@@TheInnerchild.Whisperer I relate to anxious and sometimes disorganised depending on the personality and/or behaviour of the person I'm interacting with. I wonder if late diagnosed ADD (age 43) can show up as disorganised because of a life not being understood/seen as who you are, missunderstood and overwhelmed with life... Might not be a answer to that just one more theory :)
Denise, some day when I make it and can afford to pay for my own Therapy and see whomever I want regardless of insurance compatibility, I desire to be a client of yours. Now, IDK if you have personal or ethical policies against this, so if so, completely valid, but the way you talk about the things that play into our attachment styles (birth, mother’s relationship, etc) feels like you have so much I would learn about understanding myself.
This is great! Finally a creator who use reality tv "representatives" to explain psycology in a way that is easy to follow, at least for me. So happy :)❤
@@TheInnerchild.Whisperer You hit the mark I would say ;) I follow some other therapists reacting to reality tv and I found your comunication style perfect for me. I need exaples and this way is perfect for me. I watch the show and find myself relating to behaviours in some and curious about others I'm still trying to "decode". Thank you for doing this.
Have you already done a review of the movie ‘Inside Out 2’? As you are listing out the attachment styles, when you got to ‘anxious’ I would love to hear your opinion on how the movie illustrates our internal emotions, the conflict they go through & the of adding new emotions as we age. I just love your content ❤
@@positivelyuncensoredpodcast I feel like I missed the buzz when the movie came out. I was so busy during that time I couldn’t make a video. Not sure if it’s too late to capture ppls attention
I identified now as secured formerly anxious but live my secured self. Only anxious if someone trigger me only if they’re avoidant. Yes I do know attachment theory
Really interesting to hear your perspective. Would you consider Bobby and Jasmine to have secure attachment styles? I’ve been impressed by their maturity and respect for each other. I agree that Benaiah has a secure attachment style. All in all, LIB works better with older participants IMO. Even if the relationships don’t work out there’s less drama, less airing of dirty laundry and more actual conversations about problems. No human being is perfect, but I felt less uncomfortable watching the UK series.
I dont get why they have to marry in this show. Falling in love with someone for who theyvare doesn’t mean you have to marry them in a couple of months. Marriage is a huge commitment and you need more than just love to make a marriage work. I think it’s highly irresponsible for the show to push them through to marriage imo. I feel particularly bad for Sabrina. She now has unnecessary trauma in getting married to the image of a person who turned out not to be that image at all. That’s got to be so hard to deal with.
Marriage is part of the experiment and each cast member knows that going in. But I do agree it’s too fast in the experience doesn’t really work. But on the other hand, they have a huge success rate compared to some other reality shows that I’ve watched such as the bachelor. Even though the shows concept is around marriage, production, producers, and casting don’t seem to invest in the fundamentals of marriage .
I attracted avoidant type of people for dating when I was dating, but since I've been in therapy I don't attract much of anyone. So idk if that's a good thing
@@TheInnerchild.Whisperer I have talked to my therapist about it and it's something that is an ongoing process. So my thing is that I am very guarded and I have a hard time opening up to people and social situations. This is due to parent wounds and being in enviorments where I had to make sure I was safe. I'm still observant of people and it is still overwhelming to have some openess but we're working on it.
@@TheInnerchild.Whisperer no, disorganised was my result in relationships with partners. But I would say I attract both avoidant and anxious types if I think about it and it never works out
Benaiah’s job is nomadic (many jobs are) + he seems to be quite self-aware. He didn’t strike me as avoidant, just cognisant of the huge life decision that marriage is.
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✨What is your attachment style ✨
@@TheInnerchild.Whisperer I relate to anxious and sometimes disorganised depending on the personality and/or behaviour of the person I'm interacting with.
I wonder if late diagnosed ADD (age 43) can show up as disorganised because of a life not being understood/seen as who you are, missunderstood and overwhelmed with life... Might not be a answer to that just one more theory :)
@@mermaid8935 it’s going the video is having you self reflect
Sam having an anxious attachment style that leads to all his issues and untruths is such a great take! Gonna have to think about that for a while.....
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Denise, some day when I make it and can afford to pay for my own Therapy and see whomever I want regardless of insurance compatibility, I desire to be a client of yours. Now, IDK if you have personal or ethical policies against this, so if so, completely valid, but the way you talk about the things that play into our attachment styles (birth, mother’s relationship, etc) feels like you have so much I would learn about understanding myself.
@@positivelyuncensoredpodcast aww thank you so much. 💖
This is great! Finally a creator who use reality tv "representatives" to explain psycology in a way that is easy to follow, at least for me. So happy :)❤
Wow, thank you! Thats what I try to offer my audience 😋😇
@@TheInnerchild.Whisperer You hit the mark I would say ;)
I follow some other therapists reacting to reality tv and I found your comunication style perfect for me. I need exaples and this way is perfect for me. I watch the show and find myself relating to behaviours in some and curious about others I'm still trying to "decode".
Thank you for doing this.
@@mermaid8935 🥹🥹❤️❤️😇
Illustrious just added to my vocabulary - very demure of you to teach me this!!
@@positivelyuncensoredpodcast 🤣🤣🤣🥰
Not demure, but definitely mindful 😊
@@vroxxzz 😂
We asked and you delivered! Thank you for this, it was very informative 🙌🏽
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Have you already done a review of the movie ‘Inside Out 2’? As you are listing out the attachment styles, when you got to ‘anxious’ I would love to hear your opinion on how the movie illustrates our internal emotions, the conflict they go through & the of adding new emotions as we age. I just love your content ❤
@@positivelyuncensoredpodcast I feel like I missed the buzz when the movie came out. I was so busy during that time I couldn’t make a video. Not sure if it’s too late to capture ppls attention
Demi has known about Sharlotte for months and I think they even met up and talked about it (Jasmine said it on a podcast)
You can still see the hurt in her face on the reunion. Her knowing doesn't mean it doesn't hurt.
@@TheInnerchild.Whispereryes I agree. I think secretly she wanted confirmation that it was still ongoing
@@YRMW1983 💯💯
Demi annoyed me how she was putting Sharlotte on the spot, that was unnecessary
@@regularity2556 I think the host put her on the spot. But I think Demi wanted to know for sure if shar was with Ollie
I identified now as secured formerly anxious but live my secured self. Only anxious if someone trigger me only if they’re avoidant. Yes I do know attachment theory
Good you know your attachment style
Really interesting to hear your perspective. Would you consider Bobby and Jasmine to have secure attachment styles? I’ve been impressed by their maturity and respect for each other. I agree that Benaiah has a secure attachment style. All in all, LIB works better with older participants IMO. Even if the relationships don’t work out there’s less drama, less airing of dirty laundry and more actual conversations about problems. No human being is perfect, but I felt less uncomfortable watching the UK series.
@@alnsubuga yes they seem secure. And I agree it works better with older ppl who are established and invested in marriage and not being on tv.
I dont get why they have to marry in this show. Falling in love with someone for who theyvare doesn’t mean you have to marry them in a couple of months. Marriage is a huge commitment and you need more than just love to make a marriage work. I think it’s highly irresponsible for the show to push them through to marriage imo. I feel particularly bad for Sabrina. She now has unnecessary trauma in getting married to the image of a person who turned out not to be that image at all. That’s got to be so hard to deal with.
Marriage is part of the experiment and each cast member knows that going in. But I do agree it’s too fast in the experience doesn’t really work. But on the other hand, they have a huge success rate compared to some other reality shows that I’ve watched such as the bachelor.
Even though the shows concept is around marriage, production, producers, and casting don’t seem to invest in the fundamentals of marriage .
@@TheInnerchild.Whisperer Totally Agree! And your last paragraph 💯💯💯
@@jayro792 Thank you 😄
I attracted avoidant type of people for dating when I was dating, but since I've been in therapy I don't attract much of anyone. So idk if that's a good thing
Have you explored that in therapy? Why you’re not attracting ppl?
@@TheInnerchild.Whisperer I have talked to my therapist about it and it's something that is an ongoing process. So my thing is that I am very guarded and I have a hard time opening up to people and social situations. This is due to parent wounds and being in enviorments where I had to make sure I was safe. I'm still observant of people and it is still overwhelming to have some openess but we're working on it.
But I will say I adore Freddie. He would be the guy I would want to date.
Everyone wants to date Freddie 😂😂
@@TheInnerchild.Whisperer I hope that his experience with Cat didn't dim his brightness too much. He looked exhausted at the reunion.
carry on
Keep calm
I did a test online and it said overall I have a secure attachment but with partners it was disorganised 😬
is that the type you tend the attract?
@@TheInnerchild.Whisperer no, disorganised was my result in relationships with partners. But I would say I attract both avoidant and anxious types if I think about it and it never works out
@@YRMW1983you sound confused
@@regularity2556 you sound annoying
benahia didnt date for 10 years prior the marriage, he is also a "hobo" doesnt he fit in the avoidant attachment style?
I don’t think that’s a nice term. He’s a nomad.
Benaiah’s job is nomadic (many jobs are) + he seems to be quite self-aware. He didn’t strike me as avoidant, just cognisant of the huge life decision that marriage is.
@@alnsubuga agree