From a former alcoholic: Don't EVER make it easy for addicts to engage in addiction. No rides, no money, no crashing at your house. It's never loving, never kind. Be the A-hole you have to be. But never cosign that bullsh*t. A winter on the street might actually save someone's life. And if it doesn't, you didn't assist them further down their addiction.
I mean by being an a-hole once or twice you might help them gain their life back. I'd happily trade some hard love for decades of more life for people I care about
@@mari-de-bsas then you help the kids as much as possible while making it clear to the parent that they need to get help. Unfortunately, even with your intervention, the children will still suffer if their parent continues in their addiction. If you're in that situation now, I'm so sorry.
@@harvey_weenstain8857 Haha thanks! It seemingly randomly popped into my head while showering back in ~2016 or so during my early days of FE investigation.
We’ve got 4 dogs. We often have people over for the holidays and other random things. We always make it a point to make sure the dogs are respecting everyone’s space. If they can’t be good they get removed from the room. It’s on the homeowner to make sure the guests are as comfortable as possible while they are there.
Same. We have three dogs and if we have company over, they usually either go outside or into a bedroom until they calm down. They get pretty excited when people are over and can be a little intrusive when they initially show up. Every person who walks in the door is their brand new best friend.. 😆 It can be a little intimidating cu two of the dogs are pretty big, one being a pitbull and the other allegedly a “Texas shepherd” or something like that. I honestly think she’s a Carolina dog but she’s a sweetheart, just has some wild traits.
Probably not. He’s probably like my cousin who has a big house and multiple kids. He hates animals and just locks them in a cage all day because he doesn’t want to deal with them. He’s religious and conservative too.
Let's be honest, Matt cries about weird stuff. It's funny how he's just a big nerdy baby. His audience is on a next level of crying though. Hilarious 😆
For some reason, that line made me picture a cat calmly walking up to a sitting person and then saying in Matt Walsh's voice, " Excuse me, human, would mind if I jumped up on your lap? That way, we could engage in some platonic human-feline physical bonding, which is a good thing as it will strengthen our alliance should a crisis arise."
7.50 in really hit me in the feelings, as an independent adult with a strained relationship with my father...damn. I've been blaming myself for years. But what Matt is saying about the barely existing bond being the parents responsibility is a viewpoint I've never considered before. It's oddly comforting and given me something to ruminate on. Thank you
I also have an adult relative whom I've known all my life and seen almost every day, yet have no relationship with. Thankfully, they aren't a parent, but it is definitely on them that they don't have a relationship with me. They had my whole 20+ years of life to make it happen, and honestly, I tried very hard to facilitate it. I gave up two years ago, and now I'm learning to forgive. May God help you find peace with your situation with your parent.
It really struck me too, and I feel you. I grew up without a father in the home and carried the guilt of being responsible for our relationship. In truth, it's not the kid's fault or responsibility. I hope you can find some peace now with this perspective.
Not sure whether he realised that sage nugget would have such an impact on many of us, but I felt the same as I have an incredibly strained relationship with my mother. Thank you Matt for confirming how I've always felt, but have been made to feel guilty for.
Yeah except I was in sort of a reverse situation. My mom’s mind was shot by time she was in her 50s, and I was left being the only one around to care for her. My siblings wanted not to do with her and her family had long since abandoned her. I don’t resent my siblings but I do resent her side of the family for essentially cutting my mom out of their lives and not even caring to show up to her funeral.
@@michaelmcfeely6588 I’m sorry you think that brotha. Christ has proved himself to me multiple times, one of the times is when He changed my mind, heart, and life overnight. I’d love to talk to you about Him if you’re willing
@@danieldaniels7571 Ya I learned that the hard way. I definitely took the vows as an actual vow and she did not. Marriage is worth the risk but it's wise to make the seriousness of the vow part crystal clear with your partner before saying them.
@@LillyMarz777 I was thinking the same thing. It may have cost more money that she couldn't afford being married to him. I think that may have been a strategic move as a benefit to him to get into the facility.
For that first one... my family has a nice, sweet big dog named Luna. She loves people to the point of being overbearing. In fact, she has helped kids who are deathly scared of dogs come to like nice dogs. But whenever someone was uncomfortable, even without alergies, with our dog hanging out with everyone, we put her away and aren't offended. She's a dog, and not everyone likes dogs.
I love my kids and I love my dogs and they grew up together and are totally comfortable with each other. My nephew is not comfortable with dogs being all up in his face so when him or any other person who isn’t necessarily a dog person comes over I will always put the dogs in another room, it’s just common courtesy. And I would never drag my dogs with to someone else’s house, no exceptions on that one.
Ya I gotta agree either you prioritize to accommodate your guests or you stop inviting guests over. Which if I was on the other end like this guy I'd just refuse to go to her house again. I don't really find it a big deal in either direction. Just set boundaries for yourself and move on. Seems pretty simple to me
Maybe I'm the asshole but I'm not putting my pets in another damn room in their own home because the people visiting my house have a problem with them. Visitors don't live there full time but my pets sure as hell do and If people don't like it they don't have to come over. In fact, I would prefer that they don't at this point in life. 🤣
@@jenni0278 actually, I don't mind if my dog is on a leash but he's comfortable in the house but I won't put him into another room and just leave him alone. I remember once my friend came over and she wanted to stay with me for a month and have my dog lucky put into a bathroom and I said no lucky is not staying in the bathroom. I said you can't stay at my house
Recently I was just complaining to my husband that girls / young ladies are not being taught hospitality (how to be a gracious host and guest). This is not a personal slam against any one person that I know, it just seems like so many don’t know how to do it which then feeds in to people just not socializing in person much, especially in each other’s homes. We are a homeschooling family, and I make it a point to periodically host small events in order to teach my children how to do it.
I’d like to point at that people no longer know how to be proper guests in a household either. Early in my marriage I used to host but quickly became disillusioned with it
My parents did the same thing with us- made it a point to teach us hospitality (we were also homeschool). It's amazing how American millennial and Gen Z are ignorant of how to engage their guests in conversation with each other and don't offer refreshments.... Part of the problem tho is that we rarely own property or consider our homes to be our own. No pride of ownership. My mom stressed with us that our home is our home.
@FLmetalhead That's because of your perverted aexual appetites. Daddy is just a childish way to say dad or father. If you apply the other definition to it, that's a problem that belongs to you and no one else.
Just so you know most of the time when parents do that with one child over the other. It’s because they don’t think that one kid is capable to live a normal life. Of course it’s probably making that persons life even harder. But it’s been my experience that your mom probably sees you as someone who will be ok no matter what. Not so much with your sister
My grandma did this to my uncle (her only son) and pretty much neglected her other children until her death. Then my other aunt told him that he needs to look for a job because she isn't going to baby him like their mom did because my uncle was living with her at the time.
I'm so proud of the ethical standards of my co-SBG! Even the fact that they'd contemplate on being the a**hole in these situations tells me that these people are quite humble as well as self-aware! 💜
A twist to these pet stories. My wife and I (married 38 years) have a 85 pound Lab, great dog. Only 3 years old so still basically a puppy. A big strong puppy. When people come to OUR house, we put him in a kennel. They meet the dog, then into the kennel. It’s in the living area but keeps everything calm (dog included). We constantly get crap from certain guests about putting him into a kennel instead of letting him roam around. “He should be free” and “he has rights, too” and all manner of stupid stuff. 100% of these coming from women, btw. So a couple observations: 1. It’s our dog. 2. It’s our house. 3. You’re our guest. 4. We missed that you’re the queen of England and get to order us around concerning. 🐈
Of course it's from women. So many women (especially childless ones) believe that they're Dr. Doolittle, Disney characters, or modern witches who relate better to animals than people. Just sad.
Can you put the dog outside or have you ever left the dog around people to see how he behaves? If your guests don’t have a problem with him then why lock him up? Only way he’ll get used to behaving around people is if he actually spends time around them.
@@Lawrence_Talbot He’s a puppy so he gets all hyped up. And he calms down better in the kennel when inside. I’m not going through an experiment each time people come to the house. He knows the drill! People come over, in the kennel. In a couple years he won’t have that “new person” energy and we’ll adapt. We’ve had lots of Labs. But for now we know what to do.
Glad you mentioned the dog part. I love dogs and all but I don't want one jumping all over me when I go to someone's house. What's worse is that if I push the dog away or off me repeatedly, I'm sometimes seen as someone who doesn't like dogs. Why is it weird or strange or even unacceptable to some people to NOT want a big hairy dog jumping on you and licking your face and jamming it's paws into you crotch? I'll never understand it. Control your damn dogs people.
Thanks for offering a glimmer of hope to us who try to set boundaries in a boundary-confused-dont- know- what-those-are-anymore world. Its is literally the most exhausting activity to set boundaries for other people continuously.
The dog story---- my autistic daughter was very scared of dogs even insisting on crossing the road if she saw a dog coming on her side of the road. It took a lot of work and training to get her to the point that now she can walk past the dog --- provided I am between her and the dog. Then we went to visit someone who wouldn't keep their dogs in another room. We left within 5 minutes but all the years of work is gone she is back to being very afraid of dogs.
I feel like an A hole a lot because I got kicked out of the military for refusing the jab. I let my shipmates down and was not allowed to do my job, meaning my friends and brothers had to do the work I couldnt. I knew I couldnt look myself in the mirror if years later I had a health problem because of the jab, but I felt bad for not being there for my brothers and shipmates who couldve used the help. Kills me sometimes.
My son is in the Marines and really struggled with whether to take the jab. In the end, he wanted to be a career officer so he took it. But he had horrific side effects from it and worries about the long term effects everyday. And still he caught Covid 2x. Everything has tradeoffs.
You're not the a-hole for making your own medical decision with life long consequences and not allowing yourself to be manipulated and coerced into taking an experimental drug with known (yet covered up) horrific side effects and little to no actual protection. You and everyone else who stood up for freedom were acting not only for yourself but for love of neighbor to help preserve all of our rights to medical concent and liberty to refuse. Everyone that folded with the lock downs, masking, and forced vaccines are to blame for how long we had to deal with government tyranny and for any further attempts on the people. Looking at history, medical experiments without the person's true informed consent (and option to deny) is a grave crime against humanity worthy of condemnation. That's getting into Nazi Germany policy (and unfortunately our own history in America as well). Thank you for standing up for yourself and not letting fear rule your heart.
I am deeply sorry our country treats hero's like you were treated. It's pathetic and wrong to get rid of someone because they don't want a fake vac with horrible side effects.
I’m the one who wrote to Matt about that … I’m so sorry you lost your job over that. Makes me more grateful and I’m sorry to hear that. Thank you for your service.
When I was in high school my mom and stepdad said if I want to have a relationship with them, it's up to me to initiate that. That is so backwards, and it's one reason they are so lonely in their old age.
@@johnwilliams1223 not a close one. They moved to Ecuador the minute I graduated high school and now they live far away in Kansas. I flew them out here for Christmas, the first time I'd seen them in 2 years. Sometimes I feel guilty for not calling more but I keep reminding myself it's not my fault, and I'm not the one who moved away.
If my dogs act a fool when people come over I put them in a separate room or out into the back yard until the people leave, out of consideration for all. Man and beast alike.
And I also understand if you have them in your own home and removing them when guests are over if they don’t like them. But BRINGING them to someone else’s house without asking? Absolutely not.
I didn't even need to hear the first story. After knowing that the step sister was a DINKWAD, I knew she'd be the a-hole. Not to mention that being a DINKWAD makes you an a-hole automatically
@@megankissinger8269 Choosing to have a dog over a kid doesn't automatically make one that. But insisting that your pet is actually your baby and is on par with my human children absolutely does.
@@megankissinger8269 Because you're betraying your natural duty to procreate, and instead fill the place that your offspring has the right to, namely your love, care and upbringing, with an animal. Not only an animal, but a species that has literally been bred for thousands of years to be slaves. Raising a slave instead of a child not only makes you an a-hole, it is fundamentally immoral.
Man, the "lying to my liberal family" conundrum is something I've been stressing about too. I had my conservative awakening late 2021/early 2022 and I don't know how they are going to react when I don't vote like them in the presidential election. I don't want to lie, but I know how they talked about people who voted for trump before and I feel sad thinking that's how they will talk about me.
It's a secret ballot. Don't tell them. Hate to tell you but there is something wrong with them to act like this, it is a liberal disease. I have friends that voted for Joetato and I do not hate them for it.
I know the feeling... I my workplace is very hostile to my conservative political (and social) beliefs, so I stay quiet on political topics. I usually listen to everyone else talk about how they voted and why. It generally makes for good research into the mind of the opposition, so I know which counterarguments will be most effective for undermining their premise/position. Just remember that US voting is, by law, (supposed to be) kept confidential. No one has the right to know how you voted, and it’s considered in poor taste to ask. If you’re in near-constant contact with your family and can’t afford a big blow-up, then just let them assume how you voted, and don’t correct them if they’re wrong. That’s supposing your family won’t listen to reason or at least put differences aside. If you think they’ll be able to respect your opinion when you explain your reasoning, it might be helpful to have a conversation with them IF they ask.
I think that the person with the fake vax card should come clean to their family, and take the opportunity to say how they feel they have the right to not get the vaccine and it is wrong for their family to think they can force them to get it. I think that if their family should be able to understand this and if they truly want to see them, they won’t care they don’t have the vaccine.
My dad is allergic to cats and I always make sure the cat is upstairs and I vacuum the couch and the rug, trying to minimize cat hair because I want my dad to enjoy his stay. We also have a dog and when my friend who doesnt like dogs and who's daughter is scared of dogs I put the dog outside and then in her play pen when she wants back in..or vice versa.
We have a dog. We love him very much. But we don't take him to people's houses without prior approval and if he's being an attention hog he gets sent to go lay down and leave people alone. Then I spend time with him later. It's not too much to ask that he not be in children's faces.
How is someone with memory loss supposed to stay married? As the wife gets older he won't recognize her. Also, divorced would be better to get medical care without wiping out the spouse.
I love animals, including dogs but if a parent doesnt want animals around their toddlers, thats reasonable. If my family members came over and didnt want my cats around their kids Id happily put them upstairs to spend time with my family. I love the cats but I certainly understand they dont hold more value than people. Except hippies, my cats are more important than all hippies. Also finding out Matt has a cat and a dog is amazing! My cats are super friendly and overly affectionate too
@krvnjrcbs Animals do not hold the same value as humans. Even in the most reductive sense; were at the top of the food chain and without humans domesticated animal breeds wouldnt exist in the first place. That doesnt even factor in spirituality and what it means to be human.
@krvnjrcbs its not about me, its about humanity. No matter how you put it, , humanity is more valuable than animal kind. I brought the food chain up because it highlights why were special. We are naturally weak primates, its our intellect, adaptability, consciousness and spirituality that makes us special. We are at the top of the food chain because of that. Let me put this simply; You have a 6 month old baby and a 6 month old dog on the brink of death and only the ability to save one. Who do you save? Neither because it wouldnt be fair to the other? Get real.
One response to the first Mom would be to tell her that if it's true that her dogs are her children, then remind her that if her human kids were being that obnoxious to his children, SHE would definitely need to intervene. Basically her kids (her dogs) were bullying his kids.
My husky tries to play with little kids, and when little kids come over for my parents bible study i either put him outside, keep him in my room, or take him on a walk and stuff
My partner is extremely allergic to dogs - my mother has two very large and harry dogs and my brother has one also very large and harry dog. For Christmas, my brother was hosting and we had to go to his home for the holiday. My mother knows about his allergies and we asked her not to bring her dogs because three giant hair balls in a small home would be way too much for him to handle. My mother decided against it and brought them anyway saying that they would be lonely at home alone. My partner could only stand it for just over an hour and we had to leave - he could barely see the road on the drive home from the allergic reaction. My mother was upset with us because she says we don’t visit enough and didn’t stay for very long and it was rude to leave so early …. I already know we aren’t the assholes.
I was initially confused about the first situation, but upon second look, he says his stepsister BROUGHT her dogs to the party. If someone comes to my house, to a certain reasonable extent, it's on them to deal with the presence of my dogs. When you bring dogs to someone ELSE'S house, it's YOUR job to make sure they don't cause trouble. Just because it's an animal, doesn't mean you get to let it make everyone miserable.
Even if someone comes to a house with a dog, it is the dog owner's responsibility to ensure that children are not terrorized by the dogs. Dogs should be well behaved and NOT jump on and lick small children. If they cannot be trusted not to do that, then perhaps put them in a separate room. Of course, parents should also ensure that their kids don't pester the dog.
I grew up with dogs. I grew up with my parents Treating the dogs better than their kids. To be fair the dogs did behave better. I love dogs. When my old black lab could no longer go up the stairs to sleep with me, I spent the next few months sleeping downstairs with him. Until he passed away.. The dog was bigger than me so I couldn't help him get up-and-down the stairs. I used to lie down on the floor with him. When it was time for him to go I made a whole package of bacon and fed it to him right until it was time for him to pass. He was around 15 years old. His paw was so big it didn't fit on their paw print mold. I love him. He was a great dog. All that said. If someone doesn't want your dog around them it's your responsibility to keep your dog away from them. If you can't have control over your dog to keep them off of someone you're the one with the problem. You need to train your dog. You don't have control over your dog you're not a good dog owner. I think very highly of dogs to the point where I sleep on the floor with them. Human children come before dogs or any pets. Unless your children are being absolute h*** in's and can't respect the dog space, Children people come 1st. Those kids could have had allergies, They could have gotten a hurt. They could have accidentally rubbed those dogs the wrong way and gotten bitten. And no It is not OK for you to tell someone who doesn't want to be licked by a dog oh just let them do it. Do you know where dogs tongues have been? they're disgusting. Few things gross me out more than those people who kissed their dogs on the mouth tongue or have them lick your face. They clean their privates with that tongue., They eat poop, They eat rotten dead things trash. They lick their butt holes and then go and lick you. Nobody should be forced to be licked by anybody. The family with the dogs or the a*******.
I started hospicing a black and tan coonhound with cancer on 07/05/22. They told me she wouldn't make it to the end of the year. I ended up adopting her so I could try more aggressive treatments and she made it until 08/04/23. I spent the last few nights on the floor with her too. I am currently fostering two hounds and hospicing a third, but the house still feels empty without her.
Do not threaten the step mom with “not seeing children” until she apologizes. That is emotional extortion. However, for the safety and comfort of your children, she can see them in an environment you control … your own home, a hotel, a restaurant. In these times public forums, your wishes would be honored more that at the “mom’s” house.
Iam proud to have you as a fellow Tennessean. Hope your family and you are able to enjoy this great state. Thanks for bringing more common sense and sharing it with us.
I really appreciate what Matt said about parental bonds. My dad was almost never there for me, usually more occupied with alcohol. I let my Aunt know Christmastime I didn’t want to talk to him on the phone until he got sober, and she respected it
I remember being terrorized and bitten by a family friends dog when I was young. They wouldn’t lock it up and I was terrified of it. Every time I had to go to their house I cried and begged to be protected from this animal. I felt relieved when it passed away due to cancer because it had been extremely aggressive towards me and many other kids. I was told I was the *sshole for being glad that the dog was dead.
I love dogs ,I live in Canada and have rescued and rehabilitated 3 dogs from Texas , they are my kids , but I still put them away when people come over .
We have a friend who is lonely.She has a small house and 7 dogs.She constantly asks people to visit and when you do it take about 5 mins to get in her door,its crazy, dogs jump,bark,fight each other round your feet due to being excited and one has to be held or it bites.You leave covered in dog hair, drool,muddy paw marks and stinking of dog.It stops you having many visits as its hard work,she has no concept of people not loving that experience.I know many people don't visit her at all due to this and yet she is so lovely, if she could just understand people don't love her dogs as she does and balance human comfort with her dogs comfort she would have a much less lonely life.
I can sympathize with a person who has relatives with traveling pets. My brother and his kids would routinely bring their untrained dogs to the house and upset the existing pets there, notably the cats. They just didn’t get a clue about the disruption they were causing.
I had a senecio involving my own brother in regards to my wife. He was staying with us because he was kicked out of his house by his wife, my sister-in-law, because of his incessant alcoholism. At one point, during his stay with us, my brother made a comment against my wife concerning how she didn’t make my lunch for me, as by him, a wife should. I make my own lunch because I have my own preferences on how it’s made. I yelled at my brother to NEVER talk to my wife in that manner ever again. He left.
I have a dog and a cat and love them so much! I spend an obscene amount of money to keep them well, healthy, comfortable and entertained. That being said, i have ALWAYS said that people visiting our home come first. I usually have the animals outside or in another room until I know for a fact that the guest want to see them. Humans come first.
My parents were divorced. I grew up With my mom from the time I was around 12,13 she had full custody. Wasn't really allowed to be around my dad much. I only got to see him a few times a year. It was only when I visited my grandparents. As an adult, I was so much closer to my dad than my mom. This is because my dad put in the effort. My dad would call and ask to spend time with me. My dad was the one that was always asking to spend time with the kids and offering to come pick us up to make it happen. My mom wouldn't even visit me when she'd come into town for an appointment 5 minutes away. I love both my parents. But my dad's the one who acts like he actually wants me around. He was the best grandparent to my kids. He passed away 3 years ago. I lost the only family who went out of his way to be with me. He Showed me how much he cared and loves us and wants us in his life. He showed me that he chose us. He chose to spend his precious time On us. As someone who was basically raised by her grandparents I am completely shocked by how uninvolved my kids grandparents are. Except for my dad, My kid's other grandparents They don't call to talk to the grand kids, They don't show Any signs of missing us. They don't ever ask us to visit. I don't get it. Growing up I was very obedient and well behaved. My kids are not so obedient but they are well behaved in polite. They show that they love it when we're there and they spend time with the kids, Show the enjoy it. But that's it. It's like they would be fine with it, or without it. I understand my Mother in laws, They still have a teenage boy they're raising. They're super excited whenever we come to visit but they're just too busy to be active grandparents. My parents are retired. My mom does enjoy when we visit and they do love us but they honestly prefer their own time together or socializing with their friends more. I tried getting my husband's father more involved but I gave up. Even when we lived minutes away we couldn't get him involved with us. Couldn't even get him to call us back. He wouldn't come to the hospital when the kids were born, He didn't come to our house visit after to meet them. He wouldn't come to birthday parties or dinners that I invited him to. And we never hear from him. We only see him back when we used to go visit that side of the family's Christmas. I'm dumbfounded how people can be so uninvolved. Do they not miss their kids? miss and want to be around their grand kids to see them grow, Watch their character develop Maybe help teach them become the people they will be? It's sad.
In the second story, part of me feels like it was an a-hole move of the mom to divorce the dad and put hime in a facitility. The flip side is, if she legitimately struggled to care for him, the sad reality is that theres a possibility that the only way for her to be able to get any outside help for him may have been to divorce him. If they were married, her income may have counted against being able to get any kind of medicaid, im assuming he couldnt work and she became the only income, there may have been a lot of expense to try to get any sort of care/help etc. That said, while it seems lime an ahole move, without any extra detail, I can kinda give her thr benefit of the doubt that it unfortunately may not been due to lack of caring for him or that she just wanted to dump him, but that unfortunately it may have been out of practicality, for lack of a more sensitive way to put it.
I've got a nephew who went visiting and encouraged the dog to jump up. The son who owned the dog told him no. The dog was large and if he jumps could hurt someone. The nephew now has a dog and allows that behavior and he doesn't understand why people have a problem with it. There are idiots all over the place and sometimes they are relatives.
I love that Matt acknowledges and respects peoples personal space. I straight up won’t go to that persons house again if they don’t do anything about their dog being (literally) up my ass and jumping on me, ripping my pants or shoes.
I love how I was having a conversation with someone online about the transgender problem and I asked them "What is a woman?" and they immediately stopped talking blocked me and told me that I'm a "Matt Walsh loving freak." They can't handle the truth. Gotta stay strong, hold onto our beliefs, and never back down.
It's really easy for the Catholic priest to say she must come clean to get family: he's not the one that will have to deal with the backlash or the pain of being disowned. Also, it's the mom that is the A-hole for using the 98 year old grandma as a pawn to leverage Becca into getting the Maxeen.
I'm sure I would feel like I used to feel when I was scolded in front of the whole class in grade school. You know, when that flush comes over your face, and you momentarily feel like you're blacking out and your soul is being removed from your body? It would be devastating 😭
My husband and I personally no longer have dogs, however, many family members do, and none of them would allow their PETS to clamour 😅all over children or anyone else. I
Probably not a issue worth freaking out and yelling over. After asking for the dogs to be put away and declined, I would just not go to their house anymore. ✌️
The woman with the dogs should either control her dogs or leave. That's no different than bringing over your bad kids. My dogs are my kids too. But, I don't allow them to jump and lick my guests unless they are ok with it. Most people say it's ok. When they don't like it I put the puppy in a metal cage out of respect. The lady with the dogs is rude. But, at the same time it's rude to treat her dogs like they are less than her kids. I love my dogs more than any human on this planet. And, they have unconditional love for me. I think we should recognize that and give them the respect they deserve. Why should a human, who does bad things and only cares about themselves, get more respect? Dogs are so underrated. Intelligent people understand that.
If you know how to raise a dog or a kid both should be well behave. If I tell my dog or my kid not to bother another kid or even a dog on dog... Both listen and understand respect Command words are usually 'leave it'
Wife Divorced Mentally damaged Husband/father- for as horrible as it sounds, I've heard other wives being forced to do the same thing. As long as the deficient partner has a family with any income, THEY must pay any professionals to care for the disabled. Social Security WILL NOT HELP. She was devastated when her lawyer said to divorce him, so medicare would pick up the bill for his care. This lady, I don't think her husband was old enough to collect social security and even if they could secure disability payments, it wouldn't cover the charges of the facility. Their life savings had been depleted; the kid's college funds were depleted; she was contemplating the need to sell the family home JUST TO PAY THE FACILITY TAKING CARE OF HER HUSBAND... because the living expenses of the family were not as important as paying the facility to warehouse the dying father. It broke her heart, but she had living children to care for, on her own, and sadly the husband/father was a financial anchor around their necks. It is a tragedy, but sadly, that is the nature of the business.
What good can come of that is the 98 year old woman gets to make an informed choice about who she has contact with based on her own medical conditions. It's beyond entitled, and maybe narcissistic, to decide to potentially expose an elderly vulnerable person to a virus when they've made it clear they are isolating themselves by lying about your vax status. You don't have to get vaccinated. It's your right. It's not your right to decide for someone else on what risks they take.
For the first pet situation-even if those pets were human children, you don’t let your kids invade your guests’ personal space, jumping all over them, kissing them, scratching at them.. that would be uncouth. You can still either teach your dogs manners and teach your kids personal boundaries.
Guys, the cost of a facility is astronomical and would have completely drained her financially. She wouldn’t have been able to even buy groceries. It’s obvious from the story that she did not simply ditch him. I worked at a nursing home in the billing department for years. He would have had government assistance as a single man. This is sad but for two seconds put yourself in her shoes. She did the right thing to protect her son.
@Beth that makes absolutely no sense. The man was in an accident, disability/medicaid/medicare would have kicked in to cover him. And from the story it's clear that the mother never visited him nor took the child to visit him. Idk why you're trying to absolve someone of a really evil decision to leave a spouse at their most vulnerable.
I am 21 years old and the vaccinated story is relatable to me. My great aunt and that side of the family are always asking if I am vaccinated but I always tell them no and they say I should do it because it saves lives. I dont want to die or have health risks because of the jab. I already have asthma and high blood sugar and pressure. Even if nothing happens I still do not want to take that risk.
She may have divorced the forgetful dad so she could afford to put him in a facility and still have money to raise the boy. She at that point needed to prioritize the child’s safety as well. It can be very dangerous raising a child around someone with head trauma.
My dogs are lovely but I still always put them away for guests because I'm smart enough to understand that some people feel unnerved with Great Danes due to their size.
There is no excuse for inappropriately jumping into a stranger's lap. I would be questioning Matt on why he had not taught his cat some basic manners. Absolutely not okay. Bad cat daddy right there.
Sorry, my pets live in my home full time and visitors do not therefore if people coming to my home have a problem with my pets they should probably just stay at their own damn house. If you have out of control pets that's on you as a damn owner, but you shouldn't have to lock them in another damn room because of visitors. At this point in life I don't give a shit if anyone comes to my house though, so there's that. 🤣
I swear they must be searching for the most strange sponsorships possible just to annoy Matt Walsh
At this point? Problably yes.
Just waiting for the inevitable Raid Shadow Lands sponsorship lmao
Natural, vibrant Matt Walsh glow
Klavan has been doing Gencel too
I like it. Im a makeup diva so its actually a product that i could buy. I can only have so many ring cameras 😅✌️
I want this segment to be a weekly thing. Matt is the perfect disseminator of Ahole scores.
@user-yf4qw7ci2y Shut up, fake Matt.
good idea :)
Become a DW member and it will be. He does ‘Am I the A-Hole’ once a week in the member’s block.
It is a weekly thing starting this new year. Come join the members’ block and see it on the main show 👍
yes he is. he is ruthless in his assessments
From a former alcoholic: Don't EVER make it easy for addicts to engage in addiction. No rides, no money, no crashing at your house. It's never loving, never kind. Be the A-hole you have to be. But never cosign that bullsh*t. A winter on the street might actually save someone's life. And if it doesn't, you didn't assist them further down their addiction.
I mean by being an a-hole once or twice you might help them gain their life back. I'd happily trade some hard love for decades of more life for people I care about
I highly respect this and you. ✊🏼
@@mari-de-bsas then you help the kids as much as possible while making it clear to the parent that they need to get help. Unfortunately, even with your intervention, the children will still suffer if their parent continues in their addiction. If you're in that situation now, I'm so sorry.
There's something real top notch weird about Walsh doing a pitch for skin care products.
I love your name. I'm a fellow Hoosier flatty 👍
@@harvey_weenstain8857 Haha thanks! It seemingly randomly popped into my head while showering back in ~2016 or so during my early days of FE investigation.
Was this just a ploy to get me to watch an ad?
@@hoosierflatty6435 ahh the glory days lol who could forget 👍👍👍 lol God bless!
P.s I am just near Purdue university, in Lafayette, btw.
Did they get the before and after mixed up on the old dude?
We’ve got 4 dogs. We often have people over for the holidays and other random things. We always make it a point to make sure the dogs are respecting everyone’s space. If they can’t be good they get removed from the room. It’s on the homeowner to make sure the guests are as comfortable as possible while they are there.
Agreed
Good, people who don’t do that have no respect for anyone else.
Same. We have three dogs and if we have company over, they usually either go outside or into a bedroom until they calm down. They get pretty excited when people are over and can be a little intrusive when they initially show up. Every person who walks in the door is their brand new best friend.. 😆
It can be a little intimidating cu two of the dogs are pretty big, one being a pitbull and the other allegedly a “Texas shepherd” or something like that. I honestly think she’s a Carolina dog but she’s a sweetheart, just has some wild traits.
@UCHxr40d2q34oD5JK83EQl3g I would prefer the Doberman every time. Chihuahuas don’t seem to like me very much 😂
If you're going to have indoor pets, please, for the sake of your non pet guests, family, and friends, vacuum up the hair!
“Neither of these I wanted” cut to Matt sleeping with both the cat and dog laying with him 😂
It's the classic "Dad didn't want a pet" then becomes a total softie with the pet
He is probably Bro’s with the dog when no one is looking
Probably not. He’s probably like my cousin who has a big house and multiple kids. He hates animals and just locks them in a cage all day because he doesn’t want to deal with them. He’s religious and conservative too.
@@jasonbfhfj8132😮
Matt telling the story about the time he went over someone's house and Knowles was jumping all over him was hilarious
What are you talking about?
@@ippokratismargiouklas2791 i think hes talking about when Matt was on the animal tangent at the start lmao
@@PsycheVFX Knowles is just built different
Where can i find that?
Underrated comment 😂
Let's be honest, Matt's happy that his sweet babies aren't a-holes 😂
Aren't we all?
@@tamalam I certainly am!
Let's be honest, Matt cries about weird stuff. It's funny how he's just a big nerdy baby.
His audience is on a next level of crying though. Hilarious 😆
@@garyhoffman5620 Do you mean metaphorical crying?
@@sql4fun458 :)
“The cat will just jump up on their lap without even asking” 😅 I’ll remind my cats to ask next time they want attention 🤣
Even if cats could somehow learn to speak asking permission for anything is not something a cat would deem to do lol
For some reason, that line made me picture a cat calmly walking up to a sitting person and then saying in Matt Walsh's voice, " Excuse me, human, would mind if I jumped up on your lap? That way, we could engage in some platonic human-feline physical bonding, which is a good thing as it will strengthen our alliance should a crisis arise."
Haha I actually laughed when Matt said that
@@thefilthyrhombus3856 I heard it in his voice too, and it's comedy gold
My cats ask. And I usually say no.
7.50 in really hit me in the feelings, as an independent adult with a strained relationship with my father...damn. I've been blaming myself for years. But what Matt is saying about the barely existing bond being the parents responsibility is a viewpoint I've never considered before. It's oddly comforting and given me something to ruminate on. Thank you
Felt the same way
I also have an adult relative whom I've known all my life and seen almost every day, yet have no relationship with. Thankfully, they aren't a parent, but it is definitely on them that they don't have a relationship with me. They had my whole 20+ years of life to make it happen, and honestly, I tried very hard to facilitate it. I gave up two years ago, and now I'm learning to forgive.
May God help you find peace with your situation with your parent.
It really struck me too, and I feel you. I grew up without a father in the home and carried the guilt of being responsible for our relationship. In truth, it's not the kid's fault or responsibility. I hope you can find some peace now with this perspective.
Not sure whether he realised that sage nugget would have such an impact on many of us, but I felt the same as I have an incredibly strained relationship with my mother. Thank you Matt for confirming how I've always felt, but have been made to feel guilty for.
Yeah except I was in sort of a reverse situation. My mom’s mind was shot by time she was in her 50s, and I was left being the only one around to care for her. My siblings wanted not to do with her and her family had long since abandoned her. I don’t resent my siblings but I do resent her side of the family for essentially cutting my mom out of their lives and not even caring to show up to her funeral.
It amazes me that Matt has a dog and a cat yet no fish. He seems like a fish guy
He seems like a total cat guy
That sounds like an insult somehow
Gilla monster, 100%
Given he's big into fishing, I expect Walsh would tell us that fish are to be caught and eaten, not kept as pets.
He actually does desire a huge aquarium...but not everyone in his household feels the same. He won the giant walrus battle so maybe in time...
Praying for Mrs. Matt Walsh as she gives birth and recovers .
Blessings to the entire family .
All gods are fiction.
@@michaelmcfeely6588 I’m sorry you think that brotha. Christ has proved himself to me multiple times, one of the times is when He changed my mind, heart, and life overnight. I’d love to talk to you about Him if you’re willing
I pray for you anyway.
@@michaelmcfeely6588
I hope you come to know the Living God ....He loves you dearly .
@@jackieann5494 People create gods, leprechauns, unicorns and Jedi Knights from Star Wars. People create fiction.
The one about the dad who lost his short term memory is awful. Why divorce him? She could have just put him in a facility while still being his wife.
Few take the vow of “in sickness or in health, for better or for worse” seriously.
@@danieldaniels7571 Ya I learned that the hard way. I definitely took the vows as an actual vow and she did not.
Marriage is worth the risk but it's wise to make the seriousness of the vow part crystal clear with your partner before saying them.
You sure about that? Financing is very often a problem for married couples.
She wanted to be a hot girl.
@@LillyMarz777 I was thinking the same thing. It may have cost more money that she couldn't afford being married to him. I think that may have been a strategic move as a benefit to him to get into the facility.
For that first one... my family has a nice, sweet big dog named Luna. She loves people to the point of being overbearing. In fact, she has helped kids who are deathly scared of dogs come to like nice dogs. But whenever someone was uncomfortable, even without alergies, with our dog hanging out with everyone, we put her away and aren't offended. She's a dog, and not everyone likes dogs.
I love my kids and I love my dogs and they grew up together and are totally comfortable with each other. My nephew is not comfortable with dogs being all up in his face so when him or any other person who isn’t necessarily a dog person comes over I will always put the dogs in another room, it’s just common courtesy. And I would never drag my dogs with to someone else’s house, no exceptions on that one.
I agree.
Ya I gotta agree either you prioritize to accommodate your guests or you stop inviting guests over. Which if I was on the other end like this guy I'd just refuse to go to her house again. I don't really find it a big deal in either direction. Just set boundaries for yourself and move on. Seems pretty simple to me
Exactly! Dogs aren’t offended to be put in another room. Dogs can be great, but they are not as important as kids.
Maybe I'm the asshole but I'm not putting my pets in another damn room in their own home because the people visiting my house have a problem with them. Visitors don't live there full time but my pets sure as hell do and If people don't like it they don't have to come over. In fact, I would prefer that they don't at this point in life. 🤣
@@jenni0278 actually, I don't mind if my dog is on a leash but he's comfortable in the house but I won't put him into another room and just leave him alone. I remember once my friend came over and she wanted to stay with me for a month and have my dog lucky put into a bathroom and I said no lucky is not staying in the bathroom. I said you can't stay at my house
Recently I was just complaining to my husband that girls / young ladies are not being taught hospitality (how to be a gracious host and guest). This is not a personal slam against any one person that I know, it just seems like so many don’t know how to do it which then feeds in to people just not socializing in person much, especially in each other’s homes. We are a homeschooling family, and I make it a point to periodically host small events in order to teach my children how to do it.
I completely agree!
As a parent you have to fill the gap that our crumbling society is creating by failing to teach effectively. Sucks but it is what it is.
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I’d like to point at that people no longer know how to be proper guests in a household either. Early in my marriage I used to host but quickly became disillusioned with it
My parents did the same thing with us- made it a point to teach us hospitality (we were also homeschool).
It's amazing how American millennial and Gen Z are ignorant of how to engage their guests in conversation with each other and don't offer refreshments.... Part of the problem tho is that we rarely own property or consider our homes to be our own. No pride of ownership.
My mom stressed with us that our home is our home.
My brother is a cat person, my dad is a dog person, but me? I am a Sweet Daddy Walsh person.
@FLmetalhead That's because of your perverted aexual appetites. Daddy is just a childish way to say dad or father. If you apply the other definition to it, that's a problem that belongs to you and no one else.
Matt's the typa dad to say he doesn't want the dog then have the dog become his best friend
Definitely bro’s with the dog when nobody is looking
I need to show this last scenario to my mom. She coddles my sister so much and let’s her get away with far too much.
Just so you know most of the time when parents do that with one child over the other. It’s because they don’t think that one kid is capable to live a normal life. Of course it’s probably making that persons life even harder. But it’s been my experience that your mom probably sees you as someone who will be ok no matter what. Not so much with your sister
@@sarabrown7488 Right but that doesn't make what the parents are doing okay.
@@sarabrown7488 she’s also my only sister. And she’s the oldest. She needs to learn to get her shit together and stop being a nuisance to everyone
I love this. Could you please do series?
My grandma did this to my uncle (her only son) and pretty much neglected her other children until her death.
Then my other aunt told him that he needs to look for a job because she isn't going to baby him like their mom did because my uncle was living with her at the time.
We need these every Saturday, thank you.
Walsh doing a skin care ad. . . priceless 🤣
Skin care is important why is it funny
@Kaiden Hall you think matt walsh regularly thinks about skin care huh
I'm so proud of the ethical standards of my co-SBG! Even the fact that they'd contemplate on being the a**hole in these situations tells me that these people are quite humble as well as self-aware! 💜
A twist to these pet stories. My wife and I (married 38 years) have a 85 pound Lab, great dog. Only 3 years old so still basically a puppy. A big strong puppy. When people come to OUR house, we put him in a kennel. They meet the dog, then into the kennel. It’s in the living area but keeps everything calm (dog included). We constantly get crap from certain guests about putting him into a kennel instead of letting him roam around. “He should be free” and “he has rights, too” and all manner of stupid stuff. 100% of these coming from women, btw. So a couple observations: 1. It’s our dog. 2. It’s our house. 3. You’re our guest. 4. We missed that you’re the queen of England and get to order us around concerning. 🐈
Of course it's from women. So many women (especially childless ones) believe that they're Dr. Doolittle, Disney characters, or modern witches who relate better to animals than people. Just sad.
Not surprised at all they're all women.. ridiculous and oblivious
Can you put the dog outside or have you ever left the dog around people to see how he behaves? If your guests don’t have a problem with him then why lock him up? Only way he’ll get used to behaving around people is if he actually spends time around them.
@@Lawrence_Talbot He’s a puppy so he gets all hyped up. And he calms down better in the kennel when inside. I’m not going through an experiment each time people come to the house. He knows the drill! People come over, in the kennel. In a couple years he won’t have that “new person” energy and we’ll adapt. We’ve had lots of Labs. But for now we know what to do.
Glad you mentioned the dog part. I love dogs and all but I don't want one jumping all over me when I go to someone's house.
What's worse is that if I push the dog away or off me repeatedly, I'm sometimes seen as someone who doesn't like dogs. Why is it weird or strange or even unacceptable to some people to NOT want a big hairy dog jumping on you and licking your face and jamming it's paws into you crotch? I'll never understand it.
Control your damn dogs people.
Thanks for offering a glimmer of hope to us who try to set boundaries in a boundary-confused-dont- know- what-those-are-anymore world. Its is literally the most exhausting activity to set boundaries for other people continuously.
The dog story---- my autistic daughter was very scared of dogs even insisting on crossing the road if she saw a dog coming on her side of the road. It took a lot of work and training to get her to the point that now she can walk past the dog --- provided I am between her and the dog.
Then we went to visit someone who wouldn't keep their dogs in another room. We left within 5 minutes but all the years of work is gone she is back to being very afraid of dogs.
this is honestly one of my favourite series of yours!! so hilarious!
I feel like an A hole a lot because I got kicked out of the military for refusing the jab. I let my shipmates down and was not allowed to do my job, meaning my friends and brothers had to do the work I couldnt. I knew I couldnt look myself in the mirror if years later I had a health problem because of the jab, but I felt bad for not being there for my brothers and shipmates who couldve used the help. Kills me sometimes.
My son is in the Marines and really struggled with whether to take the jab. In the end, he wanted to be a career officer so he took it. But he had horrific side effects from it and worries about the long term effects everyday. And still he caught Covid 2x. Everything has tradeoffs.
You're not the a-hole for making your own medical decision with life long consequences and not allowing yourself to be manipulated and coerced into taking an experimental drug with known (yet covered up) horrific side effects and little to no actual protection. You and everyone else who stood up for freedom were acting not only for yourself but for love of neighbor to help preserve all of our rights to medical concent and liberty to refuse. Everyone that folded with the lock downs, masking, and forced vaccines are to blame for how long we had to deal with government tyranny and for any further attempts on the people. Looking at history, medical experiments without the person's true informed consent (and option to deny) is a grave crime against humanity worthy of condemnation. That's getting into Nazi Germany policy (and unfortunately our own history in America as well). Thank you for standing up for yourself and not letting fear rule your heart.
I am deeply sorry our country treats hero's like you were treated. It's pathetic and wrong to get rid of someone because they don't want a fake vac with horrible side effects.
I’m the one who wrote to Matt about that … I’m so sorry you lost your job over that. Makes me more grateful and I’m sorry to hear that. Thank you for your service.
When I was in high school my mom and stepdad said if I want to have a relationship with them, it's up to me to initiate that. That is so backwards, and it's one reason they are so lonely in their old age.
So I’m assuming you haven’t had much of a relationship with them in a while now?
@@johnwilliams1223 not a close one. They moved to Ecuador the minute I graduated high school and now they live far away in Kansas. I flew them out here for Christmas, the first time I'd seen them in 2 years. Sometimes I feel guilty for not calling more but I keep reminding myself it's not my fault, and I'm not the one who moved away.
I hope you initiated yourself into others who are capable of love, and understanding, and taking personal responsibility, I had to find my tribe❤️
@@shaktipriestess2553 luckily I have two sets of awesome in-laws ❤️
@@jesuslives316 I’m happy to hear that, thank you for letting me know! They sound deserving of you❤️
If my dogs act a fool when people come over I put them in a separate room or out into the back yard until the people leave, out of consideration for all. Man and beast alike.
I love how Matt is so much gentler when he’s judging AITA Situations from the SBG as opposed to from Reddit
I don't think he is, his fans just aren't disgusting degenerates like the reddit people
@@anonymoose2474 That's an excellent point
I suspect his team picks the most egregious examples of a-holes from the reddit forum.
your profile is super annoying/awesome
Bringing animals to someone else's home is totally obnoxious, quite different from having them in your own home.
And I also understand if you have them in your own home and removing them when guests are over if they don’t like them. But BRINGING them to someone else’s house without asking? Absolutely not.
she is a bad dog owner for not teaching dogs to behave in human spaces....
I didn't even need to hear the first story. After knowing that the step sister was a DINKWAD, I knew she'd be the a-hole. Not to mention that being a DINKWAD makes you an a-hole automatically
How is choosing to have dogs instead of kids making one an asshole?
@@megankissinger8269 a real Sweet Baby already knows the answer.
@@anzot6903 No they don't.
@@megankissinger8269 Choosing to have a dog over a kid doesn't automatically make one that. But insisting that your pet is actually your baby and is on par with my human children absolutely does.
@@megankissinger8269 Because you're betraying your natural duty to procreate, and instead fill the place that your offspring has the right to, namely your love, care and upbringing, with an animal. Not only an animal, but a species that has literally been bred for thousands of years to be slaves. Raising a slave instead of a child not only makes you an a-hole, it is fundamentally immoral.
Man, the "lying to my liberal family" conundrum is something I've been stressing about too. I had my conservative awakening late 2021/early 2022 and I don't know how they are going to react when I don't vote like them in the presidential election. I don't want to lie, but I know how they talked about people who voted for trump before and I feel sad thinking that's how they will talk about me.
It's a secret ballot. Don't tell them. Hate to tell you but there is something wrong with them to act like this, it is a liberal disease. I have friends that voted for Joetato and I do not hate them for it.
Just tell them liberals are the least tolerant people on the planet and that their entire worldview is based on legacy media lies.
I know the feeling... I my workplace is very hostile to my conservative political (and social) beliefs, so I stay quiet on political topics. I usually listen to everyone else talk about how they voted and why. It generally makes for good research into the mind of the opposition, so I know which counterarguments will be most effective for undermining their premise/position.
Just remember that US voting is, by law, (supposed to be) kept confidential. No one has the right to know how you voted, and it’s considered in poor taste to ask. If you’re in near-constant contact with your family and can’t afford a big blow-up, then just let them assume how you voted, and don’t correct them if they’re wrong. That’s supposing your family won’t listen to reason or at least put differences aside. If you think they’ll be able to respect your opinion when you explain your reasoning, it might be helpful to have a conversation with them IF they ask.
I’d try to avoid bringing it up and avoiding it if possible. But yeah, that’s definitely a tough one.
Don't invite people who don't like dogs round to your house, go out for dinner, simple fix
I think that the person with the fake vax card should come clean to their family, and take the opportunity to say how they feel they have the right to not get the vaccine and it is wrong for their family to think they can force them to get it. I think that if their family should be able to understand this and if they truly want to see them, they won’t care they don’t have the vaccine.
My dad is allergic to cats and I always make sure the cat is upstairs and I vacuum the couch and the rug, trying to minimize cat hair because I want my dad to enjoy his stay. We also have a dog and when my friend who doesnt like dogs and who's daughter is scared of dogs I put the dog outside and then in her play pen when she wants back in..or vice versa.
I say terminate the cat. That man gave you life..
We have a dog. We love him very much. But we don't take him to people's houses without prior approval and if he's being an attention hog he gets sent to go lay down and leave people alone. Then I spend time with him later. It's not too much to ask that he not be in children's faces.
How is someone with memory loss supposed to stay married? As the wife gets older he won't recognize her. Also, divorced would be better to get medical care without wiping out the spouse.
I love animals, including dogs but if a parent doesnt want animals around their toddlers, thats reasonable.
If my family members came over and didnt want my cats around their kids Id happily put them upstairs to spend time with my family.
I love the cats but I certainly understand they dont hold more value than people. Except hippies, my cats are more important than all hippies.
Also finding out Matt has a cat and a dog is amazing! My cats are super friendly and overly affectionate too
@krvnjrcbs Animals do not hold the same value as humans.
Even in the most reductive sense; were at the top of the food chain and without humans domesticated animal breeds wouldnt exist in the first place.
That doesnt even factor in spirituality and what it means to be human.
@krvnjrcbs its not about me, its about humanity.
No matter how you put it, , humanity is more valuable than animal kind. I brought the food chain up because it highlights why were special. We are naturally weak primates, its our intellect, adaptability, consciousness and spirituality that makes us special. We are at the top of the food chain because of that.
Let me put this simply;
You have a 6 month old baby and a 6 month old dog on the brink of death and only the ability to save one. Who do you save? Neither because it wouldnt be fair to the other?
Get real.
Love this segment! Love you teaching and speaking to what most would call understanding personal responsibility!
One response to the first Mom would be to tell her that if it's true that her dogs are her children, then remind her that if her human kids were being that obnoxious to his children, SHE would definitely need to intervene. Basically her kids (her dogs) were bullying his kids.
My husky tries to play with little kids, and when little kids come over for my parents bible study i either put him outside, keep him in my room, or take him on a walk and stuff
"I have a dog. I have a cat too. Neither of them I wanted but I have them." Lol
My partner is extremely allergic to dogs - my mother has two very large and harry dogs and my brother has one also very large and harry dog. For Christmas, my brother was hosting and we had to go to his home for the holiday. My mother knows about his allergies and we asked her not to bring her dogs because three giant hair balls in a small home would be way too much for him to handle. My mother decided against it and brought them anyway saying that they would be lonely at home alone. My partner could only stand it for just over an hour and we had to leave - he could barely see the road on the drive home from the allergic reaction. My mother was upset with us because she says we don’t visit enough and didn’t stay for very long and it was rude to leave so early ….
I already know we aren’t the assholes.
Seriously, we must be related. My mother had the same freak out over my husband's dog induced asthma.
So lying about being vaccinated is okay? That one surprising…. Be honest and take the consequences.
I was initially confused about the first situation, but upon second look, he says his stepsister BROUGHT her dogs to the party. If someone comes to my house, to a certain reasonable extent, it's on them to deal with the presence of my dogs. When you bring dogs to someone ELSE'S house, it's YOUR job to make sure they don't cause trouble. Just because it's an animal, doesn't mean you get to let it make everyone miserable.
If you bring your dog to my house, he's not getting through the door. Sorry, not sorry.
Even if someone comes to a house with a dog, it is the dog owner's responsibility to ensure that children are not terrorized by the dogs. Dogs should be well behaved and NOT jump on and lick small children. If they cannot be trusted not to do that, then perhaps put them in a separate room. Of course, parents should also ensure that their kids don't pester the dog.
These are actually interesting situations compared to whats on reddit.
@@wordsalad01 So it's at least 85.
I grew up with dogs. I grew up with my parents Treating the dogs better than their kids. To be fair the dogs did behave better. I love dogs. When my old black lab could no longer go up the stairs to sleep with me, I spent the next few months sleeping downstairs with him. Until he passed away.. The dog was bigger than me so I couldn't help him get up-and-down the stairs. I used to lie down on the floor with him. When it was time for him to go I made a whole package of bacon and fed it to him right until it was time for him to pass. He was around 15 years old. His paw was so big it didn't fit on their paw print mold. I love him. He was a great dog.
All that said. If someone doesn't want your dog around them it's your responsibility to keep your dog away from them. If you can't have control over your dog to keep them off of someone you're the one with the problem. You need to train your dog. You don't have control over your dog you're not a good dog owner. I think very highly of dogs to the point where I sleep on the floor with them. Human children come before dogs or any pets. Unless your children are being absolute h*** in's and can't respect the dog space, Children people come 1st. Those kids could have had allergies, They could have gotten a hurt. They could have accidentally rubbed those dogs the wrong way and gotten bitten. And no It is not OK for you to tell someone who doesn't want to be licked by a dog oh just let them do it. Do you know where dogs tongues have been? they're disgusting.
Few things gross me out more than those people who kissed their dogs on the mouth tongue or have them lick your face. They clean their privates with that tongue., They eat poop, They eat rotten dead things trash. They lick their butt holes and then go and lick you.
Nobody should be forced to be licked by anybody. The family with the dogs or the a*******.
I started hospicing a black and tan coonhound with cancer on 07/05/22. They told me she wouldn't make it to the end of the year. I ended up adopting her so I could try more aggressive treatments and she made it until 08/04/23. I spent the last few nights on the floor with her too. I am currently fostering two hounds and hospicing a third, but the house still feels empty without her.
It was never about the animal, it was about control.
I didn't know most cats asked before jumping up, nor did they have the ability of speech, amazing!
Cats can absolutely speak, they just collectively agree to meow instead
They’re too good to stoop to speaking in the human tongue
@Armoured Jester I know humans who also decide to meow instead of say words 🤔
“We have a cat and a dog, neither of which I wanted”! Welcome to fatherhood🙄👍
Do not threaten the step mom with “not seeing children” until she apologizes. That is emotional extortion. However, for the safety and comfort of your children, she can see them in an environment you control … your own home, a hotel, a restaurant. In these times public forums, your wishes would be honored more that at the “mom’s” house.
Iam proud to have you as a fellow Tennessean. Hope your family and you are able to enjoy this great state.
Thanks for bringing more common sense and sharing it with us.
100% agree, no one has the right to your medical information (or bodily autonomy!)
I really appreciate what Matt said about parental bonds. My dad was almost never there for me, usually more occupied with alcohol. I let my Aunt know Christmastime I didn’t want to talk to him on the phone until he got sober, and she respected it
I remember being terrorized and bitten by a family friends dog when I was young. They wouldn’t lock it up and I was terrified of it. Every time I had to go to their house I cried and begged to be protected from this animal. I felt relieved when it passed away due to cancer because it had been extremely aggressive towards me and many other kids. I was told I was the *sshole for being glad that the dog was dead.
Same here. Nothing is worse than when parents choose animals over their own children. Hope that the dogs can support them in their elder yrs.
Compromise would be restrain dogs. It is reasonable to request that the dogs not lick the children. They lick their butts.
I love dogs ,I live in Canada and have rescued and rehabilitated 3 dogs from Texas , they are my kids , but I still put them away when people come over .
We have a friend who is lonely.She has a small house and 7 dogs.She constantly asks people to visit and when you do it take about 5 mins to get in her door,its crazy, dogs jump,bark,fight each other round your feet due to being excited and one has to be held or it bites.You leave covered in dog hair, drool,muddy paw marks and stinking of dog.It stops you having many visits as its hard work,she has no concept of people not loving that experience.I know many people don't visit her at all due to this and yet she is so lovely, if she could just understand people don't love her dogs as she does and balance human comfort with her dogs comfort she would have a much less lonely life.
I can sympathize with a person who has relatives with traveling pets. My brother and his kids would routinely bring their untrained dogs to the house and upset the existing pets there, notably the cats. They just didn’t get a clue about the disruption they were causing.
I had a senecio involving my own brother in regards to my wife. He was staying with us because he was kicked out of his house by his wife, my sister-in-law, because of his incessant alcoholism. At one point, during his stay with us, my brother made a comment against my wife concerning how she didn’t make my lunch for me, as by him, a wife should. I make my own lunch because I have my own preferences on how it’s made. I yelled at my brother to NEVER talk to my wife in that manner ever again. He left.
I have a dog and a cat and love them so much! I spend an obscene amount of money to keep them well, healthy, comfortable and entertained. That being said, i have ALWAYS said that people visiting our home come first. I usually have the animals outside or in another room until I know for a fact that the guest want to see them. Humans come first.
I would be pissed at the mother in law and sister in law too for not being smart enough to keep the dogs away from the little children.
My parents were divorced. I grew up With my mom from the time I was around 12,13 she had full custody.
Wasn't really allowed to be around my dad much. I only got to see him a few times a year. It was only when I visited my grandparents.
As an adult, I was so much closer to my dad than my mom. This is because my dad put in the effort. My dad would call and ask to spend time with me. My dad was the one that was always asking to spend time with the kids and offering to come pick us up to make it happen.
My mom wouldn't even visit me when she'd come into town for an appointment 5 minutes away.
I love both my parents. But my dad's the one who acts like he actually wants me around. He was the best grandparent to my kids. He passed away 3 years ago. I lost the only family who went out of his way to be with me. He Showed me how much he cared and loves us and wants us in his life. He showed me that he chose us. He chose to spend his precious time On us.
As someone who was basically raised by her grandparents I am completely shocked by how uninvolved my kids grandparents are. Except for my dad, My kid's other grandparents They don't call to talk to the grand kids, They don't show Any signs of missing us. They don't ever ask us to visit. I don't get it.
Growing up I was very obedient and well behaved. My kids are not so obedient but they are well behaved in polite. They show that they love it when we're there and they spend time with the kids, Show the enjoy it. But that's it. It's like they would be fine with it, or without it.
I understand my Mother in laws, They still have a teenage boy they're raising. They're super excited whenever we come to visit but they're just too busy to be active grandparents. My parents are retired. My mom does enjoy when we visit and they do love us but they honestly prefer their own time together or socializing with their friends more.
I tried getting my husband's father more involved but I gave up. Even when we lived minutes away we couldn't get him involved with us. Couldn't even get him to call us back. He wouldn't come to the hospital when the kids were born, He didn't come to our house visit after to meet them. He wouldn't come to birthday parties or dinners that I invited him to. And we never hear from him. We only see him back when we used to go visit that side of the family's Christmas.
I'm dumbfounded how people can be so uninvolved. Do they not miss their kids? miss and want to be around their grand kids to see them grow, Watch their character develop Maybe help teach them become the people they will be? It's sad.
There are some situations in which there are no good choices.
In the second story, part of me feels like it was an a-hole move of the mom to divorce the dad and put hime in a facitility. The flip side is, if she legitimately struggled to care for him, the sad reality is that theres a possibility that the only way for her to be able to get any outside help for him may have been to divorce him. If they were married, her income may have counted against being able to get any kind of medicaid, im assuming he couldnt work and she became the only income, there may have been a lot of expense to try to get any sort of care/help etc. That said, while it seems lime an ahole move, without any extra detail, I can kinda give her thr benefit of the doubt that it unfortunately may not been due to lack of caring for him or that she just wanted to dump him, but that unfortunately it may have been out of practicality, for lack of a more sensitive way to put it.
I've got a nephew who went visiting and encouraged the dog to jump up. The son who owned the dog told him no. The dog was large and if he jumps could hurt someone. The nephew now has a dog and allows that behavior and he doesn't understand why people have a problem with it. There are idiots all over the place and sometimes they are relatives.
I love that Matt acknowledges and respects peoples personal space. I straight up won’t go to that persons house again if they don’t do anything about their dog being (literally) up my ass and jumping on me, ripping my pants or shoes.
The worst are the chihuahuas, eating you from the ankles up!
@@hrw1936 oh man those evil little bastards LOL just kidding (kinda)
You must have visited members of my family. Their dogs MeToo every woman who comes through the door. I haven't visited for yrs due to this.
I love how I was having a conversation with someone online about the transgender problem and I asked them "What is a woman?" and they immediately stopped talking blocked me and told me that I'm a "Matt Walsh loving freak." They can't handle the truth. Gotta stay strong, hold onto our beliefs, and never back down.
This is better than stand up comedy.
It's really easy for the Catholic priest to say she must come clean to get family: he's not the one that will have to deal with the backlash or the pain of being disowned.
Also, it's the mom that is the A-hole for using the 98 year old grandma as a pawn to leverage Becca into getting the Maxeen.
I don't know if I could come back from our sweet daddy telling me he was disappointed in me ..
I'm sure I would feel like I used to feel when I was scolded in front of the whole class in grade school. You know, when that flush comes over your face, and you momentarily feel like you're blacking out and your soul is being removed from your body? It would be devastating 😭
My husband and I personally no longer have dogs, however, many family members do, and none of them would allow their PETS to clamour
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Step mom Step sister Those people aren’t your family
Probably not a issue worth freaking out and yelling over. After asking for the dogs to be put away and declined, I would just not go to their house anymore. ✌️
No. She brought the dogS to Their house! SMH 🐶🐶🐶🏡❌
dogs are not people. I am so sick of this crap.
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The woman with the dogs should either control her dogs or leave. That's no different than bringing over your bad kids. My dogs are my kids too. But, I don't allow them to jump and lick my guests unless they are ok with it. Most people say it's ok. When they don't like it I put the puppy in a metal cage out of respect. The lady with the dogs is rude. But, at the same time it's rude to treat her dogs like they are less than her kids. I love my dogs more than any human on this planet. And, they have unconditional love for me. I think we should recognize that and give them the respect they deserve. Why should a human, who does bad things and only cares about themselves, get more respect? Dogs are so underrated. Intelligent people understand that.
If you know how to raise a dog or a kid both should be well behave. If I tell my dog or my kid not to bother another kid or even a dog on dog... Both listen and understand respect
Command words are usually 'leave it'
Wife Divorced Mentally damaged Husband/father- for as horrible as it sounds, I've heard other wives being forced to do the same thing. As long as the deficient partner has a family with any income, THEY must pay any professionals to care for the disabled. Social Security WILL NOT HELP. She was devastated when her lawyer said to divorce him, so medicare would pick up the bill for his care. This lady, I don't think her husband was old enough to collect social security and even if they could secure disability payments, it wouldn't cover the charges of the facility. Their life savings had been depleted; the kid's college funds were depleted; she was contemplating the need to sell the family home JUST TO PAY THE FACILITY TAKING CARE OF HER HUSBAND... because the living expenses of the family were not as important as paying the facility to warehouse the dying father. It broke her heart, but she had living children to care for, on her own, and sadly the husband/father was a financial anchor around their necks.
It is a tragedy, but sadly, that is the nature of the business.
Matt doing a skincare sponsor felt weird as hell.
To the dude asking about the jab and coming clean with their family. Do not ever tell them...EVER. Literally nothing good can happen from that.
What good can come of that is the 98 year old woman gets to make an informed choice about who she has contact with based on her own medical conditions. It's beyond entitled, and maybe narcissistic, to decide to potentially expose an elderly vulnerable person to a virus when they've made it clear they are isolating themselves by lying about your vax status. You don't have to get vaccinated. It's your right. It's not your right to decide for someone else on what risks they take.
Greetings from Sri Lanka! Keep up the good work!
How is Sri Lanka?
@@JeremyHale141 In economic turmoil with imbeciles in power.
For the first pet situation-even if those pets were human children, you don’t let your kids invade your guests’ personal space, jumping all over them, kissing them, scratching at them.. that would be uncouth. You can still either teach your dogs manners and teach your kids personal boundaries.
Guys, the cost of a facility is astronomical and would have completely drained her financially. She wouldn’t have been able to even buy groceries. It’s obvious from the story that she did not simply ditch him. I worked at a nursing home in the billing department for years. He would have had government assistance as a single man. This is sad but for two seconds put yourself in her shoes. She did the right thing to protect her son.
That was exactly my take. Divorce probably wrecked her heart, but it was the only way to keep a roof over her kid's head.
@Beth that makes absolutely no sense. The man was in an accident, disability/medicaid/medicare would have kicked in to cover him. And from the story it's clear that the mother never visited him nor took the child to visit him. Idk why you're trying to absolve someone of a really evil decision to leave a spouse at their most vulnerable.
I am 21 years old and the vaccinated story is relatable to me. My great aunt and that side of the family are always asking if I am vaccinated but I always tell them no and they say I should do it because it saves lives. I dont want to die or have health risks because of the jab. I already have asthma and high blood sugar and pressure. Even if nothing happens I still do not want to take that risk.
It's good that you don't lie about it like the op in the story.
I am so sorry this accident happened and you lost everything with your dad's relationship. I am so sorry. Hugs. I pray you all heal.
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This was a great segment and should be done more often . Thanks for all the submissions, folks and keep them coming .
She may have divorced the forgetful dad so she could afford to put him in a facility and still have money to raise the boy. She at that point needed to prioritize the child’s safety as well. It can be very dangerous raising a child around someone with head trauma.
You do not have to get vaccinated to please your family. I'd miss every family event before I'd get that shot. 🤷🏾♀️
But you also don't get to lie and dishonestly expose them to risk they didn't consent to.
My dogs are lovely but I still always put them away for guests because I'm smart enough to understand that some people feel unnerved with Great Danes due to their size.
Bless you
The animations in this were spot on!!! Well done edit guy (or girl)! Please make this a regular segment.
Personally if I were at Matt’s house and his friendly cat surprised me and jumped into my lap it would make my day 😂
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Me too! A cat is a great judge of character. I'd be thrilled.
Would it be the cat that made your day or would it be being at Matt's house?
@@dr.intensivecare Lol!
There is no excuse for inappropriately jumping into a stranger's lap. I would be questioning Matt on why he had not taught his cat some basic manners. Absolutely not okay. Bad cat daddy right there.
Matthew! Of course all these decent people question if THEY are the a-holes… Sick people think they’re never wrong.
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Yes that is very accurate!
"You can't see my kids until...." is the biggest BETA MOVE known to man.
Well if she’s putting dogs ahead of a fucking human child then I see his point
How? Nobody has a right to see your children. Nobody. This is not a debate.
Sorry, my pets live in my home full time and visitors do not therefore if people coming to my home have a problem with my pets they should probably just stay at their own damn house. If you have out of control pets that's on you as a damn owner, but you shouldn't have to lock them in another damn room because of visitors. At this point in life I don't give a shit if anyone comes to my house though, so there's that. 🤣
I really enjoy these segments 😆
It's so nice to see Matt's gentler side!!!!!!
Congrats on 2-mil, Matt! You deserve it! May God keep blessing you and protecting you, in Jesus' name!