Once I learned that my man wasn't ever going to be my "girlfriend" and whatever imaginary figure I expected him to be for me, it made me see & appreciate him for who he was in my life. He was a lover, friend, protector, provider, most of all a solid companion. It wasn't settling at all, I was blessed to have someone to love and care for me that much. To go the distance, it takes two whole beings wanting to share a life together with all their hearts. So yes, what Trill said about our needs being met is correct. Know when you have something good.🙏🏽🌹
Trip & Trill aren’t lying. 🙌🏽💯❗️🔥 That’s not settling that’s being realistic. No one is perfect. It’s only settling when you aren’t benefiting from the relationship or the person isn’t showing up for you or loving you like you need them to.
See now here's the thing you're still putting that on another person and conveniently conflating a need with a want because you feel some way about your opinion. Also this whole settling thing diminishes the f****** relationship. Yeah nobody's perfect but when you put the relationship into this category that it's good enough or not good enough for me you diminish not only the person that you claim to care about but yourself by acting like you're better than them and dismissing the parts of you that make you human just because some of those parts make you uncomfortable with how you see yourself. You need to get over the delusions of life being about happiness all the time there's a lot more to it than that and it shouldn't even be the primary objective for most of the s*** that you do even for yourself or the people you claim to care about. We expect more from f*************** than this I don't understand why you women refuse to get over this s***. I swear to God you're arrogant and insecure is f***
Very well said Tripp....so many people have a messed up analogy of what they should be looking for from a partner....certain things you can work on together....
Fascinating point about identifying our wants and needs, which really speaks to our self-awareness, our relationships with ourselves. One person's want/ preference is another's non-negotiable.
What is needed IN a partner ... what is needed FROM a partner. Tripp is dropping heavy 📶 for real! The grammatical nuance in those two statements and how Tripp broke down the difference, provides the contextual explanation for how to set the tone for a HEALTHY interdependent relationship. 💯
He speaking truth. The longer you’re with someone your wants n needs can change as you’ll change over time. We often focus on what we don’t have then what we do have. At the end of the day if someone isn’t as committed as you are to the relationship they’ll use any reason to get out of it.
Say it louder for the people in the back❤❤❤ 😂definitely working on the best version of my self to hopefully attract someone that will be on this level with me
Tripp TRIPP TTTRRRRIIIIIPPPPPP!!!!! when are you going to get your own podcast, talk show, coaching, or something…. The community needs you. You have been gifted with the voice of reasoning and expression. I’m so happy you are able to share your gift to the world many blessings to tonight’s conversation ❤
Things we want & need may change over time. No one will ever be able to provide ALL of those. We have to be self accountable to SOME of the things we want & need also, while being willing to always evolve with our partner on them. Bc their needs & wants will change also.
Very true. _Everyone_ changes over time. Nobody stays the same. What a spouse provides at first my change to other things provided years later. What you want or need at first may change to other things later. Mutual adaption to each others current needs goes on and on.
Real F-ing talk. 80/20 rule has been my go to. If your partner comes with 80%, you should be able to work on that other 20z but Tripp is exactly right. So many people just do not want to put in the work to be better.
He danced on such a thin line perfectly…It’s the way he can make complex thoughts seem toddler simple…It shows that he has a real understanding of what he’s talking about… He has so much of my respect for that…When he opens his mouth…I want to shut up and listen…Very well said said sir…The example he used perfectly illustrated the concept…I pray for God to mold me into the type of woman a man like this needs…In Jesus Name….🙏🏾♥️🙏🏾♥️
They don’t want to do the work within themselves! That part! Facts!! What we NEED within ourselves, we should NEVER seek in another person because guess what! They will always let us down because they either don’t know what we need, don’t care what we need or too broken within themselves to understand our need and address it. It is nothing greater than going into something with someone that you naturally have your needs met by them being their authentic, healthy version of themselves and it naturally enhances the authentic healthy version of yourself. Happy love journeys y’all! It is someone for all of US. But it has to start with US and how we show up for ourselves. 💕
That’s a great distinction. Who do you want your partner to *be* and what do you want your partner to *do* are different. A person could be rich, but not act with generosity; they could be wise, but not willing to teach; they could be patient, but not able to be patient with you. Asking for your partner to be the be-all and do-all in your world such that you don’t have to contribute *anything* on your end, that’s not realistic. “If he were the perfect man, he’d know what I needed and just give it to me, and I would never have to ask or explain myself.” That’s just selfishness and laziness. You’re not a child, getting everything handed to you on a silver platter. You’re a grown-ass adult. Be present.
I think we come into our relationship that we have to teach each other what we need From one another. I think as time goes by we grow and so those needs and wants May change to reflect the bonding and the trust that has grown
@@taliupkingz5746 Has nothing to do with that what I'm speaking about. As an individual as I heal and grow and become a better version of myself in the relationship my wants and needs will change but it doesn't mean that I'm not Satisfied. People evolve that's a natural state. 2 people in a relationship that Has a strong foundation Can evolve together In a deep loving bond. The environment safe to do so.
Very well said, something we can all consider...it was alarming how the girl at the start wqs so quicc to consider it "settling". However, she wqs expressing what ahe knew and too many ppl have that mindset now. Establishing the difference between wants and needs could help us all. As well as knowing yourself to understanding what you need within a person and from a person.
I think the problems arise when people get the nerve to say to or about their partner, "I wasn't attracted to you at first, but you grew on me" or "You weren't my preference, but I learned to like/love you." Who wants to exist in a relationship knowing they weren't their partner's primary choice?
Very TRUE !💯 People are very confused between wants and needs. God gives you what you need more than your wants. Getting SOME of your wants is just a luxury. Once you learn some of your wants aren't REALLY necessary you will learn you have all your needs and wants. Nothing more, nothing less. You will be happy.
I’m glad this is finally 😊being addressed… because needs are very different then wants. Wants change with the seasons. Needs are internal like Food, Shelter & Clothing.
If a person is expecting to receive "all" of their fulfillment from another human, that relationship is doomed. Im already happy, whole, and at peace. All another person can so is add to it cause im definitely not gonna allow you to take from it.
🌹🌹Thank you both, Trip for always explaining things in a very simple and meaningful way, that’s not hard to understand. Even though, what you say is bitter sweet, it the “WHOLE TRUTH”, I (hopefully other women and men) can’t do anything but “RESPECT” your point of view. Blessings Always 🌹🌹
Need refers to necessities, want refers to desires. When we start to want necessities and need desires we create our own problems. To truly be 100 with someone, go in with a clean slate, which is tough when people have been in a lot of relationships. That’s the trick. Communication with each other is how you get away from wants and needs. Nobody needs anything in a relationship. That is just your personal preference taking root over mine and vice versa. Communicating to each other, like “hey please don’t do that” or “I can appreciate if you do this instead” that type of communication and conversation goes along way.
Needs and wants are distinct differences. I need faithfulness, open honest communication, and consistency from my husband. These are essential and non-negotiable. I want us to never argue, I want a massive in-ground pool and I want to go on vacation every other month, but none of that is gonna happen. They are likes, and desires but not reality, nor are they deal breakers. Even things like health and spiritual matters I have had to learn to pick my battles cause when it comes to those things, its not as consistent but definitely a desire of my heart.
I know she’s married but I think Tripp and the dark-skinned black women would make a great couple. The way they both communicate their thoughts and both are people of deep faith, I think they would complement each other very well. And I've noticed in a lot of the clips of Tripp’s talking you can tell in the way she’s looking at him that she really respects him and his opinions.
Yeah it's crazy Tripp never goes completely viral for dropping gems. But you got the craziest people in the community saying the dumbest crap gets the most attention.
Some people want a million things from just ONE person. No wonder some people are never satisfied in any of their relationships. Focus on the qualities that are truly important. Have your own life/interests so you're not depending on this ONE other person to be your everything.
I love this Content. I just feel it's to many Grown Azz a## people in the Q&A with years of Negative experiences trying to Reinvent the wheel they created for themselves hoggin the Energy,Then younger people with a Clean Slate learning How to create Healthy balance relationships. But I love the Overall Purpose!
yes it always hurts when we love someone it is because when we love someone we always have expectations of being loved back in the same way we are loving that person when we find the gap between expectations and reality we feel hurt it is really painful when someone doesn’t acknowledge our love the same way we do I may sound like I’m mean but truth is that love always gives pain and not just pain a lot of pain e anessa g
we all different. What worked for some won't necessarily work for others. But If we follow the rules of the Holly book everything is going to be alright.
The wants are make you happy though. They have to have everything I want. They can have some extra stuff I don’t necessarily like. I’ll compromise on that as far as taking the good with the bad. But if imma be in a relationship I’m gonna be getting everything I want. Single is too peaceful to give it up for a half ass relationship
Not everything they say is correct, but that's fine. Because we are all human and none of us can be 100% correct all the time. But I generally agree with what Tripp says majority of the time.
I'd been saying similar thing Ppl like Amps up a Character Sort Ego that Knows so much then their partner or significant other, Now that like where many marriages were falling. It's simple don't themselves well like, it's a Selves Esteem issues play to get the best person,,, 😮😮
In my opinion, this isn't a straightforward yes or no answer. It's subjective. It depends on what each person is willing to/not willing to compromise. Someone can have all of their needs met and still be settling if their wants aren't being met.
Overinflating what they want in a partner and calling them needs because they don't want to do the work to draw a line between the 2? Now that's articulation.
I literally was telling my old male friend about the current one and I said he’s okay and he said what’s okay about him and suddenly I couldn’t thinking about the answer…. Is that bad ?
Needs and wants are separate and half of ppl needs anit even real needs bcz if they was you wouldnt be settling for temporary fixes and temp ppl...if I need money why would I only keep applying for PT jobs.......the more you know.......
That’s not settling. No person is going to be completely perfect for you. The needs being met are all I need to be happy. The wants I can be flexible on.
when a man tells you A and does B believe B because A is what he’s trying to to get you to believe B is who he is you get the guy you pick not the one you hope he becomes and if the guy is doing ABC that’s who he is and don’t let the idea oh let’s get married fool you into believing that he’s going to be somebody other than who he is
Asking someone else to *be* everything you want and *do* everything you want, without any input or work or growth on your part, is the relationship of a *child to a parent.* if this is the kind of relationship you think you want, I respectfully suggest you grow up and become a whole-ass adult. Forget all this “if he loved me, he would know.” “If he wanted to, he would.” “I shouldn’t have to tell him my needs.” That’s nonsense. That’s how parents treat children. They can see your temper tantrum and hear your fake crying and they know exactly what’s wrong. You’re not a child. Stop having the expectations of one.
Once I learned that my man wasn't ever going to be my "girlfriend" and whatever imaginary figure I expected him to be for me, it made me see & appreciate him for who he was in my life. He was a lover, friend, protector, provider, most of all a solid companion. It wasn't settling at all, I was blessed to have someone to love and care for me that much. To go the distance, it takes two whole beings wanting to share a life together with all their hearts. So yes, what Trill said about our needs being met is correct. Know when you have something good.🙏🏽🌹
Very true. It's what my wife figured out as well, and we've been together 40 years.
@@rdkirk3834 That's beautiful, sir. Acknowledging the wonderful qualities within each other can bring two people even closer together.😊💕
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Trip & Trill aren’t lying. 🙌🏽💯❗️🔥 That’s not settling that’s being realistic. No one is perfect. It’s only settling when you aren’t benefiting from the relationship or the person isn’t showing up for you or loving you like you need them to.
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See now here's the thing you're still putting that on another person and conveniently conflating a need with a want because you feel some way about your opinion. Also this whole settling thing diminishes the f****** relationship. Yeah nobody's perfect but when you put the relationship into this category that it's good enough or not good enough for me you diminish not only the person that you claim to care about but yourself by acting like you're better than them and dismissing the parts of you that make you human just because some of those parts make you uncomfortable with how you see yourself. You need to get over the delusions of life being about happiness all the time there's a lot more to it than that and it shouldn't even be the primary objective for most of the s*** that you do even for yourself or the people you claim to care about. We expect more from f*************** than this I don't understand why you women refuse to get over this s***. I swear to God you're arrogant and insecure is f***
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Very well said Tripp....so many people have a messed up analogy of what they should be looking for from a partner....certain things you can work on together....
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Tripp is a master communicator
Fascinating point about identifying our wants and needs, which really speaks to our self-awareness, our relationships with ourselves. One person's want/ preference is another's non-negotiable.
Yup!
What is needed IN a partner ... what is needed FROM a partner. Tripp is dropping heavy 📶 for real! The grammatical nuance in those two statements and how Tripp broke down the difference, provides the contextual explanation for how to set the tone for a HEALTHY interdependent relationship. 💯
Indeed, well said.
He speaking truth. The longer you’re with someone your wants n needs can change as you’ll change over time. We often focus on what we don’t have then what we do have. At the end of the day if someone isn’t as committed as you are to the relationship they’ll use any reason to get out of it.
Now this comment needs to be pinned, because this is the truth.
Tripp gets more attractive every time he speaks truth and understanding.
Say it louder for the people in the back❤❤❤ 😂definitely working on the best version of my self to hopefully attract someone that will be on this level with me
Yesssssss
lol yall funny, there’s probably a trail of broken hearts that feel exactly the same. Thats pure player energy right there…
Oh that’s his name 😮 ❤ 💯
@@MaxPowers2.0 healing and vulnerability does look weak to some. It’s sexi to us that are on that journey.
Tripp TRIPP TTTRRRRIIIIIPPPPPP!!!!! when are you going to get your own podcast, talk show, coaching, or something…. The community needs you. You have been gifted with the voice of reasoning and expression. I’m so happy you are able to share your gift to the world many blessings to tonight’s conversation ❤
He needs his own podcast fr.
@@TheMrsOShow yes oh yes he does… or some type of life coaching etc… I just really enjoy hearing him speak. He is a powerful man
Everything settles after a while. Sometimes everything is too much. Life and love is about a balance of power.
Things we want & need may change over time. No one will ever be able to provide ALL of those. We have to be self accountable to SOME of the things we want & need also, while being willing to always evolve with our partner on them. Bc their needs & wants will change also.
Very true. _Everyone_ changes over time. Nobody stays the same. What a spouse provides at first my change to other things provided years later. What you want or need at first may change to other things later. Mutual adaption to each others current needs goes on and on.
Humble pie at its finest!!!
"Character traits they embody on their own". That part!
Well stated. People need to stop talking about superficial traits and start talking about character traits. Amen!
Real F-ing talk. 80/20 rule has been my go to. If your partner comes with 80%, you should be able to work on that other 20z but Tripp is exactly right. So many people just do not want to put in the work to be better.
He danced on such a thin line perfectly…It’s the way he can make complex thoughts seem toddler simple…It shows that he has a real understanding of what he’s talking about… He has so much of my respect for that…When he opens his mouth…I want to shut up and listen…Very well said said sir…The example he used perfectly illustrated the concept…I pray for God to mold me into the type of woman a man like this needs…In Jesus Name….🙏🏾♥️🙏🏾♥️
They don’t want to do the work within themselves! That part! Facts!!
What we NEED within ourselves, we should NEVER seek in another person because guess what! They will always let us down because they either don’t know what we need, don’t care what we need or too broken within themselves to understand our need and address it. It is nothing greater than going into something with someone that you naturally have your needs met by them being their authentic, healthy version of themselves and it naturally enhances the authentic healthy version of yourself. Happy love journeys y’all! It is someone for all of US. But it has to start with US and how we show up for ourselves. 💕
That’s a great distinction. Who do you want your partner to *be* and what do you want your partner to *do* are different. A person could be rich, but not act with generosity; they could be wise, but not willing to teach; they could be patient, but not able to be patient with you.
Asking for your partner to be the be-all and do-all in your world such that you don’t have to contribute *anything* on your end, that’s not realistic. “If he were the perfect man, he’d know what I needed and just give it to me, and I would never have to ask or explain myself.” That’s just selfishness and laziness. You’re not a child, getting everything handed to you on a silver platter. You’re a grown-ass adult. Be present.
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Exactly let's Really Talk about it
I think we come into our relationship that we have to teach each other what we need From one another. I think as time goes by we grow and so those needs and wants May change to reflect the bonding and the trust that has grown
If you needs orr wants change later in the relationship then you weren't satisfied from the beginning
@@taliupkingz5746 Has nothing to do with that what I'm speaking about. As an individual as I heal and grow and become a better version of myself in the relationship my wants and needs will change but it doesn't mean that I'm not Satisfied. People evolve that's a natural state. 2 people in a relationship that Has a strong foundation Can evolve together In a deep loving bond. The environment safe to do so.
Facts! Folks DON"T want to do the work, but will complain complain complain about this person and that person.🤨
Very well said, something we can all consider...it was alarming how the girl at the start wqs so quicc to consider it "settling". However, she wqs expressing what ahe knew and too many ppl have that mindset now. Establishing the difference between wants and needs could help us all. As well as knowing yourself to understanding what you need within a person and from a person.
Tripp don't miss!
I think the problems arise when people get the nerve to say to or about their partner, "I wasn't attracted to you at first, but you grew on me" or "You weren't my preference, but I learned to like/love you."
Who wants to exist in a relationship knowing they weren't their partner's primary choice?
Very TRUE !💯
People are very confused between wants and needs.
God gives you what you need more than your wants. Getting SOME of your wants is just a luxury. Once you learn some of your wants aren't REALLY necessary you will learn you have all your needs and wants. Nothing more, nothing less. You will be happy.
I’m glad this is finally 😊being addressed… because needs are very different then wants. Wants change with the seasons. Needs are internal like Food, Shelter & Clothing.
Honesty, one person is not gonna satisfy ALL your needs. That's a myth that keeps us dissatisfied.😢
If a person is expecting to receive "all" of their fulfillment from another human, that relationship is doomed. Im already happy, whole, and at peace. All another person can so is add to it cause im definitely not gonna allow you to take from it.
Facts he’s right
🌹🌹Thank you both, Trip for always explaining things in a very simple and meaningful way, that’s not hard to understand. Even though, what you say is bitter sweet, it the “WHOLE TRUTH”, I (hopefully other women and men) can’t do anything but “RESPECT” your point of view. Blessings Always 🌹🌹
Need refers to necessities, want refers to desires. When we start to want necessities and need desires we create our own problems. To truly be 100 with someone, go in with a clean slate, which is tough when people have been in a lot of relationships. That’s the trick. Communication with each other is how you get away from wants and needs. Nobody needs anything in a relationship. That is just your personal preference taking root over mine and vice versa. Communicating to each other, like “hey please don’t do that” or “I can appreciate if you do this instead” that type of communication and conversation goes along way.
He never misses ❤
This is, Reinventing Energy And Love ✊🏿 ❤️ 👊🏿
I have found that when I choose what I needed what I wanted came with it as well!
He’s brilliant
This is a great topic. And their answers are right on!
Needs and wants are distinct differences. I need faithfulness, open honest communication, and consistency from my husband. These are essential and non-negotiable. I want us to never argue, I want a massive in-ground pool and I want to go on vacation every other month, but none of that is gonna happen. They are likes, and desires but not reality, nor are they deal breakers. Even things like health and spiritual matters I have had to learn to pick my battles cause when it comes to those things, its not as consistent but definitely a desire of my heart.
I know she’s married but I think Tripp and the dark-skinned black women would make a great couple. The way they both communicate their thoughts and both are people of deep faith, I think they would complement each other very well. And I've noticed in a lot of the clips of Tripp’s talking you can tell in the way she’s looking at him that she really respects him and his opinions.
Don't worry babe everything gonna be alright love peace and blessings ❤❤❤
#TRIPP IS THE BEST AT GIVING KNOWLEDGE 🎯🔥💯🖤
Tripp is so attractive
it is that 80/20 rule.one will never get all that you want but you will always get what you need in that healthy relationship
Come on with it, Tripp!
Imagine disqualifying a partner because they DON'T believe in an imaginary sky daddy 😂
Literal insanity
I won't settle if I don't get everything.
the other fundamental problem is now being with a person who doesnt know what they need .
He ain’t missed yet my boy
Yeah it's crazy Tripp never goes completely viral for dropping gems. But you got the craziest people in the community saying the dumbest crap gets the most attention.
@@calebhenderson6507 it’s sad really
Some people want a million things from just ONE person. No wonder some people are never satisfied in any of their relationships.
Focus on the qualities that are truly important. Have your own life/interests so you're not depending on this ONE other person to be your everything.
AMEN!
I love this Content. I just feel it's to many Grown Azz a## people in the Q&A with years of Negative experiences trying to Reinvent the wheel they created for themselves hoggin the Energy,Then younger people with a Clean Slate learning How to create Healthy balance relationships. But I love the Overall Purpose!
Well said my Brother!
yes it always hurts when we love someone it is because when we love someone we always have expectations of being loved back in the same way we are loving that person when we find the gap between expectations and reality we feel hurt it is really painful when someone doesn’t acknowledge our love the same way we do
I may sound like I’m mean
but truth is that love always gives pain and not just pain a lot of pain e anessa g
I read or heard from somewhere something about if a person is perfect how can you know what unconditional love is.
People evolve - that's the hardest part when u can't evolve with your partner.
If you know for sure that you'd be happier alone, and you choose to stay, then you are settling. Other than that, I'd say no.
we all different. What worked for some won't necessarily work for others. But If we follow the rules of the Holly book everything is going to be alright.
I need for someone to not be crazy! Emotional health is paramount!
Good stuff. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Great perspective!!!
The wants are make you happy though. They have to have everything I want. They can have some extra stuff I don’t necessarily like. I’ll compromise on that as far as taking the good with the bad. But if imma be in a relationship I’m gonna be getting everything I want. Single is too peaceful to give it up for a half ass relationship
There is a difference between WANT and a NEEC! If a partner has needs will ask and a partner has wants will take and never give back!
Getting what we want, and not getting what we want are two of the biggest traps in life.
Yeah it goes both ways too
I'm with Tripp. It's not necessarily settling. Some things are nonnegotiable others are
Tripp 👑stay 🔥
Tripp!!
0:30 "4 heads a week" (from past videos if we recalling facts with evidence) ijs 🤷🏽♀️ jkjk lol 😅
It's definitely settling
Most people today who expect a lot from their partners are subpar themselves, hence they expect more to buffer the lack
AwwwReady
In ways i need for them or him to show up for me is to speak life over me as i would do for you
I don't see how anyone can refute anything those two astute brothers said.
Not everything they say is correct, but that's fine. Because we are all human and none of us can be 100% correct all the time. But I generally agree with what Tripp says majority of the time.
@yesiagree3833 No one is right all the time. I was just referring to what was said in this clip.
I'd been saying similar thing Ppl like Amps up a Character Sort Ego that Knows so much then their partner or significant other, Now that like where many marriages were falling. It's simple don't themselves well like, it's a Selves Esteem issues play to get the best person,,, 😮😮
Empathized
All FACTS!!!
Do he have a channel? Bc I wanna subscribe ❤
Yeah they on target 🎯
In my opinion, this isn't a straightforward yes or no answer. It's subjective. It depends on what each person is willing to/not willing to compromise. Someone can have all of their needs met and still be settling if their wants aren't being met.
Loving the lord isn't a character trait. That has more to do with values. 😊
If you go on looking for a partner to fulfill your needs you will always be disappointed
Overinflating what they want in a partner and calling them needs because they don't want to do the work to draw a line between the 2? Now that's articulation.
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I literally was telling my old male friend about the current one and I said he’s okay and he said what’s okay about him and suddenly I couldn’t thinking about the answer…. Is that bad ?
Yup its alot husband's divorced, not because hes a bad partner, but because she has unrealistic selfish wants not needs.
Bad Partner is subjective.
@@R.Yvette.X. is it? I know you know what I mean. Imo Either a person treats you right and respects you or not.
@@UnbiasedlyPetty Even respect/disrespect is subjective. It's important to have a meeting of the minds first.
@@R.Yvette.X.everything is not subjective.
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Just listen to The Rolling Stones song, “You can’t always get what you want.”
AAAAAAMEN AAAAAAMEN AAAAAAMEN 🔥
No, no one gets everything they want in a relationship
That was a big ssa mirror you just put on me.
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Needs and wants are separate and half of ppl needs anit even real needs bcz if they was you wouldnt be settling for temporary fixes and temp ppl...if I need money why would I only keep applying for PT jobs.......the more you know.......
That’s not settling. No person is going to be completely perfect for you. The needs being met are all I need to be happy. The wants I can be flexible on.
In summary, you can't create your spouse or partner in your image. The idea of towing that line is dangerous. Be REALISTIC 🙏🏿
when a man tells you A and does B believe B because A is what he’s trying to to get you to believe B is who he is
you get the guy you pick
not the one you hope he becomes and if the guy is doing ABC that’s who he is and don’t let the idea
oh let’s get married fool you into believing that he’s going to be somebody other than who he is
Why should you lower your standards to make them feel comfortable 🤔
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Compromising
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Asking someone else to *be* everything you want and *do* everything you want, without any input or work or growth on your part, is the relationship of a *child to a parent.* if this is the kind of relationship you think you want, I respectfully suggest you grow up and become a whole-ass adult.
Forget all this “if he loved me, he would know.” “If he wanted to, he would.” “I shouldn’t have to tell him my needs.” That’s nonsense. That’s how parents treat children. They can see your temper tantrum and hear your fake crying and they know exactly what’s wrong. You’re not a child. Stop having the expectations of one.
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