Christina , when I said you were Beautiful, I meant it! I am so blown away right im crying and so relieved . I was so scared Thinking I was just a major FK (sorry..) up my entire life like just a Bravado ,numb, insensitive did I say numb girl growing up ..felt no emotions except with animals. I was always safe with them ..I guess? I'm 52 just found out a few years ago I was adopted so first off the lack of love and the chemicals from my real mother when you are first born probably created the abandonment issues in the paper work it said before they released me from the Agency I was fussy at night and just started losing weight stop growing after 5 days they measured me and weighed me , then I was good to go! but the people who Adopted me ,well I know that I walked in on my mom and she was trying to commit suicide , pills razor's glass of wine rough but I can remember grabbing her wrist's holding them up and calling for my dad, wanting to slap her but knowing it was wrong she my Mom, I was 9. in and out of trouble anyways I thought I would never love anything or anyone . Because I never had any FEELINGS just numb when someone said "I LOVE YOU" I could not understand or feel what that meant? Anyways , today 2 different people I Love everybody and everything . I'm so grateful for bad things good things ,people do know wrong they do but somewhere and for what ever reason I know there is a reason a root in the core of there soul as to why … strangers will just start telling me personal tragedy's as if there looking for me to give a answer of some kind. I'm so different of a person and Love you so much for breaking this down today . I'm surely not a FK up I 'm still crying ..I'm Normal of a Human Being. NO WAY!!! Thank you , so very much! Thank you!
I have always been spirituel witch help alot. I have a strong mind and soul. My team has been there for me. The only way out is in:) so i keep going. Grounding helps alot and nature. The joy i feel when I do a difference and help other people. The joy of my spirituelle journey. Had a very difficult childhood but again the bigger picture, learning, accept, forgiveness and all of it has made me who I am today.... and I love who I am :) Righ now I am on a mentor course as the student with personal development and are going even deeper and deeper. I dont care what others think about me or the way I see life or live it.... pretty high spiritually i would say... My primary energy center witch holds 50 % of my soul is divine compassion. My blueprint is a mix but my secondary underlayer is from Sirius. So I am a good mix but we all are. Ohm - unit with good Onceness We are all one You are me, I am you;) #askchristina Just had a soul reading aka soulprofile. My soul did not come here for karma releasing but for fun and learning and going my souls way with all the alternative courses ..your view on dharma and karma could be nice .. Thanks for all you do and thanks for you 💕
I’ve been isolating myself since I can remember but I know it’s essential to keep my good friends close. Being around my friends really help me forget the feelings of being an empath. My dad used to say there was something special about me since I was little, now I’m pretty sure he noticed I was an empath and he’s probably one too.
Alcohol and Marijuana, In the other video you referenced "What’s An Empath REALLY & How To Thrive As A Sensitive Person" You made a comment about boundaries and your Mother making you hug your aunt even if you didn't want to. I instantly remembered back to being about 6 or 7 years old and My Aunt saying I was argumentative and that I would grow up to be a Lawyer because I liked to argue so much. That Night my Mother pushed me to the ground and caused me to hit my head on a bookshelf which caused me to have to be rushed to the emergency room to get stitches on my head. I didn't realize my passivity could be rooted in that event. I used to drink alcohol in excess so I Could overcompensate and become very aggressive thinking that was a good way to get respect. I have since come a long way trying my hardest to get sober once and for all. Thank you for all you do. I have been learning alot in the past month about myself and my empathic abilities, I used to think there was something wrong with me and it's very comforting to know that there are others out there like me.
crowds trigger me a lot - well they do when people invade my space and constantly 'push' me energetically along? to the extent that I negatively flipped and started shouting in the supermarket, " get out of my space/leave me alone!" lol they had to ask me to leave - this during Covid-19 social distancing
Just this week I realized I had no one who really understand me. I have a lot of friends, but they dont get me. It hurts sometimes. I'm loving my own company and doing my own thing.
In 24 minutes, I understand myself so much more then I ever have in my 47 years on this earth! What you called numb, I always referred to it as being dead inside, because I didn’t understand or didn’t have the proper terminology. I am so grateful to have found your videos! Thank you!
I too found numbness when I own sister died due to cancer in tender age not even showing any remorse either outside or inside. Now I got awakened, now feel the emotions of losing my sister 7 years back as happened just now
My coping mechanism was isolating myself from my surrounding by day dreaming and fantasy. This has resulted in me not being able to study as my mind keeps wondering. Most times i am not present, i keep thinking, analysing and day dreaming that the day goes by without me achieving my goals and this has really affected my life. This has become an addiction that i am finding it difficult to stop.
ikechukwu okani I totally relate to this. I find myself analyzing the details of past events and spend hours trying to construct the possibility of solution in my head. Living in fantasy
Ikechukwu okani I can relate to your strategie. Maybe you want to look in a condition called maladaptive daydreaming. Psychologist Eli Somer is doing research on it and came to the conclusion that this is often a strategy to cope with childhood trauma and neglect. To me it was a big relief to learn about the condition and to talk to other people struggling with it in a facebook support group. People there are sharing their stories and ways to overcome this addiction to flee from reality. It is for many already a relief to learn that they are not the only one doing this.
I can definitely relate to this as an adult. I was extremely regimented as a child tho. School was an outlet for me. Focus wasn't an issue at school but everywhere else I was always in my own world. My siblings used to say it was like I was in a trance.
Sleeping yes I used to sleep my life away and I enjoyed my dreams I could control them when I was younger so it was like a whole different world for me one that I had control over !!
how do i cope? long walks at 12 midnight. meditating in an empty church. being by the water. going to a park/forest. sleep, my dream life is extraordinary. talking to my neighbors cat and dog, they truly understand me.
Agreed! I’ve struggled my entire life. Came from a family where I was narcissistically abused. It’s been one whole endurance race, just to simply stay alive! Haven’t been able to self-actualize due to decades of abuse and massive damage. I feel like I was forged through fire all my life. If I can at least manage to meet ALL my basic needs on my own before I grow too old and die, I’ll be doing well.
As an empath every day is a challenge. My mind is mostly my enemy. I have trust issues and I make bad dissisions because of that. The world arround me is dissappointing to me. So I isolate. Being in nature and taking care of animals help me. A pure surrounding helps me cope. I still have a long way to go I guess. Greeting from the Netherlands. Love your channel.
Relate to all 3 of you. Exactly. It is beyond disappointing. That word is far too weak. Unacceptable seems to be more accurate. I’ve been stuck on Earth now 66 years, and nearly all have been unacceptable…
My advice is to not try to fullfil other people expectations. You are not responsible for their feelings. Also for me I notice that I`m (as my energy/consciousness) is mostly in my head and trying to tune myself to other people energy to feel them and can fullfill them. So you have to learn to feel separation from other people!!! and be in your own body. look for Aaron Doughty videos about Frame Technique
Yes, food in general has been my "go to" for comfort...and it's really a hard battle still in the forefront of my life at 52. It's the one thing I struggle to let go of. I also go into "hiding" and withdraw but this is not an issue anymore. It used to be out of fear of everything outside the safety of home but now, it's for my peace. So glad I found you, Christina! You are a blessing.
Elias Limitless I so understand where you’re coming from. Thought it was just me ‘giving up’ on healthy eating and giving into comfort eating. You’ve made me feel so much better about how I am coping with how I’m feeling at this time. Thank you
I lived in denial all my life and closed my heart and always been numb .. my childhood was a nightmare and I really want to contact my inner wounded child
Definitely heart closure and disassociation for me, also cocconing in my inner world and reaching out only when it’s a must; a nightmare of a childhood here, too. you are gorgeous, Christina, thankyou heaps for this video. Looking forward part 2.
I didnt realized all that I've been through until I wanted to get to know me, why I feel the why I do and why im so different from everyone else, find out who I am, what I like what make me happy. I don't know how I made it.
As far as I can remember my coping mechanism was to avoid people. I never really liked being in groups especially during school days even in work because I can easily pick up other people's emotions. On the outside it looks like I lack teamwork and loyalty, but its only because I dont want to get mixed in other's energies. Yes, I come from a problematic family lines.
I went through very significant soul loss in my early 20s, although I didnt understand at the time that that's what happened. I was very numb for years. Felt like a hollow tree. Overtime, however, through a lot of soul searching, I began to uncover the truth. I learned about how the soul (or essence) separates from the body during trauma. I grew up with a covert narcissistic parent, and so there was a lot of abuse. I self loathed, and had a lot of self sabotaging tendencies. I'm still on the healing journey as healing from narcissistic abuse takes time, and it happens in layers. I know, that my true nature is being an empath.
I resonate with that completely. I slowly slipped away from the person I knew I was and began losing my true morals and values and became a person that I did not share beliefs with. I have suffered from malignant narcissistic abuse as well as my two daughters. I started sarching for truth, hope, and guidance and solutions, 8 years ago. It has been an emotional experience and am still in the process of turning over every stone but very well said.
I relate to this so much. I was also raised by a covert narcissist and went through a lifetime of trauma. Your description of feeling like a hollow tree is so perfect.
My coping mechanism was indifference and isolation , pretending everything was OK or I did not care.. . Thank you very much ☺ looking forward for the second part 😊
Me too. I would cry and cry, and then say I dont care what people think, who cares. But I did care, you know. I wanted people to care, I just did not understand why i felt all of that anger and sadness. Well, we were in bars,where most people are because they ARE sad and lonely. And it was like a tidal wave of sadness. I actually become sick physically, as in seriously ill, and i believe now that had a lot to do with it.
Now it's time to lift up our heads..In this journey I have come to know who I am..God in the flesh, there's no need to hide from people anymore. When I understood that the world is my reflection, meaning what I think about myself, the very image I have of myself is reflected back to me through people , places or circumstances.. I decided to make my own rules, to see myself prosperous and powerful...The truth of my being, the reality of me is God(Orison Sweet Maden), and I am successful, strong, confident, loving, wealthy, joyful...I decided to let go of the title "empath"I once gave to myself.. I decided to love myself..you too lift up your head and let go of all old belittling beliefs that hold you down... lots of love
I too was sexually abused at 4 years old. I remember the exact moment that my inner child separated frommy conscious mind. The color of the world changed and I remember thinking, "This is my self defense mechanism." I coped by abusing alcohol, drugs and troubled relationships. I appreciate so much you helping me realize why I am who I am and how to deal with existing as an empath. Thank you so much.
When I was a child, I remember I was very sensitive to how my family interacted with me. I used to cry alot. My parents weren't aware of my extreme sensitivity. As a result I lived with anxiety and fear all my life. I had little friends and was very shy. When I was 22 yrs i embarked on being of service to others, later on in life that has been my coping mechanism, as by helping others I forget my problems and the satisfaction that it gives me will fill my cup in return. Im an energy healer and massage therapist so I was always feeling tired, nowadays I give myself Reiki and I enjoy being in nature to ground and balance myself. I always felt that I didn't fit and that I was somehow different until I understood who I was. Life is hard being an empath and HSP, sometimes I wish that I can change and careless. Although personally I cannot relate to those protection mechanisms, I can see that other persons whom I know have had childhood trauma and are not empaths , are effected mentally, don't show emotions and seem detached from the world. Relationships with such are very difficult, I will be following your videos to learn more. Thank you so much Christina.xx
Tanya Bonnici , wow! Thank you for sharing your childhood memories and beyond. I resonate with a lot of what you have done and said, as I have dedicated my life to helping others. I have been very ill, and come back from that as well. I too have suffered from anxiety and fear.
Sometimes parents are aware their child is extremely sensitive, but thinks that they need to learn to "toughen up" - things really hurt us that many people can just shrug off, This can be true especially if you are a boy. Boys aren't "allowed" to be HSP's.
Wow u sound just like me I've coped with being hsp by always helping other ppl and putting others before me. When in times I need someone or help I don't know how to ask or I just simply can't because I've always been the giver
I have coped as an empath by doing breathing techniques exercises, pranayamas, yoga, self-parenting, self-love, meditation, changing my inner dialogue to self-validation, re-educating my inner critic, knowing that I am enough, physical exercising, being in nature, improving my communication and assertive skills, practising acceptance, boundaries; learning to say no when I don't want to do something; doing shadow work and embracing shame, fears and transmutating them surrendering them to God source. Also, acknowledging that Self-love is not a one-time decision, but a constant daily practice. Counselling to guide me through spotting patterns has also been very helpful. I keep on working and might have lots to work on yet. But in 6 months I feel like thriving already after a breakthrough.
I agree. After 30 years of relationship traumas i finally learned 4x4 breathing, therapy, boundaries, self love/care, presence, forgiveness, meditation, and for me daily chanting of The Maha Mantra while following Bhakti Yoga has filled the voids and brought me a lot of peace, joy and purpose! 🙏💗
no big trauma here, but as a lifelong unaware empath I intuitively did two things: 1. close myself off when I need to recharge, my husband jokes that I'm like a cat: sometimes I want to be social & other times no way, ima hiss at you. 2. retreat into deep thoughts, self-story telling, reading etc
Oh wow! I have gotten the cat comment from a intimate partner as well. LOL, guess it’s the pattern of being up to social and then regenerating, and not getting it because that’s normal for sensitive people. 💕
This really resonates with me and I can't wait to hear your advice on how to change these coping mechanisms. For now, I keep a photo on my desk of myself at 3 yrs old. Putting her picture where I could see her everyday brought back that little fragment of me. I made a vow to her that although the adults in my childhood failed at keeping me safe, I will always take care of her. When someone significant in my life wants me to do something I'm not keen on doing, tries to make me feel guilty for not wanting to do it, I think of that little girl. Protecting her helps me set better boundaries.
I am afraid of people looking at me, no idea why... so I coped with it being introvert and reclusive... I feel empty, unloved, useless and sometimes pain.... I cope with eating... So the more I eat the more I am shamed and afraid of people looking at me... still have no idea where this circle can stop...
I have the same problem... Mostly if it's someone I'm intimidated by or if I'm in a group but sometimes just randomly. There's this weird thing that happens, when they look at me all my fear and nervousness gets trapped in my head and my head starts to shake. It's really embarrassing. But something that seems to be starting to help me heal is breathwork. It is very powerful. I'm going to my second class this weekend. Maybe try it out.
I experienced what you've articulated verbatim. My mechanism was isolation and being fearless about "cutting people off" that exemplified the slightest bit of control, indifference, or manipulation. I grew up with narcissists in my house & didn't believe there was happiness on the other side of the Living hell I thought was life. I've spent all of my adult life healing & unblocking every area of spirit land.
Estifanos Berta-Samuel , I did (still occasionally do) cut people off just like that. Like I didn’t even care about them to begin with. I always thought it was because of not wanting to get hurt, or I would run before someone could hurt me. I lived a life that I thought no one would ever know. I hope you have gotten some hope and healing.
I remember early on using laughter as a coping mechanism...whenever energies felt tense I would usually crack a joke to lighten the mood, even if the joke was about myself...i'd do anything for a laugh 😆 😆 😆
My coping mechanism was OCD cleanliness with my material things and isolation. The only friends I made were deeply troubled, which was clearly my way of helping others. At 36 years old I am still struggling with making friends that are reciprocal relationships. My whole family worked on my sensitivities and made me come to them and work to be loved. That made it difficult for me to just exist as myself. I use all modalities including grandmother ayu, grandfather Huachuma/peyote, hypnotherapy, body work, acupuncture, sensory deprivation, daily meditation including work on grounding. God, I feel like I work so hard just to be me and I still don’t have really reciprocal relationships.
While not with cleanliness, i can relate to “obsessions” as a form of coping. I’m starting to lean toward “letting go of attachments” as opposed to “detachment.” By no means have i figured it out, but i feel strongly that this is important.
Wow, you know the exhaustion that I feel that I have been “gifted” with. I would give anything to have these so called “gifts” gone. I have worked so hard on myself, that I have outgrown all of my friends and family. I’m so lonely.
Thanks to Christina, I now no longer want to hide in fear from overload from the world. When I DO feel overwhelmed, i have developed a technique which allows me to quickly change my entire state and come back out deciding that I will be the most powerful person in the room. Thank you Christina 😊👍
I use my extremely high empathy to try to help others through the understanding and of them and helping them. I consider it a blessing and it makes me really happy to help others in life and make them happier
FASINATINGLY LIFE GIVING! I have Always wondered how my physical form could take so much stress. I use to cope with.... crying lots of crying. Seizures when i was 17 and up. alcohol, cigarettes, men, fantasizing, pot and oh ya and did i mention crying? Ha ha ha i think it saved my life. I found out that crying changes our cellular memory also. Cool
@Go Guerilla Foto crying is a release so when we cry it helps us drop the old stagnant vibes from life times of worry and control. Crying can feel like losing control so when we let ourselves cry we are letting go of control which restores the natural flow of life. Also certain chemicals are released into our systems when we cry that promote relaxation. 💖
This is one of the most enlightening videos on empaths . . .as a spiritual teacher and empath I am actually numb now as my elderly cluster b mother has just passed away..I have had to go no contact with my entire dysfunctional family of origin over a year ago for my health..forgotten wellness is returning after constant inner work.my childhood of carrying the burdens of my entire lineage has taken its toll...I energetically and physically cannot go to the funeral service which is in another country as my consciousness now cannot be silent on the covert abuse in this family...it is for the highest interest of all involved I stay away at this time as my brother and sister gave rejected my truth and spiritual beliefs years ago...I am learning to love myself after abandoning me for 5 decades ...enough is enough...I have just found you beloved sister. ..how I have missed you. ..I see a beautiful warrioress goddess of light...much gratitude for all your authenticity and wisdom at this very difficult time for me..💖
It seems as if I used all 4 coping mechanisms, I feel separate from others, always feeling as if I'm in a different dimension and somewhat lost, so happy to have found this, now I know so much more exactly which steps to take! 🎉🙏
My coping mechanism is isolation and keeping to myself. I've always been a loner, never really wanted to be around people. This video is accurate. Thanks for posting it. I love all your videos. I've learned a lot about myself. Thank you.
Wow Christina, I've been battling with this for 41 years and you have shone light on it in 24 minutes flat! Thankyou for unravelling it. This will be helping sooooo many people now and more importantly in many years to come..... Bless your heart!!!! Xxx
Im 32 and just figured out im an Empath.. I went through video after video trying to tell myself that this isnt real.. This is vido 7.... I now know.. Were different than others.. I thought everyone felt others like we do..
This explains why I was a run away and why all my life I have moved so much. My parents moved all the time. I went to over 20 public schools. It became a pattern in my own life. I can remember one Easter, after my second birthday 2-18-1957, I was walking towards the front door when I stopped and looked down at my legs and started laughing at the fact I was a little girl with these cute little legs! I always felt like I was not even from this planet. I had this knowledge that there was something very special I was to find. Not that I was special, but this knowledge was. At times it was the only thing that kept me alive. I did find what it was I was to find and it changed my whole life, everything! Thru the Baha'i Faith I found my healing. I'm at peace and feel right at home where I belong. I love your video's.
My childhood was the same no stability. No good friends never stayed anyplace long . Nice to finally have some understanding about myself, other than weird and alienated. Unfortunately i brought three kids up and two out of three are just like me. Get myself right be an example cause they are grown. Need to start a support group.
I'm 71 years old I still can't figure anything out And crying all the time. I found you a few days ago And you are really helping me. I started weeping halfway through this When I stop blowing my nose I will listen to the second Half
I'm 73 and also bummed out. I think the past year has accelerated my isolating myself even further than I normally do (because of covid lockdown) and I've been thinking about "stuff" in the past...situations and people. I've been way intolerant of myself and sometimes others. I've had a complete breakdown between myself and my pretend family I once had. They don't exist for me any more. it's not an empowering time in general because of the past year being so awful (also politically no matter what beliefs you have) and emotions so blown up. It's been a truly huge world wide event. Once the dust settles and we find ourselves with "normal" once again perhaps things will get easier. I hope you can find relief and just have patience to take on the thoughts you are having. You've made it for a long time now so you obviously have the strength to do this..
I could relate all the way. Challenge I face now is all these have turned into habits that are hard to shake off as a middle aged adult despite my awareness
kp1832 phelan When this happens to me, I usually reply: “If the world was as sensitive as I am, there would be no war and the world would be a much better place!” The problem isn’t your sensitivity, it’s the culture’s insensitivity. Lack of kindness and empathy leads to a host of issues that impact us all (e.g. mass shootings, bullying, etc). May you embrace your super power. ❤️
Yes. My kids tease me bec I'll watch a show and just be weeping, and they have no emotion, they are like seriously, its just a SHOW. But I can FEEL what that person is feeling, esp. when we watch true crime shows where women are murdered, I can't take them. I cannot take the emotions and fear.
My spiritual awakening did guide and showed me how my protection mechanisms were actually harming me.. but still deep inside my heart I feel like the dark force is stronger than me and I won't be able to stop it..
I'll confess for me my coping mechanism has been alcohol - from the time I was twelve - and it has not been constructive. I only recently understood 'what was wrong with me', I'm 49 now. And by recent I mean June. Thank you so much Christina for your videos. Your channel - and the video "What's An Empath REALLY..." th-cam.com/video/IjW1NOBmCm4/w-d-xo.html - was one of the first I came across online that helped enlighten me that I've got empathic and/or HSP tendencies and how myself and others can use this to our advantage. Thank you to your beautiful soul ❤
So glad you resonated! As you understand your empathic abilities and heal your past, your energy will rise and alcohol won't be used as a coping mechanism anymore. 🤗
Great job on the no drinking! I have been quit for 15 years and yes, it can be painful to feel it all but at least it is constructive growing pains and not self defeating victim behaviors. Let me know if you get trapped in your head and need to talk ;)
Laura S. Hunt Hello 💗 I couldn’t tell whether you said you recently quit alcohol or if it’s still a coping mechanism. I wanted to let you know that the process is absolutely possible and you will eventually be able to experience much greater joy and connection than ever before on or off alcohol if you choose to put yourself up for the most rewarding challenge of your life 💗 I can tell you this because I was addicted to opiates for about 6 years (people may look way down on me for that but I prefer openness). So at age 41 (I’m 48 now), I chose to choose life over death because I could not feel joy on or off the opiates anymore. I was looking at either a final suicide attempt or to become brave enough to just attempt to what came to alter my reality forever. Fortunately I gained this stubborn determination and I chose, “I don’t care how difficult this will be. I deserve higher than this.” So I checked myself in to a dual diagnosis psyche ward to detox through the excruciating physical withdrawals and then the emotional withdrawals, wow, I can’t even explain them. But I became involved with NA as you can get involved with AA, and oh my gosh, the love in those rooms and the against the odds survival stories other people have taken were epically inspirational. PS: You don’t have to be religious in order to eventually find a profound connection with the universe, with life and with your own soul again (higher power stuff). I hope this comes as maybe an inspiration to you because I’m telling you, I am still on the evolutionary path of healing and life keeps rewarding me with greater and greater experiences. I also study how to overcome ptsd and I choose art and music, writing, relationships and life over my old addiction any day. You are worth it and you still have an inner warrior whom you are destined to become if you choose to!! Much love 💗Julia
@@orchidsrising7910 Hi Julia, thank you so much for sharing this experience of yourself with me and anyone who reads your comment. This is very courageous of you and absolutely inspiring to me and probably many others as well. The problem is when I want to be social I'll use alcohol because it 'shuts-off' these - what I now understand to be - empathic or hyper-sensitive tendencies, it numbs them (I have also definitely used alcohol to escape). And I'm not talking parties where most people like to drink to be social - I mean even one-on-one situations or just typical everyday situations - to interact with people can be really taxing and so exhausting - which is also hard because I really like to be around people! (makes no sense I know!) Now that I understand what is going on with me and my 'psychological make-up', and that there are also others with these misunderstood tendencies I feel Much better. And you may question this but it has always seemed like I am actually unable to be fully addicted to substances. Something that is alluded to so eloquently (as always) by Christina in this video at 5:00 in "...what the soul does is it always has these kind of protection mechanisms or escape valves, protection mechanisms that it uses that it can deploy if necessary...". Even though my sensitivities were never validated (before now) I have Always felt something has been there protecting me - it sounds like you experienced this too 💗. Another reason I really appreciate what you wrote is that granted my empathic or hyper-sensitivity traits have caused me pain I also see that others have had to endure a lot more than me. You are definitely a very brave and determined person to fight like you did! And oh yes, I feel the warrior within me too
I have all those mechanism that you mentioned, I was premature with 6 month and I was born sick, I was on the incubator for 1 month, wow, I understand many thing now. I close my heart so hard that I never let anyone get close to me. Always few friends that I loved but I never let them in. My heart is opening with the spiritual ascension process. Thank you so much for this video, so useful and revealing. Many blessings to all. 🦋🙏💙
Alcohol for the longest time. When I was in high school I just stayed away from people. Being bullied and harassed by the other students my whole life I simply would get as far away from them as I could when I was not in class. As far as I could get without leaving the school. I'd wait outside my shop class room waiting for lunch to end. I could go to crowded places like a concert and feel okay, but at a mall, all the discordant energies make me want to leave right away. I would usually just say away from those situations where I sense some highly emotional turmoil.
Thank you for this video. For me, the hardest lesson has been dealing with my family. All I've ever wanted to do is protect them and support them while all they ever do is hurt me and break me. I know I signed up for this lesson, but It's a very challenging one. I can feel my sister´s envy towards me, my mom and my dad´s guilt and regret about the life path they chose. And all of them project their fears and pains on to me. It feels like hell been the only conscious one in the family and noticing how every day they choose to stay stuck in the victim mentality. They all have received signs from the universe to evolve, but they choose not to listen. It's very frustrating and very selfish.
My heart is definitely blocked! All my friendships and relationships have gone haywire. I now realise that I need to stop focusing on the psychopathic and narcissistic abuse in my life from age 0 - 71 and focus only on my own recovery. (Forget all those awful people!!!) With your guidance . . .
I escaped into my mind literally feeling num and like a robot no emotions at all My mom’s always telling me that it’s wrong being a rock like with people, isolated I had no friends I always took Care of myself I didn’t bother anyone at all BUT I was the one who was blamed for something I didn’t do and was taken advantages of always at home and at school, I always ask myself why I stand up for poor and victimized people and can’t stand up by myself? Well My childhood was extremely awful Thanks god I am taking actions to heal myself 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I'm 52 and finally healing my inner child. I was not aware as I raised my children, who are raising children of their own now. I'm sharing the information I learn from Christina and others with them. Hopefully it will help them heal. For while I loved my children unconditionally, I was really hurt due to being the scapegoat growing up, so I know I hurt them without realizing it. I'm so grateful for Christina's work. It's healing me, and allowing me to help heal them, possibly preventing them from passing the cycle on, and letting them understand that I didn't mean to hurt them. Understanding that my mother behaved the way she did toward me really helped me with my anger toward her so I could forgive her which is such a huge part of my healing. I love you, Christina ❤
Thank you for this video! This comes as an answer to my questions in the right time. I've got all of them. I'm 29 and i lost contact with sensitivity around 12/13. I've been a 'walking head'. 2 years ago in a crystal fair I met the person that changed my life. She's intuitive and used soul retrieval & soul rescuing and that day I felt sensitivity again. Had an entity attached to aura and it was removed. I've been healing myself since that. 2 months ago found out about c-ptsd. I've suffered abuse my whole life. Covert narc father and codependent mother. I'm happy for breaking free :)
For over 15 yrs I cooped by ignoring and numbing out the flood of pain I felt. I have learned to share other's pain and help them build proper cooping skills so they may grow and I am not burdened every time something goes wrong in their life. I'm happier now. I meditate to re-center myself and work through any burdening emotion I may have picked up in a conversation.
Idk if I would consider myself an empath yet as I am on this journey of figuring out why I feel the way I do or what’s wrong with me (maybe it’s something RIGHT with me 🤔) but I am overly sensitive to the world around me. Since 2018 what’s helped me cope is my husky dog! God, her energy...her soul...is so in sync with mine and it’s so cliche to say but she brings out such great joy in my life- from getting me to be more active because she’s so energetic or the silly faces she makes when she’s trying to understand me. It’s been much easier to cope with the world. I really hope to get some videos up soon and hopefully impact people positively! ❤️🙏🏻 we all deserve happiness and joy in this world, which can get pretty heavy and dark at times.
I love animals and children... They are pure instinct and love. I also believe that my dog, Angel, a pit bull, was so in sync with my soul.. I miss her every single day..
Numbness, isolation, set intention to close my heart as it hurt too much. 💬 After started my spiritual journey worked hard to open up my heart again. But still have numbness and pretend I do not care. 💭 Thanks Christina for helping me to put things into words. 💖
My mom was married & divorced 5 times. She was a narcissist. By the time I was 15/16 yrs old I was couch surfing from house to house. Friends and my grandmother mostly helped me through. Also had an older brother, who passed away in 2002, was there for me off & on too. I've always had that feeling that I don't belong or fit in but somehow attract friends. As I got older I've become way more sociable. I have that sense where I know not to approach a person/s. I can tell when a energy vampire is near me too. There's a lot of em out there.
I'm thankful my soul loved me and watched over me. I was 5, my sister was eight. I was supposed to be here now. We are supposed to love this world, through the brokenness of our own broken heart. As you do very well with your words my Dear. Thank you 💗
Hi, my entire life feels like heartbreak, therefore I pray a lot in order to have strenght eavh day. Even so, if someone hurts i comfort them and try to heal them.
Empath, HSP, INFJ, scapegoated by narc (adoptive) parents.... isolated and always blamed shamed and guilt tripped. Trying to shatter these programs, rough road at 54. I am not sure I ever coped successfully. Still trying to accept that my soul chose this.? The hardest lesson is the fast path to evolution... I want 12D now. Peace to all
UP 3 Same here, Im an empath, HSP, INFJ, scapegoated by narc parent. Mine being the biological mother. Plus, an intuitive and seer. What a life experience. Lots of pain, abandonment, abuse, lack of love, etc. Ive been reprogramming the subconscious, lots of inner work, clearing, releasing false programs, forgiveness, and reintegrating fragments of self. Grateful that I feel Im finally making a competition after a life long journey of self work, learning, healing, surviving, and seeking my truth. Im here if you wish to connect. Stay strong and continue with self love.
I have always turned to my spiritual books they are my comfort zone and a great reminder that there is other like -minded people in the world and Im not that "wierd" after all..🤗💞🙏🌸🤯💚❤🌸🦋 Thankyou Christina 🙏
Thank you, so helpful. Almost 50 yrs old and constantly learning and seeking answers. These videos are better than any therapy I ever had😊 Some coping mechanisms are avoiding crowds, self employment, rest when needed.
I am highly sensitive and an emphat and am struggling with life, relationships and everything going on inside me. Life is just more and more overwhelming. Right now I only feel safe and comfortable being home alone.
There's no way I can describe my experience in short. It started from crib for me and I remember my father's aggressiveness, not playfulness. The narcissism from both parents was vicious. I wasn't "punished", I was attacked because they "thought" I misbehaved. The healing process is never ending and full of sadness. No one ever had my back, still to this day but I was there when forced to become a small adult enduring many soul crushing events. To this day, even with my blessings, I wish I was never born.
This is absolutely incredible information! Up until now, I've hid with agoraphobia and chronic migraine as a very negative way of protecting my emotional/energetic body/energy. (If I'm hiding in pain, maybe they'll leave me alone) I am so excited at the info you're sharing - there's a new way of thinking around the corner! 💜💜💜💜💜🌙🌙🌙🌙🌙
It's been sure hell, from as far as I can remember... Constant fear and shame, being molested at 7, all I did was surrender... Abandonment from the most important person, a Mother... Went thru an identity crisis, the only girl out of four kids, acted as a brother... Amazingly, my heart space has remained open... Although the depth of tears I've cried, equals the biggest ocean.
@@donnamarie5084 ...well no need in being sorry, this is but our Trial by Fire my friend. Only the strong survive... we were molded too be strong, at a time such as this. Men's heart's shall fail them, due to the spiritual war that has, by all means, begun. I've tried to keep a song in my heart at all times, and ask for guidance nonstop.
Treasure your safety you have now. I hope you have a stable place to live where you can relax and discover yourself and goodness again. One thing about life is that stuff always changes.
I was a premature baby, almost didn’t survive, Narcissistic mother, brother, grandmother. Remember neglect, abandonment, lack of love, all kinds of abuse throughout my entire life As a toddler I remember seeing that these people were “messed up”, but that I was different, felt differently, thought differently, but couldn’t show it as it only worsened the abuse. I could feel the emotions of those around me so very young & knew when I needed to leave that environment. I would Find a hiding place in the home, or when old enough wander in the woods to find peace. When my physical body became quite ill as as adult & recognized I had to cut off all contact with my Narcissistic family members the repercussions became even more traumatic & subsequently numbed out to everything, even love from stable people & feeling any joy. Your videos have been resonating with me, especially this one. I felt pulled to the use of plant medicines such as Ayahuasca & have been figuring out so much about myself & my life lessons. Why & how things happened. They helped pull me out of what I now know to be the “dark night of the soul”, & am becoming more & more “awakened”. Thanks for your videos & helping me to see & understand that my empathic nature wasn’t a curse but a. gift.
Alcohol and drugs to numb the pain. Became a control freak. Daydreaming. Self isolation at times. I'm very good at being physically present but not mentally or emotionally. Saved me as a child, destroying me as an adult. 90 days sober, and I remember why I drink. Emotions are strong!
Thank you times infinity. I needed this. You may have just changed my life. I've coped by drinking, mostly. My heart has been closed off for many, many years. I've had 2 heart attacks. The first was when I was 34. I've sabotaged every romantic relationship I've been in because A) I don't feel worthy of love and B) I don't want to burden anyone with having to deal with someone who feels that way. Time to watch part 2 of this video.
Wow, I had literally just got back from a family gathering and I felt extremely overwhelmed and I wrote in my journal “how am I suppose to deal with these situations” And then I found your video. They way you communicate and explain everything resonates with me deeply and I’ve been taking notes and having epiphanies. There’s a lot that I do to cope, it starts with feeling out of control of my body, then my mind starts racing and before I know it I’m looping negative thought patterns and curled up. I try to ask Myself what I need in that moment but Once I’m overwhelmed I just need to go be alone to let it go. This is going to be difficult to navigate. But I’m going to start with remaining aware and choosing what I take in. Damn.
At 3 years old I was placed in orphanage in Russia. There were no touching except beating and slapping . In order to survive we, kids, touched each other’s arms and it helped . At 10 years old I was sexually violated . I went through all 4 layers of protection : soul, mind, heart and body. In order to cope with my trauma I stopped expressing myself through my voice, at 8 years old I started to smoke cigarettes . As I was growing older my coping mechanism were drugs and alcohol, sex and running away from whenever I was. To this day o can’t feel my body, I can’t hear my heart beating( I know it does , but when I put my hand on it I can’t hear or feel it’s beat), I can’t express myself verbally . These coping mechanisms became the poison for all of me. I am glad I am healing now. Thank you Christina! You are an angel on my path to integration❤️💯
I'm sorry to hear what happened to you when you were 4 years old. No one should have to go through that. Thats first of all. Second, i knew this video would be right on the money even when you announced the release earlier in the day on another post. I'm sharing this with many people. It puts into words what I couldnt tell them. Much love to you and your team, please keep the love and the videos coming!
yr video has triggered some deep memories.. yr right i separated from myself... i acted as if nothing has happened... putting a facade that everything is all right.. was adopted as a child... i was extremely attached to my foster mom never stayed away from her even for a day. i looked for security through her rt up to 25yrs wen she died.. I'm 48 n still not got over her death....
Bharti shah I too was adopted, and was very attached to my dad. Knowing that his soul is in another reality really helps. I see synchronization around me which let's me know he is around. I saw a medium who channeled him and she picked up on the fact that I was adopted. The "death" of my dad was a major existential crisis for me. Knowing that he is not "dead" and that he is still very much alive just not here in a physical sense really helped me. I wish you all the best💖💖💖
@@nataliem2257thanks Costello romano. that is very kind n thoughtful from u...i know she's always with me in spirit.. but i miss her physical touch... i used to just lie down in her lap... n there all my worries n stress use to fly out.. i use to feel free rejuvenated n loved just by her touch.. i hope u understand... but I'm trying to cope n i know i will.. for she is helping me from the other side... thanks again for the concern love n light to u dear💟💟
Helping as many people as i can, and feeling intense guilt when i cant do enough. Creating a life of broken people surrounding me for support, helping me to forget my own issues and focusing on theirs. Many of these people have died from substance abuse, furthering my guilt. Being of service to others, not to myself. Realizing i need boundaries, but struggling to build them.
I've survived my 31 years of life by pretty much hiding away (especially this last decade), not seeing friends as much as I did in my teenage years, staying out of the way as much as possible. I feel like I'm missing out on so much in life but at the moment these things are keeping me sane.
Thank you so much Christina! This is so recognizable again. My coping was to intellectualize everything. I made my head work overtime, previously without realizing it myself. I thought I could handle what I had experienced by understanding everything with my head. Until my body started to send ever stronger signals and my head couldn't take it anymore. Then I got a burnout with mainly an overloaded nervous system. I could hardly think or remember anything. This gave my body (and inner child) the space to reveal and process what it had stored all this time. I am so impressed with my wise body and soul!
I have social anxiety and have got too overwhelmed to interact with strangers. Hid myself, not spoken up/semi-mute at times, not known who I am/had much sense of self. Lots of resistance to feeling.... Self harm occasionally and too much chocolate! Those are the unhelpful strategies I can think of in adult life.
I disassociated myself not in an emotional way, but in a very conscious way when I realized that it wasn't me that had serious behavior problems, but it was others; however I still couldn't let out my inner child for fear of it being trampled upon. It took me decades to totally free that inner child.
its on them not you..people talk down to people to keep them where they want you.. the fact they talk down means your growing and they're trying to keep you from it.. keep your head up and smile in adversity nothing messes a person up when they aren't affecting you ... my friend tells me just smile kills them when your not reacting.. by smiling and laughing your coming out on top and gaining your confidence back.. don't let anyone take your light..my other friend says 'when, someone tries to put shit on you just say its not my shit it yours!' I've been there and wont allow family to tell me who i am, we are who we are and don't have to change for anyone but ourselves.. you'll find the moment when what your family says to hurt you wont hurt anymore because you will realize who you are inside isn't who they're talking about...its most likely themselves they are mad at .. don't take in what people say or they win, your stronger than you think, keep your head up.
Hugs to you. I know how you feel. It is very hard to be doing all of this healing in the midst of crazy all around us. It's a challenge for sure. It is also such a lonely life. Hugs of support to you from afar.
I cut off memories and sad thing is I do it till now. Heart closure and other points too. I want to stop this now. Since my 30ties my emotions become lighter with the spiritual search. I was then a very closed minded catholic. It's very different now. Now I am searching purely spiritualy not religiously. I helps a lot. Also meditations. Right food. Suplements - looking after my body. I feel that the health of my body is closely connected to healthy emotions and healthy soul (it's always healthy but I can feel it deeper). I still wonder if my emotions are mine or others. I would like to " grow up " while being in my late 40ties. Lots of things have changed this year. Thank you for all the information you put in this video. It's very enlightening
Thank you so much for your videos, Christina! This one has given me so much insight into my own journey as an empath. My coping mechanism has been fantasy, something called Maladaptive Daydreaming, it's a way to dissociate using fantasy for hours... I didn't understand why my whole life I've used fantasy as an escape, until this year when I discovered I was sexualy abused when I was a little girl. Although I can't remember what happened I'm working on healing myself. Thank you so much, again!
How did you find out you were sexually abused? I don't have a memory of being sexually abused but I wonder if I might have been. My mom told me when I was the little the doctor found a bruise on my leg and said someone might have done something to me. All of the men that were around, including my dad, had to be observed interacting with me in a room by psychologists for a few months. My mom didn't say that they ever concluded anything, but I wonder about it.
This touches every core of my being as I was always struggling to understand why am I able to see through people intentions, why do I feel pain when my thoughts are supposedly ok. I didn’t realize I was an empath until recently and now this video touches my core and made my understanding so much clearer. I was sexually abused at the age of 5 and while you’re through the 4 protection mechanism and I can relate to it and really explains a lot of why my life has been a struggle up until now and getting in touch myself has helped tremendously. Thank you for your beautiful light. Love and light in source remembrance
Der Christina, I have been on a spiritual journey for the the last couple of years and seen a lot of videos and heard a lot of different advice. But this video resonates to me on such a deep and powerful level, it like 'coming home'. I now fully understand what has happened to me since the abuse and how it has made me lead a life, that I did not come here for. A few months ago somebody told me my inner child, ' did not come here to lead the life, I have been living'. I knew that what she said was absolutely true, but know ... it is so so so clear. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.
My coping mechanisms was a closed off heart, smoking weed, and avoiding close relations. That really fucked med up later. I quit the weed and started to go through healing. Feeling an opening of the heart was Amazing. Truly Amazing and terrifying. Meant that now I was vulnerable and had to start saying no and set boundaries and stand up for myself. That is still something Im working with.
This is totally me as well weed became my tonic and higher power and now I’m 4 months in recovery these videos are helping so much along with a ton of other exploring thanks for sharing
I dont feel that I'm an empath. But I do feel energy and there was a time in my life where i would see things before they would happen but that's all really.
Really very helpful, dear Christina! It has clarified some "unexplained" things with me as child and with me as a Mother of two empaths! Thank You for this, You Wonderful Heart Alchimist! Blessings to You and us All 💟🎆💞
I have come a long and lonely from my childhood and now that am an adult I read a book that helps me a lot , me making me happy and taking no one stress or negative energy
My memory of my childhood is very foggy, but I do remember spending most of my time in my room alone. My parents divorced when I was still very young, so I used my room as a "safe space" to escape from the arguing and negativity. I remember having a very strong connection with my toys because I used them as a mental escape into a world I would make up in my mind. I also always felt like i was resposable for my parents emotions. Like it was my job to keep them happy with no regard to how I was feeling. I also remember craving physical comfort a lot. I would purposely bang my head on things and cry just to be comforted. I was also a huge crybaby at school, but never at home. I remember one of my teachers pulling me aside in kindergarten one day to ask if I was ok. Sorry, I kinda rambled. It was nice to be able to reflect on all those things and finally make since of it from the video.
Watched this cuz it was in my recommendation list, surprisingly this kind of explain why my ability to feel emotions accelerates from 1-100 so fast recently. Cuz I was so numb to feelings when I was younger. I remember watching my parents argue every single day since I was 4 until the day they divorce which when I was around 13. My younger sister would be so upset and was always crying in a corner because of that. I would go over to pat her on the head while wondering which one of us was the weird one. Like literally nobody could make me cry or emotionally/mentally affect me when I was a kid unless someone physically injured me really badly. When my virginity was forcefully taken by my first crush from high school (in his car), I was a bit angry for being disrespected but apart from that I don’t feel much. I was really curious though, like how certain things can make certain people feel certain way. So, I took an interest in psychology field. Then I learned about psychopath and I used to believe I’m one of them; totally a dangerous human being whose unable to feel anything 💆🏻♀️. I thought I’m a psychopath who just love animals and simply like to wander everywhere alone for no reason. I really loved and care for my mum. Everyone was so against her and that made me want to be there for her even more. No matter how verbally and physically abusive she was whenever she was angry, I wasn’t able to be mad at her. I just felt she acted like that because her heart was hurt by my dad. Until recently, I had a major breakdown because of many horrible things happening in my life , crashing down on me all at once. This kinda cause my feelings towards her to totally change. I no longer want to be there for her. I would lock myself in my room to cry. I cried so much during the breakdown period until I can’t remember the purpose of me being me anymore. Not just towards her, but many other people I care about in my life too. It’s too much, the emotions I used to be numb to, I feel it so much now that I just wanna stay away from people even more. At one point, I kinda wish I’m a psychopath, for being able to feel so much, can be so so so painful. I still love my mum but i don’t want to be manipulated by anybody anymore.
I've done all 4 you have mentioned. This explains why my inner child's saying were 'survive, run, attack if cornered, don't need help'. As a child I've experienced abandonment, loneliness( no one to turn to), sexual abuse and attacks from both physical and spiritual realm. So I became bitter and destructive growing up. I just dodge situations and people. Barricade myself in a room, mentally and emotionally prepare myself for different situations by making up scenarios in my head (planning). Tightly grip onto anger as block. Repressing emotions and memories of 22 years. Which of course turned into a ticking time bomb. I pretty much screwed up my own memory system which seem to result in having memory problems. Etc... Now I'm just trying to survive from the detachment and making sure my mentality is still intact (currently fading). Trying to heal my inner child.
I grew up with my parents and nine siblings. I spent a great deal of time trying to find a quiet places, like closets behind clothes in order to disappear. Now I understand.
Up until now, how have you coped as an empath? Let me know in the comments below!
Christina , when I said you were Beautiful, I meant it! I am so blown away right im crying and so relieved . I was so scared Thinking I was just a major FK (sorry..) up my entire life like just a Bravado ,numb, insensitive did I say numb girl growing up ..felt no emotions except with animals. I was always safe with them ..I guess? I'm 52 just found out a few years ago I was adopted so first off the lack of love and the chemicals from my real mother when you are first born probably created the abandonment issues in the paper work it said before they released me from the Agency I was fussy at night and just started losing weight stop growing after 5 days they measured me and weighed me , then I was good to go! but the people who Adopted me ,well I know that I walked in on my mom and she was trying to commit suicide , pills razor's glass of wine rough but I can remember grabbing her wrist's holding them up and calling for my dad, wanting to slap her but knowing it was wrong she my Mom, I was 9. in and out of trouble anyways I thought I would never love anything or anyone . Because I never had any FEELINGS just numb when someone said "I LOVE YOU" I could not understand or feel what that meant? Anyways , today 2 different people I Love everybody and everything . I'm so grateful for bad things good things ,people do know wrong they do but somewhere and for what ever reason I know there is a reason a root in the core of there soul as to why … strangers will just start telling me personal tragedy's as if there looking for me to give a answer of some kind. I'm so different of a person and Love you so much for breaking this down today . I'm surely not a FK up I 'm still crying ..I'm Normal of a Human Being. NO WAY!!! Thank you , so very much! Thank you!
I have always been spirituel witch help alot. I have a strong mind and soul. My team has been there for me. The only way out is in:) so i keep going.
Grounding helps alot and nature. The joy i feel when I do a difference and help other people. The joy of my spirituelle journey.
Had a very difficult childhood but again the bigger picture, learning, accept, forgiveness and all of it has made me who I am today.... and I love who I am :)
Righ now I am on a mentor course as the student with personal development and are going even deeper and deeper.
I dont care what others think about me or the way I see life or live it.... pretty high spiritually i would say...
My primary energy center witch holds 50 % of my soul is divine compassion. My blueprint is a mix but my secondary underlayer is from Sirius.
So I am a good mix but we all are.
Ohm - unit with good
Onceness
We are all one
You are me, I am you;)
#askchristina
Just had a soul reading aka soulprofile.
My soul did not come here for karma releasing but for fun and learning and going my souls way with all the alternative courses ..your view on dharma and karma could be nice ..
Thanks for all you do and thanks for you 💕
I’ve been isolating myself since I can remember but I know it’s essential to keep my good friends close. Being around my friends really help me forget the feelings of being an empath. My dad used to say there was something special about me since I was little, now I’m pretty sure he noticed I was an empath and he’s probably one too.
I go into hiding. Past two days have been, "WTF is wrong with me moments?"
WTH, Mercury goes direct and I can't seem to get a grip! Ugh
Alcohol and Marijuana, In the other video you referenced "What’s An Empath REALLY & How To Thrive As A Sensitive Person" You made a comment about boundaries and your Mother making you hug your aunt even if you didn't want to. I instantly remembered back to being about 6 or 7 years old and My Aunt saying I was argumentative and that I would grow up to be a Lawyer because I liked to argue so much. That Night my Mother pushed me to the ground and caused me to hit my head on a bookshelf which caused me to have to be rushed to the emergency room to get stitches on my head. I didn't realize my passivity could be rooted in that event. I used to drink alcohol in excess so I Could overcompensate and become very aggressive thinking that was a good way to get respect. I have since come a long way trying my hardest to get sober once and for all. Thank you for all you do. I have been learning alot in the past month about myself and my empathic abilities, I used to think there was something wrong with me and it's very comforting to know that there are others out there like me.
Hiding, being very quiet, staying home, very few close friends
Wow you said so much in so few words you described me perfectly.
Josh Wilson deffo
I understand you that's what I do too-Hugs
Same
Me too. You are not alone.xx
Avoid crowds, negative people and keep to myself alot.
Verbatim 👍(oh - and my circle consists of only of my 2 boys, husband, pug and Guinea pigs) #peoplesuck
I actually like crowds. Its small group or one on one situations I don't like
Darlene Adamski yup.
crowds trigger me a lot - well they do when people invade my space and constantly 'push' me energetically along? to the extent that I negatively flipped and started shouting in the supermarket, " get out of my space/leave me alone!" lol they had to ask me to leave - this during Covid-19 social distancing
.it's more sad when you have experienced all this but do not have anyone to talk with about
It's more sad when you have experienced all this but do not have anyone to talk with about
I’m here! :-)
I feel the same way!
Just this week I realized I had no one who really understand me. I have a lot of friends, but they dont get me. It hurts sometimes. I'm loving my own company and doing my own thing.
I know there's seven billion people on mother Earth and yet there are so many people alone whiskey tango foxtrot
@@Ilovesunlight heyy
In 24 minutes, I understand myself so much more then I ever have in my 47 years on this earth! What you called numb, I always referred to it as being dead inside, because I didn’t understand or didn’t have the proper terminology. I am so grateful to have found your videos! Thank you!
I too found numbness when I own sister died due to cancer in tender age not even showing any remorse either outside or inside. Now I got awakened, now feel the emotions of losing my sister 7 years back as happened just now
My coping mechanism was isolating myself from my surrounding by day dreaming and fantasy. This has resulted in me not being able to study as my mind keeps wondering. Most times i am not present, i keep thinking, analysing and day dreaming that the day goes by without me achieving my goals and this has really affected my life. This has become an addiction that i am finding it difficult to stop.
ikechukwu okani I totally relate to this. I find myself analyzing the details of past events and spend hours trying to construct the possibility of solution in my head. Living in fantasy
Hahaa were the same lol
Ikechukwu okani I can relate to your strategie. Maybe you want to look in a condition called maladaptive daydreaming. Psychologist Eli Somer is doing research on it and came to the conclusion that this is often a strategy to cope with childhood trauma and neglect. To me it was a big relief to learn about the condition and to talk to other people struggling with it in a facebook support group. People there are sharing their stories and ways to overcome this addiction to flee from reality. It is for many already a relief to learn that they are not the only one doing this.
I can definitely relate to this as an adult. I was extremely regimented as a child tho. School was an outlet for me. Focus wasn't an issue at school but everywhere else I was always in my own world. My siblings used to say it was like I was in a trance.
Oh my! That's totally me. Now I know why I have been that way.
I totally relate to number 3. I tend to cope by isolation/detachment or sleeping more.
feel dat
Sleeping yes I used to sleep my life away and I enjoyed my dreams I could control them when I was younger so it was like a whole different world for me one that I had control over !!
Yes I've brought this into my adult life. I used to sleep a lot and still do sometimes.
how do i cope? long walks at 12 midnight. meditating in an empty church. being by the water. going to a park/forest. sleep, my dream life is extraordinary. talking to my neighbors cat and dog, they truly understand me.
Starts at 8:55. 1) Premature ego formation. 2) Soul fragmentation. 3) Heart closure. 4) Mental dissociation.
The introduction of the video is also very helpful dont skip it
Thanks 😊
Numbing, overeating to fill up this feeling of emptiness inside. Fragmentation. Withdrawing. Caring for others (avoidance of my own issues)
I so understand. Love and Blessings....💖💖💖
I do the same
Very tough life as an empath.
It won't be when you finish watching these 2 vids on empaths. :)
@@ChristinaLopes thank you so much... Survived watching your videos since long.. Thank you so so so much...
Don't worry, there is a LOT WORSE than that xD
Agreed! I’ve struggled my entire life. Came from a family where I was narcissistically abused. It’s been one whole endurance race, just to simply stay alive! Haven’t been able to self-actualize due to decades of abuse and massive damage. I feel like I was forged through fire all my life. If I can at least manage to meet ALL my basic needs on my own before I grow too old and die, I’ll be doing well.
Christina Lopes yes, lets get 💪
As an empath every day is a challenge. My mind is mostly my enemy. I have trust issues and I make bad dissisions because of that. The world arround me is dissappointing to me. So I isolate.
Being in nature and taking care of animals help me. A pure surrounding helps me cope. I still have a long way to go I guess.
Greeting from the Netherlands. Love your channel.
@A. Taal...OMG. I AM EXACTLY like that also.OMG. Thank YOU for sharing. I DON'T feel ALONE in THIS. I understand things a little bit more. Namaste.
Same wow yes I have to
Isolate I’m in nature right now hiding lol
Relate to all 3 of you. Exactly. It is beyond disappointing. That word is far too weak. Unacceptable seems to be more accurate. I’ve been stuck on Earth now 66 years, and nearly all have been unacceptable…
Animals are the way, they always put off good moods if you know how to get them happy. A happy animal is a happy empath. Nature is peaceful as well.
My advice is to not try to fullfil other people expectations. You are not responsible for their feelings. Also for me I notice that I`m (as my energy/consciousness) is mostly in my head and trying to tune myself to other people energy to feel them and can fullfill them. So you have to learn to feel separation from other people!!! and be in your own body.
look for Aaron Doughty videos about Frame Technique
9:07 1) Premature ego formation
12:44 2) Soul fragmentation
15:51 3) Heart closure or blocking
20:18 4) Mental dissociation
Eating chocolate and staying in my room, one of my coping mechanism
Staying in my room eating popcorn and reading.
Yes, food in general has been my "go to" for comfort...and it's really a hard battle still in the forefront of my life at 52. It's the one thing I struggle to let go of. I also go into "hiding" and withdraw but this is not an issue anymore. It used to be out of fear of everything outside the safety of home but now, it's for my peace. So glad I found you, Christina! You are a blessing.
eating rima pudendi!!!
Staying in my room.
Elias Limitless I so understand where you’re coming from. Thought it was just me ‘giving up’ on healthy eating and giving into comfort eating. You’ve made me feel so much better about how I am coping with how I’m feeling at this time. Thank you
I lived in denial all my life and closed my heart and always been numb .. my childhood was a nightmare and I really want to contact my inner wounded child
I feel you, same here.
Aye, I feel you as well.. making myself numb was a huge copy mechanism for me
Definitely heart closure and disassociation for me, also cocconing in my inner world and reaching out only when it’s a must; a nightmare of a childhood here, too. you are gorgeous, Christina, thankyou heaps for this video. Looking forward part 2.
inner child work is vital - you will be able to 're-parent' your inner child and reconnect with joy x
I didnt realized all that I've been through until I wanted to get to know me, why I feel the why I do and why im so different from everyone else, find out who I am, what I like what make me happy. I don't know how I made it.
As far as I can remember my coping mechanism was to avoid people. I never really liked being in groups especially during school days even in work because I can easily pick up other people's emotions. On the outside it looks like I lack teamwork and loyalty, but its only because I dont want to get mixed in other's energies. Yes, I come from a problematic family lines.
Thank you! Your comment helped me!
I went through very significant soul loss in my early 20s, although I didnt understand at the time that that's what happened. I was very numb for years. Felt like a hollow tree. Overtime, however, through a lot of soul searching, I began to uncover the truth. I learned about how the soul (or essence) separates from the body during trauma. I grew up with a covert narcissistic parent, and so there was a lot of abuse. I self loathed, and had a lot of self sabotaging tendencies. I'm still on the healing journey as healing from narcissistic abuse takes time, and it happens in layers. I know, that my true nature is being an empath.
Well said!!
Paul, I related to a lot of what you said. Thank you for sharing ⚘
Wish I could meet you.
I resonate with that completely. I slowly slipped away from the person I knew I was and began losing my true morals and values and became a person that I did not share beliefs with. I have suffered from malignant narcissistic abuse as well as my two daughters. I started sarching for truth, hope, and guidance and solutions, 8 years ago. It has been an emotional experience and am still in the process of turning over every stone but very well said.
I relate to this so much. I was also raised by a covert narcissist and went through a lifetime of trauma. Your description of feeling like a hollow tree is so perfect.
My coping mechanism was indifference and isolation , pretending everything was OK or I did not care.. . Thank you very much ☺ looking forward for the second part 😊
Me too. I would cry and cry, and then say I dont care what people think, who cares. But I did care, you know. I wanted people to care, I just did not understand why i felt all of that anger and sadness. Well, we were in bars,where most people are because they ARE sad and lonely. And it was like a tidal wave of sadness. I actually become sick physically, as in seriously ill, and i believe now that had a lot to do with it.
@@michellemillington6452 me too
that pretty much describes me as well.
Now it's time to lift up our heads..In this journey I have come to know who I am..God in the flesh, there's no need to hide from people anymore. When I understood that the world is my reflection, meaning what I think about myself, the very image I have of myself is reflected back to me through people , places or circumstances.. I decided to make my own rules, to see myself prosperous and powerful...The truth of my being, the reality of me is God(Orison Sweet Maden), and I am successful, strong, confident, loving, wealthy, joyful...I decided to let go of the title "empath"I once gave to myself.. I decided to love myself..you too lift up your head and let go of all old belittling beliefs that hold you down... lots of love
Yep and I still do this... "Push that shit to the BACK.......And rollover it
I too was sexually abused at 4 years old. I remember the exact moment that my inner child separated frommy conscious mind. The color of the world changed and I remember thinking, "This is my self defense mechanism." I coped by abusing alcohol, drugs and troubled relationships. I appreciate so much you helping me realize why I am who I am and how to deal with existing as an empath. Thank you so much.
When I was a child, I remember I was very sensitive to how my family interacted with me. I used to cry alot. My parents weren't aware of my extreme sensitivity. As a result I lived with anxiety and fear all my life. I had little friends and was very shy. When I was 22 yrs i embarked on being of service to others, later on in life that has been my coping mechanism, as by helping others I forget my problems and the satisfaction that it gives me will fill my cup in return. Im an energy healer and massage therapist so I was always feeling tired, nowadays I give myself Reiki and I enjoy being in nature to ground and balance myself. I always felt that I didn't fit and that I was somehow different until I understood who I was. Life is hard being an empath and HSP, sometimes I wish that I can change and careless. Although personally I cannot relate to those protection mechanisms, I can see that other persons whom I know have had childhood trauma and are not empaths , are effected mentally, don't show emotions and seem detached from the world. Relationships with such are very difficult, I will be following your videos to learn more. Thank you so much Christina.xx
Tanya Bonnici , wow! Thank you for sharing your childhood memories and beyond. I resonate with a lot of what you have done and said, as I have dedicated my life to helping others. I have been very ill, and come back from that as well. I too have suffered from anxiety and fear.
Sometimes parents are aware their child is extremely sensitive, but thinks that they need to learn to "toughen up" - things really hurt us that many people can just shrug off, This can be true especially if you are a boy. Boys aren't "allowed" to be HSP's.
Wow u sound just like me I've coped with being hsp by always helping other ppl and putting others before me. When in times I need someone or help I don't know how to ask or I just simply can't because I've always been the giver
I have been people pleasing,my nervous system has been shot for years,not so much anymore but heavy drinking, isolating.
I have coped as an empath by doing breathing techniques exercises, pranayamas, yoga, self-parenting, self-love, meditation, changing my inner dialogue to self-validation, re-educating my inner critic, knowing that I am enough, physical exercising, being in nature, improving my communication and assertive skills, practising acceptance, boundaries; learning to say no when I don't want to do something; doing shadow work and embracing shame, fears and transmutating them surrendering them to God source. Also, acknowledging that Self-love is not a one-time decision, but a constant daily practice. Counselling to guide me through spotting patterns has also been very helpful. I keep on working and might have lots to work on yet. But in 6 months I feel like thriving already after a breakthrough.
I'm very interested in your way of living c
I agree. After 30 years of relationship traumas i finally learned 4x4 breathing, therapy, boundaries, self love/care, presence, forgiveness, meditation, and for me daily chanting of The Maha Mantra while following Bhakti Yoga has filled the voids and brought me a lot of peace, joy and purpose! 🙏💗
Thanks for your comment. I am beginning a path very similar.
Luis, am I able to have a chat with you at all please? I would really appreciate that, thank you. Jackie
Wooow, how is it possible that you capture my situation aptly...how?
no big trauma here, but as a lifelong unaware empath I intuitively did two things: 1. close myself off when I need to recharge, my husband jokes that I'm like a cat: sometimes I want to be social & other times no way, ima hiss at you. 2. retreat into deep thoughts, self-story telling, reading etc
yes!!! I associate with my cat's cycle of almost everything...sleeping, eating, personality, socializing etc. hmm intetesting.
Lol. I laughed out loud at this. I am the same way 😃
Oh wow! I have gotten the cat comment from a intimate partner as well. LOL, guess it’s the pattern of being up to social and then regenerating, and not getting it because that’s normal for sensitive people. 💕
Alcohol, denying my intuition, and isolation.
Same here!!! I’m finally sober and waking up. It’s amazing
This really resonates with me and I can't wait to hear your advice on how to change these coping mechanisms. For now, I keep a photo on my desk of myself at 3 yrs old. Putting her picture where I could see her everyday brought back that little fragment of me. I made a vow to her that although the adults in my childhood failed at keeping me safe, I will always take care of her. When someone significant in my life wants me to do something I'm not keen on doing, tries to make me feel guilty for not wanting to do it, I think of that little girl. Protecting her helps me set better boundaries.
I love the photo idea. Thanks for sharing ❣
I am afraid of people looking at me, no idea why... so I coped with it being introvert and reclusive... I feel empty, unloved, useless and sometimes pain.... I cope with eating... So the more I eat the more I am shamed and afraid of people looking at me... still have no idea where this circle can stop...
I have the same problem... Mostly if it's someone I'm intimidated by or if I'm in a group but sometimes just randomly. There's this weird thing that happens, when they look at me all my fear and nervousness gets trapped in my head and my head starts to shake. It's really embarrassing. But something that seems to be starting to help me heal is breathwork. It is very powerful. I'm going to my second class this weekend. Maybe try it out.
Isolation works best for me. If I have to mingle, I carry crystals, black tourmaline to be specific, I smudge after mingling and lots of sleep 🙂
Soon, you won't need many of the things you thought you needed for protection! :)
I experienced what you've articulated verbatim. My mechanism was isolation and being fearless about "cutting people off" that exemplified the slightest bit of control, indifference, or manipulation. I grew up with narcissists in my house & didn't believe there was happiness on the other side of the Living hell I thought was life. I've spent all of my adult life healing & unblocking every area of spirit land.
Estifanos Berta-Samuel , I did (still occasionally do) cut people off just like that. Like I didn’t even care about them to begin with. I always thought it was because of not wanting to get hurt, or I would run before someone could hurt me. I lived a life that I thought no one would ever know. I hope you have gotten some hope and healing.
Avoided any person ...was Overwhelmed.... Changing now
I remember early on using laughter as a coping mechanism...whenever energies felt tense I would usually crack a joke to lighten the mood, even if the joke was about myself...i'd do anything for a laugh 😆 😆 😆
Drugs n alcohol came later, ugh n the chain smoking...glad that part is decades behind
My coping mechanism was OCD cleanliness with my material things and isolation. The only friends I made were deeply troubled, which was clearly my way of helping others. At 36 years old I am still struggling with making friends that are reciprocal relationships. My whole family worked on my sensitivities and made me come to them and work to be loved. That made it difficult for me to just exist as myself. I use all modalities including grandmother ayu, grandfather Huachuma/peyote, hypnotherapy, body work, acupuncture, sensory deprivation, daily meditation including work on grounding. God, I feel like I work so hard just to be me and I still don’t have really reciprocal relationships.
You are not alone....still trying to find my tribe. For me it boils down to trust.
Sharon Reuder totally. Trust and surrender with boundaries.
Sharon R. The trust thing is huge.
While not with cleanliness, i can relate to “obsessions” as a form of coping. I’m starting to lean toward “letting go of attachments” as opposed to “detachment.” By no means have i figured it out, but i feel strongly that this is important.
Wow, you know the exhaustion that I feel that I have been “gifted” with. I would give anything to have these so called “gifts” gone. I have worked so hard on myself, that I have outgrown all of my friends and family. I’m so lonely.
Thanks to Christina, I now no longer want to hide in fear from overload from the world.
When I DO feel overwhelmed, i have developed a technique which allows me to quickly change my entire state and come back out deciding that I will be the most powerful person in the room.
Thank you Christina 😊👍
I use my extremely high empathy to try to help others through the understanding and of them and helping them. I consider it a blessing and it makes me really happy to help others in life and make them happier
Yeeeess I think about that too.
And since you like bleach, I recommend playing bleach brave souls in your smartphone hahahaha.
FASINATINGLY LIFE GIVING! I have Always wondered how my physical form could take so much stress. I use to cope with.... crying lots of crying. Seizures when i was 17 and up. alcohol, cigarettes, men, fantasizing, pot and oh ya and did i mention crying? Ha ha ha i think it saved my life. I found out that crying changes our cellular memory also. Cool
@Go Guerilla Foto crying is a release so when we cry it helps us drop the old stagnant vibes from life times of worry and control. Crying can feel like losing control so when we let ourselves cry we are letting go of control which restores the natural flow of life. Also certain chemicals are released into our systems when we cry that promote relaxation. 💖
This is one of the most enlightening videos on empaths . . .as a spiritual teacher and empath I am actually numb now as my elderly cluster b mother has just passed away..I have had to go no contact with my entire dysfunctional family of origin over a year ago for my health..forgotten wellness is returning after constant inner work.my childhood of carrying the burdens of my entire lineage has taken its toll...I energetically and physically cannot go to the funeral service which is in another country as my consciousness now cannot be silent on the covert abuse in this family...it is for the highest interest of all involved I stay away at this time as my brother and sister gave rejected my truth and spiritual beliefs years ago...I am learning to love myself after abandoning me for 5 decades ...enough is enough...I have just found you beloved sister. ..how I have missed you. ..I see a beautiful warrioress goddess of light...much gratitude for all your authenticity and wisdom at this very difficult time for me..💖
We're in this together! 🤗
@@ChristinaLopes 💖💜💖
It seems as if I used all 4 coping mechanisms, I feel separate from others, always feeling as if I'm in a different dimension and somewhat lost, so happy to have found this, now I know so much more exactly which steps to take! 🎉🙏
My coping mechanism is isolation and keeping to myself. I've always been a loner, never really wanted to be around people. This video is accurate. Thanks for posting it. I love all your videos. I've learned a lot about myself. Thank you.
Wow Christina, I've been battling with this for 41 years and you have shone light on it in 24 minutes flat! Thankyou for unravelling it. This will be helping sooooo many people now and more importantly in many years to come..... Bless your heart!!!! Xxx
So glad it helped! 🤗
One of the person so benefitted is me. I have been struggling with these signs without knowing that I am on spiritual awakening. Thanks Christina
Im 32 and just figured out im an Empath.. I went through video after video trying to tell myself that this isnt real.. This is vido 7.... I now know.. Were different than others.. I thought everyone felt others like we do..
This explains why I was a run away and why all my life I have moved so much. My parents moved all the time. I went to over 20 public schools. It became a pattern in my own life. I can remember one Easter, after my second birthday 2-18-1957, I was walking towards the front door when I stopped and looked down at my legs and started laughing at the fact I was a little girl with these cute little legs! I always felt like I was not even from this planet. I had this knowledge that there was something very special I was to find. Not that I was special, but this knowledge was. At times it was the only thing that kept me alive. I did find what it was I was to find and it changed my whole life, everything! Thru the Baha'i Faith I found my healing. I'm at peace and feel right at home where I belong. I love your video's.
My childhood was the same no stability. No good friends never stayed anyplace long .
Nice to finally have some understanding about myself, other than weird and alienated. Unfortunately i brought three kids up and two out of three are just like me. Get myself right be an example cause they are grown. Need to start a support group.
I'm 71 years old I still can't figure anything out And crying all the time. I found you a few days ago And you are really helping me. I started weeping halfway through this When I stop blowing my nose I will listen to the second Half
I'm 73 and also bummed out. I think the past year has accelerated my isolating myself even further than I normally do (because of covid lockdown) and I've been thinking about "stuff" in the past...situations and people. I've been way intolerant of myself and sometimes others. I've had a complete breakdown between myself and my pretend family I once had. They don't exist for me any more.
it's not an empowering time in general because of the past year being so awful (also politically no matter what beliefs you have) and emotions so blown up. It's been a truly huge world wide event. Once the dust settles and we find ourselves with "normal" once again perhaps things will get easier.
I hope you can find relief and just have patience to take on the thoughts you are having. You've made it for a long time now so you obviously have the strength to do this..
Being in my roomm, connecting to my energy, watch emotion flow, being safe. I love it
I really love your enocent authentic smile n laugh
I could relate all the way. Challenge I face now is all these have turned into habits that are hard to shake off as a middle aged adult despite my awareness
I feel that way also
Do not like when someone says stop being so sensitive it really makes me upset.?
kp1832 phelan When this happens to me, I usually reply: “If the world was as sensitive as I am, there would be no war and the world would be a much better place!” The problem isn’t your sensitivity, it’s the culture’s insensitivity. Lack of kindness and empathy leads to a host of issues that impact us all (e.g. mass shootings, bullying, etc). May you embrace your super power. ❤️
My brother is avoiding talking to me because he is afraid become emotional again. sigh. Wel i am avoiding him now. I dont need this.
Yes. My kids tease me bec I'll watch a show and just be weeping, and they have no emotion, they are like seriously, its just a SHOW. But I can FEEL what that person is feeling, esp. when we watch true crime shows where women are murdered, I can't take them. I cannot take the emotions and fear.
Same
@@reneefirefly7376 aww omg:')
My spiritual awakening did guide and showed me how my protection mechanisms were actually harming me.. but still deep inside my heart I feel like the dark force is stronger than me and I won't be able to stop it..
I'll confess for me my coping mechanism has been alcohol - from the time I was twelve - and it has not been constructive. I only recently understood 'what was wrong with me', I'm 49 now. And by recent I mean June. Thank you so much Christina for your videos. Your channel - and the video "What's An Empath REALLY..." th-cam.com/video/IjW1NOBmCm4/w-d-xo.html - was one of the first I came across online that helped enlighten me that I've got empathic and/or HSP tendencies and how myself and others can use this to our advantage. Thank you to your beautiful soul
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So glad you resonated! As you understand your empathic abilities and heal your past, your energy will rise and alcohol won't be used as a coping mechanism anymore. 🤗
Great job on the no drinking! I have been quit for 15 years and yes, it can be painful to feel it all but at least it is constructive growing pains and not self defeating victim behaviors. Let me know if you get trapped in your head and need to talk ;)
Laura S. Hunt Hello 💗 I couldn’t tell whether you said you recently quit alcohol or if it’s still a coping mechanism. I wanted to let you know that the process is absolutely possible and you will eventually be able to experience much greater joy and connection than ever before on or off alcohol if you choose to put yourself up for the most rewarding challenge of your life 💗 I can tell you this because I was addicted to opiates for about 6 years (people may look way down on me for that but I prefer openness). So at age 41 (I’m 48 now), I chose to choose life over death because I could not feel joy on or off the opiates anymore. I was looking at either a final suicide attempt or to become brave enough to just attempt to what came to alter my reality forever. Fortunately I gained this stubborn determination and I chose, “I don’t care how difficult this will be. I deserve higher than this.” So I checked myself in to a dual diagnosis psyche ward to detox through the excruciating physical withdrawals and then the emotional withdrawals, wow, I can’t even explain them. But I became involved with NA as you can get involved with AA, and oh my gosh, the love in those rooms and the against the odds survival stories other people have taken were epically inspirational. PS: You don’t have to be religious in order to eventually find a profound connection with the universe, with life and with your own soul again (higher power stuff). I hope this comes as maybe an inspiration to you because I’m telling you, I am still on the evolutionary path of healing and life keeps rewarding me with greater and greater experiences. I also study how to overcome ptsd and I choose art and music, writing, relationships and life over my old addiction any day. You are worth it and you still have an inner warrior whom you are destined to become if you choose to!! Much love 💗Julia
@@orchidsrising7910 Hi Julia, thank you so much for sharing this experience of yourself with me and anyone who reads your comment. This is very courageous of you and absolutely inspiring to me and probably many others as well.
The problem is when I want to be social I'll use alcohol because it 'shuts-off' these - what I now understand to be - empathic or hyper-sensitive tendencies, it numbs them (I have also definitely used alcohol to escape). And I'm not talking parties where most people like to drink to be social - I mean even one-on-one situations or just typical everyday situations - to interact with people can be really taxing and so exhausting - which is also hard because I really like to be around people! (makes no sense I know!)
Now that I understand what is going on with me and my 'psychological make-up', and that there are also others with these misunderstood tendencies I feel Much better. And you may question this but it has always seemed like I am actually unable to be fully addicted to substances. Something that is alluded to so eloquently (as always) by Christina in this video at 5:00 in "...what the soul does is it always has these kind of protection mechanisms or escape valves, protection mechanisms that it uses that it can deploy if necessary...". Even though my sensitivities were never validated (before now) I have Always felt something has been there protecting me - it sounds like you experienced this too 💗.
Another reason I really appreciate what you wrote is that granted my empathic or hyper-sensitivity traits have caused me pain I also see that others have had to endure a lot more than me. You are definitely a very brave and determined person to fight like you did! And oh yes, I feel the warrior within me too
@@LauraSHunt you are so right that we have the tendency to just drop an addiction!!💖💖💖
I have all those mechanism that you mentioned, I was premature with 6 month and I was born sick, I was on the incubator for 1 month, wow, I understand many thing now. I close my heart so hard that I never let anyone get close to me. Always few friends that I loved but I never let them in. My heart is opening with the spiritual ascension process. Thank you so much for this video, so useful and revealing. Many blessings to all. 🦋🙏💙
Congrats welcome in the boat ..
lisette ihad the same prem. start one month in incubator , aybe we can share experiences
Alcohol for the longest time. When I was in high school I just stayed away from people. Being bullied and harassed by the other students my whole life I simply would get as far away from them as I could when I was not in class. As far as I could get without leaving the school. I'd wait outside my shop class room waiting for lunch to end. I could go to crowded places like a concert and feel okay, but at a mall, all the discordant energies make me want to leave right away. I would usually just say away from those situations where I sense some highly emotional turmoil.
Thank you for this video. For me, the hardest lesson has been dealing with my family. All I've ever wanted to do is protect them and support them while all they ever do is hurt me and break me. I know I signed up for this lesson, but It's a very challenging one. I can feel my sister´s envy towards me, my mom and my dad´s guilt and regret about the life path they chose. And all of them project their fears and pains on to me. It feels like hell been the only conscious one in the family and noticing how every day they choose to stay stuck in the victim mentality. They all have received signs from the universe to evolve, but they choose not to listen. It's very frustrating and very selfish.
My heart is definitely blocked! All my friendships and relationships have gone haywire. I now realise that I need to stop focusing on the psychopathic and narcissistic abuse in my life from age 0 - 71 and focus only on my own recovery. (Forget all those awful people!!!) With your guidance . . .
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After suffering a stroke and cardiac arrest, I am just now focusing on myself instead of others. I am 53
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I have never ever felt ok until now. Thank you for showing me what I am and how to heal.
Yes, Yes, Yes! I need to do the same. Hugs to you and enjoy the journey. I have lots of work ahead of me, too.
I escaped into my mind literally feeling num and like a robot no emotions at all
My mom’s always telling me that it’s wrong being a rock like with people, isolated I had no friends I always took Care of myself I didn’t bother anyone at all BUT I was the one who was blamed for something I didn’t do and was taken advantages of always at home and at school,
I always ask myself why I stand up for poor and victimized people and can’t stand up by myself?
Well My childhood was extremely awful
Thanks god I am taking actions to heal myself 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
You have just described my whole life
I'm 52 and finally healing my inner child. I was not aware as I raised my children, who are raising children of their own now. I'm sharing the information I learn from Christina and others with them. Hopefully it will help them heal. For while I loved my children unconditionally, I was really hurt due to being the scapegoat growing up, so I know I hurt them without realizing it. I'm so grateful for Christina's work. It's healing me, and allowing me to help heal them, possibly preventing them from passing the cycle on, and letting them understand that I didn't mean to hurt them. Understanding that my mother behaved the way she did toward me really helped me with my anger toward her so I could forgive her which is such a huge part of my healing.
I love you, Christina ❤
So true to this day...I remove myself...from any stressful situation. I guard my peace at all cost...
Thank you for this video! This comes as an answer to my questions in the right time. I've got all of them. I'm 29 and i lost contact with sensitivity around 12/13. I've been a 'walking head'. 2 years ago in a crystal fair I met the person that changed my life. She's intuitive and used soul retrieval & soul rescuing and that day I felt sensitivity again. Had an entity attached to aura and it was removed. I've been healing myself since that. 2 months ago found out about c-ptsd. I've suffered abuse my whole life. Covert narc father and codependent mother. I'm happy for breaking free :)
You look like you are glowing today 😃 I can see your light radiating from within and I appreciate your knowledge!!
🤩 Thanks! 🤗
Thank you!
For over 15 yrs I cooped by ignoring and numbing out the flood of pain I felt. I have learned to share other's pain and help them build proper cooping skills so they may grow and I am not burdened every time something goes wrong in their life. I'm happier now. I meditate to re-center myself and work through any burdening emotion I may have picked up in a conversation.
Idk if I would consider myself an empath yet as I am on this journey of figuring out why I feel the way I do or what’s wrong with me (maybe it’s something RIGHT with me 🤔) but I am overly sensitive to the world around me. Since 2018 what’s helped me cope is my husky dog! God, her energy...her soul...is so in sync with mine and it’s so cliche to say but she brings out such great joy in my life- from getting me to be more active because she’s so energetic or the silly faces she makes when she’s trying to understand me. It’s been much easier to cope with the world. I really hope to get some videos up soon and hopefully impact people positively! ❤️🙏🏻 we all deserve happiness and joy in this world, which can get pretty heavy and dark at times.
WINTER animals are THE BEST. I’m a little jealous you have a husky lol, they’re such beautiful animals
I love animals and children... They are pure instinct and love. I also believe that my dog, Angel, a pit bull, was so in sync with my soul.. I miss her every single day..
@@kimberlynewton-flores5033 I'm sorry about your dog! The experiences and memories will always be there ❤️
My dog feels everything i do and visa versa its crazy. He is everything to me.
Numbness, isolation, set intention to close my heart as it hurt too much. 💬
After started my spiritual journey worked hard to open up my heart again. But still have numbness and pretend I do not care. 💭
Thanks Christina for helping me to put things into words. 💖
My mom was married & divorced 5 times. She was a narcissist. By the time I was 15/16 yrs old I was couch surfing from house to house. Friends and my grandmother mostly helped me through. Also had an older brother, who passed away in 2002, was there for me off & on too. I've always had that feeling that I don't belong or fit in but somehow attract friends. As I got older I've become way more sociable. I have that sense where I know not to approach a person/s. I can tell when a energy vampire is near me too. There's a lot of em out there.
I'm thankful my soul loved me and watched over me.
I was 5, my sister was eight.
I was supposed to be here now.
We are supposed to love this world, through the brokenness of our own broken heart.
As you do very well with your words my Dear. Thank you 💗
Hi, my entire life feels like heartbreak, therefore I pray a lot in order to have strenght eavh day. Even so, if someone hurts i comfort them and try to heal them.
😭 sending loads of love and best of wishes your Way 🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🔥💪
@@juliebrammer Thank you, peace and love
Empath, HSP, INFJ, scapegoated by narc (adoptive) parents.... isolated and always blamed shamed and guilt tripped. Trying to shatter these programs, rough road at 54. I am not sure I ever coped successfully. Still trying to accept that my soul chose this.? The hardest lesson is the fast path to evolution... I want 12D now. Peace to all
Yes, let's get rid of those programs... It's time.
Thank you for your response. Recommendations for breaking the programming...?
@@up3564 it's all about understanding your wounds as an empath, which is exactly what this video (and the next one) are about! 😊
UP 3 Same here, Im an empath, HSP, INFJ, scapegoated by narc parent. Mine being the biological mother. Plus, an intuitive and seer. What a life experience. Lots of pain, abandonment, abuse, lack of love, etc. Ive been reprogramming the subconscious, lots of inner work, clearing, releasing false programs, forgiveness, and reintegrating fragments of self. Grateful that I feel Im finally making a competition after a life long journey of self work, learning, healing, surviving, and seeking my truth. Im here if you wish to connect. Stay strong and continue with self love.
surviving childhood as an empath is a real trip as you know glad I survived it
I have always turned to my spiritual books they are
my comfort zone and a great reminder that there is other like -minded people in the world and Im not that "wierd" after all..🤗💞🙏🌸🤯💚❤🌸🦋
Thankyou Christina 🙏
Thank you, so helpful. Almost 50 yrs old and constantly learning and seeking answers. These videos are better than any therapy I ever had😊 Some coping mechanisms are avoiding crowds, self employment, rest when needed.
I am highly sensitive and an emphat and am struggling with life, relationships and everything going on inside me. Life is just more and more overwhelming. Right now I only feel safe and comfortable being home alone.
right there with you
I have coped with food, avoidance, escapism. I am choosing presence now, and compassion.
There's no way I can describe my experience in short. It started from crib for me and I remember my father's aggressiveness, not playfulness. The narcissism from both parents was vicious. I wasn't "punished", I was attacked because they "thought" I misbehaved. The healing process is never ending and full of sadness. No one ever had my back, still to this day but I was there when forced to become a small adult enduring many soul crushing events. To this day, even with my blessings, I wish I was never born.
This is absolutely incredible information! Up until now, I've hid with agoraphobia and chronic migraine as a very negative way of protecting my emotional/energetic body/energy. (If I'm hiding in pain, maybe they'll leave me alone) I am so excited at the info you're sharing - there's a new way of thinking around the corner! 💜💜💜💜💜🌙🌙🌙🌙🌙
Yes, there's a new way! No more hiding! You're here to thrive and be seen! 🤩
It's been sure hell, from as far as I can remember...
Constant fear and shame, being molested at 7, all I did was surrender...
Abandonment from the most important person, a Mother...
Went thru an identity crisis, the only girl out of four kids, acted as a brother...
Amazingly, my heart space has remained open...
Although the depth of tears I've cried, equals the biggest ocean.
Wow I'm so sorry. Your story sounds exactly like mine.
@@donnamarie5084 ...well no need in being sorry, this is but our Trial by Fire my friend. Only the strong survive... we were molded too be strong, at a time such as this. Men's heart's shall fail them, due to the spiritual war that has, by all means, begun. I've tried to keep a song in my heart at all times, and ask for guidance nonstop.
Treasure your safety you have now. I hope you have a stable place to live where you can relax and discover yourself and goodness again. One thing about life is that stuff always changes.
I was a premature baby, almost didn’t survive, Narcissistic mother, brother, grandmother. Remember neglect, abandonment, lack of love, all kinds of abuse throughout my entire life As a toddler I remember seeing that these people were “messed up”, but that I was different, felt differently, thought differently, but couldn’t show it as it only worsened the abuse. I could feel the emotions of those around me so very young & knew when I needed to leave that environment. I would Find a hiding place in the home, or when old enough wander in the woods to find peace.
When my physical body became quite ill as as adult & recognized I had to cut off all contact with my Narcissistic family members the repercussions became even more traumatic & subsequently numbed out to everything, even love from stable people & feeling any joy. Your videos have been resonating with me, especially this one. I felt pulled to the use of plant medicines such as Ayahuasca & have been figuring out so much about myself & my life lessons. Why & how things happened. They helped pull me out of what I now know to be the “dark night of the soul”, & am becoming more & more “awakened”. Thanks for your videos & helping me to see & understand that my empathic nature wasn’t a curse but a. gift.
Alcohol and drugs to numb the pain. Became a control freak. Daydreaming. Self isolation at times. I'm very good at being physically present but not mentally or emotionally. Saved me as a child, destroying me as an adult. 90 days sober, and I remember why I drink. Emotions are strong!
Thank you times infinity. I needed this. You may have just changed my life. I've coped by drinking, mostly. My heart has been closed off for many, many years. I've had 2 heart attacks. The first was when I was 34. I've sabotaged every romantic relationship I've been in because A) I don't feel worthy of love and B) I don't want to burden anyone with having to deal with someone who feels that way. Time to watch part 2 of this video.
Wow, I had literally just got back from a family gathering and I felt extremely overwhelmed and I wrote in my journal “how am I suppose to deal with these situations”
And then I found your video.
They way you communicate and explain everything resonates with me deeply and I’ve been taking notes and having epiphanies.
There’s a lot that I do to cope, it starts with feeling out of control of my body, then my mind starts racing and before I know it I’m looping negative thought patterns and curled up. I try to ask Myself what I need in that moment but Once I’m overwhelmed I just need to go be alone to let it go.
This is going to be difficult to navigate. But I’m going to start with remaining aware and choosing what I take in.
Damn.
At 3 years old I was placed in orphanage in Russia. There were no touching except beating and slapping . In order to survive we, kids, touched each other’s arms and it helped . At 10 years old I was sexually violated . I went through all 4 layers of protection : soul, mind, heart and body. In order to cope with my trauma I stopped expressing myself through my voice, at 8 years old I started to smoke cigarettes . As I was growing older my coping mechanism were drugs and alcohol, sex and running away from whenever I was. To this day o can’t feel my body, I can’t hear my heart beating( I know it does , but when I put my hand on it I can’t hear or feel it’s beat), I can’t express myself verbally . These coping mechanisms became the poison for all of me. I am glad I am healing now. Thank you Christina! You are an angel on my path to integration❤️💯
Ignoring wounds by distractions of focusing on spiritual growth, positive affirmations, meditation, hiking, eating at extremes drinking
I'm sorry to hear what happened to you when you were 4 years old. No one should have to go through that. Thats first of all.
Second, i knew this video would be right on the money even when you announced the release earlier in the day on another post. I'm sharing this with many people. It puts into words what I couldnt tell them. Much love to you and your team, please keep the love and the videos coming!
yr video has triggered some deep memories.. yr right i separated from myself... i acted as if nothing has happened... putting a facade that everything is all right.. was adopted as a child... i was extremely attached to my foster mom never stayed away from her even for a day. i looked for security through her rt up to 25yrs wen she died.. I'm 48 n still not got over her death....
Bharti shah I too was adopted, and was very attached to my dad. Knowing that his soul is in another reality really helps. I see synchronization around me which let's me know he is around. I saw a medium who channeled him and she picked up on the fact that I was adopted. The "death" of my dad was a major existential crisis for me. Knowing that he is not "dead" and that he is still very much alive just not here in a physical sense really helped me. I wish you all the best💖💖💖
@@nataliem2257thanks Costello romano. that is very kind n thoughtful from u...i know she's always with me in spirit.. but i miss her physical touch... i used to just lie down in her lap... n there all my worries n stress use to fly out.. i use to feel free rejuvenated n loved just by her touch.. i hope u understand... but I'm trying to cope n i know i will.. for she is helping me from the other side... thanks again for the concern love n light to u dear💟💟
Helping as many people as i can, and feeling intense guilt when i cant do enough. Creating a life of broken people surrounding me for support, helping me to forget my own issues and focusing on theirs. Many of these people have died from substance abuse, furthering my guilt. Being of service to others, not to myself. Realizing i need boundaries, but struggling to build them.
I've survived my 31 years of life by pretty much hiding away (especially this last decade), not seeing friends as much as I did in my teenage years, staying out of the way as much as possible. I feel like I'm missing out on so much in life but at the moment these things are keeping me sane.
Thank you so much Christina! This is so recognizable again. My coping was to intellectualize everything. I made my head work overtime, previously without realizing it myself. I thought I could handle what I had experienced by understanding everything with my head. Until my body started to send ever stronger signals and my head couldn't take it anymore. Then I got a burnout with mainly an overloaded nervous system. I could hardly think or remember anything. This gave my body (and inner child) the space to reveal and process what it had stored all this time. I am so impressed with my wise body and soul!
I have social anxiety and have got too overwhelmed to interact with strangers. Hid myself, not spoken up/semi-mute at times, not known who I am/had much sense of self. Lots of resistance to feeling....
Self harm occasionally and too much chocolate! Those are the unhelpful strategies I can think of in adult life.
Cara Jones {hugs}
Same here
Isolating , staying home, feeling the whole families feelings and trying to take care of them and my Mother with MS.
I disassociated myself not in an emotional way, but in a very conscious way when I realized that it wasn't me that had serious behavior problems, but it was others; however I still couldn't let out my inner child for fear of it being trampled upon. It took me decades to totally free that inner child.
I have been crying a lot when my fanily speak down on me
So sorry...same here...
its on them not you..people talk down to people to keep them where they want you.. the fact they talk down means your growing and they're trying to keep you from it.. keep your head up and smile in adversity nothing messes a person up when they aren't affecting you ...
my friend tells me just smile kills them when your not reacting.. by smiling and laughing your coming out on top and gaining your confidence back.. don't let anyone take your light..my other friend says 'when, someone tries to put shit on you just say its not my shit it yours!'
I've been there and wont allow family to tell me who i am, we are who we are and don't have to change for anyone but ourselves.. you'll find the moment when what your family says to hurt you wont hurt anymore because you will realize who you are inside isn't who they're talking about...its most likely themselves they are mad at .. don't take in what people say or they win, your stronger than you think, keep your head up.
Ya..my family is also not listening to me
Hugs to you. I know how you feel. It is very hard to be doing all of this healing in the midst of crazy all around us. It's a challenge for sure. It is also such a lonely life. Hugs of support to you from afar.
I cut off memories and sad thing is I do it till now. Heart closure and other points too. I want to stop this now. Since my 30ties my emotions become lighter with the spiritual search. I was then a very closed minded catholic. It's very different now. Now I am searching purely spiritualy not religiously. I helps a lot. Also meditations. Right food. Suplements - looking after my body. I feel that the health of my body is closely connected to healthy emotions and healthy soul (it's always healthy but I can feel it deeper). I still wonder if my emotions are mine or others. I would like to " grow up " while being in my late 40ties. Lots of things have changed this year.
Thank you for all the information you put in this video. It's very enlightening
I heal when I get separated from anyone that's my coping strategies 🤩😍🥰 i love u sister tnxs alot
Every day is overwhelming all the thoughts and feeling bombard me as I drive down the street.
Thank you so much for your videos, Christina! This one has given me so much insight into my own journey as an empath. My coping mechanism has been fantasy, something called Maladaptive Daydreaming, it's a way to dissociate using fantasy for hours... I didn't understand why my whole life I've used fantasy as an escape, until this year when I discovered I was sexualy abused when I was a little girl. Although I can't remember what happened I'm working on healing myself. Thank you so much, again!
How did you find out you were sexually abused? I don't have a memory of being sexually abused but I wonder if I might have been. My mom told me when I was the little the doctor found a bruise on my leg and said someone might have done something to me. All of the men that were around, including my dad, had to be observed interacting with me in a room by psychologists for a few months. My mom didn't say that they ever concluded anything, but I wonder about it.
This touches every core of my being as I was always struggling to understand why am I able to see through people intentions, why do I feel pain when my thoughts are supposedly ok. I didn’t realize I was an empath until recently and now this video touches my core and made my understanding so much clearer. I was sexually abused at the age of 5 and while you’re through the 4 protection mechanism and I can relate to it and really explains a lot of why my life has been a struggle up until now and getting in touch myself has helped tremendously. Thank you for your beautiful light. Love and light in source remembrance
Der Christina, I have been on a spiritual journey for the the last couple of years and seen a lot of videos and heard a lot of different advice. But this video resonates to me on such a deep and powerful level, it like 'coming home'. I now fully understand what has happened to me since the abuse and how it has made me lead a life, that I did not come here for. A few months ago somebody told me my inner child, ' did not come here to lead the life, I have been living'. I knew that what she said was absolutely true, but know ... it is so so so clear. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.
My coping mechanisms was a closed off heart, smoking weed, and avoiding close relations. That really fucked med up later. I quit the weed and started to go through healing. Feeling an opening of the heart was Amazing. Truly Amazing and terrifying. Meant that now I was vulnerable and had to start saying no and set boundaries and stand up for myself. That is still something Im working with.
This is totally me as well weed became my tonic and higher power and now I’m 4 months in recovery these videos are helping so much along with a ton of other exploring thanks for sharing
I dont feel that I'm an empath. But I do feel energy and there was a time in my life where i would see things before they would happen but that's all really.
Optimum Energy u r though those all signs
Really very helpful, dear Christina! It has clarified some "unexplained" things with me as child and with me as a Mother of two empaths! Thank You for this, You Wonderful Heart Alchimist! Blessings to You and us All 💟🎆💞
I have come a long and lonely from my childhood and now that am an adult I read a book that helps me a lot , me making me happy and taking no one stress or negative energy
My memory of my childhood is very foggy, but I do remember spending most of my time in my room alone. My parents divorced when I was still very young, so I used my room as a "safe space" to escape from the arguing and negativity. I remember having a very strong connection with my toys because I used them as a mental escape into a world I would make up in my mind. I also always felt like i was resposable for my parents emotions. Like it was my job to keep them happy with no regard to how I was feeling. I also remember craving physical comfort a lot. I would purposely bang my head on things and cry just to be comforted. I was also a huge crybaby at school, but never at home. I remember one of my teachers pulling me aside in kindergarten one day to ask if I was ok. Sorry, I kinda rambled. It was nice to be able to reflect on all those things and finally make since of it from the video.
Watched this cuz it was in my recommendation list, surprisingly this kind of explain why my ability to feel emotions accelerates from 1-100 so fast recently. Cuz I was so numb to feelings when I was younger. I remember watching my parents argue every single day since I was 4 until the day they divorce which when I was around 13. My younger sister would be so upset and was always crying in a corner because of that. I would go over to pat her on the head while wondering which one of us was the weird one. Like literally nobody could make me cry or emotionally/mentally affect me when I was a kid unless someone physically injured me really badly. When my virginity was forcefully taken by my first crush from high school (in his car), I was a bit angry for being disrespected but apart from that I don’t feel much. I was really curious though, like how certain things can make certain people feel certain way. So, I took an interest in psychology field. Then I learned about psychopath and I used to believe I’m one of them; totally a dangerous human being whose unable to feel anything 💆🏻♀️. I thought I’m a psychopath who just love animals and simply like to wander everywhere alone for no reason.
I really loved and care for my mum. Everyone was so against her and that made me want to be there for her even more. No matter how verbally and physically abusive she was whenever she was angry, I wasn’t able to be mad at her. I just felt she acted like that because her heart was hurt by my dad. Until recently, I had a major breakdown because of many horrible things happening in my life , crashing down on me all at once. This kinda cause my feelings towards her to totally change. I no longer want to be there for her. I would lock myself in my room to cry. I cried so much during the breakdown period until I can’t remember the purpose of me being me anymore. Not just towards her, but many other people I care about in my life too. It’s too much, the emotions I used to be numb to, I feel it so much now that I just wanna stay away from people even more. At one point, I kinda wish I’m a psychopath, for being able to feel so much, can be so so so painful. I still love my mum but i don’t want to be manipulated by anybody anymore.
wow
Thank you for this video. You're an amazing teacher and your channel is an amazing resource. ✌️💜💜
Thank you! 🤗
I've done all 4 you have mentioned. This explains why my inner child's saying were 'survive, run, attack if cornered, don't need help'. As a child I've experienced abandonment, loneliness( no one to turn to), sexual abuse and attacks from both physical and spiritual realm. So I became bitter and destructive growing up.
I just dodge situations and people. Barricade myself in a room, mentally and emotionally prepare myself for different situations by making up scenarios in my head (planning). Tightly grip onto anger as block. Repressing emotions and memories of 22 years. Which of course turned into a ticking time bomb. I pretty much screwed up my own memory system which seem to result in having memory problems. Etc...
Now I'm just trying to survive from the detachment and making sure my mentality is still intact (currently fading). Trying to heal my inner child.
I grew up with my parents and nine siblings. I spent a great deal of time trying to find a quiet places, like closets behind clothes in order to disappear. Now I understand.
❤️🙏