What it's really like being the other mother

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  • @DIMK96
    @DIMK96 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +247

    12 years later and still watching these lovelies. 16 to 28....Crazy. From those crazy hilarious date night videos to family vlogs. Love it, and love to see them still going strong. Best wishes for y'all and your expanding fam, ladies. ( :

    • @RoseAndRosie
      @RoseAndRosie 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      WOW what a fantastic comment!! Thank you for being on our journey with us ❤ we literally couldn't do it without you!! Here's to many more years! 🍻

    • @Anzy.99
      @Anzy.99 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      right?? I was 14 when I started watching them, I'm literally almost 25, I feel sick for me and happy for them, lol.

    • @ruthsdyspraxiacontent
      @ruthsdyspraxiacontent 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      yess! I'm from 18 to 28 now , but have been more on/off watcher than most I think. So happy for them

    • @bingus.420
      @bingus.420 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      yeaaasssss !!! 12 and now im 23:)))

    • @alishaestrada2462
      @alishaestrada2462 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      was thinking the same thing!

  • @MaryMary-ek8nh
    @MaryMary-ek8nh 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +121

    From Super Kiss to two kids, you guys are always great and thanks for including us in ur lives!

  • @lisacorr
    @lisacorr 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

    I LOVE the way Rosie looks at Rose 😭😭

  • @lilacflower2317
    @lilacflower2317 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

    I have a baby via sperm donation because of male factor infertility. I grew up incredibly maternal, all I ever wanted was to a be a mom. I felt sure I would bond immediately with my son, but it took months to feel completely bonded with him. My husband felt an intense and immediate bond. It probably took until he was 10 months old for me to feel how I expected to feel when he was born. Just be gentle with yourself, let intention and expectation just be what they are. If breastfeeding doesnt work out or if you dont feel an immediate connection or ppd still blindsides you, thats okay. You can do it. You were made to do it. Good luck guys, seriously. Have so much fun

    • @janehilton6235
      @janehilton6235 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I was going to say exactly the same. I didn't feel the immediate bond I'd expected. I felt like I'd been run over by a bus! But we got there eventually and my son and I are so close now.

  • @hanbanane7892
    @hanbanane7892 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +60

    I've been watching you guys for over a decade now (from the age of 14 to 24)! You were the first queer role models I ever had. You gave me so much hope when I was first coming to terms with being gay (and you still do). This makes me so excited to be a mother some day 🥰 best of luck with the coming weeks! so excited to follow your journey as a family of four

    • @RoseAndRosie
      @RoseAndRosie 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      WOW thank you so much!!! ❤❤❤

    • @Anzy.99
      @Anzy.99 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      literally same! 14 to 24! they really are role mothers to us all

    • @cecel6643
      @cecel6643 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Similar for me! 15 to 25!

  • @katelijnesommen
    @katelijnesommen 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Very interesting and I do really appreciate the honesty. I see comments on other videos sometimes saying how it's strange that you guys say "my/your baby", "my biological child" etc, and I feel this is a good reminder that people do have a specific experience as the non-birthing partner and that it can be challenging to find that bond (at least immediately, and obviously that can also be true for the birthing mother). So thank you for sharing this and I hope people will stop saying it's "weird" that you seem to separate your experiences. It's a good reminder that you don't know what something is like for someone and it's always best to operate on the assumption that you don't know and that judgment is not constructive.

  • @jolopez1993
    @jolopez1993 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    it hits so much being the other mom. During the pregnancy of my wife I sometimes felt like I was pretending to be a mom but it was not my role to play because I could not carry children and of course I was not pregnant, it made me feel a bit remote to be honest, not that I didn’t love my twins but somehow I knew it wasn’t the same. Flash foward they love me and cling to me as much as to my wife and I’m a proud mama of twin girls!

  • @LMason-qd7sq
    @LMason-qd7sq 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Editing deserves an award.

  • @etherealalienn
    @etherealalienn 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I've been watching y'all since the beginning. back when I was "straight" but I would cry watching you two because it was a life I could never live. now I'm 31, openly lesbian, and I'm so happy to have you guys as a good example of a healthy lesbian relationship with open communication and the ability to change. thank you. congrats on your beautiful family! all my love!

  • @goob6764
    @goob6764 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Goodluck and congrats on baby #2!! Wishing everyone a safe & happy c-section 😌🫶

  • @kellxe4229
    @kellxe4229 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I appreciate you guys for sharing your journey to having kids 🤍 I know it can’t be easy but it’s so nice to know that once we are ready to start this journey of our own my girl and I have a place to come that’s safe and fun. Have loved you guys for years and years ❤️🌈

  • @DeliciousPigeonCheez
    @DeliciousPigeonCheez 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Best wishes for the C-section. Good luck with the period.
    12 years together and stronger than ever.

  • @0777sadie
    @0777sadie 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    08:03 I LOVE the look Rosie is giving Rose as she has her epiphany about the new baby. ❤🥰

  • @lucia9806
    @lucia9806 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

    Your conversation is really making me realize how little men in hetero relationships usually care lol

    • @RoseAndRosie
      @RoseAndRosie 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Unfortunately I do think that is common 😢

  • @maaikebouwman1168
    @maaikebouwman1168 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Hey Rose and Rosie,
    Interesting talk ladies, keep up the good work!
    I have been seeing your video's since i was around 15 years old, now i'm 23. So interesting to see and hear from different people's experience with couple/family stuff over the years! Wish you the best with everything, lots of love to ya'll!!
    Greetings from The Nederlands😄❤🧡💛💚💙💜

  • @sherreeabraham7655
    @sherreeabraham7655 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    You don't need luck, you've got this in the bag... Lots of loves ❤️

  • @TehBuggy
    @TehBuggy 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I *AM* a queer person sitting at home, and I *DO* want to know this 😂 I’m a lesbian and I also can’t carry a pregnancy because of medical issues, so I always appreciate hearing about the “other” mother and how they felt. I’ve always wanted kids and I know in my heart I’ll be a great parents and I’d love any child, but I’d be lying if I said doubt never crept in on dark days.

  • @carlygee8866
    @carlygee8866 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I just want to thank you for discussing this my wife and I have one kid currently 15 months old and resonate with this as being the non carrying parent having those same fears its validating and empowering to hear thank you both for your vulnerability.

  • @angee1011
    @angee1011 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I love you guys so much💜 I’ve been following you for over a decade and feel like I’ve changed as much as you guys have💜 wishing you well and praying for Rose to have a safe delivery!! Much love💜💜

  • @megparker6228
    @megparker6228 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    good luck rose!! ❤❤❤ i have complete confidence in y'all to take on whatever comes because your bond with each other is so beautiful and obvious, AND you've been such capable and loving parents to Ziggy already! ❤❤❤

  • @vickyincornwall
    @vickyincornwall 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It's so normal to not bond with your new baby immediately, and of course you also have the lively hormonal recalibration frenzy happening in the days after birth. Fun times! It took me a few months to start feeling real love for my son, by 6 months it was rock solid and by the time he was a year I was absolutely rabid with love for him. Even now he's a grumpy teenager I still have huge and fierce love for him. Sending you both huge well wishes and love for the upcoming birth. You've got this.

  • @13thAMG
    @13thAMG 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Rose is glowing and absolutely blooming.
    Beautiful to see her so happy. ❤️

  • @billythekid634
    @billythekid634 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Hi Rose when your baby is placed on your chest you will feel the warmth the tears will flow and that bond will never be broken 😊

    • @alisaishere
      @alisaishere 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      That's what the majority of people feel. There are some people who need time to find that bond and the emotions. They don't feel that connection right away, and it's hard when everyone else talks about that instant click after birth. It can add to the depression or anxiety felt afterward.

  • @staynayo
    @staynayo 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I love how you looked into this completely in the perspective mothers. Pregnancy is such hard work and not many expecting mums are lucky to have their partners to understand them. BUT just a reminder, in the days when you get thoughts like "am I taking away this moment from her?", I hope you look into the child's perspective too. Remember that all they'll remember is both of their mums working together to love and care for them. They would never distinguish between the both of you.

  • @mondaybluesenthusiast
    @mondaybluesenthusiast 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    All the best to Rose for the c section and to the both of you for a new newborn routine/life.

  • @sky0799
    @sky0799 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Been watching your chanel for sl many years . Thanks so much for the video. My partner soon wants a child and i have the same fear of not bonding. So nice to know it's normal to be scared.

  • @DevilDears
    @DevilDears 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I finally got Surfshark because of you two, so thanks? :DDD Your songs are just unbeatable!

  • @nwgreen7833
    @nwgreen7833 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Consider some post birth psychological symptoms can be due to the sudden drop of the steroid estrogen. (Significant depression can occur with even with careful steroid withdrawal in folks taking oral steroids for other medical conditions) Normal estrogen levels are around the low hundreds , at time of labor can be around 10 thousand. It goes back to baseline within 3 days. Massive steroid withdrawal.

    • @pitulanek
      @pitulanek 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Interesting! I had no idea.

  • @annglavin3139
    @annglavin3139 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Proud of you both .enough said.

  • @Macemysticfallsgamingtime
    @Macemysticfallsgamingtime 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Been watching uses since I was 15 am now 21 your story is inspiring and I hope me and my partner can be as lucky as u too good luck Rose can’t wait to see your child be born and grow ❤❤

  • @Vardagsvegan1
    @Vardagsvegan1 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I have ocd as well, with the intrusive thoughts with taboo theme a lot of the time. I say this from a warm place, please be aware about how your ocd can get so much worse after birth. I don’t want to scare you, just for you to notice that if you get a lot of thoughts with taboo theme, it’s scary but so normal. It will go away. I had to go to the psych ward for a couple of days, and got suicidal. But please know that it’s your ocd fucking with you. I wish I were more prepared, I will be next time 💚 you got this.
    Normal ocd thought and kids:
    What if I don’t love them?
    Do I regret this?
    Is this a mistake?
    What if I’m a ped*phile?
    What if I kill them?
    Etc.
    Get help, take medication, don’t wait ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @SHEISLEXI
    @SHEISLEXI 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I still love how Rosie looks at Rose 🥰

  • @maggiemacha5552
    @maggiemacha5552 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I appreciate your authenticity ❤ Very generous of you to share your vulnerable perspectives!

  • @gabimaza780
    @gabimaza780 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You guys give me so much happiness and hope 💘

  • @raye271
    @raye271 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Such brilliant openness. Answering the questions. Thanks girls ❤ good luck Rose xx

  • @_amazzzing_lifter7462
    @_amazzzing_lifter7462 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    It is so helpful that you’re sharing your journey in parenting. Seeing your approach towards everything really teaches a lot. Sending lots of love and appreciation

    • @RoseAndRosie
      @RoseAndRosie 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you! It really is a journey! Things change so quickly and so do our opinions and techniques but all we can do is try our best!

    • @_amazzzing_lifter7462
      @_amazzzing_lifter7462 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@RoseAndRosie and thats what matters the most :) really curious to hear about your experience with having two little frogs in the house

  • @ritamadeirarodrigues
    @ritamadeirarodrigues 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It’s been so amazing to watch your journey ❤️❤️ lots of love and positive vibes for you ladies 🥰 wishing Rose all the luck in the world and I’m sure it will be great,baby n2 nearly here 🥰

  • @hypnoticfig6085
    @hypnoticfig6085 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Been following for over a decade, you are the only couple/family I still sub to on youtube as I'm not interested in family content usually, but you're videos just hit different haha

  • @siziphiwelayiti7086
    @siziphiwelayiti7086 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    i love you both ♥

  • @IamArloFischer
    @IamArloFischer 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    LEGENDS. Amazing 15 years so far.

  • @shelbietodd
    @shelbietodd 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So so so excited to see this new little baby!!!!! You will all thrive and be the cutest fam!!!! ❤❤❤

  • @ColinJohnson-n7p
    @ColinJohnson-n7p 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good luck, Rose and rosie. You are both fantastic together

  • @dragonforce627
    @dragonforce627 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ive been watching you guys for almost eight years, and and I still enjoy your content! Love you both ❤❤❤

  • @annaheckscher8444
    @annaheckscher8444 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    the way this is so helpful and important as a video like omg!!

  • @LittleSparrow17
    @LittleSparrow17 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Best of luck, for your baby birthing Rose and your crimson wave Rosie! ❤

  • @laurenelloise
    @laurenelloise 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🤍been following ur journey for the longest time!! thanks for talking about this and all the content over the years. I would have almost zero knowledge and no one to look up to re: having kids as a lesbian couple, if it weren't for you both!

  • @agirlsarahandherhuskyluna
    @agirlsarahandherhuskyluna 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You're both wrong, it's MY baby!!! 😂😂😂😂 (...I immediately regret that... a niece and nephew are more than enough for me, you can keep him)

    • @erin_6o3
      @erin_6o3 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@agirlsarahandherhuskyluna Umm it’s actually MY baby!

  • @kayleebrewer2755
    @kayleebrewer2755 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Hi guys love you! I'm so early lol

  • @mechi_ae
    @mechi_ae 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I wanted my daughter so badly that I love her since moment one but when she was born the truth is that I didn't fall in love at first sight, but the love was there even if I didn't know her at all, she was a person that I never saw before, IDK if any of this make any sense. Anyways after my c-section I pass out in the OR and wake up hours later in the room with my little one there being watched by my brother.

  • @leasullivan788
    @leasullivan788 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    we love you guys😄

  • @TheChickenMan88
    @TheChickenMan88 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    D video edits always crack me up

  • @jaymccarthyy
    @jaymccarthyy 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The edits make me laugh so much I love them hahah

  • @krytoxic122
    @krytoxic122 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Don't go to that sad, horrible, dark place! 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @shelbietodd
    @shelbietodd 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    That’s FACT!!! 🙌🏼

  • @Soundlyk_bigirl
    @Soundlyk_bigirl 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Couple goals fr ❤

  • @torij518
    @torij518 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You two are couple goals!

  • @elizabetholney7742
    @elizabetholney7742 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Watching this before my class

  • @laurewinkelmans9501
    @laurewinkelmans9501 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is such an interesting video and very useful for new parents. I love you guys for helping out fellow lgbt-people.
    I actually relate to past-Rose. I'm very gay and I don’t really see myself with a child. It feels like this very straight experience to me. Who knows though? Maybe if the right woman comes along, I'll feel differently.

  • @madtingz2288
    @madtingz2288 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    From an outsider point of view you can tell Ziggy loves both his mummies so much. Biology isn’t everything.

  • @weldorian
    @weldorian 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i love u guys sm ❤

  • @Liz-r5l
    @Liz-r5l 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm all about Sydney Sweeney too 😅

  • @mailyak442
    @mailyak442 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    NO WAY I’ve been gone too long THERES ANOTHER BABY?!!

  • @maroji9665
    @maroji9665 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Your kids are gonna be the happiest
    Fact

  • @IPONJ
    @IPONJ 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    You can't be "other mother" because you don't have button eyes. So there!

  • @norisnica
    @norisnica 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    thank you for this video! i haven't watched you (or anything else on youtube, really) for a while and just stumbled on this. my girlfriend and i are slowly starting to talk about kids and this is a big concern for me - if she gives birth, will i always feel a bit like the odd one out or not? so thanks for this, it really calmed me down a bit.

  • @jessiebartholomew-smythe8096
    @jessiebartholomew-smythe8096 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Doing so well ✅
    Doing so good ❌

  • @i1kb2e3n4z5o
    @i1kb2e3n4z5o 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    loooove u guys

  • @toxikgreen
    @toxikgreen 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Tons of looooove from Argentina

  • @scubagoldfish45
    @scubagoldfish45 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    100% frog!! 🐸❤

  • @darklydawn5397
    @darklydawn5397 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    ❤ to y'all from Florida. Cancer and a Virgo? That's going to be interesting for you girls. Lol

    • @RoseAndRosie
      @RoseAndRosie 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Oh God I know hahahaha

  • @deviantme3728
    @deviantme3728 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Early here too❤❤❤

  • @LovelyDancy
    @LovelyDancy 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You having Flynn, Wilma the other dog I forgot his name sorry 😅. I have no doubt you will love baby Ziggy more. If you can love a pet how much more a human being 🎉❤

  • @tyreesetjjoyner1995
    @tyreesetjjoyner1995 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good video ladies

  • @karenkim3389
    @karenkim3389 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    hiiiii im early

  • @S-Cati
    @S-Cati 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It would be cool to have two breastfeeding moms! Also in case one of you have problems with it then the other one could still give natural milk =)

  • @marinaflores7561
    @marinaflores7561 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wait a minute, roses mother gonna live with her??? Wtf?

  • @Han________
    @Han________ 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    PLEASE SOMEONE talk to me about better help. Why do therapists text clients as Rosie referenced? If you use better help i'd love to hear your experience with this, it doesn't seem very boundaried?

    • @madtingz2288
      @madtingz2288 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I tried better help once but it was far too expensive for the average person, I love Rose and Rosie but I don’t think they realise that most people can’t afford better help.

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      hey so they don't randomly text! you join and get matched with a therapist, then you pick which way you'd like to be communicated with (eg video chat, phone call or text). if you don't want to use the text part, you don't have to. keepin in mind i dont personally use/back them, too expensive

    • @pfftxoxo1502
      @pfftxoxo1502 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@laurenelloisestop promoting better help

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@pfftxoxo1502 i dont actually back them

  • @blousug
    @blousug 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Don’t go to that sad, horrible, dark place… where Rosie is wearing matching outfits with her husband and child 😂😂😂😂

  • @leahstumm9662
    @leahstumm9662 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😍😍

  • @dianamendoza214
    @dianamendoza214 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Guiño 😉 perfecto 👌 bravo 👏👏👏 hermosas niñas Rose y Rosie fieles conmigo amores ❤️❤️❤️❤️🤟🦻🇲🇽

  • @LanaKalawoun-ls5df
    @LanaKalawoun-ls5df 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Do you guys still enjoy making content

  • @lpodverde
    @lpodverde หลายเดือนก่อน

    Are your kids going to be biological siblings, as in the same donor?

  • @pfftxoxo1502
    @pfftxoxo1502 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Lord not the better help

  • @erin_6o3
    @erin_6o3 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Nando’s.

    • @traumaducks
      @traumaducks 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I love how under your comment it says translate to English. 😂

    • @erin_6o3
      @erin_6o3 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@traumaducks 🤣🤣🤣

  • @Loocarrx
    @Loocarrx 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Why don’t you wear your weddings rings? X

  • @FTUGB-r6t
    @FTUGB-r6t 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You are an inspiring couple. How much sweetness and joy comes from you.
    Please keep uploading videos more often to make us happy in faraway Israel which has been in an existential war for ten months. And there is no light at the end of the tunnel. The abductees die in captivity of the Hamas monsters and the world is silent and accuses only Israel of war crimes. No one really has any idea what we went through here on the seventh of October and how much we have suffered for decades from terrorism and anti-Semitism. When will the Messiah come and the world will become better??

  • @virgilmcclendon5072
    @virgilmcclendon5072 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

  • @FreeTheDonbas
    @FreeTheDonbas 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ...you guys know dads exist, right?

    • @shobo4482
      @shobo4482 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      ...you know gay people exist, right?

    • @FreeTheDonbas
      @FreeTheDonbas 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@shobo4482 They are acting like being the other parent is uncharted territory

    • @ellad43
      @ellad43 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      the video is more about not being biologically related to the baby (although obviously some dads aren't biologically related to the baby either)

    • @shobo4482
      @shobo4482 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@FreeTheDonbas do you think dads aren't related to the baby-

    • @RoseAndRosie
      @RoseAndRosie 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@shobo4482😂

  • @FrozenWolf893
    @FrozenWolf893 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good luck Rose

  • @princessbolden3111
    @princessbolden3111 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I loved this talk and I think that it was absolutely necessary to talk about. 🐸 🌸🤍