How to Reach Your Alienated Child and Change How They Think of You I Ryan Thomas Alienated Child
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- Hey, this is Ryan Thomas, a child of parental alienation who discovered the lies and reunited with my Dad.
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If you’re watching this you’re probably trying to figure out how to reach your alienated child and change how they think of you.
And that’s exactly what I’d like to help you do!
Because so many parents like you are at a breaking point and something’s got to give right. The alienator has brainwashed your child with lies and manipulations for years and years and it feels almost impossible that they’ll ever change their mind.
I get it because that’s what my Dad thought. It wasn’t until my late 20’s that I discovered the truth.
Like my Dad, you’re experiencing such pain, frustration and anger you’re feeling is that with every passing day you’re missing more and more of their life and your being robbed of all of the time you could be spending with them... you know you can’t get back and it’s emotionally exhausting. That’s why I want to give you some real-life strategies to use from my unique perspective as an alienated child who reunited.
Because there is a way to reach your alienated child and change how they think of you.
And so how WAS I able to discover the truth after believing lies for so many years, these stories drilled into my head that I believed were “facts” just like your child of parental alienation?
Well, it started with me having a series of light bulb moments…where for just a second I saw my dad differently; I could see the alienator and the regime that supported her for who they truly were. That was the beginning of major breakthroughs that lead me back to my dad to have an amazing relationship.
So, if you’re trying to reach your adult child of parental alienation and change their mind about you, it all starts with creating a light bulb moment. That’s why I’ve put together a FREE training for you.
I’ve put a link below to register for this free training and what you’ll discover on this free training is, How to change the way your child sees you so you can get closer to being accepted. How to make progress with your without needing the court system. Three Specific ways to create a light bulb moment. A new way to think about communicating with your child, even if you’re emotionally exhausted.
I think you’ll get a ton of value out of it, I walk you through exactly what you need to know so you can get closer to knowing how to reach your adult child of parental alienation.
And remember, my Dad and I are living proof that reuniting is possible. I’m Ryan Thomas and I’ll talk with you soon!
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thank you Ryan , I tried to end my life after a long battle to win this parental alienation, until I came across your video give me strength that there's still hope , i cry my eyes off everytime i hear how crystal clear you describe my situation as alienated mother of 13 and 15yo
Hang in there & God bless you!!!
Try to keep strong I’m going through this too. I really wish you the best of luck that it gets better.
Same with me, 2 teen daughters. We have to stay strong and visualize their return one day.
@@ketomania5426 that's good advice. Soon they will come to see who keeps showing up! suicide thoughts come and go but I couldn't live this life without my baby. I know we will have our time to be with them again.
The devil is trying to work through the alienator. The alienator really has a demonic spirit in them that leads them to do what they do. I’m going through this too right now and I have been to the brink of insanity and back. Crying out to Jesus and God, I understand that this is a spiritual war. Please do not kill your self the devil wants this soo bad for you, don’t give the devil what he wants. The word of God says that the devil comes to steal kill and destroy. This is the same aim of the alienator game.
Its a sad epidemic in our society. It is ruled by selfishness & narcissistic thinking. It destroys people lives & has often life-long consequences for all involved. Glad to see this video of support & hope!
Sure is what a nightmare
Robbed is the best description of the time taken from you and your child. Thank you.
it's not robbed , it's trafficked to other parent.
All of my children are alienated from me. some of them know the truth but are to afraid of the other party to have a relationship with me. He still has power over them even when they are adults!! It is heartbreaking!
I don’t think I could ever overstate the nightmare and daily break down that being a father has become. I pass their room and see a toy and it’s like I’m mourning their death while they are literally 10 miles away. I have never been charged with a violent crime in my life, I moved 500 miles from my hometown because I refuse to be a Disneyland dad and yet her I am while they are right there god damnit!!! There’s a void in me and I can’t fix it
My mother alienated us from our father right in our very own home. She’d humiliate him, cause scenes of embarrassment at family gatherings and such.
AnywY my father lived in his bedroom, married to her until he passed at 81 in 2017.
It’s the saddest stuff and compounding as I age and realize the extent of psychopathy in my mother, total abuser.
Of course she claims I’m just like my father whom she hates.
F her. Her abuses towards me are over & done.
Same here. Continue to reach out. Keep a journal, for your child. Express those emotions in writing. One day your child will understand the truth. We can only control ourselves... Be righteous. Be the polar opposite of the toxic behavior. You are a great Dad. I'm talking pen & paper. Your not alone brother.
Thank you Ryan for speaking and spreading the word on Parental alienation.
TRUMP 2024
What is super hard is I went from homeschooling then and seeing them every day to zero contact for 3 years. On paper I was given joint custody. To no avail. The brainwashing was very potent. I love this channel and any resources shared are greatly appreciated. It helps me to know that others understand this suffering.
Hang in there & God bless you & your family !
@@billcastanedo4467 Thank you!!! God bless you and yours also. He is our only hope.
@@mariagrace11 thank you & remember this when we think we’re at our weakest we’re actually at our strongest when we put all our trust & faith in our God !
@@billcastanedo4467 The goodness of our God brings me to absolute tears. 😭😭🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Me too
I’m needing this. Alienation from my youngest. Brainwashed,manipulated child. I’m going to follow you with the hope I get her back. Love conquers all.
Thank you for your videos from the childs perspective I have been in this situation for 12 years and you give me hope. My sons are in their early twenties now.
my boys were alienated from me. i havent seen them in so long. so heartbreaking
We're still fighting though cause we're strong. We got this.
Thank you so much for this video ... I am the father of two kiddos and their mother has Bipolar Disorder, is highly narcissistic as well. This video makes me cry. I always take the high road. Always. I suffer with my children ... they and I suffer together even if we are apart. I never seek vengeance. I never argue. I never fight back, so that they can see that their true "peer in this," their true heart is also my heart.
My husband and I are dealing with a high-conflict divorce situation with his ex-wife. He and his now 14-year-old daughter are the victims of parental alienation which has been going on for ten-and-a-half years. We just found this video of yours and would both love to see your webinar. Please tell us how we could do so! My step-daughter has made suicidal comments and we are trying desperately to help her see her value, not just as my husband's child but also as a human, as a young woman, as a daughter and a sister. Thank you for your response and thank you for making these videos! Please keep up the amazing work.
I reunited with my Dad after 15 years of alienation. God bless you brother. We’re now fighting together to save my 11 year old little brother from this horrible abuse.
@born2xlr8 yep 🙏🏼 I truly understand how horrible this type of situation is and from the perspective of a son, I’ve not only went through it in that way for 15 years but I’ve gone through this now for the last 2 years with my father regarding my 11 year old brother who’s been alienated from us.
@born2xlr8 yep keep hope, keep faith. When there is no way God creates one and it is not his fault that these things happened, it is the work of evil and it will come to an end.
Thank you for your help kwoledge about this issue. Best wishes from Italy.
i cant stop crying as i watch this. my sister ended up with guardianship of my only child, my precious 9 year old daughter. i was hospitalized in a detox when this occured. i trusted my sister and she blocked me from contacting my daughter for alot of months. i was a single mother for years before this nightmare happened. i am so hurt that words cant explain the pain i feel.
I am too because my parents did this to my older daughter and they started doing this when she was fifteen and now she's not even finished school she's in a bad situation and she won't even go to work. I can't believe they've done this to her and I.
I documented the entire divorce and related destruction of my family, my business, and my income in my book Deadbeat Dad. Then, both Lulu and Amazon censored my book without giving me an opportunity to defend against the allegations of "privacy concerns" and defamation. The abusers, including those in the legal system, don't want others to know what a racket the entire family law system is.
I was a foster dad and adopted two children along with two of mine own, and yet the system gave the children to the abusing mom and new "step-dad" who actually physically abused my 10 year old boy.
White males are being attacked. In fact, the entire White race is under attack, but they started with the fathers. No one is held accountable for the destruction these criminals cause. These abusers, including the judges and social workers, belong in prison. For a long time.
Edit: Thank you RT for exposing what it was/is like for the abused child who no longer has a loving relationship with their dad (or mom) through no fault of theirs.
Hello Charles, unfortunately I know exactly what you're talking about and I know that its 100% true- I have also been fighting the rigged family court system for past 7 years and @ times felt completely helpless, hopeless and almost lost my will to keep living ( existing ) in what seems to be a God forsaken world without my family ( daughters ) stay strong keep fighting & trust in Christ with all your heart God bless you !!
thank you for making this available to parents who have nothing but love. we have lost everything (including disposable income), and there are a few "parents groups" out there that are only making more money off of targeted parents/children, under the guise of "helping". this is not, and i thank you for that.
You are welcome Carmi!
OMG! I'm going thru a dissolution and am alienated now. I have just now figured it out and went online looking when I found you and this webinar that is exactly what I need.
I'm so glad to hear that! I hope it helps you and hang in there!
Is there still a way to access this webinar, please? Thank you for all the insight! Much appreciated, and much needed!
My son has not spoken to me in almost two years and I will be speaking with him tomorrow (because he wants a passport)... I'm hoping this might open the door to at least some contact again so I am desperate for that training/webinar you mentioned, but it says it's not available. Please let me know if I can somehow obtain that info. Thank you!
You are a Feminazi fascist!
I instantly start crying when I see something like this. Your positivity reminds me of myself before all this started. The years have been long and sad lately but I keep trying and wondering why.
david lewis I’m currently going through this. I haven’t spent time with my kids since the beginning of October. Still in the process of divorce and they are too young to have a phone of their own. I’m completely torn day in and out and try my best to keep pushing. Hearing this made me cry, I never understood how could any parent stop their child from anyone who wants to be a part of their lives.
So did I! After 10 long years my daughter finally answered me on FB.Now she's telling me to chill out and she's not ready for me in her life...she's scared of getting hurt
MY son has STILL yet to respond to ME..
They're 30 and 31 years OLD!!! Hated BY their DAD and family..
How do I give HER space when that's ALL she's HAD from me!!!???
Stay strong and believe people!! My dad can no longer and never did tell his side while my mum spent years twisting my head with her lies. How ironic that now he is no longer with us the truth seems to have a way of exposing her for the things I believed that just make me resentful of the time she stole while he was alive. To think he never said a bad word against her but for my sake he kept it inside and still the lies unfold and uncover my mother for the narcissistic devious person she can be to maintain her own good self ..... however she has robbed herself of her time with me as I will never forgive her for what I know is reality after finding out for myself. So sad he is not here to know but even today the past we spent together still influenced my path in life and continues to after his death!! Have faith people I am there myself too 3 years no contact but reassured by my own experience..the truth is written and etched in time the lies are merely a temporary cover !!!
Ps I know it's hard to believe the day will come but I know it does even if it is years of dormant cover and you aren't even able to state your own case .... it has the strangest ways of exposing the reality which crushes the lies in a way it can't be hidden by any words any longer or ignored for how it was and how it happened no matter how long time may have passed on!!!
David I feel the same.
Thank You , Thank You, Thank You!
I've been searching for info like this. Yeah, I am SO happy for you and your dad....you've given me (and millions who suffer with this) hope!!! Hope that someday I will see my 4 sons who have been alienated completely from me for 12 years now. Again, THANK YOU♥
Thank you so much for giving me hope!
THANK YOU RYAN
Thanks for this!
That is very helpful; thank you
Thank you for your videos
I just found this! Is the webinar still available??? I NEED this!
same here
Me too. Desperately.
Anyone have the link?
Same here
Webinar no longer available 😯 Suggestions? New link maybe?
It appears that alienated children test us a lot of the time- more so than a child who is not alienated. Since our time with our children is so limited, if we get any time with them at all, there is almost zero room for normal range parenting error. Parenting is difficult as is under normal/harmonious circumstances. Parenting a child with an ex who refuses to co-parent or parallel parent with you is hard- but when there is anti- parenting/alienating behavior, it is down right impossible most of the time. The damned if you do/damned if you don't conundrum is omni-present. You know the drill all too well. If you give nice presents, we are just trying to buy our kids love. If you give non expensive gifts then we don't care enough about our kids- and so on and so forth. I do believe our kids know intellectually what is going on, that they are being deceived, and used by the alienating parent. Like messaging for the alienating parent through our kids things that make our kids obviously uncomfortable- and not allowing us to attend special events for our kids or ruining the whole experience by picking arguments with us in front of our children. I truly think they get it- but they cannot do anything about what is occurring between other people, in our cases, between their own parents. If two adults cannot find a way to solve adult issues then kids surely cannot either. Mine knew at age 5 she was being deceived in so many ways, and now in her early teens, she knows as well. But the facts of the matter seem clear that in spite of reality checking during visits, showing some signs of trust and even affection, she still goes back to the other parent, and she must survive the interrogations, and the jealousy, and even the pain- yes pain- of the alienating parent, all because the other parent cannot handle sharing our children with us. t is a crazy making situation for us, think about the crazy making situation for our kids! Children are self preserving in the environments they find themselves in. They find out pretty fast which side the bread is buttered and do what they can to minimize abuse/neglect and maximize their chances for survival, and whatever happiness they can grab onto in the control and care of the alienating parent. Alienating parents are really no different than cult leaders when you think about their behavior, and cult leaders would rather you die than leave them. I have been researching and talking to mental health experts about a personality disorder- Narcissistic Personality Disorder. With out the person there to be diagnosed all that can be done is best guess that most, if not all parents who engage in severe/pathological parental alienation, far more likely than not, have this personality disorder. The far end spectrum meaning the absolute worst end. Cult leaders that have been taken down and examined were all found to have N.P.D.(Narcissistic Personality Disorder). If this is the case there is nothing we can do to persuade the other alienating parent anything, and more importantly neither can our children. This all seems so hopeless but there are ways to get through to, and help our children. Empathy is the alienating parents kryptonite. Ryan Thomas suggestions seem to be very empathy based. Empathy, true empathy, cannot simultaneously happen during trauma. We are all traumatized here. We need to heal ourselves of this trauma. The AP cannot ever heal. So they will never have empathy for the kids or anyone for that matter. It is up to us to show our kids what love is. Not by parenting through guilt- but through empathy. I think this is the way. I keep researching and learning. At least by healing myself of trauma, and increasing my knowledge and understanding I think I am parenting from afar. I know I am.
well said! I'm going through this right now with my 8 year old and my ex who displays all of the narcissistic behaviors - as you say it's so true about almost zero room for normal range parenting error. Also true about Alienating parents are really no different than cult leaders with the brainwashing...
This is exactly what my son is dealing with, and I feel this about the kids too. They are just trying to survive and they can’t afford to lose their mothers “love”, however warped it is. They simply don’t realize that their dad is there anxiously waiting to hug them and tell them how much he loves them!! It’s tearing me apart. 🥺
Was alienated from my daughter when her dad and I got divorced. It's been a long time, have spent many Xmas's on my own. She is now 40 yrs old, our relationship is stilted, only speaks when money is involved. Her Dad is now with someone else, and has been for many years. I have not been so fortunate, but still get out and enjoy life, think her husband influences her too. All boys together.
I'm going to do the webinar...feeling as if that would be a good step...my son is 8..he was 4 the last time he was in my life...the story is a wild one and I have yet to come across anyone with the same situation...
I am exhausted and worn out and have really no purpose anymore. When I tell people how much money I gave to support my children, their mouths drop open..literally..and my kids think I stiffed them. Ex stole from me, intimidated me and pulled every narcissistic trick in the book and then she stole my children. They are 23 & 26 and will not respond to any contact.
that is so sad, but sadly so typical
Hi Ryan, I was trying to go to the webinar you have linked and that site is saying it no longer supports that version. Can you repost that webinar please? By the way, thank you sooooo much for coming out and doing these videos!
the court systems no about parent alienation. but this state I'm from it doesn't matter it's Whoever has the most money win . I spent $50,000 all the money we had and never got a visit phone call nothing from that fifty thousand. my ex-husband comes from a very wealthy family and his new wife works for the court system in this small area that we have our court cases going through. I just found out that our court systems will allow your child to be adopted by the step parent of your ex if you fail to pay child support or have any communication with your child for 6 months. This hasn't happened to me yet but it was brought up to me by my eldest child who has contact with her father and stepmother. Be aware this is happening every day our children and being stolen
I wish I could but I've been so oppressed by the system I'm living in a truck it's very lonely
Ryan I need your help 🙏we need to support one another to get this on the news headlines regularly and department of eduaction to equip schools staff.or psychologist can address this in school where the child/ren is away from the alienated and alienating parents .The schools would say they can not do anything and remain implicit to domestic abuse.Inaction is abuse during this pandemic it is even more sensible to dind strategic ways to. address.it..We need a Powerful united Voice to connect in a healthy ways and win our equal right to love our children and build on trust even if it is hardwork🙏
Hi Ryan, first of all, I can't thank you enough for your videos, they are priceless.
Unfortunately, I can't open your Webinar
Good job brother.
Any way to access the content of this webinar now? Looks like it's no longer available.
The webinar link is no longer valid. Is there a new one?
I just started t o follow your testimonies & very interesting tools...just an eye opener....and is it possible to put the webinar on line again about how to create a light bulb moment....I do every day one youtube film of you, just amazing how I get better insights....living in Europe, and Thanks!!
I wish this webinar was still available.. I've been cut off from my 2 Loving Daughters for 7 weeks now. I live 1/4 mile away. Haven't seen them in 2 months. I'm Grieving. Have to wait for Mediation....
I certainly wish this webinar was still available...
Your webinar is no longer available. Is there another link?
I go tomorrow 6/5/2017 for a court date. I discovered this Syndrome only recently and have hundreds of questions but not he time. I have done some due diligence and have documented many instances of behavior of PAS. I only hope the court sees this for what it really is...
Bummer. I came here for answers and found an advertisement instead. :(
Thanks man.
Ryan, is the webinar still available? I need this, as I am out of hope!
Thank you and I love you dude and I love you all...
Thank you
hey! is there anyway I can watch this webinar or get some of its information? i am so at a loss and 6 months later of not seeing my kids, i'm still in shock that this has happened and even worse, not one person i could think to reach out to would help. now i'm left dealing with the consequences and praying i get a relationship back with my boys, they are only 11 and 12 and what an awful precious fragile time for their dad to do this. I don't know who he is anymore. :((
It says the link is no longer valid. Can you please let mw know how I can view this webinar.
Too bad this is gone, @RyanThomasSpeaks. You should put it up as a video here or, if you already have, link to it instead of the defunct webinar. Thanks!
I've been alienated from my child for 12 years...she's now 18 and doesn't want a relationship anymore...it seems she has fully accepted their opinions that I don't love her...its been a systematic and torturous time and now I'm just waiting for her to come around. I don't know what else to do...I've done everything and so now I'm subjected to just emailing once a week to check in. She seems to be catching on a bit but afraid of seeing her father in a bad light...I get it but it doesn't help with this emotional turmoil I continue to find myself in constantly. I sometimes go overboard and really send too long messages or try to force her to talk to me and I know that's not good but sometimes the emotions are just too much.
Angela Starke is there a ways to talk you and I only ???
Sure...connect with me on LinkedIn and I can message you my contact info. I don't have a Facebook or any other social media account that I actively use.
Angela Starke Feminazi fascist lies!!
So sad. The same thing happening to my husband and affecting relationship.
Hows it going ,I ain't seen my son in years ,his mum and her family filled his head with nonsense ,sent him messages that weren't from me to alienate us further .. his mum dad last year thru breast cancer never told me she was I'll and I found out his mum had died thru face book .. his aunt moved him and didnt tell me hed been moved do I had no way of knowing where he was.. went to court cost me thousands and she got guardianship as he didnt wanna live with me as he had believed all the lies .. I write to him put never know if he receives them get no response or acknowledgement from him or his aunt ,send him bday and Christmas gifts still get nothing ... I feel like baseball batting the whole crazy family I get that mad sometimes ..I will never get this time back and I dont know what to do anymore .. social service dont care about long term abuse and identity crisis ? I'm Helpless and angry and some nights o cant sleep thru worry.
how can I stop my child from lying for the alienator? how can I stop the lies that are said that have resulted in my going from 50/50 custody to now none? why do I feel like it's hopeless? is it normal to feel angry, uncomfortable at the thought of even having visits? tried counseling but it's been drilled into my son's head that only sick people need that
Liliana it is ok to be angry, everything you are experiencing is a normal reaction to this situation. When you have visits play and laugh and have fun with your child, children . Love on them hug them do not for one moment bad mouth their parent in their presence. and above all do not lose hope, there may come a time when there is nothing you can do, and that will be a very painful experience. But just remember that these little ones are caught in a messy situation and all they need to be and should be focused on is whatever is important in their little worlds. Do these things and in the end ........ no matter how long it takes they will be returned to you , and then they will know the truth.
Thank you for making these videos... I'm still going through the court process so Ive only seen my kids 5 times within the last year... But again much appreciated for the workshop...
You are so welcome, and thank you for the message. I'm sorry for what you are going through, and the court battles and legal fees add insult to injury. Hang in there!
Thanks brother
Hi! I'm now experiencing the alienation of my beloved sons. I badly need any suggestions like you mentioned. But the link seems not working. Do you have another link?
Loving the ones who hate you is the answer. Loving them no matter what and yes love the parent who alienates the children. I know its hard to read but its the truth. I do it everyday for 3 years.
I have been trying to reach out to my son (an adult) for 3 years. Emails, calls, driving to the Bay area and knocking and knocking on his door. What I want to know is why? Who fills him up with bullshit? There are only two other people that are in our close family. They repeatedly tell me adult son wants nothing to do with me again and I need to stay away from him because I am crossing his boundaries...why doesn't he convey that to me. At the same time she does not want him at their wedding, is mad because he does not like her fiance, I am not allowed to discuss anything with her fiance his mother will not give me his cell #....this is the guy my daughter is marrying for god's sake! She says, you didn't make enough of an effort to visit me in college...that's bullshit. My husband had Mantle Cell Lymphoma while my kids were in college. A very bad cancer, prognosis, poor. When they were in college in the Bay Area we did drive out about once every few months, but when she moved to Texas and then Connecticut to finish her education, it took alot more to do those trips, he was not well! My son stayed in the Bay Area and we did see him a little more. For the life of me I just don't get it. My husband is rolling in his grave.
Yes that does help, but to be successful one has to have a relationship with Jesus. Without Him its not possible to have unconditional love towards the ex who has for yrs talked bad about the other parent, or did their best to make themselves look like the "good" parent, and the other the "bad" parent. My situation is somewhat different but my youngest daughter stopped talking to me a year ago. She doesnt return calls or texts from her sister ( half) either. Since moving to the Philippines my relationship with my daughter went from amazing to none at all. I believe its a combination of jealousy over my wife, her kids, and also my ex has a big part in this . But just wanted to say thx for sharing
@@kwestwood1 please don't say something is not possible based on your personal beliefs. This is a very sensitive topic. No one here needs any extra gaslighting or narcissist abuse!
I thought I might have been an alienated child... so, I took a leap of faith, and it went horrible (late 20's)
I thought letting him back into my life with a clean slate would afford him the opportunity to prove my mother wrong about everything she's said. I wouldn't hold it against my mother (I was literally afraid of my dad for years, until I outgrew him).
He did not generate a lightbulb moment and now, I avoid him like the plague again. In the short time I had him around he proved to me how he doesn't care about his family, how he still owes child support, he's always got beef with someone, breaks deals, and lies to me.
Sucks. I really wanted a good dad.
This is me 200% I had to leave the marriage and he went ballistic and immediately alienated me through fake child abuse charges here in Canada!🥶🇨🇦
Hi, Ryan, i am a dad to a 36-year-old daughter and caused the upheaval years ago although she lives in Australia me in new Zealand I always send an email every other week asking how grandsons are and have apologized
my daughter would know i was sincere however she did say never call her again but as I said I still continue to email letting her know what extended family are doing and sign off with love to all
although it has caused me so much anxiety and low moods overtime i am more acceptable now plus i am on medications
my grandsons are 6 - 4 am i doing the right thing
thanks
john
So it's been 5 years, did we ever finally get a link to actually view this webinar?!?
It looks like the webinar is no longer available. Do you have another website? I'm very interested in your strategies to reach an alienated child. Thank you in advance.
Your link doesn't work anymore, do you have an updated one?
Your link for the FREE webinar does not appear to be working - help!
this is what I'm going through
I have advanced MS, after my last MRI, the Dr said I may have 2-3 years left. My oldest son (14) has been alienated for at least year/half that I know of. I can't wait 10 years for him 2c wut his covert narcissist mother has done to us. My health is getting worse daily, how can I reach him now? I pray u can help me, I'm lost, I love my son so much I can see that pain in his eyes every time I see him..
Very nice
I am always baffled when a parent wants sole parental custody of a child unless there is duress to that parent or the child caused by the other parent. Both parents have a role in making sure their kids are raised in a way that is mentally healthy to the child as well as both parents. In 2016 a mother filed a motion to have custody reversed solely to her. The father would not allow his attorney to contest it so it was granted. While living with the father the kids were allowed open communication with the mother and over night visits. When the mother asked that his visitations be supervised he refused. The kids were aged 10, 13 and 15 and had lived with him for the 2 years prior with no incidence of abuse or neglect. The Guardian Ad Litem for the children told the judge/hearing officer that it would be a mistake returning the kids to the mother. Mom was upset the father did not want to do supervised visitations and asked that it be mandatory. She had to be reminded that she was asking for sole custody so why did it matter if the father refused visitation. She could always just allow the kids to have unrestricted access to him. When asked why she wanted sole custody, her response was " I am their mother". Almost 4 years passed before the kids reached out to their father. He is now battling with his obligations as a parent and his options as an alienated parent.
I'm at a breaking point I feel like I'm losing my mind .
I know the feeling. Breathe through it. I wish I had words of advice or encouragement. This is one of the hardest, most relentlessly painful, thing a person can experience in life. I wish you the best possible outcome.
Hang in there
Is the webinar still available. I tried the link and no go.
Is there a link to a recording of the webinar?
I am in Israel, and won't be able to participate at 2am. Will there be access to video/information from the Webinar after its done?
Is there an updates link for the webinar?
while active duty or after i retired i died several time only to come back and pray to my father to let me live so i could pay my child support and put her through college. i was able to.
That's so admirable. I know many dads who try to get out of paying anything at all
The webinar link doesn’t work.
The link you put under this vid takes you to another link cos it says it’s unavailable for some reason. But even the link it recommends to find the site also leads to know where! Can you PLEASE let me and others know where this vital info is! PLEASE! I’m desperate as are many others who watch your vid hoping for advice but getting blanks!
The link to the webinar needs to be updated. I get a "WebinarJam 2.5 is closed!" message with the link in the description.
My alienated "child" is now turned 40, and it has been going on for nearly 20 years. Is there any hope for me?
I am an alienated child, 44. Tonight, I am going to write a letter to my dad I haven't spoken to for 30 years.. So, there is always hope. Get involved to raise of PA awareness in the community where your "child" lives. Be an active part of a PA group in your area.
sviatayavoda Thank you from a dad with no hope.....please give him a chance...
What if your kids are grown adults!!! I've been cut out for 11 years by their dad!! I was a good mother!! They should know better by now
That's what I'm saying
Webinar no longer available and link is broken.
david and alex and i their biological dad got along great, i paid child support unlike my own dad never did. I paid for her college from a BA to a DR DEGREE. how many sailors in the USN do that? as an Enlisted sailor. i retired as an E-5. I talked to my youngest son and i had a GREAT time talking to each other before the mother found out. I WAS not allowed to go on leave due to both sides of the family, what hurts the most, is when THEY tell me how my own sons are. worse than being run over.
I always want to hear how successful in their own lives these people are, whether they do end up with a moral compass & know the difference between right & wrong in terms of how you treat people say with their own partner & children.
Did this guy ever make it up to his father for the way he had treated him? (Made amends in US languaging). Or do they stay a helpless victim with no adult personal agency for life.
Just found this. Sorry the link doesn't work. Any chance you could update this please?
i don't see any link for a free webinar..?
What can be done when the child is an adult and has not provided a phone number, address, or email?
It's been 18yrs grown adults still want nothing to do with really bad divorce. It's to late he passed away. My kids will believe all the lies he has done big time lawyer and an FBI agent. I'm just a nobody in their eyes.
Is the webinar still available? I clicked on the link but I am getting a warning that there's a problem with the link. I am an alienated parent and need to communicate with my kids.
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I gotta' find some HELP.. ASAP..
In NC.. please respond with any Resources You have access to in my area.. It's my final Attempt.. or I'm done.. a complete Shadow ONLY now.
The animosity.. it's transformed into a genuine Hatred.. & it kills me.. Especially because THEY DON'T KNOW WHY!!
I Really fear for them when it's TOO LATE.. I'm Soo worried it will hurt them even more.. causing severe problems they'll have No Recourse for..
It's (LITERALLY Killing me..
The link to your webinar isn't working
Is this webinar still available?
Is now affecting my relationships with my grandchildren, a girl aged 13 and a boy of ten.
Me too. My grandkids are exactly the same age as yours
Haven't seen my two daughters since july2021. Have a parent plan signed off by family court judge.
She has manipulated the kids against me by making stuff up that isn't even remotely true. I hear all this from my daughters. Narcissistic parent is certainly going to be a parent alienator.
Half the stuff that has come from that unctuous sycophant family make me angry as ..
A great proverb was ," don't seek revenge. The fruit is already rotten and eventually will fall.
Wish me luck going to see my daughter play soccer tomorrow. Which is over an hour away.
I'm finding that everything you have said about alienation between parent and child also applies to alienation between a grandparent and a grandchild. The brain-washing, the staging of horror-show confrontations and the whole process, all the same. Only in the case of a grandparent alienation, the alienator is holding hostage the grandchildren and the parent who wants contact, but who doesn't dare upset the regime.
Oh my God it happened to me with my older daughter you would not believe the horrors
@@winecrimesfoodandtime7119 I'm afraid I do believe it. Many psychologists are calling it elder abuse and child abuse, all in one motion.
My ex won primary custody of my son when he was only 8 weeks old. My son is now 11 and I’ve struggled his whole life just to be a part of his life. Sometimes I feel like a used vessel and my heart hurts everyday because I miss him so much and when I’m with him he treats me horribly. Sometimes I want to give up because it feels impossible. I don’t know what to do anymore 😭😭😭
Hi Allyson, we have so much empathy for what you are going through. I will tell you that no matter how long you've been alienated, there are things you can do. I would recommend watching this training that I have available on my site. It's about what do to when your child rejects you. You can register here: joinnow.live/s/CfMwi1 Then if you are interested in getting help with your situation, fill out an application and let me know what you're dealing with, then my team and I will get back to you with a recommended course of action. Ryan
Adding restraining orders against the other parent just makes it impossible.
Ryan how do you establish contact when all contact has been blocked?
Unable to find webinar link.
I Tried to sign up but the link sent me to an error page so not sure what else to do