Unpopular opinion: You do not have to live a broke lifestyle or even a super frugal lifestyle to be a homemaker. I’ve been home for nearly 20 years. Not bragging, just making a point here. We vacation, pay for our child’s college, live in a nice house, and have a lot in savings. All of this to say, ENCOURAGE your husband to go for that bigger promotion, new job, better pay, better benefits. When the money comes in, you enjoy a bit of it and save the rest. You don’t have to struggle for 16 years being at home. The key is motivate and encourage husband to go up. Just my opinion. My child is in college and I plan to still be at home for a very long time.
As nice as this sounds I don’t think it’s possible in today’s economy. Things have changed a lot in the last 20 years. Dual income is almost necessary now.
The way I afford to stay at home is the living frugally, cooking from scratch, thrift shopping, budging well, entertaining affordable and creatively and most importantly, learning to be content with your less than ideal situation and making it as beautiful as you can with your skills for frugality and femininity ✨
@@extrastout1741 I’d rather live within the will of the God, Almighty Creator of all things of beginning and end of time. He has blessed my Vineyard plenty, the ways in which I walk are blessed, and I smile at the days of ahead of me. My marriage that of of a sweet fruit on a tree that gets sweeter with time and ripens, praise God! Our children are obedient, loving, and godly, to God be the glory for my obedience 💕My home is filled with love, warmth and hearth. The Holy Spirit flows within these 4 walls and give my family wisdom that only comes from the Lord. We eat delicious homemade meals around the dining table blessed by God through my hands to prepare for my loving family whom I get to serve well, hallelujah! My children are educated with the Word of God and get plenty of love and cuddles with their mommy and daddy. I have an attitude of love and peace since I’m always in my comfortable humble home instead of in a rushed, face paced society living within competition. I get to move slowly and take my time. My home has order, peace and wisdom within these 4 walls. I’m only 24 but feel like I’ve lived a lifetime of wisdom, glory be to God! And when I grow old with my husband, we will be able to look around our table of vineyards and see the food that we sold all those years later of being obedient to the Lord‘s word in his ways. We will see that in our children, our grandchildren and God willing our great grandchildren. There’s no amount of money or shiny metals. There’s no career or material objects in the world that is greater or richer than living within the word of God and having people around you whom you love and who love the Lord. 😊❤️ I pray you learn this truth and allow the Holy Spirit to lead you, not the lies of society put on women or your deceitful heart.
@@gabriellapeebles9357 my mom had a wonderful family while we can donate to projects that make a difference, travel and she does what she loves (she's a surgeons). Y should she stay at home and scarp bits and pieces? And that actually taught me to follow my dreams and help others. Do u tell urself that people that work only value material things?
Quick tips from a stay at home mom in a fairly low income bracket, who is LOVING traditional life: Pay off debt asap and don't take on more debt via credit, tuition, etc. Live smaller--smaller home equals smaller utility bills and living costs. Cut extras--cars, vacations, etc. Set and keep budgets. Cook at home and learn to cook well! Invest your time into your marriage, children, friendships, etc, instead of in stuff!
For someone wanting to experiment to see if they can leave their job to be a homemaker: spend a few months paying all the bills based upon the single income and see how that feels. It also gives you an opportunity to take all of your income and put it towards any debt or to build up savings before leaving the workforce. This experiment will very clearly show you if you're able to do it on your current lifestyle and allows you to evaluate what you can change to make it work.
I'm a 64 year old woman, married 44 years. In those 44 years there was only two times that I worked outside the home to help make ends meet. Both times I worked part time and only for a couple years. At that time my 3 sons were in middle school and I made sure I took them to school before work and ended my workday when it was time to pick them up. Bi-weekly I would make a menu for all the meals we would have together, usually breakfast and dinner...then from that menu I would make a grocery list and stick to it. Every year we had a vegetable garden which helped. Our meals were always made from scratch. Thrifting, clearance or friend's hand-me-downs were common. Many times I would drive around on trash day for needed furniture and refurbish them. Shower curtains provided a lot of material for many projects. Just being content and grateful for your NEEDS being met is underrated. You are doing a great service, thank you for using your precious time to reach out to "sisters" in all walks of life.
My mum was a stay at home housewife. My dad worked. I cherish how I grew up. Having my mum at home for me was priceless. Made me who I am. Too many kids are being raised by strangers. All the moms were at home when I grew up. I don't understand why women think having a thankless career is more important than shaping your children into good humans. It's why we have so many societal problems today. I totally get if you have to work but there are so many others who choose the career and it boggles my mind. At the end of your life, are you going to remember the job you had or your family? And all the moments you missed. I went to university then worked part time. I'm a housewife now and I absolutely love it. Wouldn't do anything else. Love taking care of my husband and home. And he goes to the office everyday to take care of us. It's actually teamwork. I don't have social media and I could care less what anyone thinks about MY life. I'm blissful. We bought a house below our means. And it's awesome. Used cars (but not old) that we own. It can be done quite easily. And so worth it.
You seem like a very wise woman :) Thank you for sharing a snapshot into your life and what has worked well for you. I am curious - what did you study in college and what type of part time work did you do after graduating? Wishing you a Merry Christmas!
Having older cars that are paid off helps a lot with us. No it doesn't look fancy, and no bells and whistles, but they run fine and it gives us more wiggle room for us to have a budget for ourselves instead of all of our money going to bills. Both of our vehicles are over 10 years old and going strong with regular maintenance. Being a one car family might help for people who live in town!
I love when you say it doesn't mean going back to the 50's but taking what was good and what worked to apply to our modern life and make it even better.
This summer, I quit my high powered corporate job to stay home with my toddler son (and now pregnant with a second boy!) I work part time remote in sales support from home, which is honestly how we are able to get by with room for a few luxuries (dinner out once a week on Fridays, can go out for ice cream as a family if we feel like it, etc.) I strongly encourage anyone concerned with making the switch to try finding a part time role. It really softened the blow of cutting our household income in half (and the blow of completely changing my life, it's harder than you think to switch out of "work" mode after 10 years in a career!). Outside of that, I do all the usual budgeting/frugality tips, like shopping sales and hitting up Lidl/Aldi/Walmart for our groceries, and finding cheap/free entertainment for us. I do struggle with jealousy when my friends are all signing their children up for MyGym classes, music classes, soccer, swim lessons, etc. and that's just not in our budget right now, but I get to see him grow every day which is pretty special.
I’m a very non traditional woman but still enjoy your content! Yes it’s so important to avoid the lifestyle creep! I no longer work a regular job as of 6 months ago. I resell clothing to make us extra money, cook from scratch, and am frugal in many ways! I’m making equivalent to a part time job. And we are so happy!
Thank you, Cynthia! I was pondering in the early hours the other night about how society and the world has lied to us. I worked outside the home until I was 39, then needed to leave my job. At 41, I had a surprise baby who is 20 years younger than her sister. My husband and I had been frugal when we had two incomes, deliberately buying a much small house than the realtor recommended, saving up for a washer and dryer rather than putting on credit. This paid off when I could no longer work. I have grown grandchildren and daughter who lives far away from me and my younger may no longer be near me in the next year or two. I highly suggest, if one is able to have more than the 1.2 children, do so! Follow all the frugal tips because living in luxury is not the best thing for our children, God bless you Cynthia and have a lovely Christmas!
I’m a Bible believing Christian woman, wife and full time homemaker. Titus 2 instructs women to submit to their husbands, love their children’s and to be the keepers of the home. That’s goes to all women everywhere, God doesn’t change, society does. If you are a woman of faith, you have to be okay with offending others without having to compromises the Word. People will always get offended with truth and it is what it is. I love your content but the reality is is that it will offend many because of how society has reconstructed the minds of women. Keep doing what your doing ❤
This is not something Jesus said actually but a person after him. During the time of Jesus women had leadership positions in the church. Also, why? Why not a relationship based on love, why does Ur all merciful God need u to submit to a man?
@@extrastout1741 “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.” John 1:1 KJV God’s ways are perfect, man’s ways are not. Deborah was a judge, but she always encourage and told the man around her to lead first. She is also the exception not the rule. The Lord gave men and women, specific roles and instruction. “But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine: that the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded. In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity, sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of you. Exhort servants to be obedient unto their own masters, and to please them well in all things; not answering again; not purloining, but shewing all good fidelity; that they may adorn the doctrine of God our Saviour in all things. For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world; looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ; who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from all iniquity, and purify unto himself a peculiar people, zealous of good works. These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.” Titus 2:1-15 KJV God’s ways is perfect. Man’s ways is full of deceit and corruption and lust. Feminism has infiltrated our society, and we are now reaping its ugly fruit. It has sowed confusion, rebellion, destruction, health decline, destroyed homes, hatred towards both sexes, and death. Submit to his ways and stop rebelling against Him and learn to love the Lord and his word, and you will find peace in your life as a woman /man. The wisdom of the Lord knows why he as called women for a specific role and men for specific role as well. Everything has an order, and God’s order is above all.
@@gabriellapeebles9357 so again, in the Bible u have quotes of Jesus directly in red (some bibles) but can also obviously deduce when it is introduced "Jesus said". Jesus never said this. Jesus is ur literal god and he never said that. The Bible is written by people and u can find very wrong sayings.
Love this video! I’ve been staying home since my son was born about a year ago. What we did was plan ahead for this while we still had two incomes! We bought a house we could afford on one income, made sure our debt was paid off, and now my job is play “defense.” I try to be creative in how to save money. One big thing has been learning to cook from scratch, and how to make tasty substitutes for things we would normally buy at home. Like homemade pizza with homemade pizza crust is way tastier and healthier than delivery!
Love your videos! For reference ,we have 4 kids . Three of ours are now adults. I have done coupon clipping, shop clothes at end of season sales, taken outgrown clothing to consignment shops, meal planned, buy cheaper brands, use multi purpose cleaners , book swaps and did babysitting for two years. It was something I discussed in pre marital counseling with my husband before we got married. We have been married for 25 years! It has worked out great and I wouldn't want to change it for anything. Don't let others discourage you. If they don't like this lifestyle, they are not forced to live like it. Do what is best for your family. Thanks for encouraging others who do have a goal to be a stay at home wife or mother. I think it has blessed many.
I'm not a SAHM, but I try to live my life in a way to be able to do so down the line. When you're a single person with a full-time salary, it can be easy to just buy all your beauty products at Sephora, say yes to any activity a friend suggests, have memberships for things you don't use. Now I think, this $24 eyeliner is not special. I don't like sports enough to spend $100 on a game. I enjoy going on walks more than the gym. Those little things all really add up. I'm not perfectly thrifty and still invest in stuff that really benefits my skin, spend $ on experiences that bring me great joy (like a concert), things like that. I think full-time homemaker or not, it's wonderful to respect money.
@@CynthiaL yes, I was so tired at work and so tired at home. So this is a nice balance. And we do need the money so I can’t stay home right now full time. If we decide we have a major goal I will work more temporarily but then back to part time once goal is met: examples vacations,getting a car, or saving for are home. What helps me to be able to work part time is driving an older car that we own. So no monthly payments and the insurance is low. I also don’t go shopping for clothes much. Which I am okay with. I cut down on my makeup spending habits as well. Now I make going out more intentional and special/ an event.
Women have always worked. They worked in the fields, above the mines, in the forests. Where men have been, women have often been too to support them, doing the less heavy jobs. Children have also always worked until very recently. During the 19th century most people above the age of 12 worked 12-14 hours per day, 6 days a week. The non-working stay at home wife is a recent invention, it's not traditional.
This is such an interesting conversation to have. I think what is discouraging for many women is that modern work tends to separate women from their children for example, with the traditional 9-5. Versus women’s work in the past, for example in the field in certain cultures, women would wrap their babies on their backs. Like I mentioned though, it’s an interesting conversation to have that could be dissected for hours
Before we had our son we paid off a lot of debt. We lived in a modest duplex with a very low key lifestyle. I also find it helpful not having social media on comparing my life to someone else’s. In the last 4 years I’ve picked up many babysitting jobs some lasting a year+ that I have done in my own home. Now I have so many women saying they need childcare I’ve thought of opening my own daycare. I love being able to be at home and I understand that many women can’t and that I’m very lucky.
Very nice ideas! Here we prioritize where we spend our money as well. We cook everything from scratch. Try not to be wasteful with food and household items. We do love a minimalistic life style so we don't own an excessive amount of clothes, our kids don't have too much toys, etc. We do birthday parties at home like the 80s/90s and my kids (and their friends) always have a blast. I do my nails, hair and any "salon care" at home. We try to live a simpler life style.
Cost of living is definitely making it harder to be a homemaker. Our definition of homemaker has to be flexible enough to include "those women whose actions/goals move them towards maximizing the amount of time they spend in the home." So, you may have to start out working full-time. Can you move towards 1-2 days/week working on-line from home? Can you move towards working part-time? The other option, which can be done at the same time, is finding ways to create passive income. Can you rent out a room, the basement, the garage, or the main floor of your home? Can you create a home based side hustle that requires little overhead? Changing (not lowering) your expectations around materialism helps a lot, too. Once you recognize that marketing & advertising is designed to make you feel "lack" and encourage spending money to fill that lack, you have a greater awareness and discernment around what is a need and what is a want. ♥️🇨🇦
Being of age 31 with SAHM dreams and hoping to marry my betrothed soon, i very much appreciate this comment section. Thank you to everyone who have shared their tips on how to make things work financially!! I no longer have my mother/older females with this experience in my life, so i am pretty much trying to figure this stuff out solo. I have thought of things similar to what all of you are recommending, so it must be a pretty common sense thing we all lean towards.
I love this so much. 💖 I am disabled, and I am a housewife. I tend to compare myself, not only as a wife, but as a woman (since again, I am disabled.) I also love your name & the fact that you mentioned looking to women from the past, as my great grandma's name was Cynthia 🥰
I’ve been home since June 2022 and we went to one car right away and used the money to pay off debt. I spend time now meal planning and getting the grocery budget as low as I can. We use mint Mobile for our cell phone it’s only 15 dollars per month per phone. We stick up on frequently used items when they go on sale. My husband is excellent at creating and maintaining our budget on a spreadsheet we teach all our spending and review the budget about once a week to see how we are doing. As Christians we honor the Lord with our first fruits by tithing and also give to the poor and this ends up blessing us and giving us the ability to trust God completely with our finances. God bless you!! ❤
I think the only way to make it work is to just not spend! I think so much of the reason why people believe they need 2 incomes is because they just think that they need more than they really do. (Of course this isn’t always the case, many just simply can’t afford it no matter what!) I find that living frugally allows me to really hone into my feminine creativity, and make things work 🤗 I have learned to make our food from scratch, garden a bit, can our own food, sew, knit, crochet, etc. it’s incredible and so life giving!
I agree so much with this. Frugality is feminine, and I think a lot of people don't realize this. A lot of the reason for families being able to survive as one income households in past generations had to do with frugality and the need and determination to make it work. Couples knew they needed to live within the means of the husband's income and found creative ways to stretch the budget. I think that now many people choose their lifestyles first and foremost and then structure their work lives around that, hence why many feel the need for two incomes and that they have no choice. For many, it's not that they don't have a choice but that they've already made it.
Cynthia, I love your videos. I have been a stay at home mom for 5 years...but then when COVID happened I found myself in a very masculine job. Everyday is just a mental game on focusing on the time that I get to be a home maker and stay at home mom again. I found that this lifestyle takes from both me and my husband and I look forward to my mom life again. Your videos help me on my day to day. Thank you❤️❤️🙏🙏 maybe a fun Holiday themed video would be nice 😊 🎄 🎄 🎄
Love this so much!! I am due with my first baby very soon and have just transitioned into working part time from home - I love your term “home centered life” because that’s ultimately my goal! I think a lot more women could make it work than they realize. I’m so excited to get more into homemaking and to be able to be present 🤍
This is one of your best vidoes.. Women are not able to take up homemaking due to 2 reasons : 1. Cost of Living 2. The formal education system fancies career so much.. When first 23 years of life we spent in education and then leaving that and being at home becomes a difficult choice. Not everyone is brave as you are! Keep it up! I'm a Chartered Accountant with full time High paying job but I still like your content and try to incorporate small feminine changes in my life! So thankyou and keep coming with nee videos
I give proper respect to all kinds of housewife. Because my mothet was a housewife and we are 7 children of our mom.I love my mom so much because she is so loving,caring her husband and children.That's why,I respect all housewife women.
Tips for making a "home-centered" lifestyle financially possible would be: -Prayer and trusting God to be our ultimate provider. -Marrying a Godly, frugal spouse that has the same goals and values. -Organizing a life that has the lowest cost of living possible. -Avoiding debt. -Being very mindful of all purchases and saving for large ones. Psalms 113:7-9 [7]He raiseth up the poor out of the dust, and lifteth the needy out of the dunghill; [8]That he may set him with princes, even with the princes of his people. [9]He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the LORD.
The way I afford to stay home is buying second hand items, cooking from scratch, and working part time at my family’s business to supplement our income! I’m blessed to be able to take care of our home and children
Awesome topic! I think we are going to find many more conversations on the loveliness of femininity not feminism. I think many of us have been duped, including myself, and now find myself in all the traditional things. The conversation needs to continue because we have all taken a different path which now require different things from us, including finances. I believe many women want to unravel from the "worldy ways" but at this time finances might restrict them from doing that so they will either see it or they get angry. Or do both =) I am grateful for pushing through and seeing the freedom in the journey of traditional living.
I love this Cynthia! Anything you share with us about femininity and homemaking is something I absolutely love on your channel. And I love the practical sides of homemaking, be it frugality, or home cooking, cleaning and anything else you want to share, I love them! It's always such a pleasure to watch your videos!
It's fun to look at you , I feel like watching myself. We are both almost same age (I am 27 married stay at home) and one thing that I loooove (that most people cant get) is I like staying at home , taking care of my husband , cooking every evening, cleaning sessions etc I knew since a long time that I would be a housewife and I am so glad to see channels that promotes this way of living , it's so fulfilling and joyable
Its really quite simple: If you dont NEED it, dont buy it. We make it too complicated sometimes. Before a purchase ask: Can we use something else we own? Borrow? Or Buy second-hand?
That's an interesting topic for a video ☺️ I'm still, after over 5 years of being a homemaker, figuring out what works best for us in terms of finances but I'll list what I've decided on so far: - No thrift shopping for me as the options are quite bad around here and instead focus on high quality everything! That can absolutely mean saving up for a few months to buy a piece of furniture but it pays off in the end. I research things like which kind of wood lasts a long time, which brand is famous for producing household items that last for 20 years, etc - I seek inspiration for recipes from other housewifes or cookbooks that are at least 80 years old. Modern cooking has this focus on 'quick and easy', which surely is a blessing for new moms! In my situation though, I have time as a resource so I look for oldfashioned ways to cook things, like different kinds of sourdough, fermenting my own veggies, making pasta myself... Then I don't need to buy the most expensive ingredients and still get amazing results. Plus I prefer cooking with seasonal ingredients to save money and keep it creative - last point, similar to the first portion of your video: Don't compare yourself and stay in the real world. Being online can be a great experience and I found lovely friends in the homemaker sphere but one of the best ways to have a good time and save money for me is to actually ignore what goes in the online world where people only buy the most expensive makeup and travel constantly - I instead meet up with my friends for a cup of coffee, depending on the season we either have picknicks, enjoy long forest walks, play board games, go to museums, share the cost of renting a car or gas money to make day trips to other cities, bake cookies together, play video games, swap books...... the list goes on :D none of these activities cost a lot but they make for a fulfilled life without feeling the need to escape your day to day life. Btw, I'm so confused about this online notion that there's some kind of war going on between working women and housewifes?? I know you mentioned in earlier videos that you're friends with all types of women and I've never encountered hostility in real life when I mentioned I stay at home without kids- quite the opposite, people think it's cool that I have so much time to bake yummy treats ^^
You asked how do i afford being a housewife of over 20 years….. my husband is an electrical engineer and we live beneath his income. We live like we make about half. So the house. Cars and so on we look much poorer than we are but we are saving for retirement or medical
Your videos always inspire me! I'am going back from working 50 hours a week to 32 in 2023. I'm always excausted and no time nor enegry for my home and husband. Hopefully I can balance my life a bit better next year. Thank you for sharing your wishdom and have a wonderfull day lovely! xx
I have worked full time outside the home, and here's the kicker - after I got home from my full time job I was still the one doing all the cooking, the cleaning, the laundry, the gardening, the preserving, the meal planning and shopping so I was constantly stressed out, always behind and felt resentful of my husband, which is not what God made marriage to be. We finally got to the point where we were able for me to make homemaking my full time job. I have never felt happier. It may not be for everyone, but it still should be a respected option for women to choose.
Cynthia I love your videos as a 20 year old that lives in New York I can say I hear all these trends and opinions that do not resonate with me don’t lose my to the younger generation because they are so way off I would love to be a traditional wife one day
I just love that you don't think every single woman should live the way you do but you know it's right for you and want to help other women attain a similar lifestyle despite the criticism of you and others like you. It's so feminine and wonderful.
You're right- him having the provider mentality is key and arguably more important than him earning a certain amount of money. A man could earn 'lots' yet expect their wife to work and be unhappy with the idea of her being a SAHW.
I’m sorry you get any hate, I think you’re amazing and I’m so thankful for the content you make. I hope those that misperceive your message and just the idea of tradfems and tradwives come around to see it’s the exact opposite of a hateful thing, it’s such a beautiful, liberating thing. Much love and god bless ❤
My husband does not want me to make $. We budget so i have an allowance every month and i use that for personal items or gifts or fun stuff. We do not value expensive vacations and labels. Our home is large and we are boring homebodies. We are happy to watch a movie and care for our daughter🙂. Being a housewife is wonderful but thats my experience My husband takes excellent care of us in all ways🥰
I am a full-time housewife going on 15 years I met my husband at 23 we got married when I was 24 he was 32. When we first were married my husband was making 36,000 a year and we decided that it was easier for us if I stayed home. At that time he was working days and nights sometimes and it would have been hard to match our schedules if I was working as well. Childcare is so expensive for me going to work I would have been just paying for childcare and I didn’t want our son around too many people at such a young age. I wanted to raise him not hand him to someone else while I go work a minimum wage job just so I can bring in an extra couple hundred dollars into our household. It didn’t make financial sense to us and it was important to both of us. We are not religious at all so sometimes it’s hard for me to find content that isn’t heavily Christian-based in homemaking. We went into a good amount of debt to secure this lifestyle I must say, because it was hard to be making under 40,000 trying to live this lifestyle and when I was younger in my 20s, we lived with my parents in a wealthy area so I went into debt to portray this image that was all around me. Now that I’m older, and we are in our own house with a mortgage I am paying back what I did in my 20s it’s not a great thing but I’m happy that I have matured now to know that I don’t have to look a certain way to be the best wife and mother to my husband and son.
Great video Cynthia. I have recently went back to my career for financial reasons. However, I do agree that being homemakers is the best career for women. Take care and have a wonderful day. 💖
I feel that people dosen't let be me, and that hate me, I get mean comment, they don't like my choices, that I am free... I never talk about my goals but I want to have freedom, raise kids and everytime I said that I get so many crabs that pull me down, so I learn not to talk about it never and actions
Hi Cynthia, I am of Indian origin and my mom is a traditional women and she very much changed my view of life and all but I also never learn what money was because my mom always gave emphasis in the fact men work and manage all of financial aspects so frankly I never learned to handle money and this has been the biggest obstacle to get myself forward and ahead in my life. And even in a relationship, we are never talking about what we need to do to take care of our individual personal finances is soooooo important!!!
Can you please describe how to deal with your personal finances separately from your husband’s and what you do to create your independent identity? And what can we do to cultivate that independent mindset so that if something happens down the road such as if you get divorced or if a spouse gets sick or passes away the girl or woman can be financially successful and independent.
Your videos and content are great!! I've learn sooo much from you and other feminine youtubers. It's amazing and also a relief to see women that have a different perspective of the world than the modern society. I can imagine how hard it is to recieve mean comments. But know that many people love your videos. Hugs from Brazil 🇧🇷💕
Grâce à vous que je suis depuis fin 2021-2022, lorsque j'étais dans mon processus de remise en question personnelle, je me sens enfin bien dans ma peau de femme. Je suis enfin heureuse de m'être trouvée et m'assumer en tant que femme qui rêve d'être une mère au foyer. En France comme ailleurs j'imagine c'est un peu mal vu et parfois critiqué et jugé...Mais grâce à vous et le remarquable "travail"(désolée si le mot n'est pas approprié) que vous faites d'éveil des consciences avec certaines de vos consoeurs je suis certaine que les mentalités vont changer. Je suis sûre que vous avez aidé d'autres femmes comme moi à enfin être heureuse et épanouie dans leur peau de femme et je vous en remercie beaucoup. Toute ma vie j'ai adoré les choses simples comme décorer, cuisiner,nettoyer dans la tranquillité, regarder un téléfilm, ou simplement apprécier la tranquillité de ma maison et j'ai eu l'impression au cours de ma vingtaine et début trentaine que cela ne pouvait pas être un quotidien de vie possible car on ne nous éduque pas dans ce sens dans notre parcours scolaire et académique. C'est comme un rêve qui doit rester à l'état de rêve et en mode silencieux surtout ! A cause des aléas conjoncturels je dois faire quelques heures de travail par semaine pour lisser un peu les dettes que j'ai accumulé en travaillant !oui oui en travaillant (avec mon auto-entreprise)! Mais la première étape vers mon rêve de vie a été accompli déjà : la fermeture de mon entreprise fin 2021 et je me prépare tout doucement à vivre mon rêve de vie :qui est de me consacrer entièrement à mon foyer et m'adonner à ma vie spirituelle aussi (j'envisage de faire une confirmation catholique). Encore bravo pour votre chaîne et son contenu et ma gratitude également . Évelyne
Your doing amazing love your videos. I am older than you but share your goals and have done since becoming a mum 18 years ago. My youngest is 12 now but they still benefit from me being a SAHM
My mom retired early when I was a teenager and I noticed it was helpful for her to be home! I can imagine it being different but still beneficial at each stage!
Quick tips for homemakers to save money: cooking from scratch doesn’t need to be a huge elaborate meal. To save money, I bake simple loaves of bread, save vegetable scraps to make broth instead of buying cartons of it at the grocery store, and do things like make my own mayonnaise (look it up, it’s super easy if you have a blender already!) Small things like that can add up a LOT, and other things can be cheaper store bought (canned veggies instead of fresh, jars of pasta sauce on sale, etc). See what eats up your grocery budget, and compare costs to making it yourself, and do what you have the time & energy for. :)
Also, consider being a one car family - if you’re mostly at home anyway, it can work for some! I personally never even learned how to drive, and not having the extra expense of a second car saves my family so much money. See if you could make it work too, you may be surprised!
I supported my husband to go through nursing school under the pretense that when he graduated I would be a stay at home mom. Now that he just graduated, he told me that he actually wants me to to be a working mom. I am currently pregnant (also under the pretense that I was going to stay home) and honestly devastated. I feel like my femininity has been ripped from me and I’m struggling with resentment. I felt so strongly that God has inspired me to focus on the home and my husband is not on the same page. I have no idea how to find a job again with a pregnant belly and I honestly just don’t know what to do about this situation.
That was a very important conversation. He agreed that you could be a sahm and is now changing his mind AFTER you are pregnant!!!??? That is terrible!! I felt so strongly about being a sahm , I made my husband understand that I am fine never having kids IF I Don't get to raise them! I am sorry your husband did that to you. He should have told you BEFOREHAND that he changed his mind, so that you actually had a choice decide if you WANT to be a working mom or not. Ridiculous, he is in the wrong.
I prayed many many days and nights and God blessed me with a in home teaching job where my boss is allowing me to bring my baby. It’s been a struggle with my husband but God heard my prayers and truly helped me
Indeed, I always suggest cooking and baking from scratch as this saves money, is healthy (knowing specific ingredients incorporated into a dish for calorie monitoring), and helps to boost creativity in the kitchen. Other helpful suggestions include budgeting, shopping at second-hand stores (sometimes, I'm able to locate name brands for half the price without sacrificing quality), and embracing the Minimalist Lifestyle (this has really helped view life differently... life is too short; pointless to spend pretty hundreds for name brands. Instead, sew or browse thrift stores for mindful spending and less dust when cleaning our homes... no-brainer, lol.). I hope you find suitable ways to save money to become money-savvy as a homemaker. I semi-related to your video. I had the "trophy wife" mentality when I first transitioned to the homemaker lifestyle. I wasted money, retail shopped, and failed to properly clean our home when I first became a homemaker. Now, I take pride in successfully completing tasks on my agenda, alongside considering "do I need this or do I want this". I also love retail shopping... so, my husband provides a reasonable monthly budget for errands and groceries... I put some aside for me-spending but rarely shop for myself as I decor-shop to compliment our home. Money is necessary for survival... we don't need to have "it all" because money doesn't buy nor offers genuine, lasting happiness. God bless you.
I think women have more important things to handle than work and money. I have been a staying at home wife and mother and daughter and sister and friend. I am the only individual available for everything. People relying on me it has never been the other way around. I'm actually considering removing my two year old from part time daycare.
I agree I have been actually very devastated and distraught thinking how our options as housewives has been limited now by society - ie the cost of living. It’s so hard to make it on one humble, regular income. I feel it’s so unfair, but I don’t see how society will change this. It makes me sad thinking how it pressures men also to be away from the family and home so much because they likely will need a high level very demanding job to provide on one income. One thing that has worked for my family is me getting mostly off social media and only following people who have similar values - ie frugality, simple living, etc. If I watch people traveling all over, I want to spend money doing that. If I watch fashion influencers I just want more clothes. I also stay away from homegoods, etc and just don’t go because the temptation lol. One of the best things to ever happen to me was getting to be a homemaker!! 🥹💝 It is so freeing!! God is good! A verse I am constantly reminded of is 1 Cor 13:13 - these 3 remain faith, hope and charity! I can feel so hopeless in this world but this verse takes me back to my core, what truly matters! Focusing on the Lord, not the world! It’s also amazing how becoming a more traditional women I have seen it impact my husband (who is very masculine), but he now sees the immense value of homemakers, sahm’s, the value of children and life, the pressure society puts on women trying to be a boss babe, hustle culture’s toxic side, the pressure on men to only focus on work and making loads of money too, and so much more. I’m so deeply grateful for such a supportive, caring husband who doesn’t pressure me to make money and hustle. We live a very simple life, but are happier than ever 🥹🕊️🙌🏻
But what happens with Your family if Your husband can no longer provide for the family? 🤔 Let's say that he has a heart attack? Who takes care of the finances in that case? And who takes care of the kids in that case? Should Your husband still keep working despite his deteriorating health, or should Your kids be the ones who need to start working early in that case?
Unpopular opinion:
You do not have to live a broke lifestyle or even a super frugal lifestyle to be a homemaker. I’ve been home for nearly 20 years. Not bragging, just making a point here. We vacation, pay for our child’s college, live in a nice house, and have a lot in savings. All of this to say, ENCOURAGE your husband to go for that bigger promotion, new job, better pay, better benefits. When the money comes in, you enjoy a bit of it and save the rest. You don’t have to struggle for 16 years being at home. The key is motivate and encourage husband to go up. Just my opinion. My child is in college and I plan to still be at home for a very long time.
It’s so true that hold so much power as wives in the department of encouraging our husbands. Sounds like you’ve created a wonderful life together 🙏💛
As nice as this sounds I don’t think it’s possible in today’s economy. Things have changed a lot in the last 20 years. Dual income is almost necessary now.
The way I afford to stay at home is the living frugally, cooking from scratch, thrift shopping, budging well, entertaining affordable and creatively and most importantly, learning to be content with your less than ideal situation and making it as beautiful as you can with your skills for frugality and femininity ✨
Love it, you are an inspiration💛💛👏👏
That sound bad but support ur right to do it. Would rather have a job, independence, money I can help people with, travel etc
@@extrastout1741 I’d rather live within the will of the God, Almighty Creator of all things of beginning and end of time. He has blessed my Vineyard plenty, the ways in which I walk are blessed, and I smile at the days of ahead of me. My marriage that of of a sweet fruit on a tree that gets sweeter with time and ripens, praise God! Our children are obedient, loving, and godly, to God be the glory for my obedience 💕My home is filled with love, warmth and hearth. The Holy Spirit flows within these 4 walls and give my family wisdom that only comes from the Lord. We eat delicious homemade meals around the dining table blessed by God through my hands to prepare for my loving family whom I get to serve well, hallelujah! My children are educated with the Word of God and get plenty of love and cuddles with their mommy and daddy. I have an attitude of love and peace since I’m always in my comfortable humble home instead of in a rushed, face paced society living within competition. I get to move slowly and take my time. My home has order, peace and wisdom within these 4 walls.
I’m only 24 but feel like I’ve lived a lifetime of wisdom, glory be to God!
And when I grow old with my husband, we will be able to look around our table of vineyards and see the food that we sold all those years later of being obedient to the Lord‘s word in his ways. We will see that in our children, our grandchildren and God willing our great grandchildren. There’s no amount of money or shiny metals. There’s no career or material objects in the world that is greater or richer than living within the word of God and having people around you whom you love and who love the Lord. 😊❤️ I pray you learn this truth and allow the Holy Spirit to lead you, not the lies of society put on women or your deceitful heart.
@@gabriellapeebles9357 my mom had a wonderful family while we can donate to projects that make a difference, travel and she does what she loves (she's a surgeons). Y should she stay at home and scarp bits and pieces? And that actually taught me to follow my dreams and help others. Do u tell urself that people that work only value material things?
I do the same as a stay at home mom/wife. ❤
Quick tips from a stay at home mom in a fairly low income bracket, who is LOVING traditional life:
Pay off debt asap and don't take on more debt via credit, tuition, etc.
Live smaller--smaller home equals smaller utility bills and living costs.
Cut extras--cars, vacations, etc.
Set and keep budgets.
Cook at home and learn to cook well!
Invest your time into your marriage, children, friendships, etc, instead of in stuff!
Would you say one should pay off all their debt before she decides to stay home?
Amen
For someone wanting to experiment to see if they can leave their job to be a homemaker: spend a few months paying all the bills based upon the single income and see how that feels. It also gives you an opportunity to take all of your income and put it towards any debt or to build up savings before leaving the workforce. This experiment will very clearly show you if you're able to do it on your current lifestyle and allows you to evaluate what you can change to make it work.
This is such a good idea 😊. I think I will try this as I work to transition to being fully at home ❤️
I'm a 64 year old woman, married 44 years. In those 44 years there was only two times that I worked outside the home to help make ends meet. Both times I worked part time and only for a couple years. At that time my 3 sons were in middle school and I made sure I took them to school before work and ended my workday when it was time to pick them up.
Bi-weekly I would make a menu for all the meals we would have together, usually breakfast and dinner...then from that menu I would make a grocery list and stick to it. Every year we had a vegetable garden which helped. Our meals were always made from scratch.
Thrifting, clearance or friend's hand-me-downs were common. Many times I would drive around on trash day for needed furniture and refurbish them. Shower curtains provided a lot of material for many projects.
Just being content and grateful for your NEEDS being met is underrated.
You are doing a great service, thank you for using your precious time to reach out to "sisters" in all walks of life.
My mum was a stay at home housewife. My dad worked. I cherish how I grew up. Having my mum at home for me was priceless. Made me who I am. Too many kids are being raised by strangers. All the moms were at home when I grew up. I don't understand why women think having a thankless career is more important than shaping your children into good humans. It's why we have so many societal problems today. I totally get if you have to work but there are so many others who choose the career and it boggles my mind. At the end of your life, are you going to remember the job you had or your family? And all the moments you missed.
I went to university then worked part time. I'm a housewife now and I absolutely love it. Wouldn't do anything else. Love taking care of my husband and home. And he goes to the office everyday to take care of us. It's actually teamwork. I don't have social media and I could care less what anyone thinks about MY life. I'm blissful.
We bought a house below our means. And it's awesome. Used cars (but not old) that we own.
It can be done quite easily. And so worth it.
You seem like a very wise woman :) Thank you for sharing a snapshot into your life and what has worked well for you. I am curious - what did you study in college and what type of part time work did you do after graduating? Wishing you a Merry Christmas!
Having older cars that are paid off helps a lot with us. No it doesn't look fancy, and no bells and whistles, but they run fine and it gives us more wiggle room for us to have a budget for ourselves instead of all of our money going to bills. Both of our vehicles are over 10 years old and going strong with regular maintenance. Being a one car family might help for people who live in town!
I love when you say it doesn't mean going back to the 50's but taking what was good and what worked to apply to our modern life and make it even better.
Is there anything wrong with the 50s I actually liked the hairstyle and clothes women used to have and they had class
This summer, I quit my high powered corporate job to stay home with my toddler son (and now pregnant with a second boy!) I work part time remote in sales support from home, which is honestly how we are able to get by with room for a few luxuries (dinner out once a week on Fridays, can go out for ice cream as a family if we feel like it, etc.) I strongly encourage anyone concerned with making the switch to try finding a part time role. It really softened the blow of cutting our household income in half (and the blow of completely changing my life, it's harder than you think to switch out of "work" mode after 10 years in a career!). Outside of that, I do all the usual budgeting/frugality tips, like shopping sales and hitting up Lidl/Aldi/Walmart for our groceries, and finding cheap/free entertainment for us. I do struggle with jealousy when my friends are all signing their children up for MyGym classes, music classes, soccer, swim lessons, etc. and that's just not in our budget right now, but I get to see him grow every day which is pretty special.
How did you get you part time sales job? Was it unrelated to your corporate job? What hours/days do you work?
I’m a very non traditional woman but still enjoy your content! Yes it’s so important to avoid the lifestyle creep! I no longer work a regular job as of 6 months ago. I resell clothing to make us extra money, cook from scratch, and am frugal in many ways! I’m making equivalent to a part time job. And we are so happy!
So creative!!👏💛
Can you share where you resell clothing...ty
Omg will you make a how to resell video lol
Why are you not traditional then? 😊
Thank you, Cynthia! I was pondering in the early hours the other night about how society and the world has lied to us. I worked outside the home until I was 39, then needed to leave my job. At 41, I had a surprise baby who is 20 years younger than her sister. My husband and I had been frugal when we had two incomes, deliberately buying a much small house than the realtor recommended, saving up for a washer and dryer rather than putting on credit. This paid off when I could no longer work. I have grown grandchildren and daughter who lives far away from me and my younger may no longer be near me in the next year or two. I highly suggest, if one is able to have more than the 1.2 children, do so! Follow all the frugal tips because living in luxury is not the best thing for our children, God bless you Cynthia and have a lovely Christmas!
I’m a Bible believing Christian woman, wife and full time homemaker. Titus 2 instructs women to submit to their husbands, love their children’s and to be the keepers of the home. That’s goes to all women everywhere, God doesn’t change, society does. If you are a woman of faith, you have to be okay with offending others without having to compromises the Word. People will always get offended with truth and it is what it is. I love your content but the reality is is that it will offend many because of how society has reconstructed the minds of women. Keep doing what your doing ❤
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This is not something Jesus said actually but a person after him. During the time of Jesus women had leadership positions in the church. Also, why? Why not a relationship based on love, why does Ur all merciful God need u to submit to a man?
@@extrastout1741 “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.”
John 1:1 KJV
God’s ways are perfect, man’s ways are not. Deborah was a judge, but she always encourage and told the man around her to lead first. She is also the exception not the rule. The Lord gave men and women, specific roles and instruction.
“But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine: that the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded. In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity, sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of you. Exhort servants to be obedient unto their own masters, and to please them well in all things; not answering again; not purloining, but shewing all good fidelity; that they may adorn the doctrine of God our Saviour in all things. For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world; looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ; who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from all iniquity, and purify unto himself a peculiar people, zealous of good works. These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.”
Titus 2:1-15 KJV
God’s ways is perfect. Man’s ways is full of deceit and corruption and lust.
Feminism has infiltrated our society, and we are now reaping its ugly fruit. It has sowed confusion, rebellion, destruction, health decline, destroyed homes, hatred towards both sexes, and death.
Submit to his ways and stop rebelling against
Him and learn to love the Lord and his word, and you will find peace in your life as a woman /man.
The wisdom of the Lord knows why he as called women for a specific role and men for specific role as well. Everything has an order, and God’s order is above all.
@@gabriellapeebles9357 so again, in the Bible u have quotes of Jesus directly in red (some bibles) but can also obviously deduce when it is introduced "Jesus said". Jesus never said this. Jesus is ur literal god and he never said that. The Bible is written by people and u can find very wrong sayings.
@@gabriellapeebles9357 also god gave me the ability to be really good at math but not cooking, so who's fault is it here? Mine?
Love this video! I’ve been staying home since my son was born about a year ago. What we did was plan ahead for this while we still had two incomes! We bought a house we could afford on one income, made sure our debt was paid off, and now my job is play “defense.” I try to be creative in how to save money. One big thing has been learning to cook from scratch, and how to make tasty substitutes for things we would normally buy at home. Like homemade pizza with homemade pizza crust is way tastier and healthier than delivery!
Love your videos! For reference ,we have 4 kids . Three of ours are now adults. I have done coupon clipping, shop clothes at end of season sales, taken outgrown clothing to consignment shops, meal planned, buy cheaper brands, use multi purpose cleaners , book swaps and did babysitting for two years. It was something I discussed in pre marital counseling with my husband before we got married. We have been married for 25 years! It has worked out great and I wouldn't want to change it for anything. Don't let others discourage you. If they don't like this lifestyle, they are not forced to live like it. Do what is best for your family. Thanks for encouraging others who do have a goal to be a stay at home wife or mother. I think it has blessed many.
I'm not a SAHM, but I try to live my life in a way to be able to do so down the line. When you're a single person with a full-time salary, it can be easy to just buy all your beauty products at Sephora, say yes to any activity a friend suggests, have memberships for things you don't use. Now I think, this $24 eyeliner is not special. I don't like sports enough to spend $100 on a game. I enjoy going on walks more than the gym. Those little things all really add up. I'm not perfectly thrifty and still invest in stuff that really benefits my skin, spend $ on experiences that bring me great joy (like a concert), things like that. I think full-time homemaker or not, it's wonderful to respect money.
Hey hey just got off work. I work part time as a nurse 2 days a week. And I feel so much better. ❤
I have a friend who does this! She finds it is the best balance for her to be able to spend as much time with her kids as possible :)
@@CynthiaL yes, I was so tired at work and so tired at home. So this is a nice balance. And we do need the money so I can’t stay home right now full time.
If we decide we have a major goal I will work more temporarily but then back to part time once goal is met: examples vacations,getting a car, or saving for are home.
What helps me to be able to work part time is driving an older car that we own. So no monthly payments and the insurance is low.
I also don’t go shopping for clothes much. Which I am okay with. I cut down on my makeup spending habits as well.
Now I make going out more intentional and special/ an event.
Women have always worked. They worked in the fields, above the mines, in the forests. Where men have been, women have often been too to support them, doing the less heavy jobs. Children have also always worked until very recently. During the 19th century most people above the age of 12 worked 12-14 hours per day, 6 days a week. The non-working stay at home wife is a recent invention, it's not traditional.
This is such an interesting conversation to have. I think what is discouraging for many women is that modern work tends to separate women from their children for example, with the traditional 9-5. Versus women’s work in the past, for example in the field in certain cultures, women would wrap their babies on their backs. Like I mentioned though, it’s an interesting conversation to have that could be dissected for hours
Before we had our son we paid off a lot of debt. We lived in a modest duplex with a very low key lifestyle. I also find it helpful not having social media on comparing my life to someone else’s. In the last 4 years I’ve picked up many babysitting jobs some lasting a year+ that I have done in my own home. Now I have so many women saying they need childcare I’ve thought of opening my own daycare. I love being able to be at home and I understand that many women can’t and that I’m very lucky.
Very nice ideas! Here we prioritize where we spend our money as well. We cook everything from scratch. Try not to be wasteful with food and household items. We do love a minimalistic life style so we don't own an excessive amount of clothes, our kids don't have too much toys, etc. We do birthday parties at home like the 80s/90s and my kids (and their friends) always have a blast. I do my nails, hair and any "salon care" at home. We try to live a simpler life style.
Cost of living is definitely making it harder to be a homemaker. Our definition of homemaker has to be flexible enough to include "those women whose actions/goals move them towards maximizing the amount of time they spend in the home."
So, you may have to start out working full-time. Can you move towards 1-2 days/week working on-line from home? Can you move towards working part-time?
The other option, which can be done at the same time, is finding ways to create passive income. Can you rent out a room, the basement, the garage, or the main floor of your home? Can you create a home based side hustle that requires little overhead?
Changing (not lowering) your expectations around materialism helps a lot, too. Once you recognize that marketing & advertising is designed to make you feel "lack" and encourage spending money to fill that lack, you have a greater awareness and discernment around what is a need and what is a want.
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Being of age 31 with SAHM dreams and hoping to marry my betrothed soon, i very much appreciate this comment section. Thank you to everyone who have shared their tips on how to make things work financially!! I no longer have my mother/older females with this experience in my life, so i am pretty much trying to figure this stuff out solo. I have thought of things similar to what all of you are recommending, so it must be a pretty common sense thing we all lean towards.
I’m so happy it helped! This was my goal with the video☺️💛
I love this so much. 💖 I am disabled, and I am a housewife. I tend to compare myself, not only as a wife, but as a woman (since again, I am disabled.) I also love your name & the fact that you mentioned looking to women from the past, as my great grandma's name was Cynthia 🥰
I’ve been home since June 2022 and we went to one car right away and used the money to pay off debt. I spend time now meal planning and getting the grocery budget as low as I can. We use mint Mobile for our cell phone it’s only 15 dollars per month per phone. We stick up on frequently used items when they go on sale. My husband is excellent at creating and maintaining our budget on a spreadsheet we teach all our spending and review the budget about once a week to see how we are doing. As Christians we honor the Lord with our first fruits by tithing and also give to the poor and this ends up blessing us and giving us the ability to trust God completely with our finances. God bless you!! ❤
I think the only way to make it work is to just not spend!
I think so much of the reason why people believe they need 2 incomes is because they just think that they need more than they really do. (Of course this isn’t always the case, many just simply can’t afford it no matter what!) I find that living frugally allows me to really hone into my feminine creativity, and make things work 🤗 I have learned to make our food from scratch, garden a bit, can our own food, sew, knit, crochet, etc. it’s incredible and so life giving!
I agree so much with this. Frugality is feminine, and I think a lot of people don't realize this. A lot of the reason for families being able to survive as one income households in past generations had to do with frugality and the need and determination to make it work. Couples knew they needed to live within the means of the husband's income and found creative ways to stretch the budget. I think that now many people choose their lifestyles first and foremost and then structure their work lives around that, hence why many feel the need for two incomes and that they have no choice. For many, it's not that they don't have a choice but that they've already made it.
@@monicalong1371 amen! That was so well said 🫶🏻
You are glowing!!! Praying for a healthy happy pregnancy!!! You are my inspiration ^.^
Cynthia, I love your videos. I have been a stay at home mom for 5 years...but then when COVID happened I found myself in a very masculine job. Everyday is just a mental game on focusing on the time that I get to be a home maker and stay at home mom again. I found that this lifestyle takes from both me and my husband and I look forward to my mom life again. Your videos help me on my day to day. Thank you❤️❤️🙏🙏 maybe a fun Holiday themed video would be nice 😊 🎄 🎄 🎄
I hope you’re able to get back to the situation that makes you feel happiest 💛💛
Love this so much!! I am due with my first baby very soon and have just transitioned into working part time from home - I love your term “home centered life” because that’s ultimately my goal! I think a lot more women could make it work than they realize. I’m so excited to get more into homemaking and to be able to be present 🤍
This is one of your best vidoes.. Women are not able to take up homemaking due to 2 reasons : 1. Cost of Living 2. The formal education system fancies career so much.. When first 23 years of life we spent in education and then leaving that and being at home becomes a difficult choice. Not everyone is brave as you are! Keep it up! I'm a Chartered Accountant with full time High paying job but I still like your content and try to incorporate small feminine changes in my life! So thankyou and keep coming with nee videos
Where there’s a will, there’s a way. Don’t ever give up on the life you truly want to live, no matter what that may look like.
I give proper respect to all kinds of housewife. Because my mothet was a housewife and we are 7 children of our mom.I love my mom so much because she is so loving,caring her husband and children.That's why,I respect all housewife women.
Tips for making a "home-centered" lifestyle financially possible would be:
-Prayer and trusting God to be our ultimate provider.
-Marrying a Godly, frugal spouse that has the same goals and values.
-Organizing a life that has the lowest cost of living possible.
-Avoiding debt.
-Being very mindful of all purchases and saving for large ones.
Psalms 113:7-9
[7]He raiseth up the poor out of the dust, and lifteth the needy out of the dunghill;
[8]That he may set him with princes, even with the princes of his people.
[9]He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the LORD.
The way I afford to stay home is buying second hand items, cooking from scratch, and working part time at my family’s business to supplement our income! I’m blessed to be able to take care of our home and children
Awesome topic! I think we are going to find many more conversations on the loveliness of femininity not feminism. I think many of us have been duped, including myself, and now find myself in all the traditional things. The conversation needs to continue because we have all taken a different path which now require different things from us, including finances. I believe many women want to unravel from the "worldy ways" but at this time finances might restrict them from doing that so they will either see it or they get angry. Or do both =) I am grateful for pushing through and seeing the freedom in the journey of traditional living.
I love this Cynthia! Anything you share with us about femininity and homemaking is something I absolutely love on your channel. And I love the practical sides of homemaking, be it frugality, or home cooking, cleaning and anything else you want to share, I love them! It's always such a pleasure to watch your videos!
It's fun to look at you , I feel like watching myself. We are both almost same age (I am 27 married stay at home) and one thing that I loooove (that most people cant get) is I like staying at home , taking care of my husband , cooking every evening, cleaning sessions etc
I knew since a long time that I would be a housewife and I am so glad to see channels that promotes this way of living , it's so fulfilling and joyable
Its really quite simple: If you dont NEED it, dont buy it. We make it too complicated sometimes. Before a purchase ask: Can we use something else we own? Borrow? Or Buy second-hand?
Good point! We definitely live in a generation of overconsumption
@@CynthiaL I'm so guilty! It takes self-discipline to stay on track.
That's an interesting topic for a video ☺️ I'm still, after over 5 years of being a homemaker, figuring out what works best for us in terms of finances but I'll list what I've decided on so far:
- No thrift shopping for me as the options are quite bad around here and instead focus on high quality everything! That can absolutely mean saving up for a few months to buy a piece of furniture but it pays off in the end. I research things like which kind of wood lasts a long time, which brand is famous for producing household items that last for 20 years, etc
- I seek inspiration for recipes from other housewifes or cookbooks that are at least 80 years old. Modern cooking has this focus on 'quick and easy', which surely is a blessing for new moms! In my situation though, I have time as a resource so I look for oldfashioned ways to cook things, like different kinds of sourdough, fermenting my own veggies, making pasta myself... Then I don't need to buy the most expensive ingredients and still get amazing results. Plus I prefer cooking with seasonal ingredients to save money and keep it creative
- last point, similar to the first portion of your video: Don't compare yourself and stay in the real world. Being online can be a great experience and I found lovely friends in the homemaker sphere but one of the best ways to have a good time and save money for me is to actually ignore what goes in the online world where people only buy the most expensive makeup and travel constantly - I instead meet up with my friends for a cup of coffee, depending on the season we either have picknicks, enjoy long forest walks, play board games, go to museums, share the cost of renting a car or gas money to make day trips to other cities, bake cookies together, play video games, swap books...... the list goes on :D none of these activities cost a lot but they make for a fulfilled life without feeling the need to escape your day to day life.
Btw, I'm so confused about this online notion that there's some kind of war going on between working women and housewifes?? I know you mentioned in earlier videos that you're friends with all types of women and I've never encountered hostility in real life when I mentioned I stay at home without kids- quite the opposite, people think it's cool that I have so much time to bake yummy treats ^^
trust me, there is an actual war. When you scroll through her comment sections it's alive and well.
I'm so glad you have comments open! Merry Christmas! You and your channel have been a place of joy for me. Thank you!
You asked how do i afford being a housewife of over 20 years….. my husband is an electrical engineer and we live beneath his income. We live like we make about half. So the house. Cars and so on we look much poorer than we are but we are saving for retirement or medical
Your videos always inspire me! I'am going back from working 50 hours a week to 32 in 2023. I'm always excausted and no time nor enegry for my home and husband. Hopefully I can balance my life a bit better next year. Thank you for sharing your wishdom and have a wonderfull day lovely! xx
I have worked full time outside the home, and here's the kicker - after I got home from my full time job I was still the one doing all the cooking, the cleaning, the laundry, the gardening, the preserving, the meal planning and shopping so I was constantly stressed out, always behind and felt resentful of my husband, which is not what God made marriage to be. We finally got to the point where we were able for me to make homemaking my full time job. I have never felt happier. It may not be for everyone, but it still should be a respected option for women to choose.
Your husband is a blessed man. You show such grace and feminine glory in my take anyway.
Cynthia I love your videos as a 20 year old that lives in New York I can say I hear all these trends and opinions that do not resonate with me don’t lose my to the younger generation because they are so way off I would love to be a traditional wife one day
I mean to say don’t listen to my generation * sorry for the typo 😁
Being in your 20d nowadays is so hard!! Hang in there, hope you achieve your dream someday 💛💛
I just love that you don't think every single woman should live the way you do but you know it's right for you and want to help other women attain a similar lifestyle despite the criticism of you and others like you. It's so feminine and wonderful.
You're right- him having the provider mentality is key and arguably more important than him earning a certain amount of money. A man could earn 'lots' yet expect their wife to work and be unhappy with the idea of her being a SAHW.
I’m sorry you get any hate, I think you’re amazing and I’m so thankful for the content you make. I hope those that misperceive your message and just the idea of tradfems and tradwives come around to see it’s the exact opposite of a hateful thing, it’s such a beautiful, liberating thing. Much love and god bless ❤
My husband does not want me to make $. We budget so i have an allowance every month and i use that for personal items or gifts or fun stuff. We do not value expensive vacations and labels. Our home is large and we are boring homebodies. We are happy to watch a movie and care for our daughter🙂. Being a housewife is wonderful but thats my experience My husband takes excellent care of us in all ways🥰
I am a full-time housewife going on 15 years I met my husband at 23 we got married when I was 24 he was 32. When we first were married my husband was making 36,000 a year and we decided that it was easier for us if I stayed home.
At that time he was working days and nights sometimes and it would have been hard to match our schedules if I was working as well. Childcare is so expensive for me going to work I would have been just paying for childcare and I didn’t want our son around too many people at such a young age.
I wanted to raise him not hand him to someone else while I go work a minimum wage job just so I can bring in an extra couple hundred dollars into our household. It didn’t make financial sense to us and it was important to both of us.
We are not religious at all so sometimes it’s hard for me to find content that isn’t heavily Christian-based in homemaking.
We went into a good amount of debt to secure this lifestyle I must say, because it was hard to be making under 40,000 trying to live this lifestyle and when I was younger in my 20s, we lived with my parents in a wealthy area so I went into debt to portray this image that was all around me. Now that I’m older, and we are in our own house with a mortgage I am paying back what I did in my 20s it’s not a great thing but I’m happy that I have matured now to know that I don’t have to look a certain way to be the best wife and mother to my husband and son.
Yes! It is very hard to find homemaking/housewife content that isn't Christian based. I am a pagan housewife and mother.
Great video Cynthia. I have recently went back to my career for financial reasons. However, I do agree that being homemakers is the best career for women. Take care and have a wonderful day. 💖
I feel that people dosen't let be me, and that hate me, I get mean comment, they don't like my choices, that I am free... I never talk about my goals but I want to have freedom, raise kids and everytime I said that I get so many crabs that pull me down, so I learn not to talk about it never and actions
Oooo two videos in one week!! It must be Christmas!❤❤
On a bit of a roll, trying to get videos out before I go visit family!
Hi Cynthia, I am of Indian origin and my mom is a traditional women and she very much changed my view of life and all but I also never learn what money was because my mom always gave emphasis in the fact men work and manage all of financial aspects so frankly I never learned to handle money and this has been the biggest obstacle to get myself forward and ahead in my life. And even in a relationship, we are never talking about what we need to do to take care of our individual personal finances is soooooo important!!!
Can you please describe how to deal with your personal finances separately from your husband’s and what you do to create your independent identity? And what can we do to cultivate that independent mindset so that if something happens down the road such as if you get divorced or if a spouse gets sick or passes away the girl or woman can be financially successful and independent.
Very great point about comparison being equitable to hustling and basically defeating the purpose of being a SAHWM. Great info!!! 💖
Your videos and content are great!! I've learn sooo much from you and other feminine youtubers. It's amazing and also a relief to see women that have a different perspective of the world than the modern society. I can imagine how hard it is to recieve mean comments. But know that many people love your videos. Hugs from Brazil 🇧🇷💕
Hii Dani! Great to see your comment here. I’m also Brazilian living in Massachusetts now. Are you a SAHM? 😊
@@deborareilly7092 Hey, Débora!! So cool 😍 haha I live in Brasília. No, Im not a mom haha
Grâce à vous que je suis depuis fin 2021-2022, lorsque j'étais dans mon processus de remise en question personnelle, je me sens enfin bien dans ma peau de femme. Je suis enfin heureuse de m'être trouvée et m'assumer en tant que femme qui rêve d'être une mère au foyer. En France comme ailleurs j'imagine c'est un peu mal vu et parfois critiqué et jugé...Mais grâce à vous et le remarquable "travail"(désolée si le mot n'est pas approprié) que vous faites d'éveil des consciences avec certaines de vos consoeurs je suis certaine que les mentalités vont changer. Je suis sûre que vous avez aidé d'autres femmes comme moi à enfin être heureuse et épanouie dans leur peau de femme et je vous en remercie beaucoup.
Toute ma vie j'ai adoré les choses simples comme décorer, cuisiner,nettoyer dans la tranquillité, regarder un téléfilm, ou simplement apprécier la tranquillité de ma maison et j'ai eu l'impression au cours de ma vingtaine et début trentaine que cela ne pouvait pas être un quotidien de vie possible car on ne nous éduque pas dans ce sens dans notre parcours scolaire et académique. C'est comme un rêve qui doit rester à l'état de rêve et en mode silencieux surtout !
A cause des aléas conjoncturels je dois faire quelques heures de travail par semaine pour lisser un peu les dettes que j'ai accumulé en travaillant !oui oui en travaillant (avec mon auto-entreprise)! Mais la première étape vers mon rêve de vie a été accompli déjà : la fermeture de mon entreprise fin 2021 et je me prépare tout doucement à vivre mon rêve de vie :qui est de me consacrer entièrement à mon foyer et m'adonner à ma vie spirituelle aussi (j'envisage de faire une confirmation catholique).
Encore bravo pour votre chaîne et son contenu et ma gratitude également . Évelyne
Your doing amazing love your videos. I am older than you but share your goals and have done since becoming a mum 18 years ago. My youngest is 12 now but they still benefit from me being a SAHM
My mom retired early when I was a teenager and I noticed it was helpful for her to be home! I can imagine it being different but still beneficial at each stage!
Quick tips for homemakers to save money: cooking from scratch doesn’t need to be a huge elaborate meal. To save money, I bake simple loaves of bread, save vegetable scraps to make broth instead of buying cartons of it at the grocery store, and do things like make my own mayonnaise (look it up, it’s super easy if you have a blender already!) Small things like that can add up a LOT, and other things can be cheaper store bought (canned veggies instead of fresh, jars of pasta sauce on sale, etc). See what eats up your grocery budget, and compare costs to making it yourself, and do what you have the time & energy for. :)
Also, consider being a one car family - if you’re mostly at home anyway, it can work for some! I personally never even learned how to drive, and not having the extra expense of a second car saves my family so much money. See if you could make it work too, you may be surprised!
I supported my husband to go through nursing school under the pretense that when he graduated I would be a stay at home mom. Now that he just graduated, he told me that he actually wants me to to be a working mom. I am currently pregnant (also under the pretense that I was going to stay home) and honestly devastated. I feel like my femininity has been ripped from me and I’m struggling with resentment. I felt so strongly that God has inspired me to focus on the home and my husband is not on the same page. I have no idea how to find a job again with a pregnant belly and I honestly just don’t know what to do about this situation.
That was a very important conversation. He agreed that you could be a sahm and is now changing his mind AFTER you are pregnant!!!??? That is terrible!! I felt so strongly about being a sahm , I made my husband understand that I am fine never having kids IF I Don't get to raise them! I am sorry your husband did that to you. He should have told you BEFOREHAND that he changed his mind, so that you actually had a choice decide if you WANT to be a working mom or not. Ridiculous, he is in the wrong.
I prayed many many days and nights and God blessed me with a in home teaching job where my boss is allowing me to bring my baby. It’s been a struggle with my husband but God heard my prayers and truly helped me
My Dad cut my mother off financially when she decided she was going to stay at home. He told her that he was not her ATM machine.
Great video, resonated well. 😊
Congrats on your pregnancy! Best wishes for a healthy pregnancy and safe delivery. How do you feel about your future 2 under 2??????
I’m excited but also nervous! I didn’t expect to get pregnant this quickly once we started trying! 😬 Maybe I will talk more about it in a Q&A
You're skin is amazing
Indeed, I always suggest cooking and baking from scratch as this saves money, is healthy (knowing specific ingredients incorporated into a dish for calorie monitoring), and helps to boost creativity in the kitchen. Other helpful suggestions include budgeting, shopping at second-hand stores (sometimes, I'm able to locate name brands for half the price without sacrificing quality), and embracing the Minimalist Lifestyle (this has really helped view life differently... life is too short; pointless to spend pretty hundreds for name brands. Instead, sew or browse thrift stores for mindful spending and less dust when cleaning our homes... no-brainer, lol.).
I hope you find suitable ways to save money to become money-savvy as a homemaker. I semi-related to your video. I had the "trophy wife" mentality when I first transitioned to the homemaker lifestyle. I wasted money, retail shopped, and failed to properly clean our home when I first became a homemaker. Now, I take pride in successfully completing tasks on my agenda, alongside considering "do I need this or do I want this". I also love retail shopping... so, my husband provides a reasonable monthly budget for errands and groceries... I put some aside for me-spending but rarely shop for myself as I decor-shop to compliment our home. Money is necessary for survival... we don't need to have "it all" because money doesn't buy nor offers genuine, lasting happiness.
God bless you.
Congratulations on your pregnancy ❤️❤️❤️
I think women have more important things to handle than work and money. I have been a staying at home wife and mother and daughter and sister and friend. I am the only individual available for everything. People relying on me it has never been the other way around. I'm actually considering removing my two year old from part time daycare.
U r my inspiration! Kisses from Brazil!!!☆
thank you dear
Hi Fabi, I’m from Brazil too living in USA now. Are you also a SAHM? 😊
@@deborareilly7092 Hi Dear!!! Nice to meet u!!! I live in Spain.
I love to hear from other woman that are at home mom and wife and can't get out cause I'm one of them
I agree I have been actually very devastated and distraught thinking how our options as housewives has been limited now by society - ie the cost of living. It’s so hard to make it on one humble, regular income. I feel it’s so unfair, but I don’t see how society will change this. It makes me sad thinking how it pressures men also to be away from the family and home so much because they likely will need a high level very demanding job to provide on one income.
One thing that has worked for my family is me getting mostly off social media and only following people who have similar values - ie frugality, simple living, etc. If I watch people traveling all over, I want to spend money doing that. If I watch fashion influencers I just want more clothes. I also stay away from homegoods, etc and just don’t go because the temptation lol.
One of the best things to ever happen to me was getting to be a homemaker!! 🥹💝 It is so freeing!! God is good! A verse I am constantly reminded of is 1 Cor 13:13 - these 3 remain faith, hope and charity! I can feel so hopeless in this world but this verse takes me back to my core, what truly matters! Focusing on the Lord, not the world!
It’s also amazing how becoming a more traditional women I have seen it impact my husband (who is very masculine), but he now sees the immense value of homemakers, sahm’s, the value of children and life, the pressure society puts on women trying to be a boss babe, hustle culture’s toxic side, the pressure on men to only focus on work and making loads of money too, and so much more. I’m so deeply grateful for such a supportive, caring husband who doesn’t pressure me to make money and hustle. We live a very simple life, but are happier than ever 🥹🕊️🙌🏻
I love having money and hate having a job.
Learn to live on one income before wife quits job to be mom. Live within your means and turn off IG and media.
Honey what lip products have you used 🙈🙈🙈
But what happens with Your family if Your husband can no longer provide for the family? 🤔 Let's say that he has a heart attack? Who takes care of the finances in that case? And who takes care of the kids in that case? Should Your husband still keep working despite his deteriorating health, or should Your kids be the ones who need to start working early in that case?
Shit happens. But who is going to take care of her small children if she is working?
Home-stay-center and flexibility and creativity.....mmmmm....it's sound interesting!