I am a traditional wife after working years because I became disabled. Fortunately my hubby's career can support me staying home. I love being a homemaker i turn 59 this year and i also have come full circle ❤
I work from home full time as a nurse in management with a medical management company. I absolutely love being a homemaker and taking care of our home. I always have a hot meal for my husband when he comes home, house is clean, laundry is done, his work clothes are ironed for the next day. I just enjoy this role. The definition of a traditional wife for me is one that cares for her home, takes care of the children, cooks the meals, does the laundry, cleans the home, etc.
I respect whatever women choose to do, as long as it’s our choice. I couldn’t do it though personally. I was a nurse for 15 years and decided to go back to school. I got my Associates in welding and am going back for my Bachelors in Industrial Technology. My husband and I share household responsibilities and our youngest is almost 18. I’m ready to make more money. 😂 Edit to add: I do love home making stuff though, I garden, sew, knit…. I even make my own mead.
Hello Mrs. Denise! I missed the live but enjoyed the playback. I’m so glad you discussed this topic. I’m a homemaker but also work outside of the home with my family’s business. I am grateful that my family understands that my home, husband, and children comes first and allowed me to adjust my schedule to take care of my home and family. My father and brother with whom I work with equally thought it was important too. I appreciate the fact that my husband is super helpful around our home and we work together as a team. Great topic! 😊
Hi, I’m Jannell. I got married at 19 while still in college. My husband has always been the primary breadwinner. Husbands as providers is something that was normal for us and an example set by both our “first families”. As we had children, I always took 1 or 2 classes until I graduated with a BBA. It took about 10 years to finish college but it was worth it and I basically have no student debt bc I paid as I went. I’ve had jobs on and off but came home after baby #3. My heart was towards the family and home; working outside the home made me miserable bc I wanted to be with my family. Post covid, I am able to utilize my degree from home. I’m a SAHM and a WFHM. It’s a lot to handle. Trad wife to me is a woman who’s primary role is homemaking, raising children and caring for her husband. Tbh, I want to be a trad wife but I also want a career. A balance btw both would be ideal for me, if even possible
Hi Jannell, It’s good to hear from you. Yes…there is a pull to be home with our families. You are truly blessed that you have this as an option. I like your decision to work at getting your degree because it kept you relevant in the workforce when you were ready to explore those options. What works is what works for your family. You and your husband get to decide. I’m glad you weighed in on this conversation.
Darling Lucy ❤ 1st happy birthday and anniversary! I love you so much! 2nd this may be my favorite live discussion yet! So intriguing and informative! My hubby and I are celebrating our 25th anniversary this year. We are settled and happy growing old together
I'm a traditional wife.... kinda. My son is grown, and moved out, and I'm not very good at being a homemaker. The reason I left my job to stay home... try not to laugh... is for my dogs. One of my dogs would have to be put in a crate when left home unattended. He's a black lab that can reach any surface in the house and would eat everything. So for his safety, he had to be crated. My husband asked me to consider staying home so he wouldn't have to locked up. Well, that was two years ago, and he is much better now, but a month and a half ago, my husband brought home a one year old German shepherd puppy. So when people ask me what I do all day- I open and close the door for my dogs to go in and out. We have three dogs, but one is a perfect angel when left home alone.
I’m a nurse as well. I really want you to move into stay at home wife role. After 35 years as a nurse I’m just tired. I struggling to justify staying home because my children are all grown and on their own and I am not yet retirement age. Is anyone else struggling ( or have struggled) with this?
Trust me…I get it. I am home full-time. Other than what ai do on TH-cam and community activities, I am home. As for your decision to stay home now…if you’re married, the two of you can talk about it and make the decision together. If you’re on your own, talk to a financial planner and see if the numbers work in your favor. If they don’t, what do you need to do to get there.
I’ve had some health problems the past few years that have gotten worse. I get worn out so much faster than I used to. My kids are 20 and 22. My 22 year old is moving out next month. I’ve decided to really scale back on working outside of the home because I can no longer keep in all up. I’m really struggling. Being a traditional wife is really a lot of work. Doing the things associated with a traditional wife and working is more than a lot of work. We have really under valued how much work there is to be done when you own a home and have a family.
So many times I’ve saying AMEN during this video. As a woman born in 1962 - so much has changed in my lifetime regarding women’s roles and rights. We need to protect ourselves. We need to protect ourselves - please.
I was a traditional wife because I managed the house, kids, practical finances etc. I was also an equal earner. So I felt frustrated about the lack of recognition of my role as earner and primary caretaker.
@@alessiajoy2906I divorced my husband- and continued my primary parenting role - but I was financially independent- in fact I was at times the bigger financial supporter of the family .
I started to save and invest at 18. I got married at 19. I worked and finished my degree in my 20's while saving and investing and when we had our DD when I was 31 we ran numbers and our investments were making my salary. So I was able to retire. I will never go back to work for someone else. I have gotten to stay home, do my thing, and be with my DD. She is now 14. It has been a beautiful ride.
I love being a homemaker! There have been times when I have worked outside the home. Realistically my husband had to help quite a bit with all the household chores. He didn’t complain but in my heart I really prefer to take care of the cooking and cleaning. The kitchen is the heart of our home and I love caring for this space. My husband is so happy and I’m also happy to alleviate some of his burden. Thank you for sharing your joy of homemaking with us. It’s a true encouragement!!😊
I enjoyed this conversation. Been married 8 years and at first had a job outside the home. After having 2 children back to back, it made sense economically to stay home with them. I’m glad I did because those precious early years fly by. Those years also taught me a lot of homemaking skills that I’ll forever use. Now with this current economy and the fact that my children are school-aged, I am looking to get a job (preferably working remotely). Thanks Denise for your channel.🤍 God bless
Love this topic! I've been a sahm for 19 years and this is what I always wanted to do! There have been times I have wanted to have a career but I always came back for family as that is where my heart is. I hated being out of the home, even during the day, that took away from them during the night. As the kids get older, it's hard to find a balance for me to add in work. I really want to at this point, but it's just never been in my nature. I'd rather have 2-4 more kids because some of us just LOVE it. 🤣🤣
Hi Mrs.Denise, once I found out your a retired nurse I had to give you a shout out and comment. For some reason I thought you were a teacher. Great chit chat, I think it’s important to talk about woman saying how can we/they can protect themselves.
Hahaha! Nadia…I was a teacher. After working for five or six years in medsurg and ortho I started teaching nursing. I retired as a community health nursing instructor. I didn’t know it showed.
@@homemakingwithdenise that is awesome Mrs.Denise. I took that class and program in high school where I learned about allied health. And my teacher was a nurse. I was thinking myself I wanted to possibly think of doing that as well. Especially as I get older I don’t want the night shifts and stress of hospital nursing. We shall see 🌸💕I do like how my job is. Flexible and how I can work part time or prn and work my schedule around my home life etc. We are planning to grow a family so I think that will help once we have children I can work 2 days a week and focus more of my time at home.
Hello Denise, I got married at 21,was married for 38yrs before divorcing 6yrs ago and lived as a Traditional Wife and mom, It was the most fulfilling time of my life. I have no regrets, my ex and I mutually agreed to it and there was no drama. Actually we have a different type of relationship because we still share our home, contrary to popular belief divorce doesn't have to be bitter. I still don't work or pay bills, he does. I receive a monthly alimony payment and we are getting along fine also he has been my caregiver for 5yrs. We chose friendship over marriage, faith over fear and God over our lives.
I have never married, though not by choice. I spent years living at home with my parents who were declining physically and cognitively. I was their caregiver and did the cleaning and cooking, etc. It was often tough, but I enjoy homemaking so that helped. I think it is up to the individual circumstances of a family whether the wife is based at home fulltime or not. I do not think ANY woman should be made to feel a lesser wife or mother or just plain "wrong" if she chooses to or needs to work outside the home. It may be necessary, not just because of financial reasons, but because of skills that are needed in society, such as being a doctor, for example. My niece is a devoted mother and wife but also works as a gynaecologist at a hospital here in the Netherlands where we live. I have friends who were traditional homemakers and who ended up divorced or widowed, and who needed to go out and earn money to support themselves and their children. The better the education, the better the standard of living for their families. I feel young women dropping out of college or similar to marry is not ideal, but that they should do their best to get their education first, if at all possible. I believe that a woman should be an equal partner in a marriage. You can have division of work within the home, that suits a couple best, but I do not agree with a "submissive" role for a wife. Some things that are in the Bible relate to lives 2000 years ago, when cultures and customs were very different as regards the position of women. I am glad we have moved on in many countries, and that I am not a woman in a place such as Afghanistan.
I’m not married yet but me and my fiancé have 2 kids and we both work full time right now and often talk about me staying home full time in the next few years because working full time and keeping up with domestic work and the kids is a lot. Admittedly, I didn’t understand why women would stay home while their spouse worked until I had kids and a partner. Running a household is a full time job. There’s a reason well off women have house cleaners and nannies. Domestic labor is labor and needs to be appreciated as such. SAHM and wives aren’t lazy, they’re helping support their family as much as men who go to work to earn income.
I believe God does but does man know what he’s doing? That’s where the problem comes in. When men make decisions that affect the wife…her life changes whether she wants it to or not.
@homemakingwithdenise a good Godly man will know... but we're also called to grow together. Hand in hand learning life and living the way that brings out the best qualities in each other. Not all men deserve a Traditional wife either...
Does HE ? Get a sep acct? Just wondering cz I use to laugh because I kept my money myself But I did “help” out Like His money was MY money MY money was also mine I😮😮
I am a traditional wife after working years because I became disabled. Fortunately my hubby's career can support me staying home. I love being a homemaker i turn 59 this year and i also have come full circle ❤
I work from home full time as a nurse in management with a medical management company. I absolutely love being a homemaker and taking care of our home. I always have a hot meal for my husband when he comes home, house is clean, laundry is done, his work clothes are ironed for the next day. I just enjoy this role. The definition of a traditional wife for me is one that cares for her home, takes care of the children, cooks the meals, does the laundry, cleans the home, etc.
I respect whatever women choose to do, as long as it’s our choice. I couldn’t do it though personally. I was a nurse for 15 years and decided to go back to school. I got my Associates in welding and am going back for my Bachelors in Industrial Technology. My husband and I share household responsibilities and our youngest is almost 18. I’m ready to make more money. 😂
Edit to add: I do love home making stuff though, I garden, sew, knit…. I even make my own mead.
Hello Mrs. Denise! I missed the live but enjoyed the playback. I’m so glad you discussed this topic. I’m a homemaker but also work outside of the home with my family’s business. I am grateful that my family understands that my home, husband, and children comes first and allowed me to adjust my schedule to take care of my home and family. My father and brother with whom I work with equally thought it was important too. I appreciate the fact that my husband is super helpful around our home and we work together as a team. Great topic! 😊
Hi, I’m Jannell. I got married at 19 while still in college. My husband has always been the primary breadwinner. Husbands as providers is something that was normal for us and an example set by both our “first families”. As we had children, I always took 1 or 2 classes until I graduated with a BBA. It took about 10 years to finish college but it was worth it and I basically have no student debt bc I paid as I went. I’ve had jobs on and off but came home after baby #3. My heart was towards the family and home; working outside the home made me miserable bc I wanted to be with my family. Post covid, I am able to utilize my degree from home. I’m a SAHM and a WFHM. It’s a lot to handle. Trad wife to me is a woman who’s primary role is homemaking, raising children and caring for her husband. Tbh, I want to be a trad wife but I also want a career. A balance btw both would be ideal for me, if even possible
Hi Jannell, It’s good to hear from you. Yes…there is a pull to be home with our families. You are truly blessed that you have this as an option. I like your decision to work at getting your degree because it kept you relevant in the workforce when you were ready to explore those options. What works is what works for your family. You and your husband get to decide. I’m glad you weighed in on this conversation.
Darling Lucy ❤ 1st happy birthday and anniversary! I love you so much! 2nd this may be my favorite live discussion yet! So intriguing and informative! My hubby and I are celebrating our 25th anniversary this year. We are settled and happy growing old together
I'm a traditional wife.... kinda. My son is grown, and moved out, and I'm not very good at being a homemaker. The reason I left my job to stay home... try not to laugh... is for my dogs. One of my dogs would have to be put in a crate when left home unattended. He's a black lab that can reach any surface in the house and would eat everything. So for his safety, he had to be crated. My husband asked me to consider staying home so he wouldn't have to locked up. Well, that was two years ago, and he is much better now, but a month and a half ago, my husband brought home a one year old German shepherd puppy. So when people ask me what I do all day- I open and close the door for my dogs to go in and out.
We have three dogs, but one is a perfect angel when left home alone.
I’m a nurse as well. I really want you to move into stay at home wife role. After 35 years as a nurse I’m just tired. I struggling to justify staying home because my children are all grown and on their own and I am not yet retirement age. Is anyone else struggling ( or have struggled) with this?
Trust me…I get it. I am home full-time. Other than what ai do on TH-cam and community activities, I am home. As for your decision to stay home now…if you’re married, the two of you can talk about it and make the decision together. If you’re on your own, talk to a financial planner and see if the numbers work in your favor. If they don’t, what do you need to do to get there.
I’ve had some health problems the past few years that have gotten worse. I get worn out so much faster than I used to. My kids are 20 and 22. My 22 year old is moving out next month. I’ve decided to really scale back on working outside of the home because I can no longer keep in all up. I’m really struggling. Being a traditional wife is really a lot of work. Doing the things associated with a traditional wife and working is more than a lot of work. We have really under valued how much work there is to be done when you own a home and have a family.
So many times I’ve saying AMEN during this video. As a woman born in 1962 - so much has changed in my lifetime regarding women’s roles and rights. We need to protect ourselves. We need to protect ourselves - please.
I was a traditional wife because I managed the house, kids, practical finances etc. I was also an equal earner. So I felt frustrated about the lack of recognition of my role as earner and primary caretaker.
Has this changed? Do you now recieve the appreciation you need?
@@alessiajoy2906I divorced my husband- and continued my primary parenting role - but I was financially independent- in fact I was at times the bigger financial supporter of the family .
I started to save and invest at 18. I got married at 19. I worked and finished my degree in my 20's while saving and investing and when we had our DD when I was 31 we ran numbers and our investments were making my salary. So I was able to retire. I will never go back to work for someone else. I have gotten to stay home, do my thing, and be with my DD. She is now 14. It has been a beautiful ride.
I love being a homemaker! There have been times when I have worked outside the home. Realistically my husband had to help quite a bit with all the household chores. He didn’t complain but in my heart I really prefer to take care of the cooking and cleaning. The kitchen is the heart of our home and I love caring for this space. My husband is so happy and I’m also happy to alleviate some of his burden.
Thank you for sharing your joy of homemaking with us. It’s a true encouragement!!😊
I enjoyed this conversation. Been married 8 years and at first had a job outside the home. After having 2 children back to back, it made sense economically to stay home with them. I’m glad I did because those precious early years fly by. Those years also taught me a lot of homemaking skills that I’ll forever use.
Now with this current economy and the fact that my children are school-aged, I am looking to get a job (preferably working remotely).
Thanks Denise for your channel.🤍 God bless
Love this topic! I've been a sahm for 19 years and this is what I always wanted to do! There have been times I have wanted to have a career but I always came back for family as that is where my heart is. I hated being out of the home, even during the day, that took away from them during the night. As the kids get older, it's hard to find a balance for me to add in work. I really want to at this point, but it's just never been in my nature. I'd rather have 2-4 more kids because some of us just LOVE it. 🤣🤣
Hi Mrs.Denise, once I found out your a retired nurse I had to give you a shout out and comment. For some reason I thought you were a teacher. Great chit chat, I think it’s important to talk about woman saying how can we/they can protect themselves.
Hahaha! Nadia…I was a teacher. After working for five or six years in medsurg and ortho I started teaching nursing. I retired as a community health nursing instructor. I didn’t know it showed.
@@homemakingwithdenise that is awesome Mrs.Denise. I took that class and program in high school where I learned about allied health. And my teacher was a nurse. I was thinking myself I wanted to possibly think of doing that as well. Especially as I get older I don’t want the night shifts and stress of hospital nursing. We shall see 🌸💕I do like how my job is. Flexible and how I can work part time or prn and work my schedule around my home life etc. We are planning to grow a family so I think that will help once we have children I can work 2 days a week and focus more of my time at home.
Hello Denise, I got married at 21,was married for 38yrs before divorcing 6yrs ago and lived as a Traditional Wife and mom, It was the most fulfilling time of my life. I have no regrets, my ex and I mutually agreed to it and there was no drama. Actually we have a different type of relationship because we still share our home, contrary to popular belief divorce doesn't have to be bitter. I still don't work or pay bills, he does. I receive a monthly alimony payment and we are getting along fine also he has been my caregiver for 5yrs. We chose friendship over marriage, faith over fear and God over our lives.
I have never married, though not by choice. I spent years living at home with my parents who were declining physically and cognitively. I was their caregiver and did the cleaning and cooking, etc. It was often tough, but I enjoy homemaking so that helped. I think it is up to the individual circumstances of a family whether the wife is based at home fulltime or not. I do not think ANY woman should be made to feel a lesser wife or mother or just plain "wrong" if she chooses to or needs to work outside the home. It may be necessary, not just because of financial reasons, but because of skills that are needed in society, such as being a doctor, for example. My niece is a devoted mother and wife but also works as a gynaecologist at a hospital here in the Netherlands where we live. I have friends who were traditional homemakers and who ended up divorced or widowed, and who needed to go out and earn money to support themselves and their children. The better the education, the better the standard of living for their families. I feel young women dropping out of college or similar to marry is not ideal, but that they should do their best to get their education first, if at all possible. I believe that a woman should be an equal partner in a marriage. You can have division of work within the home, that suits a couple best, but I do not agree with a "submissive" role for a wife. Some things that are in the Bible relate to lives 2000 years ago, when cultures and customs were very different as regards the position of women. I am glad we have moved on in many countries, and that I am not a woman in a place such as Afghanistan.
I’m not married yet but me and my fiancé have 2 kids and we both work full time right now and often talk about me staying home full time in the next few years because working full time and keeping up with domestic work and the kids is a lot. Admittedly, I didn’t understand why women would stay home while their spouse worked until I had kids and a partner. Running a household is a full time job. There’s a reason well off women have house cleaners and nannies. Domestic labor is labor and needs to be appreciated as such. SAHM and wives aren’t lazy, they’re helping support their family as much as men who go to work to earn income.
It's for every woman. God knows what he's doing.
I believe God does but does man know what he’s doing? That’s where the problem comes in. When men make decisions that affect the wife…her life changes whether she wants it to or not.
@homemakingwithdenise a good Godly man will know... but we're also called to grow together. Hand in hand learning life and living the way that brings out the best qualities in each other. Not all men deserve a Traditional wife either...
A TRADITIONAL WIFE IS GREAT WIFE TO HAVE AND IF SHE CHOOSES TO WORK NO PROBLEM, EVERYONE WANTS THEIR OWN MONEY, BANK ACCOUNT, CAR, ECT ❤
I MUST SAY A STAY AT HOME WIFE LIMITS HER SOCIAL SECURITY, SO, AFTER SIX YEARS GET BACK INTO THE WORK WORD. ❤
The whole problem with not working is the limit on Social Security and so much more.
Does HE ? Get a sep acct?
Just wondering cz I use to laugh because I kept my money myself
But I did “help” out
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His money was MY money
MY money was also mine
I😮😮
Now that is funny even though I would teasingly say that. We do need a backup plan.