Vacations for marriages that have grown cold are just an opportunity to fight in my experience. If you arent able to warm the marriage up without vacations, it would certainly be a waste of money. Vacations dont solve issues that arent addressed on a daily, weekly, monthly basis.
Wow...that listeners letter could have been written by my own hand - every word. Inciteful and encouraging response. Thank you for your wisdom, as always.
It sounds like the wife is stressed, beyond stressed into her role as a mother, as a wife, as a homemaker, as having a Job outside the home and yet with all that she is still expected to be willing and pleasant. That sounds rough. It seems that she just doesn't know how to explain to her husband that she is just stressed and she is recommending a vacation. However what she needs is just the husband to tell her, " go take a day for yourself, unwind, enjoy a hobby (gym, tennis, etc) then come back" . They both are feeling that they are not being understood and they are not communicating the core problem. Stress. On both sides.
If more couples would have discussions like these in your podcast and not get stuck on im right and your wrong and realize that we have a greater authoirty that we need to defer to marriage would get much better as a whole.
Vacations for marriages that have grown cold are just an opportunity to fight in my experience. If you arent able to warm the marriage up without vacations, it would certainly be a waste of money. Vacations dont solve issues that arent addressed on a daily, weekly, monthly basis.
Wow...that listeners letter could have been written by my own hand - every word. Inciteful and encouraging response. Thank you for your wisdom, as always.
It's incredible, but I think the exact same thing when I listen to this one. Almost like looking at my marriage in a mirror.
It sounds like the wife is stressed, beyond stressed into her role as a mother, as a wife, as a homemaker, as having a Job outside the home and yet with all that she is still expected to be willing and pleasant.
That sounds rough. It seems that she just doesn't know how to explain to her husband that she is just stressed and she is recommending a vacation. However what she needs is just the husband to tell her, " go take a day for yourself, unwind, enjoy a hobby (gym, tennis, etc) then come back" .
They both are feeling that they are not being understood and they are not communicating the core problem.
Stress. On both sides.
If more couples would have discussions like these in your podcast and not get stuck on im right and your wrong and realize that we have a greater authoirty that we need to defer to marriage would get much better as a whole.
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(Wait … so… doesn’t that make me last? 😜)
THANKS GUYS!!