Crystal this video is so good! It is taking my breath away, I grew up in a home that was reactionary. I was a teenager who was reactionary, a young mother and wife who was reactionary, and it has taken me to get in my latter 50s to finally make a turn. My latter will be greater and it is never too late to change for the better. I thank God for you your ministry and your messages!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I too am in my early 50's .... and the words you spoke were a mirror of my life. My mother was a single parent who did her best to care for her children. I know she wasn't aware, and that is ok. it has taken me until now to feel and know that I can actually change my behavior, I have Crystal to thank for that. This message for me was so powerful.
AMEN.. I'm on the same road as You. All my life I've Reacted Negatively and Made things Worse. Now that I'm in my 50's, it's time to Respond in a Way that's Pleasing to GOD...
@@a.c.immanuel9268 Precious Souls..many say they are in their 50's..there are many whi have this immaturity..look at the World ..it does not have favorites...I am in my 70's and still struggle with this..interiorly ..inside when things happen God is so good..That Jesus brought this truth before us..at the right time For Me and you...all Praises and all Glory to God..Thank you Lord Father God through Jesus Christ Our Lord Amen
This was a much needed word for me, as I tend to react and be emotionally lead instead of responding after I've given myself time to think first. Thanks Chrystal, I'm a work in progress.
Glory to God you are so not alone!!! I have been asking God to help me in this very area for a while now all the while God is so very faithful & He has been helping me even when & eventhough I didnt feel it or realize it! But God is so faithful & absolutely good & ever so very very patient with us! & even more the Grace of God takes even our mistakes to be used for our good! So remember that even when it may not seem like for or feel like it God is working in & through us & our circumstances for our good & God is faithful when we seek Him we will find Him & He will lead us Glory to God! TRUST God! Only BELIEVE!!! God bless you all in Jesus Name!!! I love you all & Jesus loves you even more!!!
Hello Crystal i am from trinidad West indies i dolove your familyi lisen to your dad your sister i do love Priscilla and it is the first time I have heard you i am 75 years of age God bless you as you continue to serve Him
I feel like I react daily and regret it every single time. So, this video was tremendously helpful to me. I am learning how to take my time to respond to things and give ample time to collect my thoughts before speaking. Thank you so very much for this life-giving/life-changing video.
This message was for me. I will admit I'm guilty of "retreating" in the form of ghosting because of my own issues and fear of being hurt. In return I hurt someone I care about. Thank God I was able to amend the situation. I was able to leave the situation and uplift someone I respect and have love for. Thank you Lord!🙏🏿
Thank you Chrystal! Yesterday, I was proud of myself for not reacting, but responding when my car was towed for parking just over the white line at my apartment complex. I was on my way to church. I prayed and caught a ride. Got my car back with little money I had! Glory to God! ❤
This is so good! I’m in a very emotional season. The past few weeks have been full of me reacting when I should have been responding. I’m going to rewatch with a few times so that I can carry this message with me moving forward. Thank you for teaching!
This was excellent! I’ve always had a hard time expressing myself because it’s not something I learned to do throughout my youth. It caused me to sit back and not offer my views, opinions and set boundaries. But then I’d explode when I did try to express myself. I’ve made a commitment to be more expressive and to do it in a way that is not destructive. I do have a very hard time not giving the same energy I get back though. I went through something recently where I was not gentle with my tone because I felt I was being spoken to unkindly. As you said, I want to own and know who I am. I want to be able to stay in MY element despite the circumstances. This truly blessed me and let’s know it’s what God wants me to work on. He’s pressing me with these difficult situations so I can overcome them and speak life and encouragement even when I’m not receiving that. Anyone reading this I pray for your journey and please pray for mine. ❤️
My 1st time listening to you, yes, I’m a reactor and responding right is usually too late. I will take heed and thank you, God Bless your ministry in Christ. We all now know Wisdom is the principal thing, get wisdom that I’ve done today. Thank you so, so much. God knows I need this structure teaching.
I LOVED the part about responding vs reacting even with good things. Last week my boss sent me an email and it said “thoughts?” With an email chain attached. I immediately reacted - going into overdrive the whole night to find the right answer. The next day, when speaking with an expert on the topic, I realize I missed a critical piece of info & it changed what was needed. If I’d responded with a QUESTION instead of reacting, I could’ve saved myself a night of restlessness. This was GOOD!!!!
This is so good. I needed this currently in the season that I am in. I've asked God to help me in a few areas in my life and I can physically and spiritually recognize when the devil is trying to knock me off my game in those specific areas. I'm learning to respond and not react at work and at home. I try to train my mind to remember that we do not wrestle with flesh and blood but with principalities. So like Ms. Crystal said, a lot of times what you want to react to, has nothing to do with you. And when I take a breath and not react but respond in the correct way, it makes me feel like I have won against the enemy. Thanks for this ms crystal. I needed this right now.
Affirming word.. this was affirmation for me dealing with the loss of my mother and my response to a troubled situation with my sibling.. Lord thank you.
God bless you! If I didn’t know better I’d think I wrote your comment. My mom recently passed and I’m dealing with siblings and currently in the midst of a situation. Crystal’s message confirmed my stance and thru the scriptures she shared I realized God gave me confirmation that I responded to the situation. I didn’t react.
You have no idea how much this video has helped me. I had a "situation" today where I was very insulted, offended, hurt and angered. My immediate response was to cut some people off, which is what I usually do. I just cut people off and don't look at it from their perspective. But I know God wanted me to hear this because I need to be more mature and less emotional. Thank you so very much. 🙏🏽
I love that Crystal includes that fact that she has some of the same experiences as we do , she doesn’t make it appear that she is perfect, like she is learning to make better choices and decisions just as the rest of us are, this is refreshing
This was a timely message for today. Yesterday I received a text message out of the blue from a friend that I hadn't heard from in months. I love her dearly however conversations always center around getting married and weight. True to form -Keeping she opens with, “ hey girl, you married yet?” I reacted and said hello, I am complete❤️❤️❤️. How have you been?” To which she replied, “what does that mean?” I have YET to respond. What I wanted to text was: WHY DOES EVERY CONVERSATION BEGIN WITH AN INQUIRY OF MY RELATIONSHIP STATUS??? (btw, she is twice divorced, and single). I don't feel that would have left her whole😔. So grateful that I did not take it further. I appreciate this discussion.🙌🏾
Baby girl don't worry about that question. I'm not marry I don't have children but I have God. Some people think that because I am not married I'm not happy. To be honest I love living alone you don't know the peace it brings. I'm praying to God to please remove those people who are not good and that cause affliction out of my life. Marriage is not for everyone, I had a dream a couple of months ago that God told me I want you to separate for me. I understood what he meant. God bless and get saved 🙏
It was no accident I listened to this message.Every word spoken was directly to me as if you knew exactly what I needed.Thank you Lord for the messenger & the message.
Oh man. I’m going to have to listen to this over and over. Such truth. I’m such an emotional responder. I love how she said that our emotions don’t have intellect. Very convicting. So much I can improve upon.
I had this on my "watch later" list because I KNEW I wanted to watch this with no interruptions. This is soooo good. I'm saving this to listen again. Thank you for your ministry Chrystal ♥️
I really LOVE THIS!! In September, my daughter ask me in regards to something she received from my mother that had issues. I called my mother and told her about the issue. Because of this, my mother was upset by my daughter's concern and I REACTED-because of my mindframe and mindset. I was so upset, an argument incurred with me and my daughter and I had to go to my mother's to calm down. I looked at the situation as though "it is enough that you, your father, your stepmother and his side of the family don't like me but now you are pinning me and my mother against each other?" Now when she needed help, I was there whereas her father didn't want nothing to do with her for 29 years. I REACTED instead of RESPONDED. Thanksgiving was the last time I've heard from her because she felt she could get the love and respect from her dad and his family and totally blocked all communication with me and my mother. What hurts the most- the argument between me and my daughter was viewed and heard by 5 of my 6 grandchildren. Reaction is quick but carries a heavy weight emotionally and there are regrets. Responses carry a profound impact into the situation.
This just reaffirms the way I choose to respond and not react, because sometime, I feel that you may be taken for granted when you only respond. But in all honesty, responding actually gives you more peace in all situations
This is such good and relevant content. Thank you! I’m reminded of one of my favorite RightNow Media videos. It’s your daddy’s video: Watch Your Mouth (Understanding the Power of the Tongue) “When God is in your gums, there is power in your palette.” “Some people put their foot in their mouth so often you’d think they’re wearing peppermint socks.” I appreciate your videos so much. Blessings 🌿
I'm just amazed how God works. Here I am on my lunch break, after being just so mad at my next patient coming up after my break. Planning on setting her straight because she was just so rude. I'm sitting here praying, "let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable unto you oh Lord", but I was still upset. Went on TH-cam to find some relaxing praise and worship music to minister to my heart and the first video that popped up was this. Oh how I praise God for supplying my emotional and spiritual needs. Thank you Lord, and thanks to you
Yes, yes YES! And then yes again! Thank you for the wise words. I've been very intentional about choosing my words and not tearing people down "leave them intact"
Great reminder! I am wired to act out of emotion. Now in my 60’s I’ve learned to think before responding. Still stretches me. Keeping my mouth shut and listening has helped me much. Those scriptures you noted are perfect. We need to keep them in our thoughts. Take your time. Be constructive not destructive. Good words! I know when I see a new video from you, it’s going to be good. Thank you for your ministry. ❤️😊✝️
Thank you so much for your thoughtfulness in creating this video. Those of us who try to respond proactively and not reactively still need encouragement. This information should be taught in schools so that people trying to navigate this world are better equipped with the tools to handle the changes and disruption of life. May God bless you.
This was much needed, I had a response to my mom that I regretted. The response and tone was not respectable and honoring. What made it worse was my 12 year old daughter was there. Please pray that my mother and I relationship will be mended, and that I can use wisdom when talking to my daughter abou the incident. Thank you.
Thank you for your transparency! I lived “The (ERCOT) Freeze” here in Houston. This is so good! This needs to go viral!!! So many of us react when we need to just respond. So many have grew up in homes where all you saw was reaction. Blessings to you and your family.
Lesson applied! Today after hearing this and going to church I reacted getting all fast talking and high pitched about a matter. 😱Holy Spirit right here corrected me. I immediately apologize to my kiddos and said mommy is sorry I reacted instead of responded. The proceeded to responding. Still working on it!♥️😍 Thank you!
*Be careful little eyes what you see, Be careful little mouth what you say.* Awesome and a very well brought forth word of encouragement❤️ ❤️Thank you.
I’ve been through deliverance and so many trials in my life. I wasn’t looking for you. I’ve struggled with anger my entire life. Alcoholic abusive parents and now My husband and I have children of our own. I react and destruct. I am so thankful for your encouragement. You are a dear sweet sister. Thank you for the power of Jesus and His word! I thank God for your obedience. I pray that through surrender that I can learn what I’ve never been taught. It’s fight or flight. I need to nurture and some times stay silent like Jesus did on the cross. Much love and blessings to you sister. Love Amanda Evans
The last time I reacted our of regret was today, I just came home from a long day at school and i realized I had to help my mom cook. With me being tired and ready to take a nap, I was grouchy 😬. I definitely said some “smart” words towards my mom in which I knew I shouldn’t have, as well as my tone. I definitely was holding back my emotions and that resulted in the verbal pain that I caused. As I went to my room I started feeling profoundly convicted and I went on TH-cam for worship music when I came across this video. Chrystal, this video touched me because I really learned that I need to respond and not react in anger when things don’t go my way. Thanks for this video! ❤️
This is Greatness Chrystal!!!🙌🏾 Thank you for all you share and give Revelation to for us!!💕👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Going back to college to get a career changing certificate in HR before I retire is a response that I'm proud of because I stopped procrastinating and invested in ME!
Thank you for this video on reaction vs response. I really needed this today. That’s been my prayer for myself for sometime. My heart can feel so heavy for the people I love & things of this world, that I can speak before I think or pray.
This was meant for me! Lately I’ve been really working towards doing better with my emotions & how I express them, I used to react ALL the time w/o thinking & it always had me feeling bad about the way I went about certain situations, this will be my go-to video as motivation & a coaching on how to properly respond to situations in my life.
This is me every day. I feel like I fail God every day because I always allow my emotions to get me.Dont listen but run off at the mouth because I feel the need to be right. But as God is moving me in a different level in my life, I am trying to be more grounded.
Auntie Chrystal, these nuggets you shared is helping me. I work in a hospital and I have at times reacted rather than responded. Sometimes I don't have the time I need to respond in the most impactful way for my patient nor my coworkers. I'm still learning how to not allow my emotions to be in the front. Out of frustration I usually react, when I have to repeat the same answer 20 times. However, my shift is 12 hours so I try to stop and think, breathe then let go of my feelings. Consider the other person(s) involved.
I attended the Desperate for Jesus Conference and have been heavily consuming your podcasts and videos since, so I was in pretty good position to deal with a very serious issue that came up the Sunday after the conference ended…as in the NEXT day!!! I am still dealing with that circumstance, but my consciousness has so been raised through the podcasts, videos, and the conference that I am allowing the Spirit to lead and I am following without the anxiety this situation naturally brings. Thank you for being real. The world needs real.
I have learned not to react when I’m pissed off, through prayer and Bible reading, it helps but it’s a challenge, you are so right that negative reactions can lead to negative consequences. I stay mindful.
Thank you for this! I was a loaded pistol in my house a few days ago. I apologized to everyone, but I am going to start taking more time-outs before I respond even when I know they know better than they act around here. 😄 Love this message you encouraged me with today
Thank you for your message! I really needed these reminders. Lately in my life I’ve been dealing with Very frustrating things with family members who I thought were my closest allies and my heart has been broken. I reacted to those situations by the flesh and not the spirit. Now I feel worse about myself than what these people did. Anyway, this was a great message to remind me that there is a reason to not react in that manner. Thank you.
Love this! You are right on point. I have been guilty of reacting with my husband instead of retreating and taking the time to consider how I need to respond. Thank you for this wonderful reminder. 💜💜
Chrystal this TH-cam video is so rich in wisdom and Godly understanding. I have been praying about how to respond and not react in certain situations and my prayers have been answered through you. I would love a part two. If you have more information to share on this topic and how to react to/confront toxic people that someone might not be able to avoid completely I’d greatly appreciate it. Thanks gain for creating this content.
Whew, great video! This needs to be our reminder when conflict is being handled over text messages. That is so hard to do, especially when once we press the send button.....you can't take it back.
Many times when I don't understand the problem, I ask God to help me with my emotions and sometimes I walk away from myself. It's a continuous process. Thank you Crystal
I have many reactions I regret. Thank you so much for this!!! The timing couldn’t be better for me while I’m dealing with things at work! Wonderful advice!
The Holy Spirit has touched on me with this. It was not even an hour ago that I was complaining to a coworker how I am trying my best to go along with work situations without getting upset. How I pray and praise before going to work only to get to work and get tested. I logged on TH-cam and this video was first on the timeline. My first ever seeing a video by you. Divine Order. Thank you for this. I’m now subscribed. God Bless.
Thank you for sharing this insightful tangible ways we can rest and respond. Last week I had a lady in my office space tell me "calm down lil girl"😶😲 in which I reacted by doing absolutely nothing (lawd she Betta thank God for Jesus😁) I responded in awe by saying umm excuse me and walked off. Lord knows I could have went there, but I thank God for his spirit which allowed me not to react and respond as the world 💯
Thanks so very much for this insightful sound much needed teaching. I’ll have it on repeat until it is locked & the desired response is like a foundation to a well constructed building.
I just came across your TH-cam channel last night seeking peace! And the one thing I was looking for is how to respond to those I take care of who constantly treat me with disrespect, I wanted to know and here I am being blessed with the wisdom of Response and Reaction! Thank you kindly this lesson was thoughtful, concise and what was needed as I walk in God's will. Can you be so kind and pray for my daughter Ashley to be healed from drug addiction. Thank you and God Bless! I want to know more and I will subscribe.
I believe God led me to your channel, because your words spoke to my spirit on so many levels. I appreciate you and your ministry. May God’s blessings continually be upon you, Debbie
Mrs. Hurst I missed church today, and I was scrolling to find your dad and the Lord led me to your video. God bless your heart! I needed to hear this and I just forwarded it to a couple who also needed to hear it. I am dealing with something and tomorrow I was going to "let them have it". But God..... He always give the right answer and He know exactly what we need. Keep letting God use you. Your entire family is a daily blessing to my life. I have grown so much thru your family's sharing. I am inspired to keep going thru it all. You all live by example. Be blessed!
I have been in a place for over four months that I couldn't control what happened. I reacted, but last month we found out why I was losing control and couldn't stop myself. I was diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome, my brain and spine have been inflamed, my immune system is failing, and until this week I thought I would end up paralyzed at least from the wisdom maybe from the neck down. It was the swelling on my brain and spine that was the key. We have been working on getting it down, but with little success. I couldn't be put in the hospital because of my immune system failing on top of food allergies. If I were to go into anaphylactic shock even now they may not be able to save me. I said all this to say I want to be my normal patient self that thinks things through first, but because of health issues I was in reacting mode. I had to do a lot of apologizing. But this season has shown me why it is so important to think before you speak. I am not totally back to normal, I not sure how bad the swelling is still, but I am finally getting back to the person that thinks first
This is so timely. I am now a mother to adult sons and all their lives they have been used to me reacting and it's foreign to them that I am learning to respond. This is thought provoking wisdom for all. Thank you.
Good day Chrystal. I just found your channel. The algorithm angels figured I needed to know you. I loved every bit of what I heard. My family and a few friends often tell me I react too fast sometimes with harsh words or with drastic actions. No matter how good my intentions might be .... it doesn’t always look good. And it’s a fact. There have been instances when I have responded and been proud of that and MANY where I have reacted and didn’t like the outcome. Sometime get scared and freeze, and end up procrastinating. That too doesn’t take me anywhere. I must say I have never really thought of life as mastering the art of how to React and Respond. When necessary. So this video sure puts a lot into perspective for me. Thank you. I liked, I’m subscribing and looking forward to hearing more. I’m Larrissa. A Cameroonian 🇨🇲 living in Shanghai- China 🇨🇳 . Thank you.
Thank you for the lesson on how to respond and not react. I have never seen your TH-cam channel before today and I believe it was God directed. Just yesterday I reacted at work instead of responding to the situation. I was immediately ashamed of myself for reacting and the office saw the whole thing. I am usually calm and peaceful but not yesterday and my co-workers were surprised. I wish I had came across your video sooner, however, I’m so glad that I did today! Keep up the great work of God!❤
So blessed by this video. Since I was a child, I've grown up in a home that was set on reacting to situations not healthy and negatively. Thank God for his grace and mercy I can now learn how to properly access how to respond to situations the right way. Thank you for uploading this!
You are such a blessing to me, I listen to your messages daily. They've helped me so much. I love how practical and powerful each video is. May God continue to bless you.
Definitely timely. I've been trying to work on responding time this past year, stress certainly makes it harder. Going through my Mama's dementia the last 7 years, now with a stroke and changing over to hospice. I'm the oldest of 5 siblings. It has been a hard journey and now having to really reach deep for strength, compassion and love. It's so hard to know if you're making the right choices in care. Tensions are high and I had 3 melt downs at the hospital. It's also so embarrassing.
I needed this this this morning…I have ALWAYS reacted and barely respond..my son and I recently have been getting into a lot of arguments..I’m naturally prone to reacting because it gives me results …how ever I see that is not done in love. Not only am I breaking me down I’m breaking my son down..and I don’t want to do that. I was praying over my son and I this morning..and this video came across..thank you so much.
I am absolutely 💯 😌 IMPRESSED, INSPIRED!!! Thank you so much for this...I am processing through a deep hurt right now. This video actually confirmed for me the "The Work" I am presently doing not to react. It helped me to come out of a ruminating loop. LIterally I saw this and said "Let's listen to this and not that" Your platform is so SPOT ON! You are a "Well Seasoned Woman" the world 🌎 needs you. God Bless you and all of your endeavors. Thank you 😊
This was absolutely amazing Chrystal. Thanks for sharing these words of wisdom with us. It's funny how sometimes we know the thigs we should do and still we don't do them....smh Just yesterday I had a situation where I reacted towards my sister with words that weren't filled with love.. sigh. Rather my words were curt, don't-care-ish and filled with sarcasm. The thing is immediately after I reacted I noticed what I said wasn't filled with love and I wished I had responded differently. I wished I could retract my react. Sadly I couldn't, as we all know too well once words are said we can't take them back. I asked myself "KEISHA, WHY ARE YOU LIKE THS??!?! I was like Lord, please teach me how to respond with love more often PLEASE. Then of course the Holy Spirit led me to this message that "somehow appeared" in my feed, made me chuckle quietly when I saw it. *Proverbs 18:21* is a verse I know ohh too well and I use it often. Still yet, at times, I'm way too quick with my words towards others. However, I'm a work in progress. At least I can say with surety that I am intentionally and diligently working and being better with my reactions. I'm working at responding with love more often. Thanks again, this was a blessing indeed.
Thank you Chrystal.....I am so guilty of being reactionary, I wear emotions on my sleeve which is not a healthy approach to anything. Thank you for addressing this subject in such a practical way🙏🏽❤
YES MA'AM, THIS HAS BEEN MOST ENCOURAGING... I REACTED NEGATIVELY TO SOMEONE ELSES RUDENESS & INCONSIDERATION. I PRAYED ABOUT IT, I DON'T WANT TO BE THAT WAY... MY WORKPLACE IS TOXIC BUT, IM GETTING BETTER AND PRAYING FIR AN ALTERNATIVE RESOURSES.. THIS HAS BEEN A GOD SEND! THANK GOD I'M MATURING WITH MY EMOTIONAL REACTIONS
I have never wrote a comment for anything, all I can say is Thank You, for your transparency and allowing God to speak to me through you. I didn't want to hear this, I NEEDED to. #rawtruth
I need this in this very moment today. Thank you!! I almost reacted to day but I saw this first and was able to stop and process my feelings and thoughts
I love your differentiation: reaction is the thermometer that reads the room, response is thermostat that sets the room. Sets the temperature.
My father taught us that
"Fewer words are more powerful than many words spoken" Thank you for sharing words of wisdom from the Father above 🙏🏿🙌🏾❤
❤ that!
Crystal this video is so good!
It is taking my breath away, I grew up in a home that was reactionary.
I was a teenager who was reactionary, a young mother and wife who was reactionary, and it has taken me to get in my latter 50s to finally make a turn.
My latter will be greater and it is never too late to change for the better.
I thank God for you your ministry and your messages!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
AMEN LINDA🙏🏽 I LITTLE OLDER THEN U !! AND I AM OVER COMING PRAY FOR ME REALLY AND I WILL PRAY FOR YOU LINDA 5/3/2022
I too am in my early 50's .... and the words you spoke were a mirror of my life. My mother was a single parent who did her best to care for her children. I know she wasn't aware, and that is ok. it has taken me until now to feel and know that I can actually change my behavior, I have Crystal to thank for that. This message for me was so powerful.
@@Blue77Blue Lord God I pray right now for us both to slow down and change for the better, Hallelujah & Amen!!
AMEN.. I'm on the same road as You. All my life I've Reacted Negatively and Made things Worse.
Now that I'm in my 50's, it's time to Respond in a Way that's Pleasing to GOD...
@@a.c.immanuel9268
Precious Souls..many say they are in their 50's..there are many whi have this immaturity..look at the World ..it does not have favorites...I am in my 70's and still struggle with this..interiorly ..inside when things happen
God is so good..That Jesus brought this truth before us..at the right time
For Me and you...all Praises and all Glory to God..Thank you Lord Father God through Jesus Christ Our Lord Amen
This was a much needed word for me, as I tend to react and be emotionally lead instead of responding after I've given myself time to think first. Thanks Chrystal, I'm a work in progress.
Amen 🙏🏾 The same here. Lord, please work on me.
Glory to God you are so not alone!!! I have been asking God to help me in this very area for a while now all the while God is so very faithful & He has been helping me even when & eventhough I didnt feel it or realize it! But God is so faithful & absolutely good & ever so very very patient with us! & even more the Grace of God takes even our mistakes to be used for our good! So remember that even when it may not seem like for or feel like it God is working in & through us & our circumstances for our good & God is faithful when we seek Him we will find Him & He will lead us Glory to God! TRUST God! Only BELIEVE!!! God bless you all in Jesus Name!!! I love you all & Jesus loves you even more!!!
Same though the cause low blows by toxic passive aggressive behaviour of others unexpectedly that leads to reaction.
Hello Crystal i am from trinidad West indies i dolove your familyi lisen to your dad your sister i do love Priscilla and it is the first time I have heard you i am 75 years of age God bless you as you continue to serve Him
Oooooooooo babyyyyy this was GOODT
I feel like I react daily and regret it every single time. So, this video was tremendously helpful to me. I am learning how to take my time to respond to things and give ample time to collect my thoughts before speaking. Thank you so very much for this life-giving/life-changing video.
This message was for me. I will admit I'm guilty of "retreating" in the form of ghosting because of my own issues and fear of being hurt. In return I hurt someone I care about. Thank God I was able to amend the situation. I was able to leave the situation and uplift someone I respect and have love for. Thank you Lord!🙏🏿
Thank you Chrystal! Yesterday, I was proud of myself for not reacting, but responding when my car was towed for parking just over the white line at my apartment complex. I was on my way to church. I prayed and caught a ride. Got my car back with little money I had! Glory to God! ❤
This is so good! I’m in a very emotional season. The past few weeks have been full of me reacting when I should have been responding. I’m going to rewatch with a few times so that I can carry this message with me moving forward. Thank you for teaching!
Good idea rewatching
AMEN.
You’re not alone. I will be rewatching for myself as well! ❤️🩹🤍
Amen, excellent teaching.
This was excellent! I’ve always had a hard time expressing myself because it’s not something I learned to do throughout my youth. It caused me to sit back and not offer my views, opinions and set boundaries. But then I’d explode when I did try to express myself.
I’ve made a commitment to be more expressive and to do it in a way that is not destructive. I do have a very hard time not giving the same energy I get back though. I went through something recently where I was not gentle with my tone because I felt I was being spoken to unkindly. As you said, I want to own and know who I am. I want to be able to stay in MY element despite the circumstances.
This truly blessed me and let’s know it’s what God wants me to work on. He’s pressing me with these difficult situations so I can overcome them and speak life and encouragement even when I’m not receiving that.
Anyone reading this I pray for your journey and please pray for mine. ❤️
My 1st time listening to you, yes, I’m a reactor and responding right is usually too late. I will take heed and thank you, God Bless your ministry in Christ. We all now know Wisdom is the principal thing, get wisdom that I’ve done today. Thank you so, so much. God knows I need this structure teaching.
Wwwaasazwwa
I LOVED the part about responding vs reacting even with good things. Last week my boss sent me an email and it said “thoughts?” With an email chain attached. I immediately reacted - going into overdrive the whole night to find the right answer. The next day, when speaking with an expert on the topic, I realize I missed a critical piece of info & it changed what was needed. If I’d responded with a QUESTION instead of reacting, I could’ve saved myself a night of restlessness.
This was GOOD!!!!
This is so good. I needed this currently in the season that I am in. I've asked God to help me in a few areas in my life and I can physically and spiritually recognize when the devil is trying to knock me off my game in those specific areas. I'm learning to respond and not react at work and at home. I try to train my mind to remember that we do not wrestle with flesh and blood but with principalities. So like Ms. Crystal said, a lot of times what you want to react to, has nothing to do with you. And when I take a breath and not react but respond in the correct way, it makes me feel like I have won against the enemy.
Thanks for this ms crystal. I needed this right now.
Affirming word.. this was affirmation for me dealing with the loss of my mother and my response to a troubled situation with my sibling.. Lord thank you.
God bless you! If I didn’t know better I’d think I wrote your comment. My mom recently passed and I’m dealing with siblings and currently in the midst of a situation. Crystal’s message confirmed my stance and thru the scriptures she shared I realized God gave me confirmation that I responded to the situation. I didn’t react.
Definitely will listen to this again and again. I need Gods help in this area especially when confronting a situation more than once.
You have no idea how much this video has helped me. I had a "situation" today where I was very insulted, offended, hurt and angered. My immediate response was to cut some people off, which is what I usually do. I just cut people off and don't look at it from their perspective. But I know God wanted me to hear this because I need to be more mature and less emotional. Thank you so very much. 🙏🏽
I love that Crystal includes that fact that she has some of the same experiences as we do , she doesn’t make it appear that she is perfect, like she is learning to make better choices and decisions just as the rest of us are, this is refreshing
This was a timely message for today. Yesterday I received a text message out of the blue from a friend that I hadn't heard from in months. I love her dearly however conversations always center around getting married and weight. True to form -Keeping she opens with, “ hey girl, you married yet?” I reacted and said hello, I am complete❤️❤️❤️. How have you been?”
To which she replied, “what does that mean?” I have YET to respond. What I wanted to text was: WHY DOES EVERY CONVERSATION BEGIN WITH AN INQUIRY OF MY RELATIONSHIP STATUS??? (btw, she is twice divorced, and single). I don't feel that would have left her whole😔. So grateful that I did not take it further. I appreciate this discussion.🙌🏾
Baby girl don't worry about that question. I'm not marry I don't have children but I have God. Some people think that because I am not married I'm not happy. To be honest I love living alone you don't know the peace it brings. I'm praying to God to please remove those people who are not good and that cause affliction out of my life. Marriage is not for everyone, I had a dream a couple of months ago that God told me I want you to separate for me. I understood what he meant. God bless and get saved 🙏
It was no accident I listened to this message.Every word spoken was directly to me as if you knew exactly what I needed.Thank you Lord for the messenger & the message.
Awesome teaching. Need to listen to again and take notes.
Remain Blessed😇
Correspond to me on what'sap 📧.
I got something new'.
Such a great lesson. We let people get the best of us emotionally and react. So good thank you.
Oh man. I’m going to have to listen to this over and over. Such truth. I’m such an emotional responder. I love how she said that our emotions don’t have intellect. Very convicting. So much I can improve upon.
❤Bring Response to relationship! ❤
I had this on my "watch later" list because I KNEW I wanted to watch this with no interruptions. This is soooo good. I'm saving this to listen again. Thank you for your ministry Chrystal ♥️
Remain Blessed😇
Correspond to me on what'sap 📧.
I got something new'.
I really LOVE THIS!! In September, my daughter ask me in regards to something she received from my mother that had issues. I called my mother and told her about the issue. Because of this, my mother was upset by my daughter's concern and I REACTED-because of my mindframe and mindset. I was so upset, an argument incurred with me and my daughter and I had to go to my mother's to calm down. I looked at the situation as though "it is enough that you, your father, your stepmother and his side of the family don't like me but now you are pinning me and my mother against each other?" Now when she needed help, I was there whereas her father didn't want nothing to do with her for 29 years. I REACTED instead of RESPONDED. Thanksgiving was the last time I've heard from her because she felt she could get the love and respect from her dad and his family and totally blocked all communication with me and my mother. What hurts the most- the argument between me and my daughter was viewed and heard by 5 of my 6 grandchildren. Reaction is quick but carries a heavy weight emotionally and there are regrets. Responses carry a profound impact into the situation.
Thank you Chrystal. This message has really touched me to learn better how to respond than react. That's a word, "Be constructive."
This just reaffirms the way I choose to respond and not react, because sometime, I feel that you may be taken for granted when you only respond. But in all honesty, responding actually gives you more peace in all situations
This is such good and relevant content. Thank you! I’m reminded of one of my favorite RightNow Media videos. It’s your daddy’s video: Watch Your Mouth (Understanding the Power of the Tongue)
“When God is in your gums, there is power in your palette.”
“Some people put their foot in their mouth so often you’d think they’re wearing peppermint socks.” I appreciate your videos so much. Blessings 🌿
Yes a week ago I responded with right reaction. Thank you God Bless ❤️
Remain Blessed😇
Correspond to me on what'sap 📧.
I got something new'.
I need this channel in my life. Thank you so much for your platform. Thank you.
Such great advice.... I appreciate you and will be back for more.....
I'm just amazed how God works. Here I am on my lunch break, after being just so mad at my next patient coming up after my break. Planning on setting her straight because she was just so rude. I'm sitting here praying, "let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable unto you oh Lord", but I was still upset. Went on TH-cam to find some relaxing praise and worship music to minister to my heart and the first video that popped up was this. Oh how I praise God for supplying my emotional and spiritual needs. Thank you Lord, and thanks to you
I will need to listen to this monthly. I’m getting better at response vs reaction. It’s a prayerful practice.
Yes, yes YES! And then yes again! Thank you for the wise words. I've been very intentional about choosing my words and not tearing people down "leave them intact"
Great reminder! I am wired to act out of emotion. Now in my 60’s I’ve learned to think before responding. Still stretches me. Keeping my mouth shut and listening has helped me much. Those scriptures you noted are perfect. We need to keep them in our thoughts.
Take your time. Be constructive not destructive. Good words!
I know when I see a new video from you, it’s going to be good. Thank you for your ministry. ❤️😊✝️
Thank you so much for your thoughtfulness in creating this video. Those of us who try to respond proactively and not reactively still need encouragement. This information should be taught in schools so that people trying to navigate this world are better equipped with the tools to handle the changes and disruption of life. May God bless you.
Omg I need that truth ,grace,transparency, positivity leaving myself and other in tact
This was much needed, I had a response to my mom that I regretted. The response and tone was not respectable and honoring. What made it worse was my 12 year old daughter was there. Please pray that my mother and I relationship will be mended, and that I can use wisdom when talking to my daughter abou the incident.
Thank you.
This really blessed me. Thank you so much Crystal. I will develop myself to often respond and not react.
Thank you for your transparency! I lived “The (ERCOT) Freeze” here in Houston. This is so good! This needs to go viral!!! So many of us react when we need to just respond. So many have grew up in homes where all you saw was reaction. Blessings to you and your family.
Lesson applied! Today after hearing this and going to church I reacted getting all fast talking and high pitched about a matter. 😱Holy Spirit right here corrected me. I immediately apologize to my kiddos and said mommy is sorry I reacted instead of responded. The proceeded to responding. Still working on it!♥️😍 Thank you!
*Be careful little eyes what you see, Be careful little mouth what you say.*
Awesome and a very well brought forth word of encouragement❤️
❤️Thank you.
I’ve been through deliverance and so many trials in my life. I wasn’t looking for you. I’ve struggled with anger my entire life. Alcoholic abusive parents and now My husband and I have children of our own. I react and destruct. I am so thankful for your encouragement. You are a dear sweet sister. Thank you for the power of Jesus and His word! I thank God for your obedience. I pray that through surrender that I can learn what I’ve never been taught. It’s fight or flight. I need to nurture and some times stay silent like Jesus did on the cross. Much love and blessings to you sister. Love Amanda Evans
The last time I reacted our of regret was today, I just came home from a long day at school and i realized I had to help my mom cook. With me being tired and ready to take a nap, I was grouchy 😬. I definitely said some “smart” words towards my mom in which I knew I shouldn’t have, as well as my tone. I definitely was holding back my emotions and that resulted in the verbal pain that I caused. As I went to my room I started feeling profoundly convicted and I went on TH-cam for worship music when I came across this video. Chrystal, this video touched me because I really learned that I need to respond and not react in anger when things don’t go my way. Thanks for this video! ❤️
This is Greatness Chrystal!!!🙌🏾
Thank you for all you share and give Revelation to for us!!💕👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Going back to college to get a career changing certificate in HR before I retire is a response that I'm proud of because I stopped procrastinating and invested in ME!
thanks for the wise words, and example of how to process in an emotionally intelligent manner !
Thank you Crystal, for allowing me to see me. I thank God for your wisdom that you gave scripture to back up your words. Pressing towards the mark. ❤
5/5/22: This is good stuff!! I love every word, lesson Chrystal, Priscilla and of course Dr. Tony Evans brings to us. What a God centered family.
Thank you for this video on reaction vs response. I really needed this today. That’s been my prayer for myself for sometime. My heart can feel so heavy for the people I love & things of this world, that I can speak before I think or pray.
"Stop flying off the handle girl!" Lol I loved this whole thing:D
This was meant for me! Lately I’ve been really working towards doing better with my emotions & how I express them, I used to react ALL the time w/o thinking & it always had me feeling bad about the way I went about certain situations, this will be my go-to video as motivation & a coaching on how to properly respond to situations in my life.
This is me every day. I feel like I fail God every day because I always allow my emotions to get me.Dont listen but run off at the mouth because I feel the need to be right. But as God is moving me in a different level in my life, I am trying to be more grounded.
Auntie Chrystal, these nuggets you shared is helping me. I work in a hospital and I have at times reacted rather than responded. Sometimes I don't have the time I need to respond in the most impactful way for my patient nor my coworkers. I'm still learning how to not allow my emotions to be in the front. Out of frustration I usually react, when I have to repeat the same answer 20 times. However, my shift is 12 hours so I try to stop and think, breathe then let go of my feelings. Consider the other person(s) involved.
I attended the Desperate for Jesus Conference and have been heavily consuming your podcasts and videos since, so I was in pretty good position to deal with a very serious issue that came up the Sunday after the conference ended…as in the NEXT day!!! I am still dealing with that circumstance, but my consciousness has so been raised through the podcasts, videos, and the conference that I am allowing the Spirit to lead and I am following without the anxiety this situation naturally brings. Thank you for being real. The world needs real.
I can't even begin to tell you how this was so meant for me. So insightful and it hit home in my business and personal life. I NEEDED THIS.
I have learned not to react when I’m pissed off, through prayer and Bible reading, it helps but it’s a challenge, you are so right that negative reactions can lead to negative consequences. I stay mindful.
So very on time! I received it when you said “grow up girl!”
This was powerful! I can’t believe that I just brought a similar message in our church. I want to show this video to our Women’s ministry
Another subscriber. First time watching, love your talk.🙏🏾
This popped up on my feed after I found out something that deeply hurt me. Thank you so much for making this video.
Thank you for this! I was a loaded pistol in my house a few days ago. I apologized to everyone, but I am going to start taking more time-outs before I respond even when I know they know better than they act around here. 😄 Love this message you encouraged me with today
Thank you for your message! I really needed these reminders. Lately in my life I’ve been dealing with Very frustrating things with family members who I thought were my closest allies and my heart has been broken. I reacted to those situations by the flesh and not the spirit. Now I feel worse about myself than what these people did. Anyway, this was a great message to remind me that there is a reason to not react in that manner. Thank you.
Love this! You are right on point. I have been guilty of reacting with my husband instead of retreating and taking the time to consider how I need to respond. Thank you for this wonderful reminder. 💜💜
Thank you Ms Chrystal, may God continue to give you more and more wisdom. I'm blessed by your teaching.
This was great! I’m almost 8 months pregnant and I’ve been reacting A LOT lol definitely needed this refresher
Im 30 weeks pregnant and I’m like you! Hormones are like a rollercoaster!
The problem with reaction is it ends with regret !!! Whewwwww that part!
Chrystal this TH-cam video is so rich in wisdom and Godly understanding. I have been praying about how to respond and not react in certain situations and my prayers have been answered through you. I would love a part two. If you have more information to share on this topic and how to react to/confront toxic people that someone might not be able to avoid completely I’d greatly appreciate it. Thanks gain for creating this content.
Whew, great video! This needs to be our reminder when conflict is being handled over text messages. That is so hard to do, especially when once we press the send button.....you can't take it back.
I needed this message! I am in the process of retraining my brain to respond and react. When dealing with my children’s dad.
This video is packed with TRUTH! It is done with wisdom and excellence. Thank you.
Many times when I don't understand the problem, I ask God to help me with my emotions and sometimes I walk away from myself. It's a continuous process.
Thank you Crystal
I have many reactions I regret. Thank you so much for this!!! The timing couldn’t be better for me while I’m dealing with things at work! Wonderful advice!
The Holy Spirit has touched on me with this. It was not even an hour ago that I was complaining to a coworker how I am trying my best to go along with work situations without getting upset. How I pray and praise before going to work only to get to work and get tested. I logged on TH-cam and this video was first on the timeline. My first ever seeing a video by you. Divine Order. Thank you for this. I’m now subscribed. God Bless.
Adding this message to my library so that I can watch it over and over and over. Thanks so much Big Sis!! God bless you and your family ❤
Thank you for sharing this insightful tangible ways we can rest and respond. Last week I had a lady in my office space tell me "calm down lil girl"😶😲 in which I reacted by doing absolutely nothing (lawd she Betta thank God for Jesus😁) I responded in awe by saying umm excuse me and walked off. Lord knows I could have went there, but I thank God for his spirit which allowed me not to react and respond as the world 💯
I am so glad I found your channel. I needed to hear this message today.
Always feeding my spirit. Thank u so much, i TRULY needed this. My mouth gets me in trouble alot 😬.
Thanks so very much for this insightful sound much needed teaching. I’ll have it on repeat until it is locked & the desired response is like a foundation to a well constructed building.
I just came across your TH-cam channel last night seeking peace! And the one thing I was looking for is how to respond to those I take care of who constantly treat me with disrespect, I wanted to know and here I am being blessed with the wisdom of Response and Reaction! Thank you kindly this lesson was thoughtful, concise and what was needed as I walk in God's will. Can you be so kind and pray for my daughter Ashley to be healed from drug addiction. Thank you and God Bless! I want to know more and I will subscribe.
I believe God led me to your channel, because your words spoke to my spirit on so many levels. I appreciate you and your ministry.
May God’s blessings continually be upon you,
Debbie
Mrs. Hurst I missed church today, and I was scrolling to find your dad and the Lord led me to your video. God bless your heart! I needed to hear this and I just forwarded it to a couple who also needed to hear it. I am dealing with something and tomorrow I was going to "let them have it". But God..... He always give the right answer and He know exactly what we need. Keep letting God use you. Your entire family is a daily blessing to my life. I have grown so much thru your family's sharing. I am inspired to keep going thru it all. You all live by example. Be blessed!
I have been in a place for over four months that I couldn't control what happened. I reacted, but last month we found out why I was losing control and couldn't stop myself. I was diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome, my brain and spine have been inflamed, my immune system is failing, and until this week I thought I would end up paralyzed at least from the wisdom maybe from the neck down. It was the swelling on my brain and spine that was the key. We have been working on getting it down, but with little success. I couldn't be put in the hospital because of my immune system failing on top of food allergies. If I were to go into anaphylactic shock even now they may not be able to save me. I said all this to say I want to be my normal patient self that thinks things through first, but because of health issues I was in reacting mode. I had to do a lot of apologizing. But this season has shown me why it is so important to think before you speak. I am not totally back to normal, I not sure how bad the swelling is still, but I am finally getting back to the person that thinks first
Wooooowwwww !!! “This is the problem with reaction it normally end with regret”
This is so timely. I am now a mother to adult sons and all their lives they have been used to me reacting and it's foreign to them that I am learning to respond. This is thought provoking wisdom for all. Thank you.
This message has been so impactful in my life. Thank you for putting this out!
Good day Chrystal.
I just found your channel.
The algorithm angels figured I needed to know you.
I loved every bit of what I heard.
My family and a few friends often tell me I react too fast sometimes with harsh words or with drastic actions. No matter how good my intentions might be .... it doesn’t always look good. And it’s a fact.
There have been instances when I have responded and been proud of that and MANY where I have reacted and didn’t like the outcome.
Sometime get scared and freeze, and end up procrastinating. That too doesn’t take me anywhere.
I must say I have never really thought of life as mastering the art of how to React and Respond. When necessary.
So this video sure puts a lot into perspective for me.
Thank you.
I liked, I’m subscribing and looking forward to hearing more.
I’m Larrissa. A Cameroonian 🇨🇲 living in Shanghai- China 🇨🇳 .
Thank you.
Thank you for the lesson on how to respond and not react. I have never seen your TH-cam channel before today and I believe it was God directed. Just yesterday I reacted at work instead of responding to the situation. I was immediately ashamed of myself for reacting and the office saw the whole thing. I am usually calm and peaceful but not yesterday and my co-workers were surprised. I wish I had came across your video sooner, however, I’m so glad that I did today! Keep up the great work of God!❤
So blessed by this video. Since I was a child, I've grown up in a home that was set on reacting to situations not healthy and negatively. Thank God for his grace and mercy I can now learn how to properly access how to respond to situations the right way. Thank you for uploading this!
You are such a blessing to me, I listen to your messages daily. They've helped me so much. I love how practical and powerful each video is. May God continue to bless you.
My my my. This is so good. So much wisdom and conviction. Thanks for leading, sis!
Definitely timely. I've been trying to work on responding time this past year, stress certainly makes it harder. Going through my Mama's dementia the last 7 years, now with a stroke and changing over to hospice. I'm the oldest of 5 siblings. It has been a hard journey and now having to really reach deep for strength, compassion and love. It's so hard to know if you're making the right choices in care. Tensions are high and I had 3 melt downs at the hospital. It's also so embarrassing.
I needed this this this morning…I have ALWAYS reacted and barely respond..my son and I recently have been getting into a lot of arguments..I’m naturally prone to reacting because it gives me results …how ever I see that is not done in love. Not only am I breaking me down I’m breaking my son down..and I don’t want to do that. I was praying over my son and I this morning..and this video came across..thank you so much.
I am about 4mins into this video and already know it is exactly what I needed I have been reactimg instead I needed to respond
I am absolutely 💯 😌 IMPRESSED, INSPIRED!!! Thank you so much for this...I am processing through a deep hurt right now. This video actually confirmed for me the "The Work" I am presently doing not to react. It helped me to come out of a ruminating loop. LIterally I saw this and said "Let's listen to this and not that" Your platform is so SPOT ON! You are a "Well Seasoned Woman" the world 🌎 needs you. God Bless you and all of your endeavors. Thank you 😊
good advice for anyone who does not deal directly with angry hostile customers...
Thank you!! For this message, I hear an processing it loud an clear. "God Bless" You. A change is coming.
This was absolutely amazing Chrystal. Thanks for sharing these words of wisdom with us. It's funny how sometimes we know the thigs we should do and still we don't do them....smh Just yesterday I had a situation where I reacted towards my sister with words that weren't filled with love.. sigh. Rather my words were curt, don't-care-ish and filled with sarcasm. The thing is immediately after I reacted I noticed what I said wasn't filled with love and I wished I had responded differently. I wished I could retract my react. Sadly I couldn't, as we all know too well once words are said we can't take them back. I asked myself "KEISHA, WHY ARE YOU LIKE THS??!?! I was like Lord, please teach me how to respond with love more often PLEASE. Then of course the Holy Spirit led me to this message that "somehow appeared" in my feed, made me chuckle quietly when I saw it. *Proverbs 18:21* is a verse I know ohh too well and I use it often. Still yet, at times, I'm way too quick with my words towards others. However, I'm a work in progress. At least I can say with surety that I am intentionally and diligently working and being better with my reactions. I'm working at responding with love more often. Thanks again, this was a blessing indeed.
I needed this word at this difficult time in my life. Thank you so much!
I just stumbled on your channel, boy am i glad i did! As an adult we usually dont have anyone ( human) to counsel us. Boy , your tagged! Thank You
Thank you Chrystal.....I am so guilty of being reactionary, I wear emotions on my sleeve which is not a healthy approach to anything. Thank you for addressing this subject in such a practical way🙏🏽❤
YES MA'AM, THIS HAS BEEN MOST ENCOURAGING... I REACTED NEGATIVELY TO SOMEONE ELSES RUDENESS & INCONSIDERATION. I PRAYED ABOUT IT, I DON'T WANT TO BE THAT WAY... MY WORKPLACE IS TOXIC BUT, IM GETTING BETTER AND PRAYING FIR AN ALTERNATIVE RESOURSES.. THIS HAS BEEN A GOD SEND! THANK GOD I'M MATURING WITH MY EMOTIONAL REACTIONS
I have never wrote a comment for anything, all I can say is Thank You, for your transparency and allowing God to speak to me through you. I didn't want to hear this, I NEEDED to. #rawtruth
I need this in this very moment today. Thank you!! I almost reacted to day but I saw this first and was able to stop and process my feelings and thoughts