Thank you Magiic for featuring me on this powerful song. I’ve received many messages saying that they needed to hear this, thanking us for making this song. To all that are hurting: you have a voice. I’m gonna tell you this- TXHOB UA SIAB NTEV! Do not put yourself in a situation where you believe that you cannot get out of because I promise you, you CAN get out of it. You WILL get out of it. Reach out. I am here to support you. - Douachi Yang
Omg this song hits deep 😭 Lost my cousin to suicide. She had wanted to leave her abusive marriage, but her parents & older brother told her to go back. She took her own life weeks later leaving behind 3 young kids. As a community, we need to change our mindset and the toxic beliefs of this culture. We need to love, value & support our Hmong mothers, daughters and sisters ❤️
Shame on her brother and her parents! They did this to her. They could’ve saved her. I hope they live with guilt everyday knowing the fact that they could’ve saved her from evil but they cared more about their face and reputation.😡I hope her brother took this as a lesson learned and don’t treat his daughter’s the way he did his sister. Smh. Sorry for your loss. Rip to her. 😔
These lyrics runs deep. I'm a domestic violence survivor of 14 years and this hits extremely close to home. It's time to stand up for ourselves and worry less of what the elders or community label us women as. We have to live for us and put our happiness above anything and anyone else. Thank you for this powerful song!
Listening to this song brings tears to my eyes, it hits home for me. No one knows how it truly feels to walk in the shoes of a domestic violence relationship/marriage in the Hmong community. A lot of times the victim chose not to speak out due to the fact that they've lost hope in seeking help, therefore, they continued to endure the pain. Thank you Magiic Hang for making this song dedicated to us Hmong sisters.
The 5 dislikes must be the men who abuse “their” woman and didn’t care to listen 30 seconds through.... Keep doing what y’all do!!! My sis posted this and it hits hard
I believe there is a reason behind why the Hmong Man is the lead in this piece. This piece is dedicated to all the Hmong Women who are going through similar situation. Hmong Women have been speaking out for way too long without the support of a Hmong Man. This piece.. is the support for all the Hmong Women out there who's voice went in one ear and came out the other.
For the ones who don't understand the concept of this song; Magiic is rapping from the bride's perspective. "Ua siab ntev" (be patient) is a common advice or phrase most parents and elder Hmong relatives who do the consulting between the disputing spouses give. In traditional Hmong families and marriages, this sentiment is echoed even on the wedding day; "you bare your husband's shame as you are a part of his family this day going forward." Unfortunately, as the domestic abuse repeats, that advice falls on deaf ears until the bride/daughter is killed by her husband. - This leads to me elaborating more on the chorus on this song sung beautifully by Douachi Yang. She sings that as the bride/daughter, she has gone back to her parents and friends seeking refuge and protection but the typical response is just, "Be patient and go back to your husband" in a nut shell. As far as this song goes, I love it! It's different as rarely do we have a male artist expressing lyrically through the opposite gender. The lyrics were beautiful and flowed naturally. This was a great collaboration and well-produced. Douachi has this raspy tone and the haunting beat fit the chorus perfectly; it's a breath of fresh air as opposed to most high pitched Hmong female singers. I wish I could purchase a copy of this song on iTunes as a show of support to fellow and local Hmong artists. Your hard work should be compensated. Thank you for a beautiful song and shedding light to everyday struggles our Hmong people face within.
@T R What he does in his personal life, his past, or who he associates with is his business and has nothing to do with the making of this song. I don’t know him personally or anyone behind the making of it. This song is not for every one and you’re more than welcome to disagree with me. So let me ask you this, does coming online and calling someone names make you a “winner” then?
as a domestic violence survivor. this song speaks to me. thank you. i barely survived to be with my daughters again. men and women both suffer domestic violence. im glad this song was made it will stay with me forever
I am sorry to hear you and your children suffered domestic violence. Some men are upset this song is more about women survivors, but I appreciate that you understand this song is for you as much as it is for women.
This is on repeat for me!!! I'm glad my parents are so much more understanding that it's better for all of our daughters to come back home alive than to stay in abusive relationship/marriage!!!!!! Thank you for speaking and empowering behalf of us hmong women!!
😭😭😭😭 the struggle of being a Hmong daughter! I been there done that! Thank god I made it out alive. 4 years later now I’m happily engaged to a wonderful person and I can careless what anyone including my family have to say. At the end of this I’m the one living it and I’m going to live it to the fullest!
It's difficult carrying tradition through American lifestyles even as a son. Not knocking on your post but just saying good that you got out of an abusive relationship. Too many women go back to their abusive exes and then play the victim card as if the guy could change within a few weeks. I just don't buy that. Glad to hear a sister not going back.
@@mrjjthor it’s hard both ways. It’s the way we were raised that makes it’s so hard to live the way we want. I understand why some people choose to go back. I lost count on how many times I went back to my ex until I finally started to believe that I can do it without him and my family. It was a struggle for sure when your own family don’t support you. They don’t believe in divorce. I felt like I didn’t want to let them down and my kid down. But I soon realize I was putting my self down. I was so unhappy and I try to force myself to be happy with him. Just thinking about it makes me so sad but made me stronger. My advice to everyone is you can’t force someone to love you the way u want to be loved. Only you can love yourself and if that person is truly worth it they will love u back as while!
Sadly, a man's voice is more powerful than a woman's voice in all societies today. Please continue being a male ally for women. Please continue to empower women and listen to them and feel empathy for them and hold each other (other men) accountable.
Agree with everything some women say and you’re called an ally. Suggest something and you're accused of taking up space when you need to sit back and listen. Question narrowly constructed conclusions and you’re accused of silencing women. Dare to disagree and all the sudden “you are part of the problem” or at best, you’re mansplaining. And some women wonder why there aren’t more “allies.”
I hold both men and women accountable. I'm against men hitting women and I tell women in a abusive relationship not to return back to their abusive exes after they have split. However, sometimes they go back on their own thinking the man has changed. Seen it happen too many times. If you got away from the crazy ex then it's best to stay away especially if he isn't threatening you. My wife is from a previous abusive marriage and before we met she tried to go back to her ex thinking things will be different since he "claimed" he's changed. I've also seen it happened too many times where the woman chooses on her own to go back. Smh. So ladies if you are able to separate from an abusive ex then please stay away. If you go back to him then you are responsible for your own bad decisions and this is where women needs to be held accountable for their actions. Men, if you hit your women out of anger then you need to go to jail. There's nothing manly about beating your woman.
@@Maloha486 speak your mind whether you get shamed or not. I'm empowering women by holding them accountable for making poor decisions by going back to a crazy ex or choosing a bad boy who they knowingly knew was a bad person to begin with.
@@Maloha486 it's hard to be an ally because you have to be so careful so that you're not offending anyone and causing harm in ways you weren't aware of that would cause harm. You have good intentions but as an ally, you will constantly have to be reflecting on your own biases and the language you're using. It's hard to be an ally when you're from the group that is causing the most harm. If I were a man, I'd probably get defensive too when ppl say men are abusive, but I have to know that it's my job to hold myself accountable to make sure I'm not speaking in ways that empower bad men to be abusive. When women talk badly about men, I gotta try to be patient and understand that they arent talking about me. We need more male allies because in the end, we arent fighting men. We are fighting the patriarchy and toxic masculinity that hurts men first and hurts women second in the form of misogyny. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. For example, I want to be an ally for black lives matter, but I cannot really speak on anything since I only see thru my eyes and have never experienced racism as a black person, so all I can do is listen and share or repeat the content of the black voices that are already speaking on tiktok or facebook.
I feel like every Hmong women can relate to this song, even me honestly. Not every marriage is perfect. But thank you for writing this song, it really hits feels. I can feel the pain and meaning in this song. You guys did a good job singing this song!! ❤️
The song hits close. These are the values instilled in us by our beloved culture. How can we be brave when our whole entire lives we were bred to submit, yield and bow our heads to the man? I know so many couples where the man cannot keep a job, drinks every weekend and beats the wife while she pays the bills, raise the children, work full time, clean the home, cooks, and is still not good enough. When she finds the strength to raise her voice, she is abused into silence. When she finds courage to reach for support, she is instead shamed to stay. And when she leaves, he comes for her life. Some men often ignorantly comment, “not all men are the same.” Let me say this: fortunately, not all men are the same, however, this is a given and anyone who is commenting as such, is the same.
such a powerful song, magiic and douachi. this song hits home. my mom who has now passed was a victim of marital abuse for over 14 years... when she finally found the courage to leave and save herself, it was too late... ladies, if you ever find yourself in this situation.. please, PLEASE find help, please get out and save yourself. staying "for the children" does more damage in the long run. your children do not deserve to see mom and dad fighting... it leaves unfixable scars. tsis txhob ua siab ntev anymore sisters.
I don’t care what anyone says, this song speaks the truth!!! Love it and been on repeat since day 1, keep doing what you do best don’t let others negativity stop you! 💙
All too often Hmong women are seen as objects, and it's sad how we have not evolved with society. I'm not saying to let go of the Hmong culture, tradition and values, but for the Hmong community to stop being scared of "ruining face", but instead help the ones in needs. The ones that need help the most are the ones silently crying for help. We all need to come together to teach our future kids the right and wrongs so that we can help stop domestic violence and help those in need when they see it. This song is so strong and powerful! It is one step closer to making a difference!
It's not a Hmong thing. Women only got the right to vote a little over 100 years ago. Hmong people came out of the jungle less than 50 years ago. I say we're doing really well with progression. I think you mean to be disappointed by society. ☺️
@@fatee5069 yes, you are correct. Hmong are doing really well with adapting. It's not just with the Hmong but with everyone, and like you said, society.
@@ellenxiong2103 so why make it a Hmong thing? That's an issue with Hmong people as well. We like to belittle ourselves because...? Y'all point to being a "nyab zoo" as toxic, but the root of that isn't talked about at all. You're literally being bought. The "nyab zoo" is looked down upon yet the "nyab 10k" is always sarcastically joked about. It's a mockery that should actually be taken more serious and gotten rid of. If you're being treated like property from the beginning idk why you'd expect that to change.
@@fatee5069 I believe everyone has different views on how they interpret on what “nyab 10k” and “nyab zoo” is. That varies from person to person and from gender to gender. But to answer your question, the issue is with society, like how I stated in my last comment. some men see woman as objects. See how I said some men and not all men? This is just like the BLM movement. All lives can’t matter until BLM. Now to put that into a Hmong perspective, some men still see women as weaklings. They can’t take care of themselves. If they have a higher education than men then they are thought to be uncontrollable and so on. They are thought of as second instead of standing next to their husband. That’s just to name a few. And like I said, not all men will think like that about their S/O. This is also why my first comment talks about teaching our future kids about right and wrong so that we don’t have to come down to losing a daughter, and In other cases, son’s, to domestic violence. It starts with us teaching future generations so that they don’t see their S/O other as property. That’s how we can slowly stop domestic violence
I love the title of this song. It definitely depicts the the truth of our rooted culture. I don’t know how many times during my marriage I have heard my parents saying to me UA SIAB NTEV!
I absolutely love this song!!! I give the artists props! To be a Hmong woman who leaves her family to be with a man who treats her like shit whether it be physically, emotionally, mentally and then turn to family who says to 'ua siab ntev' is so heartbreaking... How can a woman who is hurting so much contain her pain and keep it under wraps while she feels like she is dying on the inside yet suppress her emotions to perform her motherly/wife 'duties?' This song depicts so much and I thank you for it ❤️
This breaks my heart. I'm in tears and I'm fought it to not fall down my face. :( These phrases I have heard all my life; I give myself so much kudos for being one of them lucky ones who made it and not 6 ft under. For all the sisters out there who is struggling please know you can do it and don't let 6ft under and ua siab ntev define you!! I see you even when you are pretending to smile underneath all those tears and fake smiles!!! Amazing job Magiic Hang and all your other collaborators.
Such a powerful song. 😭😭❤️❤️ My heart is aching for all my Hmong sisters who are suffering in silent. A person who loves you will never raise his hand on you. Love yourself and know your self worth.
Wow I am 😯amazed and 😢sad at the same time. I hoped all the girls/women & those in need of help, had found a way out.🙏❤🙏❤🙏❤🙏 Ladies Don't listen to their So-called "Kev cai" hmoob rau poj niam! Please only listen to your heart while it's still running.💖 Thank you Magiic & Douachi for the touching song/message.
I can listen to this song all day! Everytime i hear it, i just drop tears silently because of how we are always told to ua siab ntev but no one wears our shoes to see what is really happening on the inside. I was in a domestic violence relationship before, this song just brings me back to those days when I was abused in my past relationship. Really glad that i didnt marry that person or else i would of been one of the women.
Ouuffff ! Love this one. Powerful meaning behind it! I'm also in the progress right now in writing one. This abuse to our sisters, aunties, mothers, and grandmothers is not ACCEPTABLE in anyway nor should it be condoned
Omg will touky be rapping !? Hoping to see more feminism stuff from hmong ppl and from an industry that has been built primarily on misogyny (I said that cuz Eminem is the king of misogyny as he is of rap lmao)
I love love love love this song. Teenagers who decides to get married early and throw their youth away need to hear this song first before truly putting their life onto another person who they barely met.
This song touches my heart.. us Hmong women needs to stop ua siab ntev. I ua siab ntev for 20 years and I just Learned how to walk away. We never want that name that’s why we stay so long, but why stay? When your so in a toxic relationship. Be happy, love your self. This song speaks the truth. 💯💯
My heart is hurting to all my hmong brothers and sisters out there who has dealt with abuse, is CURRENTLY dealing with abuse, and has died from abuse... RIP.
Dang, yall brought magic, depth, rawness, soul, & fire to this Track. I love the lyrics, it's so articulate & real. Thanks for this special creation. This is awesome for all those going through domestic violence and all the survivors of domestic violence & narcissistic abusers. Manifest yourselves out of the violent environment. There's help & resources for you.
Thank you for writing this song! It's means a lot coming from a Hmong brother perspective and showing support for us women about this issue in the community.
thanks for the song. Song got me crying.. listening to the lyrics and feeling each and every word.. song is deep. Thank you both for this wonderful song.. so many women can relate.. you guys are wonderful. Keep it up
Yas!!!! Thank you for the hmong community turning around in 2021. I've seen more positive hmong post on metal awareness and our hmong culture on our daughters/wives/daughter-in-laws (nyab). Thank you for this beautiful song and the lyrics hit hard.
Wow both of your voices are so powerful. I listened to this 3 times before I decided to comment on it. It’s truly sadden that Domestic violence is so common in our community. This song really hits my feelings of those in abusive relationships. Death is not the only answer. This song made me think of all the Hmong movies we’ve seen and majority of them are about physical and emotional abuse. Break the cycle #staystrong #reachoutforhelp #thereisawayout
I just wanted to say thank you. Although I have not been in a physically abusive relationship, it has been all around me. For a long time I believed that the men do not care. This moved me to tears.
This song hits me hard. The people I know have been there. I give them advice to leave asap, but I can't do nothing but support them on whatever choice they made and be there when they need me to be there to listen. Breaks my heart everytime they told me of what happened to them.
There are so many truths to this song!! Glad the message is being put out there. I know having conversations around this topic is uncomfortable but it's needed. It's the only way we can change the environment for the next generations.
Everytime I listen to this song it gives me goosebumps. It hits deep. I am without family bc I went against patriarch practices. I haven't looked back since. Thank you for recognizing us sisters 🙏🏼👊🏽
Strong and powerful words!! Peb ua neej Nyob ces yeej zoo li no os... Being a Hmong daughter is hard, a man will never know what we women go through rather is an abusive or not they won’t know... nice job u 2!!
Just speaking my mind here. Our wives is someone's daughter, sister, and perhaps mother. I love my family to the moon and back. Never would I ever want to see any of my moms (Mother/Aunties), and sisters to be abused... especially if any of my daughters...
I'm a new fan! I've just discovered this song today and already I've listened to it over 100 times! This was a beautiful piece but sad! Ty BOTH for this masterpiece! ❤❤❤❤
Don’t marry into a Hmong family. My sister was in a situation and my dad said that’s their problem to deal with. I said, “Dad, when will you intervene? Will you finally intervene when the police finds her decomposed body in the back of his car?” He called her to come home real quick.
it might be problematic to you that a man is singing the pov of a woman, but to others it may give them some sense of relief and comfort knowing that again, a man understands their pain and what they’re going through. that at least someone knows that their brother is doing something so sinful. try to understand why the artist drew such fine details instead of just staring at the picture and blinking your eyes at it.
First of all, my prayers and heart goes out to the families of our sisters who’s lives were cut short. They were gone too soon. May they all rest in peace and away from pain. Love everything about this song! Lyrics is so deep! Would be awesome if a girl sing it instead. However, this song brings tears to my eyes. As a Hmong woman myself, to save faces most of our Hmong parents will always end up saying "ua siab ntev" until one is gone 10ft deep then they say "ua cas tsis ua ib siab." I hope that as time goes by our younger generation will change for the better. Both boys and girls should be loved and appreciate regarding if the woman was to step out and married into another family. Love & respect her, just like you would want your daughters to be loved!
The song touch my heart and many others. Thank you for helping most of the girls reach out our message. Please post up an lyrics one and possibly an instrumental as well. So excited and hoping to hear more of these song.
That's what i tell men and women. If you don't care about carrying a status title then leave your partner and own up to it. Too many don't want to be at fault, be labeled a divorcee, etc., and then stay and then play the victim card. Kudos to you.
Why does it hurt to listen to this. Courage ladies we need to have. Don't feel you're alone and you won't be alone once you've escape the abuse. I once thought to be a nyab siab ntev but got older and wiser and left. Seek help if you can't get out.
Thank you Magiic for featuring me on this powerful song. I’ve received many messages saying that they needed to hear this, thanking us for making this song.
To all that are hurting: you have a voice. I’m gonna tell you this- TXHOB UA SIAB NTEV! Do not put yourself in a situation where you believe that you cannot get out of because I promise you, you CAN get out of it. You WILL get out of it. Reach out. I am here to support you.
- Douachi Yang
I Love Your Voice Sista 🥰
ur voice gives me Strengths and Hope Douachi.
YES!!! They don’t wear our shoes they don’t feel our pain so txhob ua siab ntev!!!
@@shenglee27 well said!
❤️thank you
Omg this song hits deep 😭 Lost my cousin to suicide. She had wanted to leave her abusive marriage, but her parents & older brother told her to go back. She took her own life weeks later leaving behind 3 young kids. As a community, we need to change our mindset and the toxic beliefs of this culture. We need to love, value & support our Hmong mothers, daughters and sisters ❤️
Sorry for your loss....depression is real...unless they're in your shoes...
Shame on her brother and her parents! They did this to her. They could’ve saved her. I hope they live with guilt everyday knowing the fact that they could’ve saved her from evil but they cared more about their face and reputation.😡I hope her brother took this as a lesson learned and don’t treat his daughter’s the way he did his sister. Smh. Sorry for your loss. Rip to her. 😔
I love how Magic is speaking on behalf of what our Hmong Mothers/daughters/sisters are going through. I appreciate that.
These lyrics runs deep.
I'm a domestic violence survivor of 14 years and this hits extremely close to home. It's time to stand up for ourselves and worry less of what the elders or community label us women as. We have to live for us and put our happiness above anything and anyone else. Thank you for this powerful song!
Listening to this song brings tears to my eyes, it hits home for me. No one knows how it truly feels to walk in the shoes of a domestic violence relationship/marriage in the Hmong community. A lot of times the victim chose not to speak out due to the fact that they've lost hope in seeking help, therefore, they continued to endure the pain. Thank you Magiic Hang for making this song dedicated to us Hmong sisters.
The 5 dislikes must be the men who abuse “their” woman and didn’t care to listen 30 seconds through.... Keep doing what y’all do!!! My sis posted this and it hits hard
I believe there is a reason behind why the Hmong Man is the lead in this piece. This piece is dedicated to all the Hmong Women who are going through similar situation. Hmong Women have been speaking out for way too long without the support of a Hmong Man. This piece.. is the support for all the Hmong Women out there who's voice went in one ear and came out the other.
Frrr i love this!!! I appreciate it so much.
For the ones who don't understand the concept of this song; Magiic is rapping from the bride's perspective. "Ua siab ntev" (be patient) is a common advice or phrase most parents and elder Hmong relatives who do the consulting between the disputing spouses give. In traditional Hmong families and marriages, this sentiment is echoed even on the wedding day; "you bare your husband's shame as you are a part of his family this day going forward." Unfortunately, as the domestic abuse repeats, that advice falls on deaf ears until the bride/daughter is killed by her husband. - This leads to me elaborating more on the chorus on this song sung beautifully by Douachi Yang. She sings that as the bride/daughter, she has gone back to her parents and friends seeking refuge and protection but the typical response is just, "Be patient and go back to your husband" in a nut shell.
As far as this song goes, I love it! It's different as rarely do we have a male artist expressing lyrically through the opposite gender. The lyrics were beautiful and flowed naturally. This was a great collaboration and well-produced. Douachi has this raspy tone and the haunting beat fit the chorus perfectly; it's a breath of fresh air as opposed to most high pitched Hmong female singers. I wish I could purchase a copy of this song on iTunes as a show of support to fellow and local Hmong artists. Your hard work should be compensated. Thank you for a beautiful song and shedding light to everyday struggles our Hmong people face within.
Thank you for understanding and taking the time to actually listen to the whole song. We appreciate you 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@T R What he does in his personal life, his past, or who he associates with is his business and has nothing to do with the making of this song. I don’t know him personally or anyone behind the making of it. This song is not for every one and you’re more than welcome to disagree with me. So let me ask you this, does coming online and calling someone names make you a “winner” then?
as a domestic violence survivor. this song speaks to me. thank you. i barely survived to be with my daughters again. men and women both suffer domestic violence. im glad this song was made it will stay with me forever
I appreciate you mention this happen to both genders. Many others are only one sided.
I am sorry to hear you and your children suffered domestic violence. Some men are upset this song is more about women survivors, but I appreciate that you understand this song is for you as much as it is for women.
This is on repeat for me!!! I'm glad my parents are so much more understanding that it's better for all of our daughters to come back home alive than to stay in abusive relationship/marriage!!!!!! Thank you for speaking and empowering behalf of us hmong women!!
😭😭😭😭 the struggle of being a Hmong daughter! I been there done that! Thank god I made it out alive. 4 years later now I’m happily engaged to a wonderful person and I can careless what anyone including my family have to say. At the end of this I’m the one living it and I’m going to live it to the fullest!
It's difficult carrying tradition through American lifestyles even as a son. Not knocking on your post but just saying good that you got out of an abusive relationship. Too many women go back to their abusive exes and then play the victim card as if the guy could change within a few weeks. I just don't buy that. Glad to hear a sister not going back.
@@mrjjthor it’s hard both ways. It’s the way we were raised that makes it’s so hard to live the way we want. I understand why some people choose to go back. I lost count on how many times I went back to my ex until I finally started to believe that I can do it without him and my family. It was a struggle for sure when your own family don’t support you. They don’t believe in divorce. I felt like I didn’t want to let them down and my kid down. But I soon realize I was putting my self down. I was so unhappy and I try to force myself to be happy with him. Just thinking about it makes me so sad but made me stronger. My advice to everyone is you can’t force someone to love you the way u want to be loved. Only you can love yourself and if that person is truly worth it they will love u back as while!
I'm a hmong brother and I support this song and the meaning behind it.
Such a powerful song it gives me goosebumps!
A divorce daughter is better than a dead one
They rather get sympathy than criticism. 😞
Sadly, a man's voice is more powerful than a woman's voice in all societies today. Please continue being a male ally for women. Please continue to empower women and listen to them and feel empathy for them and hold each other (other men) accountable.
Agree with everything some women say and you’re called an ally. Suggest something and you're accused of taking up space when you need to sit back and listen. Question narrowly constructed conclusions and you’re accused of silencing women. Dare to disagree and all the sudden “you are part of the problem” or at best, you’re mansplaining. And some women wonder why there aren’t more “allies.”
I hold both men and women accountable. I'm against men hitting women and I tell women in a abusive relationship not to return back to their abusive exes after they have split. However, sometimes they go back on their own thinking the man has changed. Seen it happen too many times. If you got away from the crazy ex then it's best to stay away especially if he isn't threatening you.
My wife is from a previous abusive marriage and before we met she tried to go back to her ex thinking things will be different since he "claimed" he's changed. I've also seen it happened too many times where the woman chooses on her own to go back. Smh.
So ladies if you are able to separate from an abusive ex then please stay away. If you go back to him then you are responsible for your own bad decisions and this is where women needs to be held accountable for their actions.
Men, if you hit your women out of anger then you need to go to jail. There's nothing manly about beating your woman.
@@Maloha486 speak your mind whether you get shamed or not. I'm empowering women by holding them accountable for making poor decisions by going back to a crazy ex or choosing a bad boy who they knowingly knew was a bad person to begin with.
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@@Maloha486 it's hard to be an ally because you have to be so careful so that you're not offending anyone and causing harm in ways you weren't aware of that would cause harm. You have good intentions but as an ally, you will constantly have to be reflecting on your own biases and the language you're using. It's hard to be an ally when you're from the group that is causing the most harm. If I were a man, I'd probably get defensive too when ppl say men are abusive, but I have to know that it's my job to hold myself accountable to make sure I'm not speaking in ways that empower bad men to be abusive. When women talk badly about men, I gotta try to be patient and understand that they arent talking about me. We need more male allies because in the end, we arent fighting men. We are fighting the patriarchy and toxic masculinity that hurts men first and hurts women second in the form of misogyny. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. For example, I want to be an ally for black lives matter, but I cannot really speak on anything since I only see thru my eyes and have never experienced racism as a black person, so all I can do is listen and share or repeat the content of the black voices that are already speaking on tiktok or facebook.
I feel like every Hmong women can relate to this song, even me honestly. Not every marriage is perfect. But thank you for writing this song, it really hits feels. I can feel the pain and meaning in this song. You guys did a good job singing this song!! ❤️
The song hits close. These are the values instilled in us by our beloved culture. How can we be brave when our whole entire lives we were bred to submit, yield and bow our heads to the man? I know so many couples where the man cannot keep a job, drinks every weekend and beats the wife while she pays the bills, raise the children, work full time, clean the home, cooks, and is still not good enough. When she finds the strength to raise her voice, she is abused into silence. When she finds courage to reach for support, she is instead shamed to stay. And when she leaves, he comes for her life. Some men often ignorantly comment, “not all men are the same.” Let me say this: fortunately, not all men are the same, however, this is a given and anyone who is commenting as such, is the same.
such a powerful song, magiic and douachi. this song hits home. my mom who has now passed was a victim of marital abuse for over 14 years... when she finally found the courage to leave and save herself, it was too late... ladies, if you ever find yourself in this situation.. please, PLEASE find help, please get out and save yourself. staying "for the children" does more damage in the long run. your children do not deserve to see mom and dad fighting... it leaves unfixable scars. tsis txhob ua siab ntev anymore sisters.
I don’t care what anyone says, this song speaks the truth!!! Love it and been on repeat since day 1, keep doing what you do best don’t let others negativity stop you! 💙
the second verse is one of my favorite all time verses from you!
Many more to come my bro. I’m just getting started 🙏🏼
Couldn't agree more! That second verse hits hard.
As man we gotta be better than our parents. Enough said.
And teach our kids to be better than us...
Amen
you must of grew up in an abusive home?
@@abyssguy686 no but the in-laws are wack
@@abyssguy686 nope just got wacky in laws
All too often Hmong women are seen as objects, and it's sad how we have not evolved with society. I'm not saying to let go of the Hmong culture, tradition and values, but for the Hmong community to stop being scared of "ruining face", but instead help the ones in needs. The ones that need help the most are the ones silently crying for help. We all need to come together to teach our future kids the right and wrongs so that we can help stop domestic violence and help those in need when they see it. This song is so strong and powerful! It is one step closer to making a difference!
It's not a Hmong thing. Women only got the right to vote a little over 100 years ago. Hmong people came out of the jungle less than 50 years ago. I say we're doing really well with progression. I think you mean to be disappointed by society. ☺️
@@fatee5069 yes, you are correct. Hmong are doing really well with adapting. It's not just with the Hmong but with everyone, and like you said, society.
@@ellenxiong2103 so why make it a Hmong thing? That's an issue with Hmong people as well. We like to belittle ourselves because...?
Y'all point to being a "nyab zoo" as toxic, but the root of that isn't talked about at all. You're literally being bought. The "nyab zoo" is looked down upon yet the "nyab 10k" is always sarcastically joked about. It's a mockery that should actually be taken more serious and gotten rid of. If you're being treated like property from the beginning idk why you'd expect that to change.
@@fatee5069 well said brother 👏👍
@@fatee5069 I believe everyone has different views on how they interpret on what “nyab 10k” and “nyab zoo” is. That varies from person to person and from gender to gender. But to answer your question, the issue is with society, like how I stated in my last comment. some men see woman as objects. See how I said some men and not all men?
This is just like the BLM movement. All lives can’t matter until BLM. Now to put that into a Hmong perspective, some men still see women as weaklings. They can’t take care of themselves. If they have a higher education than men then they are thought to be uncontrollable and so on. They are thought of as second instead of standing next to their husband. That’s just to name a few. And like I said, not all men will think like that about their S/O.
This is also why my first comment talks about teaching our future kids about right and wrong so that we don’t have to come down to losing a daughter, and In other cases, son’s, to domestic violence. It starts with us teaching future generations so that they don’t see their S/O other as property. That’s how we can slowly stop domestic violence
I love the title of this song. It definitely depicts the the truth of our rooted culture. I don’t know how many times during my marriage I have heard my parents saying to me UA SIAB NTEV!
I absolutely love this song!!! I give the artists props! To be a Hmong woman who leaves her family to be with a man who treats her like shit whether it be physically, emotionally, mentally and then turn to family who says to 'ua siab ntev' is so heartbreaking... How can a woman who is hurting so much contain her pain and keep it under wraps while she feels like she is dying on the inside yet suppress her emotions to perform her motherly/wife 'duties?'
This song depicts so much and I thank you for it ❤️
This breaks my heart. I'm in tears and I'm fought it to not fall down my face. :( These phrases I have heard all my life; I give myself so much kudos for being one of them lucky ones who made it and not 6 ft under. For all the sisters out there who is struggling please know you can do it and don't let 6ft under and ua siab ntev define you!! I see you even when you are pretending to smile underneath all those tears and fake smiles!!! Amazing job Magiic Hang and all your other collaborators.
I hope you’re in a better place now sister
Such a powerful song. 😭😭❤️❤️ My heart is aching for all my Hmong sisters who are suffering in silent. A person who loves you will never raise his hand on you. Love yourself and know your self worth.
Wow I am 😯amazed and 😢sad at the same time. I hoped all the girls/women & those in need of help, had found a way out.🙏❤🙏❤🙏❤🙏 Ladies Don't listen to their So-called "Kev cai" hmoob rau poj niam! Please only listen to your heart while it's still running.💖 Thank you Magiic & Douachi for the touching song/message.
I can listen to this song all day! Everytime i hear it, i just drop tears silently because of how we are always told to ua siab ntev but no one wears our shoes to see what is really happening on the inside. I was in a domestic violence relationship before, this song just brings me back to those days when I was abused in my past relationship. Really glad that i didnt marry that person or else i would of been one of the women.
Glad you got out. Wish more women can see the red flags and leave if they could.
Ouuffff ! Love this one. Powerful meaning behind it! I'm also in the progress right now in writing one. This abuse to our sisters, aunties, mothers, and grandmothers is not ACCEPTABLE in anyway nor should it be condoned
Omg will touky be rapping !? Hoping to see more feminism stuff from hmong ppl and from an industry that has been built primarily on misogyny (I said that cuz Eminem is the king of misogyny as he is of rap lmao)
I love love love love this song. Teenagers who decides to get married early and throw their youth away need to hear this song first before truly putting their life onto another person who they barely met.
Such powerful lyrics! We all needed to hear this perspective. Thank you for this beautiful song
What a beautiful song- a message to our community for how we are corrupted. I hope one day we can stand together and be one. 💜💜💜💜💜🙏
This song touches my heart.. us Hmong women needs to stop ua siab ntev. I ua siab ntev for 20 years and I just Learned how to walk away.
We never want that name that’s why we stay so long, but why stay? When your so in a toxic relationship.
Be happy, love your self.
This song speaks the truth. 💯💯
My heart is hurting to all my hmong brothers and sisters out there who has dealt with abuse, is CURRENTLY dealing with abuse, and has died from abuse... RIP.
Please share lyrics soon! Such a powerful song. Such a great choice of featuring Douachi. Such a beautiful voice! ♥️
Dang, yall brought magic, depth, rawness, soul, & fire to this Track. I love the lyrics, it's so articulate & real. Thanks for this special creation. This is awesome for all those going through domestic violence and all the survivors of domestic violence & narcissistic abusers. Manifest yourselves out of the violent environment. There's help & resources for you.
Thank you for writing this song! It's means a lot coming from a Hmong brother perspective and showing support for us women about this issue in the community.
Domestic abuse is a result of misogyny. Finally a song fighting the Hmong patriarchy. Thank you.
Though I don't fully disagree most abusers are control freaks, egocentric, and usually think their the victims.
thanks for the song. Song got me crying.. listening to the lyrics and feeling each and every word.. song is deep. Thank you both for this wonderful song.. so many women can relate.. you guys are wonderful. Keep it up
Yas!!!! Thank you for the hmong community turning around in 2021. I've seen more positive hmong post on metal awareness and our hmong culture on our daughters/wives/daughter-in-laws (nyab). Thank you for this beautiful song and the lyrics hit hard.
Wow both of your voices are so powerful. I listened to this 3 times before I decided to comment on it. It’s truly sadden that Domestic violence is so common in our community. This song really hits my feelings of those in abusive relationships. Death is not the only answer. This song made me think of all the Hmong movies we’ve seen and majority of them are about physical and emotional abuse. Break the cycle #staystrong #reachoutforhelp #thereisawayout
Beautiful vocals douachi! Please continue making songs for hmong women empowerment !
One of the most meaningful song. I love it!!! Amazing job!
Douachi voices always gives me the goosebumps, makes me fall in love more and more.. keep up the good work..
Love love this song!!!! Such a strong meaning!!!! You both did great!!! Douachi such an amazing strong vocalist
I just wanted to say thank you. Although I have not been in a physically abusive relationship, it has been all around me. For a long time I believed that the men do not care. This moved me to tears.
Pride and ego over love and compassion. :(
Love this song! Thanks for using your platform to address this issue.
Amazing song! You both have amazing voices and did an awesome job with this song.
This song hits me hard. The people I know have been there. I give them advice to leave asap, but I can't do nothing but support them on whatever choice they made and be there when they need me to be there to listen. Breaks my heart everytime they told me of what happened to them.
FACTS🔥🔥🔥sad to see OG’s doing this. No matter what I will always help my daughters they will not suffer.
Sadly its men in their 20s and 30s too who are abusive or who killed their wives
@@UabLag yes you just have to teach them to be better both men/women
There are so many truths to this song!! Glad the message is being put out there. I know having conversations around this topic is uncomfortable but it's needed. It's the only way we can change the environment for the next generations.
Sheeeeeeshhh. This one here, The energy is insane.
Everytime I listen to this song it gives me goosebumps. It hits deep. I am without family bc I went against patriarch practices. I haven't looked back since. Thank you for recognizing us sisters
🙏🏼👊🏽
This hits deep inside my ❤️. FINALLY a real powerful song. 🔥🔥🔥
Been a while since magic hang popped up on my radar. Glad to see he's still putting in work. Been a fan since the myspace days.
Wished it would’ve been a female singing the verse. Over all this is a great song. So meaningful, powerful and speaks so much volume. Hits deep. ❤️
Strong and powerful words!! Peb ua neej Nyob ces yeej zoo li no os... Being a Hmong daughter is hard, a man will never know what we women go through rather is an abusive or not they won’t know... nice job u 2!!
This song hits home . Something that I'm going through ... Been listening to this song on repeat.
If you’re going thru it right now, get up and leave when it’s still early.
Just speaking my mind here. Our wives is someone's daughter, sister, and perhaps mother. I love my family to the moon and back. Never would I ever want to see any of my moms (Mother/Aunties), and sisters to be abused... especially if any of my daughters...
❤❤❤❤ love it!!! Such Powerful words!! Will be on replay for a long time ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
This song is as real as it gets!! Nicely done.🔥💚
Thank you for being the voice for women. Respect.
This is deep! Hits home for a lot of hmong women. Great job Magic and Douachi.👏🏽👏🏽
Daym this song slaps the truth out the hmong og who dont believe in our hmong women getting abused, Keep it up 🔥💯.
I've listened to this song for 2 days straight. As a Hmong woman, this song speaks to me so much. It pulls at my heart and brings me to tears.
I'm a new fan! I've just discovered this song today and already I've listened to it over 100 times! This was a beautiful piece but sad! Ty BOTH for this masterpiece! ❤❤❤❤
Don’t marry into a Hmong family. My sister was in a situation and my dad said that’s their problem to deal with. I said, “Dad, when will you intervene? Will you finally intervene when the police finds her decomposed body in the back of his car?” He called her to come home real quick.
I love this! Got a deep meaning and I can feel all the emotions. Keep it up!
Well done Magic and Douachi, well done. 😭👏🏻👏🏻
Love the message! Great job on both parts!
Such a strong and powerful song!! Love it!!
Thank you for speaking the truth about domestic violence in the community. Your lyrics have so much truth and pain.
Love it! Beautiful and powerful song.
🔥🔥🔥🔥 !!! I had chills the whole entire song 🥺❤️
I love that this really shows how it goes and I believe that many people need to hear this !
it might be problematic to you that a man is singing the pov of a woman, but to others it may give them some sense of relief and comfort knowing that again, a man understands their pain and what they’re going through. that at least someone knows that their brother is doing something so sinful. try to understand why the artist drew such fine details instead of just staring at the picture and blinking your eyes at it.
Omgggg!!!! The deep lyrics is hitting me !! I love your voice keep it going!!❤❤
This is absolute 🔥 🔥 🔥 especially the second verse. Hais kawg! Alot of deep meaning. Tells a story in my opinion!
Thank you my bro 🙏🏼
@@MagiicHang your welcome brother keep it coming man
I'm young, but this hit hard. Thank you for making this song. ❤️
Thank you guys for the song ❤️
What an awesome song! Love it! There should be a song where it's a kids POV, there's some kids that have trauma because of there dad abusiveness.
First of all, my prayers and heart goes out to the families of our sisters who’s lives were cut short. They were gone too soon. May they all rest in peace and away from pain.
Love everything about this song! Lyrics is so deep! Would be awesome if a girl sing it instead. However, this song brings tears to my eyes. As a Hmong woman myself, to save faces most of our Hmong parents will always end up saying "ua siab ntev" until one is gone 10ft deep then they say "ua cas tsis ua ib siab."
I hope that as time goes by our younger generation will change for the better. Both boys and girls should be loved and appreciate regarding if the woman was to step out and married into another family.
Love & respect her, just like you would want your daughters to be loved!
Love it very powerful lyrics and song 🎵❤ amazing song sis Douachi and bro magiic
What a very strong and emotional song 😔🥺😭. Keep up the great work 😁💯🔥
The song touch my heart and many others. Thank you for helping most of the girls reach out our message. Please post up an lyrics one and possibly an instrumental as well. So excited and hoping to hear more of these song.
Omg I love it! Keep at it Magiic. Good hearing you again.
Deep lyrics!
We all need stand up and fight against domestic violence.
Wait, why am now just hearing this song!? This is fire ! 🔥 ❤️💯
😢😭😭😭😭😭 this is deep! 💔 I rather be a divorcée, know my worth than live an unhappy life! 💪🏼💪🏼
That's what i tell men and women. If you don't care about carrying a status title then leave your partner and own up to it. Too many don't want to be at fault, be labeled a divorcee, etc., and then stay and then play the victim card. Kudos to you.
This song is so meaningful. Thanks for creating a song that I can relate too. Keep up the good work.
This is such a powerful but strong song. So try in our community.
Wow! Just wow! Really powerful! 👍
Nicely done, keep it coming. You have my support MN
Why does it hurt to listen to this. Courage ladies we need to have. Don't feel you're alone and you won't be alone once you've escape the abuse. I once thought to be a nyab siab ntev but got older and wiser and left. Seek help if you can't get out.
Absolutely fire bro!!
Ok then this slaps hard bro cant cap
Keep it up bro! Awesome song! Keep elevating yourself!
AMAZING LYRICS! Words are def on point.
Everytime I Listen To This Song, I Cried 😢❤😮
Powerful lyrics for Hmong parents
This song! Thank you for making this song . 😭🤗
run it. our brothers n sisters need to hear it.