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Bhagwaan k liye bro......Last k 2-3 mins use that time to make us self doubt what we have learnt. Self doubts is important too right? Like you gave all of us a new idea to detect egoism on others for example but what if we are the one who is overacting or overthinking? Cases vary. What if this video leads to us becoming narcissist ourselves because of the new gained knowledge ( by you) Little knowledge can do that easily to anyone.
@@ManjunathRao97 attachment styles you say? How did you come to know about it? Was it recent? I have been hearing so many comments & post about it just recently. Since 1 week Ithink. Algorithms ki kartoot h kya ye? Why all of the sudden most indians are getting recommend "attachment styles" video in TH-cam. Mujhe isme bhi doubt ho raha h.
Hey shwetabh, sometimes we know this person is not good for me...irritating one...but still we can't avoid them...kindly make a video on how to avoid People whom we want to avoid
I dated a girl, who was older to me and did all these things to me. First, she didn't tell me sorry anytime, not until I made her feel that she was guilty. Second, she always made me believe she was way above me. She thought, I was immature for her. Thirdly, she used to compare myself with everyone which killed my self-esteem. Lastly, she always plays the victim card and puts the blame on me, just because I loved her. Just because I loved her, she took full advantage of me and my time. She was committed to me, but she was the worst kind of person one could have. It took many days to move on from her, and I am recovering and Shwetabh mentioned all these checkpoints, which made me write this comment. Do the good work Shwetabh bhai, and guys, focus on your life, she is not your wife, she has just said "I love you". Its nothing more. Cheers, peace out Souradeep
Broadly there are four types of toxic behaviours - 1.Clingy 2.Narcissistic 3.Victim mentality 4.Downplaying On these basis,these are the Red Flags - 1.Always want to talk . 2.Never apologizing. 3.Has Superiority complex 4.Manipulative behavior 5.Constant comparison 6.Displays Victim Mentality 7.Guilt tripping you 8.Downplaying you and your achievements . 9.Excessive criticism 10.Demoralising you 11.Gaslighting
I dealt with all this bullshit before. From my conclusion, signs of a toxic person. 1. They will blame you for their own mistakes. And never accept their mistake or apologize. 2. They will play victim card each and everytime. Like you are tottering them and they are angels of the heaven 3. They will always make you feel low, try to insult you indirectly by joking around 4. They are super selfish, they will always think about themselves first and of you at last or never 5. They have a depressing presence and nature, being with them will always make you feel negative Edit:- 6 they are crazy for attaintion and if you got a toxic person in your life, just be casual....never be serious. Or otherwise you will be destroyed for years
My family did that all and I kept on working fr them Chutiya types Now I m n depression ki raat m khud ka khoon ka Mann karta ya chillake relation ko bhi jhaleel karu
HERE'S MY STORY HPOEFULLY SOMEONE WILL READ IT : I had a best friend and our friendship broke 1 month ago .. So i am quiet person like who don't talk to many people and stays in her own zone .. but one day this girl came to me and started talking to me nicely and we become friends and after sometimes best friends but here is the thing she started abusing me after a month of being tagged as a best friend she used to say bull shit about me in public like if we are going in malls or meeting any of her friends she used to say " iski shakal dekh kitni gandi hai " "dekh moti ko " and then after insulting me she used to praise herself " mai dekho kitni sundar hu sab ladke fidda hai merepe " and so on like she used to brag about herself a lot and of course i used to believe her yeah i am ugly i don't deserve anyone .. i have like a light brown skin colour and she is white as hell so of course she used to take my hand and used to say that " aree tu kya damar ragad kar atti hai kya " " ek ladki hoke itna ganda colour hai tera cheeeee " that was her exact wordings .. And whatever i use to wear she use to say that " ay haye pura mood kharab kar diya aaya hi mat kar tu mere samne kuch akkal hi nahi hai kya " in front of her whole group of friends ( btw i used to wear common t - shirts and she was a little bit too faishnable so she used to hate it and used to eyeroll on my outfits ) ... i don't had a courage to break our friendship .. BUT THAN one day her mom called me and said that stop talking to my daughter and start yelling at me and said you spoiled my daughter " tum kyo use force kar rahi ho ladko se dosti karne k liye tumhari jaisa hi samaj rakha hai kya sabko "and than she said some abusive words to me .. i don't know what she told her mom coz my interection with boys was ZERO .. and that day i cried a lot coz her mom scolded me and called my parents and told the same thing to them but my parents of course believe in me coz they know how i am .. I WAS SO HAPPY AT THAT DAY THAT SHE WAS FINALLY OUT OF MY LIFE .. coz her presence was making my self esteem low and she was telling that i am doing everthing in a worse way ... so i am happy from a month now doing my work, studying chilling with my family pets and plants .. My parents are helping me a lot and i am a happy and a better person ..yeah i have a regret for not taking any step for myself but i am learing to protect myself and take stand for myself..AND I BELIEVE THAT BEING QUIET IS NOT A PROBLEM BUT BEING SILENT IS , SO TAKE A STAND FOR YOURSELF .. Be happy in life and stay away from toxic people .. THanks bhaiya for uploading these videos your videos are also helping me a lot .. Thanks a lott , lots of love to you ❤❤
Hey Stranger , More power to you to heal and get everything the Universe has to offer. Just to add , she was using you to boost her Ego. Nevermind she left you , the friendship wasn't real anyway. Take Care.
by the way, you can change these things. They are not permanent. It's a LOT of work but it will be good for you in the long term in terms of peaceful living.
I once dated a narcissist. She made her own mistakes seem like they were mine. Although she was herself, later i did blame me for letting it happen. Right now I've reached a point where i have very low tolerance for BS. I also learnt that going no contact is much much better that engaging in an argument with these people
True, arguing with narcissistic people is like digging your own grave. They will never realise or accept their own faults. It's much better to completely avoid them.
Another red flag. That person has no guilt no remorse or no regrets. They are just fine or will get fine within just some hrs no matter what kind of bad situation they have been in and just want to get over the bad situation. The explorer type of personality. Disclaimer: exploring is not bad at all. But when a relationship ends and that person just moves on within some hrs or a month or so. Without any remorse or sorrow and is happy. Run JUST RUN!!!! RUN WITH YOUR SHOES ON YOUR HEAD!!!
Remorseless Bitch !! Bold-Face Lying was my ex's major characteristic.After a year i found that all she did was lying. She would everytime come up with different stories for the same incident. Never accepting her mistake, never ever !! She was so much perfect in Lying that one could never have any doubt on what she says. She only once said sorry ( just for the sake of saying sorry) and then, again repeating same shitty,toxic,cheap behaviours ; but this time, more terrible than before.Na deen, na imaan : such an immoral, shitty,psycopath, sociopath & Conscience-less lady she was & Despite this,she was "proud" of herself😑 !! In the end she herself said ,"Mai toh aisi hi hu, mera toh personality trait hai : jhooth bolna, confused rehna". When i asked her ,"why don't you stick to your words ? Sometime ago you said something else and now you are completely denying it !" & she said," Please don't stick to my words.Mere words pe matt jaa. I am a human, koi exam nhi chal rha jo tu words ke liye bolega. I keep changing every minute." Even when i used to talk to her about how wrong her own actions were for me, they were nowhere aligning with what she said, then she used to say , "I can't take my disrespect !".... Mtlab, hadd hai !! Mai usko uske khud ke actions ke liye hi bolta tha jo mujhe boht affect krte the lekin vo khud ke hi actions ko admit krne ke liye bhi kbhi willing nhi thi 🤦♂️😑. Agar uske khud ke actions hi disrespect wale honge toh disrespect wale hi Lagenge na, Flowers thodi barsaunga uspe mai🤷🤷🤦♂️😌😌 How horrible she was !!😑😑
but what if the person he's been with was toxic and he's feeling better after ages after the end of the relationship? he's just not consciously having those intrusive breakup thoughts unless he's not focusing on it. And when he focuses he cries. Is this also a Red Flag?
** Simplified Explanation: ** Dating should feel smooth and happy. If you are having waves of emotion between happy, worried, anxious, and low then that person does not love you and you are in a trauma bond.
But sometimes may be it's because we have low self-esteem? We can never know. So best is to give some time and observe a pattern for atleast two weeks.. Also we should bring it in notice to our partner.. If things still doesn't change, then it's safe to breakup.
Narricist signs 1 never apologies (pattern ) 2 always criticism ( pattern ) 3 always compares ( pattern ) 4 they feel they are superior ( pattern) 5. Tries to change your personality by demoralizing ( pattern ) 6. Victim syndromers ( I am very very broken nd u will.feel let go everything I will fix this man , victim will lead to abuse ) 7.
My mother have all of these qualities....but i hate to say that she is a narc....or she had emotionally abused me....i just don't wanna do that....because she had a troubled childhood too....emotional neglect...got married at a tender age of 20...faced physical emotional sexual abuse by her husband repeatedly for her entire 20s....abandoned by her husband at 27 pennyless and with bills and loans....so she is a fighter...and since she didn't have help and sources to focus on her mental health...i believe all the pain...emotional neglect.. physical abuse..she caused me was her projecting what she had gone through....and i understand what she must have felt and she doesn't project any of her mental issues on her sons(my brothers)...but just on me....as if i am her competition....i believe that is also because her parents treated her and her brother impartially......i had rage and anger against her...grew enmity against her till last year.....but then i keeping my own emotions aside tried to understand what was the reason of her being ended up like this...and from that day all i have is empathy for her....all her life she has struggled.....lived in a society that blamed her for being abandoned by her abusive husband....all i feel is bad for her....even after going through all this she stick to her children raised us....i know unknowingly she has caused me pain.....but i forgive her and will make sure i don't project any of this that i have gone through on my kids or any other significant person in my life...!!!
@@archie851 i think she hates herself for being a woman and since you too are a woman she hates you too.she feels why do you exist as a woman not as a man be because you will also have to go through all that and it will hurt her more if she cared for you.
@@elijahmikaelson8027 she doesn't hate me.....no mother would do that....and specially Indian traditional mothers.....but yeah she does reflect some of her narc behavior on me impulsively....but then when calm her motherly instinct take over.....and i don't blame her....because of literally no knowledge of mental health and awareness....but i know and i can say....she doesn't hate me...!!
hi. i'm a 15 year old boy there was this girl in my class that i had an intense crush on and i was convinced that she liked me back too. i never asked her but that's just what i thought.but i came to realize that she actually liked my best friend and that they're a thing now. this came as a great shock to me. i think i was hurt when i came to know of it. i went to sleep as soon as i came home. but this is not me asking for a solution. this is me thanking you for all that you've done for me after that initial shock i was perfectly alrigght. no bitter feelings towards my friend or her. i don't feel angry or sad when i see them together but am able to feel completely happy for them. i don't have feelings for her anymore or feel sad or insecure. i have completely moved on. and i thank you for everything. watching your videos have really improved my mental and emotional strength. i don't feel as insecure as i used to thanks to ur videos. i'm not afraid to be myself and don't care what other people think. So thank you ffor everything sorry for dragging it so long but i just wanted to pour my heart out
actually there are people who are saints to the outside world but very manipulative and abusive to people in their close quarters. Humans are very complex. What you can do is, protect yourself by becoming strong financially. And protect others who are willing to come with you.
Sir, you are a gem. You have immense depth of understanding in human psychology.. Every word you say is so relatable.. Really a privilege to watch your videos. Keep up the good work sir..
That victim syndrome thing I have experienced where someone gained sympathy out of their abusive relation and then manipulated my thoughts.I became a fixer and yeah it's overly burdened thing..
Excuses. Never apologies for their mistake. Blame game Victims hame Unnecessary attitude and egoist. Stupid excuses Gradiosity And the classic reason - "mein mazak kar rahi thi ya tha". In logo se dur raho bhai.
@@brilliantminds8497 Our community is Bhutanese Lhotsmapa, we were genocided, raped and expelled because we wanted to preserve our Nepali Hindu culture and traditions in Bhutan, but Bhutan King thought it as a threat to Bhutan’s Buddhist culture and identity, and also soverginity. He thought having too many Hindu culture people might lead to bhutan being merged with India like Sikkim. Bhutan political elite blames Ethnic Nepali Hindus of Sikkim for doing “Cultural invasion” to Buddhist kingdom of Sikkkm and later voting it to be part of India. After that Government made plan to chase us out despite living in bhutan for centuries and being bhutanese citizens, We were expelled brutally in gunpoint, forced to sign papers saying we are leaving bhutan willingly, Google “Ethnic cleansing in Bhutan”
@@wonderfullife737 bro I had not even heard of this. That's terrible. And even worse thing is that people don't know about this. Even in Sri Lanka Tamil Hindus were persecuted for a long time because of their language and economic status. Anyways I'll study more into this topic.
To be honest Shwetabh I am like this in some perspective but today I realized I was soo wrong I promise I will work on this and will try to change myself in every way possible. Thanks for this video 📹
Bhai it seems very helpful. Idk that you can fix someone or not but it's true that it just takes fraction of seconds from becoming that person whom you hate the most. So you need to be very careful when you find someone guilty. From my point of view you need to see him/her as a poor person and instead of highlighting his or her mistakes you should choose to stay away or start walking to another way. Just like your dreams you should also be very careful about your feelings. If someone is constantly hurting you , run away like kamlesh dhun dhun dhun 😂
बहुत सही कहा सर आपने victim सिंड्रोम वाला धीमे धीमे आपको अपने कंट्रोल में लेना शुरू कर देता है भारत में शांति दूतों को देख लो दूसरों के साथ मारपीट करते हैं उसके बाद कह देते हमें मारा जा रहा है हिंदुस्तान में और धीमे-धीमे पूरा हिंदुस्तान का इकोसिस्टम रोल अपने कंट्रोल में कर दिया
This four types of person exists in every kind of relationship not just in BF GF relationship.. I see many parents are like this .. They never accept their fault before their children.. They continue to compare their kids with others.. They consistently discourage their children to destroy the self esteem or self confidence in their children and also play victim card whenever their children question their intentions or disagree with them.. So the point is that whenever you find this types of person try to avoid them.. Whether it's your love partner your life partner your parents your friends your relatives or anybody.. It's very very dangerous to live with such persons who can brutally Break you internally
Yes i admit muje aise ldka mila or usne itna bura muje feel kraya me bhut down chli gyi apni lyf me or aaj bhi me puri trh se bhr nhi nikl payi hu 😶😶😓😓hmesa muje compare kia or bhut ghtiya feel kraya
Yes, I have experienced every single thing that you are talking about. But I am grateful that I have a bunch of good friends who had helped me getting out of a situation like this.
बहुत सही कहा सर आपने victim सिंड्रोम वाला धीमे धीमे आपको अपने कंट्रोल में लेना शुरू कर देता है भारत में शांति दूतों को देख लो दूसरों के साथ मारपीट करते हैं उसके बाद कह देते हमें मारा जा रहा है हिंदुस्तान में और धीमे-धीमे पूरा हिंदुस्तान का इकोसिस्टम रोल अपने कंट्रोल में कर दिया
Thanks sir for opening up my eyes by telling me.i am that guy who has this victim syndrome all things you said about being victim to abuser were true and i didn't knew what i was doing because my life is literally fucked up and i never realised why everyone i dated became frustrated of me , and u just told me the exact same things what i did and pointed out my fault now i guess I'll be able to work on myself and change this behaviour right now I'm undergoing therapy and your videos are really helping me to become a better person ❤❤ thank u sir
Another sign is a Narcissist would never agree to you no matter how correct you are and how wrong he\she is. They just think this human can never think better than me.
My first relationship was a narcissistic bitch... She always compared me and tried to shatter my ego. After the breakup and in subsequent relationships I felt what a good partner is
I am dealing with a guy like this and trying to escape it... He wants to be in a marriage with me, but he keeps comparing me to others and also to himself. He always tries to one up and wants whatever I have achieved in life.
Victim syndrome Dark Traid The dark Tetrad Come at a position where you say " I don't know about the my emotions and Dynamics of relationship and Tujhe bhi nhi pta " Setback your EGO - Come at same level and grow in congruence with eactother -- We'll go longterm , Harmounous rhenge and Khush rehnge
Exactly u are saying my story..Kab victim abuser bnega..Overall Kab hum khud victim ban jayenge pta hi nhi chalega ..Total Confidence, Peace gone ..Just Love bombarding in between and the cycle repeats. .One more thing if u don't get healed and get into some other relationship u will definitely find a next one with different identity
Just want to add one fact to the first point, even if (s/)he apologises that will be for some of her/his helplessness(like if I was exhausted and about to leave)- basically to pretend, but later (s/)he'll try so GODDAMN hard to return the blame on you and to shame you for his/her apologizing. From my hard experience from narcissist or a person who at least had narcissistic tendencies even if not NPD.
These people will call you multiple times and do all efforts in the world to contact you if you leaving them or blocked them but once you back, they will again start showing narcissistic traits
@@sereniseco I am glad that I was in a toxic relationship.. To be honest it's adventurous and teaches you a lot about boundaries, what true love is like contrary to what is our idealised version and what exactly you need in a relationship. You understand lots of things. A healthy relationship doesnt teach you anything🤣
@@sereniseco plus anyways I have no plan to marry.. Being a man it has no advantages and now being with that girl has made me ultra smart.. I can deal in much better way with ladies now and have casual fun😈
Small questions.. 1.How to start/approach/establish a relationship when we are feeling little settled (like in terms of financial stability etc..) and how to maintain it for longer term.. 2. What's your take on the stigmatisation of arrange or love marriages.. and what's you recommend for..?
1) You find girl that you think is attractive, maybe through dating apps, mutual friends, or through cold approach in real life jo ki kafi mushkil hai but definitely possible. As for how to maintain it for long term, uska koi answer nahi hai. It all depends on how much attachment you've built and you remain attractive over the course or your relationship. ofcourse there will also be times when you do all the things right and still your partner will break your heart. So there's no garunteed formula that works and will ensure your relationship to last longer. Just be your true self, never settle for anything just because you're getting companionship. That means saying no to her bad suggestions and setting boundaries. A confident man who knows what he wants is super attractive and when women see that you don't take bullshit from anyone they will hate you a little, because you will also not handle her bad behaviour but she will respect you more. Just maintain your masculine frame and your relationships will probably last. 2) I'm assuming that question is for shwetab so i won't answer it.
One person putting all the efforts he can and the other one does it only once in a while, puts her ego above everything even above relationship then you just can't fix the relationship.. You'll notice her patterns, she's nice most of the times but suddenly someday she starts acting cold, replying to your texts in dry ways and the moment you try to ask or confront, it turns into fight and that person just doesn't accept their mistake that they were behaving like that, let alone apologising.. you might feel like you can fix things by being a bit more lenient but trust me it's not worth it.. If she keeps her ego above relationship, she just doesn't deserve that relationship then..
One thing we need to mention Narcissistic traits are different from Narcissistic personality disorder. Most people have narcissistic traits till some extent but only few people have full on NPD
I have met a many people like these, i was really affected by those. But as i grew by age as well as my intelligent i became vulnerable to such attitudes and personality ☺. When you know your self worth everything else is worthless
All the points belongs to him. I gave him 8 years. He cheated. He never ever apologised for anything. Always played victim. Now he left me for someone else and best part is he never told me that he is cheating since 2 years and I myself found out and when I confronted he said yes I was lying. And left and it's been 20 days he never contacted me.
Omg this was exactly my last relationship.....I was so much clueless like what was going on....everytime it was like he used to be at fault and then if I am resenteful about that ...then he used to behave like ab tum bhi aise bolo mujhe ,sab aisa krtey hai mere sath...or baad m I had to apologise and treat him nicely for being mad at his mistakes.Thank god its no more....that was so pathetic...I was asked to change my perception ,morals...literally...and it was like he is the only one who knows everything .He told my frends ki jab tumhari shadi hogi tab u will become mature like me ,very high superiority complex.Different personality in front of frends ,family he was nice and cheery ....but with me he was always angry and giving letlcture.He was tottaly all of this...and the weird thing is he was my childhood frnd...whom I didnt expected to be like this.
I Have Noticed One Thing In The Comment Section, That Approximately, Everyone Who Has Been In A Relation Is Calling Their Partner Narcissist. Without Realizing That He Might Be The Narcissist In That Relationship.
I'm in a toxic relationship for last 4 months ! She doesn't listen to me at all even if I am correct. According to her she is right & I am wrong all the time. She doubts me everytime that I'm talking to girls but when she talks with other boys she says it's okay. I can't even talk to my friends relatives over the phone because if she finds my phone busy, then she'll creat scene out of it ! I hardly miss her calls but she hangs up or rejects my call regularly ! I want to break up but my emotions are not allowing me to do so ! What to do ?
Shwetabh tum kuch naya content daalo yaar , try something new yeh respective problems ke perspective absorb krna kaafi irritating lg rha ab Casually explained wale videos sahi jaa rhe the I want ki tum bas ek topic lo aur usko deep me smjhao video with some writing attached to it video bhale hi lamba ho mei dekh lunga
Bhai absolutely write victim syndrome with me absolutely point to point apply with me love ur work bhai... This channel helps lots of people lots of love bhai ❤❤❤❤❤...
I had a friend like that, and I just stopped keeping friendship, nehi chahiye aishe friends. Matlab, sabko praise karega aur hamesha mujhe hi neeche dikha raha hota hai... For 11 years, we have been friends, but the bond is almost over now.
Wow ! Just realised I tick all the boxes. Probably a dark tetrad. Not sure. I consider my childhood kind of traumatic. But I know deep down that's not a justification for my actions. I've been horrible to my father, my friends, people I've dated, my girlfriend of current who I see a future with, all in the name of pretentious angst. I've been reflecting on my life so for the last few weeks. Figured out that mostly it has been me who's been the problematic one yet somehow I got more than I deserved from the people around me. Dont want to stay this way and take people for granted forever. Im probably two years too late but thanks for making me think clearly Sir ! I'll act on it.
Think that now listening to you and analysing myself, I now feel that maybe I was the one who treated her badly. I was probably the one who treated her badly and that's why she is trying to get away from me... I will try to say sorry and accept my mistakes. Will come back to you if that succeeds.
Brothers swetabh is spitting some real truth. I don't know what he has been through to be able to tell these things. But I have been with the fourth type for a year and it is exactly the same story swetabh has told. I am shocked at how each and every word tell the story of my relation. Everything is exactly same. Every word. Guys please listen to him and trust him you will find a beautiful person one day or atleast you will stay away from toxic relations. Otherwise apna sab kuch ghusa k beth jaoge apni life apna career apni mental health. Aur ek din nikaloge usse aur rovoge bc kha ghusa diye maine itne saal agar ye sab nhi hota to pta nhi m kha ka kha pahuch chuka hota
Shwetabh bhai camera pe itne ease se video me bolte ho aap and jaisa bhot log hai jo camera pe bolte hai like you, sandeep maheshwari, acharya prashant ji, aap logo ko camera ke samne fata fata sochna bhi padta hai and use express bhi karna padta hai. To itna aap sab log ise at ease kaise kar lete ho bhai. Ispe ek video banana please ki ease me rehkar full expressible kaise bane. Please bhai ispe banana video.
i do was in touch that kind people, problem with me is that i was touch with him for long time but a realized late in my life. Any relation which is long enough, is hard to let it by from mind. I have to control my emotion , thoughts ,etc, for that person. Rember there is no medicine tablet or a way , that can erase memory of that person. If u try hard to forget that person existence ,5%-10% of time u will get struck by ur brain . i tried a way but seems not working for me.
Just like anyothers i dated a girl 3month ago who is elder thn me. 1. she showed her like she is the most victim person i have ever meet. she always said men are vry vry qrual worst villian etc.. 2. day by day she try to controled me, and always said to me that i am so soft and she likes me & said that i always be like this, never be hard 3. i always try to feel her happy, coz I thought I will never treat her just like her ex did with her, but she do mistake misbehave with me a lot of time, btw she never apologied for this shit. 4. and some days ego, she always just jocked me, & insulted me, compair me with other guys.. now today she call me(just like others day after completing her study, not thinking about my study) but today I didn't talk about this but she understood something. thanks shwetabh bhaiya 🙏🏻
Nothing much. People with social media accounts with large clout(especially women) will have ridiculous amount of narcissistic tendencies and entitlement
meri b ek frnd h bohot ldko ki zindgi barbaad kr chuki h relationship mein doubling krti h koi respect ni krti bf ki uske family ko gali deti h us ladke ko gali deti h úse kaam hota h to jaane ni deti 2 min rukjao 5 min rukjao bolti h or us bechare ka time waste krti h mood swings ka bahana dekr bttameezi krti h or fr b dosh bf p daalti h jese ki kitna julm hua h uspr ek br uske bf ne muje cll kiya or rone lga kehra tha isne mera dimag khrb krdiya kuch krne layak n chora she is sooo toxic mene usse friendship Tod di or us ldke ko b bol diya ki teri zindgi brbd krdegi ye
The most deadly thing you do in these type of situations is that You begin to think "EVERYTHING IS MY PROBLEM & RESPONSIBILITY" for whatever blame or words the person infront have said. I have been that been victim of that victim(You know whom I'm referring)(the girl)
Same here bro, I was thinking the same way that everything is my fault but one day she suddenly said you are toxic. So I was very curious to know what the signs of a toxic person are. Then I found this video.
One question off the topic. Is it possible to change your personality by feeding knowledge and making conscious effort to do what is right and not listening to own default reaction to things/incidents ? My personality ticks fews point of being narcissistic, and I want to change that. Answer please
Its better to make some check points like even of the smallest thing you don't like about you and observe urself on a daily basis. See what was your past/childhood trauma u had.. that might be the reason of such a behaviour. Its not that easy to change the personality but with habit and checking internally the reason of such behaviour can help you move forward. Past trauma can be like -a very bad breakup some years ago and insecurity from that relationship -Some sort of family/financial issues for a longer period of time -lack of empathy , to overcome you can join NGO , help animals and orphanage , basically find Love and respect. -bad communication - Try to decrease your ego and try to see other people prospective too with open heart. , When other person is explaining don't roam in your mind.. listen to him/her At last just observe the things..
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Bhagwaan k liye bro......Last k 2-3 mins use that time to make us self doubt what we have learnt. Self doubts is important too right? Like you gave all of us a new idea to detect egoism on others for example but what if we are the one who is overacting or overthinking? Cases vary. What if this video leads to us becoming narcissist ourselves because of the new gained knowledge ( by you) Little knowledge can do that easily to anyone.
@@ManjunathRao97 attachment styles you say? How did you come to know about it? Was it recent? I have been hearing so many comments & post about it just recently. Since 1 week Ithink. Algorithms ki kartoot h kya ye? Why all of the sudden most indians are getting recommend "attachment styles" video in TH-cam. Mujhe isme bhi doubt ho raha h.
Just completed your book .... Thank you
Hey shwetabh, sometimes we know this person is not good for me...irritating one...but still we can't avoid them...kindly make a video on how to avoid People whom we want to avoid
A person who never Apologizes and acts victim too. A deadly combo. 😂
I stayed for a long time with a one of them haha
Bruh 🤣
My wife 😅
😆😆😆
it sucks ;(
I dated a girl, who was older to me and did all these things to me.
First, she didn't tell me sorry anytime, not until I made her feel that she was guilty.
Second, she always made me believe she was way above me. She thought, I was immature for her.
Thirdly, she used to compare myself with everyone which killed my self-esteem.
Lastly, she always plays the victim card and puts the blame on me, just because I loved her.
Just because I loved her, she took full advantage of me and my time. She was committed to me, but she was the worst kind of person one could have.
It took many days to move on from her, and I am recovering and Shwetabh mentioned all these checkpoints, which made me write this comment.
Do the good work Shwetabh bhai, and guys, focus on your life, she is not your wife, she has just said "I love you". Its nothing more.
Cheers, peace out
Souradeep
above mentioned things I'm also faced it...and only for her I get to know about this Dark triad thing...and especially narcissism
I am currently facing it bro...but i have fallen in the vicious cycle of Revenge
@@snehasishsingha mujpe to god ne kripa hai matlab 7years ke relationship mein mere sath aisa kabhi nhi hua
@Souradeep Us moment bhai
@@namanbhardwaj4939 Naman, don't take any type of revenge. Leave them, that's the best revenge. 💪
Broadly there are four types of toxic behaviours -
1.Clingy
2.Narcissistic
3.Victim mentality
4.Downplaying
On these basis,these are the Red Flags -
1.Always want to talk .
2.Never apologizing.
3.Has Superiority complex
4.Manipulative behavior
5.Constant comparison
6.Displays Victim Mentality
7.Guilt tripping you
8.Downplaying you and your achievements .
9.Excessive criticism
10.Demoralising you
11.Gaslighting
All of the above points lead to one point which is at last, i.e. gaslighting!!
Not respecting his/her in public, making fun of them in front of others are also a sign of toxic dating
Yes 💯
Sahi batt hai
Absolutely. Everyone in my fathers side is like that. Narcissist selfish people who use innocent people.
@@monurajput5608in what you do then
@@priya1233able kuch nahi behen. Mein unn logon se contact nahi rakhta. Kyuki woh mujhe aur mom se jalte hain.
I dealt with all this bullshit before. From my conclusion, signs of a toxic person.
1. They will blame you for their own mistakes. And never accept their mistake or apologize.
2. They will play victim card each and everytime. Like you are tottering them and they are angels of the heaven
3. They will always make you feel low, try to insult you indirectly by joking around
4. They are super selfish, they will always think about themselves first and of you at last or never
5. They have a depressing presence and nature, being with them will always make you feel negative
Edit:- 6 they are crazy for attaintion and if you got a toxic person in your life, just be casual....never be serious. Or otherwise you will be destroyed for years
Appreciations Andrew 😉
My family did that all and I kept on working fr them
Chutiya types
Now I m n depression ki raat m khud ka khoon ka Mann karta ya chillake relation ko bhi jhaleel karu
Stay strong bro 💪 @@priya1233able
0. Narcisst
1. Feel no sorry
2. Will try to dominate
3. Victim syndrome turns into abuser
Bhai 4th kya hai??
@@Gurpreet_singh_008 4 bata toh diye lmao dekh na
Right 😑
Bhai coder he Kya? 0123 😂🤭
0, 1, 2, 3 😁
HERE'S MY STORY HPOEFULLY SOMEONE WILL READ IT : I had a best friend and our friendship broke 1 month ago .. So i am quiet person like who don't talk to many people and stays in her own zone .. but one day this girl came to me and started talking to me nicely and we become friends and after sometimes best friends but here is the thing she started abusing me after a month of being tagged as a best friend she used to say bull shit about me in public like if we are going in malls or meeting any of her friends she used to say " iski shakal dekh kitni gandi hai " "dekh moti ko " and then after insulting me she used to praise herself " mai dekho kitni sundar hu sab ladke fidda hai merepe " and so on like she used to brag about herself a lot and of course i used to believe her yeah i am ugly i don't deserve anyone .. i have like a light brown skin colour and she is white as hell so of course she used to take my hand and used to say that " aree tu kya damar ragad kar atti hai kya " " ek ladki hoke itna ganda colour hai tera cheeeee " that was her exact wordings .. And whatever i use to wear she use to say that " ay haye pura mood kharab kar diya aaya hi mat kar tu mere samne kuch akkal hi nahi hai kya " in front of her whole group of friends ( btw i used to wear common t - shirts and she was a little bit too faishnable so she used to hate it and used to eyeroll on my outfits ) ... i don't had a courage to break our friendship .. BUT THAN one day her mom called me and said that stop talking to my daughter and start yelling at me and said you spoiled my daughter " tum kyo use force kar rahi ho ladko se dosti karne k liye tumhari jaisa hi samaj rakha hai kya sabko "and than she said some abusive words to me .. i don't know what she told her mom coz my interection with boys was ZERO .. and that day i cried a lot coz her mom scolded me and called my parents and told the same thing to them but my parents of course believe in me coz they know how i am .. I WAS SO HAPPY AT THAT DAY THAT SHE WAS FINALLY OUT OF MY LIFE .. coz her presence was making my self esteem low and she was telling that i am doing everthing in a worse way ... so i am happy from a month now doing my work, studying chilling with my family pets and plants .. My parents are helping me a lot and i am a happy and a better person ..yeah i have a regret for not taking any step for myself but i am learing to protect myself and take stand for myself..AND I BELIEVE THAT BEING QUIET IS NOT A PROBLEM BUT BEING SILENT IS , SO TAKE A STAND FOR YOURSELF .. Be happy in life and stay away from toxic people .. THanks bhaiya for uploading these videos your videos are also helping me a lot .. Thanks a lott , lots of love to you ❤❤
You are very strong person mahi, but from now never ever stop yourself in taking stand for yourself against someone who tries to cross the boundaries.
@Richa Genius thanks a lot ..god bless you ❤❤❤
@@anantsrivastav1704 yeah i will make sure of that .. thanks for encouraging me .. god bless you ❤❤
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Hey Stranger , More power to you to heal and get everything the Universe has to offer.
Just to add , she was using you to boost her Ego. Nevermind she left you , the friendship wasn't real anyway.
Take Care.
i am the guy with all 4 of these red flags !
i feel bad for my partner now !
i need to change bigtime, thanks for throwing light !
by the way, you can change these things. They are not permanent. It's a LOT of work but it will be good for you in the long term in terms of peaceful living.
You have balls to accept it brother. It's already a step towards improvement.
Waaah kya ldka h khullle aam acceptance 😅
@@sandhyabhandari144 bhn agr problem h toh usse accept krne mai kya problem h
@@r.g8224 ha mne kch nhi bola
I once dated a narcissist. She made her own mistakes seem like they were mine. Although she was herself, later i did blame me for letting it happen. Right now I've reached a point where i have very low tolerance for BS.
I also learnt that going no contact is much much better that engaging in an argument with these people
agreed
Bro at what age you dated her?
@@abhijeetagarwal311 20
True, arguing with narcissistic people is like digging your own grave. They will never realise or accept their own faults. It's much better to completely avoid them.
Bro don't judge me btw what is narcissistic
Another red flag. That person has no guilt no remorse or no regrets. They are just fine or will get fine within just some hrs no matter what kind of bad situation they have been in and just want to get over the bad situation.
The explorer type of personality.
Disclaimer: exploring is not bad at all.
But when a relationship ends and that person just moves on within some hrs or a month or so. Without any remorse or sorrow and is happy.
Run JUST RUN!!!! RUN WITH YOUR SHOES ON YOUR HEAD!!!
I am also stuck
Very true
Remorseless Bitch !! Bold-Face Lying was my ex's major characteristic.After a year i found that all she did was lying. She would everytime come up with different stories for the same incident. Never accepting her mistake, never ever !! She was so much perfect in Lying that one could never have any doubt on what she says. She only once said sorry ( just for the sake of saying sorry) and then, again repeating same shitty,toxic,cheap behaviours ; but this time, more terrible than before.Na deen, na imaan : such an immoral, shitty,psycopath, sociopath & Conscience-less lady she was & Despite this,she was "proud" of herself😑 !! In the end she herself said ,"Mai toh aisi hi hu, mera toh personality trait hai : jhooth bolna, confused rehna".
When i asked her ,"why don't you stick to your words ? Sometime ago you said something else and now you are completely denying it !" & she said," Please don't stick to my words.Mere words pe matt jaa. I am a human, koi exam nhi chal rha jo tu words ke liye bolega. I keep changing every minute."
Even when i used to talk to her about how wrong her own actions were for me, they were nowhere aligning with what she said, then she used to say , "I can't take my disrespect !"....
Mtlab, hadd hai !! Mai usko uske khud ke actions ke liye hi bolta tha jo mujhe boht affect krte the lekin vo khud ke hi actions ko admit krne ke liye bhi kbhi willing nhi thi 🤦♂️😑. Agar uske khud ke actions hi disrespect wale honge toh disrespect wale hi Lagenge na, Flowers thodi barsaunga uspe mai🤷🤷🤦♂️😌😌
How horrible she was !!😑😑
but what if the person he's been with was toxic and he's feeling better after ages after the end of the relationship? he's just not consciously having those intrusive breakup thoughts unless he's not focusing on it. And when he focuses he cries. Is this also a Red Flag?
Better to Be Single than Be with a Wrong Person
** Simplified Explanation: **
Dating should feel smooth and happy.
If you are having waves of emotion between happy, worried, anxious, and low then that person does not love you and you are in a trauma bond.
But sometimes may be it's because we have low self-esteem? We can never know. So best is to give some time and observe a pattern for atleast two weeks.. Also we should bring it in notice to our partner.. If things still doesn't change, then it's safe to breakup.
Narricist signs
1 never apologies (pattern )
2 always criticism ( pattern )
3 always compares ( pattern )
4 they feel they are superior ( pattern)
5. Tries to change your personality by demoralizing ( pattern )
6. Victim syndromers ( I am very very broken nd u will.feel let go everything I will fix this man , victim will lead to abuse )
7.
My mother have all of these qualities....but i hate to say that she is a narc....or she had emotionally abused me....i just don't wanna do that....because she had a troubled childhood too....emotional neglect...got married at a tender age of 20...faced physical emotional sexual abuse by her husband repeatedly for her entire 20s....abandoned by her husband at 27 pennyless and with bills and loans....so she is a fighter...and since she didn't have help and sources to focus on her mental health...i believe all the pain...emotional neglect.. physical abuse..she caused me was her projecting what she had gone through....and i understand what she must have felt and she doesn't project any of her mental issues on her sons(my brothers)...but just on me....as if i am her competition....i believe that is also because her parents treated her and her brother impartially......i had rage and anger against her...grew enmity against her till last year.....but then i keeping my own emotions aside tried to understand what was the reason of her being ended up like this...and from that day all i have is empathy for her....all her life she has struggled.....lived in a society that blamed her for being abandoned by her abusive husband....all i feel is bad for her....even after going through all this she stick to her children raised us....i know unknowingly she has caused me pain.....but i forgive her and will make sure i don't project any of this that i have gone through on my kids or any other significant person in my life...!!!
May god Bless You 🙏 keep Progressing in Life
@@archie851 i think she hates herself for being a woman and since you too are a woman she hates you too.she feels why do you exist as a woman not as a man be because you will also have to go through all that and it will hurt her more if she cared for you.
@@elijahmikaelson8027 she doesn't hate me.....no mother would do that....and specially Indian traditional mothers.....but yeah she does reflect some of her narc behavior on me impulsively....but then when calm her motherly instinct take over.....and i don't blame her....because of literally no knowledge of mental health and awareness....but i know and i can say....she doesn't hate me...!!
❤️ Learn , Smile
And let it go 😊
So you can be free
Respect++
hi. i'm a 15 year old boy
there was this girl in my class that i had an intense crush on and i was convinced that she liked me back too. i never asked her but that's just what i thought.but i came to realize that she actually liked my best friend and that they're a thing now. this came as a great shock to me. i think i was hurt when i came to know of it. i went to sleep as soon as i came home.
but this is not me asking for a solution. this is me thanking you for all that you've done for me
after that initial shock i was perfectly alrigght. no bitter feelings towards my friend or her. i don't feel angry or sad when i see them together but am able to feel completely happy for them. i don't have feelings for her anymore or feel sad or insecure. i have completely moved on.
and i thank you for everything. watching your videos have really improved my mental and emotional strength. i don't feel as insecure as i used to thanks to ur videos. i'm not afraid to be myself and don't care what other people think. So thank you ffor everything
sorry for dragging it so long but i just wanted to pour my heart out
i think its not only about dating, its also about friends
Very true 💯💯
This is about everything tbh
This very well applies to friendships too.
You can easily get out of the friendship but not from a relationship.. it's hard to exit when you love him or her....
What if that person is one of parents, who have anxiety issues and have similar pattern and mostly abusive to his family members but a saint outside..
actually there are people who are saints to the outside world but very manipulative and abusive to people in their close quarters. Humans are very complex.
What you can do is, protect yourself by becoming strong financially. And protect others who are willing to come with you.
@@ShwetabhGangwar1 how to become strong financially? 😁
@@Skyeshwin. cypto mei life savings daaldo, beer biceps ne bola 😂
@@itsokay7896 how to get a job? I'm a bsc hons student.. What should I do after completing it to get a job?
@@ShwetabhGangwar1 Thank you..
Sir, you are a gem. You have immense depth of understanding in human psychology.. Every word you say is so relatable.. Really a privilege to watch your videos. Keep up the good work sir..
That victim syndrome thing I have experienced where someone gained sympathy out of their abusive relation and then manipulated my thoughts.I became a fixer and yeah it's overly burdened thing..
Excuses.
Never apologies for their mistake.
Blame game
Victims hame
Unnecessary attitude and egoist.
Stupid excuses
Gradiosity
And the classic reason - "mein mazak kar rahi thi ya tha".
In logo se dur raho bhai.
My father is like that.
Every point that shwetabh said, my father does that except last one.
Are bhai papa hai unki dat se bhut learn karne milta hai
@@sujal_daki
I meant my father does it to my mother
@@sujal_daki yehi toh problem hain humari.
Brother please review the trailer of The Kashmir Files. Would love to hear your thoughts on the same.
Yes, Waiting for him to do that, My community also has similar story of Ethnic cleansing.
@@wonderfullife737 which community?
@@brilliantminds8497 Our community is Bhutanese Lhotsmapa, we were genocided, raped and expelled because we wanted to preserve our Nepali Hindu culture and traditions in Bhutan, but Bhutan King thought it as a threat to Bhutan’s Buddhist culture and identity, and also soverginity. He thought having too many Hindu culture people might lead to bhutan being merged with India like Sikkim. Bhutan political elite blames Ethnic Nepali Hindus of Sikkim for doing “Cultural invasion” to Buddhist kingdom of Sikkkm and later voting it to be part of India. After that Government made plan to chase us out despite living in bhutan for centuries and being bhutanese citizens, We were expelled brutally in gunpoint, forced to sign papers saying we are leaving bhutan willingly, Google “Ethnic cleansing in Bhutan”
@@wonderfullife737 bro I had not even heard of this. That's terrible. And even worse thing is that people don't know about this. Even in Sri Lanka Tamil Hindus were persecuted for a long time because of their language and economic status. Anyways I'll study more into this topic.
Waiting
To be honest Shwetabh I am like this in some perspective but today I realized I was soo wrong I promise I will work on this and will try to change myself in every way possible. Thanks for this video 📹
Aw self awareness is the beginning of healing you're lucky!
Same here
Same
Same😢
Bhai it seems very helpful. Idk that you can fix someone or not but it's true that it just takes fraction of seconds from becoming that person whom you hate the most. So you need to be very careful when you find someone guilty. From my point of view you need to see him/her as a poor person and instead of highlighting his or her mistakes you should choose to stay away or start walking to another way. Just like your dreams you should also be very careful about your feelings. If someone is constantly hurting you , run away like kamlesh dhun dhun dhun 😂
बहुत सही कहा सर आपने victim सिंड्रोम वाला धीमे धीमे आपको अपने कंट्रोल में लेना शुरू कर देता है भारत में शांति दूतों को देख लो दूसरों के साथ मारपीट करते हैं उसके बाद कह देते हमें मारा जा रहा है हिंदुस्तान में और धीमे-धीमे पूरा हिंदुस्तान का इकोसिस्टम रोल अपने कंट्रोल में कर दिया
This four types of person exists in every kind of relationship not just in BF GF relationship.. I see many parents are like this .. They never accept their fault before their children.. They continue to compare their kids with others.. They consistently discourage their children to destroy the self esteem or self confidence in their children and also play victim card whenever their children question their intentions or disagree with them.. So the point is that whenever you find this types of person try to avoid them.. Whether it's your love partner your life partner your parents your friends your relatives or anybody.. It's very very dangerous to live with such persons who can brutally Break you internally
you see a lot of "parents like that"
maybe parents don't submit to their kids in general???
lol
True.
bhai mai pichle ek saal se aapko follow kr rha hu and i admit that you have changed my perception towards the life. Love you Bhai ❤️
Yes i admit muje aise ldka mila or usne itna bura muje feel kraya me bhut down chli gyi apni lyf me or aaj bhi me puri trh se bhr nhi nikl payi hu 😶😶😓😓hmesa muje compare kia or bhut ghtiya feel kraya
Yes, I have experienced every single thing that you are talking about. But I am grateful that I have a bunch of good friends who had helped me getting out of a situation like this.
बहुत सही कहा सर आपने victim सिंड्रोम वाला धीमे धीमे आपको अपने कंट्रोल में लेना शुरू कर देता है भारत में शांति दूतों को देख लो दूसरों के साथ मारपीट करते हैं उसके बाद कह देते हमें मारा जा रहा है हिंदुस्तान में और धीमे-धीमे पूरा हिंदुस्तान का इकोसिस्टम रोल अपने कंट्रोल में कर दिया
Thanks sir for opening up my eyes by telling me.i am that guy who has this victim syndrome all things you said about being victim to abuser were true and i didn't knew what i was doing because my life is literally fucked up and i never realised why everyone i dated became frustrated of me , and u just told me the exact same things what i did and pointed out my fault now i guess I'll be able to work on myself and change this behaviour right now I'm undergoing therapy and your videos are really helping me to become a better person ❤❤ thank u sir
Another sign is a Narcissist would never agree to you no matter how correct you are and how wrong he\she is. They just think this human can never think better than me.
Too underatted ❤️ it is something that everyone should watch once, before fallin' for any human . Can't thank enough ❤️ such a good topic.
My first relationship was a narcissistic bitch... She always compared me and tried to shatter my ego. After the breakup and in subsequent relationships I felt what a good partner is
I am dealing with a guy like this and trying to escape it... He wants to be in a marriage with me, but he keeps comparing me to others and also to himself. He always tries to one up and wants whatever I have achieved in life.
Victim syndrome
Dark Traid
The dark Tetrad
Come at a position where you say " I don't know about the my emotions and Dynamics of relationship and Tujhe bhi nhi pta "
Setback your EGO - Come at same level and grow in congruence with eactother -- We'll go longterm , Harmounous rhenge and Khush rehnge
Exactly u are saying my story..Kab victim abuser bnega..Overall Kab hum khud victim ban jayenge pta hi nhi chalega ..Total Confidence, Peace gone ..Just Love bombarding in between and the cycle repeats. .One more thing if u don't get healed and get into some other relationship u will definitely find a next one with different identity
That Gone Girl thumbnail ...best use ...apt use ..ekdam conveys what is intended 😆👌
Just want to add one fact to the first point, even if (s/)he apologises that will be for some of her/his helplessness(like if I was exhausted and about to leave)- basically to pretend, but later (s/)he'll try so GODDAMN hard to return the blame on you and to shame you for his/her apologizing. From my hard experience from narcissist or a person who at least had narcissistic tendencies even if not NPD.
These people will call you multiple times and do all efforts in the world to contact you if you leaving them or blocked them but once you back, they will again start showing narcissistic traits
THIS!!!
@@sereniseco I am glad that I was in a toxic relationship.. To be honest it's adventurous and teaches you a lot about boundaries, what true love is like contrary to what is our idealised version and what exactly you need in a relationship. You understand lots of things. A healthy relationship doesnt teach you anything🤣
@@sereniseco plus anyways I have no plan to marry.. Being a man it has no advantages and now being with that girl has made me ultra smart.. I can deal in much better way with ladies now and have casual fun😈
Small questions..
1.How to start/approach/establish a relationship when we are feeling little settled (like in terms of financial stability etc..) and how to maintain it for longer term..
2. What's your take on the stigmatisation of arrange or love marriages.. and what's you recommend for..?
1.Don't go for any such thing until fully settled🙂
1) You find girl that you think is attractive, maybe through dating apps, mutual friends, or through cold approach in real life jo ki kafi mushkil hai but definitely possible.
As for how to maintain it for long term, uska koi answer nahi hai. It all depends on how much attachment you've built and you remain attractive over the course or your relationship. ofcourse there will also be times when you do all the things right and still your partner will break your heart. So there's no garunteed formula that works and will ensure your relationship to last longer. Just be your true self, never settle for anything just because you're getting companionship. That means saying no to her bad suggestions and setting boundaries. A confident man who knows what he wants is super attractive and when women see that you don't take bullshit from anyone they will hate you a little, because you will also not handle her bad behaviour but she will respect you more. Just maintain your masculine frame and your relationships will probably last.
2) I'm assuming that question is for shwetab so i won't answer it.
@@manohman4525 Thx man.
@@manohman4525 shwetabh gangwar lite
One person putting all the efforts he can and the other one does it only once in a while, puts her ego above everything even above relationship then you just can't fix the relationship.. You'll notice her patterns, she's nice most of the times but suddenly someday she starts acting cold, replying to your texts in dry ways and the moment you try to ask or confront, it turns into fight and that person just doesn't accept their mistake that they were behaving like that, let alone apologising.. you might feel like you can fix things by being a bit more lenient but trust me it's not worth it.. If she keeps her ego above relationship, she just doesn't deserve that relationship then..
@adityabhardwaj2817 True Brother💯👍
One thing we need to mention Narcissistic traits are different from Narcissistic personality disorder. Most people have narcissistic traits till some extent but only few people have full on NPD
Minute level of narcissism is self love
@@harshit7149 Yes . Agreed
i want to Know - From Where To make Good Friends
@@happybirthday9652 you're asking me, as if im having them 🥺😂
@@happybirthday9652 don't ask. Best friendships are unexpected. You don't need to look for them
@@itsvishal2980Yaar internet Pe kuch achhey Log Number detey Hain
Online
wo unexpected Friendships me aatey Hain Kya
I have met a many people like these, i was really affected by those. But as i grew by age as well as my intelligent i became vulnerable to such attitudes and personality ☺. When you know your self worth everything else is worthless
wow. my mind is genuinely blown. so glad you make such awesome videos man. I can't put into words how much clarity this gave me. Thanks a lot
Need such kinds of things.. pls ❤️
All the points belongs to him. I gave him 8 years. He cheated. He never ever apologised for anything. Always played victim. Now he left me for someone else and best part is he never told me that he is cheating since 2 years and I myself found out and when I confronted he said yes I was lying. And left and it's been 20 days he never contacted me.
Yaar ye victim wala to shayad mujme hai ya raha hai. I'll keep this in my mind ki ab nhi karna hai ye sab. Thanks.
victim se abuser banne me hawa nhi lagega - this hit me. Been through this shit. Shamelessly disrespectfully disgustingly some woman are assholes
Single rho bhai zamana sahi ni h 😂😂 bekaar ki insecurity me kon jiye sala .. 😂
the last line was epic , guys focus on what you can control .I:e yourself
I truly appreciate your level of understanding. The way to categorised different types, it can only be done with deep observation.👌
Omg this was exactly my last relationship.....I was so much clueless like what was going on....everytime it was like he used to be at fault and then if I am resenteful about that ...then he used to behave like ab tum bhi aise bolo mujhe ,sab aisa krtey hai mere sath...or baad m I had to apologise and treat him nicely for being mad at his mistakes.Thank god its no more....that was so pathetic...I was asked to change my perception ,morals...literally...and it was like he is the only one who knows everything .He told my frends ki jab tumhari shadi hogi tab u will become mature like me ,very high superiority complex.Different personality in front of frends ,family he was nice and cheery ....but with me he was always angry and giving letlcture.He was tottaly all of this...and the weird thing is he was my childhood frnd...whom I didnt expected to be like this.
I Have Noticed One Thing In The Comment Section, That Approximately, Everyone Who Has Been In A Relation Is Calling Their Partner Narcissist. Without Realizing That He Might Be The Narcissist In That Relationship.
THANKYOUU FOR SAVING US SHWETABH❤
Again i came to this video to dial my self down to not be the person with these traits and again it helped allot thanks for putting this video out 🙏🏻
Last one (victim card) which you explained is also known as ra*** Rona .
Shwetabh sir please grow your beard
You looked dope in early days of men ki baat with heavy beard
Bruh looks se kya lena dena. Content pe focus karo na
@@AashayAgrawal bro it was just a suggestion.
Not a comment on how he's looking
I'm in a toxic relationship for last 4 months ! She doesn't listen to me at all even if I am correct. According to her she is right & I am wrong all the time. She doubts me everytime that I'm talking to girls but when she talks with other boys she says it's okay. I can't even talk to my friends relatives over the phone because if she finds my phone busy, then she'll creat scene out of it !
I hardly miss her calls but she hangs up or rejects my call regularly !
I want to break up but my emotions are not allowing me to do so !
What to do ?
Same here
Don't know what to do
Ek toxic person ke sath rah kar main bhi kch kch toxic ho gyi hu....🥺
What if you have been kinda narcissist in a relationship and your partner was a suffering from Victim syndrome.
Shewtabh bhaiya love you.. Thank you bhaiya 🙂🙂you just don't know kitna help kara aapne 😭thanks a lot
Please make more and alot of videos on personality traits..this is need of hour !
Shwetabh tum kuch naya content daalo yaar , try something new
yeh respective problems ke perspective absorb krna kaafi irritating lg rha ab
Casually explained wale videos sahi jaa rhe the
I want ki tum bas ek topic lo aur usko deep me smjhao video with some writing attached to it video bhale hi lamba ho mei dekh lunga
Met this person recently and this video is truly correct and feeling blessed that I got out of it quite early
I did somethings same, ki i tried to be right always , i use to think ki she don't know much , but then i regretted ki yr m galat tha and this helped
Bhai absolutely write victim syndrome with me absolutely point to point apply with me love ur work bhai... This channel helps lots of people lots of love bhai ❤❤❤❤❤...
2 nd point deeply related to me .i have experienced it🙏🙏
Mein bhi isshi cheez se go through Hui hoon. At last ab mein alg hi ho chuki hoon and happy with myself 🥰
I had a friend like that, and I just stopped keeping friendship, nehi chahiye aishe friends.
Matlab, sabko praise karega aur hamesha mujhe hi neeche dikha raha hota hai... For 11 years, we have been friends, but the bond is almost over now.
Swetabh this is what we need to learn in relationship
Wow ! Just realised I tick all the boxes. Probably a dark tetrad. Not sure. I consider my childhood kind of traumatic. But I know deep down that's not a justification for my actions. I've been horrible to my father, my friends, people I've dated, my girlfriend of current who I see a future with, all in the name of pretentious angst. I've been reflecting on my life so for the last few weeks. Figured out that mostly it has been me who's been the problematic one yet somehow I got more than I deserved from the people around me. Dont want to stay this way and take people for granted forever.
Im probably two years too late but thanks for making me think clearly Sir ! I'll act on it.
Think that now listening to you and analysing myself, I now feel that maybe I was the one who treated her badly. I was probably the one who treated her badly and that's why she is trying to get away from me...
I will try to say sorry and accept my mistakes. Will come back to you if that succeeds.
east or west swetab gangwar is best❤️✌️👌
Sir Very good information about human personality ...
Keep it up
I feel like i have watched this video 3 times, first on live than on gangsta perspective now here.
This guy really is a male version of Thewizardliz, putting out pretty solid & needed videos like this
I have watched the full video version it's damn informative and useful
Please make more videos such as these. The similarities are painful. My uncle has such traits as well as my ex
Ex ki yaad may kaiko rori hai are you incapable of handling your memories..
@@sandeshrangari694 do i know you??
@@monikakaushal5742 no but your incapable of handling memories. 🤣🤣🤣🙏🤣🤣🤣
@@sandeshrangari694 🥱
@@sandeshrangari694 Are you suffering from victim syndrome
Had A Relationship With Narcissist Girl Till 2015
Congratulations that u came out of it!
Please shwetabh don't delete this video for 1000 years, let all people gets aware about psychology of toxic person.
Brothers swetabh is spitting some real truth. I don't know what he has been through to be able to tell these things. But I have been with the fourth type for a year and it is exactly the same story swetabh has told. I am shocked at how each and every word tell the story of my relation. Everything is exactly same. Every word. Guys please listen to him and trust him you will find a beautiful person one day or atleast you will stay away from toxic relations. Otherwise apna sab kuch ghusa k beth jaoge apni life apna career apni mental health. Aur ek din nikaloge usse aur rovoge bc kha ghusa diye maine itne saal agar ye sab nhi hota to pta nhi m kha ka kha pahuch chuka hota
Main mentally abuse ho rha tha...sabse mazedaar baat mujhe pta abhi chla😢
Shwetabh bhai camera pe itne ease se video me bolte ho aap and jaisa bhot log hai jo camera pe bolte hai like you, sandeep maheshwari, acharya prashant ji, aap logo ko camera ke samne fata fata sochna bhi padta hai and use express bhi karna padta hai. To itna aap sab log ise at ease kaise kar lete ho bhai. Ispe ek video banana please ki ease me rehkar full expressible kaise bane. Please bhai ispe banana video.
Bhai 3 baar ek hi clip kyu dalte
i do was in touch that kind people, problem with me is that i was touch with him for long time but a realized late in my life. Any relation which is long enough, is hard to let it by from mind. I have to control my emotion , thoughts ,etc, for that person. Rember there is no medicine tablet or a way , that can erase memory of that person. If u try hard to forget that person existence ,5%-10% of time u will get struck by ur brain . i tried a way but seems not working for me.
YEH symptoms me apne boyfriend se match kr rhi thi...... Thank god 😂 match ni hua
Pr kuch dosto se ho gya!
this video opened my mind i am the toxic one😢😢😢i didnt knew it till date
Just like anyothers i dated a girl 3month ago who is elder thn me.
1. she showed her like she is the most victim person i have ever meet.
she always said men are vry vry qrual worst villian etc..
2. day by day she try to controled me, and always said to me that i am so soft and she likes me & said that i always be like this, never be hard
3. i always try to feel her happy, coz I thought I will never treat her just like her ex did with her, but she do mistake misbehave with me a lot of time, btw she never apologied for this shit.
4. and some days ego, she always just jocked me, & insulted me, compair me with other guys..
now today she call me(just like others day after completing her study, not thinking about my study) but today I didn't talk about this but she understood something.
thanks shwetabh bhaiya 🙏🏻
What if I take up the role of fixer often and one of my parents is a narcissist ? What can I do about this ?
Nothing much. People with social media accounts with large clout(especially women) will have ridiculous amount of narcissistic tendencies and entitlement
Talk less with that narcissistic parent
Dating nahi lekin toxic dost he. Jo dosti ki start me wo victim thi ab abuser ban gayi he
6:44 mai sun rhi hu 4 mhine se
Did anyone else skipped the starting part of types of psychology? 😂
Me
@@regularperson001 💀😂
meri b ek frnd h bohot ldko ki zindgi barbaad kr chuki h relationship mein doubling krti h koi respect ni krti bf ki uske family ko gali deti h us ladke ko gali deti h úse kaam hota h to jaane ni deti 2 min rukjao 5 min rukjao bolti h or us bechare ka time waste krti h mood swings ka bahana dekr bttameezi krti h or fr b dosh bf p daalti h jese ki kitna julm hua h uspr ek br uske bf ne muje cll kiya or rone lga kehra tha isne mera dimag khrb krdiya kuch krne layak n chora she is sooo toxic mene usse friendship Tod di or us ldke ko b bol diya ki teri zindgi brbd krdegi ye
The most deadly thing you do in these type of situations is that You begin to think
"EVERYTHING IS MY PROBLEM & RESPONSIBILITY" for whatever blame or words the person infront have said.
I have been that been victim of that victim(You know whom I'm referring)(the girl)
Same here bro, I was thinking the same way that everything is my fault but one day she suddenly said you are toxic. So I was very curious to know what the signs of a toxic person are. Then I found this video.
I'm proud to Overthinker😂 ab puchoge esme khush hone wali baat kya hai ye mera exp 10x boost karta hai
I recently met a narcissict he is a guy n he gains a sympathy n empthy
N act as a victim in evry scenerio
Allah bachaai isoo.se 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Bhaagjaao ❤
One question off the topic.
Is it possible to change your personality by feeding knowledge and making conscious effort to do what is right and not listening to own default reaction to things/incidents ?
My personality ticks fews point of being narcissistic, and I want to change that. Answer please
Its better to make some check points like even of the smallest thing you don't like about you and observe urself on a daily basis.
See what was your past/childhood trauma u had.. that might be the reason of such a behaviour. Its not that easy to change the personality but with habit and checking internally the reason of such behaviour can help you move forward.
Past trauma can be like
-a very bad breakup some years ago and insecurity from that relationship
-Some sort of family/financial issues for a longer period of time
-lack of empathy , to overcome you can join NGO , help animals and orphanage , basically find Love and respect.
-bad communication - Try to decrease your ego and try to see other people prospective too with open heart. , When other person is explaining don't roam in your mind.. listen to him/her
At last just observe the things..
@@chandantaneja6388 thank you for this detailed answer.
Get help from a professional. Enroll with a psychologist , maybe that will help.
People who are narcissistic never self analyze themselves remember that there are chances you are not narcissistic just made some bad choices
She had all 4 qualities
And she became abuser after having a year long relationship
Sari quality h bhai now I am thinking where was i westing my time
Outstanding 👍👍👍