Agree Calvin about medication, seen from family at first hand what it does. The book 'Lost Connections' researches this, big pharma companies benefit. Connection and purpose is key.
I fully back everything you said there, there is no tablet for getting through life.. it’s life, you need to understand it’s not all Rosie and at times you need to plough through shit. You will feel better for it when you come out of it and you will have learned a lesson. One of the only things we can call our own is having the ability to choose how we react to stuff, so take control and decide what is the appropriate reaction to what ever situation your in. Big respect Calvin 🫡 and I’m sorry your people didn’t have the right answers and ended up doing what they did. Be it by tablets etc. no one should loose someone like that ❤
Calvin , I'm B/P . And proud . I'd live the same life again . My lows are the price I pay for the highs . I applaud what you're doing here BUT at the same time , not wishing to agree or disagree but simply as a heads up to anyone who may need it , I stopped cold turkey ... Initially , everything was good - no problems at all Over a period of time though, something became more and more apparent to me Things that were vaguely amusing , I was literally rolling around on the floor laughing Things that were vaguely sad , I had tears rolling down my face . Unnecessary extremes . 35mph but rev counter in the red ? We are all different . Differently balanced 'internals' . Turbo or N/A . But , we're not robots / computers / machines . So , one piece will never fix all . This really is a HUGE discussion . The robbing Pharmas . The commission chasing doctors . I get that ... But not ALL are bad . I've come across both . If you get a bad smell , it doesn't mean that YOU are the one who has just farted .... Good Luck to you Bud , channel , business , life in General . You've always struck me as a good 'un ... Let's face it , us nut-jobs have to stick together ! ! 😉 Andy C ps : I've never forgiven Mork for going back to Orson . If he had just called me , I would have talked him round . He had no clue what he meant to soooooooo many people , but he just never really understood . . Christ - ....sorry for going on so much 😲 .... it just flowed out of me , sorry for clogging up your channel , Calvin
Well done Calvin, I've lost my family during COVID and had 2 open heart surgery during the Pandemic. I was in hospital on my own and was discharged a driven home in a ambulance to be alone. I was close to give up, but now 5 years on I fight my demons every day but I'm still alive. Anti depressants are worse than morphine and valium. You can get hooked on those.
Hi Calv, been where you have have been and come through it myself and still have days where I have negative thoughts and vibes, but through the support of my wonderful wife and children and now my grandchildren, it gives me the kick up the backside I need need to carry on and think I will make make my life better and OUR lives better, your an inspiration to help people like me and many others to get on with life and to embrace our families with the most amount of love we can give them. ❤❤
Proud of who you are Calvin for not being a victim despite the extremely painful situations you have lived through. I will say one thing, feelings need to be felt, just don’t hang onto them, give yourself time to cry then brush yourself down and get on with your day, love mum 💙
I suffer through mental health. I’m now 70 and sometime i have meltdowns now and again I just wanna sit in the corner. But my dog is my saviour not tablets We just go for a few hours into the countryside and everything is alright. Good on you to talk about it a very brave thing to do.
Wow, huge respect! I am a 62 year old new subscriber who has just found your channel. There was something that hooked me, it wasn't just the great content as there is something more to your channel than that. Your passion, honesty, integrity and energy is there in abundance. However this video is a different level Calvin. I work in an industry where its fashionable to throw out lots of information regarding mental health that ends becoming a bit diluted but your message hits the spot more than most. I admire your bravery and honesty to share this strong and inspiring message. You talk so much sense and you can tell its from the heart. All the best.
Hi Calvin. 60 year old subscriber. I have a lot of respect for you your channel and your work. That respect has just grown. Without belittling the superb work you do on the channel this may be your most important video yet. To choose to engage with your audience like this is very brave and shows real compassion and empathy on your part. Keep up the good work. All the best to you and your family.
@@CalvinsCarDiarytop video mate, this brought me back down to earth. We're all in this together. Keep up the good positive work. Your videos keep me going 👌
As a sufferer of extreme ocd (the repetitive checking version) who hid it from friends and family for years it’s great to see people talking about mental health. It’s definitely beneficial to talk about it
Hit the nail on the head when you said you're doing what is right for you. Everyone's journey is different and there's no secret formula to this age old issue. Great that you have found the time to do this video and show that it is possible through positive thought to conquer an illness without drugs.
Spot on with the exercising and eating better. What we eat and how active we are has such a HUGE impact on our mood, and so many people don't realise that. So many people would be so much better off even just by getting a good amount of quality sleep every night.
Your message was probably too real for the charity but I think it was spot on. Sometimes you need a tough talk to shift your thinking. Thank you for putting this out there.
Respect 👏 to you for this video...I'm 53 years old suffered with mental health since being a child....been on antidepressants...spoken to psychiatrists...still suffer to this day but manage to cope by pushing forward and not giving up...your such a down to earth honest guy...🙏🙏
I’m glad that someone like yourself has watched this video and seen it as a positive. I’m sorry to hear you’ve suffered for so long and I hope that you find some positive light in your future mate. You’ve come this far, the worst is definitely behind you. Well done to you 💪
@@CalvinsCarDiary Thank you 👍....just to let you know love the content on all your videos, I've been a petrol head myself for year's...I own an E92 M3 LCI 1 of 500 ...I know you love your M3's...keep doing what you're doing my friend ad so many people out there can relate to you....Big love ❤️ 🙏🙏
This is massive. This is the type of message that people struggling need to hear - the best help is helping yourself. Thank you. This has helped me start the day with the right mindset 💪🏻
Just watched Ur vid on mental health. Well done. I work for the ambulance service and was diagnosed with depression when I first started. Went to see GP , was put on antidepressants . 14 yrs on and yes I still suffer/put up with it . With ALL all the dead and diing daily It see it does get to you. Just started presenting on a local radio station , it has given me something to concentrate on and makes me feel good , knowing ppl are listening to my work, choice of music and silly comments. I now rarely take meds for my depression . And feel good. Not always great.
calvin ive suffered depression all my life and walked away from a job id had for 20 years as i was so low i couldnt do it anymore. so went from a steady well paid job to nothing but ive survived. i found life is too short to be down and low and needed to be free and just do what i wanted instead of doing what you have to do! thats my way of dealing with it and i also had a passion for old fords and campervans as well as my animals i keep so you need a focus to make you get up in the morning. also moved to a rural area with no neighbours so i can just plod on without any hassle or issues. i still have happy days and low days but sort of manage it and if i keep busy i feel better especially doing outside manual work i.e digging,fencing,painting,renovating etc etc and lastly you are spot on with medication its best to keep off it as me personally think its a never ending cycle if you start taking them, try and do positive things that give you a buzz or a feel good factor all the best john on another topic i think i know whats wrong with the talbot campervan you have at binca!
I can see why the charity rejected your video, I can’t speak for the charity that contacted you but I know for certain some big cancer charities are heavily linked to pharmaceutical companies, it’s all about money as always and nothing to do with genuine doing good and that’s why I’m very selective when it comes to how I donate, keep doing what you are doing, you are an inspiration to millions of people ❤
Mental health can be a viscous circle and if you dont break that circle and change yourself nothing will change. I took up fishing and went back to training and it helps loads. To me its not about beating it, its about understanding and working on myself that really matters.
What an amazingly inspirational video Calvin, I was looking forward to a car vid tonight but this was great and So important to raise awareness. Thanks brother. 🙏🏻
I feel you and thank you for the video, had the same situation and i was using antidepressants, building a house, working as a head of a dept in a industry that has a crisis, small child at home and a exhausted wife, i have overcame everything just like you said, thats why i can relate, you have to feel that way and understand that its just how it is and you cant give up. I dont drink any of that stuff anymore and deal with everything on my own, work out, eat healthy, drink alot of water and less cafeine. Life is a lot of a brighter place right now. Thanks Calv, very good video
Thank you Calvin SO MUCH for posting this video. Your first point about emotions was very very good. I am very much in touch with my feelings and I understand what you’re say about having control of them. So nice to see. ❤
Your here for a good time not a long time, remember that…I suffered two major traumatic events as a child..that’s where a lot of problems begin… two things that have helped me over the years are talking to loved ones and fast cars.
Talking therapy, gym training, eating right, sleeping right…. Tablets are suitable for some people if all of the above are not working. It’s a lot more complicated but thank you for giving your personal journey and how you deal with it.
Just want to say a big Thankyou for talking about your depression and problems with your mental health because I have lost 3 friends in the past few years because of them not having the courage to speak out .. and like yourself you would never in a million years of thought you were going through it as well ! Always so happy .. cheers mate doing amazing !! Love your channel
People don’t understand mental health until they have been through it. I didn’t. But now I’ve had mental health issues I understand. I got through it. It’s hard. You don’t know someone really has it unless you tell them. Be kind to people. You don’t know what they are going through. It’s in the mind. You can’t escape. Only get through day by day
Top bloke Calvin, totally understand why you did this. Just shows the integrity and honesty you have. Been following you for years and think your work, ethic and attitude is superb and massive respect to you mate.
Thanks Calvin for being honest and posting this video. This will be helpful to many people who are going through and think they are alone, when they are not. Keep up the good work.
Nice one Calvin. Talking about this stuff is the real key I think. One thing you feel when you have any kind of mental health issue is alone, until that first person you talk to about it understands then often reveals something you were unaware of about their own mental health to you, straight away you know you're not alone in what you're feeling, which in itself helps a great deal. Keep doing what you're doing.
The best mental health video I've ever seen. The best thing to keep mental health in check is if your circumstances allow get a dog. They give so much and they are better listeners than any human. Eat well walk the dog and life is so much better. Never give up on yourself bin antidepressant and alcohol
Spot on I’m only young but I’ve been depressed since I can remember sometimes having better and worse periods but I’ve found the best way to help it is to exercise eat properly and cut out negative habits I think I big problem is not having enough too do, it leaves your l mind to run free and start thinking down negative paths so I try to keep busy nowadays which has helped me so much but obviously I still have off days but overall much better. As men we need have more awareness of mental health problems like ive been with around people joking about depression and suicide saying it’s not real even though some of our shared friends have sadly taken their life’s.
Many thanks for sharing you're very own personal struggles, Calvin...it's always so helpful when the people we admire/follow share their own challenges and how they go about tackling them to be the best they can each day.
Wow! Very eye opening, I’m one of those people, my main struggle is finding my purpose in life, I’m ok at a lot of things, but it’s trying to finding that something I’m good at, that I can make a business out it 🤔
Great to see you sharing your experiences and what worked for you. I’ve suffered with depression myself during COVID (I have other chronic conditions that I didn’t know how getting COVID would affect) went on meds (SSRIs) and recently dropped them after 3 years, by myself and didn’t ween off them, so it was a weird month of withdrawal. Let’s be clear that there is a huge difference between depression and Bipolar. Someone who is Bipolar should never just throw away the mood stabilisers/antipsychotics that they are on, it can take months to safely get off them, and it can lead to a mania episode that could be dangerous. I agree that a healthy work life balance, exercise, eating well etc CAN work really well. But talking to a health professional is important too, albeit one that doesn’t just throw you on meds right away! I totally hear your message about trying to sort your life out without meds, but that also isn’t for everyone.
What a legend you are Calv, Massive Credit to you and all involved. Life is hard, and you always need support and most important love from your family to pull through. No harm or shame admitting that 🙌🙌
Thank you Calvin, I’m going through a really rough time and have followed you for years and always look forward to Wednesday and Sunday posts. Just want to say thank you
I really like the way you express yourself fella. You are never over-wordy and get to the point really well. I'm glad you binned the addictive anti depressants. Long time follower, fellow Type R EP3 lover.
Ahh man great reach, love your content, love what you do with the influence you have on a wide audience. Sorry about your loss, think a lot of people could be helped by your chat. Much love
I watched this with a lump in my throat. The most powerful video I have ever watched. Calvin you are one of the very best humans I have ever been lucky enough to meet in my life. Every day you inspire me, you have from the day we met. Never change as you are you and that's what makes you special ❤
A think this may have been the guidance or advice iv been looking for without even knowing it💭 you have just answered a question i didnt know myself even needed answering❤ big respect to you calvin your amazing!!💙
In the last couple of years, my girlfriend died infront of me and her daughter! My best mate has lost 2 sons, grandson in coma and his dad has had 3 heart attacks! Lots worth living for, but good to have good people around you. Deep bro
Calvin u have absolutely nailed it. I exactly the same against antidepressants woukd never take a pill to help me it has to be me getting through it, an yea am still up n down but honestly trying my best to be a better person for me and my family life to short lets live it best we can. Thanks for uploading this video mate really helps. 👍👌👏
Well said Calvin. I wish I came across you sooner in my life. I've suffered with depression since I was told I couldn't see my kids anymore through no fault of my own for about 13 years. Now my circumstances have changed again, I'm stressed to bits as a result. I went down the drugs route off the doctors and now I'm worse than ever with my anger and having outbursts upsetting the people I love. Doesn't help that I quit smoking last year
I watch your vids here and there and honestly I know this was heart felt and real...everyone has mental health... its about trying to cultivate the positive and deal with the negative as best we can...its ok not to be ok...its ok to ask for help and ultimately we all go through tough times...and I pray we all have the strength to pick ourselves up ❤ love to everyone watching this.
Great words of encouragement. Don’t be afraid to talk about your mental health anxiety or feelings. But talk to the right people, they are there to help for a reason
Been a follower for years, but I disagree with not taking ‘antidepressants’. There are hundreds of different types. I’ve been on mine for years, past issues in my life caused ptsd, and many other issues that come from it. I would never recommend throwing them in the bin, I couldn’t live without mine. I’ve tried taking my life 3 times prior to help and counselling for years. I get this is ‘your opinion’ on meditation but people need it. Not meaning to be harsh with this reply.
Massive respect calv, good to learn more about you mate and important to show this. Everyone has problems and down days and its just lifes challenges. Our best asset is our ability to overcome and adapt where has that mentality gone these days. Top work mate 👏
Yes Calvin I agree with you, stay ONIT, eat right, train right, do positive things! I am currently studying for my ACCA to become a chartered accountant and it is stressful but I am managing to stay ONIT.
Calvin I carry the exact same views as you regarding mental health. We all have these feelings we just have to work out how we deal with them. There are far too many people that look for a diagnosis and therefore some way to fix them, generally going the route of tablets and medication. Those same drugs then become difficult to live without so give you an additional problem in which your problems are heightened when you don't have them. I try so hard to explain this to my teenager but it is very difficult. Talking to someone does help massively, if you don't have someone there are many phone or online services that are helpful. We all struggle but we all keep fighting, DON'T GIVE UP. Thanks for this Calvin 🙌
Calvin I think for me this is your best video so far despite my love for cars. I sometimes feel not in a good mental health and this is reflecting everything that I like and I have passion for. I wish /want to be in a good mental health and give my best to my family
Good video, truthful, going through similar at the moment. Thankfully I had the courage to say no to prescribed medicine, didn’t want to go down that road. Had some time out, getting my head straight and cutting out the people who put me in this situation in the first place. Life will get better so having another go on life’s roller coaster 😊
Totally agree with you Calv. I turned down the anti depressants after a few months of taking them. Best decision i made. Well done for being brave enough to make and post this video.
Crazy to think someone like you and the grind you've been on has ever been at that point with depression , just goes to show it can happen to any of us , god bless ya Calvin stay on that positive grind onwards and upwards ❤
Great video cal iv struggled myself recently and not uploaded to YT due to it and finally told my community and they been great. Thanks for the advice ❤
Well done Calv….Resonated with me this one…..pushed myself to start at the gym in Jan and starting to feel much better……exercise in any form and some kind of focus defo helps👍
im 35 suffering with mental health since 21 and the past few years has gotten worse the struggle to going on a day to day bases and try to get help with it it is hard as i would rather someone that has suffered with it and know what its like to be in that dark places . Respect for this video man think you should make more with other TH-camrs that have and still suffer from it as im sure you and other TH-camrs have alot of young people that looks up to yous
After listen to your words today have so much that can help others I lost my best friend due to bipolar I just wished I could of helped him more but it comes from within I've had my far share of mental health issues due to loss and hurt and recently the 21st of February this year I had my leg amputated and life has changed and got very hard this last year and there's still a big challenge and difficult road ahead ..I wish more people had truthful words to share from there own experiences I think this video will help alot of men as they are good at hiding there problems but still suffer inside ....
Always onit calv I never expected someone so confident and direct and kind to open up. Well-done brother you see the world for what it is. Remember guys and girls the only thing you ever have to worry about is now. So make yourself happy by any means but find what makes you happy for me it's not taking life too seriously... It's just a ride your not in controll but always make the most of the moment. ANGLES FLY BECAUSE THEY TAKE THEMSELFS LIGHTLY.
Wasn't expecting this from you calv but love you more now for sharing this , goes to show u can think someone is living the perfect life and everything is fine but is not always the case ... we need to speak talk more and share our issues with our loved and nearest people ❤️
Great video Calvin I've managed to get rid of a lot of demon's out of my head mental health is a big thing and life sometimes is difficult to deal with , thing's happen that are totally out of our control all you can do is get through it talk to a friend talk to anyone who will listen . Keep up the good work 👏🏻
Great video, Calvin, honest and truthful, it’s not an easy thing to share your personal struggles with depression respect to you. Keep up the good work. Your videos are inspiring.🙏
Great video Calvin what struck me the most is that when you said about social media, news and just peoples behaviour in general and i believe even healthcare professionals give us the wrong perception about what our feelings should be and that is the biggest problem today i think when most of the time people just need to find their inner self and realise that what they are going through are normal challenges in life...
Hi Calvin, I suffer from mental health issues and find it hard sometimes. I go to work so I can provide for my family and try to keep smiling for my 2 kids and girlfriend. I’m 27 and sometimes find it really hard to get motivated to do things. I’ve lost a lot of family and friends because of how private I am. Watching your videos really helps me and just want to say a massive thank you. Appreciate this video in particular.
Being a man is a tough role to play but we should take huge pride in ourselves when we’re doing a good job of it. We’re not in control of results but we are in control of our efforts. Keep doing what you’re doing mate you’re definitely doing a good job you should be proud of yourself. Them 2 kids are your world and you are theirs ❤
I`m currently going through Depression and Anxiety at the moment and just started taking Anti-depressants i`ve had a lot to deal with within the last 9 months with me being abandoned by my family last year as ive spoke about before in a video with Calvin about 2 yesrs ago when i won a car through Planet of dreams i am also about to start getting therapy and maybe seeing a psychiatrist to help sort some things outgoing on in my head Wel said Calvin but people deal with things differently we aint all the same
Calvin I applaud the sentiment on this subject and that you are brave enough to put this video out there I have a lot of respect for you and all that you do, but that was more like a positive mental attitude class, mental health however is totally different, meditation is one tool of many that people with mental illness need to help them to get through the dark days in their life as well as professional help, recognising you need help and talking is the start so thank you for the video as it will get people talking I’m sure.
It’s a nice thought to deal with life like that but I have terminal cancer so that brings on a whole new set of challenges that are very difficult to deal with, everybody is different so deal with depression differently but I struggle every day and just take it one day at a time that’s the only way I can deal with life atm
Calvin I live on the same past and I agree with everything you’ve said in this video you are your own worst enemy and you can’t help who won’t help them self and I think a happy healthy life is a happy life keeping your self focused on the things that matter
Well said Calvin. I came close a few times and a lot of people have suffered. I take meds and that helps me. You have your own opinion but that’s OK. You do have to work on life in our own way. Well said.👍
Calvin,fairplay for doing this video the way you wanted to put the message across. Hopefully this video will benefit many who watch it. Top bloke Calvin 👍🏻
I've been living in my van for roughly 1 1/2yrs with my 2 dogs. Many a time I've thought about ending it as I can't see a way out of this situation. The council will only help me with housing in a 1st floor flat but only with 1 dog. To make matters worse 1 of my dogs is a XL bully x standard American bully so I've had to get him excempted insurance etc it's a lonely world but my dogs keep me going. I can't take medication because I'm constantly driving and behind the wheel. Scared to leave the dogs whilst I pop in and grab food etc. Even going to the doctor's is a no go because I can't be trusted with tablets as I've overdosed before so I'm literally stuck in a rut. But hopefully things will change 😔
Very wise words, This is exactly how I’ve started thinking. I feel so much better in myself, still smoking copious amounts of weed though which I need to stop
Big Respect Calvin for doing this video' my mother had bipolar back in the 80s 90s and had many pills including shock treatment and think sent her the wrong way due too the pills and shock treatment ' it maybe work for some as wee are all individuals ' Happy Easter for you and your family ' keep up the good work and the mental health 💪👍
I lost my partner to depression and while I don’t fully understand it all, videos like this help me see how people can deal with it and well done for dealing with your issues they way you do 🤜🏻🤛🏻 keep on keeping on Calvin ❤
You do all the right things for humanity which is the new model, and you deserve all success in the world for being real. Don't stop, keep grounded and DONT let future success or fame take you to the dark side. God bless you
Totally agree with avoiding tablets, my ex gf used to keep trying to encourage me to take them when I was going through a bad time and I’m so glad I chose not to now because they just mask the problem you need to work stuff out yourself.
Wow!.. Would have never thought you had all this going on irl!.. I feel for you brother. I am personally going through the same myself right now. I have some really dark days with dark thoughts. But somehow I manage. I completely understand what you mean cal. We just keep fighting till there's better days.
I have been where you have described but back then there was never the support that there is now. A train station guard stopped me from going through with it. I can and still do hide my feelings but like you say you learn to deal with your emotions in your own way and my way works for me and has done for over 30 years. I have sadly lost someone very close that could not deal with things that I feel if I was able to speak to them before they went I could have changed his mind. I now like to feel I can listen and talk to anyone that wants to.
@CalvinsCarDiary top video mate, this brought me back down to earth. We're all in this together. Keep up the good positive work. Your videos keep me going 👌
I want to encourage all of you to please share this video where you can. I know it will help people.
Agree Calvin about medication, seen from family at first hand what it does. The book 'Lost Connections' researches this, big pharma companies benefit. Connection and purpose is key.
I fully back everything you said there, there is no tablet for getting through life.. it’s life, you need to understand it’s not all Rosie and at times you need to plough through shit. You will feel better for it when you come out of it and you will have learned a lesson. One of the only things we can call our own is having the ability to choose how we react to stuff, so take control and decide what is the appropriate reaction to what ever situation your in. Big respect Calvin 🫡 and I’m sorry your people didn’t have the right answers and ended up doing what they did. Be it by tablets etc. no one should loose someone like that ❤
Explained spot on Calv 👍
Calvin , I'm B/P . And proud . I'd live the same life again . My lows are the price I pay for the highs .
I applaud what you're doing here
BUT at the same time , not wishing to agree or disagree but simply as a heads up to anyone who may need it , I stopped cold turkey ...
Initially , everything was good - no problems at all
Over a period of time though, something became more and more apparent to me
Things that were vaguely amusing , I was literally rolling around on the floor laughing
Things that were vaguely sad , I had tears rolling down my face .
Unnecessary extremes .
35mph but rev counter in the red ?
We are all different . Differently balanced 'internals' . Turbo or N/A .
But , we're not robots / computers / machines .
So , one piece will never fix all .
This really is a HUGE discussion . The robbing Pharmas . The commission chasing doctors . I get that ...
But not ALL are bad .
I've come across both . If you get a bad smell , it doesn't mean that YOU are the one who has just farted ....
Good Luck to you Bud , channel , business , life in General .
You've always struck me as a good 'un ...
Let's face it , us nut-jobs have to stick together ! ! 😉
Andy C
ps : I've never forgiven Mork for going back to Orson . If he had just called me , I would have talked him round .
He had no clue what he meant to soooooooo many people , but he just never really understood .
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Christ - ....sorry for going on so much 😲 .... it just flowed out of me , sorry for clogging up your channel , Calvin
Well done Calvin, I've lost my family during COVID and had 2 open heart surgery during the Pandemic. I was in hospital on my own and was discharged a driven home in a ambulance to be alone. I was close to give up, but now 5 years on I fight my demons every day but I'm still alive. Anti depressants are worse than morphine and valium. You can get hooked on those.
Hi Calv, been where you have have been and come through it myself and still have days where I have negative thoughts and vibes, but through the support of my wonderful wife and children and now my grandchildren, it gives me the kick up the backside I need need to carry on and think I will make make my life better and OUR lives better, your an inspiration to help people like me and many others to get on with life and to embrace our families with the most amount of love we can give them. ❤❤
Proud of who you are Calvin for not being a victim despite the extremely painful situations you have lived through.
I will say one thing, feelings need to be felt, just don’t hang onto them, give yourself time to cry then brush yourself down and get on with your day, love mum 💙
Good to see you in the comments mum ❤
@@CalvinsCarDiary it’s good to see you expressing yourself so honestly and supporting others 🥰
I suffer through mental health. I’m now 70 and sometime i have meltdowns now and again I just wanna sit in the corner. But my dog is my saviour not tablets We just go for a few hours into the countryside and everything is alright. Good on you to talk about it a very brave thing to do.
I can really relate to this! They’re not a man’s best friend for no reason!
Wow, huge respect! I am a 62 year old new subscriber who has just found your channel. There was something that hooked me, it wasn't just the great content as there is something more to your channel than that. Your passion, honesty, integrity and energy is there in abundance. However this video is a different level Calvin. I work in an industry where its fashionable to throw out lots of information regarding mental health that ends becoming a bit diluted but your message hits the spot more than most. I admire your bravery and honesty to share this strong and inspiring message. You talk so much sense and you can tell its from the heart. All the best.
Hi Calvin. 60 year old subscriber. I have a lot of respect for you your channel and your work. That respect has just grown. Without belittling the superb work you do on the channel this may be your most important video yet. To choose to engage with your audience like this is very brave and shows real compassion and empathy on your part. Keep up the good work. All the best to you and your family.
Hi Paul. Massive respect to you for that comment mate thank you so much. All the best also to you and your family ❤
Thank you for doing that Calvin.
@@CalvinsCarDiarytop video mate, this brought me back down to earth. We're all in this together. Keep up the good positive work. Your videos keep me going 👌
As a sufferer of extreme ocd (the repetitive checking version) who hid it from friends and family for years it’s great to see people talking about mental health. It’s definitely beneficial to talk about it
I've been suffering with it for 44years. The stupid thing is I know how ridiculous it is
@@johnharris6176 yea know exactly what you mean. You know it’s absolutely irrational and ridiculous but it doesn’t care
Hit the nail on the head when you said you're doing what is right for you.
Everyone's journey is different and there's no secret formula to this age old issue.
Great that you have found the time to do this video and show that it is possible through positive thought to conquer an illness without drugs.
Spot on with the exercising and eating better. What we eat and how active we are has such a HUGE impact on our mood, and so many people don't realise that. So many people would be so much better off even just by getting a good amount of quality sleep every night.
💯diet sleep and exercise triangle are the 3 biggest factors in how we feel
Your message was probably too real for the charity but I think it was spot on. Sometimes you need a tough talk to shift your thinking. Thank you for putting this out there.
Respect 👏 to you for this video...I'm 53 years old suffered with mental health since being a child....been on antidepressants...spoken to psychiatrists...still suffer to this day but manage to cope by pushing forward and not giving up...your such a down to earth honest guy...🙏🙏
I’m glad that someone like yourself has watched this video and seen it as a positive. I’m sorry to hear you’ve suffered for so long and I hope that you find some positive light in your future mate. You’ve come this far, the worst is definitely behind you. Well done to you 💪
@@CalvinsCarDiary Thank you 👍....just to let you know love the content on all your videos, I've been a petrol head myself for year's...I own an E92 M3 LCI 1 of 500 ...I know you love your M3's...keep doing what you're doing my friend ad so many people out there can relate to you....Big love ❤️ 🙏🙏
Straight down the line Calvin, clear, to the point and positive! Thank you, Peter
This is massive. This is the type of message that people struggling need to hear - the best help is helping yourself. Thank you. This has helped me start the day with the right mindset 💪🏻
Very moving but easy and comforting to watch. You've done well, it's brave to open up like this. Thank-You
Just watched Ur vid on mental health. Well done.
I work for the ambulance service and was diagnosed with depression when I first started.
Went to see GP , was put on antidepressants .
14 yrs on and yes I still suffer/put up with it .
With ALL all the dead and diing daily It see it does get to you.
Just started presenting on a local radio station , it has given me something to concentrate on and makes me feel good , knowing ppl are listening to my work, choice of music and silly comments.
I now rarely take meds for my depression .
And feel good. Not always great.
calvin ive suffered depression all my life and walked away from a job id had for 20 years as i was so low i couldnt do it anymore. so went from a steady well paid job to nothing but ive survived. i found life is too short to be down and low and needed to be free and just do what i wanted instead of doing what you have to do! thats my way of dealing with it and i also had a passion for old fords and campervans as well as my animals i keep so you need a focus to make you get up in the morning. also moved to a rural area with no neighbours so i can just plod on without any hassle or issues. i still have happy days and low days but sort of manage it and if i keep busy i feel better especially doing outside manual work i.e digging,fencing,painting,renovating etc etc and lastly you are spot on with medication its best to keep off it as me personally think its a never ending cycle if you start taking them, try and do positive things that give you a buzz or a feel good factor all the best john on another topic i think i know whats wrong with the talbot campervan you have at binca!
I can see why the charity rejected your video, I can’t speak for the charity that contacted you but I know for certain some big cancer charities are heavily linked to pharmaceutical companies, it’s all about money as always and nothing to do with genuine doing good and that’s why I’m very selective when it comes to how I donate, keep doing what you are doing, you are an inspiration to millions of people ❤
Mental health can be a viscous circle and if you dont break that circle and change yourself nothing will change.
I took up fishing and went back to training and it helps loads. To me its not about beating it, its about understanding and working on myself that really matters.
We Can never beat it, it’s just accepting it & realising it’s who we are. Glad these certain things help you!👌🏽
What an amazingly inspirational video Calvin, I was looking forward to a car vid tonight but this was great and So important to raise awareness. Thanks brother. 🙏🏻
I feel you and thank you for the video, had the same situation and i was using antidepressants, building a house, working as a head of a dept in a industry that has a crisis, small child at home and a exhausted wife, i have overcame everything just like you said, thats why i can relate, you have to feel that way and understand that its just how it is and you cant give up. I dont drink any of that stuff anymore and deal with everything on my own, work out, eat healthy, drink alot of water and less cafeine. Life is a lot of a brighter place right now.
Thanks Calv, very good video
Thank you Calvin SO MUCH for posting this video. Your first point about emotions was very very good. I am very much in touch with my feelings and I understand what you’re say about having control of them.
So nice to see. ❤
Your here for a good time not a long time, remember that…I suffered two major traumatic events as a child..that’s where a lot of problems begin… two things that have helped me over the years are talking to loved ones and fast cars.
Talking therapy, gym training, eating right, sleeping right…. Tablets are suitable for some people if all of the above are not working. It’s a lot more complicated but thank you for giving your personal journey and how you deal with it.
Just want to say a big Thankyou for talking about your depression and problems with your mental health because I have lost 3 friends in the past few years because of them not having the courage to speak out .. and like yourself you would never in a million years of thought you were going through it as well ! Always so happy .. cheers mate doing amazing !! Love your channel
People don’t understand mental health until they have been through it. I didn’t. But now I’ve had mental health issues I understand. I got through it. It’s hard. You don’t know someone really has it unless you tell them. Be kind to people. You don’t know what they are going through. It’s in the mind. You can’t escape. Only get through day by day
Glad to hear you’re ok now mate
I think one thing that’s clear from this video is Calvin doesn’t understand mental health either
Top bloke Calvin, totally understand why you did this. Just shows the integrity and honesty you have. Been following you for years and think your work, ethic and attitude is superb and massive respect to you mate.
Calvin billion per cent of respect to you, takes a big man to talk about your experiences. Well done.
Thanks Calvin for being honest and posting this video. This will be helpful to many people who are going through and think they are alone, when they are not. Keep up the good work.
what a guy legend to open up to something like this on youtube. You can tell you help people with the cars etc keep up the good work
Nice one Calvin. Talking about this stuff is the real key I think. One thing you feel when you have any kind of mental health issue is alone, until that first person you talk to about it understands then often reveals something you were unaware of about their own mental health to you, straight away you know you're not alone in what you're feeling, which in itself helps a great deal. Keep doing what you're doing.
The best mental health video I've ever seen. The best thing to keep mental health in check is if your circumstances allow get a dog. They give so much and they are better listeners than any human. Eat well walk the dog and life is so much better. Never give up on yourself bin antidepressant and alcohol
PS seemed the charity wanted a victim. Good on you for not taking that “coaching”😳♥️
Spot on I’m only young but I’ve been depressed since I can remember sometimes having better and worse periods but I’ve found the best way to help it is to exercise eat properly and cut out negative habits I think I big problem is not having enough too do, it leaves your l mind to run free and start thinking down negative paths so I try to keep busy nowadays which has helped me so much but obviously I still have off days but overall much better. As men we need have more awareness of mental health problems like ive been with around people joking about depression and suicide saying it’s not real even though some of our shared friends have sadly taken their life’s.
Many thanks for sharing you're very own personal struggles, Calvin...it's always so helpful when the people we admire/follow share their own challenges and how they go about tackling them to be the best they can each day.
Wow! Very eye opening, I’m one of those people, my main struggle is finding my purpose in life, I’m ok at a lot of things, but it’s trying to finding that something I’m good at, that I can make a business out it 🤔
Great to see you sharing your experiences and what worked for you.
I’ve suffered with depression myself during COVID (I have other chronic conditions that I didn’t know how getting COVID would affect) went on meds (SSRIs) and recently dropped them after 3 years, by myself and didn’t ween off them, so it was a weird month of withdrawal.
Let’s be clear that there is a huge difference between depression and Bipolar. Someone who is Bipolar should never just throw away the mood stabilisers/antipsychotics that they are on, it can take months to safely get off them, and it can lead to a mania episode that could be dangerous.
I agree that a healthy work life balance, exercise, eating well etc CAN work really well. But talking to a health professional is important too, albeit one that doesn’t just throw you on meds right away!
I totally hear your message about trying to sort your life out without meds, but that also isn’t for everyone.
What a legend you are Calv, Massive Credit to you and all involved. Life is hard, and you always need support and most important love from your family to pull through. No harm or shame admitting that 🙌🙌
Thank you Calvin, I’m going through a really rough time and have followed you for years and always look forward to Wednesday and Sunday posts. Just want to say thank you
Well said Sir, I will try what you've suggested. God bless you and the family.
I really like the way you express yourself fella. You are never over-wordy and get to the point really well. I'm glad you binned the addictive anti depressants. Long time follower, fellow Type R EP3 lover.
Loved this Calvin, really hit home with me. Thank you.
Ahh man great reach, love your content, love what you do with the influence you have on a wide audience. Sorry about your loss, think a lot of people could be helped by your chat. Much love
I watched this with a lump in my throat. The most powerful video I have ever watched. Calvin you are one of the very best humans I have ever been lucky enough to meet in my life. Every day you inspire me, you have from the day we met. Never change as you are you and that's what makes you special ❤
Thanks so much Jamie it means a lot. It’s always good to see you in the comments 🙌🙏🏼
A think this may have been the guidance or advice iv been looking for without even knowing it💭 you have just answered a question i didnt know myself even needed answering❤ big respect to you calvin your amazing!!💙
i have depression too calvin and i have lived through some seriously tough times so i know what its like,stay strong man.❤
In the last couple of years, my girlfriend died infront of me and her daughter! My best mate has lost 2 sons, grandson in coma and his dad has had 3 heart attacks!
Lots worth living for, but good to have good people around you.
Deep bro
Jeez
Calvin u have absolutely nailed it. I exactly the same against antidepressants woukd never take a pill to help me it has to be me getting through it, an yea am still up n down but honestly trying my best to be a better person for me and my family life to short lets live it best we can.
Thanks for uploading this video mate really helps. 👍👌👏
Well said Calvin. I wish I came across you sooner in my life. I've suffered with depression since I was told I couldn't see my kids anymore through no fault of my own for about 13 years. Now my circumstances have changed again, I'm stressed to bits as a result. I went down the drugs route off the doctors and now I'm worse than ever with my anger and having outbursts upsetting the people I love. Doesn't help that I quit smoking last year
Thank you so much for this! Its so good to know others feel the same and as you say its ok to not be ok!
I watch your vids here and there and honestly I know this was heart felt and real...everyone has mental health... its about trying to cultivate the positive and deal with the negative as best we can...its ok not to be ok...its ok to ask for help and ultimately we all go through tough times...and I pray we all have the strength to pick ourselves up ❤ love to everyone watching this.
Great words of encouragement.
Don’t be afraid to talk about your mental health anxiety or feelings. But talk to the right people, they are there to help for a reason
Been a follower for years, but I disagree with not taking ‘antidepressants’. There are hundreds of different types. I’ve been on mine for years, past issues in my life caused ptsd, and many other issues that come from it.
I would never recommend throwing them in the bin, I couldn’t live without mine. I’ve tried taking my life 3 times prior to help and counselling for years. I get this is ‘your opinion’ on meditation but people need it.
Not meaning to be harsh with this reply.
Bro ive never met you in my life but got so much love for you g. One of the best vids youve done g! Respect.
Massive respect calv, good to learn more about you mate and important to show this. Everyone has problems and down days and its just lifes challenges. Our best asset is our ability to overcome and adapt where has that mentality gone these days. Top work mate 👏
Yes Calvin I agree with you, stay ONIT, eat right, train right, do positive things! I am currently studying for my ACCA to become a chartered accountant and it is stressful but I am managing to stay ONIT.
Try working down the coal mines for 40 years, you will know what proper stress is then, stop being a big girls blouse 👚
Calvin I carry the exact same views as you regarding mental health. We all have these feelings we just have to work out how we deal with them. There are far too many people that look for a diagnosis and therefore some way to fix them, generally going the route of tablets and medication. Those same drugs then become difficult to live without so give you an additional problem in which your problems are heightened when you don't have them. I try so hard to explain this to my teenager but it is very difficult. Talking to someone does help massively, if you don't have someone there are many phone or online services that are helpful. We all struggle but we all keep fighting, DON'T GIVE UP. Thanks for this Calvin 🙌
Calvin I think for me this is your best video so far despite my love for cars. I sometimes feel not in a good mental health and this is reflecting everything that I like and I have passion for.
I wish /want to be in a good mental health and give my best to my family
Good video, truthful, going through similar at the moment. Thankfully I had the courage to say no to prescribed medicine, didn’t want to go down that road. Had some time out, getting my head straight and cutting out the people who put me in this situation in the first place. Life will get better so having another go on life’s roller coaster 😊
Great video Calvin..
Best therapy we can get is loved ones and damn good gym session..
Totally agree with you Calv.
I turned down the anti depressants after a few months of taking them. Best decision i made. Well done for being brave enough to make and post this video.
You're one of the few on youtube that you instantly notice how authentic they are, keep it up bro.
Crazy to think someone like you and the grind you've been on has ever been at that point with depression , just goes to show it can happen to any of us , god bless ya Calvin stay on that positive grind onwards and upwards ❤
That is absolutely spot on, you hit the nail on the head, could not of put it better myself, respect to you 👌🏼
Great video cal iv struggled myself recently and not uploaded to YT due to it and finally told my community and they been great. Thanks for the advice ❤
Thankyou for posting this Calvin. Respect to you for wanting to help others. 🙏
Well done Calv….Resonated with me this one…..pushed myself to start at the gym in Jan and starting to feel much better……exercise in any form and some kind of focus defo helps👍
im 35 suffering with mental health since 21 and the past few years has gotten worse the struggle to going on a day to day bases and try to get help with it it is hard as i would rather someone that has suffered with it and know what its like to be in that dark places . Respect for this video man think you should make more with other TH-camrs that have and still suffer from it as im sure you and other TH-camrs have alot of young people that looks up to yous
After listen to your words today have so much that can help others I lost my best friend due to bipolar I just wished I could of helped him more but it comes from within I've had my far share of mental health issues due to loss and hurt and recently the 21st of February this year I had my leg amputated and life has changed and got very hard this last year and there's still a big challenge and difficult road ahead ..I wish more people had truthful words to share from there own experiences I think this video will help alot of men as they are good at hiding there problems but still suffer inside ....
Always onit calv I never expected someone so confident and direct and kind to open up. Well-done brother you see the world for what it is. Remember guys and girls the only thing you ever have to worry about is now. So make yourself happy by any means but find what makes you happy for me it's not taking life too seriously... It's just a ride your not in controll but always make the most of the moment. ANGLES FLY BECAUSE THEY TAKE THEMSELFS LIGHTLY.
Wasn't expecting this from you calv but love you more now for sharing this , goes to show u can think someone is living the perfect life and everything is fine but is not always the case ... we need to speak talk more and share our issues with our loved and nearest people ❤️
Great video Calvin I've managed to get rid of a lot of demon's out of my head mental health is a big thing and life sometimes is difficult to deal with , thing's happen that are totally out of our control all you can do is get through it talk to a friend talk to anyone who will listen . Keep up the good work 👏🏻
Great video, Calvin, honest and truthful, it’s not an easy thing to share your personal struggles with depression respect to you. Keep up the good work. Your videos are inspiring.🙏
Great video Calvin what struck me the most is that when you said about social media, news and just peoples behaviour in general and i believe even healthcare professionals give us the wrong perception about what our feelings should be and that is the biggest problem today i think when most of the time people just need to find their inner self and realise that what they are going through are normal challenges in life...
Hi Calvin, I suffer from mental health issues and find it hard sometimes. I go to work so I can provide for my family and try to keep smiling for my 2 kids and girlfriend. I’m 27 and sometimes find it really hard to get motivated to do things. I’ve lost a lot of family and friends because of how private I am. Watching your videos really helps me and just want to say a massive thank you. Appreciate this video in particular.
Being a man is a tough role to play but we should take huge pride in ourselves when we’re doing a good job of it. We’re not in control of results but we are in control of our efforts. Keep doing what you’re doing mate you’re definitely doing a good job you should be proud of yourself. Them 2 kids are your world and you are theirs ❤
I`m currently going through Depression and Anxiety at the moment and just started taking Anti-depressants
i`ve had a lot to deal with within the last 9 months with me being abandoned by my family last year as ive spoke about before in a video with Calvin about 2 yesrs ago when i won a car through Planet of dreams
i am also about to start getting therapy and maybe seeing a psychiatrist to help sort some things outgoing on in my head
Wel said Calvin but people deal with things differently we aint all the same
Calvin I applaud the sentiment on this subject and that you are brave enough to put this video out there I have a lot of respect for you and all that you do, but that was more like a positive mental attitude class, mental health however is totally different, meditation is one tool of many that people with mental illness need to help them to get through the dark days in their life as well as professional help, recognising you need help and talking is the start so thank you for the video as it will get people talking I’m sure.
It’s a nice thought to deal with life like that but I have terminal cancer so that brings on a whole new set of challenges that are very difficult to deal with, everybody is different so deal with depression differently but I struggle every day and just take it one day at a time that’s the only way I can deal with life atm
Calvin I live on the same past and I agree with everything you’ve said in this video you are your own worst enemy and you can’t help who won’t help them self and I think a happy healthy life is a happy life keeping your self focused on the things that matter
Thanks for sharing Calvin.
Well said Calvin. I came close a few times and a lot of people have suffered. I take meds and that helps me. You have your own opinion but that’s OK. You do have to work on life in our own way. Well said.👍
That was an eye-opener, Calvin. Thank you!
Calvin,fairplay for doing this video the way you wanted to put the message across. Hopefully this video will benefit many who watch it. Top bloke Calvin 👍🏻
I've been living in my van for roughly 1 1/2yrs with my 2 dogs. Many a time I've thought about ending it as I can't see a way out of this situation. The council will only help me with housing in a 1st floor flat but only with 1 dog. To make matters worse 1 of my dogs is a XL bully x standard American bully so I've had to get him excempted insurance etc it's a lonely world but my dogs keep me going. I can't take medication because I'm constantly driving and behind the wheel. Scared to leave the dogs whilst I pop in and grab food etc. Even going to the doctor's is a no go because I can't be trusted with tablets as I've overdosed before so I'm literally stuck in a rut. But hopefully things will change 😔
Such a relatable, wise video thank you for sharing this video.
Spot on, life is a challenge, sometimes it`s very hard but you have to try and deal with it, concentrate on the good not the bad!
Big respect calvin, thank you ❤️🙏
Another one !! Been suffering depression and anxiety for years myself my wife is my rock without her I wouldnt be here either..
Big up to yourself Calvin, Listen to him people every word spoken here is the absolute gospel when it comes to how your feeling!!.
Very wise words, This is exactly how I’ve started thinking. I feel so much better in myself, still smoking copious amounts of weed though which I need to stop
Big Respect Calvin for doing this video' my mother had bipolar back in the 80s 90s and had many pills including shock treatment and think sent her the wrong way due too the pills and shock treatment ' it maybe work for some as wee are all individuals '
Happy Easter for you and your family ' keep up the good work and the mental health 💪👍
What a motivating force you are absolutely amazing fella nice one Calvin
Seeing your video popup in my feed at a time like this for me right now, helped me rethink, thanks Calvin
I lost my partner to depression and while I don’t fully understand it all, videos like this help me see how people can deal with it and well done for dealing with your issues they way you do 🤜🏻🤛🏻 keep on keeping on Calvin ❤
You do all the right things for humanity which is the new model, and you deserve all success in the world for being real. Don't stop, keep grounded and DONT let future success or fame take you to the dark side. God bless you
Totally agree with avoiding tablets, my ex gf used to keep trying to encourage me to take them when I was going through a bad time and I’m so glad I chose not to now because they just mask the problem you need to work stuff out yourself.
Wow!.. Would have never thought you had all this going on irl!.. I feel for you brother. I am personally going through the same myself right now. I have some really dark days with dark thoughts. But somehow I manage. I completely understand what you mean cal. We just keep fighting till there's better days.
After many negative thoughts at 4am this morning I’m glad this video was here today.
Thank you Calvin
I have been where you have described but back then there was never the support that there is now. A train station guard stopped me from going through with it. I can and still do hide my feelings but like you say you learn to deal with your emotions in your own way and my way works for me and has done for over 30 years. I have sadly lost someone very close that could not deal with things that I feel if I was able to speak to them before they went I could have changed his mind. I now like to feel I can listen and talk to anyone that wants to.
@CalvinsCarDiary top video mate, this brought me back down to earth. We're all in this together. Keep up the good positive work. Your videos keep me going 👌
Really liked this Video Calvin , hopefully can see more content this