choice between your mom and the dress, you would choose the dress. No matter what it was, a dress is a piece of fabric that's replaceable.
@@schreingeiss people that really love you won't give you an ultimatum. The mom would'vechosen to step her child's wedding bc she didn't like the dress. Why didn't the mom chose fabric over her daughter?
I am half Nigerian and half Jamaican-Canadian. Both parents come from strongly opinionated Christian backgrounds. One's Catholic, the other, Mormon. I know that the two sides would give wahala (trouble) if I wore such a dress. ESPECIALLY, my boyfriend's side of the family. Whom of which are fully Nigerian, but also Muslims (In Nigeria, it's not uncommon for the two faiths to marry one another. Can't explain it, sorry😅) But! I am thankful that after my parents voice their opinions respectfully, they wouldn't threatened to not attended my wedding should I choose to wear a dress like this. I may have Afro-Caribbean blood but was not raised that way. I was born and raised in Canada and they respect me as a person more; and would fend off anybody who would ruin the special day. Now, my belief will have me dressed more modestly anyways. I naturally prefer a more traditional dress for the ceremony too. But I can only imagine how it must feel for these women at times.
I am Indo Trinidadian and I know exactly what you mean and feel its the same for me. My parents may not always agree but they would not want me to be unhappy either. Glad there was a compromise in the end.
The Mother sure held her daughter to ransom and being very harsh saying she wouldn't go to the wedding. That was heart breaking 💔 😢 I could see how that hurt her daughter. It's not about the Mum..it's about the Daughter! Bless Gok for finding a solution, he genius and such a sweet soul.❤🌹
Only a selfish person would make such a comment. It might not be her mother's wedding, but you dont seem to understand is that, in most African communities, you don't question your mum, her words are final, that's first. Secondly anything you do in public reflects on your family name. Nothing is just about you and you feel, only selfish and self centered people think that everything is about them. It stake a village to raise a child.
What a sweetheart the Bride is!!! My heart just wrapped around her warmth and sweetness... (I agreed with Mom on plunge for church) and leave it to Gok to make the ladies all happy.. I hope the lovely Bride & her Groom have a Blessed life together.
@@MariaSantos-bl4jq the same church that abuses and allows men to do as their please but are offended over womens skin!? Yeah right, it’s about control
She is beautiful in both dresses. However, I got goosebumps when she came down in the second dress. It took my breath away. I don’t ever remember having that reaction to a dress.
Lancashire is my favorite … the best dresses, a magical shop, and Gok and the staff genuinely care so much about people. They go out of their way to make it work. They make it a pure environment.
To the person reading this, even though I don't know you, I wish you all the best of what life has to offer you. Stay blessed everyone reading this 🙏❤✨
Lol that is the way african mums are unfortunately. Brutally honest and opinionated but also love their kids. Also it is about church. The mum wouldn't be as bothered about it if they weren't going to be married in a church she doesn't feel it is decent attire for that setting. That is why she says if you were getting married elsewhere then yes but she would feel embarrassed to take her to the church like that. I am not saying this is my view.
@@wyzolma99 😂 why the anger.. it was a joke. But fact is in Africa we honor our parents as per our customs. It's a simple gesture for the fact that they gave you life and raised you. Thats why I went overboard with the ancestor thing as in olden days they were responsibleforpunishment. Also for your information while you can wipe away man made curses... the one you can't just break is the 4th commandment that is the only one with a promise of long life. Your response is typical of a Christian or in the least religious person. So don't bring self righteousness here. You earn a curse from God Almighty for disobedience to parents.
I immediately fell in love with that dress, I’m glad that Gok worked his magic and made it acceptable to mum. In my opinion the veil takes away from it, if she wants a veil it shouldn’t come around the front like that…maybe one that flows down the back.
Mom says “no low plunge.” The first dress he puts on her is “low plunge.” 🙄 There are so many dresses in that store that would be beautiful on her other than the first one with low plunge that she thinks she has to have. She only tried on two. 😳 I think she needed a dress with more bling. Weird episode.
It's her wedding. If she wants a low plunge she should have it. It doesn't matter if it's the first dress or the 100th if she loves it then she loves it. It is not about the mother and it is not about anyone other than the bride and the groom.
That was also the second dress, they just didn't show #1 in this short clip so perhaps he didn't go for the plunge originally and she wasn't into it? Can't say without seeing the full episode.
That’s one thing I don’t understand about the Say yes to the dress UK. They seem to put the bride in things they didn’t ask for and don’t seem to try very many options. Although maybe they cut out a lot that they tried so idk
I can't relate to the whole caring what others think thing. My mother has always been a leader and my father too. Both highly educated middle class Nigerians. People were concerned what THEY thought, not the other way round...
To be fair, look at what mom and entourage are wearing. They are conservative. What they said reflected their values and beliefs. Mom said, if she was having the wedding in Church it was inappropriate. Should it be held elsewhere its fine. The daughter knows that full well growing up in the household. So a compromise was made.
Oh please, most Churches wouldn't even care. Weddings are private events, usually and the guest list is made by the bride and groom and probably wouldn't even have the usual congregation invited. Mom and the entourage are people who've been raised to be ashamed of their bodies and instead of unpacking that with a therapist, they decided to blargh those feelings on other people, including those they proclaim to "love".
@@Callimo Bride invited them to the bridal fitting. So it is the bride that decided who is important in her life. She asked for their opinion. If she cared less, she would have gone with the "guest list". It's her wedding after all.
Please I’m African and there’s nothing wrong with that Mum, she’s even nice. And maybe you people didn’t hear when she said it’s fine if she’s wearing the dress elsewhere but not to the church, but you people want to be sensitive about everything.
@@28105wsking I'm pretty sure that the melanin is very much real. She may have some concealer and foundation that the average woman wears but her Complexion is very much real and very much beautiful. She certainly doesn't have make up down her arms and whole body lol. I dont understand why women always find it necessary to pick at one another instead of just accepting the beauty of the woman standing before us
This is exactly why as a father that I went with my daughter and wife to pick out her wedding dress. Every dress my daughter tried on her mother had something negative to say, finally my daughter found the dress that put a smile on her face from California to New York, her mother didn’t like it, I excuse myself and took her mother outside and told her the wedding wasn’t about her and she needed to shut the hell up. When we returned my daughter was still standing there with the dress on I asked her was that the dress she said yes, when she left to change I went up to the cashier and paid for it. Mother do try to control but the daughters want to please their mothers but they aren’t the ones who’s getting married it’s their day and it should be what she wants not the mother.
The way she hangs her head like she felt shamed (at least that was how I interpretted it) when her mother said she would not go - that was heart wrenching.
Religion and women who have been brainwashed by religion to feel shame for showing off their natural, beautiful bodies have gone hand and hand for centuries. I pity both for growing up in such an environment and wish her mom wouldn't perpetuate these misogynistic myths onto her beautiful daughter.
@Leonie This is a Nigerian mother, not a Western mother. Church congregations will not accept cleavage and things like that. Don't compare the two cultures. That insert made the dress acceptable. The bride herself knew, she was just chancing.
People criticizing the mother. You people don't get it, it's not simply about the parent not liking the dress or trying to control the child, it's about the culture and generation gap, that thought process is built into the mind of a lot of African and Asian parents culturally, they would find that plunging dress unbearably immodest, doesn't mean they are trying to manipulate the kid, they just find it very indecent and disrespectful specially in front of elders or the house of god to wear anything that revealing, so much that they couldn't bear to watch it. It's similar to how a western parent would feel of their child was walking into the church in a bikini with a g string or even naked, a lot of western parents wouldn't want to be in that wedding, i know it's hard for you guys to wrap your head around the concept but that's how a south Asian or African parent would see that dress in their heads in a similar manner. The mother in this episode clearly said if she wants to have the wedding anywhere other than the church, she would be sort of okay but she won't go to the church with her daughter looking like that. This was less about religion or about selfish intentions and more about culture.You have no idea how much internal battle it took for the mother to agree at the end, just for the love of her child. Sensibilities and modesty is subjective to different cultures.
@@harshitabhuyan8892 I’m asian and my family is actively going against such generational gaps. there was no excuse for the mother to be that rude to her own daughter on what she chooses to wear. both of my parents love me enough so much so they allow me to wear whatever makes ME comfortable and happy, not caring about how others may view them, me or my family. i’m glad the mother changed her mind at the end, but it’s concerning parents these days care more about their own reputation/ego rather than their child’s happiness. if they care that much to not go against the toxic “culture” and “gap” then they should not be raising a child in the first place.
She never said that. She said only if she wore that in a church. The child wants the mom to go over her beliefs cause she wants to wear a dress. The mom doesn't. That's all
@@harshitabhuyan8892 It's even possible that the clergy of their church wouldn't allow that dress because of the neckline plunge. I've known of several priests and ministers who have vetoed very low cut or see through wedding dresses in their church and have refused to perform the ceremony if the bride wore a revealing dress. It's only been in about the last ten years some churches here in the middle of the US have allowed strapless wedding dresses-and only those that aren't cut too low-inside the church building. Each denomination and sometimes each priest/minister has the authority to set the rules for dress inside their own church. It hasn't been that long since any woman or girl over about the age of 5 could even enter a Roman Catholic church without having either a hat or at least a pretty scarf-usually a lace one, but that was mostly a fashion choice-covering her head. My family was Protestant, but a lot of our friends were Catholic, and I bought a lace scarf to wear to weddings, funerals, christenings, and other celebrations out of respect for their rules and traditions. We also wouldn't have dreamed of wearing any sort of trousers, even very fancy trousers or slacks, into a church service. Like a lot of small churches the one in which I grew up didn't have paid staff to clean the church and we were allowed to wear jeans or slacks if we were part of the volunteer crew cleaning the church because that was more practical than wearing a dress and actually covered the body better than a dress if someone were down on their hands and knees cleaning the bathrooms, dusting the low parts of the insides of the pew ends, and other cleaning of low down areas or up on a ladder cleaning the light fixtures or replacing light bulbs. Any time we attended a service, dresses, skirts and blouses, or even a dressy suit were the only acceptable clothing for a woman and the skirt had better at least go down to the tops of your knees and the blouse had better not show any cleavage. Spaghetti strap sun dresses were a no no.You could wear a hat, but as Protestants we weren't required to cover our heads. There are traditions for what is acceptable to wear inside a place of worship that show respect for the fact that it is a sacred place of worship and ceremony. The rules have become a lot more relaxed for many faiths, but there are still limits to what is acceptable in churches and other places of worship. It's a matter of faith and respect for one's faith and its standards of conduct and dress. Before people get mad and say I have no respect for an individual's right to choose, I want to point out that I'm no longer a church member anywhere and practice Wicca. In my faith worshipping or having ceremonies skyclad (nude) is completely acceptable. Most of us choose *not* to go skyclad simply because of our background programming *and* very few of us have total body confidence because of that programming. Gravity also affects us all and even some of the leaders in the various traditions have admitted publicly they aren't as comfortable skyclad in middle age and into the elderly years as they were in their 20's and 30's. As someone who has the body of a goddess (in my case the Venus of Willendorf-Google her) I prefer to practice clothed except alone in my own home with the curtains drawn.
I really hate that mothers feel their daughters weddings are about them. Let the girl where whatever she wants however, who gives a damn it’s her wedding
I’m at a point in my life where if my mom pulls that stunt I’ll tell her “ok, see you at the reception” in the calmest most controlled voice, and keep the appointment moving.
y'all gotta understand its a cultural thing and about respecting the church. she said she cant wear that int he church...it has to do about modesty. ofc she looks gorgeous its not that bad of a dress but its bigger than just looks.
It pisses me off so much that she had her head hung and was crying and the mom still wouldn’t shut up. She looked embarrassed, ashamed even, and all the mom was thinking about was her daughters chest and not her feelings. Ugh
Mom was thinking about what all the Christiany bitties would be saying about her as a mother. They would mirror her own words…cause she’s just like all of them!
@faze194 I've seen spoiled children cry like that. It is meant to manipulate.
The mom was paying for the dress. Why should she pay for something she knows will be worn in the church to disrespect her and her religion?
Her mom said that she could wear that dress anywhere but the church. So the bride said she wanted the church wedding AND the dress as it was. How petulant and disrespectful!
If the bride was independent and an adult, she'd buy the dress herself. If she was respectful and nice, she'd either change her venue or compromise on her dress choice. Only a spoiled narcisst would have tears to try to get all she wanted.
An adult compromises when they have desires that conflict with each other. Only a baby who is used to getting her way would expect her mom to pay for the dress as is, knowing she was going to disrespect the whole church. And you supporting her behavior says much more about you and your lack of values than anything else.
And by the way, I didn't feel the dress was inappropriate either. But I wasn't paying for the dress, and I don't go to their church. So I respect the mother and friend's opinions, understanding that they know more about it than I do.
@@catladyfromky4142Wow since you don't understand the background of this situation and still feel like you can call the Bride names, you should sit back and hold close your ignorance. You have no clue about what you are saying be quiet
It amazes me how Gok always finds a way to touch everybody’s heart. He is the real star of this show and He has the best dresses. I wish I could buy my own wedding dress from him.
you can and one day you sure will! ill be waiting to watch your video💕
@@celinesalloum5678 thanks for the wishes. It is very nice of you to say that . But I am from Turkey and even the plane ticket probably will cost more than the gown so… But if that happens one day instead of watching the episode you can come and be one of my entourage. 😊
But
yes.. he is a lovely person.
@@celinesalloum5678 l
Hate when parents use their children’s love for them as a tool to manipulate and get their way
I'd be so sad if my mom said she wouldn't come to my wedding because of what I want to wear. So manipulative.
They are Nigerian and most Nigeria churches will see the dress as indecent and some churches will not allow the marriage to take place because of the dress
@@ebunoluwaoyebanji6501 Took the words right out my mouth. I guess people missed the part where she said she would attend if it was anywhere else but that cannot be worn in the church. Its called cultural differences people.
Exactly! I felt so bad for Temi and I figured they were Nigerian but still it hurt her feelings when her mom said that.
True
that first dress we saw her in was “distasteful” but the exact same dress without the plunge was “underwhelming”? MAKE UP YOUR MINDSSSSSSSS
That friend was pissing me off, she had a whole lot of negative to say but no positive whatsoever. It was giving judgemental with a hint of jealousy
@Linda: That’s why brides should leave their friends and bridesmaids at home. Make it a day for your parents after all they are sending their baby off to a new adventure.
@@robertdavis1217 parents can be just as bad sometimes! You really just need to pick the person or people who really have your best interests at heart. Who also have similar tastes to you or know your taste/style well enough to not let their own get in the way.
Couldn't you see the difference?
I think the dress was perfect with a small cover. It looked like it belonged there too. The princess shape dress is so her!
Wow the bride is gorgeous and I need about a thousand more Gok episodes lol
Me too
Same here!
I AGREE! Gok has a way of solving everyone’s concerns. 🤗
Indeed!
Facts....
I think her friend is the perfect person to bring. Shes so honest and a middle ground between her mum and her, and can really see how she feels.
Nah her friend is a hater lowkey and her mum is just annoying there was nothing wrong with that dress I’ve watched more episodes and other dresses were so much more dramatic 😂🥸
@@giovannafoletto4911 not in church, the friend is right. I've been to a church for a Nigerian friend's wedding, even the guests were very classy, no boobs and butts hanging out.
@@jemmaj2919 it makes no difference how many wore what. It’s sexist to tell a woman what she can’t wear and to make a woman’s body shameful. I’m not going all woke but it really is
@@jemmaj2919 agree with you. For better or worse, many Nigerian churches are quite strict about wedding attire and that dress would be considered quite risque without the placquet. It's a different culture.
@@logiclanguagelearningFrench it is a two way street, if a man comes in to church topless, he'll be told to dress appropriately, this isn't a gender issue, so please don't divert the problem into a pointless gender argument
African daughters go through so much💔 She’s so strong for even continuing with the appointment. Some would’ve been completely discouraged from that point
dont enable abusive behaviour then, like those girls sitting next to the mother. its obvious the daughter is desperate for her mothers approval and the mother knows that, she made her to be like that so she wont call her out for the abuse. if your crave the abuse you wont say shit to the abuser
@@namjoonie936 shut up
I CAN RELATE. That's the reason I decided that after the divorce, if I have the opportunity, I WILL ELOPE
I totally get this. On my wedding day was the ONLY time I saw approval on my mom's face. Eventually, after my divorce from the abusive man she chose for me, she was so judgemental that I literally ran away to a different country.
@@OO-be3jz wow! I am so sorry sweetheart
Gok to the rescue! Temi is absolutely gorgeous! I was brought up with the tenet of 'modesty' (in a traditional Jewish family), so I understand the mother's view. But to threaten not to attend her daughter's wedding was just cruel. Well done Gok for coming up with a sensible and frankly brilliant solution. Temi, you are beautiful!
Does anyone else IMMEDIATELY HIT THE LIKE BUTTON FOR GOK before the video has even started or is that just me?
I see Gok i hit the button
If it would matter, I'd hit the Like repeatedly for Gok Wan. I can't decide whether he's a diplomat with a phenomenal sense of style, or a stylist with a knack for diplomacy.
I did the same thing
Nope, not just you. Gok is amazing!!
ALWAYS! Makes me so happy
Can we talk about this bride’s complexion! She is absolutely stunning. She could honestly wear a paper bag and still be the most beautiful person in the room. So happy for her, and her mother ❤️
Why does not EVERYONE just go to Gok?
true! gok was my favorite but then i met jo and al of the curvy brides boutique and shanelle of haute & co. four-way tie for favorite stylist! all of them are extraordinary in how gently they speak to the brides, get into the brides’ heads to know what the brides want, comfort the brides and guide the brides to the perfect and most beautiful gowns!
Gok doesn't work there - he's a well known tv personality and fashion stylist who was brought in for the tv series.
Going to Lancashire would destroy any semblance of a budget or I definitely would
He's about the only one I watch.
Literally!!
She is so stunning. My heart broke when she put her head down in shame for even thinking of getting the dress.
She looked absolutely stunning. I have PTSD from my own wedding. The dress was in no way distasteful. I felt a LOT of jealousy coming from some in her entourage.
It was an opinion which didn't read as jealousy to me..
@@nellyndinda8119 it read abusive family to me
I don’t know about jealousy. It felt more like abusive manipulation. And her entourage I feel like just went along with moms verbal abuse because they’re afraid to say anything.
“Ptsd” from your own wedding? Don’t call it ptsd unless it actually is
As someone who's actually experienced trauma, please don't throw around the term this way.
The 1st dress was ab-solutely gorgeous on her..what a perfect figure 😩
Asian mom's,Black mom's and Latina Mom's war for the crown of the most emotional blackmailing and manipulative species is definitely on another level😔
no because youre right our moms only let sons get away w bs
Well coming from a black mother not all black mothers blackmail and manipulate our daughters. I want my daughter to be her very best and make her own decisions and I will stand by her regardless but I will teach her right from wrong. Also let’s be real you have these types of moms in all races but that’s my take on it
So true. 😭
@@lalalalalalalallaa-i2l So true. Just sad. Smdh and they never see the pattern of their destruction.
sad but this is so true .
I love how he makes every bride feel special. And never shows dresses above the budget
She’s so pretty, it’s really sad to see her get so hurt by what her mother said. That was heartless on mom’s part, she should be able to wear the dress she loves as it is. It wasn’t even that revealing! It was still tasteful
I TOTALLY disagree! If a mom says something "reasonable and sensible- I repeat reasonable and sensible " one has to listen as the mom cares like NO OTHER ... Arrogance is a sign of stupidity..
Unfortunately, traditional moms can have an outdated sense of what is tasteful. It gets more complicated if they were raised in a conservative setting. My grandma would've flipped if I tried anything with a plunging neckline, but I would understand where she was coming from. I think the small compromise with the cover-up was the best solution in this case.
I love how Gok isn’t scared to make alterations and come up with ideas to help a bride get the dress they want
Such a beautiful bride. Gok is literally a fairy godmother.
The fairy Gok mother lol
Can we just drop everything for a moment and just acknowledge the fact that this girl is drop dead Gorgeous
I could see that Mum gave serious thought to the dress after the alteration. I believe that she may not have been 100% in favor, but for her daughters happiness she said Yes.
The dress later on looked so stunning on her. I was literally screaming don't go out the store without the dress! It suited her so much.
Every other version of this program can be cancelled. This version with Gok is hands-down the absolute BEST. Gok is a treasure.
well that is one way that mothers get very manipulative, telling her I won't go in if you do this it is just almost terrifying and horrible for a girl who just found her dress. it was nice she agreed(it was clear she did not wanted to) but yeah ok.. please let your daughters have your moment it is their dress their day.. you had your moments on your day let your daughter have theirs
Slit until the belly button in church is a disgrace
@@ang5798 ooh a bride who is forced to wear something she don't like is not a disgrace right?
Some people have what's called standards, many for religious reasons. You don't have to compromise those standards for someone's "moment".
@@AS-yz2iz not her wedding so not her call. simple as that. her mother's standards are not the daughter's and it should be that way.
@@teaffeeblend Her daughter didn't have to change what she wanted. She could have held to her first choice unchanged. No one's forcing anyone.
The bride’s face… she was glowing! For everyone to say what they did when the bride looked so amazing, that was just cruel.
She is a showstopper herself😍
The bride looks absolutely stunning, and so does the dress, so elegant and classy, even with that drop.
I love the way they fit the dress all around her and not just clip all the excess at the back. It gives a much better idea of the "look".
This is my wedding dress, and I had basically the exact same experience as she did! My parents loved everything but the plunge. I asked the lady who made my veil to send an extra piece of the lace used in my veil, and my mom is going to lightly stitch it into the plunge before the wedding mass. Then I'll remove it for the reception. She looks so stunning, and if the beauty isn't enough, this dress has enormous pockets!
Was your wedding in a church?
That’s what I was going to say! Sew in a piece for the church!
@@sweetzs100 yes! I’m actually catholic!
@@nickis429 that’s exactly what I did! It worked perfectly and was beautiful!
It's a cycle and I think sometimes our mothers don't realize that they are doing what was done to them and just because they accepted it even though it hurt them, doesn't mean that their children should be put through the same thing.
My mom tried to pull this sort of thing with naming my baby. She was like, "the child's name is x, that boy(the father of my baby) isn't going to name that child... "
In my head, I said there is no way in hell I'm not naming my child, just because they took that from her and she accepted it, doesn't make it right and I won't let her do that to me. My son is using the name his father and I chose. 😏
I’m reading all these stories about women having similar experiences I’ve had with my own mother… and it does not make me feel any better about it. I just feel deep empathy for all of you that have also had the misfortune.
I swear the dresses Gok picks are just the most beautiful and actually quite affordable. I would loveee for him to pick my dress but then I remember my family's Chinese 😂 Although we're not the most traditional I'd probably still wear a qipao inspired dress just to save money not to buy multiple dresses for the tea ceremony and the actual wedding 🥲 Gok if you have some wedding qipao collections hit me up 😭
She looked beautiful in the dress with/without the panel inserted. That was definitely her dress. God bless the union between her and her husband.
She so wanted to hug Gok. But who wouldn't? He's amazing!!! 🥰
If you're African you weren't even shocked by her mother's reaction. African parents don't play lol
Darn right
@@bighaneul89 not necessarily, yes to some extent, but in addition to that they also take their Christianity very seriously. You must respect God and the church, there's no two ways about it. Also they don't negotiate with terrorists, the terrorists being their kids 🤣 from what I have heard Korean parents are more on the extreme side than even African parents but I'm not sure. However I wouldn't say African parents care more about their reputations than they do about their kids, they are just very stuck in their ways.
Right!😂
@@bighaneul89 African parents are VERY conservative and traditional. They care about your happiness, but they also care about their beliefs :)
I think the other comments in here are being too critical of the mother. In my culture too this would be seen as too revealing.
This bride is so incredibly beautiful. Her standing in the first dress was mind blowing.
Dear Universe - Could we please have a cable channel featuring Gok curating wedding dresses, makeovers, and whatever genius he wants to share with the world? 🙏🤞
Who and what is this universe that you are praying to?
Got is famous already in UK before this show because he used to have his own show for several years called, “How To Look Good Naked”, where he took frumpy middle aged women with zero self-esteem and not only styled them but made them body positive and gave them the gok magic! In the end, they’d do a naked photo shoot because he had made them so body conscious!
God oh mighty, it’s not like everything is out but a nipple! That is a grown woman! I want to give her a hug!
I’m Nigerian, most of our moms express themselves like that, it doesn’t mean she's manipulating her daughter, is more like saving her from all the other church moms/people or the church will eventually give the bride a veil or scarf to cover up before she enters if it’s too revealing.
FYI! her mom said she’s not against her showing off curves and most of our traditional outfits have a similar neckline like that dress, which everyone is cool with it because it's a party outfit.
For us, there’s a difference between church or mosque outfits and party (traditional) outfits.
I'm happy Gok finds a great balance.😘
There's still some toxic energy in that. Everyone is too worried about what others say.
@@gigimarch7473 Welcome to African world, older generation shows their expression in a tough way, it’s might be harsh but that’s what shapes us into who we are today.
They are been careful because you don’t want some random stranger to come up to you adjusting your wedding dress for you or your wedding picture coming out with some ugly veil covering your beautiful dress. Then would say I should have listened to mom.
@@tawasdiaries So are they protecting you from the "mean society" or changing you into exactly that? If a stranger came to me and started touching me and adjusting my clothes, they would be punched in the face so hard they would never think of doing this again, end of story.
@@tawasdiaries why not say that then? The way you just explained it was nice and gentle and it wouldn't hurt her daughter's feelings.
@@martinatasevska6354 Well, I'm new generation lol...
I love my weird mum who never cared about her daughters getting married, what we wear or what we do.
What a gorgeous young lady. That dress was made for her. Gok, again much love for the care you take dressing your brides. You're the best.
I just LOVE Gok!!! He’s always so thoughtful with not only the brides but the mums too!!
If anyone threatened to not come to my wedding bc they didn't like my dress, they're getting uninvited. Parents included.
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I feel you on that.
That is exactly how I feel, and I could care less too.
I get the sentiment, but I'm honestly shocked that in a choice between your mom and the dress, you would choose the dress. No matter what it was, a dress is a piece of fabric that's replaceable.
@@schreingeiss people that really love you won't give you an ultimatum. The mom would'vechosen to step her child's wedding bc she didn't like the dress. Why didn't the mom chose fabric over her daughter?
I am half Nigerian and half Jamaican-Canadian. Both parents come from strongly opinionated Christian backgrounds. One's Catholic, the other, Mormon. I know that the two sides would give wahala (trouble) if I wore such a dress. ESPECIALLY, my boyfriend's side of the family. Whom of which are fully Nigerian, but also Muslims (In Nigeria, it's not uncommon for the two faiths to marry one another. Can't explain it, sorry😅)
But! I am thankful that after my parents voice their opinions respectfully, they wouldn't threatened to not attended my wedding should I choose to wear a dress like this. I may have Afro-Caribbean blood but was not raised that way. I was born and raised in Canada and they respect me as a person more; and would fend off anybody who would ruin the special day. Now, my belief will have me dressed more modestly anyways. I naturally prefer a more traditional dress for the ceremony too. But I can only imagine how it must feel for these women at times.
I am Indo Trinidadian and I know exactly what you mean and feel its the same for me. My parents may not always agree but they would not want me to be unhappy either. Glad there was a compromise in the end.
@@giselleali1979 I'm glad too. She's a beautiful bride.
The Mother sure held her daughter to ransom and being very harsh saying she wouldn't go to the wedding. That was heart breaking 💔 😢 I could see how that hurt her daughter. It's not about the Mum..it's about the Daughter! Bless Gok for finding a solution, he genius and such a sweet soul.❤🌹
Only a selfish person would make such a comment.
It might not be her mother's wedding, but you dont seem to understand is that, in most African communities, you don't question your mum, her words are final, that's first. Secondly anything you do in public reflects on your family name.
Nothing is just about you and you feel, only selfish and self centered people think that everything is about them.
It stake a village to raise a child.
the look on Temi's face when her mother approved... she is so beautiful, she could model.
What a sweetheart the Bride is!!! My heart just wrapped around her warmth and sweetness... (I agreed with Mom on plunge for church) and leave it to Gok to make the ladies all happy.. I hope the lovely Bride & her Groom have a Blessed life together.
Mom's need to get over themselves. It's not their day. The bride looks lovely. It's her day and should be her choice.
So, her mom should have to compromise her standards? If the bride doesn't want to abide by them, she can go get her dress on her own.
It is because it is a church wedding.It has to be a little bit more covered.
@@MariaSantos-bl4jq so God's creations offend Him???🤦
@@MariaSantos-bl4jq the same church that abuses and allows men to do as their please but are offended over womens skin!? Yeah right, it’s about control
@@AS-yz2iz it not her moms wedding she had here’s and needs to stop living vicariously through her daughter by shaming her
Shes so sweet the bride so happy she got her dress ❤
I love how the majority of the Gok videos on this channel start wit “Gok helps ___” because he really is so helpful with everything he does
imagine off camera they threaten the entourage to like the dress
Can't!
i think the encouragement from the consultants combined with the cameras and mics on them are enough pressure to get families to compromise lol.
That first dress was spectacular
It’s crazy how Temi looked so gorgeous with all the dresses she wore!😭💗
She is beautiful in both dresses. However, I got goosebumps when she came down in the second dress. It took my breath away. I don’t ever remember having that reaction to a dress.
This young lady is stunning in that dress. For her mother to threaten not to attend the wedding was just down right cruel. It's HER wedding.
Lancashire is my favorite … the best dresses, a magical shop, and Gok and the staff genuinely care so much about people. They go out of their way to make it work. They make it a pure environment.
To the person reading this, even though I don't know you, I wish you all the best of what life has to offer you. Stay blessed everyone reading this 🙏❤✨
you too! thank you!
What a sweetheart you are. May God bless you with health and happiness. If you have both of these you can consider yourself wealthy 😉
Same to you Dear Heart XOXOX
TY. Same to you !
this made my day since I'm going through a rough patch rn. ty so much 😊
Social distancing let’s me know that this recently occurred. So happy Gok is still styling brides!
The mom is a true African Mama with strong opinions…. Reminds me of my own.
Smh.
Really sad can’t wait till we get out of that mess.
Why can't all SYTTD episodes have either Gok or the ladies from the Curvy Girls' boutique on them?!?!?!?
My heart skipped a beat when they talked about how they meet and then they kissed 🥺❤️ it’s so beautiful. She looks amazing aswell 👍
She looked so beautiful!! I find it so sad that they find a way to bring her down!😢♥️
This gotta be the prettiest bride I’ve ever seen on this show😮😍 and the dress on her looks STUNNING🤩
I'm sorry but Gok is a miracle worker. That beautiful bride suits that dress so much 😍
How is that plunge too much, I think it's so classy and not over the top at all.
What an incredibly beautiful bride.
I would love to see her in her gown after the actual panel was made for it. So beautiful!
Oh wow just the first fress is already beautiful... I almost cry!
More episodes with Gok I just love how calming he’s episodes are
She's absolutely stunning in that dress!
It’s not the Mom’s weeding 🤣 just don’t go if you can’t deal with it
Lol that is the way african mums are unfortunately. Brutally honest and opinionated but also love their kids. Also it is about church. The mum wouldn't be as bothered about it if they weren't going to be married in a church she doesn't feel it is decent attire for that setting. That is why she says if you were getting married elsewhere then yes but she would feel embarrassed to take her to the church like that.
I am not saying this is my view.
If you pull this shit on an African mum, all the ancestors will turn their bums on you. Loosely translated..you're cursed for life.
That's her mom thou
@@708Chrystal rubbish! Cursed like that can be wiped in a heartbeat🙄
@@wyzolma99 😂 why the anger.. it was a joke. But fact is in Africa we honor our parents as per our customs. It's a simple gesture for the fact that they gave you life and raised you. Thats why I went overboard with the ancestor thing as in olden days they were responsibleforpunishment. Also for your information while you can wipe away man made curses... the one you can't just break is the 4th commandment that is the only one with a promise of long life. Your response is typical of a Christian or in the least religious person. So don't bring self righteousness here. You earn a curse from God Almighty for disobedience to parents.
Beautiful woman, and that dress was made for her.
The bride definitely looks amazing in any dress so just let her have her day
I immediately fell in love with that dress, I’m glad that Gok worked his magic and made it acceptable to mum. In my opinion the veil takes away from it, if she wants a veil it shouldn’t come around the front like that…maybe one that flows down the back.
Can we just take time to appreciate how respective she is towards her mother 🤍
AS WE ALL SHOULD BE!!!!!
Mom says “no low plunge.”
The first dress he puts on her is “low plunge.” 🙄
There are so many dresses in that store that would be beautiful on her other than the first one with low plunge that she thinks she has to have.
She only tried on two. 😳
I think she needed a dress with more bling.
Weird episode.
It’s her wedding not her mom’s wedding and she loved the dress so why does it matter lol. It’s about her.
It's her wedding. If she wants a low plunge she should have it. It doesn't matter if it's the first dress or the 100th if she loves it then she loves it.
It is not about the mother and it is not about anyone other than the bride and the groom.
That was also the second dress, they just didn't show #1 in this short clip so perhaps he didn't go for the plunge originally and she wasn't into it? Can't say without seeing the full episode.
That’s one thing I don’t understand about the Say yes to the dress UK. They seem to put the bride in things they didn’t ask for and don’t seem to try very many options. Although maybe they cut out a lot that they tried so idk
@@MegzWassup1215 the mom isn’t the bride….
I can't relate to the whole caring what others think thing. My mother has always been a leader and my father too. Both highly educated middle class Nigerians. People were concerned what THEY thought, not the other way round...
Sbe looked absolutely stunning in the 1st dress - it's the bride's day!!!!
To be fair, look at what mom and entourage are wearing. They are conservative. What they said reflected their values and beliefs. Mom said, if she was having the wedding in Church it was inappropriate. Should it be held elsewhere its fine. The daughter knows that full well growing up in the household. So a compromise was made.
Oh please, most Churches wouldn't even care. Weddings are private events, usually and the guest list is made by the bride and groom and probably wouldn't even have the usual congregation invited.
Mom and the entourage are people who've been raised to be ashamed of their bodies and instead of unpacking that with a therapist, they decided to blargh those feelings on other people, including those they proclaim to "love".
@@Callimo Bride invited them to the bridal fitting. So it is the bride that decided who is important in her life. She asked for their opinion. If she cared less, she would have gone with the "guest list". It's her wedding after all.
Her Nigerian Mum, she's just like mine😩😂😂
wow she is absolutely beautiful!! her tooth gap is so pretty. he's a lucky man ❤
She looks like a princess!!!! Stunning!
She looks beautiful in all the dresses
Gok Did A Great Job with This Wedding Gown. Gok is Great With Brides.
She’s such a beautiful girl, absolutely stunning !!!
You can’t not see the mothers love for her daughter despite their differences.
Wow, she looks gorgeous.
The colour/material of the dress really compliments her skin tone, she looks like she's glowing.
Talk about jealousy!! Her aunt and mother are DEFINITELY jealous.
Please I’m African and there’s nothing wrong with that Mum, she’s even nice. And maybe you people didn’t hear when she said it’s fine if she’s wearing the dress elsewhere but not to the church, but you people want to be sensitive about everything.
The couple look like they just got out of model magazine. They're both so gorgeous
Bride is absolutely gorgeous
What a beautiful mom😭💜
That 1st address was gorgeous on her.❤
I nearly cried for her, she looks surreal, so beautiful❤
This bride's complexion is unreal, just glowing gorgeous. What a stunning beauty.
I totally agree. I can't get over her skin tone!!! She is a doll!!!!
She has the PERFECT complexion! Your right, it is unreal!
You are right. It is unreal. It's makeup!
I was just gonna say that. The contrast with that first gown was lovely
@@28105wsking I'm pretty sure that the melanin is very much real. She may have some concealer and foundation that the average woman wears but her Complexion is very much real and very much beautiful. She certainly doesn't have make up down her arms and whole body lol. I dont understand why women always find it necessary to pick at one another instead of just accepting the beauty of the woman standing before us
This is exactly why as a father that I went with my daughter and wife to pick out her wedding dress. Every dress my daughter tried on her mother had something negative to say, finally my daughter found the dress that put a smile on her face from California to New York, her mother didn’t like it, I excuse myself and took her mother outside and told her the wedding wasn’t about her and she needed to shut the hell up. When we returned my daughter was still standing there with the dress on I asked her was that the dress she said yes, when she left to change I went up to the cashier and paid for it. Mother do try to control but the daughters want to please their mothers but they aren’t the ones who’s getting married it’s their day and it should be what she wants not the mother.
W dad
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Way to go Dad🙌🏾
Way to go Dad🙌🏾
Well done Dad!🙂
The way she hangs her head like she felt shamed (at least that was how I interpretted it) when her mother said she would not go - that was heart wrenching.
Same
I felt that too.
Religion and women who have been brainwashed by religion to feel shame for showing off their natural, beautiful bodies have gone hand and hand for centuries. I pity both for growing up in such an environment and wish her mom wouldn't perpetuate these misogynistic myths onto her beautiful daughter.
@@amm6569 This. I really hope we're the last generation to have gotten instinctively instilled shame and fear as a way to teach lessons.
@@cheesecakelasagna believe me you are. The last.
@@flamingpieherman9822 good
I thought the dress was drop dead gorgeous! Her boobs weren't falling out. But Gok knew what to do. He's a genius!
The first thing I thought was to add more material alterations. He probably thought that too but, you know, drama.
Mom was just jealous bc the brides so pretty
I’m loving how modestly he handled her too. And if they add some sequins and studs on material in the cleavage, it would match the beaded belt
@@ashleyhoward3333
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@Leonie This is a Nigerian mother, not a Western mother. Church congregations will not accept cleavage and things like that. Don't compare the two cultures. That insert made the dress acceptable. The bride herself knew, she was just chancing.
Imagine not going to your daughters wedding over a dress you didn’t like… What is wrong with people?
People criticizing the mother. You people don't get it, it's not simply about the parent not liking the dress or trying to control the child, it's about the culture and generation gap, that thought process is built into the mind of a lot of African and Asian parents culturally, they would find that plunging dress unbearably immodest, doesn't mean they are trying to manipulate the kid, they just find it very indecent and disrespectful specially in front of elders or the house of god to wear anything that revealing, so much that they couldn't bear to watch it.
It's similar to how a western parent would feel of their child was walking into the church in a bikini with a g string or even naked, a lot of western parents wouldn't want to be in that wedding, i know it's hard for you guys to wrap your head around the concept but that's how a south Asian or African parent would see that dress in their heads in a similar manner.
The mother in this episode clearly said if she wants to have the wedding anywhere other than the church, she would be sort of okay but she won't go to the church with her daughter looking like that. This was less about religion or about selfish intentions and more about culture.You have no idea how much internal battle it took for the mother to agree at the end, just for the love of her child. Sensibilities and modesty is subjective to different cultures.
@@harshitabhuyan8892 I’m asian and my family is actively going against such generational gaps. there was no excuse for the mother to be that rude to her own daughter on what she chooses to wear. both of my parents love me enough so much so they allow me to wear whatever makes ME comfortable and happy, not caring about how others may view them, me or my family. i’m glad the mother changed her mind at the end, but it’s concerning parents these days care more about their own reputation/ego rather than their child’s happiness. if they care that much to not go against the toxic “culture” and “gap” then they should not be raising a child in the first place.
@@harshitabhuyan8892 but to not go to your own daughter’s wedding, that’s too much
She never said that. She said only if she wore that in a church. The child wants the mom to go over her beliefs cause she wants to wear a dress. The mom doesn't. That's all
@@harshitabhuyan8892 It's even possible that the clergy of their church wouldn't allow that dress because of the neckline plunge. I've known of several priests and ministers who have vetoed very low cut or see through wedding dresses in their church and have refused to perform the ceremony if the bride wore a revealing dress. It's only been in about the last ten years some churches here in the middle of the US have allowed strapless wedding dresses-and only those that aren't cut too low-inside the church building. Each denomination and sometimes each priest/minister has the authority to set the rules for dress inside their own church. It hasn't been that long since any woman or girl over about the age of 5 could even enter a Roman Catholic church without having either a hat or at least a pretty scarf-usually a lace one, but that was mostly a fashion choice-covering her head. My family was Protestant, but a lot of our friends were Catholic, and I bought a lace scarf to wear to weddings, funerals, christenings, and other celebrations out of respect for their rules and traditions. We also wouldn't have dreamed of wearing any sort of trousers, even very fancy trousers or slacks, into a church service. Like a lot of small churches the one in which I grew up didn't have paid staff to clean the church and we were allowed to wear jeans or slacks if we were part of the volunteer crew cleaning the church because that was more practical than wearing a dress and actually covered the body better than a dress if someone were down on their hands and knees cleaning the bathrooms, dusting the low parts of the insides of the pew ends, and other cleaning of low down areas or up on a ladder cleaning the light fixtures or replacing light bulbs. Any time we attended a service, dresses, skirts and blouses, or even a dressy suit were the only acceptable clothing for a woman and the skirt had better at least go down to the tops of your knees and the blouse had better not show any cleavage. Spaghetti strap sun dresses were a no no.You could wear a hat, but as Protestants we weren't required to cover our heads. There are traditions for what is acceptable to wear inside a place of worship that show respect for the fact that it is a sacred place of worship and ceremony. The rules have become a lot more relaxed for many faiths, but there are still limits to what is acceptable in churches and other places of worship. It's a matter of faith and respect for one's faith and its standards of conduct and dress.
Before people get mad and say I have no respect for an individual's right to choose, I want to point out that I'm no longer a church member anywhere and practice Wicca. In my faith worshipping or having ceremonies skyclad (nude) is completely acceptable. Most of us choose *not* to go skyclad simply because of our background programming *and* very few of us have total body confidence because of that programming. Gravity also affects us all and even some of the leaders in the various traditions have admitted publicly they aren't as comfortable skyclad in middle age and into the elderly years as they were in their 20's and 30's. As someone who has the body of a goddess (in my case the Venus of Willendorf-Google her) I prefer to practice clothed except alone in my own home with the curtains drawn.
I really hate that mothers feel their daughters weddings are about them. Let the girl where whatever she wants however, who gives a damn it’s her wedding
The living through your children method NEEDS TO STOP
I’m at a point in my life where if my mom pulls that stunt I’ll tell her “ok, see you at the reception” in the calmest most controlled voice, and keep the appointment moving.
I agree that it isn't the mom's day however I understand her standpoint on modesty
y'all gotta understand its a cultural thing and about respecting the church. she said she cant wear that int he church...it has to do about modesty. ofc she looks gorgeous its not that bad of a dress but its bigger than just looks.
@@febenkebede7080 well then that culture has to change.
it is INSANE how such a small part of a woman’s body is the LINE for some people.
Yeh exactly. I don't understand how that makes any difference?
Right it’s barely anything
Yeah...esp when 300 years ago dresses had boobs practically spilling out of them but people fainted when a woman showed an ankle...
@@shadanaljanabi2929 because some people's traditions won't allow it in church - and others cannot get past breasts as sexual objects.
It's crazy how some people think that a ceremony in which you swear eternal fidelity to each other would somehow be more beautiful in slutty clothes.