met danni in eating disorder treatment and I’m so glad I did. I’m so glad she got the chance to share her story. She’s the strongest, most resilient person I’ve ever met. I love you danni❤️
My daughter is 6 months old. For the last 10 years I’ve tried every diet going. All my family has seen me go through it. I’ve obsessed with my weight for years, I counted calories and over exercised too. My daughter will not see me go through it or talk about diets or watch me do a diet. Today is the day I now change for my daughters sake
@@gorefieldluvr6921I mean, you can't tell your kid "you're beautiful just the way you are" and go exercise like an obsessed person. Kids see everything.
Anxiety still so high. Danni is a smart articulate young lady who is fighting her way through such a devastating disease. This seems like a tremendous struggle I can't even imagine. Danni you are a courageous beautiful human being. All power and positive vibes sent your way today and always.
@@SbjsksmNx It seems that slang phrases are used with common regularity these days. "Like" is something you hear often. I do however believe that she expressed her story well for a young person. Perhaps she wasn't as articulate as you would have wished, none the less I don't think I heard to many "know what I mean "just saying 😆Sorry my comment bothered you
@@michellefranklin3479 your comment doesn't bother me. It's just incorrect. It's like Biden's press secretary. Can't call her articulate because she incessantly says "umm." I'm sure she's intelligent and interesting. But she isn't every good adjective out there.
Bless you Danni, your story is a carbon copy of my daughters struggle, she could not overcome it...you have...keep living, loving, striving...you are worth every breath you take on this earth my dear. Peace and love goes out to you.
My beautiful daughter became anorexic in high school after the death of her grandmother, her classmate, and her kumu hula, all in a three month period. I didn't realize she was losing so much weight until her size XXS dress hung off her body. I was working all the time, and one morning when I was leaving for work my daughter said, "Mom, I need you, can't you see I'm dying?" I quit my job that day and stayed home and nursed her back to health. It was the best decision I ever made. If she had died I would never have forgiven myself.
Kids can hide things so well, and things are difficult to see when we as parents are wrapped up providing for them. I am so glad your daughter is better! Good for you for loving her back to health and her allowing you to ❤
Thanks Danni, my sister was anorexic from 12-20 yrs old., unfortunately ended up committing suicide at 36 underlying depression, this really helped me understand what she went through, it was a bit more difficult back then because it was 1992 and we live in Colombia and no one even hardly knew what anorexia was, I remember there was like only one doctor who could treat her and 2 cases in the whole city or something, she also attempted suicide at that young age and the circumstances were eerily similar to your described attempt, now I understand how much my sister suffered, and thank you so much.
You should be proud of yourself for prevailing over your illness. It is one day at a time. That’s all anyone has. Speak to yourself like you would a best friend. Many of us say things to ourselves that we would never say about others. I’m glad you finally love yourself now. The fact is most people are thinking more about their insecurities rather than focusing on ours. Try not to compare yourself to others. Social media is only showing people what they want to be perceived as. We don’t see that difficult, sad days that many people struggle daily. Sounds like your on the right track and thinking more clearly and realistically.
I can’t imagine how hard it was for her mother to find her with the rope around her neck but wow was it incredible to hear how she turned things around. You could sense the pride she had when she said she went on that trip with her friends and actually looked forward to eating and when she said she found happiness by changing her mindset and finding intrinsic motivation to be better I was just so in awe. I’m so happy for her 💜
Wats up Kalilah. Yeah, I felt happy for her seeing how proud she was talking about how when the doctor told her her weight it didn’t bother her. I think she’s gonna be alright. 🤞
I was thinking the opposite. She was taking a long time to get to the point around the beginning. There was some edits to the video, I’m guessing bc she was rambling. She also kinda reminds me of a valley girl with all filler words for example, “like”. She was constantly saying that, for example: “my Dad, like was in my life and like it was so important me to have him there so like”
@@reymysterio7863 Might be her anxiety or just plain nervousness. Lots of people are the same way when the attention is put on them, like myself. I use tons of filler words especially um and uh. Can’t really help it in that moment :/
@@sallyann985 valley girl talk uses a lot of fillers, especially the notorious “like” word. If this is normal English talk to you then you may want to reevaluate how you sound to others. I speak English and I don’t inject “like” in every few sentences to communicate a simple message that doesn’t require it…..Like, that would be unnecessary. 😅
My 17yo daughter struggles with an eating disorder and has the same struggles as this young lady once had. I'm not sure where or when it originated since my husband and I have been supportive, loving, nurturing, affirming parents. She says herself, it's not us but she's not sure what the root cause is. She did mention that, although she already had a negative body image, she did mention that an aunt of hers just helped push her over the edge. We were shopping for her quince dress and it was like 6 months before her party and the aunt said....oh, you have 6 months to lose weight so you can look good in your quince dress... Sadly, that set my daughter off on an eating disorder, self hate, self harm, depression journey. Also, I definitely think social media makes self hate worse. As adults, we have to be VERY careful in the words we use toward our children, nieces, nephews, etc... because they carry ALLOT of weight.
My mom loved me while growing up no doubt about it but I remember her constantly yelling at me for not sucking in my stomach when she herself has suffered from morbid obesity her whole life...On the other hand I always had these comments from relatives shamelessly telling me not get fat like her ...Im almost 33 years old and I still struggle everyday with my self image and food intake. Reasure your daughter how lovely and amazing she is, sometimes the only thing we crave for is being accepted for those who are the closest to us
@@liz9657 Thank you for your input. Yes, as her mother, I'm learning what to say and what not to say. I can tell her a million times that she's thin, perfect, beautiful etc...it doesn't matter, this disorder puts ideas in her head that she just can't control, no matter how irrational. As a person of faith, I truly believe there's a spiritual component here as well.
I'm so glad this was posted. Please do more interviews about this topic, Mark. I just turned 32 and I'm still struggling with it. 32, with so many health conditions, and in literal pain. An autoimmune disorder is on the table as well. Danni, I hope one day you can be what you want, 100 percent. You're amazing as you are, a beautiful and intelligent woman. You are loved.
What a beautiful, cute as a button, gorgeous and articulate young lady. I wish Danni the best of luck in her healing. She is beautiful. The loss of a father figure was traumatic for her and the BEGINNING of her spiral into this eating disorder. Yes, control is the crux of all eating disorders. They can’t control the world, situations or people around them but they can control what they consume. Thank you Mark for giving this sweet young lady a platform to tell her story.
To be clear and perhaps better understand this disease, anorexics do TRY to "control the world, situations (and) the people around them." It's nonetheless easier to control what you eat, as hard as that may be.
As a woman who has been struggling with anxiety and anorexia practically her whole life (I’m 31) and is a recovering heroin addict, I’ve thought about the idea of being in one of Mark’s videos. I don’t know where the hell I’d begin. I felt so deeply that I could relate to this resilient, beautiful spirit. These videos are extremely important for everyone to be able to access. I wish that TH-cam would stop it with the censorship and the puritanical bs.
I would LOVE to hear your story because I struggled with an eating disorder and alcohol/opiate addiction for a very long time! I’d love to know how you overcame it ❤to you
It is unconscionable for a teacher to pigeonhole a child as “unreachable”. If a child can do better they will do better! As adults we need to dig deeper and find the root cause(s) for children not able to do their best. This is so vital to everyone’s future. Let’s not blame but rather foster healthy communication and honor those who can speak to their feelings and mental health. You’re loved, dear ones💜
A teacher should never say a student is "unteachable"...I actually had a music teacher in grade school, that said I wasn't cut out to play the trumpet. From that day on, I've had no confidence to learn any instrument.
Pretty messed up...I can see a teacher saying that way back in the day when teachers were still hitting ther students but sheesh u could not say something like that now 🥺 I wonder if the teacher said something different but that's how she interpreted it ...who knows.
@@Alexandria250 I graduated in 82, and we had a teacher that would throw erasers, or flick you in the back of the head, with is long bony piano playing fingers. I also got carried to the principal's office, by a shop teacher...left a bruise on my arm too, but I never thought about complaining...I figured I deserved it.
As a Father of 2 daughters ( 3 and 1) I really do hope and wish when they get older they don't have to go through this cause it's hearbreaking to hear her like this. I can feel the cracks in her voice... May God bless every child on this earth.
When they grow up show them pictures of what their favorite celebrities really look like. Ya know, without the make up, photo shop, and airbrushing. Some of these girls think these instagram models and TikTokers and such with ‘perfect bodies’ actually really look like that. Make sure they know all those women they wanna look like don’t really look like that. Cuz all those photoshopped images on the internet is a big cause of a lot of young girls body image issues.
I'd say go one better, take the i initiative now n start exposing them to beautiful, healthy celebrities/public figures they can idolise. Why not? You've got the power n the TH-cam account to rock their worlds 🤣
Just make sure the mother doesn’t x you out of their lives. At the beginning of this interview she said her father not being there was the root of her issues. Even she knows it
@@blaqken7726 no it was her father leaving when she was 5, moving to Peru n then never seeing her again. I doubt this guy would make no effort to see his daughters if his relationship failed, based on the orgiinal comment he seems to actually give a fuck about his kids 🤘
You are there for them, and your relationship will set the tone for they way they view themselves as adults. If you lead with love, you feel comforted about who your daughters become later in life. 💜
My cousin was battling Anorexia a few years back. She was admitted into the Psych ward for a few months. Her weight dropped to 21kg. The Doctors told us 2 prepare for the worst, as they thought she wasn't gonna make it. Luckily she pulled thru & is here with us 2day! & doing FANTASTIC!!! It was a long, scary, worrying, heartbreaking journey... We thank God for giving her the strength, dedication & determination to pull thru! To anyone who is unfortunately going thru the same/similar situation- have Faith! & just be there, by their side & never give up! Much 💜 & God Bless!!! xXx
Thank you for your courage to share your story. I'm 37 now & battled anorexia for 22 years. I felt every word & watching this was like watching a younger version of myself. Eating disorders consume your life in a way that is so hard to understand. When I finally got a grip on my recovery, I began to drink heavily & now I've been sober and anorexic recovered for 5 years. My ED journey, by far, has been more challenging than my sobriety one, but AA helped me tremendously with my ED Recovery. You have a beautiful spirit & will continue inspiring many by sharing your story. Thank you 🙏
Im 36, and a addict in recovery for 6 years now. I've struggled with an ED for over 20yrs now,and I still struggle. I've been able to get a grip on many yrs of drug addiction but I just cannot get over this ED, it is SO hard! I am so proud of you so getting over both, I know how hard it is!!!🙏❤❤❤
Congrats on your recovery! Self-compassion is so crucial because acknowledging that thoughts or old patterns come up and knowing that it's ok that they do for you to process them rather than beating yourself up and making yourself feel defeated for being human. You can always write down those unwanted thoughts/emotions and rip up the paper, symbolizing you are releasing them. Simple daily practices like that have helped me, but forgiving myself for the times I'm not feeling my best helps me. 🙏
@@VBeauty85 Thank You🙏 You're right, negative inner thoughts/conversations are definitely a huge contributor to my ED. It's almost like I feel as if I self-sabatoge myself with the nonsense I continuously tell myself. I just wish I could go back in time and erase the beginning of these toxic thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Who would've thought this would've consumed, and pretty much destroyed fully enjoying more than half of my life.I do have hope though that just like my drug addiction, I WILL overcome this, I just really hope that it is soon cuz I'm mentally and physically exhausted 🥺🙏❤❤❤
She’s so pretty. Reminds me of my fiancée - who also recovered. There’s hope and you can always heal, but anorexia stays with you forever. It’s a never-ending battle and only the strongest will prevail, and I mean that wholly and honestly, having seen the effects of it, myself. It doesn’t leave you, and the urge to stop eating and deprive yourself will never go away, it stays a lingering thought in the back of your mind at the least - or an overpowering urge at the most. The only way to win is to stay focused and don’t lose your determination. Through sheer willpower and repetition of processes, you will succeed. You must become strong, and maintain that strength with positive reinforcement, the right friends, and family that loves and supports you. Anyone who struggles with eating disorders, I encourage you to find support wherever you can. Someone loves you.
"Eating disorders are rarely about the food; they are more about deep routed issues" such a deep and profound analysis of her past condition. I pray she fully recovers soon🙏
After listening to her story, it seems like she has fully recovered. It's like depression or any other mental illness. when it's out of control you don't recognize it. but when you recover, you are always very vigilant about a relapse. I think we see her in a very emotional state. because in those moments she is in a sort of p. t. s. d. episode in the moment. listening to the whole interview. you can tell she finally doesn't obsess about it anymore. I am so happy for her. That she can finally relax and enjoy her life. she is such a beautiful young lady. I know she will make a difference. And be a blessing to everyone she knows.
I loved how she looked when she said she loves her self more now. Danni you are beautiful inside and out. Keep loving you, and knowing that you are intelligent and kind.
I have watched almost every video of Mark's, see multiple times...and she is one of the few people I am in awe of. What a strong, brave girl. She's amazing...
Danni thank you! I struggled with ED for many years and now have disordered eating. I felt all of the emotions and pain. You are a beautiful warrior 😘😘
Thank you so much Dani for sharing your harrowing story about your anorexia ……you are correct when you say anorexia has the highest mortality of all the mental illnesses…….and your recovery from how all consuming it was. Everything you conveyed is so meaningful, enlightening, heartbreaking…….” trying to be so good”……”such a good and committed student”…”people would stay in my life and not abandon me”. That teacher at the parent teacher interview was appalling…….you had selective mutism which is part of severe anxiety. Dani you are so smart, sensitive, knowledgeable, thoughtful, philosophical…I wish for everything good and positive for you now and for your future. Love and value yourself, be tender and kind to yourself. Your health and body are so precious. Yoga Nidra meditations are on youtube for anxiety and cptsd, and sleep, I found them very helpful……please throw out your scales…….eat nutrient dense foods…yoga, meditation, singing…and your hobbies and passions
Danni, thank you for sharing. I, too, developed anorexia starting at age 10 when my parents divorced. At 62 lbs. and two weeks away from cardiac arrest and death, I was admitted to a neuropsychiatric hospital for over 6 months, on a feeding tube, far away from my family, at age 12. I felt doubly abandoned, first by my father, and then by my family, when life moved on without me while I was gone. I have never fully recovered. The disorder lingered on, evolving into drug and alcohol addiction, as well as other compulsive behaviors. My parents were left with a hospital bill that they eventually settled for $100,000.000. I nearly bankrupted them. The Ensure detail!! I was forced to drink 9 of these supplements per day, in addition to impossibly large meals. After these experiences, you are forever altered, so much potential lost, so many relationships damaged.
Danni, I send you so many hugs. I resonate with so many parts of your story including the hitting myself, drawing all over my assignments, having teachers and kids bully me, and more. I hope you are doing better now you beautiful soul
Sweet Danni, I’m so happy you found your safe happy space. My daughter had Anorexia and almost died. She is now bulimic and purges everyday and has for the past 7 years. I pray everyday that she will let the torment in her mind stop. She’s almost 25 now and I pray no child or person experiences this disabling disorder because its so scary to see where the disorder can take you and not realize the consequences that this disorder can have on you and your family members. God Bless you and may you never struggle again.
I’m happy to see Mark’s content branching out away from drug abuse issues and focusing more on mental health. I feel strange saying it was an absolute delight to listen to Danni, because I know that she had to talk about the worst times of her life to tell her story, I’m so glad she did though. I know there are many people struggling and hurting that need to hear that we can get better! I came here to learn more about anorexia because my sister suffers from it, I wasn’t expecting to see the hands down, most inspiring person I’ve ever seen on this channel. Her whole face lights up when she talks about her recovery. So much wisdom, intelligence, resilience, poise and grace here. I love how sweet she is, and I don’t mean this in a sexist way, but I’m not sure how else to describe it, just lady like in the best way possible. Her mannerisms and the way she thinks carefully about how to really say what she means and means what she says. Just a lovely and beautiful person to listen to. I wish my sister could get better this way. She is battling multiple other issues in addition to her anorexia and bulimia and has been sick a long time. She hid her illness and problems really well until she couldn’t anymore, lately if she were being interviewed, she might come across as someone on this channel who is strung out… just depending on what day you catch her on. I want to help her, but I don’t know how. Like Danni said, you can force someone into treatment, but if they are not motivated to get better it’s just not going to happen. I just love this young woman and her story she shines so brightly. ❤️🩹 ✨ Wishing Hope, Healing, and Determination to all who are struggling to make it through the worst of life and back to the other side the way Danni has. I thank her for her bravery to tell her story.
I couldn't had said it better. Me too as a parent my young man is struggling but I'm not giving up on him. There have been times I do feel helpless. Well I got a plan & he might fight me bk/not answering or return my calls but if I have to I'll camp out until he comes w/me & allows me to help him. I'm wishing you all the best w/your Luvd one too.
@@ChopASk8 thank you so much. I wish you and your son the very best, right now my family member is in the hospital. Blood transfusion and surgery - in a position now where she has to decide whether she wants to keep on the way she’s going or to live. I hope she chooses life, to make peace with it and herself. ❤️🩹 wishing hope and healing to all the people afflicted with the ills the world presents to them.
She's so beautiful - inside and out. I'm glad she rallied and recovered. What a journey... what an amazing girl. She deserves love, health and all the good things.
I just want to hug her for hours. What a sweet, sensitive, beautiful, and unappreciated young woman. My heart breaks for what she’s dealt with in her short life.
Same. Except mine was drugs, alcohol and promiscuity. It’s like she was describing my life! In my case though, my mom was married/divorced for a third time.
Wow, this story is so close to what my daughter is going through. It's heartbreaking as a parent, we didn't know how to help because it is so hard to understand ED. Just make sure you never give up on them and be there for them. She is still in recovery but I'm sure she still struggles every day with it. Thank you for your bravery and helping others with this video
I went through a lot of the same things in my youth. No parents by 15. Ulcers by 12 . So, I can really emphasize with this young lady. She has a very good understanding of the whole situation and that’s a great beginning. Please keep up the positive journey and just by being able to talk about this disease with such clarity is showing how brave and strong you really are. You are loved and such a wonderful young woman. I am routing for you and I know that you will make it. Continue to move forward. ❤️👏🏽💪🏽🙏🏽
I'm just some random person on the internet, but if you ever read this: you are intelligent, articulate, introspective, and you should be proud of yourself- please keep up the great work, you are on the right path!
My mom has struggled with anorexia for over 40 years. She has been hospitalized and been to different treatments and group homes. She picked up coping skills from some of the programs but she has never been able to get to the "recovery" phase. However, she has been doing better than ever the past few years and I am grateful for that. The best she can do is manage her symptoms and keep trying. She has developed osteoporosis and is taking a medication to help improve her bone density. It sucks that there is little I can do to help. All I can do is be present and try to support her. It is such a tough mental disorder. I love seeing Danni's smile at the end as she describes herself realizing her restored mental health while going out to eat with friends. Way to go Danni!
She basically described a big part of my childhood, I really felt that. I can feel her anxiety through my screen and it takes me back. I completely empathize with her, it's an insanely exhausting condition. Currently finishing my highschool at "adult school" because my depression and anxiety was so bad back then. I used to also cope with eating disorders but also drugs and sleep deprivation (sleep deprivation would make me not anxious somehow, it made me not care about anything when I was too tired to). I was also sent to a psychiatric hospital at 15. They tried to help me deal with my low confidence by sending me to school without my makeup. I got bullied for the first time ever that day lol. Thanks. In my experience the environment set me back. A private therapy session was expensive but the only thing that helped me afterwards. Hope she keeps on getting better, the anxiety is still present but one day, Like I did (I'm now 27) I just know she'll overcome it. I still have people pleasing tendencies, but it's definitely not as bad as before. Good luck Dani, and thanks for sharing your story
She reminds me so much of myself! My whole life I was a people pleaser and I started dieting and 9 years old. Now that I’m in my 30s, life has changed so much!! I finally decided to really live for myself and my own happiness. I really believe in this beautiful and intelligent woman! She doesn’t need anyones approval (I know that’s easier said than done). But she is so capable of anything she wants out of life! I truly wish her the best.
I can identify with many of Danni's feelings, especially as a kid and teenager. I'm 41 now and still have a preoccupation with food and weight. The thoughts never really go away, but we learn to cope with them in healthy ways. Self love is critical.
Had a niece go thru anorexia. Almost killed her she had to be hospitalized but was able to recover and got into fitness so now she has an athletic self image and is healthy and positive.
Eating disorders are so complex. Everyone is so unique. Anxiety, depression, self harm, addiction. Dani is a very strong young lady. Finding something that helps Relieve the stress, pain, anxiety is difficult especially when finding something positive as an outlet can be difficult. It’s so easy to slip into something negative like self harm or even over exercising. It can start out as something positive and for people who are not aware or on the outside of it doing something like going to the gym, walking, running can look so normal and healthy. It can be extremely difficult to escape from though. You are very articulate with it and how much you have been through. To care so deeply for family around you.
Parents out there you need to validate your children’s emotions and worries, if your child is nervous listen to then, don’t blowoff, I feel like a lot of parents tell their children not to cry , forcing them to hold their emotions and not talk about it.Well, TALK ABOUT IT, as in significant as you think it is, they need to be heard as a young child, because it causes a lot of traumas
Putting your life on pause to help your child get well, it what being a parent is. When you love your children, there is nothing you won't do to make sure they are ok, and safe.
My mom put her own retirement further away to help pay for my therapy sessions and meds while I was still struggling to have stable work when I was at my worst. I'll be forever grateful, parents are truly magnificent selfless beings. She gave me life and saved my life.
@@ItsAMalkavianThing I didn't have parents like that. There was no love or feeling or emotions in my household with the acception of anger and pain. I remember being 10 or 12 years old and wondering why I didn't have the good parents like my friends had. I remember praying and asking God why , and what did I do, was I such a bad kid that I deserved the abusive parents I had. When I finally became a father, the love for my child was instant, and unbreakable. I immediately knew what it meant to be a parent, and I knew exactly what I would never be like. My parents. I live for my children. They are the main source of my happiness. Not that there aren't other things that make me happy, but being a parent and seeing your children happy and successful is the honor of my life. There's nothing I wouldn't do for them. I currently have one of my children in therapy. She has severe anxiety and obsessive compulsive disorder with intrusive thoughts. So I know how it feels to be that parent as well. The hardest part is knowing you can't take their pain away, knowing they are suffering and there's nothing you can do about it except love them and support them.
I’m so proud of you Danni! Your an inspiration to many people who are listening to your testimony. Your using your voice to help others who are suffering from ED or any mental health illnesses. I know kiddo you didn’t stand a chance coming into this world. I went through the lost of my mother a month before you were born. I often blamed myself for what you were going through. I often asked God to spare you and let me take on ED and the depression and everything else. All I wanted for you is to be healthy and happy 😊 I know recovery was not easy nor it was a quick fix. I will always support you and cheer you kiddo!! You are an inspiration to me!! 😘
The psychiatric hospital system is overtly disfunction. They are absolutely no help whatsoever to anyone. Incompetent MDs. Incompetence galore. No one should ever expect anything but a disaster when dealing with these people.
This resonates so much with me on many levels and this need to be accepted! So proud of you and your journey and know your story will impact people! Please don’t let others talk you out of sharing like they have me!
I find it so sad that people can be so selfish and harm their children. It causes so much damage. Would this young lady have become so ill had her parents not separated? Her father not abandoning her? I often wonder. That is why it is so important that if you decide to have a family, you need to commit to your family. You need to forget about your selfish needs in order to raise strong people. I wish this young lady all the best in health and happiness.
My son was severely anoretic at 17, 18, 19. He almost died from organ failure. He was only in one treatment center. He HATED it. When he was being discharged, they told him he would relapse, you'll be back, they said. He never relapsed. He had some after care, started on Prozac. I think his anorexia stemmed from anxiety and not feeling worthy, same situation as Danni with his father. He's 33 now. I never asked him too many questions because if I did, he would get mad or shut down, back then. I think it's time to revisit it with him and ask what made him not relapse. Eta, it's very difficult as a parent watching your child slowly kill themselves. You alternately ignore it (in denial, don't know what to say), hope they "grow out of it", beg them to eat something. As a parent, we are not prepared to handle something as psychologically deep and dangerous as anorexia. Danni, I'm glad you made it honey. You are worthwhile and very loveable. And I'm not just saying that, I MEAN it💚
What a strong woman you are honey. Your story is heartbreaking but also very inspirational. You’re on the right path now. Don’t let anything steal your joy. Thank you for sharing.
Wow I really could use that young ladies' help w/my son. Someone that he could relate with. I'm in tears worried,guilty & feeling helpless as a parent. Her story also made me happy that she turned things around & the way she looked at things. I Luv when she sparked up saying she got confident about herself. Well as much as I feel helpless I know I'm not. Not giving up to help my young man figure things out. He might resist but I can't jus sit bk & hope things will get better on their own. Too many yrs have gone by & I don't see a positive change. I got my plan & I don't care if I got to drive 30 mins to his dad's house daily & persuade him to come with me. I want to show him this interview for starters. If there's anyone out there please pray for me & my son. Everyone should feel valued & Luvd. Thank you for telling your story & Mark for always keeping it real w/an open heart. We need more ppl in the world like you Mark. L&R
Wow her explanation of what is was like going through an eating disorder was so vivid. It's a harrowing experience. Hers was the most intense so far. Thank for this interview, I feel like I understand a lot better.
This girls is adorable. Her sweet nature is incredible. She's pretty and likable and I hope she finds a stable family to help her along. I just want to hug her and give her encouragement that they're people out there that will love her as she is.
I don't know her and I'm incredibly proud of how far she has come. It sounds like she has experienced significant growth and gained a lot of strength throughout her recovery process. I'm sure she gives hope to those struggling with the same issues, no matter their age. Rooting for Danni!
no one ever gets over anorexia. it's always there. you learn to manage it but it's a slippery slope that works it's way back in gradually and insidiously. you have to always always manage it. it's a form of anxiety. when all hell breaks loose in our lives (and it always does), anorexics know that they always have anarexia as their friend. it's really life long.
And it's their friend because it increases their sensation of CONTROL? That is my understanding, but I am trying to understand while noting that a potentially fatal disease which makes the sufferer's hair teeth skin and body look terrible shouldn't be considered a "friend"??
@@carltoncotter2614 like she was saying, people with anorexia do not see what you see. They often still feel "fat". Getting thin is never achieved in their minds. While people are shocked at their appearance, they are not and in fact feel "fat" and obsessively squeeze their stomachs as if they looking for the fat that won't come off. You manage anorexia but it becomes a friend in that you know you can always stop eating. It's there and in an odd way provided comfort. It is like control. You know you can always return to that comfort and control. It's a horrible way to go through life but it is what it is.
@@carltoncotter2614 btw, yes it's potentially fatal and anorexics know this but it doesn't stop them because the urge to "get rid of the fat" is greater so its a balancing act like knowing that drinking too much is fatal so you strike a balance. "I'll be okay if I just have a drink and no more" but it's a slippery slope and before you know it you're drinking 6 drinks.
As someone whose child is in year 3 of battling this disease … agree. It’s so hard to have hope! My daughter just completed her second round of treatment. Right now, she doesn’t want recovery but her dad and I are trying to guide her one day at a time.
I’m Danni’s mom. I’m so proud of her. I completely understand how your feeling. Don’t lose hope. It took many relapse’s. Sleepless nights. I’m sending you positive vibes and prayers!!
That teacher was WRONG. It happened to my son and in the same meeting. I was irate. I screamed at her. Not good for my image but wt.. I'm sorry no one stuck up for you. It has affected you adversely as it tried to do to my son but remember, others can be and are wrong. Talk talk talk to a therapist. My daughter died and my son feels just like you do. You're not alone. You're so so beautiful..so much but more importantly, you're that way inside. An open person who talks as you do is so very beautiful. Your depth is beauty darling. Keep your boundaries but please don't be strict with yourself. The boundaries will be your peace, use it wisely. Don't take your boundaries out on yourself. XO
Danni, you are amazing and strong. As someone in recovery, I am so, so, so very proud of you. ❤❤ For you and anyone else who may read this, I just want to add that I’ve heard that full recovery (with almost zero risk of relapse) is possible. What Mia Did Next is a TH-camr who talks about it (and there are others, too). Thank you, Danni, for sharing your story
Wise, insightful and very sweet young woman. I related to some of her experiences. I think she’s also brave and intelligent. I wish her a beautiful life. As for the man who “fathered” her, I hope they can one day reunite and maybe even patch things up but right now, I’d say it’s his loss.
Hey guyz! Just wanted 2 say that I ABSOLUTELY 💜 this channel!!! About 2 watch this vid now, just awaiting D/L. I'm sure it's gonna be really good~ like most of them are!!! Keep up the Good work Mark! Much 💜
Thank you Danni for sharing your story of this battle. I went through it too. Feeling out of control in every other way, then finding control in the calories and exercise... exactly my experience as well. I agree with your advice at the end, to not weigh yourself regularly. I would say, try not to weigh yourself ever. Go with the intuition God gave you. Eat intuitively, as you said. Give yourself lots of grace and remember how many people love you and that this life is about so much more than yourself.
The description of her precious dogs barking like mad made me cry. Those dogs knew what she was about to do and wanted her to stay! Thank goodness they alerted her mother with their ruckus and thank goodness Mom was home to find out what was about to happen. Danni, if you see this, I am so proud of you. I had a roommate in college who binged and over-exercised. Sadly, about eight years later her heart gave out and she passed away. But in the 1980s, E/D was not understood as much as it is now, and it was not something that the general population had any understanding at all. (We all just thought she was vain. We just didn't know any better.) Keep up the good work, Danni. You deserve a happy and full life, and it looks like you've achieved that by taking treatment seriously, and realizing how much your un-aliving yourself would've hurt your family and dogs. Sending you love.
What a powerful human, so strong and wise. Amazing inspiration as well. Wishing her all the love and happiness she deserves 🍀. Thank you for sharing 🙏💚
You're such an incredible, intelligent, inspirational person with a great insight into mental health and life in general. We certainly do not believe that you were just a teenager who wanted attention. This is way deeper than that. Clearly you've been extremely ill. I know Anorexia. I know OCD. I know control. So the fact that you won the fight against Anorexia is quite extraordinary! Very few people get over their eating disorders, but you made it. You inspired me to do something. I will reach out for help again. Thank you so much for doing this interview. You gave me hope and most definitely have given lots of other people inspiration and hope, too. I wish the world for you! Eat! Drink! Laugh! Live! You deserve every minute of happiness in your life. Lots of love from Norway.
I’ve an eating disorder, I’m bipolar 2 and I’m going through menopause. I’ve totally lost control of my life and feel like I’m spiralling downwards. I hope I can recover like her. But I’m 50. I have very little hope. 😭
And this is the system we have … whether it’s anorexia, undiagnosed dementia, mental illness… we are NOT helping people. Period. We need to rethink and prioritize our healthcare system.
I relate so much to her story and it’s really important for people to have an outlet like this. I turned to binge eating. Eating my emotions. It took years of healing to get to a point where I was comfortable enough with my body.
Good Morning SWU fam'. Its just after 3:00 a.m. here in Northern California.🌅 If youre reading this, I hope you are safe, comfortable & well. Thank you for showing up. Good Vibes & Mad Love sent Your way! 🌺🙃🌺
What a beautiful and courageous young woman. Your story and what you’ve lived through at such a young age, should be told to other young people. Please keep spreading your story. ❤️
She's gorgeous, and she's a very sweet young lady, I pray that she finds her way! It's hard to believe that guys didn't find her pretty, she is SO beautiful! I hope all of the positive comments help her, as well as the prayers!
I’m a year into my recovery from anorexia how I got to that point of dying from being so thin is a terrifying story I’ve gained and held onto weight the past year recently I’m back sliding but it’s okay bc i have one person who is supportive in my life I relate to a lot of the things she is talking about
It’s funny how thoughts can warp the perception of yourself. You’re an articulate & beautiful girl, Danni. Sure the girls in school were jealous of you. Praying for your healing. ❤
The human experience is about lose , everything and everyone gets old , rusts, dies , turns to dust. The secret is to not dwell on it .its a curse and a blessing to know that somday we all die and we know nothing about what happens after , if anything. Stay strong and try to find the happiness between the tragedies.
But this is what women girls go thru. Im grown..but we have it engrained that we must be skinny n pretty to be accepted. Or at least skinny. I suffered for years ...years...and still do in ways.
@@thematriarchy2075 Do you really want to know what I was getting at? I'll tell you. I made that comment to the original poster. I wanted her to know that ladies shouldn't worry about being "fat" or "unattractive" because a lot of people actually find plus size ladies attractive. What's so wrong about that? Please freaking tell me!😫
@@wesleyAlan9179 This is not about what you find attractive or not. And thinking that you make a difference just because you are attracted to a certain body type.. lol
met danni in eating disorder treatment and I’m so glad I did. I’m so glad she got the chance to share her story. She’s the strongest, most resilient person I’ve ever met. I love you danni❤️
Praying for you too
My daughter is 6 months old. For the last 10 years I’ve tried every diet going. All my family has seen me go through it. I’ve obsessed with my weight for years, I counted calories and over exercised too.
My daughter will not see me go through it or talk about diets or watch me do a diet.
Today is the day I now change for my daughters sake
Thank you 🙏🏻 as a girl who grew up with a mother obsessed with weight, please teach your girls different
Obsessions such as these, OCD, might be passed down to your daughter.
@@gorefieldluvr6921I mean, you can't tell your kid "you're beautiful just the way you are" and go exercise like an obsessed person. Kids see everything.
“With negative coping skills is that they work so well. They work so fast. Until they don’t. You lose control of yourself.” Definitely deep.
Neglectful parents, craving (understandable) attention… Sending positive vibes her way.. 🙏
Anxiety still so high. Danni is a smart articulate young lady who is fighting her way through such a devastating disease. This seems like a tremendous struggle I can't even imagine. Danni you are a courageous beautiful human being. All power and positive vibes sent your way today and always.
People who say "like" that much shouldn't be called "articulate."
@@SbjsksmNx It seems that slang phrases are used with common regularity these days. "Like" is something you hear often. I do however believe that she expressed her story well for a young person. Perhaps she wasn't as articulate as you would have wished, none the less I don't think I heard to many "know what I mean "just saying 😆Sorry my comment bothered you
JUSTICE FOR AMANDA RABB. PLEASE STOP SUPPORTING THIS FOUL, EVIL ASS MAN.
@@michellefranklin3479 your comment doesn't bother me. It's just incorrect. It's like Biden's press secretary. Can't call her articulate because she incessantly says "umm." I'm sure she's intelligent and interesting. But she isn't every good adjective out there.
@@SbjsksmNx Yes in relation to the conversation you are correct. I have misused the word articulate.
Bless you Danni, your story is a carbon copy of my daughters struggle, she could not overcome it...you have...keep living, loving, striving...you are worth every breath you take on this earth my dear. Peace and love goes out to you.
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So sorry about your daughter. Peace to you
It's a lifelong struggle, if you make it that long...
She's the nicest person i've seen you interview
My beautiful daughter became anorexic in high school after the death of her grandmother, her classmate, and her kumu hula, all in a three month period. I didn't realize she was losing so much weight until her size XXS dress hung off her body. I was working all the time, and one morning when I was leaving for work my daughter said, "Mom, I need you, can't you see I'm dying?" I quit my job that day and stayed home and nursed her back to health. It was the best decision I ever made. If she had died I would never have forgiven myself.
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Kids can hide things so well, and things are difficult to see when we as parents are wrapped up providing for them. I am so glad your daughter is better! Good for you for loving her back to health and her allowing you to ❤
@@KatieDeGo Awwww thank you. That made me cry.,
It must have been heart breaking to hear, I'm proud of you for helping her and proud of her for speaking up and asking for help and recovering ❤
Thank you!@@gorefieldluvr6921
Thanks Danni, my sister was anorexic from 12-20 yrs old., unfortunately ended up committing suicide at 36 underlying depression, this really helped me understand what she went through, it was a bit more difficult back then because it was 1992 and we live in Colombia and no one even hardly knew what anorexia was, I remember there was like only one doctor who could treat her and 2 cases in the whole city or something, she also attempted suicide at that young age and the circumstances were eerily similar to your described attempt, now I understand how much my sister suffered, and thank you so much.
You should be proud of yourself for prevailing over your illness. It is one day at a time. That’s all anyone has. Speak to yourself like you would a best friend. Many of us say things to ourselves that we would never say about others. I’m glad you finally love yourself now. The fact is most people are thinking more about their insecurities rather than focusing on ours. Try not to compare yourself to others. Social media is only showing people what they want to be perceived as. We don’t see that difficult, sad days that many people struggle daily. Sounds like your on the right track and thinking more clearly and realistically.
I can’t imagine how hard it was for her mother to find her with the rope around her neck but wow was it incredible to hear how she turned things around. You could sense the pride she had when she said she went on that trip with her friends and actually looked forward to eating and when she said she found happiness by changing her mindset and finding intrinsic motivation to be better I was just so in awe. I’m so happy for her 💜
Wats up Kalilah. Yeah, I felt happy for her seeing how proud she was talking about how when the doctor told her her weight it didn’t bother her. I think she’s gonna be alright. 🤞
This young lady is a survivor 💞💯
@Ron lmaooo wth. You don’t dictate anyone like that
Damn you’re beautiful
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It looks like YOU have the problem here
She's precious. I'm glad she was able to get better. 😌 I hope she continues positive progress.
She’s so well spoken and seems like such a kind soul, glad she was able to tell her story
I was thinking the opposite. She was taking a long time to get to the point around the beginning. There was some edits to the video, I’m guessing bc she was rambling. She also kinda reminds me of a valley girl with all filler words for example, “like”. She was constantly saying that, for example: “my Dad, like was in my life and like it was so important me to have him there so like”
@@reymysterio7863 Might be her anxiety or just plain nervousness. Lots of people are the same way when the attention is put on them, like myself. I use tons of filler words especially um and uh. Can’t really help it in that moment :/
@@reymysterio7863 you’re a tool
@@reymysterio7863 that's not valley girl talk... It's just regular conversational English.
@@sallyann985 valley girl talk uses a lot of fillers, especially the notorious “like” word. If this is normal English talk to you then you may want to reevaluate how you sound to others. I speak English and I don’t inject “like” in every few sentences to communicate a simple message that doesn’t require it…..Like, that would be unnecessary. 😅
My 17yo daughter struggles with an eating disorder and has the same struggles as this young lady once had. I'm not sure where or when it originated since my husband and I have been supportive, loving, nurturing, affirming parents. She says herself, it's not us but she's not sure what the root cause is. She did mention that, although she already had a negative body image, she did mention that an aunt of hers just helped push her over the edge. We were shopping for her quince dress and it was like 6 months before her party and the aunt said....oh, you have 6 months to lose weight so you can look good in your quince dress... Sadly, that set my daughter off on an eating disorder, self hate, self harm, depression journey. Also, I definitely think social media makes self hate worse.
As adults, we have to be VERY careful in the words we use toward our children, nieces, nephews, etc... because they carry ALLOT of weight.
Wishing you better days from Nashville Tennessee USA 🇺🇸
My mom loved me while growing up no doubt about it but I remember her constantly yelling at me for not sucking in my stomach when she herself has suffered from morbid obesity her whole life...On the other hand I always had these comments from relatives shamelessly telling me not get fat like her ...Im almost 33 years old and I still struggle everyday with my self image and food intake. Reasure your daughter how lovely and amazing she is, sometimes the only thing we crave for is being accepted for those who are the closest to us
@@liz9657 Thank you for your input. Yes, as her mother, I'm learning what to say and what not to say. I can tell her a million times that she's thin, perfect, beautiful etc...it doesn't matter, this disorder puts ideas in her head that she just can't control, no matter how irrational. As a person of faith, I truly believe there's a spiritual component here as well.
I'm so glad this was posted. Please do more interviews about this topic, Mark. I just turned 32 and I'm still struggling with it. 32, with so many health conditions, and in literal pain. An autoimmune disorder is on the table as well.
Danni, I hope one day you can be what you want, 100 percent. You're amazing as you are, a beautiful and intelligent woman. You are loved.
💜🙏🙌I really hope things get better for you,okay. Hope you can have a great day😊
I recovered this past year after six years of thinking I never would. Sending you love and healing-don’t give up!!!
You are also loved, so much! Little steps every day, stay alive, you can do it friend.
If you just look content of this channel you would find more mental illness and also eating relating problems already.
What a beautiful, cute as a button, gorgeous and articulate young lady. I wish Danni the best of luck in her healing. She is beautiful. The loss of a father figure was traumatic for her and the BEGINNING of her spiral into this eating disorder. Yes, control is the crux of all eating disorders. They can’t control the world, situations or people around them but they can control what they consume. Thank you Mark for giving this sweet young lady a platform to tell her story.
To be clear and perhaps better understand this disease, anorexics do TRY to "control the world, situations (and) the people around them." It's nonetheless easier to control what you eat, as hard as that may be.
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@@SbjsksmNx oh shush
As a woman who has been struggling with anxiety and anorexia practically her whole life (I’m 31) and is a recovering heroin addict, I’ve thought about the idea of being in one of Mark’s videos. I don’t know where the hell I’d begin. I felt so deeply that I could relate to this resilient, beautiful spirit.
These videos are extremely important for everyone to be able to access. I wish that TH-cam would stop it with the censorship and the puritanical bs.
I would LOVE to hear your story because I struggled with an eating disorder and alcohol/opiate addiction for a very long time! I’d love to know how you overcame it ❤to you
I would love to hear your story as well
I hope you get to tell your story. I love them all . I pray for people and love them from afar . Mark is such a gift.
She's ready to use her journey to help lift up others in similar circumstances. What a strong soul!
It is unconscionable for a teacher to pigeonhole a child as “unreachable”. If a child can do better they will do better! As adults we need to dig deeper and find the root cause(s) for children not able to do their best. This is so vital to everyone’s future. Let’s not blame but rather foster healthy communication and honor those who can speak to their feelings and mental health. You’re loved, dear ones💜
A teacher should never say a student is "unteachable"...I actually had a music teacher in grade school, that said I wasn't cut out to play the trumpet. From that day on, I've had no confidence to learn any instrument.
@@scottwright388 that’s called being a puss* bro😐
Pretty messed up...I can see a teacher saying that way back in the day when teachers were still hitting ther students but sheesh u could not say something like that now 🥺 I wonder if the teacher said something different but that's how she interpreted it ...who knows.
@@Alexandria250 I graduated in 82, and we had a teacher that would throw erasers, or flick you in the back of the head, with is long bony piano playing fingers. I also got carried to the principal's office, by a shop teacher...left a bruise on my arm too, but I never thought about complaining...I figured I deserved it.
As a Father of 2 daughters ( 3 and 1) I really do hope and wish when they get older they don't have to go through this cause it's hearbreaking to hear her like this. I can feel the cracks in her voice... May God bless every child on this earth.
When they grow up show them pictures of what their favorite celebrities really look like. Ya know, without the make up, photo shop, and airbrushing. Some of these girls think these instagram models and TikTokers and such with ‘perfect bodies’ actually really look like that. Make sure they know all those women they wanna look like don’t really look like that. Cuz all those photoshopped images on the internet is a big cause of a lot of young girls body image issues.
I'd say go one better, take the i initiative now n start exposing them to beautiful, healthy celebrities/public figures they can idolise. Why not? You've got the power n the TH-cam account to rock their worlds 🤣
Just make sure the mother doesn’t x you out of their lives. At the beginning of this interview she said her father not being there was the root of her issues. Even she knows it
@@blaqken7726 no it was her father leaving when she was 5, moving to Peru n then never seeing her again. I doubt this guy would make no effort to see his daughters if his relationship failed, based on the orgiinal comment he seems to actually give a fuck about his kids 🤘
You are there for them, and your relationship will set the tone for they way they view themselves as adults. If you lead with love, you feel comforted about who your daughters become later in life. 💜
She's so self aware at her age. I hope she continues to beat the e.d. I have faith in her ability to continue to heal herself.
My cousin was battling Anorexia a few years back. She was admitted into the Psych ward for a few months. Her weight dropped to 21kg. The Doctors told us 2 prepare for the worst, as they thought she wasn't gonna make it. Luckily she pulled thru & is here with us 2day! & doing FANTASTIC!!! It was a long, scary, worrying, heartbreaking journey... We thank God for giving her the strength, dedication & determination to pull thru! To anyone who is unfortunately going thru the same/similar situation- have Faith! & just be there, by their side & never give up! Much 💜 & God Bless!!! xXx
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@@rrai- Depends how old she is ig.
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@Lubomir Radev mean remark 🙄😑
Thank you for your courage to share your story. I'm 37 now & battled anorexia for 22 years. I felt every word & watching this was like watching a younger version of myself. Eating disorders consume your life in a way that is so hard to understand. When I finally got a grip on my recovery, I began to drink heavily & now I've been sober and anorexic recovered for 5 years. My ED journey, by far, has been more challenging than my sobriety one, but AA helped me tremendously with my ED Recovery. You have a beautiful spirit & will continue inspiring many by sharing your story. Thank you 🙏
Im 36, and a addict in recovery for 6 years now. I've struggled with an ED for over 20yrs now,and I still struggle. I've been able to get a grip on many yrs of drug addiction but I just cannot get over this ED, it is SO hard! I am so proud of you so getting over both, I know how hard it is!!!🙏❤❤❤
@@Kellyirish75 I can relate totally with these stories; it's a lifelong struggle...
Congrats on your recovery! Self-compassion is so crucial because acknowledging that thoughts or old patterns come up and knowing that it's ok that they do for you to process them rather than beating yourself up and making yourself feel defeated for being human. You can always write down those unwanted thoughts/emotions and rip up the paper, symbolizing you are releasing them. Simple daily practices like that have helped me, but forgiving myself for the times I'm not feeling my best helps me. 🙏
@@VBeauty85 Thank You🙏 You're right, negative inner thoughts/conversations are definitely a huge contributor to my ED. It's almost like I feel as if I self-sabatoge myself with the nonsense I continuously tell myself. I just wish I could go back in time and erase the beginning of these toxic thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Who would've thought this would've consumed, and pretty much destroyed fully enjoying more than half of my life.I do have hope though that just like my drug addiction, I WILL overcome this, I just really hope that it is soon cuz I'm mentally and physically exhausted 🥺🙏❤❤❤
@@carynmartin6053 I am sorry that you can relate, but I'm here if you need to talk, and I am hopeful that we will all get through this!🙏❤❤❤
She’s so pretty. Reminds me of my fiancée - who also recovered.
There’s hope and you can always heal, but anorexia stays with you forever. It’s a never-ending battle and only the strongest will prevail, and I mean that wholly and honestly, having seen the effects of it, myself.
It doesn’t leave you, and the urge to stop eating and deprive yourself will never go away, it stays a lingering thought in the back of your mind at the least - or an overpowering urge at the most.
The only way to win is to stay focused and don’t lose your determination. Through sheer willpower and repetition of processes, you will succeed.
You must become strong, and maintain that strength with positive reinforcement, the right friends, and family that loves and supports you.
Anyone who struggles with eating disorders, I encourage you to find support wherever you can. Someone loves you.
it’s being weak minded
"Eating disorders are rarely about the food; they are more about deep routed issues" such a deep and profound analysis of her past condition. I pray she fully recovers soon🙏
It’s all mental health. Same for drug addiction.
Rather obvious statement
After listening to her story, it seems like she has fully recovered. It's like depression or any other mental illness. when it's out of control you don't recognize it. but when you recover, you are always very vigilant about a relapse. I think we see her in a very emotional state. because in those moments she is in a sort of p. t. s. d. episode in the moment. listening to the whole interview. you can tell she finally doesn't obsess about it anymore. I am so happy for her. That she can finally relax and enjoy her life. she is such a beautiful young lady. I know she will make a difference. And be a blessing to everyone she knows.
I loved how she looked when she said she loves her self more now. Danni you are beautiful inside and out. Keep loving you, and knowing that you are intelligent and kind.
I love this young lady. So brave to share her story. Smart, beautiful and so poised.
I have watched almost every video of Mark's, see multiple times...and she is one of the few people I am in awe of. What a strong, brave girl. She's amazing...
Danni thank you! I struggled with ED for many years and now have disordered eating. I felt all of the emotions and pain. You are a beautiful warrior 😘😘
Thank you so much Dani for sharing your harrowing story about your anorexia ……you are correct when you say anorexia has the highest mortality of all the mental illnesses…….and your recovery from how all consuming it was. Everything you conveyed is so meaningful, enlightening, heartbreaking…….” trying to be so good”……”such a good and committed student”…”people would stay in my life and not abandon me”. That teacher at the parent teacher interview was appalling…….you had selective mutism which is part of severe anxiety. Dani you are so smart, sensitive, knowledgeable, thoughtful, philosophical…I wish for everything good and positive for you now and for your future. Love and value yourself, be tender and kind to yourself. Your health and body are so precious. Yoga Nidra meditations are on youtube for anxiety and cptsd, and sleep, I found them very helpful……please throw out your scales…….eat nutrient dense foods…yoga, meditation, singing…and your hobbies and passions
Danni, thank you for sharing. I, too, developed anorexia starting at age 10 when my parents divorced. At 62 lbs. and two weeks away from cardiac arrest and death, I was admitted to a neuropsychiatric hospital for over 6 months, on a feeding tube, far away from my family, at age 12. I felt doubly abandoned, first by my father, and then by my family, when life moved on without me while I was gone. I have never fully recovered. The disorder lingered on, evolving into drug and alcohol addiction, as well as other compulsive behaviors. My parents were left with a hospital bill that they eventually settled for $100,000.000. I nearly bankrupted them. The Ensure detail!! I was forced to drink 9 of these supplements per day, in addition to impossibly large meals. After these experiences, you are forever altered, so much potential lost, so many relationships damaged.
Danni, I send you so many hugs. I resonate with so many parts of your story including the hitting myself, drawing all over my assignments, having teachers and kids bully me, and more. I hope you are doing better now you beautiful soul
"I was consumed by the eating disorder." This interview will help a lot of people. Always interesting, thanks!
That's actually a deep thought. Being consumed by a disorder that doesn't let you consume any thing.
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Sweet Danni, I’m so happy you found your safe happy space. My daughter had Anorexia and almost died. She is now bulimic and purges everyday and has for the past 7 years. I pray everyday that she will let the torment in her mind stop. She’s almost 25 now and I pray no child or person experiences this disabling disorder because its so scary to see where the disorder can take you and not realize the consequences that this disorder can have on you and your family members. God Bless you and may you never struggle again.
How is your daughter now?
She's such a beautiful and sweet young lady. I wish her the best.
I’m happy to see Mark’s content branching out away from drug abuse issues and focusing more on mental health. I feel strange saying it was an absolute delight to listen to Danni, because I know that she had to talk about the worst times of her life to tell her story, I’m so glad she did though. I know there are many people struggling and hurting that need to hear that we can get better!
I came here to learn more about anorexia because my sister suffers from it, I wasn’t expecting to see the hands down, most inspiring person I’ve ever seen on this channel. Her whole face lights up when she talks about her recovery. So much wisdom, intelligence, resilience, poise and grace here. I love how sweet she is, and I don’t mean this in a sexist way, but I’m not sure how else to describe it, just lady like in the best way possible.
Her mannerisms and the way she thinks carefully about how to really say what she means and means what she says. Just a lovely and beautiful person to listen to.
I wish my sister could get better this way. She is battling multiple other issues in addition to her anorexia and bulimia and has been sick a long time. She hid her illness and problems really well until she couldn’t anymore, lately if she were being interviewed, she might come across as someone on this channel who is strung out… just depending on what day you catch her on. I want to help her, but I don’t know how.
Like Danni said, you can force someone into treatment, but if they are not motivated to get better it’s just not going to happen. I just love this young woman and her story she shines so brightly. ❤️🩹 ✨
Wishing Hope, Healing, and Determination to all who are struggling to make it through the worst of life and back to the other side the way Danni has. I thank her for her bravery to tell her story.
I couldn't had said it better. Me too as a parent my young man is struggling but I'm not giving up on him. There have been times I do feel helpless. Well I got a plan & he might fight me bk/not answering or return my calls but if I have to I'll camp out until he comes w/me & allows me to help him. I'm wishing you all the best w/your Luvd one too.
@@ChopASk8 thank you so much. I wish you and your son the very best, right now my family member is in the hospital. Blood transfusion and surgery - in a position now where she has to decide whether she wants to keep on the way she’s going or to live. I hope she chooses life, to make peace with it and herself. ❤️🩹 wishing hope and healing to all the people afflicted with the ills the world presents to them.
@@memyselfi2005 Sending Luv,healing light & strength to her & your family.
@@ChopASk8 thank you she needs it the most. I appreciate it
She's so beautiful - inside and out. I'm glad she rallied and recovered. What a journey... what an amazing girl. She deserves love, health and all the good things.
I just want to hug her for hours. What a sweet, sensitive, beautiful, and unappreciated young woman. My heart breaks for what she’s dealt with in her short life.
She makes me want to cry, I can relate to everything she has said, for me it was heavy alcoholism. Sending love and prayers, your an inspiration ❤️
Same. Except mine was drugs, alcohol and promiscuity. It’s like she was describing my life! In my case though, my mom was married/divorced for a third time.
I’m so proud to have you in my life Danni! Congratulations on this opportunity! ❤️❤️
Wow, this story is so close to what my daughter is going through. It's heartbreaking as a parent, we didn't know how to help because it is so hard to understand ED. Just make sure you never give up on them and be there for them. She is still in recovery but I'm sure she still struggles every day with it. Thank you for your bravery and helping others with this video
I went through a lot of the same things in my youth. No parents by 15. Ulcers by 12 . So, I can really emphasize with this young lady. She has a very good understanding of the whole situation and that’s a great beginning. Please keep up the positive journey and just by being able to talk about this disease with such clarity is showing how brave and strong you really are. You are loved and such a wonderful young woman. I am routing for you and I know that you will make it. Continue to move forward. ❤️👏🏽💪🏽🙏🏽
I'm just some random person on the internet, but if you ever read this: you are intelligent, articulate, introspective, and you should be proud of yourself- please keep up the great work, you are on the right path!
Not articulate. You must not understand what that word means.
She's lots of good things, but articulate isn't one.
@@SbjsksmNx (Verb) "express (an idea or feeling) fluently and coherently."
That's what I mean- and she does that.
My mom has struggled with anorexia for over 40 years. She has been hospitalized and been to different treatments and group homes. She picked up coping skills from some of the programs but she has never been able to get to the "recovery" phase. However, she has been doing better than ever the past few years and I am grateful for that. The best she can do is manage her symptoms and keep trying. She has developed osteoporosis and is taking a medication to help improve her bone density. It sucks that there is little I can do to help. All I can do is be present and try to support her. It is such a tough mental disorder.
I love seeing Danni's smile at the end as she describes herself realizing her restored mental health while going out to eat with friends. Way to go Danni!
She basically described a big part of my childhood, I really felt that. I can feel her anxiety through my screen and it takes me back. I completely empathize with her, it's an insanely exhausting condition. Currently finishing my highschool at "adult school" because my depression and anxiety was so bad back then. I used to also cope with eating disorders but also drugs and sleep deprivation (sleep deprivation would make me not anxious somehow, it made me not care about anything when I was too tired to). I was also sent to a psychiatric hospital at 15. They tried to help me deal with my low confidence by sending me to school without my makeup. I got bullied for the first time ever that day lol. Thanks. In my experience the environment set me back. A private therapy session was expensive but the only thing that helped me afterwards. Hope she keeps on getting better, the anxiety is still present but one day, Like I did (I'm now 27) I just know she'll overcome it. I still have people pleasing tendencies, but it's definitely not as bad as before. Good luck Dani, and thanks for sharing your story
She reminds me so much of myself! My whole life I was a people pleaser and I started dieting and 9 years old. Now that I’m in my 30s, life has changed so much!! I finally decided to really live for myself and my own happiness. I really believe in this beautiful and intelligent woman! She doesn’t need anyones approval (I know that’s easier said than done). But she is so capable of anything she wants out of life! I truly wish her the best.
I can identify with many of Danni's feelings, especially as a kid and teenager. I'm 41 now and still have a preoccupation with food and weight. The thoughts never really go away, but we learn to cope with them in healthy ways. Self love is critical.
Had a niece go thru anorexia. Almost killed her she had to be hospitalized but was able to recover and got into fitness so now she has an athletic self image and is healthy and positive.
Eating disorders are so complex. Everyone is so unique. Anxiety, depression, self harm, addiction. Dani is a very strong young lady. Finding something that helps
Relieve the stress, pain, anxiety is difficult especially when finding something positive as an outlet can be difficult. It’s so easy to slip into something negative like self harm or even over exercising. It can start out as something positive and for people who are not aware or on the outside of it doing something like going to the gym, walking, running can look so normal and healthy. It can be extremely difficult to escape from though. You are very articulate with it and how much you have been through. To care so deeply for family around you.
Sending you much love, support and encouragement Danni 🥰 you are precious, you are unique. There’s no one like you! And you’re amazing. ❤️🩹
Parents out there you need to validate your children’s emotions and worries, if your child is nervous listen to then, don’t blowoff, I feel like a lot of parents tell their children not to cry , forcing them to hold their emotions and not talk about it.Well, TALK ABOUT IT, as in significant as you think it is, they need to be heard as a young child, because it causes a lot of traumas
Putting your life on pause to help your child get well, it what being a parent is. When you love your children, there is nothing you won't do to make sure they are ok, and safe.
My mom put her own retirement further away to help pay for my therapy sessions and meds while I was still struggling to have stable work when I was at my worst. I'll be forever grateful, parents are truly magnificent selfless beings. She gave me life and saved my life.
@@ItsAMalkavianThing I didn't have parents like that. There was no love or feeling or emotions in my household with the acception of anger and pain. I remember being 10 or 12 years old and wondering why I didn't have the good parents like my friends had. I remember praying and asking God why , and what did I do, was I such a bad kid that I deserved the abusive parents I had.
When I finally became a father, the love for my child was instant, and unbreakable. I immediately knew what it meant to be a parent, and I knew exactly what I would never be like. My parents. I live for my children. They are the main source of my happiness. Not that there aren't other things that make me happy, but being a parent and seeing your children happy and successful is the honor of my life. There's nothing I wouldn't do for them. I currently have one of my children in therapy. She has severe anxiety and obsessive compulsive disorder with intrusive thoughts. So I know how it feels to be that parent as well. The hardest part is knowing you can't take their pain away, knowing they are suffering and there's nothing you can do about it except love them and support them.
I’m so proud of you Danni! Your an inspiration to many people who are listening to your testimony. Your using your voice to help others who are suffering from ED or any mental health illnesses. I know kiddo you didn’t stand a chance coming into this world. I went through the lost of my mother a month before you were born. I often blamed myself for what you were going through. I often asked God to spare you and let me take on ED and the depression and everything else. All I wanted for you is to be healthy and happy 😊 I know recovery was not easy nor it was a quick fix. I will always support you and cheer you kiddo!! You are an inspiration to me!! 😘
What a beautiful woman with an inspiring story. Sending love & thanks to Danni.
The psychiatric hospital system is overtly disfunction. They are absolutely no help whatsoever to anyone. Incompetent MDs. Incompetence galore. No one should ever expect anything but a disaster when dealing with these people.
When she said, "I felt like I couldn't control anything around me", her anorexia immediately made more sense... best of luck to you Danni ❤
This resonates so much with me on many levels and this need to be accepted! So proud of you and your journey and know your story will impact people! Please don’t let others talk you out of sharing like they have me!
I find it so sad that people can be so selfish and harm their children. It causes so much damage. Would this young lady have become so ill had her parents not separated? Her father not abandoning her? I often wonder. That is why it is so important that if you decide to have a family, you need to commit to your family. You need to forget about your selfish needs in order to raise strong people. I wish this young lady all the best in health and happiness.
i am currently in quasi-recovery but i keep relapsing. we hear you danni. you are seen and loved. lots of love to you. i hope you're doing okay.
Hope you're doing better as well and feeling better.🙏🌠♥️🙂
My son was severely anoretic at 17, 18, 19. He almost died from organ failure. He was only in one treatment center. He HATED it. When he was being discharged, they told him he would relapse, you'll be back, they said. He never relapsed. He had some after care, started on Prozac. I think his anorexia stemmed from anxiety and not feeling worthy, same situation as Danni with his father.
He's 33 now. I never asked him too many questions because if I did, he would get mad or shut down, back then. I think it's time to revisit it with him and ask what made him not relapse.
Eta, it's very difficult as a parent watching your child slowly kill themselves. You alternately ignore it (in denial, don't know what to say), hope they "grow out of it", beg them to eat something. As a parent, we are not prepared to handle something as psychologically deep and dangerous as anorexia.
Danni, I'm glad you made it honey. You are worthwhile and very loveable. And I'm not just saying that, I MEAN it💚
Poor baby. The torment she went through.
She’s so sweet and childlike .
What a strong woman you are honey. Your story is heartbreaking but also very inspirational. You’re on the right path now. Don’t let anything steal your joy. Thank you for sharing.
Wow I really could use that young ladies' help w/my son. Someone that he could relate with. I'm in tears worried,guilty & feeling helpless as a parent. Her story also made me happy that she turned things around & the way she looked at things. I Luv when she sparked up saying she got confident about herself. Well as much as I feel helpless I know I'm not. Not giving up to help my young man figure things out. He might resist but I can't jus sit bk & hope things will get better on their own. Too many yrs have gone by & I don't see a positive change. I got my plan & I don't care if I got to drive 30 mins to his dad's house daily & persuade him to come with me. I want to show him this interview for starters. If there's anyone out there please pray for me & my son. Everyone should feel valued & Luvd. Thank you for telling your story & Mark for always keeping it real w/an open heart. We need more ppl in the world like you Mark. L&R
Wow her explanation of what is was like going through an eating disorder was so vivid. It's a harrowing experience. Hers was the most intense so far. Thank for this interview, I feel like I understand a lot better.
This girls is adorable. Her sweet nature is incredible. She's pretty and likable and I hope she finds a stable family to help her along. I just want to hug her and give her encouragement that they're people out there that will love her as she is.
So proud of you, Danni. It's a battle.Thank you for sharing your story.
She is right about psych hospitals- they are not trained to help with ED. You absolutely need a specialized facility.
I don't know her and I'm incredibly proud of how far she has come. It sounds like she has experienced significant growth and gained a lot of strength throughout her recovery process. I'm sure she gives hope to those struggling with the same issues, no matter their age. Rooting for Danni!
Thank you so much for sharing your story Danni and educating me on this terrible disease. Stay strong.
Great video! It takes such courage to be able to talk about this! I hope we can see more like this too!
no one ever gets over anorexia. it's always there. you learn to manage it but it's a slippery slope that works it's way back in gradually and insidiously. you have to always always manage it. it's a form of anxiety. when all hell breaks loose in our lives (and it always does), anorexics know that they always have anarexia as their friend. it's really life long.
And it's their friend because it increases their sensation of CONTROL? That is my understanding, but I am trying to understand while noting that a potentially fatal disease which makes the sufferer's hair teeth skin and body look terrible shouldn't be considered a "friend"??
@@carltoncotter2614 like she was saying, people with anorexia do not see what you see. They often still feel "fat". Getting thin is never achieved in their minds. While people are shocked at their appearance, they are not and in fact feel "fat" and obsessively squeeze their stomachs as if they looking for the fat that won't come off. You manage anorexia but it becomes a friend in that you know you can always stop eating. It's there and in an odd way provided comfort. It is like control. You know you can always return to that comfort and control. It's a horrible way to go through life but it is what it is.
@@carltoncotter2614 btw, yes it's potentially fatal and anorexics know this but it doesn't stop them because the urge to "get rid of the fat" is greater so its a balancing act like knowing that drinking too much is fatal so you strike a balance. "I'll be okay if I just have a drink and no more" but it's a slippery slope and before you know it you're drinking 6 drinks.
Such a beautiful young woman who articulated a horrendous struggle so well. May she keep getting stronger and give hope to others struggling!!
It was Great hearing a recovery success story for a change.
As someone whose child is in year 3 of battling this disease … agree. It’s so hard to have hope!
My daughter just completed her second round of treatment. Right now, she doesn’t want recovery but her dad and I are trying to guide her one day at a time.
I’m Danni’s mom. I’m so proud of her. I completely understand how your feeling. Don’t lose hope. It took many relapse’s. Sleepless nights. I’m sending you positive vibes and prayers!!
@@elsabruce2887 Oh my goodness! Thank you for your reply. ❤️ I try to tell myself “One day, one hour, one minute, one second at a time”
Bless her heart. She has such a sweet soul. Danni, I'm so happy that you're doing well and you've discovered what the real meaning of happiness is.
That teacher was WRONG. It happened to my son and in the same meeting. I was irate. I screamed at her. Not good for my image but wt..
I'm sorry no one stuck up for you. It has affected you adversely as it tried to do to my son but remember, others can be and are wrong. Talk talk talk to a therapist. My daughter died and my son feels just like you do. You're not alone. You're so so beautiful..so much but more importantly, you're that way inside. An open person who talks as you do is so very beautiful. Your depth is beauty darling. Keep your boundaries but please don't be strict with yourself. The boundaries will be your peace, use it wisely. Don't take your boundaries out on yourself. XO
I'm so happy Danni is doing better. She's so articulate and self-aware. ED's are no joke... and she explains it so well. I'd love to be her friend!
Danni, you are amazing and strong. As someone in recovery, I am so, so, so very proud of you. ❤❤ For you and anyone else who may read this, I just want to add that I’ve heard that full recovery (with almost zero risk of relapse) is possible. What Mia Did Next is a TH-camr who talks about it (and there are others, too). Thank you, Danni, for sharing your story
Wise, insightful and very sweet young woman. I related to some of her experiences. I think she’s also brave and intelligent. I wish her a beautiful life. As for the man who “fathered” her, I hope they can one day reunite and maybe even patch things up but right now, I’d say it’s his loss.
Nobody mentioned the fact that the dogs saved her life ♥️
Hey guyz! Just wanted 2 say that I ABSOLUTELY 💜 this channel!!! About 2 watch this vid now, just awaiting D/L. I'm sure it's gonna be really good~ like most of them are!!! Keep up the Good work Mark! Much 💜
Thank you Danni for sharing your story of this battle. I went through it too. Feeling out of control in every other way, then finding control in the calories and exercise... exactly my experience as well. I agree with your advice at the end, to not weigh yourself regularly. I would say, try not to weigh yourself ever. Go with the intuition God gave you. Eat intuitively, as you said. Give yourself lots of grace and remember how many people love you and that this life is about so much more than yourself.
The description of her precious dogs barking like mad made me cry. Those dogs knew what she was about to do and wanted her to stay! Thank goodness they alerted her mother with their ruckus and thank goodness Mom was home to find out what was about to happen.
Danni, if you see this, I am so proud of you. I had a roommate in college who binged and over-exercised. Sadly, about eight years later her heart gave out and she passed away. But in the 1980s, E/D was not understood as much as it is now, and it was not something that the general population had any understanding at all. (We all just thought she was vain. We just didn't know any better.)
Keep up the good work, Danni. You deserve a happy and full life, and it looks like you've achieved that by taking treatment seriously, and realizing how much your un-aliving yourself would've hurt your family and dogs.
Sending you love.
Glad you're still around Danni. The world is a better place with you in it. ✌
Dannie, only very brave , mature souls take on such experiences to propel us all forward in growth, Thank you
What a powerful human, so strong and wise. Amazing inspiration as well. Wishing her all the love and happiness she deserves 🍀. Thank you for sharing 🙏💚
You're such an incredible, intelligent, inspirational person with a great insight into mental health and life in general.
We certainly do not believe that you were just a teenager who wanted attention.
This is way deeper than that.
Clearly you've been extremely ill.
I know Anorexia. I know OCD. I know control.
So the fact that you won the fight against Anorexia is quite extraordinary!
Very few people get over their eating disorders, but you made it.
You inspired me to do something.
I will reach out for help again.
Thank you so much for doing this interview.
You gave me hope and most definitely have given lots of other people inspiration and hope, too.
I wish the world for you! Eat! Drink! Laugh! Live! You deserve every minute of happiness in your life.
Lots of love from Norway.
Thank you for sharing your story. So nice to hear a success story 💜
I’ve an eating disorder, I’m bipolar 2 and I’m going through menopause. I’ve totally lost control of my life and feel like I’m spiralling downwards. I hope I can recover like her. But I’m 50. I have very little hope. 😭
You can do it!!!
Please fight
Danni you are a beautiful soul. Thank you for sharing your story. You have a unique ability articulating that is inspirational.
And this is the system we have … whether it’s anorexia, undiagnosed dementia, mental illness… we are NOT helping people. Period. We need to rethink and prioritize our healthcare system.
I relate so much to her story and it’s really important for people to have an outlet like this. I turned to binge eating. Eating my emotions. It took years of healing to get to a point where I was comfortable enough with my body.
Good Morning SWU fam'. Its just after 3:00 a.m. here in Northern California.🌅 If youre reading this, I hope you are safe, comfortable & well. Thank you for showing up. Good Vibes & Mad Love sent Your way! 🌺🙃🌺
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Top of the morning Ro! So glad to be here. Big love coming at ya💕 It's 3:00am and feeling good😁
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Morning Rochelle ❤️ have a great day!
@@jadedmonk7001 Yes, always good to see you. 💕
Danni, so glad you are here to tell your story. You are worthy of love, happiness and peace. Xoxo
It's called an IEP meeting. Individual Education Plan, everyone comes to meeting to determine what to do moving forward with a specific child.
Awesome story Danni, I am so glad your recovery feels more natural this time. You are a warrior. You are beautiful inside and out. !!!
What a beautiful and courageous young woman. Your story and what you’ve lived through at such a young age, should be told to other young people. Please keep spreading your story. ❤️
She's gorgeous, and she's a very sweet young lady, I pray that she finds her way! It's hard to believe that guys didn't find her pretty, she is SO beautiful! I hope all of the positive comments help her, as well as the prayers!
I’m a year into my recovery from anorexia how I got to that point of dying from being so thin is a terrifying story I’ve gained and held onto weight the past year recently I’m back sliding but it’s okay bc i have one person who is supportive in my life I relate to a lot of the things she is talking about
It’s funny how thoughts can warp the perception of yourself. You’re an articulate & beautiful girl, Danni. Sure the girls in school were jealous of you. Praying for your healing. ❤
What a strong woman. I believe in YOU, Danni❤️
The human experience is about lose , everything and everyone gets old , rusts, dies , turns to dust. The secret is to not dwell on it .its a curse and a blessing to know that somday we all die and we know nothing about what happens after , if anything. Stay strong and try to find the happiness between the tragedies.
But this is what women girls go thru. Im grown..but we have it engrained that we must be skinny n pretty to be accepted. Or at least skinny. I suffered for years ...years...and still do in ways.
Idk if it's inappropriate to say this or not...but I'm not attracted to skinny ladys.
@@wesleyAlan9179 You don't get it, sorry, and the irony of your comment..🤦🏻♀️
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You're just a weirdo..
Maybe it's YOU that doesn't get what I'M getting at...obviously
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Do you really want to know what I was getting at? I'll tell you.
I made that comment to the original poster. I wanted her to know that ladies shouldn't worry about being "fat" or "unattractive" because a lot of people actually find plus size ladies attractive.
What's so wrong about that?
Please freaking tell me!😫
@@wesleyAlan9179 This is not about what you find attractive or not. And thinking that you make a difference just because you are attracted to a certain body type.. lol