Can you do a monthly video on this topic? Cause WOW I needed this as we soon step into our first “official” year of homeschooling my kiddo. You always bring such wisdom! Thank you!! 🙏🏻
I think when family passes judgement it hurts much worse than strangers. I try to remind myself of all the lovely caring people in my life who love me and my children for who we are.
Thanks for the great things you always share! Some people don’t know, don’t understand, and don’t try to know the situation of our children may have. And they are the ones that really have a problem! Not Our children. I just had to straighten a family member about mind! When they should know better than the public ppl and understand.
I have four special needs kids. I keep their world very small. It is hard but through parenting these children I have learned the beauty of truly living day by day and expecting God's daily manna to get me through one more day.
Thank you for this much needed video. I have 3 children with Autism and often hear “WoW, how do you do it? Or the exact phrase that you said “You have so much on your plate. I didn’t want to burden you.” It is hurtful to be leftout, but thank you for sharing a little of your world to give us encouragement.
*nods* It can be patronizing, in my opinion. And we have to remember that they mean well, but sometimes even the best of intentions can yield hurtful results. Give them some grace for trying, at least. Many people don't even try. Unfortunately...
Thank you for this. I struggle with this with one of my kids. People don’t understand and sometimes it’s hurtful. You can feel the judgement from people and people don’t realize how they come off.
Those with certain traumatic pasts are also given grief for not liking eye and/or physical contact. It's hard, regardless of the reason, to deal with people who don't (or won't) understand. Many simply aren't aware but many who ARE aware can never truly understand it unless/until they themselves have to deal with it. I try to be considerate and "give them some grace" when dealing with people but it can be hard.
Just what I needed to hear this morning. Thank you! I was just told yesterday that “Everyone is busy from their own perspective.” Uh, No, I’m objectively busy!! I work full time, have 3 special needs children, am homeschooling 5 kids and teach Sunday School every week because my son won’t go without me. This woman has no job and one “perfect” child! Just so discouraging. Thank you for your honesty.
So just because she isn't going through all the same things you and doing all the same things you are means she doesn't also have a full plate?? Gosh...
@@katie7748 Nope. You are just proving my point. I never said one word to her about any of it. I simply said “I have a lot going on” and got a lecture about how EVERYONE has a lot going on. So no empathy for me. Nope. Nada. Our society as a whole is too triggered to see what’s right in front of our faces. Other moms don’t need to be lectured and parented, they need support. You are doing to me exactly what the other mom did to me yesterday. I throw out one little lifeline in the hope that I’ll receive some encouragement and I get a smack in the face. (And she does think her child is perfect. And she does judge me. And, no, she is not as busy as me.) I chose this life. I own it. But, I would never say the things that have been said to me to another mom. Obviously we all have challenges. Parenting is always hard no matter your children. Why is it not also okay to admit some people have it easier than others? I have it easier than my sister, that’s for sure. But she can still empathize with me when I’m struggling.
First of all I am sending you a big virtual hug momma bear! I hear it in your voice that this came straight from the heart. We are also struggling with this as well. Most of my circle now is the family in my house, my mom,maybe 1 uncle , therapist and my tribe of t21 who is more loyal than any other.
I stopped mixing with judging people they just don't worth my time and random strangers I don't see again I don't care as on the spectrum myself Also developed the morning routine of thinking of my day as everything will turn out the worth possible way before I wake up and mostly give me a great day. Like we have to go to the shop and there are a lot of people so we get stressed have a breakdown ( during which I shut down my daughter usually start screaming and hide under something and my son threw whatever is near) and When we actually get there whatever happens is always better.
Can you link that book, please? I totally resonate with all of this. I've often thought about leaving our co-op bc it's so hard for me. My little guy just loves seeing his "friends at school" so much, even though no one has ever invited us to play or do anything outside of co-op. It breaks my heart.
Can you do a monthly video on this topic? Cause WOW I needed this as we soon step into our first “official” year of homeschooling my kiddo. You always bring such wisdom! Thank you!! 🙏🏻
Thank you so much for this encouragement! This was much needed. Blessings to you and your family. ❤
I think when family passes judgement it hurts much worse than strangers. I try to remind myself of all the lovely caring people in my life who love me and my children for who we are.
This channel is life-giving. Thank you. ❤
Thanks for the great things you always share! Some people don’t know, don’t understand, and don’t try to know the situation of our children may have.
And they are the ones that really have a problem! Not
Our children.
I just had to straighten a family member about mind! When they should know better than the public ppl and understand.
I have four special needs kids. I keep their world very small. It is hard but through parenting these children I have learned the beauty of truly living day by day and expecting God's daily manna to get me through one more day.
So much needed encouragement thank you!
So encouraging. I tend to want to just hide from the world but that’s not helping my ASD child. Love your videos- always encouraging and helpful.
Thank you for this much needed video. I have 3 children with Autism and often hear “WoW, how do you do it? Or the exact phrase that you said “You have so much on your plate. I didn’t want to burden you.” It is hurtful to be leftout, but thank you for sharing a little of your world to give us encouragement.
*nods* It can be patronizing, in my opinion. And we have to remember that they mean well, but sometimes even the best of intentions can yield hurtful results. Give them some grace for trying, at least. Many people don't even try. Unfortunately...
Thank you for this. I struggle with this with one of my kids. People don’t understand and sometimes it’s hurtful. You can feel the judgement from people and people don’t realize how they come off.
I agree. I feel like people look at us and think we are just bad parents. But we are trying harder than they will ever know.
Those with certain traumatic pasts are also given grief for not liking eye and/or physical contact. It's hard, regardless of the reason, to deal with people who don't (or won't) understand. Many simply aren't aware but many who ARE aware can never truly understand it unless/until they themselves have to deal with it. I try to be considerate and "give them some grace" when dealing with people but it can be hard.
Amen, sister!
Just what I needed to hear this morning. Thank you!
I was just told yesterday that “Everyone is busy from their own perspective.” Uh, No, I’m objectively busy!! I work full time, have 3 special needs children, am homeschooling 5 kids and teach Sunday School every week because my son won’t go without me. This woman has no job and one “perfect” child! Just so discouraging. Thank you for your honesty.
So yes, that sounds about right.
So just because she isn't going through all the same things you and doing all the same things you are means she doesn't also have a full plate?? Gosh...
@@katie7748 Nope. You are just proving my point. I never said one word to her about any of it. I simply said “I have a lot going on” and got a lecture about how EVERYONE has a lot going on. So no empathy for me. Nope. Nada. Our society as a whole is too triggered to see what’s right in front of our faces. Other moms don’t need to be lectured and parented, they need support. You are doing to me exactly what the other mom did to me yesterday. I throw out one little lifeline in the hope that I’ll receive some encouragement and I get a smack in the face. (And she does think her child is perfect. And she does judge me. And, no, she is not as busy as me.) I chose this life. I own it. But, I would never say the things that have been said to me to another mom. Obviously we all have challenges. Parenting is always hard no matter your children. Why is it not also okay to admit some people have it easier than others? I have it easier than my sister, that’s for sure. But she can still empathize with me when I’m struggling.
So glad and thankful for your calling Leilani! Thank you for all you do!
Thank you for this, God bless you! Your channel should be way bigger than it is, you give such valuable advice and insight!!
Agreed!
Yes very encouraging! You truly are making a difference in this world! Much Shalom
First of all I am sending you a big virtual hug momma bear! I hear it in your voice that this came straight from the heart. We are also struggling with this as well. Most of my circle now is the family in my house, my mom,maybe 1 uncle , therapist and my tribe of t21 who is more loyal than any other.
Thank you so much for this! It helps to know we are not alone.
I needed to hear this today. Thank you for sharing!❤
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I stopped mixing with judging people they just don't worth my time and random strangers I don't see again I don't care as on the spectrum myself Also developed the morning routine of thinking of my day as everything will turn out the worth possible way before I wake up and mostly give me a great day. Like we have to go to the shop and there are a lot of people so we get stressed have a breakdown ( during which I shut down my daughter usually start screaming and hide under something and my son threw whatever is near) and When we actually get there whatever happens is always better.
Can you link that book, please? I totally resonate with all of this. I've often thought about leaving our co-op bc it's so hard for me. My little guy just loves seeing his "friends at school" so much, even though no one has ever invited us to play or do anything outside of co-op. It breaks my heart.
Here;'s the book: amzn.to/46U7BHl
I have a child with Autism. One day we should meet up I'm in Tampa, FL.
Well I do live in Tampa. I’m usually at the homeschool conventions in Tampa.