His father was absolutely right -- she had the resilience to get through it. That said, fairness says her brother now has the resilience to get through it.
READ THIS!!!! Mum and Dad always favoured my brother. When I got really sick, they refused to co-sign for a loan to pay my medical bills, because they were funding my brother his 'fancy vacation home'. They then requested that I give half of the inheritance that I received from my Grandparents to 'fund' my brothers lavish lifestyle. I said no! There, really didn't need 48 minutes of listening to 'well maybe Mum and Dad did not realise how much I needed the treatment', yes they did and they didn't care!
It's because those who cut the target off think: (1) it will never come back to bite them, or (2) their target will eventually cave to their demands. Unfortunately for them, sometimes one, the other, or both happen.
Can’t sell it if the mortgage is not yet paid off on it and the parents want OP to bail him out, because they were co-signers…they will be the ones on the hook for paying off the remaining mortgage, after the bank takes the house back and sells it again!
@@juliemcgugan1244 Of course they could have sold it, mortgage or not. When the property is sold, the bank gets whatever amount is still outstanding then the seller gets the change (if any!).
@@karenbrown1485 That's what I was thinking too. It's only a matter of how long it takes to sell the place. I would think that if you need the money immediately take out a loan and then pay the loan off when the home sells.
If OP kept hoping that she could still receive love & affection from her parents AFTER she became 18, then it's mostly her fault. The parents never gave her any cause for hope. Delusional.
having a vacation home is almost the same as having a second home in costs,, mortgage payments, house full of furniture, utilities, property taxes , house insurance, high maintenance costs, lawn maintenance, high costs of entertaining guests......the list goes on and on... people who are in a good financial situation do this....not someone who can not keep a job for long? '
This reminds me of when you're in school and the professor ask you to write a 15 page paper, but you finished saying what you needed to say in 5 pages. So then you add a whole of bunch of useless details and repetitions to make it longer.
NEWS FLASH: Do NOT hold on to the small hope that your family will "change" and suddenly treat you as an equal!! And, also, do NOT call back or answer a call "OUT OF CURIOSITY"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This so bad. That one child is better than the other. This year 2025 ,take other people's trouble out of my life. I will stop all the worry and me first.You do not have share with. your brother. The money is yours.I wouldn't give anything.
She should have have commented on her mothers facebook post by saying where was all this family help when i was buried under medical debt that you wound help but had the money to buy my brother a beach party house? And all she had to say to her parents is if he can’t afford then maybe he should work harder or sell it, because the only money he would get out of me is the same amount of money you helped me with when i was sick
It ridiculous she would claim OP aired their dirty laundry on sm, instead of having mature conversations about it in person, when OP had this conversation with them, in person, they just chose to disregard everything she told them and being less important than Tom’s wants (not needs.)
Ugh another long winded A.I story. Random relative would have gotten a group text about how they refused to help with medical bills and bought her jobless brother and girlfriend a vacation home instead. Then I would have changed my number and it would have been done. This is so unrealistic.
"but curiosity got the better of me" as a human i agree that we are curious creatures, if i got a random call (that aren't debut collectors) i might just answer as well just to see what happens. Although people constantly doing this in so many stories? And using the same fraze? Suspicious.
"Family is family".. that's interesting, where was this "family" when op needed help?.. be wary of people that only remembers you're family when it's convenient... they are NOT family.. they're just people you so happen to share the same DNA with.. family is not just about blood.. that is Tom's family, not yours.. family doesn't just take.. family is not one sided.
"I'm sorry to hear about your situation-it sounds incredibly frustrating and hurtful. It's difficult when family dynamics create feelings of inequality, especially in matters as serious as medical needs. I hope you're able to find support elsewhere, whether through friends, extended family, or a professional counselor to navigate these emotions. Everyone deserves fairness and compassion, especially from their loved ones. Wishing you strength and better days ahead!"
Honestly i think AI is broken. It's the same story every time. I'll run through it for you so don't have to waste 50 min of your life. OP was second best to her brother all her life OP is responsible while brother is not and parents help and focus on brother while OP is struggling Months/years after being ignored parents ask OP to help golden child financially. OP finally grows a backbone and says no. Parents get upset OP cuts off communication with parents so now OP is "ungrateful" and parents deploy family members OP hasn't talked to in years. This goes on for a few months During this time brother may or may not reach out It'll end either with or without contact Oh and let's not forget someone's smile didn't reach their eyes.
Understand that no is an acceptable answer to unreasonable requests. Hell no if you are truly pissed. Make certain they have no access to it at all. If they asked for a portion of it then they would eventually ask for it all. If they want me to figure things out then not agreeing to anything they ask is how you figure it out.
One more long long winded AI story. My god. There are plenty of real storys.. all this over a vacation home for tom. Laughing AI just can't think ..we as humans think and I know this is made up. Just goes on and on. Tooooo much. garbage
The gaslighting is absolutely infuriating. I wish I were related because I'd have been on OPs side without even hesitating. You're in a tough spot? Tough luck, bud. But that's not OPs problem. That's yours.
Those who take everything from you will never help you in return. Cut contact.
unwilling to help at time of a MEDICAL issue over a "VACATION" HOME,
there is no question they are NOT family / act of that you body / name change
NEVER enable bad behavior.
His father was absolutely right -- she had the resilience to get through it. That said, fairness says her brother now has the resilience to get through it.
I really hate that "family is family". Yet when you need; they're tapped out.
Don't give him anything. If GC wants some money, let him get it from his parents. (GC is golden child)
WTF! It's a VACATION HOME! Sell it and problem solved!
I agree. To make it clear: You have a choice: Your vacation home or your life.
I am still mortgaged to my past medical bills. So ..until that is paid off ... bupkiss. 😅
Dude there's no way he needed to help more than you when you needed it for medical bills
READ THIS!!!!
Mum and Dad always favoured my brother. When I got really sick, they refused to co-sign for a loan to pay my medical bills, because they were funding my brother his 'fancy vacation home'.
They then requested that I give half of the inheritance that I received from my Grandparents to 'fund' my brothers lavish lifestyle.
I said no!
There, really didn't need 48 minutes of listening to 'well maybe Mum and Dad did not realise how much I needed the treatment', yes they did and they didn't care!
Funny when people who cut you off come crawling back... 😆
It's because those who cut the target off think: (1) it will never come back to bite them, or (2) their target will eventually cave to their demands. Unfortunately for them, sometimes one, the other, or both happen.
WHY DIDN'T they sell the vacation home when they could?
Can’t sell it if the mortgage is not yet paid off on it and the parents want OP to bail him out, because they were co-signers…they will be the ones on the hook for paying off the remaining mortgage, after the bank takes the house back and sells it again!
@@juliemcgugan1244 Of course they could have sold it, mortgage or not. When the property is sold, the bank gets whatever amount is still outstanding then the seller gets the change (if any!).
@@karenbrown1485 That's what I was thinking too. It's only a matter of how long it takes to sell the place. I would think that if you need the money immediately take out a loan and then pay the loan off when the home sells.
How many times does OP need to see the problem? Every connection is a "new" revelation.
Of course, OP never thought about (a) Block the xxxxxx, (b) Change his phone number. LOL
If OP kept hoping that she could still receive love & affection from her parents AFTER she became 18, then it's mostly her fault. The parents never gave her any cause for hope. Delusional.
11:17 looks like he did but the AI forgot less than 20 seconds later. Somehow his mother has his new number to leave a voicemail on.
“We’ve done so much for you” Bullshit. Why didn’t you respond, demanding an actual account of everything they believe they’ve done for you?
She should have told them, that she was independent...... As in, independent of them!!!
having a vacation home is almost the same as having a second home in costs,, mortgage payments, house full of furniture, utilities, property taxes , house insurance, high maintenance costs, lawn maintenance, high costs of entertaining guests......the list goes on and on... people who are in a good financial situation do this....not someone who can not keep a job for long?
'
This reminds me of when you're in school and the professor ask you to write a 15 page paper, but you finished saying what you needed to say in 5 pages. So then you add a whole of bunch of useless details and repetitions to make it longer.
Why answer the call ignore them
NEWS FLASH: Do NOT hold on to the small hope that your family will "change" and suddenly treat you as an equal!! And, also, do NOT call back or answer a call "OUT OF CURIOSITY"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Get firm with them, as in definite and change that number again.
This so bad. That one child is better than the other. This year 2025 ,take other people's trouble out of my life. I will stop all the worry and me first.You do not have share with. your brother. The money is yours.I wouldn't give anything.
Letting them back in so they can hassle you indicates you want the drama, so suck it up and shut up!
She should have have commented on her mothers facebook post by saying where was all this family help when i was buried under medical debt that you wound help but had the money to buy my brother a beach party house? And all she had to say to her parents is if he can’t afford then maybe he should work harder or sell it, because the only money he would get out of me is the same amount of money you helped me with when i was sick
So why do you even speak to these people? Dumb , change your phone number or block them. They were fine with letting you die you owe them nothing.
If Tom is having financial issues he should sale property and cut back on expanses.
How dare you suggest precious Tom sell his vacation house! Can't you see how this will destroy him?!😂😂😂
It ridiculous she would claim OP aired their dirty laundry on sm, instead of having mature conversations about it in person, when OP had this conversation with them, in person, they just chose to disregard everything she told them and being less important than Tom’s wants (not needs.)
Ugh another long winded A.I story. Random relative would have gotten a group text about how they refused to help with medical bills and bought her jobless brother and girlfriend a vacation home instead. Then I would have changed my number and it would have been done. This is so unrealistic.
She go let them back in
"but curiosity got the better of me" as a human i agree that we are curious creatures, if i got a random call (that aren't debut collectors) i might just answer as well just to see what happens. Although people constantly doing this in so many stories? And using the same fraze? Suspicious.
If family helps family then let the family coming after you help your brother 🙄🙄
You could have cut ties with you family ,fighting for your life dint want to help they are you parent ,stay your ground,stand up for yourself.usa.
The mom was sick then she wasn’t?
let the brother sell his vacation home
Golden boy needs your money so he doesn’t need to get a job. You won’t get it back! Step back from the family.
What happens with the inheritance? Why she has debt if she has inheritance she can use to pay medical bills 🤔 💭 thoughts
Tell Tom to sell his beach house.
Why didn't you go no contact. Why should you care what everyone thinks. Should have taken a video while shredding the letter.
The op never explain to the extended family from the early beginning is stupid decision.
I had one as a kid. It ran on methylated spirit, but this was 50+ years ago.
But I agree a stupid rule.
Why didn't he use his inheritance for his medical needs? Otherwise, his family is toxic--even tho i am so tired of the word 'toxic'.
I want to know the educational purpose of this video 😂
CHANGE YOUR PHONE NUMBER EIENSTEIN!
Well past time to change OP's email address.
OHH PLEASE 🤪
Your parents r so unbelievable who the hell is Tom? Let Mr golden child go an work hard like u don't give them nothing an to hell with the family card
"Family is family".. that's interesting, where was this "family" when op needed help?.. be wary of people that only remembers you're family when it's convenient... they are NOT family.. they're just people you so happen to share the same DNA with.. family is not just about blood.. that is Tom's family, not yours.. family doesn't just take.. family is not one sided.
How did they get your new number!?
What happened to the mother being sick??
"I'm sorry to hear about your situation-it sounds incredibly frustrating and hurtful. It's difficult when family dynamics create feelings of inequality, especially in matters as serious as medical needs. I hope you're able to find support elsewhere, whether through friends, extended family, or a professional counselor to navigate these emotions. Everyone deserves fairness and compassion, especially from their loved ones. Wishing you strength and better days ahead!"
Those r you messages that r blaming.
stop having your AI repeats points over and over
I thought you change your number ,address ,email
Honestly i think AI is broken. It's the same story every time. I'll run through it for you so don't have to waste 50 min of your life.
OP was second best to her brother all her life
OP is responsible while brother is not and parents help and focus on brother while OP is struggling
Months/years after being ignored parents ask OP to help golden child financially.
OP finally grows a backbone and says no. Parents get upset
OP cuts off communication with parents so now OP is "ungrateful" and parents deploy family members OP hasn't talked to in years.
This goes on for a few months
During this time brother may or may not reach out
It'll end either with or without contact
Oh and let's not forget someone's smile didn't reach their eyes.
Understand that no is an acceptable answer to unreasonable requests. Hell no if you are truly pissed. Make certain they have no access to it at all. If they asked for a portion of it then they would eventually ask for it all. If they want me to figure things out then not agreeing to anything they ask is how you figure it out.
Fake as Jesus being the son of God.
One of the worst stories I have heard on this platform. The same thing repeated 20 times.
Why not to say "NO" instead of "I'll think about it"? 😊
One more long long winded AI story. My god. There are plenty of real storys.. all this over a vacation home for tom. Laughing AI just can't think ..we as humans think and I know this is made up. Just goes on and on. Tooooo much. garbage
Tell Tom to sell his beach house.
The gaslighting is absolutely infuriating. I wish I were related because I'd have been on OPs side without even hesitating. You're in a tough spot? Tough luck, bud. But that's not OPs problem. That's yours.
Grandparents were bosses and I love them