@@ayeshajamil6023oh no sister. Have u spoken to anyone about this? This is not right. He shouldn't be able to get away with it. What do family members say?
I.have felt like m slowly loosing my iman as a revert there is nothing good that i learn from him ,the mental and physical abuse is out of ds world its been going on for more than a decade 😢@soulfitmuslimah8643
Because of such horrible marriages, this is why divorce is allowed in Islam and we are blessed for that-- though most people have heard a false or weak (very weak) Hadith circulating amongst our idiotic communities that divorce is the most hated permissible act for Allah. Yeah so why did Sahabah divorce and why was the lady allowed to divorce the Sahabah that prophet SAw spoke up for out of pity for the guy? I'm so glad my family actually has Islamic scholars so we aren't trapped in that false restraint against divorce as much as others. We aren't Catholics of old.
I really needed to hear this today!! I’ve been married twice in my life, both times to men who I didn’t know were addicted to drugs, smoking and alcohol. They were verbally and physically abusive and refused to give up their foul habits of drinking and drugs. Alhamdulillah my faith became stronger, and I refused to let go of my deen, even though they hated my Islamic ways and that I practiced my prayers each day, I told them that Allah will always come first. I divorced them for the sake of Allah, and even after the divorces, they never stopped slandering me and humiliating me. The community naturally went against me because they believed the men and even enjoyed the humiliation I went through, so I lost all my fiends and even family members. But Alhamdulillah that too, made my faith stronger because I became close to Allah! I always used to wonder why did I have to have marriages with the exact same type of men that did the exact same things to me. But after hearing this, my heart is smiling Alhamdulillah ❤️❤️❤️
Exact same happened in my life too sister but once i married and divorced alhamdhulillah that the part which made me to come closer to allah more and more alhamdhulillah with 2 kids living with the hopes
But this was when Islam was incomplete. No woman or men should go through this bitterness, may Allah SWT give correct understanding with halal love behaviours towards each other Aameen 🙏❤
01:26 - Assalamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu lovely video so far, but brother / sister, you have made a serious typo here “father of Allah” was written instead of “Qadr of Allah”.
Mashallah Asia alhi aslam. Didnt complain but had true trust in Allah and her Iman was perfected and ofcourse Allah can take away her soul before the stone falls . Allah is above all Allah is Perfect Allah can do Anything Owner of all things. The heavens earth leaves water every star all of the galaxies sit at the bottom of Allahs throne
I was a very soft hearted and naive girl when i married. In hindsight I know he targetted me because of my good qualities. And its seesm that these demonic narsisctis people target you most when you have beautifull qualities. Now its 11 years later and i am burned down, tired and bitter. WItb several health issues. He turned out to be a huge huge narsisct. So is his mother, his father is a big enabler. I hate them. This is why i get so angry listening to all these sigma en alpha male nonsense videos on youtube. Blaming women for everything but taking no responsibiliy themselves as men. I did everything according to these bullshit rules, I worked and was a homemaker too (so basically 2 fulltime jobs), cooked, did the household admintration and took care of finances, plus still did my best to look femine. He only had 1 fulltime job, his other ‘fulltime job’ was bitching on me non-stop, having (i kid u not) 5 hour long discussions with me. Like the plague he couldnt let me be in peace. Now he wonders why i hate him and bitch on him too… I guess taste of his opwn medicine.
I’m glad you are speaking up for yourself. You have to let them know the boundaries. It will liberate you. In sha Allah Look into somatic exercises as well to release trauma emotions stuck in the body. May Allah swt help you recover easily and swiftly Ameen
I think this is the story of all women, I was extremely sweet as well until I met toxic men and it makes me hate all my good sweet qualities....I hear u and feel u.....it's always girls like me n u they target....I'm sorry for your pain❤
@@rafiaqayoom6194 Eid Mubarak. Wallah it's not the story of all women. My cousin recently got married to a gentle, kind young man who makes her extremely happy and it gives me joy and hope. May Allah bless you with a very kind man who appreciates and makes you cherish your sweet qualities. Ameen 💖💖
Because many many of the teachers and those who spread information spend most energy on beating women over the head with hadiths about sex and women in hellfire etc. They do not address these narc, misogynistic males, not men. They seem to believe they are all the same caliber of men as the Companions, which they most certainly are not. Classic narcissism, deflect, blameshift and betray.
Because the first reason is that the subject of this video requires discussion on the unfortunate & negative cases. The second & more importantly is that being of any faith (in these cases Muslim) is by default… this is the crux of this discussion… you’re only a good person if you follow the religion not just be of that religion. In being Muslim there are so many advantages which unfortunately Muslims by default do not take benefit from by following… there are clear guidelines for man & woman but the sad fact is a lot of the men mentioned here are not a product of their religion but only a product of their upbringing, their peers, & their own trauma/experiences. The teachings & guidelines haven’t even touched their headspace, heart or souls…
I appreciate the Iman’s message.. However , many times Muslim scholars fail to address a Muslim women’s rights during marriage. A Muslim woman is not obligated to stay in an abusive marriage. Especially , a Muslim marriage that ends up with her being murdered !! Also, a Muslim that does not pray is considered a Kafur within some schools of thought. Why are we encouraging women to stay in toxic evil relationships ?? You are are assuming that Alah will not give her Jennah if she leaves her abusive marriage , and that is not Islam or correct. May Allah give our Muslim sisters guidance and them the knowledge of knowing their rights , Ameen!!
he's talking about the lady who was trapped in a legal system and tradition entirely evil - the pharaoh's system - she had no escape - we are lucky we can divorce --- it's great to divorce - if needed -- and it's healthier for kids- --- and the verses in al Baqarah were revealed for a reason. bettter to live cleanly than in a toxic dangerous environment where it will fester and ruin your personality and heart.. alhamdulillah the ONE PERSON who allowed and encouraged my divorce is an islamic scholar from madinah in my family -- he knew it's totally necessary in some marriages to end them -- he actually works with omar suleiman
Assalam aleykum. Wallahi I've read your comment and I'm so happy! Women often feel like they have no rights during marriage and as a woman you'll be told to have sabr but a man will be given the option of talaq real fast! I often ask myself about fatwas of marriages where men aren't practicing Muslims while wives are in the Deen. In marriage women are told to obey their husbands if he asks you to pray, have your hijab on etc. What about husbands who are aren't practicing and are given naseeha by their wives to change their wives but it goes futile. Does she have a room for talaq too or is she asked to stay and have sabr?
Thats y Allah has given the right of khula to women because Allah also don't want woman to suffer if Allah wanted this the right of divorce should not have been given to woman also.
Yes her story is Profound..... But what people do not take into account is the worship of allah that she may have been doing in the night. The crying out to him that she may have been doing in secret... You don't just get to her station by Sitting idle... You don't get to her level of patience by setting idle.. It takes devout worship of allah... And most of the time that is done in secret... They are plenty of stories and Hadith Two back up The station of the one who worships and cries to Allah in silence.
This is very inconsiderate of you to say. It's not until you find yourself in a terrible marriage yourself that you'll understand. Some women can't just walk out of their marriage, it's not that easy. Before deciding to just get up and leave the marriage a lot of things come to mind and there are sometimes more issues that can happen when the person decides to leave.
Asia was the first woman, for righteousness in faith . She was married to Ferowne. The worst person was married to best person,like Ferowne. And the best person was married to worst person . And Asia say ,was I married to Ferowne, terrible Ferowne, who killed person . When Ferowne hear that she is one of the righteousness person relationship of Islam. Then Ferowne tied her up and take a rock and hit her , and crashed take a stone ,till she dies . Then Asia pray to Allah AWA 🙏. Please build me a home janah . Give me house in paradise . Asia was the first woman in Quran, to fight for her righteousness of faith .Ameen
Please dont misunderstand the video. If you're in an ABUSIVE marriage, you absolutely SHOULD get divorced - ESPECIALLY when you have children and it is your DUTY to protect them.
In the worst way you could imagine, I don't have the heart to define her suffering at the hands of firaun, the reason being only that she believed no one except Allah, her steadfastness to her faith is an example to every Muslim woman.
2 wrongs don't make a right. Don't allow her to be nasty with you but also don't allow yourself to come out of character simply because she feels she can talk to you and approach you however she feels she can. Guide her and try to make her see and hear you.
This helps a lot especially when you hear the saying that righteous people will only get righteous spouses….was hard to understand why many good men and woman are getting evil spouses instead…this lecture proves that you can be righteous and still get an evil spouse.
I needed this so much, jazakallahkheir ❤❤❤ Have been asking myself so many times, unlike Asya, why did I chose a narcissist who betrayed me and hurt me so much to be the father of my children? I see Allah's plan now, two of the best women were tested with single parenting (Maryam) and an abusive spouse (Asya) in order to perfect their faith. Alhamdulillah, it's an honour. May Allah guide us through our tests and forgive our wrongdoings.
I don't think that the delivery of this message cud have been anymore perfect. Allahu Akbar. I never heard this before. It really motivates me SubhanAllah just to be a better person.
I am in a marriage and it’s been 20 years. My relationship with my husband has not improved, his focus is his parents who live abroad and gets brainwashed by his siblings too. It’s like his a body without the mind/heart elsewhere. there are days very rarely that he is actually focusing on us. I have 2 kids and coping with life we have communication problems there is no companionship in marriage. I can’t say how i feel or about my health he never listens. Allah has tested me more the last 7 years as i have a severely autistic non verbal son who is 7 years old and his behaviour is very bad. He doesn’t understand anything and is on nappies and has a very limited diet which affects his health and his always hungry. The tests is getting harder and there’s no solution only the help of allah. Any advice and dua will be appreciated.
Assalam aleikum ukhti. I can't imagine the pain ur going through. May Allah ease ur burdens. My adivice..don't lose hope..keep trying to persuade him and constantly pray tahajjud. Insha Allah ur burdens will be easened🙏
Dear Sister, I had tears in my eyes just imagining your plight. It hit home because its something i have been through. My son had leukemia and almost similar circumstances of marital life. My son is in jannah now. I want you to know nothing lasts forever, not the good and not the bad. Its the law of the universe..i used to listen to surah Rahman in qari abul basits voice, just the soothing and powerful rhythm of his voice. An advice i would like to give you, though you may not fully comprehend it, is to forgive. Forgive your husband and also yourself. Lusten to the recitation and wipe your heart clean. Remember everything that comes to you is through the Almighty so your husband is just a facade, its not between you and him, its between you and Allah. Don't hold on to the negativity, forgive and find peace. Connect to Allah and you will find the strength to pass through this test.
Thank you for explaining this so beautifully. I understand it better now. I have seen such good kind girls getting married and later to find out their husbands smokers, heavy drinkers, always vacationing with his friends and forcing her to live with abusive in laws, not financially supporting her, making her the maid for him and his parents and siblings. Still breaks my heart and I hope these women can escape these sufferings. Ameen 🤲
Listening to this soothing bayan was most touching to say the least, especially in the present day Gaza context... My tears have dried up watching the daily genocide of babies, children, elderly, mothers traumatized, fathers kidnapped, tortured and killed. Yet, somehow along the way these days everytime I read Martyrs been killed in Palestine, my heart consoles me that even before they get massacred by the enemies, they are no longer there to feel that unimaginable pain, because Allah Has Destined them to be Martyrs, and Has Protected them in His Unseen Ways. Martyrs in Islam don't die, SubhanAllah. The Eemaan-filled Palestinian children and adults are giving me the strength to bear their pain 😪 Wallahul Masta'anu. 🇵🇸💔
You have perfectly described the feelings of all people who have eeman and compassion for their brothers and sisters in islam. It is indeed really sad and heart-wrenching. May Allah bless our brothers and sisters with health, ease and victory ameen.
Every Muslim brothers & sisters in this world have same feeling due to weakness heart..but Allah knows better than us what they needed and how they'll protect from these evil ,cruel animals..keep prays for them... insha'Allah they'll succeed in this world and hereafter...
i always thougjt i was being punished for some unknown sin by Allah mian as my husband doesnot pray and he ahouts at me and my kids and he used to beat me 7 years😢😢😢(before i told my big brother) he is always angry and now i come across this video and i had forgotten hazrat Asyia(peace on her)wife of firaun...thankyou Allah for forgiving me thankyou Allah mian for making me see this and hear this
Please don't say mian as Allah is not human so therfore don't attribute words we use for humans such as mian Allah is not a mian, that's a word we use for men!
please remember the hadith that 'divorce is the most hated permissible thing' is fabricated, and that there is nothing in the deen against divorce, in fact various people promised paradise (like Abu Bakr as-Siddique RA) divorced - some multiple times -- lots of cases and Surah al Baqarah talks about divorce laws .. why because it's totally 100 percent an option - seek help - divorce if you can. you don't have to be married to a moron. or he may need medication to help his anger, he needs to take responsibility for it
Subhan’Allah....Allah azza waj'al's miracle for me today....I was thinking about the 2 really bad men I was married to, and felt a little heartbroken when I was reminded how "good women are for good men" etc..of course I still have doubts of any true 'goodness' on my end..but maybe I'm not so terrible after all..and these trials, especially my most recent divorce, has indeed brought me closer to Him...such is His Mercy..❤❤❤ Rabbana laa tuzigh quloobana ba'ada ith hadaytana, wa hablana milla doonka rahma, innaka antal Wahhab...
How sad a state being a woman married to a Pharoah, anxious over Jannah and not wanting this narcissistic husband for eternity. This helped me trust in Allah, but before I knew what demonic person I was dealing with, this thought troubled me for a time. May Allah bless and dress those who married demonic narcissist, and protect us from all the harm they do, in fact, cause.
“Do we know if Asiyah رضي الله عنها would’ve perfected her faith without Fir’aun?” I really needed this as sometimes it’s hard to remember my hardships are a test from my Rabb😢
I can talk from my own experience, it was ruining my imaan for me. I started becoming like him to protect myself. It’s not easy. It got to a point where my anxiety was so bad, I would shake out of fear everytime I tried to pray. That’s when I knew it was effecting me in ways I didn’t want to. So I left, and now I have come closer to Allah. I think it really depends on individual circumstances, childhood plays a Big role too
Married to a narcissist for 30 years of my life, he totally broke my body and soul to smithereens, To the point where my body has given up on wanting basic food and water to survive. I was a very strict practicing Muslim but this trauma pushed me away from my Deen....
@cnshufufjoshua They are both as bad as each other, as I have had both. Wouldn't wish it on anyone. Never knew what SELF Love was. I've always been a people pleaser. Never ever felt I was good enough.
Everything happen as per decree of Allah may Allah make it easy for the ummah in Palestine, let them be strong the merciful and the mighty omniscient Allah is with them. May he perfect their sabr. Ameen
Do not glorify this type of situation. Do not lead women to believe it is better, or even ok, to stay in an abusive marriage because they will be rewarded. The religion gives us the right to divorce and that right should be supported above the idea of abuse in exchange for reward.
I totally agree with everything you are saying as these type of people make you feel you too should stay in this toxic relationship, when infact if you decide to stay you and your children are slowly being poisoned and the perpetrator is getting worse and worse. Honestly there does come a time where your body just starts to shut down and believe me I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. Not only will you need to heal your trauma,but also your precious children's trauma. These narcissists never have, will, or able to love you or their children. They only know how to love themselves. Don't waste your lives with these toxic entities, just save yourselves and your precious children...
I might not have watched the part of the video where he mentionned an abusive marriage or you might be referring to a specific comment or whatever. But if it's on the video, from what I've watched, he only talked about women complaining about, for exemple, themselves wanting to be better muslims but their husband not praying, which doesn't sound like abuse. Then he mentionned Assia, a woman of perfect faith who was married to the worst of men ! Idk that's just what I understood
i was married npd for 10yrs..it was so confuse n anxiety life..im divorce now, even need to run away from him ..its been a year now n trough alot traumatic n mentaly breakdown.. alhamdulillah.
same but only 8 year marriage, and i ended it 8 yrs ago. all sorts of ppl in the noblest generation (Prophet SAW's time) and even sahabah divorced, i went thru same, it's been 8 years--- keep praying and seek help and whatever opportunity you can for support and take care of yourself. May Allah bless you and continue to help you progress in life
This message just made me feel really at ease ...maybe the test is really hard but reward is best when you are getting close to Allah because of the tests Allah(swt) is putting you through...Alhamdulillah ...
I was married three times. Each time I married , my relatives attacked my husband with sehr. It didn't matter how good they were to start with, they became corrupted with sehr and became like demons and turtured me alive. Each marriage broke me more. And the solution? I learnt to worship Allah and that was what build a wall between me and the sehr coming through. In the end though divorce was the only option. And my enemies moved on to my children. The better the worship became, the less the problems manifested. Perfect your worship, and the days will pass in peace.in shaa Allah.
Jazak Allah khair for this thoughtful message You don’t know what I was going through but All praises to Allah, who has stopped me from going deeper into that pit because of this timely message. Alhumdolila
For the first time I do not agree to what you are trying to imply here ..are you trying to tell women to keep getting abuse..bear torture and perfect their iman...Ufff what kind of lesson are you giving here...this video needs to be deleted
Oh brother, may Allah bless and give you the best palace in Jana. Shukor to have you as our guidance in this world. I am not in a good health right now and my life is full of obstacles. I have no kids. Your speech calmed me down brother!Allah bless you, forever, here and after 🤲🏼. Amin! Please pray for me for Allah’s guidance to make the right decision.
You and your children are an amana of Allah, may he protect you. May Allah guide your husband, don’t Forget dear sister to make a lot of douaa. Rabana hab lana min azwajina wa douriyatina qourata aayunine wa djaalna lil mutaqin imaman 🤲
Assalaamualikum Brother can you pls fix the errors in translation As it has translated the qadr of Allah as father of Allah I mean the captions have wrong words JazakAllahu khairan kaseera
Assalam o Aleikum the starting lines mentioning Bibi Maryam. As as married is incorrect. Similarly Bibi Khadija n Bibi Fatimah as were both married to the best of the men... Please correct ur facts
How can we have sabr for the little one we got in a broken marriage,, while he is her faher,,, she is deprived from her father, her home, her all basic haqooq and have got a crying mother....
Being married to a narcissist and having beautiful beautiful children is a test for me .. and I will pray Allah to keep my children and me in Jannah with him .. now I will not question Allah for giving me such husband
It is known that women choose the worst kind of men. Even the "religious" girls choose the bad boys. And this isn't like Aasiah, she was already married to Fir'awn, but then she converted, so it's not the same thing. Scholars of fiqh said that kafaa'a (equalization) is legislated regarding deen, meaning a pious woman shouldn't marry an unpious man. But what does Islamic principles even mean to the masses of people upon the creed of irjaa?
Aasiya and Eesa , similar sounding names and a kinda similar ending , soul take away in advance without the body going through trauma but Twitter only see the sufferings of Eesa (a.s.) , but it was only made to appear so , and Allah knows best.
My husband’s ex-wife has a dark and vengeful heart. I don’t know how any woman can handle living with so much hatred and deception in her. She just wants to make life as awful as possible.
For those married to obnoxious , narcissists evil husbands just keep close to Allah Swt he knows what you are going through.
It is so much pain dear
Husband's? Wife too it can happen. Usually to a weak man
@@ayeshajamil6023oh no sister. Have u spoken to anyone about this? This is not right. He shouldn't be able to get away with it. What do family members say?
Pray everyday that Allah removes you from this relationship because eventually you will loose your Imaan
I.have felt like m slowly loosing my iman as a revert there is nothing good that i learn from him ,the mental and physical abuse is out of ds world its been going on for more than a decade 😢@soulfitmuslimah8643
Allah is always with these ladies who are suffering from toxic animal nature husband
My ex was narcissistic wallah im lucky. My iman was getting effected.
Same
Because of such horrible marriages, this is why divorce is allowed in Islam and we are blessed for that-- though most people have heard a false or weak (very weak) Hadith circulating amongst our idiotic communities that divorce is the most hated permissible act for Allah. Yeah so why did Sahabah divorce and why was the lady allowed to divorce the Sahabah that prophet SAw spoke up for out of pity for the guy? I'm so glad my family actually has Islamic scholars so we aren't trapped in that false restraint against divorce as much as others. We aren't Catholics of old.
I am so tired taking care of everthing in this marriage. I have no words
I really needed to hear this today!! I’ve been married twice in my life, both times to men who I didn’t know were addicted to drugs, smoking and alcohol. They were verbally and physically abusive and refused to give up their foul habits of drinking and drugs. Alhamdulillah my faith became stronger, and I refused to let go of my deen, even though they hated my Islamic ways and that I practiced my prayers each day, I told them that Allah will always come first. I divorced them for the sake of Allah, and even after the divorces, they never stopped slandering me and humiliating me. The community naturally went against me because they believed the men and even enjoyed the humiliation I went through, so I lost all my fiends and even family members. But Alhamdulillah that too, made my faith stronger because I became close to Allah! I always used to wonder why did I have to have marriages with the exact same type of men that did the exact same things to me. But after hearing this, my heart is smiling Alhamdulillah ❤️❤️❤️
Exact same happened in my life too sister but once i married and divorced alhamdhulillah that the part which made me to come closer to allah more and more alhamdhulillah with 2 kids living with the hopes
@@fathimanadha2806 Alhamdulillah🌹 May Allah bless you and your children Ameen💖
@@dynamicforce8051 ameen
You must be proud of yourself. You are a very strong and beautiful woman. May Allah bless you always.
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Allah s.w.t tests those whom he loves...
Allah loves everyone.
SbhanaAllah ,The best Planner The Almighty Allahuakbar ❤
1:25 please change the subtitles immediately
Yes , I was looking for this comment .
@@falakkhan9779 I hope they see this comment because it’s a big issue that needs to be resolved immediately.
SHOULD BE...
" WHERE THE ALL MIGHTY ALLAH COULD HAVE GONE " .... WALWAHUA'LAM...
Qadr (destined decision) of Allah
Shukr alhamdulillah, jazakallah Khair for this message, verbal and emotional abuse is different from physical abuse, you don't see the scars
Alhumdulillah really needed this
YES SUBHANALLAH ALHAMDULILLAH ALLAHU AKBAR 🥺❤❤❤
But this was when Islam was incomplete. No woman or men should go through this bitterness, may Allah SWT give correct understanding with halal love behaviours towards each other Aameen 🙏❤
Islam is the perfect way of life..
01:26 - Assalamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu
lovely video so far, but brother / sister, you have made a serious typo here “father of Allah” was written instead of “Qadr of Allah”.
Ya Allah make our spouse rahmat and comfort of our eyes so that we can be with them in this duniya and hereafter in jannah as well ameen. 🤲
Mashallah Asia alhi aslam. Didnt complain but had true trust in Allah and her Iman was perfected and ofcourse Allah can take away her soul before the stone falls
. Allah is above all Allah is Perfect Allah can do Anything Owner of all things. The heavens earth leaves water every star all of the galaxies sit at the bottom of Allahs throne
Please correct the substitle at 1:25, Qadr of Allah not father of Allah
I was a very soft hearted and naive girl when i married. In hindsight I know he targetted me because of my good qualities. And its seesm that these demonic narsisctis people target you most when you have beautifull qualities. Now its 11 years later and i am burned down, tired and bitter. WItb several health issues.
He turned out to be a huge huge narsisct. So is his mother, his father is a big enabler. I hate them.
This is why i get so angry listening to all these sigma en alpha male nonsense videos on youtube. Blaming women for everything but taking no responsibiliy themselves as men.
I did everything according to these bullshit rules, I worked and was a homemaker too (so basically 2 fulltime jobs), cooked, did the household admintration and took care of finances, plus still did my best to look femine.
He only had 1 fulltime job, his other ‘fulltime job’ was bitching on me non-stop, having (i kid u not) 5 hour long discussions with me. Like the plague he couldnt let me be in peace.
Now he wonders why i hate him and bitch on him too… I guess taste of his opwn medicine.
I’m glad you are speaking up for yourself. You have to let them know the boundaries. It will liberate you. In sha Allah
Look into somatic exercises as well to release trauma emotions stuck in the body.
May Allah swt help you recover easily and swiftly Ameen
Dont let him ruin your imaan. It sounds like this marriage is negatively affecting your relationship with God.
I think this is the story of all women, I was extremely sweet as well until I met toxic men and it makes me hate all my good sweet qualities....I hear u and feel u.....it's always girls like me n u they target....I'm sorry for your pain❤
@@rafiaqayoom6194 Eid Mubarak. Wallah it's not the story of all women. My cousin recently got married to a gentle, kind young man who makes her extremely happy and it gives me joy and hope. May Allah bless you with a very kind man who appreciates and makes you cherish your sweet qualities. Ameen 💖💖
@@anisah8546 Eid Mubarak. You are too sweet. God bless
SUBHAN ALLAH ALHUMDULILLAH ALLAH AKBAR!!!
If Muslim men are so good, why am I reading so many horrible stories from my sisters?
So you are judging millions of people based on comments on a youtube video?
Because many many of the teachers and those who spread information spend most energy on beating women over the head with hadiths about sex and women in hellfire etc. They do not address these narc, misogynistic males, not men. They seem to believe they are all the same caliber of men as the Companions, which they most certainly are not. Classic narcissism, deflect, blameshift and betray.
Because the first reason is that the subject of this video requires discussion on the unfortunate & negative cases.
The second & more importantly is that being of any faith (in these cases Muslim) is by default… this is the crux of this discussion…
you’re only a good person if you follow the religion not just be of that religion.
In being Muslim there are so many advantages which unfortunately Muslims by default do not take benefit from by following… there are clear guidelines for man & woman but the sad fact is a lot of the men mentioned here are not a product of their religion but only a product of their upbringing, their peers, & their own trauma/experiences.
The teachings & guidelines haven’t even touched their headspace, heart or souls…
Most Muslim men are hypocrites most Asian Muslim men are narcissistic cos they spoilt by parents from baby.
I appreciate the Iman’s message.. However , many times Muslim scholars fail to address a Muslim women’s rights during marriage. A Muslim woman is not obligated to stay in an abusive marriage. Especially , a Muslim marriage that ends up with her being murdered !! Also, a Muslim that does not pray is considered a Kafur within some schools of thought. Why are we encouraging women to stay in toxic evil relationships ?? You are are assuming that Alah will not give her Jennah if she leaves her abusive marriage , and that is not Islam or correct. May Allah give our Muslim sisters guidance and them the knowledge of knowing their rights , Ameen!!
he's talking about the lady who was trapped in a legal system and tradition entirely evil - the pharaoh's system - she had no escape - we are lucky we can divorce --- it's great to divorce - if needed -- and it's healthier for kids- --- and the verses in al Baqarah were revealed for a reason. bettter to live cleanly than in a toxic dangerous environment where it will fester and ruin your personality and heart.. alhamdulillah the ONE PERSON who allowed and encouraged my divorce is an islamic scholar from madinah in my family -- he knew it's totally necessary in some marriages to end them -- he actually works with omar suleiman
Assalam aleykum. Wallahi I've read your comment and I'm so happy!
Women often feel like they have no rights during marriage and as a woman you'll be told to have sabr but a man will be given the option of talaq real fast!
I often ask myself about fatwas of marriages where men aren't practicing Muslims while wives are in the Deen. In marriage women are told to obey their husbands if he asks you to pray, have your hijab on etc. What about husbands who are aren't practicing and are given naseeha by their wives to change their wives but it goes futile. Does she have a room for talaq too or is she asked to stay and have sabr?
Thats y Allah has given the right of khula to women because Allah also don't want woman to suffer if Allah wanted this the right of divorce should not have been given to woman also.
Yes her story is Profound..... But what people do not take into account is the worship of allah that she may have been doing in the night. The crying out to him that she may have been doing in secret... You don't just get to her station by Sitting idle... You don't get to her level of patience by setting idle.. It takes devout worship of allah... And most of the time that is done in secret... They are plenty of stories and Hadith Two back up The station of the one who worships and cries to Allah in silence.
Allah Akbar ❤❤
La ilaha illallah
Theirs two ways to deal with it, either shush up and put up with it, or get out of it. What's the point of complaining, than dealing with it.
This is very inconsiderate of you to say. It's not until you find yourself in a terrible marriage yourself that you'll understand. Some women can't just walk out of their marriage, it's not that easy. Before deciding to just get up and leave the marriage a lot of things come to mind and there are sometimes more issues that can happen when the person decides to leave.
e6159 everyone has a choice.
Please correct your subtitles. At the point where Imam Omar says "Qadr of Allah", the subtitles say "father of" AstaghfirUllah
Asia was the first woman, for righteousness in faith . She was married to Ferowne. The worst person was married to best person,like Ferowne. And the best person was married to worst person . And Asia say ,was I married to Ferowne, terrible Ferowne, who killed person . When Ferowne hear that she is one of the righteousness person relationship of Islam. Then Ferowne tied her up and take a rock and hit her , and crashed take a stone ,till she dies . Then Asia pray to Allah AWA 🙏. Please build me a home janah . Give me house in paradise . Asia was the first woman in Quran, to fight for her righteousness of faith .Ameen
Subtitles fix for 1:25 please. That’s a pretty bad fluke my brother/sister.
Thank you akhi for the correction. Insha Allah we'll work on it🙏
@@deenicons its still there
@@deeniconsfix it a few views r not as important as fixing that
@@deenicons You need to take this video down until it's fixed.
Allahu Akbar
YA ALLAAH 🤲
Bro 1:25 here is a mistake. Not Father of Allah it is Qadr of Allah.
Salam Aleykoum please do fix captions at 1:25
Could be misleading
sud women not divorce if they end up with the evil man -.-
Please dont misunderstand the video. If you're in an ABUSIVE marriage, you absolutely SHOULD get divorced - ESPECIALLY when you have children and it is your DUTY to protect them.
Exactly no name of Aisha
She was being killed?
In the worst way you could imagine, I don't have the heart to define her suffering at the hands of firaun, the reason being only that she believed no one except Allah, her steadfastness to her faith is an example to every Muslim woman.
My wife is nasty to me but doing very well in her career, sometimes I think I should become nasty too
Perhaps this is your test. If you become nasty then you've failed.
2 wrongs don't make a right. Don't allow her to be nasty with you but also don't allow yourself to come out of character simply because she feels she can talk to you and approach you however she feels she can. Guide her and try to make her see and hear you.
This helps a lot especially when you hear the saying that righteous people will only get righteous spouses….was hard to understand why many good men and woman are getting evil spouses instead…this lecture proves that you can be righteous and still get an evil spouse.
100%
Righteous people do get righteous spousas... She is married to our beloved holy last messenger prophet Muhammad Please be upon him always... in Jannah
I needed this so much, jazakallahkheir ❤❤❤ Have been asking myself so many times, unlike Asya, why did I chose a narcissist who betrayed me and hurt me so much to be the father of my children? I see Allah's plan now, two of the best women were tested with single parenting (Maryam) and an abusive spouse (Asya) in order to perfect their faith. Alhamdulillah, it's an honour. May Allah guide us through our tests and forgive our wrongdoings.
Aameen
Ameen
I don't think that the delivery of this message cud have been anymore perfect. Allahu Akbar. I never heard this before. It really motivates me SubhanAllah just to be a better person.
I am in a marriage and it’s been 20 years. My relationship with my husband has not improved, his focus is his parents who live abroad and gets brainwashed by his siblings too. It’s like his a body without the mind/heart elsewhere. there are days very rarely that he is actually focusing on us. I have 2 kids and coping with life we have communication problems there is no companionship in marriage. I can’t say how i feel or about my health he never listens. Allah has tested me more the last 7 years as i have a severely autistic non verbal son who is 7 years old and his behaviour is very bad. He doesn’t understand anything and is on nappies and has a very limited diet which affects his health and his always hungry. The tests is getting harder and there’s no solution only the help of allah. Any advice and dua will be appreciated.
Assalam aleikum ukhti. I can't imagine the pain ur going through. May Allah ease ur burdens. My adivice..don't lose hope..keep trying to persuade him and constantly pray tahajjud. Insha Allah ur burdens will be easened🙏
Yes, we all go through tests, dont despair in the mercy of Allah sister. Verily the help of Allah is always near.
May Allah SWT make it easy for you my sister Inshaa Allah your son be a source for you to get Jannah
Exactly same situation just our names are changed and I have a daughter.our rabb will help us out inshallah ameen
Dear Sister,
I had tears in my eyes just imagining your plight. It hit home because its something i have been through. My son had leukemia and almost similar circumstances of marital life. My son is in jannah now. I want you to know nothing lasts forever, not the good and not the bad. Its the law of the universe..i used to listen to surah Rahman in qari abul basits voice, just the soothing and powerful rhythm of his voice. An advice i would like to give you, though you may not fully comprehend it, is to forgive. Forgive your husband and also yourself. Lusten to the recitation and wipe your heart clean. Remember everything that comes to you is through the Almighty so your husband is just a facade, its not between you and him, its between you and Allah. Don't hold on to the negativity, forgive and find peace. Connect to Allah and you will find the strength to pass through this test.
Thank you for explaining this so beautifully. I understand it better now. I have seen such good kind girls getting married and later to find out their husbands smokers, heavy drinkers, always vacationing with his friends and forcing her to live with abusive in laws, not financially supporting her, making her the maid for him and his parents and siblings. Still breaks my heart and I hope these women can escape these sufferings. Ameen 🤲
Listening to this soothing bayan was most touching to say the least, especially in the present day Gaza context...
My tears have dried up watching the daily genocide of babies, children, elderly, mothers traumatized, fathers kidnapped, tortured and killed.
Yet, somehow along the way these days everytime I read Martyrs been killed in Palestine, my heart consoles me that even before they get massacred by the enemies, they are no longer there to feel that unimaginable pain, because Allah Has Destined them to be Martyrs, and Has Protected them in His Unseen Ways.
Martyrs in Islam don't die, SubhanAllah.
The Eemaan-filled Palestinian children and adults are giving me the strength to bear their pain 😪
Wallahul Masta'anu.
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You have perfectly described the feelings of all people who have eeman and compassion for their brothers and sisters in islam. It is indeed really sad and heart-wrenching. May Allah bless our brothers and sisters with health, ease and victory ameen.
Every Muslim brothers & sisters in this world have same feeling due to weakness heart..but Allah knows better than us what they needed and how they'll protect from these evil ,cruel animals..keep prays for them... insha'Allah they'll succeed in this world and hereafter...
i always thougjt i was being punished for some unknown sin by Allah mian as my husband doesnot pray and he ahouts at me and my kids and he used to beat me 7 years😢😢😢(before i told my big brother) he is always angry and now i come across this video and i had forgotten hazrat Asyia(peace on her)wife of firaun...thankyou Allah for forgiving me thankyou Allah mian for making me see this and hear this
Sad,😢 so sorry
Allah s.w.t loves you...He knows your heart....so be happy Sister...your blessed
It’s not Allah mian, please correct it. It’s Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala ☝️
Please don't say mian as Allah is not human so therfore don't attribute words we use for humans such as mian Allah is not a mian, that's a word we use for men!
please remember the hadith that 'divorce is the most hated permissible thing' is fabricated, and that there is nothing in the deen against divorce, in fact various people promised paradise (like Abu Bakr as-Siddique RA) divorced - some multiple times -- lots of cases and Surah al Baqarah talks about divorce laws .. why because it's totally 100 percent an option - seek help - divorce if you can. you don't have to be married to a moron. or he may need medication to help his anger, he needs to take responsibility for it
Subhan’Allah....Allah azza waj'al's miracle for me today....I was thinking about the 2 really bad men I was married to, and felt a little heartbroken when I was reminded how "good women are for good men" etc..of course I still have doubts of any true 'goodness' on my end..but maybe I'm not so terrible after all..and these trials, especially my most recent divorce, has indeed brought me closer to Him...such is His Mercy..❤❤❤
Rabbana laa tuzigh quloobana ba'ada ith hadaytana, wa hablana milla doonka rahma, innaka antal Wahhab...
Awwww my sweet sister 🥺
May Allah (SWT) bring peace and happiness in your life. Ameen 🤲
How sad a state being a woman married to a Pharoah, anxious over Jannah and not wanting this narcissistic husband for eternity. This helped me trust in Allah, but before I knew what demonic person I was dealing with, this thought troubled me for a time. May Allah bless and dress those who married demonic narcissist, and protect us from all the harm they do, in fact, cause.
“Do we know if Asiyah رضي الله عنها would’ve perfected her faith without Fir’aun?”
I really needed this as sometimes it’s hard to remember my hardships are a test from my Rabb😢
Allah Knows Best.
Dude what do you want to say? Women do only fasaad these days. That is what i see, and the evidence is everywhere
May Allah grant us mercy in our affairs... "He does not task a soul with more than it can bear"... "Verily after hardship comes ease"..
@@OdunZee "Verily with hardship comes ease".
I can talk from my own experience, it was ruining my imaan for me. I started becoming like him to protect myself. It’s not easy. It got to a point where my anxiety was so bad, I would shake out of fear everytime I tried to pray. That’s when I knew it was effecting me in ways I didn’t want to. So I left, and now I have come closer to Allah. I think it really depends on individual circumstances, childhood plays a Big role too
1:24 please do the correction immediately.
Married to a narcissist for 30 years of my life, he totally broke my body and soul to smithereens,
To the point where my body has given up on wanting basic food and water to survive. I was a very strict practicing Muslim but this trauma pushed me away from my Deen....
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If this video was recommended to you , then it may be a sign from Allah.
Please dont lose your Hope and pray , Ask Allah , Make Dua to him . Specially in this Ramadan time .
I pray you become Happy . And Blessed.
İ don't know which is worse to grow with narcissistic parents or live with a narcissist spouse 😢
@cnshufufjoshua They are both as bad as each other, as I have had both. Wouldn't wish it on anyone. Never knew what SELF Love was. I've always been a people pleaser. Never ever felt I was good enough.
Everything happen as per decree of Allah may Allah make it easy for the ummah in Palestine, let them be strong the merciful and the mighty omniscient Allah is with them. May he perfect their sabr. Ameen
Masha Allah ❤
Beautiful bayaan,,
But one thing I would mention,,
That plz at 1:24 edit this mistake on screen. Jazak Allah.
Do not glorify this type of situation. Do not lead women to believe it is better, or even ok, to stay in an abusive marriage because they will be rewarded. The religion gives us the right to divorce and that right should be supported above the idea of abuse in exchange for reward.
He's not glorifying staying with abusive husbands, he telling the story of Aisya ferons wife and her strong faith.
I totally agree with everything you are saying as these type of people make you feel you too should stay in this toxic relationship, when infact if you decide to stay you and your children are slowly being poisoned and the perpetrator is getting worse and worse. Honestly there does come a time where your body just starts to shut down and believe me I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy.
Not only will you need to heal your trauma,but also your precious children's trauma. These narcissists never have, will, or able to love you or their children.
They only know how to love themselves.
Don't waste your lives with these toxic entities, just save yourselves and your precious children...
I might not have watched the part of the video where he mentionned an abusive marriage or you might be referring to a specific comment or whatever.
But if it's on the video, from what I've watched, he only talked about women complaining about, for exemple, themselves wanting to be better muslims but their husband not praying, which doesn't sound like abuse. Then he mentionned Assia, a woman of perfect faith who was married to the worst of men !
Idk that's just what I understood
i was married npd for 10yrs..it was so confuse n anxiety life..im divorce now, even need to run away from him ..its been a year now n trough alot traumatic n mentaly breakdown.. alhamdulillah.
same but only 8 year marriage, and i ended it 8 yrs ago. all sorts of ppl in the noblest generation (Prophet SAW's time) and even sahabah divorced, i went thru same, it's been 8 years--- keep praying and seek help and whatever opportunity you can for support and take care of yourself. May Allah bless you and continue to help you progress in life
May Allah your difficulties easy!
May Allah bless you!
Ameen!
Same. I recommend no contact, a good lawyer and a co parenting app. Allah bless you and make it easy for you. Allah make your heart and will stronger.
This message just made me feel really at ease ...maybe the test is really hard but reward is best when you are getting close to Allah because of the tests Allah(swt) is putting you through...Alhamdulillah ...
I was married three times. Each time I married , my relatives attacked my husband with sehr. It didn't matter how good they were to start with, they became corrupted with sehr and became like demons and turtured me alive. Each marriage broke me more.
And the solution? I learnt to worship Allah and that was what build a wall between me and the sehr coming through.
In the end though divorce was the only option.
And my enemies moved on to my children.
The better the worship became, the less the problems manifested.
Perfect your worship, and the days will pass in peace.in shaa Allah.
My dearest sister ,
You are amazing, you are strong, you never gave up, you tried your best .
May Allah swt reward you
Mash Allah Indeed Allah is the greatest
Jazak Allah khair for this thoughtful message
You don’t know what I was going through but
All praises to Allah, who has stopped me from going deeper into that pit because of this timely message. Alhumdolila
For the first time I do not agree to what you are trying to imply here ..are you trying to tell women to keep getting abuse..bear torture and perfect their iman...Ufff what kind of lesson are you giving here...this video needs to be deleted
Beautiful
Oh brother, may Allah bless and give you the best palace in Jana. Shukor to have you as our guidance in this world. I am not in a good health right now and my life is full of obstacles. I have no kids. Your speech calmed me down brother!Allah bless you, forever, here and after 🤲🏼. Amin! Please pray for me for Allah’s guidance to make the right decision.
Thanks for the reminder. May Allah bless and rewards you.
1:25
Please, there is a mistake in the subtitles
My husband only love money and his parents sisters and brothers. I and kids are alone in this world .
You and your children are an amana of Allah, may he protect you.
May Allah guide your husband, don’t Forget dear sister to make a lot of douaa.
Rabana hab lana min azwajina wa douriyatina qourata aayunine wa djaalna lil mutaqin imaman 🤲
Assalaamualikum
Brother can you pls fix the errors in translation
As it has translated the qadr of Allah as father of Allah
I mean the captions have wrong words
JazakAllahu khairan kaseera
Assalam o Aleikum the starting lines mentioning Bibi Maryam. As as married is incorrect. Similarly Bibi Khadija n Bibi Fatimah as were both married to the best of the men... Please correct ur facts
JazakAllah khyr. Nobody will live in this world forever. One rather die like Aasiya then live like Pharoah.
Please make the correction in your text, its Qadar of Allah , and not Father of Allah... ( time 1.25)
Subhanallah i need this lecture now .thank you very much
How can we have sabr for the little one we got in a broken marriage,, while he is her faher,,, she is deprived from her father, her home, her all basic haqooq and have got a crying mother....
How if its other way around😢
Being married to a narcissist and having beautiful beautiful children is a test for me .. and I will pray Allah to keep my children and me in Jannah with him .. now I will not question Allah for giving me such husband
May Allah make it easy for u🙏
Thank you for sharing this.
Can we know which surah that she adj Allah for a house in hanban?
Surah Tahrim
It is known that women choose the worst kind of men.
Even the "religious" girls choose the bad boys.
And this isn't like Aasiah, she was already married to Fir'awn, but then she converted, so it's not the same thing.
Scholars of fiqh said that kafaa'a (equalization) is legislated regarding deen, meaning a pious woman shouldn't marry an unpious man. But what does Islamic principles even mean to the masses of people upon the creed of irjaa?
Aasiya and Eesa , similar sounding names and a kinda similar ending , soul take away in advance without the body going through trauma but Twitter only see the sufferings of Eesa (a.s.) , but it was only made to appear so , and Allah knows best.
MAY ALLAH FORGIVE US AND GIVE US SUCH FAITH LIKE ASIA(RA:)KHADIZA(RA:),
MARIUM(RA:),FATIMA(RA:)
My husband’s ex-wife has a dark and vengeful heart. I don’t know how any woman can handle living with so much hatred and deception in her. She just wants to make life as awful as possible.
Allahu Akbar ! ❤ SubhanAllah ! ❤ El Hamdoulillah ! ❤ La ilaha illa Allah ! ❤
I have so much respect for her. Peace be upon her.
Subhanallah alhamdulillah Allahu Akbar
Fix the subtitle at 1:25 immediately.
Subhanallah 😢😢
Allahu Ekber
Subhanallah
Ameen
Subhanallah 😢😢
This verse is not in the Quran.
Yes, it's actually in
Surah 66 - Ayat 11
وَضَرَبَ ٱللَّهُ مَثَلاً لِّلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ ٱمْرَأَتَ فِرْعَوْنَ إِذْ قَالَتْ رَبِّ ٱبْنِ لِى عِندَكَ بَيْتًا فِى ٱلْجَنَّةِ وَنَجِّنِى مِن فِرْعَوْنَ وَعَمَلِهِۦ وَنَجِّنِى مِنَ ٱلْقَوْمِ ٱلظَّـٰلِمِينَ