I live in the U.S. and in the state I live in waiters and waitresses make $2.25 an hour plus tips. So at least where I live they don't make much on the hour.
Ok, I just had to share. My 4-year-old daughter walked up while I was watching and started talking about how she loves the lava lamp and Roly's phone. She thinks the pattern is pretty. Then she points to Luxeria, "I like the girl. She looks like a vampire." I asked does she look cool and she answered yes. I thought it was adorable!
As someone who wasn't allowed birthday dinners but all my step siblings were. The cake story hurt me that women has no problem plowing over that girl for her child. Being the only kid who doesn't get specific birthday stuff gives you a very unpleasant feeling of no one cares. I'm glad the dad changed it for his daughter.
@@chesiresays I don't really talk to anybody but my brother on that side of the family. When my mom found out she was livid and I've had amazing birthdays since.
When I came out as ace to my mother, I did it over text late at night. She had barely any response, something along the lines of "Ok. I will always love you no matter what." About 10 minutes later, she came bursting into my room "I'm so sorry I responded like that! I was falling asleep!" I saw no issue with how she responded, but she seemed to feel as though she was too dismissive. She told me to never tell her important news like that over text ever again, and I personally though it was really cute. I think she had an inkling that I was queer all along, because if there was something queer happening, she'd always tell me how there was nothing wrong with being queer and how she'd love me no matter my identity. Hell, once she said "You'll always be my (insert name). Wait I don't mean it like that, if you're trans then you won't be (insert name)... You'll always be my kid" lol. I love my mom. sorry for the paragraph!
The only thing I've ever learnt from that sub is that most redditors' problems come from either a) getting married with the wrong person/family (wedding drama) or b) not learning their lesson the first time and getting remarried once, twice, etc (step-family drama).
The story about the girl that was in the hospital is unfortunately a super common thing here in the US. . . . Several years ago I had a bad case of pneumonia and was borderline hospitalized because of my symptoms. One of the managers I worked for at the time didn't believe that I had pneumonia, despite providing the documentation from my doctor. I missed 2 days of work and ended up being forced to work throughout the rest of my illness with pneumonia due to being threatened to be fired, because I was in a leadership role and I quote "We don't write up leadership for absences, we fire them" Due to that, I had to deal with the symptoms/side effects of pneumonia well longer than if I were able to stay home and rest.
@@RolyWestYT Thank you, I fled that job the second I could guarantee new employment. And I strongly advocate to people to never work for them if I hear anybody near me saying they're going to apply to that place. They were the most awful 6 years of my life. 😂
One of the many reasons why I describe the US as “A third world country wearing a gucci belt” It may seem all rich and powerful on the outside but on the inside the average US citizen is struggling to get by.. This place is embarrassing..
This is just one of a myriad of reasons why the United States can be a total dumpster fire of a nation :(. Your humanity doesn't matter here unless those in power can profit off your existence.
Oh yes feels a bit weird to say about myself and but do think we have quite good chats ok and off camera about life stuff and like to think we give good advice
Oh my goodness, that first one is gut-wrenching! My husband and I are both infertile and when we found out, we had a legitimate conversation about whether the other would leave to try to have children with another person who wasn't infertile and we both adamantly told the other that we weren't going anywhere! I say that to say that, even in the most committed relationships (which is what I would consider ours to be) it's still a huge fear and to have your person leave you and then a friend who rubs it in your face?! Talk about traumatic experiences! That friend is so toxic and I am glad that the other friend tattled on her!
The last one really hit me. I came out to my parents a few years back (maybe around the age of 20 or 21) and my mom also said "I know" however she also added "I know, and we still love you as much as finding out we we're pregnant with you. As long as your partner treats you well and you're happy and safe thats all we want for you. You are still Nettie (my nickname) and will always be Nettie 💜". We had a lovely talk about my queerness and was even comfortable telling them that I was also non-binary. My mom apologized for misgendering me for all of my life and never knew that part of myself. She even wanted to know what pronouns I would prefer and even if I wanted to change my name, but politely asked if it was ok to still call me Nettie to which I totally don't mind due to the name never bringing sorrow and always made me feel happy whenever family called me it. Now at 24 I am proud to be openly non-binary with a beautiful relationship with another woman for almost a year now. Never in my life would I have thought to have the same love and support from close family members while being open and honest with myself. As far as I know there is no one else in my long list of family members who are part of the LGBTQ+ community that understand coming out and everything. Some of them do make errors on accidentally saying things like "but who's the man of the relationship" and very straight stereotype comments but they just don't know better and when I tell them that the comment was not appropriate they'd sincerely apologize and don't back the same mistake again. I'm sorry that my story isn't juicy drama however I wanted to get it out there that some straights are ok 👌 😆 💜
Oh, no, it's good to have a wholesome story after hearing about these sh1tshows. 😃 And as for the confused relatives asking, "but which one is the man?" Ask them, "So, which chopstick is the knife and which is the fork?"😉 That usually helps them get a clue.
Why are you apologizing for sharing such a beautiful and amazing story? We need happy and positive stories more than ever as we are so attracted and attached to the bad. Ofcourse straight people are okay. Homophobic people are not. Being straight doesn't mean you are automatically homophobic. Seriously.
There was a surgeon in 2013 who burned his initials into patients' organs. He lost his medical license. Going of that premises, totally not the a-hole for complaining about the tattoo tag! Also I just love you two and your content :D
@@combustiblelemons1054 Not only that, but it was also a memorial piece, something very sentimental, so her putting her initials in it is very insensitive. Her not even asking makes it even worse.
Omg guys... a lady at work came out and told us in a meeting she had Gout and I spat my coffee out everywhere 😳 it went up my nose, down my scrubs and on the floor. Thanks guys, you have permanently changed the reaction my brain has to this word 😅😂
Since gout wasn't part of my english vocabular and I have been too lazy to look it up, have I just counted it as a expression. But now thanks to this comment have I gotten around to look up what it actually is. So now I know. :)
As a person who has allot of tattoos, I'm blessed with having a close friend who's been tattooing since 1988. And owns his own studio. He is constantly charging me much less then what he charges his normal clients. As a rule of thumb, I tip him the difference, plus alittle extra. Because I know I can't go anywhere and get the quality I get from him. His work stands on its own. But because he's a friend I can't bring myself to tell him to just charge me normally. Which is why I tip so much. I know if I told him too, he would probably laugh and say something like, you already scratched my back. Let me scratch yours. This goes back too all the free coffee I gave him. Which I don't equivocate to his work as an artist. Don't take advantage of your friends!
tattoo theft is something im trying super hard to avoid entirely. ive spent weeks trying to design a memorial tattoo that wont seem as if im copying someone elses design. its a struggle but this is a lovely break from the art process
I mean if you design it, doesn’t that instantly make it not theft? It’s your design, even if it looks similar to another’s design.. it’s still yours that you made isn’t it? Or could it be treated kind of like accidental plagiarism?
i personally wouldnt call it theft as im making it using like stock images for reference as im not good at drawing inanimate objects yet. and for the accidental plagiarism, thats whats making me err on the side of caution and try to figure out how to make it different from others. so far i have very few ideas
I have a memorial tattoo for a close family friend. I got the design of his necklace that he always wore tattooed over my heart. (my artist even left out 1 gem cuz his was missing one) super simple but definitely unique. maybe do something like that if you're worried about tattoo theft. :)
@@brvis3dr0s39 I did that same thing with my memorial tattoo. I took some free access clip art and tweaked it, bought access to a font that I loved, and carefully worked everything into a design that I wanted. 💗
The one about the fiancé wanting to catch the children in a trap is so disturbing to me. It’s like he just wants to experiment with young minds. Also, semi-related to the video, the tattoo one reminded me of how surprising it is that oli didn’t copy any of Jimin’s tattoos. Glad for it, but it’s just interesting. Anyways this was a ride lol a very fun one 💜
This reminded me of an even worse version of my step mom's. One of them would say that we stole things and ground us until one of us came forward even when neither of us had done anything at all and the other one wouldn't let us go anywhere in her house without someone else being there (besides the living room and bathroom) because apparently we were awful kids who couldn't be trusted although it was ALWAYS her kids It sucked bro and it makes you grow up thinking you are awful and worthless
The only thing that fiancé is going to teach those kids by acting that way is that they can't trust him with anything he says and they will always have to be on their toes around him. It's messed up.
It’s so funny to me that two people who don’t want kids (which is totally understandable) would be two awesome parents. I bet Auntie Lux and Uncle Roly are very beloved by the kids in their lives.
Well there *is* a difference between being able to handle children very well but can give them back when you have enough and having to deal with them for the rest of your life. lol
I didn’t come out to my parents until I was 35. My dad, who used to absolutely refuse that his kids could be gay, surprised me by acknowledging that he already knew and accepted it. I can certainly see how the 16f in last story felt. Putting yourself through hell for, thankfully, no reason. But not everyone has parents that will understand. Kudos to the mom for being so accepting and supportive though!
I feel like if you have the need to come out to your parents and they aren't very clear about having a positive attitude towards queer people, it will be stressful. Being young even adds to that because you are probably financially dependent on them. I was in my early 20's when I came out to my mum and I was nervous as hell because there was still that nagging fear of what if she hates me and doesn't want anything to do with me. Her response was basically "Well yeah, isn't that what you've been hinting all along?", so that AITA really resonated with me. There's a clash with expectations when for the kid it's something incredibly important and scary and the parent acts all casual like they were talking about the weather.
The birthday cake one makes me mad. The only time it would be ok to change it would be if there was an airborne allergic reaction issue like how some people are with peanuts. Give the birthday girl get chocolate cake!
Exactly! And I can understand getting a smaller cake/ cupcake(s) AS WELL AS the main cake if there was someone that was allergic but to change the cake???
Would I be that bitch if somebody did that to me? Absolutely, and I don't care if that would make me an a-hole. 1) This person was clearly aware that tattoo theft is a shitty thing to do, PERIOD, not to mention when it was something as personal as in this case, since they wouldn't tell them what the design was when directly asked, 2) They asked this person for recommendations /specifically/ mentioning that they didn't want to pay a lot for it. Like Roly and Lux said, you get what you pay for. If the person was dumb enough to not do any research aside from asking the person whose tattoo they wanted to steal, they were practically begging for it. I am far too vindictive to label the tattoo person as an a-hole. I think they did a wonderful job and maybe the tattoo thief will think twice before trying to pull that same shit again. Maybe they can ponder upon it while scratching up the money to have the disaster covered up or lasered.
Oh that cake story makes me SOOOO mad!! That wasn’t even a compromise! A compromise would perhaps be to get a tear apart cake where there are both vanilla and chocolate cupcakes (if the birthday person is up for that) if the birthday person would prefer a whole chocolate cake, the other person can have something else!!!
Roly and Lux, I’d love for you to do a whole video on how to find a good tattoo artist, what questions to ask, what to look out for. I think that would be very interesting and educational for those of us contemplating a tattoo in the future. Thank you both! I absolutely love your personalities and humour! ❤❤❤
About the wedding date excluder, the expectation that a bride or groom at a large-ish wedding knows every single attendee intimately/very personally is sorta crazy to me! Wouldn’t there be at least one or two aunts, or uncles, cousins, nephews etc. that you never met?
Usually people know slightly under half the people at their wedding. You have your friends and family, and you might know their plus ones so say 90%. Then your partners friends and family, whom you might have met a few, and probably don't know most, and are significantly less likely to know their plus ones. So by the time you crunch it out, it's usually just under half. And about a 15% chance neither of you will know them.
The last story gives me the feeling that the parent is comfortable with the concept and doesn't consider it to be a big deal. I like to think that it's a side of the tides turning for the positive
With the coming out story, it feels like the kid wanted it to be more dramatic/emotional. I remember "coming out" to my brothers separately and one just said "yeah" while the other was genuinely upset that I just mentioned it offhand at a party. He'd clearly known for a long time (I've always been pretty open, just never put a word or label to it. Plus he always made jokes), but he wanted that emotional, bonding moment. I think the daughter was looking for that too. she'd built it up so much in her head that she couldn't feel relief when it was just accepted. I can definitely relate to that lol. But, honestly, I kinda like the way the mom thought. Not expecting her kid to come out and to just show up with their partner is kind of what I wish was the norm. There's a lot of history with coming out, but it'd be great if people just didn't assume and let kids figure themselves out.
The saying "This is a gift, not a tip" is pretty common from my experience. I've definitely used it a few times when I have a waiter/waitress that was having a difficult time because tipping in the US is indeed insane. It's basically a way to say that the tip does not need to be included when they are reporting their wages as a small f you to the businesses that refuse to pay their workers an actual wage and do a lot of underhanded things to get out of having to pay their workers what they deserve
Loved listening to you both of you sharing AITA stories especially "last night dahlia passed away" sinister giggles lol 😆 love streams with both of you
I love it when you two are on. I found I could relate to some of these stories. Especially the one with the man setting up the children. My stepdad couldn’t set up me and my sister, we didn’t fall for it. So he’d make up things to make us look like bad kids. So we’d have to have “a talk”. Usually they didn’t end nice. I’m an old woman now, and I won’t put up with someone that is a manipulator. Especially if it harmful to a young child.
My sister is currently dealing with a situation like the job one, almost exactly. She covers so many shifts and stays late, but she had a late notice call in for being in the emergency department for an intestinal blockage, something that can KILL YOU! She literally was talking to me about that and any how apparently, their location was overstaffed for awhile and unable to provide needed working hours, so the manager overcompensated and transferred too many employees to another location and now they are constantly short-staffed. Also, my sister had to contact all of the employees to see if anyone could fill in for her, which she did. I'm sorry but that's the manager's job, especially when the employee is actively dying in the hospital!
I gotta tell you, every single time the two of you start to laugh, my smallest cat (Isabella da Boo) and my largest (Passithea First of Floofs. And yes, I know they are ridiculous names but A: they weirdly fit and B: the giggle it gives when the vet has to call out their name during checkups just gives me great joy!) jump up onto the desk, pat the screen and then starting chatter/chittering at each other. Even pets love the energy between you two! And one always perks up to Luxeria's voice and the other rolls around and purrs at Roly's. It makes something that is already wonderful to watch turn into something even more joyful as my furrbabies get in on the fun.
When I came out at 21 I was shaking, ready to pass out. My mom barely even looked up from the dishes and said “okay and?” Then I nearly passed out from the whiplash. We laugh so hard about it now
On the tattoo think, my artist asked me if he could add purple to a shadow before he did it. You absolutely should ask before putting your initials on somebody.
I'm a single mother of 2. Their father ran off after I had the two kids. Hasn't been heard of since. Sis let me tell you, as much as I adore my children. If I knew then what I know now, I wouldn't want to put a child through all the crap that comes with having a single parent. Darling woman you dodged a bullet with your husband and your "friend". As much as it doesn't feel like it now. Trust me, that other woman will get older and he will probably run off for a younger model. Love yourself sweetheart.
i feel bad for the person who got the same tattoo as their dad. now, no matter what, when they see their tattoo, they will probably get negative emotions associated with it because of all the drama around it/the tattoo artist, rather than just an homage to their father and grandfather.
Oh man, the dad with the birthday cake is fantastic. My dad forgot my 13th birthday completely until 6pm then came to me and said "its your birthday" and that was it. He's a great dad and it's great to hear about him standing up for his daughter.
With the tattoo scenario, if someone had informed me that they wanted to put their initials within a specific design in order to prevent people from copying them or that is just the way they do things and they informed me of it then I would be okay or I would go to somebody else. But if they did not tell me beforehand that they were going to do that I would 100% be very upset
To me getting a "i know, you've got gay written all over your face" would've been the best reaction ever, I would've peed myself from laughing. Instead I got a "no you're not" from one and silence from the other and my reaction to them was "ok bet" so yeah. Everyone reacts differently tho and I think it might've been better to just thank her for telling you and then a few days later bring up that you knew with a bit of humor when she's not so on alert for everything and anything.
The 2 of you were right in regards to the tips. A lot of waiter/waitress here in TX at least are paid $2.18 hr plus tips. Which is way below minimum wage to begin with. Some places make you take your tips and split them between each section of the "house" such as cooks, bartenders etc. Some will allow you to completely keep your tips. I am not sure what the manager was thinking! People are strange when it comes to money.
I'm so excited!!! I have watched you on TH-cam Roly for almost a decade and I've very recently found Luxeria because I've loved the gag of the millennium especially the am I the ahole posts! Thank you for sharing! Sending love
"birthdays aren't a time for favouritism" proceeds to show blatant favouritism for her bio daughter over her step-daughter on her step-daughter's birthday they could have literally gotten a chocolate cake and also gotten like a smaller/less expensive cake that's vanilla so that the other daughter doesn't miss out on cake and anyone else who might not like chocolate cake can then also have some of that. it's such an easy issue to fix and literally the step-mother is being so horrible, it's time for a divorce
This is so hilarious, made my exhausting day better. So ty you two! Excited to watch the first one I apparently missed. ♡ I don't think recommending the bad artist was aholey. You sign a long paper, it's permanent, you're responsible for researching & it's typically expensive for good work. Basically what Roly said. I've had tattoos copied and it really ticks me off for the artist & myself since I do my own art for the artist to make their own. Inspiration for ideas is fine, stealing ain't it sis.
For the wedding one, unless the plus one date caused a scene or something unacceptable, I don’t see why one person couldn’t be there. Especially as it was the gf of her fiancé’s best friend from out of town. It would be nice for him to have someone to talk to that he knows.
I'm 43 and I relate to being abruptly blunt. I see patterns and notice things "too much" sometimes. Luckily, lately this includes watching things like this and recognizing hints of my behaviors. It's very helpful in becoming a better person and I appreciate videos like yours 😊 Thank you!
I can only assume the story about the person being penalised for being off work in hospital is from America because that would literally be illegal in Australia (and probably most other developed countries tbh)
For the last story, I feel like the mom's "you've got gay written all over your face" was an overcompensating kind of comment. Like, trying to make a joke to prove how comfortable she is what it. But she definitely shouldn't have said it. A hug and a thanks you for telling me would have worked a lot better. Although, mom's are human too, and I think this was just a misstep. The daughter's feelings are very valid and I think after she's had a little time to cool off, an apology from the mom will make her feel better. No one is truly in the wrong and I'm sure their relationship will mend soon.
I think the Birthday Cake story is a prime example for "main character syndrome". They didn't even think about "let's get the birthday girl her chocolate cake and get the other girl and her mother a small vanilla cake to share". No, no compromise whatsoever, it has to be the way i want it and no other! But the father was right, even though i believe in a functional relationship a compromise should be the first thing coming to their minds so everyone is happy 😅
That was my thought. My sister LOVES German chocolate cake and I despise it. She got one every year she asked for one and I'd just get one of those single cake pieces from Safeway of whatever flavor I wanted. Same for my father's birthday because he loves carrot cake, which I also hate. When I got lemon cakes, my sister would get a slice of German chocolate. It's not that big of a deal. Sure, birthdays are about the birthday person, but everyone involved should be able to enjoy they whole experience, too
What? We have to wait six months for another "Am I the A-Hole"????? Y'all should be doing this at least once a month. LOVE it!! Roly, that shirt is freaking awesome!!! Is it from a fan? Someone did a great job designing it.
When I came out my mom said I know too, but she had some more grace with it!! She said somethin to the effect of "my love of course I already knew that your my daughter I love you every part, I may not full understand all of it but I love it all because it you my baby girl an I can't not love you." Saying I know isn't bad if just has to come with some grace as well
Yeah, the mom in story essentially said, “well duh” which to an anxious teen trying to reveal something very personal can feel very...dismissive? When I came out to my mom, she came out to me, and we bonded over it.
Ive met a woman like that bridezilla before! My boyfriends long time best friend (they had been inseparable for well over a decade by the time I met my now bf. The best friend lived across the street and they would work on house projects (stacking wood for winter, roofing, that sort of thing) and get out deep into the backcountry together (ski guides). After one terrible accident one winter where the BFFs longtime girlfriend nearly died in an avalanche he inadvertently triggered and then they broke up, my bfs friend was super depressed so no one was worried (if anything we were stoked) when he started seeing this gal who was very different from our usual. She didn't do outdoorsy stuff (and was rather un athletic so legit couldnt) and was kind of high maintenance right off the bat, but again, we just were glad he wasnt focused on the accident any more. Over the first few months of their relationship she began isolating and distancing herself from longtime friends of his before genuinely acting nuts (one day she was mad he went climbing with some guys so she freaked out went to a bar alone and was texting our friend about how "when" she "gets raped" it will be "all" his "fault." Needless to say I was done with her after that. It didnt help she was a mean girl who was super passive aggressive and nasty to all female friends but particularly me. Somehow she convinced our friend that they HAVE to get married ASAP because she requires to be pregnant by age 30. Obviously myself and the rest of his friends were like DUDE, she is nuts. He even needed help from us paying for the engagement ring. My bf (as the best man and bff) spent about 6 months shuttling 4 hours each way (seasonal work means we have to travel down to the main house part of the year) to prepare this wedding with his bff only to have this disgusting girl tell him two weeks before the wedding (he already bought and paid for the tacky suits she required the groomsmen to wear) that actually as the best man he wasnt allowed to bring me as a date because I would "distract" from her "moment." She apparently did this to a couple other women who she perceived to be more attractive than her (not just me) despite their having known her now-husband longer than her. All of us too had been in relationships for a very long time with our partners compared to hers. My bf told his bff that legit if he allows his wife to behave like this then their relationship is done. Needless to say my bf did not go to the doomed wedding and within a year this horrible woman has convinced her husband, our former bff, to sell his paid for home in Jackson WY within walking distance from the high school so they can move out to this shitty commuter neighborhood that will now force him to commute well over an hour each way. Some people really are assholes with no care of others.
I always save these videos for the weekends so I can chill, have a cup of tea and feel like I’m a part of a good gossip session. We love you beautiful queens 🙏🏼🥰
Literally this is my favourite podcast of all time and I can’t explain why it’s just amazing, listen to it constantly and re listen to episodes when there’s no new ones cause it’s honestly just such comfort content for me, especially on my way to and from college :) thanks for all the laughs!!!
On the topic of coming out: I'm pan - i was with my ex wife for 20 years. I ended up a single parent and raised my two sons. I didn't come out officially until I married my now husband when it became legal. I had to call my now grown sons and be like... btw... I just got married to my "friend" who you've known for several years. Luckily, my sons and my daughter-in-law are amazing people and were like - congratulations!! As long as you're happy it's all good. That was 7 years ago.
I was ill and feeling like crap, just sat down with my honey and lemon tea and saw this video had just been uploaded overnight. Really made my day, I can’t wait to watch it!
I’ve been sick in bed with the flu all day watching this series and it has brought some seriously needed laughs. And here you’ve blessed us with another one!! At least I don’t have GOUT….
Where I work we don't have a point system but if we get a consultation or write up for anything we are basically forced to sign it, or we can be fired. It's insane.
@@TheFreakonthenet sensibly, you should have at least half that saved up before the kid arrives. People think struggling in parenthood is just the norm and acceptable. It shouldn’t be.
@@kissit012 Unfortunately, sometimes shit happens and parents cannot save up that amount. I'm not envious of the current situation in the US. Sometimes birth control fails, and you don't have access to abortion. Is it better for the child to be given up for adoption and experience lifelong trauma just because their parents don't have $10,000 saved up? You're being outrageous right now. I'm not saying this person deserves that money AT ALL but that shouldn't be generalised to the rest of the population.
Hello! USA service worker here. Tipping is a nightmare out here. The reason the person asked if they were receiving the tips is because business owners and managers can cap our tips (so we couldn't make more than a certain amount regardless of how much we worked) or they can pay an hourly wage above minimum wage (which is well below a living wage) they aren't obligated to give us anything. It changes state to state because we're the united states of nonsense. If it were a tip pool, they would have answered "yes I keep this" because it comes back to them in one way or another. They answered no because the business probably doesn't give it to them. Especially since they said they're 16, it's very easy for businesses to take advantage. Love you both!!
I've been watching the Gag videos recently after re-fonding you & Lux after a few years & now have been listening to the episodes on Spotify at work. I have to say, you two have been keeping me sane the past week since listening. Thank you so much for the entertainment, chaos & hilarity of Gag of the Millenial. You two never fail to make me laugh out loud at work and on my drive home. I can't wait for many more episodes to come.. especially seeing as I'm a couple episodes away from being up to date on spotify! ❤️
That tattoo story was fucking hilarious. I do personally think tattoo prices have gotten out of hand and don’t like going to artists that charge by the hour as I’ve had many an occasion (across the states specially) where the artist was purposely taking forever to charge even more. I’ve had much better experiences with artists that negotiate a base price for their work.
Unfortunately in the US a lot of places even require you find your own cover. I worked at a gas station and ended up with a staff infection in my foot from a mosquito bite reaction and I was told they don't accept doctors notes and if I didn't find my own cover it would be considered a no call no show and I'd be terminated 🙃
The coming out story is weirdly similar to my own coming out story (which only happened a year ago despite me being a grown adult, whoops). I started dating my best friend and I hadn't ever officially come out to my family, but figured they knew. It was something I hid for so long that I had built it up a lot, so once I went to tell my mom I just burst into tears before saying anything. She tried comforting me by saying she probably knew what I was going to say. I said I wasn't completely straight (bi), and she said she always knew and then said that I must be dating my friend. I also told her I wished she would've said something sooner so I didn't have to go through everything but she said it wasn't her place. I found that kind of comforting though since I knew she loved me and that nothing was going to change. (She also told the rest of the family for me since I didn't want to, none of them were shocked lol). I hope that they patched stuff up and that the daughter gets all the support in the world! It's very scary to come out but the worst parts over! It'll just get better living your true self! And take your time, you deserve to come out on your own terms! Took me 23 years lol
@@RolyWestYT A very fun watch, as always. Hope my coworker that I showed an old video of yours now watches you! He found y'all hilarious! (likened it to Monty Python)
In regards to the mother and the young girl coming out: I found Luxeria’s thoughts on this interesting. I personally didn’t see anything wrong with the way the mother handled it, and I think her daughter was just having a bit of teenage moment there. As a transgender person I do absolutely get how scary it is to come out and that it’s a big moment! When I came out to my mother (I didn’t straight up say I’m transgender, but that I was questioning and I’m pretty sure I am) and my mother just said “okay, and?” Like as if to say okay, that’s fine, but why are you so upset? Like more focused on why I was so upset. And I didn’t see anything wrong with it, in fact it was a huge relief for me that it was such an insignificant thing.
I think it might be the fact that for the daughter it has been something incredibly important that she has been extremely anxious about and thought about doing for a long time. Her reality is that she was risking her mother abandoning her, so while the mother clearly didn't mean to offend her, she kind of brushed off her daughter's feelings while accepting her. In that moment the daughter would have probably needed comfort and assurance and the mother acknowledging that coming out must have been very hard for her and she was proud of her and loved her no matter what. She needed the mum to in a way catch her feelings, but she didn't, and that can be very bewildering because she was left without that emotional comforting. And then she reacted to it like a typical teen would.
Cake woman sounds like she is mad jealous of the attention on the birthday girl, instead of being on her/her bio daughter :/ resentful even? She is a full orifice. Defo.
A lot of work places in my area use those point systems. It's absolutely terrible, people come to work instead of taking care of themselves, I've seen people collapse at work, come in with injuries because they had low points and not enough PTO. I've also seen work places find ways to delay retirement against the wishes of an employee with insane penalties and probation periods. Just terrible
"You get what you pay for" say it louder for the people in the back! My last tattoo was about 6 hours of work, I had booked a 3 hour slot with my artist but had to stop after 2 for the initial work/placement of details. He very politely said that booking two 2-hour sessions for the rest was fine but he couldn't refund me for the hour left of that first appointment and I was totally fine with that. I knew that I had paid for that hour and he wouldn't be able to get anyone in for a small design in that one hour slot at immediate notice so I just laughed and said he could at least have a nice chilled break, and since his work was AMAZING he totally deserved it.
Hi everyone! I do hope you enjoy this one! PLEASE hit like on the video and leave me a comment! It really helps
Hello beautiful people my 2 favourite people in the one place love listen to yer podcast in work binge watching tonight tho 🥰🥰🌈🌈💞💞💞
I live in the U.S. and in the state I live in waiters and waitresses make $2.25 an hour plus tips. So at least where I live they don't make much on the hour.
Tell Lux she looks so beautiful!
Ok, I just had to share. My 4-year-old daughter walked up while I was watching and started talking about how she loves the lava lamp and Roly's phone. She thinks the pattern is pretty. Then she points to Luxeria, "I like the girl. She looks like a vampire." I asked does she look cool and she answered yes. I thought it was adorable!
Adorable little girl 🥰
Hahahaha I mean she's not wrong xD
I'm imagining Luxeria with vampire teeth now.. lol that would look really cool!!
@@its_me_jayjo Right! I was thinking that too.
I am LIVINGGGG for Vamp!Luxeria
As someone who wasn't allowed birthday dinners but all my step siblings were. The cake story hurt me that women has no problem plowing over that girl for her child. Being the only kid who doesn't get specific birthday stuff gives you a very unpleasant feeling of no one cares. I'm glad the dad changed it for his daughter.
That’s so fucked up I hope you get to celebrate and enjoy your birthdays now
@@chesiresays I don't really talk to anybody but my brother on that side of the family. When my mom found out she was livid and I've had amazing birthdays since.
@@cautiousgalaxy4613 that side of the family is nothing but gout, I’m glad your mother has given you happy birthdays tho!
That’s awful kind of same thing happened to me. Just different situations, but still it’s not right and you deserve the best birthdays here on out! 🎉❤
@@cautiousgalaxy4613 I'm glad you're getting them now😊
When I came out as ace to my mother, I did it over text late at night. She had barely any response, something along the lines of "Ok. I will always love you no matter what." About 10 minutes later, she came bursting into my room "I'm so sorry I responded like that! I was falling asleep!" I saw no issue with how she responded, but she seemed to feel as though she was too dismissive. She told me to never tell her important news like that over text ever again, and I personally though it was really cute. I think she had an inkling that I was queer all along, because if there was something queer happening, she'd always tell me how there was nothing wrong with being queer and how she'd love me no matter my identity. Hell, once she said "You'll always be my (insert name). Wait I don't mean it like that, if you're trans then you won't be (insert name)... You'll always be my kid" lol. I love my mom. sorry for the paragraph!
Your mom sounds lovely ❤
that's so gosh darn cute
Your Mum is wonderful! I'm so glad you've had such a loving home 😊
"luxeria is now a lesbian" FINALLY my day has come
😂😂😂
I know right? and this look is not doing anything to reduce my massive crush *cries in gay*
Thought the same thing 😭🤣
Yes!!! I got a bit too excited by that
Got too excited as well 😂😂😂 FINALLY I HAD A CHANCE
The dad in the birthday cake story is an absolute hero of a man, I’m so proud of him being so resolute for his daughter.
Yep. I'd have left her arse then and there
The only thing I've ever learnt from that sub is that most redditors' problems come from either a) getting married with the wrong person/family (wedding drama) or b) not learning their lesson the first time and getting remarried once, twice, etc (step-family drama).
Yes!!
Maybe redditors shouldn’t get married 💀
Definitely have step-family drama 🙄 it’s nonsense!
Stay single and child free 😌 ✨️
…and yet we gays are accused of "ruining marriage".
The story about the girl that was in the hospital is unfortunately a super common thing here in the US. . . . Several years ago I had a bad case of pneumonia and was borderline hospitalized because of my symptoms. One of the managers I worked for at the time didn't believe that I had pneumonia, despite providing the documentation from my doctor. I missed 2 days of work and ended up being forced to work throughout the rest of my illness with pneumonia due to being threatened to be fired, because I was in a leadership role and I quote "We don't write up leadership for absences, we fire them" Due to that, I had to deal with the symptoms/side effects of pneumonia well longer than if I were able to stay home and rest.
That’s absolutely f-ing horrible! Sorry you went through that
@@RolyWestYT Thank you, I fled that job the second I could guarantee new employment. And I strongly advocate to people to never work for them if I hear anybody near me saying they're going to apply to that place. They were the most awful 6 years of my life. 😂
One of the many reasons why I describe the US as “A third world country wearing a gucci belt”
It may seem all rich and powerful on the outside but on the inside the average US citizen is struggling to get by..
This place is embarrassing..
This is just one of a myriad of reasons why the United States can be a total dumpster fire of a nation :(. Your humanity doesn't matter here unless those in power can profit off your existence.
@@KingOfGaymes I like that analogy.
I LOVED this one! We have such good (and entirely unhinged) advice 😂🖤
Oh good!! Yes I think we were actually very grown up in this one 😂
And we love YEW TEW.
I do love the "Am I the A-Hole?" vids cause I do love how you two converse about it. 2 perspectives make it so much more interesting man!
Oh yes feels a bit weird to say about myself and but do think we have quite good chats ok and off camera about life stuff and like to think we give good advice
Oh my goodness, that first one is gut-wrenching! My husband and I are both infertile and when we found out, we had a legitimate conversation about whether the other would leave to try to have children with another person who wasn't infertile and we both adamantly told the other that we weren't going anywhere! I say that to say that, even in the most committed relationships (which is what I would consider ours to be) it's still a huge fear and to have your person leave you and then a friend who rubs it in your face?! Talk about traumatic experiences! That friend is so toxic and I am glad that the other friend tattled on her!
The last one really hit me. I came out to my parents a few years back (maybe around the age of 20 or 21) and my mom also said "I know" however she also added "I know, and we still love you as much as finding out we we're pregnant with you. As long as your partner treats you well and you're happy and safe thats all we want for you. You are still Nettie (my nickname) and will always be Nettie 💜". We had a lovely talk about my queerness and was even comfortable telling them that I was also non-binary. My mom apologized for misgendering me for all of my life and never knew that part of myself. She even wanted to know what pronouns I would prefer and even if I wanted to change my name, but politely asked if it was ok to still call me Nettie to which I totally don't mind due to the name never bringing sorrow and always made me feel happy whenever family called me it. Now at 24 I am proud to be openly non-binary with a beautiful relationship with another woman for almost a year now. Never in my life would I have thought to have the same love and support from close family members while being open and honest with myself. As far as I know there is no one else in my long list of family members who are part of the LGBTQ+ community that understand coming out and everything. Some of them do make errors on accidentally saying things like "but who's the man of the relationship" and very straight stereotype comments but they just don't know better and when I tell them that the comment was not appropriate they'd sincerely apologize and don't back the same mistake again.
I'm sorry that my story isn't juicy drama however I wanted to get it out there that some straights are ok 👌 😆 💜
Oh, no, it's good to have a wholesome story after hearing about these sh1tshows. 😃
And as for the confused relatives asking, "but which one is the man?" Ask them, "So, which chopstick is the knife and which is the fork?"😉
That usually helps them get a clue.
Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story of love and acceptance. It's always wonderful to hear stories like yours.
That's beautiful
Why are you apologizing for sharing such a beautiful and amazing story?
We need happy and positive stories more than ever as we are so attracted and attached to the bad.
Ofcourse straight people are okay. Homophobic people are not.
Being straight doesn't mean you are automatically homophobic. Seriously.
Honestly such a beautiful story, I hope one day all families can be this amazing
There was a surgeon in 2013 who burned his initials into patients' organs. He lost his medical license. Going of that premises, totally not the a-hole for complaining about the tattoo tag!
Also I just love you two and your content :D
Not to mention it wasn't his original tattoo design, he did the work and maybe added his own elements, but it wasn't his design!
@@combustiblelemons1054 Not only that, but it was also a memorial piece, something very sentimental, so her putting her initials in it is very insensitive. Her not even asking makes it even worse.
Omg guys... a lady at work came out and told us in a meeting she had Gout and I spat my coffee out everywhere 😳 it went up my nose, down my scrubs and on the floor. Thanks guys, you have permanently changed the reaction my brain has to this word 😅😂
Right! Every time some says gout I feel the irrepressible urge to shout GOUT 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤣🤣
Oh god xD
Since gout wasn't part of my english vocabular and I have been too lazy to look it up, have I just counted it as a expression. But now thanks to this comment have I gotten around to look up what it actually is. So now I know. :)
Haha see! They're both entertaining and educating!! 😂
Lol I have to research different types of arthritis for a project and everytime I have to go into something to do with gout it makes me laugh
As a person who has allot of tattoos, I'm blessed with having a close friend who's been tattooing since 1988. And owns his own studio. He is constantly charging me much less then what he charges his normal clients. As a rule of thumb, I tip him the difference, plus alittle extra. Because I know I can't go anywhere and get the quality I get from him. His work stands on its own. But because he's a friend I can't bring myself to tell him to just charge me normally. Which is why I tip so much. I know if I told him too, he would probably laugh and say something like, you already scratched my back. Let me scratch yours. This goes back too all the free coffee I gave him. Which I don't equivocate to his work as an artist. Don't take advantage of your friends!
tattoo theft is something im trying super hard to avoid entirely. ive spent weeks trying to design a memorial tattoo that wont seem as if im copying someone elses design. its a struggle but this is a lovely break from the art process
I mean if you design it, doesn’t that instantly make it not theft? It’s your design, even if it looks similar to another’s design.. it’s still yours that you made isn’t it?
Or could it be treated kind of like accidental plagiarism?
i personally wouldnt call it theft as im making it using like stock images for reference as im not good at drawing inanimate objects yet. and for the accidental plagiarism, thats whats making me err on the side of caution and try to figure out how to make it different from others. so far i have very few ideas
I have a memorial tattoo for a close family friend. I got the design of his necklace that he always wore tattooed over my heart. (my artist even left out 1 gem cuz his was missing one) super simple but definitely unique. maybe do something like that if you're worried about tattoo theft. :)
Design it and don’t show it off. Literally the only way
@@brvis3dr0s39 I did that same thing with my memorial tattoo. I took some free access clip art and tweaked it, bought access to a font that I loved, and carefully worked everything into a design that I wanted. 💗
The one about the fiancé wanting to catch the children in a trap is so disturbing to me. It’s like he just wants to experiment with young minds.
Also, semi-related to the video, the tattoo one reminded me of how surprising it is that oli didn’t copy any of Jimin’s tattoos. Glad for it, but it’s just interesting.
Anyways this was a ride lol a very fun one 💜
Yeah, I had parents that liked to mess with my head. It's insane and very damaging.
This reminded me of an even worse version of my step mom's. One of them would say that we stole things and ground us until one of us came forward even when neither of us had done anything at all and the other one wouldn't let us go anywhere in her house without someone else being there (besides the living room and bathroom) because apparently we were awful kids who couldn't be trusted although it was ALWAYS her kids
It sucked bro and it makes you grow up thinking you are awful and worthless
@@leobeboop4944 yep. Jerks
The only thing that fiancé is going to teach those kids by acting that way is that they can't trust him with anything he says and they will always have to be on their toes around him. It's messed up.
@@leobeboop4944 That's horrible. I hope you no longer have to have anything to do with those two stepcvnts.
It’s so funny to me that two people who don’t want kids (which is totally understandable) would be two awesome parents. I bet Auntie Lux and Uncle Roly are very beloved by the kids in their lives.
Well there *is* a difference between being able to handle children very well but can give them back when you have enough and having to deal with them for the rest of your life. lol
As a parent, I agree!
I didn’t come out to my parents until I was 35. My dad, who used to absolutely refuse that his kids could be gay, surprised me by acknowledging that he already knew and accepted it. I can certainly see how the 16f in last story felt. Putting yourself through hell for, thankfully, no reason. But not everyone has parents that will understand. Kudos to the mom for being so accepting and supportive though!
I feel like if you have the need to come out to your parents and they aren't very clear about having a positive attitude towards queer people, it will be stressful. Being young even adds to that because you are probably financially dependent on them. I was in my early 20's when I came out to my mum and I was nervous as hell because there was still that nagging fear of what if she hates me and doesn't want anything to do with me. Her response was basically "Well yeah, isn't that what you've been hinting all along?", so that AITA really resonated with me. There's a clash with expectations when for the kid it's something incredibly important and scary and the parent acts all casual like they were talking about the weather.
The birthday cake one makes me mad. The only time it would be ok to change it would be if there was an airborne allergic reaction issue like how some people are with peanuts. Give the birthday girl get chocolate cake!
Exactly! And I can understand getting a smaller cake/ cupcake(s) AS WELL AS the main cake if there was someone that was allergic but to change the cake???
@@leobeboop4944 Exactly, and if she wanted anothe cake she could have bought one herself lmao
The tattoo revenge-plot line was delicious!
Would I be that bitch if somebody did that to me? Absolutely, and I don't care if that would make me an a-hole. 1) This person was clearly aware that tattoo theft is a shitty thing to do, PERIOD, not to mention when it was something as personal as in this case, since they wouldn't tell them what the design was when directly asked, 2) They asked this person for recommendations /specifically/ mentioning that they didn't want to pay a lot for it. Like Roly and Lux said, you get what you pay for. If the person was dumb enough to not do any research aside from asking the person whose tattoo they wanted to steal, they were practically begging for it. I am far too vindictive to label the tattoo person as an a-hole. I think they did a wonderful job and maybe the tattoo thief will think twice before trying to pull that same shit again. Maybe they can ponder upon it while scratching up the money to have the disaster covered up or lasered.
Oh that cake story makes me SOOOO mad!! That wasn’t even a compromise! A compromise would perhaps be to get a tear apart cake where there are both vanilla and chocolate cupcakes (if the birthday person is up for that) if the birthday person would prefer a whole chocolate cake, the other person can have something else!!!
If there's anything to take away from some of these stories, it's that it's never too late or too early to divorce someone.
When Luxaria said artist putting a tag saying “made by woman” by brain immediately said “imagine if all our mums did that” 🤣
Roly and Lux, I’d love for you to do a whole video on how to find a good tattoo artist, what questions to ask, what to look out for. I think that would be very interesting and educational for those of us contemplating a tattoo in the future. Thank you both! I absolutely love your personalities and humour! ❤❤❤
About the wedding date excluder, the expectation that a bride or groom at a large-ish wedding knows every single attendee intimately/very personally is sorta crazy to me! Wouldn’t there be at least one or two aunts, or uncles, cousins, nephews etc. that you never met?
Usually people know slightly under half the people at their wedding. You have your friends and family, and you might know their plus ones so say 90%. Then your partners friends and family, whom you might have met a few, and probably don't know most, and are significantly less likely to know their plus ones. So by the time you crunch it out, it's usually just under half. And about a 15% chance neither of you will know them.
Hello and welcome to Ultimate World of Chaotic Gout x
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I just had a theatre performance and it went so well! This is a perfect way to end my night
Oh that’s wonderful!! ❤
Ooh that sounds so cool, are you in a theatre school or something like that 🎭
@@sini4971 I wish! I do drama A-Level and did an exam piece
Good for you sweety! We are applauding you too!
@@norrie2460 that sounds really interesting, I'm in a visual arts school
The last story gives me the feeling that the parent is comfortable with the concept and doesn't consider it to be a big deal. I like to think that it's a side of the tides turning for the positive
So excited to see you guys today. I’m sick and having a trashy day but you two always make it better.
Hope tomorrow is better for you lovely ❤
More like “Am I Stuck in the K-Hole”
Love seeing you two together ❤
😂😂😂😂
With the coming out story, it feels like the kid wanted it to be more dramatic/emotional. I remember "coming out" to my brothers separately and one just said "yeah" while the other was genuinely upset that I just mentioned it offhand at a party. He'd clearly known for a long time (I've always been pretty open, just never put a word or label to it. Plus he always made jokes), but he wanted that emotional, bonding moment.
I think the daughter was looking for that too. she'd built it up so much in her head that she couldn't feel relief when it was just accepted. I can definitely relate to that lol.
But, honestly, I kinda like the way the mom thought. Not expecting her kid to come out and to just show up with their partner is kind of what I wish was the norm. There's a lot of history with coming out, but it'd be great if people just didn't assume and let kids figure themselves out.
Half of these felt like they should have been asking "is this abuse?"😭 and the situation with the tip absolutely felt like a setup to me
The saying "This is a gift, not a tip" is pretty common from my experience. I've definitely used it a few times when I have a waiter/waitress that was having a difficult time because tipping in the US is indeed insane. It's basically a way to say that the tip does not need to be included when they are reporting their wages as a small f you to the businesses that refuse to pay their workers an actual wage and do a lot of underhanded things to get out of having to pay their workers what they deserve
Loved listening to you both of you sharing AITA stories especially "last night dahlia passed away" sinister giggles lol 😆 love streams with both of you
I love it when you two are on. I found I could relate to some of these stories. Especially the one with the man setting up the children. My stepdad couldn’t set up me and my sister, we didn’t fall for it. So he’d make up things to make us look like bad kids. So we’d have to have “a talk”. Usually they didn’t end nice. I’m an old woman now, and I won’t put up with someone that is a manipulator. Especially if it harmful to a young child.
My sister is currently dealing with a situation like the job one, almost exactly. She covers so many shifts and stays late, but she had a late notice call in for being in the emergency department for an intestinal blockage, something that can KILL YOU! She literally was talking to me about that and any how apparently, their location was overstaffed for awhile and unable to provide needed working hours, so the manager overcompensated and transferred too many employees to another location and now they are constantly short-staffed. Also, my sister had to contact all of the employees to see if anyone could fill in for her, which she did. I'm sorry but that's the manager's job, especially when the employee is actively dying in the hospital!
Hope your sister is doing ok and gets better soon!
@@leobeboop4944 Thank you for the well wishes.
the way i’ve watched every gag of the millennial and get so excited when a new one is uploaded ❤️
Same :D
I adore these videos! Feel free to do them on a monthly basis, I never get sick of this subreddit 😂❤
16:48 the look Luxeria gives the camera is so funny on a spiritual level
I gotta tell you, every single time the two of you start to laugh, my smallest cat (Isabella da Boo) and my largest (Passithea First of Floofs. And yes, I know they are ridiculous names but A: they weirdly fit and B: the giggle it gives when the vet has to call out their name during checkups just gives me great joy!) jump up onto the desk, pat the screen and then starting chatter/chittering at each other. Even pets love the energy between you two! And one always perks up to Luxeria's voice and the other rolls around and purrs at Roly's. It makes something that is already wonderful to watch turn into something even more joyful as my furrbabies get in on the fun.
Theres something magical about watching rolys background gradually evolving with new lights
When I came out at 21 I was shaking, ready to pass out. My mom barely even looked up from the dishes and said “okay and?”
Then I nearly passed out from the whiplash. We laugh so hard about it now
On the tattoo think, my artist asked me if he could add purple to a shadow before he did it. You absolutely should ask before putting your initials on somebody.
I'm a single mother of 2. Their father ran off after I had the two kids. Hasn't been heard of since. Sis let me tell you, as much as I adore my children. If I knew then what I know now, I wouldn't want to put a child through all the crap that comes with having a single parent. Darling woman you dodged a bullet with your husband and your "friend". As much as it doesn't feel like it now. Trust me, that other woman will get older and he will probably run off for a younger model. Love yourself sweetheart.
i feel bad for the person who got the same tattoo as their dad. now, no matter what, when they see their tattoo, they will probably get negative emotions associated with it because of all the drama around it/the tattoo artist, rather than just an homage to their father and grandfather.
Omg my day gets 1 million times better when Roly and Luxeria post ❤❤
YAAASSS
I love AITA readings, they can be so dramatic! I also appreciate how you both seem very grounded and down to earth in your perspective of things :)
Oh man, the dad with the birthday cake is fantastic. My dad forgot my 13th birthday completely until 6pm then came to me and said "its your birthday" and that was it. He's a great dad and it's great to hear about him standing up for his daughter.
I was just binging the rest of these I hadn’t listened to yet last night so I’m so excited to see a new one today, so happy!!! ❤❤ love you guys!!
So glad to hear you enjoy them ❤❤
With the tattoo scenario, if someone had informed me that they wanted to put their initials within a specific design in order to prevent people from copying them or that is just the way they do things and they informed me of it then I would be okay or I would go to somebody else. But if they did not tell me beforehand that they were going to do that I would 100% be very upset
I just got home, I’m so sore I didn’t sleep well last night. Time to eat my Mc Donald’s and chill & listen to my two favorite TH-camrs ❤
To me getting a "i know, you've got gay written all over your face" would've been the best reaction ever, I would've peed myself from laughing. Instead I got a "no you're not" from one and silence from the other and my reaction to them was "ok bet" so yeah. Everyone reacts differently tho and I think it might've been better to just thank her for telling you and then a few days later bring up that you knew with a bit of humor when she's not so on alert for everything and anything.
This podcast is literally my favourite thing on TH-cam
Thanks Lily ❤
The 2 of you were right in regards to the tips. A lot of waiter/waitress here in TX at least are paid $2.18 hr plus tips. Which is way below minimum wage to begin with. Some places make you take your tips and split them between each section of the "house" such as cooks, bartenders etc. Some will allow you to completely keep your tips. I am not sure what the manager was thinking! People are strange when it comes to money.
I'm so excited!!! I have watched you on TH-cam Roly for almost a decade and I've very recently found Luxeria because I've loved the gag of the millennium especially the am I the ahole posts! Thank you for sharing! Sending love
"birthdays aren't a time for favouritism"
proceeds to show blatant favouritism for her bio daughter over her step-daughter on her step-daughter's birthday
they could have literally gotten a chocolate cake and also gotten like a smaller/less expensive cake that's vanilla so that the other daughter doesn't miss out on cake and anyone else who might not like chocolate cake can then also have some of that. it's such an easy issue to fix and literally the step-mother is being so horrible, it's time for a divorce
This is so hilarious, made my exhausting day better. So ty you two! Excited to watch the first one I apparently missed. ♡
I don't think recommending the bad artist was aholey. You sign a long paper, it's permanent, you're responsible for researching & it's typically expensive for good work. Basically what Roly said.
I've had tattoos copied and it really ticks me off for the artist & myself since I do my own art for the artist to make their own. Inspiration for ideas is fine, stealing ain't it sis.
For the wedding one, unless the plus one date caused a scene or something unacceptable, I don’t see why one person couldn’t be there. Especially as it was the gf of her fiancé’s best friend from out of town. It would be nice for him to have someone to talk to that he knows.
What a great way to finish my birthday 😊 Love your energy and friendship together! 💜
Oh HAPPY BIRTHDAY ❤
@@RolyWestYT thank you so much!
I'm 43 and I relate to being abruptly blunt. I see patterns and notice things "too much" sometimes. Luckily, lately this includes watching things like this and recognizing hints of my behaviors.
It's very helpful in becoming a better person and I appreciate videos like yours 😊
Thank you!
This series is my absolute favorite from the both of you.
I always smile when you I see a new video from you and Luxaria.
Thank you! ❤
I can only assume the story about the person being penalised for being off work in hospital is from America because that would literally be illegal in Australia (and probably most other developed countries tbh)
When you see Luxeria it's just like, have you ever seen a woman so beautiful you could cry?
She's ✨ exquisite ✨
Thanks
Hello! Every time when I see both of you, you guys boost my serotonin. Also I love you guy’s videos. Keep up the great work!
Awesome! Thank you!
For the last story, I feel like the mom's "you've got gay written all over your face" was an overcompensating kind of comment. Like, trying to make a joke to prove how comfortable she is what it. But she definitely shouldn't have said it. A hug and a thanks you for telling me would have worked a lot better. Although, mom's are human too, and I think this was just a misstep. The daughter's feelings are very valid and I think after she's had a little time to cool off, an apology from the mom will make her feel better. No one is truly in the wrong and I'm sure their relationship will mend soon.
I think the Birthday Cake story is a prime example for "main character syndrome". They didn't even think about "let's get the birthday girl her chocolate cake and get the other girl and her mother a small vanilla cake to share". No, no compromise whatsoever, it has to be the way i want it and no other! But the father was right, even though i believe in a functional relationship a compromise should be the first thing coming to their minds so everyone is happy 😅
That was my thought. My sister LOVES German chocolate cake and I despise it. She got one every year she asked for one and I'd just get one of those single cake pieces from Safeway of whatever flavor I wanted. Same for my father's birthday because he loves carrot cake, which I also hate. When I got lemon cakes, my sister would get a slice of German chocolate. It's not that big of a deal. Sure, birthdays are about the birthday person, but everyone involved should be able to enjoy they whole experience, too
@@HUMC4L exactly! We do it the same way. XD people love to make things as complicated as possible apparently
It’s not their celebration?? They don’t seem to care about the younger daughter anyway so maybe if they can’t behave they don’t have to come.
What? We have to wait six months for another "Am I the A-Hole"????? Y'all should be doing this at least once a month. LOVE it!! Roly, that shirt is freaking awesome!!! Is it from a fan? Someone did a great job designing it.
I'm always so excited when the girls get together always feels like we're all having a little kiki
When I came out my mom said I know too, but she had some more grace with it!! She said somethin to the effect of "my love of course I already knew that your my daughter I love you every part, I may not full understand all of it but I love it all because it you my baby girl an I can't not love you." Saying I know isn't bad if just has to come with some grace as well
Yeah, the mom in story essentially said, “well duh” which to an anxious teen trying to reveal something very personal can feel very...dismissive?
When I came out to my mom, she came out to me, and we bonded over it.
Ive met a woman like that bridezilla before! My boyfriends long time best friend (they had been inseparable for well over a decade by the time I met my now bf. The best friend lived across the street and they would work on house projects (stacking wood for winter, roofing, that sort of thing) and get out deep into the backcountry together (ski guides). After one terrible accident one winter where the BFFs longtime girlfriend nearly died in an avalanche he inadvertently triggered and then they broke up, my bfs friend was super depressed so no one was worried (if anything we were stoked) when he started seeing this gal who was very different from our usual. She didn't do outdoorsy stuff (and was rather un athletic so legit couldnt) and was kind of high maintenance right off the bat, but again, we just were glad he wasnt focused on the accident any more. Over the first few months of their relationship she began isolating and distancing herself from longtime friends of his before genuinely acting nuts (one day she was mad he went climbing with some guys so she freaked out went to a bar alone and was texting our friend about how "when" she "gets raped" it will be "all" his "fault." Needless to say I was done with her after that. It didnt help she was a mean girl who was super passive aggressive and nasty to all female friends but particularly me. Somehow she convinced our friend that they HAVE to get married ASAP because she requires to be pregnant by age 30. Obviously myself and the rest of his friends were like DUDE, she is nuts. He even needed help from us paying for the engagement ring. My bf (as the best man and bff) spent about 6 months shuttling 4 hours each way (seasonal work means we have to travel down to the main house part of the year) to prepare this wedding with his bff only to have this disgusting girl tell him two weeks before the wedding (he already bought and paid for the tacky suits she required the groomsmen to wear) that actually as the best man he wasnt allowed to bring me as a date because I would "distract" from her "moment." She apparently did this to a couple other women who she perceived to be more attractive than her (not just me) despite their having known her now-husband longer than her. All of us too had been in relationships for a very long time with our partners compared to hers. My bf told his bff that legit if he allows his wife to behave like this then their relationship is done.
Needless to say my bf did not go to the doomed wedding and within a year this horrible woman has convinced her husband, our former bff, to sell his paid for home in Jackson WY within walking distance from the high school so they can move out to this shitty commuter neighborhood that will now force him to commute well over an hour each way. Some people really are assholes with no care of others.
dunno know why but I only watched your piercing reaction videos but your shared charisma is just lovely
The story with the tattoo is a case of "yes, you are technically the asshole but it was kinda deserved"
I always save these videos for the weekends so I can chill, have a cup of tea and feel like I’m a part of a good gossip session. We love you beautiful queens 🙏🏼🥰
Yayyy! Always nice to watch these at the end of a stressful day! And these AITAH episodes are my favourite 🥰
Thanks Steph! It’s always great to make these ones!!
Literally this is my favourite podcast of all time and I can’t explain why it’s just amazing, listen to it constantly and re listen to episodes when there’s no new ones cause it’s honestly just such comfort content for me, especially on my way to and from college :) thanks for all the laughs!!!
On the topic of coming out: I'm pan - i was with my ex wife for 20 years. I ended up a single parent and raised my two sons. I didn't come out officially until I married my now husband when it became legal. I had to call my now grown sons and be like... btw... I just got married to my "friend" who you've known for several years. Luckily, my sons and my daughter-in-law are amazing people and were like - congratulations!! As long as you're happy it's all good. That was 7 years ago.
I was ill and feeling like crap, just sat down with my honey and lemon tea and saw this video had just been uploaded overnight. Really made my day, I can’t wait to watch it!
You are both STUNNING! ❤
Thank you so much!!
I’ve been sick in bed with the flu all day watching this series and it has brought some seriously needed laughs. And here you’ve blessed us with another one!! At least I don’t have GOUT….
We love Roly and Luxeria ☺️
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this show is so healing😅 idk if ive commented that before but like i relate to these and the support and common sense feels so refreshing 💚
Surprised to hear luxeria isn't dead or rotting in today's episode intro LOL i love you
Hahaha she’s a changed woman
Where I work we don't have a point system but if we get a consultation or write up for anything we are basically forced to sign it, or we can be fired. It's insane.
If you cannot afford IVF treatments then you can't afford to raise a child
IVF can cost upwards of $15-20k out of pocket. I've never been required to have a random spare $20k for an expense for a kid (Australian here).
@@TheFreakonthenet sensibly, you should have at least half that saved up before the kid arrives. People think struggling in parenthood is just the norm and acceptable. It shouldn’t be.
@@kissit012 Unfortunately, sometimes shit happens and parents cannot save up that amount. I'm not envious of the current situation in the US. Sometimes birth control fails, and you don't have access to abortion. Is it better for the child to be given up for adoption and experience lifelong trauma just because their parents don't have $10,000 saved up? You're being outrageous right now. I'm not saying this person deserves that money AT ALL but that shouldn't be generalised to the rest of the population.
So only the rich should have kids? What a take.
@@kissit012youre describing eugenics. Not only rich people deserve children
Hello! USA service worker here. Tipping is a nightmare out here. The reason the person asked if they were receiving the tips is because business owners and managers can cap our tips (so we couldn't make more than a certain amount regardless of how much we worked) or they can pay an hourly wage above minimum wage (which is well below a living wage) they aren't obligated to give us anything. It changes state to state because we're the united states of nonsense. If it were a tip pool, they would have answered "yes I keep this" because it comes back to them in one way or another. They answered no because the business probably doesn't give it to them. Especially since they said they're 16, it's very easy for businesses to take advantage. Love you both!!
You two always brighten my day. 😍
You are so kind ❤
I've been watching the Gag videos recently after re-fonding you & Lux after a few years & now have been listening to the episodes on Spotify at work. I have to say, you two have been keeping me sane the past week since listening. Thank you so much for the entertainment, chaos & hilarity of Gag of the Millenial. You two never fail to make me laugh out loud at work and on my drive home. I can't wait for many more episodes to come.. especially seeing as I'm a couple episodes away from being up to date on spotify! ❤️
That tattoo story was fucking hilarious. I do personally think tattoo prices have gotten out of hand and don’t like going to artists that charge by the hour as I’ve had many an occasion (across the states specially) where the artist was purposely taking forever to charge even more. I’ve had much better experiences with artists that negotiate a base price for their work.
Unfortunately in the US a lot of places even require you find your own cover. I worked at a gas station and ended up with a staff infection in my foot from a mosquito bite reaction and I was told they don't accept doctors notes and if I didn't find my own cover it would be considered a no call no show and I'd be terminated 🙃
The coming out story is weirdly similar to my own coming out story (which only happened a year ago despite me being a grown adult, whoops). I started dating my best friend and I hadn't ever officially come out to my family, but figured they knew. It was something I hid for so long that I had built it up a lot, so once I went to tell my mom I just burst into tears before saying anything. She tried comforting me by saying she probably knew what I was going to say. I said I wasn't completely straight (bi), and she said she always knew and then said that I must be dating my friend. I also told her I wished she would've said something sooner so I didn't have to go through everything but she said it wasn't her place. I found that kind of comforting though since I knew she loved me and that nothing was going to change. (She also told the rest of the family for me since I didn't want to, none of them were shocked lol). I hope that they patched stuff up and that the daughter gets all the support in the world! It's very scary to come out but the worst parts over! It'll just get better living your true self! And take your time, you deserve to come out on your own terms! Took me 23 years lol
I've been feeling so stressed out today. I needed this, so thank you so much!
You are so welcome! Hope tomorrow is better for you ❤
Sorry I'm late.
Once again, jealous of Lux's outfit.
And once again, a great GotM episode.
Hey lovely!! Thank you! Hope you enjoy it all ❤❤
@@RolyWestYT A very fun watch, as always.
Hope my coworker that I showed an old video of yours now watches you! He found y'all hilarious! (likened it to Monty Python)
I have been really enjoying gag of the millennial keep it going because it’s so interesting and entertaining to watch.
In regards to the mother and the young girl coming out: I found Luxeria’s thoughts on this interesting. I personally didn’t see anything wrong with the way the mother handled it, and I think her daughter was just having a bit of teenage moment there. As a transgender person I do absolutely get how scary it is to come out and that it’s a big moment! When I came out to my mother (I didn’t straight up say I’m transgender, but that I was questioning and I’m pretty sure I am) and my mother just said “okay, and?” Like as if to say okay, that’s fine, but why are you so upset? Like more focused on why I was so upset. And I didn’t see anything wrong with it, in fact it was a huge relief for me that it was such an insignificant thing.
I think it might be the fact that for the daughter it has been something incredibly important that she has been extremely anxious about and thought about doing for a long time. Her reality is that she was risking her mother abandoning her, so while the mother clearly didn't mean to offend her, she kind of brushed off her daughter's feelings while accepting her. In that moment the daughter would have probably needed comfort and assurance and the mother acknowledging that coming out must have been very hard for her and she was proud of her and loved her no matter what. She needed the mum to in a way catch her feelings, but she didn't, and that can be very bewildering because she was left without that emotional comforting. And then she reacted to it like a typical teen would.
I’ve been sick in bed all week watching yours and Lux’s videos and it has been nothing but wonderful.❤️🥰
Cake woman sounds like she is mad jealous of the attention on the birthday girl, instead of being on her/her bio daughter :/ resentful even? She is a full orifice. Defo.
A lot of work places in my area use those point systems. It's absolutely terrible, people come to work instead of taking care of themselves, I've seen people collapse at work, come in with injuries because they had low points and not enough PTO. I've also seen work places find ways to delay retirement against the wishes of an employee with insane penalties and probation periods. Just terrible
"You get what you pay for" say it louder for the people in the back!
My last tattoo was about 6 hours of work, I had booked a 3 hour slot with my artist but had to stop after 2 for the initial work/placement of details. He very politely said that booking two 2-hour sessions for the rest was fine but he couldn't refund me for the hour left of that first appointment and I was totally fine with that. I knew that I had paid for that hour and he wouldn't be able to get anyone in for a small design in that one hour slot at immediate notice so I just laughed and said he could at least have a nice chilled break, and since his work was AMAZING he totally deserved it.